this is shown on Forensic Files all the time !!! oh.. and, it turns out that the dead guy husband nearly always has told one of his buddies to tell the cops if the husband dies in a suspicious manner.
This is spot on in every way. When I caught my ex in a lie, she asked me 20+ times how I found out. A few weeks later without my knowledge she cuts the cord to one of our iot recording devices. She then asks me to fix it. When I asked what happened to it, she lies about that as well. I fixed it and then she tells me how good I am at fixing those things. If they are talking, they are lying.
Additionally_ dude, to counteract that evil I WILL fast pray and meditate your situation into success. Simply put someone has to act upon, " ENOUGH is enough " Love and peace to you man. Stand tall sharpen your teeth, stiffen your SPINE! THESE THINGS_ we all agreed to BEFORE this life contract. See it through. Vote your conscience. And make it yours!! Maybe you'll stay, maybe you'll LEAVE, ONLY you know what's best. Search your soul. Love peace and eternity to you man
After enduring the Misery of having both my Parents being Narcissists, I love living alone with my 2 Dogs in my own Place !!!! I never wanted to risk having a Relationship with a Narcissist or A Psychopath !!!! I must say, It's wonderful to Live Life without these People Around me !!!! I can't stand Stress and I can't stand Insane People either !!!!
You always make marriage sound so delightful, doctor. 😄 I just read in this past year about a girl in Montana who killed her new husband on their honeymoon by pushing him off a cliff. Times are brutal. Thank you! 👍🌹
I think a lot of videos like this, from all different youtubers, often lend an excuse to give armchair diagnosis to others in order to dismiss their own behavior.
This was such a relief to watch I have mental health issues but am going to therapists but always I'm worrying what if in hurting other people or what if because of my trauma, what if one day i would put my kids through something similar... so it's a relief to learn i have problems but I'm not psychopathic
The movie- Single White Female is a classic example! I am a clinical therapist and DSW! I am sure I picked this profession bc of a woman who inserted herself into my life and was highly manipulative! She stole from me, used me as a free babysitter and slept with my fiancé ! Subsequent to such, I woke up and got her out of my life for good! It was a terrifying experience that happened over a 10 yr period! The final straw occurred when she slept with my fiancé and tried to convince me that she sacrificed herself for me, so that I would “ see “ that he was actually evil! I dumped them both and they ended up together making each other’s life a living hell! I am so grateful that I met a good man and got my life back! 😅
@@Richard-Freeman Already saw the first one and that video isn't specific to a daughter, much less to a teenage/adult one. As for the second link, adult female teachers who embark on sexual relationships with their students isn't indicative of psychopathy at all.
and son! I think my step brother is really off... I've never been scared of any man but sometimes I think he's going to kill my mom and his father or something...
The diagnosis of psychopathy is possible at the age of 18yrs Before the age of 18 they will name it a conduct disorder or a (reactive) attachement disorder, but these disorders can also be an indication of an other personality disorder
This perfectly describes my neighbor's wife up to at least #7 (observed, and reported by the husband) and explains the poisoning of my dog and neighbor's cats. She also likes to build fires, which cause the fire department to come and extinguish. She feeds crows and other vermin. Other neighbors report her attempt to befriend them with ulterior motive.
Your dog and neighbours cats were poisoned by this neighbour's wife? Did any of the pets survive? If that woman's lighting fires, too, I'd be talking to local LE although if she's using covert methods like poison I assume you'd need videos - like motion-activated cameras - to capture her psychopathic behaviours so as to prove her involvement.
Your neighborhood should install cameras, warn new owners/renters about her especially if they have pets, help each other pay for pet autopsy's, file complaints, & build a paper trail with law enforcement & courts even if she's just accused of something they will keep a record of it nowadays. Be vigilant and have her serve time for animal cruelty & public nuisance. Look up your areas laws/bi-laws/everything. If there's not a law on it keep calling your non emergency lines and writing the mayor & other heads of departments in your local government. If someone poisoned my dog I would honestly go and beat her ass and probably catch charges. People like that are the types you don't want around if you have a family.
If the husband told you about these things his wife supposedly did, I’d be more inclined to believe he is the psychopath. People who are currently married to a psychopath do not talk about their spouse’s bad behavior because they don’t see it themselves. They can’t see it until the psychopath is out of their life. Also, all of the things you’ve mentioned are male typical psychopath behaviors. Female psychopaths use relational aggression and emotional sadism to torture people. By telling you that his wife did these horrible things, he’s exercising his power over her, as now all of the neighbors believe she is the crazy one.
@@katieandnick4113 females also abuse and kill animals!! I witnessed my sister in law abuse my brothers dog as did my father when she kicked him .. another incident, the dogs leg was broken 😢😢I hate this bitch and said as much so now I’m banned from going to the house on holidays and birthdays ..
Hi Dr. Grande! I find your content really useful and interesting. I appreciate your effort on explaining these topics using scientific literature. It would be very helpful if you could tell us about the traits of a psychopathic mother (mothers with antisocial personality disorder). Thank you!
I'm baffled at how your video describes my brother's wife 100%. Using fake names, dates of birth, always hurting people around her, excessive lying, hitting my brother and denying him life saving emergency care. She controlled all finances and never had any money. Cheated multiple times, scammed people for money, stealing from us and telling her kids shoplifting is ok because the store's owners have too much money in their hands, preventing him from seeing family or friends and so many more horrible behaviors.
@@katieandnick4113 no need to tell anyone when there's proof rather than hearsay. I was the one who took him to the hospital. There's recordings, DNA testing and now going through divorce. While in recovery from an amputation that happened as a result of the abuse she threatened him with lying to police about him abusing her if he spoke to anyone about her cheating. After he spoke to their pastor, she did, just that, having no proof, and abusing the laws that are meant to protect true victims of abuse.
After seeing this I realize I did myself a very big favor getting out of that situation. Sidenote: If there's life insurance involved, #9 may be made to look like an accident.
Oh my gosh, sign #9 scares me. But then again, we are talking about psychopaths. This might be a weird request, but could talk about childhood emotional neglect? I’m working through it in therapy right now and I want to hear your thoughts about it. It certainly is a departure from what you’re talking about now, but again, I want to hear your take on it.
A couple of observations: 1. On more than one occasion, I've listened to psychopathic women brag about poisoning the food or beverage of either a co-worker or in one case, her own 'beloved' husband. His crime was "looking at another woman". She claimed that it worked, and that he never did it again (implying that he was scared to, and that she was important enough to him that he thought he better keep her happy). The one who bragged about poisoning the co-worker, just didn't like them for some reason. Both also bragged about a lot of other violent and disturbing (i.e. sexual) experiences. Both were co-workers who bothered me with this enlightening information about their devious character while I was busy -- working. The one who bragged about poisoning her own husband told the same story to all her 'friends' and was very proud of what she did. She worked in the business of food service, yet I was apparently the only one who thought that was a very bad idea. Everyone else acted like, "Oh, it's just kooky, funny Cheryl. She's a laugh a minute." The other one, Mary, bragged about being descended from Aleister Crowley (g-niece or something) and informed me that she was actually the daughter of her mother and paternal grandfather (i.e. mother's husband's father, who she claimed raped her). And Mary's own husband "committed suicide" (she "barely escaped him taking her down with himself", i.e. he'd planned it as a murder-suicide). She had done a couple of years prison time for biting a police officer's ear off while drug-crazed. She also said she had been an exotic dancer and prostitute. She also told me about her 'marriage of convenience' wherein she lived like a queen for a few years with a man who later died of AIDS. Both of these 'poisoners' had seriously poor relationships with their adult children, siblings, and parents. And both had no problem lying whenever it was convenient for them. 2. I forgot. ;) Anyway, more about these same two cases: Cheryl told me about the time she was strolling past a little downtown 'cowboy' bar (one that happens to be world-famous, the "Mint"), in broad daylight, when some unidentified woman in the bar saw her, ran outside and attacked her from behind. This was in a small town where everybody knew everyone, yet I don't think she ever found out who clobbered her that day. And Mary told me about a fairly recent incident wherein Mary (age about 60 at the time) had met some anonymous "man" on a dating site and planned a date with him that involved herself dressing up like a "little school girl". Mary proudly described her entire ensemble in great detail, and then complained to me that after she'd got herself all 'dolled-up' and was really looking forward to meeting him -- the stranger stood her up (i.e. 'ghosted' her) leaving her waiting for over an hour before she finally realized what happened. She apparently thought that I would sympathize, :D Another time, Mary claimed she couldn't make it to work because she had a doctor's appointment. Everyone believed the lie, until I said, "Really? Which doctors have offices open on holidays?" :D
Sounds like BPD. Psychopaths are too Machiavellian to rat themselves out to anyone. In fact, if they suspect someone else is going to rat them out, they’ll do whatever is necessary to shut them up. Sexual promiscuity/deviance to the degree you mention isn’t really a psychopathic female thing, even when they are young. They do tend to be promiscuous, but not deviant in that way.
When you are a man who is trying to put a less than perfect history behind you, but then make the poor decision to associate with this kind of woman (after she waves all the red flags) - you are are holding the door open to being eaten alive. This is me - she stomped me - I gave her permission because I was weak for the distractions she could see I liked. I got the rehab and heartbreak - she made a getaway. My choice - my loss - my lesson - yet again. Dr Grande is the best channel ever.
This might be an odd/morbid request but I was wondering if you'd ever consider making a video for your channel on the topic of Cannibalism. In college I wrote a paper in regards to the potential side effects/consequences of introducing Cannibalism into a thriving modern day society, looking at how being Forced to resort to cannibalism for one's own survival can impact the person's and society in terms of psychological ramifications. I enjoy hearing your input on mental health topics and admire your thoughts outside of the factual data and research. So I'd feel privileged if one day you'd consider presenting a video about this. Thanks!!!
You would probably be interested in "The Mouse Utopia Experiment." It's my belief that the deluge of zombie and vampire entertainment represents the early stages of "Universe 25" of that experiment. Other signs too...
Thank you Doctor Grande! What about the "good" psychopaths out there? I am reading Kevin Dutton's book on how to be successful good psychopath, and was curious about how this played out.
I love your videos so much I really look forward to them everyday. Can you do video on a person that gets stuck in the cycle of physical abuse it keeps going and I can't seem to break free? I can't understand the mindset of that.
A good friend of mine has BPD. I know this is off topic. Could you please do a video on childhood sexual abuse leading to this personality disorder? Thanks in advance for your time.
My mother is a sadistic psychopath. She lies and gaslights more than she breathes. When she does something sadistic, her eyes go so lifeless and cold. If you see this blank expression and cold eyes in a psychopath, run.
Have commented about this elsewhere. But this trait of demonic possession keeps coming up. It is of great concern. But no one wishes to discuss it as a possibility....
Interesting video. Wouldn't consider ex-wife Psycophantic, but more extreme narcisstic where some of the traits are shared. She would try to project onto me Psycophantic attributes which I found laughable, but very serious, because it's all about the accusations. While we was using the weed trimmer in the yard, kicked up small debris which hit the outside sliding glass door gointo into the bedroom. Shattering the tempered glass like a spider web. Not breaking any glass out, but hundreds of cracks. Her story was, She called the county Police and said she thought I was trying to kill her, or hired someone to kill her when she was sleeping. We were already divorced, but the scary thing is...she believed it deep down inside her heart.
Just reading the comments on this video is kind of mind blowing. I appreciate your doing this type of video for people’s general knowledge. Info can literally be a lifesaver. Thanks as always. ♥️✌🏽
yo, please ignore other commenters, with the right therapy and treatment not every mental health problem is worth leaving a good person for. i don't have BPD but I know people that do & it's about acknowledging the symptoms & managing them. obviously if you don't want to be with someone anymore be honest with them. just "not much worse" is pretty shitty to say imo. wish you and your wife all the best
Totally unrelated but what is the difference between depression and bipolar 2. I am diagnosed with depression but I feel like I have some up very productive times and crash from them. I thought that was just depression.
Bipolar is characterized by extreme highs and lows of mood. Lithium is used to even out peoples mood. Often people also have antidepressants for the lows.
Hi Dr Grande; new subscriber here! Not sure if you already have videos on helping dysfunctional families? Do have videos or book recommendations to help parents who had emotionally absent & abusive mother parents? Videos or books on how to help the children of abusive and emotionally absent parents? Thank you! Great video! Thank you
Thanks for this, Dr. Grande 🙏 Could you please do a video on the “smirk” we see in Dark Triad individuals and why they laugh while they’re intimidating and terrorizing other people? I’d really like to hear your thoughts on this. Thank you.
@@vallisdaemonumofficial Inapproproate laughter is something that usually stems from childhood. You may have used it as a coping mechanism when dealing with traumatic situations. It's like the old wives tale that if you smile when you're upset, then you'll feel happier. Yeah, that's not true. Smiling just suppresses your negative emotions and trains your brain to asociate negative emotions with smiling. You most likely don't have Pseudobulbar Affect which is a neurological condition that stems from a traumatic brain injury which causes the sufferer to laugh and cry uncontrollably at inappropriate times. It's rare and very serious.
@@averyjackblack7420 He most likely doesn't have Pseudobulbar Affect. That usually stems from a traumatic brain injury. Smiling during inappropriate times is a common coping mechanism for trauma, often stemming from childhood. When attempting to handle negative emotions the brain tries to suppress the feeling by smiling.
I found it interesting that you talk about "physical compensation for intimacy" among wives with psychopathic traits. What about men who may be engaging in similar activities? I know it's likely rare, but I think it's perhaps not as rare as one would think. I hope you can address at some point the profile of a man who engages in selling/procuring intimacy for money.
Miss E I've kind of done that on a relational level, or at least money was a factor. General prostitution is not my cup of tea, but I don't have much against the idea. I never strongly considered it because I'm the careful type, and I'm mildly germaphobic. I did go on a date with a girl that did porn once (she asked and I decided I couldn't turn down the opportunity) , but she was kinda messed up and things didn't go far. In general I think it's easier for girls to find willing buyers too. I suspect you'd find the guys more on the recruiting/pimping side.
@@satou7574 I don't have a problem with it in principal. I do have a problem with it if I'm in a relationship with someone and they engage in this activity without my knowing.
@@andreasleonlandgren3092 it's real, and i have to say for someone who has been in a relationship with someone who has engaged in it, it's quite frightening. And we're talking about a man who is exceptionally good looking, smart, engaging, well-educated. To me, there's something in the ego that's not being fulfilled. Dr. Grande talks about this potentially being an indicator of psychopathic traits in women, but if a man were to engage does that indicate the same thing? Personally I actually don't think so. I have my own opinions. But I'm very eager to know that Dr. Grande's experience has been with this.
@@OnsceneDC It's not as common with men, it's easier for women to get something from it. And there's more encouragement for women to do it. It's not really attractive for a psychopath because getting compensated for sex generally puts you socially submissive position. Psychopathic women are more willing to do it because they know they're just playing a part 'in character' to get what they want. I don't want to reveal too many tricks of the trade or I'd go into more detail.
I always like watching your videos and even though I don't have a wife this video does not really apply to me. But could you please, please do an analysis on the character Jack ( played by Ed Norton) in the movie "Fight Club". The, not sure if this is the correct term, protagonist a lonely, young smart professional that lives in a fantasy world (a possible schizoid personality) who actually "sees" and befriends his split-personality alter ego, role model Tyler (played by Brad Pitt). So, Jack maybe also a paranoid schizophrenic.
@@DigitalvideotoolsOrg yes I have seen it. It's being viewed from Jacks perspective. Jack believes there is another person, but in reality he's his alter ego, Tyler. You even said it yourself his split personality and alter ego.That's multiple personality disorder which is not schizophrenia. Schizophrenia is the splitting between rationality and emotions and dissociative personality disorder/multiple personality disorder is the splitting within the personality. People confuse these 2 often.
Holy shit. I had never even considered it, but my ex wife has every one of these signs except hurting animals, contract killer attempts and fascination with women who have killed their husbands (at least as far as I know). She's in prison atm for possessing a moderate amount of meth. I just always thought her to be extremely narcissistic and unstable.
My father had a wife with a lot of psychopathic traits. He threw his children under the bus, let her be an unrelenting vicious tyrant- and then when asked by me many years later- why? Why? she did this? He shook his head and said she was a very good mother, she got up in the night to you when you were a baby. So my father primed me to feel ultimately grateful for having very basic needs met as a baby, and nothing to do with a parents responsibility . Primed for tolerating, second guessing and the rest. My mother did not steal stuff etc, she had a highly religious stance. Part of her control and abuse. She did religious abstinence . The research now shows that the labelling of impulsivity as a core psychopathic feature is now flawed. It is based on research of a male prison population.
So I got psychopathic traits apparently. Good thing I'm not married but I def. Not callous. I isolate. Too tiring figuring out how I'm to act and all that.
At 6:05 onwards there's quite strong static until this video ends. Related to this, could you look into hyperacusis and misophonia? I have hyperacusis and ASMR videos create severe stress and have the exact opposite effect for me than they're designed to. The static on this video makes it difficult to focus on what you were saying. Despite hyperacusis and misophonia being relatively common, there's little research being done about the conditions which can be quite crippling for sufferers, adversely impacting upon their relationships and affecting where and how they live and work. Your analysis of hyperacusis and misophonia would be very helpful, especially since your videos reach many people and quite a few would have or be close to someone with one or both disorders.
I always wonder about folie au doux. Could the husband's role in the relationships reinforce or deter/set limits on the psychopathic behaviors? Are they a team, in terms of being on the same psychopathic page or playing out some sort of Oedipal/child-adult script? One must always wonder, not only about the psychopathy of a wife but her choice and the role her partner plays in the relationship.
I would really like to see a video about the scientific evidence for genetic vs environmental factors in the development of cluster B disorders, especially what twin studies have to say.
I worked with a female psychopath whose first husband figured her out rapidly - she was really socially interesting she and had to be nice to me as her partner was a friend of mine. She ended up dying from cancer partially brought on from years of heavy drug abuse. In her case her heavy drugging made her less lethal to people around her, especially her kids. Thankfully they don't have to be around her anymore. Her oldest turned out ok. Thank heaven for small favors.
I was diagnosed with psychopathic traits. I'm trying to have a couple, a formal one, after a lot of time. I'm working in this vey carefully. The main challenge is that i need to "fight" for whatever reason, sometimes. I just want to create tension. It's like an impulse. We are perfect, but then i just need the tension to release a pressure that i feel inside. It's more like an instinct. Then we fix the stuff with sex. I know it's a toxic behavior. Now we are living together. He tells me i'm cold, and he notices my lack of emotions. I told him the truth about my condition, but he thinks it's sad. I don't really feel sad about it, but i know i don't want to be alone forever, and he's the closest i've been with someone. The fact that i feel like he's my property, and i want to control him, makes me come closer to him in a mental level.
Me driving down the road: I am so much happier now that I am dead. Technically missing. Soon to be presumed dead. Gone. And my lying cheating oblivious- Driving instructor: please stop that!
Dr Grande, you should take a look at the tv show called "Mr Robot" specifically his character elliot alderson he is a very interesting character to analyze psychologically especially for you, besides being a very good show. :D
When you brought up the killing neighour's pets it reminded me of an old interview I saw with the wife of McDonald's shooter James Huberty. She was talking about her husband's motivations and how she herself was raised to believe an eye for an eye, and actually said "If you kill my dog I'm sure as hell gona kill your cat."
My understanding of the definition of Machiavellian is relying on evidence-based methods in making political decisions and taking making political actions, rather than on non-evidenced-based methods.
Yea, killing people and animals is far more typical of male psychopaths than female ones. Not saying a female wouldn’t do it, but it’s not likely. They employ relational aggression and emotional sadism much more than physical sadism.
Good god man you just described most of the women I interact with on campus. I know I'm being hyperbolic, but a lot them display many of these traits. Maybe not #9.
My wife comes into the room, honey look this one is about you :D And we had a nice healthy laugh, knowing such people were only on my side of the family hehe Thank you sir i love your videos in the morning :D
My mom used my grandma to shoot my dad. He survived. Then she pushed her bf to use his law enforcement family to kill my dad n plant a gun on him. I found out. He wrote 3 letters outlining the kill scene n gave them to his lawyer, book keeper, a friend as well as a letter to be kept at home in personal belongings. He then confronted my mom n her bf (in public safety) and the stopped their plans. They at the time had cooperation of local law enforcement network with a rough date for this 2nd attack. My dad said he would back off his harassment n they said they would not set him up with the traffic stop murder by fresh out PD /new rookie assassin. She never the less continued doing crime, fraud and compulsively lying. Eventually she tried to take my life while I slept in addition to numerous jokes about poisoning me. I never yelled at her, I never touched her. I might listen to her and she would work her self up... into a rage all by herself... I might smirk 😏 as she screamed n insulted me since I never talked back.... Listening to her too long would initiate some of the abuse I lived thru as a teen male. Dangerous Lady. That’s what she wanted. To be dangerous.
Karam Levi I am so sorry you had to experience this. Alanon is world wide free meetings that really help support others who have been affected by addicts. Google Alanon and find a meeting in. Your area, You are strong!
beverly allison thanks I’m in ACA, martial arts, meditation and work a Pagan spiritual path while listening to HP and “try” to obey the good guides. Had lots of issues with food n under employment / self harm via risk and success avoidance. Punished for doing good really has been tricky to over come-
@DrGrande, I learn a lot from your videos; at the very least, they prompt research and further inquiry. Would you consider taking an analytical view of an American public figure who recently wrote of shooting the family pet in the face bc the animal proved unruly and difficult to train? Thanks.
Well this helped me with trying of figure out my dad's soon to be ex wife, but still can't put my finger on her. She's at least a grandiose narcissist, and she could be psychopathic, though I don't remember her taking the life of anything directly. We did worry about my dad a great deal and are actually surprised he's still alive, even after leaving her.
It’s called ‘being professional.’ If you want sensationalized psychology videos, take your pick - RUclips is stuffed to the brim with them! No offense btw - just in a jovial mood! 😂
@@LoveHumanity4783 I agree but this guy doesn't seem to have any emotions at all. Nothing to do with professionalism. He's very much corpse-like. 😂 😂 😂
@@guytero8812 I get the impression he’s followed a stable career, with a pro-social and conscientious psyche - I’m also fairly certain he may find some of the ‘excessive’ elements of my lifestyle to be a manifestation of a yet-undiagnosed cluster B jumble! 😂 I’ve already been diagnosed with ADHD and I’m almost certain I’m not narcissistic or histrionic which...well...only leaves behind the other two - neither being particularly desirable! 😂😂😂
Question. Do you find psychologists that may act more on their politics than relying on the science and their duty? How has the politics changed your industry over the last few decades?
Hi Dr. Grande, My name is J.D and I wanted to ask 2 questions. 1. Could Dissociative Identity Disorder, OCPD and or Asperger's w/OCPD look like or be confused for adjustment Disorders or other cluster personality Disorders, especially cluster B personality (eg. ASPD, Psychopathy, Sociopathy, BPD, NPD)? For example; if your OCPD desire for morals was so strong it disregarded the law in favor of Justice. Or CPTSD obession with the abusers and or people who remind you of the abusers cause cluster B like symptoms. 2. How common is it for providers, who can diagnosis, diagnosis a Disorder code with a similar or different name? For example; Asperger's with an autism spectrum Disorder code, or Complex PTSD with a PTSD code. I was diagnosed with congenial Asperger's w/OCPD but the DSM has recently changed, leaving me with a new ASD diagnosis I'm not yet used to. I also have been diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder w/CPTSD. Hope all is well. Hope to hear from you soon.
8:48 Oh man I totally overlooked sign #9, I would never have guessed this would mean my wife is a psychopath. Thank you so much for letting me know 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
doesnt necessarily have to be, but it can be related, so its still a valid point. not sure ehy ure so full of yourself, as if you made a clever statement or something.
My Psychopathic ex-girlfriend played a very long game. After we got engaged she went off to New Zealand to study to be a veterinarian. I was supposed to follow her and we were going to begin our life together after dating for 7 years. She made sure I gave up my business and sold my house. And then broke up with me. Without any explanation. Psychopathic women are like cats. Expect to be the mouse they will play with you till they are bored, they might kill you or they might just walk away and look for a new victim. I felt it coming my Spidey senses worked but I suppress them. The moral of the story never oppress your Spidey senses. Pay attention to everything a person does says and the way their facial expressions work. This woman had a dead eye stare and never laughed at appropriate times, these were the dead giveaways that I was too innocent to recognize at the time. I want soccer kick a cat pretty hard with no remorse. I'm sure she'll make a great veterinarian. She is very clinical and has a huge ego and cannot stand losing or having anyone be superior to her. My only hope is that the radiation from Fukushima affects her in some negative way. That's right I've studied some philosophy now. I believe Makaveli made some of the best points.
so i guess someone with psycopath traits will also have the npd traits. but someone with npd doesnt mean that they are psycopath. is it true? (sorry for my bad english)
I really want to hear the man with Psychopathic traits because I think I dated a psychopath he has animal cruelty he killed his dog he has fire-setting, burglary.and then he went to women and started beating them and it has a long list of restraining orders, dv incarcerations, and aggravated assaults. As well as verbally financially sexually abusive and on top of that he likes to pit people against each other thinking either he's a psychopath sociopath or malignant narcissist but I really listen to these videos to get myself educated. Thanks again I love your videos
I do too. It always bothers me thinking about my ex...was he only a narcissist or more? Because by women's standards he more or less was a psychopath or on the spectrum if that's possible...
I would say he's a Psychopath. Sociopaths and Narcissists, as deviant and abusive as they can be, they only do things if it has a point to it. If they can benefit from it or gain somehow by doing something to someone. Meaning that even though they have "impulsive tendencies" they still maintain a form of risk vs. reward assessment. Psychopaths, will do anything on a whim, spur of the moment, regardless of severity, regardless of beneficial gain from it, regardless of risk vs. reward. Example: The killing of animals. It's erratic, it's senseless, there's no other point to it except to impusively let off steam in a very disturbing, un-empathetic way. An example of extreme "sensation seeking." Despite what other people may say, I can almost guarantee you that you will NOT see a Sociopath or Narcissist display this *severe* level of impulsive, reckless, un-empathetic, and sensation-seeking behavior. This type of behavior is THE "calling card" that seperates a Psychopath from the other 2. So yeah, I'd say Psychopath.
I fight with myself every single day. I dont know why. My father is a malignant narcisist. I dont think that im a narcisist too, but i have serious problems. I have traces of a antissocial disorder and i dont have any emotions throught the day. It is a genetic component ?
Postpartum-Borderline disaster - My wife was amazing for 14 years, until she gave birth, after birth it's like her body became possessed by the Devil, overspending, cheating with a coworker, extreme anger, fear of abandonment, 100% disrespect, sleeps in another room, emotional time-bomb, hits me hard if I try to even giver her a hug yet if I left she would meltdown & quite possibly hurt our son.
Is it possible for a socio-psycho pathic person to develope deeper emotional connections with a person and can this change how they are? Can they truly care for another, even if they see them as. Property? If not, can they themselves believe that they are changing because they care for another person. Will it always be temporary?
Past the 6:06 mark the sound quality changes drastically, with the background noise(hissing, you could say) being there up until the end of the video. Could be an error on youtube's part, but I figured it's good to let you know early.
9. Wife may hire a contract killer to take the husband out of the picture.
“Now this is more extreme, we don’t expect to see this everyday.”
10.if you’re dead.
Lol
Death threats, indeed
this is shown on Forensic Files all the time !!! oh.. and, it turns out that the dead guy husband nearly always has told one of his buddies to tell the cops if the husband dies in a suspicious manner.
LOL
I'll have to look out for these subtle cues.
This is spot on in every way. When I caught my ex in a lie, she asked me 20+ times how I found out. A few weeks later without my knowledge she cuts the cord to one of our iot recording devices. She then asks me to fix it. When I asked what happened to it, she lies about that as well. I fixed it and then she tells me how good I am at fixing those things. If they are talking, they are lying.
Wow, that's flat out crazy! Hope you're doing ok? 👍🏼
'If they are talking, they are lying' 👍
@@Harry-qw5jv madness
Uh you just scratched the surface
Additionally_ dude, to counteract that evil I WILL fast pray and meditate your situation into success.
Simply put someone has to act upon, " ENOUGH is enough "
Love and peace to you man. Stand tall sharpen your teeth, stiffen your SPINE!
THESE THINGS_ we all agreed to BEFORE this life contract. See it through. Vote your conscience. And make it yours!! Maybe you'll stay, maybe you'll LEAVE, ONLY you know what's best. Search your soul.
Love peace and eternity to you man
After enduring the Misery of having both my Parents being Narcissists, I love living alone with my 2 Dogs in my own Place !!!! I never wanted to risk having a Relationship with a Narcissist or A Psychopath !!!! I must say, It's wonderful to Live Life without these People Around me !!!! I can't stand Stress and I can't stand Insane People either !!!!
Jerry Wise has a great channel for this.
You always make marriage sound so delightful, doctor. 😄
I just read in this past year about a girl in Montana who killed her new husband on their honeymoon by pushing him off a cliff. Times are brutal. Thank you! 👍🌹
And there was me thinking 'divorce in a day was quick'. Must have been for money. Honestly what a world we live in!
Id marry u
Blimey! My husband slurps his coffee, it's kind of annoying..............😂
Happily no cliffs nearby and I'm hobbled by the fact that I adore the slurper 😂
@@Mspoor70 Have you turned your husband gay yet?
Incoming the "That's a spot-on description of my ex-wife!" comments.
Hell hath no fury...
Glad that the people in the comments could escape their psychopath ex and take care you guys
Well what does diet reveal about personality?
@Ben Hackett true
Lol, in the Husband psychopathy video these comments are everywhere,
'Shes probably not gonna win neighbor of the year' 😂😂😂
I wonder how many husbands are going to have a field day with this one.
I think a lot of videos like this, from all different youtubers, often lend an excuse to give armchair diagnosis to others in order to dismiss their own behavior.
It's gonna be huge ..lolol
@@c1rcl3s said every psycho wife ever.
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@@c1rcl3s sounds like you're afraid of being found out.
Gaslighting stops working so well when your victim starts to see it.
This was such a relief to watch I have mental health issues but am going to therapists but always I'm worrying what if in hurting other people or what if because of my trauma, what if one day i would put my kids through something similar... so it's a relief to learn i have problems but I'm not psychopathic
The movie- Single White Female is a classic example! I am a clinical therapist and DSW! I am sure I picked this profession bc of a woman who inserted herself into my life and was highly manipulative! She stole from me, used me as a free babysitter and slept with my fiancé ! Subsequent to such, I woke up and got her out of my life for good! It was a terrifying experience that happened over a 10 yr period! The final straw occurred when she slept with my fiancé and tried to convince me that she sacrificed herself for me, so that I would “ see “ that he was actually evil! I dumped them both and they ended up together making each other’s life a living hell! I am so grateful that I met a good man and got my life back! 😅
Ha ha, glad to know that you had the courage to get rid of both of them. Many people fails to do so...
@@amitpaul7940 Thank You 🕊💚🕊
After nearly a decade I'm escaping a psychopathic woman of this kind. She's made hell for our entire family.
Please do "10 Signs of a Daughter with Psychopathic Traits" next!
@@Richard-Freeman Already saw the first one and that video isn't specific to a daughter, much less to a teenage/adult one. As for the second link, adult female teachers who embark on sexual relationships with their students isn't indicative of psychopathy at all.
Geeze. Thats a nightmare.
and son! I think my step brother is really off... I've never been scared of any man but sometimes I think he's going to kill my mom and his father or something...
The diagnosis of psychopathy is possible at the age of 18yrs
Before the age of 18 they will name it a conduct disorder or a (reactive) attachement disorder, but these disorders can also be an indication of an other personality disorder
“10 Signs of a Hamster with Psychopathic Traits”
This perfectly describes my neighbor's wife up to at least #7 (observed, and reported by the husband) and explains the poisoning of my dog and neighbor's cats. She also likes to build fires, which cause the fire department to come and extinguish. She feeds crows and other vermin. Other neighbors report her attempt to befriend them with ulterior motive.
Your dog and neighbours cats were poisoned by this neighbour's wife? Did any of the pets survive? If that woman's lighting fires, too, I'd be talking to local LE although if she's using covert methods like poison I assume you'd need videos - like motion-activated cameras - to capture her psychopathic behaviours so as to prove her involvement.
Your neighborhood should install cameras, warn new owners/renters about her especially if they have pets, help each other pay for pet autopsy's, file complaints, & build a paper trail with law enforcement & courts even if she's just accused of something they will keep a record of it nowadays. Be vigilant and have her serve time for animal cruelty & public nuisance. Look up your areas laws/bi-laws/everything. If there's not a law on it keep calling your non emergency lines and writing the mayor & other heads of departments in your local government. If someone poisoned my dog I would honestly go and beat her ass and probably catch charges. People like that are the types you don't want around if you have a family.
If the husband told you about these things his wife supposedly did, I’d be more inclined to believe he is the psychopath. People who are currently married to a psychopath do not talk about their spouse’s bad behavior because they don’t see it themselves. They can’t see it until the psychopath is out of their life. Also, all of the things you’ve mentioned are male typical psychopath behaviors. Female psychopaths use relational aggression and emotional sadism to torture people. By telling you that his wife did these horrible things, he’s exercising his power over her, as now all of the neighbors believe she is the crazy one.
Hey, feeding crows is not a bad thing. They are very intelligent
@@katieandnick4113 females also abuse and kill animals!! I witnessed my sister in law abuse my brothers dog as did my father when she kicked him .. another incident, the dogs leg was broken 😢😢I hate this bitch and said as much so now I’m banned from going to the house on holidays and birthdays ..
Hi Dr. Grande! I find your content really useful and interesting. I appreciate your effort on explaining these topics using scientific literature. It would be very helpful if you could tell us about the traits of a psychopathic mother (mothers with antisocial personality disorder). Thank you!
I'm baffled at how your video describes my brother's wife 100%. Using fake names, dates of birth, always hurting people around her, excessive lying, hitting my brother and denying him life saving emergency care. She controlled all finances and never had any money. Cheated multiple times, scammed people for money, stealing from us and telling her kids shoplifting is ok because the store's owners have too much money in their hands, preventing him from seeing family or friends and so many more horrible behaviors.
Did your brother tell you all of this?
@@katieandnick4113 no need to tell anyone when there's proof rather than hearsay. I was the one who took him to the hospital. There's recordings, DNA testing and now going through divorce. While in recovery from an amputation that happened as a result of the abuse she threatened him with lying to police about him abusing her if he spoke to anyone about her cheating. After he spoke to their pastor, she did, just that, having no proof, and abusing the laws that are meant to protect true victims of abuse.
Sounds about right and I love them for it
Great video once again! Can you make a video on the traits of the sadist. and what makes this particular profile different from the others?
After seeing this I realize I did myself a very big favor getting out of that situation. Sidenote: If there's life insurance involved, #9 may be made to look like an accident.
"10 Signs of a Wife with Psychopathic Traits"
#1: She married me
Misery lives company?😂
Bah hah hah😂😂😂Brilliant!
Desertphile 😂😂😂
Oh my gosh, sign #9 scares me. But then again, we are talking about psychopaths. This might be a weird request, but could talk about childhood emotional neglect? I’m working through it in therapy right now and I want to hear your thoughts about it. It certainly is a departure from what you’re talking about now, but again, I want to hear your take on it.
Please write a book I would totally read it
And available on Audible.
Seriously 🙁
A couple of observations: 1. On more than one occasion, I've listened to psychopathic women brag about poisoning the food or beverage of either a co-worker or in one case, her own 'beloved' husband. His crime was "looking at another woman". She claimed that it worked, and that he never did it again (implying that he was scared to, and that she was important enough to him that he thought he better keep her happy). The one who bragged about poisoning the co-worker, just didn't like them for some reason. Both also bragged about a lot of other violent and disturbing (i.e. sexual) experiences. Both were co-workers who bothered me with this enlightening information about their devious character while I was busy -- working.
The one who bragged about poisoning her own husband told the same story to all her 'friends' and was very proud of what she did. She worked in the business of food service, yet I was apparently the only one who thought that was a very bad idea. Everyone else acted like, "Oh, it's just kooky, funny Cheryl. She's a laugh a minute."
The other one, Mary, bragged about being descended from Aleister Crowley (g-niece or something) and informed me that she was actually the daughter of her mother and paternal grandfather (i.e. mother's husband's father, who she claimed raped her). And Mary's own husband "committed suicide" (she "barely escaped him taking her down with himself", i.e. he'd planned it as a murder-suicide). She had done a couple of years prison time for biting a police officer's ear off while drug-crazed. She also said she had been an exotic dancer and prostitute. She also told me about her 'marriage of convenience' wherein she lived like a queen for a few years with a man who later died of AIDS.
Both of these 'poisoners' had seriously poor relationships with their adult children, siblings, and parents. And both had no problem lying whenever it was convenient for them.
2. I forgot. ;) Anyway, more about these same two cases: Cheryl told me about the time she was strolling past a little downtown 'cowboy' bar (one that happens to be world-famous, the "Mint"), in broad daylight, when some unidentified woman in the bar saw her, ran outside and attacked her from behind. This was in a small town where everybody knew everyone, yet I don't think she ever found out who clobbered her that day.
And Mary told me about a fairly recent incident wherein Mary (age about 60 at the time) had met some anonymous "man" on a dating site and planned a date with him that involved herself dressing up like a "little school girl". Mary proudly described her entire ensemble in great detail, and then complained to me that after she'd got herself all 'dolled-up' and was really looking forward to meeting him -- the stranger stood her up (i.e. 'ghosted' her) leaving her waiting for over an hour before she finally realized what happened. She apparently thought that I would sympathize, :D
Another time, Mary claimed she couldn't make it to work because she had a doctor's appointment. Everyone believed the lie, until I said, "Really? Which doctors have offices open on holidays?" :D
Sounds like BPD. Psychopaths are too Machiavellian to rat themselves out to anyone. In fact, if they suspect someone else is going to rat them out, they’ll do whatever is necessary to shut them up. Sexual promiscuity/deviance to the degree you mention isn’t really a psychopathic female thing, even when they are young. They do tend to be promiscuous, but not deviant in that way.
When you are a man who is trying to put a less than perfect history behind you, but then make the poor decision to associate with this kind of woman (after she waves all the red flags) - you are are holding the door open to being eaten alive. This is me - she stomped me - I gave her permission because I was weak for the distractions she could see I liked. I got the rehab and heartbreak - she made a getaway. My choice - my loss - my lesson - yet again. Dr Grande is the best channel ever.
So sorry my friend. Hope you are doing good now.
😅be careful who you let in your life. It starts really great and then it goes south.
This might be an odd/morbid request but I was wondering if you'd ever consider making a video for your channel on the topic of Cannibalism. In college I wrote a paper in regards to the potential side effects/consequences of introducing Cannibalism into a thriving modern day society, looking at how being Forced to resort to cannibalism for one's own survival can impact the person's and society in terms of psychological ramifications. I enjoy hearing your input on mental health topics and admire your thoughts outside of the factual data and research. So I'd feel privileged if one day you'd consider presenting a video about this. Thanks!!!
You would probably be interested in "The Mouse Utopia Experiment."
It's my belief that the deluge of zombie and vampire entertainment represents the early stages of "Universe 25" of that experiment. Other signs too...
@@danthompson1m I am definitely going to look more into this , ty !!!
That's actually very interesting. I wonder if he has ever counseled a cannibal. What would a therapist even say to them. 🙄🤔☹️
@@kathrinjohnson2582 that's what I'm Curious about too
Haha
Thank you Doctor Grande! What about the "good" psychopaths out there? I am reading Kevin Dutton's book on how to be successful good psychopath, and was curious about how this played out.
You mean line Dexter?
Always on point, Dr. Grande!
I love your videos so much I really look forward to them everyday. Can you do video on a person that gets stuck in the cycle of physical abuse it keeps going and I can't seem to break free? I can't understand the mindset of that.
A good friend of mine has BPD. I know this is off topic. Could you please do a video on childhood sexual abuse leading to this personality disorder? Thanks in advance for your time.
Been binge watching your videos dude thanks so much!
Very interesting and thorough video. Can you please explain the difference in this set of traits vs. a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder?
Marriage is a great institution. But I'm not ready for an institution. --Mae West
My mother is a sadistic psychopath. She lies and gaslights more than she breathes. When she does something sadistic, her eyes go so lifeless and cold. If you see this blank expression and cold eyes in a psychopath, run.
Have commented about this elsewhere. But this trait of demonic possession keeps coming up. It is of great concern. But no one wishes to discuss it as a possibility....
"Mental Health Struggles Are A Gift"
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Interesting video. Wouldn't consider ex-wife Psycophantic, but more extreme narcisstic where some of the traits are shared. She would try to project onto me Psycophantic attributes which I found laughable, but very serious, because it's all about the accusations.
While we was using the weed trimmer in the yard, kicked up small debris which hit the outside sliding glass door gointo into the bedroom. Shattering the tempered glass like a spider web. Not breaking any glass out, but hundreds of cracks.
Her story was, She called the county Police and said she thought I was trying to kill her, or hired someone to kill her when she was sleeping. We were already divorced, but the scary thing is...she believed it deep down inside her heart.
Just reading the comments on this video is kind of mind blowing. I appreciate your doing this type of video for people’s general knowledge. Info can literally be a lifesaver. Thanks as always. ♥️✌🏽
At least my wife is only BPD. Could be worse, hahaha.
At least mine is a ex
why the hell are you still there ? great sex ???????
Not much worse. Jesus! Get the hell out of there.
yo, please ignore other commenters, with the right therapy and treatment not every mental health problem is worth leaving a good person for. i don't have BPD but I know people that do & it's about acknowledging the symptoms & managing them. obviously if you don't want to be with someone anymore be honest with them. just "not much worse" is pretty shitty to say imo.
wish you and your wife all the best
😂😂😂😂😂😂u got off lightly 🤪
Totally unrelated but what is the difference between depression and bipolar 2. I am diagnosed with depression but I feel like I have some up very productive times and crash from them. I thought that was just depression.
He has a couple videos on this. I know it's confusing how those are worded.
Bipolar is characterized by extreme highs and lows of mood. Lithium is used to even out peoples mood. Often people also have antidepressants for the lows.
Hi Dr Grande; new subscriber here! Not sure if you already have videos on helping dysfunctional families?
Do have videos or book recommendations to help parents who had emotionally absent & abusive mother parents?
Videos or books on how to help the children of abusive and emotionally absent parents?
Thank you! Great video! Thank you
Susan Forward is great imo
Great insight video also very informative Thanks Dr Todd Grande 🙂👍
I’m at work at this moment, strongly considering not going back home, ever…
These are invaluable videos
Great vid! I watched it twice.Thanks so much. 😊
Thanks for this, Dr. Grande 🙏
Could you please do a video on the “smirk” we see in Dark Triad individuals and why they laugh while they’re intimidating and terrorizing other people?
I’d really like to hear your thoughts on this. Thank you.
I tend to laugh at inappropriate times, and I sometimes wonder if it's related to one of my mental conditions. 🤔
@@vallisdaemonumofficial Inapproproate laughter is something that usually stems from childhood. You may have used it as a coping mechanism when dealing with traumatic situations. It's like the old wives tale that if you smile when you're upset, then you'll feel happier. Yeah, that's not true. Smiling just suppresses your negative emotions and trains your brain to asociate negative emotions with smiling.
You most likely don't have Pseudobulbar Affect which is a neurological condition that stems from a traumatic brain injury which causes the sufferer to laugh and cry uncontrollably at inappropriate times. It's rare and very serious.
@@averyjackblack7420 He most likely doesn't have Pseudobulbar Affect. That usually stems from a traumatic brain injury.
Smiling during inappropriate times is a common coping mechanism for trauma, often stemming from childhood. When attempting to handle negative emotions the brain tries to suppress the feeling by smiling.
@@madelinebrown5240 yes so other kids might look at the other kid like they're weird or creepy
Dominique Contant Exactly. Perhaps I should have asked my question a different way: What is Dr. Grande’s take on sadism?
Can you do one solely on female sociopaths.. as they differ greatly from their male counterparts.
Interesting as always Dr Grande.. 🐛 📚 🦋
I found it interesting that you talk about "physical compensation for intimacy" among wives with psychopathic traits. What about men who may be engaging in similar activities? I know it's likely rare, but I think it's perhaps not as rare as one would think. I hope you can address at some point the profile of a man who engages in selling/procuring intimacy for money.
Miss E interesting subject
Miss E I've kind of done that on a relational level, or at least money was a factor. General prostitution is not my cup of tea, but I don't have much against the idea. I never strongly considered it because I'm the careful type, and I'm mildly germaphobic. I did go on a date with a girl that did porn once (she asked and I decided I couldn't turn down the opportunity) , but she was kinda messed up and things didn't go far.
In general I think it's easier for girls to find willing buyers too. I suspect you'd find the guys more on the recruiting/pimping side.
@@satou7574 I don't have a problem with it in principal. I do have a problem with it if I'm in a relationship with someone and they engage in this activity without my knowing.
@@andreasleonlandgren3092 it's real, and i have to say for someone who has been in a relationship with someone who has engaged in it, it's quite frightening. And we're talking about a man who is exceptionally good looking, smart, engaging, well-educated. To me, there's something in the ego that's not being fulfilled. Dr. Grande talks about this potentially being an indicator of psychopathic traits in women, but if a man were to engage does that indicate the same thing? Personally I actually don't think so. I have my own opinions. But I'm very eager to know that Dr. Grande's experience has been with this.
@@OnsceneDC It's not as common with men, it's easier for women to get something from it. And there's more encouragement for women to do it. It's not really attractive for a psychopath because getting compensated for sex generally puts you socially submissive position. Psychopathic women are more willing to do it because they know they're just playing a part 'in character' to get what they want.
I don't want to reveal too many tricks of the trade or I'd go into more detail.
I always like watching your videos and even though I don't have a wife this video does not really apply to me. But could you please, please do an analysis on the character Jack ( played by Ed Norton) in the movie "Fight Club". The, not sure if this is the correct term, protagonist a lonely, young smart professional that lives in a fantasy world (a possible schizoid personality) who actually "sees" and befriends his split-personality alter ego, role model Tyler (played by Brad Pitt). So, Jack maybe also a paranoid schizophrenic.
Some people even today don't believe multiple personality disorder even exists
He had Dissociative Identity Disorder not Schizophrenia. His mind split and he formed multiple personalities.
But we were led to believe he saw and interacted with this persnon in his reality. Have you seen the film?
@@DigitalvideotoolsOrg yes I have seen it. It's being viewed from Jacks perspective. Jack believes there is another person, but in reality he's his alter ego, Tyler. You even said it yourself his split personality and alter ego.That's multiple personality disorder which is not schizophrenia. Schizophrenia is the splitting between rationality and emotions and dissociative personality disorder/multiple personality disorder is the splitting within the personality. People confuse these 2 often.
Dana - sorry but I still didn't get yr explanation. I'm laughing at myself.
Holy shit. I had never even considered it, but my ex wife has every one of these signs except hurting animals, contract killer attempts and fascination with women who have killed their husbands (at least as far as I know). She's in prison atm for possessing a moderate amount of meth.
I just always thought her to be extremely narcissistic and unstable.
Okay not a psychopath, just a warrior
Thanks, Dr. Grande
Interesting video but i cant help but imagine the kind of messages that propped this video 😂
My father had a wife with a lot of psychopathic traits. He threw his children under the bus, let her be an unrelenting vicious tyrant- and then when asked by me many years later- why? Why? she did this? He shook his head and said she was a very good mother, she got up in the night to you when you were a baby. So my father primed me to feel ultimately grateful for having very basic needs met as a baby, and nothing to do with a parents responsibility . Primed for tolerating, second guessing and the rest.
My mother did not steal stuff etc, she had a highly religious stance. Part of her control and abuse. She did religious abstinence . The research now shows that the labelling of impulsivity as a core psychopathic feature is now flawed. It is based on research of a male prison population.
Dr. Grande just described many women in the West.
You should see the movie Dream lover .The perfect portrait of female psycopath
Psychopathy is so intriguing to me. Both real world psychopathy and the fictional construct
tell 'em Dr. Todd Grande
It all makes me feel sick. Thank you for warning us about these people.
very useful info thx 🙂
Which books do you recommend to learn the insights of A.S.P.D. ?
I had the, *Covert Flavor!*
Burrowing under my WHOLE, WORLD.
So I got psychopathic traits apparently. Good thing I'm not married but I def. Not callous. I isolate. Too tiring figuring out how I'm to act and all that.
At 6:05 onwards there's quite strong static until this video ends. Related to this, could you look into hyperacusis and misophonia? I have hyperacusis and ASMR videos create severe stress and have the exact opposite effect for me than they're designed to. The static on this video makes it difficult to focus on what you were saying.
Despite hyperacusis and misophonia being relatively common, there's little research being done about the conditions which can be quite crippling for sufferers, adversely impacting upon their relationships and affecting where and how they live and work. Your analysis of hyperacusis and misophonia would be very helpful, especially since your videos reach many people and quite a few would have or be close to someone with one or both disorders.
I always wonder about folie au doux. Could the husband's role in the relationships reinforce or deter/set limits on the psychopathic behaviors? Are they a team, in terms of being on the same psychopathic page or playing out some sort of Oedipal/child-adult script? One must always wonder, not only about the psychopathy of a wife but her choice and the role her partner plays in the relationship.
I would really like to see a video about the scientific evidence for genetic vs environmental factors in the development of cluster B disorders, especially what twin studies have to say.
Australian twin studies which are vastly larger than US ones show there is a genetic connection.
I worked with a female psychopath whose first husband figured her out rapidly - she was really socially interesting she and had to be nice to me as her partner was a friend of mine. She ended up dying from cancer partially brought on from years of heavy drug abuse. In her case her heavy drugging made her less lethal to people around her, especially her kids. Thankfully they don't have to be around her anymore. Her oldest turned out ok. Thank heaven for small favors.
These all seem pretty extreme, and readily observable. What about more subtle versions?
That means all women 😅
Phew! What a relief, I'm not a psychopath. I'm way to boring, a scaredycat & a law-abiding citizen. 😁
I was diagnosed with psychopathic traits. I'm trying to have a couple, a formal one, after a lot of time. I'm working in this vey carefully. The main challenge is that i need to "fight" for whatever reason, sometimes. I just want to create tension. It's like an impulse. We are perfect, but then i just need the tension to release a pressure that i feel inside. It's more like an instinct. Then we fix the stuff with sex.
I know it's a toxic behavior.
Now we are living together. He tells me i'm cold, and he notices my lack of emotions. I told him the truth about my condition, but he thinks it's sad.
I don't really feel sad about it, but i know i don't want to be alone forever, and he's the closest i've been with someone. The fact that i feel like he's my property, and i want to control him, makes me come closer to him in a mental level.
Me driving down the road: I am so much happier now that I am dead. Technically missing. Soon to be presumed dead. Gone. And my lying cheating oblivious-
Driving instructor: please stop that!
Spot On To Amy Question 🕊
Yes this is exactly my ex partner. Funny, when we split she said and don’t call me a psycho, others have and their wrong..
Dr Grande, you should take a look at the tv show called "Mr Robot" specifically his character elliot alderson he is a very interesting character to analyze psychologically especially for you, besides being a very good show. :D
He definitely needs to do a video about Elliot!
LOVE that show!
Oh my... I think I got a winner here 🤯
Great video thank you! 👌
Lol ! My son isn't even married, but I'm saving this one for him! 👇👏😃💞
Found the psychopath!
When you brought up the killing neighour's pets it reminded me of an old interview I saw with the wife of McDonald's shooter James Huberty. She was talking about her husband's motivations and how she herself was raised to believe an eye for an eye, and actually said "If you kill my dog I'm sure as hell gona kill your cat."
"An eye for an eye, will make the whole world blind." -Gandhi
My understanding of the definition of Machiavellian is relying on evidence-based methods in making political decisions and taking making political actions, rather than on non-evidenced-based methods.
Swapping wife for husband... the neighbours pet killing example is creepy true! He killed neighbours cats a peacock and tried to kill two dogs.
Really! I’ve got a voice recording with him admitting to smashing a cats head in and the peacock he ate.
Sea Breeze he also used to shoot birds for fun.
He had a beloved and pampered pet cat of his own, just had to kill the neighbours cat.
Yea, killing people and animals is far more typical of male psychopaths than female ones. Not saying a female wouldn’t do it, but it’s not likely. They employ relational aggression and emotional sadism much more than physical sadism.
Todd, there's a difference between infamous and famous, a serial killer typically is the former.
How about sociopathic wife, husband, child, parents or in laws?
Good god man you just described most of the women I interact with on campus. I know I'm being hyperbolic, but a lot them display many of these traits. Maybe not #9.
Wow this hit the nail right on the head
My wife comes into the room, honey look this one is about you :D And we had a nice healthy laugh, knowing such people were only on my side of the family hehe
Thank you sir i love your videos in the morning :D
No beatings? Wow. Impressive. You guys must get along!
Are there many differences between psychopathy in women and men?
My mom used my grandma to shoot my dad. He survived. Then she pushed her bf to use his law enforcement family to kill my dad n plant a gun on him. I found out. He wrote 3 letters outlining the kill scene n gave them to his lawyer, book keeper, a friend as well as a letter to be kept at home in personal belongings. He then confronted my mom n her bf (in public safety) and the stopped their plans. They at the time had cooperation of local law enforcement network with a rough date for this 2nd attack. My dad said he would back off his harassment n they said they would not set him up with the traffic stop murder by fresh out PD /new rookie assassin.
She never the less continued doing crime, fraud and compulsively lying. Eventually she tried to take my life while I slept in addition to numerous jokes about poisoning me. I never yelled at her, I never touched her. I might listen to her and she would work her self up... into a rage all by herself... I might smirk 😏 as she screamed n insulted me since I never talked back....
Listening to her too long would initiate some of the abuse I lived thru as a teen male.
Dangerous Lady. That’s what she wanted. To be dangerous.
Karam Levi I am so sorry you had to experience this. Alanon is world wide free meetings that really help support others who have been affected by addicts. Google Alanon and find a meeting in. Your area, You are strong!
beverly allison thanks I’m in ACA, martial arts, meditation and work a Pagan spiritual path while listening to HP and “try” to obey the good guides.
Had lots of issues with food n under employment / self harm via risk and success avoidance.
Punished for doing good really has been tricky to over come-
My life goal is to become neighbor of the year. If I gotta make my own trophy, so be it.
@DrGrande, I learn a lot from your videos; at the very least, they prompt research and further inquiry. Would you consider taking an analytical view of an American public figure who recently wrote of shooting the family pet in the face bc the animal proved unruly and difficult to train? Thanks.
Well this helped me with trying of figure out my dad's soon to be ex wife, but still can't put my finger on her. She's at least a grandiose narcissist, and she could be psychopathic, though I don't remember her taking the life of anything directly. We did worry about my dad a great deal and are actually surprised he's still alive, even after leaving her.
Dr Grande. Love your very concise and informative videos, but you also seem to show NO emotion at all. 🤔
It’s called ‘being professional.’ If you want sensationalized psychology videos, take your pick - RUclips is stuffed to the brim with them! No offense btw - just in a jovial mood! 😂
@@LoveHumanity4783 I agree but this guy doesn't seem to have any emotions at all. Nothing to do with professionalism. He's very much corpse-like. 😂 😂 😂
@@guytero8812 😅
@@guytero8812 I get the impression he’s followed a stable career, with a pro-social and conscientious psyche - I’m also fairly certain he may find some of the ‘excessive’ elements of my lifestyle to be a manifestation of a yet-undiagnosed cluster B jumble! 😂 I’ve already been diagnosed with ADHD and I’m almost certain I’m not narcissistic or histrionic which...well...only leaves behind the other two - neither being particularly desirable! 😂😂😂
Question. Do you find psychologists that may act more on their politics than relying on the science and their duty? How has the politics changed your industry over the last few decades?
Hi Dr. Grande,
My name is J.D and I wanted to ask 2 questions.
1. Could Dissociative Identity Disorder, OCPD and or Asperger's w/OCPD look like or be confused for adjustment Disorders or other cluster personality Disorders, especially cluster B personality (eg. ASPD, Psychopathy, Sociopathy, BPD, NPD)? For example; if your OCPD desire for morals was so strong it disregarded the law in favor of Justice. Or CPTSD obession with the abusers and or people who remind you of the abusers cause cluster B like symptoms.
2. How common is it for providers, who can diagnosis, diagnosis a Disorder code with a similar or different name? For example; Asperger's with an autism spectrum Disorder code, or Complex PTSD with a PTSD code.
I was diagnosed with congenial Asperger's w/OCPD but the DSM has recently changed, leaving me with a new ASD diagnosis I'm not yet used to. I also have been diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder w/CPTSD.
Hope all is well. Hope to hear from you soon.
wow this is a really interesting question.
please more videos about females!
Oh. I’m a psychopath. Thanks doc.
8:48 Oh man I totally overlooked sign #9, I would never have guessed this would mean my wife is a psychopath. Thank you so much for letting me know 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
doesnt necessarily have to be, but it can be related, so its still a valid point. not sure ehy ure so full of yourself, as if you made a clever statement or something.
Essentially, anything that you would do to please yourself could be considered “” psycho pathic
My Psychopathic ex-girlfriend played a very long game. After we got engaged she went off to New Zealand to study to be a veterinarian. I was supposed to follow her and we were going to begin our life together after dating for 7 years. She made sure I gave up my business and sold my house. And then broke up with me. Without any explanation. Psychopathic women are like cats. Expect to be the mouse they will play with you till they are bored, they might kill you or they might just walk away and look for a new victim. I felt it coming my Spidey senses worked but I suppress them. The moral of the story never oppress your Spidey senses. Pay attention to everything a person does says and the way their facial expressions work. This woman had a dead eye stare and never laughed at appropriate times, these were the dead giveaways that I was too innocent to recognize at the time. I want soccer kick a cat pretty hard with no remorse. I'm sure she'll make a great veterinarian. She is very clinical and has a huge ego and cannot stand losing or having anyone be superior to her.
My only hope is that the radiation from Fukushima affects her in some negative way. That's right I've studied some philosophy now.
I believe Makaveli made some of the best points.
what if a type one male and type 2 female are in a relationship?
so i guess someone with psycopath traits will also have the npd traits. but someone with npd doesnt mean that they are psycopath. is it true?
(sorry for my bad english)
I really want to hear the man with Psychopathic traits because I think I dated a psychopath he has animal cruelty he killed his dog he has fire-setting, burglary.and then he went to women and started beating them and it has a long list of restraining orders, dv incarcerations, and aggravated assaults. As well as verbally financially sexually abusive and on top of that he likes to pit people against each other thinking either he's a psychopath sociopath or malignant narcissist but I really listen to these videos to get myself educated. Thanks again I love your videos
I do too. It always bothers me thinking about my ex...was he only a narcissist or more? Because by women's standards he more or less was a psychopath or on the spectrum if that's possible...
I would say he's a Psychopath.
Sociopaths and Narcissists, as deviant and abusive as they can be, they only do things if it has a point to it. If they can benefit from it or gain somehow by doing something to someone. Meaning that even though they have "impulsive tendencies" they still maintain a form of risk vs. reward assessment.
Psychopaths, will do anything on a whim, spur of the moment, regardless of severity, regardless of beneficial gain from it, regardless of risk vs. reward.
Example: The killing of animals. It's erratic, it's senseless, there's no other point to it except to impusively let off steam in a very disturbing, un-empathetic way. An example of extreme "sensation seeking."
Despite what other people may say, I can almost guarantee you that you will NOT see a Sociopath or Narcissist display this *severe* level of impulsive, reckless, un-empathetic, and sensation-seeking behavior. This type of behavior is THE "calling card" that seperates a Psychopath from the other 2.
So yeah, I'd say Psychopath.
Just for fun do one on kleptomania 😁
I had a friend with Kleptomania. He felt better when he took something for it (rim shot).
oooh yeah
I fight with myself every single day. I dont know why. My father is a malignant narcisist. I dont think that im a narcisist too, but i have serious problems. I have traces of a antissocial disorder and i dont have any emotions throught the day. It is a genetic component ?
Postpartum-Borderline disaster - My wife was amazing for 14 years, until she gave birth, after birth it's like her body became possessed by the Devil, overspending, cheating with a coworker, extreme anger, fear of abandonment, 100% disrespect, sleeps in another room, emotional time-bomb, hits me hard if I try to even giver her a hug yet if I left she would meltdown & quite possibly hurt our son.
Is it possible for a socio-psycho pathic person to develope deeper emotional connections with a person and can this change how they are?
Can they truly care for another, even if they see them as. Property? If not, can they themselves believe that they are changing because they care for another person. Will it always be temporary?
Past the 6:06 mark the sound quality changes drastically, with the background noise(hissing, you could say) being there up until the end of the video. Could be an error on youtube's part, but I figured it's good to let you know early.
This was my fault - I forgot to adjust the audio on the second raw footage clip
@@DrGrande makes sense
either way, a decent video
can't wait for the one with the psychopath husband so I can show it to my wife