@@astrixx then why are you watching didn't you put more than zero 0.1%shouldn't you not be watching it or reading I mean I'm putting in effort all men put in effort people put in all kinds of effort you shouldn't try to make someone feel bad
Quick notes for myself and others: 1) Assume the burden (90%/10%) and be willing to talk. - Come with the intention to give a good experience and have great sex (win-win). Study and appreciate language on your own time. 2) Tell a good story: situation, interruption, change. Develop bullet points, have great specific details. 3) Humor. -Go beyond the obvious and observe the nonverbals. -Emphasize different words in the same sentences. Learn the setup and punch, and 3 point rule and etc. -Learn how to exaggerate well by taking something mundane, take it to a new direction. -Improv format is to observe something unsual, justify it and if this is true, then this must be true. *Important* Have high value humor. Do not self depreciate yourself humor. -Develop alpha male humor. *Also important* You don't have to be hilarious. It's more important to be interesting and high value than funny and low value. Use humor with escalation. -How you deliver and what the context is helps dictate this. With a smile and sarcasm, you can disqualify her. 4) Flirting. Tools of the trade: - It's an attitude you use that is playful. Without serious intentions. - Physical flirting is following attitude first, technique second (just like verbal flirting) - PUSH PULL = I love you, I hate you. Negative first, positive next and vice versa. "You have a nice shirt, you must be trying to impress someone." - Cold read and exaggerating = Look at their reaction with the open. Justify it and work with it. - Misinterpretation: Treating something mundane and taking it sexual. Exercise: Sex with me is like..... - FRAME: Control how the interaction will be treated as or the purpose of the conversation as. Set it up at the beginning where it's not boring. Make it playful and not make it logical or boring. Continue to play with the idea that she is trying to seduce you or you are trying to have it fun and you're sick of girls hitting on you. - Presuppositions: Assuming things that are true. Make that interaction you want. - Plotlines: Creating general drama during the entire interaction. Tension and drama. 5) Practice. Attitude: light hearted, fun, and trying new things. Be playful. Love words and find the richness in language.
Marsel Shtylla I’m not really sure but in roller coasters they take pictures of your reaction when there is a big drop or scary moment so when you least expect it and the same thing when having sex, pictures taken when you least expect it
Todd, Just wanna let you know this is one of your best videos. Guys charge a fortune for teaching this stuff. I'm really happy your sharing such massive value. Much respect for you. God bless you.
RG LM It's ok if he charges there is nothing wrong in it. He's worked 10+ years to learn this knowledge. Unfortunately when a lot of people get something for free they do not value what they get. Also they fail to take action. But if pay for something you feel the pinch. But again if your someone who takes action regularly this is great stuff.
he already charged the people attending the seminar, he's actually just repurposing the footage to make more money from AdSense. It's not a bad thing but I'm just saying good things in life don't come for free
Summary: Assuming the burden -you need to be willing to talk 90% if she's not yet interested -flirting is like a lawn mower -decide to make the conversation happen, push through 20 seconds even when it's awkward --short term --(energy and will) --long term -- (material, pattern, delivery) Proactivity of frame -desire for outcome is necessary (good outcome) -- get to the point don't just talk about anything, it's like a carsman talks not about cars but his family, hobbies etc. (The good outcome needs to be for both of you) -random conversations lead to random results = poor results -appreciate language Everytime you hear quotes, jokes, phrases write them down - study stand up comedy (write down lines) Point is the principle Part 2 Storytelling and "Being interesting" -show high value and create comfort to have sex with her It's a paradox But storytelling is good for both things Structure of a story: Situation -> interruption -> change -don't just communicate facts -a one-minute story can be told in ten or vice versa -there need to be some bullet point to let the story exist -just remember the bullet points The secret's in the specific! -add specifics to little things (hamburger example) ----- book: zen and the art of motorcyle maintenance 20:05 -you have to have depth in story to really communicate (emotional specific) -imagine yourself in the story you're telling -Improv Comdey is great for learning specifying -make it real as you play it Part 3: humor -don't brag in your story, you don't need to look good in story, the story will make you look good -lead through your story - take opportunities when they come (walking past eachother story (100% perfect girl story) -for a story to be good, you need to like the story yourself! Penetrate the Ostensible -be aware of multiple meanings (what are you doing for a living? -teacher -are you sure?), Words, phrases, intonations -don't treat conversation as literal Specific formats -setup/punch Creating a pattern and surprise is the joke -Rule of 3 3 creates a good pattern, that you can destroy later -callback humor -impressions Etc. -when you hear something funny understand what was funny and appreciate it What's exaggeration -just exaggerate Improv Format -when do a scene, firdt should be normal 1.look out for the first unusual thing -observe what's happening -you always get information, use it 2. Justify -interepret something into the thing you observed 3. If this is true what else is true -you don't have to be hilarious in game (it seems tryhard), just need to havr a more interesting than normal conversation -try to be interesting High value Humor -self-deprecating humor defeats the man purpose of game, it'll work against you -don't become the clown Humor and escalation -you can get away with (almost) everything if it's funny Part 4: Flirting How to differentiate between high and low value humor: -delivery and past circumstance (If she could believe your not self confidence, don't make jokes like: yeah, i'm a bit boring) -create tension but bad tension needs to be lessened Flirt ~ definition: To court *triflingly* or act *amorously*, *without serious intentions*; play atlove; coquet. -have a flirty tone -try rephrasing stuff in a flirty kind of way -touch can be relevant Flirting is an attitude first -the keyword is *playful* Push-pull -you're sitting in a tensed way, seems like you're focused, thats cool > If it's positive make it negative and the other way around Cold read and exaggerate -- firdt thing to say: hey; hey excuse me +UCB improv exercise > Interpret things into the behavior when saying hi Misinterpretation -sex with me is like exercise Frame > Technique - frame: excuse me, I saw you look over and wanted to help you get over your shyness -needs to be playful, out of the ordinary -get out of the boring -just ideas, you can approach normally Frame = the thing that controls the meaning: i'm trying to pick you up; you're trying to pick me up; I'm over girls, convince me, that i shouldn't be; etc. etc. =Idea of the purpose of the conversation Presuppositions -what are you assuming is true (do you find yourself attractice, try to assume something wrong and she needs to convince you) Plotlines -gives tension -adds spice and let's you get into right direction Like: "why are you so cute, I'm trying to resist women" !!!!Practice!!!! Without all these informations are to much Practice one after a time Have fun, be light harded Love words more and try to play with them
TIMESTAMPS (I'm surprised this video has so many view but no stamps) 00:05 Part 1: Verbal Chrisma (+intro) 10:58 Part 2: Storytelling and how to be interesting 24:02 Storytelling Q&A 30:35 Part 3: Humor 43:45 Humor Q&A 47:00 Part 4: Flirting I'm going to come back to these now and then and will fill em out more (unless anyone wants to help me in the comments :D)
@Brexit Monger you're looking at it the wrong way, everything can be broken down to its science in theory, how you translate it to practice is you make it seem like you never studied it by making it look natural.
@Brexit Monger Maybe in your experience. I've personally witnessed people that had virtually zero social skills blossom. Sometimes knowing certain steps or viewing social skills in a different way IN ADDITION to practice helpful. Just consulting your "handy notebook" isn't helpful without the work
@Brexit Monger I know your just judging the lifestyle more than Todd himself, but for the record, Todd does have a wife and a kid. As I understand, they are in an open relationship, and occasionally indulge in three ways with a guest partner, in addition to Todd gaming on the side for pleasure and business. This is further elaborated on in Todd's "Relationship Manifesto" found on his RUclips channel. Honestly, it seems like a pretty happy way to live as long as you know yourself, manage your attention, and find a person who is satisfied with the lifestyle as much as you are.
@Brexit Monger what the hell are you even doing on a pick up channel? You obviously have no idea how you can transform from a antisocial weeb to an actual alpha male It is possible with practice, repetition and science to explain why certain things work and dont work There is science in everything. There is a book called "How to win friends and influence people".. that in it self can be broken down into science
thanks a lot bro! good to see u cranking out the content- hope its win/win for u timestamp: 0:00 goal of this talk 1:15 attitude and philosophy assume the burden , 90-10 b4 hook point book todd talks about is 'making people talk' lawn mower analogy and percieving in the start of interactions + my sports analogy i always talk about! thats crzy! 4:50 proactivity of frame- outcome independence , half hour convo to nowhere + showing intent great point + car salesman analogy which is gold3n! have a outcome- it must be win/win 7:15 appreciate language, personal wit journal / study stand up 11:00 value/comfort - story stelling 12:35 structure of a story 14:00 story- 16:50 u can make your stories conscise or long 18:33 the secret is in the specifics like max said - sing a song and paint a picture oh and dhv without context is not effective 25:00 u have to seize the moment- brilliant story 30:35 go beyond the obvious 33:35 specific format- set up punch, rule of 3, call back humor etc
It's tough to do anything like a comprehensive treatment of verbal game, because it's such a rich subject, but consider this a good primer on the topic. I hope it helps your game massively, and I hope it helps you to appreciate words and language a bit more. And for more insane FREE content, be sure to check out toddwinnergame.com
It's excellent Todd! I've been looking for a good tutorial on improving storytelling for a while. The examples help a lot to! I put this to the test at work tonight and had some awesome results already
Hey Todd, Can you add English subtitles to this video? It would help who is not a native English speaker. Check out rev.com , they do it. With the English subtitles, I can make the Portuguese subtitles for this video. Thanks!
*Starting with relatable stories and adding a playful touch makes any interaction feel effortless. The focus on storytelling and lighthearted teasing is what sets you apart in a crowded room!*
No matter how much game you have, especially if it’s a “dry spell,“ it’s good to watch some of these videos to brush up on your skills. Even if you learn just one thing it was worth it.
There is a lot of interesting information in here that i think can help everybody. Its helping me improve my communication skills which is , just like for you , a key part of my work as a real estate agent.
@@salman__1909 I got more than you OoOoOo, no but actually this is my personal account lol. I’m not super successful at streaming or anything, I’m just doing it for fun anyways
conversation-skill should be taught in our formative years in the education system or have programs in the community that put strong emphasis on this, I feel they matter more than math, history or science.
It's not an education system anymore but a teaching system. They test your memory and capacity to memorize information and instructions useful to solving problems. They don't give a shit about you being educated or not
It is. As opposed to math or science, social competency has the universal potential to improve your standing. Sure, some people can take advantage of their understanding of math and science to become successful, but most people can’t. The thing about our educational system that people need to understand is that it’s goal is NOT to make more successful happy individuals, it’s to manufacture employees. If everyone had skills to make their own way in a social world there wouldn’t be nearly enough desperate marks to con.
- Flirting is an attitude first (keyword Playful) - Push Pull (I Love you, I hate you), also works via Bodylanguage . Creating a Rollercoaster of Emotions, while giving subtle signs of interest - Notice subtle things (Physical apperance, Clothing/Accessories, Body Language, Actions of her (weak handshake) and playfully exaggerate them or assume other traits etc. of her based on that - Cold Read/ Assumptions of her Personality or what she does (hobbies, job etc) - purposeful misinterpretations and sexual innuendos (when possible in a sexual way [you can find the sexual in almost everything]) -- having a flirty Frame (going in with an interesting/funny/non-serious Frame to play) [a bad/lame frame example: "Im trying to pick you up - a better frame : " You are trying to pick me up"]
I've listented to so many damn podcasts,just hours and hours and hours and hours of many,MANY different podcasts. And by now,I can literarly talk for hours with anybody. Comes naturally. And I can shift in witch direction I wanna talk the conversation at any time. I remember talking to a girl for 7 hours straight. Literarly all night.
@@awaisamjad119 I'm interested in skateboarding and basketball so that's where I've listented to a ton of conversations. That's how I learned english. But my main source of podcasting was joe rogan expirence. I was early with that pod,around 2014 and it helped me a lot on how to carry a conversation. But that is not enough usually if you want to attract a girl. Talking is great but you have to be able to flirt,tease be funny etc. That's a whole another game lol . But being able to talk,I think in the long run matters more. In the start,flirting is more important.
You had me during the first 30 seconds when you said that people are going to appreciate and ''love'' Language just a little bit more at the end of this..Nice work!
I shockingly only discovered about him now which I feel so sad about, this guy knows what he is talking about, his 5 minute video on the difference between flirting and teasing helped me, this guy is insanely good😭
Good explainations and those simple examples (buying/selling the car f.e.) and small but important notes (why and how the 90/10 rule is temporary important) really helped me seeing my mistakes. I did so much right but those small things I misunderstood lead me wrong all the time. Real, useful and applicable instructions!
Notes and Material 7:50 wit journal and study stand up comedy, collect phrases, study format of jokes, collect few jokes 11:00 Story Telling Structure of story Situation - interruption - change One minute story Remember the bluepoints 123 Imagine yourself in story and feelings 19:00 improv comedy 24:25 Social Proof Story Story that leads to something better 33:40 Specific format of Humour Setup/punch Steven Wright Rule of 3 Callback Humour Impression 37:55 Use jokes to exaggerate 38:00 Improv Format 1.Find something unusual 2.Justify with example 3. 42:35 High Value Humour Dan Cook 43:10 Humour and Escalation Shit Test 47:40 Flirting Humor and Escalation 50:00 Push pull 50:51 Cold Read and Exaggerate 53:00 Misinterpretation
If a man can hold an intelligent, but playful conversation that does pique interest. It has to seem genuine and not phony for me to listen. The best game to get a woman's attention is not to play a game. Just be genuine and actually care.
I have watched so many videos about conversation skills that tell me to do this and that. But never seem to teach me the thought process to how to get there or how to build my own plan of action through understanding what I need to work on. All the others seemed to be in a foreign language to me. Thank you.
These videos are great for men at any level that they are at in life. I appreciate your humane approach towards people in general and the general gist I get from these is that you want everyone to be fulfilled. Thanks dude!
Bro , to put this out to anyone who could use help , for free , speaks volumes of your character... way to change the world for the better, The only word that I think you should add to this seminar. Is the word. Brevity. Keep at this sir! Thanx for sharing
I watched this video once before and sort of understood but now it's blowing my fuckin mind and I'm sure it will continue to do so as I watch it more and more. Makes so many vague concepts make sense and shows me that I've already been doing pretty much all this stuff but understanding why helps exponentially in knowing when and helps me read the girl so much better without having to go into my head! How do you give this stuff away for free Todd haha. You're the GOAT!
I believe everyone would like to have a positive outcome. But by outcome independent they mean not quitting after rejection. I have a sales story I use of a bad experience with a small organization then getting a big deal with a multinational company on the next call. You do a good job of breaking things down practically.
Books: - how to make people speak - Zen of motorcycle 1. Bear conversation when conversation stalls. 2. There should be an outcome. 3. "Girl I love you" destroys value. 4. Story has situation, interruption and change. If no - it's pointless 5. Good story - story without bragging 6. Story about girl and boy, you should catch a moment, you have control in life Setup punch (normal, not), 3 punch list (norm, norm, norm, not) Observe unusual (can find everywhere), exaggerate, make assumptions Good comedians for game - not self deprecating Dane Cook, dont be clown Flirt: repeat her, "you are hot thing flying through a universe" Sex with me it's like a...
OPENING: -Cold read and exaggerate • Use witty lines • start storytelling - Add humor: Callback humour, punch lines -Go beyond the obvious: Use exaggeration - 1 min Stories can be extends to 10 min long and vice versa - Add small details in the story - Don't act like secret agent, have fun and banter - Convey value with story-telling like pre-selected, having options of females - show her intent, compliment her and don't over validate her - Use push pull - Don't be hilarious, be interesting • Flirting - misinterpretation - Create sexual tension - Proximity, eye contact, smile, voice tonality, and body language - Body rocking sometimes
It's actually really interesting to learn game with ADHD, because it's really easy to be empathetic and have a great humor, but on the other hand there are many challenges, i.e. not getting stressed out during the night
2:30 (starting the lawnmower analogy) - While you’re spending time watching the video and wondering how to be a real man, start by learning that the pull cord on a mower is NOT the choke.
This guy ends alot or almost all of his points with "RIGHT?" That's subconcious programming. He's giving useful information but don't let him take control. Take action. Apply information you'll learn waaay more. He said enough for you to take action.
This guy looks so basic , annoying voice with a boring tune, but the stuff he says is very deep and insightful, I rate him for the value he is giving and most of it can be applied generally in social setuation . Thanks, Repect
Hey Todd, you’ve recommended countless great books over the years to us, and given you’re hands down the best of the best, a god among gods, and a living legend, you absolutely must write a book of your own!! Please!!!! As you and countless of us already know, videos can be deleted and lost forever such as the ones you put out in the past were with an endless amount of priceless information. Your book, however, will be with us for eternity...
carry convo at beginning (be willing to carry 90% at start) first thing you say might suck so try again have desire for outcome(get to the point) have frame to conversation(random convos=random boring outcomes) STORYTELLING builds value and cormfort story =situation and how it changed you or change get bullet point from your own other person story(tell the story in bullet points)
- In short term just pure energy and will at the moment - story has 3 elements 1. Situation 2. Interruption 3. Outcome make sure your story have tension and drama When telling story get into specifics, include what was there, what you were wearing etc specifics make it come alive If your not living the story as you are telling it's gonna be flat Frame is the thing which controls the meaning
In conversation outcome is important ex: is car salesperson talks about family instead of cars Ideal outcome: i wanna meet you i wanna spend time with you have fun teach you something travel places Convo must have frame, random conversation have random results
18:36 verbally charismatic - exaggerate specific 21:30 25:15 lead through storytelling 100% girl story 35:28 argument golf club 39:32 exxageration for unusual jokes 43:48 flirting 47:00 flirt definition, attitude is key 49:51 push pull, i lovr you i love you not 50:06 push pull example 50:48 opener, hey execuse me. Looking for their unusual response 52:56 misinterpretation - sex with me is like 54:33 frame is important than technique when you first approach with exaggeration
RSD were wrong to let you got. You provide the information brilliantly and you give reason for it rather than just stating it as well. The only other coach I’ve watched that I’ve got this much out of is Jeffy. Good shit man!
5:00 I believe they meant "All outcomes are good." 10:57 Storytelling definitely is not the most important in game. Stories are neither about the girl nor about your (possible future) interaction with her. 12:53 Omg that applies to TTRPG! Or, more likely applies along it. Being good at one makes you better at the other! (Ofc that's not all there is to Game/TTRPG, otherwise GMs would easily pick up girls, and PUAs would run D&D like pros.) 24:03 How to use storytelling in Game. 25:34 "100% Perfect Girl" may be a good story, but it seems like too much of a downer for energetic nights. 30:35 Underlying meanings in speech. 33:33 IMO Humor is not something you can learn studying. Go out. Talk. Joke. That's how you will learn what works with which types of people. 40:34 DON'T TRY TO BE HILARIOUS. TRY TO BE INTERESTING, AND FUNNY BY THE WAY! 41:52 Avoid self-deprecative humor, unless it is obvious (and she is certain) that you are just joking. 46:21 Influencing tension with humor. 49:09 Basically flirting. 54:32 Frame. The thing Todd is big on. Do not act like the situation is "I'm trying to pick you up" but something more interesting, and giving you more value.
The getting bored thing is huge. I've been wondering often when one should just get the number and move on. I'm trying to get to know her to build rapport. But no one thinks spending the whole time you're out with them is a good idea.
Any girls on this channel, take note: this is how much energy and effort guys put into going up and talking to you.
Lol 😂 as a girl I learn so much about human nature and use this on guys.
No guys puts this much effort. Anyone that follows this advice is like .001% of the guy population. STFU.
@@astrixx then why are you watching didn't you put more than zero 0.1%shouldn't you not be watching it or reading I mean I'm putting in effort all men put in effort people put in all kinds of effort you shouldn't try to make someone feel bad
However guys who put the effort to do this get the widest option of chicks as well lol
What girls bring to the table besides sex?
Quick notes for myself and others:
1) Assume the burden (90%/10%) and be willing to talk.
- Come with the intention to give a good experience and have great sex (win-win). Study and appreciate language on your own time.
2) Tell a good story:
situation, interruption, change. Develop bullet points, have great specific details.
3) Humor.
-Go beyond the obvious and observe the nonverbals.
-Emphasize different words in the same sentences. Learn the setup and punch, and 3 point rule and etc.
-Learn how to exaggerate well by taking something mundane, take it to a new direction. -Improv format is to observe something unsual, justify it and if this is true, then this must be true. *Important* Have high value humor. Do not self depreciate yourself humor.
-Develop alpha male humor. *Also important* You don't have to be hilarious. It's more important to be interesting and high value than funny and low value. Use humor with escalation.
-How you deliver and what the context is helps dictate this. With a smile and sarcasm, you can disqualify her.
4) Flirting. Tools of the trade:
- It's an attitude you use that is playful. Without serious intentions.
- Physical flirting is following attitude first, technique second (just like verbal flirting)
- PUSH PULL = I love you, I hate you. Negative first, positive next and vice versa. "You have a nice shirt, you must be trying to impress someone."
- Cold read and exaggerating = Look at their reaction with the open. Justify it and work with it.
- Misinterpretation: Treating something mundane and taking it sexual.
Exercise: Sex with me is like.....
- FRAME: Control how the interaction will be treated as or the purpose of the conversation as. Set it up at the beginning where it's not boring. Make it playful and not make it logical or boring. Continue to play with the idea that she is trying to seduce you or you are trying to have it fun and you're sick of girls hitting on you.
- Presuppositions: Assuming things that are true. Make that interaction you want.
- Plotlines: Creating general drama during the entire interaction. Tension and drama.
5) Practice. Attitude: light hearted, fun, and trying new things. Be playful. Love words and find the richness in language.
weirdandtrue thank you!!
Yo da real MVP
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Your awesome bruv
Yo thanks bro
“Sex with me is like a roller coaster, there are pictures taken of you when you least expect it” 😂😂😂😂 This one cracked me completely
not a native speaker what does this mean
Marsel Shtylla I’m not really sure but in roller coasters they take pictures of your reaction when there is a big drop or scary moment so when you least expect it and the same thing when having sex, pictures taken when you least expect it
I don't understand how this works?
totally different video bro😭😭
😂
Todd,
Just wanna let you know this is one of your best videos. Guys charge a fortune for teaching this stuff. I'm really happy your sharing such massive value. Much respect for you. God bless you.
He will charge soon, Don't you worry. It's marketing: you give massive value then you take value afterwards. He has really good content though.
RG LM
It's ok if he charges there is nothing wrong in it. He's worked 10+ years to learn this knowledge. Unfortunately when a lot of people get something for free they do not value what they get. Also they fail to take action. But if pay for something you feel the pinch. But again if your someone who takes action regularly this is great stuff.
I would absolutely pay for the content that comes. Granted it's not outrageously expensive
It is. But he's gonna charge
he already charged the people attending the seminar, he's actually just repurposing the footage to make more money from AdSense. It's not a bad thing but I'm just saying good things in life don't come for free
You know you've told a bad story when you hear "I find the defendant guilty of all charges" and now you're serving 9 consecutive life sentences
Lmao
That's what you get for telling your story instead of paying someone else to.
Hey Hannibal was probably a great storyteller!
Lol to the chair
Summary:
Assuming the burden
-you need to be willing to talk 90% if she's not yet interested
-flirting is like a lawn mower
-decide to make the conversation happen, push through 20 seconds even when it's awkward
--short term --(energy and will)
--long term -- (material, pattern, delivery)
Proactivity of frame
-desire for outcome is necessary (good outcome) -- get to the point don't just talk about anything, it's like a carsman talks not about cars but his family, hobbies etc.
(The good outcome needs to be for both of you)
-random conversations lead to random results = poor results
-appreciate language
Everytime you hear quotes, jokes, phrases write them down
- study stand up comedy (write down lines)
Point is the principle
Part 2
Storytelling and "Being interesting"
-show high value and create comfort to have sex with her
It's a paradox
But storytelling is good for both things
Structure of a story:
Situation -> interruption -> change
-don't just communicate facts
-a one-minute story can be told in ten or vice versa
-there need to be some bullet point to let the story exist
-just remember the bullet points
The secret's in the specific!
-add specifics to little things (hamburger example)
----- book: zen and the art of motorcyle maintenance
20:05
-you have to have depth in story to really communicate (emotional specific)
-imagine yourself in the story you're telling
-Improv Comdey is great for learning specifying
-make it real as you play it
Part 3: humor
-don't brag in your story, you don't need to look good in story, the story will make you look good
-lead through your story
- take opportunities when they come (walking past eachother story (100% perfect girl story)
-for a story to be good, you need to like the story yourself!
Penetrate the Ostensible
-be aware of multiple meanings (what are you doing for a living? -teacher -are you sure?), Words, phrases, intonations
-don't treat conversation as literal
Specific formats
-setup/punch
Creating a pattern and surprise is the joke
-Rule of 3
3 creates a good pattern, that you can destroy later
-callback humor
-impressions
Etc.
-when you hear something funny understand what was funny and appreciate it
What's exaggeration
-just exaggerate
Improv Format
-when do a scene, firdt should be normal
1.look out for the first unusual thing
-observe what's happening
-you always get information, use it
2. Justify
-interepret something into the thing you observed
3. If this is true what else is true
-you don't have to be
hilarious in game (it seems tryhard), just need to havr a more interesting than normal conversation
-try to be interesting
High value Humor
-self-deprecating humor defeats the man purpose of game, it'll work against you
-don't become the clown
Humor and escalation
-you can get away with (almost) everything if it's funny
Part 4: Flirting
How to differentiate between high and low value humor:
-delivery and past circumstance
(If she could believe your not self confidence, don't make jokes like: yeah, i'm a bit boring)
-create tension but bad tension needs to be lessened
Flirt ~ definition:
To court *triflingly* or act *amorously*, *without serious intentions*; play atlove; coquet.
-have a flirty tone
-try rephrasing stuff in a flirty kind of way
-touch can be relevant
Flirting is an attitude first
-the keyword is *playful*
Push-pull
-you're sitting in a tensed way, seems like you're focused, thats cool
> If it's positive make it negative and the other way around
Cold read and exaggerate
-- firdt thing to say: hey; hey excuse me
+UCB improv exercise
> Interpret things into the behavior when saying hi
Misinterpretation
-sex with me is like exercise
Frame > Technique
- frame: excuse me, I saw you look over and wanted to help you get over your shyness
-needs to be playful, out of the ordinary
-get out of the boring
-just ideas, you can approach normally
Frame = the thing that controls the meaning: i'm trying to pick you up; you're trying to pick me up; I'm over girls, convince me, that i shouldn't be; etc. etc.
=Idea of the purpose of the conversation
Presuppositions
-what are you assuming is true (do you find yourself attractice, try to assume something wrong and she needs to convince you)
Plotlines
-gives tension
-adds spice and let's you get into right direction
Like: "why are you so cute, I'm trying to resist women"
!!!!Practice!!!!
Without all these informations are to much
Practice one after a time
Have fun, be light harded
Love words more and try to play with them
Making people talk - book name
You're a godsend. Thanks for the work.
Damn bro! Thanks
Great summary
Thank you
TIMESTAMPS (I'm surprised this video has so many view but no stamps)
00:05 Part 1: Verbal Chrisma (+intro)
10:58 Part 2: Storytelling and how to be interesting
24:02 Storytelling Q&A
30:35 Part 3: Humor
43:45 Humor Q&A
47:00 Part 4: Flirting
I'm going to come back to these now and then and will fill em out more (unless anyone wants to help me in the comments :D)
Thanks Bro
there is already timestamps down below the comments
I love how he breaks everything down scientifically
@Brexit Monger you're looking at it the wrong way, everything can be broken down to its science in theory, how you translate it to practice is you make it seem like you never studied it by making it look natural.
@Brexit Monger
You must be fun at parties.
@Brexit Monger Maybe in your experience. I've personally witnessed people that had virtually zero social skills blossom. Sometimes knowing certain steps or viewing social skills in a different way IN ADDITION to practice helpful. Just consulting your "handy notebook" isn't helpful without the work
@Brexit Monger I know your just judging the lifestyle more than Todd himself, but for the record, Todd does have a wife and a kid. As I understand, they are in an open relationship, and occasionally indulge in three ways with a guest partner, in addition to Todd gaming on the side for pleasure and business. This is further elaborated on in Todd's "Relationship Manifesto" found on his RUclips channel.
Honestly, it seems like a pretty happy way to live as long as you know yourself, manage your attention, and find a person who is satisfied with the lifestyle as much as you are.
@Brexit Monger what the hell are you even doing on a pick up channel? You obviously have no idea how you can transform from a antisocial weeb to an actual alpha male
It is possible with practice, repetition and science to explain why certain things work and dont work
There is science in everything.
There is a book called
"How to win friends and influence people".. that in it self can be broken down into science
thanks a lot bro! good to see u cranking out the content- hope its win/win for u
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0:00 goal of this talk
1:15 attitude and philosophy
assume the burden , 90-10 b4 hook point
book todd talks about is 'making people talk'
lawn mower analogy and percieving in the start of interactions
+ my sports analogy i always talk about! thats crzy!
4:50 proactivity of frame- outcome independence , half hour convo to nowhere + showing intent
great point + car salesman analogy which is gold3n!
have a outcome- it must be win/win
7:15 appreciate language, personal wit journal / study stand up
11:00 value/comfort - story stelling
12:35 structure of a story
14:00 story- 16:50 u can make your stories conscise or long
18:33 the secret is in the specifics like max said - sing a song and paint a picture
oh and dhv without context is not effective
25:00 u have to seize the moment- brilliant story
30:35 go beyond the obvious
33:35 specific format- set up punch, rule of 3, call back humor etc
Maverick Gyamfi you just made my life 10x easier
SAAAAAALUTE!!!!!
You sir are the best
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You are the best good sir.
It's tough to do anything like a comprehensive treatment of verbal game, because it's such a rich subject, but consider this a good primer on the topic. I hope it helps your game massively, and I hope it helps you to appreciate words and language a bit more. And for more insane FREE content, be sure to check out toddwinnergame.com
It's excellent Todd! I've been looking for a good tutorial on improving storytelling for a while. The examples help a lot to! I put this to the test at work tonight and had some awesome results already
Todd V Dating there's a book you might like called There's A Word For It. Since you're interested in language.
Can we get a powerpoint download.
They say words are the best aphrodisiac for a woman :)
Hey Todd, Can you add English subtitles to this video? It would help who is not a native English speaker. Check out rev.com , they do it. With the English subtitles, I can make the Portuguese subtitles for this video.
Thanks!
Todd with this free content... youredoing gods work my friend
"You will know the truth. And the truth will set you free."
-Jesus
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Agreed
@@Yamikaiba123 amen
@@Yamikaiba123 wasnt that mark twain ? *jk
*Starting with relatable stories and adding a playful touch makes any interaction feel effortless. The focus on storytelling and lighthearted teasing is what sets you apart in a crowded room!*
No matter how much game you have, especially if it’s a “dry spell,“ it’s good to watch some of these videos to brush up on your skills. Even if you learn just one thing it was worth it.
This is aimed at men dating, but I’m using it to become a more interesting streamer lol
Seduction is life in a way
There is a lot of interesting information in here that i think can help everybody. Its helping me improve my communication skills which is , just like for you , a key part of my work as a real estate agent.
Smart
And yet, u have one subscriber
@@salman__1909 I got more than you OoOoOo, no but actually this is my personal account lol. I’m not super successful at streaming or anything, I’m just doing it for fun anyways
conversation-skill should be taught in our formative years in the education system or have programs in the community that put strong emphasis on this, I feel they matter more than math, history or science.
initiatorhater0688 people skills is the one
It's not an education system anymore but a teaching system. They test your memory and capacity to memorize information and instructions useful to solving problems. They don't give a shit about you being educated or not
It is. As opposed to math or science, social competency has the universal potential to improve your standing.
Sure, some people can take advantage of their understanding of math and science to become successful, but most people can’t.
The thing about our educational system that people need to understand is that it’s goal is NOT to make more successful happy individuals, it’s to manufacture employees.
If everyone had skills to make their own way in a social world there wouldn’t be nearly enough desperate marks to con.
Your sarcasm @Brexit Monger! So refreshing.
You have to be educated in these subjects to get at least a decent job...
“Imagine going to a car salesman and he starts talking to you about your family for 20 mimutes” great point lmaoooooo
This guy speaks from a rare, genuine perspective. I'm so glad I found this video.
- Flirting is an attitude first (keyword Playful)
- Push Pull (I Love you, I hate you), also works via Bodylanguage . Creating a Rollercoaster of Emotions, while giving subtle signs of interest
- Notice subtle things (Physical apperance, Clothing/Accessories, Body Language, Actions of her (weak handshake) and playfully exaggerate them or assume other traits etc. of her based on that
- Cold Read/ Assumptions of her Personality or what she does (hobbies, job etc)
- purposeful misinterpretations and sexual innuendos (when possible in a sexual way [you can find the sexual in almost everything])
-- having a flirty Frame (going in with an interesting/funny/non-serious Frame to play) [a bad/lame frame example: "Im trying to pick you up - a better frame : " You are trying to pick me up"]
I realized these convo skills go far beyond game with women they relate to work, negotiations and even just meeting friends in a new place.
I've listented to so many damn podcasts,just hours and hours and hours and hours of many,MANY different podcasts. And by now,I can literarly talk for hours with anybody. Comes naturally. And I can shift in witch direction I wanna talk the conversation at any time. I remember talking to a girl for 7 hours straight. Literarly all night.
Any recommendations??
@@awaisamjad119 I'm interested in skateboarding and basketball so that's where I've listented to a ton of conversations. That's how I learned english. But my main source of podcasting was joe rogan expirence. I was early with that pod,around 2014 and it helped me a lot on how to carry a conversation. But that is not enough usually if you want to attract a girl. Talking is great but you have to be able to flirt,tease be funny etc. That's a whole another game lol . But being able to talk,I think in the long run matters more. In the start,flirting is more important.
This is an incredible inside scoop of one of Todd's greatest strengths. Great video
21:48 good storys are like ass
"It has to have some depth to it"
This is an impressive video, one of the highest value adding videos i've ever come across. Real-life situational advice, love it.
Few guys are so eloquent that they use the right word every time not even great orators can do it.
It is all about the details along with putting heart into what you say to the ladies. January 1, 2023. North America.
Todd you are a legend man so much value in this clip thank you. Respect for your expertise in your craft.
You had me during the first 30 seconds when you said that people are going to appreciate and ''love'' Language just a little bit more at the end of this..Nice work!
😂😂😂
"Find the play in every word, every sentence and intonation."
i enjoy how he doesn't sound like a salesperson
I'm a very good salesman and most customers tell me "I don't sound like a salesman at all" :) True for most good salesmen.
He's a sales person
To not sound like a sales man is a true sales man 🥷🏿
I feel guilty for not paying for this valuable, life changing information.
I shockingly only discovered about him now which I feel so sad about, this guy knows what he is talking about, his 5 minute video on the difference between flirting and teasing helped me, this guy is insanely good😭
I'll send you my paypal
Thank you for not suppressing the profanity. It adds to the context.
Simply gold.
Good explainations and those simple examples (buying/selling the car f.e.) and small but important notes (why and how the 90/10 rule is temporary important) really helped me seeing my mistakes. I did so much right but those small things I misunderstood lead me wrong all the time. Real, useful and applicable instructions!
you answered a lot of questions when you covered the telling a story part. thank you friend
Its always great when you first think that 1 hour is way to long to watch and then the hour is over allready. Great information. THanx bro
That's Good game. 🔥
Notes and Material
7:50 wit journal and study stand up comedy, collect phrases, study format of jokes, collect few jokes
11:00 Story Telling
Structure of story
Situation - interruption - change
One minute story
Remember the bluepoints 123
Imagine yourself in story and feelings
19:00
improv comedy
24:25 Social Proof Story
Story that leads to something better
33:40
Specific format of Humour
Setup/punch Steven Wright
Rule of 3
Callback Humour
Impression
37:55
Use jokes to exaggerate
38:00
Improv Format
1.Find something unusual
2.Justify with example
3.
42:35
High Value Humour Dan Cook
43:10
Humour and Escalation
Shit Test
47:40
Flirting
Humor and Escalation
50:00
Push pull
50:51
Cold Read and Exaggerate
53:00
Misinterpretation
Someone once said words are the best aphrodisiac for a woman ;)
Thank you for the value in this video, Todd
If a man can hold an intelligent, but playful conversation that does pique interest. It has to seem genuine and not phony for me to listen. The best game to get a woman's attention is not to play a game. Just be genuine and actually care.
annmarieknapp thats the whole point of game, to do it right you need to care
I have watched so many videos about conversation skills that tell me to do this and that. But never seem to teach me the thought process to how to get there or how to build my own plan of action through understanding what I need to work on. All the others seemed to be in a foreign language to me. Thank you.
Please keep coaching and teaching Todd!
Self notes for me to come back to
More advanced openers than a direct approach:
50:26 - push pull
52:25 - cold approach and exaggerate
I love "parasite" phrases and I'm digging Todd's constant repetition of "does that make sense" :D
Joking aside, brilliant content!
These videos are great for men at any level that they are at in life. I appreciate your humane approach towards people in general and the general gist I get from these is that you want everyone to be fulfilled. Thanks dude!
this new stuff has been really dope
Bro , to put this out to anyone who could use help , for free , speaks volumes of your character... way to change the world for the better,
The only word that I think you should add to this seminar. Is the word. Brevity. Keep at this sir! Thanx for sharing
I watched this video once before and sort of understood but now it's blowing my fuckin mind and I'm sure it will continue to do so as I watch it more and more. Makes so many vague concepts make sense and shows me that I've already been doing pretty much all this stuff but understanding why helps exponentially in knowing when and helps me read the girl so much better without having to go into my head! How do you give this stuff away for free Todd haha. You're the GOAT!
I believe everyone would like to have a positive outcome. But by outcome independent they mean not quitting after rejection. I have a sales story I use of a bad experience with a small organization then getting a big deal with a multinational company on the next call. You do a good job of breaking things down practically.
3:26 wow... you are the first person i have heard talk about this... thank you, I feel good knowing that at least now, some men know this 😪
Hey you’re a girl what are you doing on here? 😠
25:33. -Lead through story telling "100% Perfect gir"l story - great seg way into NLP pattern. Very powerful sir Todd
Todd you are an angel amongst men. Thank you for this. I hope good karma will take care of you. Cheers
Books:
- how to make people speak
- Zen of motorcycle
1. Bear conversation when conversation stalls.
2. There should be an outcome.
3. "Girl I love you" destroys value.
4. Story has situation, interruption and change. If no - it's pointless
5. Good story - story without bragging
6. Story about girl and boy, you should catch a moment, you have control in life
Setup punch (normal, not), 3 punch list (norm, norm, norm, not)
Observe unusual (can find everywhere), exaggerate, make assumptions
Good comedians for game - not self deprecating
Dane Cook, dont be clown
Flirt: repeat her, "you are hot thing flying through a universe"
Sex with me it's like a...
Frames:
- you looked at me
- you are bored
- talk in statements, not questions
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@@srghma assumptions instead of questions, I was taught this but I'm still trying to learn this
Thank you Todd, this leads from outter game fine point others omit right into inner game of self acceptance. I'll try to save up money for a bootcamp.
I didn't know what to expect with this talk, but I learned a lot. Great video. R.
Amazing lecture, thank you!
That is a top notch power point presentation.
36:39 Todd needs to make an entire video of just impressions.
Would watch in a heartbeat
OPENING:
-Cold read and exaggerate
• Use witty lines
• start storytelling
- Add humor: Callback humour, punch lines
-Go beyond the obvious: Use exaggeration
- 1 min Stories can be extends to 10 min long and vice versa
- Add small details in the story
- Don't act like secret agent, have fun and banter
- Convey value with story-telling like pre-selected, having options of females
- show her intent, compliment her and don't over validate her
- Use push pull
- Don't be hilarious, be interesting
• Flirting
- misinterpretation
- Create sexual tension
- Proximity, eye contact, smile, voice tonality, and body language
- Body rocking sometimes
How to never run out of things to say: have ADHD.
It's actually really interesting to learn game with ADHD, because it's really easy to be empathetic and have a great humor, but on the other hand there are many challenges, i.e. not getting stressed out during the night
@@sumira8669 good point.
Not if you had ads
Sadly ADHD fades away over the years once you become an andult it's not nearly as strong as it used to be
I wish
One of the best gaming tutorials on RUclips. Thanks bro. 👍🏾
I find girls like to talk about themselves. Maybe you put effort in in the beginning to get her to open up but eventually you have to let her talk.
I have been watching your videos and am improving on game thanks Todd
I would've liked more on the subject on how to never run out of things to say.
Think about stuff when you're alone. For this to work, you need to be alone a few hours each day.
I loved her month ago, because I didn't matter what I said to her. Even saying nothing was okay. She always wanted me. She is good girl.
When Todd asked who knew about the concepts of Value and Confort and almost no one raised their hand, I knew I'm old.
2:30 (starting the lawnmower analogy) - While you’re spending time watching the video and wondering how to be a real man, start by learning that the pull cord on a mower is NOT the choke.
This guy ends alot or almost all of his points with "RIGHT?" That's subconcious programming. He's giving useful information but don't let him take control. Take action. Apply information you'll learn waaay more. He said enough for you to take action.
Getting to the conversation is the hard part. Opening is the hardest part for men.
I don’t know if it’s as much his masterful public speaking as much as a reflex ...
Wow there is so much good knowledge here!
Im in sales and this is GOLD
Sell me a girl
you carry the conversation real well we just like to listen...nice job
What’s a story
1 situation, something happening
2 interruptions, something interrupts it
3 and someone or something is changed by it
This guy looks so basic , annoying voice with a boring tune, but the stuff he says is very deep and insightful, I rate him for the value he is giving and most of it can be applied generally in social setuation . Thanks, Repect
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Hey Todd, you’ve recommended countless great books over the years to us, and given you’re hands down the best of the best, a god among gods, and a living legend, you absolutely must write a book of your own!! Please!!!! As you and countless of us already know, videos can be deleted and lost forever such as the ones you put out in the past were with an endless amount of priceless information. Your book, however, will be with us for eternity...
keep pumping out that good shit
carry convo at beginning (be willing to carry 90% at start)
first thing you say might suck so try again
have desire for outcome(get to the point)
have frame to conversation(random convos=random boring outcomes)
STORYTELLING
builds value and cormfort
story =situation and how it changed you or change
get bullet point from your own other person story(tell the story in bullet points)
It's gold.
Clean word flow.
Clean presentation.
I-approve.
Thanks for sharing your light brother-light.
Be well.
Be love.
Be light.
Todd you’re putting out great content, I think you’re the best pickup guy out besides Alex
Trey Murray I agree, though I think Bradicus's stuff is great as well.
This should be basic education for everybody tbh.
i think socializing should just be less complicated
- In short term just pure energy and will at the moment
- story has 3 elements 1. Situation 2. Interruption 3. Outcome make sure your story have tension and drama
When telling story get into specifics, include what was there, what you were wearing etc specifics make it come alive
If your not living the story as you are telling it's gonna be flat
Frame is the thing which controls the meaning
Long term learning conversational material and learning proper delivery
In conversation outcome is important ex: is car salesperson talks about family instead of cars
Ideal outcome: i wanna meet you i wanna spend time with you have fun teach you something travel places
Convo must have frame, random conversation have random results
Fate doesn't work by itself you have to sieze the moment
you missed a perfectly fine joke about meteors being long, burning hot things crashing into uranus.
18:36 verbally charismatic - exaggerate specific
21:30
25:15 lead through storytelling 100% girl story
35:28 argument golf club
39:32 exxageration for unusual jokes
43:48 flirting
47:00 flirt definition, attitude is key
49:51 push pull, i lovr you i love you not
50:06 push pull example
50:48 opener, hey execuse me. Looking for their unusual response
52:56 misinterpretation - sex with me is like
54:33 frame is important than technique when you first approach with exaggeration
Todd I'd love to take coaching with you! I'm finding myself drawn to you over most pua teachers.
RSD were wrong to let you got. You provide the information brilliantly and you give reason for it rather than just stating it as well. The only other coach I’ve watched that I’ve got this much out of is Jeffy. Good shit man!
The new Todd content is HOT
You mean like sexy "hot" or literal "hot"?
Really well done vid
Thanks
I think these apply to more than just when I’m on the hunt.
These are great tools when talking to anyone.
That's what he said at the very beginning.
@@andromedagalaxynebula5751 see, I need to pay attention more.
@@izzojoseph2 I know it's an hour long. It's worth rewatching it again.
ima just keep watching this over and over till i make friends
I love this so much. Thank you
JUST WHAT I NEED IT, THANKS MAN.
Brother, this is gold. Super grateful!
Facts
This won't be taught in school. School just makes people more awkward.
I have to share this video. Straight forward great advice 💯
Todd was definitely talking about Owen at 41:00
5:00 I believe they meant "All outcomes are good."
10:57 Storytelling definitely is not the most important in game. Stories are neither about the girl nor about your (possible future) interaction with her.
12:53 Omg that applies to TTRPG! Or, more likely applies along it. Being good at one makes you better at the other! (Ofc that's not all there is to Game/TTRPG, otherwise GMs would easily pick up girls, and PUAs would run D&D like pros.)
24:03 How to use storytelling in Game.
25:34 "100% Perfect Girl" may be a good story, but it seems like too much of a downer for energetic nights.
30:35 Underlying meanings in speech.
33:33 IMO Humor is not something you can learn studying. Go out. Talk. Joke. That's how you will learn what works with which types of people.
40:34 DON'T TRY TO BE HILARIOUS. TRY TO BE INTERESTING, AND FUNNY BY THE WAY!
41:52 Avoid self-deprecative humor, unless it is obvious (and she is certain) that you are just joking.
46:21 Influencing tension with humor.
49:09 Basically flirting.
54:32 Frame. The thing Todd is big on. Do not act like the situation is "I'm trying to pick you up" but something more interesting, and giving you more value.
Honestly suprised, didnt expect much, but got a lot of new knowledge for free. 👍
Todd! Todd! Todd! Todd! Todd!
Set aside dating, this talk is true for life. Good stuff.
I am not entirely sure if I can agree with you on Dane Cook, he is not funny, but I loved this video Todd.
Did I do the push/pull right? ;)
Sigma Business I mean push pull is a flirting technique 😂 but good try sir
This joke would heve ben perfect if You would have used Push an Pull tehnique in it...
The getting bored thing is huge. I've been wondering often when one should just get the number and move on. I'm trying to get to know her to build rapport. But no one thinks spending the whole time you're out with them is a good idea.
This is very important to my life
Thank you for this video, I learn a lot from it, especially interesting topic.