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I’m a wife of 7 years and we have had six children together. Got married at 19. Husband’s a contractor who works his ass off, taught me to lift weights, eat healthy, emotionally regulate and love my life. He and our children are an immeasurable blessing.
Sounds like a soldier. Great sign that he wants you to grow with him too. In our old age, all that matters to us is having someone by our side who values and understands us. Cherish and uplift your loved ones always.
Well it makes sense. Video comes out, the most rabid haters immediately jump on it and leave comments, more levelheaded people come later (especially because they probably actually watch the whole thing), start downvoting the hater comments into the ground and leaving more positive comments... And now RUclips doesn't show you the hater comments anymore. Sometimes the system works :)
Having a different opinion is not mean. Brett is unbelievably ignorant of the male dating experience. And that's okay because she's a lady. But just put yourself out. There isn't real advice for most men. Cuz we have been and we've got nothing to show for it
To those who aren't aware how the comments section works, as good comments get liked they rise above bad ones, as bad ones get disliked they lower and lower so no one sees them.
Can confirm what they’re saying: met my husband at the gym at 5 in the morning. We saw each other every day for months until he finally asked me out. He’s a conservative, finance bro, 6’2, brown eyes, love of my life. To meet him I had to become the person that goes to the gym at 5am and become the person I would want to date.
@@deadsick95 You missed the tiktok reference, but If being attracted to my husband because he is handsome, smart, and successful is superficial then so be it.
My mother at 65, me 30, revealed to me she thought her thyroid cancer was from all the times my dad choked her...lets play the silly little game of what "feminism" is and split the hair 50 ways on "modern"... Don't get me wrong on your 13 years. Good on ya...I just hope this hyper Christianized version seeking to spin "feminism" one way is very surreal to me (literally can't stand talking to the christian right). Maybe its just the two party dualism way of talking about things that adds to all the miscommunication by my upbringing. I WILL ALWAYS be a Feminist, and Ill let whatever version christian control freaks lie any and every way they want. Feminism wouldn't need to be a thing if your sky god didn't stop them from voting, getting a job, considered their reproduction, considered that some men are abusive, or have similar rights, be able to THINK for themselves. Jesus had no problem telling my mom to stick around...in fact, my broken nose at 7 (chewed some lipstick up, while urinating I got punched across the bathroom), broken ribs at 14 (talked back on being grounded to my room for 3 months), hundreds maybe thousands of belt bruises later....you and your sky super power friend...promised my mom an "eternal family", because she stuck through it all. Insanity.
Why in the heck would you offer women at age 21 free IVF! That is not the point here….. The process of IVF is cruel, there are many embryos that are created through the process one is picked and the rest are thrown away… life being thrown away. Similar to how we should accept the way God made our bodies male or female, the same way we should accept if we can or cannot have children. Then we pray to God and ask Him to gift us with children. IVF is NOT the answer.
@@markstewart4501 I'm sorry, but what in the world are you going off about? Your rant here is completely incoherent. I'm sorry if your dad was abusive but I can't understand what point you're even trying to make.
Got married at 18. I am incredibly happy. Folks have been telling us we are in the “honey moon phase” for literally YEARS now. It is possible to marry young and stay married and be happy.
I like how Chris is comfortable saying “what’s that?” To anything he doesn’t know. I want that, comfortability and confidence to say I don’t know something, please tell me more. Completely admirable!!! Brett, you are amazing as always ❤
It's a skill you need to practice and hone. I try to do it, but sometimes I still fail and just end up nodding my head as if I knew all along--most of the time this ends up fine, but occasionally I come out looking like a dumbass because I didn't suss out the meaning through contextual clues.
The irony is that if you have the courage to do this often, you actually become more and more competent, which builds your confidence and courage even further.
Like Luke says, not only will you become more competent, but knowledgeable too. The key is to not worry about what others will think of you. I'm very naive but recognise it really is absolutely fine "not to know" & appreciate the opportunity to learn - if it's important to me, it stays with me. It's also very valuable in the workplace, especially if you are customer facing 😊
My wife and married at 22, both virgins. She walked away from an accounting firm where she was on a fast track to partner so she could be the best mother she could be. After four wonderful children and 35 years, we've never been more in love.
@@TheOlzee My husband and I are millennials and have a similar story; he had only had one partner, I had none, we weren't religious then so we didn't wait until we were married but we did marry young at 23 (we met just after our 18th birthdays). We are days from having our forth son in a row and very happy! I was on my way to being a professor and I am so glad I'm able to be at home instead, it's a real blessing.
"Getting married at 22 is a pretty radical to do for someone with a career." It is only radical for people that believe a "career" will be more fulfilling to their lives than people that believe a family will be.
the reason its radical today is because of the usual lack of commitment that is present early and hence what ends up being a quick divorce, but Brett is an exception because shes already cemented her career instead of being in the initial stages of building it.
Maybe in the US its different but in my country its pretty radical mainly (ofc besides other things) because at that point very often U dont even make enough to live on your own... Especially if you show potwntial in a career that requires a degree (like lawyer, doctor etc.)
@@BalazsFingszEgyikFingja At 22, if you are preparing to be a doctor or a lawyer, you haven't started your career yet so that analogy doesn't really apply here (your education is not your career).
@@h00ded0ne4 i'm currently doing my law studies and work part time simultaniously at a comsulting firms law section. My program takes five years altogether and so far I did like 2,5 years of it while working. Honestly in my country a lot of us works during our law studies because the competition is really serious and you hope to get ahead with the extra experience (good grades or first class honours on their own dont necessarily cut it anymore unfortunately). So yeah I talked about my experience, here the border between our education and career has become pretty blurry to be honest. Theyre kinda connected for many of us. Maybe in the US its different.
In my 20s my employer said that I should, "Marry for money the first time - then you can afford to marry for love."😮 I did not take his advice and I've been happily married now for 34 years and I loved, loved, loved being a stay-at-home mom!
My mother is a very successful doctor and I always felt her very present in my life. When I was seven she moved to Spain (we lived in south america) to do her masters while I stayed with my dad. They are happily married today and I think having such a positive and fun relationship with my dad really impacted my confidence and how I relate to men and seeing my mom so succesful in life and her carreer really shaped me as well. You can have a carreer (one that you are passionate about-not like a boring job) and be a great mother. And dads are I would argue even more important in today's world than before.
There is so much negativity in the comments already. Just because Brett is young and probably a little naive doesn't mean she's destined for divorce and misery. Real happiness is attainable.
Young and probably naïve was a valid excuse 20 years ago. It is no longer a valid excuse to be uninformed with the Internet, RUclips channels, content creators, etc. Stop making excuses for other peoples bad decisions lady.
@@brianz7861 "How can anybody be enlightened? The truth is after all so poorly lit" - Neil Peart Just because *information* is out there, doesn't mean the truth is easy to find.
Got married at 21 and 5 years later, not one regret. All of the people saying she’s too young can’t comprehend that at a young age it’s possible to know who you are , stay true to your values,and be ready enough to commit have someone that loves them enough to commit to them. Wouldn’t want to spend life with a partner who loves you. A friend you get to do life with? Not everyone is selfish.
I got married at 21 also and 6 years strong, I think the biggest thing is we grew out life together instead of taking two very independent people and trying to smash it together. That's what my friends are struggling with now is men and saying conflicts with their social and work schedule
I think half the time, people give advice based solely on what they perceive is best and what conforms to their values. The don't look at it from the perspective of the person who they are giving their advice to.
Married at 19 and 20. Had my firstborn son a month before I turned 21. We are now married almost 14 years and have 4 kids together. We are really blessed!
I married my husband when I was 20. Within four years I became a stay at home mom. Thirty-nine years later and we’re still married and just recently had our house full of our four kids and the spouses of those married. It’s a wonderful life.🥰
I am glad to hear Brett speak favorably of Candace and that friendship isn’t phony. I don’t personally care for Candace but it’s good to see someone like Brett demonstrating loyalty. It’s good to know that you can still be real with people even when there’s drama.
@@simply.living.bettercause she’s fake, she’s legit just contrarian for the sake of being contrarian. Started all the way back when she denied that Kanye west’s tweets were anti-s3mitic , and now as of recently she believes the moon landing was fake lol . . Regardless, even though I’m not a fan of her , I respect Brett for being loyal to their friendship over siding with her company. She handled that either way grace and professionalism.
@Rio26202 , @simply.living.better Because way lower in the food chain compared to Candance Owens so she can and is appreciating openly. Wait till Brett gets there and lets see how genuine it is. I agree @simply.living.better , @simply.living.better and @sjappiyah4071 she is super annoying. I watched here many times and with Chris Cumos debate on PBD she was over the top. Plus first 20 mins with Bill Maher was also super annoying. It is like a bug or mosquito buzzing near your ear. I am like you don't have to yell and be angry all the time, with all the topics/views.
I’ve been reading for a while and haven’t seen any negative comments?? I have learned, however, that all her followers got married in their early 20’s….
It's a classic RUclips phenomena, the wannabe opinion contrarian. 10 people comment A, then 5000 people bravely go against the grain and declare despite all the hate their support for B instead. True heroes
@@fourliltadpoles I wish I could have been a SAHM... I honestly hate feminism. If I had been born before that, I honestly believe I would have had a better life. I'm very meek and submissive and because of youth traumas, I'm a very nervous and fearful person as well. (which, in that time, my parents wouldn't have screwed up everything either so those traumas likely wouldn't exist) I don't function well enough for a normal job. So I'm on wellfare, which society naturally probably hates me for. I'm ashamed of it myself. I work on voluntary basis in the local library, but of course most people don't see that as "working" and I understand... they have a lot more patience with me, they don't get angry at me when I make mistakes, they don't put pressure on me and I don't have a lot of responsibility. The tasks are a lot more simple too. I know it's not comparable to a real job, but I really do what I can. But I'm not happy at all. I'm 33, a virgin and never had a relationship before. I don't expect a man to want to be with me... I definitely don't blame men. But it's sad. I'm often suicidal. If I didn't have my dog, I would have ended things a long time ago already. My first dog died two months ago. She had been my angel for 5 years. One of my brothers stayed over at my apartment and checked on me every single hour to make sure I wasn't doing anything stupid. Thankfully a few days after, the vet that had tried to save my dog told me about a dog that had lost his owner around the same time and she felt he was meant to be for me. He had no one else to take him. I immediately felt sympathy for him and also felt a connection so I agreed to meet him and well, you can guess the rest. He's the only one keeping me going. Knowing that he relies on me, that I have to take care of him. But yeah... I often wonder what my life could have been like in a different society than today.
Successful, feminine, cute, has morals, chasing meaning, etc. etc. etc. seems to be doing 100x better than the dum dums in the comments saying shes too young to get married lol.
I disagree with a lot of the things Brett believes in, but I really really like her. She's articulated, able to provide arguments for her opinions, smart and positive. I think what people lack nowadays is the ability to agree to disagree and the ability to see nuances. For most political stances, there is no right or wrong because there is no such thing as a perfect political system. I also seriously dislike the dichotomy that exists in the American politics - there is nothing wrong with taking ideas from both sides. I really enjoyed this talk.
I have to say this is one of the best comments I've read in an extremely long time. You're absolutely correct. A good idea is just that, no matter where it came from. Person, side of isle, or time in history. There's a definitive lack of respect for the opinions of others these days. That's the single biggest issue I see. Or lack of respect, period. And that leads to the inability to listen to each other.
I really respect this comment. I am someone who leans to agree more with Brett on these kinds of things, but finally hearing a respectful kind comment of someone who might disagree more with her is so refreshing. I don't really care what you beleive, but we've lost the ability to hear people out and be kind no matter what,
I agree! The way she lives her life is not for me, but she's very eloquent and lovely to listen to. She obviously knows what she wants in life and working towards that goal. To me, feminism is about having the freedom to choose.. She's made her choice and it's ridiculous that it is controversial for her to want to marry, have children and be the very best mother she can be.
I know many 30 somethings who are more immature than 20 yr olds and vice versa. I guess it comes down to social education, critical thinking, IQ and good influences? Age doesn't seem to be a very good determinant of a successful relationship (excluding minors ofcourse). I'm a 22 yr old woman. So grateful for positive influences like Brett, Candace owens and Matt Walsh etc. They saved me from modern feminism. Thank god I was curious enough to do research rather than stay in my echo chamber xD
I don't know why people are so malicious towards Brett. She comes across as a thoughtful, no nonsense and down to earth girl to me. I'm the same age as her and I totally look up to her. Thank you Chris for having her on!
I can see it, and I agree with most of her perspectives on life. Her 'dark side' comes out in very small outbursts, for example: they mentioned pickleball and she said (in reference to a group of all men playing) "it was the gayest thing she's ever seen, just go play tennis or boxing or something." She does a pretty good job of riding the fence, but if you pay attention you can see some of the motives poke through every once in awhile.
well duh, that's why it's radial, at the moment people require more time to work themselves out such that a 22 years today, won't be the same person when they are 32, hence marrying someone that early comes with a real risk that the person you married won't be the same person in a few years.
@mcbean1 dude, everyone changes. You aren't the same person at 20/30, or you are not growing. Waiting it out means you will both devolp trauma 'dating around'. Speaking from experience. Marriage will only work with God though
@@mcbean1It's not that they need more time to work themselves out but instead that they are waiting for the perfect time to get married. You will never be done growing and changing as a person, even into your 80s.
@@ElAndresRodriguez Sure you never stop growing but the turbulence one endures between 20-30 is no where near the same as 50-60, that's the point, yes you continue to refine who you are, but ones major personality changes are generally set by 30ish
When my wife and I met, neither of us wanted children. That was a relationship condition for both of us. I got married 4 years ago at 23, had a daughter a year later. I'm 27 now and I can't express how great marriage and being a father are. It's impossible to explain to someone that doesn't have kids how they change your life for the better
When I ditched the Feminist Marxist cult/religion I found freedom and happiness. Brett is 100% correct. The only thing I remember about my feminist mother was that she was miserable and made my father and me miserable with the resentment that is inherent in such an antagonistic ideology. It takes too much energy to always be in such an activist state of mind, always looking for how one has been wronged all to project and avoid one’s own accountability then wondering why nothing gets better in their lives and it’s damaging effect on others.
That has been my experience exactly. I too left feminism. Thank God I was already very young so my entire life wasn't derailed. I'm a 22 yr old virgin woman. I can still do everything right. yay. God bless you
I’m 22, married, and have a baby. I totally understand her talking about how hard it is to step away from her career. But, despite being a 99% of the time stay at home mom, I’ve found there is so much out there for me still. Ive been a first responder my entire career, now I work 1 24 hour shift a month, it’s a total reset for me and my husband and baby have “boys weekend” as he calls it. They love it. My husband and I joined the local volunteer fire department together and they’ve created roles for me that allows me to have my baby with me and I only respond when my husband is home, it totally works. I still get to do what I love without ever compromising my baby’s needs. Also, marriage is the best thing ever. Everyone told us the first year is really hard, but we just had tons of fun and joy. Even through pregnancy and the newborn stage.
Chris immediately going into his Sloth impression from The Goonies while Brett shared about her awkward ugly duckling puberty phase is giving serious big brother energy 🤣😂
This girl was all over my feed and, admittedly, I didn't want to hear anything she had to say, being only 22. But take it back and accept I was being ageist. I enjoyed listening to her viewpoints, and she has deep insight. Not many people have this at this stage of life. I am curious how her views will evolve in ten years. But after listening, I feel less worried about the next generation knowing an influencer like her exists.
My father said to not get married before 30. I dated many amazing women when i was younger but from my upbringing i did not take any of them super serious and broke up with a couple and the rest broke up with me Now i am 33 and the dating climate has radically changed as well as some of my politcal and moral beliefs making it more difficult to speak to women. Guess we shouls have been looking for marriage earlier
At the age of 8, I had three thoughts for my future. Between ages of 10 and 11, much hatred entered my life. My desires were to find a get a decent job, marry a decent woman, and make a good life for the kids. That was the 1960s. I was in the academic courses, which meant college. With other factors in my life, I wondered how my academic courses would be best for those goals. It might be wise for people to keep track of their goals, and what needs to be done to achieve them.
Both of my grandmother's were married and had their first child by 20 years old. My grandmother on my dad's side. Was married and was pregnant by 19 years old . She had six kids, five survived to adulthood. When her kids started to get old enough to start to take care of themselves. She went back to school, to not only get an education, but have a job. As woman and a mother. She got into aero space industry. Where she worked on making circuit boards for the defense industry. My grandmother before she retired in her mid sixties. She was in charge of the quality/control for circuit boards. Those circuit boards went into F15s, F16s, and the F117 stealth fighter. My grandmother on my mom's side. Had 15 kids. My grandfather on my mom's side not only worked for the railroad, but also worked on the farm on his days off. All of my aunts and uncles on my mom's side worked on the farm. They learned what hard work was at a very young age.
When Brett was talking about how much of her content is evergreen I just thought "this would be the perfect transition to a RuffGreens ad!" Whenever she mentioned the importance of balance in life, as she did when speaking about her social media use, I couldn't help thinking "what a perfect jumping point for a Balance of Nature ad!" 😂 I'm becoming too suspicious of everything she says being the beginning of ad and I love it
Good for you! You probably heard this a lot, but time flys by so fast and littles get big so fast. Enjoy the time you have. Our kids have been a lot of stress with different issues, but I don't regret any of them and it's tough for me seeing our latest baby get big (1 year old now). They are so awesome. Watching them grow and seeing who they become. We are so thrilled with our children. And your marriage probably has some issues with a baby in the mix. Every baby has stressed my marriage, anyway. But we work on getting connected again and it's been 9 years and still going. God has helped us through a ton. Health, financial, and emotional issues. It's been wild. And it's been fun! There are so many amazing memories. Good luck!!!
So, people are saying Brett is naive because she married at 22? What? I got married at 21, I’m still happily married 6 years later, we have children whom we are also happily raising. Don’t project your lives onto hers because you made bad choices in life that resulted in divorce.
Chris clearly decided to be dedicated to his work...which would leave less time and energy to focus on a partner and a family. Chris is an amazing human being he's too busy to catch 😂. I like to joke the only reason I was able to connect with my current partner was when he broke his leg and had no choice but to slow down. If he hadn't broken his leg he would have been working constantly and I wouldn't have even considered him as an option, let alone as a long term partner.
It's just statistically it's unlikely to work out. That's being realistic, the more you marry young the more the chances of divorces. The age with the more long term marriages is 28-29. Doesn't mean it's impossible but people change and life circonstances change as you grow older. Let's see in 10 years if she's in the same position, same thinking etc.. I really wish her but life rarely works out how you want it.
I got married at 22 - everyone told me it wouldn't last, that I was too young to possibly know what I wanted in a relationship. I'm now 30 and we are stronger and happier than ever, and my marriage has survived so many things that other people get divorced over, while many of our friends from college are on their second and third marriages. What I've learned & found in my own personal experience is that it's not the age that matters, it's the intention. If you get married with the intention of growing together & staying together & being willing to face life's challenges as a team, you have a much higher chance of success than the people who get married merely based on the honeymoon phase/lovey dovey feeling.
Tbh marrying in young adulthood is quite ideal. The body is at it's physical peak. People are naturally full of energy, motivation, optimism. Progressing in early adult life together gives you a huge sense of belonging and trust.
@@lippi2171 100%. My husband & I have been through so much - pregnancy loss, major medical diagnoses, career changes, and so much more. All of my major milestones in my adult life, both good & bad, are intertwined with his. I trust him with my life.
She’s the perfect blend of idealism and realism. She has lofty goals for a traditional life but also has approached it with her eyes wide open and with wisdom. This is the kind of person who will marry once and forever and create a beautiful life with her husband.
As a mother of 2 young daughters I'm constantly worried about the potential dangers of social media and how we will handle the issue of them being online when the time comes. ...Although our 7year old is currently dressed as Harry Potter making a potion in the border of our front garden with her school friend, so maybe were good for another few years yet! 😅
just make sure that she knows that not every child has the opportunity to pretend make a potion at age 7.. just let her know people come very damaged sometimes and that she won’t be able understand why soo many young people her age are dysfunctional.. and im not insulting u, im saying good job momma, some day we’ll be able to ensure all children are raised as such 🥺
Do not allow social media. Also, start pointing out now how people will take 30 different pics and put the best one on it. It is important to start making comments on how it is people only putting their best or fake aspects of life. I think having conversations about real life and its struggles age appropriately is necessary. For instance, when my kids were toddlers on and they wanted toys from the store, I would say no, not today and they would say, because I need a job? Yes baby, that is why. We can’t get everything we want and explaining gently why. I show my boys articles where people who post stuff when they were teenagers and they were crucified as adults later on and lost jobs. We also talk about the studies and how it is addictive and how it literally changes their brains. I also am no longer on social media and my husband is not really on it. We model how it is a tool, but not an important part of our lives.
I like Brett, but I struggle with multi millionaire boss babes talking about how being a boss babe is bad. No hate, not saying she’s young, or naive. Just that hasn’t ever been addressed.
I KNOW. Also, the fact that her family wealth never gets mentioned baffles me. She got all those opportunities and activities when she was young, thanks to some money running in her family - no wonder she has a dream life (seamingly) - money is not everything but greatly helps, to say the least !
@RichardTavilla lol thats absolutely not how it works. Im not saying she doesnt have any merit. But talent flourishing is linked to financial privilege, whether you like it or not. It is extremely obvious in her case when you listen to her whole story. The fact of not acknowledging this at all is dishonest in general.
@@Hermes-xc8jp my point is she is talented and hardworking in a business sense. She’s extremely likable. Watch her for 2 minutes and you can see why she blew up. My point is, that person who is grinding and making millions kinda contradicts that point.
I’m in a relationship for a year, I’m independent nearly paid my mortgage and doing well. I get what I want within my limits and I do this in my time. Being in a relationship has helped me to be less selfish, less decisive and more inclusive. My partner is a go-getter so i told him that i will step back and support him whilst he focuses on our relationship and his career. So when he travels for work we plan for me to be with him to help us get balance in our relationship and I get to see more of the world from different perspectives and be my partners PA when he needs me, ironing his clothes, washing, keeping the house clean, giving him leadership advice from my experiences and academic input. I get to do things I always wanted, go on gardening, creative art, cooking courses, and to become a therapist at some point to give back to society. My new role is not a step back it’s a huge step forward outside of corporate politics. I can be real and be in nature and go to the gym to develop cross-fit skills with my partner and by myself.
We met when we were 19 and got married at 23. Going on almost 20 years. Best decision I've ever made. Im so glad I've never had to do the bar scene and dating apps. Just found a woman, I couldnt be without.
I totally agree - when I'm going through a difficult time w my husband I always think: "At least I don't have to deal with dating" 😂 Married when I was 21, 16 years and counting, plus 3 kids I'm so proud of
I got married at 22 while still in university, now 28, both of us graduated and are working good jobs, and still happily married. There’s been loads of growth and ups and down, but I wouldn’t want to live any other way. People don’t know the joy of growing together. Currently pregnant with our first baby and couldn’t be more excited to grow our family
I was married at 22. 3 kids and 20 years later, I’m widowed. Said all that to say, it can work. Though sometimes things happen out of your control. But it is possible.
I am a feminist and quite happily married. We've been married for 15 years now. For me, feminism means I am pro-choice. You want to pursue your career and focus on it, then do that. You want to start a family and focus on it, then do that.
@@calebsmith7179except when women do that, feminists will shame them as being unproductive just because a woman is staying at home and taking care of kids.
Brett not only looks like a younger female Ben Shapiro, but also speaks as fast as him. I may need to set the playback speed to x0.75 to be able to follow the conversation 😂
I 💯 thought they were siblings for about a year. I introduced Brett’s show to my husband and said “this is Ben Shapiro’s sister”. I’ll never believe she’s not. 😂
Nope and nope that's entirely dependent on the situation cynical can save you from being killed or maimed in lots of situations if your naive your assumption is built on the hope that the thing embarked on is something one can afford to be naive on and the thing you can afford to be naive on was probably not significant anyway because if it was you would have approached with some discretion.
My husband and I got married at 18, four years ago, and we are saving every single penny to build a future for ourselves and our eventual children. Gen Z is struggling in this modern society, but we are NOT lost.
My wife and I first met when we were 22. I was head over heels by the third date. We got married 7 months later. When we married we owned nothing save for two old cars. But we figured it out together. 33 years and 11 children later, she's still the love of my life. We've got 5 college grads, two more in college, 3 marriages and 2 more soon to be married. Get married, stay married...you can do it. In fact, there's nothing really worth more doing in this life. Looks fade, careers fade, but marriage and children are forever.
My parents got married at 19 and were married til the day my mom passed and my dad was never the same after... love isn't all rainbows and sunshine it's not perfect but you and your spouse will have your story no one else's and I hope for a beautiful life for you both.
It is interesting that we humans have such a strong inclination to “retaliate” against people who have made different decisions with their lives than we did.
I met my husband at 18, at a local pub quiz. It was heavily raining and I didn’t have a car so he drove me home. He didn’t put any moves on me just took me home. We met at the pub quiz every week for a month before he asked me out. We’ve been together 15 years now with 2 kids and love each other more every day.
Met my husband at 18 and he was 25. I’ve been with him for 12 years and we have 2 beautiful kids. We fall more in love with each other every year that passes! I’m still crazy about that man. Having a Christ centered marriage is essential!
There are alot of attractive women on the internet, but I just realized what draws me to Brett is not just that she is pretty, or "ideal", but that she is someone to admire. Its funny how 20 years ago, not being a tradwife was looked at as going against the status quo, which made women attractive and admirable. Fast forward to 2024 and the status quo is being a anti-tradwife feminist. The fact that she has more than enough awareness and drive to not be sheep, to stand for her own outlook on life, is very admirable.
I occasionally listen to Brett, not often just because I'm not really interested in pop culture. I'm only 6 minutes in and I have a whole new level of respect for Brett, and her outlook of life.
My wife and I married young and broke at 19, started having kids while still being broke at 21, and are still going strong 26 years later. The only regret I have, is not having more kids!
This episode is on point! My two favorite shows coming together. My husband and I got married at 19 and we have been married almost 18 years. Best decision I have ever made even though we received much criticism at the time. We both went through college, bought a house and have two kids. I think people forget the power of growing together and are more focused on their individual lives. There is such beauty in growth with your partner. It provides a richness in your life you can’t replace with individual ambitions. I know not everyone is able to find someone young, but I think we need to stop making marriage in your 20’s so taboo. After working in the family law field off and on for almost 20 years, I also have realized the later you get married the more problems you seem to have. I think it goes back to the fact you become more set in your ways as you get older and are less likely to want to grow with someone which causes issues.
Got married in 09. Been together since 06. Of course, not every step has been perfect, but there is no better alternative to having a family and spending life with the one you love
Chris, I loved your questions! I’ve always wondered about the day-to-day stuff. I also appreciate that, when an idea was discussed by either of you, a concrete example was usually given to make the idea tangible. This interview’s down-to-earth communication style and topics made it approachable, and listening sure made folding laundry more enjoyable. My (homeschooled) high school year old daughter is not on social media or RUclips, but she does LOVE listening to Brett. Her show, though it does have some language, has served as excellent fodder for mother-daughter discussion. It is also a great way for her to learn about cultural trends without being thrown into the middle of them. Brett’s commentary has helped her think deeply about her life and the culture around her. I am thankful for her show. Thanks for the excellent interview!
My wife and I married at 22 and 24, respectively. Over 16 years later, we're more deeply committed than ever to each other, and to God in responsibility for each other.
We got engaged after 10 weeks, married 6 months later, at the age of 23. Fifteen years later... couldn't be happier. Looking forward to the next fifty. When you know, you know. No need to wait to check if there is something better if there's already something great right in front your very eyes.
Some good points and observations, but here's a crazy idea. Maybe those women that make the silly lists of reasons for not having children are doing it as a kind of defiance against the fact having children is something that seems to be the expectation for everyone? I don't think it's a gen z thing, it just became more acceptable to stop and think: is having children really for me? For some the answer is no. And yeah they might make a list of 'silly' reasons not to, but all it means is that it's just not worth all sacrifice for them. Brett says oh but you're going to have this cute little child, is that not worth it? For some it genuinely isn't. Not every woman gets 'the urge'. What is the solution in that case? To still have a child that you don't want to have? Maybe she is too young to understand people have different perspectives, likes, dislikes and wants.
Damn! This is low key the best podcast I have watched non-stop without blinking. Chris, your diction and the way you articulate things is mind-blowing. Brett, congratulations on your marriage and being honest 🎉
We all married early when I was young. I was one of a close group of students. A boy I met when we were both 19 married at 22. At 25 and you were on the shelf. Many of that gang of students only two broke up, the seven of us left all finished growing up together, holidayed together from time to time and remained happy in our slow move to maturity, middle age then retirement. They were innocent days compared with today. I am not saying put the clock back at all but I am saying that maybe our rush to mature might not be the best for everybody.
Not too late, but it'll be hard to find someone good who's not snatched up yet. Plus if you want kids you'd biologically need a younger woman. There's a lot of career girls who hit their thirties and realize they want a family. Find a church or routine social function that you're drawn to and find a thirty-something who's also drawn there, and you can bond over your commonalities and shared future goals. They might be divorced or with kids already, but that's a compromise you may have to make at your age, and there are still good women who have that past. My parents got married in their mid thirties. Still going strong decades later with four kids. There's hope should you choose to act on it.
@ante5544 I will probably have to. I can marry a woman who has been divorced. The only thing I will probably stay firm on is that I don't want to marry a woman with children. Most of the time, being a stepdad is an awful situation for men. I would be more open to adopting kids than being a step father. If I fell head over heels for a single mom, so be it-but it's the last resort.
Get off your phone and get out there! I am 29, my man is 48. Our baby is almost 14 months old. Make yourself desirable to the women you are interested in.
@irislikestosew I am working on myself to become more desirable. In the last 9 months I have lost 60 lbs. I am also transitioning careers to increase my earning potential. I recently joined a local church.
Twice divorced at 25, but I don't regret a thing. Age was never the problem. It was a lack of self-awareness and commitment. Be certain about who you are and what you want, and acknowledge that both WILL ALWAYS change over time. It takes a days to cut down trees. It takes months or years to build a house. But it takes a lifetime to build a home.
I promise to any women who said men are "intimidated“ by her success that we really are not. We just don't like the attitude that comes with the success like thinking lowly of the man she is with.
@@idakwiatkowska2862 that’s ideal but I know that in modern time is a less and less of a thing in the west. Even if I can effort this lifestyle there are no women in the west that will fit in this structure. But like I said previously I don’t mind if a woman is successful, just don’t bring your work attitude into the relationship. That’s all.
I'll be 30 this year and am still single. I always just thought/hoped I'd meet someone naturally, through school or work or friends, like the majority of people I know did. And it just hasn't happened. Dating apps always felt so unnatural to me and were never something I was comfortable with. But I'm very active in my church, pursue my interests in whatever ways I can, do my best to take care of my body, etc... I say all this to say that some things are just out of your control and everyone's timeline is different. I've seen so many comments online telling women in my position that we must be the problem. There must be something wrong with us, we must be doing/saying something so unlovable to prevent us from attracting good men. And I simply don't think that's the case, but it can be so hurtful when you hear it often enough. Not to mention, I know some pretty terrible, unstable people who have significant others lol so I'm pretty sure that's not an accurate measure of any kind of superiority
@@mcedwards "That's not what I'm saying and I refuse to elaborate why I'm blaming the timeline and claiming some things are just out of your control, while failing to realize the only factors I can control is myself"
@@BadMannerKoreaIt's interesting you interpreted it that way, I took it differently. I know the kind of comments she's talking about and it often comes across like men think we just float through life without a care in the world, get offered all the opportunities simply by flicking our hair and fluttering our eyelashes and of course cannot walk down the street for getting approached by dozens of eligible bachelor's, whom we of course turn down because we are all 10's and deserve our 6"5 jacked millionaire . 💁🏼♀️😂 The reality is most average women don't get approached in normal life. (Unless you count the occasional tradie van beeping us in the street.) The rhetoric I mentioned may well apply to some women but it's probably reserved for the top 5%, as it is for the equivalent cohort of men.
@@tempsoda I'm not "interpreting" anything, she said it. She straight up said "some things are just out of your control and everyone's timeline is different". She is blaming outside factors and failing to take responsibility. Your reply above is now more blaming, just like her---the ease of dating when it comes to attractive women and how average women don't get approached. You should take responsibility, because anything else doesn't look good unless you're perfect
My wife and I got married at 22 and we have three kids together (one in heaven). We highly recommend it, but we didn’t rush into it. While we were young, we were both raised with valuing marriage, we both strongly value our faith in Jesus and are aligned on other values, both had good work ethics and were fortunate to meet at age 19 and spent three years dating before a short engagement. I’ve loved growing with her and spending the best years of my life with her and now our sweet boys. Thank you for helping break some cultural myths that need to be broken.
At 1:53:16 Brett said something that really resonated with me and I respect that at 21 years old she is mindful of this... for years I lamented the decision an ex girlfriend took (who I thought I was going to marry tbh) to end my 3 year relationship with her exactly because of this... She graduated college in 2010 at 23 years old. While I still had 3 more years of college ahead of me (I was 24 at the time), she went out to the workforce and got a taste of what earning adult money was like, she saved enough and eventually bought her 1st car, meanwhile I was still using public transportation to go to college and to my part time job trying to survive and finishing my degree in engineering, she absolutely got impatient with our relationship and we started to fight almost everyday until she became indifferent In late 2011, I noticed she stopped caring for me altogether, we would make plans to do things together but she stopped prioritizing our time, several times she went out with other dudes to concerts where she sure fire started to cheat on me. Christmas of 2011 rolled around and I didnt get any sort of gifts from her like I always had years prior then a couple of weeks into January 2012 she finally had the talk with me and ended the relationship I started to put the pieces together and realized she started seeing a guy from her workplace who was way older than me and was making bank at the time and they at least started dating since November of 2011 and i was clueless. That was the hardest relationship in my life and the biggest heartbrake i had to go through, she and I daydreamed of getting married having kids and leaving the country, but nah, she thought she was more mature than me and that I'd never reach her level I move on and in late 2012 started a new relationship to the woman who became my wife with which i recently celebrated 10 years of marriage. It was at the beginning of my new relationship that i found out my ex gf was pregnant, which was devastating for me but something odd happened... Months before starting my new relationship, my ex gf called me and we had a one night stand, it was that night that while she was asleep i decided to go through her messages on her phone and found out the saddest messages i could ever find from her partner (yes she cheated on him with me) ... reading those messages it was clear he was extremely abusive with her and pretty much used her as a rag doll for s*x and nothing more, i could tell she was desperate for someone who cared about her but our relationship was way beyond repair and there was no turning back She ended up having had a baby boy with him and they got married, then more time passed ,years at this point, and I heard through the grapevines that their marriage falied and they ultimately divorced I tell all this story because had she been patient with me she probably would still have a marriage and a family, likely with me In the end I did graduate and met someone new, had a family of my own and moved out of the country as i had always planned and I can say I'm happily married 10 years later.❤
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Here's the timestamps:
00:00 Brett’s Marriage
06:13 Current State of Dating Advice
20:08 How to Attract a Good Woman
26:06 Gen-Z’s Opinion of Motherhood
33:22 Body Positivity Movement in 2024
42:12 Is Gen-Z More Cynical?
51:45 Why Young Girls Are Self-Harming
54:26 Brett’s Experience as a Child Actor
1:07:19 Extreme DEI Hiring in Disney
1:11:33 Tucker’s Move to Independent Media
1:15:48 Origin of Brett’s Show
1:22:42 Is The Daily Wire’s Drama Distracting?
1:29:35 How Brett Comes Up With Content
1:37:54 Working With Ben Shapiro
1:41:54 Why Brett Keeps Her Personal Life Private
1:52:21 Being in a Relationship With a Unique Dynamic
1:58:21 Being Socially Awkward When Young
2:05:20 A Normal Day for Brett
2:14:32 The Role of Faith in Brett’s Life
2:24:12 How Understanding Can Heal Political Division
2:35:48 How Brett Remains Upbeat & Positive
2:41:15 Where to Find Brett
Feminist lied
Chris, Episcopalian is Anglicanism, but in America.
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Ohhhh... you call me a savage.... ?!!! ..... Thank you 🥰
Thank you so much for having me, Chris!
I hope you all enjoy our conversation as much as I did! 😊
You're a boss. Appreciate you!
Congrats on the wedding Brett.
Hi Brett
You are glowing 🥰
Love seeing two awesome people having an awesome convo
I’m a wife of 7 years and we have had six children together. Got married at 19. Husband’s a contractor who works his ass off, taught me to lift weights, eat healthy, emotionally regulate and love my life. He and our children are an immeasurable blessing.
6 kids in 7 years is intense. that's very impressive.
Doesn’t the financial burden stress you out? By contractor…do you mean he owns the business 🤨
@@legolokicars5820thank you. A set of twins is helping bump up my numbers
So amazing!! Love to hear about families thriving and how immensely blessed they are. Blessings to you and your family.
Sounds like a soldier. Great sign that he wants you to grow with him too. In our old age, all that matters to us is having someone by our side who values and understands us. Cherish and uplift your loved ones always.
Top comments: People in the comments are so mean towards Brett!
Literally all the comments: Me and my husband got married when we were 21...
Fr I have yet to see a negative comment 😂
Well it makes sense. Video comes out, the most rabid haters immediately jump on it and leave comments, more levelheaded people come later (especially because they probably actually watch the whole thing), start downvoting the hater comments into the ground and leaving more positive comments... And now RUclips doesn't show you the hater comments anymore. Sometimes the system works :)
Having a different opinion is not mean. Brett is unbelievably ignorant of the male dating experience. And that's okay because she's a lady. But just put yourself out. There isn't real advice for most men. Cuz we have been and we've got nothing to show for it
Hahaha i was one of the people commenting "i got married at 21" 🤣
To those who aren't aware how the comments section works, as good comments get liked they rise above bad ones, as bad ones get disliked they lower and lower so no one sees them.
Can confirm what they’re saying: met my husband at the gym at 5 in the morning. We saw each other every day for months until he finally asked me out. He’s a conservative, finance bro, 6’2, brown eyes, love of my life. To meet him I had to become the person that goes to the gym at 5am and become the person I would want to date.
Yep...another superficial woman...at least you put some work in!
Wish you both an amazing life ❤
so you were looking for a man in finance? 6'5"? trust fund? blue eyes?
So true !
@@deadsick95 You missed the tiktok reference, but If being attracted to my husband because he is handsome, smart, and successful is superficial then so be it.
GO BRETT, GO!! ❤
Candace? What are you doing here 🤣
A real woman appreciates a real woman, big up to both of you..
Hi Candace
Bring Candace on your channel
Let's have candace on the show too!
My wife and I got married 13 years ago at age 21. Still happily married 4 kids later and wouldn’t change having a family for anything in the world.
Congrats man
My mother at 65, me 30, revealed to me she thought her thyroid cancer was from all the times my dad choked her...lets play the silly little game of what "feminism" is and split the hair 50 ways on "modern"...
Don't get me wrong on your 13 years. Good on ya...I just hope this hyper Christianized version seeking to spin "feminism" one way is very surreal to me (literally can't stand talking to the christian right). Maybe its just the two party dualism way of talking about things that adds to all the miscommunication by my upbringing. I WILL ALWAYS be a Feminist, and Ill let whatever version christian control freaks lie any and every way they want.
Feminism wouldn't need to be a thing if your sky god didn't stop them from voting, getting a job, considered their reproduction, considered that some men are abusive, or have similar rights, be able to THINK for themselves.
Jesus had no problem telling my mom to stick around...in fact, my broken nose at 7 (chewed some lipstick up, while urinating I got punched across the bathroom), broken ribs at 14 (talked back on being grounded to my room for 3 months), hundreds maybe thousands of belt bruises later....you and your sky super power friend...promised my mom an "eternal family", because she stuck through it all. Insanity.
Why in the heck would you offer women at age 21 free IVF! That is not the point here….. The process of IVF is cruel, there are many embryos that are created through the process one is picked and the rest are thrown away… life being thrown away. Similar to how we should accept the way God made our bodies male or female, the same way we should accept if we can or cannot have children. Then we pray to God and ask Him to gift us with children. IVF is NOT the answer.
Free egg freezing. Not free IVF. Eggs, not embryos.
@@markstewart4501 I'm sorry, but what in the world are you going off about? Your rant here is completely incoherent. I'm sorry if your dad was abusive but I can't understand what point you're even trying to make.
Got married at 18. I am incredibly happy. Folks have been telling us we are in the “honey moon phase” for literally YEARS now. It is possible to marry young and stay married and be happy.
I like how Chris is comfortable saying “what’s that?” To anything he doesn’t know. I want that, comfortability and confidence to say I don’t know something, please tell me more. Completely admirable!!! Brett, you are amazing as always ❤
It's a skill you need to practice and hone. I try to do it, but sometimes I still fail and just end up nodding my head as if I knew all along--most of the time this ends up fine, but occasionally I come out looking like a dumbass because I didn't suss out the meaning through contextual clues.
The irony is that if you have the courage to do this often, you actually become more and more competent, which builds your confidence and courage even further.
Like Luke says, not only will you become more competent, but knowledgeable too.
The key is to not worry about what others will think of you. I'm very naive but recognise it really is absolutely fine "not to know" & appreciate the opportunity to learn - if it's important to me, it stays with me. It's also very valuable in the workplace, especially if you are customer facing 😊
Asking for clarification for something that you don't know, or think you don't know is one of the basic traits for intelligence.
Authentic, integrity. 💪
My wife and married at 22, both virgins. She walked away from an accounting firm where she was on a fast track to partner so she could be the best mother she could be. After four wonderful children and 35 years, we've never been more in love.
Bless you both!❤
Gone are those days lol
Yes! That's the dream!
@@TheOlzee My husband and I are millennials and have a similar story; he had only had one partner, I had none, we weren't religious then so we didn't wait until we were married but we did marry young at 23 (we met just after our 18th birthdays). We are days from having our forth son in a row and very happy! I was on my way to being a professor and I am so glad I'm able to be at home instead, it's a real blessing.
Good for you. You made her give up everything so you can have a full time babysitter.
"Getting married at 22 is a pretty radical to do for someone with a career."
It is only radical for people that believe a "career" will be more fulfilling to their lives than people that believe a family will be.
the reason its radical today is because of the usual lack of commitment that is present early and hence what ends up being a quick divorce, but Brett is an exception because shes already cemented her career instead of being in the initial stages of building it.
On the contrary, difficult to have a healthy marriage without a career.
Maybe in the US its different but in my country its pretty radical mainly (ofc besides other things) because at that point very often U dont even make enough to live on your own... Especially if you show potwntial in a career that requires a degree (like lawyer, doctor etc.)
@@BalazsFingszEgyikFingja At 22, if you are preparing to be a doctor or a lawyer, you haven't started your career yet so that analogy doesn't really apply here (your education is not your career).
@@h00ded0ne4 i'm currently doing my law studies and work part time simultaniously at a comsulting firms law section. My program takes five years altogether and so far I did like 2,5 years of it while working. Honestly in my country a lot of us works during our law studies because the competition is really serious and you hope to get ahead with the extra experience (good grades or first class honours on their own dont necessarily cut it anymore unfortunately).
So yeah I talked about my experience, here the border between our education and career has become pretty blurry to be honest. Theyre kinda connected for many of us. Maybe in the US its different.
In my 20s my employer said that I should, "Marry for money the first time - then you can afford to marry for love."😮 I did not take his advice and I've been happily married now for 34 years and I loved, loved, loved being a stay-at-home mom!
Should have married your employer and take half his money and divorced him like he wanted 😂
My mother is a very successful doctor and I always felt her very present in my life. When I was seven she moved to Spain (we lived in south america) to do her masters while I stayed with my dad. They are happily married today and I think having such a positive and fun relationship with my dad really impacted my confidence and how I relate to men and seeing my mom so succesful in life and her carreer really shaped me as well. You can have a carreer (one that you are passionate about-not like a boring job) and be a great mother. And dads are I would argue even more important in today's world than before.
There is so much negativity in the comments already. Just because Brett is young and probably a little naive doesn't mean she's destined for divorce and misery. Real happiness is attainable.
Cheers 🍹
Young and probably naïve was a valid excuse 20 years ago.
It is no longer a valid excuse to be uninformed with the Internet, RUclips channels, content creators, etc.
Stop making excuses for other peoples bad decisions lady.
@@brianz7861 "How can anybody be enlightened? The truth is after all so poorly lit" - Neil Peart
Just because *information* is out there, doesn't mean the truth is easy to find.
They're miserable, so they're projecting it onto her.
Lol, she is just grown up but is telling all kinds of people how to live their lives.
Got married at 21 and 5 years later, not one regret. All of the people saying she’s too young can’t comprehend that at a young age it’s possible to know who you are , stay true to your values,and be ready enough to commit have someone that loves them enough to commit to them. Wouldn’t want to spend life with a partner who loves you. A friend you get to do life with? Not everyone is selfish.
I got married at 21 also and 6 years strong, I think the biggest thing is we grew out life together instead of taking two very independent people and trying to smash it together. That's what my friends are struggling with now is men and saying conflicts with their social and work schedule
Same. Going on 7 years and have 2 kids. Best decision.
I think half the time, people give advice based solely on what they perceive is best and what conforms to their values. The don't look at it from the perspective of the person who they are giving their advice to.
We know several people who married young (
girl the divorce rates go up the younger u are . stop being in ur feelings and look up the stats
I was waiting for her to slip an ad into the video😂
Lmaooo when they went into supplement, I was waiting for it😂
LOL She's amazing at those transitions. Makes me laugh every time.
"My dating experience was rough..... greens?" 😝
I’ve found myself trying to hit the ad before she transitions into it. She’s too quick for me.
Chris certainly missed a trick, not letting her do one of the ads for him, or at least the segway into it😂
Married at 19 and 20. Had my firstborn son a month before I turned 21. We are now married almost 14 years and have 4 kids together. We are really blessed!
I married my husband when I was 20. Within four years I became a stay at home mom. Thirty-nine years later and we’re still married and just recently had our house full of our four kids and the spouses of those married. It’s a wonderful life.🥰
I pray you have adorable healthy grandkids
You must have a wonderful home
Things only get better. I've been a grandmother since my 40s.
Why am I crying reading my this 😅 this is beautiful! I look forward to this! My husband and I have been together 12 years and have 2 kids, 3 and 5. ❤
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I am glad to hear Brett speak favorably of Candace and that friendship isn’t phony. I don’t personally care for Candace but it’s good to see someone like Brett demonstrating loyalty. It’s good to know that you can still be real with people even when there’s drama.
I’m sorry WHAT?! You don’t care for Candace? I’m sorry I just spit my water out. 😂😂😂😂 but seriously. How could you not care for Candace?
@@simply.living.betterShe’s a bit obnoxious. The drama gets exhausting. I used to be a fan but she really changed in the last year or two.
@@simply.living.bettercause she’s fake, she’s legit just contrarian for the sake of being contrarian.
Started all the way back when she denied that Kanye west’s tweets were anti-s3mitic , and now as of recently she believes the moon landing was fake lol .
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Regardless, even though I’m not a fan of her , I respect Brett for being loyal to their friendship over siding with her company.
She handled that either way grace and professionalism.
@Rio26202 , @simply.living.better Because way lower in the food chain compared to Candance Owens so she can and is appreciating openly. Wait till Brett gets there and lets see how genuine it is. I agree @simply.living.better , @simply.living.better and @sjappiyah4071 she is super annoying. I watched here many times and with Chris Cumos debate on PBD she was over the top. Plus first 20 mins with Bill Maher was also super annoying. It is like a bug or mosquito buzzing near your ear. I am like you don't have to yell and be angry all the time, with all the topics/views.
This modern view that being a mother is sacrificing your career is sad. Being a mother is worth more than any career.
Says… a man 😂😂😂😂
Yeah, just live on the streets with that beautiful baby!
I’ve been reading for a while and haven’t seen any negative comments?? I have learned, however, that all her followers got married in their early 20’s….
Same. I'm scrolling but I can't find any. But that's a good thing
@@Carpe-Diem-gg1hg true!! But you can find LOADS of comments from followers who “got married in their early 20’s,” for some reason…hehehe 😂❤️
It's a classic RUclips phenomena, the wannabe opinion contrarian.
10 people comment A, then 5000 people bravely go against the grain and declare despite all the hate their support for B instead. True heroes
Married at 20 and 21. Married for 14 years. 4 kids. Ups and downs. Wonderful life. Looking forward to forever together.
We have similar stories only I’m looking at it 39 years along. I’ve never regretted the decision to marry young and be a SAHM.
Married at 17 in the 80s, no regrets.
I wish you all the luck in the worls
@@wgsmit02 I appreciate it! We use work instead of luck 😊
@@fourliltadpoles I wish I could have been a SAHM... I honestly hate feminism. If I had been born before that, I honestly believe I would have had a better life. I'm very meek and submissive and because of youth traumas, I'm a very nervous and fearful person as well. (which, in that time, my parents wouldn't have screwed up everything either so those traumas likely wouldn't exist) I don't function well enough for a normal job. So I'm on wellfare, which society naturally probably hates me for. I'm ashamed of it myself. I work on voluntary basis in the local library, but of course most people don't see that as "working" and I understand... they have a lot more patience with me, they don't get angry at me when I make mistakes, they don't put pressure on me and I don't have a lot of responsibility. The tasks are a lot more simple too. I know it's not comparable to a real job, but I really do what I can. But I'm not happy at all. I'm 33, a virgin and never had a relationship before. I don't expect a man to want to be with me... I definitely don't blame men. But it's sad. I'm often suicidal. If I didn't have my dog, I would have ended things a long time ago already. My first dog died two months ago. She had been my angel for 5 years. One of my brothers stayed over at my apartment and checked on me every single hour to make sure I wasn't doing anything stupid. Thankfully a few days after, the vet that had tried to save my dog told me about a dog that had lost his owner around the same time and she felt he was meant to be for me. He had no one else to take him. I immediately felt sympathy for him and also felt a connection so I agreed to meet him and well, you can guess the rest. He's the only one keeping me going. Knowing that he relies on me, that I have to take care of him. But yeah... I often wonder what my life could have been like in a different society than today.
Successful, feminine, cute, has morals, chasing meaning, etc. etc. etc. seems to be doing 100x better than the dum dums in the comments saying shes too young to get married lol.
exactly, she is a traditional woman. Traditional woman like her hundreds of years ago also got married very young.
Successful because feminism gave her the opportunity...smdh
@briannyob7799 except she never said the fight to get a job or be able to drive was bad. Its just been taken too far.
I agree with everything except being feminine, she’s definitely more masculine
Yesss preach ❤❤
I respect her for being willing to step away/back and prioritize what is truly important, which is her family.
Guranteed she wont do it
I disagree with a lot of the things Brett believes in, but I really really like her. She's articulated, able to provide arguments for her opinions, smart and positive. I think what people lack nowadays is the ability to agree to disagree and the ability to see nuances. For most political stances, there is no right or wrong because there is no such thing as a perfect political system. I also seriously dislike the dichotomy that exists in the American politics - there is nothing wrong with taking ideas from both sides. I really enjoyed this talk.
I have to say this is one of the best comments I've read in an extremely long time.
You're absolutely correct. A good idea is just that, no matter where it came from. Person, side of isle, or time in history.
There's a definitive lack of respect for the opinions of others these days. That's the single biggest issue I see. Or lack of respect, period. And that leads to the inability to listen to each other.
I really respect this comment. I am someone who leans to agree more with Brett on these kinds of things, but finally hearing a respectful kind comment of someone who might disagree more with her is so refreshing. I don't really care what you beleive, but we've lost the ability to hear people out and be kind no matter what,
I agree! The way she lives her life is not for me, but she's very eloquent and lovely to listen to. She obviously knows what she wants in life and working towards that goal.
To me, feminism is about having the freedom to choose.. She's made her choice and it's ridiculous that it is controversial for her to want to marry, have children and be the very best mother she can be.
@@FosterAdventures346 I respect that
i like her and agree with her, but this comment is perfection, i wish the world was like this more, well said
I wish I knew girls like this when I was 22. The girls I grew up with have never been close to this young woman by their 40s.
I know many 30 somethings who are more immature than 20 yr olds and vice versa. I guess it comes down to social education, critical thinking, IQ and good influences? Age doesn't seem to be a very good determinant of a successful relationship (excluding minors ofcourse).
I'm a 22 yr old woman. So grateful for positive influences like Brett, Candace owens and Matt Walsh etc. They saved me from modern feminism. Thank god I was curious enough to do research rather than stay in my echo chamber xD
She is amazing tbh
@@alyzak.8997if people are old (30+) and unsuccessful, let them go ❤
damn bro where do you live? Where I'm at, I've met women like this in the church and some in university
People call adult women "girls" but adult men "men". Why do you guys only infantalize women?
I don't know why people are so malicious towards Brett. She comes across as a thoughtful, no nonsense and down to earth girl to me. I'm the same age as her and I totally look up to her. Thank you Chris for having her on!
Nah, her confidence is super annoying. It’s a celeb thing.
I can see it, and I agree with most of her perspectives on life. Her 'dark side' comes out in very small outbursts, for example: they mentioned pickleball and she said (in reference to a group of all men playing) "it was the gayest thing she's ever seen, just go play tennis or boxing or something." She does a pretty good job of riding the fence, but if you pay attention you can see some of the motives poke through every once in awhile.
I like[d] her content but sometimes her behaviour is a bit "unsavoury" and it's why i stopped her and some of the other daily wire cast.
She's a professional scoffer, if she can't take it she shouldn't dish it out.
Seriously!! Who are these people hating. I’m proud of cooper. Feel like every young girl should follow her
Getting married at 22 is not radical in any way except for this particular moment in human history
well duh, that's why it's radial, at the moment people require more time to work themselves out such that a 22 years today, won't be the same person when they are 32, hence marrying someone that early comes with a real risk that the person you married won't be the same person in a few years.
@mcbean1 dude, everyone changes. You aren't the same person at 20/30, or you are not growing. Waiting it out means you will both devolp trauma 'dating around'. Speaking from experience. Marriage will only work with God though
@@JamFlexx Right because no one religious has ever gotten divorced...
@@mcbean1It's not that they need more time to work themselves out but instead that they are waiting for the perfect time to get married. You will never be done growing and changing as a person, even into your 80s.
@@ElAndresRodriguez Sure you never stop growing but the turbulence one endures between 20-30 is no where near the same as 50-60, that's the point, yes you continue to refine who you are, but ones major personality changes are generally set by 30ish
When my wife and I met, neither of us wanted children. That was a relationship condition for both of us. I got married 4 years ago at 23, had a daughter a year later. I'm 27 now and I can't express how great marriage and being a father are. It's impossible to explain to someone that doesn't have kids how they change your life for the better
When I ditched the Feminist Marxist cult/religion I found freedom and happiness. Brett is 100% correct. The only thing I remember about my feminist mother was that she was miserable and made my father and me miserable with the resentment that is inherent in such an antagonistic ideology. It takes too much energy to always be in such an activist state of mind, always looking for how one has been wronged all to project and avoid one’s own accountability then wondering why nothing gets better in their lives and it’s damaging effect on others.
That has been my experience exactly. I too left feminism. Thank God I was already very young so my entire life wasn't derailed. I'm a 22 yr old virgin woman. I can still do everything right. yay. God bless you
Activism isn’t about doing for yourself. That’s self help. Activism is about helping others.
@alyzak.8997
Did you give up all the rights and freedoms Feminism provided you, since you left it??
Did you give up all the rights and freedoms Feminism provided you, since you ditched it?
@@wyleecoyotee4252 lmao it didn’t give anyone rights they didn’t already have.
Bro is setting the par for podcasting.
Stunning lighting and set 🤯
Yeah he turning it into cinema, pretty dope
Agreed. (BTW: It's 'setting the Bar'. Unless you are a light jockey, in which case your joke is seen and appreciated. :D
Thought she was AI generated for a moment 😂
@@jaredmellomost people listen to podcasts, this sounds like you just finding a reason to complain and justify why you aren't successful
@@ElAndresRodriguez thank you, your obnoxious response gave me some good content ideas.
I’m 22, married, and have a baby. I totally understand her talking about how hard it is to step away from her career. But, despite being a 99% of the time stay at home mom, I’ve found there is so much out there for me still. Ive been a first responder my entire career, now I work 1 24 hour shift a month, it’s a total reset for me and my husband and baby have “boys weekend” as he calls it. They love it. My husband and I joined the local volunteer fire department together and they’ve created roles for me that allows me to have my baby with me and I only respond when my husband is home, it totally works. I still get to do what I love without ever compromising my baby’s needs.
Also, marriage is the best thing ever. Everyone told us the first year is really hard, but we just had tons of fun and joy. Even through pregnancy and the newborn stage.
Married at 18. 4 kids and 15 years later… still married. Not easy, mind you, but together and still in love.
I love Brett! She’s so grounded and intelligent. A great role model for young woman. Thank you ❤
Got married at 23. 6 years strong. Extremely happy with my life.
So happy for you ❤
Queen !
Chris immediately going into his Sloth impression from The Goonies while Brett shared about her awkward ugly duckling puberty phase is giving serious big brother energy 🤣😂
This girl was all over my feed and, admittedly, I didn't want to hear anything she had to say, being only 22. But take it back and accept I was being ageist. I enjoyed listening to her viewpoints, and she has deep insight. Not many people have this at this stage of life. I am curious how her views will evolve in ten years. But after listening, I feel less worried about the next generation knowing an influencer like her exists.
You're still being ageist.
@@NiaLaLa_V 👍
My father said to not get married before 30. I dated many amazing women when i was younger but from my upbringing i did not take any of them super serious and broke up with a couple and the rest broke up with me
Now i am 33 and the dating climate has radically changed as well as some of my politcal and moral beliefs making it more difficult to speak to women.
Guess we shouls have been looking for marriage earlier
At the age of 8, I had three thoughts for my future. Between ages of 10 and 11, much hatred entered my life. My desires were to find a get a decent job, marry a decent woman, and make a good life for the kids. That was the 1960s. I was in the academic courses, which meant college. With other factors in my life, I wondered how my academic courses would be best for those goals. It might be wise for people to keep track of their goals, and what needs to be done to achieve them.
The problem is the messages are different for young men vs young women
I too should have been looking for a wife sooner. However, found a good one and got married at 34. Together for 21 years now. Never give up.
My guy you are not old yet, if you give up now you're going to be kicking yourself in a few years time. Go put yourself out there.
The comment on men's vs. women's self improvement was really interesting, I wonder if there's more behind it.
Both of my grandmother's were married and had their first child by 20 years old.
My grandmother on my dad's side. Was married and was pregnant by 19 years old . She had six kids, five survived to adulthood.
When her kids started to get old enough to start to take care of themselves. She went back to school, to not only get an education, but have a job.
As woman and a mother. She got into aero space industry. Where she worked on making circuit boards for the defense industry. My grandmother before she retired in her mid sixties. She was in charge of the quality/control for circuit boards. Those circuit boards went into F15s, F16s, and the F117 stealth fighter.
My grandmother on my mom's side. Had 15 kids. My grandfather on my mom's side not only worked for the railroad, but also worked on the farm on his days off. All of my aunts and uncles on my mom's side worked on the farm. They learned what hard work was at a very young age.
When Brett was talking about how much of her content is evergreen I just thought "this would be the perfect transition to a RuffGreens ad!"
Whenever she mentioned the importance of balance in life, as she did when speaking about her social media use, I couldn't help thinking "what a perfect jumping point for a Balance of Nature ad!"
😂 I'm becoming too suspicious of everything she says being the beginning of ad and I love it
I got married at 18. I’m 21 now and I’m also a stay at home mother. I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Good for you! You probably heard this a lot, but time flys by so fast and littles get big so fast. Enjoy the time you have.
Our kids have been a lot of stress with different issues, but I don't regret any of them and it's tough for me seeing our latest baby get big (1 year old now). They are so awesome. Watching them grow and seeing who they become. We are so thrilled with our children.
And your marriage probably has some issues with a baby in the mix. Every baby has stressed my marriage, anyway. But we work on getting connected again and it's been 9 years and still going. God has helped us through a ton. Health, financial, and emotional issues. It's been wild. And it's been fun! There are so many amazing memories.
Good luck!!!
God Bless
Married for 7yrs. My wife was 24. Great life.
How old were you?
@@ionasmith1998why dose it matter?
Married for 8 years, my husband and I were both 23. Three kids now and things have never been better.
@@renaud_gagne not to boast BUT…..
Married at 26. 12 happy years so far.
29, never married, wanted to start a family at 18, never got the chance.
So, people are saying Brett is naive because she married at 22? What? I got married at 21, I’m still happily married 6 years later, we have children whom we are also happily raising. Don’t project your lives onto hers because you made bad choices in life that resulted in divorce.
Chris is not married at age 36. What is he doing wrong?
Chris clearly decided to be dedicated to his work...which would leave less time and energy to focus on a partner and a family. Chris is an amazing human being he's too busy to catch 😂. I like to joke the only reason I was able to connect with my current partner was when he broke his leg and had no choice but to slow down. If he hadn't broken his leg he would have been working constantly and I wouldn't have even considered him as an option, let alone as a long term partner.
@@ShortMonster420 How else would he pay the bills then?
@@spellandshield are you bot?
Why are you aksing everyone, but Chris why he isn't married?
It's just statistically it's unlikely to work out. That's being realistic, the more you marry young the more the chances of divorces. The age with the more long term marriages is 28-29. Doesn't mean it's impossible but people change and life circonstances change as you grow older. Let's see in 10 years if she's in the same position, same thinking etc.. I really wish her but life rarely works out how you want it.
I got married at 22 - everyone told me it wouldn't last, that I was too young to possibly know what I wanted in a relationship. I'm now 30 and we are stronger and happier than ever, and my marriage has survived so many things that other people get divorced over, while many of our friends from college are on their second and third marriages. What I've learned & found in my own personal experience is that it's not the age that matters, it's the intention. If you get married with the intention of growing together & staying together & being willing to face life's challenges as a team, you have a much higher chance of success than the people who get married merely based on the honeymoon phase/lovey dovey feeling.
Tbh marrying in young adulthood is quite ideal. The body is at it's physical peak. People are naturally full of energy, motivation, optimism. Progressing in early adult life together gives you a huge sense of belonging and trust.
@@lippi2171 100%. My husband & I have been through so much - pregnancy loss, major medical diagnoses, career changes, and so much more. All of my major milestones in my adult life, both good & bad, are intertwined with his. I trust him with my life.
She’s the perfect blend of idealism and realism. She has lofty goals for a traditional life but also has approached it with her eyes wide open and with wisdom. This is the kind of person who will marry once and forever and create a beautiful life with her husband.
As a mother of 2 young daughters I'm constantly worried about the potential dangers of social media and how we will handle the issue of them being online when the time comes.
...Although our 7year old is currently dressed as Harry Potter making a potion in the border of our front garden with her school friend, so maybe were good for another few years yet! 😅
just make sure that she knows that not every child has the opportunity to pretend make a potion at age 7.. just let her know people come very damaged sometimes and that she won’t be able understand why soo many young people her age are dysfunctional.. and im not insulting u, im saying good job momma, some day we’ll be able to ensure all children are raised as such 🥺
@@twentysjx what a world that would be ❤
Do not allow social media. Also, start pointing out now how people will take 30 different pics and put the best one on it. It is important to start making comments on how it is people only putting their best or fake aspects of life. I think having conversations about real life and its struggles age appropriately is necessary. For instance, when my kids were toddlers on and they wanted toys from the store, I would say no, not today and they would say, because I need a job? Yes baby, that is why. We can’t get everything we want and explaining gently why.
I show my boys articles where people who post stuff when they were teenagers and they were crucified as adults later on and lost jobs. We also talk about the studies and how it is addictive and how it literally changes their brains. I also am no longer on social media and my husband is not really on it. We model how it is a tool, but not an important part of our lives.
Lol good luck
Sounds like your kid will be just fine
Married at 18, had 5 kids, still happily married for almost 25 years. It's possible if you work hard and are willing to learn from each other
That's the key phrase, "willing to learn from each other" and make some compromise that isn't one-way.
I like Brett, but I struggle with multi millionaire boss babes talking about how being a boss babe is bad. No hate, not saying she’s young, or naive. Just that hasn’t ever been addressed.
I KNOW. Also, the fact that her family wealth never gets mentioned baffles me. She got all those opportunities and activities when she was young, thanks to some money running in her family - no wonder she has a dream life (seamingly) - money is not everything but greatly helps, to say the least !
@@Hermes-xc8jp that’s a really offtake. She is so talented. She would’ve made it on her own anyways.
@RichardTavilla lol thats absolutely not how it works. Im not saying she doesnt have any merit. But talent flourishing is linked to financial privilege, whether you like it or not. It is extremely obvious in her case when you listen to her whole story. The fact of not acknowledging this at all is dishonest in general.
@@Hermes-xc8jp my point is she is talented and hardworking in a business sense. She’s extremely likable. Watch her for 2 minutes and you can see why she blew up. My point is, that person who is grinding and making millions kinda contradicts that point.
She’s not a “boss babe” at all tho… “Boss babes” put their careers first…she on the other hand is putting her family first
I’m in a relationship for a year, I’m independent nearly paid my mortgage and doing well. I get what I want within my limits and I do this in my time. Being in a relationship has helped me to be less selfish, less decisive and more inclusive. My partner is a go-getter so i told him that i will step back and support him whilst he focuses on our relationship and his career. So when he travels for work we plan for me to be with him to help us get balance in our relationship and I get to see more of the world from different perspectives and be my partners PA when he needs me, ironing his clothes, washing, keeping the house clean, giving him leadership advice from my experiences and academic input. I get to do things I always wanted, go on gardening, creative art, cooking courses, and to become a therapist at some point to give back to society. My new role is not a step back it’s a huge step forward outside of corporate politics. I can be real and be in nature and go to the gym to develop cross-fit skills with my partner and by myself.
We met when we were 19 and got married at 23. Going on almost 20 years. Best decision I've ever made. Im so glad I've never had to do the bar scene and dating apps. Just found a woman, I couldnt be without.
I totally agree - when I'm going through a difficult time w my husband I always think: "At least I don't have to deal with dating" 😂 Married when I was 21, 16 years and counting, plus 3 kids I'm so proud of
I got married at 22 while still in university, now 28, both of us graduated and are working good jobs, and still happily married. There’s been loads of growth and ups and down, but I wouldn’t want to live any other way. People don’t know the joy of growing together. Currently pregnant with our first baby and couldn’t be more excited to grow our family
I was married at 22. 3 kids and 20 years later, I’m widowed. Said all that to say, it can work. Though sometimes things happen out of your control. But it is possible.
I was married at 22, Still married 19 years later and we created 7 new human beings. ❤
lol at the number of unhappy single feminists in this comment section
For real🤣🤣🤣🤣
I am a feminist and quite happily married. We've been married for 15 years now. For me, feminism means I am pro-choice. You want to pursue your career and focus on it, then do that. You want to start a family and focus on it, then do that.
@@calebsmith7179except when women do that, feminists will shame them as being unproductive just because a woman is staying at home and taking care of kids.
Where? There aren't any.
@@calebsmith7179is your man happy as well? Lmao
Brett not only looks like a younger female Ben Shapiro, but also speaks as fast as him. I may need to set the playback speed to x0.75 to be able to follow the conversation 😂
I 💯 thought they were siblings for about a year. I introduced Brett’s show to my husband and said “this is Ben Shapiro’s sister”. I’ll never believe she’s not. 😂
Oh, she isn’t? 🙈. I thought the same until 2 minutes ago
@@chefnycThen the fact they both work at the Daily Wire and have the same views on politics. It truly is crazy that they're not related.
Far better to be a bit naive than to be cynical and jaded.
Nope and nope that's entirely dependent on the situation cynical can save you from being killed or maimed in lots of situations if your naive your assumption is built on the hope that the thing embarked on is something one can afford to be naive on and the thing you can afford to be naive on was probably not significant anyway because if it was you would have approached with some discretion.
@@Correction-zl2oe brother this has nothing to do with being maimed or killed it has to do with love life lmfao. Its not that deep
My husband and I got married at 18, four years ago, and we are saving every single penny to build a future for ourselves and our eventual children. Gen Z is struggling in this modern society, but we are NOT lost.
My wife and I first met when we were 22. I was head over heels by the third date. We got married 7 months later. When we married we owned nothing save for two old cars. But we figured it out together. 33 years and 11 children later, she's still the love of my life. We've got 5 college grads, two more in college, 3 marriages and 2 more soon to be married. Get married, stay married...you can do it. In fact, there's nothing really worth more doing in this life. Looks fade, careers fade, but marriage and children are forever.
11 children?
You guys won the game of life.
11 children?! You're a machine, mate 😂
@@DarkWandererAU No really. She's beautiful, I'm impulsive ;)
@@federoffm 😂🤣
Done well mate 👍
My parents got married at 19 and were married til the day my mom passed and my dad was never the same after... love isn't all rainbows and sunshine it's not perfect but you and your spouse will have your story no one else's and I hope for a beautiful life for you both.
Hearing Brett speak gives me faith in the world
Only intended to watch for 5 minutes because im at work, but I ended up watching to the end. Thanks for this engaging conversation
It is interesting that we humans have such a strong inclination to “retaliate” against people who have made different decisions with their lives than we did.
I met my husband at 18, at a local pub quiz. It was heavily raining and I didn’t have a car so he drove me home. He didn’t put any moves on me just took me home. We met at the pub quiz every week for a month before he asked me out. We’ve been together 15 years now with 2 kids and love each other more every day.
Met my husband at 18 and he was 25. I’ve been with him for 12 years and we have 2 beautiful kids. We fall more in love with each other every year that passes! I’m still crazy about that man. Having a Christ centered marriage is essential!
There are alot of attractive women on the internet, but I just realized what draws me to Brett is not just that she is pretty, or "ideal", but that she is someone to admire.
Its funny how 20 years ago, not being a tradwife was looked at as going against the status quo, which made women attractive and admirable.
Fast forward to 2024 and the status quo is being a anti-tradwife feminist.
The fact that she has more than enough awareness and drive to not be sheep, to stand for her own outlook on life, is very admirable.
I occasionally listen to Brett, not often just because I'm not really interested in pop culture. I'm only 6 minutes in and I have a whole new level of respect for Brett, and her outlook of life.
My wife and I married young and broke at 19, started having kids while still being broke at 21, and are still going strong 26 years later. The only regret I have, is not having more kids!
You're not the one having those kids. Your wife is.
@@wyleecoyotee4252🙄
@@wyleecoyotee4252🙄
This episode is on point! My two favorite shows coming together.
My husband and I got married at 19 and we have been married almost 18 years. Best decision I have ever made even though we received much criticism at the time. We both went through college, bought a house and have two kids. I think people forget the power of growing together and are more focused on their individual lives. There is such beauty in growth with your partner. It provides a richness in your life you can’t replace with individual ambitions. I know not everyone is able to find someone young, but I think we need to stop making marriage in your 20’s so taboo.
After working in the family law field off and on for almost 20 years, I also have realized the later you get married the more problems you seem to have. I think it goes back to the fact you become more set in your ways as you get older and are less likely to want to grow with someone which causes issues.
Got married in 09. Been together since 06. Of course, not every step has been perfect, but there is no better alternative to having a family and spending life with the one you love
Dude what are these comments? Is there a group that just follows Brett around leaving negative comments?
Yes 😂 it’s embarrassing
@@frontierlandfrank5314 Seriously? I was joking 🤣
@@frontierlandfrank5314 Seriously? I was joking 🤣
Thats the real incel Squad.
@@rdgpromotions6087 for real. They seem to pop on everything she does. Then again, most people with the reach she has, has those weirdos.
brett is one of the most genuine and beautiful people out there and on top of that unbelievably well spoken. Love it
Chris, I loved your questions! I’ve always wondered about the day-to-day stuff. I also appreciate that, when an idea was discussed by either of you, a concrete example was usually given to make the idea tangible. This interview’s down-to-earth communication style and topics made it approachable, and listening sure made folding laundry more enjoyable.
My (homeschooled) high school year old daughter is not on social media or RUclips, but she does LOVE listening to Brett. Her show, though it does have some language, has served as excellent fodder for mother-daughter discussion. It is also a great way for her to learn about cultural trends without being thrown into the middle of them. Brett’s commentary has helped her think deeply about her life and the culture around her. I am thankful for her show.
Thanks for the excellent interview!
My wife and I married at 22 and 24, respectively. Over 16 years later, we're more deeply committed than ever to each other, and to God in responsibility for each other.
Maintaining your position as the most cinematic podcast in the world. It’s so beautiful 🥹
100%
Brett is so great!!! So happy for all of her success! Hard work pays off!!!
We got engaged after 10 weeks, married 6 months later, at the age of 23. Fifteen years later... couldn't be happier. Looking forward to the next fifty. When you know, you know. No need to wait to check if there is something better if there's already something great right in front your very eyes.
I never knew there was a Brett Cooper until Jordan Peterson ... so smart and clear. I have hope for your generation now. Thank you 🙃
God bless you Brett, may He continue to shine His face on you and your endeavors. 🙏🏽
is that why 5 million kids die each year before the age of 5? god's too busy blessing podcasters? god = imaginary
Awhh man, just a great woman! He's lucky, congratulations on ur marriage brett!! Yo chris, when are u getting married man!?😂
with his options? never XP
He’s a love island ex Chad. He ain’t settling any time soon
Some good points and observations, but here's a crazy idea. Maybe those women that make the silly lists of reasons for not having children are doing it as a kind of defiance against the fact having children is something that seems to be the expectation for everyone? I don't think it's a gen z thing, it just became more acceptable to stop and think: is having children really for me? For some the answer is no. And yeah they might make a list of 'silly' reasons not to, but all it means is that it's just not worth all sacrifice for them. Brett says oh but you're going to have this cute little child, is that not worth it? For some it genuinely isn't. Not every woman gets 'the urge'. What is the solution in that case? To still have a child that you don't want to have? Maybe she is too young to understand people have different perspectives, likes, dislikes and wants.
Damn! This is low key the best podcast I have watched non-stop without blinking. Chris, your diction and the way you articulate things is mind-blowing. Brett, congratulations on your marriage and being honest 🎉
Brett is a very bright young woman; she's wise beyond her years.
People don't realize how attractive she is from the get go. Her outfit alone speaks thousands things in todays culture.
If "being born on third base and thinking you hit a triple" was a person
She is a very lovely young woman. It sounds like she is aware of the hard work ahead of her that will be required to achieve her goals. Best wishes.
Such a thoughtful comment. Thank you
It is so refreshing listening to a true feminine woman who doesn't see her partner as an enemy.
I wish them all the happiness.
Haters will hate....
I got married at 21 and it was the best decision of my life. I support you Brett! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
We all married early when I was young. I was one of a close group of students. A boy I met when we were both 19 married at 22. At 25 and you were on the shelf. Many of that gang of students only two broke up, the seven of us left all finished growing up together, holidayed together from time to time and remained happy in our slow move to maturity, middle age then retirement. They were innocent days compared with today. I am not saying put the clock back at all but I am saying that maybe our rush to mature might not be the best for everybody.
I'm 41, single and have never been married. I want to get married and have kids, but I fear its too late. I think my best years are behind me.
Not too late, but it'll be hard to find someone good who's not snatched up yet. Plus if you want kids you'd biologically need a younger woman.
There's a lot of career girls who hit their thirties and realize they want a family. Find a church or routine social function that you're drawn to and find a thirty-something who's also drawn there, and you can bond over your commonalities and shared future goals. They might be divorced or with kids already, but that's a compromise you may have to make at your age, and there are still good women who have that past. My parents got married in their mid thirties. Still going strong decades later with four kids. There's hope should you choose to act on it.
@ante5544 I will probably have to. I can marry a woman who has been divorced. The only thing I will probably stay firm on is that I don't want to marry a woman with children. Most of the time, being a stepdad is an awful situation for men. I would be more open to adopting kids than being a step father.
If I fell head over heels for a single mom, so be it-but it's the last resort.
Buddy, you are 41 not 91, get out there and get it done!! The longer you wait the more time will pass. Stay with it!!
Get off your phone and get out there! I am 29, my man is 48. Our baby is almost 14 months old. Make yourself desirable to the women you are interested in.
@irislikestosew I am working on myself to become more desirable. In the last 9 months I have lost 60 lbs. I am also transitioning careers to increase my earning potential. I recently joined a local church.
Fuck I needed to hear all this. Thank you both
Got married at 18. (too young, I agree). We've been married 40 years, happily, I might add. ❤
This bout to be a nice episode 🍿
Twice divorced at 25, but I don't regret a thing. Age was never the problem. It was a lack of self-awareness and commitment. Be certain about who you are and what you want, and acknowledge that both WILL ALWAYS change over time.
It takes a days to cut down trees. It takes months or years to build a house. But it takes a lifetime to build a home.
I promise to any women who said men are "intimidated“ by her success that we really are not. We just don't like the attitude that comes with the success like thinking lowly of the man she is with.
The word is “intimidated” not “imitated”
@@TeeLizbethMeow yeah, I am not used to type this word because I never used in my life. But, thank you.
No, you dont like the idea of Woman beeing not dependent on you
@@idakwiatkowska2862 that’s ideal but I know that in modern time is a less and less of a thing in the west. Even if I can effort this lifestyle there are no women in the west that will fit in this structure. But like I said previously I don’t mind if a woman is successful, just don’t bring your work attitude into the relationship. That’s all.
I'll be 30 this year and am still single. I always just thought/hoped I'd meet someone naturally, through school or work or friends, like the majority of people I know did. And it just hasn't happened. Dating apps always felt so unnatural to me and were never something I was comfortable with. But I'm very active in my church, pursue my interests in whatever ways I can, do my best to take care of my body, etc...
I say all this to say that some things are just out of your control and everyone's timeline is different. I've seen so many comments online telling women in my position that we must be the problem. There must be something wrong with us, we must be doing/saying something so unlovable to prevent us from attracting good men. And I simply don't think that's the case, but it can be so hurtful when you hear it often enough.
Not to mention, I know some pretty terrible, unstable people who have significant others lol so I'm pretty sure that's not an accurate measure of any kind of superiority
"I'm perfect and the reason I'm single is because of everything else, which is outside my control"
@@BadMannerKorea hahahaha would definitely never call myself perfect and not at all what I'm saying. But okay
@@mcedwards "That's not what I'm saying and I refuse to elaborate why I'm blaming the timeline and claiming some things are just out of your control, while failing to realize the only factors I can control is myself"
@@BadMannerKoreaIt's interesting you interpreted it that way, I took it differently.
I know the kind of comments she's talking about and it often comes across like men think we just float through life without a care in the world, get offered all the opportunities simply by flicking our hair and fluttering our eyelashes and of course cannot walk down the street for getting approached by dozens of eligible bachelor's, whom we of course turn down because we are all 10's and deserve our 6"5 jacked millionaire . 💁🏼♀️😂
The reality is most average women don't get approached in normal life. (Unless you count the occasional tradie van beeping us in the street.) The rhetoric I mentioned may well apply to some women but it's probably reserved for the top 5%, as it is for the equivalent cohort of men.
@@tempsoda I'm not "interpreting" anything, she said it. She straight up said "some things are just out of your control and everyone's timeline is different". She is blaming outside factors and failing to take responsibility. Your reply above is now more blaming, just like her---the ease of dating when it comes to attractive women and how average women don't get approached. You should take responsibility, because anything else doesn't look good unless you're perfect
Brett is awesome. Intelligent, driven, and great core values. She is the kind of woman I hope my little girl looks up to.
Core values 😂
@@user-ir1lu1ei4n explain what is so funny.
Married at 20. Will soon celebrate 50 years. Was going to be an attorney. Raised 8 kids instead, thank God.
The pickle ball banter was soooo funny!! You two have great radio chemistry lol that was so funny and on topic too.
Brett is so honest, and one of my most relatable too RUclipsr. There’s nothing better than a long format video of her ☺️
My wife and I got married at 22 and we have three kids together (one in heaven). We highly recommend it, but we didn’t rush into it. While we were young, we were both raised with valuing marriage, we both strongly value our faith in Jesus and are aligned on other values, both had good work ethics and were fortunate to meet at age 19 and spent three years dating before a short engagement. I’ve loved growing with her and spending the best years of my life with her and now our sweet boys. Thank you for helping break some cultural myths that need to be broken.
Brett being sportist about pickleball makes me happy lol
At 1:53:16 Brett said something that really resonated with me and I respect that at 21 years old she is mindful of this...
for years I lamented the decision an ex girlfriend took (who I thought I was going to marry tbh) to end my 3 year relationship with her exactly because of this...
She graduated college in 2010 at 23 years old. While I still had 3 more years of college ahead of me (I was 24 at the time), she went out to the workforce and got a taste of what earning adult money was like, she saved enough and eventually bought her 1st car, meanwhile I was still using public transportation to go to college and to my part time job trying to survive and finishing my degree in engineering, she absolutely got impatient with our relationship and we started to fight almost everyday until she became indifferent
In late 2011, I noticed she stopped caring for me altogether, we would make plans to do things together but she stopped prioritizing our time, several times she went out with other dudes to concerts where she sure fire started to cheat on me.
Christmas of 2011 rolled around and I didnt get any sort of gifts from her like I always had years prior then a couple of weeks into January 2012 she finally had the talk with me and ended the relationship
I started to put the pieces together and realized she started seeing a guy from her workplace who was way older than me and was making bank at the time and they at least started dating since November of 2011 and i was clueless.
That was the hardest relationship in my life and the biggest heartbrake i had to go through, she and I daydreamed of getting married having kids and leaving the country, but nah, she thought she was more mature than me and that I'd never reach her level
I move on and in late 2012 started a new relationship to the woman who became my wife with which i recently celebrated 10 years of marriage.
It was at the beginning of my new relationship that i found out my ex gf was pregnant, which was devastating for me but something odd happened...
Months before starting my new relationship, my ex gf called me and we had a one night stand, it was that night that while she was asleep i decided to go through her messages on her phone and found out the saddest messages i could ever find from her partner (yes she cheated on him with me) ... reading those messages it was clear he was extremely abusive with her and pretty much used her as a rag doll for s*x and nothing more, i could tell she was desperate for someone who cared about her but our relationship was way beyond repair and there was no turning back
She ended up having had a baby boy with him and they got married, then more time passed ,years at this point, and I heard through the grapevines that their marriage falied and they ultimately divorced
I tell all this story because had she been patient with me she probably would still have a marriage and a family, likely with me
In the end I did graduate and met someone new, had a family of my own and moved out of the country as i had always planned and I can say I'm happily married 10 years later.❤