Deafening Silence of Growing up Gay in a Heteronormative Society | Ross Rossouw | TEDxYouth@KCISLK

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  • Опубликовано: 18 дек 2024

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  • @ldh781
    @ldh781 Год назад +103

    I am so proud of you, and so happy and proud to have you in my life as my boyfriend! You did incredibly well!❤

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад +5

      Ditto❤

    • @petelovesbevsills
      @petelovesbevsills 9 месяцев назад +2

      Geluk julle twee!

    • @diandierossouw101
      @diandierossouw101 8 месяцев назад

      ❤​@@wernerrossouw8479

    • @markmh835
      @markmh835 Месяц назад

      If you are still Ross's boyfriend 1 year later, please pass on to him how important and meaningful his talk was to me and so many people. His intelligence and compassion will continue to reverberate to many people worldwide for years to come. He is helping to change the world. You -- and his students -- are very lucky to have such a man in your lives. 👍🙂🙏

  • @AtlasBlizzard
    @AtlasBlizzard Месяц назад +7

    One of my favorite TED Talks. Thank you, Ross! You inspire me!

  • @jakebe4915
    @jakebe4915 Год назад +32

    Superbly presented....
    Your courage is applauded.
    Bravo....

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw Год назад +1

      Thank you, I really appreciate it.

  • @kellyharrison5184
    @kellyharrison5184 Год назад +30

    What a lovely, and brave, young man.

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw Год назад

      Thank you Kelly. Far from brave but I try haha

  • @chrisjeffries2322
    @chrisjeffries2322 Год назад +29

    Thank you, Ross, for speaking up to society.

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw Год назад +1

      Thanks for the comment Chris.

  • @lokiji108
    @lokiji108 Год назад +13

    Thank you for shining light & clarity

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw Год назад

      Thank you for your kind words

  • @bigRed90
    @bigRed90 10 месяцев назад +6

    A beautiful presentation of the truth.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 10 месяцев назад +1

      Just sad that some are blinded by the truth. Thanks for watching❤

  • @michaellewis9839
    @michaellewis9839 Год назад +9

    Beautifully done!!! Well, done!!

  • @TotRevalution
    @TotRevalution 10 месяцев назад +11

    This was so moving. Thank you! Made me emotional ;-;

  • @sufyanlowel4631
    @sufyanlowel4631 2 месяца назад +6

    Thanks to my parents and Madonna I never wanted to be 'like the rest'. I never have any doubts about myself. I am very lucky and this is very sad because this should be a regular situation for everyone, not some 'lucky'.

  • @ryanmrh4006
    @ryanmrh4006 Год назад +16

    This video was a great find, at the right time. Thank you for your vulnerability, it helps those of us that relate.

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw Год назад +1

      I'm glad that it meant something to you. If this touched one person, then I've reached my goal.

  • @cowinwatts9025
    @cowinwatts9025 4 месяца назад +5

    I had to watch this again 👍
    Thankyou

  • @KelleyMeyer-f9h
    @KelleyMeyer-f9h Год назад +4

    Thank you for your beautiful presentation…😊❤️🙏

  • @cowinwatts9025
    @cowinwatts9025 Год назад +17

    I fully understand being outside the circle!
    But why is there nobody in the audience??? It's like no body is listening.. Very sad!
    We all have the right to live and thrive!😢 Amen

    • @umbertopapale428
      @umbertopapale428 Год назад +4

      Of course there's an audience! What you saw, the empty hall, was the Parliament building!😊

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw Год назад +12

      This event was organized by my school and run completely by the students. Initially it was a closed event, only for students and school staff, but only two weeks before the talks did the school decide to open it to the public, so I'm afraid it wasn't advertised as much. The picture you saw of the empty seats was a slide in my presentation and not the audience I was speaking to.

  • @johannalberts8029
    @johannalberts8029 Год назад +4

    Thank you for what you are doing here. How wonderfully explained 👏👏.

  • @thomasmulroney2065
    @thomasmulroney2065 Год назад +29

    So enlightening especially on British colonialism. Thank you for your courage. I loved the symbolism of moving out of the red circle.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      Thanks for watching Thomas. ❤

    • @timothyj1966
      @timothyj1966 Год назад

      WTF are you dating about British Colonialism!??? LMFAO!!!

    • @sufyanlowel4631
      @sufyanlowel4631 2 месяца назад

      That doesn't explain Russia, China and the rest of the red terror

    • @sufyanlowel4631
      @sufyanlowel4631 2 месяца назад

      And I'm still very very far to idolizing any religion. Except Pastawhatever they all basically the same. Old tales that ruins people lives.

  • @paestum70
    @paestum70 10 месяцев назад +3

    @wernerrossouw8479 what a wonderful presentation. Eloquent, insightful and heart-felt. Congratulations and thank you.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 10 месяцев назад

      I appreciate the kind words. Thanks for watching😊

  • @curthill7646
    @curthill7646 Год назад +4

    Thank you Ross for this talk!

  • @terryhuggins8414
    @terryhuggins8414 Год назад +2

    Ross...brilliant! Thank you....

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw Год назад +1

      Thanks for watching. I really appreciate it.

  • @raisingruckus1
    @raisingruckus1 Год назад +7

    Agreed. To all. Where is the audience?

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      It was an event run by my school and the students actually planned and set up everything. Initially it was a closed event only meant for students and teachers but only later did the school decide to open it up to the public. By then, there wasn't enough time to do proper advertising. Also, I'm in Taiwan, so not a big English speaking community.

  • @joecutro7318
    @joecutro7318 Год назад +11

    Thanks, Ross. Like any day on the freeway, I am grateful for those who use their mirrors. 😉 🪞 Keep the faith. 🏳️‍🌈👍🏼☮️

  • @jackstrubbe7608
    @jackstrubbe7608 Год назад +259

    As a survivor of the bashings at Stonewall, they have never managed to silence this lifelong 75 year old activist. I fear we are having all our work undone now. Vote Blue.

    • @briandbenson
      @briandbenson Год назад +22

      I’ll do my best to make sure your work isn’t undone. Thank you for fighting for our right to exist. ❤

    • @rjcarter2904
      @rjcarter2904 Год назад +2

      Good for you!

    • @mikeg8276
      @mikeg8276 Год назад +8

      I think it’s amazing you lived through Stonewall, but can you really call yourself a “survivor of the bashings” when no one died? To quote Willam, “Nobody was killed at Stonewall.” You definitely endured something and I’m not trying to minimize that. I just don’t want people to read this and misunderstand the history of the event.

    • @donhamill5939
      @donhamill5939 Год назад +8

      Thanks, but I don’t need a political party to validate my life. My friends and associates make a difference in my life, not political parties.

    • @lance694
      @lance694 Год назад +5

      @@donhamill5939 congratulations? 🤷‍♂️

  • @johnphillips3054
    @johnphillips3054 Год назад +14

    First, he is stunning, just saying wow very handsome. And great Ted talk

  • @kimsteinke713
    @kimsteinke713 4 месяца назад +5

    Thank you and God bless you I'm 63 and it's been a very hard road I don't know any other road though. To all the young children hang in there it does get better and sometimes it gets worse but hang in there live your life change the world Make it better there's enough hate here We're here for love. Don't let them distort unconditional love. 💙🏳️‍🌈🙏😇 And vote blue cuz fascism is at the door again. Anytime LGBT children are free and to live happy the fascist come after us. But we won this war.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 4 месяца назад

      Thank you for watching and for this beautiful comment

  • @bilalahmed-if1en
    @bilalahmed-if1en Месяц назад +3

    I am exhausted scared and nervous what life has inspired for me I wish I can live in peace I feellike as if I am glitch in the algorithm

  • @kaseyford1490
    @kaseyford1490 11 месяцев назад +6

    I can only hope that the audience in these Ted Talks learn something from this. 😊🏳️‍🌈

  • @alfredbooth6854
    @alfredbooth6854 Год назад +72

    Thank you for continuing to speak for all of us. You have the soul of a beautiful Human Being.

  • @CostaComedian-rn2zr
    @CostaComedian-rn2zr Год назад +3

    Bravo ❤ thank you

  • @Michael_Livingstone
    @Michael_Livingstone Год назад +3

    Amen Brother!

  • @MichaelDG2023
    @MichaelDG2023 6 дней назад

    By 1:30 I started crying
    My whole life I have waited to be accepted or rejected.
    I never understood it in those terms and I’m 53 and it’s STILL happening!!!!!
    It’s so lonely. I have many loving friends, family, and a reasonable number of romantic prospects and yet I am still lonely, vigilant and stuck.

  • @a-complished4406
    @a-complished4406 Год назад +118

    It’s depressing. Good talk, but we have two options: disappear, or be on everybody’s face all the time, which is exhausting

    • @selispeks
      @selispeks Год назад +10

      I decided to be in everyone's face all the time. If we don't speak up for those who are being persecuted we don't deserve anyone speaking up for us if/when it happens to us.

    • @yotubr08
      @yotubr08 Год назад +1

      Both are exhausting - Disappearing and being in others face and costly.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      Normal, that's the take away❤

  • @F80armitgod369
    @F80armitgod369 Год назад +16

    New Iran people are more where of homosexuality In big plac like Tehran its far mor accepting specially in yung generation its far more accepting but out tahran whete people are closed minded and religion such crimes will hapen i lucky i live in tehran but thos who are out of tehran are in danger with far more% and taht so 😭😭

  • @DannyLara-pf4vy
    @DannyLara-pf4vy Год назад +1

    Beautiful

  • @fireflymary9269
    @fireflymary9269 Год назад +19

    Same here. Hi my brother who fought the good fight in NY. 63 years fighting and watching our hard work become undone and if Republicans get their way they will kill us for real instead of slow psychological death

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад +1

      There are still good people out there, keep the faith. Thanks for watching❤

  • @alexprieto8277
    @alexprieto8277 5 месяцев назад +2

    I'm 35 and I feel my life has been a waste, simply because society doesn't accept people like me. I'm lost ..... don't see how things will get better. I enjoyed this talk at least

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 4 месяца назад +1

      I'm sorry that you're feeling like that. It's not always easy but try to surround you with people who love and accept you for who you are. Thank you for watching❤

    • @ruskov5685
      @ruskov5685 3 месяца назад +1

      It will get easier.
      Ça ira mieux.

  • @Twenty20kmusic
    @Twenty20kmusic Год назад +23

    Needed this video so badly. Thank you.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      I am so happy to see that it touched you and helped you in some sort of way. Thanks for watching ❤

  • @maitlandbowen5969
    @maitlandbowen5969 Год назад +6

    Thank you, Ross.
    I am 68 years old and, yes, I’m damaged to this day (“permanently”) despite all the changes in our world that have occurred over recent decades of my life. I am of the LGBTIAQ people. Today, for example, I so endorse the inclusiveness that has now arisen, at least within this division of people. However, it should never be forgotten that it wasn’t until 1984 that the illegality of homosexuality was removed from the statutes in NSW (I worked on that campaign), and a fuller law reform did not occur in that state until 2003. Both basic and fuller law reform emerged only on a piecemeal basis throughout the states and territories of Australia. And then, this is only pertaining to the law of course; the rest is even harder to achieve (as this video well captures some of the myriad of other aspects).
    When I see worthwhile presentations such as this, and portrayals of other LGBTIAQ matters (along with matters relating to humanitarianism, or considerations of ‘the other’), I often want to ‘show and tell’ to people significant to me. My sister, for example, remains as one of those people (she is the only example of a family member still available to me today). I guess, via this kind of process, I am forever seeking recognition, understanding and ‘validation’ for my ‘outsider’ status. But, doing this is difficult because one just feels as though one is climbing onto a soapbox each time (& that’s not really acceptable, somehow)! There seem to be no solutions.

  • @davidoran123
    @davidoran123 Год назад +48

    the malignant mythology of religion and the repression of anyone who is 'different' can be deadly when shame and blame are used to manipulate. Find and be your true 'self'. Orientation is not a lifestyle choice, religion is.

    • @backhand4
      @backhand4 Год назад +2

      But for the speaker to blame the current totalitarian regimes' rampant bigotry ingrained in radical Islamism in most of the middle east on Western colonialism from hundreds of years ago - while simultaneously overstating the alleged openness of the middle east society prior to colonialism - is simply ahistorical nonsense. It's a prime example of presentism - that is, taking what you want to be true and backing history into that lens while being intentionally devoid of all nuance. This talk was of exceptional poor quality and framing even if you agree with the overall message.

    • @Mcfreddo
      @Mcfreddo Год назад +1

      @@backhand4In other words, the militant Islam is their own doing? Of course that's true. Islam is quite abhorrent on it's own and you see this every day. Moderates are just not following the book to the hilt. Just like Catholicism and the now quite insane the evangelical cults. Moderate Christianity is just not following all texts. All the Abrahamic religions destroy knowledge given complete power.
      Of course the colonists put in place horrendous laws. All religion stinks.

    • @cuahutemocrex2871
      @cuahutemocrex2871 Год назад

      The only difference between mythology and theology is faith

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      ​@@backhand4thanks for your comment. This TEDx Talk was organized by a group of grade ten students and for a first time organozing an event like this I'd say they did a pretty good job.

  • @paulnovosel9469
    @paulnovosel9469 Год назад +28

    This is one of the BEST TTS EVER. Well thought through with impeccable logic and meaning. A+++

  • @anthonyjames4648
    @anthonyjames4648 11 месяцев назад

    Baie dankie Ross❤

  • @scubawrestler
    @scubawrestler Год назад +9

    Beautiful Presentation! Thank You.

  • @Bobby-kp6ln
    @Bobby-kp6ln Год назад +3

    Its amazing how much hate there is towards lgbtq and still alive. People have done so much to shape the opinions of people towards discrimination of others for anything to differentiate one another, although we are all gods creation. How many messed up straight people do you know? Why is someone so obsessed over someones elses bedroom....thats sick

  • @cowinwatts9025
    @cowinwatts9025 Год назад +2

    Yes, I am a lost soul.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад +1

      You're not❤

    • @cowinwatts9025
      @cowinwatts9025 Год назад +1

      I want to meet and know you!
      Do you ever come to Australia?

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 4 месяца назад +2

      ​@@cowinwatts9025moving there in a year

    • @cowinwatts9025
      @cowinwatts9025 4 месяца назад +2

      @@wernerrossouw8479 are you Serious?? Keep me informed 👍

    • @cowinwatts9025
      @cowinwatts9025 4 месяца назад

      ​​@@wernerrossouw8479I think of the song by SKIDROW, WASTED TIME . Have A Listen ? Maybe you could change my life 😊

  • @YesItsMeGuys68
    @YesItsMeGuys68 Год назад +6

    He is a natural speaker ! Very well done .

  • @jethrotaylor2614
    @jethrotaylor2614 Год назад +4

    I grew up in country Western Australia 1969, life was tough.

  • @kevinlapointe74
    @kevinlapointe74 Год назад +7

    Some time people show hate by not saying nuthing and treating it like its not a problem, silence can be louder then word's

  • @davebarrett33
    @davebarrett33 Год назад +4

    100% agree and empathize

  • @christosegkos
    @christosegkos Год назад +11

    Beautiful speech 👏🏽

  • @jamesjames1364
    @jamesjames1364 Год назад +13

    Ditto & BRAVO To You! :) Great job. I could listen to you all day long.

  • @steviemitchell9373
    @steviemitchell9373 Год назад +5

    I, too, knew from an early age. You beautiful human ❤

  • @klauskotowski6588
    @klauskotowski6588 Год назад +3

    Danke schön für diesen Beitrag!!! You are great ❤

  • @fabiogiacometti7518
    @fabiogiacometti7518 Год назад +4

    thank you for this interesting and very well delivered speech. I really appreciated the perspective and the message.

  • @michaeldonohue-ju6hm
    @michaeldonohue-ju6hm Год назад +4

    I feel validated!

  • @joaoeuqueres1739
    @joaoeuqueres1739 Год назад +9

    Well spoken! Thank you!!!

  • @3506Dodge
    @3506Dodge Год назад

    What country is this?

  • @juliussmith4001
    @juliussmith4001 Год назад +3

    BRAVO!

  • @RosebeeVids
    @RosebeeVids Год назад +43

    Because of our heteronormative society, I grew up in the 80s & 90s thinking I was a broken straight woman. It wasn't until my late 30s that I first heard the word Asexual. It took me until I was 40 to realize I was actually Ace & bi-romantic. More conversations like this need to happen.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад +1

      I'm so happy for you. Thanks for watching, I really appreciate it.

  • @JoseMendez-bq6st
    @JoseMendez-bq6st Год назад +4

    Very moving, compassionate and painfully real speech. I hope we can continue to support our younger generation to develop a healthier sense of self without the stink of homophobia.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      Thank you so much. You paved the way for us and therefore I had the privilege of going on a stage. Thanks for the watch❤

  • @jaredleemease
    @jaredleemease Год назад +11

    Thank you Ross. 🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧

  • @michaelhovden7846
    @michaelhovden7846 Год назад +4

    Wow - great, brave talk - thank you so much! Perfectly said, and the message needs to continue to be carried forth.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      I really appreciate this. Thank you so much for watching.

  • @blanchefan
    @blanchefan Год назад +1

    Outstanding--much needed--vital--common sense, for heaven's sake! Thank you, Ted Talks and Ross R-- :)

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      I chuckled at this. Thanks for watching and putting a smile on my face😂

  • @AndrewPatrick-n7r
    @AndrewPatrick-n7r Год назад +10

    This has been the honest and caring thing I have ever seen on RUclips it is so true and hit me to my very soul

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      I am so happy that you enjoyed watching this and that it meant something to you. I appreciate that a lot, thanks❤

  • @hanslagewaard5083
    @hanslagewaard5083 Год назад +17

    I find this talk unconvincing. I'm 60 years old and even though underrepresentation was the norm. But zero representation certainly wasn't the case.
    Also, colonialism isn't the only reason why homosexuality is problematic in the non-Christian parts of the world. To represent it as such is more an expression of the imperial mindset than the speaker realizes. Other cultures can come up with ghastly outcomes just as easily. Don't deny their agency just because you ruled them for a short while.

    • @backhand4
      @backhand4 Год назад +2

      This talk is utter nonsense...

    • @freddenker9537
      @freddenker9537 Год назад +1

      see buddist Thailand !!!!! not evere Religion eats the Brain !!

  • @donseiler1307
    @donseiler1307 Год назад

    Wow. Thank you. Very brave.

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw Год назад

      Thanks for watching. I really appreciate it.

  • @m.akbr.1201
    @m.akbr.1201 Год назад +3

    😇🙏💖💕🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🌟✨

  • @RossCompose
    @RossCompose Год назад +1

    Another Ross! We're rare.

  • @sweetbb125
    @sweetbb125 Год назад +6

    Dankie dat jy jou storie so professioneel met die wêreld deel.

  • @stevengarman4848
    @stevengarman4848 Год назад +10

    The hatred of us has existed for centuries, not years.

    • @vorpal22
      @vorpal22 Год назад +6

      Yes, you are right, but if you trace back to the origins of early Christian thought, rejection and criminalization of homosexuality are geographically correlated with it. In very few places was homosexuality a problem until Christianity and then western thinking based on Christianity spread.

    • @stinooke
      @stinooke Год назад

      @@vorpal22 That is absolutely untrue. Homosexuality as you know it today was not socially accepted in Greek or Roman Societies, and it may have in fact been more accepted in Christian medieval Europe than in classical antiquity. Widepread homophobia and criminalization of homosexuality is a Rennaissance-era idea.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      ​@@stinookehow sure are you about your claim on the Greeks😉

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад +1

      Thanks for watching❤

  • @CajunGators
    @CajunGators Год назад +10

    I highly disagree with him and wish he’d just speak on his experience. It’s really not that difficult.

    • @thinkerpanda
      @thinkerpanda Год назад +1

      well it depends on society, community and people around you growing up

    • @cuahutemocrex2871
      @cuahutemocrex2871 Год назад

      It can be.

    • @CajunGators
      @CajunGators Год назад +1

      @@cuahutemocrex2871 I’m sure it can in many many places. He can still speak on his experience without blanket statements. This is how stereotypes happen.

  • @davidcwitkin6729
    @davidcwitkin6729 Год назад +43

    He must have had to work hard to get up the courage to speak in such a huge space

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад +1

      I have awesome friends and colleagues who supported me.

  • @martincampbell7774
    @martincampbell7774 Год назад +2

    Well said, much needed...but how many will listen? More than previously I hope. Most societies need to change their outlook on LGBTQ+ people, because they are people that should have the same behaviors exhibited to them as non LGBTQ+ people.

  • @joecutro7318
    @joecutro7318 Год назад +9

    Difficult and complex topic to address in a TED nutshell format. Major kudos for his courage and willingness to be who he is and state his Truth. We all need to watch out for our brothers, sisters and others, no mattah what. ❤ Love always wins.

    • @joecutro7318
      @joecutro7318 Год назад +1

      Nope, not kidding and I am fully aware of and understand your sentiments. It is a perspective for which you are equally entitled. I just wish you could have expressed it more respectfully in a social media context, but hey we all need to thicken our skin if we value the 1st amendment, right?

    • @stinooke
      @stinooke Год назад

      There is no such thing as "his truth". Truth is not relative. This is his opinion.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад +1

      ​@@joecutro7318thanks for watching. I think it comes down to the way we listen. We either listen to get offended or we listen to understand. And you are right, everyone is entitled to their opinion but if your opinion demerits the existance of someone else I think it's time to take a look in the mirror. Once again, thanks fro your encouraging comment, I really appreciate it.

  • @skymuffn
    @skymuffn Год назад +11

    …well said and will still sadly resonate in the decades to come. One thing I am grateful for is my entire extended family who always has been there for me. My exceptional folks has been the key to my well being. My Filipino Father, an immigrant conservative engineer who had a worldwide Industrial Engineering Corporation who with my modern American born Mother who is understandingly kind who instilled my sense of awareness and self worth which gave me
    the confidence to be who I am. Then my 2 sets of Grandparents who has showed me the value of respect with a good dose of humor will lead to an amazing journey. Now at 54, comfortably aging and happy to be where I am in life.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      This is beautiful and I'm so glad you have such amazing support from your family. I really appreciate the watch, thanks you❤

  • @Jim-bh7gs
    @Jim-bh7gs Год назад +5

    Islam permissive!??

    • @cuahutemocrex2871
      @cuahutemocrex2871 Год назад +1

      What a thing was should not be confused with what a thing is

    • @ak5659
      @ak5659 Год назад

      I don't even to pretend to understand it, but it seems that Islam is as varied as Christianity and like Christianity there're groups that have opposing views on many things.
      I know that in Poland the Muslims who've been living there since at least the 1400's and the Muslims who've moved there recently apparently disagree on many things.

    • @youseftumeh4166
      @youseftumeh4166 Год назад +1

      Historically yes....but not any more
      Homosexuality was prevalent there once upon a time indeed

  • @stud28gr
    @stud28gr Год назад +3

    Story of my life...

  • @caiothatdreamer
    @caiothatdreamer Год назад +8

    Anyone has his IG or social media? He’s brilliant.

  • @getrealnow73
    @getrealnow73 Год назад +4

    thank you

  • @mdgraystone
    @mdgraystone Год назад +4

    Nice talk. Too bad there wasn’t a live audience there to appreciate it.

    • @Mister_Listener
      @Mister_Listener Год назад +1

      Agreed! Weird, then, that there is such a weird problem with the sound.

    • @ldh781
      @ldh781 Год назад +1

      There was an audience, I was there.

    • @Mister_Listener
      @Mister_Listener Год назад

      @@ldh781 oh good! 😊

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      The entire talk, sound, video, and organization was done by the students of my school and I think they did a good job. I also wish the sound could have been better❤

  • @claudiopoles9672
    @claudiopoles9672 Год назад

    🥱🥱🥱🥱

  • @dobwatches
    @dobwatches Год назад +12

    “We won’t die secret deaths anymore. The world only spins forward. We will be citizens. The time has come. Bye now. You are fabulous creatures, each and every one. And I bless you: More Life. The Great Work Begins.”
    Tony Kushner

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      Love this. Thank you so much for sharing and for watching❤

  • @embreis2257
    @embreis2257 Год назад +10

    this need for validation he is talking about in a society which claims to favour individualism and diversity comes down to our mores and morals ludicrously out of date with modern standards. why? because most mores and morals go way back and were formed long before our modern laws were introduced, let alone modern concepts like being free of discrimination etc.
    sure, mores and morals change but it takes time - we are talking many decades here.
    our modern laws get changed all the time but most we adhere today are much younger than 100yrs old while the law itself often is influenced by the mores and morals of the day it was introduced.
    discriminating against homosexuals and practically outlawing it climaxed in Victorian times with criminal codes all over the world made in the 1860s. that was a time when modern concepts of basic human rights and liberties had a different ring to it. just remember what was accepted back then (slavery in the US, death penalties all over the globe, no female suffrage etc pp.) - heteronormativity was accepted back then and the christian churches were preaching it for several centuries before. unfortunately, many things the churches preach do not pass modern standards but are very difficult to get rid off. people needlessly suffer for it.
    we need to accept the fact that heteronormativity only serves roughly 90% of any population, the rest is left out and discriminating against 10% of any population who can't escape it is neither democratic nor just, sustainable or fair, especially when their needs to live a normal life do not harm anyone. heteronormativity therefore needs to get discarded in all walks of life asap

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      Thanks for watching, I really appreciate the support❤

  • @pereinarolsson3928
    @pereinarolsson3928 Год назад +1

    If your intention is to educate and teach the world to be and act in a certain way - what a sisyfos job and impossible. Change your inner world instead because there is nothing on the outside that is not on the inside. Much easier - not easy but possible. But I do not exclude that what you are doing might be your mission - who knows.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 10 месяцев назад

      The intention is to educate, I however was told to be and act in a certain way. Thanks for your comment❤

  • @riccardo50001
    @riccardo50001 Год назад +9

    So depressing speaking to an empty auditorium, what the point? I guess if it's posted here that helps get the message out. I think most straight people are not interested. They have their traditional families and don't have the need to questions. They are probaby often horrified about what gays in bed. On the other hand, bravo for him standing up and doing the talk anyway!!!

    • @patrick_starX
      @patrick_starX Год назад +5

      I believe that was just a slide in his presentation, meant to illustrate some of his arguments. You can hear the live audience clapping towards the end of his talk.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      Yes, that was just a slide in my presentation to represent the stage I "perform" my life on. There was an audience, although not big, but I live and work in Taiwan so the language barrier also contributed to not as many people showing up. I appreciate the support though❤

  • @MaoChio
    @MaoChio Год назад +16

    So trots op jou Werner, wel gedaan!
    ❤️🏳️‍🌈❤️

  • @Nomadic813
    @Nomadic813 Год назад +4

    What a strange coincidence that all these queer struggle tedx videos are of classically handsome white men.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад +2

      First of all, thanks for the compliment. Secondly, privilege is one of the numerous topics I discuss in my Grade 12 elective course. If we are aware of our privilege we can use it to do good. I volunteered to do this TEDx Talk and a lot of research and preparation went into it. It was open to anyone and I wasn't chosen😊. If my privilege as a white "handsome" man can get me on a stage to talk about something that matters, I'll use that privilege and do just that❤

  • @OldMaidenType
    @OldMaidenType Год назад +3

    Great talk... is Ross single? asking for a friend...😉

  • @Youradsspecialist
    @Youradsspecialist Год назад +4

    nice!

  • @hanssolos3699
    @hanssolos3699 Год назад +1

    'nuff already!!!
    come to 🇲🇾 and u will understand.

  • @thevalkyrie8
    @thevalkyrie8 Год назад +2

    He is talking about individualism, but I bet he’s a socialist

  • @habicht6
    @habicht6 Год назад +2

    danke...cheers... spasibo... merci..

  • @wotan10950
    @wotan10950 Год назад

    A brave speech. But it’s a little easier to pontificate when you’re as fit, young, and handsome as Ross. Ask yourselves honestly if you would’ve even bothered to watch if the speaker had been a senior, overweight, and very plain. Yeah, didn’t think so.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад

      Privilege is one of the numerous topics we discuss in my Grade 12 elective course and if we are aware of our privilege we can use it for good. To answer your question, yes, I personally listen to the content instead of judging the looks❤

  • @andrewstevenjo9621
    @andrewstevenjo9621 Год назад +1

    This is what indoctrination looks like.

  • @sanjoserock1
    @sanjoserock1 Год назад

    Wrong is wrong no matter who says it’s right!

    • @jakeharvey6692
      @jakeharvey6692 Год назад +2

      What are you talking about?

    • @user-mx8wt2nz6b
      @user-mx8wt2nz6b Год назад +1

      Right is right no matter who says it's wrong...

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад +3

      If I'm not mistaken, slavery wasn't considered a bad thing.... so wrong is right depending on who decides it's right? Don't know, you tell me?

    • @user-mx8wt2nz6b
      @user-mx8wt2nz6b Год назад +1

      @@wernerrossouw8479 Some people just enjoy dictating other people how to live...

  • @1hayes1
    @1hayes1 Год назад +1

    The love that dare not speak its name won't shut the f up.

  • @rupertfergusson
    @rupertfergusson Год назад +2

    Boooooooo

    • @brianmatthews1736
      @brianmatthews1736 Год назад +1

      This shows just what a miserable, hate filled person you are. One of the people who thinks God will welcome them into heaven with open arms, and then gets told by him for your hatred "I never knew you", and sends you to the fire. Enjoy your hate, and misery. So sad.

    • @Maletearsasoil
      @Maletearsasoil Год назад

      Filled with sht, can't learn

    • @Mcfreddo
      @Mcfreddo Год назад +1

      You've got 8 'o's in that one. I guess there's no more in the letter pot?

  • @kissed_by_sunshine_10
    @kissed_by_sunshine_10 Год назад +1

    Lost me at the acceptance in the schools.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 Год назад +2

      And yet I did this talk at my school in Taiwan and the entire event was organized by the students, also teach a subject on social awareness, my students love it😊
      Thanks for watching❤

  • @ericknea
    @ericknea 10 месяцев назад +3

    thank you