Thank you !! Today i will be going to find a therapist ... Its my time to heal ! Ive been a mom since i was 18 .. Im now 30 and a mom of 3 .. I am here but i am not present .... I exist but im not living ! I need to make it my time now. Thank you Denise 🌻😘
💯 Absolutely true. It makes it difficult to show your vulnerability. when you're passionate about something you're labeled as aggressive. Where as other people who are passionate about something in the exact same way are not labeled as being aggressive, it's simply passionate.
This is the same self acknowledged journey I'm going through right now. It sucks and is sad when you realized your whole life you've been this way... now how do I changed it and my generation? That's the hardest question I'm facing rn.
I immediately started crying when she said she realized the 9 year old girl was having an anxiety attack. Took me right back to the past. These tears are of a girl crying “heal me”
Self love is no longer the scapegoat. Self love uses and enforces boundaries by any means necessary. Self love addresses issues seeks help when needed. Self love understands how energy must be protected and utilized positively. Self love is definitely empowering!! Thank you!!
Absolutely! Coping can feel like survival mode, while healing opens the door to true freedom and peace. What do you think helps most in transitioning from coping to fully embracing the healing process?
I completely agree with you, the idea of coping instead of truly healing really resonated with me. Its so important to understand the difference and to really take the time to heal rather than just survive. What do you think are some of the biggest barriers to healing that we face today?
I hear ppl saying "oh im fine, ain't no need to complain because it won't change anything or nobody cares". So folks pretend they are ok, when they really are not. Its sad 😭
I was emotional hearing this. I have worked very hard for a long time. Since I was 19 yrs old. I graduated college. Worked dead-end jobs, just to end up back in school. I had a daughter at 19 and 27. Each time I was in school. So where was my me time? I finally am in the end of my program and have excelled. I’ll be 30 this year. Why am I not happy? This year I’ve been so depressed not understanding why. I have so much to be happy for. This video gave me much clarity. I just need to understand me more and that I am only human and Its time to take time for me. I’ve worked hard all of my 20s and never once stopped to see if I was ok. Thanks for this video.
Ive started on my self love journey and I’m feeling amazing my world is changing so much for the better. My anxiety, depression and overthinking is getting better every day. It took for me to completely loss myself but I’m doing it now. Thanks to videos like these I’m finding me.
Financial Health also needs to be brought to the forefront of acknowledgement & attention.... Because without valuing ourselves we give so much of ourselves freely within the relationships we encounter throughout our journey and deal with financial abuse from our partners as well
Wow! Thank you for speaking your truth. A lot of it resonated with me. My self love journey has been transformational. As a mom to a daughter I am thankful that the trauma can end with me 🤎
My greatest takeaway is self awareness is obtained through self expression. Suppression of feeling does not cut it. After exhaling you can now breathe.
That she has shared so much of her personal self-love journey with us is so so so appreciated. We need more of us normalizing loving ourselves out loud! Thank you for sharing your brilliance and being vulnerable with us!
You probably don’t remember, but I interviewed you for an organization about your self love journey when I was in undergrad 3 years ago because your platform made me start my own. It’s amazing to see how far you’ve come!! This TED Talk was so powerful and much needed. Your platform showed me that self love is more than just pampering yourself and looking good. The real work starts within 💜✨
Thank you for this! This was truly a word! I see this is 3yrs old and I’m JUST now coming across it…BUT it wasn’t time for me to see it until now! The most powerful 15mins ever! I receive every word!
That was the most Powerful speech! I have been on this journey to heal. I’m getting better day by day. It’s the inward part to dig deep within my soul. Thank you!
I have to push through ,I have to keep going, our unseen pain, I love how she pushed that through to the audience.. It's our everyday we have no safe space.
Self love is the best love... my journey is 2 years young but I swear I'm never looking back... this was so spot on and unequivocal words can express my Vibrations at this moment.. healing for all of us is long overdue... I'm empowered from my own self healing and discovery.... namaste to you beloved
this was sooooo needed and Thank you for sharing, been on my self-love/self-care journey for 7 months now and I will continue for the rest of my life. my holy trinity is gym, church, and therapy. I thank God for it!!!!!!!!
Wow, seeing you up there speaking your truth with such poise and elegance really touched me! Seeing someone who look like me and is younger than me commit to this self love journey is so inspiring. I found you one day as I was looking for an apartment and there was a post of you sharing your Brooklyn loft! I read the entire article and then somehow I was led to your self love organization page. I quickly signed up to be added to the list. I knew that I wanted to be a part of a group of women like me who were working on healing! I started therapy a few days later and started my own journey of healing! It’s not easy but I keep pushing and taking my time day after day. I want you to be encouraged and know that you are doing a damn good job! You are touching lives by simply living in your truth! I can’t wait for your retreat in August! Wishing you nothing but the best!
Is it sheer coincidence or what but i was just thinking along the same lines after praying and voila--- this video appears on my RUclips timeline. I need to meet this lady and interview her as she is speaking my mind and deliverance for a lot of unhappy, bound sisters.
Thank you fir your message of the importance of self love. We don’t as you mentioned need to suffer in silence. We all need to love ourselves so intentionally that we unapologetically address those generational trauma that has indeed silenced us. It’s healing time. Ase
I hope this message is spread where it needs to go. I’ve been on a self-love journey for about 3 years and I’ve isolated myself because of it but I love it.
This woman is a blessing to the world. By binge-watching her content, one has easily found a guide on how to love one's self. Such a blessing and so grateful to have come across a beautiful, gorgeous, intelligent, confident, happy soul.
Thanks so much! This is powerful! Sharing with my group of caregivers and my sistas!!! Let's continue this revolution of self-love and stop watching each other suffer/die.
I'm sharing this with my sister military veterans. We take on the mantle to "do it all without asking for help." I' became a mental health therapist for veterans, to share a similar message. I'm proud of you! Thank you for sharing this insightful and compassionate message. ❤
I am so glad that I came across your work through tiktok. This message is so so important. Incredibly moved by this video-brb sharing it with everyone I know!!
This is AMAZING!!!! I’ve shared with my daughter and relatives and friends!!!! Thank you for sharing your truth and bringing awareness that so many are still ashamed of. Thank you to The Most High, to Queen Afua, Ms. Blue the Oracle, Laila Delia, Idillionaire, Jessica Alexandria (BehatiLife) Iyanla Vanzant & I’m sure I’m missing others, please charge it to my head and not my heart these women have all been instrumental in my own personal self love journey!!!!! I wish I could have discovered this a bit sooner before my moms transition. It would have benefited and healed her I’m sure. 🙏🏽🤗❤️🙌🏾
Thank you for you words Denise Francis. As a young Jamaican women, your video has been one of the tools helping me to begin my own self love journey. To be healed.
This was very relatable and also reflective of where WE are and where we're going. Thank you Ms. Denise Francis. I'd love to be friends with her lol. Job well done.
Beautiful Powerful message! This concept has taken me years to realize but thankfully, I find inspiration like this to continue the self-work and healing that I need to break generational curses.
Loved this talk, however there are times that professional therapy may also be necessary to process complicated emotions that self therapy may not be able to address, and can also identify additional ways to navigate anxiety.
Very True we need to question our core beliefs which made us feel "not enough". Now after years and years we need to self heal ourselves and reprogram our minds to affirm that what was done to us was wrong and the only way to overcome this deep rooted belief is through authentic self love healing which will make us feel the way we were meant to feel and live the life we were meant to live as children of God and equal children belonging to the universe.🙏
Congratulations! I have been waiting for your reveal for weeks! This was so good, and honestly extremely relatable. After continuous episodes of pushing things aside like they never happened, my self-therapy began when I came to accept the story I was trying to avoid. Thank you so much for sharing your self-love journey.
That was a beautiful Ted talk. Well spoken and very relatable. It’s a beautiful journey. We so often give our love to others but when we begin to give that love to ourselves, we unlock a new level! Masking it just covers it up. We have to be healed from the inside out! Yes I am going to church and therapy at the same damn time! Working on the core and the spiritual self. Listened to this on my way to the gym. Now I’m ready to go in and work on the external. All love.
This was truly amazing and I’m so super proud of you! Watching you shine inspires me and I’m positive countless others to do the same! Thank you for your love and light! Keep changing the world sis!!😘
To say I loved the intro is an understatement! We can heal, feel and our feelings are valid! Let’s go Queens Village! Our journey is happening and getting better and better!
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Thank you !! Today i will be going to find a therapist ... Its my time to heal ! Ive been a mom since i was 18 .. Im now 30 and a mom of 3 .. I am here but i am not present .... I exist but im not living ! I need to make it my time now. Thank you Denise 🌻😘
You are worthy❤️
@@CP-fw7lt i appreciate your kind words 😘
Are you a spiritual person
@@SunflowerVibe329 anytime 😊
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People don't even think we feel this way. They think we are looking for attention and just looking for something to complain about.
I know women feel this way, stay strong
Thisssssss‼️🙌🏾
❤❤
Women complain that's what all women angry women all across America that type of attitude will never change it is what it is real talk lady
💯 Absolutely true. It makes it difficult to show your vulnerability. when you're passionate about something you're labeled as aggressive. Where as other people who are passionate about something in the exact same way are not labeled as being aggressive, it's simply passionate.
“I was coping, not healing....” I felt that to my core!! Thank you
You are very welcome !
This is the same self acknowledged journey I'm going through right now. It sucks and is sad when you realized your whole life you've been this way... now how do I changed it and my generation? That's the hardest question I'm facing rn.
Oh this introooooooo TOUCHED me. Girl, I hope this message is spread throughout our community.
Thank you so much love! Please help me spread it!
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Amen
@@LiveNaturallyLove 🙌🏽
I immediately started crying when she said she realized the 9 year old girl was having an anxiety attack. Took me right back to the past. These tears are of a girl crying “heal me”
Me to thats when it all started for me to 😭😭
Hello
Me too.
Everything will be ok,
Self love is no longer the scapegoat.
Self love uses and enforces boundaries by any means necessary.
Self love addresses issues seeks help when needed.
Self love understands how energy must be protected and utilized positively.
Self love is definitely empowering!!
Thank you!!
Good information for everyone
@@Renoclark
I'm a living testimony 🙏 🙌
Amen 🙏
Coping instead of healing. Wow! Beautifully said.
Absolutely! Coping can feel like survival mode, while healing opens the door to true freedom and peace. What do you think helps most in transitioning from coping to fully embracing the healing process?
I completely agree with you, the idea of coping instead of truly healing really resonated with me. Its so important to understand the difference and to really take the time to heal rather than just survive. What do you think are some of the biggest barriers to healing that we face today?
Just what I needed to hear as I break generational trauma and healing myself. Thank you
"This whole time, I've been coping and not healing." THAT WAS SUCH A SHORT, BUT RESONATING SENTENCE.
Wow this message was so powerful! “The strong woman is the healed woman” my new motto
I hear ppl saying "oh im fine, ain't no need to complain because it won't change anything or nobody cares". So folks pretend they are ok, when they really are not. Its sad 😭
I was emotional hearing this. I have worked very hard for a long time. Since I was 19 yrs old. I graduated college. Worked dead-end jobs, just to end up back in school. I had a daughter at 19 and 27. Each time I was in school. So where was my me time? I finally am in the end of my program and have excelled. I’ll be 30 this year. Why am I not happy? This year I’ve been so depressed not understanding why. I have so much to be happy for. This video gave me much clarity. I just need to understand me more and that I am only human and Its time to take time for me. I’ve worked hard all of my 20s and never once stopped to see if I was ok. Thanks for this video.
Self love and protecting your peace is extremely important!
Hello
How are you now? I am just seeing this video, very needed
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS. My life has truly changed since I've embarked on my self love journey🙌🏾
Mine too sis :)
Ive started on my self love journey and I’m feeling amazing my world is changing so much for the better. My anxiety, depression and overthinking is getting better every day. It took for me to completely loss myself but I’m doing it now. Thanks to videos like these I’m finding me.
Financial Health also needs to be brought to the forefront of acknowledgement & attention.... Because without valuing ourselves we give so much of ourselves freely within the relationships we encounter throughout our journey and deal with financial abuse from our partners as well
Agreed.
You meant husband or wife.
no one is talking about man and money thats not the problem. sort your self out and everything and else will fall in line
Wow! Thank you for speaking your truth. A lot of it resonated with me. My self love journey has been transformational. As a mom to a daughter I am thankful that the trauma can end with me 🤎
Hello
amen ❤
I was more than hesitant to watch this video, and here I am tears knowing that just being strong is not enough! I need some healing!
This was a great way to start my morning off, I tell people all the time self love, self care, and self awareness is crucial for your mental health.
She just looks so beautiful and attractive
I'm on my own self love journey and when I tell you it's the most empowering thing in the world, your smile is beautiful Denise❤
Coping and not healing is what I've been doing... It's time to heal
My greatest takeaway is self awareness is obtained through self expression. Suppression of feeling does not cut it. After exhaling you can now breathe.
That definition of self-love touched my soul
That she has shared so much of her personal self-love journey with us is so so so appreciated. We need more of us normalizing loving ourselves out loud! Thank you for sharing your brilliance and being vulnerable with us!
Thank you so much 💜
24 and on my self love journey AMEN I'm happy I arrived here
You probably don’t remember, but I interviewed you for an organization about your self love journey when I was in undergrad 3 years ago because your platform made me start my own. It’s amazing to see how far you’ve come!! This TED Talk was so powerful and much needed. Your platform showed me that self love is more than just pampering yourself and looking good. The real work starts within 💜✨
I don’t know you personally but I’ve watched you for years. I am proud and inspired.
Thank you so so much !!!
I love this!!! This is a great message that needs to be heard. ❤️
Thank you so much 💜 I hope to share this message to as many people as possible!
Thank you for this! This was truly a word! I see this is 3yrs old and I’m JUST now coming across it…BUT it wasn’t time for me to see it until now! The most powerful 15mins ever! I receive every word!
Exactly "Allowed" is a powerful word. this is soooo true and on point!
She speaks the truth!!
I never even know what anxiety was until I was 39. I was told I just needed to calm down.
That was the most Powerful speech! I have been on this journey to heal. I’m getting better day by day. It’s the inward part to dig deep within my soul. Thank you!
I felt not just every word, but every syllable. Touched my soul in a way I cannot explain. I felt this. I never knew that I was just "Coping"....
I have to push through ,I have to keep going, our unseen pain, I love how she pushed that through to the audience..
It's our everyday we have no safe space.
Thank you my Sister. That is one BadAss suit, beautiful.
I needed this as I start my journey to self love and breaking generational curses
One of the strengths in facilitating is the "introduction" to receive the attention. Life is a journey 💓
Self love is the best love... my journey is 2 years young but I swear I'm never looking back... this was so spot on and unequivocal words can express my
Vibrations at this moment.. healing for all of us is long overdue... I'm empowered from my own self healing and discovery.... namaste to you beloved
this was sooooo needed and Thank you for sharing, been on my self-love/self-care journey for 7 months now and I will continue for the rest of my life. my holy trinity is gym, church, and therapy. I thank God for it!!!!!!!!
Wow, seeing you up there speaking your truth with such poise and elegance really touched me! Seeing someone who look like me and is younger than me commit to this self love journey is so inspiring. I found you one day as I was looking for an apartment and there was a post of you sharing your Brooklyn loft! I read the entire article and then somehow I was led to your self love organization page. I quickly signed up to be added to the list. I knew that I wanted to be a part of a group of women like me who were working on healing! I started therapy a few days later and started my own journey of healing! It’s not easy but I keep pushing and taking my time day after day. I want you to be encouraged and know that you are doing a damn good job! You are touching lives by simply living in your truth! I can’t wait for your retreat in August! Wishing you nothing but the best!
cried this whole video dawg
Inspirational women make more inspirational women. 🗣🗣 THANK YOU for coaching future inspirers 🙏🏾💪🏾☮️💟💕
Is it sheer coincidence or what but i was just thinking along the same lines after praying and voila--- this video appears on my RUclips timeline. I need to meet this lady and interview her as she is speaking my mind and deliverance for a lot of unhappy, bound sisters.
Thank you fir your message of the importance of self love. We don’t as you mentioned need to suffer in silence. We all need to love ourselves so intentionally that we unapologetically address those generational trauma that has indeed silenced us. It’s healing time. Ase
I hope this message is spread where it needs to go. I’ve been on a self-love journey for about 3 years and I’ve isolated myself because of it but I love it.
This woman is a blessing to the world. By binge-watching her content, one has easily found a guide on how to love one's self. Such a blessing and so grateful to have come across a beautiful, gorgeous, intelligent, confident, happy soul.
yes sis!!!!! onmyselflove journey now that led me to getting back into therapy
6:39...felt that.
I’m in tears! THANK YOU SISTER! 💕
I was sitting here and just flipped back to your spiel and my spirit was calmed by it thank you
Thanks so much! This is powerful! Sharing with my group of caregivers and my sistas!!! Let's continue this revolution of self-love and stop watching each other suffer/die.
Wonderful Message. We must stay happy and healthy. We must also be sure to nourish our mind, body, and spirit. Stay Blessed!
Truth!
I'm sharing this with my sister military veterans. We take on the mantle to "do it all without asking for help." I' became a mental health therapist for veterans, to share a similar message. I'm proud of you! Thank you for sharing this insightful and compassionate message. ❤
I am so glad that I came across your work through tiktok. This message is so so important. Incredibly moved by this video-brb sharing it with everyone I know!!
"Self love is a Journey.." I wholeheartedly agree.
This work and talk is So Needed! Thank You!!!!!
Self-love should take more place in our lives!
what a powerful stumble I found. I have been on this journey for the pass year.
This is AMAZING!!!! I’ve shared with my daughter and relatives and friends!!!! Thank you for sharing your truth and bringing awareness that so many are still ashamed of. Thank you to The Most High, to Queen Afua, Ms. Blue the Oracle, Laila Delia, Idillionaire, Jessica Alexandria (BehatiLife) Iyanla Vanzant & I’m sure I’m missing others, please charge it to my head and not my heart these women have all been instrumental in my own personal self love journey!!!!! I wish I could have discovered this a bit sooner before my moms transition. It would have benefited and healed her I’m sure. 🙏🏽🤗❤️🙌🏾
I took notes, because this is important to me. Thank you for this. I will do my part and continue this conversation in my life. ❤️
Thank you for you words Denise Francis. As a young Jamaican women, your video has been one of the tools helping me to begin my own self love journey. To be healed.
This was eye-opening, genuine, and so insightful! Thank you for helping me to understand what self love truly means!
My journey has been and beautiful! I'm grateful for the healing!
This was very relatable and also reflective of where WE are and where we're going. Thank you Ms. Denise Francis. I'd love to be friends with her lol. Job well done.
This video need to be viral, thank you for your performance!
We need that content!
Beautiful Powerful message! This concept has taken me years to realize but thankfully, I find inspiration like this to continue the self-work and healing that I need to break generational curses.
Silence is my main thing. I don't talk to nobody I keep everything to myself.
Yes! As Queens we all need to hear this.. Over and over again.🌹 Thank you!
You are amazing! And you look fantastic sis
Such precious essential work we both take the time to heal with a spells love Journey
Growing up i never saw my mom cry so that's why I always suppressed my feelings.
You are all beautiful and deserve the best. Big support to you girls.
This TedTalk gave me life! Confirmation that Self Love is necessary in our healing process. Thank you so much!
This was not only beautiful, but needed and appreciated. Thank you for sharing your story and encouraging women who look us to take care of self!
Thank you so much for your kind words 😍
Thank you. You saved my life.
Thank you love. Happy you are here!
Self love can set you up success and beautiful life for eternity
Powerful message and wish I was taught this as a young child into womanhood. Learned all this in my 30’s living through it now
Loved this talk, however there are times that professional therapy may also be necessary to process complicated emotions that self therapy may not be able to address, and can also identify additional ways to navigate anxiety.
Agreed, thank you for making this point
So true @AnnClyde
I think though that therapy is not the panacea to our problems.
So beautifully said. We are on this journey together Goddesses! Peace and Love ✨
Excellent Tedtalk… well done!! And she is so right. I’m learning this at age 30. It’s hard but it’s worth it. Self love is the best love 💕 👏🏾👏🏾
Very True we need to question our core beliefs which made us feel "not enough". Now after years and years we need to self heal ourselves and reprogram our minds to affirm that what was done to us was wrong and the only way to overcome this deep rooted belief is through authentic self love healing which will make us feel the way we were meant to feel and live the life we were meant to live as children of God and equal children belonging to the universe.🙏
Exactly 💯
This is what I needed to hear...my self love journey begins today
Congratulations! I have been waiting for your reveal for weeks! This was so good, and honestly extremely relatable. After continuous episodes of pushing things aside like they never happened, my self-therapy began when I came to accept the story I was trying to avoid. Thank you so much for sharing your self-love journey.
Amen sis 🙏🏽 thank you for your candidness. I didn’t realize someone else has a similar story from a Caribbean background.
THAT WAS AMAZING I SHED A TEAR!! GOD BLESS YOU !!!
This is what I needed to hear…today I am starting myself Love Journey 😊🙏🏽
This needs more recognition
Thank you so much Denise! My tears uncontrollable right now ! I’m proud you love
That was a beautiful Ted talk. Well spoken and very relatable. It’s a beautiful journey. We so often give our love to others but when we begin to give that love to ourselves, we unlock a new level! Masking it just covers it up. We have to be healed from the inside out! Yes I am going to church and therapy at the same damn time! Working on the core and the spiritual self. Listened to this on my way to the gym. Now I’m ready to go in and work on the external. All love.
Wow this is inspiring I really needed to hear this cause low self esteem has really take over me I need to heal
I loved her makeup 💄 It really suits her pretty complexion. Gorgeous ✨👍🏾🖤🖤🖤
Honestly, she is the prettiest women in the world 🌎 🥰👩🏾🦱🔥
There was so much healing in this conversation
This was truly amazing and I’m so super proud of you! Watching you shine inspires me and I’m positive countless others to do the same! Thank you for your love and light! Keep changing the world sis!!😘
Thank you for telling my story!🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤😘😘😘
This was powerful, short and well articulated. Self Love is a skill wow loved this
To say I loved the intro is an understatement! We can heal, feel and our feelings are valid! Let’s go Queens Village! Our journey is happening and getting better and better!
That was a word!!! An HONEST word!!! Bless you Denise!!! The best morning cup of self love to start my day!!! Peace and blessings!!@
6:50 Wow! I felt that
Your presentation really touched me to the core! Thank you for sharing this message Denise! May God bless you 🙏
Thank you so much sis !
Who else is from TikTok 😊 came to support