As discussed in a previous episode, if a man is rich and attractive, he isn't going to be loyal - so this is the hardest man to lock down. That said, even movie stars and world leaders settle down - so it is possible to get them to commit. To do so, however, it is not enough for a woman to be attractive and inoffensive: she must captivate him emotionally, as well. By channeling her inner Scheherazade, a woman can weave a story that can enchant even the most recalcitrant rake. This is how to marry a rich, attractive man. Join my community: the-captains-quarters.mn.co Buy my book, "The Value of Others" Ebook: amzn.to/460uGrA Audiobook: amzn.to/3YfFwbx Paperback: amzn.to/3xQuIFK Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Subscribe to my newsletter: oriontarabanpsyd.com Social Media TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@oriontaraban Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: ruclips.net/video/WrXBzQ2HDEQ/видео.html Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: ruclips.net/channel/UCSduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXwjoin Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #women #marriage
ultra rich men care about the women who they had a physical relationship with? wow you sure are completely out of touch with reality. firstly being attractive and a physical relationship is available in plenty for these men - so no, no gate opens from that. secondly these men get bored pretty easily..at best 1 or 2 years and they have the luxury and opportunity to move on to the next emotionally captivating woman. ladies, having your own job and your independence is a lot easier than this - focus on yourself and your job, so you are ready to face anything that comes with life....respect goes both ways. Many women who checked all these boxes you mention have also been kicked out, because the guy got bored and has the opportunity to move on to next woman. It is not only being offensive that causes the kick out - and if the guy keeps on cheating it is hard not to be offensive which most ultra rich men are....get your facts straight first
That's why you don't marry them AND lawfare-proof yourself so that if she doesn't act right, you show her the door, and she only leaves with what she came in with, leaving the kids and your resources behind with you. If you make that all clear BEFOREHAND, she'll be FAR more amenable than a gal with The State that you entered a three-way polyamorous marriage with. That, and if she tries to argue with you, you remind her that *(1)* you told her exactly what she was getting into from the start, *(2)* she chose you and those conditions anyway, and *(3)* she's welcome to leave at ANY time for ANY reason and try rebuild everything she build with _you_ with _another guy_ who _IS_ willing to put up with her nonsense. She reserves the right to leave at any time for any reason, you reserve the right to withdraw commitment and privileges and retain the kids and assets. Require that she, her family, and friends sign some NDAs, then her a few other things, and they can't even gossip about you negatively after, lest you crush them in court.
This is why women shouldn’t be prioritising men at all. Decentering men is the best thing any woman can do. Even getting with high value men is rarely worth it. It brings its own set of headaches, problems and control. But the competition for these men is so high and not worth the effort when the chance of success is low and after getting him, he is even more insufferable. Investing in herself with all her time and effort will give her far more rewards later on. Nothing is worth more than freedom. If a woman wants marriage and kids, she should play the field and then get with an average man when she wants to settle, but still be cautious about everything while in the relationship and not baby him. If a woman wants only a child, there are options for that too. In any case, the woman should have fewer kids later in life. But always, always prioritise lifetime financial stability and security above all else. Ofcourse being child free by choice and single is the best thing if she wants the best quality of life.
@@manifest2203 You make me so glad I invested in cat products and wine producers; gals like you might ruin the world and yourselves, but at least you enrich me doing it. By all means, proceed to cope about not getting high class men and preserving your freedom. Cha-Ching! 💲🤑💲
I managed to do this just by being me, and happily married for 17 years. My husband calls me an outlier - different from any other woman he dated. I'm pretty enough, but I'm also logical, self aware, intuitive, and can read people well. He comes to me when he has a business problem, and we solve it together. Everyday and in different ways I tell him what an amazing husband, father, and provider he is because it's true.
Another thought, in re "if he likes this, do that, if he likes that, do this". I would suggest to the ladies out there that you can't live a lie. If you're a charming conversationalist, go for the guys who appreciate that. If you're a skittish romantic temptress, go for the guys who love the chase. While we're at it, let's relax the wealth criterion for the guy, and apply this advice to all women: find a guy who appreciates your character traits.
Just because a guy appreciates her character traits doesn't mean that she is attracted to him and wants to be with him. If she is searching for a wealthy and attractive man who also appreciates her character traits then that pool goes from extremely small to 1 tenth the size. This video is advice on how to capture that man, not settle for a man that likes her for being her.
I have rarely seen an attractive woman under 35 who cares what men think or want. And almost all are already married because they are less than 10% of the population
@@sole008 high value man does not equate only monetary status as this guy suggests. It implies a code of behaviour too. And yes I have dated rich asshole whom I left for disloyalty and arrogant behaviour.
The basic assumption of Mr Tariban is that all men and women are mature adults with a natural and reflected mindset. My experience (63 y. white European male, psychologist, father of two adults, happily married) is, related to both genders, money don't provides any long lasting joy to your life. Friendship does. How to get a real friend? Be a real friend. Law of attraction. Most people are somehow out of balance and/or have suffered frustrations and disappointments from the childhood. Without selfremembering and selreflection, without honestly clearing out the own past, we attract a similar partner who is unfit for a deep relationship.
@@thinkbig5438 That's because most long term relationships have always historically been transactional in nature. Only modern relationships subsist on 'love' and we can see how well that's going.
@ Oh, romance has not been absent in the past. And I do not disagree on the general idea. I simply disagree that it’s the ONLY dimension that one can look at. I still think that friendship is the best base for a long-term romantic relationship for example. From a more „school of thought“ perspective - I find people to be way less rational than economics assumes. Hence the theories based on economics logic alone often lack projective power (see voting behavior etc) I wouldn’t be surprised to find similar shortcomings in „mating science“. If they were better, dating apps should have higher success rates in bringing people together.
Even though what your saying is true, in defence or Mr. Taraban, he merely gives people a strategy to get what they want. As opposed to telling them what they should look for. Because I was we know all to well most people aren't interested in doing what they should be doing or pursuing what they should be pursuing. He gives such advice in other videos.
I have a friend who did this. Her husband is more loyal and rich than attractive, but she is quite the catch and she put in the effort for years to be so.
This perspective brings up an interesting point about the complexities of relationships and attraction. While it's true that emotional connection plays a crucial role in long-term commitment, it's important to remember that relationships are built on mutual respect, shared values, and communication-not just emotional captivation. Every person, regardless of wealth or status, has their own needs and desires when it comes to forming meaningful connections. It's about finding balance and authenticity, rather than just trying to "lock someone down." Ultimately, true partnership is rooted in trust, understanding, and genuine emotional connection, not manipulation or strategy.
@classactracing Lapses in respect was the entire reason I ended my last relationship. There were other contributing factors. But the amount of GOOD in the relationship would've outweighed all the other problems. But there would always be an unwarranted disrespectful comment once in a while and eventually I just realized she couldn't help it, so I left. She later said she only did those things because she was jealous that other women were always showing me interest. I told her she should've addressed that to me during one of the [too] many times I addressed her disrespect and I would've immediately tried to help with it. Because now it just sounds like a lie to excuse her behavior
07:30 "The story of 1001 nights" is a good old Persian story that when I was a kid I liked so much. I highly recommend it. Most of it's tales happened centuries ago in modern day Iran, Afganistan, Tajikstan, Kazakstan, Syria and Iraq.
The tale of "Scherherazade" who told 1001 nights is my archetypical heroine; Orion truncated it perhaps for brevity. The king (and his brother) wedded, bedded then executed woman after woman in fear that she might murder him. Scherherazade was the vizier's daughter believed she could break the spell and teach the king that women could be beautiful, trustworthy and INTERESTING. After 1001 nights, she bore him several sons and finally finished her tale. He in turn ended his commitment to execution, having a change of heart about women and "they lived happily ever after" 🤪
Great video! I also want to share my experience. I had a music gig once and told my gf “just so you know, the night of the gig I will be very stressed and focused. Best you don’t talk to me.” Instead of taking offense like most people would, she went around the club to make sure all the friends I invited felt welcomed. She will spot people who felt left out and introduced them to my other friends. Many friends told me afterwards how nice she was and they didn’t expect such an attractive woman will be so approachable. Before her I was dating another woman who will judge my friends. Whenever I invited her out with me, she will consider whether the people I will meet are even worth her time to make an appearance. My current gf is so different from the previous one in that respect that made me appreciate her a lot more. As you said Orion, there are plenty of attractive women out there, but very few will really make themselves valuable outside of their looks.
Thanks for this video. It is my favourite. My father was a powerful man, a business man, a politician, very attractive, very traditional who provides everything for everyone in the family. My mother was the best when my father found her but my mother didn't know how to capture him and kept up with his lifestyle so she ended up losing him with a very clever woman. My mother has chosen to be a housewife only all her life. She did not try to improve her education and kept up with the modern world. She did not like spending time and working with him. A very busy man like him needs lots of emotional support. I am the only child who likes to defend him when I heard she complained that he cheated on her.
Ladies, his advice is true wisdom. I know it may be hard, but as he said at the end, the multitude of women who are too proud to do any extra effort after being "hired" make it much easier for you to stand out if you put in even little effort.
This is why women shouldn’t be prioritising men at all. Decentering men is the best thing any woman can do. Even getting with high value men is rarely worth it. It brings its own set of headaches, problems and control. But the competition for these men is so high and not worth the effort when the chance of success is low and after getting him, he is even more insufferable. Investing in herself with all her time and effort will give her far more rewards later on. Nothing is worth more than freedom. If a woman wants marriage and kids, she should play the field and then get with an average man when she wants to settle, but still be cautious about everything while in the relationship and not baby him. If a woman wants only a child, there are options for that too. In any case, the woman should have fewer kids later in life. But always, always prioritise lifetime financial stability and security above all else. Ofcourse being child free by choice and single is the best thing if she wants the best quality of life.
Absolutely brilliant - per usual. People love to judge gold diggers and in doing so ignore the fact that successful gold diggers have to be more attractive, charming, and masterful observers of men, than women who claim to not care about attracting a wealthy partner. Any woman can get a man who breathes. Only a select few women will ever have a shot at totally captivating a man with “change your life” money and they usually fumble for the reasons you mentioned in this video.
You are so right. But imo women shouldn’t be prioritising men at all. Decentering men is the best thing any woman can do. Even getting with high value men is rarely worth it. It brings its own set of headaches, problems and control. But the competition for these men is so high and not worth the effort when the chance of success is low and after getting him, he is even more insufferable. Investing in herself with all her time and effort will give her far more rewards later on. Nothing is worth more than freedom. If a woman wants marriage and kids, she should play the field and then get with an average man when she wants to settle, but still be cautious about everything while in the relationship and not baby him. If a woman wants only a child, there are options for that too. In any case, the woman should have fewer kids later in life. But always, always prioritise lifetime financial stability and security above all else. Ofcourse being child free by choice and single is the best thing if she wants the best quality of life.
@ babe I am sure you believe what you wrote but it’s not at all accurate. I have a lot of millionaires in my social circle and being able to beat out the competition to be with one of them is 10000000000% worth it! Also after 35 most women prefer not to work and get mad if they haven’t figured out how to make work optional. I graduated from law school ten years ago and probably half of the people I graduated with are partners at big law firms who make high six or low seven figures annually. Don’t let the internet fool you. Getting married to a wealthy man is literally one of the best decisions a woman can make for herself and her children.
To me, a gold digger just wants to get pregnant and live off the child support. What you're describing is what I would call a trophy wife and I haven't seen one of those in a long, long time.
@ also… I have a girlfriend who was a boss babe executive who made tons of money and married and average guy for love. He cheated, got someone pregnant, and then was able to get spousal support when my friend filed for divorce because she was the higher earning spouse. She did the sad single mon thing for a minute but then remarried a wealthy man who earns over a million a year. They have been together almost 15 years. If she wants a divorce she would literally walk away with millions. Not saying she couldn’t have eventually earned it herself, but she got to be a full time mom instead and is still rich. Anyone who tries to tell you it’s not worth the effort to date rich either is lying or just trying to spare you hurt feelings because they don’t think you have what it takes.
Dr. Orion, you are incredibly smart and observant. You absolutely have me pinned from an intellectual standpoint. But I won't leave a commensurate donation until something actually changes for the better in my life as a result of applying your concepts. Until then, it's all just theorizing. Respectfully.
I would argue that a plurality (if not a majority) of rich and attractive men are loyal to their spouses. That said, the formula for marrying such a man is simple and age-old. The 5 F's is all a woman needs. To catch a man be Friendly, Feminine, and Fit. To keep that man be Faithful and Family oriented. That's it. No degree or special training necessary. Almost every woman can do it.
For about a year I've said the same thing: I want a woman that satisfies the 3 Fs, taken from another channel, Fit, Friendly and Feminine. I added a fourth: Fun. You just gave me a fifth: Faithful. You are correct that every woman should be able to do it. Surprisingly, they can't. It's so easy to do the Friendly and Feminine parts but there are so many who can't even do that, even if they are Fit which is becoming a rarity. Therefore it's rare to find a woman that are 3F, and hope she'll be Faithful.
@@pierrelevasseur2701 Personally, I put 'Fun' in with 'Friendly'. My list of F's for dating is Friendly (fun), Faithful, Fit. My list of F's for a relationship is Friendly, Faithful, Family (oriented), Fit, Frugal, Feminine - in that order. I have the purse strings and am okay with tom-boy types so Frugal and Feminine come last, lol.
Its like saying every man should easily be able to be the 4 M's: muscular, mature, money, and macho. Unfortunately, men and women are lazy and will rarely become the 4 M's or 4 F's. We are much more likely to be lazy, default to factory settings, and just type stuff from the comments section.
@ I hear you on that but I do look at it differently. I think you have to heavily vet a woman to enter your life but once she is there you have to lead and direct her.
This is why women shouldn’t be prioritising men at all. Decentering men is the best thing any woman can do. Even getting with high value men is rarely worth it. It brings its own set of headaches, problems and control. But the competition for these men is so high and not worth the effort when the chance of success is low and after getting him, he is even more insufferable. Investing in herself with all her time and effort will give her far more rewards later on. Nothing is worth more than freedom. If a woman wants marriage and kids, she should play the field and then get with an average man when she wants to settle, but still be cautious about everything while in the relationship and not baby him. If a woman wants only a child, there are options for that too. In any case, the woman should have fewer kids later in life. But always, always prioritise lifetime financial stability and security above all else. Ofcourse being child free by choice and single is the best thing if she wants the best quality of life.
@ I have never met a single woman without children who I would describe as even remotely happy or well adjusted. Women need men for validation far more than men need women for anything. Your entire existence is defined and centered around men. We have an entire legal system and cultural system to enforce men’s obligations to women not the other way around. Your statement sounds good until you examine it and you do not even believe the words you type.
I was wondering exactly the same thing, SV. Funny how that works, isn't it? To pick up on Dr. T's Arabian theme, Brad thirsts in the desert, Chad luxuriates at the oasis.
The woman has got to be easy to get along with a good sense of humor not take herself too seriously be Kind-hearted Intelligent and very Generous of spirit. She needs to be loving and very supportive of her man.
11:46 As a woman, I love how so many women have the dense attitude, mindsets, and behaviours they do. They’ve made it so easy for the rest of us. They eliminate themselves as competition just by being them lol.
Yes I second that! I’m in my forties and drowning in attention from men of all ages because younger women are too silly and entitled. I’m a breath of fresh air to them because I’m interesting, witty and make them feel amazing.
My parents have remained together their whole marriage so I'm putting the effort to be a good woman because I want to be a good parent. Everyone will realise something ugly about themselves on the journey to success. I've learnt to embrace the cold ugly and hug it tight, doing so it transforms into a fiery beauty. I have hope in God and myself I can become a woman worth living for just as I want the same for my future husband ❤
Always appreciate your advice and your take on dating and mating. 11:06 You are ALWAYS spot on! And this is coming from a 57 year-old long time divorcee dating a very high valued 42-year-old man! Your content has been invaluable helping me to navigate and get what I want from this “relationship.”
My ex was rich (we both didn’t have to work and I did whatever I wanted), good looking (he had a stomach but it wasn’t a big deal, he was still handsome), and didn’t cheat. We last 17 years but I divorced him because he was emotionally unavailable and unstable. Not abusive, not a tyrant, but definitely unstable. Together with the complete lack of affection, sex, even just conversation or companionship, I couldn’t hold on even for the kids, because I started losing my sanity. He was home 24/7, doing his own thing. Acted like he didn’t need to act like a husband since I had an open credit card and kids to focus on. But I needed love, still. And I’ve found that in my current marriage with a middle class man, and am very happy. Still trying to be a good coparent with my ex, since he’s not a bad man. But couldn’t live the rest of my life like that. Would rather budget and even go back to work.
This is very interesting, seems that you ended up valuing more loyalty than the other 2 factors Dr Tariban talks about. Have you find your case a very small % of the of woman that you have encountered in your life?
you could disscuss it and it sounds like a minor problem. So you divorced simply because you was bored. If he was emotionaly not open to you it is your fault to not making him feel secure about it. I hope the children will not take any damage from you unresponsible behaviour.
An honest woman wants to be totally known by her husband. She should be the princess of his life. If he's not interested in her as his default behavior, she's going to lose her self confidence and lose her interest in her marriage.
@@lonefloppaThat’s a possibility, but by no means a certainty. We don’t know either person or the real details. From the outside, it’s impossible to know the reality of a marriage. He may have been too self centered, or she may have done something to cause him to withdraw or any number of things. Sounds like she is being reasonable and has good priorities and is sharing to help us all understand, so we should take it at face value, IMO.
There are some women like Seherezade, who can't be controlled by anyone. They are magic, but if you want more from them, you must go by their rules, or at least make compromises. If you want to get them forever, you must renew, leave your bad habbits, be the best version of yourself. They never leave you the way you were before....
Bull's eye. Perfection. In fact, the captivating quality can carry the victory even in the absence of physical attractiveness since it is literally like a drug. A woman like that captivated the actual king of the UK and there you have it. He basically shows the finger to anyone who comments on what a "home-wrecking hag" she is. Superb victory of the couple, as it should be. What humans crave more than anything, subconsciously, is to be seen, understood and connected with at the soul level. When the internal match clicks, everything else becomes secondary, including any trophy markers. Btw, that's Romanticism, Dr. Taraban, not an invention of the poor guy. Glorious stuff.
Be very attractive, be interesting, speak different languages, know how to move in high society and be sure to know how to do things like golf, ski, and play tennis. Be in proximity to wealthy men. DO NOT go around being "sexually available" to any man. A high quality man won't stop pursuing a high quality woman because she refuses to give him her body right away. This guy doesn't have a clue and it's because he's not a wealthy attractive man.
I find Dr. T cute and informative. The sex thing I agree with you about but in a lot of instances some women are still able to gain access to these men that way sadly
@jasminealexia Yeah "cute" but definitely not sexy nor handsome nor attractive. He cannot give any meaningful advice in that area because he hasn't experienced it. The same goes for massive wealth. The only women who can possibly use sex to hook a wealthy man must be extremely attractive AND the man has to want her. And if he really wants her for marriage and family, he will respect her wishes not to jump into bed quickly.
Not only it is information, I learnt many a few great ways to put thoughts into words. And with the King story to sum up the idea, it gives the video a wholesome completion. Please try and include stories like this in the videos. It kinda makes it a little more entertaining and engaging. Awesome video my good man !!
@@safffff1000 if said as "sending away" the story wouldn't have any juice because the lady who survived 1001 days isn't fighting anything big. She managed to evade death for 1001 days. Else she just managed to be not "sent away".
@@manos7629 Why would a woman want a murderer that kills the women he screws? She would be as bad as him and I feel sorry for the kingdom they rule, like Count Dracula domain
If this ie the end goal for a woman she is shallow and egocentric. There is nothing richer in this short life than loving one man with great character, having and loving his children and navigating a complicated life with him being at the helm being respected and appreciated by his wife and children ❤️. That is rich!
Women do not respect men who don’t financially provide and send them to work when they are 9 months pregnant , in order to pay bills 50/50. Character is not enough. Men are required to be a financial provider. This is the main cause of unhappiness and divorce for women
Kinda, the problem is that the billionaire is willing to “spend the night” with a lady without commitment. For a woman, she thinks that means that he actually liked her and is willing to invest in her because “Well that’s what me ‘spending the night’ for me means.” There was actually a reason why “spending the night” has usually been gatekept by marriage: for the woman it means commitment for her and her children and security, but for the man, it meant exclusive access to her and companionship. We “liberated” away from that and now we have very messed up LTR’s.
There are many more top models than there are billionaires. The real challenge for most attractive women is to find a man who earns the same or more as her and who is not a cheap 50/50 effeminate beta male
Being sexually available is the wrong advice. I married rich and being sexually available was definitely not why. Also most successful men aren’t that sex obsessed, they are work obsessed. They want a helper, someone who thinks of ways to help them get to the next level. Don’t listen to this bad advice, you can be flirty but do not give it up quickly, give him a massage or something in the beginning and let him cuddle your his son after a hard long day/week in the first few months. But ultimately you know when it feels right for both of you.
Not one of my friends group wants a helper…😅😅😅 I’m not super wealthy but retired at 38 haven’t worked in 5 years now. I and all my friends wanted someone young, fit and beautiful.
after 2 bad relationships in my youth caused me to be a savage with men omg. I did everything you said I shouldn't no wonder. clearly something i'm working on fixing. I would like to get married at one point in my life ❤
I've spent time around wealthy people myself, and I have to say, they tend to marry other wealthy people, it's like people sticking togeather in the same class. A woman with good looks can achieve this but these men aren't stupid, they even get used to women just using them for their money, and don't tend to marry or even respect them back, although they won't turn down sex. The story he gives seems to be taken from the usual dating coach doctrine, garbage if you ask me, I've never seen it work like that myself. Some wealthy men even marry women who aren't very attractive but she's loyal, submissive, even supportive and has other qualities, patience and listening to him helps,. Even if it's just the money (and they're used to it from women by a certain age), hide it as much as you can, truth is, their life can be very stressful, and not always fulfilling, so you need to comfort him about it, on top of other things, he can choose to stay with you, but whatever you do, don't give him anymore stress or make life difficult for him, they want the opposite really.
Pretty much. Only a gold digger gets the rich beta simp and that doesn’t last long cuz all they’re after is that divorce for the cash and prizes💰💰💰💰💰 the rich female gets even richer when they initiate the divorce after having kids 🤣the same story EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. 😂
@@LisaCulton Agreed, he's a qualified pyschologist but borrowing from the dating coach doctrine, fairly cool-headed and logical about things though. But, I doubt he's really spend time around these people and seen how it works out amongst them. Running a business and making a lot of money can be very stressful, being born into is different as well, they stick to their own class and rarely marry beneath. She can be very pretty, but if she's from a lower class, it can work against her, especially long term and for marriage, I've seen it myself.
You have a good point but I think he is right I also looked into this and realized that Rich people are most likely to marry each other because they hang out and meet up in similar places. A broke person won’t be in a rich private school. But the psychological behind getting the rich person is the same
@@themindsculptor_ It's not just going to the same schools and social circles, it's their attitude and mentality. I've even seen poorer women deliberate hang out in certain areas and places like restaurants in hope of encounting a wealthy man. They're used to people being friendly simply because they're rich and influential as well, and people playing games in order to use them, some of these men are sick and tired of it even.
I’m going to read Melania Trump’s book to find out. 😂😂😂. You’re right about these men. I have an old album of Jewish humor. There’s a woman who talks about the Klopnick curse. She has the biggest diamond wedding ring that anyone has ever seen. She explained what the curse is that comes with the diamond: Mr. Klopnick!!
This is brilliant. I knew he was talking about Scherazade before he ever mentioned her, but never heard the story related in this context. Channel your inner Scherazade, ladies. Sex alone isn't enough, at least not for me.
And here I thought “Men are simple” & “Men want peace”. Anyhow, as a woman who puts effort, I realized a lot of males are rich in their heads & delusional. I don’t want a relationship from them & that offends them. Just the thought of having to be around an arrogant megalomaniac doesn’t excite me. It scares me. And no amount of money in the universe will ever make me want him. What excites me is a man who’s just chill, authentic & humble. Shallow men attract shallow women. & vice versa. Simple as that. I do think this video goes to show males are not any different than females nowadays. A lot of people are influenced by social media & p*rnography. Once the fake excitement wears off & reality kicks in, life will be boring. Then what? Y’ll backstab each other? Yeah no thanks. I want peace too. Glad I met a man who also does.
Want to marry a high value man? Marry him before he comes up. Extremely hard to get a man who’s already up. He’s had lots of chances for marriage at that point and passed. He’ll probably pass on you too.
I managed to do this. My husband is the focus of my attention when he is home. I greet him at the door with a big smile and the smell of a four course dinner almost ready. I bring him coffee in bed. He gets those face-melting experiences that Dr Taraban said he would like. He likes them. And he’s loyal.
Women can have fun with anything! Anything! So many women are multidimensional and I actually find so many men boring. 80% let's say. Dear women...Be yourself and you are already a step ahead of any man as long as he interests you.
This is why women shouldn’t be prioritising men at all. Decentering men is the best thing any woman can do. Even getting with high value men is rarely worth it. It brings its own set of headaches, problems and control. But the competition for these men is so high and not worth the effort when the chance of success is low and after getting him, he is even more insufferable. Investing in herself with all her time and effort will give her far more rewards later on. Nothing is worth more than freedom. If a woman wants marriage and kids, she should play the field and then get with an average man when she wants to settle, but still be cautious about everything while in the relationship and not baby him. If a woman wants only a child, there are options for that too. In any case, the woman should have fewer kids later in life. But always, always prioritise lifetime financial stability and security above all else. Ofcourse being child free by choice and single is the best thing if she wants the best quality of life.
@@peterpage9017 companionship, sex, kids, practical help around the house etc. All the normal things that men provide. I'm not saying I would offer zero money, I just wouldn't lead with it, because that just attracts gold diggers. I would want someone to like me for ME. Perhaps that's a bit of a pipe dream, but it would be worth a try.
Understandable. But the whole "she loves me for me" thing is a bit blue pill. Briffault's law states that women mate and date for gain. They only enter into relationships where they can extract benefit from the man.
Any man with money knows his window is about 18-23 for a woman he intends to keep. Same as victoria secret. They aim to keep the ones at highest market value.
@@ruantristancarlinsky3851 I doubt you're rich or whatever you're saying. The poor boy was asking respectfully and this is how you respond. Sham on you.🚮
@ruantristancarlinsky3851 I doubt you're rich or whatever you're saying. The poor guy was asking respectfully and you answer him like this. Wow so much for being rich in impoliteness.
Interesting stuff, doc! Of course, the cynic in me is laughing like a loon, watching you "mansplain" how to be a gold-digger. "Ladies, you're doing it all wrong!" To be fair, if your goal is to snag a man, it makes sense to get a man's point of view on what works. If that man is a psychologist, all the better.
To be fair, these days, the ladies ARE doing it all wrong. Entitled, vacuous, vainglorious and shallow women all over social media. Just look at the divorce numbers. True, lots of guys the same but they aren’t trying to nail down anyone.
Even if that's true (very suspicious claim) are they actually happy with no man in their lives? Relationships are work, but very few people are truly happy with living out their days alone.
When these women get divorced they have millions in the bank account. When a single woman finishes her career she is broke due to the single cost of living , has no children and has a number of stress related illnesses caused by toxic corporate culture
Scheherazade was genuine that's why the King wifed her up. This advice is not for fake short-time actress, but a woman who cultivated herself all her life to be charming etc. that has genuine interest in that man. He certainly had to perform admirably all his life to be successful. Quid pro quo. This isn't hard to understand. NOTHING in life is free! Only a gold digger/actress would think so. In any case it's wahmen who initiate most of the breakups so, a hard NO to her claim. Circling back to - 2/3 of rich, charming/personable or loyal. The 5 F's is all a woman needs. To catch a man be Friendly[includes accommodating, not disagreeable], Feminine, and Fit. To keep that man be Faithful and Family oriented. That's it. No degree or special training necessary. Almost every woman can do it. Being clever, beguiling, enchanting, stimulating and intelligent is part of being feminine. BTW, a smart man of value either never owns anything in his name or has a prenuptial in place...or both. Ya, so NO! to those schemers/gold diggers. 👍
As discussed in a previous episode, if a man is rich and attractive, he isn't going to be loyal - so this is the hardest man to lock down. That said, even movie stars and world leaders settle down - so it is possible to get them to commit. To do so, however, it is not enough for a woman to be attractive and inoffensive: she must captivate him emotionally, as well. By channeling her inner Scheherazade, a woman can weave a story that can enchant even the most recalcitrant rake. This is how to marry a rich, attractive man.
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@@oh_k8 How many men of any level of income & physical appeal/charm are actually 100% faithful? Perhaps the most religious? Ohterwise stop dreaming.
ultra rich men care about the women who they had a physical relationship with? wow you sure are completely out of touch with reality. firstly being attractive and a physical relationship is available in plenty for these men - so no, no gate opens from that. secondly these men get bored pretty easily..at best 1 or 2 years and they have the luxury and opportunity to move on to the next emotionally captivating woman. ladies, having your own job and your independence is a lot easier than this - focus on yourself and your job, so you are ready to face anything that comes with life....respect goes both ways. Many women who checked all these boxes you mention have also been kicked out, because the guy got bored and has the opportunity to move on to next woman. It is not only being offensive that causes the kick out - and if the guy keeps on cheating it is hard not to be offensive which most ultra rich men are....get your facts straight first
@@directorchris2 show me on the doll where the mean Dr. Taraban hurt you.
😏😏😏Waiting for the "how to marry a rich attractive girl"! I thought will end the phrase with woman but then I saw "man" and i said "noooo" 😏
"You were attractive enough to be hired, but too offensive to be kept." This perfectly summarizes the problem with many modern-day Western women.
Yup
That's why you don't marry them AND lawfare-proof yourself so that if she doesn't act right, you show her the door, and she only leaves with what she came in with, leaving the kids and your resources behind with you.
If you make that all clear BEFOREHAND, she'll be FAR more amenable than a gal with The State that you entered a three-way polyamorous marriage with. That, and if she tries to argue with you, you remind her that *(1)* you told her exactly what she was getting into from the start, *(2)* she chose you and those conditions anyway, and *(3)* she's welcome to leave at ANY time for ANY reason and try rebuild everything she build with _you_ with _another guy_ who _IS_ willing to put up with her nonsense.
She reserves the right to leave at any time for any reason, you reserve the right to withdraw commitment and privileges and retain the kids and assets. Require that she, her family, and friends sign some NDAs, then her a few other things, and they can't even gossip about you negatively after, lest you crush them in court.
They always break out the vape pen and I break for the door.
This is why women shouldn’t be prioritising men at all. Decentering men is the best thing any woman can do. Even getting with high value men is rarely worth it. It brings its own set of headaches, problems and control. But the competition for these men is so high and not worth the effort when the chance of success is low and after getting him, he is even more insufferable. Investing in herself with all her time and effort will give her far more rewards later on. Nothing is worth more than freedom.
If a woman wants marriage and kids, she should play the field and then get with an average man when she wants to settle, but still be cautious about everything while in the relationship and not baby him. If a woman wants only a child, there are options for that too. In any case, the woman should have fewer kids later in life. But always, always prioritise lifetime financial stability and security above all else. Ofcourse being child free by choice and single is the best thing if she wants the best quality of life.
@@manifest2203
You make me so glad I invested in cat products and wine producers; gals like you might ruin the world and yourselves, but at least you enrich me doing it.
By all means, proceed to cope about not getting high class men and preserving your freedom. Cha-Ching! 💲🤑💲
I managed to do this just by being me, and happily married for 17 years. My husband calls me an outlier - different from any other woman he dated. I'm pretty enough, but I'm also logical, self aware, intuitive, and can read people well. He comes to me when he has a business problem, and we solve it together. Everyday and in different ways I tell him what an amazing husband, father, and provider he is because it's true.
Why marry? Lol
Awesome ❤️
@@ragnapraxis4657 ....because nothing feels better when you get it right.
@@ragnapraxis4657 Tru
@@NiTeFiSe.collie Because you are a rare find, INTJ!
Another thought, in re "if he likes this, do that, if he likes that, do this". I would suggest to the ladies out there that you can't live a lie. If you're a charming conversationalist, go for the guys who appreciate that. If you're a skittish romantic temptress, go for the guys who love the chase. While we're at it, let's relax the wealth criterion for the guy, and apply this advice to all women: find a guy who appreciates your character traits.
Mature advice, better than the video! 👍🏻
@@frankbarenbach6044 it seems like about twenty percent of people are capable of change.
Just because a guy appreciates her character traits doesn't mean that she is attracted to him and wants to be with him.
If she is searching for a wealthy and attractive man who also appreciates her character traits then that pool goes from extremely small to 1 tenth the size.
This video is advice on how to capture that man, not settle for a man that likes her for being her.
@@officedepot31 you don't understand what's written in comment.
the top comment just went offside don't you think@@ilyaandrienko9956
If you really want to attract a king, you should first read Feminine Ancient Blessings by Lentlish, life-changing book
I’ve read that one, ngl it was helpful
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@milkshooter75 haaaa one of those guys trying to get validated
Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting…
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MOST modern women are attractive enough to be "hired" for a short time but too offensive to get a contract for the long term.
I have rarely seen an attractive woman under 35 who cares what men think or want. And almost all are already married because they are less than 10% of the population
Men too. Can hire them for short term but they too offensive to be hired for long term. It’s always me who left.
MOST? Have you walked through a Walmart ever?
@@GeniDeka we are talking about men of high value not the dudes that you date.
@@sole008 high value man does not equate only monetary status as this guy suggests. It implies a code of behaviour too. And yes I have dated rich asshole whom I left for disloyalty and arrogant behaviour.
The basic assumption of Mr Tariban is that all men and women are mature adults with a natural and reflected mindset. My experience (63 y. white European male, psychologist, father of two adults, happily married) is, related to both genders, money don't provides any long lasting joy to your life. Friendship does. How to get a real friend? Be a real friend. Law of attraction.
Most people are somehow out of balance and/or have suffered frustrations and disappointments from the childhood.
Without selfremembering and selreflection, without honestly clearing out the own past, we attract a similar partner who is unfit for a deep relationship.
His talks are always very much focused on the transactional dimension of relationships. It’s less psychology and more economics.
@@thinkbig5438 That's because most long term relationships have always historically been transactional in nature. Only modern relationships subsist on 'love' and we can see how well that's going.
@ Oh, romance has not been absent in the past. And I do not disagree on the general idea. I simply disagree that it’s the ONLY dimension that one can look at. I still think that friendship is the best base for a long-term romantic relationship for example. From a more „school of thought“ perspective - I find people to be way less rational than economics assumes. Hence the theories based on economics logic alone often lack projective power (see voting behavior etc) I wouldn’t be surprised to find similar shortcomings in „mating science“. If they were better, dating apps should have higher success rates in bringing people together.
Even though what your saying is true, in defence or Mr. Taraban, he merely gives people a strategy to get what they want. As opposed to telling them what they should look for. Because I was we know all to well most people aren't interested in doing what they should be doing or pursuing what they should be pursuing. He gives such advice in other videos.
i see your point. but what type of audience watches this kind of videos or what type of audiences is he targeting in the first place?
I have a friend who did this. Her husband is more loyal and rich than attractive, but she is quite the catch and she put in the effort for years to be so.
He's not attractive😳, considering beauty can often be subjective?
Is she attracted to him?🤷
@@theemapsmash Who knows? But Taraban has defined attraction and OP seems to be familiar with the attributes Taraban has described.
Its so funny that its like a plan to get a guy they absolutely dont like LOL
@@theemapsmash "more than" doesn't mean "not".
@@LordReginaldMeowmont wait what did she do to accomplish that
This perspective brings up an interesting point about the complexities of relationships and attraction. While it's true that emotional connection plays a crucial role in long-term commitment, it's important to remember that relationships are built on mutual respect, shared values, and communication-not just emotional captivation. Every person, regardless of wealth or status, has their own needs and desires when it comes to forming meaningful connections. It's about finding balance and authenticity, rather than just trying to "lock someone down." Ultimately, true partnership is rooted in trust, understanding, and genuine emotional connection, not manipulation or strategy.
Those factors are covered in the book.
Well done, ChatGPT
@classactracing Lapses in respect was the entire reason I ended my last relationship. There were other contributing factors. But the amount of GOOD in the relationship would've outweighed all the other problems. But there would always be an unwarranted disrespectful comment once in a while and eventually I just realized she couldn't help it, so I left. She later said she only did those things because she was jealous that other women were always showing me interest. I told her she should've addressed that to me during one of the [too] many times I addressed her disrespect and I would've immediately tried to help with it. Because now it just sounds like a lie to excuse her behavior
You had me at _"so many women out there are dull, boring, entitled and self-centered..."_ @11:25
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My first wife was extremely lazy and queeny. Awful.
Why did you marry her ?@@ninopavkovic9382
Captivating outside of looks? Yea no faith in that. They're too egotistical/narcassistic. Nuturing? How..lol
Which is a blessing in disguise for the few captivating and enchanting women since it'll be much easier for them to stand out due to their rarity.
07:30 "The story of 1001 nights" is a good old Persian story that when I was a kid I liked so much. I highly recommend it. Most of it's tales happened centuries ago in modern day Iran, Afganistan, Tajikstan, Kazakstan, Syria and Iraq.
The tale of "Scherherazade" who told 1001 nights is my archetypical heroine; Orion truncated it perhaps for brevity. The king (and his brother) wedded, bedded then executed woman after woman in fear that she might murder him. Scherherazade was the vizier's daughter believed she could break the spell and teach the king that women could be beautiful, trustworthy and INTERESTING. After 1001 nights, she bore him several sons and finally finished her tale. He in turn ended his commitment to execution, having a change of heart about women and "they lived happily ever after" 🤪
This is the best channel on RUclips.
Nah. That's The Why Files. This is a good channel though lol
@@BS_Profilethat’s random AF but funny 👍
Great video!
I also want to share my experience. I had a music gig once and told my gf “just so you know, the night of the gig I will be very stressed and focused. Best you don’t talk to me.”
Instead of taking offense like most people would, she went around the club to make sure all the friends I invited felt welcomed. She will spot people who felt left out and introduced them to my other friends. Many friends told me afterwards how nice she was and they didn’t expect such an attractive woman will be so approachable.
Before her I was dating another woman who will judge my friends. Whenever I invited her out with me, she will consider whether the people I will meet are even worth her time to make an appearance. My current gf is so different from the previous one in that respect that made me appreciate her a lot more.
As you said Orion, there are plenty of attractive women out there, but very few will really make themselves valuable outside of their looks.
Another banger! Amazing.
Thanks for this video. It is my favourite. My father was a powerful man, a business man, a politician, very attractive, very traditional who provides everything for everyone in the family. My mother was the best when my father found her but my mother didn't know how to capture him and kept up with his lifestyle so she ended up losing him with a very clever woman. My mother has chosen to be a housewife only all her life. She did not try to improve her education and kept up with the modern world. She did not like spending time and working with him. A very busy man like him needs lots of emotional support. I am the only child who likes to defend him when I heard she complained that he cheated on her.
Ladies, his advice is true wisdom. I know it may be hard, but as he said at the end, the multitude of women who are too proud to do any extra effort after being "hired" make it much easier for you to stand out if you put in even little effort.
There is zero wisdom here. No woman should jump into being sexually available to any man.
This is why women shouldn’t be prioritising men at all. Decentering men is the best thing any woman can do. Even getting with high value men is rarely worth it. It brings its own set of headaches, problems and control. But the competition for these men is so high and not worth the effort when the chance of success is low and after getting him, he is even more insufferable. Investing in herself with all her time and effort will give her far more rewards later on. Nothing is worth more than freedom.
If a woman wants marriage and kids, she should play the field and then get with an average man when she wants to settle, but still be cautious about everything while in the relationship and not baby him. If a woman wants only a child, there are options for that too. In any case, the woman should have fewer kids later in life. But always, always prioritise lifetime financial stability and security above all else. Ofcourse being child free by choice and single is the best thing if she wants the best quality of life.
This is stupid advice, he clearly hates women. Women should not listen to this guy
Absolutely brilliant - per usual. People love to judge gold diggers and in doing so ignore the fact that successful gold diggers have to be more attractive, charming, and masterful observers of men, than women who claim to not care about attracting a wealthy partner. Any woman can get a man who breathes. Only a select few women will ever have a shot at totally captivating a man with “change your life” money and they usually fumble for the reasons you mentioned in this video.
Excellent point.
You are so right. But imo women shouldn’t be prioritising men at all. Decentering men is the best thing any woman can do. Even getting with high value men is rarely worth it. It brings its own set of headaches, problems and control. But the competition for these men is so high and not worth the effort when the chance of success is low and after getting him, he is even more insufferable. Investing in herself with all her time and effort will give her far more rewards later on. Nothing is worth more than freedom.
If a woman wants marriage and kids, she should play the field and then get with an average man when she wants to settle, but still be cautious about everything while in the relationship and not baby him. If a woman wants only a child, there are options for that too. In any case, the woman should have fewer kids later in life. But always, always prioritise lifetime financial stability and security above all else. Ofcourse being child free by choice and single is the best thing if she wants the best quality of life.
@ babe I am sure you believe what you wrote but it’s not at all accurate. I have a lot of millionaires in my social circle and being able to beat out the competition to be with one of them is 10000000000% worth it! Also after 35 most women prefer not to work and get mad if they haven’t figured out how to make work optional. I graduated from law school ten years ago and probably half of the people I graduated with are partners at big law firms who make high six or low seven figures annually. Don’t let the internet fool you. Getting married to a wealthy man is literally one of the best decisions a woman can make for herself and her children.
To me, a gold digger just wants to get pregnant and live off the child support. What you're describing is what I would call a trophy wife and I haven't seen one of those in a long, long time.
@ also… I have a girlfriend who was a boss babe executive who made tons of money and married and average guy for love. He cheated, got someone pregnant, and then was able to get spousal support when my friend filed for divorce because she was the higher earning spouse. She did the sad single mon thing for a minute but then remarried a wealthy man who earns over a million a year. They have been together almost 15 years. If she wants a divorce she would literally walk away with millions. Not saying she couldn’t have eventually earned it herself, but she got to be a full time mom instead and is still rich. Anyone who tries to tell you it’s not worth the effort to date rich either is lying or just trying to spare you hurt feelings because they don’t think you have what it takes.
Dr. Orion, you are incredibly smart and observant. You absolutely have me pinned from an intellectual standpoint. But I won't leave a commensurate donation until something actually changes for the better in my life as a result of applying your concepts. Until then, it's all just theorizing. Respectfully.
90% of the comments on this video are males. 99% of those males are not kings. Enjoy 🤣
Its been proven time and time again the algorithm spits out the comments that you usually graviate towards creating an echo chamber.
And most women not married to king, 🍻
And I'm sure you are a queen, not a delusional pile of something I can't mention 😂
I would argue that a plurality (if not a majority) of rich and attractive men are loyal to their spouses. That said, the formula for marrying such a man is simple and age-old. The 5 F's is all a woman needs. To catch a man be Friendly, Feminine, and Fit. To keep that man be Faithful and Family oriented. That's it. No degree or special training necessary. Almost every woman can do it.
For about a year I've said the same thing: I want a woman that satisfies the 3 Fs, taken from another channel, Fit, Friendly and Feminine. I added a fourth: Fun. You just gave me a fifth: Faithful.
You are correct that every woman should be able to do it. Surprisingly, they can't. It's so easy to do the Friendly and Feminine parts but there are so many who can't even do that, even if they are Fit which is becoming a rarity. Therefore it's rare to find a woman that are 3F, and hope she'll be Faithful.
@@pierrelevasseur2701 Personally, I put 'Fun' in with 'Friendly'.
My list of F's for dating is Friendly (fun), Faithful, Fit.
My list of F's for a relationship is Friendly, Faithful, Family (oriented), Fit, Frugal, Feminine - in that order. I have the purse strings and am okay with tom-boy types so Frugal and Feminine come last, lol.
Unfortunately, most women refuse to do it
Its like saying every man should easily be able to be the 4 M's: muscular, mature, money, and macho. Unfortunately, men and women are lazy and will rarely become the 4 M's or 4 F's. We are much more likely to be lazy, default to factory settings, and just type stuff from the comments section.
@@marriagecausesdivorce7540cmon you compare the 4F's to being muscular? which takes years and a diet, and being rich? that's kinda stupid
The skill set to get a man is wildly different from the skill set to keep a man. Been saying this for decades at this point.
Show me a single women under 30 whose mother raised her with all the knowledge and skills to be a WIFE. Just one.
@ I hear you on that but I do look at it differently. I think you have to heavily vet a woman to enter your life but once she is there you have to lead and direct her.
This is why women shouldn’t be prioritising men at all. Decentering men is the best thing any woman can do. Even getting with high value men is rarely worth it. It brings its own set of headaches, problems and control. But the competition for these men is so high and not worth the effort when the chance of success is low and after getting him, he is even more insufferable. Investing in herself with all her time and effort will give her far more rewards later on. Nothing is worth more than freedom.
If a woman wants marriage and kids, she should play the field and then get with an average man when she wants to settle, but still be cautious about everything while in the relationship and not baby him. If a woman wants only a child, there are options for that too. In any case, the woman should have fewer kids later in life. But always, always prioritise lifetime financial stability and security above all else. Ofcourse being child free by choice and single is the best thing if she wants the best quality of life.
@@manifest2203 tell me you're a lonely cat lady with a lifetime of regrets without using any of those words...
@ I have never met a single woman without children who I would describe as even remotely happy or well adjusted. Women need men for validation far more than men need women for anything. Your entire existence is defined and centered around men. We have an entire legal system and cultural system to enforce men’s obligations to women not the other way around.
Your statement sounds good until you examine it and you do not even believe the words you type.
LMAO! All the guys in the comments thinking that he's talking about them! I'm dying 😆
I was wondering exactly the same thing, SV. Funny how that works, isn't it? To pick up on Dr. T's Arabian theme, Brad thirsts in the desert, Chad luxuriates at the oasis.
This video is for angry single men. Get yo money Dr Orion 😂
Ikr, the delusional is real 😂😂😂😂
I've dated only beautiful women with lots of money before I got married so yeah. I always knew from an early age that women were born to make me happy
It's funnier that women always think they're different or the princess in the story
Thank you for this insightful episode! I will take the advice to heart
A friend sent this to me as a giggle. Thank you for brightening my Sunday night lol
Hit the nail on the head as always applaud 👏
The woman has got to be easy to get along with a good sense of humor not take herself too seriously be Kind-hearted Intelligent and very Generous of spirit.
She needs to be loving and very supportive of her man.
11:46 As a woman, I love how so many women have the dense attitude, mindsets, and behaviours they do. They’ve made it so easy for the rest of us. They eliminate themselves as competition just by being them lol.
*Diabolical*
😂 but girl go get your husband ❤ I love it
Yes I second that! I’m in my forties and drowning in attention from men of all ages because younger women are too silly and entitled. I’m a breath of fresh air to them because I’m interesting, witty and make them feel amazing.
So obviously you must be married
I was just talking about 1001 nights yesterday. Really delightful to hear the way you put the story together and correlates with the topic
Truth well spoken. How many women have the humility to listen and accept this?
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@@zaq1337 you have one here, dear
I can count them on 0 fingers.
@... ... ... ... (Tumbleweed) Lol
My parents have remained together their whole marriage so I'm putting the effort to be a good woman because I want to be a good parent.
Everyone will realise something ugly about themselves on the journey to success.
I've learnt to embrace the cold ugly and hug it tight, doing so it transforms into a fiery beauty.
I have hope in God and myself I can become a woman worth living for just as I want the same for my future husband ❤
Always appreciate your advice and your take on dating and mating. 11:06 You are ALWAYS spot on! And this is coming from a 57 year-old long time divorcee dating a very high valued 42-year-old man! Your content has been invaluable helping me to navigate and get what I want from this “relationship.”
My ex was rich (we both didn’t have to work and I did whatever I wanted), good looking (he had a stomach but it wasn’t a big deal, he was still handsome), and didn’t cheat.
We last 17 years but I divorced him because he was emotionally unavailable and unstable. Not abusive, not a tyrant, but definitely unstable. Together with the complete lack of affection, sex, even just conversation or companionship, I couldn’t hold on even for the kids, because I started losing my sanity.
He was home 24/7, doing his own thing. Acted like he didn’t need to act like a husband since I had an open credit card and kids to focus on. But I needed love, still. And I’ve found that in my current marriage with a middle class man, and am very happy.
Still trying to be a good coparent with my ex, since he’s not a bad man. But couldn’t live the rest of my life like that. Would rather budget and even go back to work.
This is very interesting, seems that you ended up valuing more loyalty than the other 2 factors Dr Tariban talks about. Have you find your case a very small % of the of woman that you have encountered in your life?
you could disscuss it and it sounds like a minor problem. So you divorced simply because you was bored. If he was emotionaly not open to you it is your fault to not making him feel secure about it. I hope the children will not take any damage from you unresponsible behaviour.
It sounds like depression
An honest woman wants to be totally known by her husband. She should be the princess of his life. If he's not interested in her as his default behavior, she's going to lose her self confidence and lose her interest in her marriage.
@@lonefloppaThat’s a possibility, but by no means a certainty. We don’t know either person or the real details. From the outside, it’s impossible to know the reality of a marriage. He may have been too self centered, or she may have done something to cause him to withdraw or any number of things.
Sounds like she is being reasonable and has good priorities and is sharing to help us all understand, so we should take it at face value, IMO.
There are some women like Seherezade, who can't be controlled by anyone. They are magic, but if you want more from them, you must go by their rules, or at least make compromises. If you want to get them forever, you must renew, leave your bad habbits, be the best version of yourself. They never leave you the way you were before....
Trying to control someone means you're not aligned in values and objectives, so you shouldn't be in a relationship.
Shera 7 is the one to watch for this.
No, she is a failure in life. You are better off listening to your mommy.
This is the first time I've heard of Arabian Nights as analogue to relationships. It is obvious, in retrospect. Thank you for your brilliance.
Jackie Kennedy Onasis was great at marrying the highest bidder.
Bull's eye. Perfection. In fact, the captivating quality can carry the victory even in the absence of physical attractiveness since it is literally like a drug. A woman like that captivated the actual king of the UK and there you have it. He basically shows the finger to anyone who comments on what a "home-wrecking hag" she is. Superb victory of the couple, as it should be. What humans crave more than anything, subconsciously, is to be seen, understood and connected with at the soul level. When the internal match clicks, everything else becomes secondary, including any trophy markers.
Btw, that's Romanticism, Dr. Taraban, not an invention of the poor guy. Glorious stuff.
Be very attractive, be interesting, speak different languages, know how to move in high society and be sure to know how to do things like golf, ski, and play tennis. Be in proximity to wealthy men.
DO NOT go around being "sexually available" to any man. A high quality man won't stop pursuing a high quality woman because she refuses to give him her body right away.
This guy doesn't have a clue and it's because he's not a wealthy attractive man.
@@LisaCulton and you are?
@tiho7519 Lisa Culton. Google me.
As a woman, I think Mr. Taraban is an attractive man. Beauty is subjective I believe
I find Dr. T cute and informative. The sex thing I agree with you about but in a lot of instances some women are still able to gain access to these men that way sadly
@jasminealexia Yeah "cute" but definitely not sexy nor handsome nor attractive. He cannot give any meaningful advice in that area because he hasn't experienced it. The same goes for massive wealth. The only women who can possibly use sex to hook a wealthy man must be extremely attractive AND the man has to want her. And if he really wants her for marriage and family, he will respect her wishes not to jump into bed quickly.
I love your thumbnails , Dr. Taraban
As your women viewer you are so right, if you dress up for a job, you should dress up for your partner too
You, Sir, have outdone yourself on this one. Loved it. Kudos!
Shared. Another exceptionally precise plan for the ladies wanting and willing to work to secure a lasting relationship😊
Narcissists will discard you when it suits them and it’s not about you at all.
Not only it is information, I learnt many a few great ways to put thoughts into words. And with the King story to sum up the idea, it gives the video a wholesome completion. Please try and include stories like this in the videos. It kinda makes it a little more entertaining and engaging. Awesome video my good man !!
Stupid story, who would want to be with such an evil person that kills women just to leave them
@@safffff1000 it's just an euphemism. Not intended to be taken literally. Duh!!
@@manos7629 Duh, it represents evil. Easily he could have said, he just sent them away.
@@safffff1000 if said as "sending away" the story wouldn't have any juice because the lady who survived 1001 days isn't fighting anything big. She managed to evade death for 1001 days. Else she just managed to be not "sent away".
@@manos7629 Why would a woman want a murderer that kills the women he screws? She would be as bad as him and I feel sorry for the kingdom they rule, like Count Dracula domain
If this ie the end goal for a woman she is shallow and egocentric. There is nothing richer in this short life than loving one man with great character, having and loving his children and navigating a complicated life with him being at the helm being respected and appreciated by his wife and children ❤️. That is rich!
Women do not respect men who don’t financially provide and send them to work when they are 9 months pregnant , in order to pay bills 50/50. Character is not enough. Men are required to be a financial provider. This is the main cause of unhappiness and divorce for women
Every woman wants a billionaire and every billionaire wants a top model. That’s where it ends. Wake up women lol
Kinda, the problem is that the billionaire is willing to “spend the night” with a lady without commitment. For a woman, she thinks that means that he actually liked her and is willing to invest in her because “Well that’s what me ‘spending the night’ for me means.”
There was actually a reason why “spending the night” has usually been gatekept by marriage: for the woman it means commitment for her and her children and security, but for the man, it meant exclusive access to her and companionship.
We “liberated” away from that and now we have very messed up LTR’s.
@@TheUltimegaMan a shtty lock
There are many more top models than there are billionaires. The real challenge for most attractive women is to find a man who earns the same or more as her and who is not a cheap 50/50 effeminate beta male
Yeah this is the actual fact lol, People often see partners who represents success and beauty as a status symbol.
@@zaq1337 Correct.
One of your best episodes. Poetic and true. Big fan.
Being sexually available is the wrong advice.
I married rich and being sexually available was definitely not why.
Also most successful men aren’t that sex obsessed, they are work obsessed. They want a helper, someone who thinks of ways to help them get to the next level.
Don’t listen to this bad advice, you can be flirty but do not give it up quickly, give him a massage or something in the beginning and let him cuddle your his son after a hard long day/week in the first few months.
But ultimately you know when it feels right for both of you.
@@Mary-dk7mc his point of view is always to sleep with men as soon a possible to be taken seriously. We all know that never works.
His so called advice is so anti-woman, he thinks he is slick. It's obvious he hates women
Not one of my friends group wants a helper…😅😅😅 I’m not super wealthy but retired at 38 haven’t worked in 5 years now. I and all my friends wanted someone young, fit and beautiful.
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I'm new to this channel and I feel extremely fortunate to have found it but I must say your thumbnails are beautiful!
now a video about how to become the king
after 2 bad relationships in my youth caused me to be a savage with men omg. I did everything you said I shouldn't no wonder.
clearly something i'm working on fixing. I would like to get married at one point in my life ❤
I've spent time around wealthy people myself, and I have to say, they tend to marry other wealthy people, it's like people sticking togeather in the same class. A woman with good looks can achieve this but these men aren't stupid, they even get used to women just using them for their money, and don't tend to marry or even respect them back, although they won't turn down sex. The story he gives seems to be taken from the usual dating coach doctrine, garbage if you ask me, I've never seen it work like that myself. Some wealthy men even marry women who aren't very attractive but she's loyal, submissive, even supportive and has other qualities, patience and listening to him helps,. Even if it's just the money (and they're used to it from women by a certain age), hide it as much as you can, truth is, their life can be very stressful, and not always fulfilling, so you need to comfort him about it, on top of other things, he can choose to stay with you, but whatever you do, don't give him anymore stress or make life difficult for him, they want the opposite really.
Pretty much. Only a gold digger gets the rich beta simp and that doesn’t last long cuz all they’re after is that divorce for the cash and prizes💰💰💰💰💰 the rich female gets even richer when they initiate the divorce after having kids 🤣the same story EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. 😂
You are right. The "advice" in the video is pure garbage.🗑️
@@LisaCulton Agreed, he's a qualified pyschologist but borrowing from the dating coach doctrine, fairly cool-headed and logical about things though. But, I doubt he's really spend time around these people and seen how it works out amongst them. Running a business and making a lot of money can be very stressful, being born into is different as well, they stick to their own class and rarely marry beneath. She can be very pretty, but if she's from a lower class, it can work against her, especially long term and for marriage, I've seen it myself.
You have a good point but I think he is right
I also looked into this and realized that Rich people are most likely to marry each other because they hang out and meet up in similar places.
A broke person won’t be in a rich private school.
But the psychological behind getting the rich person is the same
@@themindsculptor_ It's not just going to the same schools and social circles, it's their attitude and mentality. I've even seen poorer women deliberate hang out in certain areas and places like restaurants in hope of encounting a wealthy man. They're used to people being friendly simply because they're rich and influential as well, and people playing games in order to use them, some of these men are sick and tired of it even.
Dr O just got your book Can't wait to read it
Great content! I’m married but still copped your book.
People should be aware there's content in his book that is helpful regardless of their relationship status.
@@IfSemper My point exactly!
@@liquidantonym6322 Didn't know if you had read it yet. Wanted to point it out for the others, too.
Legit dropping gems 💎 I loved your why men marry video 🎉❤
I’m going to read Melania Trump’s book to find out. 😂😂😂. You’re right about these men. I have an old album of Jewish humor. There’s a woman who talks about the Klopnick curse. She has the biggest diamond wedding ring that anyone has ever seen. She explained what the curse is that comes with the diamond: Mr. Klopnick!!
This hit. Thanks Orion.
This is brilliant. I knew he was talking about Scherazade before he ever mentioned her, but never heard the story related in this context. Channel your inner Scherazade, ladies. Sex alone isn't enough, at least not for me.
That story was a brutal nightmare of ghosting😂🎉
ur vids are so valuable, thanks for posting, and for ur book link ❤
And here I thought “Men are simple” & “Men want peace”. Anyhow, as a woman who puts effort, I realized a lot of males are rich in their heads & delusional. I don’t want a relationship from them & that offends them. Just the thought of having to be around an arrogant megalomaniac doesn’t excite me. It scares me. And no amount of money in the universe will ever make me want him. What excites me is a man who’s just chill, authentic & humble. Shallow men attract shallow women. & vice versa. Simple as that.
I do think this video goes to show males are not any different than females nowadays. A lot of people are influenced by social media & p*rnography. Once the fake excitement wears off & reality kicks in, life will be boring. Then what? Y’ll backstab each other? Yeah no thanks. I want peace too. Glad I met a man who also does.
Thank you, I don't need that any more, I love my freedom.
The story of Shaharazad.
Nice!!!
Thank you for advice ❤ i hope it will come true 🥰
Ladies even a 5/10 lady can marry a rich man, so please listen to this doctor.
You often have to interpret the barometer for them in this regard. You dont have to be objectively attractive to keep any man for that matter.
5/10 ? No.
@@Skylinez999 lol
Yes if you lock them up in prison, they turn to men. So they are not that choosy
LOL Yes! I love your videos. It's real, strategic work to capture a great king, but most women don't want to hear that. You are spot on!
Want to marry a high value man? Marry him before he comes up. Extremely hard to get a man who’s already up. He’s had lots of chances for marriage at that point and passed. He’ll probably pass on you too.
Another brilliant masterpiece. If your audience is receptive to this advice, it is life changing.
I managed to do this. My husband is the focus of my attention when he is home. I greet him at the door with a big smile and the smell of a four course dinner almost ready. I bring him coffee in bed. He gets those face-melting experiences that Dr Taraban said he would like. He likes them. And he’s loyal.
He is a lucky man.
Only a truly evil man wouldn't be loyal to such amazing wife
That's just the basic any female must do
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Nice
Thank you for this interesting information. I agree 100% with your advice. I'm looking forward to reading your book.
That story is the story of the Persian princess (Shahrzad)in captivity of the the Persian sasaniad king (shahriyar) from the 1000 and 1 nights
This is a classic Persian story. Well done sir.
The higher the Man’s value, the more Qualified the Woman has to be. Man s role is the Employer & Woman s is the Employee
Most of yall don't have it like that lol
@ facts. The ones that do have multiple employees
Women can have fun with anything! Anything! So many women are multidimensional and I actually find so many men boring. 80% let's say. Dear women...Be yourself and you are already a step ahead of any man as long as he interests you.
This is why women shouldn’t be prioritising men at all. Decentering men is the best thing any woman can do. Even getting with high value men is rarely worth it. It brings its own set of headaches, problems and control. But the competition for these men is so high and not worth the effort when the chance of success is low and after getting him, he is even more insufferable. Investing in herself with all her time and effort will give her far more rewards later on. Nothing is worth more than freedom.
If a woman wants marriage and kids, she should play the field and then get with an average man when she wants to settle, but still be cautious about everything while in the relationship and not baby him. If a woman wants only a child, there are options for that too. In any case, the woman should have fewer kids later in life. But always, always prioritise lifetime financial stability and security above all else. Ofcourse being child free by choice and single is the best thing if she wants the best quality of life.
Yes, the feminist saga is better for women who don't want to try.
@@megancyloneight9822 exactly. Why deal with mn when the reward is so not worth it?
@@manifest2203 My man is totally worth the effort. To each her own.
@@manifest2203 To each her own. My man is totally worth the effort.
@@megancyloneight9822 then you are lucky and shld embrace it. Most wmn won’t get gud mn.
Thank you for this insightful video !
I'm not rich, but if I was, I would probably be trying to hide it and looking for a woman that didn't want me for my money.
What would you offer to the relationship
What would she offfer to the relationship. That's the real question
@@peterpage9017 companionship, sex, kids, practical help around the house etc. All the normal things that men provide. I'm not saying I would offer zero money, I just wouldn't lead with it, because that just attracts gold diggers. I would want someone to like me for ME. Perhaps that's a bit of a pipe dream, but it would be worth a try.
Its not an optimal plan. Gold digging (or hypergamy) is in women M.O. Better plan is know how to deal with gold digging & be antifragile about it.
Understandable. But the whole "she loves me for me" thing is a bit blue pill. Briffault's law states that women mate and date for gain. They only enter into relationships where they can extract benefit from the man.
Beautiful episode and very timely
Any man with money knows his window is about 18-23 for a woman he intends to keep. Same as victoria secret. They aim to keep the ones at highest market value.
Thank you for much effort in researching this and putting it through to the viewers, these videos are great, engaging and valuable. :)
Thank you! Waiting for the next episode, because there are women who want to develop! ❤
High five!
I love this and guessed that this was the story of Shahrzad from the first sentence :)
Anyone with a bit of culture knows that
Wish Kevin Samuels was alive yo do a collab with you👌🏽
You’re saving the world. Great video. Most women don’t get it
As a Rich and Attractive man, I can confirm that all his points were spot on.
how can I be like you Sir
@santa3495 Step 1: Be Attractive
Step 2: Be Rich
@@ruantristancarlinsky3851 I doubt you're rich or whatever you're saying.
The poor boy was asking respectfully and this is how you respond. Sham on you.🚮
@ruantristancarlinsky3851
I doubt you're rich or whatever you're saying.
The poor guy was asking respectfully and you answer him like this. Wow so much for being rich in impoliteness.
@@theemapsmash I was literally trolling lol. Fact you took the comment seriously in the first is really funny😭😂
Great. Keep the videos for women coming.
Interesting stuff, doc! Of course, the cynic in me is laughing like a loon, watching you "mansplain" how to be a gold-digger. "Ladies, you're doing it all wrong!" To be fair, if your goal is to snag a man, it makes sense to get a man's point of view on what works. If that man is a psychologist, all the better.
To be fair, these days, the ladies ARE doing it all wrong. Entitled, vacuous, vainglorious and shallow women all over social media. Just look at the divorce numbers. True, lots of guys the same but they aren’t trying to nail down anyone.
Bro, you got Sappheiros for your background music -- hell yes.
That's not every woman's goal, however surely methods suitable for attracting a king will do magic for attractive most other men.
This video is gold 💯
It’s not worth the headache that come with dealing with men like this. Women live longer when they live alone and have a strong group of friends.
Even if that's true (very suspicious claim) are they actually happy with no man in their lives? Relationships are work, but very few people are truly happy with living out their days alone.
When these women get divorced they have millions in the bank account. When a single woman finishes her career she is broke due to the single cost of living , has no children and has a number of stress related illnesses caused by toxic corporate culture
Hi Ladies. You could just focus on making your own money, becoming wealthy yourself, then you naturally attract a wealthy man. Like attracts like.
its hard to put into words, but the book Magnetic Aura from Talesio completely changed my life and it's not new age bs
Thank You Dr. Taraban 😊
Scheherazade was genuine that's why the King wifed her up. This advice is not for fake short-time actress, but a woman who cultivated herself all her life to be charming etc. that has genuine interest in that man. He certainly had to perform admirably all his life to be successful. Quid pro quo. This isn't hard to understand. NOTHING in life is free! Only a gold digger/actress would think so.
In any case it's wahmen who initiate most of the breakups so, a hard NO to her claim. Circling back to - 2/3 of rich, charming/personable or loyal.
The 5 F's is all a woman needs. To catch a man be Friendly[includes accommodating, not disagreeable], Feminine, and Fit. To keep that man be Faithful and Family oriented. That's it. No degree or special training necessary. Almost every woman can do it. Being clever, beguiling, enchanting, stimulating and intelligent is part of being feminine.
BTW, a smart man of value either never owns anything in his name or has a prenuptial in place...or both. Ya, so NO! to those schemers/gold diggers. 👍
Yes I can confirm as a women I did this and it works ☺️ though everything just happened so naturally. I just stayed my true self
For a man this is great intel
This is pretty good info
Exceedingly well done
It's not necessary to give sex. I'm a virgin and not planning to give sex even to a multi millionaire.
Sis, actually we are afraid of intimacy. I bet you are an extremely private person too.
@@Catwoman2379 I know. But i'd still want to be with only one person in my life.