Gym Girls Need to Stop Playing Dumb About This
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- Опубликовано: 10 июл 2024
- A girl’s story about her father forbidding her sister to wear a crop top and leggings to the gym went viral on TikTok this week, again sparking the debate of whether gym girls are responsible for inviting unwanted sexual attention when they wear skimpy or skin-tight outfits to the gym.
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As a man a man knows exactly what another man is capable of. As a dad, a dad never wants his daughters to find out what another man is capable of.
Reminds me of a lyric I heard in a song once that really made me realize this:
"Hide your daughters," the old men say,
"we were young once before,
you know how we get our way."
This!
Good proverb.
woman are born with value, and they need to secure it.
it would be like men walking around with all their money sticking out of their pockets and getting mad at people robbing them, all the while saying, i shouldnt have to hide my money, criminals should just leave my money alone.
As a grandfather of children and 5 grandchildren and having girls,i understand exactly where this dad is coming from we know how men think and for 1 minute to think if u wear something tight/small and revealing that it isnt going to get you attention,we’re afraid it could be the “wrong” attention and the daughter here knows exactly wtf she is doing,lets be real.
That fact that she went on the internet to try and shame her own father is disgusting in itself. That man is just trying to raise his daughter/YOUR SISTER properly.
Exactly, not everything needs to be on the internet. Whats the next family topic that she'll share.
that's what he gets for trying to raise his kids and not leave his daughters. lmfao
This is the takeaway.
The west needs filial piety!!
That older girl should’ve been home schooled. If a dude walks down the street with $10k cash in hand thru the ghetto and gets robbed, sure it’s the robber is to blame but anyone living in reality would ask “why are you walking down the street flashing $10k in cash?” And call that dude an idiot. To some extent, we’d all say he brought that upon himself. Why can’t this women accept any accountability whatsoever.
I am a happily married man (for over 40 years). I was in the grocery store the other day and there was a girl wearing a skin-tight outfit. If it had been skin-coloured, she could have easily been naked. How can you not look when someone’s standing in front of you dressed like that? I’m looking at the ceiling, the floor, left and right, and to be honest, I was extremely uncomfortable. But can I say, “Excuse me, but you’re making me uncomfortable.” ? Nope. But if I happen to glance at her, she can go off on me like I’m a predator. It’s nuts. Way too many double standards.
Honestly, I'm at the point where I'm going to start mentioning it to people. It does effect people around you and they need to be aware of that.
Women: it's wrong to objectify women!
Also women: I can't wait to objectify myself.
So true! 👏🏼
I once saw a girl who was like, 12 with her mother that was wearing those special leggings that accentuates your ass and a bra looking top. I was so disturbed. It's like having a big red target on top of the girl for predators to creep on. I hate the argument that we are the problem because we're objectifying them. Do they think pedo's and creeps care about that? They're not going to just disappear because they're mad about it. It's called facing reality, and doing everything you can to protect yourself if possible . Sometimes it doesn't work, but it's better than not trying at all. We live in a bad world and there are bad people out there just waiting to creep on women and girls like this. And yes, women are abusing this power with men.
Yes, no respect for herself or children that have to be to exposed to that. Demonic spirit.
I went to this girl's TikTok and the "you go girl for supporting your sis, or way to go for calling out your father etc" is out of this world.
None of those women seems to understand that her father just told her, that she is objectifying herself and this is what others will see.
what a sad thing
Well she doesn't understand looking like a piece of meat to predators is expecting trouble from predators. She is so dumb to put that kind of trust and responsibilities on strangers in society. When dumb animals are hungry they are hungry. Can't just complain dumb animals need to learn not to attack you. She needs to learn some self-preservation techniques.
The disrespect this woman has for her own father is sad, airing out their business like that. Huge red flag to any man that wants to date her. If she doesn't respect the man the fed her, took care of her, paid for her education. She damn sure won't respect you.
Kinihun25 let mi tell u u couldn’t have said this better when I heard her open her on how she was speaking to her dad it’s sad di dad should have backhand her ass
You hit the nail on the head for sure!!
Her sense of entitlement is ridiculous. Ur su right, I wouldn't wanna be married to that.
unfortunately Social media has brought out the worst in people. It definitely encourages the narcissism in people and the fact that shes blasting family business to the world is bad sign for her as a potential mate.
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I guess she forgot "Honor thy FATHER and thy mother" when talking about the bible.
She should be high fiving her dad for caring enough to say something
Jay no her dad seems jealous and very off almost in a way he wants her for himself he seems toxic .she's a young woman he doesn't get to make her decisions
She should be high fiving her dad for...being there. Sad to see that despite his presense (and seemingly his common sense advice), they still want to behave like entitled garden tools.
@@Ghalion666 dad acting like that is going to make her a 304 even more 😂 that's not him being there, that's him coddling and sheltering her like she's an idiot. Tell her the truth about being an adult female in this world, and stop acting like a her CO!
@@darnellwilliams8783 if you're not trolling, please don't have kids
@@teg3851ct that dad acted like a jealous boyfriend I have two sisters
I was already done when she thought she could call her father to correct him on parenting his daughter. She is a sibling, not a co-parent. She can commiserate with her sister but that is as far as her authority goes.
I was surprised by that, too! If I ever thought to call my parents to correct their parenting style, I wouldn't even need to be told I'm out of line. In fact, it would be so out of line that I would just stop myself before dialing their number. 😂
Daddy probably complaint about her all the time and just because she is an adult and lives outside she still feel entitled to demand how her parents parent even if it's not her job to do so.
@@katievallejo737 That is the Fathers fault, they should already know what and why before now.
Actually objectifying women benefits the men, we like objects.
A blind man was kicked out of a gym because a woman accused him of staring at her. Even presented a card showing he was blind and they still kicked him out. So, doing the blindfold thing won't stop gym girls from making accusations
only young, buffed, rich guys are allowed to look and only if they pay upfront without expecting a return on investment.
Idgaf. I stare at these bitches assess all I want and continue my workouts.
Can we appreciate how this dad is simply trying to protect and provide guidance to his young daughter.
Maybe fathers and mothers of boys should start doing this more?
@@crazynicesonyamaybe we can stick to one subject at a time? Maybe that was CLEARLY stated multiple times in the video?
@@crazynicesonyafathers and mothers do do that to boys. Fathers and mother do tell their sons that it's ALWAYS their fault no matter what. Why? Because women don't want to be self accountable, not because men are horrible.
@@crazynicesonya We do pal. Some people are just bad people. Everyone looks at someone they find attractive both men and women. Women also can commit the same crimes you think only men do it? You need to live a little more and open your eyes.
“I don’t dress for attention” biggest lie in any language
It’s not. Just that you have main character syndrome and think everything is about you.
These days,,,IT's all about Me. me, me. This reminds of the Disco Song: it's Good to be the King - Mel Brooks.
I dress for me… I feel good about myself when I get dressed. Definitely, not getting dressed for anyone else…majority of the time I look like the bag lady 😂
It never fails to amaze me how much people shout and scream about rights, but never mention responsibility. It cuts both ways.
You are free to dress how you want but remember people have eyes and their own individual thoughts. I think most people forget that.
I had a girl come to dance class wearing a top with a x on each nipple. She walks in complaining that the moment she step on the bus men were looking. I stopped her from talking and said if you saw a girl wearing that top would you look? She said yes, ohhh. It's a top that attracts attention. You can't blame people for double looking 🤦🏽♀️
I think it's funny that people are just acting as if they need to correct the world and not prepare themselves for the world as it is. Take responsibility for the consequences of your actions just like you expect everyone else to take responsibility for their actions. 🤦♀️
@Olive it's a pole fitness brand. Only pole fitness people know the brand but yeah exactly what I thought too. Im about 15 years older than my dance students and I hear the things the say and I just say it how it is. These types of girls don't come to my studio anymore and I'm so thankful. They thrive on complaining about guys looking at them 🤦🏽♀️
Don't take your wallet and phone out in a pickpocketing area. Don't wear basicly nothing and be drunk in a simmilar area. It's just about being streetwise. I've seen many people swallowed up by the streets.
@@nelotharen8599 It's an awful reality, it's safer to avoid it than trust.
The girl was not the one complaining that pol were looking. The dad was though.
A wise man once said, "It is easier for one to wear slippers to protect your feet, than to carpet the whole world to avoid getting your feet scratched".
Very true
Damn
Love this
are you Said Wise man?
Lefties these days be like
"Nope I want the carpet the world option"
The fact that she felt like her father had to EXPLAIN why he told his own child not to do something is crazy, she doesn’t know her place and that’s the root of the problem in general
"What else do you wear at the gym?" Uh, sweat pants? A t shirt? Gym shorts too. You can wear anything to to the gym if you're not intentionally sexualizing yourself in public.
Speaking as a regular gym user and a man - I avoid all women completely and literally make sure I’m not near anyone. Not because I cannot control myself (happily married thanks) more because I can’t be arsed with all this. The sad thing is 90% of men in the gym are literally the same - we aren’t interested. We are there to workout not hook up.
Also got to be extra careful even more so now because even friendly gestures or greetings is an invitation for harassment allegations and made up victimhood (like opening the door for them).
I love to hear that, as a happily married woman I'm scared to even go to the gym in leggings and a t shirt. I wouldn't want getting any attention when I'm happily married so I just hike and run on trails near my house alone.
@@Sam21998 girl!!! Do you know what happens to women who hike and go on trails alone?!?! It’s MUCH worse than unwanted glances at the gym….ALWAYS carry a gun on you if you’re gonna do that alone…
As a married woman I assume most men at the gym are just there to work out and it turns out... they are! And so am I!
@m0ji_9, Good on you, brother! That's a really wise way to do it. Again, good on you!
She's lucky to have a dad like that... BOTH sisters should appreciate him.
Yea they better listen.
Thank you! She acts oblivious but a man is always attracted a woman and for them to dress in revealing clothes only makes it worse. Yes the accountability relies on both parties. Men should have discipline not to lust but women should dress appropriately. This woman on tick tock or what ever platform sounds foolish
i'd agree but she's 18.
@@JROB447 So you're saying that because she's 18, she is NOT lucky to have a dad who cares, and that BOTH sisters should not appreciate him??? Btw, most 18 and 20 year-olds are still dumb due to inexperience and many are even dumber than countless 15 year-olds. Her older arrogant, obnoxious and DUMB sister doing all the yapping just proved that fact!
As a father i totally agree, but the sad truth , a lot of woman don't think that way these days anymore.
It's really simple. If you don't want the "average" man to look at you like a hoe, don't dress like one. That dad was doing his job and actually caring about his daughter and how others view her. Good job, brother!
To me the wh- s deserve to be called what they are 🤷🏽
As a father it pains me to see fathers torn down for trying to protect their daughters.
YES! EXACTLY!
A natural consequence of an atomized society.
Protect them from what exactly?
@@imyoursweetnothing So clothes are an armor to male violence? Then I wonder why countries that have women the most covered (islamic and India) are also the ones with the most rap& and violence against women 🤡
@preet Interesting... explain more.
Amen Amala! The Bible also says don't cause your Christian brothers and sisters to stumble.... we should care for ONE ANOTHER! Both parties accountable!
As a girl who goes to the gym all the time I’ll admit that in the past I definitely did dress for attention. I realized I didn’t even like that kind of attention so now I just wear sweatpants and shirts and I honestly feel so much better about myself
Same. I go for me so if it’s a choice between prepping for an hour or throwing on something clean and HIITing it, I’m gonna go with the path of least resistance, especially on lower motivation days. I wear leggings, because I’m looking for form due to knee injuries, but with a longer shirt so I’m not worried about my butt. It’s also way easier to focus on my form when I’m not tugging at things.
I definitely feel more comfortable in oversized shirts and leggings at gym.. no other clothes feels that comfortable for me, more clothes i feel hot and less clothes i feel naked
Alex, you'd be welcome at my very old school, hardcore gym where the female owner wouldn't let you in the door dressed like a hootchie
Yes! The attention is fun, until the dark side of it starts to rear it's ugly face. It quickly goes from: you're cute, you're hot, how sexy. Then devolves into: give me your number, you stuck up b***h, I'll follow you to your car and harass you, you better give me your number or i'll damage your car/hurt you/threaten you.
I personally could never work out with sweatpants , but I do enjoy leggings and a tshirt to work out, at home to be honest, I would rather a sportive bra and shorts, simply because my body overheats quite a lot and I am sure that happens to many other women while working out and tbh it never crossed my mind having people attention, always dressed up according to my comfort
The fact that they’re killing this beautiful part of men which is the need to protect their family and loved ones, is so scary. Men are being shamed for being protective and it’s sad. I hope any man reading this to know that that part of you and being jealous of your wife wearing short clothes and wanting her to wear longer clothes is absolutely beautiful and lovely 💕
Yes! This! ❤
Real men are going to ignore all that bullshit. They will revel in the opposition they get as a chance to stomp on anyone trying to get between them and their family. My kids have always told people that their dad will fuck them up if they step wrong. My two oldest witnessed a guy exposing himself to another kid and the cops put him in protective custody, then came to me to tell me not to do anything to him before I knew anything that had happened. It should be that way with ALL fathers. People should be scared shitless to do anything to PROPER girls. Fathers are supposed to be OVERprotective of their baby girls to the point that they make the Punisher look like a pacifist. A LADY should be able to count on a GENTLEMAN to protect her regardless of relationship. Since the 1920s, there's been a steady decline in traditional values that evolved over thousands of years. Society is being torn asunder and it is ripe for evil to perpetrated on a grand scale again.
I’m sorry I’m trying to understand. Do you agree with the woman that men should allow their daughters girlfriend’s, wives, etc. to wear whatever they want and then when conflict arises from another man reacting to their attire, the other said man husband boyfriend father ect should proceed to act in accordance to stop said situation? or do you agree the husband should step up and say something to their spouse about attire that’s too, revealing?
@@IlLAD3LPH1A215 seems pretty clear they meant the man should speak up before an incident occurs
@@IlLAD3LPH1A215 your comment is complicated .. but what I mean is that we should take into consideration what our husbands want from us, if my husband wanted me to change my skirt and shirt for any reason that’s logical, I would. Simply because that’s his nature and he knows what other men are thinking. we should be more appreciative of their concerns.
My friends were HS track and field runners and sprinters. They did it all in T shirts and loose shorts. My sister, a softball player, sprinted across baseball fields in pants and jerseys. These girls are only fooling themselves.
As a young woman in my early twenties who still lives at home, I always try to dress modestly, and if I question the modesty of an outfit, I ask my dad. Is this too short? Too tight? Too revealing in some way? Our dads know how men think. My parents taught me early on the importance of modesty. Yes, men should control their thoughts. But as women, we shouldn’t make it any harder than it already is. Yes it is on them, but we also need to be careful I’m not causing our brothers to stumble.
And furthermore, not bringing the unwanted attention of the unsavory types on ourselves. What so many women fail to grasp is that the gross, creepy men they rail against will see a woman dressed the way they are, and think she’s on their level, therefore they’ll feel all too comfortable looking and even asking for what they already now expect. Like the saying goes: don’t advertise what you aren’t willing to sell. It really is that simple.
These kids doesn't have a clue HOW BLESSED they are to have a father that care for their well-being.
Ugh! Right? My father couldn’t care less.
Don't.
Really strange thing for parent to “take care” for well-being by telling their girls to hide themselves, but not by educating their boys that insulting, raping and bitting other people is a bad thing
@@crazynicesonya Criminals don't have fathers. Men/boys that do have fathers, aren't taught to go out and rape whomever they feel like. Make your lie more believable next time.
@@crazynicesonya how about doing both? Why left one out?
the fact that she doesn’t talk about her father with respect says a lot
Exatcly! she is trying to embarrased her dad
Remember, we don't take care of our kids.
A generation of vipers 🤨
Same father that raised her, which goes to show that someone on the outside can look at this whole story and say, in reference to the oldest daughter: Not a good dad; too soft. And in reference to the youngest daughter: Great dad. Firm.
Truth is, we don't know. Parenting isn't a perfect science and the kids we raise aren't robots, and not without influence other than our own parenting.
i think there's a part in the Bible that talks about parents...
“ what els are you supposed to wear?!”
Me: leggings and baggy t shirt
T-shirt, knee length basketball shorts/sweats. Those are appropriate wear that you can and people do wear to the gym.
The thing the daughter has to understand is that her Dad knows how other men think. Her father can’t hold other men accountable because they’re not HIS kids.
Exactly!! 💯
She probably doesn't even know the difference between men and women like a lot of feminists nowadays.
you're absolutely right, but that is why we should focus way more on educating boys instead of overly focusing on teaching women how to protect themselves (that of course is also important) but at the end of the day, why are men dangerous to women in the first place, I think we should also build more social responsibility so no matter where you go if someone attacks you, you know that everyone else is going to react.
Exactly. How can he hold other men accountable? Follow his daughters around all day keeping men in check?
He's accountable as a father and is just being practical. He knows that if she dresses more modestly she might ward off at least some attention of a certain kind.
@@isuzu8497I disagree, I think more focus should be on women. May I ask what the focus of education should be for men? Dont rape or assault women? That seems like common sense and the ones willing to go to that length, I doubt will want to be educated.
Maybe teach men to not be a creep? But thats a slippery slope. An unattractive man talking to a women can be considered a creep. I dont think education will stop hormonal guys from not being attracted to what they see when that is natural. So how else can we educate men?
"I'm living in reality. I'm so sorry." -Amala
Thank goodness for people like you who are! 👏
And don't ever be sorry about it! 😉
And she's even bold enough to THINK too? Imagine that. What a savage.
Amala...
In portuguese Ama-la means LOVE HER.
She rocks.
Why is she even on social media sharing information about her family like that? Sad
I am old enough to remember the world of women . (72 years) Men were still opening doors for us and calling us Miss and Madame. I got in terrible trouble for being "scantily clad" on a bike ride with my girl friends. I wince thinking about it today. At 13 years old,I knew that I had disgraced my mother and my family. I would never do that again.
Today, I see young girls wearing shorts that do not cover their asses, along with revealing tops and waaay too much make-up. I see these girls at the supermarket WITH THEIR MOTHERS!!! Do I look down on the girls? NO. I am disgusted with the mothers, because they are not doing their job. The father in your story was doing his job. I regret that his baby girl had to get to the ripe old age of 18 to be delivered that message. But, alas - she didn't listen.
I look back on the old retouched videos from the early 1900s, everyone had grace, and self respect, and respect for others as well. What happened?! I can't imagine having the nerve to call and talk to your father that way! It's absolutely amazing to me, I would never have dreamed of doing such a thing to my father. This man is doing what he's supposed to, protecting his daughter. Where have the polite, nice people gone? Seems like most twenty something's are "me me me, I I I" and so out of touch with reality. I worry for my children.
@@renaissancewoman5373 Take heart, Mama! Our society has gone crazy, because we are headed for a major change. iMany of us are striving for decency, justice, respect, fairness - all the human values that have been hacked up and ruined. Have faith in Humanity. WE WILL CHANGE AND SOON!!
@@renaissancewoman5373 maybe things are different now in 2023 because women and children aren’t regularly beaten for expressing themselves outside the confines of what men deem appropriate like they were in the 1900s 🙄
I agree, we should bring back the old methods.
Seems like Dad screwed up with the older sister and is trying to make sure he doesn't make the same mistakes with the younger.
Yup. Her saying she likes to start stuff was a red flag.
The fact that she thought she was in a position to call and question her father like this shows that he fucked up with her
@@WD-hd1vw I wonder if the mom raised her...
@Matt exactly !
@Matt seems like dad wants his youngest daughter for himself
Women: "Men will objectify us everywhere!"
Dad: "Wear more clothes because men will objectify you everywhere"
Also women: "Don't tell us what to wear!"
gosh fr
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This!
sadly, it's true
Men will objectify women no matter what they wear i know cause it happens to me all the time
Growing up my parents taught me that when I leave the house I am representing my family. So if I’m going out in dirty clothes, not showered or acting a fool in public it would bring shame on our family. Which is why I agree with the dad. There needs to be a rule with what’s acceptable to wear as some of you take it a bit far. More material in a face cloth then some of the clothes your wearing.
Dad ain't raising no Ho's 😠 he wants his daughter to dress more like a young lady not a street walker 😱
As a 16 year old girl that goes to the gym quite frequently, i honestly can’t wrap my head around the fact that some girls go out to the gym with skin-tight clothes that literally show everything and then get mad when people stare. If I want to wear a crop top to the gym, I’m wearing sweats with it. If I want to wear biker shorts or leggings, I’m wearing a baggy t-shirt that covers my butt. It honestly isn’t that hard to grasp that you shouldn’t go out looking like you spray painted your body and then call it clothing.
this. ☝🏻
As a husband and father of two, you have my respect.
Well said, kid.
You are seriously a ray of hope in this messed up generation.
As a 16 year old girl that also goes to the gym , I agree , and also wear baggy t shirts to cover my tights
It's appalling. She's made it very obvious for the whole world to see that she doesn't respect her father and it's not like she's enlightened too. Her father was just trying to protect his daughter.
It’s immature. She def needs to get g checked
She doesn't respect herself. How could she respect her father?
Leggings are not pants, and what is wrong with a t-shirt. Its the Gym, not a fashion show.
My niece's say that they dress for themselves, that their scantily clad clothing is "comfortable". Girl, if we all dressed for ourselves and comfortable then everyone would be in yesterday's sweatpants and T-shirt. Let's be truthful. 😅
😂 I’m that girl 😅 still have yesterdays shorts on 😂
@@TheLittleLambTalks 😂😂😂
I’m that girl, I only shop in the men’s section because the pretentious buffoons hired to make clothes for women don’t know how to make _clothes_ for women. I don’t feel seen over there, so I take my slouchy-clad, hobo-looking self over to where I know the good stuff is.
Whether you like it or not, how you dress is giving out a message.
Especially you just going to the gym
And you don’t anyone EVEN GLANCING AT YOU
don’t wear a sports bra
It’s like a normal bra but more sporty
Whatever- just throw on an actual sport tank top that doesn’t reveal your damn cleavage
Exactly. My mom used to say, " If you put out and advertisment, don't be surprised if it gets answered."
They know and they would like it very much for a guy they find attractive to get the "message", just not any guys they consider ugly or needy.
This vid is reaching. That girl is not responsible for dum b women. It gets hot at the gym when you’re working out. Men also wear no shirt/ shorts. Work out and get out!!! Ppl need to stop looking at others! We’re born nekked. Why would I care what other ppl are wearing?? Humans are the weirdest crea tu res on the planet & I des pi se you all. I don’t go to the gym or in public a lot bc other humans are there. F *ck all of you… Ppl say they ha te being alone, I don’t cuz other humans are disg ustiiiiiing. Stop paying attention to what other ppl are doing!
Yes!
I’m Gen X and remember seeing women with leotards and full hair and makeup at the gym - I always wore a big t-shirt bc I was there for a workout, not a hookup!
That woman is a goofball. She is in love with her own voice and deliberate ignorance.
Bravo, Amala!
I wanted to say the same! GenX here too and girls would come in with full peacock hairdo and strut around like a Jane Fonda video. It was hilarious...
I'm an older millennial and my father taught me well. I've got brothers who are boxers and I would NEVER disrespect myself or the gym they workout in by wearing such clothing knowing the type of men that are in that gym day in and day out. They be ready to kill men for looking my way and I dress appropriately. It's crazy that there's no respect for men these days.
Gen X lady and sometimes we do dress for attention. I dress for my husbands attention. Otherwise often we are just competing to look as good or better than other ladies, and not so much for men. It depends on the woman. Some women are so gorgeous they could wear a potato sack and still be all that.
@@mountainmama2101 I think that's the main thing some women are thinking about when they say "We're not doing it for you [men]." I grew up with three younger sisters, with a rather narcissistic mother leading the way. I did learn about how women compete with each other, and it can be downright ugly and nasty at times.
Gen X, married to a Gen X woman 5 years my senior. We know the deal.
@@jaklumen I am super thankful somebody gets where I am coming from. I am a fairly modest person. I have understood that men are visual, but I didn't understand how visual until I read "For Women Only" by Shanti Feldham. It is a book (mostly from the Christian perspective, but it makes sense from a secular perspective as well), about to the extent men are visual creatures. Hundreds of men participated in surveys and the results were pretty astonishing. I can honestly say I do dress mostly for mostly for competition with women, and I don't want to make anyone stumble, but a women could legitimately be in a flannel shirt, cowboy boots and jeans, with little to not much at all skin shown and could cause someone to stumble. You must be a strong man growing up with 3 ladies. I'm an only and sometimes "onlys" have to feel their way along, so to speak. I too married a younger Gen X man (by 9 months) and we've known each other since he was 12, and we'll be married 28 years this year. Best wishes to you and your beloved.
Would they rather have had their father go to the gym and smack every man that looked at his teenage daughter wrong? Be responsible for your own actions, geez. We recently saw so some very young teenage girls at a fair we went with their butts below their shorts and boobs all but out of their crop tops. No way in heck I would have let my daughter out of the house dressed like that. Thank god she had more sense than that.
look don't touch is my go to limit.
W for dad!!!! Amala, love your bright, cheerful nature and your respectful logical analysis of topics like this. What the gym girls don't seem to realize is that many of the 'respectful guys' got sick of this at the gym and built their own home workout center so they didn't have to deal with the drama. Or they go to a guys only gym or one that doesn't permit video or revealing clothing. Many of the younger guys have withdrawn from the relationship pool because the risks (financial, legal and emotional) out weigh the potential benefits of any type of relationship with these 'modern women'. There are few places to discover a confident, respectful, sincere, committed life partner anymore.
As someone who grew up with conservative Asian parents and in a conservative society, they were quite critical of me wearing anything too revealing from a young age. And when I was younger, I didn't understand why they didn't let me wear anything too revealing like crop tops/tanks/off-shoulders etc. At the time i thought it was a "violation of my freedom". Until one day I was walking in a shopping mall wearing tight shorts by accident as I was rushing to head out and it was so uncomfortable to see not just one but a handful of individuals stare at you up and down. I have never felt more out of place in my life and felt uncomfortable with the attention I was getting. And so from that day on, I just started to dress more modestly and it wasn't to please others. It's just so that I can have a peace of mind and avoid having to feel any discomfort whatsoever when I go out. I also realised that over time dressing modestly is beautiful too and there have been times when i do get complimented for wearing the clothes I wear which is nice ❤
I was going to text something similar. I wore these booty shorts. Because I thought I bet I will look good in them! And when I went to Walmart. The amount of men who HARDCORE STARED AT ME. Some of them would appear out of now where to get closer to me. It made me feel naked. After that experience I started to wear my skirts and dresses again. I wanted to be a "trendy girl" for once😅 but I couldn't stomach the attention. I also wear dresses I usually wear cottage core outfits. And carefully curated outfits. No more sexy escapades for me. I learned my lesson😅😂
I totally get you! literraly had the same period when i was a teenager and wanted to explore the fashion. In my early 20s I intentionally dressed 'too sexy' because I craved the attention. My dad (Asian strict pastor) was the same, but I would be hating it all the time he told me to change and keep those outfits in my bag and change them back later🤣
However, it's still sad and I think you shouldn't have been made uncomfortable or getting the disrespectful looks...
I was lucky enough living in Bangkok no one made me feel like that... because there are the extremes everywhere😂
Class over Crass all day everyday
Yea unlike this woman in the video you ended up respecting your parents opinions even if you don't agree with them instead of blasting how "hateful and sexist" your parents are on the internet in the guise of political activism.
Modern women are addicted to the attention you found to be uncomfortable. There is something wrong with the modern woman's mind.
I was having this same conversation with my boyfriend recently. I told him that these women would NOT dress so provocatively if they were going to an all-female gym. I'm glad I'm not the only one who can see through their need for attention. It's just too obvious to ignore
You are 100% correct. My wife goes to a gym that has an entire section of the gym, with a separate entrance and everything, that is for women only. Sometimes she needs me to come pick her up, and i see the women coming and going from there. And almost all of them are wearing sweatpants and a T-shirt..or a T-shirt and leggings. There's the occasional tanktop here and there, and shorts and T-shirt, but for the most part, the vast majority of them are pretty covered up. It's very rare to see a scantily clad woman come walking out of there. And you are right..at the commercial gyms it's sooo fucking obvious when you see the women there who are dressed for attention. Hell, some of them even wear fucking makeup! And then have the nerve to say things like, "I don't like it when guys stare at me.." And, "I dress this way for me!" GTFO of here with that nonsense. It's all just gotten ridiculously absurd.
This is a good point. I’m curious if there are any RUclips videos showing the difference at a coed vs female gym.
I disagree. It is quite the opposite for me as example. I wear cute sexy outfit when I go to women classes or just to workout at home, and cover up more when I go to regular gym because I don't want male attention
@@pinkymoon2971 do you find that the other woman you see in your classes and in the coed gym do the same?
I disagree. I go to both women only gyms and mixed ones, and I see the same attires in both.
It's horrible enough when one parent tries to undermine the authority of another parent. To be someone's child and try to undermine their authority crosses so many boundaries. Know your place and role in the family. The older sister is a disrespectful control freak. And the younger sister knows it too, or she wouldn't have complained to her about it.
Dad knows what's up. Good dad.
So let me get this straight… Men are denigrated when they are not in their children’s lives, protecting them and providing for them, yet somehow when they are in their children’s lives caring for them and instilling worth and integrity they are ostracized. This is what good men do, they do what needs to be done. He knows that the decision will not be liked and she will dislike him for it, though it is the right one for her. W for Dad!
Alot of it my guess why the dad was trying to tell her to wear different clothes, is because not just because he cares about her, it's manly because he can see a picture that she doesn't yet, until she gets older, than she realizes. I just wonder how would she react if her dad was trying to tell her a young guy she's seeing for a relationship isn't worth for her? Be mad at dad for her not to date that certain person? Yet doesn't realize her dad could know his whole family and doesn't like how they act/ treat people, not alone each other?. But am just guessing.
Years later she’ll get it and say thank you.
@@IfailedeverythingHopefully.
This lady has no idea how blessed she is to have a father like that. It’s a lot of us who wish they had that growing up.
Agreed. I needed a father in my life. My dad wasn’t it. My stepdad wasn’t it. And my mom couldn’t be a dad to me. She was barely even a mother.
Spot on. ❤️🙏
Agreed!!
I found my new faith in Islam and that’s given Guidance instead. Having to make up for this very guidance that the young girls seem so condescended by. If they only knew!! If they only knew the importance of keeping themselves chaste.
It’s very disheartening that it seems so wrong for young girls to be encouraged by their fathers to have respect for themselves.
I pray you’re well my love, if you’re Christian, your religion teaches the same, that women should cover their adornments because they’re worth more than just being out on display. In fact (of you don’t mind me saying, for the onlookers) it says in Corinthians, that the women should shave their hair if they don’t cover.
Here’s what Islam says:
بِسْمِ ٱللّٰه
Surah an Nur 30-31 (Glorious Qur’an)
˹O Prophet!˺ Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their chastity. That is purer for them. Surely Allah is All-Aware of what they do.
And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their chastity, and not to reveal their adornments1 except what normally appears.2 Let them draw their veils over their chests, and not reveal their ˹hidden˺ adornments3 except to their husbands, their fathers, their fathers-in-law, their sons, their stepsons, their brothers, their brothers’ sons or sisters’ sons, their fellow women, those ˹bondwomen˺ in their possession, male attendants with no desire, or children who are still unaware of women’s nakedness. Let them not stomp their feet, drawing attention to their hidden adornments. Turn to Allah in repentance all together, O believers, so that you may be successful.
This is why Muslims women wear hijab, for protection and piety. As a reminder that we are slave to our Creator (the Most Merciful, the Most Compassionate) - not a so-called ‘liberal’ society that has women oppressed through consumerism and ever changing, unrealistic beauty standards. We have more to offer than being known for how we look
I hope you hear what I’m trying to get across - if you’re going to be a slave to something, in my humble opinion and according to our beliefs in Islam, be a slave to God, not a society that doesn’t have our best interests at heart.
Peace and blessing my love, may God guide and save us all. Ameen
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It’s like being around kids and leaving cookies on a plate out in the open and saying “noo, you can’t have that cookie” so instead of putting the cookies in a jar, you’re gonna leave them out and advertise them.
I was an athlete in high school and college. I wore a t-shirt and gym shorts. I was comfortable and safe. I was there to focus on improvement and gains. Your clothing makes a statement about yourself and what you are there to do. Suits and ties make a statement. Uniforms can make a statement of varying kinds. Whether you like it or not, your clothing will make a statement to other people.
Thank You!
I hate it when people tell you "don't judge someone by what they are wearing". What you are wearing is a reflection of you, and who you are as a person. You know, your personality. Like you said "It's a statement". The clothes you wear is a statement on your personality. It tells me everything I need to know about you based on the clothes you choose to wear.
A person who is happy and bubbly more often that not, won't be wearing black clothes because it doesn't gel with the bright personality, and would rather wear colourful clothes. There are exceptions to the rule (I am a bubbly person, but prefer skater/grunge clothes), but on a stereotypical level, you are what you wear.
To test the idea, consider someone walking down the street with skin tight pants and the word "JUICY" emblazoned on their butt. It has to be for other people or it's for themselves (which seems self-objectifying or autoerotic). The idea that your presentation is ONLY for yourself also seemed tested by tattoos. If they were for yourself, you'd get them in locations where you could see them (which might require in some cases upside-down text or mirror writing to be able to read it, right?). If people get tattoos that they can't see, that would seem proof that presentation includes conveying messages to others.
@@TheOriginal_Unaleska They also misinterprete the bible. The don't judge others in the bible means, to not deal out the punishment that only G-d can deal out. The act of saying something is wrong, is an endorsed form of judging, that is what the bible actually does say, to explain others their wrongdoings is a form of love, problem is, modern kids don't even know, that biblical "love" does not mean getting laid.
That’s a loving father! We need more dads out there protecting children
It doesn't make since to ware sweatpants and a hoody to the gym?
WOW,,,, have we really gone this far off the dead end of stupidity.
Man do it all the time I do it cus somehow I feel less hot and sweat
if i walk into a shady area waving my open wallet full of cash about and get mugged, then complain a got robbed and its not my fault its all the other people about for not making sure i could do this. no accountability in society is the biggest problem with women.
The father has a point…. “If she was going to an all female gym, she wouldn’t be dressing like that.” He’s spot on!
Yep, currently in the female only section of my gym and all the woman are in tshirts
Nah even then women would want to dress to one up the other girls there and feel like they are better looking.
@@karissamacgregor7449 depends on the gym i guess. i see girls in the tight shirts and ass crack pants as well, the other night was just a very t-shirt and loose shorts kind of night apparently.
Lol at an all female gym, that is the only time I'd feel comfortable wearing a tank top/sports bra/leggings/tight clothes.
@@1996JaeBill yeah same
Dressing scantily IS objectifying yourself. If you don’t want people to objectify you, you have to hold the same standard for yourself
Not necessarily. We’re talking about going to the gym, not the library or grocery store😌
@@leahjames6870 Well said!
@@leahjames6870 can u tell since when it Change that a T-Shirt, a Sportsbra and joggers arent considerd as Sportscloths anymore? Why do ppl go to the Gym in their underwear?
@@leahjames6870 you are still going outside, put on a t-shirt, and remove it at the gym. that excuse doesn't hold, you are still objectifying yourself in that sense
Yes, the fact that dad had to say something at all means that of course other men will at least think the same..... and free speech and all means she's going to get feedback one way, wanted or not. Most of us were raised with awareness of our surroundings that bad people are out there and we can be victims even if the perps are the ones that are wrong, it will change our lives not theirs.
The phrase "don't start none, won't be none" applies here.
It’s like walking down a dark alley cause it shorter than walking around but then act surprised if beat up and robbed
This is a great conversation to have. People all need self preservation. Reality, as you say, is that people all like attention, but At the same time Predators also do not to need to be validated by encouraging the notion that ‘she deserved to be hurt because of how she was dressed.” Most women learn resilience at a young age, and they learn quickly what unwanted attention is and how to cope with it.
Dad was being a good dad- it had less to do with his daughter’s intentions and everything to do with the minds of many men. He didn’t want her to be objectified or harassed. Big W for Dad.
It probably had ALOT to do with his daughters intentions, "attention"
@@ayevee6619 lets not assume, it could have been for attention, or maybe she just wore a normal 'gym outfit' that was comfortable. And the dad most probably was just looking out for her safety cos he knows how some men are (and i know she should've just went and changed cos its not a big deal)
@@divyaa4459 I wouldn't say tight clothes are particularly comfortable. A bit looser will always be more comfy.
His daughter is a sk@nk already. Can't save her. Modern whamin dress like trash. Treat 'em like they dress.
Yet he blamed her and did not explain to her about the minds of men, this has been going for eons, men will blame women and put all the restrictions on women, instead of addressing men about their actions!!
I remember being angry my mom made me change out of crop tops when I was 15-17. Once I encountered predators, and once I woke up to the reality of the world around me. From 18 and on… I didn’t even want to wear crop tops and I’m infinitely grateful she put my safety above her teenagers want to fit in phase. Will be doing the same with my kids.
The want to not dress that way out of self respect would be the ideal reason to not dress that way. Being afraid of predators is kinda funny, but I get it.
Good luck. Just had a kid turn 13. It’s almost a daily battle with the crop tops. I told her - no belly button showing. I refuse to buy them. She somehow still gets them.
Pred a tors don’t care what you’re wearing🤷♀️ Sounds like a trauma response. I never wore crop tops or scantily clothes in my life and was a ssaulted MULTIPLE TIMES THROUGHOUT MY CHILDHOOD😒🤬 That is no excuse and ppl need to stop excusing these beha viors. The father was the only one complaining. Ppl go to the gym that way (men/women) bc it’s fcking hot and easier to move without getting snagged and overheated.
@@samie7025 But these ladies who dress this way to the gym complain just because people are looking. They're not complaining about being assaulted lol
@@samie7025 you’re right about that, the clothes you wear don’t = the reason you’re assaulted. The conversation at hand is not about assault though. A ra pist will always be that, no matter the victims outfit. But the video is about women who complain about being looked at by men or are told to change by parents looking out for them, in some of the outfit discussed. This conversation isn’t about the men who attack women.
"What else are they supposed to wear to the gym?" Idk maybe gym shorts and a t-shirt? Or sweats? Or any other number of combinations that allow all movements you'd need
I think these types of people are pretending to not understand why the father would do this.
I went to a graduation just the other day, and seeing SO many girls with outfits with their boobs hanging out. It's a center of focus. That's the first thing that will be noticed. I'm a straight woman and it was still hard to ignore. It does feel like they want to be noticed.
For you as a straight woman to ignore, imagine a man who is attracted to females seeing that. It's not fair to them.
Such a great point!
@@TheOriginal_UnaleskaI know it’s not a good example because it’s not everyone’s experience but I was sexually abused by women when I was younger , being constantly subjected to random women in situations that shouldn’t at all be sexual is actually messed up, but not one female would ever consider that, was more of a problem when I was yoing as in too young and genuinely just found it alll disgusting
They want guys to notice them but then they don't want catth them noticing. Like let me do all I can so all can see my boobs but I will complain as soon as someone looks at them.
@@DaVozvi20 it’s like Ricky gervais said: at least old school flashers had the self awareness to run away after they knew they were the weirdos , these chicks think everyone else is for having eyes
I just want to know when we lost the ability to tell the difference between someone objectifying women and acknowledging when you find a woman attractive. They talk about it as if all recognition of physical attraction IS objectifying. Which is bull.
It's at point where it has gotten ridiculously absurd.
It’s like driving an extremely loud 3 million dollar car and becoming angry when people look.
Boundaries means protecting something of value - so if you don’t protect something, people don’t think it’s of any value.
My single father was ALWAYS on top of my appearance. As a now 30 year old woman, I could not be more grateful. He molded my mind to BE STRONG 💪🏾 and not need to show my body to feel like I count. I get complimented quite often due to the sheer CONTRAST between me and most women who dress to show-off.
I’m a bit older than you but look in my 30s and also dress more tactfully…I have found besides compliments I also get RESPECT-people hold the door etc. I don’t know about you, but I think dressing the way I do is actually empowering and uplifting.
@Cris L I completely agree.
I hope my daughter gets this early. We just have more respect for respectable women. No brainer
I'm 24 and was raised on the ideology that the way you interact with others is important rather what you wear. You'll be shocked to know there are many women who wear slightly revealing clothes that also have beautiful personalities. In summer it gets hot; I'm going to wear a crop top and shorts. Because at the end of the day, my crop top doesnt define anything about me except I sweat alot
@@iThiink You reap what you sowe, my love. Summer or not.
Honestly, as a 15 year old girl, props to the dad.
ikr as another 15 year old i know parents know better
also to the gym id wear a tshirt and shorts because no one cares
Their dad is a 15 year old girl?
@@ninjedi6710 no im saying im a 15 year old girl (and so is Rebecca M)
@@ninjedi6710 No, I’m saying I’m a fifteen year old girl, and I respect the dad. Sorry if I worded that weird.
@@ninjedi6710 😂😂😂😂👌👌👌👌
As a woman who grew up without a father and was reckless.
I would have killed to have a dad be strict and set rules like i saw all of my other girlfriends had. They were safe and protected.
I wasnt.
Ungrateful little brat.
I have seen plenty of videos online where a woman who was wearing similar outfits. Thay got in a bad situation with the work out equipment and started screaming for help however all the men ignored them because they could see that not only did they have a reviling outfit on they were also recording themselves. No man is going to help a woman in that situation because they don't want to be arrested for false allegations of sexual assault.
So dressing modestly could help you not get crushed too death by the workout equipment.
I’m really shocked that woman would publicly blast her own father like that… the dad did nothing wrong. She’s clearly an ungrateful child. Lucky she has a dad that cares
Exactly. If she were my daughter, she'd not be welcomed at my house until she issued an equally public apology.
That's unthinkable in Asian societies. She's also leading her younger sister astray. She's sacrificing her father and sister for content and clout. She seems very sure of herself.
I remember being angry that my parents wouldn’t let me wear crop tops and bikinis when I was a kid, but looking back I’m so grateful for that. When I actually tried on those outfits, I noticed I felt more self conscious. It wasn’t about feeling pretty in the end-it was about conforming to social expectations of what dressing fashionably looked like.
You are so right. I am so sick and tired of the fashion right now. It leaves nothing to the imagination. I am old fashion, I miss the days when men approach you and court you. They get to know you for your mind and not just your body. I am the same as you, my husband once bought me a sexy clingy mini dress and I remember feeling self conscious and uncomfortable, pulling the hem down all night as it was riding up. I did not enjoy the party and he realized the struggle I had all night. Never wore that dress again. I did not feel attractive just awkward and uncomfortable.
Like it or not we as women should take responsibility with what we flaunt. Not all men have self control!
Yep, I hated wearing a bikini, but I did anyways because I didn't want to be the only girl wearing a one-piece and shorts. Now I just wanna get a "korean-style" bathing suit, because they're more modest, but still really cute.
@@Flow888100 what about man walking shirtless in summers? Or you only judging women?)
@@crazynicesonya What about it? I don't think that is causing problems for men or women.
Cudos to Dad for trying to protect his silly child.
It’s so refreshing these days to see such a level headed young woman with morals and discernment like yourself speaking out on these issue. You’re awesome. It’s my pleasure to share your videos.
I literally just told a friend last week that it's like girls don't even consider the fact that you can just wear a tank top over your sports bra and this girl confirmed it for me. "What else are you supposed to wear?" Uh.. a workout tank top like women have been doing up until about 3 years ago when apparently tank tops stopped existing. Blows my mind.
Agree 💯 tank tops of various kinds and t-shirts, modest shorts, sweats etc are great for working out in…apparently this generation does not realize people have been working out, and doing so comfortably and successfully since Yoga pants were invented.😂 Back in my day you would NEVER go work out in just a sports bra-you were considered undressed & it was quasi obscene…it would be embarrassing to be seen like that. IMO I think we need to bring that standard of decency back, in the gym & on the beach especially!
I would say tank tops are great. My mom wears them when she runs and j wear them under my few crop tops. Tank tops for the win 😊
Lately I've had a hard time finding matching bottoms and tops. But I don't wear crop tops or sports bras to the gym I just buy a solid shirt to pair with my leggings. It seems most companies are not giving us better options, at least for pairing items.
Some women tell me "well men can wear a tank top in the gym, but women can't!"
My response is "ofc you can."
The women are either just victimizing themselves, or are getting fooled by other victimizers who exaggerate reality.
Both men and women wear scantily clothes at the gym bc it’s easier to move in & a lot of men are shirtless. So what?! Go to the gym to work out or don’t go at all!!! Who cares?!
The 18 year old should be lucky she has a dad who cares enough to lead her on the right path. I have seen some women at the gym where the clothes looks like a bra and panties. Even when I was thinner, I never wanted that type of attention. The sister is an idiot and will lead her sister on a path of bad decisions. I have a younger sister and I tried to lead her on a better path, but she chose not to listen to my advice, so I had to let her learn those lessons the hard way 🤷🏻♀️
At one time it seemed women wore revealing clothing to be looked at, now it seems they wear it to attract attention and complain about it.
I remember discussing something similar to this with my male friends. They all say “I don’t get why women feel the need to care so much about their appearance?” “we don’t care what they’re wearing or how much they do their makeup!” “Half the time, I think they’re just doing it to look good for other women!” Can’t help but agree with them. If men cared about how a woman looks, they’d put more care into their own looks in that department as well. And I can’t help but think to myself, women, what’s the point in all of this?! Does this really matter? I feel this is a question I even more so ask about the gym. I wear whatever to my gym and they don’t say shit. I’ll go in there and work out with jeans and a band t shirt all the time, sometimes even Jean shorts, and nobody says shit. Sometimes I look like I’m dressed like I’m going on stage for a metal concert. Nobody bats an eye ladies, everyone’s too busy working out, we just wanna stay in shape, lose weight, or bulk up, and if they’re looking, it’s because you’re doing something to try and get them to look. Don’t be that person! That shits annoying AF!
“Women need to change the way men think” nooo but they should know that no matter what you teach men, there will be creeps, and there will be predators. Parents aren’t out there telling their sons to be predators.
Also ‘predator’ has lost its meaning because of women being hyperbolic. Casting a glance is biological driver. You cant shame us for our nature and biological drivers when yours are celebrated.
What they really should know is that they are not capable of changing the way men think, and that that’s a foolish and arrogant thought to even have 😂
@@Slim_Charles exactly ! In today’s society we are being gaslit into thinking that everything is the result of socialisation and that biology is irrelevant. It’s madness.
Ya still need to be mindful of how ya all dress. Ive seen high school student females some in pj's some with hooker hose and short shorts and a top that barely covers the boobs. If you dress like that you are more likely to be objectified and more than likely to get groped. Being responsible is on both parties. You know it reminds me of women saying I should be able to job or walk in a darkened park that was recently had a murdered girl dismembered and I should be able to be or go anywhere at night without feeling unsafe. These women are delusional and looking for trouble. Also, a daughter going on media to diss her dad is disrespectful so ...just saying.
You are so wrong, and live in a bubble. Open your eyes and stop following for "iT's ThE mEn FaUlT" stupid thought. We as women have the power to change the way men see us. If you are out there supporting this sensual dress, women, then you're part of the problem.
You change the mind of a men by giving you self-respect and dressing properly.
One thing is a creep man, and another whole different thing is dressing sensually and expecting men to look you as a conservative woman.
Good job Dad. I’m a dad and I have a daughter. I have talked to her about how she needs to present herself in public. This is called parenting!
Good!!
Yeah but it’s the hard thing to do so no one wants to do it, good for you keep raising beautiful women too many girls out there
I remember when I was younger a Sheikh in the area was delivering a sermon about the importance of modesty in dress and mannerism for both men and women. There was a reporter amongst the people in the Mosque. The Sheike when speaking about the woman's part when it comes to modesty stated that a woman who walks around practically naked is like an exposed piece of meat. It will attract animals. This became headline news for weeks. He became Public ememy number 1. Sad thing is- this is basic common sense! This is why in Islam there are rules pertaining to modesty placed on BOTH men and women. Because it is both parties responsibility to protect themselves and society as a whole from predatory and anti-social behaviours.
At my gym, there is a sign in the locker room that reminds us to "lock up your valuables to prevent theft". Hmmm. Shouldn't we just teach people not to steal?
I’m so sick of this argument. You see girls out on a Friday night practically naked and they moan when the “wrong” type of guy looks at them, yet they clearly dressed like that to get attention from the “right” type of guy (I mean, some are just out for a good time, but they tend not to be the naked ones). It’s a flawed ideal. If you want to make yourself look and feel beautiful, there’s plenty of ways other than walking around in a bra and hot pants
Well said. I say this all the time
Yes, and they complain about catcalling.
They need to be taught that if you want a decent man, you have to dress and behave like a decent woman.
Got called a “victim blamer” for saying you’ll get more attention if you dress for it..
The "right type" of guy is going to give her the attention she's asking for and then dump her for the "right type" of girl.
All I can say is, Tik Tok is pure cancer. Props to that dad for trying to set his kid straight. You don't let your kids go out in revealing clothing on normal days, why would you let your kid go to the gym in tight clothes that literally show off everything as she's doing squats. I feel sorry for the young men of this new generation that have to deal with all these new kinds of crazy.
This been happening before tiktok, it’s risen significantly since social media in general started
Lemme get a hell yeah for the dad cause as someone who grew up without one it warms my heart to see this father care for his daughter
People are confused because it's been a lot of years since so many people have seen either a man or a dad.
I love how she starts talking about how we need to fix the problems of the world rather than telling her sister to protect herself. One situation vs how the world should work... How can she not see how problematic that argument is? 😆
So true.
She thinks the world should revolve around her.
Being a father nowadays is super challenging
No it isn't. This is only a social media thing 🤣
Just don't let them on internet when they're not being monitored by you
It wouldn't be if americans start educating their kids like the 60s spaniard mom. With shoes and belts 😂
Only if you have daughters
Not that being a parent is generally an easy thing, but yeah in some ways being a parent today is extremely challenging with all these new problems and topics that your kid(s) are exposed to.
"I am one of those who can be seen, but not touched."
In a perfect world, that would work.
I run cross country at my school. And during the summer I get wanting to wear a little as possible in order to sweat as little as possible. But I wear a baggy t-shirt and dry fit loose shorts (not skintight) and I survive.
As a near 28 young man I’m more and more convinced that my first daugther will not have social media until she’s 18 , them tik tokers really out here polluting minds to the point they out here putting their own parents(mostly dads) on blast in front of the entire world
The problem will be keeping her out of reach outside the house. at school or hanging out with friends, she will get introduced to it somehow unfortunately.
@@rtgbhreth homeschool
I hate tiktok. woman who love tiktok are a red flag for me
It’s the plan. Owned by China but they don’t have that crap on their version, so I hear.
@@rtgbhreth School is the most consistently failing system in the west, homeschool your kids if you want them to have a proper fighting chance.
When I was 19 I was a bodybuilder spending 3 hours a day in the gym. I wore a tank top and pants and headphones because I was there for me and no one else. I used to make fun of the girls who wore makeup and dressed sexy for the gym. It was obvious they weren't there to workout out for themselves. Lol
I don't get why anyone would wear makeup when they go to a gym. Don't they know that it would come off when you sweat - and it can get in your eyes. That's got to sting.
@Red_Five Exactly! I never saw the point. I can see if you were coming from work, that's a different story. But I used to workout at 9am or 10am (I worked at the gym as a trainer and made my own hours). No one needs a full face of makeup specifically for the gym unless you are looking for attention.
Or they come in with long nails that would dig into your palms if you grab dumbells or bars. Like they grab things so awkwardly thanks to those things.
pick me
have they picked you yet
These are the same types who say they want a man that leads then turn around and cry on the internet because the man did just that. Shame on this girl for trying to humiliate her dad for being a loving father.
I really like your point at the end there. Some things are reserved for your partner, not every man that you pass on the street. If you leave nothing to give to someone special it's a disservice to yourself and your potential partner.
Damn, I've been a female for 33 years and it's news to me that the only options to wear as a top is a crop top OR baggy sweatshirt...nothing in between
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I'm pretty sure Amala said "t-shirt", nothing about baggy or sweatshirt
@@randyrenner7643 I'm referring to the woman that is over exaggerating in the video, not our dearly beloved Amala
Dad is right. When I was 14 I sewed a denim mini skirt (yup super short - I thought sexy..) walked thru the lounge on the way out the door and heard "huh..NO...change", which obviously I did but I took the skirt in my bag and changed back for the disco (down the road behind a tree). It was the worst decision I ever made as I was so uncomfortable I couldn't even sit down as it was so short. The lesson I learnt that day and that I not only still live now but I have taught my son & daughter is that if nana or poppa would be embarrassed by your outfit - don't wear it. Personally I have always played sports etc and I seem quite able to do so in a pair of shorts and tshirt or singlet - I don't want to be blinded at the beach by dental floss up the bum, or walk around the supermarket behind some girl who's shorts are so short you can see her ass cheeks hanging out the bottam or some women's breasts hanging out of a bra top...and my son was always told that any girl he brings home needs to have proper clothes on, if I can see her breakfast when she bends over in that skirt she is NOT welcome in my home. What happened to dignity. There is no way I would go visit my nana in the rest home in a bra top & skin tight shorts pulled all the way up my ass - now at home in front of my partner sure, but that's because all this is for his eyes not a random stranger's. PS. My dad raised me alone, the man had no problem buying me tampons & sanitary pads but also taught me how to change the oil in my car... all he ever asked is that I dress appropriately and to be aware that I represented my family everywhere I went and I wanted to bring pride & respect to my family. You can look sexy and attract men just fine without showing all your goodies...
Yes! Nothing wrong with dressing to be beautiful! The problem is the tastelessness and lack of respect for others. As the oldest of four sisters, my thoughts are on them when I dress, not the sexuality of men. I know I don’t want to wear anything that causes their innocent minds to ask questions or respect me less, and it’s a way better objective than being a slave to men’s fluctuating sexual feelings and fetishes. I won’t bow down to this stupid transgender movement and make myself a slave to men’s sexual feelings and neither will I be enslaved to their feelings about my clothing choices.
Applause to your dad, too!
Nice to know some people still have standards.
My cousin's wife used to be a gym instructor, then she had kids so became a full time mum. Still maintained her figure so fullest respect to her but she had a MASSIVE problem with showing it off sometimes.
During my uncle's funeral she wore a black skirt so high I honestly thought it was going to flap up like some cartoonish sunblind.
It was totally inappropriate and can only imagine the stress my cousin had to go through trying to stop her wearing that.
I go to the gym daily. I sprint, jog, squat and deadlift HEAVY. I do it all in a long t shirt.
I heard a judge say to people "If you show it in public, it belongs to the public, be carefull what you do in public"