Yeah, I think it was a little disrespectful to put the camera on her, though. Yes, it's "good tv", but putting the camera on her feels a bit like outing her. Like we all assume she's been through something. That may not be something she wants to make THAT public, you know?
I'm so thankful to God to have never experienced something like this. I have so much respect for the many women out there who been through this. Your strength is my inspiration 😘
@@0nly_Catsz that's a very "all lives matter" type of response. Ofcourse I have tonnes of respect for any human being who goes through something like this. This is just about shouting out to other women in light of the cultural shift we're experiencing.
I hope her family supported her after she spoke out about it. And yeah I agree that it doesn't matter how long it takes to tell someone. My heart goes out to anyone who was molested multiple times over the course of several years. I can't imagine. I was molested once when I was 6 years old and still carry guilt about it now at age 24. I didn't even fully understand what had happened to me until a few years ago. I hate how common it is. I feel like I know so many people who have been sexually abused.
I'm glad people like you tell their story because so many people in the world think if it happened years ago it can't be true because you never talked about it before now me and my sister have the same situation and we went to the police this year thank you for telling your story and I hope the person went to jail
Oh, Lord... 6 years old! I hope I could really start to do something valid for victims of abuse. Lord, take control. But why? These abusers have to pay, they just go after anyone, any age.
@@susanperron2703 Unfortunately I didn't speak up about it until many many years later. My cousin and I were molested at the same time by the same person who was a teenage girl. My cousin was 5 at the time. Because of that incident my cousin and I engaged in similar activities on our own at least twice after that. Last incident was when I was 9 years old. Anyway, for some reason I remembered those incidents but blocked out the inital molestation. "Why did we do these things?" "Maybe I'm just a disgusting person." Etc. Then a few years ago all of a sudden it clicked. "Omg we were molested! That's where we learned those things!" I don't think I was emotionally ready to handle it and that's why I blocked it out. And to this day I STILL feel guilty about it. I told my mom a few years ago. But there's no way for me to track down my molester. I never saw her again after that summer. Anyway, a lot of things make sense now. But I'm angry that my innocence was taken away from me at such a young age.
@Mia Blackston Omg that's horrible! I will never understand why families blame the victim. He was almost 30! Grown man touching a 14 year old. 😤 I'm so sorry.
That never happened to me, but it happened to someone around me. I ask her why didn’t she tell and she said that she did. Her mom said what ever happens in this house stays in this house. Please tell someone.
@Lilman Yellow sexual assault has alot of meanings right? I was molested at a very young age. I think i was 4.. But i overheard my mom say something similiar happened to her. But she never talks about it. I know others havr been raped or something different. Either or, this is still a serious matter. Doesnt matter what age, it affects us. At one point one can heal. Stay strong everyone!
Unfortunately, I was touched by my own biological father. It has been the most traumatizing experience of my life. Jeanie is so brave for telling her story! She has my heart and prayers!!
so sorry dear, have you ever tried to seek professional help? You have to take control of your present life and not held captive of your past oh how I know it's hard but seek help dear.
@@br8960 Hey there! No I haven't tried to seek professional help. I just feel like its pointless. I don't think I will ever have the strength to get close to a man. I want marriage and kids but it just may be a dream.
My mom was molested for years by her own damn sibling. My mom after 40 years finally told her parents (my grandparents) the truth. Sadly it was not the welcoming open arms and crying of "I'm sorry that happened to you." Instead they yelled at her and said she was making it up. I know they don't want to believe that they're own child would be capable of doing that to their sibling but this is an example of why my mom kept it to herself for so long. My grandparents don't talk to us anymore but I'm proud of my mom for speaking up. Just like Jeannie said it doesn't matter if it was 10 or 20 years it does not invalidate what happend! I'm commend anyone who has spoken about they're story no one should have to live with the nightmares/flashbacks or pain.
This is the response from families that I fucking despise! Even if they bloody apologised your mum would’ve felt a little closure but no they have to turn on her like absolute idiots, this boils my blood! I hope she is well today and you have filled her with words of power because she is a powerful woman.
finally a topic that's meaningful and needs more attention. thank you for your courage jeannie i know it's hard. I too were sexually assaulted at 13-16 and by someone i know and trust... everything you described fits in my scenario 100%... i always said i wished it had happened from a stranger (obviously wish it never happened at all) but when it's someone you know and trust it shatters you x 1000000.... you lose faith in people and you're in a dilemma of whether to ruin this person's life by coming forward or listen to your heart and forgive them because they're someone you're meant to love/trust. it's the epitome of stockholm syndrome. I spent years with anger and shame...occasionally even guilt, guilt at how i haven't forgiven that person.... sometimes i wish i can forgive him and sometimes i wish his life falls apart like mine did. i never told anyone until 10 years later i finally told one person i trusted and it felt like the weight of the world lifted off of my shoulders... slowly i address sexual assault and don't hold back. haven't reported the person and i wish god can forgive him and i wish he has changed.... bc it's hard for me (the victim) to forgive but i hope i do, for me at least.
Just so you know, you don't have to forgive that person. They hurt you. And if they are a family member, please tell the family, it does no good to keep a secret like that.
I am sincerely sorry that has happened to you and I wish u the best for the rest of your life and I hope you have overcome that horrible situation. My heart truly goes out to u 💓💓💓
The camera man was wrong for that cause who knows if something happened to her an in that very moment she found strength and decided I'm going to speak. Not everything should be about views. Gosh. Just pan to the person clapping I dunno.
Yeah me too. She felt was Jeannie was saying and the way she was crying it looked like she either experienced it or knows someone who has... and I agree @BlessedandRedeemed. He shouldn't have done that
They should offer psychosocial support to audience when discussing such sensitive topics... I just wanted to give her a hug no matter the reasons for her tears
I was abused by a trusted family friend for many years. In my case, I eventually told a family member because I was afraid the person would start abusing my little sister too, and they told me to never talk about it again or I would ruin everyone’s lives. I never talked about it again. And it happened for a few more years until my family moved out of state. I still have to see that man at gatherings and family events. Nobody understands the trauma I go through every time they put me in a situation where I’m forced to act cordial and friendly with the man that ripped away my childhood. :/ Thank you Jeanie for sharing your story..
If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? If you are over 18, might I suggest not attending events he will be at? If your family isn't going to take care of you, then they are NOT your family, and you have a right to take care of yourself and distance yourself from the people who hurt you. I am so sorry that this happened. I know it's not easy to cut ties with your family members, but please be selfish and do what you have to do to feel important and valid. You are strong, and keep your head up
LovelyVibesXO prayers, love, and light to you. I know it may not help but I commend you for your tolerance. I can only imagine being put in your position. I hope you heal properly, since being you still have to endure that trauma in the spirit & in flesh still. Smh. It’s not okay but just know don’t ever feel like you’re dealing with this alone. Even if you want to reach out to me I’m here. I respect you for your transparency and being honest. Karma is real. Keep being “Lovely Vibes” (I love that name, lol, and just know you are strong* ❤️
Jeannie being open about how this and her fight against it, has helped me heal from what happened to me as well. God bless her for opening up, god knows I needed to feel less alone today.
When i told my parents my dad first asked me if I reported the guy who hurt me to the police, when I said no he kept on calling me an idiot. I told him that he has no idea how hard it is to speak up to ppl you're meant to trust what more a police officer. He then accused me of lying about having that experience. My mum just didn't really show much support. She didn't stand up for me when he said those things. Later on though she said that he might be in shock and not know how to react. Please if you're a parent and reading this do not stay quiet or attack your child when they come to you. They already feel enough shame and loneliness. God bless anyone who is or has been through any sort of abuse ❤ we'll get through this
Kasia Derkowska *hugs* ive been reading all these comments and its much more frequent than people think.... it get swept under the rug and so many go through life, just, getting and doing what they can in the best way they can. .... i send my best wishes to you 💜
@@iChocolateberry I think it gets swept under the rug because we all don't want to believe ppl are capable of doing such things until it happens to us. We live in a scary world and so we want to hide the truly dark and scary things so we don't have to look at them. It definitely should be talked about but it should become more positive like supporting the victims like all of you guys here in the comments. This way the beautiful human nature can be shown too, filling ppl with hope.
I was molested by a family member at age 7 until I was 10 years old, I was so confused as to why I didn't speak up which is why I can relate w Jeanie. I had the courage to tell my mom after one of his daughters confessed to us that she was raped by him multiple times. I have let it go bc I don't want resentment in my heart but I've noticed that my brain has blocked most of it, it's now mostly a blur. Parents please take extra precautions with your innocent babies🙏😕
Pet Lover YES! It kinda foggy like I KNOW it happened but it’s been repressed that I forget abt it. For me at least, it’s better this way so I don’t hold on to that memory but ya also like why?
Its called Repressed Memory. Its when your brain blocks out memories that have a high stress level and traumatic experience. An important part of Sigmund Freud's early work on psychoanalysis.
@@Ame2847 " hidden memories that can't be consciously accessed may protect the individual from the emotional pain of recalling the event. But eventually those suppressed memories can cause debilitating psychological problems, such as anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder or dissociative disorders." For some further information on why.
I was 3 and I know it happened but it's been a blur specially now after giving birth to my stillborn brother.I didn't know it was possible for memoriesbro blur out like this I've always been afraid to talk about I thought people would think I was lying bc I don't really remember what happened. I don't understand how some people can do this to innocent children or to people period
Jeannie your so strong I am a survivor too I was sexually assaulted as a child by my step brother and I didn’t say anything cause I didn’t know how to then when I was 16 I was raped for my virginity and then again raped at 22 I spoke out about the person that did it to me when I was 22 I didn’t let him take anything else I couldn’t let him get away with it I was done with letting men hurt me so I spoke up he is now in prison serving only 4 and half years even though I wasn’t the only victim i no longer feel like a victim I feel like a survivor and you are strong and all the women and men that have spoken up your strong tooo
You are so strong and brave. There will be less victims now because of that, you have saved people. And I'm sure you are inspiring a lot of people too now. You should be so proud of yourself, you made the world a better place ❤
I can relate. It happened to me, when I was 5-10 years old. And I stood quite for 3 years then I told my friends mom and she reported it. I lived with the state for 3 years and then went back home. I still see them . Everyday. My mom never believed even though, they confessed. He literally said in front of my mom the stuff he made me do... I wish I had a strong friend or at least a strong personality like Jeannie 💔
I'm sorry you went through that :( it must be really hard that your mom doesn't believe you. I believe you and I'm sorry you weren't through that. You deserve better, wishing you the best ♡♡
Jeanie, I applaud you. I love you soo much and I am grateful for you to share this. This happened to me as well for many years, and it hurt so much not to be able to speak and I was living with that for years. I never opened up until recently and I hate that it ruined my childhood I ended up feeling alone and dirty. I am glad you shared your story. I love you so much for opening up❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow...Jeannie I am so sorry this happened to you. At the same time thankful that you are here to share your story and save other girls from trapped by silence. Thank you for sharing this. 🙏❤
I was also molested by a family member for 4 years. It started when I was 5 and honestly I never planned on telling my parents. But I told people who I got close to over the years and through reading my texts my mom found out. I thought for so long that it didn't really bother me until I had a suicide attempt and was put into therapy at 17. I'm 20 now, in college with a beautiful 1 yr old (sadly she was a product of rape but I love that girl so much) and I'm an advocate for lgbt+ people, and survivors of rape. I got help and now I help others.
GIRL , I AM CRYING RIGHT THIS VERY SECOND !! ID LIKE TO HUG YOU !! I WROTE IN TOO ABOUT MY STORY .. HOPE YOU READ IT. I WANTED TO SAY IT BETTER BUT IM AT WORK. MAD LOVE FOR YOU GURL !! CHEERS UP. THANKS FOR YOUR SUPPORT. COMING FROM LGBTQIA. IM BI AND PROUD OF IT
@@kaidiver3089 I'm sorry for making you cry! And I'd gladly accept a hug. I just hate what happened to me more than once, its made me the woman I am today but I still hate it. And being a openly gay woman with a child is so hard today, because people automatically think I'm a "fake lesbian" or I'm bi. Using my voice to speak out and not only help others but myself also has been amazing and I'm currently working on starting a non-profit to reach even more people.
Wow Jeannie I have never felt more closer to you as a person who loves you as a fan. I went through the same this and hearing the same thing I felt and went through, I'm really in tears right now because I just recently spoke about this with my mom about this situation that I also went through. I've had support from her. Not as much as I would have wanted, but this truly does help me cope. Not only did I go through this, but many other people no matter how famous you are. We all go through similar situations and deal with them differently, so I just want to thank you for sharing your story, for you to have the guts to speak out to the audience like this gives me more support than I have ever needed. Even though I have already moved passed this I just needed something to push me more to say "it's, over".
I applaud and admire everyone that has shared their story. My only problem is that we need to remember that it isn't just girls who are getting assaulted, it's guys too.
@Nattie bubbles exactly which is why I'd didn't like it when Adrienne said that Jeannie could helping out a girl, it's would just make any guys who have gone through the same thing feel invalidated by their experience(s) - I just feel like sexual harassment/abuse towards men should get just as much awareness as it does for women!!!
I can relate to Jeanie so much and I so needed to hear this. It feels so good to know that there’s someone else out there who feels the way i do. Thank you Jeanie ❤️
Jeannie you are so intelligent, inspritational, genuine, and RESILIENT. It is truly a blessing that you are on this show. You always say the things that people need to hear!!!
It’s so hard. There are days where I just can’t stop crying. I’m still dealing with this and this happened to me years ago. The memories haunts me, my innocence was taken away from me by people I call my family. The Lord gives me strength. I recently learned that the best way to get through this is talking about it. Praying for your healing ❤️ #MyStory #YouAreNotAlone
I'm in no way trying to compare this to people who have been molested or sexually harassed. However, I remember being 8 years old and my mum having to work long hours. So she would let a friend take care of me and my sister on particular days. Little did she know that this family was a whole mess and the children in that household were out of control. Once I was standing next to a window (waiting to see my mum) and one of the 18 year old boys in that household came up behind me and started pushing up against me (basically trying to hump me). At the time I didn't know what this was but I knew it didn't feel right. Luckily for me, he quickly left since there were people in the house. I say this to say be careful with who you allow around your children. Just because someone's your friend or a family member, doesn't mean they should be trusted off the bat.
Good for you for speaking up and it is a shame but if you think you have a good friend and you leave your kids with them you really don't know how they are going to treat your kids it's a shame this is been going on forever take care
That is sexual harassment that you experienced it is important for you to understand that because sometimes we belittle the things that other people do to us. That 18 year old was old enough to know not to do that you a child. I am sorry you went through that
Wow Jeannie I did not know that happened to you, I’m so glad you shared your story. I pray that you’ll God will continue healing your soul and give you the peace you need. You’re such a beautiful and intelligent person inside and out! You are so brave !!!!!!! ❤️
I think we should be a bit more careful and not try to romanticize rape and sexual harassment stories by saying "it made me a stronger person" or "it made me want to be a person who prevents that". Because, as someone with a story himself, my case did not make me a better person. It did not put this ball of motivation inside me. There was no positive side to the end of my story because it was something that seriously messed me up. I believe I would be a better person if it hadn't happened to me at all. The reason I have changed for the better had everything to do with me wanting a better and happier life for myself. But I will not attribute that to my terrible childhood, because it's almost like saying, "I'm so glad I went through that traumatizing event" which I do not feel is the case. I changed in spite of what happened not because of it.
This comment.👏👏 I know people where their lives got completely destroyed. While I understand such statements might be for 'motivation' since there's no changing what's been done. It can also place this implicit pressure that you have to move on and do better etc.
ADayInTheStrife she’s not romanticizing it she’s just accepting the fact that it happened and making herself a better person and a stronger one rather then letting it tear her down like in ur case . She’s instead saying “ I’m not happy I went through this but I am happy that I was able to become a stronger person from this “
i stood quiet for a few months but it got to a point where i wasnt eating, sleeping or focused in school. to anyone going through this, dont fear, speak up and most importantly understand that this isnt your fault. some people are just sick
i know exactly how you feel jeannie. I went thru the same thing with a family member. I honestly feel like when it happened to me there wasnt the support i needed now that i realize it, i feel like in my family people like to push things to the side and just "forget" about it but its just something that will always stay with you no matter what and when it happened like jeannie said. I just wish that when i was younger i had someone there to support me and just be there for me. its probably why i was always the "black sheep " of the family as i like to say because ive always been diffrent from them but i just hope she has the support she needs because those things to go thru on your own is another story... Much love
What's important is you speak out despite how many years it took you to finally say it. Thank you for using your voice, you really help a lot of people who are also been abused by their family members.
I was molested once and at first i was so broken coz i couldnt tell me mum since we had issues n my dad coz he loves me so much and him having to hear that would break him. I feared it would affect him so bad cz he has high blood pressure n then who would look after my siblings if something happened? Thank God i found my boyfriend coz for the first yr of us dating he stood by me.. Was so patient with me.. Loved me soo hard I've never felt anything like it and taught me to always say i love me and tell my family i loved them each time we talk and eventually i got better. I loooove you babe n thanks jeannie for sharing this.. ❤
Wow my heart goes out to you Jeannie. I hope you continue to heal if you haven't fully healed and tbh it makes me wonder if this is why you've held out on wanting kids. I see you continuing to grow as a woman and I hope you continue to inspire others. May God continue to give you strength.
Thank you to Jeanie for speaking up. It happened to me once by an older cousin 17 years ago. Still haven’t said anything and felt exact same way as you did. It took years before I could face this family member again. I’m thankful to God for giving me strength to move on. It’s not always easy to say something.
I feel that Jeannie would be the first of the host to leave. She may get an opportunity to do bigger and better things with her life and her time is expiring on The Real. I can tell. She's getting her life and she'll have more freedom.
I had an experience at my friend's sweet 16. It was her mother's young boyfriend. I was 15 and I get exactly what jeannie said but I'm just now comfortable enough to say it now and I'm 28 years old now
Good for you you should go to the police and make a report me and my sister did and this was probably 37 years ago now and we did it earlier this year but because my sister didn't want to go any further nothing will be done it was my mother's boyfriend but they brought him in and interviewed him and he admitted it and the police believed us from the beginning but what was the point if my sister doesn't want to go further and go to court so if you do go file a report I hope you stick with it so the person goes to jail take care
I’m crying as I watch this video. At 30 years old, I finally have the strength to seek therapy for being molested by a family member for over a decade. I’ve never spoken about it with anybody and still have nightmares from time to time. Jeannie is so brave to share her story. Thank you so much ♥️
Jeanie u r such an inspiration...u actually the reason I even subscribed to this channel..i can listen to ur stories all day looooong & not be bored... PLS start writing books...
I was raped by a pedophile when I was 13 and it happened again and again for over 6 years until I was too old. The reason why I didn’t report was because of fear. Because if he wasn’t jailed, he would make my life even worse. Also, when I finally decided to tell someone it backfired. I told my principal at my college because he saw that something was wrong. After I had told him, he kicked me out from the school because he didn’t want a victim living in the a dormroom. He thought that the others students would be scared if they knew that a pedophile might be walking around the campus. Sorry for the long rant, had to went... ignore me
Same thing happens to a guy I know when he was in grade school principal and teachers both touched him I think for a couple years nothing was ever done
I’m so sorry that happened to you, that was not right in any way and you should’ve been treated better. I hope you find peace one day, but thank you for sharing your story 💕💕
I applaud Jeanie for speaking out! But man they need to prep these girls about SENSITIVE interviewing. Loni was asking good questions but you don’t interrupt a victim when they’re being vulnerable and telling their story. I don’t care if it’s on tv, it’s still her real life.
This was so unexpected and made me tear within a minute - I've gone through this and been hit with the shaming. Why didn't I speak sooner? It's my own fault, etc. This is sooo refreshing to see as a hashtag! Thanks so much for sharing this on the show!!! 💕
I want Jeannie to write a book about her life. I wanna know more about her.
Xk8rsx she should she’s a great storyteller and really intelligent!
Xk8rsx me too
She should
I would definitely read her story
Yes!!! I would definitely read it!
That lady at 2:41, I hope she's okay, whatever she may be going through. Sending lots of love and God's blessings. 😥
Seun Ajayi, Nigerian Forreal tho like she probably felt like Jeannie or is going through a similar situation. I hope she is okay.
Looks like the same thing happened to her and she can relate
Yeah, I think it was a little disrespectful to put the camera on her, though. Yes, it's "good tv", but putting the camera on her feels a bit like outing her. Like we all assume she's been through something. That may not be something she wants to make THAT public, you know?
I thought the same thing
Yea I seen that as well. I’m praying for her.
I'm so thankful to God to have never experienced something like this. I have so much respect for the many women out there who been through this. Your strength is my inspiration 😘
Don't forget about the men
I agree.
@@0nly_Catsz that's a very "all lives matter" type of response. Ofcourse I have tonnes of respect for any human being who goes through something like this. This is just about shouting out to other women in light of the cultural shift we're experiencing.
@@jasoncarpenter4979 Call it what you want.
Nomazwi Ndlovu agreed. After hearing so many stories ,it made me appreciate how protective my Mom and other close relatives are about the kids.
Jeannie is soooo Strong!!! My God!
Mai God 🙄
She's Hulk
The GREATEST thing she is the MOST happy positive person Ever!!! Goes to show happy people are fighting a battle too
Love yourself 💜
I hope her family supported her after she spoke out about it. And yeah I agree that it doesn't matter how long it takes to tell someone. My heart goes out to anyone who was molested multiple times over the course of several years. I can't imagine. I was molested once when I was 6 years old and still carry guilt about it now at age 24. I didn't even fully understand what had happened to me until a few years ago. I hate how common it is. I feel like I know so many people who have been sexually abused.
I'm glad people like you tell their story because so many people in the world think if it happened years ago it can't be true because you never talked about it before now me and my sister have the same situation and we went to the police this year thank you for telling your story and I hope the person went to jail
Oh, Lord... 6 years old! I hope I could really start to do something valid for victims of abuse. Lord, take control. But why? These abusers have to pay, they just go after anyone, any age.
@@susanperron2703 Unfortunately I didn't speak up about it until many many years later. My cousin and I were molested at the same time by the same person who was a teenage girl. My cousin was 5 at the time. Because of that incident my cousin and I engaged in similar activities on our own at least twice after that. Last incident was when I was 9 years old. Anyway, for some reason I remembered those incidents but blocked out the inital molestation. "Why did we do these things?" "Maybe I'm just a disgusting person." Etc.
Then a few years ago all of a sudden it clicked. "Omg we were molested! That's where we learned those things!" I don't think I was emotionally ready to handle it and that's why I blocked it out. And to this day I STILL feel guilty about it. I told my mom a few years ago. But there's no way for me to track down my molester. I never saw her again after that summer.
Anyway, a lot of things make sense now. But I'm angry that my innocence was taken away from me at such a young age.
@Mia Blackston Omg that's horrible! I will never understand why families blame the victim. He was almost 30! Grown man touching a 14 year old. 😤 I'm so sorry.
@MeronJometra That's so awesome that you had the courage to speak out about it. 👍🏽
What sucks is there’s a lot of families that would just sweep it under the rug when you let them know ..
Cray May Or they just refuse to believe it at all.
Exactly. It's prominent in Africa but I know it happens all over the world. All for some "family honour"!
So true.. I told my mother and she shrugged it off because the person who did it died.. Plot twist. It was her dad/my grandpa..
That never happened to me, but it happened to someone around me. I ask her why didn’t she tell and she said that she did. Her mom said what ever happens in this house stays in this house. Please tell someone.
@Lilman Yellow sexual assault has alot of meanings right? I was molested at a very young age. I think i was 4.. But i overheard my mom say something similiar happened to her. But she never talks about it. I know others havr been raped or something different. Either or, this is still a serious matter. Doesnt matter what age, it affects us. At one point one can heal. Stay strong everyone!
Unfortunately, I was touched by my own biological father. It has been the most traumatizing experience of my life. Jeanie is so brave for telling her story! She has my heart and prayers!!
I'm so sorry Taneshae. You have my heart and prayers as well.
so sorry dear, have you ever tried to seek professional help? You have to take control of your present life and not held captive of your past oh how I know it's hard but seek help dear.
This world is so messed up 😩 you can’t trust no one & i hope he’s in jail & I hope you’re well x
@@courtr1588 Thank you so much for your kind words! 🙏❤
@@br8960 Hey there! No I haven't tried to seek professional help. I just feel like its pointless. I don't think I will ever have the strength to get close to a man. I want marriage and kids but it just may be a dream.
My mom was molested for years by her own damn sibling. My mom after 40 years finally told her parents (my grandparents) the truth. Sadly it was not the welcoming open arms and crying of "I'm sorry that happened to you." Instead they yelled at her and said she was making it up. I know they don't want to believe that they're own child would be capable of doing that to their sibling but this is an example of why my mom kept it to herself for so long. My grandparents don't talk to us anymore but I'm proud of my mom for speaking up. Just like Jeannie said it doesn't matter if it was 10 or 20 years it does not invalidate what happend! I'm commend anyone who has spoken about they're story no one should have to live with the nightmares/flashbacks or pain.
This is the response from families that I fucking despise! Even if they bloody apologised your mum would’ve felt a little closure but no they have to turn on her like absolute idiots, this boils my blood! I hope she is well today and you have filled her with words of power because she is a powerful woman.
I hope your mother is ok. I can relate to this sadly. 😔😔
That women in the audience, I want to hug her so bad!!
Caramel Camry Gurl 16 Yeah,it was pretty hard to watch actually :(
Right... my heart goes out to her
Ariel Harris ❤
GVOM me too! 💜
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This is the 1st I watch the real in awhile and man jeannie looks different. And I don't mean that a bad way
She is a thickums now
She looks very different
I agree, She looks, hard, rough and tired
She looks darker/more tan. It looks good on her.
It’s her cheeks..
finally a topic that's meaningful and needs more attention. thank you for your courage jeannie i know it's hard. I too were sexually assaulted at 13-16 and by someone i know and trust... everything you described fits in my scenario 100%... i always said i wished it had happened from a stranger (obviously wish it never happened at all) but when it's someone you know and trust it shatters you x 1000000.... you lose faith in people and you're in a dilemma of whether to ruin this person's life by coming forward or listen to your heart and forgive them because they're someone you're meant to love/trust. it's the epitome of stockholm syndrome. I spent years with anger and shame...occasionally even guilt, guilt at how i haven't forgiven that person.... sometimes i wish i can forgive him and sometimes i wish his life falls apart like mine did. i never told anyone until 10 years later i finally told one person i trusted and it felt like the weight of the world lifted off of my shoulders... slowly i address sexual assault and don't hold back. haven't reported the person and i wish god can forgive him and i wish he has changed.... bc it's hard for me (the victim) to forgive but i hope i do, for me at least.
Thank you for sharing your story with us
I’m so sorry that happened to you.
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Just so you know, you don't have to forgive that person. They hurt you. And if they are a family member, please tell the family, it does no good to keep a secret like that.
I am sincerely sorry that has happened to you and I wish u the best for the rest of your life and I hope you have overcome that horrible situation. My heart truly goes out to u 💓💓💓
Jeannie embodies the empitome of REAL! She deserves the best host award for always sharing bits of herself and being so inspirational while doing so
Did everyone Else feel like the girl at the end could feel where she was coming from
The camera man was wrong for that cause who knows if something happened to her an in that very moment she found strength and decided I'm going to speak. Not everything should be about views. Gosh. Just pan to the person clapping I dunno.
Yeah me too. She felt was Jeannie was saying and the way she was crying it looked like she either experienced it or knows someone who has... and I agree @BlessedandRedeemed. He shouldn't have done that
They should offer psychosocial support to audience when discussing such sensitive topics... I just wanted to give her a hug no matter the reasons for her tears
To all of the comments that have been posted so far on this thread before mine, I agree with every last single one of them.
My prayers go out to everyone .
I was abused by a trusted family friend for many years. In my case, I eventually told a family member because I was afraid the person would start abusing my little sister too, and they told me to never talk about it again or I would ruin everyone’s lives. I never talked about it again. And it happened for a few more years until my family moved out of state. I still have to see that man at gatherings and family events. Nobody understands the trauma I go through every time they put me in a situation where I’m forced to act cordial and friendly with the man that ripped away my childhood. :/ Thank you Jeanie for sharing your story..
I'm so sorry. You did not deserve that and I hope he gets what he deserves
If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? If you are over 18, might I suggest not attending events he will be at? If your family isn't going to take care of you, then they are NOT your family, and you have a right to take care of yourself and distance yourself from the people who hurt you. I am so sorry that this happened. I know it's not easy to cut ties with your family members, but please be selfish and do what you have to do to feel important and valid. You are strong, and keep your head up
LovelyVibesXO prayers, love, and light to you. I know it may not help but I commend you for your tolerance. I can only imagine being put in your position. I hope you heal properly, since being you still have to endure that trauma in the spirit & in flesh still. Smh. It’s not okay but just know don’t ever feel like you’re dealing with this alone. Even if you want to reach out to me I’m here. I respect you for your transparency and being honest. Karma is real. Keep being “Lovely Vibes” (I love that name, lol, and just know you are strong* ❤️
I hope you are doing better
Wow. Jeannie has been through it. She's so strong. May God bless her
Jeannie being open about how this and her fight against it, has helped me heal from what happened to me as well. God bless her for opening up, god knows I needed to feel less alone today.
I commend you Jeannie beans... appreciate you being able to be vulnerable and share your story... you’re strong and have definitely come a long way
Shout out toThe Real for having a Real moment today.
Amen, they cut the bullshit
Right! NOW This is The Real!
Aw We love you jeanie 😭❤
When i told my parents my dad first asked me if I reported the guy who hurt me to the police, when I said no he kept on calling me an idiot. I told him that he has no idea how hard it is to speak up to ppl you're meant to trust what more a police officer. He then accused me of lying about having that experience. My mum just didn't really show much support. She didn't stand up for me when he said those things. Later on though she said that he might be in shock and not know how to react. Please if you're a parent and reading this do not stay quiet or attack your child when they come to you. They already feel enough shame and loneliness. God bless anyone who is or has been through any sort of abuse ❤ we'll get through this
Kasia Derkowska *hugs* ive been reading all these comments and its much more frequent than people think.... it get swept under the rug and so many go through life, just, getting and doing what they can in the best way they can. .... i send my best wishes to you 💜
you are awesome and loved
@@iChocolateberry thank you so much 💜
@@lihlatshwayo2932 thank you!
@@iChocolateberry I think it gets swept under the rug because we all don't want to believe ppl are capable of doing such things until it happens to us. We live in a scary world and so we want to hide the truly dark and scary things so we don't have to look at them. It definitely should be talked about but it should become more positive like supporting the victims like all of you guys here in the comments. This way the beautiful human nature can be shown too, filling ppl with hope.
I was molested by a family member at age 7 until I was 10 years old, I was so confused as to why I didn't speak up which is why I can relate w Jeanie. I had the courage to tell my mom after one of his daughters confessed to us that she was raped by him multiple times. I have let it go bc I don't want resentment in my heart but I've noticed that my brain has blocked most of it, it's now mostly a blur.
Parents please take extra precautions with your innocent babies🙏😕
Pet Lover Pet Lover Yes! I feel as though our brains blurred these so we aren't constantly hunted by the memories.
Pet Lover YES! It kinda foggy like I KNOW it happened but it’s been repressed that I forget abt it. For me at least, it’s better this way so I don’t hold on to that memory but ya also like why?
Its called Repressed Memory. Its when your brain blocks out memories that have a high stress level and traumatic experience. An important part of Sigmund Freud's early work on psychoanalysis.
@@Ame2847 " hidden memories that can't be consciously accessed may protect the individual from the emotional pain of recalling the event. But eventually those suppressed memories can cause debilitating psychological problems, such as anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder or dissociative disorders." For some further information on why.
I was 3 and I know it happened but it's been a blur specially now after giving birth to my stillborn brother.I didn't know it was possible for memoriesbro blur out like this I've always been afraid to talk about I thought people would think I was lying bc I don't really remember what happened. I don't understand how some people can do this to innocent children or to people period
Shout out to Jeannine & Tamar for speaking out. You guys gave me courage 😢😊
Bluesteel JahJah ❤
♥️♥️ You can do it!! ♥️♥️
Bluesteel JahJah 💜
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Wow! Absolutely heartbreaking.
Jeannie your so strong I am a survivor too I was sexually assaulted as a child by my step brother and I didn’t say anything cause I didn’t know how to then when I was 16 I was raped for my virginity and then again raped at 22 I spoke out about the person that did it to me when I was 22 I didn’t let him take anything else I couldn’t let him get away with it I was done with letting men hurt me so I spoke up he is now in prison serving only 4 and half years even though I wasn’t the only victim i no longer feel like a victim I feel like a survivor and you are strong and all the women and men that have spoken up your strong tooo
You're so strong! I'm happy there was some form of justice and I'm so sorry you went through that. You're an inspiration, honestly ❤️❤️❤️
You are so strong and brave. There will be less victims now because of that, you have saved people. And I'm sure you are inspiring a lot of people too now. You should be so proud of yourself, you made the world a better place ❤
Jeannie you are triumphant because of your voice!!! Amen!! So strong!!@
Jeannie is someone who embodies the word growth she is such an inspiration
I know what Jeannie's talking about. . . feel you girl💔
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I can relate. It happened to me, when I was 5-10 years old. And I stood quite for 3 years then I told my friends mom and she reported it. I lived with the state for 3 years and then went back home. I still see them . Everyday. My mom never believed even though, they confessed. He literally said in front of my mom the stuff he made me do... I wish I had a strong friend or at least a strong personality like Jeannie 💔
I wish you all the best and great success.
I'm sorry you went through that :( it must be really hard that your mom doesn't believe you. I believe you and I'm sorry you weren't through that. You deserve better, wishing you the best ♡♡
Jeannie your such a brave person and your always willing to talk about anything that makes other people uncomfortable to help them out.😘😘😀❤️😎
thank you jeannie, you’ll be helping so many girls and women... your way with words..gives me goosebumps
love you girl 💕
jeannie is definitely The Real
I applaud her so much for being so open about something so private 💛
Jeanie, I applaud you. I love you soo much and I am grateful for you to share this. This happened to me as well for many years, and it hurt so much not to be able to speak and I was living with that for years. I never opened up until recently and I hate that it ruined my childhood I ended up feeling alone and dirty. I am glad you shared your story. I love you so much for opening up❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow...Jeannie I am so sorry this happened to you. At the same time thankful that you are here to share your story and save other girls from trapped by silence. Thank you for sharing this. 🙏❤
Kudos to you Jeannie for sharing a hard truth! You didn't let this offense deter, defeat or define you. You show true strength! 🙌🏽❤
I was also molested by a family member for 4 years. It started when I was 5 and honestly I never planned on telling my parents. But I told people who I got close to over the years and through reading my texts my mom found out. I thought for so long that it didn't really bother me until I had a suicide attempt and was put into therapy at 17. I'm 20 now, in college with a beautiful 1 yr old (sadly she was a product of rape but I love that girl so much) and I'm an advocate for lgbt+ people, and survivors of rape. I got help and now I help others.
Your Strong and beautiful.
@@Mrs.Zacapala thank you💚
GIRL , I AM CRYING RIGHT THIS VERY SECOND !!
ID LIKE TO HUG YOU !! I WROTE IN TOO ABOUT MY STORY .. HOPE YOU READ IT. I WANTED TO SAY IT BETTER BUT IM AT WORK.
MAD LOVE FOR YOU GURL !! CHEERS UP. THANKS FOR YOUR SUPPORT. COMING FROM LGBTQIA. IM BI AND PROUD OF IT
@@kaidiver3089 I'm sorry for making you cry! And I'd gladly accept a hug. I just hate what happened to me more than once, its made me the woman I am today but I still hate it. And being a openly gay woman with a child is so hard today, because people automatically think I'm a "fake lesbian" or I'm bi. Using my voice to speak out and not only help others but myself also has been amazing and I'm currently working on starting a non-profit to reach even more people.
You are so strong. Thank you for keeping your baby ..not many would have. 💛
She has such a compassionate heart. ❤️
My heart goes out to Jeannie. Someone who is so positive that I see you today, it is so hard to imagine your dark times
We love you Jeannie. Thank you for being so brave. You're an inspiration *Virtual hug*
Wow Jeannie I have never felt more closer to you as a person who loves you as a fan. I went through the same this and hearing the same thing I felt and went through, I'm really in tears right now because I just recently spoke about this with my mom about this situation that I also went through. I've had support from her. Not as much as I would have wanted, but this truly does help me cope. Not only did I go through this, but many other people no matter how famous you are. We all go through similar situations and deal with them differently, so I just want to thank you for sharing your story, for you to have the guts to speak out to the audience like this gives me more support than I have ever needed. Even though I have already moved passed this I just needed something to push me more to say "it's, over".
I applaud and admire everyone that has shared their story. My only problem is that we need to remember that it isn't just girls who are getting assaulted, it's guys too.
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@Nattie bubbles exactly which is why I'd didn't like it when Adrienne said that Jeannie could helping out a girl, it's would just make any guys who have gone through the same thing feel invalidated by their experience(s) - I just feel like sexual harassment/abuse towards men should get just as much awareness as it does for women!!!
I love Jeannie, she is so authentic and really made of the tough stuff. She looks great at any size, but she looks beautiful today.
This is so heartbreaking.
My heart goes out to you Jeannie. You are an inspiration and one damn strong woman. We all draw strength from your story
This was so brave of Ms. Mai. Big ups to her.
Jeanie is such a beautiful soul❤️ she’s such an inspiration to me. I’m so proud of her and her strides. She’s truly the definition of a strong woman
Jeanie is a very strong woman......no wonder she is always very caring,understanding n has a positive spirit.May God bless her more.bravo..!!
she’s so strong, stay up + stay blessed! sending love to you regardless!
We love you Jeannie 💗💗💗
I can relate to Jeanie so much and I so needed to hear this. It feels so good to know that there’s someone else out there who feels the way i do. Thank you Jeanie ❤️
Really sad how many people deal with tragic childhoods thank God for strength
YES! If someone confides in you, please don't ask what they did! Ask first how they feel! Asking what they did implies guild and enforces shame
I love how she said it doesn’t matter how long ago it was it doesn’t validate what happened
Jeannie you are so intelligent, inspritational, genuine, and RESILIENT. It is truly a blessing that you are on this show. You always say the things that people need to hear!!!
Jeannie is strong and hopefully her story will help someone else.
It’s so hard. There are days where I just can’t stop crying. I’m still dealing with this and this happened to me years ago. The memories haunts me, my innocence was taken away from me by people I call my family. The Lord gives me strength. I recently learned that the best way to get through this is talking about it. Praying for your healing ❤️ #MyStory #YouAreNotAlone
Jeannie is sooo right. Whether it took two seconds to tell or 20 years to tell your story, it does not invalidate what happened.
As a survivor too I know the strength it takes to reach this point. Thank you sooo much for sharing❤️
I'm in no way trying to compare this to people who have been molested or sexually harassed. However, I remember being 8 years old and my mum having to work long hours. So she would let a friend take care of me and my sister on particular days. Little did she know that this family was a whole mess and the children in that household were out of control. Once I was standing next to a window (waiting to see my mum) and one of the 18 year old boys in that household came up behind me and started pushing up against me (basically trying to hump me). At the time I didn't know what this was but I knew it didn't feel right. Luckily for me, he quickly left since there were people in the house. I say this to say be careful with who you allow around your children. Just because someone's your friend or a family member, doesn't mean they should be trusted off the bat.
Good for you for speaking up and it is a shame but if you think you have a good friend and you leave your kids with them you really don't know how they are going to treat your kids it's a shame this is been going on forever take care
@Company Name they should all be in jail with people who hate molesters so they can get the s*** kicked out of them everyday
That is sexual harassment that you experienced it is important for you to understand that because sometimes we belittle the things that other people do to us. That 18 year old was old enough to know not to do that you a child. I am sorry you went through that
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You were molested. Just cause it wasn't rape doesn't mean it wasn't valid and that you can't feel upset about it.
Wow Jeannie I did not know that happened to you, I’m so glad you shared your story. I pray that you’ll God will continue healing your soul and give you the peace you need. You’re such a beautiful and intelligent person inside and out! You are so brave !!!!!!! ❤️
Love you Jeannie!!!!!
Jeannie looks so beautiful... all her scars have made her that much more of a better human being!
I think we should be a bit more careful and not try to romanticize rape and sexual harassment stories by saying "it made me a stronger person" or "it made me want to be a person who prevents that". Because, as someone with a story himself, my case did not make me a better person. It did not put this ball of motivation inside me. There was no positive side to the end of my story because it was something that seriously messed me up. I believe I would be a better person if it hadn't happened to me at all. The reason I have changed for the better had everything to do with me wanting a better and happier life for myself. But I will not attribute that to my terrible childhood, because it's almost like saying, "I'm so glad I went through that traumatizing event" which I do not feel is the case. I changed in spite of what happened not because of it.
Interesting point
I'm so sorry 😢
This comment.👏👏 I know people where their lives got completely destroyed. While I understand such statements might be for 'motivation' since there's no changing what's been done. It can also place this implicit pressure that you have to move on and do better etc.
ADayInTheStrife she’s not romanticizing it she’s just accepting the fact that it happened and making herself a better person and a stronger one rather then letting it tear her down like in ur case . She’s instead saying “ I’m not happy I went through this but I am happy that I was able to become a stronger person from this “
Fatima it’s not pressure it’s more so a hand reaching out
Seeing how strong she is now gives me hope that i will get through what happened to me one day
i stood quiet for a few months but it got to a point where i wasnt eating, sleeping or focused in school. to anyone going through this, dont fear, speak up and most importantly understand that this isnt your fault. some people are just sick
I truly can relate and this is why I look up to her. She is such a strong and amazing woman❤️
I love Jeannie even more for this! 👏
i know exactly how you feel jeannie. I went thru the same thing with a family member. I honestly feel like when it happened to me there wasnt the support i needed now that i realize it, i feel like in my family people like to push things to the side and just "forget" about it but its just something that will always stay with you no matter what and when it happened like jeannie said. I just wish that when i was younger i had someone there to support me and just be there for me. its probably why i was always the "black sheep
" of the family as i like to say because ive always been diffrent from them but i just hope she has the support she needs because those things to go thru on your own is another story... Much love
A lot of love from Kenya Jeannie
You are such an inspiration and you are very beautiful and funny too.
valmy brooke I loooooooove Jeannie.
my country people.. I see you
Yaaaay🇰🇪
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I'm Kenya too
What's important is you speak out despite how many years it took you to finally say it. Thank you for using your voice, you really help a lot of people who are also been abused by their family members.
I 've told you... I was team Jeannie no matter what
My heart is with you Jeannie. You are so strong, your voice is so powerful, and I see nothing but fearlessness and resilience in you.
heartbreaking.love you jeannie 💛
so strong❤
So proud of her for sharing her story. Never blame the victim❗️
I was molested once and at first i was so broken coz i couldnt tell me mum since we had issues n my dad coz he loves me so much and him having to hear that would break him. I feared it would affect him so bad cz he has high blood pressure n then who would look after my siblings if something happened? Thank God i found my boyfriend coz for the first yr of us dating he stood by me.. Was so patient with me.. Loved me soo hard I've never felt anything like it and taught me to always say i love me and tell my family i loved them each time we talk and eventually i got better. I loooove you babe n thanks jeannie for sharing this.. ❤
I loved Jeanie before, now I just love her even more! Her wisdom...her strength ...her fun persona.All round beautiful soul ❤
Wow my heart goes out to you Jeannie. I hope you continue to heal if you haven't fully healed and tbh it makes me wonder if this is why you've held out on wanting kids. I see you continuing to grow as a woman and I hope you continue to inspire others. May God continue to give you strength.
This is why she works so hard to help victims. This is why she is so vocal. She's such a strong person. Who has been through a lot
I swear to God when you speak up it feels like a heavy weight is lifted off and it makes things much easier...It's never your fault❤❤
Thank you to Jeanie for speaking up. It happened to me once by an older cousin 17 years ago. Still haven’t said anything and felt exact same way as you did. It took years before I could face this family member again. I’m thankful to God for giving me strength to move on. It’s not always easy to say something.
I feel that Jeannie would be the first of the host to leave. She may get an opportunity to do bigger and better things with her life and her time is expiring on The Real. I can tell. She's getting her life and she'll have more freedom.
janicesweetness Nooooooo Jeannie makes this show!!
janicesweetness I love Jeannie & as much as I would hate for her to leave I kind of agree with you...
I see her doing bigger & better things.
Jeannie is such an amazing woman. I swear her mind is so beautiful.
I had an experience at my friend's sweet 16. It was her mother's young boyfriend. I was 15 and I get exactly what jeannie said but I'm just now comfortable enough to say it now and I'm 28 years old now
MsJaniece Thomas (Hugs) sending you all the love
Good for you you should go to the police and make a report me and my sister did and this was probably 37 years ago now and we did it earlier this year but because my sister didn't want to go any further nothing will be done it was my mother's boyfriend but they brought him in and interviewed him and he admitted it and the police believed us from the beginning but what was the point if my sister doesn't want to go further and go to court so if you do go file a report I hope you stick with it so the person goes to jail take care
I've seen this man 2xs in my adult life. I told myself if I seen him 1 more time I will definitely confront him
I’m crying as I watch this video. At 30 years old, I finally have the strength to seek therapy for being molested by a family member for over a decade. I’ve never spoken about it with anybody and still have nightmares from time to time. Jeannie is so brave to share her story. Thank you so much ♥️
So heartbreaking and hard to hear, but we absolutely NEED to hear it to help others and let them know it’s okay to speak out. It will be okay.
Jeannie looks beautiful. Love her hair like this. Love her whole look.
You can just see the pain in the blonde girl’s face in the audience towards the end
Exactly
I know! Somebody please give her a hug
Jeanie u r such an inspiration...u actually the reason I even subscribed to this channel..i can listen to ur stories all day looooong & not be bored... PLS start writing books...
Men tend to PREY on single mothers! This world is a scary and horrific place!
Ms. Beautiful Are you referring to Jeannie? She didn’t come from a single parent home.
No, I’m making a general statement. Even Loni said that her mother had to make sure that she was okay because her mother had different boyfriends.
Can I just say Jeanie is looking soo strong and beautiful!!
I was raped by a pedophile when I was 13 and it happened again and again for over 6 years until I was too old. The reason why I didn’t report was because of fear. Because if he wasn’t jailed, he would make my life even worse. Also, when I finally decided to tell someone it backfired. I told my principal at my college because he saw that something was wrong. After I had told him, he kicked me out from the school because he didn’t want a victim living in the a dormroom. He thought that the others students would be scared if they knew that a pedophile might be walking around the campus. Sorry for the long rant, had to went... ignore me
Same thing happens to a guy I know when he was in grade school principal and teachers both touched him I think for a couple years nothing was ever done
I’m so sorry that happened to you, that was not right in any way and you should’ve been treated better. I hope you find peace one day, but thank you for sharing your story 💕💕
The Fool Proof Kitchen that was a ridiculous decision that principle made!! You did not deserve that at all. I'm sorry that happened to you!
WTF .. THE PRINCIPAL CAN DO THAT !! DAMN IM SORRY
if the college didn't help. take a better action. i would talk to your parent or somebody close and just call the police
I truly hope jeanie is HAPPY. She looks absolutely amazing. So so stunning ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I feel like the girl that was caught in camera has a story in her! Her eyes say a lot. This will surely bless many.
For anyone going through this, we love you and love yourself! Everything is gonna get better❤️
I applaud Jeanie for speaking out! But man they need to prep these girls about SENSITIVE interviewing. Loni was asking good questions but you don’t interrupt a victim when they’re being vulnerable and telling their story. I don’t care if it’s on tv, it’s still her real life.
Jeannie beans needs to know that she definitely helped A young girl today♡♡. Queen💫👑💫
Thank you for being you Jeannie.
#WhyIDidntReport .. I was 14. I didn’t truly understand. Wasn’t aware I had a choice.
I completely understand sweetie💞 Sending you positive vibes, healing and blessings
Jeannie done gained weight and it looks so good on her..❤️ god bless u and everyone that has to go through that situation..🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
This was so unexpected and made me tear within a minute - I've gone through this and been hit with the shaming. Why didn't I speak sooner? It's my own fault, etc. This is sooo refreshing to see as a hashtag! Thanks so much for sharing this on the show!!! 💕