This is why the infp male must have good friends and mentors always. You gain power from the attributes of others that you find the most efficient. When you take a piece from each person it really is fascinating, you become a combination of the people you have studied, and or loved. And most of the time, we are loving first 😎
The way I look at it: My Istp super ego is the brains of being masculine. My ESTJ Subconscious is the execution of masculinity. My Enfj Unconscious is the Leader ship side of masculinity. My Infp Ego is the compass of my masculinity.
"Real masculinity is not dominating the weak; Real masculinity is empowering the weak." "There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self." Being bossy might needed to get in the power(in authority) but being true leader(with noble values and humility)will make you really rule among people with respect for longer, forever. Power isn't power. Real life is NOT GoT. Upliftment of others is true power. Adding values in other's lives is true power. Applying knowledge for betterment of others around is true power. Using of your complete nature and nurture for greater good is true power. And last, Mastering the own self first before mastering others is the true power.
Masculinity, is responsible selfishness. Being dominant, for the sake of taking care of yourself, your needs, and your wants. Power is the ability to influence circumstances. Whether to help others or destroy them, both require power. Power is neither a positive thing, nor a negative one. It is neutral, but can be used to both positive and negative ends. Don't try and sugar coat things and hope it will make people use them positively! Don't give false definitions, just because they sound good, and hope it will inspire people to do good. Instead, speak the truth, and let people decide for themselves how they will use it.
@@zile8869 Indeed setting own priority and boundaries (responsible selfishness) is required in life. But be responsible selfish in your comfort zone all the time only then you're masculine? I don't buy that thing, no one gonna see you for that. In my view the one "who can provide" is real masculine. (obviously with responsible selfishness eg if I'm providing food to hungry before that I need to have energy and resource with me first. But people be so obsessed being selfish and masculine they stop providing values, knowledge, wisdom, resource or do not want to better others, they think they are being masculine, NO that's false machismo) I've not give any false defination, Being bitter (without considering others values) won't allow so called absolute true stuff be swallowed by others. It won't gonna bring any changes or improvements. Be self dominant(spending enough time in self improvement, self development) first before seeking dominance from other is real masculine. And real masculinity is realising all aspects of life are necessary for life including femininity. Stop obsessing with word masculine so much that you forgot to appreciate and balance the opposite but complementary feminine energy. People are free to inteprate definations of masculine and power as per them I'm happy with mine that I don't confuse it with machismo and pride. And I know how to use that energy healthy constructive way. Peace out bro hoping we dont have any misunderstanding with each other.
@@placidturmoil1197 "people are free to interpret definitions as they like", actually, no. Definitions are meant to be a somewhat generally agreed upon standard, when it comes to the use and possible meanings of a word. By the very nature of what a definition is, it CAN NOT be interpreted as you like. I understand what you are getting at. But masculinity IS being responsibly selfish and dominant for the sake of taking care of your needs and wants. Firstly, the key word here is "responsibly". Secondly, masculinity has nothing to do with "good" or "bad". You get both good masculine people and bad masculine people. Masculinity isn't about being good or bad, it's about being dominant, and responsibly selfish. If you are just being selfish, without any regard for how it will affect your self in the future, then you are not being responsibly selfish, and are therefor not being masculine. And even if you are being a complete asshole to others, but you do it in a way that considers your own present and future and is responsible for the outcome of your own actions, then you are still masculine. You are maybe not a morally or ethical good person, but you are still masculine. Hitler and the nazi state, for example, was extremely masculine. They responsibly considered the result of their own actions, then made the selfish choices required to further their own evil agenda. They were *extremely bad* people, who commited *terrible atrocities* , but they were still masculine. Like I said, masculinity has nothing to do with good and evil, so both evil and good people can be masculine. As for power, same rule applies! It has nothing to do with good or evil, it only has to do with how capable you are of manipulating circumstances or outcomes. Hilter, again, was extremely powerful, but he was still evil. Similarly, Jesus, or even the Buddha were both also extremely powerful. They each had thousands if not millions of followers who listened to every word that came out of their mouths, as well as possessing abilities beyond the norm. They were also masculine. Jesus was responsibly selfish in that he pursued what HE wanted, and spread belief in HIMSELF to the world. What he wanted was kindness and love in people for their fellow man, and irregardless of whether others wanted this or not, he still continued to 'selfishly' push for love and kindness irregardless. But many people still agree that the result of his actions were good and positive.
Interesting things in this video you said. I am infp and I was quite "beta". When I watched your paid video and saw the ISTP superego schedule, I was deeply shocked that my superego was an ideal that I wanted to manifest since I was a child, but I had no access to it. To all infp. You can manifest incredible masculinity through a lot of work on yourself, but you have to do a lot of work and study masculinity and copy these masculine behaviors. The male and very sane INFP resembles John Wick very much and has the qualities of willpower, discipline and dedication. Objective thinking is the way too. I'm still lazy because I never want anything, how masculine I am now and how I was, heaven and earth. People in life wouldn't think I'm an infp. But the fact is that I had to spend a tremendous amount of time studying this topic. I still have a lot of work to do, but it is possible. You may even be the ideal that women want, but it takes great humility and hard work.
I just realized that for me (INFP) all 4 gateway functions are decision making functions. This is a very interesting fact to explore. This means that every time I make a decision I use one of those 4 functions. This can help me catch myself transitioning to one side. Or even maybe with practice this may help intentionally transition to one side I want. Fascinating.
My infp mother has been leading with her super ego for years now. Maybe brought about by being the main breadwinner while my estj dad homeschooled us? I guess having an estj husband probably had an effect as well.
I'm new to the 4 minds stuff, but I put your series about it in my watch list to get a better understanding. It's funny because way back in my early 20s I was living with a male INFP and he was always saying how he could switch modes to tap into things INFP aren't naturally good at. I enjoy the learning process thank you for creating the resources.
This is supremely difficult for INFP’s, even though they have the capacity to know better, and clearly ascertain it, they have a hard time transgressing their own standards, even when it, ironically in contrast to your primary point, it really would be for the greater good. A paradox.
I think the parodox is societal but the fix here appeals directly to the ethics and ethos of the the Infp way of being. The truth breaks the false paradox about real masculinity, which is not self above or below tribe. Masculinity is resurrected from the cross to lead from within the tribe.
This is also interesting to me from an ISTP ego point of view. On paper, the ISTP is of course first most masculine and the ENFJ side is the second most masculine (optmistic Se, Direct). But in practice, developing my ESTJ shadow more has allowed me to "feel" (Fi Demon alert) more masculine. And funnily enough developing the shadow has gotten me a LOT more attention from women and attraction from my partner. This could all be coincidence. But it's an interesting anecdote nonetheless.
This could potentially be attributed to how functions develop. If you develop more pessimistic functions, the more optimistic ones connected to it via axis or orbit, will grow faster as a result. So by developing your critic and nemesis, your parent and hero becomes more responsible and developed as well. By focusing on unconcous development, you can help develop your hero into a warrior function, and your teenager into a parent function, simply through cognitive orbit. A simular result can be achieved through subconscious development, but in that case, the hero sorta takes a bit of a back seat, while the parent is allowed to revert to a child, so the effect may not be as great in terms of developing a warrior and responsible parent function.
I want power over my life. I gave it to men. 12 years marriage, 4 kids. I need to take control of a career choice, and developing the independence of being single. I can do it. When I find out what I am good at besides home making.
Have anyone tried playing with their istp supergo (Infps)? In my experience, I usually been playing with estj and enfj sides, always forgetting istp. Later I realized that this is the part of us we searched all our life, you know like the part which wants to be unaffected by external reality while being a bit eccentric? But we usually get overwhelmed and feel weak. So, apparently a way for us to be sigma is mastering our superego. I recommend you try imagine cutting and in every way rejecting your relationships with people (Swearing might do the trick), especially in those you feel weak. It might feel scary to visualize hurting them (Because they probably dont want to be rejected and hurt by you), but yeah, just ignore that feeling and do it anyway. You can take it a step further and do it with your enabled family if they indeed are like this. But you might still think its evil... either way it will be fixed later, dont worry. If you master this pokerface mindstate of rejecting, pushing away other people, you might finally feel comfortable looking strangers dead in the eye without feeling anxious or weak, might as well finally tell them go fuck themselves. By being always nice to strangers, you remain always open, one needs to find balance between those two states. Cheers I hope you liked it.
Very well said. As a shadow focused INFP with good access to my Super Ego, what you said is true. I find whatever side of the mind is weakest, you need to increase it. Once it's no longer the weakest it's time to rotate to another side. But yeah, people need a good domination session once in a while. But as a warning make sure you really process things before you let the dog out the cage.
You're right that ESTP (my dad), ISTP (an ex), and INTJ (my grandpa) all struggled with authority and failed to achieve the level of power they wanted. My ESTJ brother says he's pretty happy with where he's at authority-wise and I believe him. My ISTJ (the other) grandpa kept moving forward and eventually achieved his goals despite a challenging start. He was adopted and spent time in an orphanage but became a small business owner and a published fiction writer.
Interesting lecture. Would you say that the Lack of ability to unlock ones masculine Side is as Well an issue for Infp females because of Yin/Yang Balance within oneself?
I'm not entirely sure what you are asking, But yin-yang balance, or rather, 'equilibrium' DOES NOT mean that you have an equal amount of yin and yang qualities, or characteristics. It's like in chemistry, when a reverseable chemical reaction reaches equilibrium, it doesnt mean that the amount of products is equal to the amount of reactants, it's simply means that the rates of the forward and reverse reaction is equal such that the ration between the products and reactants doesnt change. That may not make sense to you if you dont know much about chemistry, but essentially, equilibrium doesnt mean you have equal yin and yang. It just means they are in balance with each other, and are not changing their relationship with each other chaotically! You can have 90% yin qualities and 10% yang, and STILL have yin yang equilibrium within you. Also yin and yang, is sorta relative. For example, humanity is yang, compared to nature, but humanity is yin compared to God. Similarly, Si is yang compared to Ne, but compared to Ni, they are both yin. It's all relative, depending on what's being compared and how they are being compared! That's why the yang, has that little bit of yin and visa versa. Like chase likes to say, 'it's not a static, it's a dynamic'.
@@zile8869 thanks for the answer. I heard somewhere that females have 51% feminine qualities, the Rest is masculine qualities (Vice versa for Males). I don't know If I understood the point of your comment?
Yeah it's not too bad, his face and body is well exposed though the sky and water are overexposed but his face is more important if he doesn't have a high enough dynamic range or a camera that adjusts exposure very easily.
Okay okay I have a big question about the subject Chase , that come from a deep insecurity I've kept during pretty much all my life . I'm certain to be an INFP tested all type of test and I really relate to your INFP lectures and I'm a GIRL but, I've always been the tomboy and felt like people considere me as not feminine enough and like I really feel like I come off more masculine soooo I really don't understand how it is that it "happen" that I lack so much in feminity as a women since INFP should be a really feminine type,,, alsooo even thought I'm an INFP I've always felt really close to my superego annd I really don't know why's that sooo I hoped you could give me your perspective and thoughts on this please , cause honestly I'm really lost on this
Infp female. I relate to this a lot. I wonder whether its Se trickster, and Fe in the shadow also. It makes us not care so much what men/ the tribe like and value, or have much of a clue about creating a feminine appearance. Eventually (I'm 26) I think my Fi caused me to become more feminine 'part of the highest good is to find a good man and have children etc. so I need to grow my hair and wear make up and dresses or I dont have a chance' :'D also, if you're lucky, your SO can give you lil' pointers about how to be more attractive to them.
@@lentils2 Yes I'm going trough that phase like I'm 20 right now and I wish to get married but like my Fi and also my Ne understood that I must really try more on my appareance and change many habits and I still havn't met my SO for the moment lol
Interesting! Here’s a question, I know INFP and ISTJ have different sides of the mind but given that ISTJ has that discipline (Si) plus power (Te) higher in their cognitive stack, is it from nurture standpoint more masculine? Besides I suppose accessing their unconscious (ESTP) is quite easier.
Hi mr Joseph what mbti type do you think Lana del rey is? I really think she is infp but ppl say isfp. If you could tell me your opinion that would be greatly appreciated 🙂
Yup, I searched her and looks like isfp wins. I don't know her though, does she seem intuitive, sees patterns in life people etc., Also she likes to explore lots of possibilities and many angles? Does she gets clues out of the clouds, from nowhere or from the ground, out of reality?
@@elnogo9196 I looked her up also and it only says isfj because people voted but not everyone is correct. She says that she leads by her emotions and imagination through life and that sounds very infp.
@@lanalvr2413 by the way I'm a know nothing, all I really can regurgitate is that if she makes decisions by feeling , in particular how she or they feel about what is correct or incorrect, perhaps based on past experiences, I'd say yes, infp is a possibility. Fi dom caring most about how they feel about a situation, idea, action, etc. The feeling is seemingly a combo of past experiences and what they think about the outcome and how they felt or feel about it. Writing this I realize how little I know or how poorly I can communicate what I seem to think I know. Anyway, I post. I also fixed my prior post, for readability. Bye for now, I lock my door cause the cleaners are here. Human interaction is not my specialty, your friend of and in pychology and also an inp. (Intp)
The subject has to be willing to do what is required in a given circumstance though, measured against their own standards and ethics, to attain that position of power and authority. The struggle is a great cost to someone who wishes to not be an hippocrite, and is still in a idealist.
It’s funny how often this kind of question is asked with INFPs. Instead of changing yourself or trying to fit a masculine ideal, why not just be yourself?
@@Lev-The-King Amen! As a triple movement/progression member of the heart temple, I couldn't possible agree with that statement any more. Progression is life, stagnation is death.
@@zile8869 You can devellop yourself while still being yourself. In fact by being yourself you can devellop yourself much better since you know yourself.
I checked out the 48 Laws of Power and I just don’t see how the book could ever compatible with INFPs. I don’t think masculinity comes from power over others which is what that book seems to be all about.
The book is not immoral, it’s amoral. It’s a common sense primer on human behaviour, but it’s clarifying to see it all crystallised on the page like that.
On law 10 of 48 laws of power. It was funny reading it because some of them principles i naturally already have through the experiences i have had. Robert Greene is highly recommended especially if your infp feeling bouts of powerlessness in this overly talkative world 😊
Hey! I once commented on one of your videos saying that I'll be buying your premium content one day and I think I'm ready now. I wanna ask you something before that though. Does CSJ Journeyman membership provides access to every single content you have made whether it be premium or available to entire public including Discover the XXXX Psyche and Ultimate messaging formula? If not so, what do we have to do to buy everything?
@@CSJoseph Does "Discover All" mean I have to buy each one of them one by one? coz I couldn't find anything called "Discover All" on the members portal.
Quick tip I learnt in HS when I studied psychology Never psychoanalysis someone without their permission. Sure our high feeling and intuitive traits makes that extremely easy but it's extremely rude and potentially quite harmful... keep those thoughts to yourself.
In my opinion, subconscious focus INFP has an easier path toward masculinity compared to their unconscious counterpart. I believe when the three sides excluding the super ego integrate in an aspirational INFP, an ENTJ mindset can be used better yet the angelic ISFP can be accessed if full integration is achieved.
@@honor9lite1337 in my opinion the aspirational INFP (ESTJ) augmented with the perceiving functions of the unconscious through cognitive emulation(Ne child + Si parent=Ni) and shared variant relationship(arrive at the same conclusion by alternative processes) becomes the ENTJ; turning the rational conviction (Te+Si) of the ESTJ into rational willpower (Te+Ni) of the ENTJ
A more sub focused INFP will be more masculine than a more ego focused INFP, but not because all sides of their mind are integrated and working as one. That's not how it works! Instead, the ESTJ subconscious is more direct, and therefore more masculine. They would be potentially even MORE masculine, if they were unconcous focused, because not only is their ENFJ unconcous direct, bit it's also an Se-Ni user. P.S Yes, almost all INFPs will have at least a slight sub or unconcous focus, but what I mean by 'ego focused' is that their sub or unconcous focus is so slight, that it is negligible, and they use their ego the vast majority of the time.
@@zile8869I'm not saying that integration can be achieved just by the aspirational, but rather its their own process through full integration. For comparison, the unconscious focused INFP asserts themselves as ENFJs to survive the external world by being benevolent through others by caregiving (ESFJ) compared to the aspirational that seeks serenity within themselves (ESTJ) and imparts that unto others (ENTJ). Through cognitive emulation of the perceiving functions of the ENFJ (Se child+ Ni parent) and shared cohort relationship (mutually drawn into observational exploits) becomes the ESFJ. Both the subconscious and unconscious focused INFP bridge their abstract thinking into reality, they just go by it in different ways; one through altruism and the other through caregiving. The distinction between the two is one first gain status then help others while the other aids other first to gain status. With this comparison one can tell which is clearly more masculine than the other, self over tribe.
Fantastically dead on center. Real power is Love rooted in Truth. Leadership is exactly on the money as you clearly define. Now apply this to marriage and faith and we finally get the whole way to fix fatherlessness. Behold the key! Put it in the door, turn it, and watch what happens. True masculinity to whom authority is given is formed from placing self within tribe. Integration. Discipleship servant led sanctification. Fav scripture…He did not consider power and authority to lord it over others, though he is exactly in nature God, something to insecurely bullishly grasp as muh masculinity, but died horrifically, enduring it through knowing the end heart and soul and mind and body objective, despising the shame, to rise to life by the power of love and truth, to be rewarded with bearing the name of all authority, that every knee will bow to and admit to, to bring all things to transactionally reset all glory to the Father, (and thereby extinguish fatherlessness) Phil 2
This is why the infp male must have good friends and mentors always. You gain power from the attributes of others that you find the most efficient. When you take a piece from each person it really is fascinating, you become a combination of the people you have studied, and or loved. And most of the time, we are loving first 😎
The way I look at it:
My Istp super ego is the brains of being masculine.
My ESTJ Subconscious is the execution of masculinity.
My Enfj Unconscious is the Leader ship side of masculinity.
My Infp Ego is the compass of my masculinity.
Very well put
"Real masculinity is not dominating the weak;
Real masculinity is empowering the weak."
"There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self."
Being bossy might needed to get in the power(in authority) but
being true leader(with noble values and humility)will make you really rule among people with respect for longer, forever.
Power isn't power. Real life is NOT GoT.
Upliftment of others is true power.
Adding values in other's lives is true power.
Applying knowledge for betterment of others around is true power.
Using of your complete nature and nurture for greater good is true power.
And last,
Mastering the own self first before mastering others is the true power.
Masculinity, is responsible selfishness. Being dominant, for the sake of taking care of yourself, your needs, and your wants.
Power is the ability to influence circumstances. Whether to help others or destroy them, both require power. Power is neither a positive thing, nor a negative one. It is neutral, but can be used to both positive and negative ends.
Don't try and sugar coat things and hope it will make people use them positively! Don't give false definitions, just because they sound good, and hope it will inspire people to do good. Instead, speak the truth, and let people decide for themselves how they will use it.
@@zile8869 Indeed setting own priority and boundaries (responsible selfishness) is required in life.
But be responsible selfish in your comfort zone all the time only then you're masculine? I don't buy that thing, no one gonna see you for that.
In my view the one "who can provide" is real masculine. (obviously with responsible selfishness eg if I'm providing food to hungry before that I need to have energy and resource with me first. But people be so obsessed being selfish and masculine they stop providing values, knowledge, wisdom, resource or do not want to better others, they think they are being masculine, NO that's false machismo)
I've not give any false defination,
Being bitter (without considering others values) won't allow so called absolute true stuff be swallowed by others. It won't gonna bring any changes or improvements.
Be self dominant(spending enough time in self improvement, self development) first before seeking dominance from other is real masculine.
And real masculinity is realising all aspects of life are necessary for life including femininity. Stop obsessing with word masculine so much that you forgot to appreciate and balance the opposite but complementary feminine energy.
People are free to inteprate definations of masculine and power as per them I'm happy with mine that I don't confuse it with machismo and pride. And I know how to use that energy healthy constructive way.
Peace out bro hoping we dont have any misunderstanding with each other.
@@placidturmoil1197 "people are free to interpret definitions as they like", actually, no. Definitions are meant to be a somewhat generally agreed upon standard, when it comes to the use and possible meanings of a word. By the very nature of what a definition is, it CAN NOT be interpreted as you like.
I understand what you are getting at. But masculinity IS being responsibly selfish and dominant for the sake of taking care of your needs and wants.
Firstly, the key word here is "responsibly".
Secondly, masculinity has nothing to do with "good" or "bad". You get both good masculine people and bad masculine people. Masculinity isn't about being good or bad, it's about being dominant, and responsibly selfish.
If you are just being selfish, without any regard for how it will affect your self in the future, then you are not being responsibly selfish, and are therefor not being masculine.
And even if you are being a complete asshole to others, but you do it in a way that considers your own present and future and is responsible for the outcome of your own actions, then you are still masculine. You are maybe not a morally or ethical good person, but you are still masculine.
Hitler and the nazi state, for example, was extremely masculine. They responsibly considered the result of their own actions, then made the selfish choices required to further their own evil agenda.
They were *extremely bad* people, who commited *terrible atrocities* , but they were still masculine. Like I said, masculinity has nothing to do with good and evil, so both evil and good people can be masculine.
As for power, same rule applies! It has nothing to do with good or evil, it only has to do with how capable you are of manipulating circumstances or outcomes. Hilter, again, was extremely powerful, but he was still evil.
Similarly, Jesus, or even the Buddha were both also extremely powerful. They each had thousands if not millions of followers who listened to every word that came out of their mouths, as well as possessing abilities beyond the norm. They were also masculine. Jesus was responsibly selfish in that he pursued what HE wanted, and spread belief in HIMSELF to the world. What he wanted was kindness and love in people for their fellow man, and irregardless of whether others wanted this or not, he still continued to 'selfishly' push for love and kindness irregardless. But many people still agree that the result of his actions were good and positive.
Interesting things in this video you said. I am infp and I was quite "beta". When I watched your paid video and saw the ISTP superego schedule, I was deeply shocked that my superego was an ideal that I wanted to manifest since I was a child, but I had no access to it. To all infp. You can manifest incredible masculinity through a lot of work on yourself, but you have to do a lot of work and study masculinity and copy these masculine behaviors. The male and very sane INFP resembles John Wick very much and has the qualities of willpower, discipline and dedication. Objective thinking is the way too. I'm still lazy because I never want anything, how masculine I am now and how I was, heaven and earth. People in life wouldn't think I'm an infp. But the fact is that I had to spend a tremendous amount of time studying this topic. I still have a lot of work to do, but it is possible. You may even be the ideal that women want, but it takes great humility and hard work.
@lyx yep
How did you develop humility?
@@esul4 Accept that you are the most ignorant from all mbti types for example.
@@esul4Fi and Fe
I just realized that for me (INFP) all 4 gateway functions are decision making functions. This is a very interesting fact to explore. This means that every time I make a decision I use one of those 4 functions. This can help me catch myself transitioning to one side. Or even maybe with practice this may help intentionally transition to one side I want. Fascinating.
That is the pattern, which means your perception functions are your guidance functions who help with that.
My infp mother has been leading with her super ego for years now. Maybe brought about by being the main breadwinner while my estj dad homeschooled us? I guess having an estj husband probably had an effect as well.
I'm new to the 4 minds stuff, but I put your series about it in my watch list to get a better understanding. It's funny because way back in my early 20s I was living with a male INFP and he was always saying how he could switch modes to tap into things INFP aren't naturally good at. I enjoy the learning process thank you for creating the resources.
Makes sense. Leadership is feminine.
This is supremely difficult for INFP’s, even though they have the capacity to know better, and clearly ascertain it, they have a hard time transgressing their own standards, even when it, ironically in contrast to your primary point, it really would be for the greater good. A paradox.
I think the parodox is societal but the fix here appeals directly to the ethics and ethos of the the Infp way of being. The truth breaks the false paradox about real masculinity, which is not self above or below tribe. Masculinity is resurrected from the cross to lead from within the tribe.
@@shyGigi That was beautifully put.
This is also interesting to me from an ISTP ego point of view.
On paper, the ISTP is of course first most masculine and the ENFJ side is the second most masculine (optmistic Se, Direct).
But in practice, developing my ESTJ shadow more has allowed me to "feel" (Fi Demon alert) more masculine.
And funnily enough developing the shadow has gotten me a LOT more attention from women and attraction from my partner.
This could all be coincidence. But it's an interesting anecdote nonetheless.
This could potentially be attributed to how functions develop. If you develop more pessimistic functions, the more optimistic ones connected to it via axis or orbit, will grow faster as a result. So by developing your critic and nemesis, your parent and hero becomes more responsible and developed as well.
By focusing on unconcous development, you can help develop your hero into a warrior function, and your teenager into a parent function, simply through cognitive orbit.
A simular result can be achieved through subconscious development, but in that case, the hero sorta takes a bit of a back seat, while the parent is allowed to revert to a child, so the effect may not be as great in terms of developing a warrior and responsible parent function.
I want power over my life. I gave it to men. 12 years marriage, 4 kids. I need to take control of a career choice, and developing the independence of being single. I can do it. When I find out what I am good at besides home making.
Have anyone tried playing with their istp supergo (Infps)? In my experience, I usually been playing with estj and enfj sides, always forgetting istp. Later I realized that this is the part of us we searched all our life, you know like the part which wants to be unaffected by external reality while being a bit eccentric? But we usually get overwhelmed and feel weak. So, apparently a way for us to be sigma is mastering our superego.
I recommend you try imagine cutting and in every way rejecting your relationships with people (Swearing might do the trick), especially in those you feel weak.
It might feel scary to visualize hurting them
(Because they probably dont want to be rejected and hurt by you), but yeah, just ignore that feeling and do it anyway.
You can take it a step further and do it with your enabled family if they indeed are like this. But you might still think its evil... either way it will be fixed later, dont worry.
If you master this pokerface mindstate of rejecting, pushing away other people, you might finally feel comfortable looking strangers dead in the eye without feeling anxious or weak, might as well finally tell them go fuck themselves.
By being always nice to strangers, you remain always open, one needs to find balance between those two states.
Cheers
I hope you liked it.
Very well said. As a shadow focused INFP with good access to my Super Ego, what you said is true. I find whatever side of the mind is weakest, you need to increase it. Once it's no longer the weakest it's time to rotate to another side. But yeah, people need a good domination session once in a while. But as a warning make sure you really process things before you let the dog out the cage.
I used random singing with full voice. But sure yours can work too.
You're right that ESTP (my dad), ISTP (an ex), and INTJ (my grandpa) all struggled with authority and failed to achieve the level of power they wanted. My ESTJ brother says he's pretty happy with where he's at authority-wise and I believe him. My ISTJ (the other) grandpa kept moving forward and eventually achieved his goals despite a challenging start. He was adopted and spent time in an orphanage but became a small business owner and a published fiction writer.
Well done Mr. C.S. Joseph.
So helpful, I really struggle with leadership as an INFP
Could just keep on listening to you talk. Its amazing.
INFPs are my favorite 👊 ❤️-INTJ
Thanks for this great video, this was a good mix of inspiration and practicality
Love the new and improved opening video! 👌
Oh interesting. Thanks for the explanation 👍🏼👍🏼
great input chase 👌🏼
Can you make a video about INFP women?
Interesting lecture. Would you say that the Lack of ability to unlock ones masculine Side is as Well an issue for Infp females because of Yin/Yang Balance within oneself?
I'm not entirely sure what you are asking,
But yin-yang balance, or rather, 'equilibrium' DOES NOT mean that you have an equal amount of yin and yang qualities, or characteristics. It's like in chemistry, when a reverseable chemical reaction reaches equilibrium, it doesnt mean that the amount of products is equal to the amount of reactants, it's simply means that the rates of the forward and reverse reaction is equal such that the ration between the products and reactants doesnt change.
That may not make sense to you if you dont know much about chemistry, but essentially, equilibrium doesnt mean you have equal yin and yang. It just means they are in balance with each other, and are not changing their relationship with each other chaotically! You can have 90% yin qualities and 10% yang, and STILL have yin yang equilibrium within you.
Also yin and yang, is sorta relative. For example, humanity is yang, compared to nature, but humanity is yin compared to God. Similarly, Si is yang compared to Ne, but compared to Ni, they are both yin. It's all relative, depending on what's being compared and how they are being compared! That's why the yang, has that little bit of yin and visa versa.
Like chase likes to say, 'it's not a static, it's a dynamic'.
@@zile8869 hella good explaination. Thank u very much
@@zile8869 thanks for the answer. I heard somewhere that females have 51% feminine qualities, the Rest is masculine qualities (Vice versa for Males). I don't know If I understood the point of your comment?
Great cámara quality video wow 🤩 please keep the quality up thanks you for this video
Yeah it's not too bad, his face and body is well exposed though the sky and water are overexposed but his face is more important if he doesn't have a high enough dynamic range or a camera that adjusts exposure very easily.
Okay okay I have a big question about the subject Chase , that come from a deep insecurity I've kept during pretty much all my life . I'm certain to be an INFP tested all type of test and I really relate to your INFP lectures and I'm a GIRL but, I've always been the tomboy and felt like people considere me as not feminine enough and like I really feel like I come off more masculine
soooo I really don't understand how it is that it "happen" that I lack so much in feminity as a women since INFP should be a really feminine type,,, alsooo even thought I'm an INFP I've always felt really close to my superego annd I really don't know why's that
sooo I hoped you could give me your perspective and thoughts on this please , cause honestly I'm really lost on this
I relate to this almost completely
@@gargimajumder6703 omg I'm so a tomboy as an INFP too lol, I wish he had covered more about women in this video...
Infp female. I relate to this a lot. I wonder whether its Se trickster, and Fe in the shadow also. It makes us not care so much what men/ the tribe like and value, or have much of a clue about creating a feminine appearance. Eventually (I'm 26) I think my Fi caused me to become more feminine 'part of the highest good is to find a good man and have children etc. so I need to grow my hair and wear make up and dresses or I dont have a chance' :'D also, if you're lucky, your SO can give you lil' pointers about how to be more attractive to them.
Istp girl , I am considered gentle withing my relatives 🙃 I don't relate to most not all but most of the istp tomboy thing
@@lentils2 Yes I'm going trough that phase like I'm 20 right now and I wish to get married but like my Fi and also my Ne understood that I must really try more on my appareance and change many habits and I still havn't met my SO for the moment lol
Great video. Will you also be making an 8 ways to love an INFP video? Your others in that series have been very helpful.
coming out tomorrow
@@CSJoseph thank you!
Boosting it, OG😎
Hey Csj, regarding there being no ESTP presidents, isn't trump an ESTP?
Nope. ENTJ.
Interesting! Here’s a question, I know INFP and ISTJ have different sides of the mind but given that ISTJ has that discipline (Si) plus power (Te) higher in their cognitive stack, is it from nurture standpoint more masculine? Besides I suppose accessing their unconscious (ESTP) is quite easier.
They have different side of the mind, but still in the same quadra aka triple affiliative.
Hi mr Joseph what mbti type do you think Lana del rey is? I really think she is infp but ppl say isfp. If you could tell me your opinion that would be greatly appreciated 🙂
she is infp.
Yup, I searched her and looks like isfp wins. I don't know her though, does she seem intuitive, sees patterns in life people etc., Also she likes to explore lots of possibilities and many angles? Does she gets clues out of the clouds, from nowhere or from the ground, out of reality?
@@elnogo9196 I looked her up also and it only says isfj because people voted but not everyone is correct. She says that she leads by her emotions and imagination through life and that sounds very infp.
@@lanalvr2413 by the way I'm a know nothing, all I really can regurgitate is that if she makes decisions by feeling , in particular how she or they feel about what is correct or incorrect, perhaps based on past experiences, I'd say yes, infp is a possibility. Fi dom caring most about how they feel about a situation, idea, action, etc. The feeling is seemingly a combo of past experiences and what they think about the outcome and how they felt or feel about it. Writing this I realize how little I know or how poorly I can communicate what I seem to think I know. Anyway, I post.
I also fixed my prior post, for readability. Bye for now, I lock my door cause the cleaners are here. Human interaction is not my specialty, your friend of and in pychology and also an inp. (Intp)
The subject has to be willing to do what is required in a given circumstance though, measured against their own standards and ethics, to attain that position of power and authority. The struggle is a great cost to someone who wishes to not be an hippocrite, and is still in a idealist.
So if the highest idealist standard is to lead by serving through imparting knowledge then potential for hypocrisy is nuked.
It’s funny how often this kind of question is asked with INFPs. Instead of changing yourself or trying to fit a masculine ideal, why not just be yourself?
Always strive to develop yourself! Never use 'being yourself' as an excuse to stagnate.
@@zile8869 and stagnation is death
Probably because they think that's what will gain them acceptance.
@@Lev-The-King Amen! As a triple movement/progression member of the heart temple, I couldn't possible agree with that statement any more. Progression is life, stagnation is death.
@@zile8869 You can devellop yourself while still being yourself. In fact by being yourself you can devellop yourself much better since you know yourself.
Will we get the 'on paper' 16 psychological types ranking as well?
The ISTP superego followed by the ESTJ subconscious
Does this apply to ENFPs too?
yeah, estp superego can make enfps seem pretty alpha
The cost analysis can cause paralysis, and go either way based on the subjects maturity and the given particular circumstance.
I rarely get past the cost/benefit analysis. Working on it...
- Male INFP, 22
I checked out the 48 Laws of Power and I just don’t see how the book could ever compatible with INFPs. I don’t think masculinity comes from power over others which is what that book seems to be all about.
The book is not immoral, it’s amoral. It’s a common sense primer on human behaviour, but it’s clarifying to see it all crystallised on the page like that.
On law 10 of 48 laws of power. It was funny reading it because some of them principles i naturally already have through the experiences i have had. Robert Greene is highly recommended especially if your infp feeling bouts of powerlessness in this overly talkative world 😊
Hmm. My speech is more masculine but emotionally I’m feminine. I seem to find my humour is a lot more masculine than most of the females I know
Can I gain power as a teacher?
Hey! I once commented on one of your videos saying that I'll be buying your premium content one day and I think I'm ready now. I wanna ask you something before that though.
Does CSJ Journeyman membership provides access to every single content you have made whether it be premium or available to entire public including Discover the XXXX Psyche and Ultimate messaging formula? If not so, what do we have to do to buy everything?
It does not include it all. To get all the videos you would need journeyman and “Discover All.”
@@CSJoseph Does "Discover All" mean I have to buy each one of them one by one? coz I couldn't find anything called "Discover All" on the members portal.
Cersei Lannister - ESTJ got it thanks 👍
I actually thought that she's an isfj or something because how traditionalist she is.
*It's true. I do get out of control with my ISTP Demon; I hate myself when that happens.*
Quick tip I learnt in HS when I studied psychology
Never psychoanalysis someone without their permission. Sure our high feeling and intuitive traits makes that extremely easy but it's extremely rude and potentially quite harmful... keep those thoughts to yourself.
@@Alice-si8uz what happens if we do that
Ti demon is scary
Destroy their reputation before they come.
It is more annoying than scary to be honest.
In my opinion, subconscious focus INFP has an easier path toward masculinity compared to their unconscious counterpart.
I believe when the three sides excluding the super ego integrate in an aspirational INFP, an ENTJ mindset can be used better yet the angelic ISFP can be accessed if full integration is achieved.
Are you wrong in typing? The one who's having ENTJ and ISFP on their side mind is an INTP.
@@honor9lite1337 in my opinion the aspirational INFP (ESTJ) augmented with the perceiving functions of the unconscious through cognitive emulation(Ne child + Si parent=Ni) and shared variant relationship(arrive at the same conclusion by alternative processes) becomes the ENTJ; turning the rational conviction (Te+Si) of the ESTJ into rational willpower (Te+Ni) of the ENTJ
A more sub focused INFP will be more masculine than a more ego focused INFP, but not because all sides of their mind are integrated and working as one. That's not how it works!
Instead, the ESTJ subconscious is more direct, and therefore more masculine. They would be potentially even MORE masculine, if they were unconcous focused, because not only is their ENFJ unconcous direct, bit it's also an Se-Ni user.
P.S
Yes, almost all INFPs will have at least a slight sub or unconcous focus, but what I mean by 'ego focused' is that their sub or unconcous focus is so slight, that it is negligible, and they use their ego the vast majority of the time.
@@zile8869I'm not saying that integration can be achieved just by the aspirational, but rather its their own process through full integration.
For comparison, the unconscious focused INFP asserts themselves as ENFJs to survive the external world by being benevolent through others by caregiving (ESFJ) compared to the aspirational that seeks serenity within themselves (ESTJ) and imparts that unto others (ENTJ).
Through cognitive emulation of the perceiving functions of the ENFJ (Se child+ Ni parent) and shared cohort relationship (mutually drawn into observational exploits) becomes the ESFJ.
Both the subconscious and unconscious focused INFP bridge their abstract thinking into reality, they just go by it in different ways; one through altruism and the other through caregiving. The distinction between the two is one first gain status then help others while the other aids other first to gain status. With this comparison one can tell which is clearly more masculine than the other, self over tribe.
Is it glitched? It just says no stream
Same.
I can watch it
@@jbds6559 Works on my pc but not my phone... interesting
@@Talmurid Thank you for telling me, I’ll try that out now
@A. S. It works on my phone, I don't really know why it doesn't work for you
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Do ISFPs and ENTJs care about power as much
ENTJs naturally understood the game of power.
@@honor9lite1337 not true
yeah but harder for them to gain power compared to infps and estjs.
No. They care more about achievements than power itself.
Oh nice ^-^
I thought you said jfk was an estp
Nope. INFJ
Power you mean MASTERY???
No I mean power
An.
are infj’s masculine?
relatively, yes. Context in season 31
Fantastically dead on center. Real power is Love rooted in Truth. Leadership is exactly on the money as you clearly define.
Now apply this to marriage and faith and we finally get the whole way to fix fatherlessness. Behold the key! Put it in the door, turn it, and watch what happens.
True masculinity to whom authority is given is formed from placing self within tribe. Integration. Discipleship servant led sanctification.
Fav scripture…He did not consider power and authority to lord it over others, though he is exactly in nature God, something to insecurely bullishly grasp as muh masculinity, but died horrifically, enduring it through knowing the end heart and soul and mind and body objective, despising the shame, to rise to life by the power of love and truth, to be rewarded with bearing the name of all authority, that every knee will bow to and admit to, to bring all things to transactionally reset all glory to the Father, (and thereby extinguish fatherlessness) Phil 2
People will always put themselves first whether covertly or not affiliative or pragmatic that is bottom line
@@AmateurEdits-u9m Sadly yes, unless they allow something supernatural to transform them. Then it is possible one would even die for another.