Summary ❤️ 1. You tend to copy others 2. You are a people pleaser 3. You let yourself be defined by how others see you 4. You attract drama into your life 5. You give your power to someone else 6. You procrastinate 7. You justify your actions
I haven't, simple because the only thing I fall under is procrastination, but mine is due to a lack of motivation. I mean, what the f**k do I have to be afraid of in regards to doing the dishes or cleaning my house?
"Above all, don't lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love." -F. Dostoevsky
Agreed. A person that lies to themself can never know themself. When a person ultimately masters themself, they will consequently master their own life and conquer the world around them ( if they so choose)
I’m trying to love my body and looks more cause it’s important. If you’re feeling bad about your appearance, just know everything will be okay and that I love you no matter what you look like. I hope you have a wonderful day, even if only 1 person sees this! Take care and remember to stay hydrated 💕
Look up psychology courses, there are a few from Yale and Hopkins that are free! You won’t get a certificate if you want it free, but you get knowledge which leads to being a psychologist! If you pay about 50$, you can get a certificate though.
@@Psych2go Great Video Psych2go do you have a video about involuntary celibacy. I am nearly 30 and all women have rejected me since. So I never experience Love or a relationship. I am lonely all the time. I feel there is no support for people like me.
So true, when I wasn’t able to name the feelings I was feeling, psych2go guided me thru it and showed me what they were and that it was okay to feel that way😊and it’s happy to know that I am not the only one
Gonna be honest: I teared up watching this video... I related to this in every way & never even knew it. 1. *You tend to copy others:* Not necessarily this, but my own version of other's projects while trying to find my own originality. 2. *You're a people pleaser:* I hate disappointing people, so I know this all-too-well, even to my own detriment, especially in terms of my health. 3. *You let yourself be defined what others think of you:* I try not to, but 2018 taught me a lot about what others truly thought about me, which is why I've become so defensive. 4. *You attract drama into your life:* I do videos on auto racing... That's a given sadly. 5. *You give your power to someone else:* ... My ex-boyfriend, who's still my roommate & whom I still care for very much... but lately I found out he thinks I'm clingy... even after our mutual split & him now dating someone else... 6. *You procrastinate:* I had always thought of procrastination as a fancy term for laziness. I never thought of it as putting things off due to being hesitant. That does define me because I do fear failing & disappointing other people... Guess that explains my so-called clinginess. 7. *You justify your actions:* Not just your actions but your thoughts & how you feel about things. Recently my comments reactions videos were chastised for me having to justify my thoughts & how I feel about things... Also recently I made the bed for my roommate & I, putting everything on it & I had to justify it as a way to conserve body heat because it was cold the previous night. The thing is... if I haven't been true to myself, then who have I been?...
@@nightangalesweet9239 I'm apart of the NASCAR RUclips Community & have been for many years. In 2018 newer content creators started a podcast of sorts that is now known as the NASCAR Weekly Podcast. In May, the original cast added a new member named Darian & that's when the trouble started. For 6 months, without me knowing, I was basically a target of Darian & one of the original members named Jaret, & soon after others as well. The audience just ate it up & I had no clue about any of it until someone had asked me if I had heard of Darian... Then in November I found the podcast & reviewed past episodes & realized how bad & stupid it really was. It really p!$$ed me off! I made a video calling out Darian & the show & correcting their lies with the truth & how I felt on things... & it ends up being my 4th most disliked video ever, with the other 3 being videos from years ago. To this day it also has the second most views among all the videos I posted in 2018. I had no idea that people felt the way they did about me. Here I thought a few people saw me as "The NASCAR on FOX hater with the annoying voice." Nope, turns out I was nothing but everyone's punching bag & according to most of the community one of the least popular RUclipsrs in the community. People looked for any & all possible reasons to hate or hate on me. Some people have seen how bad Darian really is since, but it doesn't take away from the fact that nothing I say or do will convince others to see how *I* feel about things. It's gonna take others messing up before people _finally_ see my perspective on things.
These are hitting home for me, lately I feel like my entire personality has been a sort of autopilot-cover up from my actual personality and that I'm very misunderstood and don't even like myself. It's all kind of pitted on wanting a significant other, but never having one. I'm aware this makes it so that I'm not exactly ready for a relationship, but I've been super dragged down and stressed, and I can't stop thinking about the people I'm in love with (one of them is 2D, lmao) but like this stuff sucks
Having a partner or getting in a relationship will not help it may give you some temporary happiness but once your still choosing to love them through hard things you’ll end up coming back to this feeling over and over wanting to fight for what’s good for you but then not really knowing. Having a partner that also wants to fight for you is amazing but those moments when they’re fighting for themselves and their needs you tend to become lost all over again.. I’m in that position rn
@@jordan8318 hMMMMM... 🤔 okay, I think I know what you're talking about. I'm sorry to hear that, I'd maybe reccomend talking to them about that, like because the whole special-ness of having a partner is that you can work out any emotion or issue you have by talking to them, that's what I want at least
You are lying to yourself... • I can totally relate. We really need to learn to care about ourselves first before anyone else. How can you make someone else happy when you are bleeding inside.
1. tend copy others, I mostly copy because I'm like other people, I have a broad and VERY extensive interests. 2. People pleaser, I know my limits and I know how to put myself over others when need be. 3. How others see me is important but it's not THAT important. I care what they say but I am me and nothing can change that. 4. Attracting Drama, unfortunately I live around them so kind of difficult to get away, but when I do, I don't. Though I do resolve them, I find it fun at times. 5. Give power to others, I give power to those I trust (trusted) because I am unsure or I want them to have little power. 6. Procastinate, I have a fear of failing myself.
@@celestewashereYT literally at the moment I am procrastinating but actuality of the concept of the video, no. I meant what I said. I'm not lying about it and I have a fear of failing myself, though I didn't add more of what I feel, I'm also afraid of failing others but like #3 I've grown out of that a bit, still working on it though with therapy, 6 is kinda weird for me and kinda difficult to explain.
I spent 9 years being a people pleaser for someone I really thought cared about me.... over the 2020 lockdown I had time to reflect and realise the truth... that they didn’t care a damn about me. As I worked through it (6 months of daily self reflection and counting) I realised how crazy I was and felt so stupid for all the things I did. Ironically, in many ways, as I improve my mental health, my life has got worse because all the little lies I told myself or excuses I made for others behaviors towards me that I excused are all now visible as total nonsense and thus the full sadness that actually no-one that I know actually cares is really hurting. On the plus side, knowing that means I can move on from them and work to improve myself without their negative drag.
I relate to almost all of these things, and ended up finding myself crying by the end of the video. But not in a bad way, it was more... helpful crying. Thank you so much to everyone behind this youtube channel, whoever it may be. This entire channel means a lot to many people, thank you so much, and keep up the absolutely fantastic work.
What actually makes me unique is that I take a little bit from everybody and add it to my personality and make my own mix of it all. People are there experiences throughout life
its so easy to say: put yourself first, do more for yourself but too hard to do, when you feel that lonelines is about to absorb you any second. then anything i do for myself loses any postitive effect, i just struggle trying "to fulfill my own needs"
The Beauty of Freedom is Immeasurable The Satisfaction of Dignity is Divine You Do Not Need to be Someone You Are Not JUST you are FINE The world Needs You Because There is Only One You And Only You Can Be You, Like You Do LOVE from Cappadocia!
i only related to half of these yet you made me cry when u told me that I'm a priority, and the decisions I make are the ones that make me safest and happiest. thank you for this!
Word of warning, don't guard your heart behind walls of iron. Behind those walls, a man can come to tell the most dangerous of lies. A lie, once told, you come to believe yourself.
1. You tend to copy others 2. You're a people pleaser 3. You let yourself be defined by how others see you 4. You attract drama into your life 5. You give your power to someone else 6. You procrastinate 7. You justify your actions
Please make a video about how or why artists struggle with their creations!!! (sculptures, drawings and such) and what your art says about you! pleaaaaseeeee!!!!
been working to break some of these traits. have reduced some of my people pleasing and working on my procrastinating as well. gonna work on not giving up my power to others tomorrow when I talk to my friend in the morning. been working on increasing my productivity as well heavily,... gotta work out those "get stuff done" muscles in the brain.
There's always something that I don't consider when taking action, and bit by bit, those unconsidered things ache at me. So it's hard to make my own decisions sometimes
I absolutely love this channel and this community!! You're so supportive to each other 🥰🥰 and the topics you've talked about are really helpful!! Thank you so much!! 💓💓💓
Each day i go though sone terrible situation mkaing me feel lots of terribke things...to tackle those u guys upload videos at such good ocasion. Cant thank you much for that.
This video helped to confirm what I have concluded about myself, I want to change but I have been like this for so long its hard to know where to start putting things right.
These videos are of great health to me because it makes me feel that I am not alone and there are solution to my problems Thank you psych2go. You are really doing an amazing job making these videos❤️
I don't relate to this but my former friend does, he would copy me on my ideas, names and even possibly my outfit. Also, he denies everything I say so he wouldn't be embarrassed by the aftermath. He does manipulate people to get on his side like my friends to use it against me. If I would give him important advice like reflectance or morals but he would just ignore it. When I ask him to stop copying me. He would just agree and ignore it afterwards. While I was trying to solve the problem with his sister, he would lie about how he forgot to ask me when it happened 7 times already. He even plagiarize his community into thinking it was his idea when it was originally from me. I wish I never became friends with him.
Generally people are malevolent and tend to be jealous. I live in such family, where everyone is trying to drag me down, so I don't succeed, because I will make them feel bad for actually trying to be a better human being, instead of procrastinating, having no hobbies and having no real life goals.
This video, sum up my life. I always been a people pleasure because I’m always lonely & wanted friends to accept me for my flaws. Sometimes, I just wanna give up.
Ideas for videos: 7 signs that you have depression 7 signs that your friends are distancing away from you 7 signs that you are an introvert 7 signs that you are being toxic
I'm wanna to say a big thank you for the video, i'm literally crying now because of the content and also the music, i want to hear the full music but don't know the title of the music itself 😭😭
I actually do relate to all of them except for the one about attracting drama, I try to stay away from it. But I actually think I needed to see this, I’ve been feeling really lonely lately and no matter what I do people always seem to leave. :/
Most of these are something that I can't resonate with anymore, but there is procrastination. I finally got my passport to following my dreams and I'm happy about that. Thanks for having me check myself!!
okay but the thing is, i don’t know who my true self is. i have so many different personalities and styles and there are so many places i want to see myself but yet i cant reach any of those places because i don’t know where to go. i don’t know who i am. there’s people stopping me from being who i want to be to where i have to make up a new person i “want” to be so i can be pleased by everyone. how do i become my true self. how do i know which persona is actually me and not one i force myself to be. sometimes i even hate myself because i don’t know who i am and i genuinely can’t figure it out. it stresses me a lot. i really just wanna know my actual self. not the made up versions of myself. do you guys understand?
Thank you for all the videos you make. You have made me see what I can do to improve myself into a better life. Like this vid for example, I can relate to most of these like I have a hard time saying no and I like to please people I don'tlike letting people down. And I am scared of what people think of me if I say no. I do not want them to think I am a bad friend or family member.Your videos are really inspiring me to make small changes in what I do without completely changing who i am. Again, I say thank you. 😁
Thank you pschyc2go .....it is always a coincidence tht whtever emotional stress i feel at the point of time you will always launch a video in which u mention the answer of my stress....wht a coincidence
So a couple months ago my grandpa died, and my entire childhood reminded me of him, so I've been taking on a new personality. This is unsettling how perfect the timing was.
I just say thank you... Sometimes isn't easy to remember when we are doing something for yourself... Sometimes it's hard to take a own choice when you care about what are thinking other person (specially when they are from family) but self is always first. 😊
@@Psych2go sometimes I can't stop to be a people pleaser, I like to help others (and that's ok) but sometimes I can't see when something is going to far... but I'm working with that. Thank you, for you and everyone in this channel.
…1… You copy others. No. I carve my own path. +++ …2… You’re a people pleaser. Well, I try to find win-win situations. However, I don’t bend over backwards for anyone that has not earned my trust. +++ …3… You let yourself be defined by how others see you. No. I am not a monster because I am not taller than average. +++ …4… You attract drama into your life. No. I really make an effort to avoid drama. +++ …5… You give your power to someone else. Only to one person. That is hard to take back. +++ …6… You procrastinate. No. I am rather pro-active. However, I do delay certain actions if I feel that there is a more appropriate time coming up. +++ …7… You justify your actions. I constantly review actions and outcomes. That is always a good plan towards a better solution. Also, the environment is dynamic. What worked yesterday, may need adjustment tomorrow. However, I do come here to hear Amanda’s voice… +++
The sad part to me about this video is I need to hear it 14 years ago. I've never done what I've wanted to do because I always looked for validation. When I was a kid, my teachers would ask me what I wanted to do when I grew up. I would say things like "I want to be a radio host" or "I want to be a video game tester" and they would say like "Oh, I wouldn't do that, they don't make enough money" or "You can't earn a living playing video games" ( boy were they wrong about that second one ). So I kept finding things and saying them until one day they said "That's great! You'll earn a lot of money that way". And that's how I've been living my life. I did the things that other approved of, mostly because of money. I don't hate the work I do, but I find it boring, it is not something I'm super passionate about, and I wish I could do something else. Now I have student loan debt, and a lot of it. So to me, dropping everything and doing something else seems impossible, which leaves me stuck here. Is it miserable? No. Do I wish I knew who I was and what I truly wanted. Moral of the story, don't blame yourself if you ended up chasing someone else's idea. It won't hurt you, but you will feel this itch, a burning itch that you haven't scratched and won't scratch until you chase it. Or, everything will itch, and you won't know what to scratch. Whatever you do, there is no failing. When Yoda says "Do or do not, there is no try", the "do not" part is okay, that's the typical "I failed doing" but you didn't fail, you just didn't accomplish the task yet, and that's okay!
Really? I did what I wanted to do initially and ended up broke, no career, living with my parents, and just being an all around unfulfilled and unaccomplished jackass. I wish i had people tell me what you where told. Being “true” to yourself sounds nice and empowering on paper, but before indulging in emotional gratification, what exactly are you being “true” to? Unless you’re a perfect person who isn’t prone to making mistakes, it’s not exactly inherently sound advice.
...Why do these videos always show up at the exact moment I am thinking and feeling the things described in the video. I relate to many of these things
This is so me, except for the copying others stuff. I dont really copy them I just want to fit it so I adapt some of their personalities or words that they say. Gosh, all this time I've been lying to myself without even noticing
I think "copying" is sometimes really good for you, depending on the situation! For example, you notice somebody is wearing a crop top and you love it. You take inspiration from them and also start wearing it; same goes for confidence (when confident people make you motivated to be confident yourself). To be frank, copying OFTEN has amazing efects imo.
2:29 When I was younger, my family was big and weird, and we had a family of cousins to share under one roof, my grandparents helped by housing all of us, parents included, my father was… violent and very problematic, he once brought a gang of people to the front of our house and the police had to get involved. I don’t know why, but at some point, I thought it was best to adopt the "Weird and annoying" personality, as a way to deflect the problems of the family, or perhaps, it was a coping mechanism to tell my parents and grandparents, "Hey! This one is extra weird, but good weird! He’s okay, and getting straight A’s.". Drama was a constant "filter" in my life, and it didn’t help being an introvert plus having a more adult-ish attitude; never got in trouble, was responsible for my age, and helped out the teachers and students, I basically had zero interest in the common things people have in school and as such, socially distant from conversation, I only talked a lot with my family, as even back then, the only real thing I valued was that: *Family.* This came back to bite me though as, one, my family told me "good job" with the grades thing, but that’s it, they’d bring it up not often, so my grades never really meant anything to me, two, I didn’t have that many likes or dislikes, I was a child, so I didn’t think much at all, so I just played and acted like one, so those two together made me focus on the only thing that existed in my life: my family and its problems, reflecting in my attitude of the "Annoying and weird older brother". I don’t know what I am outside of my family, I don’t even know if I *can* exist outside of my family, as they are the only reason I find a reason to be alive in the first place, I find no other reason to be alive in the first place, no one chooses to exist when they are born, after all…
3. You let yourself be defined by how others see you 5. You give your power to someone else 6. You procrastinate and... maybe 7. You justify your actions I'm working.. on those.. 😅 I ask too much about others' opinion and I procrastinate a lot too
i was doing all these i was being judged i recently got diagnosed with anxiety and depression but thnakfully i've come to appreciating myself a little more and the fact im alive
i try to be positive but its kinda hard when you know life will never be fair to you like no matter how much you help somebody they wont always help you back yes its nice to know you helped somebody but its not so nice when they dont care you helped them no its not fair its not fair at all its hard to be positive knowing that
I even procrastinate important things like going to the doctor and tell myself I am not that ill. We will see after a few days. I see it as avoiding change to my daily routine and uncertainity. Change is very hard for me.
I relate to 1) You tend to copy others. 2) You are a people pleaser. 3) You let yourself be defined by how others see you. 5) You give your power to someone else.
Theres so many people copying other like their lifestyle and fashion, and we are influenced bad manner to the other. Let us be true to ourselves, be influenced by the good friend and others.
This morning, we also did a video on why you could be feeling tired all the time. Let us know if you've saw it.
Hey psych!
I love your videos and the why your always tired video will be awesome. I can’t seem to stay awake in school
O I'll go check it out! :)
These are so helpful! Thank you 💞
I did,
I'm really tired all the time but i'm not one of the case that's in your video, I'm maybe just weird or too lazy to do anything
I cannnot stress enough how right the timing of this video is
Omg sameeee
Yesterday i was telling my friends i was so tired then Psych2Go's video, "Reasons Why Your Tired all The Time" came out 🤣
Same
Agree
S A M E and your comment was as well
Just a little bit suspicious, if you ask me... They collect data from our comments!!! (Duh)
Summary ❤️
1. You tend to copy others
2. You are a people pleaser
3. You let yourself be defined by how others see you
4. You attract drama into your life
5. You give your power to someone else
6. You procrastinate
7. You justify your actions
Wait..... this is literally me
I- this is exactly me..
I can relate to numbers 1, 3, 4, 6 and 7.
Thanks i wanted to see to videos but i don't have that much time and with help of ur comment i can see the second one
@@hubble__deeep same here oof
If your watching this, Do not lose hope for yourself.
I haven't, simple because the only thing I fall under is procrastination, but mine is due to a lack of motivation. I mean, what the f**k do I have to be afraid of in regards to doing the dishes or cleaning my house?
I haven’t yet! And thank you sooooooo much ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I'm watching the video but not your comment lol
Why
Thank you! I needed this!
"Above all, don't lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love."
-F. Dostoevsky
Agreed. A person that lies to themself can never know themself. When a person ultimately masters themself, they will consequently master their own life and conquer the world around them ( if they so choose)
More people need to see your comment, they probably need it In their life, I know I did. ❤ Thank You
me before watching: nah i’m totally not lying to myself
after: 👁👄👁
Stuff like this can be good or cause self doubt. Double edged blade.
@@Marzsala same
Same!!!!!
I’m trying to love my body and looks more cause it’s important. If you’re feeling bad about your appearance, just know everything will be okay and that I love you no matter what you look like. I hope you have a wonderful day, even if only 1 person sees this! Take care and remember to stay hydrated 💕
Thanks for the message! You to!
Also, never let yourself down,
Don’t run around or desert yourself.
Thanks❤️🥺
Iam a man trapped in a womens body. No mucsle just bone. Its been a long journey.
Honestly each video make me want be a psychologist so bad!! Love the content!
Take what they say with a grain of salt, because fear is not the only reason for procrastination.
Look up psychology courses, there are a few from Yale and Hopkins that are free! You won’t get a certificate if you want it free, but you get knowledge which leads to being a psychologist! If you pay about 50$, you can get a certificate though.
Right said
Love the voice
@@charbychu6113 truee 😭
*has homework
"i'll do it tommorow!"
*doesn't do it
"i'll do it tommorow."
Doesn’t do it tomorrow “😹
Same
Yup!
💯
these videos honestly help me understand what im feeling so im happy when i watch these vids😊
Glad to hear!
Same here
I feel more happy watching this than going to school
@@Psych2go Great Video
Psych2go do you have a video about involuntary celibacy.
I am nearly 30 and all women have rejected me since. So I never experience Love or a relationship. I am lonely all the time.
I feel there is no support for people like me.
So true, when I wasn’t able to name the feelings I was feeling, psych2go guided me thru it and showed me what they were and that it was okay to feel that way😊and it’s happy to know that I am not the only one
Gonna be honest: I teared up watching this video... I related to this in every way & never even knew it.
1. *You tend to copy others:* Not necessarily this, but my own version of other's projects while trying to find my own originality.
2. *You're a people pleaser:* I hate disappointing people, so I know this all-too-well, even to my own detriment, especially in terms of my health.
3. *You let yourself be defined what others think of you:* I try not to, but 2018 taught me a lot about what others truly thought about me, which is why I've become so defensive.
4. *You attract drama into your life:* I do videos on auto racing... That's a given sadly.
5. *You give your power to someone else:* ... My ex-boyfriend, who's still my roommate & whom I still care for very much... but lately I found out he thinks I'm clingy... even after our mutual split & him now dating someone else...
6. *You procrastinate:* I had always thought of procrastination as a fancy term for laziness. I never thought of it as putting things off due to being hesitant. That does define me because I do fear failing & disappointing other people... Guess that explains my so-called clinginess.
7. *You justify your actions:* Not just your actions but your thoughts & how you feel about things. Recently my comments reactions videos were chastised for me having to justify my thoughts & how I feel about things... Also recently I made the bed for my roommate & I, putting everything on it & I had to justify it as a way to conserve body heat because it was cold the previous night.
The thing is... if I haven't been true to myself, then who have I been?...
I do the first one most, I used the idea but I changed parts and put my own idea
Thank you for defining the steps❤️saves time
2018 was hard for me as well. A lot of people hated me at school then
Hi Dragon.Good. You know your self so well. Can you elaborate on what happened in 2018? Refer your 3rd point pl.
@@nightangalesweet9239 I'm apart of the NASCAR RUclips Community & have been for many years. In 2018 newer content creators started a podcast of sorts that is now known as the NASCAR Weekly Podcast. In May, the original cast added a new member named Darian & that's when the trouble started. For 6 months, without me knowing, I was basically a target of Darian & one of the original members named Jaret, & soon after others as well. The audience just ate it up & I had no clue about any of it until someone had asked me if I had heard of Darian...
Then in November I found the podcast & reviewed past episodes & realized how bad & stupid it really was. It really p!$$ed me off! I made a video calling out Darian & the show & correcting their lies with the truth & how I felt on things... & it ends up being my 4th most disliked video ever, with the other 3 being videos from years ago. To this day it also has the second most views among all the videos I posted in 2018.
I had no idea that people felt the way they did about me. Here I thought a few people saw me as "The NASCAR on FOX hater with the annoying voice." Nope, turns out I was nothing but everyone's punching bag & according to most of the community one of the least popular RUclipsrs in the community. People looked for any & all possible reasons to hate or hate on me.
Some people have seen how bad Darian really is since, but it doesn't take away from the fact that nothing I say or do will convince others to see how *I* feel about things. It's gonna take others messing up before people _finally_ see my perspective on things.
These are hitting home for me, lately I feel like my entire personality has been a sort of autopilot-cover up from my actual personality and that I'm very misunderstood and don't even like myself. It's all kind of pitted on wanting a significant other, but never having one. I'm aware this makes it so that I'm not exactly ready for a relationship, but I've been super dragged down and stressed, and I can't stop thinking about the people I'm in love with (one of them is 2D, lmao) but like this stuff sucks
Having a partner or getting in a relationship will not help it may give you some temporary happiness but once your still choosing to love them through hard things you’ll end up coming back to this feeling over and over wanting to fight for what’s good for you but then not really knowing. Having a partner that also wants to fight for you is amazing but those moments when they’re fighting for themselves and their needs you tend to become lost all over again.. I’m in that position rn
@@jordan8318 hMMMMM... 🤔 okay, I think I know what you're talking about. I'm sorry to hear that, I'd maybe reccomend talking to them about that, like because the whole special-ness of having a partner is that you can work out any emotion or issue you have by talking to them, that's what I want at least
I felt the same way for a while. Like I have asked myself 😅 I know who I want to be but how do I begin moving in it.
So, it is declared. You guys are stalking me ;-;
I hope it’s a high paying career
Good
😂🤣😂 and I thought I was the only one.
SO TRUE!!
They were following me too
Same :(
The procrastination one hit me like a truck.
hit me like a plane
Anyone who is here is wondering that about themselves
me: Im happy and fine
my brain: no you’re lying to yourself
You are lying to yourself...
• I can totally relate.
We really need to learn to care about ourselves first before anyone else. How can you make someone else happy when you are bleeding inside.
This video suddenly pops-out in my home 2 years later and these points hit home. Thank you psych2go for reminding me at the right time.
1. tend copy others, I mostly copy because I'm like other people, I have a broad and VERY extensive interests.
2. People pleaser, I know my limits and I know how to put myself over others when need be.
3. How others see me is important but it's not THAT important. I care what they say but I am me and nothing can change that.
4. Attracting Drama, unfortunately I live around them so kind of difficult to get away, but when I do, I don't. Though I do resolve them, I find it fun at times.
5. Give power to others, I give power to those I trust (trusted) because I am unsure or I want them to have little power.
6. Procastinate, I have a fear of failing myself.
I think you are doing very last step of this vid
@@celestewashereYT literally at the moment I am procrastinating but actuality of the concept of the video, no. I meant what I said. I'm not lying about it and I have a fear of failing myself, though I didn't add more of what I feel, I'm also afraid of failing others but like #3 I've grown out of that a bit, still working on it though with therapy, 6 is kinda weird for me and kinda difficult to explain.
4:36 OMG THE ANIMATION HERE IS SO CUTE
I spent 9 years being a people pleaser for someone I really thought cared about me.... over the 2020 lockdown I had time to reflect and realise the truth... that they didn’t care a damn about me. As I worked through it (6 months of daily self reflection and counting) I realised how crazy I was and felt so stupid for all the things I did.
Ironically, in many ways, as I improve my mental health, my life has got worse because all the little lies I told myself or excuses I made for others behaviors towards me that I excused are all now visible as total nonsense and thus the full sadness that actually no-one that I know actually cares is really hurting.
On the plus side, knowing that means I can move on from them and work to improve myself without their negative drag.
Now you can move on. Believe in your self and take it one day at a time.
Yessir brother you do you baby
I relate to almost all of these things, and ended up finding myself crying by the end of the video. But not in a bad way, it was more... helpful crying. Thank you so much to everyone behind this youtube channel, whoever it may be. This entire channel means a lot to many people, thank you so much, and keep up the absolutely fantastic work.
What actually makes me unique is that I take a little bit from everybody and add it to my personality and make my own mix of it all. People are there experiences throughout life
its so easy to say: put yourself first, do more for yourself
but too hard to do, when you feel that lonelines is about to absorb you any second. then anything i do for myself loses any postitive effect, i just struggle trying "to fulfill my own needs"
Surround yourself around good people to help you through it
The Beauty of Freedom is Immeasurable
The Satisfaction of Dignity is Divine
You Do Not Need to be Someone You Are Not
JUST you are FINE
The world Needs You
Because There is Only One You
And Only You Can Be You, Like You Do
LOVE from Cappadocia!
I didn't know how much suffering I'm going through until now. All of it is on point. I become selfish for myself.
i only related to half of these yet you made me cry when u told me that I'm a priority, and the decisions I make are the ones that make me safest and happiest. thank you for this!
all of these signs have shown up in all of our lives...if were honest...one thing for sure your soul wil never lie to you...♡♡
Word of warning, don't guard your heart behind walls of iron.
Behind those walls, a man can come to tell the most dangerous of lies.
A lie, once told, you come to believe yourself.
I relate to most of them. I think it's time to start taking care of myself and begin to listen to my own voice. Thank you. ♡
1. You tend to copy others
2. You're a people pleaser
3. You let yourself be defined by how others see you
4. You attract drama into your life
5. You give your power to someone else
6. You procrastinate
7. You justify your actions
omgg all of these apply to me
Number 6 hits so hard..
It's 2, 3, and 5 for me.
Please make a video about how or why artists struggle with their creations!!! (sculptures, drawings and such) and what your art says about you! pleaaaaseeeee!!!!
Love the creator of this channel, and love this community
Glad to have you in our community and great username!
been working to break some of these traits. have reduced some of my people pleasing and working on my procrastinating as well. gonna work on not giving up my power to others tomorrow when I talk to my friend in the morning. been working on increasing my productivity as well heavily,... gotta work out those "get stuff done" muscles in the brain.
Ayyy same!
Greatest advice someone told me don't be a follower be a leader. There is so much power in those words
This videos are the only thing keeping ne sane, and I really relate to this one. I will never be able to thank you enough
We're glad these videos have helped you in some way! Did you relate to this one? :)
Thank you for this , I was crying while watching this. This channel has help me a lot and see the things I need to reach out❤️
There's always something that I don't consider when taking action, and bit by bit, those unconsidered things ache at me. So it's hard to make my own decisions sometimes
Amanda your voice is so addictive and calming.
I absolutely love this channel and this community!! You're so supportive to each other 🥰🥰 and the topics you've talked about are really helpful!! Thank you so much!! 💓💓💓
I'd really like more videos like this, simple, caring, sharing some advice. I loved this one!
I can’t tell you how much I’m thankful for this video!
I love the wholesome animation! It's also really helpful
Each day i go though sone terrible situation mkaing me feel lots of terribke things...to tackle those u guys upload videos at such good ocasion. Cant thank you much for that.
Well number 5, looking back where I gave my power away and working on taking it back.
Number 3 made my tears come out
I learned that everyone has different versions of you and I know what they see me as
I always feel like tearing up after watching your videos becuz i realized how much i can relate to them ♡
This video helped to confirm what I have concluded about myself, I want to change but I have been like this for so long its hard to know where to start putting things right.
Out of all the videos, this is the one I probably needed to hear the most.
You made psychology interesting and easy to access,you are doing a great job
These videos are so informative and so relaxing, I had no idea I was lying to myself!
These videos are of great health to me because it makes me feel that I am not alone and there are solution to my problems
Thank you psych2go. You are really doing an amazing job making these videos❤️
We're so happy to know that you find them helpful! Did you relate to this video? :)
I thought this was just me, finally started learning about 2 years ago and it’s helped a lot. Thank you for truly great information!
I don't relate to this but my former friend does, he would copy me on my ideas, names and even possibly my outfit. Also, he denies everything I say so he wouldn't be embarrassed by the aftermath. He does manipulate people to get on his side like my friends to use it against me. If I would give him important advice like reflectance or morals but he would just ignore it. When I ask him to stop copying me. He would just agree and ignore it afterwards. While I was trying to solve the problem with his sister, he would lie about how he forgot to ask me when it happened 7 times already. He even plagiarize his community into thinking it was his idea when it was originally from me. I wish I never became friends with him.
Generally people are malevolent and tend to be jealous. I live in such family, where everyone is trying to drag me down, so I don't succeed, because I will make them feel bad for actually trying to be a better human being, instead of procrastinating, having no hobbies and having no real life goals.
I just know that best friend- from a best friend who seems so optimistic and perfect, i cant help but wanna be such an angel to others as she is!!
This video, sum up my life. I always been a people pleasure because I’m always lonely & wanted friends to accept me for my flaws. Sometimes, I just wanna give up.
You made me realize I’m actually close to myself. Thank you! ❤
Your voice is so calming, these videos have helped me so much! 💖
I love psych2go so much! You will never know how much I really needed this video. Thank you❤
Thank you so much for make this video!!
Ideas for videos:
7 signs that you have depression
7 signs that your friends are distancing away from you
7 signs that you are an introvert
7 signs that you are being toxic
They already did all of those 💅👀👄👀
@Celtic Revival / Adfywiad Celtaidd hi im Shae Reub and im a Psych2go addict
I guess I’m lying to myself
How many signs did you relate to?
I'm wanna to say a big thank you for the video, i'm literally crying now because of the content and also the music, i want to hear the full music but don't know the title of the music itself 😭😭
I actually do relate to all of them except for the one about attracting drama, I try to stay away from it. But I actually think I needed to see this, I’ve been feeling really lonely lately and no matter what I do people always seem to leave. :/
Thank you. This is the hat I needed
Most of these are something that I can't resonate with anymore, but there is procrastination. I finally got my passport to following my dreams and I'm happy about that. Thanks for having me check myself!!
okay but the thing is, i don’t know who my true self is. i have so many different personalities and styles and there are so many places i want to see myself but yet i cant reach any of those places because i don’t know where to go. i don’t know who i am. there’s people stopping me from being who i want to be to where i have to make up a new person i “want” to be so i can be pleased by everyone. how do i become my true self. how do i know which persona is actually me and not one i force myself to be. sometimes i even hate myself because i don’t know who i am and i genuinely can’t figure it out. it stresses me a lot. i really just wanna know my actual self. not the made up versions of myself. do you guys understand?
Thank you for all the videos you make. You have made me see what I can do to improve myself into a better life. Like this vid for example, I can relate to most of these like I have a hard time saying no and I like to please people I don'tlike letting people down. And I am scared of what people think of me if I say no. I do not want them to think I am a bad friend or family member.Your videos are really inspiring me to make small changes in what I do without completely changing who i am. Again, I say thank you. 😁
Thank you pschyc2go .....it is always a coincidence tht whtever emotional stress i feel at the point of time you will always launch a video in which u mention the answer of my stress....wht a coincidence
Good video. It give you a lot to think about. Thanks for sharing.
So a couple months ago my grandpa died, and my entire childhood reminded me of him, so I've been taking on a new personality. This is unsettling how perfect the timing was.
I just say thank you... Sometimes isn't easy to remember when we are doing something for yourself... Sometimes it's hard to take a own choice when you care about what are thinking other person (specially when they are from family) but self is always first. 😊
No problem! We're happy to help!! Did you relate to any of these signs?
@@Psych2go sometimes I can't stop to be a people pleaser, I like to help others (and that's ok) but sometimes I can't see when something is going to far... but I'm working with that. Thank you, for you and everyone in this channel.
Watching these videos really make me question my mental health
Thank you for giving me this information this will help me a lot
…1… You copy others.
No. I carve my own path.
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…2… You’re a people pleaser.
Well, I try to find win-win situations. However, I don’t bend over backwards for anyone that has not earned my trust.
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…3… You let yourself be defined by how others see you.
No. I am not a monster because I am not taller than average.
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…4… You attract drama into your life.
No. I really make an effort to avoid drama.
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…5… You give your power to someone else.
Only to one person. That is hard to take back.
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…6… You procrastinate.
No. I am rather pro-active. However, I do delay certain actions if I feel that there is a more appropriate time coming up.
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…7… You justify your actions.
I constantly review actions and outcomes. That is always a good plan towards a better solution. Also, the environment is dynamic. What worked yesterday, may need adjustment tomorrow. However, I do come here to hear Amanda’s voice…
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Oh God, this video is a blessing for me. Thank you very much, this absolutely helped me to figure it out what is hapening right now in my daily life.❤
The sad part to me about this video is I need to hear it 14 years ago. I've never done what I've wanted to do because I always looked for validation. When I was a kid, my teachers would ask me what I wanted to do when I grew up. I would say things like "I want to be a radio host" or "I want to be a video game tester" and they would say like "Oh, I wouldn't do that, they don't make enough money" or "You can't earn a living playing video games" ( boy were they wrong about that second one ). So I kept finding things and saying them until one day they said "That's great! You'll earn a lot of money that way".
And that's how I've been living my life. I did the things that other approved of, mostly because of money. I don't hate the work I do, but I find it boring, it is not something I'm super passionate about, and I wish I could do something else. Now I have student loan debt, and a lot of it. So to me, dropping everything and doing something else seems impossible, which leaves me stuck here. Is it miserable? No. Do I wish I knew who I was and what I truly wanted.
Moral of the story, don't blame yourself if you ended up chasing someone else's idea. It won't hurt you, but you will feel this itch, a burning itch that you haven't scratched and won't scratch until you chase it. Or, everything will itch, and you won't know what to scratch.
Whatever you do, there is no failing. When Yoda says "Do or do not, there is no try", the "do not" part is okay, that's the typical "I failed doing" but you didn't fail, you just didn't accomplish the task yet, and that's okay!
Really? I did what I wanted to do initially and ended up broke, no career, living with my parents, and just being an all around unfulfilled and unaccomplished jackass.
I wish i had people tell me what you where told. Being “true” to yourself sounds nice and empowering on paper, but before indulging in emotional gratification, what exactly are you being “true” to? Unless you’re a perfect person who isn’t prone to making mistakes, it’s not exactly inherently sound advice.
So far I have learned that I hate myself, im depressed, I suppress my emotions and now I know I'm not my true self. Let hunt for some more video's !
every time y’all post i’m feeling some type of way. and it’s usually the way that’s described in the video 😬
...Why do these videos always show up at the exact moment I am thinking and feeling the things described in the video. I relate to many of these things
This is so me, except for the copying others stuff. I dont really copy them I just want to fit it so I adapt some of their personalities or words that they say. Gosh, all this time I've been lying to myself without even noticing
Wow. Such an eye opener
I've changed myself so much to please people, I hope this video helps...
6 signs match with my nature except procrastinator. Thanks a lot for the video, and I am trying to accept who I am and grow constantly.
Thanks for this vid!
I think "copying" is sometimes really good for you, depending on the situation! For example, you notice somebody is wearing a crop top and you love it. You take inspiration from them and also start wearing it; same goes for confidence (when confident people make you motivated to be confident yourself). To be frank, copying OFTEN has amazing efects imo.
Lovely cartoons! 🥰 The happy ending of the video is very pleasant 😌 & the friendly drawings, too! 👌🤩
2:29 When I was younger, my family was big and weird, and we had a family of cousins to share under one roof, my grandparents helped by housing all of us, parents included, my father was… violent and very problematic, he once brought a gang of people to the front of our house and the police had to get involved.
I don’t know why, but at some point, I thought it was best to adopt the "Weird and annoying" personality, as a way to deflect the problems of the family, or perhaps, it was a coping mechanism to tell my parents and grandparents, "Hey! This one is extra weird, but good weird! He’s okay, and getting straight A’s.".
Drama was a constant "filter" in my life, and it didn’t help being an introvert plus having a more adult-ish attitude; never got in trouble, was responsible for my age, and helped out the teachers and students, I basically had zero interest in the common things people have in school and as such, socially distant from conversation, I only talked a lot with my family, as even back then, the only real thing I valued was that: *Family.*
This came back to bite me though as, one, my family told me "good job" with the grades thing, but that’s it, they’d bring it up not often, so my grades never really meant anything to me, two, I didn’t have that many likes or dislikes, I was a child, so I didn’t think much at all, so I just played and acted like one, so those two together made me focus on the only thing that existed in my life: my family and its problems, reflecting in my attitude of the "Annoying and weird older brother".
I don’t know what I am outside of my family, I don’t even know if I *can* exist outside of my family, as they are the only reason I find a reason to be alive in the first place, I find no other reason to be alive in the first place, no one chooses to exist when they are born, after all…
3. You let yourself be defined by how others see you
5. You give your power to someone else
6. You procrastinate
and... maybe 7. You justify your actions
I'm working.. on those.. 😅 I ask too much about others' opinion and I procrastinate a lot too
The signs that I can relate to are the fact that I copy others, I'm a bit of a people pleaser, I procrastinate and I let myself be defined by others.
i was doing all these i was being judged i recently got diagnosed with anxiety and depression but thnakfully i've come to appreciating myself a little more and the fact im alive
made me teary-eyed
Under the procrastination lies a fear of failure, making a mistake or not being enough.
Never thought that I am lying to myself the whole time.
i try to be positive but its kinda hard when you know life will never be fair to you like no matter how much you help somebody they wont always help you back yes its nice to know you helped somebody but its not so nice when they dont care you helped them no its not fair its not fair at all its hard to be positive knowing that
I even procrastinate important things like going to the doctor and tell myself I am not that ill. We will see after a few days. I see it as avoiding change to my daily routine and uncertainity. Change is very hard for me.
Proud of myself for knowing that for a fact before watching the video.
*cries inside*
I relate to
1) You tend to copy others.
2) You are a people pleaser.
3) You let yourself be defined by how others see you.
5) You give your power to someone else.
Im very happy that I have change, I am this when I was 17 yrs old 🤧
How to change ?
Please help 🥺
Yeah that was me from childhood now it's so hard to change.
Theres so many people copying other like their lifestyle and fashion, and we are influenced bad manner to the other. Let us be true to ourselves, be influenced by the good friend and others.