Father Knows: Jealousy || Father Knows Something Podcast
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- Опубликовано: 10 июл 2024
- Welcome back to Father Knows Something! Real People. Real Stories. Real Dad advice with a dash of ADHD, and maybe a couple of millennials chiming in from time to time to add their takes.
This week's episode has dad and sidekick daughter responding to stories that involve jealousy. Is jealousy always bad? I mean sometimes it's unhinged as we see in one of the stories... Tell us your thoughts and what advise you'd give these listeners.
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Index:
00:00 -- Start
3:42 -- Pick me Friend
15:12 -- Joe
25:08 -- The Epitome of Enmeshment
36:27 -- Toxic mom
3:36 : 1st story
15:10 : 2nd story
25:08 : 3rd story
36:28 : 4th story
For the story about the guy friend who got a girlfriend - my ex blocked me and I am forever thankful that happened. Got me to stop looking. Never looked back. Out of sight out of mind and my life feels better. So do yourself a favor and just block them
I agree!
True true.
@@jessa9872 for real!! It’s like a control thing in the back of everyone’s mind trying to keep tabs on people. Like what are you keeping tabs for? I don’t have my ex blocked bc as long as I’m blocked I’m good and dandy. And they can lurk all they want. But the second I’m reached out to/unblocked by them then I’ll block lol. It’s like I’m testing my own control and it’s going very well so far
22:57 I agree with Jerry. 100% I feel as if Morgan wasn’t over the whole situation WHICH ISNT A BAD THING. But the way she spoke made it sound like she still did care which anyone would tbh. We’ve all been there ❤️
Friendship submissions: some friends aren't meant to last a life time. Some are in our lives for a short period of time. If a friendship isn't caring, supportive, and they want the best for you, then it isn't a healthy and sustainable relationship.
It is hard when you think a friend is always going to be there. It will take time. Grieve the friendship lost. Keep yourself busy with your interests. Block them on social media. If someone isn't going to take the time to be a good friend, then don't waste your time or energy on them. It is a sad, but true part of life that many people don't talk about.
Good luck.
"Get to the part where it doesn't matter.." - Jerry
Keeping this!
I understand exactly what Morgan is saying. You can be healed/moved on from a situation, but you can still grieve for your old self and what you gone through / be upset at the principle of the situation.
First story writer: Drop that girl! She’s not your friend or better yet she’s a terrible friend. You don’t need to allow toxic people in your life. Just break all communication with her pronto and enjoy a much happier life
With friends like these you dont need no enemies
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13:34 iconic. ty for sharing
Omg, are we not gonna comment on the 5 second clip of Jerry in a visor looking at the camera ? 🤣
Haha it’s a bag of Brussels on his head 😂
@@TwoHotTakesthat makes it even better 😂
LMAO i saw it too😂😂
Restraining order: bringing ample evidence is the key to getting one. Even if you’ve tried before, if you have more evidence than previously, then I would try again. This at least provides a court precedence even if you lose again. Eventually, something will happen and this past recorded behavior can help press charges.
Our court system fails victims at every turn. I’m so sorry this is happening to you.
Good morning & night everyone🌙 ☀️
Just woke up from a 4-12 nap, I feel very seen 💛
Hi Mr. Jerry! I just want to thank you a lot for giving advice to us young ones that have no one to talk to.
I listen to your podcast when I work, clean, or just walk in the park.
You helped me gain emotional confidence to stand up for myself more, calm myself down and "keep it elegant" as you say, and you were keeping me company in my loneliest times.
I wish great health to you and your family, best regards from a 27-year-old from Serbia.
Can you drop a new episode everyday? U r my emotional support channel 😂❤️❤️
4 years ago, I ditched my whole "friend group". Or more specifically 3 of my closest friends and the rest of the people I actually didn't know that well or do that much with. They were just there.
I ghosted them after I found out they wrote mean stuff about me in a group chat. Especially my closest friend. She initiated all of this conversation.
I blocked everyone, deleted most of them and went no contact. At some point, I felt like I healed enough, so I unblocked my former friends because I just didn't care about them anymore.
She started sending me a few Happy Birthday and 'I want you back' messages. I read them and just let them be. Never wrote back because she's not worth the effort for me. I sometimes thought about what I'd say to her if I'd meet her again.
Last year at school meeting our teachers from our highschool time planned for us to all come back together, she was there as well. I ignored her and did my thing most of the time.
At some point, she came over to me and started talking. And you know what? I talked to her, didn't really confront her, just told her that I didn't like what they did and then ghosted her and my other friends. We had an ok conversation.
For me it was neutral, not weird at all. She told me a couple of times that she would love to reestablish our friendship. I never said anything to that because I for sure won't do that.
When she was my friend, I liked her a lot and looked up to her because I always felt like she had everything I don't have. I don't understand how someone can suddenly turn into someone so different and hurt the ones closest to them.
I will never understand her motives and I don't want to because this time is over for me. I'm living a completely different life now. The years after I left this group were very good years for me. I thrived. I have a partner now. :)
Just wanted to tell everyone:
real closure makes you completely unbothered by what happened. Of course you can miss the good times you had but it doesn't di anything negative with you. If a situation is awkward, there are still unsolved emotions within you. And that's also fine. We don't need to get a full closure of something. We just need to be happy! ❤
Jealousy is a normal human emotion. It happens even to the best of us. It's important to examine the feeling and determine why you are feeling that way. Only once you do that you can work to address the real issue. It's a common topic in non-monogamy circles.
I needed to hear this. thank you.
it makes me sad that it’s so common for friendships to suffer when people get in relationships. i understand that the writer messed up, but if there was forgiveness that was agreed upon, then that should’ve been put in the past. also, what is it with people sh!tting on things you enjoy? my ex did that and it got to the point where it made me uncomfortable to listen to some of my favorite artists! it’s so gross. i also lost a friend like this and it hurts so much, but you will find new friends and make so many new connections with people who will be better for you. 💕
we are really living the same life
When Morgan was talking about how awkward it would be to see an ex friend... It's anxiety! It doesn't mean you're not healed from it.
I have severe anxiety, so I know what you mean! Our brain tends to overthink the situation ❤
The Toxic mom issue~ There comes a time in life when titles mean nothing and loyalty is about whats best for yOu. ✌🏽💞
Jerry said it right - jealousy stems from lack of gratitude for their own life…
Yea im poor and adopted but I had a middle class friend that was jealous of me
The 4 th story about the narcissistic mom. I have a sister that is just like this and doing the whole inviting her and if she doesn't show up you can walk away? Narcs that use the word "Ostracize" will never take blame for anything. There is no telling them its their own fault cause nothing is their fault. I guarantee she will twist it into,She didn't show up because of how "uncomfortable" you girls made her feel or you ganged up on her or she has too many friends who love her to be around negative energy!!
It's heartbreaking cause it's family, i love my sister but she is so sick and even words she said 30sec ago she will twist into something completely different. The number 1 rule of a true narc is to never accept blame. I hope this friends out ok for you girl's but sometimes letting go is the best for you and your mental health. 🧡
This is for the toxic mom submission- my mom died when I was 3 and when my step mom first came into my life she was wonderful until her and my dad's marriage fell apart and they separated before the divorce. She not only disappeared on me, but also on my 3 younger siblings that were hers biologically. Don't let her force herself into your life. If it is easier and less stress to only have contact with your sister then do that. No need to continue trying with your mom if she isn't putting in any real effort either. It'll be hard and weird at first but eventually it'll be good and normal like it's always been that way and the bliss from it will ring loud and shine bright in your life.
I'm sad as my cat was put down today His name was Snufkin when he got in a scuffle he gained a lump on his head I called him affectionally called him Snuffles.
I also nicknamed him Fluffules as he was a black fluffy cat during the winter and Sir as he reminded me of a teacher he was a man not a boy. Sorry I needed to get of my chest to a kind lovely caring group it seems 🐱🐾😢
I can't imagine the grief I would feel if I lost my kitty. So my heart goes out to you 💞 wishing you healing and peace
13:34 Thank you for this insert 😂❤
HEAVY on the jealousy in the DNA! It runs deep for many.. pops dropping gems less than 10 mins. in 👏🏽
Toxic mom…. I would say my sister wrote this to you because it’s almost word for word my life except we all live in the US and in the same town. We have never moved away. My mom tells us opposite stories. I am the baby and my dad took care of me till he passed away when I was 17. Now I’m 34 and my mom has end stage liver disease plus a lot of other issues and it goes down hill every week so it’s really really hard to overlook the toxic crap she gives out to us. Me and my sister have an amazing relationship which is so important and it keeps both of us mentally stable! I promise my mom does not care if we are mentally stable. Since I am the baby, she has always been easier with me. I can do no wrong. If I cuss her out, she will settle down for a while and start up again. My mom won’t talk bad about me behind my back but it’s not the same for my sister. My mom is just the most difficult human I have ever met and I would not stop talking to her or cut contact but my sister has. And it’s perfectly ok with me because my sisters mental stability is the most important thing. If I start to have too much stress because of my mom, I cut back on talking to her. Which right now I know she won’t have that much time left so I really would have to be pushed, by her, to stop talking to her. She is my mom and that makes it so much harder!
Omg I was about to go to sleep I’m so glad you posted cause your podcast help me wind down at the end of the day!!
Hey gang! Get well soon Jerry! Love the sweater Morgan!
First story: it’s hard to know someone isn’t right for you. Not every relationship needs a sit down talk to end it.
Fizzle this out, let her know that you want only family there for your graduation. And don’t follow up with her. Let your life unfold! It can get fast after graduation.
If it's still awkward you aren't healed from it
I personally think a little bit of jealousy is good, romantic/platonic whatever it is, I think it makes us human,
I think it can be fine as long as you don’t blame the other person for the jealousy you’re experiencing, and instead use it as a self reflection tool to see what kinds of things you’re feeling jealous of for self work etc
Yay!! Goodnight guys ❤ Thanks for this! I’m happy I get to wind down after a crazy Monday with you! 😊
The one with the stalking grandma, get a lawyer and/or move as far away as possible. She does not love anyone involved. She is dangerous. If she said even half of one of the things claimed, that's disgusting. That is abnormal in the worst way, and that child is not safe. It is not strangers that are the biggest threat to our children. It's the people we know.
Love when Morgan's dad or Uncle are on!
I can really relate to the Toxic mom story at the end, I’ve contemplated sending something in very similarly. I unfortunately did make the choice to distance myself from my mother and go no contact after she blew up again over something that’s been ongoing for years. I decided I just can’t deal with that chaos anymore. My sisters and I are trying our best to stick together, but my little sister who lives with her currently doesn’t speak to us bc she is still heavily influenced by her. It’s sad but we know we’ll be here for her when the moment is needed. There is a very clear pattern on toxicity.
My dads mom was completely unhinged when I was growing up. She’d call and leave threatening voicemails on our house phone, call with privacy block at all hours if the night, basically because my dad didn’t want to continue to a relationship with her anymore once her actions started to be directed towards me. We tried to get a restraining order and it was denied mostly because he just thought my dad was being too harsh. However we just completely would block her phone number if she called private we’d just hang out eventually she just kind of stopped and would do it less and less or when something “big in the family” was going on. I always just knew something was off with her and just disliked her for all the unhinged shit she put all of us through. However as an adult going into the nursing field and working in this healthcare field for so long once she died I found out a lot more about her mental health and she had been a diagnosed skitzophrenic for YEARS and no one actually got her the proper care she really needed which is so unfortunate and I give her more grace now as an adult but I feel like my dad protecting me from her saved me from even more trauma than she had already caused. So she definitely needs a lawyer because when we did it we didn’t have one because my dad figured all the evidence we had would just be enough but a lawyer helps make it become a little more “serious” in the eyes of the court
The thing with Jerry's voice was fitting in this episode for me, because I am Ukrainian and we have this phrase "Frog is choking them" if somebody is jealous 😅
Yay an episode to fall asleep to !! Goodnight fam 💤
Jerry, I hope you feel better 🫶🏽
3:42 Pick me Friend
15:12 Joe
25:08 The Epitome of Enmeshment
36:27 Toxic mom
I love that the show has chapters for every story
Thank you
Thanks for another great episode Jerry & Morgan ! Rooting for you to reach 100k 🎉
Frankie,, Thank you for the love!! Dad
OMG YAY!!! night night love u guys so much ❤️
Goodnight!!! Listening as my wind down for the day ❤❤
A friendship episode would be so great! Love the videos every week :)
Omg idk if I just missed it cause I always listen not really watch but the new intro??? So nice!!!
Jerry's voice sounds super handsome like that, ngl
The intro is amazing 😂
I’m getting my colonoscopy this Thursday! Im 18 and I’ve been having issues. ✨Jewish girl stomach problems✨Thank you Morgan for helping me normalize it in my own mind and I’m not afraid of it but I am for my prep tomorrow I’m gonna be pooping my brains out lol! Im gonna be high on Thursday from the meds and I’m gonna be watching two hot takes!
Good luck!!
I hope your procedure went well
@@jerrysiegel3354 it did! Thank u!
No because sick Jerry sounds like he should be a talk radio personality 😅
Just saying, ghosting can be the most harmful way to end a friendship. I get that the first story was for toxic reasons, but people are not experts on themselves. Sometimes, behavior continues because it is not addressed. And being ghosted by a friend impacts your trust in people forever.
For the MIL story, was there any documentation of the mother doing nothing while her son was abused? That could be helpful grounds for a lawyer to prove that she is clearly NOT a safe person and shouldn't be granted access to her grandchildren.
Sultry Jerry!? We love to see it JERRY YOURE A SILVER FOX LOVE YA!!!
Big xox
I’m going to have to disagree with you guys on the first one. (edit to say I love Jerry and Morgan so no disrespect intended) If it was me, I would face it head on. I’m assuming you don’t want her there with him and his family for a reason, and I don’t blame you for that. You never know what she could say to them, especially if she’s trying to sabotage the relationship out of jealousy. I would not want a “friend” around my boyfriend and his family that has made it evident that she wishes she was in my spot in his life. A person like that is not a friend. My attraction for someone goes out the window as soon as my friend is in a relationship with that person. It makes it moot, as it should with any GOOD and loyal friend. It’s clear that her loyalty is not to you. You don’t owe her the kindness of letting her show up to YOUR graduation, because I PROMISE it’s not out of the kindness of her heart, but for your boyfriend. I would send her a message and let her know how you feel, and she’ll either come forward with the reason she’s been making you feel that way and you guys can salvage the relationship if she makes a change or she’ll deflect and act like a victim, and in that case there’s no reason to keep her around you. Either way, it’s addressed and you won’t feel uncomfortable and overthink about what she could be saying at your own graduation.
Papa Jerry!!😢Sounds like you have a summer cold (I have one right now and it sucks). Your voice reminds me of when my husband gets sick and his voice gets deeper; he sounds like Sam Elliot, and I tease him by telling him to tell me about the Ford F150.😅
I hope you feel better soon.
Jerry next time your voice/throat is sore try hot tea with a honey flavored cough drop- the hot tea will melt the cough drop- it’s my favorite thing when I’m sick! it’s a game changer ❤
Kenzie, I was doing all the above, Thank you for caring…xo. Dad
Get well soon Jerry
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13:34 🤣
@48:10 Analenix? Annie Lennox? 😂
who is this deeply voiced man and where’s jerry?!
Jerry and morgan!!
If it's still awkward I don't think you're over it??
But very much agree, if there is anyone you follow, even if you like some of their content but they 💩 on other things that bring you joy, it's best to just unfollow.
Hi guys! Love the show❤
I’ve been debating on asking for advice on a pretty serious situation, how do I write in?
In the description!
Can you please do a mental health focused episode? 😊
What happened to the timestamps? I swore they were posted yesterday....
For so long, I didn’t subscribe to RUclips channels I guess I thought I’d get too many notifications but I honestly don’t ever get notifications on any channels (maybe I didn’t choose the setting for notifications) but just wanted to let anyone not subscribing for the same reason know that’s not at all a reason to not subscribe.
I think Jerry sounds smooth and sexaaay
Goofball comment ❤
Another great episode. I got to listen to this while enjoying my awesome dinner! So happy I get to enjoy the content ❤ love ya father knows something crew ! 🫶
Just subscribed! Good luck getting to 100k 🫶