Chasing Unavailable Love is Self-Abandonment
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- Опубликовано: 5 сен 2024
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Every time you move towards unavailable people, you move further away from the real, authentic love that is waiting for you.
Chasing love is a form of self-abandonment.
In the space of seeking external validation forms an absence of self-love and care.
Imagine what you could be doing with all of the energy you're projecting outwards?
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What would you have to be with inside of yourself if you weren't distracted with this pattern?
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Where did you form the belief that the love you want exists in people who don't really see you?
Take a moment and get present with yourself.
Whatever has driven you to chase someone who doesn't share the same vision for a relationship with you is powerful.
Stop giving that power away. Take all of that energy and bring it home.
Love that only flows one way is not rooted in truth.
No, it's not possible they just don't see it yet.
There is nothing you can say or do to change them.
This game of cat and mouse is one giant distraction from your own healing.
Underneath this compulsion to seek externally, is a deep desire to feel safe, heard, seen, valued, loved, and respected.
Can you give that to yourself? Can you let go of the idea that this person is the solution to your problem? Release yourself of this cycle.
It only perpetuates an old story. And you don't have to live there any longer.
On the other side of this pattern is honest, authentic love that flows in both directions.
Slow down for a moment and tune in. What is it that your heart needs today? What is it that you need to do for your own self-care?.
We don't heal on our own, but we cannot heal when we're chasing the wrong things.
Seek connection and safety in a trusted friend or family member. Reach out and schedule a coaching or counselling session, join a support group, do some breath-work, go to yoga.
Find practices that nurture a new pattern in you.
You are so deeply lovable. Please don't abandon yourself.
There is an abundance of love to go around, and it's up to you to do the work to let that love in.
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People who can't be available to you, usually aren't even available to themselves.
"take this energy and bring it home" WOW that's powerful!
right?
bring it home baby
Hi Sheleana. I just started reading an advanced copy of your new book. I am definitely trapped in this cycle, or have been. I just did an inner child healing meditation for my 8 year old self who lost his best girl friend on the playground when she went down south to Tennessee from Michigan for chemotherapy. I see the patterns clearly and have for a long time. I see the patterns almost too clearly. My first two girlfriends were both cancer patients and my second girlfriend would travel a lot and send me postcards with notes on them. After doing the meditation I realized this is what my inner child had been missing. Correspondence from my girl friend on the playground and reassurance that she was safe and okay. After I got that, I tried to make things work with her but I was too afraid of getting close to someone. I have suffered a LOT from self abandonment over the past three or four years instead of walking my own path and having faith that things would work out and it tears me up inside knowing how much time I've wasted. Just typing this out is bringing me more emotional clarity. To anyone reading this, don't be afraid to walk your own path no matter who is waiting at the end of it or who will join you during your journey. That's not for us to decide most of the time in my opinion, no matter how much we wish things would be a certain way. That being said, I also think there is something to be said for being patient with others and giving them support and loyalty when it is warranted because a lot of men are really struggling during this "new age" so to speak and have a hard time balancing being soft and strong, and have a hard time finding and embodying what it means to be masculine in this changing world. As a 38 year old man who has dealt with losing close friends and love interests or exes my whole life and a lot of grief your book is really helping me a lot. I look forward to reading the rest and thank you for offering the services that you do. God Bless and if there are any other books or materials you would recommend please let me know.
The Body Keeps Score.
I find this to be completely true for men as well. I felt totally in tune with what you said. I had a recent relationship in which I felt all of the above. I was feeling all my love flowing outwards, seeking a good enough connection with her, until I felt very depleted. Unfortunately had to stop the relationship and I’m slowly getting back to myself and my wee boy in me.
Whatever happens it is important at some point to get back to yourself..😉
You have the most comforting voice which is filled with pure love. Thank you for such a powerful message.
pinkstawbus thank you 🙏 sending love your way 🙏
she does right? Not the light-speed of other youtubers
Following you from FB, I love your energy and your voice
Yep all my romantic relationships . I’ve spent 4 years single. Working on myself 🌱
I need to listen to this daily
The sound of your voice is so soothing.
This is what I needed to hear, thank you. I keep coming back to this video as it really, really drives home the message for me. It's almost as if you are telling me face to face. Thanks!
I love your Facebook and IG content. This channel is wonderful too! Thank you for supporting and inspiring us💞
Another fantastic video! Such an important message. I get questions and comments about this topic on my channel all the time. Thank you for what you do 🙌🏼
right? such an important topic!!!
Wow! You are really trying to empower people. ( Not only women, I guess it might be applicable to men as well). :)
very powerful indeed! To all of us
God bless you for putting this in such simple words...it's a blessing for us all... thanks
J adoooooore. Thank you. Please do more video youtube.
Thank you💞
Τhank you a lot for this reminder! It's indeed essential.
it's always good to be reminded ✨🙏🏻✨🙏🏻
THis is exactly what I needed. Thank you xxx
Thank you!! 😭
Thank you I needed to ear r this... thanks again 😍
thank you for keeping it real, Shay!
real and simple! incredible
Thank you for this!!! You help me remember my power and strength!
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So powerful thank you 🙏
Love for many people is an addiction not truly love. There is no price to pay for actual love
This is powerful. Thank you! :)
Thank you🙏🏻💚
It's an illusion isn't... It is the degree to which there's a wound ignored unloved parts of self.
Love this.❤️
Thank you😙
Oh this gives me goosebumps, love it so much💕💕
Thank you!!
Amazing insight !!!!!!🙏💖
Thank you!
So true……I see now❤️
Living in a relationship without no love is self disgrace 😂. I prefer to have quality time and love my man! The body chooses the best match the available or not is a social conditioning.😊 I fully trust my body and wanna enjoy my man, available or not... ❤ I hated my marriage and social arrangements. I was very unhappy in all that stuff. My body chooses a man and I trust my body fully intirely! If he doesn't choose me then it is OK, but it is Very rare nature knows the best match!❤ it never makes mistakes!
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SUPER SMART
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Obviously I can’t 🤷♀️
how to be seen, heard and loved by myself?
The inner child healing meditation is not coming through to my e-mail, I tried three times, different e-mails.
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Love what you said. I talk about mindset on my channel and I love the points you pointed out. Thanks for sharing
Thank you ❤
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