I’m a psychology student. They actually know why some people develop PTSD and others with the same traumatic experience don’t: social support. Literally the difference between developing PTSD or recovering within a month depends on your social support system and whether you have people who care, protect or look after your wellbeing. It’s overwhelmingly consistent in the research that terrible relationships are a risk factor for PTSD.
The social support is often not there for so many suffering from narcissistic abuse. Narcissists will isolate you and remove you from your support network of family and friends.
The latest argument I had with my mother I pointed out to her that everyone of us who sits around her table has an auto immune disease or has IBS …. Except her ……..🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
All my siblings have autoimmune syndrome except for my mother who has always said she never had any disease but pregnancies. Before I knew anything about narcissists and psychos I thought she was the strongest person in the world. Now I know better.
This is so true. I got asthma from a lifetime of wicked abuse (satanic mom). Always sick, ever since childhood my body has been trying to die (first emergency hospitalization at 2) Now I invest into my health. I do proper nutrition. God provides (every time!) money for supplements. I observe Sabbath every week from Friday evening to Saturday evening. This topic should be given more attention because health is such a resource. (to work, to get out, to function properly, to survive when necessary) And also any modern day narcissists - I make radical mental boundaries. Don't even say hello. Every time they do something bad to me - I do something good to myself. All credit belongs to God for guiding me, for teaching me this.
Truth, I was diagnosed with lupus, arthritis and epilepsy and then CPTSD. My dad was a psychopath and mom is a narcissist. They both abuse of me for all through child and up when I turned 40. I am 43 now and fully cut off estranged. My health is good now and my mental health is good too. It took a lot of work to get here.
@@MultiFungirl123 I'm sorry to hear that. For me it took a long time, our nervous systems have been working overtime for years to survive and it takes a lot to heal that. Have you heard of Irene Lyon? She has fantastic work on RUclips for healing trauma through nervous system.
Inflammation and rage are linked. It took me decades to acknowledge the repressed rage. Rage quietly simmers after abuse, betrayal poor boundary setting etc.. A life of severe inflammation for me, arthritis from age 18, weird undiagnosable stuff. I was addicted to the idea of family, it's hard to walk away from the narcissistic members means it means losing all of others who are loving and genuine - they just weren't the targets of the narcs so didn't get the depth of the toxicity. I'm tired of the judgement people have for going no contact with narcissists, but then, if you haven't lived it, you can't believe that that level of mind-f*ck even exists!
I have ALOT siblings and over half of them don't fully understand what is going on with my mom. None of them will agree it's a good move to walk away and I will lose at least 4 of them. I can't convince myself to walk away because it will cause pain to so many who don't deserve it. My mom spirals and lashes out at others when she feels rejected. I've backed away significantly and each time I take a step back my siblings get hurt even further. I'm an ENFJ, this eats my soul. It's pain for me if I stay but pain for others if I go. I know it isn't healthy but I just don't know what to do. I also genuinely love my mom, as mean as she can be sometimes I know it's because her mother did the same to her. And boy was her mother a case. My poor momma didn't deserve that. But I don't deserve it, either. Thank heaven for Jesus, He is the reason my kids will never know that life.
Sending hugs to you, they destroyed my life and are my blood!,trying to restart from scratches, bit it isnt easy, looks like I will never be a good fit for perm roles, but I am good to be screwed like a lemon in temp ones!..and my human rights? I can such them up!
Me too and I ended up with several autoimmune diseases and have a “Multiple autoimmune Syndrom” and also several allergies. I’m disabled, housebound and most of the time bedridden. And my mother stole 1,5 million dollars of the inheritance I got from my dad and then kicked me out of the family. My sister is not allowed to have contact with me. She’s so afraid of our mother that she does what ever our mother tells her to do. (My mother is in her 70ties, my sister and I in our 40ties). 🤬🤮🤬
Me, too, with my narc Dad. I had never had it before until I took care of him as his "live in employee" for 7 years as he had a stroke and needed help. At about year 6, I started developing autoimmune symptoms which freaked me out. He then died. My symptoms are now 95% gone 2 years after his death...the ultimate no contact.
Same that a narc mother rather being concerned with child’s sickness, in fact seems happy, may be she thinks the child being under total control! How sad!
Absolutely yes…so true. Diagnosed with an autoimmune disease when I was with the narc. I was under a tremendous amount of stress and anxiety during the relationship. Diagnosed in 2021, became fully paralyzed. Left the narc about a year ago, and I am almost 90% recovered.
I was told I had an autoimmune disease but they didn't know exactly what it is. Just that I had medium-high inflammation and that my immune system was attacking something it wasn't supposed to. Also have chronic migraines. Allergies too. My hands will sometimes just stop working all of a sudden, as well as my knees.
Interesting! My older brother is a narc demon himself, a walking plague. He has diabetes, thyroid, AND Addison's disease. He probably has a lot of other crap too. I've heard that if you have diabetes and develop thyroid problems you will inevitably end up with Addison's. I wonder how true that is. I also wonder what happened to him that he became so sick. Diabetes and thyroid issues run in my family. Luckily, I have no illnesses myself. I'm still waiting for the fight or flight to let up so I can fall apart. Yaay.
I’m a survivor of Narcissistic abuse from Biological Mother, Foster Parents as well as personal relationships. I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD, Connective Tissue Disease, as well as Fibromyalgia. I just wish they make this a crime, lots of people need to be in Prison and Stay there.
I'm right there with you. My mother is a narcissist and abused me physically and mentally. I have c-PTSD, anxiety, and depression as well as RA, fibromyalgia, EDS, and Parkinsonism.
I'm sorry. I think you're right tho. There has to be a connection between this and the way parents and caregivers take care of children. Back in the day, you didn't see autoimmune disorders like these. I mean it did not start to the degree it is now until the 70s and 80s and has become progressively worse. It's as though parents decided to stop wanting to be good parents and the kids are suffering. I'm not sure what will cure this problem other than people becoming better parents. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
@pinktruffles5156 I had fibromialga and hashimotoes. Those led to nutritional deficiencies and anemia. I slowly became sicker over a 15-year period with the last two years being bedridden, I had muscel waisting, and my mind definitely was not ok. Doctors told me I'd be this way always. I had every side effect from the medications they tried on me, I could not tolerate them. I got past one day over my situation, and I found myself in. I started finding online tons of people with similar situations that healed, and I tried their advice. Some.workwd some didn't. I found a functional medicine doctor who tested my nutrition and found the deficiencies. I took suppliments for those. I changed my diet to an anti inflamitory one and drank bone broth for a while to heal my gut. I learned to take very good care of myself as a life of abuse teaches you how to neglect yourself. I found a councilor who works very well with trama and did not take insurance, so she could work with her clients outside the system and tried therapies on me that are not accepted in traditional therapies. EMDR seems to be very effective. I also went on to somatic healing therapies. I started doing yoga one day. I could barely get out of bed and hold a pose, but I did it for 15 seconds, then the next time 30 seconds, then a minute. Then I was moving around better. I found a yoga studio that I started going to. I'd do the class for 10 minutes, then sit there the rest of the time, then it was 15 minutes. I could make it, then 20 and so forth. Now, I have healed enough to have a totally healed workout. In the meantime, in therapy, I also learned boundaries, self-acceptance, how to not let toxic people affect me, and how to keep a detached state around them. I found healthier people to be around me, supportive people. All of this was addressing the physical, spiritual, and mindful aspects of myself, and I grew a new me.
Hi Kevin,, I whole heartedly believe in everything you’re saying!!,, I’ve suffered my entire life by the hands of others,, heart problems, severe anxiety, depression, insomnia,, No Contact is the only way to heal !,,,
During 19 year span that I spent with my `wife` - I developed a digestive disorder IBS, and thick skin eczema on both feet. After the divorce, way back in 2013, the Digestive disorder healed and the skin disorder is healing. Though, I had to cut out toxic people from my life in general.
I developed eczema on my lower legs. I am just using lotion to relieve the itching. I had no such issues before I started to live with a covert narcissist. How did you get rid of your skin condition?
@@felfalitpodcast192 - I got rid of my digestive issues, but I had developed eczema on feet. I used cutaneous foam and the eczema decreased. However, I will restart the treatment with Cutaneous foam once more to eliminate what is left. Stay calm and love yourself. Place your energy for yourself first. I use Enstilar foam - it is a steroid- always consult doctor first.
After a physically and emotionally abusive 22 year marriage and my husband being removed from the home by the courts in 2007, I developed Graves Disease with all its accompanying symptoms. I was lucky (so far) to escape the Graves Ophthalmopathy, however in February of 2020 I went into Thyroid Storm which caused me to go into full atrial fibrillation and heart failure. I almost lost my life and was hospitalized for three days after my heart and blood pressure stabilized. Prolonged and sustained stress and fear from abuse will absolutely take a toll on your physical and emotional well being.
this is horrible, I feel for you!! Thyroid storm must have been really scary. Also untreated Graves also messes with you mentally as well as physically issues, which are distressing enough. I also developed Graves about 2 years into my (first) toxic relationship. I ended up having to have thyroid removed. It flared again later after having to deal with a toxic boss
@@Chezzalicious I'm so sorry. Yes, it was quite harrowing for a while. I've been managing it for years, but there are times I still feel the effects. A year after the dissolution of my marriage, I was lucky enough to meet a wonderful man who stepped into the role of "husband"' and father to my 6 children and cared for us all for 13 years. Unfortunately he developed a rare and very aggressive form of liver cancer, and two years ago this May he passed away, so the stress and grief of his loss (coupled with the impending menopause symptoms I was experiencing at the time..UGH! sorry if that's TMI) have exacerbated the symptoms some, but I do have a great support system around me. I have been discussing treatment options with my physician other than medication which I've been on for years now. I'm sorry you've had to deal with toxic people and I'm glad this topic has been broached because it's long been my contention that stress and prolonged PTSD and CPTSD can have devastating effects on a person's physical and emotional health. I always suspected that the abuse sustained during my marriage was the catalyst. I hope you're recovering and feeling much better. Best wishes and much love. 💖
@@cymbelinebritain6799 wow that is a lot... & I'm sorry for your loss... It is so nice to hear you met someone who was so good to you and your family for as long as he was able though. Unfortunately I haven't been so blessed in that department but I am learning all the time on how to best look after myself. Videos like this give us much needed validation! Thanks so much for your wishes and all the best to you in your journey to optimal health ❤
@@flamingsword777 Thank you so much and I'm glad to hear you recovered. How frightening! I luckily did not develop cancer but it's miraculous that you survived storm without medical intervention because without it, it's generally fatal in about 90% of the cases. So glad to hear you're on a journey of healing. That's what this channel is all about isn't it? Bless you as well and I wish you all the best. 💗💞
Dude, I have been waiting and waiting for this video. Thank you so much! After suffering 30 years of narcissistic abuse from my step father, then enabling mother turned narcissist herself, being gas lit for being mentally ill and having my mom lie to a therapist to try to get me committed to a mental hospital, called all my friends and told them not to help me when I was in Turkey and had a problem with my airline ticket and needed help buying another so I could fly home to American, moving across the planet for 8 years just to be as far away as possible, living across the country from them, alienation from my narcissistic father, serial abuse by bully bosses, serial abuse by narcissistic women, 20 years of super hard drinking to try to check out from the pain, I got a phone call from my new Dr. I was surprised to hear she said it was serious and that I needed to come in right away. Despite quitting drinking for several years and being super healthy and active, like almost bodybuilding like dedication to training, I struggled with getting bloated. It turns out I had acquired hypothyroidism, or Hashimoto's, my body stopped making enough thyroid and it was from being way over stressed for way too long. I was in denial about how serious it was, so I tried going off the medicine I have to take every day or I will die. Within a month I went from like 230lbs to 270, while exercising and dieting. I was nearly in hospital and had to get back on my synthetic thyroid hormone medicine. Now, years later I have various weird things breaking down, skin rashes, too much mucus, asthma problems, inflammation and all of it is from my autoimmune disease. I am now allergic to food I that never bothered me before. I am terribly gluten intolerant, awful with too much sugar or carbs, on some days dairy wipes me out, so I mostly eat red meat. If I get stressed or too nervous now my body just gets sick, it's crazy. So on top of everything else I now have to be super diligent about not taking anything too seriously, lest I break out in a rash or start swelling up. None of the several doctors that I have to see understand me when I tell them I have autoimmune from narcissistic abuse and stress, or even that ALL of my health problems are from my autoimmune disease, which is the root cause of all of them. They act like I am crazy for suggesting such a connection. I live in Florida, they are in Montana, I am happily married and have a great job, went to Eagle Scout, Academic Scholarships to college, degree in cellular biology, all State Musician- trombonist, martial arts champion and instructor, highly skilled sales manager and I am the black sheep of my family. I went no contact with my family 4 months ago because I realized the relationship was literally killing me. I got gout about 15 years ago it was one of the first major things that went wrong with me.
Hashimotos is very common from narcissistic abuse. Yeah you have to take that thyroid hormone for the rest of your life, because the body isnt making it and its a critical hormone for the metabolism of food. A terrible but relatable story about the string of abusive bosses and women and I can add toxic "friends" to that list as Im sure you can too. People-pleasing, fawning, hyper-vigilance, anxiety, depression, self-doubt, low-esteem, unable to function, fear of people and places, the list goes on. Good to hear you are back on your feet and have a good life. Gives me hope I can find love and support also. Meditation is the way to gain strength over the tendency to ruminate and have racing and catastrophic thinking. Meditation, if done correctly enables mastery over your attention, like exercising a muscle, you develop the ability to calmly observe the mind, once removed in what they call the "Witness" position, rather than identify and latch on to every arising thought and become emotionally involved and follow it along to a catastrophic conclusion. This Witness meditation breaks the vicious circle of anxiety giving rise to anxious thoughts which reinforces anxiety which gives rise to anxious thoughts ad nauseum.
My heart goes out to you. I know what it feels like.. though not due to parents, bless them! My savioyr has only been the love, confidence and the secure childhood they gave me.. and support from a few lovely people. Have been handling Rheumatoid arthritis, Cemento osdifying fibroma of the jaw and Fuchs corneal Dystrophy since 20 odd years. What i do know is one can throw away the shackles if you value and trust yourself; and open your heart to healing and being whole again. My RA is seronegative now since 3 years. The fibroma turned out to be benign and is steadily contained. And Fuchs is very very slow to progress. I am fully into taking to each day with enthusiasm and living and loving (esp myself) with abandon. Healing is yours if you connect with and let into your soul, Mother Nature and Goodness around you. There may be starting troubles. But don't give up. Best wishes, love and healing vibes right at you
I developed hypothyroidism in my mid 30s and further serious health problems after 20 years of narcissistic abuse 😢 I wish I could turn back the clock and get my health back but leaving the relationship has added me years that would have been lost had I of stayed I'm very certain
@@ang3956 yes, all survivors want to turn that clock back. And that causes rumination going forward, at least for me. Therefore, even if removed from a toxic relationship, they still haunt you forever. They are the devil.
After a toxic work environment and prior bullying in high school, I developed MS…I believe 100% this is true! Once I left that environment, the MS never got worse…22 years later, you would not be able to tell visually that I have MS
I’ve had MS for 14 years and just got out of DV. I have MS and my disease has never been better! In med #9 in 14 years but was diagnosed 1.5 years into abusive marriage. I’ve always felt they were connected, especially the emotional neglect.
Had a nurse that lived next door to me growing up and she put my mother on the spot in front of me when I was about six years old. I had hives more often than not. Lots of them all over my body. Scratching in public was not something that was common in my neighborhood or the school I attended. This nurse also went to our church. She asked my mother when was she going to do something about my hives? My mother answered her as if my suffering was inconsequential, " Oh, they always go away." By the time I hit middle school I had ulcers, and by the time I was in high school I had suffered so many outbreaks of hives they could be as large as a football on any or many parts of my body severely affecting my ability to do the work and duties she had assigned me to do. Endless chores, and no affection and a relative amount of disdain for me. She could not support me in much of anything and she pretended that no one would notice. No accountability, no remorse, no apologies, and especially on empathy! I feel so sorry for others who had to start out their lives this way! I then dated covert narcissist for years only to realize that he was good at faking concern but had no real ability to truly love or exhibit any real giving or appreciation or remorse or empathy etc. I realized that he was just like her. Then I had children and suffered with their narcissist dad. What a life! If we could explore the true environment that babies, children and minor are living in we would probably be able to help people before they are struck down at an early age with such maladies as this and all the other autoimmune disorders that you mentioned. If someone turns you stomach inside out or just turns it that is for me a big red flag!! Most people do not tell on their abusers because they have no where else to go and children can only opt to run away! Or stay . Both choices are dangerous!!!!! Crying Shame!!! So I have studied Psychology for over forty years and people are still like ostriches with their heads buried in the sand. Thankfully I discovered the one and only Sam Vaknin. He saved my life!!!!! He said every term that you hear on Utube concerning narcissitic abuse he invented except grey rock! He has been working on this since 1996, and I wish I had a computer to find him on. Twenty long years staying before I watch his videos one after another and he was so spot on about everything that my now ex of eight years was putting me through daily. WOW! It was like the song , Strumming My P ain With His Fingers . Saying my life with his words, I broke down and cried hard !!! They love to make you suffer.They manipulate the truth. They believe their own lies and expect everyone else to.
Lord your story is almost just like mine except I suffered with Asthma as a child where my good breathing days were far lower than the some of the worst Covid patients. I nearly died as my mom smoked over me, and stressed me to the max by threatening to give up my only source of love and companionship my cat. We should talk. I also have two Psych Degrees and dates narcs. Now I’ve got more Auto Immune Diseases. I understand you. I don’t know you but I know you.
12 years old: cooking dinner, working at a grocery store, “endless chores “, cutting the grass, walking uphill everywhere including to school . Dealing with lupus
@@jackidezell3736 Hi Jacki DeZell! I rarely comment but felt compelled to this time. Let me say one thing for sure, it is never wise to date a narcissist!!!!! People do androids. 😂 It just came up on the word choice screen when I was attempting to spell the word and,... And I decided with humor to go with that instead of finishing my original sentence. 😆. Haha! So back to what I was going to say is that it takes a long time for most people to ascertain just what thou hast wrought upon thyself? Opps!!! What have we here? Oh no not again! We were programed upon arrival to planet 🌎. A truly crying Shame! The trouble is that by the time you hit that lightbulb moment, you have another narc on your hands and in your life and you told them your past and now they weaponise it against you in the subtlest of ways so it is impossible for you to defend yourself. By then a person is very emotionally invested and lets it go this time. Until they do it again and again etc. Because they take it as if you have given them permission to dis you! Or they say you are too sensitive and get over it! I was only joking! It is a great song by The one and only Rod Stewart you should maybe give it a listen if you dare. It is one of my favorites! Write me back if you want. I must get to 😴💤 sleep! Thank you for liking my comment. Look up Sam Vaknin, the Grandfather of Narcissism.
@@madonnanix7635 I’ve got my own channel that I just started and I’ve watched Sam and everyone else. Thanks fir writing back! I appreciate it. Also the University that I got my Clinical Psychology Degree from is called Madonna University so maybe that’s an omen that we should know each other? As it’s in your name. 🙂
I also strongly believe that narcisistic abuse leads to auto immune illnesses, and not only those but also other illnesses as well. I personally know several people with severe autoimmune illnesses who are forced to live with narcisistic parents. I have developed many different illnesses as well as a result of exposure to narcisistic abuse. The effects of evil narcisistic abuse are deadly! Thank you for an extremely important video Kevin. God bless you❤
Developed severe SLE (commonly known as Lupus). Couldn’t get to remission until I left. The stress of an 18 year marriage with an abusive grandiose covert narc almost killed me. Even if you leave with nothing, you need to get out. The chronic illness and pain you are experiencing is directly related to the narc abuse. You are responsible for saving yourself.
lol my upset stomach went away Completely every time narcy was not around to spike my drinks with visine. im pretty chill but ill never be able to relate to the obsession thing. i either love you or i dont. of course it can be conditional but i'm 100% sure of What the condition is exactly before i make an oath of course. imagine allowing abuse for years thinking it has to stop one day right? No. the answer is absolutely not. don't learn that the hard way. don't be like me. lol also i had the Great Idea to trust this one with EVERYTHING . so he made sure to find every unstable person thats ever had a slight inclination to dislike me and made them part of his A team of clowns. obsession is not a strong enough word here. this guy is haunted by my existence. he can't stand the idea of people being happy alone. he has to endlessly exploit them. Now Imagine him doing this same creep shit with at least 7 different ppl. he Has No life but steal fuck lie stalk. repeat.
I've got systemic sclerosis and in a narcissistic relationship. However, I'm now winning with my health after death was knocking on my door and getting other secondary diseases.
@@11kwright Have you heard of SLAA? It’s a 12 step group. Go to women’s meetings. It will help you get clarity and get out. I thought I had no options. I was so sick I couldn’t work. I made it out, and support myself. You can do it too.
I got lupus too thanks to a narc family member. I was very sick. Failing kidneys, heart and lungs. Ended up in the icu close to death. I was told I’d never live a normal life. But I was determined to leave my narc household and did. After leaving, all my lupus symptoms disappeared. I still have it, but no pain, no flares, no rashes, and my organs started getting healthy again. You don’t notice how much a narc is hurting you on every level until you leave. The lesson is: if you’re in a narc household, get out.
In 2016 I was diagnosed with endometrial cancer. I had a hysterectomy. Then 1 month later ... Stage 4 lymphoma cancer. I was dying. GOD healed me! Praise JESUS. Living with my wicked, evil,, vile narcissist husband caused me more than emotional stress. I took care of him on hospice untill I watched his last breath. I wept. Now I am super free!!!! I miss him sometimes, as crazy as that sounds because I truly , genuinely loved him. He literally was cancer to me. GOD Bless You Kevin😊.
There is proof that you get sick AFTER your stress level goes from higher to lower. Stress creates a fight response. Getting sick on vacation is a real thing for the above reason. Like when you got gout AFTER ok your mind relaxed.
I have fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, chronic high white blood cells and lipedema since 13 years old that only has gotten worse every year. It stems from childhood abuse and neglect, daily bullying and abuse by peers growing up, abusive ex-husband and ex-boyfriends, forced isolation and being gangstalked daily by society and surrounded by fake friends and backstabbing extended family members like my brother, cousins, nieces, and aunt/uncle. I've had not one single person help me ever either, only people who further stalk me, manipulate, gaslight and hurt me. I've learned that the only being that can help and be truthful with me is God.
Plaque Psoriasis 🤟 I started showing patches as a teenager and I just started looking into the body psychology of illnesses and was blown away. I definitely see the connection between the abuse and all injuries and illnesses. I wrote cut off letters to 2 people, my mother and the father of my boys. Funny thing ever since I walked away my skin has been clearing right up. I also have alopecia and went completely bald for 2 years, needed clobetasol injections just to stimulate my scalp. I honestly had no idea for so long. Thank you for sharing and confirming my suspicions. The psychological belief behind psoriasis is that I can’t stand on my own two feet. Heal the mind and heart and the body will follow. So far so good 🍀
I had a great childhood, but along the way, my mother had a dog that she stressed out so badly that he lost his fur. I took him in and his hair returned immediately. My mom felt bad and recognized the stress was causing her dog to loose his coat. She took him back and he was so nerved up around her that his hair fell out again. Sad how we have to learn the hard way.
I had various signs of diseases (inner inflammation of eye, ecsemes, lumps, pain of bones, pain in chest, pain in spine, caughing....) But I always knew knew knew it is psychical emotional and spiritual and four years ago I gave it to the hands of God, I spend a lot of time with God (not in religious but real way because He is living and loving!) Listen to how He sees me and His truth heals me, every day with God I feel better and better! It is true folks, Jesus heals everything do not be afraid❤but first - avoid mean and toxic persons from your space!!!!!
Dr Gabor Mate talks about stress and autoimmune He talks about how the ratio of MS was 2:1 women vs men, to becoming a 5:1 ratio He site’s emotional/psychological stress I don’t recall the exact numbers but you get the idea
I would put a 'like' to everyone's comment/response I've read below so far, but that would get a bit ridiculous!! My heart 💙goes out to every person who has brilliantly connected the dots & fought for their health; their life & those around them. It's a massive amount to deal with & I applaud all of your efforts, intuition, tenacity & perseverance. Extremely commendable, & I pray 🙏you will bring light to others as Kevin did in delving, finding & sharing this important information. Thanks Kevin, for ALL you do. 💛
I’ve been hospitalized had surgeries and had cancer all do to my unhealthy lifestyle dealing with narcissism. Spot a narcissist RUN your life depends on it !!!!!!!!
Inflammation ...totally happened to me last year.I turned into Fred Flintstone legs. .couldn't barely walk for four months..all going through homelessness...stress and the after effects of sever narrisistic abuse by family.
I am sorry! So you gained weight (water weight) from the inflammation? Because I gained tons of weight (I am convinced it’s mainly water weight) since I have inflammation and multiple autoimmune diseases. Unfortunately my doctors don’t even want to check if it’s water weight. They just say I need to do sports and a diet (I can’t do any sports anymore and I hardly eat anything anymore and only healthy food).
@@jbeauty4150 if u do buy juice brand make sure to pour it in a "ceramic pot or cup" then drink it always wash the plastic bottle before u pour the juice in the pot or cup
I grew up with a narcissistic mother and married into a family with a very toxic mother-in-law, a covert narcissist. I was not familiar with covert narcissism as my mother was a grandiose narcissist. I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and epilepsy four years ago. The epilepsy is caused by one of the lesions on my brain measuring at 1.7 cm in length. It’s my opinion that if you’re already genetically inclined to certain health issues, adding emotionally/verbally/mentally/physically abusive people therefore causing serious trauma into the mix, it will guarantee disease and the progression of that disease. I now struggle with basic body functions that I once took for granted-I won’t get into the long list of problems I know have bc of my disease. GET OUT and STAY OUT, GO NO CONTACT. You can honor your mother and father from far away by praying for them, and not speaking bad of them to others. I’d rather live in a nursing home than with a narcissist. It’s as simple and true as that. Why do you think a lot (not all) Narcissistic people live longer and have pristine health into their old age? They dish it-we take it. GET AWAY IF YOU CAN.
Your experience mirrors mine. Narcissistic parents, 1st and 2nd husband. I’ve had MS since 2001, and except for flares now and then, I bounced back. When 2nd husband started w/ his “back problems,” I had to care for him nonstop. He abused me in every way possible. Plus, when I had flares, I was on my own. I left in 2021, and he dragged out the divorce until this past December. Even though I was on Mavenclad in 2023, it actually made me worse: I’ve had 4 flares since Jan. Like you, my symptoms have quickly disabled me causing problems I never thought would happen to me. You’re right: Only the good die young. God bless you and keep you, and may you improve. You deserve to be healthy and happy.
Yup…was diagnosed w rheumatoid arthritis within one year of marriage to a narcissist. Spent 27 years in confusion and pain… I am out of the marriage w great effort and still have RA but it’s much less vicious in it’s expression. Fuck narcissism: the (d)evil on this earth
I’ve been waiting for this video like everyone else here. Same thing happened to me, I got out of a toxic marriage and family system filled with cluster B people,(basically Narcissists/Borderlines)etc. had lupus symptoms was given medication to treat my Autoimmune disease and then I reversed it, same way you described. Stay away from the drama. I also have PTSD.
My narcissistic abusive Mother stressed me out so badly that when i was a kid my hair started falling out in clumps. The stress had killed the root follicles of my hair and now the weight of it (i had long blond hair that i could sit on!) was going to pull it all out. I had to pixie cut my hair... Years later, after another particularly stressful period of my Mother's life , it happened again. The third time my hair fell out over her abuse was the last time... i wrote her off and she passed away never speaking to me again.
So true, and so happy to see this being talked about. I just had this feeling inside that my illness was related to my relationship among other factors like my diet and childhood trauma. I was diagnosed with Hashimotos 4 years into the relationship. Just being in the same room as him would trigger panic attacks and I could no longer sleep in the same room with him. It’s devastating and debilitating, and of course they have no care for you or how much you’re suffering each day. Lost my identity and love for myself then eventually my health, but learning the truth is setting me free. Hearing these things makes me cry. Can’t wait to have my peace again. 😢
Yup in America you need to be a nutritionist along with getting this psychology degree from the narc ..look up videos on GMO corn and soy it's in 80% of your food a bug will die if it eats American corn ..think about that
creeps love to stalk u when u leave the house here in Fresno Cali. mess with ur food. lol there was a time literally all my underwear went missing just overnight. they weren't special idk why that was the klepto choice lol. just Creeps being creeps i guess. if u search statistics its called larceny i think. basically it happens often, the finding a way in, an unlocked window, attic, sometimes there's fire escapes that don't lock. broken roofs. trespassing when no ones home. its easy to monitor ur car so they're always gone before u can get home. for a long time i would have the same couple cars cut me off in traffic all the time trying to get me to crash my car. right around the time my insurance was expiring lol. sometimes its not money ppl r after. they just love winning some imaginary battle in their head. 99% of my stalkers i never met until they approached me in the weirdest way and loved say things that were off-topic but that might trigger a response. would be funny if it weren't for all the random threats and violent activity at my home.
@@estephanelia My mom did that all the time. She even came to my home when I was 38 to destroy property / chicken coop / copper pyramid and brushed it off as insignificant.
I knew it I knew it I knew it! I’ve been in an out of hospital for the last 3 months yet still undiagnosed. I’ve had numerous tests/scans and investigations done and yet leave with no conclusion all whilst having the symptoms of an autoimmune disease. Context, I slowly over the last 2yrs but surely separated once and for all from toxic dysfunctional abusive/narcissistic family in January. I was fasting through Feb when symptoms began as I was stressed. I immediately knew in spirit it was God purging, redeeming my childhood, restoring years the locusts ate and healing wholly but no language or research could prove it like this! It’s been hard to sit still as He works but He sure is faithful to complete what He started!! God bless you for shining your light where there seems to be no way 🙏🏽
This is true and I am proof that this can happen. I moved in with my mom who is a narcissist which I didn't know at the time. I started developing RA symptoms and my inflammation levels were 3 times higher from a normal level. I visited the Dr for 3 years and it got to the point I was in so much pain that I had to roll out of bed. Anyway, once I figured out I was dealing with a narcissist I went no contact. I was healed almost immediately and never had the problem again. Thanks Royal Me because you were one of the platforms that opened my eyes. These toxic people are bad for your health and family or not you must let them go.
Holy Cow!! After 20 years married to a malignant narcissist, I developed one autoimmune disease after another! I was diagnosed with Guillain Barré and Chronic Inflammatory Demyelinating Polyneuropathy (a chronic progressive neurological disorder)! He ruined my life!
I could be wrong but I can see a clear line between the increase of narcissistic abuse fallout (kids who experience it > grow up to be adults who now recognize it > dealing now with the fallout) and when parents stopped taking care of their kids. Back in the day, if you were bulled at school or whatever, your parents (in my case, my mom) helped me get through it and supported me, taught me to be strong and helped me feel better. Moms aren't around like they used to be, it's like parents nowadays are more interested in proving their worth in a career versus being a good parent. It started around the 80s and parents have gotten progressively worse. The 80s and 90s kids are adults now and those chickens have come home to roost. They're all over the internet talking about how their parents weren't there for them. How they suffered abuse, their parents didn't know or cause it themselves. Parents stopped being dialed in to the family some how along the timeline.
I'm just piecing together the past 25yrs or so. I think you are on the money about this; there are whole religions devoted to narcissists by narcissists and they are destroying humanity.
Well I knew about the connection between high cortisol levels and narcissism in my spouse and eventual destruction of 50% of my thyroid gland. The thyroid problems post dated his death in 1981 of a heart attack many years later but my life was low stress after I recovered from his death amd spent 41 tyears withna terrific man...I healed myself in my graduate psych program along with my program therapist. But that mate kept me happy strong and enjoying life. I saw that I had high somatizing levels on my MMPI test I had to interpret while learning to score and write reports for them as part of my dpctpral program. The narcissist was an increibly difficult man...I got so lucky in meeting the right person for me soon after he passed away.
I really appreciate you saying that our time on Earth is a punishment..because it is!! I’ve been suffering tremendously for the past 3 years with chronic illness so I really appreciate that perspective as opposed to most people’s toxic positivity
That is a Christian perspective and it's frankly spiritually abusive. Other religions such as Islam and Hinduism understand our time on earth is a period of development that involves suffering, but it is not a punishment. Believing you are being punished for existing is a great way to create illness in your body. Break that spell.
Having been subjected to bizarre emotional abuse by people I knew and had no one who could be trusted for several years in a row, it literally felt like I was going to die. I'm trying desperately to heal before disease is the result. Aging has hit fast-forward, and I don't even look the same.
UW hospitals and clinics in Madison Wisconsin also did research that showed that children who were sexually abused when they’re young also have autoimmune disorders as a result or chronic physical pain that they cannot find a physical cause for. I learned about that over a decade ago. I wish more people knew how much emotional health tears down our physical health and impairs our healing ability as well. That is a big reason why sometimes counseling can tremendously help people because holding it in and not talking about it for releasing the trauma in someway it definitely causes physical illness as well . My go to has always been journaling, and then burning what I wrote and I don’t know why, but it works for me. It releases all of the negative emotions when I do this.
Absolutely there is a connection. I’m an integrative and functional medicine practitioner. I see it all the time. I also experienced autoimmune disorders from toxic relationships. It’s a reality.
I saw aa doctor that is like you. She told me that un her 35 yeaars of practice, I was her second sickest patient she'd ever had and rhis was AFTER I got half of my thryoid taken out due to cancer of it. She set me on the path of discovery and liberation as she explained to me thoroughly what was going on with my entire being. She even called my now ex husband into the room and told him that she didnt know what kind of stress I was under, but of it didn't stop, he was gonna lose me. Thinking now that was the plan all along. Just glad I left as HARD as it was, but I'm alive and FREE. If you only knew what all I went through..... So glad there are people like you and my doctor in the world that TRULY understand what's really going on and how to overcome it. God BLESS you and I hope that your life is filled with abundant, beautiful blessings, peace, love, health and joy! Thank you!!
Why is nobody talking about narcissistic adult children or children even before they become of age!! ...but sorry I did hear you finally say AND EVEN lol. I just wish there was much more on it. My daughter is a narcissist and ive escaped the rest of my toxic relationships and family members, but when it comes to your own child it can be entirely debilitating on a whole different level. That our own baby. Everything inside is primal....Mom?bye Ex?see ya siblings? Get gone....but child? Wow. Horrific. Praying hard for myself. Thank you for your information
Going through my discard. I lost 60 pounds, barely remember what I didn’t say to day back then. I had messed up vision, went to the eye Dr and I had a bleed in my eye from stress he said. My mental state was bad, I couldn’t remember things. I was very quiet. I truly believe this to be true
2 husband's who abused me seem upset with the outcome. One was who I was married to when I was diagnosed with MS & Lupus. He was verbally & physically abusive. The 2nd was there to verbally abuse, use & control me for 15 years & when I'm health got worse & I was given a very grim diagnosis he walked out. Both act like I'm wrong for my motto "once I'm done I'm done". Both want me back. Both tell everyone that I'm the one who wanted a divorce & act like I was supposed to just take it. I'm not great in health now though 9 months of renewing my relationship with God & healing. It'll take time & still dealing with the 2nd husband who drinks at a bar 2 blocks from my home everyday. I just keep praying for freedom.
I can truly attest! Mom/military narc & toxic relations literally! Stood ground regarding both! Removed from military due to dx, denied benefits, record modified! Survive off small SSDI! Most high able! Not a precondition I’m out of both, symptoms and stress slowly reversing! Damage done physically and psychologically! No medications! Ty Royal We!❤
Lots of this is so true and BOOM it hits with a punch. Chronic Fatigue, all the nerves in my teeth (eventually losing them all) weight loss, ulcers, grey hair, and on and on for 31 years. Skip to almost three years after it ended and out it all spewed - everything including the realisation I was abused 😮 It’s taken a further 7 years of hard work but right now I have such an understanding of my nervous system and body and finally feeling healed ❤
I'm the daughter of a narcissist mother. I'm dealing with adrenal fatigue, migraines, fainting randomly, weird rashes that don't seem connected to anything, blisters on my mouth, etc..
autoimmune diseases can often be caused by certain chronic infections such as borreliosis or EBV. the stress from dysfunctional relationships might have effect on immune function, which might then in turn, cause the illness to rebloom. since doctors are not obligated to find these causes, then scapegoats are then double jeopardized. knowledge helps in such scenarios for healing. -Lori
Eating bad stuff is a feel good response. It was defin8te toxicity from narcicists that tipped my auto immune situation that is ok now. But we are gluttons for punishment wanting to restore the unhealthy toxics, but finally you have to walk away, turn your back and leave them in hell because they chose that, you didn't. Rewelding of yourself happens with stronger immunity, more compassion and gratitude. Somehow that's healing.
Omg! I was always active and healthy but in my early 20th they found lesions in my brain and later diagnosed me with Sjögren’s. Out of nowhere. I was so confused. Later in life working through my childhood trauma and going no contact with my parents helped me to finally get normal blood work. Even doctors said it’s not possible to have antibodies just disappear but they did. Recently I talked to trauma therapist and she said that as a child who is constantly in fight or flight response, your brain cannot process it and brain lesions can develop from that. Healthy diet, and healthy lifestyle and no contact with all the toxic people makes a huge difference
@@LynnFaust-yi4vo I changed diet and keep exercising daily and have very mild symptoms, just dryness of the mouth and eyes, nothing bad at all. And my brain MRI have been stable.
@@larissacats390 I am so happy you've been able to manage your symptoms. Currently I started having an irregular heartbeat and palpitations. I am trying to stay active, but the heart issue is concerning. Have the dry eyes and mouth too.
@@larissacats390 Been in and out of doctors appts for a year. My ANA and RMA Factors came back negative. I know I have this autoimmune disease as I have every symptom. Was in the hospital last month with pneumonia. I am on a rapid detox diet currently since doctors are giving me the run around. All they do is look at blood tests and determine you are fine if the labs look good.
I lived in Israel but worked in Palestine in 2000 when the second intifada started. Our work coach was being shot at on the way to work. My car was petrol bombed, my neighbour was attacked. It was a frightening and very stressful time. I moved back to the U.K. a few weeks later I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. I asked many doctors if the stress I experienced could’ve caused ra, they all said no but couldn’t tell me what did cause it.
yes! After a particularly stressful incident of abuse between my xhusband and my teen son (not his) while I was travelling for work, I came home and immediately had an onset of Bells Palsy. Following that, I had onset of crippling dyshidrotic excema, and following that I had onset of gastric issues. Once I finally asked the narcissist to leave, all issues have disappeared - I have utilized many vitamin supplements as well as accupuncture and therapeutic massage as treatment for stress during the duration of my divorce.
It makes perfect sense b cos the immunity is ur bodies protection - boundary & fighter of toxic invaders - inside the body, & outside the body thru people who have negative attachments, attached in their energies who want 2 make ur life a misery, they have poor spiritual hygiene - & sadly & unfortunately do not have ur best interests @ heart!! ...
My father was a lying narcissistic abuser and I developed type 1 diabetes at age 5. I nearly died from ketoacidosis and was rushed to the hospital where my blood sugar was above 800. True to his narcissistic demonic form he blamed me for developing it and used it as an excuse to demean and belittle me. In the pre-insulin-pump era going through puberty resulted in bonkers blood sugars, which consequentially resulted in less than stellar grades in school. This gave him further opportunities to continuously berate me and judge me as being "lazy" and a "bad investment". I've spoken to him only once in 15 years, which was wasn't my choice. Anyway, this is interesting information that I hadn't heard before. Thanks for sharing!
Yep I got Graves’ disease, I also went natural and identified the abuser as the reason why I developed this. Today I’m back to normal, no meds just changed my diet, life style and no more abuse….
This validates my thoughts on this subject, thank you sooo much for this video. I have always said that my body gave out about a year after leaving my physically and emotionally abusive narcissistic ex husband. I figured it was just adrenal fatigue after being on high alert for so long. Then, a few years later, here I am with Multiple Sclerosis.
I recently put this together when i realized the link between the vagus nerve and nervous system and gut health. I seen this title and had to watch. Just started watching it but i think its gonna be good. Definitely a link between dis ease (stress) and disease.
I connected this awhile ago.....but I'm not a doctor. Or a professional. So I cannot tell anyone. I've noticed every person I've met with autoimmune disease have been abused or they're so stressed out from something, it just happens :( I am greatful. I do not suffer with autoimmune disease . Thank you for the video!
I've literally lived with a covert narcissist parent for years, I've tried to get away but there has been no help so I'm stuck with her. And I've been going to the Dr for Autoimmune issues and everything from arthritis, swelling joints, gout, thyroid issues, loss of hair, migraines, skin infections (red rashes and itchy skin, swelling around the nuckles on my fingers), and some blood issues. So last week my Dr finally asked about my living situation and asked if there was abuse or something else that this may be causing it all. Literally doing what I can to move out now that I know this, and with sky high rents and housing assistance telling me after 2 years I'm number 8000+ on their list. I've pretty much have decided to live in my car, put my stuff in storage (that I can visit and hang out daily), and a gym membership (so I can shower and have a place with air and heat as needed). I think it is the only way to escape unfortunately, but it is better than abuse that is killing me.
Agree 100%, I also believe that once trauma sets into the body, the immune system ceases to function properly, then this can also lead to cancer and other life threatening diseases. Omega 3 reduces cytokines. Ive done a ton of research on this stuff also after having experienced a lot of trauma in my life, and it all stemmed from my upbringing. My life started changing when I got away from it, and the same thing happened to me, all of the stress finally took its toll on me and I had to do the work to get my body healthy and functioning properly again. The human body IS capable of healing itself if the environment is changed to promote a healing atmosphere, as well as, given the proper nutrients. Mind, body, and spirit are all of the aspects, and I wish that healthcare providers would address it this way instead of just prescribing drugs and making people think they are forever broken and need to rely on prescription medications. This is exactly what big pharma wants, people stay sick and make them rich off of their pain and suffering.
Yup, mom was a narcissist, I had toxic relationships my whole life, I started getting sick in 06 when I started dating my ex husband, I was told I was fine and nothing wrong with me, it finally reached a high point in 2012 and was finally diagnosed with sarcoidosis and stomach ulcers a few months later. since then, I have left my husband and cut off all communication with my mother. 1 month after I left my husband, my stomach ulcers were gone, 4 months after that, I was 50% improved from the sarcoidosis, and 1 month after I cut off my mother, I was in remission from sarcoidosis. I continue to work on myself and heal past trauma and every day I have more and more energy and feel amazing.
Thank you for your research! It’s very helpful, you confirm my suspicions! Yes, stress triggers the autoimmune system I believe! Yes the narcissist toxic abuse triggers PTSD! All that stress wares you down! Your body can respond in all kinds of ways if you don’t take time to recover!!!
Lifetime abuse caused Polymyalgia Rheumatica. PMR. It was miserably painful and I had to be on Prednisone for years. I’m free now, from the abuse and the PMR. 🙌🏻
Woah. Eyes. Wide. Open. 😳 Healing from not only narcissistic abuse, but a multitude of autoimmune diseases. (fibromyalgia, high blood pressure, interstitial cystitis, arthritis, G.E.R.D., etc.) Not to mention CPTSD…
Recently, I found out I have Graves’ disease (hyperthyroidism- autoimmune), that I’ve been living with for years unbeknownst to me, just thought I felt like crap everyday. I’ve been married to a golden son for 12 years, and this IS the end result of the stress!!!!! Get stress free!!!! I would love to hear more information on “The Golden Son” Of a narcissistic mother, as this describes my situation. It’s definitely a nail in a sure place! Medication is needed with Graves’ disease as it increases your mortality rate and affects the heart directly.
Í know for a FACT this dude is correct. I had thyroid cancer and some other issues under 30. I researched incessantly and my conclusion was it came from undue continuous stress placed on me my narcissistic mother. I knew something was ojt of order because NO ONE anywhere in my family for generations had any of.this bullish. And like him, when I moved, I got better but as my body calmed down I got sick..it took years to undo the mental damage that kept me sick after removing the toxicity.
Many studies have found 5x contributing factors for an autoimmune condition to go from poor living conditions and environment to full blown autoimmune malfunction: 1. Poorly Managed High Stress levels, 2. Chronically Poor Sleep 3. Poor Diet, 4. Poor fitness 5. Contact or ingestion of modern disruptor chemicals, and + A SINGULAR TRIGGER EVENT that has a HIGH IMPACT Body or Emotional shock to the system (Car Accident, Grief, Severe illness, Hospitalization/medical procedure, Divorce, etc.). > OTHERWISE KNOWN AS A-NARCISSIST-TARGETS LIFESTYLE AND A MATCH! To manage the new Narc gift, reduce and/or eliminate all inflammatory triggers, starting with 1-5. The sooner you get your life built back for max health, the less damage to repair. Consider it your new lifestyle. And trust me, you can wait, and it WILL kill you, even if your doctors cannot determine what ails you. And for a bonus, leave you at the mercy of your loving Narcissist before it does. Do not expect help or cooperation from the Narcissist. Helpless and Dependent are exactly where they want you. If they promise help, know it for the lie it is. (and Stealth, remember stealth!) They will willingly sabatage any effort at escape, stress management, proper food, proper self care, and definitely siphon any money they know about. Can you even sleep a full night any more? Healing can be done. But It will take some doing! Good Luck!
what Kevins is saying is 110% true. when you are in a toxic relationship for an extended period of time, your flight or fight response is operating constantly and according to medical research, any organism can tolerate short-term stress, meaning any stress response is only allowed to last for a short period of time. no organism can survive in a flight or fight response for a long period of time, if it does you are headed for a disease. that proves people who are in toxic relationships tend to get all different kinds of illnesses and diseases because they are living in stress response all day long because of the toxicity they are engaged in. Just imagine living your entire life in flight or fight response day in and day out due to the abuse, of course, your body will lose all of its energy to regulate itself( maintaining balance ) and your immune system will weaken because it does have enough energy to function due to the fact that all of that energy is borrowed by the body to deal with the external threats of abuse. I got this whole thing from a Neoro scientist explaining the connection between the mind and body. i am sure you know dr joe Dispenza. he was explaining this flight or fight response with regards to our thoughts, and how humans can turn on the stress response by thought alone. ❤❤❤
This is a great video and so important to share. Thank you. CRPS has not been officially deemed an autoimmune disease yet. After a lifetime of narcopathic abuse (along with other serious trauma as well), I received a diagnosis of CRPS or RSD, and I'm living proof that no contact promotes healing. Although my autonomic and parasympathetic nervous system's may not ever be normal, I can say remission from some of the severe painful symptoms of CRPS 1 type has been possible, at least for me. Take it seriously, people. It's not worth your life to endure the torture of toxic people if you have the option to cut them off.
Wow.. thank you..mother, ex husband were abusive, narcisstic abuse. Divorced 2016, mom passed 2017. From 2018 to present have battled skin disorders, Prurigo nodularis. arthritic disorders, spine degeneration. So much more,,,
I developed vitiligo. It's an autoimmune disease. The first signs showed at the end of my therapy, two years after I had left the narcissist. It was triggered by all the stress. I know this because vitiligo is not running in my family.
Yes!!! I was diagnosed with a rare form of autoimmune and then my back went out I needed immediate surgery!!! Whenever I get physically sick and my back problems it’s due to abuse! I was able to put my disease in remission by diet (anti inflammatory diet) but the BIGGEST thing is to get rid of the narcissist!!! I have one narcissistic friend (just realized) whenever he acts up my disease comes back! Cortisol and leaky gut are real! You aren’t imagining it!
abuse leads to a lot of stress and that leads to the autoimmune disease. the problem with this type of stress that it does not end when the actual physical situation does, it keeps going on in our minds and bodies until we heal the trauma - that is what most people who have never endured it are missing! overtime the body gives way and also becomes dysfunctional.
Betrayed by the love of my life. The day I was walking away she became paralyzed from an accident. Decided to stay in the marriage for financial reasons. She has no family to care for her. Three years now. Over a year in hospice. A narcissist with no control. Now that I am educated she has no control over her last thing she considered hers. Now I am looking for ways to cope because she has been my best friend since we were kids. Never been this sick as I have in the last year. Considering leaving because of it. The gaslighting is unbearable when you know it's happening. Thanks so much for this video. It validates my intuition. How can I insulate myself from abuse and remain?
You didn’t mention Scleroderma, have been diagnosed for 10 years. Have been divorced for 1.5 years now and things have been getting somewhat better. Acknowledging you and the article you presented, I absolutely get it. I did leave the relationship, after 39 years, because I finally figured out that he was a narcissist and I just couldn’t take it any more. I did move far away. I miss my extended family, especially the grandkids, as my children have many issues of their own because we were exposed for so long. I am trying to heal in many ways but we have to give ourselves time. I lean on God. I am 67 years old and live in a retirement community in Florida, moved here because of health. I do have many setbacks but I have a positive attitude and plan on learning, growing and connecting at my pace. Having community brings security but also conflict. Thank you for sharing this information. I believe it will help me on my path of wellness and love.
I don't know if it's linked but I have unexplained stomach upset issues and random thyroid problems for over a year now even though I eat normal foods pretty healthy and I'm young with no family history of health issues. I've been in a relationship with a narcissistic man for 5 years and I didn't know what the word "narcissist" even meant until a video popped up on RUclips one day and I realized, this is the definition of him. I wouldn't be surprised if they're linked because I've endured so much psychological mental verbal and emotional abuse the whole time.
Omg im finding this channel now and i can't believe its exactly what has happened to me i now have graves disease from extreme trauma even though i am in my late forties
Interesting you have made this connection. My older sister developed the autoimmune disease Sarcoidosis. She also had breast cancer and a partial mastectomy which is related to lymph nodes. My mother is a narcissist either covert or NPD, Im not sure definitively. My sister received an amount of abuse and I was scapegoated also. I have depression and have had acute anxiety for most of my life, anxiety / depression related eating disorder related to poor appetite and poor food choices which I have since corrected. I am lucky to have avoided an autoimmune condition. SALT, FAT, SUGAR - A lot of the conditions described in this video are also related to poor food choices, food is used as an emotional regulator, trauma victims tend to choose dopaminergic foods(foods that induce dopamine) SUGAR for example, excites exactly the same region of the brain as Cocaine. Sugar is highly toxic, causes heart problems, causes an over-release of dopamine, which down-regulates dopamine sensors causing depression symptoms to worsen and also causes an increase in the intake of sugar to reach the same high as before. Sugar hardens and blocks arteries, causes whole body inflammation, all cancers are inflammation related. Fried starchy foods contain high amounts of the carcinogen Acrylamide. Fried foods use highly inflammatory cooking oils namely SEED oils which have been identified as highly toxic to the human body. Trauma-induced emotional eating compounds trauma and all cause mortality causing premature death.
I’m a psychology student. They actually know why some people develop PTSD and others with the same traumatic experience don’t: social support.
Literally the difference between developing PTSD or recovering within a month depends on your social support system and whether you have people who care, protect or look after your wellbeing. It’s overwhelmingly consistent in the research that terrible relationships are a risk factor for PTSD.
Maybe they develop PTSD because they seen people they value die. I would never consider abuse to be PTSD. It's a different animal.
The social support is often not there for so many suffering from narcissistic abuse. Narcissists will isolate you and remove you from your support network of family and friends.
@@chazbickel4518 absolutely. They’ll make sure you don’t have a safety net
"Invisible Heroes" says as much too, giving examples
@@therealwewin Abuse causes PTSD.
The latest argument I had with my mother I pointed out to her that everyone of us who sits around her table has an auto immune disease or has IBS …. Except her ……..🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
All my siblings have autoimmune syndrome except for my mother who has always said she never had any disease but pregnancies.
Before I knew anything about narcissists and psychos I thought she was the strongest person in the world. Now I know better.
@@Lyrielonwind I relate to this for sure.
Same in my family and my younger sister just died early Monday morning after battling cancer for two years.
@@devina1100 My condolences 💐
@@devina1100 so sorry , my condolences ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is so true. I got asthma from a lifetime of wicked abuse (satanic mom). Always sick, ever since childhood my body has been trying to die (first emergency hospitalization at 2)
Now I invest into my health. I do proper nutrition. God provides (every time!) money for supplements. I observe Sabbath every week from Friday evening to Saturday evening. This topic should be given more attention because health is such a resource. (to work, to get out, to function properly, to survive when necessary)
And also any modern day narcissists - I make radical mental boundaries. Don't even say hello. Every time they do something bad to me - I do something good to myself. All credit belongs to God for guiding me, for teaching me this.
Visit with Sally K Norton for the nutrition part
Respect!! Much love to you and God is good ❤
God bless you!!!!
God Bless you, m, you're a surviver. Keep thriving in God's love. 💗💗💗
Amen, your testimony is powerful glory to God 🙏🏾
Truth, I was diagnosed with lupus, arthritis and epilepsy and then CPTSD. My dad was a psychopath and mom is a narcissist. They both abuse of me for all through child and up when I turned 40. I am 43 now and fully cut off estranged. My health is good now and my mental health is good too. It took a lot of work to get here.
I have a similar story, I moved away finally at 38 but I'm having a hard time healing from the past pain
@@MultiFungirl123 I'm sorry to hear that. For me it took a long time, our nervous systems have been working overtime for years to survive and it takes a lot to heal that. Have you heard of Irene Lyon? She has fantastic work on RUclips for healing trauma through nervous system.
I was doing very good for years until the last two years for which now I'm extremely sick and with no help in sight.
@@nmHispana I'm really sorry to hear that. I really hope you get support and help!
Similar story man. Very hard to recover. It's like recovering from having your body being programmed to kill itself.
Inflammation and rage are linked. It took me decades to acknowledge the repressed rage. Rage quietly simmers after abuse, betrayal poor boundary setting etc.. A life of severe inflammation for me, arthritis from age 18, weird undiagnosable stuff. I was addicted to the idea of family, it's hard to walk away from the narcissistic members means it means losing all of others who are loving and genuine - they just weren't the targets of the narcs so didn't get the depth of the toxicity.
I'm tired of the judgement people have for going no contact with narcissists, but then, if you haven't lived it, you can't believe that that level of mind-f*ck even exists!
Thank you for pointing this out! I believe I need to deal with anger from betrayal etc
I have ALOT siblings and over half of them don't fully understand what is going on with my mom. None of them will agree it's a good move to walk away and I will lose at least 4 of them. I can't convince myself to walk away because it will cause pain to so many who don't deserve it. My mom spirals and lashes out at others when she feels rejected. I've backed away significantly and each time I take a step back my siblings get hurt even further. I'm an ENFJ, this eats my soul. It's pain for me if I stay but pain for others if I go. I know it isn't healthy but I just don't know what to do. I also genuinely love my mom, as mean as she can be sometimes I know it's because her mother did the same to her. And boy was her mother a case. My poor momma didn't deserve that. But I don't deserve it, either. Thank heaven for Jesus, He is the reason my kids will never know that life.
Hormonal imbalance PCOS too😢
Sending hugs to you, they destroyed my life and are my blood!,trying to restart from scratches, bit it isnt easy, looks like I will never be a good fit for perm roles, but I am good to be screwed like a lemon in temp ones!..and my human rights? I can such them up!
The anger also causes a bad liver. And an abused liver can cause anger. Anger is no joke and like a poison in the body if you hold it.
After being abused by my narc mother all my life , I did develop an autoimmune disease.
me Too
Me at 9 yr old to 16 affected my feet..😒
Me too and I ended up with several autoimmune diseases and have a “Multiple autoimmune Syndrom” and also several allergies. I’m disabled, housebound and most of the time bedridden. And my mother stole 1,5 million dollars of the inheritance I got from my dad and then kicked me out of the family. My sister is not allowed to have contact with me. She’s so afraid of our mother that she does what ever our mother tells her to do. (My mother is in her 70ties, my sister and I in our 40ties). 🤬🤮🤬
Me, too, with my narc Dad. I had never had it before until I took care of him as his "live in employee" for 7 years as he had a stroke and needed help. At about year 6, I started developing autoimmune symptoms which freaked me out. He then died. My symptoms are now 95% gone 2 years after his death...the ultimate no contact.
Same that a narc mother rather being concerned with child’s sickness, in fact seems happy, may be she thinks the child being under total control! How sad!
Absolutely yes…so true. Diagnosed with an autoimmune disease when I was with the narc. I was under a tremendous amount of stress and anxiety during the relationship. Diagnosed in 2021, became fully paralyzed. Left the narc about a year ago, and I am almost 90% recovered.
WTF 😮
I was told I had an autoimmune disease but they didn't know exactly what it is. Just that I had medium-high inflammation and that my immune system was attacking something it wasn't supposed to. Also have chronic migraines. Allergies too. My hands will sometimes just stop working all of a sudden, as well as my knees.
I can confirm that while in the abusive relationship, my adrenals were being pounded to exhaustion producing addisons later after I left.
Interesting! My older brother is a narc demon himself, a walking plague. He has diabetes, thyroid, AND Addison's disease. He probably has a lot of other crap too. I've heard that if you have diabetes and develop thyroid problems you will inevitably end up with Addison's. I wonder how true that is. I also wonder what happened to him that he became so sick. Diabetes and thyroid issues run in my family.
Luckily, I have no illnesses myself. I'm still waiting for the fight or flight to let up so I can fall apart. Yaay.
I also developed Addisons Disease from covert narcissist husband.
I’m a survivor of Narcissistic abuse from Biological Mother, Foster Parents as well as personal relationships. I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD, Connective Tissue Disease, as well as Fibromyalgia. I just wish they make this a crime, lots of people need to be in Prison and Stay there.
I'm right there with you. My mother is a narcissist and abused me physically and mentally. I have c-PTSD, anxiety, and depression as well as RA, fibromyalgia, EDS, and Parkinsonism.
I'm sorry. I think you're right tho. There has to be a connection between this and the way parents and caregivers take care of children. Back in the day, you didn't see autoimmune disorders like these. I mean it did not start to the degree it is now until the 70s and 80s and has become progressively worse. It's as though parents decided to stop wanting to be good parents and the kids are suffering. I'm not sure what will cure this problem other than people becoming better parents. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
Going raw vegan can heal most all ailments along with art meditation 🧘♀️ daily practise. Wish u much love and happiness moving onward.
Having been married to a lawyer: what r the damages? You can t prove that one btw.
@@jackiepowell7513 not having proof is the entire point.
🙋♀️ Had lots of narcissistic abuse in my life, developed autoimmune diseases. Left those relationships, healed my autoimmune diseases.
@pinktruffles5156 I had fibromialga and hashimotoes. Those led to nutritional deficiencies and anemia. I slowly became sicker over a 15-year period with the last two years being bedridden, I had muscel waisting, and my mind definitely was not ok. Doctors told me I'd be this way always. I had every side effect from the medications they tried on me, I could not tolerate them. I got past one day over my situation, and I found myself in. I started finding online tons of people with similar situations that healed, and I tried their advice. Some.workwd some didn't. I found a functional medicine doctor who tested my nutrition and found the deficiencies. I took suppliments for those. I changed my diet to an anti inflamitory one and drank bone broth for a while to heal my gut. I learned to take very good care of myself as a life of abuse teaches you how to neglect yourself. I found a councilor who works very well with trama and did not take insurance, so she could work with her clients outside the system and tried therapies on me that are not accepted in traditional therapies. EMDR seems to be very effective. I also went on to somatic healing therapies. I started doing yoga one day. I could barely get out of bed and hold a pose, but I did it for 15 seconds, then the next time 30 seconds, then a minute. Then I was moving around better. I found a yoga studio that I started going to. I'd do the class for 10 minutes, then sit there the rest of the time, then it was 15 minutes. I could make it, then 20 and so forth. Now, I have healed enough to have a totally healed workout. In the meantime, in therapy, I also learned boundaries, self-acceptance, how to not let toxic people affect me, and how to keep a detached state around them. I found healthier people to be around me, supportive people. All of this was addressing the physical, spiritual, and mindful aspects of myself, and I grew a new me.
Epigenetics - environment and emotions directly impact one another. Your brain has a diet too. We need to be SO careful how we feed it.
Hi Kevin,, I whole heartedly believe in everything you’re saying!!,, I’ve suffered my entire life by the hands of others,, heart problems, severe anxiety, depression, insomnia,, No Contact is the only way to heal !,,,
I’m with you!!!
You nailed it...hair loss too
Mine is almost gone. I was in denial about what was causing it.
Ditto!
Yep. Stress is the silent killer/ and Natc abuse leads to endless stress
During 19 year span that I spent with my `wife` - I developed a digestive disorder IBS, and thick skin eczema on both feet. After the divorce, way back in 2013, the Digestive disorder healed and the skin disorder is healing. Though, I had to cut out toxic people from my life in general.
D while being abandoned by narc son's father and with my abusive ex-husband I got an autoimmune disease. I know I got it from being with toxic people.
I developed eczema on my lower legs. I am just using lotion to relieve the itching. I had no such issues before I started to live with a covert narcissist. How did you get rid of your skin condition?
@@felfalitpodcast192 - I got rid of my digestive issues, but I had developed eczema on feet. I used cutaneous foam and the eczema decreased. However, I will restart the treatment with Cutaneous foam once more to eliminate what is left. Stay calm and love yourself. Place your energy for yourself first. I use Enstilar foam - it is a steroid- always consult doctor first.
After a physically and emotionally abusive 22 year marriage and my husband being removed from the home by the courts in 2007, I developed Graves Disease with all its accompanying symptoms. I was lucky (so far) to escape the Graves Ophthalmopathy, however in February of 2020 I went into Thyroid Storm which caused me to go into full atrial fibrillation and heart failure. I almost lost my life and was hospitalized for three days after my heart and blood pressure stabilized. Prolonged and sustained stress and fear from abuse will absolutely take a toll on your physical and emotional well being.
this is horrible, I feel for you!! Thyroid storm must have been really scary. Also untreated Graves also messes with you mentally as well as physically issues, which are distressing enough. I also developed Graves about 2 years into my (first) toxic relationship. I ended up having to have thyroid removed. It flared again later after having to deal with a toxic boss
@@Chezzalicious I'm so sorry. Yes, it was quite harrowing for a while. I've been managing it for years, but there are times I still feel the effects.
A year after the dissolution of my marriage, I was lucky enough to meet a wonderful man who stepped into the role of "husband"' and father to my 6 children and cared for us all for 13 years. Unfortunately he developed a rare and very aggressive form of liver cancer, and two years ago this May he passed away, so the stress and grief of his loss (coupled with the impending menopause symptoms I was experiencing at the time..UGH! sorry if that's TMI) have exacerbated the symptoms some, but I do have a great support system around me. I have been discussing treatment options with my physician other than medication which I've been on for years now.
I'm sorry you've had to deal with toxic people and I'm glad this topic has been broached because it's long been my contention that stress and prolonged PTSD and CPTSD can have devastating effects on a person's physical and emotional health. I always suspected that the abuse sustained during my marriage was the catalyst.
I hope you're recovering and feeling much better. Best wishes and much love. 💖
@@cymbelinebritain6799 wow that is a lot... & I'm sorry for your loss... It is so nice to hear you met someone who was so good to you and your family for as long as he was able though. Unfortunately I haven't been so blessed in that department but I am learning all the time on how to best look after myself. Videos like this give us much needed validation! Thanks so much for your wishes and all the best to you in your journey to optimal health ❤
@@Chezzalicious ☺💓
@@flamingsword777 Thank you so much and I'm glad to hear you recovered. How frightening! I luckily did not develop cancer but it's miraculous that you survived storm without medical intervention because without it, it's generally fatal in about 90% of the cases.
So glad to hear you're on a journey of healing. That's what this channel is all about isn't it? Bless you as well and I wish you all the best. 💗💞
I've had to love my family from the distance& protect my peace!
Dude, I have been waiting and waiting for this video. Thank you so much! After suffering 30 years of narcissistic abuse from my step father, then enabling mother turned narcissist herself, being gas lit for being mentally ill and having my mom lie to a therapist to try to get me committed to a mental hospital, called all my friends and told them not to help me when I was in Turkey and had a problem with my airline ticket and needed help buying another so I could fly home to American, moving across the planet for 8 years just to be as far away as possible, living across the country from them, alienation from my narcissistic father, serial abuse by bully bosses, serial abuse by narcissistic women, 20 years of super hard drinking to try to check out from the pain, I got a phone call from my new Dr. I was surprised to hear she said it was serious and that I needed to come in right away. Despite quitting drinking for several years and being super healthy and active, like almost bodybuilding like dedication to training, I struggled with getting bloated. It turns out I had acquired hypothyroidism, or Hashimoto's, my body stopped making enough thyroid and it was from being way over stressed for way too long. I was in denial about how serious it was, so I tried going off the medicine I have to take every day or I will die. Within a month I went from like 230lbs to 270, while exercising and dieting. I was nearly in hospital and had to get back on my synthetic thyroid hormone medicine. Now, years later I have various weird things breaking down, skin rashes, too much mucus, asthma problems, inflammation and all of it is from my autoimmune disease. I am now allergic to food I that never bothered me before. I am terribly gluten intolerant, awful with too much sugar or carbs, on some days dairy wipes me out, so I mostly eat red meat. If I get stressed or too nervous now my body just gets sick, it's crazy. So on top of everything else I now have to be super diligent about not taking anything too seriously, lest I break out in a rash or start swelling up. None of the several doctors that I have to see understand me when I tell them I have autoimmune from narcissistic abuse and stress, or even that ALL of my health problems are from my autoimmune disease, which is the root cause of all of them. They act like I am crazy for suggesting such a connection. I live in Florida, they are in Montana, I am happily married and have a great job, went to Eagle Scout, Academic Scholarships to college, degree in cellular biology, all State Musician- trombonist, martial arts champion and instructor, highly skilled sales manager and I am the black sheep of my family. I went no contact with my family 4 months ago because I realized the relationship was literally killing me. I got gout about 15 years ago it was one of the first major things that went wrong with me.
Hashimotos is very common from narcissistic abuse. Yeah you have to take that thyroid hormone for the rest of your life, because the body isnt making it and its a critical hormone for the metabolism of food. A terrible but relatable story about the string of abusive bosses and women and I can add toxic "friends" to that list as Im sure you can too. People-pleasing, fawning, hyper-vigilance, anxiety, depression, self-doubt, low-esteem, unable to function, fear of people and places, the list goes on. Good to hear you are back on your feet and have a good life. Gives me hope I can find love and support also. Meditation is the way to gain strength over the tendency to ruminate and have racing and catastrophic thinking. Meditation, if done correctly enables mastery over your attention, like exercising a muscle, you develop the ability to calmly observe the mind, once removed in what they call the "Witness" position, rather than identify and latch on to every arising thought and become emotionally involved and follow it along to a catastrophic conclusion. This Witness meditation breaks the vicious circle of anxiety giving rise to anxious thoughts which reinforces anxiety which gives rise to anxious thoughts ad nauseum.
I too developed hypothyroidism. I experienced 30 plus years of abuse.
My heart goes out to you. I know what it feels like.. though not due to parents, bless them! My savioyr has only been the love, confidence and the secure childhood they gave me.. and support from a few lovely people. Have been handling Rheumatoid arthritis, Cemento osdifying fibroma of the jaw and Fuchs corneal Dystrophy since 20 odd years.
What i do know is one can throw away the shackles if you value and trust yourself; and open your heart to healing and being whole again.
My RA is seronegative now since 3 years. The fibroma turned out to be benign and is steadily contained. And Fuchs is very very slow to progress.
I am fully into taking to each day with enthusiasm and living and loving (esp myself) with abandon.
Healing is yours if you connect with and let into your soul, Mother Nature and Goodness around you. There may be starting troubles. But don't give up.
Best wishes, love and healing vibes right at you
I developed hypothyroidism in my mid 30s and further serious health problems after 20 years of narcissistic abuse 😢 I wish I could turn back the clock and get my health back but leaving the relationship has added me years that would have been lost had I of stayed I'm very certain
@@ang3956 yes, all survivors want to turn that clock back. And that causes rumination going forward, at least for me. Therefore, even if removed from a toxic relationship, they still haunt you forever. They are the devil.
After a toxic work environment and prior bullying in high school, I developed MS…I believe 100% this is true!
Once I left that environment, the MS never got worse…22 years later, you would not be able to tell visually that I have MS
I’ve had MS for 14 years and just got out of DV. I have MS and my disease has never been better! In med #9 in 14 years but was diagnosed 1.5 years into abusive marriage. I’ve always felt they were connected, especially the emotional neglect.
Had a nurse that lived next door to me growing up and she put my mother on the spot in front of me when I was about six years old.
I had hives more often than not. Lots of them all over my body.
Scratching in public was not something that was common in my neighborhood or the school I attended.
This nurse also went to our church.
She asked my mother when was she going to do something about my hives?
My mother answered her as if my suffering was inconsequential,
" Oh, they always go away."
By the time I hit middle school I had ulcers, and by the time I was in high school I had suffered so many outbreaks of hives they could be as large as a football on any or many parts of my body severely affecting my ability to do the work and duties she had assigned me to do.
Endless chores, and no affection and a relative amount of disdain for me.
She could not support me in much of anything and she pretended that no one would notice.
No accountability, no remorse, no apologies, and especially on empathy!
I feel so sorry for others who had to start out their lives this way!
I then dated covert narcissist for years only to realize that he was good at faking concern but had no real ability to truly love or exhibit any real giving or appreciation or remorse or empathy etc.
I realized that he was just like her.
Then I had children and suffered with their narcissist dad.
What a life!
If we could explore the true environment that babies, children and minor are living in we would probably be able to help people before they are struck down at an early age with such maladies as this and all the other autoimmune disorders that you mentioned.
If someone turns you stomach inside out or just turns it that is for me a big red flag!!
Most people do not tell on their abusers because they have no where else to go and children can only opt to run away!
Or stay . Both choices are dangerous!!!!!
Crying Shame!!!
So I have studied Psychology for over forty years and people are still like ostriches with their heads buried in the sand.
Thankfully I discovered the one and only Sam Vaknin.
He saved my life!!!!!
He said every term that you hear on Utube concerning narcissitic abuse he invented except grey rock!
He has been working on this since 1996, and I wish I had a computer to find him on. Twenty long years staying before I watch his videos one after another and he was so spot on about everything that my now ex of eight years was putting me through daily. WOW!
It was like the song , Strumming My P
ain With His Fingers .
Saying my life with his words, I broke down and cried hard !!!
They love to make you suffer.They manipulate the truth. They believe their own lies and expect everyone else to.
Lord your story is almost just like mine except I suffered with Asthma as a child where my good breathing days were far lower than the some of the worst Covid patients. I nearly died as my mom smoked over me, and stressed me to the max by threatening to give up my only source of love and companionship my cat. We should talk. I also have two Psych Degrees and dates narcs. Now I’ve got more Auto Immune Diseases. I understand you. I don’t know you but I know you.
12 years old: cooking dinner,
working at a grocery store,
“endless chores “,
cutting the grass,
walking uphill everywhere including to school .
Dealing with lupus
@@jackidezell3736 Hi Jacki DeZell!
I rarely comment but felt compelled to this time.
Let me say one thing for sure, it is never wise to date a narcissist!!!!!
People do androids. 😂 It just came up on the word choice screen when I was attempting to spell the word and,... And I decided with humor to go with that instead of finishing my original sentence. 😆. Haha!
So back to what I was going to say is that it takes a long time for most people to ascertain just what thou hast wrought upon thyself?
Opps!!!
What have we here?
Oh no not again!
We were programed upon arrival to planet 🌎.
A truly crying Shame!
The trouble is that by the time you hit that lightbulb moment, you have another narc on your hands and in your life and you told them your past and now they weaponise it against you in the subtlest of ways so it is impossible for you to defend yourself.
By then a person is very emotionally invested and lets it go this time.
Until they do it again and again etc. Because they take it as if you have given them permission to dis you!
Or they say you are too sensitive and get over it! I was only joking!
It is a great song by The one and only Rod Stewart you should maybe give it a listen if you dare. It is one of my favorites!
Write me back if you want. I must get to 😴💤 sleep!
Thank you for liking my comment. Look up Sam Vaknin, the Grandfather of Narcissism.
@@madonnanix7635 I’ve got my own channel that I just started and I’ve watched Sam and everyone else. Thanks fir writing back! I appreciate it. Also the University that I got my Clinical Psychology Degree from is called Madonna University so maybe that’s an omen that we should know each other? As it’s in your name. 🙂
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I also strongly believe that narcisistic abuse leads to auto immune illnesses, and not only those but also other illnesses as well. I personally know several people with severe autoimmune illnesses who are forced to live with narcisistic parents. I have developed many different illnesses as well as a result of exposure to narcisistic abuse. The effects of evil narcisistic abuse are deadly! Thank you for an extremely important video Kevin. God bless you❤
Developed severe SLE (commonly known as Lupus). Couldn’t get to remission until I left. The stress of an 18 year marriage with an abusive grandiose covert narc almost killed me. Even if you leave with nothing, you need to get out. The chronic illness and pain you are experiencing is directly related to the narc abuse. You are responsible for saving yourself.
lol my upset stomach went away Completely every time narcy was not around to spike my drinks with visine.
im pretty chill but ill never be able to relate to the obsession thing. i either love you or i dont. of course it can be conditional but i'm 100% sure of What the condition is exactly before i make an oath of course.
imagine allowing abuse for years thinking it has to stop one day right? No. the answer is absolutely not. don't learn that the hard way. don't be like me.
lol also i had the Great Idea to trust this one with EVERYTHING . so he made sure to find every unstable person thats ever had a slight inclination to dislike me and made them part of his A team of clowns. obsession is not a strong enough word here. this guy is haunted by my existence. he can't stand the idea of people being happy alone. he has to endlessly exploit them. Now Imagine him doing this same creep shit with at least 7 different ppl. he Has No life but steal fuck lie stalk. repeat.
I've got systemic sclerosis and in a narcissistic relationship. However, I'm now winning with my health after death was knocking on my door and getting other secondary diseases.
@@11kwright Have you heard of SLAA? It’s a 12 step group. Go to women’s meetings. It will help you get clarity and get out. I thought I had no options. I was so sick I couldn’t work. I made it out, and support myself. You can do it too.
I’ll remember this
I got lupus too thanks to a narc family member. I was very sick. Failing kidneys, heart and lungs. Ended up in the icu close to death. I was told I’d never live a normal life. But I was determined to leave my narc household and did. After leaving, all my lupus symptoms disappeared. I still have it, but no pain, no flares, no rashes, and my organs started getting healthy again. You don’t notice how much a narc is hurting you on every level until you leave. The lesson is: if you’re in a narc household, get out.
In 2016 I was diagnosed with endometrial cancer. I had a hysterectomy. Then 1 month later ... Stage 4 lymphoma cancer. I was dying. GOD healed me! Praise JESUS. Living with my wicked, evil,, vile narcissist husband caused me more than emotional stress. I took care of him on hospice untill I watched his last breath. I wept. Now I am super free!!!! I miss him sometimes, as crazy as that sounds because I truly , genuinely loved him. He literally was cancer to me. GOD Bless You Kevin😊.
There is proof that you get sick AFTER your stress level goes from higher to lower. Stress creates a fight response. Getting sick on vacation is a real thing for the above reason. Like when you got gout AFTER ok your mind relaxed.
PTSD and auto immune diseases are like withdrawal syndrome
scape goat abuse + stress + denied empathy/comfort = autoimmune disease. sad...
sad as hell
And they still believe their the victims
I have fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, chronic high white blood cells and lipedema since 13 years old that only has gotten worse every year. It stems from childhood abuse and neglect, daily bullying and abuse by peers growing up, abusive ex-husband and ex-boyfriends, forced isolation and being gangstalked daily by society and surrounded by fake friends and backstabbing extended family members like my brother, cousins, nieces, and aunt/uncle. I've had not one single person help me ever either, only people who further stalk me, manipulate, gaslight and hurt me. I've learned that the only being that can help and be truthful with me is God.
Plaque Psoriasis 🤟 I started showing patches as a teenager and I just started looking into the body psychology of illnesses and was blown away. I definitely see the connection between the abuse and all injuries and illnesses. I wrote cut off letters to 2 people, my mother and the father of my boys. Funny thing ever since I walked away my skin has been clearing right up. I also have alopecia and went completely bald for 2 years, needed clobetasol injections just to stimulate my scalp. I honestly had no idea for so long. Thank you for sharing and confirming my suspicions. The psychological belief behind psoriasis is that I can’t stand on my own two feet. Heal the mind and heart and the body will follow. So far so good 🍀
Have you managed to combat the psoriasis fully ? And if so , how did you arrive at it
I had a great childhood, but along the way, my mother had a dog that she stressed out so badly that he lost his fur. I took him in and his hair returned immediately. My mom felt bad and recognized the stress was causing her dog to loose his coat. She took him back and he was so nerved up around her that his hair fell out again. Sad how we have to learn the hard way.
I had various signs of diseases (inner inflammation of eye, ecsemes, lumps, pain of bones, pain in chest, pain in spine, caughing....) But I always knew knew knew it is psychical emotional and spiritual and four years ago I gave it to the hands of God, I spend a lot of time with God (not in religious but real way because He is living and loving!) Listen to how He sees me and His truth heals me, every day with God I feel better and better! It is true folks, Jesus heals everything do not be afraid❤but first - avoid mean and toxic persons from your space!!!!!
Eczema here. On my lower legs.
Dr Gabor Mate talks about stress and autoimmune
He talks about how the ratio of MS was 2:1 women vs men, to becoming a 5:1 ratio
He site’s emotional/psychological stress
I don’t recall the exact numbers but you get the idea
I would put a 'like' to everyone's comment/response I've read below so far, but that would get a bit ridiculous!! My heart 💙goes out to every person who has brilliantly connected the dots & fought for their health; their life & those around them. It's a massive amount to deal with & I applaud all of your efforts, intuition, tenacity & perseverance. Extremely commendable, & I pray 🙏you will bring light to others as Kevin did in delving, finding & sharing this important information. Thanks Kevin, for ALL you do. 💛
I’ve been hospitalized had surgeries and had cancer all do to my unhealthy lifestyle dealing with narcissism. Spot a narcissist RUN your life depends on it !!!!!!!!
Sadly not everyone has the luxury to run..... 😢
Inflammation ...totally happened to me last year.I turned into Fred Flintstone legs. .couldn't barely walk for four months..all going through homelessness...stress and the after effects of sever narrisistic abuse by family.
I am sorry! So you gained weight (water weight) from the inflammation? Because I gained tons of weight (I am convinced it’s mainly water weight) since I have inflammation and multiple autoimmune diseases. Unfortunately my doctors don’t even want to check if it’s water weight. They just say I need to do sports and a diet (I can’t do any sports anymore and I hardly eat anything anymore and only healthy food).
Raw aloe vera and raw pineapple will heal you
@@jbeauty4150 raw pineapple might just help but most importantly stay away from plastic and go with "ceramic materials" for everything in ur kitchen
@@jbeauty4150 also get a cotton shower curtains
@@jbeauty4150 if u do buy juice brand make sure to pour it in a "ceramic pot or cup" then drink it always wash the plastic bottle before u pour the juice in the pot or cup
I grew up with a narcissistic mother and married into a family with a very toxic mother-in-law, a covert narcissist. I was not familiar with covert narcissism as my mother was a grandiose narcissist. I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and epilepsy four years ago. The epilepsy is caused by one of the lesions on my brain measuring at 1.7 cm in length.
It’s my opinion that if you’re already genetically inclined to certain health issues, adding emotionally/verbally/mentally/physically abusive people therefore causing serious trauma into the mix, it will guarantee disease and the progression of that disease. I now struggle with basic body functions that I once took for granted-I won’t get into the long list of problems I know have bc of my disease. GET OUT and STAY OUT, GO NO CONTACT. You can honor your mother and father from far away by praying for them, and not speaking bad of them to others.
I’d rather live in a nursing home than with a narcissist. It’s as simple and true as that.
Why do you think a lot (not all) Narcissistic people live longer and have pristine health into their old age? They dish it-we take it. GET AWAY IF YOU CAN.
Your experience mirrors mine. Narcissistic parents, 1st and 2nd husband. I’ve had MS since 2001, and except for flares now and then, I bounced back. When 2nd husband started w/ his “back problems,” I had to care for him nonstop. He abused me in every way possible. Plus, when I had flares, I was on my own. I left in 2021, and he dragged out the divorce until this past December. Even though I was on Mavenclad in 2023, it actually made me worse: I’ve had 4 flares since Jan. Like you, my symptoms have quickly disabled me causing problems I never thought would happen to me. You’re right: Only the good die young.
God bless you and keep you, and may you improve. You deserve to be healthy and happy.
Yup…was diagnosed w rheumatoid arthritis within one year of marriage to a narcissist. Spent 27 years in confusion and pain… I am out of the marriage w great effort and still have RA but it’s much less vicious in it’s expression. Fuck narcissism: the (d)evil on this earth
I’ve been waiting for this video like everyone else here. Same thing happened to me, I got out of a toxic marriage and family system filled with cluster B people,(basically Narcissists/Borderlines)etc. had lupus symptoms was given medication to treat my Autoimmune disease and then I reversed it, same way you described. Stay away from the drama. I also have PTSD.
This is gold good job saving lives making these videos.
My narcissistic abusive Mother stressed me out so badly that when i was a kid my hair started falling out in clumps. The stress had killed the root follicles of my hair and now the weight of it (i had long blond hair that i could sit on!) was going to pull it all out. I had to pixie cut my hair... Years later, after another particularly stressful period of my Mother's life , it happened again. The third time my hair fell out over her abuse was the last time... i wrote her off and she passed away never speaking to me again.
I also lost my hair when I was 28 I lost all of my hair all over my whole body
So true, and so happy to see this being talked about. I just had this feeling inside that my illness was related to my relationship among other factors like my diet and childhood trauma. I was diagnosed with Hashimotos 4 years into the relationship. Just being in the same room as him would trigger panic attacks and I could no longer sleep in the same room with him. It’s devastating and debilitating, and of course they have no care for you or how much you’re suffering each day. Lost my identity and love for myself then eventually my health, but learning the truth is setting me free. Hearing these things makes me cry. Can’t wait to have my peace again. 😢
My dr says a shot glass a day of tart cherry juice for gout and kidney stones. Praying for your gout to go away. God bless you.
Yup in America you need to be a nutritionist along with getting this psychology degree from the narc ..look up videos on GMO corn and soy it's in 80% of your food a bug will die if it eats American corn ..think about that
It's ok to be alone. Narcissistic people think that Everyone Loves them! If you leave them alone and forget about them, they can't steal your energy.
creeps love to stalk u when u leave the house here in Fresno Cali. mess with ur food. lol there was a time literally all my underwear went missing just overnight. they weren't special idk why that was the klepto choice lol. just Creeps being creeps i guess. if u search statistics its called larceny i think. basically it happens often, the finding a way in, an unlocked window, attic, sometimes there's fire escapes that don't lock. broken roofs. trespassing when no ones home. its easy to monitor ur car so they're always gone before u can get home. for a long time i would have the same couple cars cut me off in traffic all the time trying to get me to crash my car. right around the time my insurance was expiring lol. sometimes its not money ppl r after. they just love winning some imaginary battle in their head. 99% of my stalkers i never met until they approached me in the weirdest way and loved say things that were off-topic but that might trigger a response. would be funny if it weren't for all the random threats and violent activity at my home.
@@estephanelia My mom did that all the time. She even came to my home when I was 38 to destroy property / chicken coop / copper pyramid and brushed it off as insignificant.
I knew it I knew it I knew it! I’ve been in an out of hospital for the last 3 months yet still undiagnosed. I’ve had numerous tests/scans and investigations done and yet leave with no conclusion all whilst having the symptoms of an autoimmune disease. Context, I slowly over the last 2yrs but surely separated once and for all from toxic dysfunctional abusive/narcissistic family in January. I was fasting through Feb when symptoms began as I was stressed. I immediately knew in spirit it was God purging, redeeming my childhood, restoring years the locusts ate and healing wholly but no language or research could prove it like this! It’s been hard to sit still as He works but He sure is faithful to complete what He started!!
God bless you for shining your light where there seems to be no way 🙏🏽
Amen
This is true and I am proof that this can happen. I moved in with my mom who is a narcissist which I didn't know at the time. I started developing RA symptoms and my inflammation levels were 3 times higher from a normal level. I visited the Dr for 3 years and it got to the point I was in so much pain that I had to roll out of bed. Anyway, once I figured out I was dealing with a narcissist I went no contact. I was healed almost immediately and never had the problem again. Thanks Royal Me because you were one of the platforms that opened my eyes. These toxic people are bad for your health and family or not you must let them go.
Holy Cow!! After 20 years married to a malignant narcissist, I developed one autoimmune disease after another! I was diagnosed with Guillain Barré and Chronic Inflammatory Demyelinating Polyneuropathy (a chronic progressive neurological disorder)! He ruined my life!
I could be wrong but I can see a clear line between the increase of narcissistic abuse fallout (kids who experience it > grow up to be adults who now recognize it > dealing now with the fallout) and when parents stopped taking care of their kids. Back in the day, if you were bulled at school or whatever, your parents (in my case, my mom) helped me get through it and supported me, taught me to be strong and helped me feel better. Moms aren't around like they used to be, it's like parents nowadays are more interested in proving their worth in a career versus being a good parent. It started around the 80s and parents have gotten progressively worse. The 80s and 90s kids are adults now and those chickens have come home to roost. They're all over the internet talking about how their parents weren't there for them. How they suffered abuse, their parents didn't know or cause it themselves. Parents stopped being dialed in to the family some how along the timeline.
I'm just piecing together the past 25yrs or so. I think you are on the money about this; there are whole religions devoted to narcissists by narcissists and they are destroying humanity.
Well I knew about the connection between high cortisol levels and narcissism in my spouse and eventual destruction of 50% of my thyroid gland. The thyroid problems post dated his death in 1981 of a heart attack many years later but my life was low stress after I recovered from his death amd spent 41 tyears withna terrific man...I healed myself in my graduate psych program along with my program therapist. But that mate kept me happy strong and enjoying life. I saw that I had high somatizing levels on my MMPI test I had to interpret while learning to score and write reports for them as part of my dpctpral program. The narcissist was an increibly difficult man...I got so lucky in meeting the right person for me soon after he passed away.
scary accurate "thyroid storms is what I'm hearing"
Wow! I knew it! I thought that was the root all along!!!!!! Thank you for confirming this!
I really appreciate you saying that our time on Earth is a punishment..because it is!! I’ve been suffering tremendously for the past 3 years with chronic illness so I really appreciate that perspective as opposed to most people’s toxic positivity
That is a Christian perspective and it's frankly spiritually abusive. Other religions such as Islam and Hinduism understand our time on earth is a period of development that involves suffering, but it is not a punishment. Believing you are being punished for existing is a great way to create illness in your body. Break that spell.
@@vanessac1965 I totally agree with you!
Having been subjected to bizarre emotional abuse by people I knew and had no one who could be trusted for several years in a row, it literally felt like I was going to die. I'm trying desperately to heal before disease is the result. Aging has hit fast-forward, and I don't even look the same.
Stay strong please don't give up 🙏
UW hospitals and clinics in Madison Wisconsin also did research that showed that children who were sexually abused when they’re young also have autoimmune disorders as a result or chronic physical pain that they cannot find a physical cause for.
I learned about that over a decade ago. I wish more people knew how much emotional health tears down our physical health and impairs our healing ability as well.
That is a big reason why sometimes counseling can tremendously help people because holding it in and not talking about it for releasing the trauma in someway it definitely causes physical illness as well .
My go to has always been journaling, and then burning what I wrote and I don’t know why, but it works for me. It releases all of the negative emotions when I do this.
Absolutely there is a connection. I’m an integrative and functional medicine practitioner. I see it all the time. I also experienced autoimmune disorders from toxic relationships. It’s a reality.
I saw aa doctor that is like you. She told me that un her 35 yeaars of practice, I was her second sickest patient she'd ever had and rhis was AFTER I got half of my thryoid taken out due to cancer of it. She set me on the path of discovery and liberation as she explained to me thoroughly what was going on with my entire being. She even called my now ex husband into the room and told him that she didnt know what kind of stress I was under, but of it didn't stop, he was gonna lose me. Thinking now that was the plan all along. Just glad I left as HARD as it was, but I'm alive and FREE. If you only knew what all I went through..... So glad there are people like you and my doctor in the world that TRULY understand what's really going on and how to overcome it. God BLESS you and I hope that your life is filled with abundant, beautiful blessings, peace, love, health and joy! Thank you!!
This is eye opening ...I developed goiter and diagnosed with Graves Disease a couple of years into an abusive relationship w a narcissist.
I was scapegoated as a child. When I was 31, I was diagnosed with Sarcoidosis! It comes goes
This is very much on the button, Psalm 1 read all, The way of the righteous and the end of the unGodly.
5 yrs with the narc and my adrenals went into overdrive. Hyperthyroidism was the result, which led to other problems. Nothing has been the same since.
Why is nobody talking about narcissistic adult children or children even before they become of age!! ...but sorry I did hear you finally say AND EVEN lol. I just wish there was much more on it. My daughter is a narcissist and ive escaped the rest of my toxic relationships and family members, but when it comes to your own child it can be entirely debilitating on a whole different level. That our own baby. Everything inside is primal....Mom?bye Ex?see ya siblings? Get gone....but child? Wow. Horrific. Praying hard for myself. Thank you for your information
LOVELY11... how do you cope with it? I'm deeply concerned about this. I see some really concerning traits on my child, my ex narc golden child.
Going through my discard. I lost 60 pounds, barely remember what I didn’t say to day back then. I had messed up vision, went to the eye Dr and I had a bleed in my eye from stress he said. My mental state was bad, I couldn’t remember things. I was very quiet. I truly believe this to be true
2 husband's who abused me seem upset with the outcome. One was who I was married to when I was diagnosed with MS & Lupus. He was verbally & physically abusive. The 2nd was there to verbally abuse, use & control me for 15 years & when I'm health got worse & I was given a very grim diagnosis he walked out.
Both act like I'm wrong for my motto "once I'm done I'm done". Both want me back. Both tell everyone that I'm the one who wanted a divorce & act like I was supposed to just take it.
I'm not great in health now though 9 months of renewing my relationship with God & healing. It'll take time & still dealing with the 2nd husband who drinks at a bar 2 blocks from my home everyday. I just keep praying for freedom.
I can truly attest!
Mom/military narc & toxic relations literally!
Stood ground regarding both!
Removed from military due to dx, denied benefits, record modified!
Survive off small SSDI!
Most high able!
Not a precondition
I’m out of both, symptoms and stress slowly reversing!
Damage done physically and psychologically!
No medications!
Ty Royal We!❤
Lots of this is so true and BOOM it hits with a punch. Chronic Fatigue, all the nerves in my teeth (eventually losing them all) weight loss, ulcers, grey hair, and on and on for 31 years. Skip to almost three years after it ended and out it all spewed - everything including the realisation I was abused 😮 It’s taken a further 7 years of hard work but right now I have such an understanding of my nervous system and body and finally feeling healed ❤
I'm the daughter of a narcissist mother. I'm dealing with adrenal fatigue, migraines, fainting randomly, weird rashes that don't seem connected to anything, blisters on my mouth, etc..
autoimmune diseases can often be caused by certain chronic infections such as borreliosis or EBV. the stress from dysfunctional relationships might have effect on immune function, which might then in turn, cause the illness to rebloom. since doctors are not obligated to find these causes, then scapegoats are then double jeopardized. knowledge helps in such scenarios for healing. -Lori
I fully believe the abuse i suffered through with my ex husband and his mother/family triggered a severe case of crohns
ACES from adverse childhood experiences speaking of this check into , I have ace score of 10 read the deepest well
How nice of them to tell us what we already know. I'm glad the info is out there though.
Eating bad stuff is a feel good response. It was defin8te toxicity from narcicists that tipped my auto immune situation that is ok now. But we are gluttons for punishment wanting to restore the unhealthy toxics, but finally you have to walk away, turn your back and leave them in hell because they chose that, you didn't. Rewelding of yourself happens with stronger immunity, more compassion and gratitude. Somehow that's healing.
IBS, hashimotos thyroiditis. Yeah . A vague stomach knot that went away after going no contact with narc mom
Omg! I was always active and healthy but in my early 20th they found lesions in my brain and later diagnosed me with Sjögren’s. Out of nowhere. I was so confused. Later in life working through my childhood trauma and going no contact with my parents helped me to finally get normal blood work. Even doctors said it’s not possible to have antibodies just disappear but they did. Recently I talked to trauma therapist and she said that as a child who is constantly in fight or flight response, your brain cannot process it and brain lesions can develop from that. Healthy diet, and healthy lifestyle and no contact with all the toxic people makes a huge difference
I believe I have undiagnosed Sjogren's. Do you still have symptoms or have you been able to reverse it with diet and trauma therapy?
@@LynnFaust-yi4vo I changed diet and keep exercising daily and have very mild symptoms, just dryness of the mouth and eyes, nothing bad at all. And my brain MRI have been stable.
@@larissacats390 I am so happy you've been able to manage your symptoms. Currently I started having an irregular heartbeat and palpitations. I am trying to stay active, but the heart issue is concerning. Have the dry eyes and mouth too.
@@LynnFaust-yi4vo I am sorry to hear, definitely go check with a doctor. Sjogrens sometimes comes with Lupus as well.
@@larissacats390 Been in and out of doctors appts for a year. My ANA and RMA Factors came back negative. I know I have this autoimmune disease as I have every symptom. Was in the hospital last month with pneumonia. I am on a rapid detox diet currently since doctors are giving me the run around. All they do is look at blood tests and determine you are fine if the labs look good.
I lived in Israel but worked in Palestine in 2000 when the second intifada started. Our work coach was being shot at on the way to work. My car was petrol bombed, my neighbour was attacked. It was a frightening and very stressful time. I moved back to the U.K. a few weeks later I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. I asked many doctors if the stress I experienced could’ve caused ra, they all said no but couldn’t tell me what did cause it.
yes! After a particularly stressful incident of abuse between my xhusband and my teen son (not his) while I was travelling for work, I came home and immediately had an onset of Bells Palsy. Following that, I had onset of crippling dyshidrotic excema, and following that I had onset of gastric issues. Once I finally asked the narcissist to leave, all issues have disappeared - I have utilized many vitamin supplements as well as accupuncture and therapeutic massage as treatment for stress during the duration of my divorce.
😂THANK YOU for sharing such VALUABLE information with us & CONFIRMING why we should avoid toxic people! 😃
Thank goodness someone is talking about this. Thank you Kevin. It all resonates.
It makes perfect sense b cos the immunity is ur bodies protection - boundary & fighter of toxic invaders - inside the body, & outside the body thru people who have negative attachments, attached in their energies who want 2 make ur life a misery, they have poor spiritual hygiene - & sadly & unfortunately do not have ur best interests @ heart!! ...
My father was a lying narcissistic abuser and I developed type 1 diabetes at age 5. I nearly died from ketoacidosis and was rushed to the hospital where my blood sugar was above 800. True to his narcissistic demonic form he blamed me for developing it and used it as an excuse to demean and belittle me. In the pre-insulin-pump era going through puberty resulted in bonkers blood sugars, which consequentially resulted in less than stellar grades in school. This gave him further opportunities to continuously berate me and judge me as being "lazy" and a "bad investment".
I've spoken to him only once in 15 years, which was wasn't my choice.
Anyway, this is interesting information that I hadn't heard before. Thanks for sharing!
Yep I got Graves’ disease, I also went natural and identified the abuser as the reason why I developed this. Today I’m back to normal, no meds just changed my diet, life style and no more abuse….
This validates my thoughts on this subject, thank you sooo much for this video. I have always said that my body gave out about a year after leaving my physically and emotionally abusive narcissistic ex husband. I figured it was just adrenal fatigue after being on high alert for so long. Then, a few years later, here I am with Multiple Sclerosis.
I recently put this together when i realized the link between the vagus nerve and nervous system and gut health. I seen this title and had to watch. Just started watching it but i think its gonna be good. Definitely a link between dis ease (stress) and disease.
I connected this awhile ago.....but I'm not a doctor. Or a professional. So I cannot tell anyone.
I've noticed every person I've met with autoimmune disease have been abused or they're so stressed out from something, it just happens :(
I am greatful. I do not suffer with autoimmune disease . Thank you for the video!
I've literally lived with a covert narcissist parent for years, I've tried to get away but there has been no help so I'm stuck with her. And I've been going to the Dr for Autoimmune issues and everything from arthritis, swelling joints, gout, thyroid issues, loss of hair, migraines, skin infections (red rashes and itchy skin, swelling around the nuckles on my fingers), and some blood issues. So last week my Dr finally asked about my living situation and asked if there was abuse or something else that this may be causing it all. Literally doing what I can to move out now that I know this, and with sky high rents and housing assistance telling me after 2 years I'm number 8000+ on their list. I've pretty much have decided to live in my car, put my stuff in storage (that I can visit and hang out daily), and a gym membership (so I can shower and have a place with air and heat as needed). I think it is the only way to escape unfortunately, but it is better than abuse that is killing me.
Agree 100%, I also believe that once trauma sets into the body, the immune system ceases to function properly, then this can also lead to cancer and other life threatening diseases.
Omega 3 reduces cytokines.
Ive done a ton of research on this stuff also after having experienced a lot of trauma in my life, and it all stemmed from my upbringing. My life started changing when I got away from it, and the same thing happened to me, all of the stress finally took its toll on me and I had to do the work to get my body healthy and functioning properly again. The human body IS capable of healing itself if the environment is changed to promote a healing atmosphere, as well as, given the proper nutrients. Mind, body, and spirit are all of the aspects, and I wish that healthcare providers would address it this way instead of just prescribing drugs and making people think they are forever broken and need to rely on prescription medications. This is exactly what big pharma wants, people stay sick and make them rich off of their pain and suffering.
Do you think fybromialgia can be cures?
Yup, mom was a narcissist, I had toxic relationships my whole life, I started getting sick in 06 when I started dating my ex husband, I was told I was fine and nothing wrong with me, it finally reached a high point in 2012 and was finally diagnosed with sarcoidosis and stomach ulcers a few months later. since then, I have left my husband and cut off all communication with my mother. 1 month after I left my husband, my stomach ulcers were gone, 4 months after that, I was 50% improved from the sarcoidosis, and 1 month after I cut off my mother, I was in remission from sarcoidosis. I continue to work on myself and heal past trauma and every day I have more and more energy and feel amazing.
Currently dealing with autoimmune disease after having a traumatic 2021. But I am getting better
Thank you for your research! It’s very helpful, you confirm my suspicions! Yes, stress triggers the autoimmune system I believe! Yes the narcissist toxic abuse triggers PTSD! All that stress wares you down! Your body can respond in all kinds of ways if you don’t take time to recover!!!
Lifetime abuse caused Polymyalgia Rheumatica. PMR. It was miserably painful and I had to be on Prednisone for years. I’m free now, from the abuse and the PMR. 🙌🏻
Woah. Eyes. Wide. Open. 😳 Healing from not only narcissistic abuse, but a multitude of autoimmune diseases. (fibromyalgia, high blood pressure, interstitial cystitis, arthritis, G.E.R.D., etc.) Not to mention CPTSD…
Recently, I found out I have Graves’ disease (hyperthyroidism- autoimmune), that I’ve been living with for years unbeknownst to me, just thought I felt like crap everyday.
I’ve been married to a golden son for 12 years, and this IS the end result of the stress!!!!! Get stress free!!!! I would love to hear more information on “The Golden Son” Of a narcissistic mother, as this describes my situation. It’s definitely a nail in a sure place! Medication is needed with Graves’ disease as it increases your mortality rate and affects the heart directly.
I developed Hyperthyroidism as well. Sad to see many go through this
Í know for a FACT this dude is correct. I had thyroid cancer and some other issues under 30. I researched incessantly and my conclusion was it came from undue continuous stress placed on me my narcissistic mother. I knew something was ojt of order because NO ONE anywhere in my family for generations had any of.this bullish. And like him, when I moved, I got better but as my body calmed down I got sick..it took years to undo the mental damage that kept me sick after removing the toxicity.
Many studies have found 5x contributing factors for an autoimmune condition to go from poor living conditions and environment to full blown autoimmune malfunction:
1. Poorly Managed High Stress levels, 2. Chronically Poor Sleep 3. Poor Diet, 4. Poor fitness 5. Contact or ingestion of modern disruptor chemicals, and + A SINGULAR TRIGGER EVENT that has a HIGH IMPACT Body or Emotional shock to the system (Car Accident, Grief, Severe illness, Hospitalization/medical procedure, Divorce, etc.).
> OTHERWISE KNOWN AS A-NARCISSIST-TARGETS LIFESTYLE AND A MATCH!
To manage the new Narc gift, reduce and/or eliminate all inflammatory triggers, starting with 1-5.
The sooner you get your life built back for max health, the less damage to repair. Consider it your new lifestyle.
And trust me, you can wait, and it WILL kill you, even if your doctors cannot determine what ails you.
And for a bonus, leave you at the mercy of your loving Narcissist before it does.
Do not expect help or cooperation from the Narcissist. Helpless and Dependent are exactly where they want you.
If they promise help, know it for the lie it is. (and Stealth, remember stealth!)
They will willingly sabatage any effort at escape, stress management, proper food, proper self care, and definitely siphon any money they know about.
Can you even sleep a full night any more?
Healing can be done. But It will take some doing!
Good Luck!
what Kevins is saying is 110% true. when you are in a toxic relationship for an extended period of time, your flight or fight response is operating constantly and according to medical research, any organism can tolerate short-term stress, meaning any stress response is only allowed to last for a short period of time. no organism can survive in a flight or fight response for a long period of time, if it does you are headed for a disease. that proves people who are in toxic relationships tend to get all different kinds of illnesses and diseases because they are living in stress response all day long because of the toxicity they are engaged in. Just imagine living your entire life in flight or fight response day in and day out due to the abuse, of course, your body will lose all of its energy to regulate itself( maintaining balance ) and your immune system will weaken because it does have enough energy to function due to the fact that all of that energy is borrowed by the body to deal with the external threats of abuse. I got this whole thing from a Neoro scientist explaining the connection between the mind and body. i am sure you know dr joe Dispenza. he was explaining this flight or fight response with regards to our thoughts, and how humans can turn on the stress response by thought alone. ❤❤❤
This is a great video and so important to share. Thank you.
CRPS has not been officially deemed an autoimmune disease yet. After a lifetime of narcopathic abuse (along with other serious trauma as well), I received a diagnosis of CRPS or RSD, and I'm living proof that no contact promotes healing. Although my autonomic and parasympathetic nervous system's may not ever be normal, I can say remission from some of the severe painful symptoms of CRPS 1 type has been possible, at least for me.
Take it seriously, people. It's not worth your life to endure the torture of toxic people if you have the option to cut them off.
Wow.. thank you..mother, ex husband were abusive, narcisstic abuse. Divorced 2016, mom passed 2017. From 2018 to present have battled skin disorders, Prurigo nodularis. arthritic disorders, spine degeneration. So much more,,,
I developed vitiligo. It's an autoimmune disease. The first signs showed at the end of my therapy, two years after I had left the narcissist. It was triggered by all the stress. I know this because vitiligo is not running in my family.
Same! It was devastating
Yes!!! I was diagnosed with a rare form of autoimmune and then my back went out I needed immediate surgery!!! Whenever I get physically sick and my back problems it’s due to abuse! I was able to put my disease in remission by diet (anti inflammatory diet) but the BIGGEST thing is to get rid of the narcissist!!! I have one narcissistic friend (just realized) whenever he acts up my disease comes back! Cortisol and leaky gut are real! You aren’t imagining it!
cortisol dripping into the bloodstream . Run.
abuse leads to a lot of stress and that leads to the autoimmune disease. the problem with this type of stress that it does not end when the actual physical situation does, it keeps going on in our minds and bodies until we heal the trauma - that is what most people who have never endured it are missing! overtime the body gives way and also becomes dysfunctional.
Betrayed by the love of my life. The day I was walking away she became paralyzed from an accident. Decided to stay in the marriage for financial reasons. She has no family to care for her. Three years now. Over a year in hospice. A narcissist with no control. Now that I am educated she has no control over her last thing she considered hers. Now I am looking for ways to cope because she has been my best friend since we were kids. Never been this sick as I have in the last year. Considering leaving because of it. The gaslighting is unbearable when you know it's happening. Thanks so much for this video. It validates my intuition. How can I insulate myself from abuse and remain?
You didn’t mention Scleroderma, have been diagnosed for 10 years. Have been divorced for 1.5 years now and things have been getting somewhat better. Acknowledging you and the article you presented, I absolutely get it. I did leave the relationship, after 39 years, because I finally figured out that he was a narcissist and I just couldn’t take it any more. I did move far away. I miss my extended family, especially the grandkids, as my children have many issues of their own because we were exposed for so long. I am trying to heal in many ways but we have to give ourselves time. I lean on God. I am 67 years old and live in a retirement community in Florida, moved here because of health. I do have many setbacks but I have a positive attitude and plan on learning, growing and connecting at my pace. Having community brings security but also conflict. Thank you for sharing this information. I believe it will help me on my path of wellness and love.
I don't know if it's linked but I have unexplained stomach upset issues and random thyroid problems for over a year now even though I eat normal foods pretty healthy and I'm young with no family history of health issues. I've been in a relationship with a narcissistic man for 5 years and I didn't know what the word "narcissist" even meant until a video popped up on RUclips one day and I realized, this is the definition of him. I wouldn't be surprised if they're linked because I've endured so much psychological mental verbal and emotional abuse the whole time.
I hope you find/have found a way to leave. No one should ever experience abuse. I hope you heal.
Lived it and I think it related to APD spouse
Omg im finding this channel now and i can't believe its exactly what has happened to me i now have graves disease from extreme trauma even though i am in my late forties
Interesting you have made this connection. My older sister developed the autoimmune disease Sarcoidosis. She also had breast cancer and a partial mastectomy which is related to lymph nodes. My mother is a narcissist either covert or NPD, Im not sure definitively. My sister received an amount of abuse and I was scapegoated also. I have depression and have had acute anxiety for most of my life, anxiety / depression related eating disorder related to poor appetite and poor food choices which I have since corrected. I am lucky to have avoided an autoimmune condition. SALT, FAT, SUGAR - A lot of the conditions described in this video are also related to poor food choices, food is used as an emotional regulator, trauma victims tend to choose dopaminergic foods(foods that induce dopamine) SUGAR for example, excites exactly the same region of the brain as Cocaine. Sugar is highly toxic, causes heart problems, causes an over-release of dopamine, which down-regulates dopamine sensors causing depression symptoms to worsen and also causes an increase in the intake of sugar to reach the same high as before. Sugar hardens and blocks arteries, causes whole body inflammation, all cancers are inflammation related. Fried starchy foods contain high amounts of the carcinogen Acrylamide. Fried foods use highly inflammatory cooking oils namely SEED oils which have been identified as highly toxic to the human body.
Trauma-induced emotional eating compounds trauma and all cause mortality causing premature death.
Sarcoidosis here also.
@@alouise3557 I have developed mild psoriasis in my ears since posting this original comment.