Not so much a question as an assumption. "If I was going to have sex with a woman, it would be you." Do I get a choice in this scenario? Seriously, don't flatter yourself, love!
People's tendency to use hair length as the sole gender identifier never ceases to baffle me. Also there is no man when there are two women. Just like when you're using chopsticks there is no fork. (Full credit to Paige and Holly for that one)
The chopstick analogy is brilliant. Oh n when guys ask me who is the man in my relationship, I ask them the same question; well, who is the man in yours?. They do tend to freak out a bit, lol.
When I was in kindergarten I asked mom how I was supposed to know who was a boy and who was a girl. She said to me "Boys have short hair and girls have long hair" and so, for the entirety of my childhood gender consisted in hair length to me. Hahaha so ADULTS having the same "definition" of gender as an actual 3 yo is terrifying.
# My first comment in RUclips Hi Alexis and Lilian, I'm Hooi Ching from Malaysia. In the past 26 years, I'm confused about my sexual orientation and fear of getting into a relationship with women (worry about others' judgement). Suddenly come to one day, i decided to understand more about lesbian and Google search pop up your video. After watching, I finally made up my mind to confirm that I am Bisexual (70% to women and 30% to man). I'm so excited to tell my best friend this best news and she answered me "nothing is more important than you being happy and blissful, regardless of what decision you made, i will always respect and support you!" What a heartwarming girl ❤ Thank you for making all these videos and really happy to see both of you staying together all these years! Wish you two always be in love and grow old together! I LOVE YOU! 😘 Stay safe and healthy 🙏 p/s: I'm a vegetarian since age of 21. I'm very touching to know you two are also vegetarian and practice environmental friendly life together. Cheers!
Catherine Lew CongratuIations 😊 I do want to express that it’s okay to not feel like you have to stay rigid to those percentages. It often fluctuates so when you try to control it and your heart isn’t lined up with your perception/mind then it feels like an internal battle. Have you made any friends online?
I feel like I was never real to myself about being a bisexual. From what I know I usually liked boys, and for a lot of time didn't even think about the possibility of me liking another girl. For some reason, in real life, still, I haven't found a girl(or how they define themselves) that I actually liked in a way that I had crushes on boys. But like i feel like now that I'm thinking about it there was a lot of girls that I've seen in shows, in RUclips that I found attractive. This feels like a silly paragraph but I feel like I can feel that I'm a bisexual I always did and this past two months kind of opened my eyes. I always thought that It was easier for me to like boys and if I couldn't find any girl that I really liked if I never had the experience how could I be a bisexual. But now I feel like maybe I just didn't let myself like a girl. I guess I just don't like to put myself in boxes and actually define myself as this and that, but while thinking all these I didn't realize I was actually on a very narrow perspective and putting myself in a box. Watching you guys have really changed my perspective and thank you for that a lot. I love you and I'm gonna trust my instincts. (hehhe this is the first time that I'm actually kind of saying this so this has been a looong comment sorry about that)
I can really relate to all of this. I questioned whether I was bi go 3-4 years (with a bunch of: do I find her attractive? What do attractions to guys feel compared to this?) I one day I realised I developed a crush on a girl. For a really long time I just concluded: well I'm probably not straight, or this wouldn't be on my mind so much so I'm probably bi. The confirmation after so long was really refreshing. Even know tho I don't really feel the need to define it because maybe I still haven't figured it all out. Sexuality isn't a clearly definable thing imo so it's ok to state ambiguous if that's what you're comfortable with. Qestioning is frustrating but as long as you are honest with yourself and don't try to force yourself to feel attractive to someone I think one day it'll settle itself - have a nice day and good luck!
@@Lilopad Thank you so much!♥️♥️ It feels really refreshing to be able to finally talk about these things! I feel like there is not a lot of people that I can comfortably discuss these stuff not that they would make me feel bad about myself but I don't feel like it's the right time since I'm still figuring out myself. I feel like I'm searching for this feeling when I'm with people and I get it from both girls and guys. We'll see where it goes! Have a lovely day, you're wonderful
Öykü İşman Theres also pressure on the Bi community to “pick a side”. Even people saying it jokingly harms the thinking that we have to. So we in turn question if we’re actually straight or a lesbian. I’ve been out for about two-three years and I’ve had that battle ever since. I’m only recently accepting that I don’t have to classify one way or the other because who I like changes all the time. There’s some times I’m just like damn I want a girlfriend and live out our cottagecore lifestyle haha then there are other times I’m like damn I just want “a fat one” 😂. But that’s the point of being Bi. You don’t have to choose a side. And whoever you choose to like more or less or equally is up to the individual. The Bierase struggle is real. I’m a writer, and I have a bi protagonist that’s around mostly women that like women in some capacity so her coming to terms with her sexuality while in a heterosexual relationship is hard. I’ve been struggling with if she should end up with the male love interest or one of the lesbian characters (who I didn’t think was going to be a love interest, it just unfolded that way). And I had a lot of heartache and struggle with the plot for feeling like I “had” to have her end up with the lesbian character because if not then there was no point in her being into women. It felt like I’d disappoint the lgbtq community. And it’s just not funny for people to joke about picking a side or making Bi people feel like they’re not part of the community if they’re in heterosexual relationships. Anyway I hope that helps 😂
Hi girls. You are sooooo cute. I'm a gay guy living in Frankfurt with my bf. Love hanging out with lesbians since you can talk to most of them openly about your sex experiences and laugh. I seem to attract a lot of them with my dance (sexy without worrying she might think you're hitting on her). We are asked a lot of stupid questions like you too, especially ''who is the man in your relationship?''. Thanks for the lovely video and hope to see and hang out with you one day in Frankfurt. Hugs xxxx
I passed a girl the other day n said nice boots . She turned look at me n said your not my type .. i replied thank god for that i was only offering a genuine compliment .. great video as usual x. Edit so glad i wasnt her type i met a lovely person about 2 weeks ago.
Long hair : people calling you Miss for a year As soon as hair are cut short :" Hey Sir !" Let your hair grow : *repeat* Raaaaaah ! What's wrong with them people, can't you see ?!
I’m a straight guy who loves lesbians (not in the creepy pervy way) but in a human, lovely friendship kind of way. I may be the wrong man to ask about hating men because I’m not attracted to them cus more often than not I’m like... sigh... dudes... I can’t 😂. But honestly it’s a good point. It’s ignorant to hate anybody based on who you’re attracted to and in my experience lesbians don’t. I think it’s an insecurity and a misunderstanding of men.
Hazeydaze22 I believe every word of it, I’ve seen it with my own eyes and heard it from men outside of the view of women (not just lesbians). You’re right that this absolutely sews mistrust and distance (as it well should). Unfortunate that this is the case but that’s only to say unfortunate that men do this, not that lesbians are forced to have this reaction. Any logical person would.
@@theartofflying3580 Exactly, negative experiences change your perceptions of groups of people. Hopefully WLW relationships will become more normalised in our society and will stop being so fetishised. It would be nice to be able to hold my girlfriends hand in public without being harassed or followed - one day maybe! Glad to know there are good men out there, I know there are many and it's the few arseholes who get the attention.
@@tshaolin971 in this day & age, we have every opportunity to have experience, get informed, dispel misconceptions, and eliminate harmful notions. The internet, videos like this, social media, is the perfect place to learn in order to do better. Having little exposure is a poor excuse to be ignorant (I’m not using ignorant as an insult here... harbouring fear and mistrust by extension based on not being educated about or lacking exposure to... is an ignorance). Also... I don’t exactly agree. I’ve never in my life met a person from Luxembourg but that doesn’t make me fearful. Logically, they’re no different from any population of people. They have a different history, different culture, may speak a bit differently but at the heart of it... they’re no different. People want safety, opportunity, equal treatment and opportunity. None of that is different. Years ago racists would say, I’ve never met a black person, it’s natural to be fearful. That’s not a great outlook to have or point to make.
Don't worry abt labeling 'what' you are n don't let anybody pressure into 'picking' a 'group'. Love whom you choose as long as you are safe and honest. NEVER do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable about yourself or goes against your core. Don't stress it, you will figure out 'who' you are when you are ready. Be Blessed n stay safe.
Just want to say that I've been binge-watching your videos & you both are so wonderful, uplifting, empathetic & full of love & joy. Thank you, Alexis & Lillian. Much love, & stay safe during this pandemic time.
I can relate to Lilian's experience with being called sir. My favorite one was when a woman put her hand on my chest to try and stop me from entering the restroom she was exiting and said "Excuse me sir, this is the ladies room!" My response was "I know and could you please stop fondling my breasts" She couldn't apologize to me enough after that😂
I was followed into the ladies loo by a bouncer (in a str8 nightclub) who thumped on the cubicle door and asked what I was doing in the ladies. I opened the door, lifted my shirt and bra and said "I AM a lady!" Cue one very embarrassed bouncer and lots of cackling str8 girls...
"OMG YES" - is a great source of educative video series and tutorials on all kinds of techniques of self-pleasing and it's very educative particularly about female orgasms (and the whole program is only focusing on women, and it does contain lots of nudity as it shows exact know-how) Highly recommending :) Also, thank you guys for being so authentic, empathetic and kind
Wow I got so confused when they said "Dankeschön, Tschüss" at the end. Just because I'm a german native speaker and wasn't expecting to hear german😀 (Yup I just found this channel yesterday so that's my excuse)
Men see a women as less so if a women is a lesbian and no need for men that makes them insecure and so they turn it to hate because they don’t understand but a lot of men do so we do not hate all men just the ones that are insecure and feel is as hate.
Only a small hint for lesbian couples ... If you´re married, working and living in Germany, you become part of the german health care system, which pays for artificial impregnation (for married couples)! ... If you´re not married, when moving to Germany, it will take you a few months to marry in Germany (due to paperwork).
#1 is one I get a lot because I date tomboys!😎 #3 I have been asked, if I use a strap why dont I just date men? I'm like I'm happy you assume I use a strap...lol😏 #4 The oh u must be the man...smh, they look at me & say oh you must be the girl.🙄 #5 I get that all the time "You dont look Gay?"🤔 #6 how will I have kids? Well, let's see I'll call the stork...duh🤪 #8 omg the experiment I never know what 2 say to that? I just laugh nervously but deep down I feel insulted.😅 Thanks for the video, I Love You 2!!!!!🥰🥰
I wonder if those people who ask cluelessly "How do lesbians have sex?" have no issue imagining two MEN having sex? Perhaps, they cannot imagine sex WITHOUT penetration. Some cultures, in my opinion, have such RETRO concepts of what men and women should look like or what roles they should take. I find that to be the case in much of the Caribbean. Their mores about gender and gender roles seem to be what they used to be like in the USA during the 40s. One thing I'll have to comment on. "So who's the man?" You say you get that question a lot. Ever notice during a lesbian wedding almost always one of the women is dressed more like a "groom"? I've NOT seen a wedding between two men where one of the men was dressed like the "bride". Women have more "acceptable" options in terms of clothing. However, just saying!!! It's interesting how you address straight/men. Are A LOT of your viewers actually straight/men? That idea that lesbians have better sex than straight couples was something a HS friend had spouted to me. I don't know WHERE he got this information -- maybe his mom's issue of Cosmopolitan. Speaking of sex ed, I recently realized there was NO mention of the prostate gland during HS sex ed. I learned about this MUCH later and figured out A LOT of experiences all guys have ( like a piss -hardon) ONLY AFTER learning about the prostate.
I tried clicking on the link and it says not safe so won't let me go on it! I love how you are together 😊 Alexis cracks me up reminds me abit of myself when more confident 😔 I'm bi but not easy finding a woman.. I worry that if I was to be in a relationship with a woman would I still want men 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ confusing
One question I still have, please clear me if Im wrong: Do you still find men attractive, I mean beauty is beauty, irrespective of gender. For example Im straight but a huge fan of Gregory Peck. I think he was really handsome. So like do you get attracted to opposite gender like you would look at Pierce Brosnan or Brad pitt as good looking or get attracted to any of them.
I am a straight guy and it has been odd over the years to see the reaction of girlfriends if I mention that a certain male actor or singer is good looking. It seems quite common, at least among the women I have dated, for girls to talk about how good looking another women is, especially their hair and clothes. but I have been met with some funny looks, and even some quite unpleasant comments purely for saying something innocuous like "Tom Ellis is a good looking guy." They think I might be gay, when in fact I am just jealous as Hell! (See how I managed to fit in a Lucifer joke there : )
I have a question: so I am watching a lot of coming out videos and most women say "I am gay", shouldn't they say I am a lesbian? is being gay and a lesbian the same thing? Should gay only mean a man attracted to men?
well i am into both women and men i gotta say when it comes to the first question, i like men and women with long hair...i guess its just a taste thing!
I m ace. I probably can’t send this video to my boss. Mein Chef fragte mich ob ich ein Dreier mit der der kollegin und ihrer Freundin haben will und sagte noch, dass ich mich nicht so aufregen soll! Danach kündigte ich sofort auf Ende Monat.
Okey I am a Baby Gay and the moment you were talking about the Sciccoring myth I was beginning to ask myself But like How do Lesbians have Sex? Can you recommend some positions?
Hi, I love this particular video a lot! Me and my fiancée get those question so often... Sometimes it really sucks. A free weeks ago a bartender asked us "are you sisters or best friends? " As I answered "no, we're a couple" he said" oh the poor men world" arg! Another topic that causes us some trouble is the fact about pregnancy. My brother once said that he is waiting to become an uncle and that he hopes I will carry out the child as fist. If my fiancée carry out the child it wouldn't be really his family member. This conversation with him made me so angry and sad!! He is my brother! I don't want to know what our parents think or will do in the future. Have you got any good advice how we can handle the topic all around pregnancy? Because sooner or later we'll have kids.
I think a good question is that I have gotten is how do you know you are lesbian if you have never had sex with a guy YES I GOT A REPLY FROM ALEXIS AND LILIAN!!!!!! AGHHHH THIS MADE MY DAY!!!!!!
I thought that one was missing too. Or even the presumption by a guy that the only reason you are a lesbian is because you haven't had good sex with a man yet! As a man I can only apologise for the behaviour of my brethren on occasion! : /
I saw something that was saying if it isn’t penis and vagina then it isn’t sex and that going down on someone isn’t sex and I whole heartedly disagree. Glad to see others confirming that that statement was false. Might be oversharing but I don’t like penetration so with that logic that would mean that I have only had sex once in my life.
Also... isn’t having someone’s genitals IN YOUR MOUTH right in front of your face a lot more intimate? By that logic I don’t understand when someone says “we only did...” ... only? 😆
I get the "how do you have sex" questions from men... and "Do you hate men" from women... ironic sometimes... hahaha Especially since I am a fem lesbian... just always gets the "OMG YOU'RE GAY" shock
I'm femme too and people get so shocked when they find out I have a girlfriend. They'll say 'You really don't look gay!' as if it's some sort of compliment... 🤦♀️
Being great in bed is abt PAYING ATTENTION. Womxn(ok most Womxn) whether consciously or subconsciously give signals; sounds, body movement, facial expressions etc. If you pay attention to those signals, you can rock Her world which should (almost ALLways, lol) inspire Her to rock yours. Trust me, this really works. I've had more sex than 'Shane', guess I figured a lot by now, lol. Look, there are a lot of different types of sex; making love, quickie, hard/raw, vanilla and so on but bottom line; BOTH of you should be smiling n feeling great after (even if you're crying cuz, let's face it, sometimes the 'sex' is soo intense it brings the tears). Go have fun, be WILD, be courageous, be SAFE and BE ATTENTIVE. Many Blessings Alexis n Lillian. Love that your channel isn't a 'shade fest'. It cane up on my feed n I decided to watch. You two are very real n not just spewing whatever shallow views are 'in', 'cool' or popular for the sake of higher viewership. Thank you.
Me at shoe store trying buy soft indoor boots: "excuse me, do you have these in size xxx?" shop lady: "let's see... yes I do but only in women's size." Me: "Uh... yes.... that's fine." Shop lady: "but we only have them in women's size". Me: "yes, that's fine!" Shop lady: "okay, right this way...." [on the way to the back] Shop lady: "are you sure? they're in women's size". Me: "..." My girlfriend after I came home and told her the story: [laughs her ass off] "didn't she hear it in your voice at least? I mean, you talked to her right?" [laughing her ass off some more] I don't understand the confusion, since I don't do anything to look masculine and my hair is just a bit above my shoulders. Some people just give off that vibe.. or something?
I've been getting lots of criticism from my more radical leftie friends saying I couldn't identify as a lesbian because I used to do sex work. So yeah, but at least I got through graduate school & have no student debt. Lol. So, what do I say now? I'm sick of all the shit I get. Bisexual doesn't quite sit right because I've dated a couple of post op trans-women who identify as lesbians. So, pansexual? I'm just fucking sick & tired of the sexual identity police giving me shit about my preferences & sexuality. Crap, when did the LGBTQ community get so deep into cancel culture & so damned critical of how women identify? Gay men don't get this kinda cancel culture clap back. Seems awfully like they wanna redefine & police the "L" part of LGBT. Sorry for venting but I'm really sick of the BS happening in the nastiness of the progressive LGBTQ movent.
8:16 I respectfully disagree, ideally the most important for lesbian couples is to have the same baby daddy for both. And vice versa for gay men with the same baby mamma.
I always love your information videos, if I am being truthful I did wonder a lot about the questions you covered ! Lillian is an amazing communicator Totally gifted with story telling and explaining context. I love Alexis and her humor ! I can totally binge watch your informative videos ! Tschuch 😘
I think the first bullet point really hits on why leading with gender pronoun preferences are important even if you're cis. I'm straight & cis, however have been called sir while rocking short hair. It's probably a lot more annoying (or even triggering) in the lgbtq arena. Y'all are gorgeous, funny, and I love watching your energy together. Keep up the good work, ladies.
As a straight person I have been asked some odd questions, your not alone. I think most straight people wonder if well she might have been sexually interfered with by a guy so no wonder she went the lesbian route. Or the other comment is well mabey her dad was a odd guy? Not in the picture as he travelled too much for work.
It’s regrettable, but the question about ‘lesbians hating men’ may be due to a little bit of politics sneaking in, like all lesbians share the same politics or something. I’m a straight male, and even I know better than that. I’ve learned that much and more from my lesbian friends and colleagues.
Hi Alexian! I am new to Toronto, could you please consider to make a video for some recommended clubbing bars cafe where to hangouts for lesbian community? Thanks
Hey. I really love your channel and I hope you guys discuss how can you keep up with the long distance relationship. I met a girl throw instagram and I really like her and we like texting and FaceTime non stop. I never been in love before but with her I feel I’m falling but I’m scared that we lose interest about each other specially with the virus around the world and no one can travel maybe it takes long time to we can meet. And don’t how can be their for her and we are not together physically. I really appreciate your advices and your thinking. Big love 💗
Girls i used to watch you wll the time and for some reason i havent seen you in my feed. Loved this so funny and some valid points that people need to see
Out of all the letters on the LGBTQ+ spectrum, I'm both L and T. I've yet to get the "You must hate men" or "You don't look like a lesbian" lines from anybody. I have, however, had one aunt tell me she never saw signs of me being trans. She and another aunt both said they always thought I was "100% male", whatever the hell that is. I was NEVER a "100% male". I was always a woman, just misidentified at birth. And only for the past 11 months have I had the right hormones in my body. I've also had some people claim that I was straight with extra steps. That's not how this stuff works.
Here are these common questions answered once and for all! What did we miss - apart from - "are you two sisters?" 😂What else do you get a lot?
"You must be best friends."
And you don’t know but the baby also carries the mitochondrial DNA of the mother that gives birth in his/her mitochondrial DNA like a signature ❤️
@@buffy455 it depends www.americansurrogacy.com/parents/do-surrogate-mothers-share-dna-with-the-baby
Not so much a question as an assumption. "If I was going to have sex with a woman, it would be you."
Do I get a choice in this scenario? Seriously, don't flatter yourself, love!
Oh, and "Can I be a lesbian, too?"
People's tendency to use hair length as the sole gender identifier never ceases to baffle me. Also there is no man when there are two women. Just like when you're using chopsticks there is no fork. (Full credit to Paige and Holly for that one)
But with 3 chopsticks you make a fork! :D
I like to tell people there is no man in this relationship, that is kind of the point of being lesbian, you know ?
The chopstick analogy is brilliant. Oh n when guys ask me who is the man in my relationship, I ask them the same question; well, who is the man in yours?. They do tend to freak out a bit, lol.
When I was in kindergarten I asked mom how I was supposed to know who was a boy and who was a girl. She said to me "Boys have short hair and girls have long hair" and so, for the entirety of my childhood gender consisted in hair length to me. Hahaha so ADULTS having the same "definition" of gender as an actual 3 yo is terrifying.
people always think im a “boy”🙄
If I had a fiver for every time I've been called Sir...
I'm so like you two guys! And these video give me a lot of help, thank you.
You are such a beautiful, loving, fun couple!!
What's also very strange: Lesbians hate men. Gay men love all women. Both really weird assumptions tbh.
# My first comment in RUclips
Hi Alexis and Lilian, I'm Hooi Ching from Malaysia. In the past 26 years, I'm confused about my sexual orientation and fear of getting into a relationship with women (worry about others' judgement). Suddenly come to one day, i decided to understand more about lesbian and Google search pop up your video. After watching, I finally made up my mind to confirm that I am Bisexual (70% to women and 30% to man). I'm so excited to tell my best friend this best news and she answered me "nothing is more important than you being happy and blissful, regardless of what decision you made, i will always respect and support you!" What a heartwarming girl ❤ Thank you for making all these videos and really happy to see both of you staying together all these years! Wish you two always be in love and grow old together! I LOVE YOU! 😘 Stay safe and healthy 🙏
p/s: I'm a vegetarian since age of 21. I'm very touching to know you two are also vegetarian and practice environmental friendly life together. Cheers!
Catherine Lew CongratuIations 😊 I do want to express that it’s okay to not feel like you have to stay rigid to those percentages. It often fluctuates so when you try to control it and your heart isn’t lined up with your perception/mind then it feels like an internal battle. Have you made any friends online?
"You just gotta try a little harder" 😂😂
Girls get weirded out when I compliment them on their fashion because they think I’m hitting on them 😂 hunny your not my type
True but usually the ones who think I'm hitting on them wind up crushing on me. Ugh. Honey, I don't do str8, lol.
I feel like I was never real to myself about being a bisexual. From what I know I usually liked boys, and for a lot of time didn't even think about the possibility of me liking another girl. For some reason, in real life, still, I haven't found a girl(or how they define themselves) that I actually liked in a way that I had crushes on boys. But like i feel like now that I'm thinking about it there was a lot of girls that I've seen in shows, in RUclips that I found attractive. This feels like a silly paragraph but I feel like I can feel that I'm a bisexual I always did and this past two months kind of opened my eyes. I always thought that It was easier for me to like boys and if I couldn't find any girl that I really liked if I never had the experience how could I be a bisexual. But now I feel like maybe I just didn't let myself like a girl. I guess I just don't like to put myself in boxes and actually define myself as this and that, but while thinking all these I didn't realize I was actually on a very narrow perspective and putting myself in a box. Watching you guys have really changed my perspective and thank you for that a lot. I love you and I'm gonna trust my instincts. (hehhe this is the first time that I'm actually kind of saying this so this has been a looong comment sorry about that)
I can really relate to all of this. I questioned whether I was bi go 3-4 years (with a bunch of: do I find her attractive? What do attractions to guys feel compared to this?) I one day I realised I developed a crush on a girl. For a really long time I just concluded: well I'm probably not straight, or this wouldn't be on my mind so much so I'm probably bi. The confirmation after so long was really refreshing. Even know tho I don't really feel the need to define it because maybe I still haven't figured it all out. Sexuality isn't a clearly definable thing imo so it's ok to state ambiguous if that's what you're comfortable with. Qestioning is frustrating but as long as you are honest with yourself and don't try to force yourself to feel attractive to someone I think one day it'll settle itself - have a nice day and good luck!
@@Lilopad Thank you so much!♥️♥️ It feels really refreshing to be able to finally talk about these things! I feel like there is not a lot of people that I can comfortably discuss these stuff not that they would make me feel bad about myself but I don't feel like it's the right time since I'm still figuring out myself. I feel like I'm searching for this feeling when I'm with people and I get it from both girls and guys. We'll see where it goes! Have a lovely day, you're wonderful
@@oykuisman1312 yay! Glad I could help. :D
Öykü İşman Theres also pressure on the Bi community to “pick a side”. Even people saying it jokingly harms the thinking that we have to. So we in turn question if we’re actually straight or a lesbian. I’ve been out for about two-three years and I’ve had that battle ever since. I’m only recently accepting that I don’t have to classify one way or the other because who I like changes all the time. There’s some times I’m just like damn I want a girlfriend and live out our cottagecore lifestyle haha then there are other times I’m like damn I just want “a fat one” 😂. But that’s the point of being Bi. You don’t have to choose a side. And whoever you choose to like more or less or equally is up to the individual. The Bierase struggle is real. I’m a writer, and I have a bi protagonist that’s around mostly women that like women in some capacity so her coming to terms with her sexuality while in a heterosexual relationship is hard. I’ve been struggling with if she should end up with the male love interest or one of the lesbian characters (who I didn’t think was going to be a love interest, it just unfolded that way). And I had a lot of heartache and struggle with the plot for feeling like I “had” to have her end up with the lesbian character because if not then there was no point in her being into women. It felt like I’d disappoint the lgbtq community. And it’s just not funny for people to joke about picking a side or making Bi people feel like they’re not part of the community if they’re in heterosexual relationships. Anyway I hope that helps 😂
@@Naomiiiii That helps a lot thank you so much!💖
“So can lesbian/gay couples just love each other but go to hook up with other people?”. That was the strangest and craziest question I’ve ever got.
Hi girls. You are sooooo cute. I'm a gay guy living in Frankfurt with my bf. Love hanging out with lesbians since you can talk to most of them openly about your sex experiences and laugh. I seem to attract a lot of them with my dance (sexy without worrying she might think you're hitting on her). We are asked a lot of stupid questions like you too, especially ''who is the man in your relationship?''. Thanks for the lovely video and hope to see and hang out with you one day in Frankfurt. Hugs xxxx
I passed a girl the other day n said nice boots . She turned look at me n said your not my type .. i replied thank god for that i was only offering a genuine compliment .. great video as usual x. Edit so glad i wasnt her type i met a lovely person about 2 weeks ago.
@ZIggy Darling hello love the name .. people like that i think thank god im not your type if thats how you speak to a stranger.ps hello 😊
How rude and presumptuous! Or perhaps she misheard you and thought you said 'nice boobs' ?! 😳
@@Hazeydaze92 who knows what she thought ...maybe she was having a bad day. Maybe small town attitude to some one whos not local i really dont know x
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Long hair : people calling you Miss for a year
As soon as hair are cut short :" Hey Sir !"
Let your hair grow : *repeat*
Raaaaaah ! What's wrong with them people, can't you see ?!
Haha so true...
I’m a straight guy who loves lesbians (not in the creepy pervy way) but in a human, lovely friendship kind of way. I may be the wrong man to ask about hating men because I’m not attracted to them cus more often than not I’m like... sigh... dudes... I can’t 😂. But honestly it’s a good point. It’s ignorant to hate anybody based on who you’re attracted to and in my experience lesbians don’t. I think it’s an insecurity and a misunderstanding of men.
Hazeydaze22 I believe every word of it, I’ve seen it with my own eyes and heard it from men outside of the view of women (not just lesbians). You’re right that this absolutely sews mistrust and distance (as it well should). Unfortunate that this is the case but that’s only to say unfortunate that men do this, not that lesbians are forced to have this reaction. Any logical person would.
@@theartofflying3580 Exactly, negative experiences change your perceptions of groups of people. Hopefully WLW relationships will become more normalised in our society and will stop being so fetishised. It would be nice to be able to hold my girlfriends hand in public without being harassed or followed - one day maybe! Glad to know there are good men out there, I know there are many and it's the few arseholes who get the attention.
Two of my best life experiences were with lesbians .. nothing to do with sex .. just positive communication. I am male.
@@tshaolin971 in this day & age, we have every opportunity to have experience, get informed, dispel misconceptions, and eliminate harmful notions. The internet, videos like this, social media, is the perfect place to learn in order to do better. Having little exposure is a poor excuse to be ignorant (I’m not using ignorant as an insult here... harbouring fear and mistrust by extension based on not being educated about or lacking exposure to... is an ignorance). Also... I don’t exactly agree. I’ve never in my life met a person from Luxembourg but that doesn’t make me fearful. Logically, they’re no different from any population of people. They have a different history, different culture, may speak a bit differently but at the heart of it... they’re no different. People want safety, opportunity, equal treatment and opportunity. None of that is different. Years ago racists would say, I’ve never met a black person, it’s natural to be fearful. That’s not a great outlook to have or point to make.
Would love to get some advice im questioning my sexuality i think I'm gay not bi
Don't worry abt labeling 'what' you are n don't let anybody pressure into 'picking' a 'group'. Love whom you choose as long as you are safe and honest. NEVER do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable about yourself or goes against your core. Don't stress it, you will figure out 'who' you are when you are ready. Be Blessed n stay safe.
Just want to say that I've been binge-watching your videos & you both are so wonderful, uplifting, empathetic & full of love & joy. Thank you, Alexis & Lillian. Much love, & stay safe during this pandemic time.
I always get: "You just haven't found the right man yet" HAHAHA!!!
Love you guys!!! Hope you're doing well during this chaotic and stressful time! Miso is so adorable❤❤❤❤
I can relate to Lilian's experience with being called sir. My favorite one was when a woman put her hand on my chest to try and stop me from entering the restroom she was exiting and said "Excuse me sir, this is the ladies room!" My response was "I know and could you please stop fondling my breasts" She couldn't apologize to me enough after that😂
Oh my god... she must have felt so embarrassed! Rightly so!
@@AlexisLilian Yes, especially since I'm a double D cup size 😉
You would think that D size should've given her a hint... huh
I was followed into the ladies loo by a bouncer (in a str8 nightclub) who thumped on the cubicle door and asked what I was doing in the ladies.
I opened the door, lifted my shirt and bra and said "I AM a lady!"
Cue one very embarrassed bouncer and lots of cackling str8 girls...
Together soo cuties, can’t imagine you separated...🥰
I think the people who say “who’s the man?” Mean “who’s the top” or ”who’s the masculine one” but it’s all still ignorant
I freaked when i saw the notification because my dad could have seen it lmao
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Haha you are funny
god i couldn’t relate more 😂😂
Yeah that's why i can't open the notification option😭 and i often get late....
Yeah that's why i can't open the notification option😭 and i often get late....
"OMG YES" - is a great source of educative video series and tutorials on all kinds of techniques of self-pleasing and it's very educative particularly about female orgasms (and the whole program is only focusing on women, and it does contain lots of nudity as it shows exact know-how)
Highly recommending :) Also, thank you guys for being so authentic, empathetic and kind
Wow I got so confused when they said "Dankeschön, Tschüss" at the end. Just because I'm a german native speaker and wasn't expecting to hear german😀
(Yup I just found this channel yesterday so that's my excuse)
Haha, willkommen! 😊
@@AlexisLilian so are you actual German? I am German myself and just curious about it. :)
I (Lilian) am German from Berlin but raised in Italy, Alexis is Canadian but we lived together in Berlin for a year last year
@@AlexisLilian Congratulations then! :)
@@AlexisLilian uuhh, I also live in Berlin, that is so cool! :))
I love your relationship ❤️😍😍😍
but do we really need men?
Nope not at all xd
I'm from lebanon,you two are calming as usual thank you for everything
One question I've had for years.....do lesbians eat ? And if so, do they eat all kind of food ? 🎼
My reply would be yes infact my gf is a vagitarian then smile and leave em to it.
Men see a women as less so if a women is a lesbian and no need for men that makes them insecure and so they turn it to hate because they don’t understand but a lot of men do so we do not hate all men just the ones that are insecure and feel is as hate.
“Men feel threatened when not needed” ALL MEN FELT THAT💀💀🤣
Let us make it 9: Why are bisexuals so demonized and pushed away? Aren't you all about love and aceptance?
My favorite couple ❤️
Only a small hint for lesbian couples ... If you´re married, working and living in Germany, you become part of the german health care system, which pays for artificial impregnation (for married couples)! ... If you´re not married, when moving to Germany, it will take you a few months to marry in Germany (due to paperwork).
I'm straight.... U guys re good.... Stay safe and blessed....... 🙏🙏🙏
#1 is one I get a lot because I date tomboys!😎 #3 I have been asked, if I use a strap why dont I just date men? I'm like I'm happy you assume I use a strap...lol😏 #4 The oh u must be the man...smh, they look at me & say oh you must be the girl.🙄 #5 I get that all the time "You dont look Gay?"🤔 #6 how will I have kids? Well, let's see I'll call the stork...duh🤪 #8 omg the experiment I never know what 2 say to that? I just laugh nervously but deep down I feel insulted.😅 Thanks for the video, I Love You 2!!!!!🥰🥰
3:37 it's a German company of cause we are nasty. 🤣👍
Alex is so beautiful wow❗
I wonder if those people who ask cluelessly "How do lesbians have sex?" have no issue imagining two MEN having sex? Perhaps, they cannot imagine sex WITHOUT penetration. Some cultures, in my opinion, have such RETRO concepts of what men and women should look like or what roles they should take. I find that to be the case in much of the Caribbean. Their mores about gender and gender roles seem to be what they used to be like in the USA during the 40s. One thing I'll have to comment on. "So who's the man?" You say you get that question a lot. Ever notice during a lesbian wedding almost always one of the women is dressed more like a "groom"? I've NOT seen a wedding between two men where one of the men was dressed like the "bride". Women have more "acceptable" options in terms of clothing. However, just saying!!! It's interesting how you address straight/men. Are A LOT of your viewers actually straight/men? That idea that lesbians have better sex than straight couples was something a HS friend had spouted to me. I don't know WHERE he got this information -- maybe his mom's issue of Cosmopolitan. Speaking of sex ed, I recently realized there was NO mention of the prostate gland during HS sex ed. I learned about this MUCH later and figured out A LOT of experiences all guys have ( like a piss -hardon) ONLY AFTER learning about the prostate.
#1 most frequently asked question: "Oh, yeah? So, what part of Lesbia are ya from, Poppet?"
Heeey love U girls, now let me Cwhat is this about U look sooo beautiful just saying in advance 👍😳😁😁😂❤️
Thanks!
Here's #9 -- How about a little less talking and a little more kissing? (No 8===> is no worries!)
I tried clicking on the link and it says not safe so won't let me go on it! I love how you are together 😊 Alexis cracks me up reminds me abit of myself when more confident 😔 I'm bi but not easy finding a woman.. I worry that if I was to be in a relationship with a woman would I still want men 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ confusing
One question I still have, please clear me if Im wrong: Do you still find men attractive, I mean beauty is beauty, irrespective of gender. For example Im straight but a huge fan of Gregory Peck. I think he was really handsome. So like do you get attracted to opposite gender like you would look at Pierce Brosnan or Brad pitt as good looking or get attracted to any of them.
Definitely! An attractive human is an attractive human, can’t argue with that 😊
I am a straight guy and it has been odd over the years to see the reaction of girlfriends if I mention that a certain male actor or singer is good looking. It seems quite common, at least among the women I have dated, for girls to talk about how good looking another women is, especially their hair and clothes. but I have been met with some funny looks, and even some quite unpleasant comments purely for saying something innocuous like "Tom Ellis is a good looking guy." They think I might be gay, when in fact I am just jealous as Hell! (See how I managed to fit in a Lucifer joke there : )
Barn Star I think it’s so cool when a guy is complimentary of other guys!
I have a question: so I am watching a lot of coming out videos and most women say "I am gay", shouldn't they say I am a lesbian? is being gay and a lesbian the same thing? Should gay only mean a man attracted to men?
well i am into both women and men i gotta say when it comes to the first question, i like men and women with long hair...i guess its just a taste thing!
Hey.. nice to c u both again.😊very relatable video👍u both r great...
Beducated actually looks really cool!!
I m ace. I probably can’t send this video to my boss.
Mein Chef fragte mich ob ich ein Dreier mit der der kollegin und ihrer Freundin haben will und sagte noch, dass ich mich nicht so aufregen soll! Danach kündigte ich sofort auf Ende Monat.
Did you hear that, guys? Gonna collect all seven dragon balls, wish for to be lucky and have a 3some with Alexis and Lilian.
Yay!🎉🎉🎉
Okey I am a Baby Gay and the moment you were talking about the Sciccoring myth I was beginning to ask myself
But like How do Lesbians have Sex? Can you recommend some positions?
We have a video about tips for newbie lesbians :) check that out!
Hi, I love this particular video a lot! Me and my fiancée get those question so often... Sometimes it really sucks. A free weeks ago a bartender asked us "are you sisters or best friends? " As I answered "no, we're a couple" he said" oh the poor men world" arg!
Another topic that causes us some trouble is the fact about pregnancy. My brother once said that he is waiting to become an uncle and that he hopes I will carry out the child as fist. If my fiancée carry out the child it wouldn't be really his family member. This conversation with him made me so angry and sad!! He is my brother! I don't want to know what our parents think or will do in the future.
Have you got any good advice how we can handle the topic all around pregnancy? Because sooner or later we'll have kids.
What colour is your hair dye Lilian it’s fab
I see behind you both there's a record player, and I'm guessing a vinyl LP collection.... you'd be fantastic parents 😍. You've got good taste.
Aw thank you! Yes we even have a record shopping in Berlin vlog :)
I hate getting misgendered!
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Thank you!!! Well done!
I think a good question is that I have gotten is how do you know you are lesbian if you have never had sex with a guy
YES I GOT A REPLY FROM ALEXIS AND LILIAN!!!!!! AGHHHH THIS MADE MY DAY!!!!!!
I thought that one was missing too. Or even the presumption by a guy that the only reason you are a lesbian is because you haven't had good sex with a man yet! As a man I can only apologise for the behaviour of my brethren on occasion! : /
Oh man! (Pun intended ;) “Spend one night with me and I’m sure I can turn you!” - something a man actually said to Alexis recently! 🙄
@@AlexisLilian - Again, I can only apologise! : )
That’s the first thing my dad asked me when I came out to him 🤦♀️
Alexis and Lilian nooooo, comments like that are the worst 😓😓
There is this feeling you get when you've eaten too many cupcakes... yup watching this... So sweet it's sickening.
I saw something that was saying if it isn’t penis and vagina then it isn’t sex and that going down on someone isn’t sex and I whole heartedly disagree. Glad to see others confirming that that statement was false. Might be oversharing but I don’t like penetration so with that logic that would mean that I have only had sex once in my life.
Also... isn’t having someone’s genitals IN YOUR MOUTH right in front of your face a lot more intimate? By that logic I don’t understand when someone says “we only did...” ... only? 😆
Alexis and Lilian Right?! Oral seems much more intimate imo. “I only sucked his dick.” ONLY?! Lmao
I get are you out the closet ? My reply is no im not out the broom closet because no one knows im a witch. Smile and walk away x
I get the "how do you have sex" questions from men... and "Do you hate men" from women...
ironic sometimes... hahaha Especially since I am a fem lesbian... just always gets the "OMG YOU'RE GAY" shock
I'm femme too and people get so shocked when they find out I have a girlfriend. They'll say 'You really don't look gay!' as if it's some sort of compliment... 🤦♀️
Hazeydaze22 Exactly.. sometimes you’re just speechless encountering these people
Hi! I'm from Brazil and i love yours content :)
Yay Brazil! We need more subscribers from South America so spread the word! 😊❤️
Laura Araujo Costa Nossa, não tinha visto outro br até então :) And yep, their content is really good
Being great in bed is abt PAYING ATTENTION. Womxn(ok most Womxn) whether consciously or subconsciously give signals; sounds, body movement, facial expressions etc. If you pay attention to those signals, you can rock Her world which should (almost ALLways, lol) inspire Her to rock yours. Trust me, this really works. I've had more sex than 'Shane', guess I figured a lot by now, lol. Look, there are a lot of different types of sex; making love, quickie, hard/raw, vanilla and so on but bottom line; BOTH of you should be smiling n feeling great after (even if you're crying cuz, let's face it, sometimes the 'sex' is soo intense it brings the tears). Go have fun, be WILD, be courageous, be SAFE and BE ATTENTIVE. Many Blessings Alexis n Lillian. Love that your channel isn't a 'shade fest'. It cane up on my feed n I decided to watch. You two are very real n not just spewing whatever shallow views are 'in', 'cool' or popular for the sake of higher viewership. Thank you.
Me at shoe store trying buy soft indoor boots: "excuse me, do you have these in size xxx?" shop lady: "let's see... yes I do but only in women's size." Me: "Uh... yes.... that's fine." Shop lady: "but we only have them in women's size". Me: "yes, that's fine!" Shop lady: "okay, right this way...." [on the way to the back] Shop lady: "are you sure? they're in women's size". Me: "..."
My girlfriend after I came home and told her the story: [laughs her ass off] "didn't she hear it in your voice at least? I mean, you talked to her right?" [laughing her ass off some more] I don't understand the confusion, since I don't do anything to look masculine and my hair is just a bit above my shoulders. Some people just give off that vibe.. or something?
I've been getting lots of criticism from my more radical leftie friends saying I couldn't identify as a lesbian because I used to do sex work. So yeah, but at least I got through graduate school & have no student debt. Lol. So, what do I say now? I'm sick of all the shit I get. Bisexual doesn't quite sit right because I've dated a couple of post op trans-women who identify as lesbians. So, pansexual? I'm just fucking sick & tired of the sexual identity police giving me shit about my preferences & sexuality. Crap, when did the LGBTQ community get so deep into cancel culture & so damned critical of how women identify? Gay men don't get this kinda cancel culture clap back. Seems awfully like they wanna redefine & police the "L" part of LGBT. Sorry for venting but I'm really sick of the BS happening in the nastiness of the progressive LGBTQ movent.
8:16 I respectfully disagree, ideally the most important for lesbian couples is to have the same baby daddy for both.
And vice versa for gay men with the same baby mamma.
I always love your information videos, if I am being truthful I did wonder a lot about the questions you covered ! Lillian is an amazing communicator Totally gifted with story telling and explaining context. I love Alexis and her humor ! I can totally binge watch your informative videos ! Tschuch 😘
I think the first bullet point really hits on why leading with gender pronoun preferences are important even if you're cis. I'm straight & cis, however have been called sir while rocking short hair. It's probably a lot more annoying (or even triggering) in the lgbtq arena.
Y'all are gorgeous, funny, and I love watching your energy together. Keep up the good work, ladies.
As a straight person I have been asked some odd questions, your not alone. I think most straight people wonder if well she might have been sexually interfered with by a guy so no wonder she went the lesbian route. Or the other comment is well mabey her dad was a odd guy? Not in the picture as he travelled too much for work.
It’s regrettable, but the question about ‘lesbians hating men’ may be due to a little bit of politics sneaking in, like all lesbians share the same politics or something. I’m a straight male, and even I know better than that. I’ve learned that much and more from my lesbian friends and colleagues.
Hi Alexian! I am new to Toronto, could you please consider to make a video for some recommended clubbing bars cafe where to hangouts for lesbian community? Thanks
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Hey. I really love your channel and I hope you guys discuss how can you keep up with the long distance relationship. I met a girl throw instagram and I really like her and we like texting and FaceTime non stop. I never been in love before but with her I feel I’m falling but I’m scared that we lose interest about each other specially with the virus around the world and no one can travel maybe it takes long time to we can meet. And don’t how can be their for her and we are not together physically. I really appreciate your advices and your thinking. Big love 💗
You made me laugh! I think I was asked all of those questions at some point. Whats so hard to understand??? Lol
Thank you this vid was so much help ❤️
Love your channel ! Both of you are nice and beautiful !!!
Beautiful explaination
Ive got the notification🤗🤗🤗
Hello to this 2 beautiful people
Love u guys out there😘😘😘
Loveee yalll..from Dallas, Texas...#givingLyfe #revamp #mel2mo
Ive got the notification🤗🤗🤗
Hello to this 2 beautiful people
Love u guys out there😘😘😘
Thank you for this video ❤ You've made me smile 😊 Stay safe 🙂🙃
if I'm not use scarf, maybe people will call me sir too lol
you girls are the best xx
hey guyssss....congrates for 80K subscribers😍😍😍
Thank you! 🎉
Miso is so cute 🥰 can i join to your familyyy :D you are my favourite couple
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You're fab! 😀
Girls i used to watch you wll the time and for some reason i havent seen you in my feed. Loved this so funny and some valid points that people need to see
Ah no way! Hit that notification button 😉 and thank you!
Alexis and Lilian doing that now ladies
Thank you 🙏
Love you both
Lol seit ihr Deutsch?
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I am just a straight man passinf by now i have a crush on both of you lol
wann habt ihr geburtstag? ☀️
Alexis am 24. Februar und Lilian am 15. Juni 😊
Out of all the letters on the LGBTQ+ spectrum, I'm both L and T. I've yet to get the "You must hate men" or "You don't look like a lesbian" lines from anybody. I have, however, had one aunt tell me she never saw signs of me being trans. She and another aunt both said they always thought I was "100% male", whatever the hell that is. I was NEVER a "100% male". I was always a woman, just misidentified at birth. And only for the past 11 months have I had the right hormones in my body. I've also had some people claim that I was straight with extra steps. That's not how this stuff works.
I would much rather personally do missionary position instead of scissoring