What a refreshing episode where no one is cheating, or checking up on the other ones phone, no baby mamma or baby daddy drama. This is a beautiful couple smart and mature. They need a babysitter to help her out and they need date night once a week. I believe if they follow Judge Toler's advise they will be fine.
No she just needs to get hold on her kids and set a schedule and stick to it.her husband is older he might not very well make it until the kids r grown so she has got to figure out how to handle her situation.
I agree with all 3 of you.......It's a matter of what's most important at what point in your life. If you don't have the money, is there a way to earn it? If you do have the money is it worth it to spend it for peace of mind and to have a healthy mind, body, marriage, it's all about balance. Being structured is always the best way to go, the trouble is, you don't know what kind of kids you'll get, how their personalities and behaviors are, will be.
What I love most about Judge Toler, is that she humanizes herself and admits her past flaws and which in return allows us to know that we can and will grow if we work on ourselves.
I don't understand this type of relationships. She finds someone old enough to be her father. They both have kids. Instead of enjoying each other you make more kids?
Postpartum depression is real!! I've been exactly where's she's at with three under the age of 5 and my husband suffered because of it . She's not crazy I hope that she gets help for it because it's no joke
It seems like maybe she has postpartum depression or is just struggling incredibly. She should seek therapy. It might help. Those kids aren't going anywhere and it might get even harder.
Nothing a little tap on that ass would hurt. Stop letting politicians, judges and the police tell how to raise your children. It need some laws to protect parents. It's a lot of people in prison listening to that timeout shit!!
She needs order... and some occasional me time. Both are absolutely necessary. I'm speaking from experience. I have four children all younger and close in age( by choice). I felt like I was going crazy because of the chaos while my husband was working. I had to get a routine going, some structure and things got better. If she doesn't, the older they get, the harder it will get for her to get her children to obey her and behave
To me it sounds like what this woman needs is some time to herself whether it be an hour or two to just focus on her. If a person doesn't take care of themselves first, then they are of no use to anybody.
I feel her pain..I ended up a single parent of three. I had twins late in life. They twins are now 40, and I am 75. Take it from me.... This chick needs to get herself a J.O.B. and rejoin the world of adults. That's what I did. I hired someone else to stay with the twins. Working will allow her to recover yourself. I LOVE JUDGE TOLAR!!! Smart Lady
the past doesn't determine who we are now and future, so keep walking to the highest mountain. When u reach the top, u'll see the most stunning and wonderful view worth all of your struggles and after that u can die peacefully
I saw the exhaustion in her eyes . It reminded me of myself when I had my one and only daughter . I had her and just was a loose cannon doing it all on my own . I love this episode.
She exhausted from doing nothing but taking care of kids. That's not hard to do. Don't have kids if you can't handle it. She's weak. Like she home all day while he fights the world to pay both thier bills. That's easy life.
When he says he wants a little more appreciation, I was thinking that she would like that too. You have three kids under the age of five, and she’s with them 24/7 and her harping on her about everything isn’t going to make her appreciate her. Why don’t you help her out a little bit and maybe you’ll get the things you ask for
love_dionne 🤦🏾♂️ they had that agreement you acting like he just goes to work and comes straight home and doesn't interact with the kids. You're not in that home with them. She's raising but can't buy the kids a cheeseburger but nobody is saying anything about that though huh smh
Man, the way she broke down talking about worrying about what her husband says... I know how that feels! Luckily my husband stopped making me feel like i wasnt enough. We were just trying to adjust to married life.
After working 60 hrs/week?! He's much older and working those hrs. She's just not wired to handle her responsibilities & is placing all of the blame on him. If she had been in my shoes, she would be dead by now..2 kids with special needs that I raised alone while working full time and attending college. It either makes you or breaks you. She's broken .She needs counseling
It's not always about "calming them down" it's about actually needing to take care of them. They need fed, baths, hair and nails groomed, teeth cleaned, toddlers and infants can't do that on their own yet! Telling babies to shut up won't solve the task they need done.
Even though he works, he still get time off from work. Being a stay at home mom doesn't have guaranteed time off. Its constantly going and going. People only see that she is "home whole day" so they expect XYZ to be done
I’d date an older man but I’m not having anymore children. When the time is right and I start dating again, the man I get with has to be cool with that.
The Bees Knees My baby is 25 engaged.5 Grandchildren.I have over every now & again.Take them out spoil them & send them home.Luv it .Go home by myself & walk around naked.😊
Plus, it ages you.. that’s why he saddled her with all those kids, back to back. Trust and believe those kids were his idea. She’s still young..and very beautiful! Best believe he thinks about that daily..looking like tales of the crypt.
I did and now am engaged to him...this man treats me the way that I was taught by my parents that I should be treated - with respect and love which he consistently demonstrates. He is genuine and about love and family. I had no preconceived notions about how an older man would be. He is athletic and loves enjoying life. I could not imagine anyone but him being my husband. When I met him it was on a professional level. I found him to be very attractive and his personality is wonderful. I never even thought about the age difference being a concern.
Dating an older man is good at the beginning, he’s working and seems to have life figured out. But at 60 years old he starts to have the retired person mentality, he no longer wants to be part of the life you created so you’re stuck in a lonely boring lifestyle. 10 years is the maximum age difference married people should have, after that you’re literally living in two different world. I experienced it in my life with my parents and it taught me that age difference matters and it’s the woman who loses. The kids will also suffer because they won’t experience life with an active strong dad. He’ll seclude himself because the age difference is too big.
Mine is 16 years older than me, but I have a full career and so does he. It's really a hit or miss. I met plenty that wanted to mold or control me, I wouldn't have it. Wouldn't do it again though 😂
My great grandfather raised me and he was no where near living a sedentary lifestyle.. that man was the life of the party in every party.. on top of that he had many young women coming to court him because he was very active up until late.. I have many older Male friends who also aren't boring.. idn where y'all live or which older folks y'all referring to.. but I rather marry an older man any day.. than these young haughty hot tempered blood suckers
Awww. They’re sweet. She’s beautiful and he’s still good-looking. Would that they were closer in age...but that can’t be changed. She does/they do need day care because she’s overwhelmed. And she needs a career/interest besides the children . One day they’ll be grown and gone_and realistically...she needs an interest to fall back on. Wishing them success and happiness.
@@lenaely6146 you got to be there to appreciate it. I had 3 boys in my teen and early 20 years then 10 years later I had another 3 boys all in my late 30s. They zapped the life right out of me what was left anyway.. babies are for the very young. Now I have 15 grandchildren 4 great grandchildren and they are all girls except 1 very special boy. Here I am nearly 80 years old and still dealing with babies. Your emojis captured my feelings perfectly. Have a blessed day ♥️
I swear they pay someone each episode to just sit in the back to make some crazy facial expressions and be dramatic🤣🤣🤣 but I love it 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂#whitewoman
I was 28 married to a man who was 50....💝💝💝💝 I had 4 children under 5😳. We put the children to BED at 830pm.....lights off at 930pm.....allowed to read in bed until 930.....so we had peace by 830pm....and they were asleep by 930pm😴😴 That's how WE kept it together....💝💝💝💝💝💝
Judge hit it on the nose when she said they have turned into a worker and a house keeper and forgot to the human part of their. relationship. They've divided duties I'm sure he feels his contribution is met by working long hours to support the family. But there should be a blending of the two for the benefit of both. She can find a hobbies that brings in money as well.
That kiss and hug at the end tells me they were alright. Don't know about now since the case was long ago. This marriage can work, just listen to aunt Lynn. She's an amazing judge!
I haven't watched Judge Lynn Tola for some time since more one a half years age. Today I watched it, it just made my day. Thanks for bringing it back. My favourite programme on RUclips ever.
I love listening to Judge Toler, old school style. No fancy negotiating with your kids, or spouse..just do this! Becuz it will get you what you want right? Good stuff.
its crazy because they're two hard working people who are overwhelmed in their own work and have to gain back Coupling with each other...I pray them the best!
Judge , I love you. Thanks sooooooooo much for that lecture. I really learned a lot from that session. I'm devorced. But its a long story .My two sons were the ones that really got hurt , which I always felt guilty. They don't say much because they are hurting inside .
She needs to get organized! 24 hrs. In a day plenty of women have multiple children and still manage to take care of their children and husband. And some women even work part time. And she's old enough to know how to handle her fertility!
Thank you. My mama had "5" by 20years old. Young but made it. I wouldn't trade her for shit in the world. Ik everybody is dff..Idc if it was just 1 kid. Ik its hard but You are a mother,you have to remain strong,grow stronger. You can do it!!
Not everyone moves in the same capacity. Shes obviosuly overwelmed and stressed and tired. And it doesnt help that she had them back to back all under 5. At least she admitted it was half her fault for having them back to back when she could have taken birth control but if they balance work and home life a lil better and try to get them kids in daycare or at least preschool itd be easier. But idk
This also reminds when ppl say i worked up to my 9th month when i was pregnant. Not everyone is able. When i was pregnant i had every intention of doing that but my body said nope. At 6 1/2 months i had to sit down somewhere had nothung to do with me being lazy or not wanting to do much.
@@vyxenthemua girl... for both pregnancy I was bed ridden. I felt so much dammm pain. Mind you.. i got pregnant on birth controle with my second baby. But I still stayed in school. I still did my college courses while battling sevare morning sickness. Every woman is different. However it can be done. I'm happy you could work up until 6 1/2 months. My husband took on all the financial burden. He is older than me too. Plenty years older but he is a dam good father.
@@vyxenthemua using birth control doesn't always prevent pregnancy but I hope she use some form of preventative method now. She need to work part time and send them to school. When that older child turns 5 she can send her to public school. She will then be left with 2 children to take care of. She also needs to instill discipline as well. They can do it. She is overwhelmed no need to dig her deeper. The children are already here.
What are you talking about? She's the opposite of "forget your feelings". But be grateful, yes. It varies wildly depending on the couple, but Judge Lynn always gives sound advice. She does still rule on divorce proceedings, but she generally keeps couples together if that's what they want. Or tells them to split if things are that bad...
I just love this woman ( your honor Lynn toller) she really listens to the problems n tries to glue them back together rather than just tear them apart....beautif n wise woman
I can relate to this woman so much, sometimes it’s our own familiar disfunction that if left unchecked can destroy us. I really appreciate and love judge Lynn’s advice.
Aside from these clear nasty old man chasers, the right answers are: Didn't really have a father or male figure in their life, so they find someone else to fill that void. 2. Gold digger/wants a provider. There, easy truth.
There's a saying, it's not the age that falls in love, it's the souls. I think her husband just hasn't learned not to sweat the small stuff. Being a mother and a wife is *hard* give her some slack!
Children growing up in the islands can run and play outside to lesson the stress in the house, being a mother with little people can be hard, you're both beautiful. Please stay together. They will grow up and you will miss them when they are no longer home
Lord!!!! I wish she could make house calls. I don't have any kids but a husband of a 10yr difference medical issues and 2 dogs seems like a need for her to come into my house and give advice because I was was for a divorce after 1yr of marriage. Now we're going into our 5th yr and seems to be getting worse by the day. So when she says she shuts down I know the feeling. Good luck to them and this judge has always been on point with her advice to couples that has a significant amount of age difference.
My sister married a very sweet much older man and I noticed her appearance changed much like this lady's. Since then I've seen it in other May-December couples.
I think that hairstyle makes her look a little older than 35. She's still young, if I was her....I would run with a gas can in both hands. There is absolutely, no chemistry here.
If she know better she better get her shit together and stay right where she is and take care of her husband because the grass is not always greener on the other side!!! He works and pays all the bills and she complaining about about taking care of some kids we mothers do the shit everyday and go to work everyday come home and hold the house down. Shes a spoiled fucking brat
Super Aniya are maybe he can help her out with the kids a little bit. They have three kids under the age of fives. That’s a lot to deal with. He has the luxury of having his day end and she does not.
@@PrincessZaire100 He works 60 hrs a week to take care of the family hes doing his part she needs to get off her lazy ass cook clean and take care of the kids thats doing her part
Super Aniya you seem angry for no reason. It’s a reasonable thing to ask him to help with his children. Phillip DeFranco owns several businesses and works hard all day, and his wife stays at home with the kids, but he still comes home and gives them baths and does all the bed time stuff with them so that his wife can have a break. She shouldn’t have to worked so bad that she can’t even take a break. This woman his literally so overwhelmed she’s crying. He just said he comes home and sits on the couch and does nothing, when he could be using that time to give her a break
He's older and doesn't have as much energy to be chasing after kids which sucks becausehe did sign up for this. In this case age does make a huge difference. I'm sure his grown kids exprienced a totally different dad that was more attentive than the current young children have now.
She has no Me-Time. No balance in the routine of her day to nurture herself. More structure with the children and household duties will help her find personal outlets. He may need to schedule out some of his work time to give her relief at home. I guarantee there are weeks when she never sees outside.
5, 4, 3 two out of 3 should be in school/daycare all day until 6pm the 3 yr old should take a 3hr nap daily and she gotta know how to cook 2 to 3 meals a day and store them for meals throughout the week.. this wife does not want compliments she wants a house free of kids...at 35 she could go back to work pay day care cost and a bi-monthly maids service and live happily ever after
No child that young should be in daycare or school till 6pm. That’s ridiculous. The oldest should be in kindergarten the 4 year old could go to pre K and the 3 year old could go to headstart but no way in hell should they be at school away from their parents till 6 at night. That’s very lazy parenting. Pawing you’re children off because you don’t want to deal with them. Shouldn’t have had them if you don’t want to take care of them. That’s sad and that’s what’s wrong with these kids some of y’all are lazy and trifling and don’t want to be real parents. Keep ya legs closed 🤦🏼♀️
@@spanishblood9899 i will not take your comment personal....working prodessional parents need and use daycare...working parents pay bills and do not get food stamps and subsidized rents.....working parents know how to balance work home life....i am a working parent and have one adult daughter... i knew better than to procreate with dead beat men who cannot afford to support a family....i am a working mother and professional.
RPC Real Peoplef Consulting People need to stop having children they aren’t ready for. It’s that simple. Life happens yes, some people get a divorce or their partner passes away and they need daycare because they are the only provider. I’m not talking about those parents. If a mother can balance work life and being a parent her children wouldn’t be in daycare literally all day. My household doesn’t qualify for govt assistance. We make too much. Working mothers do get govt assistance. Women need to start being more responsible. A mother should be nurturing her children for the first 4 to 5 years not a stranger and people wonder why so many kids are being abused that’s because these kids aren’t being raised by their parents but strangers all day. It’s sad. Too many people have kids that aren’t ready for them.
These 2 DON'T belong in Divorce Court. They have a 4 year old, 3 year old AND an 11 month old. Work it out! Get counseling and be a Family. Cause NO ONE else is going to want this 60 year old man paying CHILD SUPPORT until he's in his early 80's 😭😭😭
My brother in today's day , says it's parents obey your children, not children obey your parents. Tide has turned. Parents need to stand on their authority
I like her..I like the woman very much. She is pretty and honest with herself. She didn't just come to throw the man under the bus, I think she just wants a solution... I am halfway into the video and I hope she does not end up sneaking around, she is young and such will be expected.
Make it about each other. Scratch her back and she'll scratch yours. Without complaining about your itch or trying to scratch your own back, it will get scratched. That's how selflessness rewards you in a relationship.
Judge is a marriage counselor. She's so encouraging.
What a refreshing episode where no one is cheating, or checking up on the other ones phone, no baby mamma or baby daddy drama. This is a beautiful couple smart and mature. They need a babysitter to help her out and they need date night once a week. I believe if they follow Judge Toler's advise they will be fine.
She need to send the kids daycare, relax, go out make friends and work. Being at home with kids or without kids drive crazy
Daycare costs quite a bit for two parent homes. It might not be financially feasible for that to work for their family.
No she just needs to get hold on her kids and set a schedule and stick to it.her husband is older he might not very well make it until the kids r grown so she has got to figure out how to handle her situation.
I agree with all 3 of you.......It's a matter of what's most important at what point in your life. If you don't have the money, is there a way to earn it? If you do have the money is it worth it to spend it for peace of mind and to have a healthy mind, body, marriage, it's all about balance.
Being structured is always the best way to go, the trouble is, you don't know what kind of kids you'll get, how their personalities and behaviors are, will be.
Betri is the way haftey
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"Your not divorcing your children, I know sometimes that's a desire I've had it.." Lol. I get that completely...
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What I love most about Judge Toler, is that she humanizes herself and admits her past flaws and which in return allows us to know that we can and will grow if we work on ourselves.
Those children and this relationship have aged her. I could not believe when the judge said she is 35.
45
Maybe dog years
It's that wig! If you look at her face, you can see 35. It's this Laura Bush energy she on right now
No its not the children its him he's 25 years older than she. And I think he's too old to have 3 kids under 5.
She just haven’t slept in 3 years with them young kids with no support. That will age any human
I don't understand this type of relationships. She finds someone old enough to be her father. They both have kids. Instead of enjoying each other you make more kids?
sullivancountydays You’re exactly right
sullivancountydays Same thing I said
She only had one. I can see having another one_maybe two_but spaced out! Not stairsteps!
sullivancountydays RIGHT DEAR, YOUR SO RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!
jada hobbs Jada2001 THEY ARE BOTH STUPID !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Postpartum depression is real!! I've been exactly where's she's at with three under the age of 5 and my husband suffered because of it . She's not crazy I hope that she gets help for it because it's no joke
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If she’s stressed out now she’s gonna lose it when she had to start caretaking for him too in her 40s
@J Peavy That was ignorant. He's 60, not 90. Average life expectancy in this country is mid 70s, so why would he not be?
Ro Ashley Lol welp
@@sanwalker5408 by 40 a man health is start to decline
@@melodyholt500 some human
she will still be changing diapers....his diapers
It seems like maybe she has postpartum depression or is just struggling incredibly. She should seek therapy. It might help. Those kids aren't going anywhere and it might get even harder.
It most definetly will! Wait until they hit teenage years! Hell I wish my 11 year old was still 5 lol
She should seek a spaying
I wish therapy worked for me.
Nothing a little tap on that ass would hurt. Stop letting politicians, judges and the police tell how to raise your children. It need some laws to protect parents. It's a lot of people in prison listening to that timeout shit!!
Was about to say that! Man my heart goes out to her!
She's got an amazing speaking voice.
ikr!!!!
She really does!
I was just thinking this
I saw postpartum depression.... I feel for both of them.
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Old dog new tricks?no way!!!
She needs a nanny, sister or something
La Reice Monaie a condom
She needs to get a grip and get them children under control she knew she had bad nerves when she had just one little one why add two more to the mess
She needs order... and some occasional me time. Both are absolutely necessary. I'm speaking from experience. I have four children all younger and close in age( by choice). I felt like I was going crazy because of the chaos while my husband was working. I had to get a routine going, some structure and things got better. If she doesn't, the older they get, the harder it will get for her to get her children to obey her and behave
exactly
@@tellnolies8530 I agree
Judge neck pieces always on point ❤️
Just noticed that you’re right !
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Once again she comes through with the advice every woman and man should hear... I just love ❤️ her
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Me to and I miss her!
Parenting skills anyone??
Great advice judge. You could have been a therapist if you weren’t a judge.
Judge's make more. Lol.
@@DarkestKnyght lol that’s the damn truth hahah
Maybe she has a background in counseling too.
It really was great advice. I hope they made it work!
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3 children under the age of 5! AIN'T NO WAY!! I'm getting a job too because I'm not about to be in the house all day with these crumb snatchers! 😂😂😂😂
Quinshun Carswell Exactly 🤣🤣
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Not gonna lie, I lowkey want to have kids back to back, but that’s only so they can all leave at the same time 😂😂😂
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Exactly😂😂😂😂
To me it sounds like what this woman needs is some time to herself whether it be an hour or two to just focus on her. If a person doesn't take care of themselves first, then they are of no use to anybody.
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I feel her pain..I ended up a single parent of three. I had twins late in life. They twins are now 40, and I am 75. Take it from me.... This chick needs to get herself a J.O.B. and rejoin the world of adults. That's what I did. I hired someone else to stay with the twins. Working will allow her to recover yourself. I LOVE JUDGE TOLAR!!! Smart Lady
Thank you for sharing 😊🙂
the past doesn't determine who we are now and future, so keep walking to the highest mountain. When u reach the top, u'll see the most stunning and wonderful view worth all of your struggles and after that u can die peacefully
I worked and went to school 2 days a week
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God bless that judge.
I saw the exhaustion in her eyes . It reminded me of myself when I had my one and only daughter . I had her and just was a loose cannon doing it all on my own . I love this episode.
I hope things have gotten better for you
She exhausted from doing nothing but taking care of kids. That's not hard to do. Don't have kids if you can't handle it. She's weak. Like she home all day while he fights the world to pay both thier bills. That's easy life.
This episode gave me PTSD. I had 4 under 7 in the same boat. Wish I had judge Lynne to talk sense to him 25 years ago 😭
When he says he wants a little more appreciation, I was thinking that she would like that too. You have three kids under the age of five, and she’s with them 24/7 and her harping on her about everything isn’t going to make her appreciate her. Why don’t you help her out a little bit and maybe you’ll get the things you ask for
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Ain't no way in hell I'll start all over in my late 50s raising kids
Brandan Charles I’m saying
Heck, I'm 32. If I don't get another child by 35. I'm done period!
Heck, that's just it. He isn't raising any kids. He made them, he provided but he's not raising.
Reading with Janae Marie Lol exactly
love_dionne 🤦🏾♂️ they had that agreement you acting like he just goes to work and comes straight home and doesn't interact with the kids. You're not in that home with them. She's raising but can't buy the kids a cheeseburger but nobody is saying anything about that though huh smh
Man, the way she broke down talking about worrying about what her husband says... I know how that feels! Luckily my husband stopped making me feel like i wasnt enough. We were just trying to adjust to married life.
He feels the same way
So it took her to have 3 kids to find out that he could have them too?
Lmfao
I’m not even married and I’m taking notes. Amazing advice!
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He is tired. However he should show the kids who is boss when he gets home so that she could rest and calm down, then later would be greater.
SoniYah Yisreal thank you. Help out a little. A little goes a long way
After working 60 hrs/week?! He's much older and working those hrs. She's just not wired to handle her responsibilities & is placing all of the blame on him. If she had been in my shoes, she would be dead by now..2 kids with special needs that I raised alone while working full time and attending college. It either makes you or breaks you. She's broken .She needs counseling
She should show them who is boss
Train up the kids to listen to her she is the one at home with them
If he has her back, them brats will fall in line, if he does not, they will understand that and take advantage of it.
It's not always about "calming them down" it's about actually needing to take care of them. They need fed, baths, hair and nails groomed, teeth cleaned, toddlers and infants can't do that on their own yet! Telling babies to shut up won't solve the task they need done.
Even though he works, he still get time off from work. Being a stay at home mom doesn't have guaranteed time off. Its constantly going and going. People only see that she is "home whole day" so they expect XYZ to be done
They're a sweet couple. They shouldn't divorce because there's love there and lots of it.
I see that too....it can be fixed
The judge saw it too that's why she encouraged them to make it work
I’d date an older man but I’m not having anymore children. When the time is right and I start dating again, the man I get with has to be cool with that.
Call me
@@shototodoroki4816 Lol DESPERATE 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I not taking care of some mans little children either.👎
Milton Moore I’m not dealing with nobody else’s kids either. His kids gotta be grown and on their own.
The Bees Knees My baby is 25 engaged.5 Grandchildren.I have over every now & again.Take them out spoil them & send them home.Luv it .Go home by myself & walk around naked.😊
Mannn! That kiss n embrace at the end! U could tell they both just needed somebody to stare them back in the right direction! Happy for them!
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That age diff is a big factor. I’m 46 & I wouldn’t date a 60 yr old let alone someone 25 yrs younger.
Trust me don't do it. It's a Dam headache.
Plus, it ages you.. that’s why he saddled her with all those kids, back to back. Trust and believe those kids were his idea. She’s still young..and very beautiful! Best believe he thinks about that daily..looking like tales of the crypt.
I did and now am engaged to him...this man treats me the way that I was taught by my parents that I should be treated - with respect and love which he consistently demonstrates. He is genuine and about love and family. I had no preconceived notions about how an older man would be. He is athletic and loves enjoying life. I could not imagine anyone but him being my husband. When I met him it was on a professional level. I found him to be very attractive and his personality is wonderful. I never even thought about the age difference being a concern.
A little bit of affection goes a loooooooong way
she called the kids "crum crushers" 😂
Dating an older man is good at the beginning, he’s working and seems to have life figured out. But at 60 years old he starts to have the retired person mentality, he no longer wants to be part of the life you created so you’re stuck in a lonely boring lifestyle. 10 years is the maximum age difference married people should have, after that you’re literally living in two different world. I experienced it in my life with my parents and it taught me that age difference matters and it’s the woman who loses. The kids will also suffer because they won’t experience life with an active strong dad. He’ll seclude himself because the age difference is too big.
Mine is 16 years older than me, but I have a full career and so does he. It's really a hit or miss. I met plenty that wanted to mold or control me, I wouldn't have it. Wouldn't do it again though 😂
@@cadillacdeville5828 I hear you. I told mines if anything happens I'm never doing it again. I straight up told him I'm going to get a young buck. 😂
My great grandfather raised me and he was no where near living a sedentary lifestyle.. that man was the life of the party in every party.. on top of that he had many young women coming to court him because he was very active up until late.. I have many older Male friends who also aren't boring.. idn where y'all live or which older folks y'all referring to.. but I rather marry an older man any day.. than these young haughty hot tempered blood suckers
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I agree. My mom married a man 12 years older and I see all the troubles that gap cause
Awww. They’re sweet. She’s beautiful and he’s still good-looking. Would that they were closer in age...but that can’t be changed.
She does/they do need day care because she’s overwhelmed. And she needs a career/interest besides the children . One day they’ll be grown and gone_and realistically...she needs an interest to fall back on. Wishing them success and happiness.
Having babies at their ages is what's killing their relationship. Babies take a lot of energy. Energy you dont have at 60 and
30.
30? 😳🤪😬😒
@@lenaely6146 you got to be there to appreciate it. I had 3 boys in my teen and early 20 years then 10 years later I had another 3 boys all in my late 30s. They zapped the life right out of me what was left anyway.. babies are for the very young. Now I have 15 grandchildren 4 great grandchildren and they are all girls except 1 very special boy. Here I am nearly 80 years old and still dealing with babies. Your emojis captured my feelings perfectly. Have a blessed day ♥️
I swear they pay someone each episode to just sit in the back to make some crazy facial expressions and be dramatic🤣🤣🤣 but I love it 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂#whitewoman
I agree.
I saw her face just as I read this comment
@@tashnaw lol
The hashtag wtf lmao😭
@@randomperson7721 I was just pointing out who it was 🤣🤣
Solid advice from Judge Lynn; there isn't anything else you can add to that.
You could see he was a looker back in his days wow
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I like this judge ....so is cool ...i kinda like her ...
Jeva Samy me too. Love Judge Lynn Toler
Judge Lynn is the truth, welcome to the DC family 😂
For real
we stan her here
Big age difference here.
So what?! Why does that matter ?
25y
She’s giving me Whitney Houston vibes when she was with Bobby
I see toni Braxton in a bad wig 🤦🏽
Yess!!! Im just waiting for her to yell "BOBBY!!!"
daysha gabrielle I was thinking Ike and Tina🤷🏽♀️
😂😂 I was thinking the same thing! Bobbbbby!
daysha gabrielle SCREAMINGGGGGGG 🤣
I was 28 married to a man who was 50....💝💝💝💝
I had 4 children under 5😳.
We put the children to BED at 830pm.....lights off at 930pm.....allowed to read in bed until 930.....so we had peace by 830pm....and they were asleep by 930pm😴😴
That's how WE kept it together....💝💝💝💝💝💝
He should Be a BIT Ashamed of NOT helping w/ the children for They are NOT just Her children.
A job would give her an outlet and pay check ☒
@... EXACTLY
True, but most of the rearing children falls on the mother if you ever noticed that, unfortunately.
Judge hit it on the nose when she said they have turned into a worker and a house keeper and forgot to the human part of their. relationship. They've divided duties I'm sure he feels his contribution is met by working long hours to support the family. But there should be a blending of the two for the benefit of both. She can find a hobbies that brings in money as well.
That kiss and hug at the end tells me they were alright. Don't know about now since the case was long ago. This marriage can work, just listen to aunt Lynn. She's an amazing judge!
I like her.She's beautiful
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She's sounds like Trina Braxton...
heard it instantly when I read this.😂
I legit just wrote that but Tony
@@ShannonSoSweeet Nah.. That's Trina.lol
It's the pronunciation.
Very insulting to anybody.
This is some of the soundest advice I've ever heard on divorce court
I haven't watched Judge Lynn Tola for some time since more one a half years age. Today I watched it, it just made my day. Thanks for bringing it back. My favourite programme on RUclips ever.
I love listening to Judge Toler, old school style. No fancy negotiating with your kids, or spouse..just do this! Becuz it will get you what you want right? Good stuff.
I love how right after the ruling he put his arm around her and kissed her! 💖💖💖🙌🏾
Judge Toler….if they get in there on a cane, they can make’em…so funny!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
its crazy because they're two hard working people who are overwhelmed in their own work and have to gain back Coupling with each other...I pray them the best!
Judge , I love you. Thanks sooooooooo much for that lecture. I really learned a lot from that session.
I'm devorced. But its a long story .My two sons were the ones that really got hurt , which I always felt guilty. They don't say much because they are hurting inside .
The judge said....you've got to rap"to your 👧
Lol my mum describes it like that too she said I’m the “cool” baby the peace maker 😂
She needs to get organized! 24 hrs. In a day plenty of women have multiple children and still manage to take care of their children and husband. And some women even work part time. And she's old enough to know how to handle her fertility!
Thank you. My mama had "5" by 20years old. Young but made it. I wouldn't trade her for shit in the world. Ik everybody is dff..Idc if it was just 1 kid. Ik its hard but You are a mother,you have to remain strong,grow stronger. You can do it!!
Not everyone moves in the same capacity. Shes obviosuly overwelmed and stressed and tired. And it doesnt help that she had them back to back all under 5. At least she admitted it was half her fault for having them back to back when she could have taken birth control but if they balance work and home life a lil better and try to get them kids in daycare or at least preschool itd be easier. But idk
This also reminds when ppl say i worked up to my 9th month when i was pregnant. Not everyone is able. When i was pregnant i had every intention of doing that but my body said nope. At 6 1/2 months i had to sit down somewhere had nothung to do with me being lazy or not wanting to do much.
@@vyxenthemua girl... for both pregnancy I was bed ridden. I felt so much dammm pain. Mind you.. i got pregnant on birth controle with my second baby. But I still stayed in school. I still did my college courses while battling sevare morning sickness. Every woman is different. However it can be done. I'm happy you could work up until 6 1/2 months. My husband took on all the financial burden. He is older than me too. Plenty years older but he is a dam good father.
@@vyxenthemua using birth control doesn't always prevent pregnancy but I hope she use some form of preventative method now. She need to work part time and send them to school. When that older child turns 5 she can send her to public school. She will then be left with 2 children to take care of. She also needs to instill discipline as well. They can do it. She is overwhelmed no need to dig her deeper. The children are already here.
JUDGE LYNN IS THE TRUTH I LOVE HER WITH HER BEAUTIFUL INTELLIGENT SELF MAKEUP ON POINT
I am 41 and AIN’T NO WAY AM I HAVING ANY MORE CHILDREN 👶🏾! I AM SO DONE ✅!
I’m glad divorce court is still uploading thanks so much for all this ❤️
I hope they make it.
It looks more like a therapy thing than like a Divorce Process
That's how Judge Lynn does things. It's more helpful that way.
Helpful for what? Be grateful and forget your feelings?
What are you talking about? She's the opposite of "forget your feelings". But be grateful, yes. It varies wildly depending on the couple, but Judge Lynn always gives sound advice. She does still rule on divorce proceedings, but she generally keeps couples together if that's what they want. Or tells them to split if things are that bad...
If she believes they are better together, she will give advice instead of divorcing them.
Melani Marston ok but why is the show’s name DIVORCE Court then?!?
What did she mean “still tryin to figure out how babies are made?” 🤣
And she kind of seems detached from her children.
I just love this woman ( your honor Lynn toller) she really listens to the problems n tries to glue them back together rather than just tear them apart....beautif n wise woman
I can relate to this woman so much, sometimes it’s our own familiar disfunction that if left unchecked can destroy us. I really appreciate and love judge Lynn’s advice.
I still don't understand these women who get with men who are old enough to be your father 🤔🤔🤔🤨 my father's friends are not attractive to me.
Vanessa H some women like older men you don’t have to understand it.
That's not your bizness to each its own as long as grown folk dont mess with kids that's all that should matter!!
@@kayhaley118 right?
Aside from these clear nasty old man chasers, the right answers are:
Didn't really have a father or male figure in their life, so they find someone else to fill that void.
2. Gold digger/wants a provider.
There, easy truth.
There's a saying, it's not the age that falls in love, it's the souls.
I think her husband just hasn't learned not to sweat the small stuff. Being a mother and a wife is *hard* give her some slack!
Children growing up in the islands can run and play outside to lesson the stress in the house, being a mother with little people can be hard, you're both beautiful. Please stay together. They will grow up and you will miss them when they are no longer home
All these angry stay at home moms need to stop being so judgmental. I’m sure y’all weren’t perfect every step of the way
By working together as parents helping each other out and listening to one another😊👏👏
Lord!!!! I wish she could make house calls. I don't have any kids but a husband of a 10yr difference medical issues and 2 dogs seems like a need for her to come into my house and give advice because I was was for a divorce after 1yr of marriage. Now we're going into our 5th yr and seems to be getting worse by the day. So when she says she shuts down I know the feeling. Good luck to them and this judge has always been on point with her advice to couples that has a significant amount of age difference.
My sister married a very sweet much older man and I noticed her appearance changed much like this lady's. Since then I've seen it in other May-December couples.
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I love love love Judge Lynn Toler!!!!🥰🥰🥰😘😘😘
It's like a wall betwean them.. She is depressed and he confused. And both really tired!
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I think that hairstyle makes her look a little older than 35. She's still young, if I was her....I would run with a gas can in both hands. There is absolutely, no chemistry here.
If she know better she better get her shit together and stay right where she is and take care of her husband because the grass is not always greener on the other side!!! He works and pays all the bills and she complaining about about taking care of some kids we mothers do the shit everyday and go to work everyday come home and hold the house down. Shes a spoiled fucking brat
Super Aniya are maybe he can help her out with the kids a little bit. They have three kids under the age of fives. That’s a lot to deal with. He has the luxury of having his day end and she does not.
@@PrincessZaire100 He works 60 hrs a week to take care of the family hes doing his part she needs to get off her lazy ass cook clean and take care of the kids thats doing her part
Super Aniya you seem angry for no reason. It’s a reasonable thing to ask him to help with his children. Phillip DeFranco owns several businesses and works hard all day, and his wife stays at home with the kids, but he still comes home and gives them baths and does all the bed time stuff with them so that his wife can have a break. She shouldn’t have to worked so bad that she can’t even take a break. This woman his literally so overwhelmed she’s crying. He just said he comes home and sits on the couch and does nothing, when he could be using that time to give her a break
@@PrincessZaire100 No, I'm not angry at all I just feel it takes 2 and she is lazy the lazy part annoys me
I love this judge. She so sweet. Omg.that how a judge must talk to a couple..so sweet
Wow I thought she was way older than that
Clothes,wig and makeup
Cadillac Deville right
Me too, she looks mid to late 40's.
Maybe Stress as well..!My Baby face..gone!!
She's depressed
Yes the judge gave excellent advice..
He's older and doesn't have as much energy to be chasing after kids which sucks becausehe did sign up for this. In this case age does make a huge difference. I'm sure his grown kids exprienced a totally different dad that was more attentive than the current young children have now.
Yo,I haven’t heard anyone say #Rap2Her in over 20+ Years. I’m officially an Old Man 😂🤣😂🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️!!!
Takes two people to make kids. If she didn't want three kids, she could have got on birth control after the first. They both are at fault.
Its easy to take GOOD THINGS for granted... but always be mindful good things are like plants, they need to be cultivated in order for them to grow.
that person who is laughing soooo loud....please hush!!!! Getting on my nerves!!
I say, hang in there, and work together.
I'm so glad I burned my tubes, and duck taped and laminated it.
1son and I was done.🤗
Wow
Laminated 😂
duck taped?🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂 I have 2 on Earth and I want to do the same
She has no Me-Time. No balance in the routine of her day to nurture herself. More structure with the children and household duties will help her find personal outlets. He may need to schedule out some of his work time to give her relief at home. I guarantee there are weeks when she never sees outside.
I think Mr. Dunn sees his wife as one of his older children.
😂😂😂😂😂🤦🏽♀️
One of the BEST life lesson episodes EVVVVVVVVA!
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These two definitely didn’t need a divorce, they need counseling
Damn granpappy getting it in!
😂
Dead 😆🤣
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Every-time she ask the the lady a question, she always indirect. Like girl answer my question. 😂
Amen Judge. I went through that too...
5, 4, 3 two out of 3 should be in school/daycare all day until 6pm the 3 yr old should take a 3hr nap daily and she gotta know how to cook 2 to 3 meals a day and store them for meals throughout the week..
this wife does not want compliments she wants a house free of kids...at 35 she could go back to work pay day care cost and a bi-monthly maids service and live happily ever after
No child that young should be in daycare or school till 6pm. That’s ridiculous. The oldest should be in kindergarten the 4 year old could go to pre K and the 3 year old could go to headstart but no way in hell should they be at school away from their parents till 6 at night. That’s very lazy parenting. Pawing you’re children off because you don’t want to deal with them. Shouldn’t have had them if you don’t want to take care of them. That’s sad and that’s what’s wrong with these kids some of y’all are lazy and trifling and don’t want to be real parents. Keep ya legs closed 🤦🏼♀️
@@spanishblood9899 i will not take your comment personal....working prodessional parents need and use daycare...working parents pay bills and do not get food stamps and subsidized rents.....working parents know how to balance work home life....i am a working parent and have one adult daughter...
i knew better than to procreate with dead beat men who cannot afford to support a family....i am a working mother and professional.
RPC Real Peoplef Consulting People need to stop having children they aren’t ready for. It’s that simple. Life happens yes, some people get a divorce or their partner passes away and they need daycare because they are the only provider. I’m not talking about those parents. If a mother can balance work life and being a parent her children wouldn’t be in daycare literally all day. My household doesn’t qualify for govt assistance. We make too much. Working mothers do get govt assistance. Women need to start being more responsible. A mother should be nurturing her children for the first 4 to 5 years not a stranger and people wonder why so many kids are being abused that’s because these kids aren’t being raised by their parents but strangers all day. It’s sad. Too many people have kids that aren’t ready for them.
Get in there on a came, or anything ...!"
Judge Lynn is mad hilarious ! 🤣😂😆
He don't hear her, broke her.
He feels he don't have to participate in raising the children because he works
These 2 DON'T belong in Divorce Court. They have a 4 year old, 3 year old AND an 11 month old. Work it out! Get counseling and be a Family. Cause NO ONE else is going to want this 60 year old man paying CHILD SUPPORT until he's in his early 80's 😭😭😭
Judge is always right I swear. Like how does she do it
She already has a grown daughter, he has grown children, why start over with more babies??? Time to travel, enjoy life!
My brother in today's day , says it's parents obey your children, not children obey your parents. Tide has turned. Parents need to stand on their authority
I like her..I like the woman very much. She is pretty and honest with herself. She didn't just come to throw the man under the bus, I think she just wants a solution... I am halfway into the video and I hope she does not end up sneaking around, she is young and such will be expected.
Make it about each other. Scratch her back and she'll scratch yours. Without complaining about your itch or trying to scratch your own back, it will get scratched. That's how selflessness rewards you in a relationship.