I am trying to talk less because the situation ends up being bad in either of these 2 ways: 1. I talk longer than necessary and can visually see the attention of the listener drifting off 2. People are indeed listening but I begin to say nonsensical things which ends up making me look a ditsy, cute fool. When I get home is when I begin to analyse their reactions and I realise they were entertained the way you are entertained when a 5 year old rambles on about crazy things that children do.
I talk too much, I hate this about myself. I don't know how to tell the short story cause I don't want something to miss understood or taking the wrong way
I TALK TOO MUCH! Thank you for addressing this! But the problem is I get encouraged by people being so interested and they sit like an audience because I'm expressive -- but I don't want to be the one doing that! I want to be in a conversation equally with others -- I don't like how I take over and become an 'entertainer'.
Sometimes I see the signs and yet due to ADHD I find it really difficult to shut up. It's awful because I overshare and can't seem to help myself.I will have to 'dial it back' by practicing reducing talk and oversharing .... like building a silence muscle!!
I also have ADHD and find it really hard to just shut up. I can always see the people around me die a little inside when I start rambling. My issue is not knowing the right amount of speaking. I either talk too much or am completely silent.
I talk ALOT. Sometimes my friends would complain on how much I talk and I feel bad, I don't wanna talk that much. But I can't seem to help it. And I usually talk alot during class, when I am not support to. Then the teacher calls on me to stop talking and things get awkward.
That moment when the comment section helps you more than the video: it made me realize, I'm not that weird. Other people are long winded just like me ☺️🤗🤩😍
I wonder sometimes if I talk about myself too much, I use my own experiences sometimes to build on the conversation, also I've lived a very interesting life, no matter what subject we're talking about 90% of the time I will have an anecdote about a past experience.
You ain't alone I also have an experience about almost everything and I always find myself relating to my experiences when I talk and it turns out I say a lot about myself
Yes, this video is for me. Unfortunately, I got this when I used to teach English in Syria around 12 years ago, where students don't understand and I had to go by details and repeat over and over again that damaged one of my best qualities of not to speak too much. I hope I didn't write much in this comment. Thank you.
My ex is a silent person. He has no friends and misses so many opportunities and things to learn because he won't ask questions or discuss things. Plus he's so boring!
Omg I knew it , I just dont know when to stop talking . Thank you for the tip . Question Why do people always think am upset when I tone my talking down a bit ?
I just wanted to mention something: sometimes if a person is asking too many questions, and is not giving you a chance to answer, you kinda have to talk more to avoid being bombarded with their queries. So in this case talking more, will actually help you slow the pace of the questions being thrown at you. I.e: someone sees you and they are like, how are you? how is ur family? what have you been up to? you sister is she traveling, with whom? where? when? are you still working? where? how is it?! How much is ur salary? How is ur sister? LOL I really don't get offended by people like this, it's just who they are, so I find that speaking slower and taking my time (purposely!) to think about the answer, puts me in control of the pace convo, till gradually that person gets bored listening to my long digressing sentences and is less eager for answers, and decides to move to her next prey. Yikes!
Woooow , that’s so clever It have been 9 years since this comment have been written, I hope you’re doing great and well You can and you will with hard work , keep going great things take time🙌🏻✨ Have a wonderful day
I talk to much to the point that I hurt people and I also hurt myself because of that. I wanted to stop myself from talking so that I won't be the one to blame when bad things happen.
I'm a talkative person. I badly need to stop this hahaha. But if I talk less, my friends would gonna ask me what's wrong and it would be more awkward huhuhu
I can’t stop talking! I have seriously considered damaging my own vocal chords so that I can finally shut up! I talked to my workout partner the entire time during a 45 minute session. I can talk for the entire 5 hours it takes me to run a marathon. I’ve only lost half my voice once, my entire life. No concert, no argument, no amount of yelling has taken me down. When I say I only lost half my voice I am referring to this one time senior year when I got a horrible cough, really bad. On top of that I smoked cigarettes and weed. I could start off a sentence strong but my voice would run out in about 30 seconds.
When I was kid I was always shy girl and then I got socialized with people and became too much of a talker.and right now before school I made decision on talking less at school and focusing on myself
I talk way too much! I love having conversations and sometimes even join them when I know I wasn’t spoken to at all. But when I don’t talk very much, everyone asks me what is wrong. I feel like a meddler when I join in on conversations in the work place that I happen on while walking from room to room. Why can’t I stop?! I love to talk about myself but also ask other people tons of questions
This was incredibly helpful! I have the "raps" (talk alot) so bad that my ex called me "Ms. Raptastic" and eventually saved me in their contacts under that name!. One time my ex stated during one of my talking episode that I reached the highest level of "rap-ah-city"! I even found myself going on and on a massive tangent about how I talk on and on! SMH. Not only do have trouble not talking, I also write missive via text that really does not call for all that. y'all pray for me!!!!
Do you noticed that open friendly people like us are not well seen,compare to arrogant serious people,who are worshipped? 2 options how you can be less. 1.Give them what they deserve.If they worship arrogant people,think that any word comes of your mouth,is worth 1 milion dollars. Dont sell ur self cheap. 2.As any skill u want to improve,is like martial arts.Or like building a house,u cant over night,but slowly one step daily,u finally get to have it. Talk every day ,litlle less than yesterday with 10%, Let them beg for more!
I hate being talkative. When people used to see you being a talkative student they always list me in noisy. Like it makes me angry that I even tried to shut up and I really did but they just like "oh this one is always talking, I write her name down!" Ugh. Hate it.
I often just talk regardless . Babble babble.. I can’t stop. What I really hate is when people start yawning when I’m talking..! That is the worst..! And I try to make it more interesting and I realise I’m talking way to fast and I stop making sense..! Does anybody else do that. Like speed up and you actually acknowledge it as it’s happening..!
Excellent and informative video. I definitely talk WAY too much. I will use this video as daily encouragement. In addition, I will use this video for self accountability.
Yes this video is exactly for me. I talk too much when I am tired. My brain goes into turbo mode and I am not sensitive to external signalling anymore. Very disturbing. I am trying to catch it on time by self awareness, but every now and time it releases itself again.
I am often alone but when I got someone I start talking too much and that make them frustrated and they are also not interested in it so I have to figure out how to stop talking too much? Sometimes I am calm but when I start I can not stop it.
mohammad dawod wow even i have a similar problem as you. I have realized that it is okay to be an introvert. I would rather if people ask me ‘’ why are you so quiet?” than anything else.
Man this is hard for me. I talk way too much and bring up things that aren’t even important. I’m trying so hard to shut up, but it’s impossible. Like, even if I don’t talk at all In one day, people will start asking if I’m ok or depressed or anything, cuz I’m that social person, but I really don’t want to be that person anymore.
This is me too, my real personality doesn't talk alot, I'm worried about suddenly being as silent as my nature is because the only reason I talk to much now is because I was perceived as something negative when I was silent. But when I talk too much I say too much rubbish, no one is looking at me like I'm an arrogant annoying person anymor, they are looking at me like I waste their time by saying nonsense.
When I get comfortable with people I talk too much. I even call with the simplest story like I need to vent. All that made me lose friends😢 plus I say random things that don't make sense
To all the "talkative" people - I'll tell you something the people you're yapping away at are too polite (or diplomatic) to say. 1. They're feeling bored, unhappy and more and more drained. But you knew that already (at some level). 2. The reason why it's so easy for you to maintain the monopoly (i've come to realize that many of you rather pride yourself on that!), is because the *boorish* conversational egotism that you've revealed, is not just tedious to _listen to_ , but also makes you feel uninspiring and pointless to _talk to_ . Because they instinctively feel that the thing they need emotionally in conversation - the reciprocal human connection, the socially attuned back-and-forth - is beyond what boors are capable of, so what's the point.
Yes! I know this video is for me. Want an example? Throughout your video I continually interrupted you and made comments and now have to go back and replay it and to listen.
Am I understanding you correctly: people who naturally speak more deeply or from a detail-oriented place should attempt to force their brain to undevelop it's communication patterns for the sake of small talk, or appeasing your impulses, or for fitting into a more typical / popular opinion, or even so the surface communicator just doesn't have to meet them half way and let them get their social energy unloaded?
Honestly I agree with you. But the reason that I want to work on this is not to talk or express myself less but do to try to only express myself and talk in more detail to the people who deserve it and will appreciate it. Co-workers for example complain I talk too much but my friends say they like that I talk a lot and am so detailed... So you know what that tells me, my coworkers don't deserve to know every detail because it just makes me come off as annoying to them and they don't actually care about the effort I'm putting into the conversation.
I have soo much knowledge when someone in group talk about something, I always have something to say about it. I just want to give them knowledge and Satisfaction to my mind. I don’t have any friend😞. Wherever i go 80% people likes me because of communication but why at the end i am alone???? Help please
My friends are loud and big talkers. When we get together I feel lonely. They are so in talking and talking about themselves they forget to even ask how are you and they aren't able to listen just for sec. And they get upset when I won't go out to meet with them. Better alone than spending time with someone who like to listen only to his voice. People who talk to much should just stop and learn basic about reaspect for others.
Quite True, watch body language, especially your own! "For the tongue is a smoldering fire, and excess of speech a deadly poison. - Gleanings from the Writings of Baha’u’llah
I talk so much that my girlfriends constantly assumes I am trying to be rude to her or is annoyed by me easily. It’s now I have built up a lot of insecurity.
people who speak too much tend to lose their value in society it's like people tend to give them lesser attention than they should. I have realized it myself with people whom I talk too much they tend to perceive me like a dumb and with whom I talk very less called me intelligent. I wonder because I remained the same but the difference was in my conduct. since I have realized this I try to keep shut but it's very tuff especially in times when I am very happy I tend to overreact and talk talk and talk. that at that time i forget everything I thought for...!!!
The fact that so many people in the comments section are opening up about them talking too much means that at some point they've been ridiculed for it. And mostly by the people they didn't expect it from. I empathize with that. Maybe this video's tips will help. Maybe.
Its a plague in my life since I was a toddler...in any language I speak. Tried many things...therapy blamed it on ADD but meds did nth to it. Anyways...after decades did improve somewhat but it feels like a true addiction I am aware, I hate it (including while I am doing it), I am ashamed of it at the time and way after, I regreat it. Attention seaker? Maybe but I dont like to be the talk of town, to be in pictures, to show off (but all the talking ends there and makes me the target I hate to be) No the talking is not about bringing people down, judging...People pleaser maybe? Want to be liked or make them feel interesting? Maybe...but after a while its the opposite right? Anxiety? Sure! Impulsivity? Sure. For some minutes I manage to not do it...start again, stop a little...but to control it that bit requires full energy, makes me look wierder (to avoid this I keep a nice face but have to mentally repeat "dont speal dont speak dont speak"...any distraction and its almost impossible to control again) People do respond and engage, listen, meaning I am not ramblening nonsense Not the point though.... I go on this wako talking to strangers anywhere....do it when I am happy, sad, buzy or not, on a schedule or not. Here I am "talking" none stop again....this time I wont delete cause its the theme of the vid....excuse? Probably, but I will try the vid suggestion again. My family insists I do this non stop talking since the age of 3, cant comment as I have zero childhood memory. Conclusion? Probably just too much blablabla...as always, so might just plain stupidity: if smth I do causes me so much pain, shame, losses, etc though seems I have learned zero from it....stupidity it is.
I've the same struggles,try saying what u wanna say in your head instead of telling ppl...I do that and it works.. like when u see your mother and wanna tell her something, instead say it in your head. And u won't feel the need to tell her anything ..or when u wanna go and tell someone something say it to yourself ..make yourself your own company ...I hope this helps...
Im bad at mingling and often appear rude. Sometimes , I force myself to act like a normal person, start talking to new people and end up talking too much. I have a feeling that in that process, I am even making the other person uncomfortable.
I don't understand why anyone want to pretend like they want to know but only want summary. Don't ask. This is how I feel. I am from India and we don't ask question if we are short of time or don't want to listen.
i talk too much because i always try fill the awkward silence that goes between me and a person and I JUST CAN'T AND DON'T WANT TO DO IT ANYMORE. sometimes, i always end up answering someone and talking last between us two which makes it more awkward and i realllyyyy need to stop istg
Here’s the thing I talk to much when I don’t have an interesting life like it not that interesting and I still find things to talk about.I personally didn’t know I talk to much until people told me.
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I am a person who tells the ENTIRE story not the summary.
Sometimes it keeps people away.
Lol same
Me too
So you have a brain!
I hate the sound of my voice.
I am trying to talk less because the situation ends up being bad in either of these 2 ways:
1. I talk longer than necessary and can visually see the attention of the listener drifting off
2. People are indeed listening but I begin to say nonsensical things which ends up making me look a ditsy, cute fool.
When I get home is when I begin to analyse their reactions and I realise they were entertained the way you are entertained when a 5 year old rambles on about crazy things that children do.
MimAesthetic ouch
I can soooo relate to you 😀
Yeah.. even I can't help me with it. I need help to how to stop
I talk way too much
If u r girl
I luv u
I talk to much when I'm nervous which is all the time
how do I stop talking so much
Antauen Dennis me too
me to omg
me to
Same. And I'm shy af
I need to practice this silence technique. Wish me luck.
it is really great it calms the mind
Me too
I've learn a lot from being silent in this last year.
We need friends or a group of peeps like us lol
Same here
I’m literally the most talkative person you’d ever meet I can’t even leave myself alone
😂😂😂😂😂😂 It's peak !!! Same here
Im introvert
Being in a quiet room is heaven for me
I can hardly speak a word in front of strangers but I am so talkative with my friends and family lol.
I talk myself to sleep 😴
I talk too much, I hate this about myself. I don't know how to tell the short story cause I don't want something to miss understood or taking the wrong way
Exactly!! I feel like if I don't give all the details, the story won't make sense.... 🤷♀️
Exactly
Me too l need heip
I have started talking less and already felt so better than before
Cool name! lol
Tq... I ll follow it
How?! Help me!
I don't.
Help
Talking too much has really dealt mercilessly with me. I need to stop fillling empty spaces.
That's it! I'm trying to feel empty spaces. I'm afraid of not being interesting enough and others realizing how weird and boring I am.
You said it, i feel like I dont leave much room for response cuz i already pointed out every piece of the story
I talk too much and I can't help myself giving unnecessary information to other than later I realise🙄
yeeeah samee and i have no idea how to stop.
Same LMAO
Same but I should better stop doing that
🤣🤣🤣 I though u was alone
same i thought i was the onlynone😢
I TALK TOO MUCH! Thank you for addressing this! But the problem is I get encouraged by people being so interested and they sit like an audience because I'm expressive -- but I don't want to be the one doing that! I want to be in a conversation equally with others -- I don't like how I take over and become an 'entertainer'.
Literally!!!!
Sometimes I see the signs and yet due to ADHD I find it really difficult to shut up. It's awful because I overshare and can't seem to help myself.I will have to 'dial it back' by practicing reducing talk and oversharing .... like building a silence muscle!!
I also have ADHD and find it really hard to just shut up. I can always see the people around me die a little inside when I start rambling. My issue is not knowing the right amount of speaking. I either talk too much or am completely silent.
I talk ALOT. Sometimes my friends would complain on how much I talk and I feel bad, I don't wanna talk that much. But I can't seem to help it. And I usually talk alot during class, when I am not support to. Then the teacher calls on me to stop talking and things get awkward.
Nehon Neko Story Of My Life!!!
Imagine if your family tells you that if you don’t stop talking you’ll never have friends 😩
Hello twin
I can so relate
Even I'm very talkative person but I can't help it.
I am a motor mouth. I seem to enjoy revving my engine. Even I hate myself for this. Yeah ongoing issue. :U
I am sorry you feel like this. It is hard. someone made a snide remark and I told that person off.
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I thought it was just me! I HATE my loquacious personality!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's been 6 months, and I still have a problem. :(
I hate myself to :C
tenshi7angel aw does a fellow motor mouth need a friend cause we have none 😂
That moment when the comment section helps you more than the video: it made me realize, I'm not that weird. Other people are long winded just like me ☺️🤗🤩😍
omgg samee and im soo happy.
😂✋🏾high five i just felt the same way
I spend the first 10 minutes just explaining my thoughts, setting, feelings and everything around me before I get into the start of the story lmao
Lol 😂 trust me, you're not alone 😄
I really just wanna be silent but I talk sooo much
SAMEEEEEE
Me too
I wonder sometimes if I talk about myself too much, I use my own experiences sometimes to build on the conversation, also I've lived a very interesting life, no matter what subject we're talking about 90% of the time I will have an anecdote about a past experience.
Jamie S You're still talking too much.
Jamie S It can still be annoying
Jamie S
You ain't alone I also have an experience about almost everything and I always find myself relating to my experiences when I talk and it turns out I say a lot about myself
I do that most of the time too :/
Yes, this video is for me. Unfortunately, I got this when I used to teach English in Syria around 12 years ago, where students don't understand and I had to go by details and repeat over and over again that damaged one of my best qualities of not to speak too much. I hope I didn't write much in this comment. Thank you.
Lol the last sentence
You didn't write too much, don't worry
🤣
I get frustrated with myself because I talk too much!! I want to work on it
I talk soooo much I try not but once I get started I just find myself talking non stop ah why
Same for me
Yep! I want to sew the ol' lips shut!!!!
same...
nd its yuckkk for me
Everything in the comments is me,, I don’t know , I really need help.
Me me
I m the person who like speak 3 hour continue high speed with different person or same person on the many different topic or same topic
🤣🤣 yup so me
I am such a compulsive talker
I need help
I thought u said stalker
AND IM LIKE uhmmmmmm okay
Me too.
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how to become silent person...
My ex is a silent person. He has no friends and misses so many opportunities and things to learn because he won't ask questions or discuss things. Plus he's so boring!
@@RealTraumaHealing silent= boring???
The thing is when you have a more interesting life and experiences you have more to say.
Lol 😂 true 😏
Narcissism?
@@kieransoregaard-utt8 how-
@@kieransoregaard-utt8 when you have something to say it doesn’t have to be about you
@@tashwlms He literally referred to an “interesting life and experiences”, on what planet is that not about him?
Omg I knew it , I just dont know when to stop talking . Thank you for the tip . Question
Why do people always think am upset when I tone my talking down a bit ?
I just wanted to mention something: sometimes if a person is asking too many questions, and is not giving you a chance to answer, you kinda have to talk more to avoid being bombarded with their queries. So in this case talking more, will actually help you slow the pace of the questions being thrown at you. I.e: someone sees you and they are like, how are you? how is ur family? what have you been up to? you sister is she traveling, with whom? where? when? are you still working? where? how is it?! How much is ur salary? How is ur sister? LOL I really don't get offended by people like this, it's just who they are, so I find that speaking slower and taking my time (purposely!) to think about the answer, puts me in control of the pace convo, till gradually that person gets bored listening to my long digressing sentences and is less eager for answers, and decides to move to her next prey. Yikes!
Wow, at first I didn't see what you were talking about but it totally clicked at the end. That's a really smart tactic! LOL!
I like this. Im gonna try it.
1 word made this whole thing connect. Thanks for the tip
I love this comment
Woooow , that’s so clever
It have been 9 years since this comment have been written, I hope you’re doing great and well
You can and you will with hard work , keep going great things take time🙌🏻✨
Have a wonderful day
I talk to much to the point that I hurt people and I also hurt myself because of that. I wanted to stop myself from talking so that I won't be the one to blame when bad things happen.
I'm a talkative person. I badly need to stop this hahaha. But if I talk less, my friends would gonna ask me what's wrong and it would be more awkward huhuhu
Talking too much.....It's what I do. I also need to learn how not to interrupt other people when they are talking. I have so much to work on.
It's ok, everybody does. We talk too much "apparently". But some people don't talk enough 😛
I can’t stop talking! I have seriously considered damaging my own vocal chords so that I can finally shut up! I talked to my workout partner the entire time during a 45 minute session. I can talk for the entire 5 hours it takes me to run a marathon. I’ve only lost half my voice once, my entire life. No concert, no argument, no amount of yelling has taken me down. When I say I only lost half my voice I am referring to this one time senior year when I got a horrible cough, really bad. On top of that I smoked cigarettes and weed. I could start off a sentence strong but my voice would run out in about 30 seconds.
When I was kid I was always shy girl and then I got socialized with people and became too much of a talker.and right now before school I made decision on talking less at school and focusing on myself
This is my battle as well. I was shy, now that I'm grown and connect with someone I have a tendency to get too excited and begin to ramble...😔🗣️
I talk way too much! I love having conversations and sometimes even join them when I know I wasn’t spoken to at all. But when I don’t talk very much, everyone asks me what is wrong. I feel like a meddler when I join in on conversations in the work place that I happen on while walking from room to room. Why can’t I stop?! I love to talk about myself but also ask other people tons of questions
This was incredibly helpful! I have the "raps" (talk alot) so bad that my ex called me "Ms. Raptastic" and eventually saved me in their contacts under that name!. One time my ex stated during one of my talking episode that I reached the highest level of "rap-ah-city"! I even found myself going on and on a massive tangent about how I talk on and on! SMH. Not only do have trouble not talking, I also write missive via text that really does not call for all that. y'all pray for me!!!!
i elaborate and give details about things. bad idea.lol
We would be bad getting scrutinized by the police
Lol 😂 me too!
How can I be less talktative and friendly?
Do you noticed that open friendly people like us are not well seen,compare to arrogant serious people,who are worshipped?
2 options how you can be less.
1.Give them what they deserve.If they worship arrogant people,think that any word comes of your mouth,is worth 1 milion dollars.
Dont sell ur self cheap.
2.As any skill u want to improve,is like martial arts.Or like building a house,u cant over night,but slowly one step daily,u finally get to have it.
Talk every day ,litlle less than yesterday with 10%,
Let them beg for more!
@@lazarcatalina1176 Very insightful and relatable words.
I hate being talkative. When people used to see you being a talkative student they always list me in noisy. Like it makes me angry that I even tried to shut up and I really did but they just like "oh this one is always talking, I write her name down!" Ugh. Hate it.
I often just talk regardless . Babble babble.. I can’t stop. What I really hate is when people start yawning when I’m talking..! That is the worst..! And I try to make it more interesting and I realise I’m talking way to fast and I stop making sense..! Does anybody else do that. Like speed up and you actually acknowledge it as it’s happening..!
Excellent and informative video.
I definitely talk WAY too much. I will use this video as daily encouragement. In addition, I will use this video for self accountability.
thank you . this is on my todo list going in effect now 😎
Yes this video is exactly for me. I talk too much when I am tired. My brain goes into turbo mode and I am not sensitive to external signalling anymore. Very disturbing. I am trying to catch it on time by self awareness, but every now and time it releases itself again.
I love this I am def a talker and I had to learn this lol
I'm from k.s.a, this my magic soullution for social talking with my Saudis roots thank you very much
thank you!! I needed this
Liked your expressions, especially the last 'Try it' ☺️👌🏼
I am often alone but when I got someone I start talking too much and that make them frustrated and they are also not interested in it so I have to figure out how to stop talking too much?
Sometimes I am calm but when I start I can not stop it.
mohammad dawod wow even i have a similar problem as you. I have realized that it is okay to be an introvert. I would rather if people ask me ‘’ why are you so quiet?” than anything else.
I've been able to put the phone down for 15 minutes while they were talking, and the person didn't even notice.
Hahahaha!!! I love thus video. You are really funny and I love your facial expressions
omg this actually helped me so much
What my problem is is that I feel I'm not given enough attention so I feel like talking more will make people want to give me their attention.
Same :(
wowwww this is fabulous In need to learns loads from you im a subscriber I need to change myself.
I talk soon much and I even talk in my sleep.
Great video
Man this is hard for me. I talk way too much and bring up things that aren’t even important. I’m trying so hard to shut up, but it’s impossible. Like, even if I don’t talk at all In one day, people will start asking if I’m ok or depressed or anything, cuz I’m that social person, but I really don’t want to be that person anymore.
This is me too, my real personality doesn't talk alot, I'm worried about suddenly being as silent as my nature is because the only reason I talk to much now is because I was perceived as something negative when I was silent.
But when I talk too much I say too much rubbish, no one is looking at me like I'm an arrogant annoying person anymor, they are looking at me like I waste their time by saying nonsense.
THANK YOU! :)
I needed these comments. I always felt lonely because of my long and sharp tongue. I wanna change. I admire people who shut up
When I get comfortable with people I talk too much. I even call with the simplest story like I need to vent. All that made me lose friends😢 plus I say random things that don't make sense
Thanks I will try it.
To all the "talkative" people - I'll tell you something the people you're yapping away at are too polite (or diplomatic) to say.
1. They're feeling bored, unhappy and more and more drained. But you knew that already (at some level).
2. The reason why it's so easy for you to maintain the monopoly (i've come to realize that many of you rather pride yourself on that!), is because the *boorish* conversational egotism that you've revealed, is not just tedious to _listen to_ , but also makes you feel uninspiring and pointless to _talk to_ . Because they instinctively feel that the thing they need emotionally in conversation - the reciprocal human connection, the socially attuned back-and-forth - is beyond what boors are capable of, so what's the point.
I wanna learn I have only tiny friends but this help me get more
Yes! I know this video is for me. Want an example? Throughout your video I continually interrupted you and made comments and now have to go back and replay it and to listen.
Am I understanding you correctly: people who naturally speak more deeply or from a detail-oriented place should attempt to force their brain to undevelop it's communication patterns for the sake of small talk, or appeasing your impulses, or for fitting into a more typical / popular opinion, or even so the surface communicator just doesn't have to meet them half way and let them get their social energy unloaded?
Wow. I'm going to take a guess and say that you definitely talk too much...
It's really hard to learn a new habit ... I have no filter and I know it's just way too much for a lot of people.
Yes, you don't have to dumb anything down, but reply according to the signs showing they care or do not care for short and long answers.
Honestly I agree with you. But the reason that I want to work on this is not to talk or express myself less but do to try to only express myself and talk in more detail to the people who deserve it and will appreciate it. Co-workers for example complain I talk too much but my friends say they like that I talk a lot and am so detailed... So you know what that tells me, my coworkers don't deserve to know every detail because it just makes me come off as annoying to them and they don't actually care about the effort I'm putting into the conversation.
Lol 😂 apparently so 🤷♀️ I guess us " long winded folks" have to conform ☺️ smh 😌
I have soo much knowledge when someone in group talk about something, I always have something to say about it. I just want to give them knowledge and Satisfaction to my mind. I don’t have any friend😞. Wherever i go 80% people likes me because of communication but why at the end i am alone???? Help please
cut from da same cloth but for me i do enjoy the loneliness to a very large extend..
Probably because they are jealous of your knowledge and feel inferior to you..
My friends are loud and big talkers. When we get together I feel lonely. They are so in talking and talking about themselves they forget to even ask how are you and they aren't able to listen just for sec. And they get upset when I won't go out to meet with them. Better alone than spending time with someone who like to listen only to his voice. People who talk to much should just stop and learn basic about reaspect for others.
Thank you so much!
You are very welcome!
Quite True, watch body language, especially your own! "For the tongue is a smoldering fire, and excess of speech a deadly poison. - Gleanings from the Writings of Baha’u’llah
I am realizing that speaking too much is the same as eating too much..
I do it because I am uncomfortable with my current state..
I talk so much that my girlfriends constantly assumes I am trying to be rude to her or is annoyed by me easily. It’s now I have built up a lot of insecurity.
Im deftiley the friend who would talk for hours
This nice lady really nailed
I just like sharing and I end up being hurt when people don't share back.
OK, time to cosplay Tape Face from America's Got Talent.
Nik Porto xD lmao
people who speak too much tend to lose their value in society it's like people tend to give them lesser attention than they should. I have realized it myself with people whom I talk too much they tend to perceive me like a dumb and with whom I talk very less called me intelligent. I wonder because I remained the same but the difference was in my conduct. since I have realized this I try to keep shut but it's very tuff especially in times when I am very happy I tend to overreact and talk talk and talk. that at that time i forget everything I thought for...!!!
I'm the same I find it so hard to keep quiet....
Thank you so much
I need this. I feel like chatterbox nonstop when talk to someone. Poor those ears..
Me tries to be silent
My best friend : u know what happened yesterday?..............
thank you very much
MOST PEOPLE miss the golden opportunity to put their FOOT in their mouth, when they SHOULD have.
Hey guys, if you’re seeing this video, it’s a great start. Cheers to self-improvement🍻
U r awesome that's me me thank u so much
To be onest i talk way to much lol😂
Yes i talk a lot and dont let anyone talk...I need to talk less and listen more
Very good one ;)
I need to practice not to talk too much with my friends whole time! I got to respect their time! They have other things to do. I got to work on it.
I've taken to leaning at a 45-degree angle towards the direction I want to go. "Surgery! I'm late for surgery. I'm having my ears sewn shut."
Thank you so much 😁
Glad you found it helpful!
You have got very beautiful green eyes
Bien, merci!
The fact that so many people in the comments section are opening up about them talking too much means that at some point they've been ridiculed for it. And mostly by the people they didn't expect it from. I empathize with that. Maybe this video's tips will help. Maybe.
Its a plague in my life since I was a toddler...in any language I speak. Tried many things...therapy blamed it on ADD but meds did nth to it. Anyways...after decades did improve somewhat but it feels like a true addiction
I am aware, I hate it (including while I am doing it), I am ashamed of it at the time and way after, I regreat it.
Attention seaker? Maybe but I dont like to be the talk of town, to be in pictures, to show off (but all the talking ends there and makes me the target I hate to be)
No the talking is not about bringing people down, judging...People pleaser maybe? Want to be liked or make them feel interesting? Maybe...but after a while its the opposite right?
Anxiety? Sure! Impulsivity? Sure.
For some minutes I manage to not do it...start again, stop a little...but to control it that bit requires full energy, makes me look wierder (to avoid this I keep a nice face but have to mentally repeat "dont speal dont speak dont speak"...any distraction and its almost impossible to control again)
People do respond and engage, listen, meaning I am not ramblening nonsense
Not the point though....
I go on this wako talking to strangers anywhere....do it when I am happy, sad, buzy or not, on a schedule or not.
Here I am "talking" none stop again....this time I wont delete cause its the theme of the vid....excuse? Probably, but I will try the vid suggestion again.
My family insists I do this non stop talking since the age of 3, cant comment as I have zero childhood memory.
Conclusion? Probably just too much blablabla...as always, so might just plain stupidity: if smth I do causes me so much pain, shame, losses, etc though seems I have learned zero from it....stupidity it is.
I've the same struggles,try saying what u wanna say in your head instead of telling ppl...I do that and it works.. like when u see your mother and wanna tell her something, instead say it in your head. And u won't feel the need to tell her anything ..or when u wanna go and tell someone something say it to yourself ..make yourself your own company ...I hope this helps...
Listening to talkers makes me thirsty.
I think the youtube recommendations are trying to tell me something….. lol!!
I talk way to much then now I feel weird🤔🤔🤔
Im bad at mingling and often appear rude. Sometimes , I force myself to act like a normal person, start talking to new people and end up talking too much. I have a feeling that in that process, I am even making the other person uncomfortable.
I don't understand why anyone want to pretend like they want to know but only want summary. Don't ask. This is how I feel. I am from India and we don't ask question if we are short of time or don't want to listen.
Question: How to talk less?
Answer: Talk less
Yup it's correct
I want to practice this ,
I love that you think your perfect!
i talk too much because i always try fill the awkward silence that goes between me and a person and I JUST CAN'T AND DON'T WANT TO DO IT ANYMORE. sometimes, i always end up answering someone and talking last between us two which makes it more awkward and i realllyyyy need to stop istg
Here’s the thing I talk to much when I don’t have an interesting life like it not that interesting and I still find things to talk about.I personally didn’t know I talk to much until people told me.