THE POWER OF THE BLACK WOMAN’S SELF LOVE JOURNEY | Denise Francis | TEDxQueensVillage
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- Опубликовано: 7 окт 2024
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In this powerful TEDx Talk, Self Love Educator Denise Francis speaks on the relationship between Black Women, Self-love, and Mental health. She aims to bridge the gap to heal Black women from the trans-generational trauma that the “Strong Black Woman” trope has silenced.
About:
Denise Francis is the Founder and CEO of The Self Love Organization INC. The Self Love Organization is the online Self Love, Therapy and Wellness Club for Black Women to end the cycles of transgenerational trauma by healing Black Women and the communities they lead.
If all Black Women started a Self Love Journey, we could heal generations. There is power in healing and strength in Self Love, which can echo for generations to come. Denise is on a mission to Heal Black women and end transgenerational trauma. The Strong Black Woman trope has normalized a culture of self-silencing behaviors to be passed down generations. This silencing behavior has allowed Black Women to normalize their trauma. With Self Love, we can end this cycle by healing Black Women; we could rewrite our culture from internalizing trauma to healing it. Transforming the Strong Black Women into who she was always meant to be, the Healed Black Women.
Denise is a Self Love Coach, Researcher, Speaker, and Educator. Denise’s work is focused on healing Black Women by bridging the gap between Self Love and Mental Health with what lies in between the two constructs, Self-Therapy. She believes Self Love is a skill; if mastered, it could be the missing preventative measure to fight common mental health issues in women of color and help heal transgenerational trauma within the Black Community.
Denise has been on her Self Love Journey for 10 years, researching Self Love for 7 and teaching for 4 years. Her company, The Self Love Organization INC, created the first CCNY College course focused on Self Love titled, The Psychology of Self Care and Wellness. She is a CCNY Alumni earning her Bachelor's Degree in Psychology. She uses her encouraging energy to uplift Black Women on their Self Love & Natural Hair journeys as a RUclipsr, Blogger, and Content creator. Denise is currently an NYU Graduate Student, where she will become the first woman to receive a Masters with the concentration of Self Love, Self Therapy & The Black Mental Health Experience.
Denise's dedication continues as she is publishing a Daily Prompt Journal based on her research on Self Love and Self Therapy to guide Black Women on their Self Love Journeys. As well as launching an App and Membership Club called HEAL SIS for the hundreds of women ready to prioritize Self Love and mental health. She is launching this App for Black Women to make Self Love Easy through Self Love Coaching. Wellness Accessible through classes from yoga to fitness led by Black Women. Mental Health Practicable by connecting Black Women to Black therapists and providing therapy credits to ensure all Black Women have access to affordable therapy. All while creating a safe space for Black Women to Heal with the support of Sisterhood. Denise Francis is the Founder and CEO of The Self Love Organization INC. The Self Love Organization is the online Self-Love, Therapy and Wellness club for Black Women to help end the cycle of the transgenerational trauma by healing Black Women and the communities they lead.
Denise is a Self Love Coach, Researcher, Speaker and Educator. Denise’s work is focused on healing Black Women by bridging the gap between Self Love and Mental Health with what lies in between the two constructs, Self Therapy. She believes Self Love is a skill; if mastered it could be the missing preventative measure to fight common mental health issues in women of color and help heal trans-generational trauma within the Black Community. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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Oh this introooooooo TOUCHED me. Girl, I hope this message is spread throughout our community.
Thank you so much love! Please help me spread it!
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Amen
@@LiveNaturallyLove 🙌🏽
Thank you !! Today i will be going to find a therapist ... Its my time to heal ! Ive been a mom since i was 18 .. Im now 30 and a mom of 3 .. I am here but i am not present .... I exist but im not living ! I need to make it my time now. Thank you Denise 🌻😘
You are worthy❤️
@@CP-fw7lt i appreciate your kind words 😘
Are you a spiritual person
@@SunflowerVibe329 anytime 😊
Yes yes. Please fo
“I was coping, not healing....” I felt that to my core!! Thank you
You are very welcome !
This is the same self acknowledged journey I'm going through right now. It sucks and is sad when you realized your whole life you've been this way... now how do I changed it and my generation? That's the hardest question I'm facing rn.
People don't even think we feel this way. They think we are looking for attention and just looking for something to complain about.
I know women feel this way, stay strong
Thisssssss‼️🙌🏾
❤❤
Women complain that's what all women angry women all across America that type of attitude will never change it is what it is real talk lady
💯 Absolutely true. It makes it difficult to show your vulnerability. when you're passionate about something you're labeled as aggressive. Where as other people who are passionate about something in the exact same way are not labeled as being aggressive, it's simply passionate.
I immediately started crying when she said she realized the 9 year old girl was having an anxiety attack. Took me right back to the past. These tears are of a girl crying “heal me”
Me to thats when it all started for me to 😭😭
Hello
Me too.
Everything will be ok,
Self love is no longer the scapegoat.
Self love uses and enforces boundaries by any means necessary.
Self love addresses issues seeks help when needed.
Self love understands how energy must be protected and utilized positively.
Self love is definitely empowering!!
Thank you!!
Good information for everyone
@@Renoclark
I'm a living testimony 🙏 🙌
Amen 🙏
Coping instead of healing. Wow! Beautifully said.
Wow this message was so powerful! “The strong woman is the healed woman” my new motto
She just looks so beautiful and attractive
Financial Health also needs to be brought to the forefront of acknowledgement & attention.... Because without valuing ourselves we give so much of ourselves freely within the relationships we encounter throughout our journey and deal with financial abuse from our partners as well
Agreed.
You meant husband or wife.
no one is talking about man and money thats not the problem. sort your self out and everything and else will fall in line
Just what I needed to hear as I break generational trauma and healing myself. Thank you
I was emotional hearing this. I have worked very hard for a long time. Since I was 19 yrs old. I graduated college. Worked dead-end jobs, just to end up back in school. I had a daughter at 19 and 27. Each time I was in school. So where was my me time? I finally am in the end of my program and have excelled. I’ll be 30 this year. Why am I not happy? This year I’ve been so depressed not understanding why. I have so much to be happy for. This video gave me much clarity. I just need to understand me more and that I am only human and Its time to take time for me. I’ve worked hard all of my 20s and never once stopped to see if I was ok. Thanks for this video.
Self love and protecting your peace is extremely important!
Hello
How are you now? I am just seeing this video, very needed
"This whole time, I've been coping and not healing." THAT WAS SUCH A SHORT, BUT RESONATING SENTENCE.
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS. My life has truly changed since I've embarked on my self love journey🙌🏾
Mine too sis :)
Wow! Thank you for speaking your truth. A lot of it resonated with me. My self love journey has been transformational. As a mom to a daughter I am thankful that the trauma can end with me 🤎
Hello
amen ❤
This was a great way to start my morning off, I tell people all the time self love, self care, and self awareness is crucial for your mental health.
I was more than hesitant to watch this video, and here I am tears knowing that just being strong is not enough! I need some healing!
You probably don’t remember, but I interviewed you for an organization about your self love journey when I was in undergrad 3 years ago because your platform made me start my own. It’s amazing to see how far you’ve come!! This TED Talk was so powerful and much needed. Your platform showed me that self love is more than just pampering yourself and looking good. The real work starts within 💜✨
I'm on my own self love journey and when I tell you it's the most empowering thing in the world, your smile is beautiful Denise❤
That definition of self-love touched my soul
That she has shared so much of her personal self-love journey with us is so so so appreciated. We need more of us normalizing loving ourselves out loud! Thank you for sharing your brilliance and being vulnerable with us!
Thank you so much 💜
I love this!!! This is a great message that needs to be heard. ❤️
Thank you so much 💜 I hope to share this message to as many people as possible!
Ive started on my self love journey and I’m feeling amazing my world is changing so much for the better. My anxiety, depression and overthinking is getting better every day. It took for me to completely loss myself but I’m doing it now. Thanks to videos like these I’m finding me.
I felt not just every word, but every syllable. Touched my soul in a way I cannot explain. I felt this. I never knew that I was just "Coping"....
Thank you my Sister. That is one BadAss suit, beautiful.
I don’t know you personally but I’ve watched you for years. I am proud and inspired.
Thank you so so much !!!
My greatest takeaway is self awareness is obtained through self expression. Suppression of feeling does not cut it. After exhaling you can now breathe.
Loved this talk, however there are times that professional therapy may also be necessary to process complicated emotions that self therapy may not be able to address, and can also identify additional ways to navigate anxiety.
Agreed, thank you for making this point
So true @AnnClyde
I think though that therapy is not the panacea to our problems.
6:39...felt that.
Inspirational women make more inspirational women. 🗣🗣 THANK YOU for coaching future inspirers 🙏🏾💪🏾☮️💟💕
I felt an earthquake as soon as she said church and therapy🤯🤯🤯🙉Let em know sis!🥰😇
One of the strengths in facilitating is the "introduction" to receive the attention. Life is a journey 💓
I hear ppl saying "oh im fine, ain't no need to complain because it won't change anything or nobody cares". So folks pretend they are ok, when they really are not. Its sad 😭
Coping and not healing is what I've been doing... It's time to heal
She speaks the truth!!
I never even know what anxiety was until I was 39. I was told I just needed to calm down.
Thank you fir your message of the importance of self love. We don’t as you mentioned need to suffer in silence. We all need to love ourselves so intentionally that we unapologetically address those generational trauma that has indeed silenced us. It’s healing time. Ase
Exactly "Allowed" is a powerful word. this is soooo true and on point!
Wonderful Message. We must stay happy and healthy. We must also be sure to nourish our mind, body, and spirit. Stay Blessed!
Truth!
this was sooooo needed and Thank you for sharing, been on my self-love/self-care journey for 7 months now and I will continue for the rest of my life. my holy trinity is gym, church, and therapy. I thank God for it!!!!!!!!
24 and on my self love journey AMEN I'm happy I arrived here
Self love can set you up success and beautiful life for eternity
I needed this as I start my journey to self love and breaking generational curses
Self love is the best love... my journey is 2 years young but I swear I'm never looking back... this was so spot on and unequivocal words can express my
Vibrations at this moment.. healing for all of us is long overdue... I'm empowered from my own self healing and discovery.... namaste to you beloved
I hope this message is spread where it needs to go. I’ve been on a self-love journey for about 3 years and I’ve isolated myself because of it but I love it.
I loved her makeup 💄 It really suits her pretty complexion. Gorgeous ✨👍🏾🖤🖤🖤
Honestly, she is the prettiest women in the world 🌎 🥰👩🏾🦱🔥
"Self love is a Journey.." I wholeheartedly agree.
This is AMAZING!!!! I’ve shared with my daughter and relatives and friends!!!! Thank you for sharing your truth and bringing awareness that so many are still ashamed of. Thank you to The Most High, to Queen Afua, Ms. Blue the Oracle, Laila Delia, Idillionaire, Jessica Alexandria (BehatiLife) Iyanla Vanzant & I’m sure I’m missing others, please charge it to my head and not my heart these women have all been instrumental in my own personal self love journey!!!!! I wish I could have discovered this a bit sooner before my moms transition. It would have benefited and healed her I’m sure. 🙏🏽🤗❤️🙌🏾
yes sis!!!!! onmyselflove journey now that led me to getting back into therapy
Self-love should take more place in our lives!
Wow, seeing you up there speaking your truth with such poise and elegance really touched me! Seeing someone who look like me and is younger than me commit to this self love journey is so inspiring. I found you one day as I was looking for an apartment and there was a post of you sharing your Brooklyn loft! I read the entire article and then somehow I was led to your self love organization page. I quickly signed up to be added to the list. I knew that I wanted to be a part of a group of women like me who were working on healing! I started therapy a few days later and started my own journey of healing! It’s not easy but I keep pushing and taking my time day after day. I want you to be encouraged and know that you are doing a damn good job! You are touching lives by simply living in your truth! I can’t wait for your retreat in August! Wishing you nothing but the best!
I have to push through ,I have to keep going, our unseen pain, I love how she pushed that through to the audience..
It's our everyday we have no safe space.
This was very relatable and also reflective of where WE are and where we're going. Thank you Ms. Denise Francis. I'd love to be friends with her lol. Job well done.
You are amazing! And you look fantastic sis
This is very powerful🙌🏾
Thank you so much !
I am so glad that I came across your work through tiktok. This message is so so important. Incredibly moved by this video-brb sharing it with everyone I know!!
Is it sheer coincidence or what but i was just thinking along the same lines after praying and voila--- this video appears on my RUclips timeline. I need to meet this lady and interview her as she is speaking my mind and deliverance for a lot of unhappy, bound sisters.
This video need to be viral, thank you for your performance!
We need that content!
Yes! As Queens we all need to hear this.. Over and over again.🌹 Thank you!
So beautifully said. We are on this journey together Goddesses! Peace and Love ✨
I was waiting for her to tell us how she did it 😭
same. How to heal? :(
Search up Queen Afua. She changed my life.
She didn’t say, much….. yess all women have feelings. I was waiting, also.
This was not only beautiful, but needed and appreciated. Thank you for sharing your story and encouraging women who look us to take care of self!
Thank you so much for your kind words 😍
Deniseeeeeeeeee!!!!! Yessss sis!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yesssssssssss!!!!
This TedTalk gave me life! Confirmation that Self Love is necessary in our healing process. Thank you so much!
cried this whole video dawg
WOW!!!!!! Yes sista
Chocolate in pink is beautiful she looks amazing 😁
Such precious essential work we both take the time to heal with a spells love Journey
I was sitting here and just flipped back to your spiel and my spirit was calmed by it thank you
This work and talk is So Needed! Thank You!!!!!
I’m in tears! THANK YOU SISTER! 💕
what a powerful stumble I found. I have been on this journey for the pass year.
Excellent Tedtalk… well done!! And she is so right. I’m learning this at age 30. It’s hard but it’s worth it. Self love is the best love 💕 👏🏾👏🏾
Very True we need to question our core beliefs which made us feel "not enough". Now after years and years we need to self heal ourselves and reprogram our minds to affirm that what was done to us was wrong and the only way to overcome this deep rooted belief is through authentic self love healing which will make us feel the way we were meant to feel and live the life we were meant to live as children of God and equal children belonging to the universe.🙏
Exactly 💯
Beautiful Powerful message! This concept has taken me years to realize but thankfully, I find inspiration like this to continue the self-work and healing that I need to break generational curses.
Good job Denise ❤️💕
Amen sis 🙏🏽 thank you for your candidness. I didn’t realize someone else has a similar story from a Caribbean background.
I took notes, because this is important to me. Thank you for this. I will do my part and continue this conversation in my life. ❤️
Thank you for telling my story!🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤😘😘😘
Mama in that suit! I am FEELING YOU!!
Thank you. You saved my life.
Thank you love. Happy you are here!
My journey has been and beautiful! I'm grateful for the healing!
SHE KILLED IT!!!!!
I'm sharing this with my sister military veterans. We take on the mantle to "do it all without asking for help." I' became a mental health therapist for veterans, to share a similar message. I'm proud of you! Thank you for sharing this insightful and compassionate message. ❤
Lord bless her, I really enjoyed the journey, thank you.
Thank you for you words Denise Francis. As a young Jamaican women, your video has been one of the tools helping me to begin my own self love journey. To be healed.
I get goosebumps listening to her. I’m so proud of you Liv 💕
She is amazing
Thank you for this Powerful commentary💯💯💯💯🙏🙏🙏🙏💞💖💖💕💓👑💃👠
YES YES AND YES 💗💗💗
This is what I needed to hear...my self love journey begins today
I’m here from your channel… so proud of you! LiveNaturallyLove
Is that the name of it sis..."LiveNaturallyLove"? I need to hear her
@@nursegaines3519 yes ma’am! On all platforms…
@@aureliacopeland7893 thanks, just subscribed. I can feel my life changing
People will push u to be the strong bw as well. It’s so sad. They tell u to accept failed relationships Cuz ur suppose to do everything to keep a man. They say u will be alone if u don’t do everything to keep ur man meanwhile men are raised to find the woman that best caters to their lifestyle.
WE ARE LIFE ITSELF! Everything and everyone came from us!!!!!! The eve gene is Gods gene , NEVER FORGET WHO WE ARE!!!!!!! Ameeeeeen ♥️
Congratulations! I have been waiting for your reveal for weeks! This was so good, and honestly extremely relatable. After continuous episodes of pushing things aside like they never happened, my self-therapy began when I came to accept the story I was trying to avoid. Thank you so much for sharing your self-love journey.
Thank you Queen ❤️
Oh my! That’s deep! Hearing it this way is so profound! I’ve been coping not healing 🙆🏾♀️💣Wow!!!
THAT WAS AMAZING I SHED A TEAR!! GOD BLESS YOU !!!
This is what I needed to hear…today I am starting myself Love Journey 😊🙏🏽
Awesome job here from TikTok ❤️
This is AMAZING! LOVE!!! 💜✨
Got my attention in the first sentence!!!!!!! Go girl!