Top unexpected reasons narcissists RAGE at you

Поделиться
HTML-код
  • Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
  • It has nothing to do with you #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic
    For 1-on-1 narcissistic abuse recovery coaching email me: danielle.radin@gmail.com
    Break a Trauma Bond 6-Week Challenge:
    sites.google.c...
    More on my podcast “Call Them Narcissists”: open.spotify.c...
    My book on communicating with narcissists is out now: amzn.to/49bRMMF

Комментарии • 38

  • @stevensawyer5924
    @stevensawyer5924 Месяц назад +14

    When I stand up for myself, they tell me I'm being disrespectful.

    • @lilfairycupcake
      @lilfairycupcake Месяц назад

      what u need to do is leave.

    • @makesnodifference
      @makesnodifference Месяц назад +2

      "One of the main allegations that narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths make against survivors is that they accuse survivors of being "direspectful." Why is this complaint so common for toxic people? It's because their grossly overinflated egos make them think that even the most minor correction or disagreement with the toxic person's opinion is a huge sign of disrespect. Survivors are wise not to fall into the trap of second-guessing all their actions because it's likely they could never show enough respect to please a truly toxic person." ~Shannon Thomas

  • @silentnight3235
    @silentnight3235 Месяц назад +13

    Can't take criticism but dishes it out all day.

  • @janedoe5229
    @janedoe5229 Месяц назад +16

    I met my narcissist at church. We were both devout, so no moving in together, or sex, or fooling around before marriage. It was easy for him to wear his charming mask whenever we saw each other because we were not living together. Of course he was love-bombing me and gushing over me the whole time we were dating. It must be true love. So we get married and go on our honeymoon (that was not fun). We come back and we are moving things into our new rental, which is a rental in someone's backyard. We unloaded the stuff onto the driveway and we are pushing it around to the back. He wants to break for lunch. I said I didn't want to have lunch when all our furniture was in the front yard where someone might steal it. He did not want to push it all the way around in the back. I said, "Let's compromise and move it on the side yard out of sight". He said, "Compromise is a sin". I said, "I am not talking about MORAL compromise, I'm talking about compromising to solve a problem". Nope. Compromise was a sin. He NEVER compromised. This never came up when we were dating because all our dating was things like church fellowships, going out to eat and hiking. I had no idea that I married a tyrant until after we tied the knot.

    • @casperinsight3524
      @casperinsight3524 Месяц назад +8

      Hopefully you got a swift divorce 🙏🏼
      They are so LAZY have excuses for getting around everything by letting their mouth do all the work 🙄

    • @guyincognito7211
      @guyincognito7211 Месяц назад +4

      ​@@casperinsight3524Divorce is a sin 🤣🤣

    • @Myopiniononly
      @Myopiniononly Месяц назад

      Haha that’s funny you thought you meant Prince Charming and he turns out the opposite now if you want to get divorced you’ll like you were desperate to get married and can’t handle marriage up and downs my wife is a churchgoer now we rarely talk no intimacy sex nothing my choice she’s a great woman when I ask for divorce I’m staying single for sure if she finds a holy man and turn out to be like your husband wish her luck when he tells her to summit (sex) every day obey your husband says the lord she’ll be so fooled and stay in this marriage she should of tryed to keep her 40 yr marriage but if she didn’t want to well I understand point is stay what you have because you’ll never know what you’ll end up with 😮

    • @trying2survive602
      @trying2survive602 Месяц назад

      ​@@casperinsight3524 Unless it's for someone else, now they can get all the praise and supply they need!

    • @lilfairycupcake
      @lilfairycupcake Месяц назад

      surprise, surprise! churches harbor more undercover a holes, per sq foot, than any other place on the planet.

  • @Ron-is5td
    @Ron-is5td Месяц назад +13

    When your narc says they are leaving you, make them repeat it.
    "What!!! You're leaving me? Are you sure?"
    Make a big deal out of it, so that it's harder for them to deny later.
    Like in 'A Few Good Men', Tom Cruz reminded Col. Jessup (jak nilklson)
    "Remember, I asked you, 'Grave danger?' and you said, 'Is there any other kind?'. I can have the court reporter read back to you (what you said)".
    Then journal the time, place, date, exactly what they said...
    My friend- that is your Get-Out-Of-Jail FREE card!
    Seize it! Exploit it.

    • @Imnotyourdoormat
      @Imnotyourdoormat Месяц назад +2

      *"Is that clear?" ... "CRYSTAL." My AUSSIE "Mega" says LATHER RINSE REPEAT*

    • @deborahrichardson3731
      @deborahrichardson3731 Месяц назад +2

      I used to ask him repeat back to me. He'd be angry, and say "He wasn't a child!" "I know, but I'm just making sure we understand clearly what is what so there's no "misunderstood" later." I said. He was so frustrating and ridiculous.

    • @lilfairycupcake
      @lilfairycupcake Месяц назад +3

      so hold the door for them, and laugh.

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Месяц назад +6

    Its their fault and YOU have to apologize just to get them to back off ...they are relentlessly petty

  • @Kenzofeis
    @Kenzofeis Месяц назад

    This is exactly right, you do not owe them anything. It is merely a fiction of theirs

  • @user-qv9nw1dq2f
    @user-qv9nw1dq2f Месяц назад +2

    We don’t owe the narcisist anything. Nothing at all. And any abuser should be treated as an abuser and there is NO excuse for abuse. No end justifies abusive means! Never!

  • @lilfairycupcake
    @lilfairycupcake Месяц назад +2

    i totally agree with your script in their head theory. its very ridged, and varys from narc to narc, but they all pretty much play by the same book.

  • @silentnight3235
    @silentnight3235 Месяц назад +4

    I am generous by nature but have come to the conclusion that the narcissist I know/knew is not worthy of a glass of water from me any more.

    • @guyincognito7211
      @guyincognito7211 Месяц назад +1

      Speaking of a glass of water... There was a time when my narccy-narc asked me to go get her a glass of water right after I had gotten into bed. I said no. And so she just laid there in the bed. Probably just going to wait until I'm almost asleep and then repeat it, whine, start an argument, disturb me from going to sleep etc. Now, keep in mind, I have a short temper (probably a key factor in her choosing me, it's quite easy to provoke me into reactive abuse), so I yelled at her and told her to get out of the bed that instant and go downstairs and get herself a glass of water.

    • @silentnight3235
      @silentnight3235 Месяц назад

      @@guyincognito7211 Good for you. They love ordering ppl about.

    • @silentnight3235
      @silentnight3235 Месяц назад

      @@guyincognito7211 Good for you. They love handing out orders.

    • @lilfairycupcake
      @lilfairycupcake Месяц назад +1

      "knew" is a good thing.

  • @lilfairycupcake
    @lilfairycupcake Месяц назад

    what ive found out, and have personally experienced it 2x. they rage, when they know all is lost, cats out of the bag, its over. at the same time the mask falls off, because there is no need for that anymore, and you get to see the actual entity you have been dealing with.

  • @naturesmymuse
    @naturesmymuse Месяц назад

    Nailed it! You da bomb! Thanks for helping us all....

  • @notaclue822
    @notaclue822 29 дней назад

    Not a romantic relationship even and I got all the guilt etc. So entitled.

  • @kilpel2
    @kilpel2 29 дней назад

    You are such a joy to watch!

  • @Myopiniononly
    @Myopiniononly Месяц назад +1

    Let it go live your life already

  • @mikerawn3960
    @mikerawn3960 Месяц назад

    Super helpful, yet again. Surprise 😆 👏🦅❤️😌. God bless you

  • @matikramer9648
    @matikramer9648 Месяц назад

    Thank you

  • @Mermaidshelly
    @Mermaidshelly Месяц назад +1

    💯💯💯💯💯🏆

  • @Devik666
    @Devik666 24 дня назад

    Or telling it’s my problem with there manor

    • @Devik666
      @Devik666 24 дня назад

      Tone and words

  • @jasoncaine7829
    @jasoncaine7829 Месяц назад

    😇

  • @Imnotyourdoormat
    @Imnotyourdoormat Месяц назад +2

    *Danielle is **_such_** ..... a babe*