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@@Psych2go Most people that don´t know about their "ego" are like that. You are the only person that can make you happy for your whole life. Those people need others to stabilize their empty hull from the outside. People that suffice themselves are adult people. That doesn´t mean, you can´t have relationships, what I say is, that nobody should make others responsible for their own luck. That would be victim roles mentality. And this is what most people have to solve, their own engagement is needed.
1. Being too needy 2. Being too lazy 3. You have a different sex drive 4. Watching too much TV 5. Poor personal hygiene 6. Being too athletic or not at all 7. You lack self confidence
I'm definitely lazy in some ways and an asexual. I don't watch as much TV as I used to, but I do spend a lot of time online. I'm not athletic at all or very confident in myself. So yeah, I would absolutely turn quite a few people off without intending to. I'm not proud of my laziness, long periods of time spent in front of screens, lack of athleticism, or lack of confidence, yet I'm hesitant to change.
This is the kind of video people watch and then feel bad about themselves for having some of these traits. But if you look at it, for each of the boxes there was not only the amount of people who consider that trait a dealbreaker, but also a huge amount of people who don't care about it and will love you anyways. You don't have to be perfect to deserve love. You can have inseurities, weaknesses, flaws and even some bad, toxic traits sprinkled into the mix. Pretty much everyone does. And yet you're worthy of love and friendship. You just need the right person, who will see those darker sides alongside with your lighter ones (your good traits), and embrace them all, because you two fit together like puzzle pieces
I’m glad I came across this comment, this video came off misleading and kinda toxic. Makes me wonder how many people compared themselves or their partner to this and are considering it as a dealbreaker :(
The biggest deal-breaker for me is complaining. Not necessarily to a toxic and narcissistic extent, but still, those people who just are angry at everything, angry at politics, angry at this and that, and it might even be for legit reasons, but at the end of the day 80% of your time together was spent either venting or complaining. Super damn draining on the long run, learned that the hard way. You like it for the debate at the beginning, and then realize you just can't catch a break.
@@gabri_cheesellamasneeze9006 yeah apparently I'm crap at explaining myself, but I mean negative people, not so much in a leechy/toxic way, but those who are focused on the empty half of their glass most of the time, in a zero chill kind of way. Am I making any sense?
Yeah, I find myself to be a calm person myself. I usually can't stand people who get upset over things easily. I always am level headed, even when dealing my stress. I am generally not a fan of unneeded negativity.
We lie to ourselves more then anything. We see the signs. We recognize the red flags. We just choose to ignore all of that. Because we don't love ourselves enough to let go. We think that we don't deserve better, and/or we will not find better due to feeling inadequate.
@@swatisaini6447 Well you need to change that. You will never receive the blessing that God have for you. If you don't choose to have a positive outlook in life. Stay blessed and encouraged in God. Know that you are beautiful, and know that you are loved and accepted by God. No matter what you have been through, or what people have said/say about you. You are loved and valuable.
"Everyone falls down. But whoever stays down is a loser. Winners will fall and get back up." Arnold Schwarzenegger, a man who has encountered a surprising amount of failure in his life.
"playing too much video games" issue can be solved easily if you're both gamers like me and my boyfriend lmao edit: pog! thanks guys I didn't expect so many people agreeing with me
I think the video is obviously saying “too much” to the extend that your work and other aspects of life is neglected. As long as you both can be independent and able to sort your lives out, playing together is definitely fun. Or else your comment doesn’t really apply.
The major deal breakers in my last relationship were: » I started to see a pattern of violence in "if situations". » He was rude to other people. I am very sensitive to words. I think it would be a matter of time to have the same behaviour with me. » Racism, Xenophobia, Anti-feminism and supporting some politic measures I don't agree. » Different lifestyles. He prefered to be at home. He worked during the night and I worked during the day. » He would give more trust and importance to words than actions and body language. I need some time to say "I love you" and he really needed to hear and read it.
I ended a 2 year relationship recently. I was very sexual he was not! I was very affectionate, he was not, I liked cuddling, he did not... he loved baseball cards, I did not.. but I tried to be supportive. I even spend thousands on his hobby just because it made him happy. He loved horror movies, I did not.. that’s all we watched was horror movies, he hated romcoms and documentaries.. which were my favorite. The relationship was one sided. It was all about him. I finally realized I was never going to be accepted by him and he was never going to be the man that I preferred. He also told me he didn’t believe in marriage! I do.. big time. My cup was always empty. So we went our separate ways. It still hurts. I loved him. But I gotta love myself more and damn it, I deserved a much better man! 🤗 thanks for reading this!!
@@tommythomasson1 Exactly. Idk its really concerning seeing something like “not athletic enough” being a dealbreaker yet people are willing to put up with lying and cheating
3 'Possible' explanations to this 'Time Traveling' going on. 1. Video might had been a members only video and now it isn't. 2. They changed their device's date. 3. Video was uploaded earlier but privated and now put public again. Those are the three explanations that I can come up with that sort of make sense. I have no actual idea how they did it..
I definitely agree with most of these but the biggest one for me personally is a big lack of communication. My ex barely communicated with me and I started to move on before we actually broke up.
I agree with all these deal breakers, but I have 2 more. If a person ever cheated, thats an immediate deal breaker, once a cheater, always a cheater, and also, I have trust issues so thats even worse. Loyalty is another important trait, goes with the cheating one
I stayed with an ex after he cheated (with his ex e.e). But we were long distance so I chalked it up to problems with that. After we broke up maybe a year after he got married, but then tried to contact me and wanted to come by and do stuff with me x.x so yep that's pretty true!
@Ahoora_AP3X I think this dealbreaker is misleading...once you find somebody who you feel you can trust, you might be self confident with that person. You don't need to be self confident all the time or with all other people to have a healthy relationship. Talking from experience... Good luck!
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For me, the biggest deal breaker is abusive behavior, i.e. anything that sets off my internal "creep alarm": emotionally manipulative language, clear signs that someone lacks respect for other people and/or me, and a general lack of ability to control themselves, especially when faced with frustrations or when things don't go their way. All of these show a lack of emotional stability and make someone INSTANTLY unattractive to me.
Deal-breakers in relationships are the things that will cause you to call it quits - no matter how long you've been together. Some common deal-breakers include a partner's stance on having children, a lack of responsibility with money, or a lack of ambition.No
I might be the only one but most of these deal breakers don't mean anything to me as long as they're willing to get better. We all have some things we are not proud of but this doesn't mean we don't deserve to be loved.
You're not the only one. Nobody's perfect. If anything, this video might be a motivation to help ourselves or our partners change the things that bother us, not to deal-break.
You can't change other people, though. They have to want to change for their own reasons. Some people enter a relationship hoping to "fix" someone and it is always a disaster.
Raging deal-breaker: Raging blaming verbal attacks, especially with no self-reflection on why they are so triggered, so they can work on the root causes, so there's no True apology.
@@robm8067 I have edited my comment above to indicate that it listed my deal-breaker. This was written in response to the video moderator's request to comment on our deal-breakers. Hence, since I assume you know the meaning of deal-breaker, you can be assured I left this relationship. And, I doubt I would become a laptop dog for him, as I have never known a dog who hasn't slumped off from such a rageful yelling voice. And, I sense his "diagnosis" is neither of yours...knowing him for circa 4 months when his eruption occurred, I would say he has narcissistic tendencies since he was raised in an alcoholic family system...almost everyone on both sides, is a recovering alcoholic through treatment, is a dry-drunk, since he is disdainful of AA, stopped using marijuana, and, I suspect he is a sex addict. Since he never went to AA, he has to no recovery support system [other than his family praying for him ((x_x))]. To truly recover, one needs more than 30 days. Working AA steps guides one into knowing they are not God.
@beyone queen what if someone has something like depression or anxiety?Most of these issues have an underlying problem. Relationships are too complex to be judged this simply. Everyone has their own "deal-breakers".
If anything, if you find yourself having one of those dealbreakers mentioned, then this video is just telling you it's time to do something. Ask yourself if you want a partner who exhibits those dealbreaking signs, if you're ok with it then good for you :)
@beyone queen That was rude and unnecessary, you have no idea how much depressed people need someone in their life to keep them going, even if they neglect personal hygiene more or less. Besides, who are you to judge?
@@lyavain2764 I interpreted these deal-breakers as reasons not to start a relationship with someone. If someone I"m already involved with becomes depressed or anxious, I would still want to stick around and maybe help if I could. I think most people would unless the partner allowed the illness to negatively impact them (like withdrawing completely or screaming at them, for example). If it is someone new, though, bad hygiene or being too afraid to talk to me would make it impossible to form an attraction. Besides, if you try to seek a relationship when you are at a low point with depression or anxiety you become more vulnerable to people who might manipulate you in some way.
Hi psych2go I am a big fan. I was wondering if you could do a video on social anxiety and how to cope with it. I am a 12 year old girl and have social anxiety and I hate it. it would be very useful. Love your channel
People should stop making professional diagnosis of other people if they're not experts 😂😂 Just stop with this hunt of the "narcissist guy" or other disorders, let them to the professional workers :)
Hey there, I’m sorry I’m late. I am Andrew Allan, the animator of this video. This was actually my 3rd or 4th animation I had ever done and your words mean so much to me, thank you ❤️
@@Cap0verkil No need to say sorry. You must be busy. I am happy that my words made you happy. I wish you best of luck for future animations. Keep creating such awesome art styles. I encourage you to stay innovative.
Going down the list. 1. Not as bad as described. 2. I may not work hard, but I will always ask if there's anything I can do to help, and will always note anything I think someone I know will like. 3. Got worried, but then saw it's about different sex drive rather than lack. I probably need a partner who's also somewhat of an Ace. 4. Kind of tricky. I don't get out much, so I do tend to stream videos and play video games a fair bit. I also walk, read, and spend time caring for animals, among other things. 5. I have a shower every evening, and I rarely, if ever, wear the same day clothes two days in a row. However, I don't put much effort into my appearance. I tidy up to go outside, to go somewhere, or if someone is coming by, but I don't really try to dress up or anything. 6. I walk every day and help care for a wide variety of animals. That definitely helps with maintaining fitness. 7. I lack confidence in some areas, but I am friendly and will talk your ear off, if you let me. I like to chat, but hate small talk. Turn offs... I haven't had so much as a first date in my life, but I'm pretty sure I'd be turned off by overly strong politics or religion, people who don't like animals, boring conversation, an inability to enjoy quiet, and an insistence of "my way is the only right way" (no issue if you're vegan, religious or anything, but don't expect everyone to be the same). May as well mention that I find strong, intelligent women with wounded souls very attractive. And if they're nerdy, even more so.
Your sex drive is not a constant. There are times mine is higher than my husband, and many times his was higher than mine. The point is- this is the least important. Because a relationship that is founded on mutual respect, and deep love- we meet in the middle. Sometimes one of us gets less sex than we want, and the other more has more intimate acts than we want. A real relationship cares about getting their partners needs met, as well as their own.
Pretty much all of these could be solved with effort and communication. However, if you do communicate the problem, and there is no effort being done about the problem, then it may become a deal breaker.
Communicate with your partner, work together and try to make things suck less. Marriage is a big deal man, I can only wish to one day have that sort of life.
Over-athletic... Interesting point actually, and have to admit while I like sporty girls, I dislike those who can't talk about anything else than athletics and doing sport, etc. I mean I know a few whos life is dedicated all around things like Zumba, weight-lifting, bicycle, how many kms they did, how many weights they have lifted, etc... I mean this is an obsession in my eyes. Yes, they look fit and hot, but this sort of lifestyle for me is not only annoying but boring too. I really tried this sort of lifestyle as I wanted to look hot myself, and sometimes I still wish, but something tells me, this is not something for me. Yes, it's visually pleasing a lot, and I am stunned by their looks, but dating someone and having to listen to what new vegan thing they tried and how much workout they do and I can't even share a deep thought and have long conversations about any topic? No, thanks...
Big deal-breakers for me 1. Not putting me first when it's due (I do realize most things are more important, but I would appreciate occasionally being put first. If I'm always second to you and your wants, dealbreaker.) 2. Lying 3. Lack of meaningful, deep, and stimulating conversation
wow if he's not giving you as emotionally invested responses or not responding in stimulating conversations as you give him, then it's already over. been there. you can be second to his family or job but he shouldn't put his hobby over you, like gaming. also he should be present when he's with you , not in lala land.
Hey, it doesn't matter! You are amazing just the way you are! And so does everybody! You can find someone that likes you, not everybody likes the same qualities in a person!
Deal breaker for me is an individual who hasn't done the heart work on himself so that he can be prepared for healthy relationship. And poor communication skills, along with a desire to not just be self-aware of your shortcomings, but actually put some effort into doing something about them.
2, 4 and 5 were what broke the deal for me last time although 3 is huge (it depends on wether a partner can respect the difference or not without being hurt by it)
When you're wearing wearing rose colored glasses, red flags just look like flags. 1. Too needy 2. Lazy af 3. Similar sex drive/libido 4. Too much screen time (TV/video games) 5. Poor personal hygiene (yuck) 6. Being too athletic (no roid rage plz) 7. Low self-confidence (sad-boi sad-gurl aesthetic is cute until it isn't) What numbers are your deal breakers? 💗 Dr. Liz
The last point is the issue. How can a man with anxiety become confident around women? Negative experiences creates pressure and makes it even harder to be yourself. The anxiety is unfortunatly a part of me and admitting that certainly doesn't help being attractive and interesting.
They’ll never address the fact depressed/insecure/anxious men are screwed and hardly any women will give them a chance. They virtue signal and say otherwise but you hardly ever see it because its really that rare.
I have low confidence so I’m always wondering if my boyfriend actually likes me, but I make sure it doesn’t affect our relationship because I know he does love me and we’re happy together.
@beyone queen to be fair what has boosts my confidence is when people assure me that they dont hate me. When I had low self confidence to where I barely talked at all, my friends helped boost me up to be more extroverted and able to let myself stand out :P
Hey, you are wonderful just the way you are! :-) I hope you'll find someone that matches your personality and you both enjoy each others company! (as long as this is what you wish, to find someone)
Also, I think society is obsessed with perfectionism! I truly believe people are amazing just the way they are! :-) I also have many problems but I 'm like meh.. let's just keep improving and see what happens!
HarmonE, please dont be so hard on yourself . In imperfection, there is perfection. Have you thought about a therapy animal? Or maybe tutoring a child? Or becoming a great cook? I am in a huge pit myself. I keep it together by reading, going for a walk, or just hanging out with my cat. I wish you the very best!
My dad never did any housework and he left all of it to my mum. He wouldn’t let my mum drive her car if they were both there. I grew up like that and I thought it was normal. (My father also turned out to be abusive). After my parents split up I went to my dads house abit He had really bad hygiene. Now I don’t know what my mum saw in him
maby she had co-dependency dissorder. That is she did not " see something in him", but rather where obsessed by the ide of trying to fix him ( if he where narcissistic and abuseiv). My mother started out like this, but she became addicted to alcohol and later also became a narcissist herself
Hi Psych2Go!! Your deal breakers seem pretty accurate all around!! Not just in the dating world but the friends world too. Well, except the sex drive one, in the friend world. Love all the statistics!! Gotta share!!
yup yup. big ones for me, as well as the ones in the video, are wanting kids (i never want any), financially irresponsible and can't / won't save money, cheating, lying, breaking promises, twisting my words to make me out to be the bad guy, never listening to me, poor communication, no ambition, can't take care of themselves (in general, not just bad hygiene), not dependable / reliable, won't take on responsibilities
Hi thank you so much 🥰 I am the animator of this video, Andrew Allan. This was actually my 3rd or 4th animation I had ever done so your words ,ean so much to me. Thank you!
Being "too athletic" means that the other person is insecure about their own fitness. That's their problem. Don't dim your light to please someone else.
About athleticism - if you dont got the body or cant get it: Get good at something. Go play music, go be great at something creative or whatever. It can make up for lack of muscles.
My deal breaker: being too similar or too unlike It's great to have someone to talk to about what you like and if you can't have someone with same qualities or interests as you it's hard to understand each other And even if you do have someone like that but doesn't have anything different to say it gets kinda boring, nothing new to discover
Exactly. The last one is a red flag for someone dealing with unhealed trauma or depression. It shouldn't be considered as deal breaker in my opinion, if you love your partner you help them get better, you don't judge them and leave them just because they have lack of self esteem.
I think if the healthy partner wants to help them through it, the person with a mood disorder has a responsibility to seek treatment because it will negatively impact the relationship otherwise.
About sex drive... It is very common to not have the same wants at the same time, way more than people like to say. People have a sex drive that works on reaction rather than spontaneously. Be mindful of that, don't be ashamed, don't feel bad about yourself and your relationship. You are okay and valid, and your relationship can still work through this.
A couple of dealbreakers for me is: *Smokers. i CANNOT date a smoker. Weed is fine, but cigarettes is definitely a NO-GO! *No Effort into Themselves: I don't date women who put zero effort into themselves [self-love, overall taking care of themselves]. If you aren't loving yourself, then there's no way you can love anyone else, including someone you're dating.
I think 1 and 7 come from similar places, I lack self confidence and it leads to me being needy (not the the extent shown in the video) but rather to the point where it pushes people away.
kinda felt like a large weight lifted off my shoulder when i realized that the “time travelers” on this channel, are just able to access the videos before they post bc they joined the channel. 😅
I’m currently in a relationship and I’m the needy partner and I lack self confidence unfortunately. I have abandonment issues due to not having a father and my so called friends using me and leaving. I’m working on it though.
Hey, you are discouraging insecure people! That's not nice! Also, being insecure does not mean that you do not love yourself or others, it just means you feel guilty or worry often! No one is perfect!
From least to most important that I can confirm are: 6 - just have some exercises from time to time. 2 and 5 are pretty much on the same level of importance - take a shower every 2-4 days and you will be ok, and never be late when you meet up. Most important is 7, lack of self confidence is just death, maybe not today, not tomorrow, but relatively soon, it's very visible by your other half.
When I dated my first boyfriend I was rly needy and it rly did push him away when rly I was just insecure about him leaving me. And that ended up being the reason he did. I've learnt my lesson now and I honestly will be more respectful and trusting of my next lover if I ever have one 😂
My top deal breaker is someone who doesn't care about their health. Substance abusers,morbidly obese, mental health also. Ive gotten rid of people that have these problems because they refuse help. I cant do it for them nor will I put myself thru that hell.
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@@jeanettekimberly5736 Hi! :)
5 Rules In A Relationship:
1. Don’t Lie
2. Don’t cheat
3. Don’t make promises you can’t keep
4. Be humble
5. COMMUNICATE!!
4. Be humble
5. COMMUNICATE!!
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This is a much better guide to relationships.
Is it just me or do I see rainbow squares in this comment?
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Top deal breaker: If someone wants drama.
Plot twist: my bf and I love a good juicy drama/gossip, as long as it doesn’t involve us 🤪
Drama usually comes from being unsatisfied when all of the dealbreakers mentioned are realised.
Thanks for sharing! Have you personally met someone like that?
@@Psych2go Most people that don´t know about their "ego" are like that. You are the only person that can make you happy for your whole life. Those people need others to stabilize their empty hull from the outside. People that suffice themselves are adult people. That doesn´t mean, you can´t have relationships, what I say is, that nobody should make others responsible for their own luck. That would be victim roles mentality. And this is what most people have to solve, their own engagement is needed.
1. Being too needy
2. Being too lazy
3. You have a different sex drive
4. Watching too much TV
5. Poor personal hygiene
6. Being too athletic or not at all
7. You lack self confidence
Thank you, this comment should get more attention
Me: ugh, #2 drives me nuts with my spouse.
Also me: #7... Yeah that's me to a "T"
I'm definitely lazy in some ways and an asexual. I don't watch as much TV as I used to, but I do spend a lot of time online. I'm not athletic at all or very confident in myself. So yeah, I would absolutely turn quite a few people off without intending to. I'm not proud of my laziness, long periods of time spent in front of screens, lack of athleticism, or lack of confidence, yet I'm hesitant to change.
Fair enough.
well.. that explains why i'm single.. haha. I need therapy.
Being narcissistic or abusive should be a deal-breaker, too.
For some, it sadly isn't.
Also, indifference in the relationship is a deal-breaker ...
This is the kind of video people watch and then feel bad about themselves for having some of these traits. But if you look at it, for each of the boxes there was not only the amount of people who consider that trait a dealbreaker, but also a huge amount of people who don't care about it and will love you anyways. You don't have to be perfect to deserve love. You can have inseurities, weaknesses, flaws and even some bad, toxic traits sprinkled into the mix. Pretty much everyone does. And yet you're worthy of love and friendship. You just need the right person, who will see those darker sides alongside with your lighter ones (your good traits), and embrace them all, because you two fit together like puzzle pieces
Good point to remember. Thanks! I personally don't agree with a dealbreaker or two in this video, myself. Different strokes and all of that.
"Different sex drive" As someone who is a sex-repulsed ace deciding to just stay single is the easiest way to avoid problems
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There isn't a person alive that doesn't have at least one of these issues.
I’m glad I came across this comment, this video came off misleading and kinda toxic. Makes me wonder how many people compared themselves or their partner to this and are considering it as a dealbreaker :(
@@ani1451 exactly
Mate, I couldn’t agree more.
Well, singles don't 😅😅
I have none of those issues, hehehe.
The biggest deal-breaker for me is complaining.
Not necessarily to a toxic and narcissistic extent, but still, those people who just are angry at everything, angry at politics, angry at this and that, and it might even be for legit reasons, but at the end of the day 80% of your time together was spent either venting or complaining.
Super damn draining on the long run, learned that the hard way.
You like it for the debate at the beginning, and then realize you just can't catch a break.
But there's a difference between complaining about a problem and confronting a problem
@@gabri_cheesellamasneeze9006 yeah apparently I'm crap at explaining myself, but I mean negative people, not so much in a leechy/toxic way, but those who are focused on the empty half of their glass most of the time, in a zero chill kind of way.
Am I making any sense?
@@MissAyatan oh yeah I get that. That's so valid. The last thing you need is someone raining on your parade
Yeah, I find myself to be a calm person myself. I usually can't stand people who get upset over things easily. I always am level headed, even when dealing my stress. I am generally not a fan of unneeded negativity.
Very true.
this persons voice is so relaxing, definitely do should audiobooks!
I LOVE audio books!! I might fall asleep too. So, If she doesn’t do audio books, I bet she’d be amazing in the ASMR world! :)
7. You lack self confidence
Oh no-
AYYYYYY. HOW 3 WEEKS AGOOOO
@@kirtu9035 holy shit YOU ARE RIGHT AYYEE WTF
3 WEEKS AGO WTF LOL
@@kirtu9035 you have to join the channel to access early content
@@enderceris0448 oooohhhhh ok so they actually DID comment this 3 weeks ago
“It’s easier to believe a lie than to believe that you’ve been lied to.” 😭
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I constantly think negatively its not hard for me :D
I am so cynical that i'll believe I have been lied to even think if the person told the truth
We lie to ourselves more then anything. We see the signs. We recognize the red flags. We just choose to ignore all of that. Because we don't love ourselves enough to let go. We think that we don't deserve better, and/or we will not find better due to feeling inadequate.
@@swatisaini6447 Well you need to change that. You will never receive the blessing that God have for you. If you don't choose to have a positive outlook in life. Stay blessed and encouraged in God. Know that you are beautiful, and know that you are loved and accepted by God. No matter what you have been through, or what people have said/say about you. You are loved and valuable.
Winners are not afraid of losing. But losers are. Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.
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I'm saving your comment to put in my journal for self improvement. Thank you.
Good :)
True that
I know of a SORE LOSER currently in the news....!!!
"Everyone falls down. But whoever stays down is a loser. Winners will fall and get back up."
Arnold Schwarzenegger, a man who has encountered a surprising amount of failure in his life.
"playing too much video games" issue can be solved easily if you're both gamers like me and my boyfriend lmao
edit: pog! thanks guys I didn't expect so many people agreeing with me
Same
@@VampiraVonGhoulscout oof
I think the video is obviously saying “too much” to the extend that your work and other aspects of life is neglected. As long as you both can be independent and able to sort your lives out, playing together is definitely fun. Or else your comment doesn’t really apply.
Same haha
gamers rise up
Winners lose much more often than losers. So if you keep losing but you're still trying, keep it up. You're right on track.
-Shazistic
Winners loose much more than losers...🤗
wait.. what? is that a joke? I didn't get it! Unless you meant failure and difficulties make people wise and stronger, then I agree! :-)
@@eviekrv441 winners try and fail more times than losers. Losers give up when they fail.
@@REX8623 Thanks for explaining me! :-)
The major deal breakers in my last relationship were:
» I started to see a pattern of violence in "if situations".
» He was rude to other people. I am very sensitive to words. I think it would be a matter of time to have the same behaviour with me.
» Racism, Xenophobia, Anti-feminism and supporting some politic measures I don't agree.
» Different lifestyles. He prefered to be at home. He worked during the night and I worked during the day.
» He would give more trust and importance to words than actions and body language. I need some time to say "I love you" and he really needed to hear and read it.
I ended a 2 year relationship recently. I was very sexual he was not! I was very affectionate, he was not, I liked cuddling, he did not... he loved baseball cards, I did not.. but I tried to be supportive. I even spend thousands on his hobby just because it made him happy. He loved horror movies, I did not.. that’s all we watched was horror movies, he hated romcoms and documentaries.. which were my favorite. The relationship was one sided. It was all about him. I finally realized I was never going to be accepted by him and he was never going to be the man that I preferred. He also told me he didn’t believe in marriage! I do.. big time. My cup was always empty. So we went our separate ways. It still hurts. I loved him. But I gotta love myself more and damn it, I deserved a much better man! 🤗 thanks for reading this!!
Has multiple addictions.
Lacks independence.
Not happy being alone. Has always lived with parents, roommates or a significant other.
Lying is the biggest deal breaker. It´s hard to get worse.
Smoking is
@@PILL- O.K. I see your point. It maybe depends on personal experiences and preferences.
Yet cheating isnt even here, thats honestly very telling
@@hookslogan Cheating and lying are often related to each other. If someone is cheating, he or she will often be prone to lying and vice versa.
@@tommythomasson1 Exactly. Idk its really concerning seeing something like “not athletic enough” being a dealbreaker yet people are willing to put up with lying and cheating
*playing minecraft with my girlfriend* *gets notif*
**sweats nervously**
3 'Possible' explanations to this 'Time Traveling' going on.
1. Video might had been a members only video and now it isn't.
2. They changed their device's date.
3. Video was uploaded earlier but privated and now put public again.
Those are the three explanations that I can come up with that sort of make sense. I have no actual idea how they did it..
No. 3 in the correct answer!
The videos are uploaded to the Playlists a few weeks before they are published
I definitely agree with most of these but the biggest one for me personally is a big lack of communication. My ex barely communicated with me and I started to move on before we actually broke up.
Oh good thing I'm single **crying in the inside**
Lmao same
Me too, going on 12 years. Im too used to it at this piont..
Been single for two years. Huge lack of dating potential in New York.
Smoking is a deal breaker. A big one.
I agree
@Barbare4032 when Jesus Christ makes his return or when an asteroid slams into this beautiful planet. At that point, drugs wouldn’t be an issue for me
I agree. Smoking can cause a lot of harm for a person.
I'm single and I don't know why I'm watching this but its good to know everything before you enter a relationship
I agree with all these deal breakers, but I have 2 more. If a person ever cheated, thats an immediate deal breaker, once a cheater, always a cheater, and also, I have trust issues so thats even worse. Loyalty is another important trait, goes with the cheating one
I stayed with an ex after he cheated (with his ex e.e). But we were long distance so I chalked it up to problems with that. After we broke up maybe a year after he got married, but then tried to contact me and wanted to come by and do stuff with me x.x so yep that's pretty true!
@@jessabee8027 I'm sorry you had to go go through that
Someone who play mind games is a top deal breaker for me
7 . lack self-confidence
Okie. Looks like I will never be in a relationship.
You can become more confident
I don't think so my friend.
That's what i tought too a year ago, and niw here i have a girl asking for a second date,change your perspective and you will def find confidence.
Don't worry about that! I also have a very low self confidence, but I'm working on it. However, if someone loves you they will help you. :)
@Ahoora_AP3X I think this dealbreaker is misleading...once you find somebody who you feel you can trust, you might be self confident with that person. You don't need to be self confident all the time or with all other people to have a healthy relationship. Talking from experience... Good luck!
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:) what a great example gonna tell everyone i know who is going through a tough time.
awww thank you! Ur unique too, xx Ay
Not everyone..
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Don't mind me just time traveling
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Hello! Congrats on finding us!
You jus change the date of your device right
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For me, the biggest deal breaker is abusive behavior, i.e. anything that sets off my internal "creep alarm": emotionally manipulative language, clear signs that someone lacks respect for other people and/or me, and a general lack of ability to control themselves, especially when faced with frustrations or when things don't go their way. All of these show a lack of emotional stability and make someone INSTANTLY unattractive to me.
Deal-breakers in relationships are the things that will cause you to call it quits - no matter how long you've been together. Some common deal-breakers include a partner's stance on having children, a lack of responsibility with money, or a lack of ambition.No
I might be the only one but most of these deal breakers don't mean anything to me as long as they're willing to get better. We all have some things we are not proud of but this doesn't mean we don't deserve to be loved.
You're not the only one. Nobody's perfect. If anything, this video might be a motivation to help ourselves or our partners change the things that bother us, not to deal-break.
You can't change other people, though. They have to want to change for their own reasons. Some people enter a relationship hoping to "fix" someone and it is always a disaster.
So true!! Lack of expressing oneself can also be a deal breaker.
Im in trouble 😅
That's a little superficial....
This was the best video you've produced. I agree with everything mentioned in this clip. Well done and keep up the good work.
Absolute dealbreaker: Repeatedly mean comments or violent behaviour..
Hi
I see you're time travelling too
Good job.Keep up the work
Lol
Hi Fellow Time Traveler
Thanks, it took me so long to get here
Goodluck
Good job first time traveller! :)
Raging deal-breaker: Raging blaming verbal attacks, especially with no self-reflection on why they are so triggered, so they can work on the root causes, so there's no True apology.
Those are traits of a narcissist or BPD. Get out or become a lapdog.
@@robm8067 I have edited my comment above to indicate that it listed my deal-breaker. This was written in response to the video moderator's request to comment on our deal-breakers. Hence, since I assume you know the meaning of deal-breaker, you can be assured I left this relationship. And, I doubt I would become a laptop dog for him, as I have never known a dog who hasn't slumped off from such a rageful yelling voice. And, I sense his "diagnosis" is neither of yours...knowing him for circa 4 months when his eruption occurred, I would say he has narcissistic tendencies since he was raised in an alcoholic family system...almost everyone on both sides, is a recovering alcoholic through treatment, is a dry-drunk, since he is disdainful of AA, stopped using marijuana, and, I suspect he is a sex addict. Since he never went to AA, he has to no recovery support system [other than his family praying for him ((x_x))]. To truly recover, one needs more than 30 days. Working AA steps guides one into knowing they are not God.
The fact that you mentioned lack of self confidence hit me like a truck......cuz i got it
well almost everybody has it! (in my opinion) . It is much more common than we think!
TIME TRAVELLER HERE✨
Let’s hope my attempt works this time😔
It worked, same with me
Seriously, how tho?
Hello!!
HOW DID YOU-
Like, I want to know.
Deal breaker, using the internet to determine deal breakers and justify treating your partner/people like crap because they dont fit the mold.
@beyone queen what if someone has something like depression or anxiety?Most of these issues have an underlying problem. Relationships are too complex to be judged this simply. Everyone has their own "deal-breakers".
@beyone queen being narrow minded and judgmental is a dealbreaker too.
If anything, if you find yourself having one of those dealbreakers mentioned, then this video is just telling you it's time to do something. Ask yourself if you want a partner who exhibits those dealbreaking signs, if you're ok with it then good for you :)
@beyone queen That was rude and unnecessary, you have no idea how much depressed people need someone in their life to keep them going, even if they neglect personal hygiene more or less. Besides, who are you to judge?
@@lyavain2764 I interpreted these deal-breakers as reasons not to start a relationship with someone. If someone I"m already involved with becomes depressed or anxious, I would still want to stick around and maybe help if I could. I think most people would unless the partner allowed the illness to negatively impact them (like withdrawing completely or screaming at them, for example). If it is someone new, though, bad hygiene or being too afraid to talk to me would make it impossible to form an attraction. Besides, if you try to seek a relationship when you are at a low point with depression or anxiety you become more vulnerable to people who might manipulate you in some way.
Hi psych2go I am a big fan. I was wondering if you could do a video on social anxiety and how to cope with it. I am a 12 year old girl and have social anxiety and I hate it. it would be very useful. Love your channel
Taili Tyler same tho!
self-centeredness is 1 of my top deal breakers... after dating a narcissist for 8/mo I see all the signs now
People should stop making professional diagnosis of other people if they're not experts 😂😂
Just stop with this hunt of the "narcissist guy" or other disorders, let them to the professional workers :)
I love this art style ❤️ This is one of the of the best art styles I've ever seen in Psych2go videos.
Hey there, I’m sorry I’m late. I am Andrew Allan, the animator of this video. This was actually my 3rd or 4th animation I had ever done and your words mean so much to me, thank you ❤️
@@Cap0verkil No need to say sorry. You must be busy. I am happy that my words made you happy. I wish you best of luck for future animations. Keep creating such awesome art styles. I encourage you to stay innovative.
Going down the list.
1. Not as bad as described.
2. I may not work hard, but I will always ask if there's anything I can do to help, and will always note anything I think someone I know will like.
3. Got worried, but then saw it's about different sex drive rather than lack. I probably need a partner who's also somewhat of an Ace.
4. Kind of tricky. I don't get out much, so I do tend to stream videos and play video games a fair bit. I also walk, read, and spend time caring for animals, among other things.
5. I have a shower every evening, and I rarely, if ever, wear the same day clothes two days in a row. However, I don't put much effort into my appearance. I tidy up to go outside, to go somewhere, or if someone is coming by, but I don't really try to dress up or anything.
6. I walk every day and help care for a wide variety of animals. That definitely helps with maintaining fitness.
7. I lack confidence in some areas, but I am friendly and will talk your ear off, if you let me. I like to chat, but hate small talk.
Turn offs... I haven't had so much as a first date in my life, but I'm pretty sure I'd be turned off by overly strong politics or religion, people who don't like animals, boring conversation, an inability to enjoy quiet, and an insistence of "my way is the only right way" (no issue if you're vegan, religious or anything, but don't expect everyone to be the same).
May as well mention that I find strong, intelligent women with wounded souls very attractive. And if they're nerdy, even more so.
Me: Doesn't Date
Me: I'm gonna watch anyway
Your sex drive is not a constant. There are times mine is higher than my husband, and many times his was higher than mine. The point is- this is the least important. Because a relationship that is founded on mutual respect, and deep love- we meet in the middle. Sometimes one of us gets less sex than we want, and the other more has more intimate acts than we want. A real relationship cares about getting their partners needs met, as well as their own.
I could understand that the spectrum of these traits would be different for each individual.
Narcissism is my #1 dealbreaker. No questions asked.
"Watching too much TV"
*don't call me out like that*
*I watch too much youtube*
Don't watch TV! It's mostly shit!
Watch some RUclips ;-)
Finally! I am watching this when it is still hot out! 😂
Good job :)
One huge deal breaker for me is if someone is arrogant or vain.
Pretty much all of these could be solved with effort and communication. However, if you do communicate the problem, and there is no effort being done about the problem, then it may become a deal breaker.
I love watching videos like this as a married man, so I can consistently torture myself by seeing all the things I missed and am now stuck with.
Communicate with your partner, work together and try to make things suck less. Marriage is a big deal man, I can only wish to one day have that sort of life.
I love how all the dating and friendship videos have been coming since I started college! ❤
Over-athletic... Interesting point actually, and have to admit while I like sporty girls, I dislike those who can't talk about anything else than athletics and doing sport, etc. I mean I know a few whos life is dedicated all around things like Zumba, weight-lifting, bicycle, how many kms they did, how many weights they have lifted, etc... I mean this is an obsession in my eyes. Yes, they look fit and hot, but this sort of lifestyle for me is not only annoying but boring too. I really tried this sort of lifestyle as I wanted to look hot myself, and sometimes I still wish, but something tells me, this is not something for me. Yes, it's visually pleasing a lot, and I am stunned by their looks, but dating someone and having to listen to what new vegan thing they tried and how much workout they do and I can't even share a deep thought and have long conversations about any topic? No, thanks...
Big deal-breakers for me
1. Not putting me first when it's due (I do realize most things are more important, but I would appreciate occasionally being put first. If I'm always second to you and your wants, dealbreaker.)
2. Lying
3. Lack of meaningful, deep, and stimulating conversation
wow if he's not giving you as emotionally invested responses or not responding in stimulating conversations as you give him, then it's already over. been there. you can be second to his family or job but he shouldn't put his hobby over you, like gaming. also he should be present when he's with you , not in lala land.
*Me: I am all of those thing and I pretty sure I won’t even try to date*
Cheers to that, youre not alone
Hey, it doesn't matter! You are amazing just the way you are! And so does everybody! You can find someone that likes you, not everybody likes the same qualities in a person!
Thank you guys very appreciate it
Deal breaker for me is an individual who hasn't done the heart work on himself so that he can be prepared for healthy relationship. And poor communication skills, along with a desire to not just be self-aware of your shortcomings, but actually put some effort into doing something about them.
why do i get recommended these when im single as can be?
Cheers
2, 4 and 5 were what broke the deal for me last time although 3 is huge (it depends on wether a partner can respect the difference or not without being hurt by it)
When you're wearing wearing rose colored glasses, red flags just look like flags.
1. Too needy
2. Lazy af
3. Similar sex drive/libido
4. Too much screen time (TV/video games)
5. Poor personal hygiene (yuck)
6. Being too athletic (no roid rage plz)
7. Low self-confidence (sad-boi sad-gurl aesthetic is cute until it isn't)
What numbers are your deal breakers?
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1 although at least you know They care. 3 it needs to be almost daily or that bathroom could be used more. 4 Not a gamer. 5 - NO ROTTEN FISH SMELL
@@thomasgallegos2832 lol I'm so sorry for your nose
The last point is the issue. How can a man with anxiety become confident around women? Negative experiences creates pressure and makes it even harder to be yourself. The anxiety is unfortunatly a part of me and admitting that certainly doesn't help being attractive and interesting.
They’ll never address the fact depressed/insecure/anxious men are screwed and hardly any women will give them a chance. They virtue signal and say otherwise but you hardly ever see it because its really that rare.
Asking to give up something I love or expecting me to do all the house work just because I’m female.
I have low confidence so I’m always wondering if my boyfriend actually likes me, but I make sure it doesn’t affect our relationship because I know he does love me and we’re happy together.
@beyone queen to be fair what has boosts my confidence is when people assure me that they dont hate me. When I had low self confidence to where I barely talked at all, my friends helped boost me up to be more extroverted and able to let myself stand out :P
Women can find dates when theyre insecure, men cant
*Me, an introverted asexual with low self esteem who's disabled and thus stays inside all day:* ....I'm screwed.
Hey, you are wonderful just the way you are! :-) I hope you'll find someone that matches your personality and you both enjoy each others company! (as long as this is what you wish, to find someone)
Also, I think society is obsessed with perfectionism! I truly believe people are amazing just the way they are! :-) I also have many problems but I 'm like meh.. let's just keep improving and see what happens!
HarmonE, please dont be so hard on yourself . In imperfection, there is perfection. Have you thought about a therapy animal? Or maybe tutoring a child? Or becoming a great cook? I am in a huge pit myself. I keep it together by reading, going for a walk, or just hanging out with my cat. I wish you the very best!
Bruh don't be so hard on urself God has plans surely you're gonna find ur true love one day
In my opinion you should be hard on yourself, but only for improvement, not to bring yourself down.
Love yourself and all, but not blindly.
Lying/ Withholding information is my #1 deal breaker.
My biggest dealbreaker: smokers, ok any kind.
Couldn't agree more
Its just unhealthy + can effect in long term :/
Thank you for your great content. Your videos are the highlight of my evenings!
My dad never did any housework and he left all of it to my mum. He wouldn’t let my mum drive her car if they were both there. I grew up like that and I thought it was normal. (My father also turned out to be abusive). After my parents split up I went to my dads house abit
He had really bad hygiene. Now I don’t know what my mum saw in him
maby she had co-dependency dissorder. That is she did not " see something in him", but rather where obsessed by the ide of trying to fix him ( if he where narcissistic and abuseiv). My mother started out like this, but she became addicted to alcohol and later also became a narcissist herself
Hi Psych2Go!! Your deal breakers seem pretty accurate all around!! Not just in the dating world but the friends world too. Well, except the sex drive one, in the friend world. Love all the statistics!! Gotta share!!
Bold of you to assume I'm even dating anyone.
Wow am so happy we are getting this far. Keep it up dear. Nice videos
The TV one is a biggie because I’ve felt neglected and it comes off like you don’t care.
Then communicate that with him, hopefully there wont be a problem after that.
yup yup. big ones for me, as well as the ones in the video, are wanting kids (i never want any), financially irresponsible and can't / won't save money, cheating, lying, breaking promises, twisting my words to make me out to be the bad guy, never listening to me, poor communication, no ambition, can't take care of themselves (in general, not just bad hygiene), not dependable / reliable, won't take on responsibilities
Shoutout to the creative animating team,It's Marvellous
Hi thank you so much 🥰 I am the animator of this video, Andrew Allan. This was actually my 3rd or 4th animation I had ever done so your words ,ean so much to me. Thank you!
@@Cap0verkil Keep up my guy,most of all keep the Faith
Ad 1) "Where are you?" and things like that don't signal neediness...
Ad 3) is not written on the front...
Ad 4) can change?
Here before 500 views. Never been here this early!
Being "too athletic" means that the other person is insecure about their own fitness. That's their problem. Don't dim your light to please someone else.
I have different sex drive relationships that’s not a deal breaker to me but being lazy in a relationship I can understand
Yes!! I’m ear-
Oh wait, but I gotta say i really love this channel, after all it’s the reason why I became bffs with my former crush
Man: I don't mind
Woman: definitely a deal breaker
About athleticism - if you dont got the body or cant get it: Get good at something. Go play music, go be great at something creative or whatever. It can make up for lack of muscles.
When someone breaks a deal with me:
Me: you know the rules and so do I.
*SAY GOODBYE*
My deal breaker: being too similar or too unlike
It's great to have someone to talk to about what you like and if you can't have someone with same qualities or interests as you it's hard to understand each other
And even if you do have someone like that but doesn't have anything different to say it gets kinda boring, nothing new to discover
What if some of these characteristics are actually symptoms of anxiety and depression?
Exactly. The last one is a red flag for someone dealing with unhealed trauma or depression. It shouldn't be considered as deal breaker in my opinion, if you love your partner you help them get better, you don't judge them and leave them just because they have lack of self esteem.
I think if the healthy partner wants to help them through it, the person with a mood disorder has a responsibility to seek treatment because it will negatively impact the relationship otherwise.
About sex drive... It is very common to not have the same wants at the same time, way more than people like to say. People have a sex drive that works on reaction rather than spontaneously. Be mindful of that, don't be ashamed, don't feel bad about yourself and your relationship. You are okay and valid, and your relationship can still work through this.
Gaming 8 hours per day? Those are rookie numbers, we gotta pump those numbers up
I have been a recipient and a source.. it feels good to know that I have come a long way
Be careful of other people not everyone is good but keep the ones who are good close
A couple of dealbreakers for me is:
*Smokers. i CANNOT date a smoker. Weed is fine, but cigarettes is definitely a NO-GO!
*No Effort into Themselves: I don't date women who put zero effort into themselves [self-love, overall taking care of themselves]. If you aren't loving yourself, then there's no way you can love anyone else, including someone you're dating.
How many Xanax do you want in your meal?
Psych2go Narrator: Yes!
I think 1 and 7 come from similar places, I lack self confidence and it leads to me being needy (not the the extent shown in the video) but rather to the point where it pushes people away.
kinda felt like a large weight lifted off my shoulder when i realized that the “time travelers” on this channel, are just able to access the videos before they post bc they joined the channel. 😅
I’m currently in a relationship and I’m the needy partner and I lack self confidence unfortunately. I have abandonment issues due to not having a father and my so called friends using me and leaving. I’m working on it though.
Insecure people really are a turn off like how you want to be loved if you don't even know how to love yourself or what you want like...
Rey For Ever oof guess I’m staying alone 🤓
Hey, you are discouraging insecure people! That's not nice! Also, being insecure does not mean that you do not love yourself or others, it just means you feel guilty or worry often! No one is perfect!
@@naragrace3870 You never know the future ;-) I got into a relationship when I wasn't really expecting one!
And people like you who have never been through a thing and project that onto others, yall are a turn off
From least to most important that I can confirm are: 6 - just have some exercises from time to time. 2 and 5 are pretty much on the same level of importance - take a shower every 2-4 days and you will be ok, and never be late when you meet up. Most important is 7, lack of self confidence is just death, maybe not today, not tomorrow, but relatively soon, it's very visible by your other half.
When I dated my first boyfriend I was rly needy and it rly did push him away when rly I was just insecure about him leaving me. And that ended up being the reason he did. I've learnt my lesson now and I honestly will be more respectful and trusting of my next lover if I ever have one 😂
My top deal breaker is someone who doesn't care about their health. Substance abusers,morbidly obese, mental health also. Ive gotten rid of people that have these problems because they refuse help. I cant do it for them nor will I put myself thru that hell.
Skorpia g. Ur thinking is absolutely right .
Then why even get involved with people like that? Leave them alone instead of hurting them when you leave