Finally get your family OUT OF YOU & be the true self you were never allowed to be 👇 Access my free training - jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027 ‘Road to Self’ Program: Join 10,000+ people who have transformed their lives! www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/road-to-self
I listen to you for years Jerry, you're instrumental in my becoming healthy and non enmeshed. I love your videos! All of a sudden on this one there were 5 ads that disrupted the podcast... this wasn't happening before...
Yes, we have had to put ads on the videos, most you can click through, but we have to pay for the free content. I have bills to pay too lol Thank you for your patience and your watching my videos.
Nicol M I don’t understand this request. RUclips function with ad, like TV. Jerry have to pay bills, like all of us. It takes time to do a video, and energy. If you don’t like ad, you can go on therapy. I don’t know you, but this looks like narcissism, they want everything for free without any discomfort, because they are special, they want just to take, but not to give. No darling it’s a law of give and take. Jerry is giving time and energy, you at least should watch those ad.
Thank you very much for your videos and book recommendations. I have learned so much, and just celebrated mother's day with my family at peace & feeling calm. Your practical advice is invaluable.
What do you mean "unless you are married to a narcissist"? That the problem is not the problem? This would apply to that too The goal would be to try grow our awareness, where did we learn to tolerate a narcissist behavior (maybe our parents?), what would be the down sides of stopping to tolerate that? I'm not sure if this is what you meant. Regardless, thank you for watching my videos and your kind words!
@@jerrywise I was actually being sarcastic. You have said in previous videos that normal rules don't apply. I did learn to tolerate the behavior. I definitely fall prey to victim mentality because of my own self esteem issues and my mother was and still holds onto her victimhood from childhood. I learned that expressing my needs very early in childhood was not good and that keeping her happy and not adding to her stress was how to keep things calm... Keeping others happy at my own expense. I have grown up and with videos like yours I was able to see my own thinking and feeling that kept me caught up in the cycle.
The family of origin systems keeps us in cycles of control. The problem is when it keeps appearing that narcissistic family members interact in a hostile agressive manner. The only solution for peaceful resolve appears to be to remain passive, submissive and subordinate so personally harmful. Fight and flight is a run for safety. 1 +1 = 2, not one alone trying.
Being passive is the solution the system needed you to adopt for it to stay (or better say- appear) stable. It's not your job to keep the system stable, it's your job to find your own stability.
More of people going through relationship struggles, if/when both are developed, emotionally mature people w/ ability for self-reflection, accountability, reasoning, logic, compassion, love & change. Imho, in a toxic type relationship, however.... might be more of one saying the 'why can't you just call me.... i call you all the time'... the other saying something like, "but I did try to call you, it went to voice-mail.... + didn't even get a call from you, today, as u mentioned... " .... All, while knowing (we'll just use 'he', here) he DID reject the call AND that he is totally making up that he called her, too! Gaslighting. One can never get through to, make understand, nor expect insight, integrity, compassion or respect for truth let alone others.... if dealing w/ someone where common sense, logic & reasoning do not seem to apply. If dealing w/ constant #DARVO & "B.A.I.T.I.N.G." type behaviors. =/ Thanks for sharing, as always. Stay safe & be well.
@@jerrywise aah, I didn't know that, thank you Jerry. I thought they inserted adds in between your content on their own! ofcourse you have to earn the revenue. Thank you for your free services Jerry.
I don’t understand this request. RUclips function with ad, like TV. Jerry have to pay bills, like all of us. It takes time to do a video, and energy. If you don’t like ad, you can go on therapy. I don’t know you, but this looks like narcissism, they want everything for free without any discomfort, because they are special, they want just to take, but not to give. No darling it’s a law of give and take. Jerry is giving time and energy, you at least should watch those ad.
Why can't Mary give calm responses when Bob criticizes her? Because extreme abandonment anxiety. (At least that's the case when I'm "Mary".) How would Mary get over that?
jerry please take care of your neurons. "I think therefore I am ". Without your neurons there is no you , there is no love. I am referring to those wireless ear things. Same as cellphone, not good!
Finally get your family OUT OF YOU & be the true self you were never allowed to be 👇
Access my free training - jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027
‘Road to Self’ Program: Join 10,000+ people who have transformed their lives! www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/road-to-self
Jerry, you are a gift to the world.
Thank you Jerry for creating this wonderful video and giving me some tools to use to change my life.
Jerry, thank you so much for helping me. 🙏🙋♀️🌹💗
Great use of magician to illustrate concept. "Raising the dust" another good one.
Yes! Thank you!
I've subscribed. Your channel is gold!
Wow, thanks!
Thank you so much for all your content Jerry. You don't know how much you've helped me.
You are very welcome
I listen to you for years Jerry, you're instrumental in my becoming healthy and non enmeshed. I love your videos! All of a sudden on this one there were 5 ads that disrupted the podcast... this wasn't happening before...
Yes, we have had to put ads on the videos, most you can click through, but we have to pay for the free content. I have bills to pay too lol Thank you for your patience and your watching my videos.
I am also going to be offering ad free meditation podcasts
Nicol M I don’t understand this request. RUclips function with ad, like TV. Jerry have to pay bills, like all of us. It takes time to do a video, and energy. If you don’t like ad, you can go on therapy. I don’t know you, but this looks like narcissism, they want everything for free without any discomfort, because they are special, they want just to take, but not to give. No darling it’s a law of give and take. Jerry is giving time and energy, you at least should watch those ad.
We love you Jerry. I quote you often to family. ACOA here
Thank you very much for your videos and book recommendations. I have learned so much, and just celebrated mother's day with my family at peace & feeling calm. Your practical advice is invaluable.
This sounds so nice and simple here!
resonate, amazing helpful video Jerry, much appreciated as always.
Glad it was helpful!
Dziękujemy.
Unless you are married to a narcissist! I know you say that normal relationship fixes don't work with abnormal relationships! Love your work!
What do you mean "unless you are married to a narcissist"? That the problem is not the problem? This would apply to that too
The goal would be to try grow our awareness, where did we learn to tolerate a narcissist behavior (maybe our parents?), what would be the down sides of stopping to tolerate that?
I'm not sure if this is what you meant. Regardless, thank you for watching my videos and your kind words!
@@jerrywise I was actually being sarcastic. You have said in previous videos that normal rules don't apply. I did learn to tolerate the behavior. I definitely fall prey to victim mentality because of my own self esteem issues and my mother was and still holds onto her victimhood from childhood. I learned that expressing my needs very early in childhood was not good and that keeping her happy and not adding to her stress was how to keep things calm... Keeping others happy at my own expense. I have grown up and with videos like yours I was able to see my own thinking and feeling that kept me caught up in the cycle.
The family of origin systems keeps us in cycles of control. The problem is when it keeps appearing that narcissistic family members interact in a hostile agressive manner. The only solution for peaceful resolve appears to be to remain passive, submissive and subordinate so personally harmful. Fight and flight is a run for safety. 1 +1 = 2, not one alone trying.
Being passive is the solution the system needed you to adopt for it to stay (or better say- appear) stable. It's not your job to keep the system stable, it's your job to find your own stability.
Yes!
But when dealing with a narsassistic partner it don’t apply but would be reveal the person as a fake.
Yes, Jenny, this video was not about narcissistic marriages.
Hello Jerry, how do we differentiate between neediness and healthy needs?
More of people going through relationship struggles, if/when both are developed, emotionally mature people w/ ability for self-reflection, accountability, reasoning, logic, compassion, love & change. Imho, in a toxic type relationship, however.... might be more of one saying the 'why can't you just call me.... i call you all the time'... the other saying something like, "but I did try to call you, it went to voice-mail.... + didn't even get a call from you, today, as u mentioned... " .... All, while knowing (we'll just use 'he', here) he DID reject the call AND that he is totally making up that he called her, too! Gaslighting. One can never get through to, make understand, nor expect insight, integrity, compassion or respect for truth let alone others.... if dealing w/ someone where common sense, logic & reasoning do not seem to apply. If dealing w/ constant #DARVO & "B.A.I.T.I.N.G." type behaviors. =/ Thanks for sharing, as always. Stay safe & be well.
Sorry Jerry, this one had way too many ads, some sudden loud ones, breaking the tone of the video and taking away from your excellent advice.
Sorry to hear that, but I have to try to get some ad revenue to pay for the free content.
You can also purchase the You tube ad free service, listen to them ad free on my podcasts on Spotify and other streaming services,
@@jerrywise aah, I didn't know that, thank you Jerry. I thought they inserted adds in between your content on their own!
ofcourse you have to earn the revenue. Thank you for your free services Jerry.
I don’t understand this request. RUclips function with ad, like TV. Jerry have to pay bills, like all of us. It takes time to do a video, and energy. If you don’t like ad, you can go on therapy. I don’t know you, but this looks like narcissism, they want everything for free without any discomfort, because they are special, they want just to take, but not to give. No darling it’s a law of give and take. Jerry is giving time and energy, you at least should watch those ad.
Why can't Mary give calm responses when Bob criticizes her? Because extreme abandonment anxiety. (At least that's the case when I'm "Mary".) How would Mary get over that?
jerry please take care of your neurons. "I think therefore I am ". Without your neurons there is no you , there is no love. I am referring to those wireless ear things. Same as cellphone, not good!
5:50bnd