"There's Nothing Better Than Being Single" | Daily Wire Hosts React
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- Опубликовано: 5 авг 2024
- There seems to be a movement of people advocating that you should wait to get married; some say you shouldn't get married at all. @MichaelKnowles , @CandaceOwensPodcast , @MattWalsh , @AndrewKlavan , and @BenShapiro discuss why this trend is emerging and what can be done about it.
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"Married fantasy" 🤣😂
Well woke up this morning next to my wife of 15 years. Rolled out of bed.
Made us both coffee.
Kissed my daughter on the cheek and told her I loved her to wake her up for school.
Now I'm sitting outside with the dog on a beautiful fall morning as everyone else gets themselves ready for the day...
Thanking God for all the blessings he has given me.
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God Bless your beautiful family, Amen! 🙏❤🙏
You know it's not Fall yet, right? 😛
@@englishatheart, leaves are changing where I live.. that's fall to me.
This one hits. I spent my entire 20s desperately wanting to be married. I put off a lot of things I wanted to do in life because I wanted to find a husband. I tried doing all the right things, did online dating, kept up my appearance, made vision boards. It wasn't happening. I thought I was being punished and I didn't understand why. I was devastated, anxious, and frustrated. When I turned 30 I finally decided to live. I went to law school. Then Covid hit. I stopped online dating when it was starting to amp up for everyone. I got a puppy. I started mentoring. I invested in my friendships. Took care of my parents. Took up pickleball. And above all I started attending Mass again and really making God the center of my life. I met my husband my last semester of law school. I'm getting emotional writing this but he was so worth the wait. God has been so good to me. He gave me the desires of my heart even though He didn't move on the timeline that I wanted. Looking back, the woman I had transformed into during my long period of singleness was exactly who I needed to become to be a good wife.
Exactly Same for me as well!!!❤
Congrats! I'm a few months from 28 myself and am starting to panic too. Single, (which doesn't really bother me) but I really want kids and am starting to feel like I'm running out of time. So I hope my future pans out like yours!
@@islandgirl7925Be encouraged!
@@islandgirl7925 I was 34, he was 38. We were married 6 months later. And that's the thing. Once it happened, it happened very fast. Because we were older and knew what we wanted, there was no need for delay. Stay in faith 🙏
@@poseidon_demeter I felt the same way. And honestly, when I met my husband things had been silent for several years. It truly felt as if nothing was happening and that fueled my frustration. I wasn't meeting men, I wasn't talking to anyone, not dating. But I believe God did that purposefully so that I wouldn't become distracted by thr wrong men. When I met my husband I experienced a clarity with him that I had never had with anyone before him. If I had been dating several men at once, that likely would have added a lot of confusion. So my advice would be to keep God at your center and be in your purpose. I promise things will eventually fall into place, even if it takes a little longer.
I married at 27 and had almost 12 happy years before being widowed. Being forced into singledom made it a struggle to see the positives - but the best antidote to grief was trying to think about others. Self-centredness is never the answer, whether you’re single or not.
You are 100% right. I'm almost 28 and single. I just want to serve people. I try to give as much as I can since I live alone with no kids. I got time and some money. It's better to think about others because that brings true happiness. It is more blessed to give than to receive.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I honestly have a slightly morbid fear of losing my husband. I was so independent before we met, when I was 39, but after 14 years together it's not that I can't live without him, I just don't ever want to. I'd be so broken.
How are you doing with it all today? ❤
@@katashley1031 I was the same - news articles about someone’s spouse dying would have me in bits. My family are so supportive, and I’m a Christian, which helps me see this in the context of a plan. Widowhood isn’t just the absence of a spouse - it’s a status in its own right. I don’t know why God meant for me to be a widow, but I trust to his wisdom. Eight years in and I still miss my husband, but it does get easier.
What did you end up doing for others?
I never wanted to be a mother, never had that motherly instinct. I remember being 8 years old and saying that I didn't want kids. A lot of people told me that I was going to change my mind with age. Now I'm 38 and still don't want kids. I live a very happy fulfilling life and I love all my nephews and nieces, and my side hustle is being a babysitter. Still don't feel that anything is missing and I am beyond happy I don't have kids. What I'm saying, it's just, that not all women should or need to be a mother, and sometimes it's not for selfish reasons, you just don't feel it.
You're absolutely right. Some people choose to dedicate themself to a larger sphere of influence. These people become missionaries, scientists, inventors and the like. Identify your unique purpose and pursue it. The world needs you in another way. There is truth to this.
@@johnstagl5651u can be married and still do all of these isn't it
@@FerryBem absolutely! This usually depends on the level of focus and determination one possesses.
If you're unsure, stay single and childless. It's hard enough to divorce if you're childless, but with a child, it's agonizing.
The most noble thing anyone can do is raise children though since none of us would exist otherwise.
She's not fooling anyone. Happy people don't post on social media saying that they are happy. They are too busy being happy.
Then why do so many people post about their babies all the time? I don't care to see that either and some lifestyles simply aren't possible. If you can't have kids, then you can't have them.
@@crystalh450 they are looking for attention too.
@@crystalh450some people are just self absorbed in whatever they do. They may not be as bad down the Narcissist Train because they actually had kids and gained responsibility for someone other than themself but those photos are largely about Me Me Me Me. They want the likes, and the dopamine they get because other people affirm them.
I’ve come to really despise social media, aside from the venues you’re learning something or sharing information not about oneself. Your self worth isn’t based on the fake front you put out on the internet for likes. Just live an authentic life in the real world, and save the socials for something useful. I have no issue with folks putting out content that’s about something (tutorials, sharing skills in a way to teach, maybe even news coverage or other external ideas) but the moment a creator is all about themselves, I’m out.
Exactly. Bang on.
Hit it on the head!
Every six months I think "Man it would be nice if my wife took the kids and visited her sister". Then she does and after one night I think "This house is quiet and awful." Even the hard parts of marriage and family are better than my alternatives.
Only few understand that
That laundry list of a million projects I have around the house certainly gets a little shorter in anticipation of their return. Is that just me?
Especially when you “burned” your boiling water and you shrunk your favorite shirt because your wife usually does the wash. Right? 😜
So true. When my family is away, it feels like I'm being irresponsible.
Amen 😊❤
I'm almost 33. Dated most of my 20s, back to back. Since 2020 I have been single. I've accomplished more in this time than I have my entire life. I built my brother's house, got my own and fully remodeled it. Been practicing martial arts I'll have a first degree black belt in December. All of my friends(most) are married and have kids. They all think they want what I have but I tell them SOMETIMES I want what you guys have. If you have a nice, caring family don't sabotage it because a lonely person is convincing you the single life rocks. I would love to find a good woman and have two kids, boy and girl. But I want to be the best version of myself in order to sustain that. The grass is green where you water it.
You're gonna get divorce wrecked it's guaranteed in your future. 75% failure rate for marriages so no way you'll succeed.
Beautiful and mature message. ❤️
What we all need is to appreciate what we have and grow up. Whether you happen to be single or married, enjoy it and work on yourself (not only on your body or career, but most importantly, on your mind, heart and soul) and always remember to help others along the way.
I know people that are single and miserable, constantly involved in toxic drama with friends and flings-as I know people who did marry and have children but refused to grow up, so they avoid spending time with their family, cheat on their spouses, and eventually just quit.
The common denominator of your life is *_you._* What are you doing to make life better for everyone? Or are you just waiting for other people to make _you_ happy?
The grass is green where you water it. Indeed. I should remind my self to say that to all my friends saying similar things to me, basically everything you've wrote only the female version. I guess I needed to read this today especially.
This is soo good.
100%! 👍
As 29 year old single guy, definitely struggle a lot with loneliness and temptation. Even with working full time and going to Church and Bible study on a weekly basis, I still have a lot of time on my hands on weekends and at night. I have a lot of respect to those who stay pure, even when you know that so many young people around you are sleeping around and having their fill of intimacy ... Idk if anyone else feels this way, but just a real struggle for me.
Keep up the faith, God knows how you feel.
Being alone shouldn't necessarily mean that you are going to be, or are lonely. I'm single, though haven't been lonely in decades....
Yes mate, I can relate.
I'm 57 now but was 33 before I met my wife. I kept myself for marriage in this sex saturated world and was told (by people that got married young) that I shouldn't even be looking, and that God would bring the right woman along in His time.
Long story short, I married a gold digger who spent money like it was going out of fashion (while I was being told that Godly leadership in marriage wasn't a dictatorship but I should lead by example)
I eventually got fed up & stopped her having access to our joint accounts.
She left me just after our 13th anniversary & now I haven't seen my oldest daughter (now 19) since she turned 12.
My 17 year old I used to see for just 1 hour per month until I had to move 400km away because of financial issues (at least partly caused by her mum's spending)
Finally learning how to be Baddass in my mid 50s.
I pray you'll find a good Proverbs 31 wife mate🙏🙏
Prayers coming from Western Victoria Australia
@@betalife5511I agree. But I've had to wait AND marry the wrong person twice before finding the right person a few weeks before my 55th birthday. To say it wasn't easy is a drastic understatement
I'm 27, and a muslim, but other than that I'm exactly in your boat.
But like the first replier said, though hard, it'll be worth it when you find the right person.
Don't give in to the peer pressure around you and keep on pushing Soldier
I'm single in my 30's, no kids yet and saving myself for marriage. I think these single TikTok's send the message that being single means being free of responsibility. I help others so much that oftentimes I don't even feel single. I have so many obligations that I can't just jump up and go on holiday without planning, despite being single and childless. I think we need to understand that there is a difference between a self-centered life and a selfless life with responsibility. Married or not we are not to live for ourselves, but to help others.
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BINGO!!! WELL SAID!!
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What if you die tomorrow? was being a virgin worth it? Incorrect. We should live for ourselves first than others.
I married at 37. I bought a house at 30, when I couldn't stand having roommates anymore. While I rented, it took a lot of effort to fill my Saturdays. The lady in the video had a "stacked day" watching TV, but I didn't own a TV. So, i tried to spend my Saturdays doing something physical outside. After I bought a house, I was overwhelmed with tasks, because there was no one to split the responsibilities of owning a home. And yes, I tried to serve the families in my life, but I don't have nieces or nephews. Basically, I would do free babysitting for church families so they can Christmas shop or something.
In short, I know that being single can be very, very busy. Or it can be too much time on our hands. I knew lots of guys who'd buy "beater" cars so they'd have something to do. Many of us bought houses to have something to do.
I wasn't lucky enough to meet my husband till I was 36. We knew right away it was forever for us so we got married that same year and I got pregnant. 5 years later and we have a house and 2 kids. It's the greatest blessing of my life. Better late then never!
Love this single at 33 & hoping for this to happen.
Congratulations. Glad you got your happy life , so do I , 21 years married with 5 children. Wouldn't trade that for whatever this crazy single lady thinks she has.
Congratulations!!
Yes I am 36 right now. Want to get married but haven't met the love of my life yet. Not everyone who is single needs to be judged
@@youareright2802lol, yeah not men but the females definitely do.
How is she a narcissist? Some people don’t want kids because of how many mothers say they regret it
I agree with you that she may not necessarily be a narcissist but I have NEVER met a mother that regrets having children.
I guess it depends on the quality of individuals you surround yourself with though.
@@jessdonnelly1496 just TikTok’s, I’m young I don’t have any friends with kids but thanks for the rude ass reply bum
Some people want to get married, others dont. Some want to remain single, others dont. Simple as that. As for the concept of "right and wrong choice", the "right" choice is the one that makes you happy, the "wrong" choice is what makes others happy, but you miserable. Your life is yours and yours alone, neither society nor tradition has ANY claim on it. Never live your life the way OTHERS expect you to, your life and destiny are for you to define. Dont just blindly follow the path society puts in front of you, but rather make your OWN.
I wish I could like this a million times. These people obviously live in a bubble and have no idea what reality is.
Very wise
I'm graced to be happily married since 15 years now with 2 wonderful boys and I can tell you so right. You put the words out for me. You're absolutely on point 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
What if a pedophile reads this? What a moronic world view lmao
Actually your life is not yours. Everyone is held accountable for the life they choose to live. A life of selfishness and narcissism is incorrect.
If you're lucky enough to find the right person to marry, there is nothing better than being married. If you're not able to find the right person, or worse, you marry the wrong person, then there is nothing better than being single!
True words have never been spoken!
There you go .. to each there own .. everyone is so quick to judge and label people for there words that are true for them .. she slept in until 1030 cause she’s hung over at a Beyoncé concert not because she’s lazy and sleeps in every day to that time .. they don’t say that they just want to rip her apart . It’s so ridiculous. Blah blah these people are pissing me off .
You don't understand how one civilization survive and culture consequences of demographics changes European are a dying civilization compare to Indian Chinese and Arab. So your world view is wrong because it's taking western civilization into extinction. Childless women are menace to society.
@@tammyknipe6262 I agree.
@@tammyknipe6262Im single and anti marriage but she sounded pathetic to me, the more she tried hard to make it sound like a happy life the more pathetic it looked. Married with kids is only a happy life in a balanced country not the USA where divorce lawyers are vultures
Matt Walsh eloquently points out the difference between happy and miserable people: perspective, choice, and gratitude. We can't control the world around us, but we can be grateful for the path we are on.
Lol
This is what happened to me when I felt overwhelmed when he gave the example of kids needing you all at once in the morning and they are cranky...you can be annoyed OR you can change the perspective and say ''omg they still need me, they want me to be around them to give them attention and I only have them for some amount of time where their priorities will change and they will go into the world''.
When me and my husband started to think like that and be grateful on every minute our kids want to play with us, cuddle and just enjoy our company we keep saying ''we are lucky they still find us interesting and want to spend time with us than with their friends''
It made such a change in our hosehold and kn our family dynamic it's just insane.
Every single new day is actually an adventure, no matter how that new day may seem to the rest of the people. Also I could cook pizza while other people are going bungee-jumping. They live, I live.I am grateful for being alive and for being able to watch the clouds in the sky. This is one of the most amazing things in this life. Earning a million dollars means absolutely nothing to me.
@@Dandan-tg6tj People that don’t have money often say that.
So, there are no miserable people that are married with kids? 😂 You couldn’t be more naive.
I think Candace Owens is kinda reaching calling the girl a narcissist and loser for waking up at 10am and watching tv lmfaooooo
When you’re religious and inadvertently ridicule your messiah for being single at 33 😂
Single and childfree 😂
Here's for the girl that made the "I'm single at 29 video". At 70 years old I can do all the things you can. I sleep till noon if I want, I have my own money, I can make Shakshuka for breakfast if I want. AND I have a son, a grand daughter and 4 great grand kids. Get married, have your family-there will still be time to enjoy yourselves and if you are blessed by God, you will live to see your great grand kids.
Amen 😊❤
Question. Does single people make you angry?
Amen! That is wonderful! God Bless!
@@CaroLI-lh2re I don't know about other people, but it makes me sad to see all that potential wasted.
@@CaroLI-lh2re Single people make feel sorry for them.
If you have a great marriage, you are going to recommend marriage in general. But if you are suffering in a bad marriage, it’s way better to be single.
That's why it's so important to avoid bad marriage in the first place.
Exactly! They didn’t mention this! People don’t know how to be a good spouse nor how to foster a good marriage, that’s why people don’t want to get married because most married people are either miserable or divorced.
Relationships grow. And what grows is what you water. I have observed some couples who water misery “he always does this! etc”; and some water gratitude “I really appreciate how you ______”.
Miserable marriages can become happy ones with intentionality.
Assuming you didn’t marry a psychopath, but statistically they are very rare
@@user-mv2tg8hc8cyour statistics are wrong. You will find most people get married and stay married. Especially if you are religious and practice your faith together, because you are invested in shared values which highly values marriage. I would also agree that it’s important to figure out how you can prepare yourself for marriage by developing personality traits (patience, a good sense of humor, slow to anger), skills (how to cook, fix a car, do laundry, manage finances, avoid debt) and values (loyalty, forgiveness, know how to celebrate and have fun) which will help you be a great marriage partner. Too many people want a perfect spouse or a person with wonderful qualities which they are not developing in themselves. My husband and I married when we both 27 and have been happily married 27 years.
I've had challenges being married. But none of them come even close to the benefits. Once I resolved in my mind that I was in it forever it was much easier. Would I do things differently? Yes, but being single isn't one of them.
I have grown up with parents that were constantly fighting and my dad alcoholic and my mom was always crying…and this is 90% of my friends that went through as well (cheating father, abuse etc)….how do you want the today’s generation to want Marriage and kids with such examples in their childhood? And you know why our parents were terrible? Because they were told that at 25 is time to f marry and do kids regardless if they have found someone special or not…😢 I hate people that force you into marriage and makings kids when you don’t have the right person to do that with 😢
You can Sort out your life for 5-10 years, then think about Marriage
No one is forcing you to,
We're just stopping this to become mainstream...
So, our future generation don't follow that (cuz most kids have normal life, You've been with wrong people)
Cuz, eventually life's gonna get boring & lonely if you don't have a family.... as your parents & relatives are gonna die someday
There's a reason, having family is Common among all culture, in all countries in all Continents, In all of the History 🎉
@@Jack-tk1isshut up
@@Jack-tk1is such an adequate, well-put response 🫡
Very valid point of view!
@@Jack-tk1is I 100 agree that we are social creatures and life will get boring when you don’t have physical power anymore to travel and have activities…however the people around you and the tribe you create for yourself for your later years doesn’t necessarily need to be a husband/wife or kids…if you have genuine friends around you or partners, sisters, nephews any good human beings you will not feel alone. I am looking around me and I see who suffers and who doesn’t…I have friends that are married and have kids and they crave to stay in contact with people outside of their family because that family is toxic but the friends are loving and caring people. We really can’t generalize saying that everyone should be married and have kids by 40…it is just doesn’t apply for everyone! And also in the past and in the history wasn’t applying but there were rules mostly religious and people didn’t have a choice
I’m a 41yr old woman in a 17yr relationship and we chose not to have children for our own reasons.
Never do I think oh look how amazing life is without kids.
Children are a blessing and people who chose to have them have one of the hardest but most rewarding roles.
I am glad I’ve not had children but I don’t think I’m better because of it.
This new parent bashing is insane!
Me too! 41 years old, 17 year relationship, married for 15, no kids, not through lack of trying but we have no bitterness now that we’ve moved on. I have nothing but admiration for family and friends with kids and offer to help. And my life is not without its charms also, my friend came over for coffee without her kids and was a little wistful about the luxuries we could invest in ourselves, and that we volunteer with shelters with our spare time. Her kids are growing up to be awesome people so both sets of lives are fulfilling
I am in a relationship, in my 30's and don't have kids and I do quite often think that life is amazing not having them. BUT (and that is the thing) this thought does not exclude being happy for other people and them feeling the exact same bit WITH kids.
You can find life amazing having kids, without bashing on families that don't have kids and vice versa. it's not exclusive to either side to be happy
Been with my husband for 14 years, no kids and we're really glad we didn't go that route. We just knew it wasn't for us for a few reasons, not least among them money, but there were others. Still, when a loved one has children we're over the moon for them. And then we get to be the auntie and uncle, which is really great. 😊
You're gonna regret not having kids.
@@stuckatthevalley what makes you think that if I may ask? Some people just don't want kids for very specific and/or personal reasons and will live happy and fulfilled until they die.
I'm divorced and 30. It stinks. Ignore this lady
Why does it stink? Sounds like God gave you a gift.
I call it freedom.
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“Partner” 🙄
That is a disgusting term. You either have a bf or a husband.
I give Matt Walsh a LOT of credit in this discussion: While Ben be like "Marriage is always best PERIOD," Matt notes that there ARE legitimately folks who are better off staying single, provided their Life Purpose is such that can justify needing to not have a family. Heck, Christ Himself noted this, as did St Paul (who made a point to emphasize that HE was unmarried...despite having been a respected and well-educated "orthodox" Jew himself).
I absolutely agree with you but I hear Ben's point. Paul did say, better to marry, than burn with passion. There are single people who have lived a fulfilling life that is/was constructive and not all about themselves. 😊
I agree that you have to make an effort to find the right one, and it May take some time. But being single all of your life, no matter how successful you are, it would of been much better though if you were married. And that applies to everyone.
I totally agree! It’s more about giving of yourself, not being selfish in whatever state of life you’re in.
Why do you have to justify being single? You don't need a reason not to get married.
It basically comes down to the fact Ben is Orthodox Jew, and to them it is always better.
I agree with Walsh, but I also profess Jesus as Lord and understand there are other higher callings that can preclude a marriage or family. No one would claim Mother Theresa was a narcissist for never marrying, for example.
I do believe the majority of people would be better served and serve better in a marriage. Not everyone can be like Paul. And we are in a population death spiral right now. We simply need more kids as a collective.
I lived the single life from 13 years old to 22. Got married at 23, to an amazing woman who puts up with my man bs. At 30, my wife and I had to live separately for 2 years, for work, even though we had a baby boy. I lived the single life while being married and had a child. My own luxury apartment, came home when I wanted and woke up when I wanted. I'm also, a free thinking and free spirited person. I loved the single life and was so disappointed when we began the transition back to living together. However, now that we've been living together again for 1 year, and we have a second child, when I wake up in the morning and my children needs me, or when I have to put family before MY needs and desires, there is nothing more satisfying. It's during these times, when I am worked to the bone by my family and totally exhausted, I look back at the "single" days and realize how miserable and empty I was when I was living without my family. There is no greater feeling of satisfaction and purpose, than the feeling of being a parent to two amazing loving children who need their daddy.
How did you find this amazing women?
Why do these men think they have the right to discuss about women wombs? They have no idea about the challenges that comes with motherhood but yet are so quick to blame women for not wanting to be mothers 🙄
Funny you, wasn't a woman part of the conversation?
So... we're pro abortion now?
Why do you have the right to be sexist and misandristic? You don't get to tell them they can't speak on a subject because they're lesser than for not being a woman. It's especially ironic because if they shaved, put on a dress and wig, and said they're real women now you would probably tell them they're so brave
I guess C.O. is a man now
@@emma_luce_0623 she was trying to prove to them that she was one of them. by condemning women the loudest
40 years old and been with my husband for almost 19 years. If both partners don't have the same goals and life vision, it won't work. Being able to not be selfish and make sacrifices for each other for the betterment of each other certainly helps. Too many won't do that and expect to be catered to every step of the way.
Communication really is key.
I would not want to be single right now. Seems like a hellscape.
Right? I’m 44, two grown kids, husband of 23 years. I don’t need to worry about getting a babysitter to go out with (or without) my husband whenever I want, I still look and feel great, I wake up whenever I want on weekends.
It is miserable. I just dated hard for four entire years and just recently met someone I would even entertain a long-term relationship with. The focus on narcissism today and this video is so accurate. Dozens and dozens of women that made my skin crawl with how fascinated they were with themselves. Spoiled entitled brats. It’s really sad because I think one day they will wake up and realize how hollow an empty they are. Or maybe not.
@@WildernessMedic the level of entitlement and unrealistic expectations of constant emotional perfection are just too much. I really hope the person your found might be the one for you long term. It isn't 50/50, it's 100/100!
@@UserOfTheDay Yes! We are almost there, youngest is 12, so occasionally needs some assistance and supervision, but he is also very independent. Sleeping in on the weekends is the best!
@@WildernessMedicYou're worried about spoiled entitled brats when you have ankle traps for animals on your channel. Incredibly cruel
I have no interest of getting married AT ALL.
And you will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart. -Jeremiah 29:13
“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish, but have eternal life. -John 3:16
Repent therefore, and turn back, that your sins may be blotted out.
-Acts 3:19
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Yeah, it’s been ruined in modern day. Women have ruined marriage (and themselves.)
That's fine, some people don't deserve to get married
Your loss.
You’re no different to these woke tiktok girls
If these hosts were actually interested in helping, instead of running a gossip channel they would be using their male influence to mold men to be something worth marrying.
There are seasons in life. Learn to be happy in whatever season you are. But don’t compare it to another season that has nothing to do with you right now.
Before I got married my sister who was married and had 2 kids at the time often told me how weird it was for me to get home and there was nobody there waiting for me, I loved Every second of it. Now I am home waiting for my husband, and I love it. It’s the season! Be happy in it!
So what about when you desperately want to get married but there is no one out there for you?? Every time someone shames someone for being single, they’re causing pain in those of us who can’t find the person! It’s not fair or easy! I’m sick and tired of everyone around me who won’t shut up about how great marriage is.
@@zaram131 Maybe you're so eager to get married instead of finding a partner great enough for marriage. Would you rather be alone or in a really sh!tty marriage? Worse yet, with kids?
Don't get me wrong, I wanted to find someone, I just don't believe in it anymore. So I figured how to live and depend on my own. And it's fine. It would be better if I got someone I really enjoy the company. But I like my own company more rather than enduring terrible people. I also did that long enough in this life because I didn't know better back then.
I cannot believe it is easier or better to face the world alone.
@@ruffusgoodman4137sounds like you are too picky, or have unrealistic expectations of marriage.
That's right! Love and enjoy every moment of life, whether you are married with children or not.
Why so much drama over one situation or the other?
So now, according to Candace the divorced lady who is enjoying her time on her own, having her own means to take care of herself, and feeling attractive, is a narcissist because she mentioned those things. Wow! what an assessment! - That lady is seeing the positive side of the situation and Candace is insulting her.
She wasn’t really seeing the positive side… she was bashing on children and parents basically. Why couldn’t she just enjoy her day? Why did she have to make that video? To make her feel better about herself and to justify her lack of commitment?
@@viciousLUA Maybe she's sick and tired of people telling her she should marry and have children. It goes both ways.
@@haasteagle4925What other real purpose does one have if not to serve humanity in some noble way by means of artistic, philosophic, or scientific breakthrough, besides the exception, if they lack sufficient resources or are simply comparably less productive or insightful, therefore a family is of highest importance representing a tribute to life itself while providing yourself someone you can love unconditionally; unless you've been culturally brainwashed with the philosophy of going out to "live your best life" at least for a while, until you've finally receive a blow to the face brought about by a gust of wisdom, hence maturing and growing prepared for human responsibility, either in genuine social contribution or upbringing a *good* family, which in turn produces good humans for society. And if one feels adamantly narcissistic and/or critical concerning these positivistic avenues of growth then they must strongly consider self-reflection and revisit the reality of their subjective views regarding life or in the end, commit to a meaningless life of existence, serving in the rat race, going nowhere happily, slaving for corporations which can easily replace you, buying things you don't need, indulging in irrelevancy, consequently leaving behind nothing of true, inherent value.
Candace slags off everyone if they don’t fit into the married with kids box
I do disagree that sleeping until 10am is something that automatically translates to being depressed or a loser. If you are a night owl and you are working at night, you might sleep until that time and it doesn't mean you are depressed. Aaron Levie (CEO of Box) and Alexis Ohanian (Founder of Reddit) both go to sleep at 2am and wake up close to 10am. They are multimillionaires.
I have been married for 13 years, married through my 20's. I found my best friend for life. I don't want to start over with someone else. Why? I love who I chose. I love the life we created. It unique.
Being divorced with kids IS the most difficult situation one can put themselves in, especially for the children. Watching my children go back and forth between their father and i has become the worst feeling ever.
Is there a chance you could get back together?
I can second your view. It hurts me to pass my kids back-and-forth with their mother.
I do the same with my 1 yr old. We never got married but I agree ita extremely difficult for children and parents.
Well at least your kids have a father involved many don't you're still blessed I guess
Same. Very hard indeed!
How is she pregnant allowing them to smoke in front of her?🤨
because she's a narcissist
I love being married, im lucky that i found the right person. And i have 2 kids, and i dont think there is any better feeling than watching you children learn, try and succeed at something. From them learning to feed themselves with a spoon as babies to winning a race at school because they tried their hardest. Being a parent brings emotions unmatched by anything
As a teenage girl, the way these men talk about parenthood and fatherhood is so so so amazing !!! I’m almost speechless. I wish there were men with the same mindset in my generation
Yeah the only problem is most men (people in general) are broke so it's highly unlikely that you will find one attractive to procreate with..
There are, but you're looking past them. The boys who are like that will grow up to be men like that. But since they're invisible to you now - you'll be invisible to them when they grow up and start to run the world. Trust me, you don't want the letterman athlete, you want the valedictorian. Ten years down the road, that athlete will be working for the valedictorian.
I love you guys but you DO sound a little cranky. I didn't get married until 36, not by choice, but when you're single and alone, sometimes it's nice to hear that it's ok and be reminded of the benefits and blessings of the place you occupy in the time you are in. I'd rather hear you mock her choice of dish .. shock chuka? Married people are always calling unmarried people "narcissists" and it's not very Christian. As Christians we must envelop single people into the church and community. That's my take .
It’s not because they’re unmarried they are called “narcissist”. They are called that because they are, and that’s a huge part of why they happen to be single. You got it backwards on cause and effect.
So you're a narcissist right up until the point you're married? why? if you choose to be single that doesn't make you a narcissist.the way i see it there's no difference in her bragging about being single as everyone else here bragging about being married.
@@timunderbakke8756 lol incorrect. You think finding a decent partner is easy when it's not. I am single in my mid-thirties and I can't find 1 woman interested in me, and I will not pretend to be someone I am not just to try to find a partner. Most women now days suck, and that's not my fault.
@@timunderbakke8756 That is absolutely absurd. People are single because they enjoy their freedom and independence, and do not want to settle for someone just to shack up. You’re just as bad as the girl in the video. Your chosen lifestyle is not better than hers because you say so.
My husband and I lived the DINK life for the first 5 years of our marriage. It was so empty and now feels like a waste of time. I'm currently on leave with our 3 month old son and despite being exhausted there's nothing I'd rather be doing. His smile, snuggles, nursing personality bring me so much joy. Even the things you would think are icky somehow are not so bad. I get happy when he poops because he feels better, we dealt with his reflux by calling it spicy sauce, and appreciating the closeness and the smell of his head carrying him around when I'm dead tired. I've never felt so blessed and just wish I had brought him into our lives earlier.
I've had three children. They're now aged 26, 23, and 21. Though I love them very dearly, I am so sad that I didn't have more children. I know that feeling of wasting time that you spoke of. How much more life and noise and love could I have had in my house, had we been open to more life? It's hard to get through the rough years when all your children are young and you feel stretched thin and sleepless and stressed. But I grieve that we had our tubes tied and snipped, now that we're 50. I cry, imagining a daughter we never had, or a son older than our 26 year old, or what it would be like to still have an 18 year old making Eagle Scout and one at 15, going to Philmont or band camp or family vacations.
People, please consider being generous in your childbearing. If you are a good parent and you make good children, then your children will be a great comfort and source of love for you when you're older. (and all you have to do to be 'good' is to make the effort)
And then you get to spoil your grandbabies!
You like the smell of his head because babies release oxytocin from the top of their heads. That’s why women in particular love sniffing the top of a baby’s head.
The smell of my children as babies is the most amazing thing I’ve ever experienced. I was CONSTANTLY holding them and smelling their tiny heads 😍😍
We had our first after 1.5 years of marriage - it was definitely empty compared to now with 3 kiddos under 6. It’s so awesome. I quit my job as a nurse and never looked back after our first was born. My third is 4 months old and seriously, I just love the newborn months. They are so precious.
Oneperson5760 I just want to thank you for your comment it really moved me. I am already 27 so I don’t know how many kids I’ll be able to have once I get married (no prospects) but I’ll definitely keep what you said in mind when I have kids. I’d love to have a lot of kids.
The judgement from 5 of the most judgemental influences on a social platform is amazing to me. She's found her bliss, her peace & her happiness & somehow that's a problem for you. She's being honest with us, she's being honest with herself & she's not hurting anyone. You're judging her because she's not voluntarily risking losing her peace as she witnesses a great amount of other people who do risk there's & end up miserable in the end because of it. Leave her alone & let her do her while all of you do you. Geeez!!!
Exactly! Not everyone gets to meet someone they’re compatible to marry and have a blissful life
A lot of judgment in this one. Single, childless woman here; lots of free time to myself, and I love it, also plenty of time for friends, and to serve in my church and other ministries. If I can have a Sat morning to sleep until 10:30 it has absolutely nothing to do with being depressed! I live a very joyful and fulfilled life :)
Should you get married at all??? Most shouldn't.
You can't
Definitely if you want kids!
As a single childless woman in my 40's I happen to agree with you all. I've now done everything and bought everything and a family would trump it all!
May you be blessed with a beautiful family that you so deserve!
It’s still possible. It can and will happen 🙏🏽
I hope you do find what you're looking for. It's hard out there. I've literally done the same thing. I'm 39, house, car, make good money with my full and part time jobs, 0 debt besides a mortgage. I've made a happy environment, but the family aspect is missing. I just hope it's out there somewhere.
@@jasontodd9302 probably not.
just spread the info about your poor choices.
young women need to hear that
So if I get married and have kids, these people will stop expecting me to single handedly push the human race forward? I've been grinding for so long due to pressure from people with "grind culture" and I'm actually jealous of her for sleeping in and doing things for herself. This woman is free and some people just want that freedom. Let her do what she wants. There might be a time in her life where she decides that marriage is right for her and that's ok, too.
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They irony of everyone in that room complaining about other people being narcissistic is almost too much to handle!
All of them are in successful marriages with children so.
@@Triumvirate3because narcissists don’t get married and have kids? What’s your point here?
Instead of pushing men to get married, push to end no fault divorce and we'll want to get married again
No one in that room thinks no fault divorce is good, I promise you
Or just fair treatment in divorce. Parents should have equal custody unless one is proven incapable or abusive. Child support should be calculated based on the child's essential needs, then divided between parents either based on their earnings (he who earns more pays more) or custody (he who takes care of the child more pays less).
Property should be split according to share in ownership. What you bring into a marriage you take with you when the marriage ends, unless you put it under both your names. Anything purchased or earned during the marriage should be split equally unless there's a clear owner, or unless there's a huge disparity in earnings, in which case the spouse that earned far less should receive a share of all property held by the couple that is proportional to her earnings during the period of marriage.
Bringing false allegations should carry the same penalty as what the other party would have suffered if found guilty.
Something like that. Fair and safe by default.
@@thainac1732 The point @jameslebeau7078 is making is that men are avoiding/eschewing marriage because of the dramatically-increased risk of divorce (women initiate 70-80 percent of all divorces, at least since no-fault divorce was instituted) thanks to no-fault divorce.
Marriage is a raw deal for men. If you marry go overseas and/or get a prenup.
The best fight against no fault divorce, is changing the society. How do you do that? Get married and have children, stay faithful, don't complain, be grateful, raise those kids right, so they in turn grow up to be good people who impact society.
I don't see anything wrong with the 29 single....she probably works all week and values a day off, not everyone wants kids and lots of those people would be awful parents. Having worked with some of these kids, that were hated by their parents, I say, don't any kids if you're not sure! Better to not have them versus abusing them.
I have 9 siblings, am 18 years old and I can’t wait until I can raise kids. In my opinion brining a new life into the word and raising that/those children will probably be one of the most meaningful and selfless things I will ever be called to do
I've been married since I was 22 years old. My daughter was born that same year. I've been married 26 years now, my daughter is 26, and my son will be 23 next weekend. Being a Mom was the BEST and HARDEST thing I've ever done! I was blessed to be able to be a stay at home Mom. I'm now a grandma of 3 beautiful grandbabies. My life is complete. My husband still works hard so that I can continue to be a housewife and a stay at home grandma.
My daughter is ALSO a stay at home Mom. Her husband understands the importance of children having their mother with them at all times.
We're a Christian family and we value family. I don't know what I would do without my family and I'm blessed beyond measure. I'm thankful to God that I have all that I have... even though there were some really tough times over the years.
You don't know what you'll do without your family? So you love your family more than God? Bible teaches to love God above everything. Will you still love Him if what happened to Job in the Bible happens to you? Go read the book of Job if you haven't.
Matthew 10:37
"Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
Jesus words not mine 😁. God bless you
Matt, thank you for mentioning that many are called to parenthood but can't. My husband and I tried for years, several miscarriages, fertility specialists and no children. I'm finally beginning to accept that I'm really never going to be a mother. It's still tough when people assume that we have a "free" life because we're childless.
Please consider fostering, especially older children. As a teen I was orphaned and had nowhere to go and had to learn how to be an adult without any guidance. There are always children who need loving care and guidance.
Or adoption.
or please rescue dogs or dogs from shelters, they too need to be nurtured
@@Thisismeofcourse I've got 4 rescues 💕
@@viviennedunbar3374 this is truly a great suggestion. Thank you ❤️
I don't understand why married people are concerned about what singles do with their time. I'm single and 28. I would love to be a married woman, BUT I like these single women sharing how they go about their time and their day to day stuff. Just because you like doing things for yourself or being by yourself doesn't make someone a narcissist
I really fail to see how doing things for herself in her free time and enjoying a life with no responsibilities for children IN HER 20s makes her a raging narcissist. Surely she works to make a living, she's already contributing to society with whatever it is she does to support herself, so it's not like all she ever does is only benefiting herself. It's always 'she didn't need to make a video about this' while none of you would have an issue with a parent posting a video about how much they love being a parent. There's nothing wrong with her sharing what she feels is making her happy at this stage in her life.
She's in her 20s for God's sake, stop demonizing people enjoying life while they're young and deciding to delay taking on the most serious responsibility of starting a family and raising another human being to a later chapter in their life.
While I usually enjoy watching most of what Walsh is saying on his channel, this is one of his few takes I most strongly disagree with. The only raging narcissists I see are the people shitting on others and marking them as failures because they chose to not procreate yet and live an easier life in their mid to late 20s.
They keep talking about ideal scenarios but its very difficult to find the ideal partner
I don't think they're denying that at all. Hence why they said there's nothing wrong with being 29 and single and childless if you don't wanna be and it's not by choice. If you're choosing it, that's a different story.
Finding a partner is always hard, finding an “ideal” partner is impossible. You just have to get out there and look in places where great people with strong values and virtue hang out and a significant percentage of them can be found in religious or faith based settings.
@@viviennedunbar3374 Do you have source material for that? I haven't found credible, unbiased evidence that "religious or faith-based settings" have yielded better marriage material then the general population.
I LOVED what Ben says at the end. Fulfillment is in eternity being touched and appreciated and served. Good parenting touches eternity by the creation of goodness in action through their progeny. ❤
Absolutely
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@@michelleguzman77😂😂🎉🎉&hh
Yep. Loved how he acknowledged the circumstances, such as being miserable on holidays, that many people face while reminding us of the reality that seeking higher fulfillment is the answer.
@@lohi172 Those of us that are not married with children have friends and extended family, and are FAR from "miserable" on holidays. It's a silly, judgmental assumption.
I'm 30. I've been married for 11 years. I have four kids ages one to seven. I loved being married through my college years and getting to go home to my best friend every night. I loved watching him become a father. There are definitely hard things about being a mom-- the hardest thing I've ever done in my life.
But it's also the greatest thing.
When you're a parent you don't get to say those "I" statements because you don't live for yourself anymore. You live for your kids then your husband. It's not about you. It's about them.
Sadly the modern mentality is all about me me me not even kids matter to some people. Finding wife material women/men like you and your husband is very hard.
@@agnosticmanquestionsall2409 I feel like finding religious common grounds is very important. My husband and I are both very religious and grow up very religious. Our group of friends in college, especially the first year was primarily religious people.
The men I hung out with were all in that 21 to 23 range and we're looking for wives who would be good moms-- again, it's primarily the way that we were raised and that we grew up in religious houses where most of us had stay-at-home moms. Aka Catholics, Baptist, members of the Church of Jesus Christ.
♥️ Psalm 23
A bunch of multi millionaires preaching about getting married & having kids, are you even aware how bad the salaries and cost of livings are ?!?!
I just watch this whole video and realized y’all smoking and Candace is pregnant
Good grief why can’t everyone just stop talking!! Let everyone alone to live the life they want!!
Narcissist?! Are you kidding me. What is wrong with being happy with your life? Who cares if shes lazy, or even dumb. Not claiming she is..but what business is it of mine. Does it effect me? Does it hurt anyone? Then why am i wasting my energy giving it a second thought. Following the basic plan that society has told us is what we are meant to do isn't everyones journey. I know a ton of unhappy couples with children and i know a ton of single people who are just as miserable. I also know happy couples and singles. Truth of it all, do what makes you happy. Who is anyone to tell anyone what they need to be doing to find happiness. There is no set path to happiness. We are all different and find joy in what we find joy in. Frankly what im real tired of is people thinking they have a place giving there options on how other people live their lives and deaming it wrong or right. I dont give a shit about the text book version of happiness. Im proud to be selfish.. i do what i want and that doesnt make me a narcissist . Im also kind to people and respect their choices on their path. Worry about yourself and fill your life with what gives you joy. The rest is wasted energy. Stop dictating your way of doing things on others. You can only control your own envirement, and we barely have the power to do that. Let it be. Im happy shes happy. Lets all be happy too, in anyway we feel fit. The time is now.
I don’t think being single and childless is the issue - especially if you don’t desire it. The issue is you using your choice of a single life as a way to compare, discount, or diminish the choice others have made to pursue marriage and a family. Some people genuinely shouldn’t marry or have children. Marriage (while it’s challenging and hard work) it can be beautiful and fulfilling when it’s done the right way and with the right person. But the reality is, it’s not for every person. However, making the choice NOT TO marry and have a family doesn’t mean you have to promote your lifestyle choices in a way that cheapens the different choices others have made.
Being married with children and being single is quite similar to having a dog and not having a dog. Having a dog is amazing, the companionship, watching it grow from a puppy to a well trained and loyal dog is absolutely wonderful. But not having the responsibility of having a dog is soooooo liberating and wonderful in its own way… freedom to go to any restaurant at any time, freedom to sleep in as late as you want, freedom of silence, freedom to enjoy more things you can afford, freedom to not feel guilty if you want to go to a movie at 10pm on a Friday night.
it's called growing up
Yeah but what’s the point? What’s the point of being able to do whatever you want? For what purpose? Why does that even fulfill you as a person?
@@matthewgallant3622 What's the point of doing whatever you want? 😀What's the point of reproducing yourself to gain fulfillment? You act like there is no fulfillment unless you reproduce.
@@Be1New2You3 Yes, because all the abandoned/abused/poverty-stricken children in the world is a testament to all of you highly-evolved, "grown-up" baby-machines out there. 😀
@@matthewgallant3622 i think this person's comment is accurate though, they didn't say it's better to have freedom..but if you are not married with kids, you do have more freedom to pursue personal interests/goals (at least in the early years). Whether or not that is something valuable is a different thing. For the record I agree with you, and I actually don't think having so much freedom brings happiness/purpose in a true sense, being on your own is a struggle in its own right. It's not the "easy" way to live, as some people think..you have to constantly deal with existential thoughts and wonder if anyone out there will ever love you etc...I have friends who are single and in their 40s and it's a struggle, even if there are some perceived benefits.
Who cares if someone wants to be single forever, at the same time who cares if someone wants to get married and have bunch of kids!! Why do we have to picker about it and criticize each other so much? Personally I always knew I wanted to have my own family so i found myself a beautiful girl and we have 2 children and now I can't even imagine my life without them.. but I'm not going around shaming someone just cos they wanna be single for the rest of their lives, who TF am I to decide what's good for others. You can be happy being single and you can be happy being married.. just like you can be miserable being alone and you can be miserable being married and hating on each other, which is even worse. Just live your life and don't judge others for doing the same.
Well said, wish I could give you 100 thumbs up. (I'm also happily married with 2 adult children).
hey the most sense i have read these people are crazy.
I understand what you mean, though. It is important to bring up the subject because it promotes a kind of contempt for forming a family and adopting empty narcissistic tendencies.
Because young people are being sold a false story about how having kids is miserable. The reality is being alone in old age is the miserable bit.
@@lynncrf Having children is no guarantee that they will be around in one's old age. Retirement homes are full of the elderly who have no visitors or who only do a duty visit one day a year around Christmas in the hope of receiving an inheritance in their will. I have four friends/family members who work in such workplaces who witness the loneliness of their guests who actually have family that live in the same county if not city.
the person in the video seems happy. Why does this group need to attack her for that? It seems they aren’t secure in their choices if they need to attack someone just for doing their own thing.
Marriage does not work out for many young people. She is just saying it's ok. You dont have to beat yourself up. And now that you have tasted married life, you can make better decisions in the future. The hate is unnecessary.
While I'm in agreement with everyone on the panel (especially Candace and Matt) I just want to say this- marriage is not for everyone. For some people it's just not their temperament. (I have an aunt that was married 8 times!) Just as broccoli, theoretical physics, fly fishing, and stamp collecting are not for everyone. Their energy naturally flows on other directions.
I’m single and in my late 30s. Marriage and children never happened for me for various reasons. Some of it was my fault yes, but have not been on a date since my mid 20s.
That doesn’t mean my life resembles that of these people at all. I did some night school to better myself, and have dedicated my life to looking after my mum and her well-being and being a companion to her so that my brother is free to build a life and family and doesn’t need to worry about her.
Just because one isn’t married doesn’t mean it has to be all “me, me, me”
You don't understand how one civilization survive and culture consequences of demographics changes European are a dying civilization compare to Indian Chinese and Arab. So your world view is wrong because it's taking western civilization into extinction. Excuses doesn't help
Yes!
Im 40... was married for 22 yrs. ( i had a abusive father, i was 18, marraige was my escape route).
Now I have a 12 yr old son. I was in a difficult marraige. I was forced to do a certain things after my kid was born.
I felt trapped,but I waited till my kid grew up.
I was working throughout. Saved enough. Didnt take alimony or any property from him and i moved out. I moved for my dignity and self respect. Taking his money was against my self respect.
I dont seek a partner anymore. I am happy alone as i am traumatized.
But, if you have a good husband, dont spoil it. It isnt easy living alone.
It's rare that you find a soul mate. It's even rare to find someone who loves you. Getting divorced just because you are still beautiful and can have fun, is ridiculous.
That Candace lady is fuming. No one is that mad unless it’s jealousy or she thinks she made the wrong choice in life. She seems like maybe she’s jealous of the time that woman has to herself. It’s fantastic ppl can make the choice if they want to get married and have kids. And it should be talked about. In the past ppl never got the choice
No, do not wait to get married. Dating gets harder, the older you get. You get caught up with work, your circle of friends gets smaller (you stop meeting new people) and making time to go out gets harder. Dating sites suck, speed dating events are more hassle than anything else and singles cruises are just gross. If you find someone to love, never let them go.
As someone who married at 19, I agree with this advice. 2 kids and 19 years strong this month. I love and respect my spouse more now than I did when we got married.
@justbecause9049 lucky for you however not everyone gets the privilege to find the right person at 19. You meet the worst people during those ages
I found someone to love who said he loved me. But I had to drop him when I found out he was married and didn't want an annulment. He was Jewish, and thought he deserved more than one "girl." But yet, after 45 years, I still love what he might have been if he had become a Christian. He died soon after we parted.
Finding a decent partner is almost impossible nowadays.
It’s not psychologically healthy to spend decades dating. Having a 20 year dating career is not natural. We’re not designed for it. This is a huge reason people are so unhappy today.
Parenting does not make you a better person. Maybe Ben thinks it made him a better person, but the world is full of bad people who were parents. Not everybody has the experience of growing up in a well adjusted functional family environment. Some of us saw our parents display how destructive a bad marriage and bad parenting can be, and have chosen to remain single and childless, and we're not missionaries or scientists or anything particularly noble. We're just people who saw how difficult parenting is (Ben's words) and opted out.
Being even a half-decent parent absolutely does make you a better person. You have to learn self-control and selflessness. You have to delay your own gratification for the betterment of others. You have to mature and master your emotions so you don't have scary outbursts in front of the children. Maybe most of all, you learn compassion, understanding, mercy and forgiveness. Granted, that's only if you're at least a mediocre parent. Most people are.
@@oneperson5760also, God willing, you are there for another generation and get to be a loving grandparent and help your children as they learn how to parent. I am grateful for my husband and children. Being 65+ with no children or grandchildren is not a life I would ever personally chose.
@@viviennedunbar3374 A lot of people with kids and grandkids die alone because they've alienated everybody. I'm 66 and have no family and I'm okay with that. If others are happy with their lives with a spouse, kids, and grandkids I'm happy for them. Not everybody wants the same things in life, and people like Ben don't seem to be able to grasp that. And yes, I know about self-control and delayed gratification, and I'm okay in the compassion department as well.
There are nothing wrong with your choices.
@@oneperson5760 A half-decent parent is a "better person" than a childless person? 😀 That is utter nonsense, and the current condition of our society is proof that we need less mediocrity. The sheer amount of broken/neglected/poverty-stricken children are a clear indicator that we have MANY less-than-mediocre parents that decided that they would be "better" people if they had kids.
Agree with everything they’re saying BUT why are they smoking cigars when Candace is pregnant and they must very well know the passive smoke could be injurious to be foetus? They speak so much about respect and yet they couldn’t show the least possible respect towards Candace. Disappointing!
lol these tiktok woman isnt making nothing wrong to no one, why these married people feel so attacked? this is pure gossip, dont be so judgmental. There isnt better theme for you to choose to debate? com on, this sound like old ladies rural gossip
Don't rush into marriage, dumbest thing you can do. You need to make sure your partner isn't nuts. Takes time to learn about people. Going to lose half your stuff then if you have kids, never going to see them. Rules in court do not favor men.
We married when we both 27 less than a year from when we first met. Very happily married 27 years, everything just gets better and better for us. I am very grateful for my wonderful husband.
I LOVED being single and childless until I wasn’t; now I would never want to go back
You people are exactly the reason why no one consideres conservatives "cool". Coolness is an important cultural factor. I felt vicariously embarrassed listening to Matt Walshe
“Coolness” is not something rational adults care about. It is not so much that a woman describes a day full of worthless pursuits, it is that she brazenly “advocates” for it.
Matt Walsh sus
@PatI-zg9gm nobody wants to listen to a circle of harridans hating on youth
I was single until 38 and had attempted a long term relationship for ten years from 20-30 (I was a dem who didnt believe in marriage) but never once did I feel like I was the luckiest person on the planet for being all alone and having no-one to take care of. These people have so much time on their hands and no purpose. Now Im conservative and married with four kids- step sons, adopted and one baby girl - and yes, its harder at times than being single but this is God’s Plan for every living being. If we cannot make our family from our own bodies we can find our family creatively!
Im single and anti marriage but I agree with you, for her to brag about getting drunk at a Beyonce concert is more than pathetic and lonely.
Im 39yoa bachelor. No fun at all. No purpose. I meet many females, but most of them are no good. Always feel lonely when i go home at the end of the day. I need to level up to meet quality women.
I bet your husband is happy by working countless hours and coming home just to see the bed..
My wife and I were married at 33. First marriage for both of us. I couldn't ask for more. We both have had partners before and never wanted to be married. We were married and it's has been rough. Bitter fights, complaining, second guessing, but we stay married. Every day we tell each other we love each other and we don't lie. Ever. For every fight and bitter moment we have there are 10 moments of love and care. At the end of every day there is someone there to talk to. Reflect an entire shitty day with. We have realized that we have become more than lovers, we aren't friends. We are now partners, an impenetrable bond of two people. We were never taught that when we were young and had to learn it later in life. We are expecting our first child now and there is no concert, bar, rave, or party I would trade that for. An empty wagon makes the most noise and these women are hollow.
That was beautiful and so real to read. Thank you for sharing. ❤️
Can we please stop with the pretentious "partner" crap? The term is "significant other(s)." The term "partner" reduces love and relationships to a business arrangement. Someone you care about deserves better. Not to mention calling significant others "partners" stems from homophobia, since they weren't allowed to get married and homophobic people didn't take their relationships seriously.
@@englishatheart no fucking way that was all you got from this whole paragraph- 💀
You need help.
Well considering my wife abandoned all the values she 'had' when we got married and has gone completely woke, consider me in the 'wait' camp.
This awful culture. Sorry
Welcome to the club. And it's all by design...it's startling how quickly a certain population may be weaponized simply by feeding their ego.
I definitely think ppl need to wait long enough to know who they are. I see so many ppl change. Yes everyone changes but some ppl go along with the crowd in their 20's and don't think about principles and values then they are in a relationship and become a different person. I'm so sorry. God bless.
These comments are crazy. Mfs talking getting married after two-three weeks wtf? Idc if you’ve been married for 50 years. Getting married just weeks after knowing someone has to be the dumbest shit anyone can do
Sorry I don’t get the problem . If shes happy, it’s no different than the women who say how great it is to be mothers.
My husband was my prom date, he was already graduated from high school. We just celebrated 10 years of marriage, in February it will have been 14 years together. I am 32, he's 35. We have two kids, a house, good jobs. We are happy.
I married my high school sweetheart, bought land, built a beautiful house, put her through college, had 2 kids, etc. After 17 years she "accidentally" fell in love with a guy friend and decided she wanted something different.
She said that she still loved me and said that I was the best father she had ever seen, but she still wanted something different.
We never fought. Our home life was great and filled with happiness, but it was no longer new.
❤ How wonderful!
🍺 Here's to another ten!
@@just_me2797sorry to hear this, her loss.
Not everyone is meant to have children. Many people can't afford children even if they cut back on their spending. Things are too expensive. Also, mental illness is a major problem in this country, and also the rest of the world. A lot of people shouldn't have children! Only have them if you truly want them, are in a stable relationship and can afford them.
Yep
Yes this group is so myopic. There are lots of legitimate non-selfish reasons to choose not to have children
You don't understand how one civilization survive and culture consequences of demographics changes European are a dying civilization compare to Indian Chinese and Arab. So your world view is wrong because it's taking western civilization into extinction.
As someone who did spend my twenties and most of my thirties floating like that woman in the video I can testify that it leads to misery. I married late and had a child and that has changed everything for the better ...even despite the incredible challenge of motherhood. They are right... fulfillment from being in service to others is what it's about 🙂
I'm 36 and single. I haven't met a long term partner right for me. I'll tell you it gets boring. I'd love someone around I can do things with, but I don't obsess over it. Just enjoy what you spend your time on, and be a decent human. Comparing your life to others is just wrong.
Guess what honey. Good luck, you’ll never met the “ RIGHT ONE” ….. you’re 36 what are you waiting for but again, I don’t blame you, you’re part a wicked society that taught you that type of garbage…. The RIGHT ONE!!! find yourself a partner and make it work. Marriage is work every day and if you’re not ready to work stay single
@yankylichtman2530 I never said anything about "the right one" society is not something I follow or worship. I do what works for me and everything is going very well. All I said was being single can get boring. How does everyone on the internet take everything out of context?
@@yankylichtman2530 and there is nothing great about forcing yourself in a relationship ship and "make it work " that's like settling for shit and dealing with it, except you have a choice in the situation.
@@yankylichtman2530 You are clueless. Finding a decent partner is VERY difficult and seems to be more of a waste of energy and time than anything else when 99% of the time it goes nowhere with that person. As a man, finding a decent woman seems impossible nowadays.
You don't understand how one civilization survive and culture consequences of demographics changes European are a dying civilization compare to Indian Chinese and Arab. So your world view is wrong because it's taking western civilization into extinction.
My life got better after divorce at 35. I got a rescue Greyhound, found a best friend human companion and we keep finances seperate. At 41, I'm not smoking hot anymore. Looks fade. Find someone who likes your personality.
How about ya'll understand we are all different and have different versions of what happiness is. Some of us find happiness in families while some of us find happiness in singularity. Does not mean one is better than the other. Also if ya'll think having a spouse and kids is some noble act ya'll are delusional AF! Getting married and procreating does not automatically make you superior to those of us who choose to remain single.
Amen! 🎯
You don't understand how one civilization survive culture and geopolitical consequences of demographics changes European are a dying civilization compare to Indian Chinese and Arab. So your world view is wrong because it's taking western civilization into extinction.
Exactly. No one is havinf kida for the betterment of society. They (if they do so by choice) do it because they want kids. "They want". It's a selfish choice. I'm not saying it is wrong or right but let's not pretend that it isn't just as selfish as choosing not to.
A lot of people have kids by mistake ! Aka one night stands! Happens all the times when dudes can’t wear condoms like responsible adults! 🙄
@@OrganizationXIII women get pregnant man don't why she is having sex with random dude. She should take precautions man shouldn't.
Gentlemen, you’re smoking in the presence of your colleague who is pregnant.
We need more compassion for each other. Why can't you allow people to explore their own life? You are all sitting there judging people and monetizing it.
Married life isnt for everyone. Neither are kids. However, some of these women are coping badly. 😅
I don't know why they are so mad at a woman who just said that she is single and she wanted a shakshuka and she enjoys her freedom. Are they insecure or what? If their lifestyle having a family is good, they shouldnt be that bitter about other people. I believe having a family is amazing and good. No single woman or man is able to trigger me, because i'm okay
Agreed. 50% of marriages end in divorce, and many more marriages stay together "for the kids, or for financial reasons. Yet, we keep hearing how the married-with-kids lifestyle is THE answer. Who is trying to convince who? lol
Right? Like.. why do other people's decisions bother them so much. I love all of these hosts and normally enjoy their channels, but when they start advising people to go get married and have a bunch of children without discussing the financial and personal consequences that come with that, I feel like they're not fully in touch with reality either.
@@samantharuiz6481 also sometimes we can think certain way at 29 and change priorities completely in the next years. At 29 I only wanted to travel, after years I want to be home. There are different seasons of life. Even those hosts married when they were in a position to do so, first they wanted to make career in show business and then life turned out differently. They didn't marry at 18
@@samantharuiz6481 Agreed.
Dementia and Alzheimer's runs in my family; my aunt, my uncle, my father. I'm currently diagnosed as Bipolar. NIH research currently shows that Alzheimer's Clinical and epidemiological evidence suggest that AD and BIP are related. Given my family history, my children have an increased risk of developing Alzheimer's, dementia or mental health issues. At the moment, knowing my symptoms, I know I could never provide the stability a child needs to be raised in a healthy, happy household. I would also never want them to resent me for bringing them in to a world where they may resent me. I've made the choice to not enter romantic relationships, and frankly I am MUCH happier this way, I feel so much happier, and very at peace (lol). I'm in my 30s, I have and emotional support dog who I can rely on when things get rough, I love her whole heartedly. I don't have family (they've saly all passed away). I have no lasting friendships (you tend to push people away when you don't understand what you're feeling and then BAM you receive your diagnosis and by that time, no ones there, everyone is gone. So, day after day, the one thing I can focus on is my career (which luckily, I find extremely fulfilling). I work at a non-profit where I get paid jack shit lol. What would you suggest for a woman like me? I am childfree by choice (for a very good reason), sworn off relationships for the sake of my own sanity, but according to you...I'm wasting my life away. So...what gives?
Nothing gives. Your reasoning is sound and makes perfect sense. I don't think anyone including the DW panel would disagree. Granted your situation is not typical.
@@danielwessel9884 So, what is "typical", exactly? lol The notion that you have to be married and reproduce to be happy is as silly as the notion that the opposite is true.
@@kennethbaker5223 Not typical in that her choices are thoughtful, carefully reasoned, and unselfish.
most people benefit for having a family, but there are exceptions to any rule, and in your case is a valid one. Devote yourself to something meaningful(carrer wise, helping others, etc), the bottom line is , going to a beyonce concert and doing shakshuka 24/7 is not the greatest of aspirations if you are single.
I’m sympathetic to traditional and catholic ways of thinking about family and marriage and still don’t understand why they got this angry at these women.
I've actually worked with many single people, and the reason why many of them are so depressed is because they only focus on themselves. The women being shown in these videos keep communicating about their own life and talking about themselves. The happiest women I've ever met are mothers who focus on other people, they focus and pour their love in their husbands or their children. These mothers don't need to focus themselves, Because their husbands and their children are the ones who reciprocate that love.
These single women hitting 30's will start to realize that they wont' be hot forever. Once they're 40's and 50's, and nobody wants to hang out with them, they're going to realize its going to be difficult to "Go to beyonce and party all night" or "drink until you're drunk and pass out".
as an abandoned child i can confirm that some people are just not fit to be parents, we can see it more apparent in the past few decades. So some people opting out of family realising that they do not have the patience selflessness kindness necessary to be a family man\woman is not a bad thing and certainly saves a lot of unhappy children. The behaviour should not be promoted of course but if someone is unable to grow out of self center narcissism then it’s better for everyone that they live their solo consumerist life.
I've had many friends in your boat. It is one thing to let people like your parents have a social pass on the pressure of having children. It is an entirely different thing to advertise that childlessness and singleness is the epitome of bliss and happiness for everyone to strive for. There are rare few people in the "ideal" childbearing years who are mature enough to be any of those qualities. In fact, I'd contend for most people they'll never have the opportunity to grow those qualities without being regularly involved with children. Why would you be anything other than a selfish narcissist if you are the only person that you ever have to care about?
That’s very true. However it’s a product of a selfish society. For years now we’ve been told to just do you and how much of a trap marriage and children are. Plus people’s parents didn’t raise them well enough so they turn out to be very selfish people who aren’t capable of having children and loving them. It’s all pretty sad. More people would be capable of marriage and raising children if they would fix themselves and stop promoting a lonely lifestyle.
The difficult thing, though, is that many people also DO grow up and get their sh*t together when they have children. And for those people to continue remaining selfish children themselves is not doing society any favors, either. It's tricky. :/
@@bryannorris8049 It is just as wrong to "advertise" to people that the married-with-children"-life is the only path to true happiness. lol
@@krystallos81You people that have children are operating out of the exact same selfishness. lol People have children for their OWN needs, as much as a person avoids having children. People have kids because they truly believe that their gene pool is superior, and their offspring is a blessing on society. In MANY cases, it is not. They are brought into the world without a thought as to how they will be cared for, and that HURTS society.
I get the sense that there is a lack of charity and some insincerity coming from Candace as it relates to this 29 year old girl. I share the view with some of the other gentlemen, where they note that this girl seems to be coping rather than projecting. I think the appropriate response is pity, rather than scolding. If one takes the time to go through her tik tok, one would quickly realise that she does deep down long for a family of her own. Calling her a b***** and warning men against marrying her is not charitable. This kind of catty behaviour is embarrassing, especially when it comes from those that claim to be Christians. A bit of prudence would go a long way.
Candace is probably made very insecure by her because Candace was her for large majority of her life
was thinking same.
I agree, but I wouldn't use the word "pity". It is just as easy for me to believe that she is happy being single/childless as it is to believe that people can be happy married with children. I know married couples that are miserable, and claim to be happy. The problems start when each side of this discussion make the assumption that their chosen lifestyle is the only true path to happiness.
The reason I say pity is because I took the time to go through this girls account and you can tell she does want to be married with kids. She clearly stated that in her video when she said that whenever she is hard on herself for not being as far along these are the things that make her feel better. I feel like she is sad and we should be giving this girl compassion and encouragement.
At age 30 "you wouldn't want to do anything else but make shakshuka" suddenly turns into "I feel lonely at age 35".
Trust me I could make shakshuka at age 30 with kids on board. It's a mess of eggs and cheese and peppers in one pot. It's not hard. I made almost every meal my wife and kids ate for 20 years.
Still with my wife of 40 years now the kids have gone and left home.
This video hit home because I'm a 30 year old single man, trying to find a partner to have a long term relationship with. It's not easy to say the least - online dating is very discouraging and I feel that it has gotten harder to meet quality people after school and in the post-COVID era. I'm also not the most outgoing guy who likes to party and approach girls who I don' t know. That TikTok just shows that she is super insecure and needs validation for the life she's living. Posting pictures on social media accomplishes the same thing because it is basically a tool to "show off" and ask for validation (which is why I don't do it except for a family trip once a year). I don't need any validation for what I'm doing despite living in a similar situation than she is, because honestly, no one gives a crap. I do things I enjoy (tennis betting podcast, travel, play tennis, etc), but I don't hear mothers and fathers of 4-5 kids post on social media how great they are. They do it because they feel fulfilled and don't need any validation from the masses. Life with children is more fulfilling than a life without children. That is just a fact. When I see my friend's babies and they give me a big smile, there is honestly nothing more rewarding (and they are not even my children). I feel like my friends with kids are living a life with a deeper meaning than I am, and honestly that is the hardest thing to cope with currently. Great discussion, and keep up the great work!
Good way to meet women is by walking your dog around the neighborhood. If a woman is remotely interested in you she will smile and ask about your dog. An even better thing to do is take your dog to a dog park. It usually always has single women there looking to chat a. Dogs are an amazing ice breaker
It's always fun to watch unhappy people, who claim to not be unhappy, judge other unhappy people who claim to be happy.
Well that is Ben Shapiro - what a miserable mess he is. He needs therapy.
Is it tho?
Who is she selling? She bought it--- now wear it.
Lets see in the next 5 to 10 years how is right.
Why is that fun for you? It seems cruel to me.
Being unmarried till I was 32 and childless until I was 35 was the best. 10/10 highly recommend.😂 I spent my 20s Being broke and getting my education. I be dammed If I was jumping right Into a marriage and kids. And yes sometimes I spent a whole day doing nothing.
I’m 26 and my life sounds a lot like yours. I have no regrets so far and I’m glad you shared some of your experiences :)
It seems like when people mock other people for deciding to remain single its because they are trying to fend off existential dread within themselves…but your existential dread really is not the responsibility of other people who don’t want kids or even a relationship, if you want to be single its fine, there are billions of things in the world to do.
Yes, sis 🎉 preach it louder for these clowns to hear 🗣
Or being in your 40s and tired of dealing with living with someone other than your kids. Being single isn't about getting with someone else but about be alone and not having to listen or deal with someone else's shit
I was 22 and my wife was 19 when we married. Now we are both in our 50's and couldn't be happier. Six kids, 4 grandkids (so far) and we just became empty nesters. Little kids can be demanding the first few years of their life, but it is worth it and as kids get older they can do a lot more for themselves and do a lot to help care for the younger siblings too.
I got married at the same age but my husband instead divorced me at 39 for a younger woman who was pregnant and one day out of the blue disappeared with her and my money (meaning he stole my own money and properties I had the baddest idea to share, I found out about the other girl 4 years later so much I had faith in him after 20 years).
What do you think, I want to repeat the experience of being crashed, broken in millions of pieces or I am happier single? 🤔 Before to fall in love again the sky must come down for me.
All of us might have different paths and it's wrong to discuss generic issues with personal experiences. You are lucky, me I am not still I think it's a good thing for happy couples to be married and live their lives together generically speaking but I won't judge who wants to stay single... I wish you the best life!😘
So you would rather wallow in hurt and self pity and assume all men to be like your ex husband rather than trust a new man and choose to be happy.
@@VictoriaReadsReddit Why does she need a new man to be happy?
My spouse was 22 and I 25 and we have been married 23 years now❤.We are also each others first boyfriend/girlfriend.
Damn, I’m 23 going 24 and have never been on a date before, never kissed a girl, or anything. I don’t get it…