How to Build Self Confidence | CeCe Olisa | TEDxFresnoState
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- Опубликовано: 28 ноя 2018
- It's possible to change your life by changing your perspective on the perceived obstacle. CeCe Olisa is a Lifestyle Blogger and Co-Founder of the CURVYcon, a convention celebrating body positivity and plus size fashion during New York Fashion Week. CeCe’s blog and RUclips channel are dedicated to discussing fashion, fitness, dating, and life from a plus-size and body positive perspective.
CeCe creates wildly popular plus-size workout videos on her RUclips channel, encouraging women to work out because they love their bodies, not because they hate their bodies. An expert in body positivity, CeCe recently partnered with SHAPE Magazine for the 2018 SHAPE women’s half-marathon, as an honoree among 13 notable female leaders. She is described as a “person who proves you can be fit at any size” by MTV.com, CeCe lives by her motto, “Don’t wait on your weight to live the life you want." This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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My life would be perfect if I didn't get nervous talking to people
Me too bro
Oh yes my social anxiety …feel you..
That’s exactly why i watched this vid 🤦🏼♀️
Same. I begin my Sophomore year at a new school in 15 days. Kinda nervous.
Am with you, am always nervous☹️
Thank you so much for this opportunity! xx
You were wonderful. I'm going to start on the steps now!
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CeCe Olisa this was amazing! Thank you!
Very powerful. Thank you.
For me it's
1.Exercise ( more is better but also little is better than nothing)
2.Meditate once a day(for me at least 3 min)
3. At the end of the day write what you are thankful for
4. Write down your fears and when they occur and why you think they do
5. Go outside often
6.socialise
7.Only believe the profecies that empower you
8. Do what you are afraid of on a regular basis.
Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for sharing
"Dont wait on your weight to live the life you want"!
That pulled me right in & she's right, if you can begin to build your confidence while not being where you wanna be just yet, then just imagine when you get there!!
Such a POWERFUL statement!
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Tell me about it!!!!
Not sure how to apply these steps to me or if my issue is a perceived obstacle. I just want to be more confident in general. I visualize myself being free of my mind and overthinking so I can be open, friendly, confident and not care what others think. I want to be able to be funny, kind and outspoken to all people I meet. Instead of limiting myself based on how I imagine others perceptions of me. And also not let others comments impact me
^^^ This is exactly what I’m going through and what I want.
me too tho, i know u posted this a year ago so if you’ve grown or anything…tips?
Hmmm... where is a good place to find videos that can help you with your confidence and social skills? If only there was a site with free videos where you could get information like "How to overcome anxiety" "How to have great conversations" "How to build your confidence" "How to overcome approach anxiety" "How to ask better questions" "How to learn to dicipher body language" "How to quickly build rapport". If only there was a free video site like that on the web, then you'd have your problem licked in no time!
I (used to ) have the same problem
write down what you want
Meditate or hypnosis (i fear recommending but this worked for me ) and visualise ( there are videos available on youtube you can use them)
gain more knowledge about the pain you suffer
see yourself grow..
must be consistent
@@radhasurya9403 hey can you tell me where can I find this videos at?
When she said..." scale before soul" , " looking good before feeling good" that really touched me. It is so sad how we tend to focus on what is expected of us than what we really want.
The line in the beginning “don’t wait on your weight to live the life you want” instantly blew me out of the water, that’s exactly why I haven’t put myself out there and do all the things I dream of. This will be the phrase I tell myself everyday until I stop seeing my weight as a indicator of my worth.
a channel named glowersity also has really good confidence tips
Same for me
I absolutely love and agree when she said step four is "Choose to live the life you imagine..today" because currently that's what I've been doing to boost my confidence and let me tell you, after a day of imagining myself as a beautiful plus size girl with a colorful personality, my confidence has gone up a lot. And as for the quote I say to myself is "I choose my own worth, no one else can."
totally agree with you there’s a video on how to build confidence on a channel called glowersity which really helped me out !
Screaming "Yes, Cece!" You are so beautiful and such an inspiration. Thank you.
Yasssss did you scream too!!!
This is just superb, I have been researching "can an introvert be a good public speaker?" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Beyophia Unimaginable Blaster - (do a google search ) ? It is an awesome one off guide for discovering how to say goodbye to your shyness and anxiety minus the headache. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my brother in law got excellent success with it.
One of the most beautiful people I’ve ever seen
Thanks so much... quite inspiring... starting my journey immediately
Isn't she ?!?!?!?!?
My life would be perfect if....
Step 1 Identify your perceived obstacle
Step 2 Imagine what your life would look like if your perceived obstacle disappeared
Step 3 Address your perceived obstacle
Step 4 Choose to live the life you imagined today
This is priceless, CeCe. Thank you!
Cried with joy for the gifts CeCe has given to herself, those photos were beautiful as the greatest beauty is someone who is unafraid to be and embrace herself wholeheartedly and lovingly. I have a dream destination to visit with my son, so I will imagine that memory. Thank you for this, did yourself proud x
I just don't understand why there's no millions of views
I mean this is brilliant
Woo-woo! Go, CeCe! You led the way by example! I especially loved what you said here 8:08 "...We live in a world that values...looking good over feeling good...Embrace health as a practice, not a pants size."
Excellent!! Your look is fierce!! I focused on what you were saying, you spoke so eloquently about a topic we don't speak about. I also focused on how confidently you stood in front of a group of total strangers. Thank you for this. This is a message for everyone, not just us plus size woman.
The notion that recognizing and appreciating one's unique strengths contributes to improved self-esteem has inspired me to explore my capabilities and cultivate a more positive self-image.
Thank you so much for sharing this! I'm struggling with confidence. I can't blame anyone else but myself. It seems like when I get an opportunity or meet new people I destroy it with insecurity. I so badly want to overcome this.
CeCe Olisa!!! So much to say! Absolutely phenomenal. You looked great, you spoke great and you shared great advice! Clear, concise, and packed with great actionable steps! You exuded confidence and humility at the same time:) Your star 🌟 is shining so brightly and I am glad to be a part of your journey. Keisha 👑👑👑
I have spent years finding this self-confidence video, but you finally hit the nail with your four steps "HOW TO BUILD SELF-CONFIDENCE". God bless you.
I’m happy I found this today! I’ve been battling self confidence for the longest time. Thank you
Great
Exactly what am facing now, I won the first place in quiz but my instructors congratulated the the 2nd position girl instead of me as the winner, even though i was given the winner prize, i was never acknowledged cos i am a Nigerian and they are Filipinos, well i want to say this to everyone one out there, YOU ARE TOO GREAT TO LOSE YOUR STAR, SHINE AND DON'T LET ANYONE DIM YOUR LIGHT.
I have been hiding cos am scared and lack confidence to address my obstacles, but thank you for this, I'm setting my plan straight now.
Wauuu nice to know here in Philipines too but iam a Kenyan well I understand your situation.God bless
CONGRATULATIONS ON WINNING AND I AM PROUD OF YOU !!!!!
congrats gurl!!!
And that's on periodt!!!✨✨✨
CeCe!!! It is what it is!!! Glory to God for how He has elevated your voice on a large platform!! Ahhh! From Plus Size Princess to Ted X, congratulations!!!
Thanks alot for these inspirations. Thumbs up
kelly rowland
i thought so too!!
@@DrMocha87 THANK YOU.
Me too!!! As soon as I saw her I thought she looks so much like Kelly!! Beautiful and excellent presentation!!!!
For sure. She also reminds me of Gladys Knight. Beautiful spirit.
stainthegemini FIRST THOUGHT!!!!!!!!!!!
Naija no dey carry last atall!!!❤❤❤ thats all I need to hear. Thank you so much for this
My life would be perfect if I didn’t compare myself to others girls online
Hi! I also used to really struggle with this and I wanted to share what helped me. Everytime I caught my self comparing I would say one of these two (whichever applied):
1. Another girls beauty is not at the expense of my own.
2. Another person success is not at the expense of my own.
Repeat it to yourself when you firm yourself comparing. Start to see other women as beautiful individuals not competition.
try deleting social media that you feel you compare yourself to most for a week and see how you feel! ever since i cut it out of my life i feel i’m happier and carry myself tall and proud of who i am.
She is very pretty❤. A real Naija queen👸🏾💪🏾
Loud it girl!
You’re so beautiful. Skinny CeCe ain’t got nothing on voluptuous CeCe. Thank you for this mindset shift
Thank you for sharing! I’m skinny and still struggle to fit into society’s mold. Why? Not sure but I’m stopping that TODAY! Also, this is message is short but your story resonated with me on many levels and your delivery style was fantastic! Thank you again! 😘😘😘
Same. I’ve always been thin but still struggled to love and accept my body. So ridiculous.
same a video on this channel called glowersity really helped me out
You should develop a curriculum for youths based on your methods, Cici. You are amazing. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. 💜💜💜
*Cece ... So sorry I misspelled. Pls forgive
Excellent presentation.
And so true " Naija no dey carry last"
We are fighters, and do not quit easily. Neither are we easily intimidated. Bring it on! Our souls often exclaims, no matter where in the world we find ourselves.
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Thank you for writing it out. I love this saying.
CeCe when I first saw you your weight said nothing negative about you, what I saw was your beauty. My life would be better, wait my life is better, I now have God in my life.
You are a bright & Shiny woman! We need more women like you lighting up the world with your beauty and your infectious personality. You are gorgeous in every single way.
Thank you Cece. I was really scared but not for my body but my mind. It played tricks on me for 18 years. I'm sick of being scared and lonely. I'll give my best to get the life I want and fulfill my dreams. Love, Karen.
Well done girl! Many of us struggle with confidence on account of our body size and especially the negative stigma that is attached to being "full" (neither am I saying it's ok to fall way out of your BMI & be threatened with the risks associated)... but some of us will NEVER be skinny...
I think social media is injecting loads of pain in us that a woman can only attain happiness/full potential if slim
I'm loving these kinds of talks where I can find many ways to love and respect myself and don't think about how people see me or how I have to look to be accepted! I'll do it, I'll break this rope of low self-worth and low confidence, I'm exahusted to think in my body shape every freaking minute and don't enjoy food.
Thank you so much CeCe and TED.
You were AWESOME! and you did an awesome job! And can we talk about the dress and the make-up?! Flawless!
Make up is absolutely flawless!!!!
She is beautiful and talented but the dress could be more modest and not tight:):)
@@priusa8113 Her dress is very modest and appropriate.
Her dress is perfect! 💜😍
I really love her great self-confidence she’s so confident to the point where we can get inspired by her confident she’s radiating confidence⭐️✨🌟🌟
As an educator, your presentation is flawless. Your 4 steps will go a long way in reaching many "students". I will share this Talk with my female atudents.
Self Confidence is the only thing which makes us believe we can do it. And, when WE start believing it - the world slowly starts to see it themselves automatically!:)
You're already beautiful but what makes you especially beautiful is your inner glow which lights up your face. I appreciated how vulnerable you were in order to help others, very inspiring and practical tips. Thank you.
I am really glad I watched this video. Honestly this has added to my self confidence. I have, over the year try to build myself and I was able to this when I realised that no one is actually perfect.then I asked myself why don't you be confident if no one is perfect I am not perfect to. Love you Cece proudly Nigerian 😘
Saw this video on the side on my screen and was like, "I didn't know Kelly Rowland did a TED talk"
Love this. Thank you.for the inspiration! I hope all of you reading this know that you are loved!
Yes ooooo. Naija no dey carry last anytime, anyday, anywhere !!! Thank you for sharing your story CeCe.
I cannot tell you how happy and proud I am of you. I started following you when you had just come to NYC, and a lot of life has passed but I would always seek you out, because I felt, like you knew me. You have always been and still are a lighthouse for me, and no I haven't done all of the amazing and awesome things you have, but I know it's possible. Thank you 🤗
Thank you so much for sticking with me! x
That speech was nothing short of amazing. So inspiring!! You gonna make me quit my job girl :-)!!!!!!!!!!!
I watched this and just cried like full on cried. It hit home so hard just like I'm sure it did for most other people who are insecure.
Mannn i love this women!!! I’ve never been inspired that much. She really made me move from deep down to the sky . I’ve never loved myself that much , and all what i did is stop worrying what others would think of me and do what i love
Yes yes and yes...amazingly poised and confident delivery CeCe. Girl, put on your own play starring you. It must be done.
This is amazing... You don't have wait to conquer so that you can start leaving... Show up and it will finally bow down
Confidence is everything! Being slim or average weight will not always make you feel confident. I'm not confident in my body, but I'm not big. Great talk by a beautiful woman. I wish we could just go to a shop and buy ourselves a kilo or two of confidence.
Every one has confidence issues. But those who keep working on it find themselves growing. I realised it to be constant moving phase of life. Life is a graph. Like Ur heart line when it flattens u know where you are. Therefore confidence is like heart line graph has to go up and down rise and fall. Enjoy it
Omg! Thank you for sharing this! The practice of “skinny CeCe” completely changed my perspective on becoming who I want to be, today! Xoxoxox
I'm about to drop a thug tear or two. This was beautiful!
Hahahahaha this made me laugh.
Lolol thug tear 😂👏
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Ha 😂😂 a thug tear
Yes. I love her
I'm sooo inspired right now. Thank you for sharing your journey CeCe. That speech was amazing. ❤
Oh CeCe you did an amazing job on your TED Talk! Live the life you imagined today!
This was so good to me!! It really makes you think. Thank you for helping other women with weight. You are beautiful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I watched a lot of self-confidence videos, but yours was a big eye-opener! Thank you so much
You go, girl!!! "choosing to live the life you imagine today"!!!
So much wisdom! Loved this talk👏🏽👏🏽
I tend to stay away from ted talks because I have not found one that really talks to me or inspires me, but this one is really good. Good job CeCe 👍🎖
This is a very empowering speech! So glad to know that you are using your talents and confidence to inspire other women! Amazing, keep up the good work!
Wonderful speech and so inspiring. I'm sharing this video with my now grown kids along with a story of when my red balloon of confidence first started to deflate...and how I got past it. God bless you CiCi! 🙏🏾
I did step 4 first because I had a health scare and thought I was going to die. A health scare will really make you start living!! I put myself out there in a big way, joined a band and started singing in front of people. But, my perceived obstacles are still weight, age, and gracefullness. I guess my REAL obstacle is money, because if I could hire a stylist, makeup artist, and choreographer, plus a therapist, my perceived obstacles probably wouldn't be obstacles.
Omg you're a stage natural! Your presentation was so genuine and real. Thanks for showing us we can live oir lives outside others flawed perceptions
THIS. WAS. EVERY. THING!!!! So happy for you and thanks for inspiring me daily!! May God cause you to flourish even the more!! 😘
Cece... you are phenomenal! Such a strong speaker and soul! Thank you!
So eloquently spoken, looking glamorous & sisterlocs look amazing. I am so proud of you. Keep up the great influence. Thank you
You are such an amazing person Cece! May God bless you and your work!
Beautifully done, thank you CeCe!
I use to think, I was sick for imagining me as this rich business lady, now I know it's normal, that's the life I want and I will get it 🙏🙏🙏thanks Cece
Here are the steps she noticed forward confidence:
1- Identify your perceived obstacle
2-Imagine what your life would look like if your obstacle disappeared
3-Address your perceived obstacle
4- Choose to live the life you imagined today
Good luck darling ♥️
Thank you, honey bunny!
She's amazing and beautiful 💖💯
Thank you!
Ohhhhhhh thank you 😍🤣
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This was absolutely phenomenal!! I didn’t know when I just happened upon this that it would be everything I needed... ❤️
@CeCe Olisa!!!!!! YES!!! HAPPY TO SEE AND YOU'RE DOING A TED TALK!!! BIG TINGS!!!❤️❤️❤️👑❤️❤️❤️
7:57 exactly ! The same is with me but the other way around. I am veeeery skinny but was born skinny and don’t have eating disorder but was bullied just like you because of that. People need to stop putting so much pressure on someone else’s body
We live in a world that value more looking good than feeling good ! This is so true. Your personality is so beautiful and shining so bright 😉💜💜💜 amazing girl !
This made me feel different about my self. Thank you!
Baby Your Everything and I needed this. Whether your big or lil we all have struggles. This made me cry within 4 mins of this videos
Love seeing you share your message in this way, CeCe.
Great Job, engaging, insiteful..just a good. Proud of you..
Oh my gosh, she is so wonderful!! I gained so much confidence during the entirety of this video than I ever did going up to someone and talking to them for the first time. Thank you so much!!
She is so gorgeous and personable. Why would anyone reject her? I wished I had 1/2 of her confidence! 😊
Yes, CeCe! Let my journey begin!
Absolutely yes! 😀
Excellent TedTalk , personally I related to many of her experiences that I wasn;t aware other people experienced. Thank you very much much for making me feel less alone:)
Your delivery was impeccable and very inspiring! Great job Cece!
I could listen to you speak all day!!!
Thank you Cece for using your great talent! GBY.
Amazing! I love titling times of change as “leveling up.” I’ve been calling mine a crisis, but I think leveling up is a much better term! 😂 🦋 Congratulations!! 💜
Love that mindset shift
CeCe you are so AMAZING!! I love your content!! Thank you!!
Her confidence is just beautiful in general
This speech is so wonderful and inspiring .You re way too impressive ! What I loved the most in your speech is If we have a goal ,we never quit ! We keep trying until we do it .
opposite to Cece I’ve always desired a fuller body bc I’m extremely thin & constantly being called things like “skinny, small, fragile, little,” times I’m compared to a twig that could ‘snap’ if too much aggression/weight was put on my body.
Same.
You are amazing! Thank you for all of your positivity!!
Me yelling at the people who kept telling CeCe to be smaller/skinnier. As a former teacher this breaks my heart that educators were so biased and short sighted. CeCe is perfectly 🤩 gorgeous 😍
Isn't it interesting when society tries to fit us into a box based on categories we didn't sign up for.
Wow!!! Thank you for sharing this…I have always imagined what my life would be like if I was 40 pounds smaller…my putter appearance has stop me from following my dreams because I thought I wasn’t worthy because I was not confident in myself…your voice story and courage has helped me to realize that I can live the life I dreamed of as I am today!!!
This ted talk was incredibly inspiring🧡
You brought tears to my eyes, thank you ❤️
Whoa! That was breathe taking. I am not a big girl but i am transferring those skills (steps) into my dream me. I am 'visualizing' where I want to be and the 'blocks' that are standing in my way.
Eye opening Cece.....!!
Thank you....
This was so great! Thank you! The perfect first TEDx Talk for 2021!❤️
This is a Beautiful story which teaches and encourages us to be confident. Loved it 👏🏾👏🏾