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I served 25 years in the U.S. Navy am now in Real Estate and other things - the one constant is that I deal with "people everyday". As I rose through the ranks in the Navy - studying leaders and interacting with people; I quickly learned that the people who succeeded were those who "opened their mouths strategically". You have to learn the art of communication, small talk, bullshitting. As the old saying goes: "CLOSED MOUTHS DON'T GET FED". Ask for what you want and don't be afraid; be BOLD; what's the worst that can happen?
U get shot?
I've always been interested in real estate and it's cheap here in Indiana but how do you advise someone that is broke to get into real estate? is there entry level jobs within real estate to learn the trade?
there is a huge difference between nice and bold. in no book in the world it is mentioned that you cant be both. you can be nice where its needed to be nice, you need to be soft where you needed to be soft, and you need to be ball-buster tough mf where you nee d to be that. I am always nice and very soft person, but in my business and where I need to be, i can be the toughest mf you can ever find on this earth.
Very true this has been well said learning the art of negotiation will surely take people far in this world of business 🙏💯
Any plans what r u gona do now ? Since it’s not a good time for Real estate!
Nice guys put others before themselves and don't prioritise their own interests. The older I get, the more I realise no one else will look out for me except myself.
U said it so well 👏 am 36 now and am finding this the hard way always being nice to people that sometimes I put them first of my own interest then I found out other people will always put their interest first u can be nice to people saying hello holding the door for somebody and the general nice but never forget ur self ur own interest look after ur self
Facts. I’m only 23 and I’ve been noticing this for years. A lot of people are gonna pick themselves first almost every time. I don’t like it but it is what it is
@@AhmedAli-hu4vb 🎯
I totally disagree with all of you because I’m smarter. 😂
I know a friend who spent 2 years getting to know this girl so he could ask her out without coming off as offensive. I told him during this time, "just ask her", you will save yourself some time, why not know now if she is interested? He didn't listen. During the 2 years another guy asked her out and started dating her and he was upset about it....Don't be nice!
Lol, I can relate to this. 54 now. Was stuck in the friendzone with a woman for years - and guess what? My friend bedded her, with little no effort. I think I was treating her special hoping she was a special girl. Turns out she was not special, just another garden tool. But I projected my desire in the type of woman I wanted on to her because I was attracted to her. However, now in looking back I a glad I didn't sleep with her.
Most women in the western world today are trash. They are NOT worth asking out at all. Let's not be naive or stupid, and face the reality of the darkening times in which we are living. The best approach for a man today is to become the best man he can possible become and NEVER ask out a woman. Grow spiritually, become educated, and find your true self as a man. Let women approach you. Women have no choice but to approach good, ambitious men, if she wants her future to be happy and bright. An ignorant man will ruin her future, and which sane woman wants that to happen. Be patient and grow; even if the growth is slow, grow!
Don't try to be nice, be good.
Try to be good and right being nice or mean has nothing to do with the the first two
@@feraleyedea9710 you shouldn't try to be nice or mean. Just try to be good. Trying to be nice or mean is fake because its shown to the outside, good comes from the inside thus is real, unprojected.
yeah...I guess even Jesus got it wrong
@@lucasp1185 Jesus who?
being nasty and not being nice is not being good.
I'm a shy person by nature, but you made me re-think how I should assert myself. Sometimes it's hard to know how far we should push, especially for those of us that are introverts by nature.
I have a young 22yr old son who is an introvert, and I’d love for him to open up more and be more assertive. I’ve tried talking to him numerous times about it, but nothing seems to change. What else can I do to help him reach his full potential?
@@robertc567able kick him out of your house
@@robertc567able Act like a father and throw him in the deep end of the pool. It sucks to be a man and he has to understand that. You can't afford to live like a woman if you want to succeed.
@@Thiiink He’s a good kid, why would I kick him out? That would only make him resent me. Now if he were a no good lazy bum, that’s a different story!
@MuseTheReaper That’s what other people have said. It’s just that I was totally different when I was his age. I didn’t live a sheltered life.
Wow I'm so surprised you mentioned AMC1T . I have been keeping eye on it for a while and it seems very promising.
from my experience, people are initially suspicious of overly nice people, like wondering if they have an ulterior motive and just being fake. Once they realized they are genuinely kind, they take advantage of them.
All of the advice in the video works if in the correct environment where people aint player hating on you all the time
That's why I've learned to hide kindness and come out as a very bold almost annoying person
@@luccianoblock5127 be yourself
@@luccianoblock5127 but I bet you show kindness to those who deserve it.
@@metsrus Everyone deserves kindness specially those who desserve it less because they don't Recieve much kindness and are often rude
I love listening to this channel. Really makes a difference in my life and restores my energy to keep after it.
I appreciate Pat’s advice to be “aggressively patient” 👏🏼 insightful video! Thank you!
I disagree and that's coming from a real nice guy.
@@Asmodai2011 do you disagree with Pat’s video?
@@Asmodai2011 I think there’s a difference between being “nice” and being “kind”.
@@JoyceChow Sorry for not being completly forthright. I was a nice guy. Now I'm just practicing challenging and pushing back to be a topic of discussion.
@@Asmodai2011 Not really the example we're aiming for but keep the approach that you have and people like me, that are actually kind/nice will pass you because you didn't see what was valuable in this video. Rewatch the video and see what you can gain rather than think about possibilities in your head.
Great video. This confirmed a lot of what I've learned in my career the hard way. I've worked in automotive for 11 years and can tell you that being nice only works until your suppliers let you down. At that point I stop asking and assertively start telling suppliers what to do. I've had suppliers tell my boss I'm not nice but you know what? it got the job done. Like Pat has said before, it's all about managing expectations. When you assert yourself your suppliers will eventually learn you're not messing around.
Love it. Here's how I'd get to the 'middle ground' assertive side: Being nice/quiet = fear of rejection or disapproval. Pestering = attachment to having something or someone saying yes. Work on letting go the fear of rejection, disapproval, getting a 'no'. And also work on letting go of attachment/neediness for something happening or any one person saying 'yes'. Great video Patrick 👍
People need to learn to live without and be satisfied with nothing. #thegreatreset2030 "you'll own nothing and be happy"
If what Pat just said spoke to you, you must read the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover. I was a timid nice guy failing at sales and relationships and this book helped me overcome many of my issues and internal fears and objections I had in expressing my true thoughts and wants. Do not procrastinate getting this book if you suffer from Nice Guy syndrome. Order it today and start reading this week.
one of the best books i've ever read
Most books are audibles on RUclips.
Funny enough I just started listening to this book today.
Thanks for the recommendation. I have seen this title before and believe that I have this on a book list for future reads. I just purchased it.
@@shaunskii
Awesome, yeah I was failing as a sales person and was listening to "the salesman " podcast while on a break and this author came on the show. I bought the book immediately and finished it within the week. It opened my eyes to the cause of many of my issues in sales and relationships and really peals back the psychology of how nice guys come to be and how we view the world
I'm one of the first viewers of this channel, back in those days I remember the impactful video where you knocked many doors and kept showing up and then the persistence made you successful where you showed up in a Ferrari. From then till now many things have been valuable and of great learnings. Channel has improved a lot, the presentation and talk shows/podcasts are super good to watch. Great to see your new home in Florida with a yacht deck and a party tent, blessed and inspiring to achieve greater heights. Out of all these journey I still admire the fact that after every important talks, you make sure you have something to sell. I remember the memory foam pillows, now the hats. It's something so nice. And you're a pro in placing these products at the end, which is something like a souvenir. That's unique. And you still do that. All the best regards team Valuetainment. As far great contents and it made us improve a lot individually and professionally. Looking forward to greater heights. Cheers!
Being too much nice to others, to the point you are just there for the convenience. We should not expect anything in return if we always give way to them, with this, we can still manage ourselves in finding opportunities and take care of ourselves.
This is your first video that I truly enjoyed…….I’ve been your average nice Christian guy that confused being humble as being a walk over…..going through a divorce because I decided no more Mr Nice ……now Im labeled a covert narcissist…..it does not matter. It’s so liberating not to be over accommodating to my ex wife and kids ….however I’ve received so much more respect from my 27 year old son and my two daughters…28 year marriage and i feel sad but completely liberated….just need to get by balance right soon as i take no more sh……from anyone.
I'm a (nearly) 38 man. One of the biggest lies society has told me is to be "nice" and that good things will come to you if you're "nice." The main point in this video, along with ideas proposed by Jordan Peterson, has helped me transition my way of thinking from attempting to be "nice", to being polite. And there is a difference. A nice person will not ask the waiter or waitress to bring back his undercooked steak for fear of bothering him or her, or may be afraid to bring it up because he doesn't want seem like "that guy". A polite person will call the waiter or waitress over and politely ask him or her to correct the situation. So, be assertive, speak up, and speak out. But don't be nice! ❤
I agree. Being nice and being polite are two totally different things and you can be a good person without getting pushed around.
I often wonder how successful investors are able to make millions of $$ from trading stocks. Im completely new on this area of investing. Long story short I have a couple thousands saved up which i want to invest for long term and I know this sounds a bit dull but, I would like to know what advice you could give to start my investing journey
he average investor buys/holds for long term to make gains when stocks go up, In a situation where you're after short term profit, it is best to get in touch with an investment professional to guide you with entry and exit points. I reached out to a broker during the pandemic and that is how I was able to raise a profit of $380K within 7 months
This is why being informed pays off. I see any market condition as an opportunity, so far i just dollar cost average. I've accrued $321k so far in 2022 as raw profits under the guidance of my Financial-Advisor "INGRID CECILIA RAAD"I don't pay attention to the day to day movements, Returns have been good. Not retiring any time soon so who cares what happens today?
@@alexyoung3126 Please can you leave the info of your invstment adviser here? I overheard someone talking about how a couple made $20k during this red season. I need such luck lol
@@checkforme234 She has been of great help and her tutelage has brought me to a higher understanding of proffit generation. You can look up her name on the net for her page and reach out. Understands the job perfectly.
You have to put in the work, there's no magic method to have amazing gains. Watch content related to investing, join r/investing subreddit and make small investments to see how things work. Most people lose money while investing, so you have to be better than most.
PDB your channel is single handedly giving me the courage to grab life by the horns.
I'M NEW TO BTC AND I'VE BEEN MAKING LOSSES TRYING TO MAKE PROFIT MYSELF IN TRADING...I THOUGHT TRADING ON DEMO ACCOUNT IS JUST LIKE TRADING THE REAL MARKET... CAN ANYONE HELP ME OUT OR AT LEAST ADVICE ME ON WHAT TO DO?
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I hope you are right about AMC1T? Thanks for the highly educational video. Keep up the good work -
the problem with being a nice guy is that most people are fake and full of sh*t. So FU!
This is the most game changing content I ever heard in my life all in less than 7 minutes. That was amazing!
I used to be timid, now I comfortably can say I’m in the assertive spot. And that is the best thing that has happened in my life.
Hi J M,
How did you get from timid to assertive? Do you have advice for me?
In different settings (family, relationships, friendships, community, job, business) we fall on a different spot on the spectrum. Don't beat yourself up about when you fall on extremes of the spectrum, course correct, go out there and be successful. I must say I avoid being pestering the most. But pestering can get you that investor, date or job.
the problem with being a nice guy is that most people are fake and full of sh*t. So FU!
If you die tonight, do you know where you're going? Did you know that Jesus Christ is THE Truth, the life and the only way to Heaven?
Revelation 20:15 ''Anyone whose name was not found written in the book of life was thrown into the lake of fire.''
Through Jesus Christ, God offers you a FREE gift - forgiveness. All you need to do is repent, turn away from your sins and evil ways,
from now on put your faith completely in Jesus Christ and be obedient to Him.
Biblical explanation of the Gospel:
God doesn’t want anybody in hell, but you must understand why
we deserve hell and why those who refuse to live under His authority will go
there. He gave us the law (Ten Commandments) not to make us righteous, but
rather to show us our sin (Romans 3:20). God gave us free will and since Adam
sinned in the garden, sin is the nature of our flesh and we ALL have sinned. (Romans 3:23)
The law demands death to those who sin (Romans 6:23). Since we have all sinned, we all deserve hell.
Revelation 21:8 says that all liars will go to hell. Yes, even if you have lied once in your life, you are sentenced to hell - that's how
high God's standards are of moral perfection because God is holy and righteous, there is not one sin in Him.
For someone to be justified before holy God they have to be sinless, that's why everyone need Jesus Christ
- for He lived a sinless life, died on the cross and rose from the dead on the third day.
None of us are good in God’s eyes, because for God good means moral perfection. We all
have broken God’s commandments, we all have sinned in our lives so none of us
are good. ‘’For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is
guilty of breaking all of it.’’ (James 2:10). Our carnal mind is hostile to God; it does not submit
to God's moral law and it never will (Romans 8:7). We hate the thought of God for the same reason a criminal
hates a policeman - we know we have sinned against God and are guilty of it and we don't want to be damned.
No good works will ever save you. You can't earn salvation by good works, because God will judge us for our sin.
Good News is that Jesus Christ lived a perfect, holy, sinless life and He died for our sins according to the Scriptures,
He was buried and He was raised from the dead on the third day according to the Scriptures (1 Corinthians 15:3-4)
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever
believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.’’ (John 3:16)
We aren’t saved by our good works, but only by the grace of God through faith in Christ.
''For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God -
not by works, so that no one can boast. (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Jesus said ‘’it is finished’’ (John 19:30) just before He died on the cross, which means He paid the fine for our sins
(past, present, future) to be forgiven only IF we repent and trust in Him.
This is how you can get saved from sin and hell - repent of your sins and trust in Jesus Christ. Get to know Him
by reading God's Word.
So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him.” (Luke 11:13)
''What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? Certainly not!'' (Romans 6:15)
''Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out'' (Acts 3:19)
Repentance is a turning away from sin and all evil works, and it always results in changed behavior (Luke 3:8).
Biblically, a person who repents does not continue willfully in sin.
While sorrow from sin is not equivalent to repentance, it is certainly an element of scriptural repentance (2 Corinthians 7:10).
Do not play a hypocrite. ''God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.
If we claim to have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.'' (1 John 1:5-6)
(John 3:3) Jesus replied, "Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again."
If you have repented and have genuine faith in Jesus Christ then you will receive the gift of Holy Spirit and be born-again spiritually.
When you believed, you were marked in Him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance
until the redemption of those who are God’s possession - to the praise of His glory. (Ephesians 1:13-14)
Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God remains on him. (John 3:36)
''You will know them by their fruits'' (Matthew 7)
If you have been truly born-again with the Holy Spirit and He has regenerated your heart, you will desire righteousnes -
to do what is good and righteous in God's eyes, to seek God everyday in His Word and prayer, to strengthen your relationship with God.
You will no longer desire to willfully continue living in sin but will want to obey God out of your love for Him because of His amazing grace
revealed to us through the death and resurrection of His Son.
''Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.'' (2 Corinthians 5:17)
''For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.'' (Eph 2:10)
You will have a testimony - of what your life had been before and how has it changed now when you have surrendered it to Lord Jesus Christ.
As a declaration and affirmation of your faith in Jesus Christ, get baptised in water because He commanded us to do so.
In John 3:5 Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit.''
''Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit'' (Matthew 28:19)
''Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day.'' (Acts 2:41)
''And this water symbolizes the baptism that now saves you also - not the removal of dirt from the body,
but the pledge of a clear conscience toward God - through the resurrection of Jesus Christ,'' (1 Peter 3:21)
''We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that,
just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.'' (Romans 6:4)
''Having been buried with him in baptism, in which you were also raised with him through your faith in the working of God,
who raised him from the dead.'' (Colossians 2:12)
Please get right with God and get to know Jesus Christ personally today before it’s too late, because there’s not much time left!
"But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.’’ (Mark 13:32)
Get to know Christ through God's Word - Bible. At first I recommend reading Gospel of John and book of Romans. God bless you!
Jeremiah 29:13 - ''You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.''
@@mann8098 Are you born again as John 3:3 says? Do you deny yourself, pick up your cross and obey Jesus daily?
I went through this cycle which took me 30 years. I'm NOT & WILL NEVER BE that A**Hole, but honestly I NEED to THANK THEM for being where I am, because I met so many of them who kept getting on my nerve all those years that eventually led me to where I am in that cycle; because I MADE IT A MISSION in my life to NEVER MISS an opportunity to PUT THEM DOWN & BELITTLE THEM & SHUT THEIR MOUTHS REPEATEDLY NON-STOP until they shut up for the rest of the meeting or just leave.
Be Nice. Just Don't be Harmless. Be dangerously powerful.
Be a warrior in a garden rather than a gardener in a battlefield.
Etymology of Nice:
nice (adj.)
late 13c., "foolish, ignorant, frivolous, senseless," from Old French nice (12c.) "careless, clumsy; weak; poor, needy; simple, stupid, silly, foolish," from Latin nescius "ignorant, unaware," literally "not-knowing," from ne- "not" (from PIE root *ne- "not") + stem of scire "to know" (see science). "The sense development has been extraordinary, even for an adj." [Weekley] -- from "timid, faint-hearted" (pre-1300); to "fussy, fastidious" (late 14c.); to "dainty, delicate" (c. 1400); to "precise, careful" (1500s, preserved in such terms as a nice distinction and nice and early); to "agreeable, delightful" (1769); to "kind, thoughtful" (1830).
NEVER be "nice"(foolish), be kind, be courteous, be helpful. But, never let anyone take you for a fool!
@@xavierx3949 Lot's of free time?
@@voiceofthevoiceless it's called Linguistics, mi amigo!
This means nothing
People don't remember what you said. They remember how you made them feel. You're better off making someone despise you than forgetting you. People talk about what they don't like more than what they do like and that just might be you! I'm not saying to run around creating enemies. But I am saying get people to react!
🔥 🔥
For the most time of this year if you would invest into anything it is not doing very well I mean that's pretty obvious. But the launch of AMC1T plays a different game and it is less affected by such moves as the utility is simply too strong. Just my bet
This is getting ridiculous these gurus act like they know everything. Not being nice BS stuff. I’ve unsubscribe from all these guys. They’re all bamboozling you. to get subscriptions. avoid all these yo yos. Back in the day you would read one book or attend a three day seminar and go out and take action and chase your dreams! they post videos every day! Unbelievable
@@briang2034 ..Yep..because many of them main money supply is from RUclips videos..
@@enochrry6024 fake it to u make it. A lot of their advice is to focus and chase your dreams. but how can you when you’re watching their videos every day. 😂 Oxymoron mentality.
@@briang2034 ..Many of these guys are making over $100k a year from youtube.
Yeah, I agree with you with my own point of view, utility has the power to make the customers choose that particular product even if it doesn't have or wear an attitude and didn't trend much in the society because it may be a core utility for the masses.
I've definitely noticed this over the years. This was a video that needed to be made. Thanks again for another amazing video.
This is truly insightful advice i have been given ,never be afraid to express your own views or opinions even if everyone else disagrees with them💯👍
With everything going on I am fully putting trust in AMC1T and I can give you three reasons why you should as well: Stability, utility, brand power
You can still be a loving person and a hard working person without being nice. Just don't be a push over or devalue yourself. Don't be fearful in life. Learn to succeed by failing, and avoiding the same mistakes. Don't let other people walk all over you because not only you will suffer but the exploiter will feast off someone else once they're done with you. It took me 35 years to figure this out. Thanks for this video and all your podcasts.
Good book to read for this subject Atomic habit, 48 law of Power by Robert Greene, the wisdom of a psychopath by Kevin Dutton also self-reliance by Waldo Emerson
Wow.. I'm blown away watched it twice.. I'm never being reserved again! Idk who gets upset😂
I push back a lot at work and some people don’t like it. With that said, I’ve created dozens of process and procedure job aids that help our internal employees and our customers. Initially It creates extra work for some people, but in the long run it makes it easier for everyone.
If you die tonight, do you know where you're going? Did you know that Jesus Christ is THE Truth, the life and the only way to Heaven?
Revelation 20:15 ''Anyone whose name was not found written in the book of life was thrown into the lake of fire.''
Through Jesus Christ, God offers you a FREE gift - forgiveness. All you need to do is repent, turn away from your sins and evil ways,
from now on put your faith completely in Jesus Christ and be obedient to Him.
Biblical explanation of the Gospel:
God doesn’t want anybody in hell, but you must understand why
we deserve hell and why those who refuse to live under His authority will go
there. He gave us the law (Ten Commandments) not to make us righteous, but
rather to show us our sin (Romans 3:20). God gave us free will and since Adam
sinned in the garden, sin is the nature of our flesh and we ALL have sinned. (Romans 3:23)
The law demands death to those who sin (Romans 6:23). Since we have all sinned, we all deserve hell.
Revelation 21:8 says that all liars will go to hell. Yes, even if you have lied once in your life, you are sentenced to hell - that's how
high God's standards are of moral perfection because God is holy and righteous, there is not one sin in Him.
For someone to be justified before holy God they have to be sinless, that's why everyone need Jesus Christ
- for He lived a sinless life, died on the cross and rose from the dead on the third day.
None of us are good in God’s eyes, because for God good means moral perfection. We all
have broken God’s commandments, we all have sinned in our lives so none of us
are good. ‘’For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is
guilty of breaking all of it.’’ (James 2:10). Our carnal mind is hostile to God; it does not submit
to God's moral law and it never will (Romans 8:7). We hate the thought of God for the same reason a criminal
hates a policeman - we know we have sinned against God and are guilty of it and we don't want to be damned.
No good works will ever save you. You can't earn salvation by good works, because God will judge us for our sin.
Good News is that Jesus Christ lived a perfect, holy, sinless life and He died for our sins according to the Scriptures,
He was buried and He was raised from the dead on the third day according to the Scriptures (1 Corinthians 15:3-4)
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever
believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.’’ (John 3:16)
We aren’t saved by our good works, but only by the grace of God through faith in Christ.
''For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God -
not by works, so that no one can boast. (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Jesus said ‘’it is finished’’ (John 19:30) just before He died on the cross, which means He paid the fine for our sins
(past, present, future) to be forgiven only IF we repent and trust in Him.
This is how you can get saved from sin and hell - repent of your sins and trust in Jesus Christ. Get to know Him
by reading God's Word.
So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him.” (Luke 11:13)
''What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? Certainly not!'' (Romans 6:15)
''Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out'' (Acts 3:19)
Repentance is a turning away from sin and all evil works, and it always results in changed behavior (Luke 3:8).
Biblically, a person who repents does not continue willfully in sin.
While sorrow from sin is not equivalent to repentance, it is certainly an element of scriptural repentance (2 Corinthians 7:10).
Do not play a hypocrite. ''God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.
If we claim to have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.'' (1 John 1:5-6)
(John 3:3) Jesus replied, "Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again."
If you have repented and have genuine faith in Jesus Christ then you will receive the gift of Holy Spirit and be born-again spiritually.
When you believed, you were marked in Him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance
until the redemption of those who are God’s possession - to the praise of His glory. (Ephesians 1:13-14)
Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God remains on him. (John 3:36)
''You will know them by their fruits'' (Matthew 7)
If you have been truly born-again with the Holy Spirit and He has regenerated your heart, you will desire righteousnes -
to do what is good and righteous in God's eyes, to seek God everyday in His Word and prayer, to strengthen your relationship with God.
You will no longer desire to willfully continue living in sin but will want to obey God out of your love for Him because of His amazing grace
revealed to us through the death and resurrection of His Son.
''Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.'' (2 Corinthians 5:17)
''For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.'' (Eph 2:10)
You will have a testimony - of what your life had been before and how has it changed now when you have surrendered it to Lord Jesus Christ.
As a declaration and affirmation of your faith in Jesus Christ, get baptised in water because He commanded us to do so.
In John 3:5 Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit.''
''Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit'' (Matthew 28:19)
''Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day.'' (Acts 2:41)
''And this water symbolizes the baptism that now saves you also - not the removal of dirt from the body,
but the pledge of a clear conscience toward God - through the resurrection of Jesus Christ,'' (1 Peter 3:21)
''We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that,
just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.'' (Romans 6:4)
''Having been buried with him in baptism, in which you were also raised with him through your faith in the working of God,
who raised him from the dead.'' (Colossians 2:12)
Please get right with God and get to know Jesus Christ personally today before it’s too late, because there’s not much time left!
"But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.’’ (Mark 13:32)
Get to know Christ through God's Word - Bible. At first I recommend reading Gospel of John and book of Romans. God bless you!
Jeremiah 29:13 - ''You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.''
:) I love the "shameless" sale a the end with the hats! Why because it was delivered after very good content, I got value, and that makes the sale good, not some annoying push. Great work!
Results > making others feel that they are spectacular or something similar.
People, just go out there and work harder than the next person. Be the greatest ever that your potential will allow for. Don’t waste your time & energy trying to get people to like you or think you’re a nice person. Lead with love and set an example of excellence but don’t be a jerk about it. People will gravitate towards you if you are show them that you constantly win and that you devoted work ethic is proportional to your productivity/output. Be the example that you want to see in others who you admire and look up to. If you successfully pull this off then you’re golden Pony Boy. Stay Golden‼️‼️
I remember once I had to ask my boss for a raise, and my manager wasn't in charge of that. I had to ask the owner, but I told my manager. My manager said to me, "Dakota, if you don't ask you will never get it because they won't just give it to you." I will never forget that lesson. Glad I learned it at 18, and not 50.
Many have lost jobs over asking for a raise. My guess is that you probably fit into your work environement well.
@@realamericannegro977 It's because I'm very good at what I do. People ask for raises and they don't deserve it. I do more than I should, I am never late, never call out, I have a great attitude, I don't talk shit, I don't cause drama, and I never have to be asked to do anything, and when my bosses asked me for something...it was already done. What I should've done was ask for part ownership. If I knew how to talk back then, I bet they would've said yes. I just didn't know. No, PBD/Valuetainment back then, for advice or guidance.
@@dakotadellafera5850 It appears you haven't dealt the bad, toxic or incompetent mangagement. Good for you. Even the guy making this video doesnt seem lile he went through much based on what he is saying despite being correct
@@realamericannegro977 I have, and I chose not be there. I've been sexually harassed in the work place more than you will ever know. I was called a "C*nt" by my boss and he got so crazy he wanted to hit me, and that is when I left. I've been in more toxic environments than you will know. Just because I chose, not to feel sorry for myself and make a new path doesn't mean I don't know.
I needed to hear this. Thank you
Too the point.. no fluff value!!! Highly support this type of content
This is something I wish I was told as a teenager. Its important to put your foot down when you have to.
This video was incredibly timely and exactly what I needed thanks Pat!
Your insights on pushing back and being hardcore are RIGHT ON! In fact, the hardcore guy, especially in business or in a corporation, will be perceived as annoying and someone who just doesn't get along. That person will not grow and I have seen it time and time...
I got a big decision to make. I needed this today.
I finished reading the book "no more Mr. Nice guy" it was eye opening.
Thanks for suggesting this book in past patrick
For some reason I'm a mix of all of those, very timid in some situations while I'm very challenging in other settings, at university for example.
Just what i needed! I am more interested in how I can train myself to be more assertive and challenging while naturally being confident and rational. I did operate in the challenging sector for a while but it got me so drained that I made the wrong decisions and cost me the ownership of my business.
Nice comes from the Latin word nescius (“ignorant”), which is also the origin of a lesser-known English word, nescience (“ignorance”). The word took a trip from Latin through Old French and Middle English before ending up in Modern English.
Listen to PBD once or twice and then smooth jazz to process what he said. Major 🔑
I used to be assertive and that got me into so much trouble, from school, work and family. "just listen" was allways the message even I was just curious why it had to be done this or that way, why people made their decicions and so on. Over time i learned to not do it and just become quiet. In the recent years i realize they shaped me into a slave and now im working on undoing the destruction.
Fantastic point
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People prefer to spend money on liabilities,Rather than investing in assets and be very profitable.
You're so correct! Save, invest and spend for necessities and a few luxuries relatives to on's total assets ratio.
I'm just shocked you mentioned Expert Meltem Demiro thought am the only one trading with her
Actually I trade cry ptØ currency on his broker with assistance from there top cry ptő analysts Mrs Meltem she's my professional assistant. I have been under him for 2 years now.... I've really made alot trading from his strategies in Crypto currencᎥes this period.
Watching this video is the best thing happen to me this month, I just realize what kind of person I want to be
Thank you for explaining it in detail, every video ever say stop being a nice guy but they don't explain what the fuck are we doing wrong here, how do we change and make better ourselves.
the problem with being a nice guy is that most people are fake and full of sh*t. So FU!
He nails it. I'm on the assertive to end of pestering. It comes with pros and cons. The pros outweighs the cons.
It's about a 50/50 split male/female love hate split with me. He's absolutely right...... Love me or hate me. Everyone remembers me. They know exactly what they're gonna get.
I've been fired 5-13 times(depending on definition). Hasn't really affected my bottom line nor have I cared. You need to risk being offensive to get shit done.
My wages have only increased as time has went on.
@Infinity Gauntlet probably so. But my bank account says my way works.
Everyone has a plan till they get punched in the mouth.......(Mike Tyson probably)
@Infinity Gauntlet ah the Internet and how people think life is.
Think what you want.
Ying-yang -- It's s all about balance. Know when to be nice and when to be aggressive & get yours
i find myself constantly going back and forth between these and I'm consciously aware of it. Is that a good thing, knowing and not doing anything about it expercialy in the quiet zone.
I came here to learn how to invest after listening to a guy on radio talk about the importance of investing and how he made $460,000 in 4 months from $160k, somehow this video has helped shed light on some things, but I'm still confused, I'm a newbie and I'm open to ideas.
It's possible to produce superior performance provided you do something different from majority. However most of us tend to pay more attention to the shiniest position in the market to the cost proper diversification.
Having monitored my portfolio performance which has made a jaw dropping $375k from just the past two quarters alone, I have learned why experienced traders make enormous returns from the seemingly unknown market.
@@miakaylee_ Interesting, I have a lump sum doing absolutely nothing at all my bank account, I wanna get something started with it, you seem to be doing excellent for yourself, how do you achieve this?
@@jamesarnold1816 Exactly, the trick is to diversify your investment, don't panic when everyone else is and invest consistently.
@@miakaylee_ Do you trade on your own?
Soundtrack through entire video... all tracks... str8 🔥🔥🔥
what i learn from pbd videos is not the content itself but the way how he sells his content and makes it valuable in the youtube marketplace. i love it men.
Are you eager to learn more about finance? Maybe you are thinking about a career in the finance and investment industry. The key is not spending time, but investing it. Investing in yourself is the best thing you can do. If you’ve got talents, no one can take that from you.....
@valda Maidel That very correct!! And that is why most of them end up losing their money to scammers
knowledge is the greatest and quickest path to financial freedom, the rich stay rich by spending like the poor yet investing... While the poor stays poor my pending like the rich yet not Investing
@@kirstenraedmund7346 investing is very good and necessary but before you invest with any broker make sure that it will be a person that two or more people have talked about
Don't just rush in to investing with any broker because you have the money and you want to invest. Look for real br0ker
Who is this professional trader that everyone keeps talking about, I always see good recommendations about her? How can I get across to her for a start up?
You work for 40yrs to have $1m in your retirement, Meanwhile, some people are putting just $5k or $10k in a meme coin for just a few months and now they are multimillionaires. I wish anyone who reads, to be a person in success in life.....??
How long does it take to learn and make money after you get going? I might like to try it out in the future. Maybe I still kinda hesitate about it because I don't know all the ends and outs, pros and cons.
@Richard That's true trading with an expert is the best strategy for newbies and busy investors who have little or no time to monitor the trade. I will advise you not to start tràding on your own it's very risky, seek the advice of a professional trader.
How does one know a genuine and reliable account manager these days?
Having monitored my portfolio performance which has made a jaw-dropping $200k from just the past two quarters alone. I have learned why experienced traders make more success in the market from Stacy Garric
Is it possible to produce superior performance provided you do something different from the majority? However, most of us tend to pay more attention to the shiniest position in the market to cost proper diversification.
It comes down to being personable and socially calibrated. Some people prefer to be accepted by others than take a stand for their beliefs. They want to avoid conflict at all costs, which can lead them to miss out on opportunities. As long as you maintain your self-respect and respect others, it’s a healthy form of conversation. People will respect you for having self-respect and taking a genuine interest in them with the intent to connect with them.
I like to be rational as a foundation so I am not stupid when I assert. I like to build alliances and listen for a long time so that my assertions are smart if not wise, like low hanging fruit. Questions are the way to go. I plan to speak at the next city council meeting in December and ask why no street repairs in my city.
Bravo!!! You crushed it!!!! 100% Correct sir!!!
Thank you for sharing Pat, always appreciate your insights. I do believe that nice guys can do amazingly and that the word often pigeon holes people into thinking it's just one way. I feel it's much nicer to stand for your beliefs and be assertive than to be docile and meek. Just my two cents😊👍
Nailed it and in an easy to assimilate fashion. Well done Valuetainment crew.
50% agree with Patrick. The problem with nice guy they have anxiety issus both socially and psychologically which lead to a lack of self esteem. There a huge distinction between self esteem and self confidence. Self esteem is associated with internal values and self confidence is associated with competence. In the case of pestering individual the also have self esteem problem but they give the illusion that are assertive, huge ego problem, lack of humility (e.g, they don't admit there mistake). Being rational is not assuming. Being rational is simply having critical thinking on certains situations that requires a high cognitive effort.
Found it at the right time, thanks team! I'm working with a business coach as a High-Ticket Appointment setter and looking to move on to my next level as I know it's the right time and I had been thinking, is it good to leave him (legally), the answer is yes. Thanks for the video Team! Love it
Always awesome content that is pertinent & applicable. Sharp & well polished. Great example you are for myself and many. Keep rocking
I'm very Rational! I didn't know that that is being a 'NICE GUY", OH MY!
I am a 20yo with alot of ignorance in alot of topics but one thing I can say with confidence is that I have more life experience then the majority of other guys my age. I’ve traveled all over the country, mostly through soccer tournaments, and after hs, with the support of my parents, I saved money from my first job at Wendy’s so I could afford to live in Mexico and pursue a dream of becoming pro one day. I lived in Mexico on my own for a little under a year experiencing almost everything you could imagine a 19 yo living alone in a different country could experience. Now I’m back in my hometown working hvac with my dad . I have ambitions and I wanna keep working towards bettering my life and those around me lives aswell. I wanna keep learning so If there’s any mentors out there looking for a committed person I’ll be them. The pursuit of becoming pro has gone and In its place is the pursuit to Improve in all aspects as possible. Thank you and I hope you all have a blessed day 🙏🏽
As a Landlord, my goal is _not_ to sell an apartment to a person, couple or family. I'm confident in my products and services (rentals and repairs), so I see myself floating between confident, rational, assertive and occasionally, challenging. I'm confident and rational, but I have no choice but to be assertive about lease agreements, contractual obligations and challenging when I take someone to court for an eviction. *Pestering - NEVER.* I do *not* chase people for their rent. *Tenants have a 5-day grace period. Day 6 I'm sitting in the parking lot of the DJ's Office ready to file for eviction.*
Damn this was crazy helpful . Simple but everything was heavy no fluff💯
Nothing but love and respect 🙏🏾, have yourself a great day
Love to see the content level up Pat!
My husband is a very nice man. He is well respected and successful. You can be "nice" and stick by your guns.
I’m a nice guy and I don’t loose out on opportunities.. as a matter of fact opportunities come to me naturally. Be you be unique the world is your play ground
I am rather more rationally nice but assertively pestering to everyone that I have met, to ensure I protect my rights & privileges while maintaining the good relationships with others.
It's better to be a good and authentic person than it is to be a nice person. Strength in one's life leads to a greater experience. Good people don't let others walk all over them, "nice" people many times put themselves last and end up not getting their needs met.
This was well said. Thanks for this post.
@@sunnersky5996 You're welcome. Thank you for the comment. Best day to you!
Great video again Pat! excellent information. Fantastic perspective! I need to improve this subject. Thanks Pat for making it clear and understanding!
I just wanna acknowledge you, for the art of making these video's and explaining it all together it's like always sharper than a samurai Katana and straight forward.
“You know what John, I know where you’re going but let me push back,….” I found this line helpful. And Don’t be a pest.
PBD,
Reading this title reminded me of a book written back in 1993 called “Nice guys don’t get laid”
A tongue-in-cheek synopsis of the dating scene - one man's point of view of what women are attracted to and what they are not. Biting, humorous text accompanied by slick pen and ink line drawings, featuring popular hot spots. Highlights feature a Nice Guy test complete with celebrity examples and complete descriptions of three types- Mr. Nice Guy, Mr. Average and Mr. Abuse.
Just imagine it if you can...everyone in the room being assertive! Raising the bar, upping the ante, leg lifting! What's going to happen?
Hilarious!
New camera huh?! I’m a fan👏🏼 what’s the new camera you guys chose to use? I’d love to get it for content for my business
Thank you for this. It's what I really needed.
This is 100% accurate. I didnt buy instrument libraries last year bc it was going to run me like 3000$ so this year i found the fb of the creators . Asked them if they could give me it in a bundle of 4 packs for $1k. Sent them my music. They not only honored my offer. They gave me 7 libraries n free two computer life time licenses. Be respectful and youll be amazed of the results
We should be nice, though we must always reject the insincere notion that fearful, fretful timidity is nice because it's very weak but not nice.👍🏻
Wow, this message was ment for me. Thanks man
It's so complicated to be human, especially to be a man, "do this, do that no you're doing this wrong do it this way", that's why many of us snap
Insightful and great content as always. However if these videos are made slightly less stimulating with lesser cuts and mild to no music, it would be great. Thanks!
It's like the old saying, "It never hurts to ask, the worst answer you can get is just the word no." You miss every shot you don't take is also a truism. However, being a "nice guy" means that you are a moral person. To be a moral person means you have a personal set of rules of action and interaction that others view as admirable, that you choose to live by and refuse to break of your own volition. It doesn't make you bashful, fearful or afraid to speak, that mindset is actually covered by the word timid. You are right in that timid is often self-defeating, but to be a nice guy requires boldness and self-confidence, and you can possess all the traits all the way to hard-core and still be moral, without the necessity of being a jerk. Jerks CHOOSE to be abusive; they aren't that way by necessity.
I guess some!!! But nah!! Not really just be confident, be who you are that all matters💪
Watched this til the end. Loved it. Can you make some snapbacks? I'll buy white and black for sure.
This is one of the best channels on RUclips. I wish content like this was around when I was younger.
As a nice guy i do confirm what PBD just have said….. in business and dating…. A lot of work to do to improve 🙌
Thanks PBD
Production on this video was top notch
Most so called "nice guys" are actually fake nice(the ones who get friendzoned) and or are cowards. That doesn't mean a guy can't actually be nice and a guy but that "nice guys" is something else like how "martial arts" is different from "martial" and "arts" in many cases(Taekwondo has nothing to do with war). Nice is usually defined as "polite or kind" and we can be both polite and kind, or actually be nice, without being a chump or a coward
Practical & experiential. Great
I like this concept and I look forward to practicing asserting myself in more interactions with other people. It will also exercise my decision making process because to assert myself it helps to know what it is I even want.
0;35 INVESTMENSTS.....video Editor....Mr Patrick no like am o. He strikes me as a perfectionist.