Coach Craig is amazing at what he does. When we did a Skype, he knew exactly what I was going through and helped reassure me that things would be fine. Also, on his second statement, he guessed that I was adopted, and then my ex messaged me twice 5 minutes into our session, we were both mind blown and had a great laugh about it. Thank you Coach Craig for all your help!!!
@@CoachCraigKenneth Hell yeah you’re good! I honestly can’t wait to do another Skype with you once my funds replenish. It’s the slow season at work but busy season is right around the corner, so it’ll happen soon enough!
@@zachtolchin3320 Hey I was going to buy a skype session with craig but had a question. So its a 1 hour session, but i am afraid i wont be able to explain everything to craig in that time and get the questions i have answered. So idk if it would be better to do email coaching so i can explain the whole relationship and get the help and answers i need. I wouldn’t even know how to start the conversation honestly. any help ?
@@CoachCraigKenneth hey coach! I was looking to buy a skype session but i am afraid i wont be able to talk about everything with you in that short time nor have all my questions answered. Would it be better for me to do email coaching? So I can explain everything about it and so you have the full picture of how things happened? its been a month since the breakup and its been mixed signals of on and off talking and her wanting to see me in the future, but now she and i haven’t talked in 2 weeks but the break up was 4 weeks ago. So should i do email coaching then ? thank you!
@@raulcastillo9600 honestly, I had those same concerns, my situation was/is pretty complicated and I was also worried that I wouldn’t have enough time. I even wrote the whole situation down in bullet form to save time but Coach Craig was so good and efficient that I really used my bullet points once the entire time. Don’t worry about you starting to conversation, Craig really took the lead with everything starting with just talking to me about what I do for work and where a live and eased into asking me about my situation. I ended up having enough time plus a little extra, so I really wouldn’t worry about that. I was very pleased with how everything went and how he made me feel and really eased my anxiety a bit. The Skype is definitely worth it, being able to look at him face to face helped a lot since he can read you like a book and knew exactly what to ask and when. Good luck and I hope this helped.
My ex and I broke up back in May and I’ve been sending him texts for months to get back together and it got to the point he didn’t reply anymore. After 5 months I decided to give myself my own closure and erase myself from that situation and move on. No more hopes, no more chasing and no more suffering. Just working on myself everyday to become a better me! 🥰
@@Polly1589 I’m having healthier relationships ever since and now after a year without seeing him, I run into him and we had a little normal conversation, because we have so many mutual friends, but I was able to heal and he watches my stories sometimes, specially lately 😅 but I’ve learned that the more you beg, the more the person pulls away!!! Self respect and love is the key for everything! Sending love for y’all that are going through something like that! 🥰
@@fancy.champagnetrue, but did he make any efforts coming back to u on his own. How's ur relationship with him now? I'm guilty of texting too but for a month n when I called for not making efforts n told if u want to leave , u can n then he blocked me
@@LaudauteDominum-er2mr learning about attachment styles is so key after learning about it. It’s literally language between the two. And if you can’t understand their language then you won’t learn how to love them or be loved.
Thanks for this one! Perfect timing. This helps me hold on to my resolve to stay in no contact. When I heard this video, my ex’s parting words flooded my memory of how resolved & shut down he was to “move on”, how he was happier without me. Okay, DONE ✅ I gave him the gift of my absence since he didn’t appreciate my presence. My head is strong, my heart still longs for what we shared. Craig, listening to your videos helps me continue to hold onto my self-respect ‼️thanks, again 🙏
Thank you so much for doing a video about discerning when we should convince ourselves we do NOT want our ex back. It can be so, so hard when we love them, but their behavior is just not conducive to building a healthy, loving relationship no matter what we change/try. The reminder to tap into anger/allow myself to feel angry is so timely and important. I think I've suppressed that part of me (made it taboo) since childhood.
What a horrible situation. Mine is much worse, and I’m now at the point where I’m asking myself why would I even want him back. Cheaters and liars have no regard for how they destroy ppl or the soul-searing trauma that they cause.
Craig, 8 weeks ago my wife suddenly left me after living together for 31 years. She want to start a new life without me and the kids. She bought a motorbike, tattoo and so on. Clear signs for a woman of 54 (MC). I'm in no contact phase right now, difficult, but find a lot of support from your video's. Thanks.
@@mmt2310 2,5 years later, we (me and also the kids) never spoke to her again and are deforced for a year now.. At first I was devastated, but now I grew stronger.
O. M. G - this was exactly the same situation with my ex. He pulled the friendship card and still wanted to live together and share the same bed. Eventually I couldn't continue it so I had to kick him out. That was the only time I saw him upset
Hah, too late for me. I never wrote the hand written letter, but I did cry and plead. Still, I never heard back from her for almost two years. I Wish I’d known this a long time ago. But fuck it, life goes on and learning from your mistakes and living your best life is the best revenge ever. 💪🏽
I just caught my gf lying to me for the second time. I hate seeing her stuff in my apartment it's heart breaking and sad and my anxiety is uncontrollable currently.
I just kicked out my lying bf after 6 years together. It's so hard because you wish it never got to this point... Stay strong, we have to remember that we're not the ones who did something wrong. Hold your ground. If it's meant to be, it'll be. Until then, don't accept unacceptable behavior.
@@PipSqueekOG I know, man. We want to trust them so bad. Once we trust them again, they end up lying again. The hardest part is wondering why they can't just be honest. I'm sending you good vibes all the way from Hawaii! I don't know where you're at, but I definitely know how you feel.
I’m latina and there’s no way I could keep my cool and allow him to stay all those months after that betrayal.. wtf!!! I would’ve thrown his shit to the street
@@abdurllerabdurller2774 unfortunately im not like most people who listen to their hearts, my heart says yes but my brain says no, leave them alone. The bible teaches us that the heart is the fountain of illusions. The heart will decieve us and keep us in mental shackles. When the brain tells you if this person walked and doesn't want anything to do with you, leave them alone. Eventually you will find someone who does.
incredibly disrespectful that he was doing all that WHILE living with her. similar thing happened to me. if affection is lost, that's one thing, but conscious deception over a period of weeks / months... that is simply cruel and emblematic of poor character. leave the relationship like a man / woman and show some honor to your prior partner
I know I’m two years late to comment, but the whole “friendship” stuff is one of the most repulsive things an ex can do. Maybe this would have been a bad move, but if my ex insisted on living together _and_ remain friends (he wanted to be friends and I rejected), I think I’d blow up at him and say some pretty cruel things. This woman deserves so much better.
Ex wife told me goodbye when I told her I wasn’t interested in being just friends after spending a ton of time together the last 3-4 month’s…not good! I’m afraid she’s gone for good this time.
This exact story happened to my gf. She and I have a great relationship. She has introduced me to her family and I to mine. No fighting between us really. Problem is she recently broke up with me because it seems she still has a trauma from her past relationship. She tries her best. She goes to therapy, among other things. She’s awesome! But, she broke up with me saying she’s afraid of getting hurt again or hurting me. We’ve talked about how our relationship is not the problem, rather it seems she still has residual wounds to work on. What should I do?
3.5 months of no contact with ex wife other than one time she asked me to take her daughter from her 2nd marriage (separated), I was #1, to cheer because she had to work late. I really didn’t talk to her when she got there to pick her up. She said thank you, I nodded and left. It’s really tough, I thought we really had a shot at making things right.
He fd around looking online and found something else... mine was living at my house and I did some digging and confronted him and he admitted it .. yeah he wants to keep the door open eh I beg to differ
These are well known female gestures, however, men do not do that which explains why these strategies are not working. I am really curious to know what men really do to reconnect after a breakup.
I'm in the same situation as that story you read except we're married for 12 years and we have an autistic son together and two weeks ago he was all over me love me we fix in our house put a new roof on and change countertops to update it cuz we were selling it to move to Florida and retire and then all of a sudden he said he was not happy and the spark was gone and he moved to be closer to his job which he said he hated that's why we were moving to Florida and he was transferring he had already put in his transfer so now he has an apartment an hour away closer to his job this blind side in me we never argue we get along great we have great sex I have no clue what to do from here and me and my son are devastated and my son said he wanted nothing else to do with him. But he said we could be friends and he'll still help me with the house it wants to come and see our son which he is not our son's biological father But he has raised him but he was has the paperwork filled out to adopt him so I don't know what to do now
I mean I did all of that in a day, I wanted to talk to him bc I felt guilty after telling him I was tired and done with him and his bullshit, that he needed to heal the trauma with his mom (the mom brought him from his home country to nyc and were living with her then boyfriend’s family but it was a mess, they treated her badly after they split up and she left him there bc he wanted to stay to wait for documents they needed and their relationship got damage by that and almost lost contact and he became independent at 15) and the lost of his grandpa which I now understand that it was a huge lost bc he was the only person who chose him, so I felt guilty but he reacted so mean and upset when we met up bc I went to his apartment to get my bag back (was funny to get it back bc I could never bring it back home bc every time I tried he would think I was trying to break up with him) he said that he changed for me and partners don’t change for their partners and that he completely changed for me (he was a good guy BUT I felt I was doing a lot, going to check on him, visits, dates, he barely visited and I was the one who had to do all of that) I gave him the handwritten letters I was writing for our anniversary of a year ( I was planning to give him the letters and then break up but he ended up breaking up with me through a phone call) but yeah I kind of pleaded but not to come back as I told him but to just clarify everything between us but he didn’t want to see me or hear me (I don’t understand why he acted that way, he wanted to break up with me a week before the phone call and everything seemed ok but his mother’s new boyfriend got surgery and he got distanced but he said he lost interest on me and he didn’t love me no more) so He unfriend of everything and he wanted to remove me from the root, right now I just decided to accept that, since the momento we split up I didn’t look for him, I unfriend him too, bc he let me follow him back and he was posting like crazy saying that he is back in the game and that he came back (after the death of his grandpa he said he wanted his old self back bc he felt empty and I used to say to him that that is not gonna happen but he can create a new self, a better self with what happened to him and what he learned from all of those emotions bc no one can bring the past back or try to be someone we used to be bc then we don’t grow as a person) I know he is not a bad person but it was a messy situation and I didn’t want to deal with that no more I was getting lost and started being anxious and I was like that in my first relationship and I didn’t want to repeat that again, not ever again. I was sad about the breakup but I know I did my best (he used to say he was depressed and I stayed with him bc my brother passed away due to depression and I got so worry even when his mom would be clueless about his psychological state, he was more like a father than a son, I think I stayed long enough to avoid any disaster but I’m happy I was able to breakup with that persona before losing myself trying to love him while he didn’t love me no more :) it’s been two months and I feel good, sometimes I miss the old memories but that’s all.
Sounds like the guy is going through a midlife crisis, which is a situation in which the wayward spouse often starts an affair and becomes narcissistic. A lot of the statements recounted in this video sound like those put in place to keep you tied in as narcissistic supply while he goes and obtains further supply elsewhere. It's a really tough situation and I hope you've been able to work yourself through this. It's extremely sad when our spouses do this, especially because it's because of their own low self-esteem and childhood traumas 🙁
My Ex is viewing all my Instagram stories almost as soon as I upload them. For some reason I feel like this is sort of breaking no contact as she can keep tabs on me?
Take some breaks dont post for a few days then post again each time you hold back their anxiety goes high. The stories help them keep calm like you are still connected. On the days you don’t post anything they go crazy.
@Emmie Lee You think? My ex is also always the first to view my stories on snapchat. It is out of character of him to do so because he is seldom on his phone because of work. When we were still together his reponse would take an hour or two or three. Then when we broke up its like he is always online cause everytime i post a story with a few minutes of intervals, he would always view them. He even replied to one of them. So ill try what you suggested. Ill stop posting for the time being.
Make sure you are being mysterious and not posting *too much*. How often do you post? My ex has done it once since the break up, since we unfollowed me. I think it is a good sign but cannot be for sure.
Mr. Craig no contact is so tough it’s basically been a month since the break up and I’m trying to let go and just let what happens happen but it’s so tough
My ex broke up with me a few days ago, and she’s already starting seeing other guys and I must continue to live with her for another three weeks (circumstances out of my control) do you think this will damage the chances of her reaching out to me when I start the no contact? She seems pretty happy and high spirited about what she’s doing and I’m just hurting whilst trying to act normal and kind around her
We had an argument, she told me to pack my stuff and i left, i wrote a message three days later she replied saying its over. I’ve been in nc ever since it’s been just over 4 months now. She looks sad in her pics. Should i reach out?
Hi Coach Craig, I broke up with my bf today. 😪 We have been together for 1 year and we wanted to live together but he (muslim) says we need to get married first or else we can t live together. I feel that is manipulation. He knows I am not muslim nor am I interested in becoming one. And he knows that. I will not marry a man only to live together with him.
@@linaschneider8932 I married the wrong man. He beat me, cheated relentlessly. I hung in. Had 3 nervous breakdowns. I thought I loved God but I compromised for him. I was a dummy. Noone gave me good counsel. He left ME. I was shook but now.... I published 3 books. Received 5 star review on my last release from Barnes & Noble. I'm here for you. I'm praying for you, even now. You are a winner!
PLEASE READ My ex reached out to me last Wednesday after 4 months of NC and she said she missed me and wanted to see me and talk to me, so I planned a meet up with her on Saturday, we meet and did some catching up it was short but fun, I didn't mention anything about our past relationship or break up or didn't act needy, was just positive. she was happy to see me and kept saying I've changed and was even touchy. After meeting she vanished till I texted her the next day telling her it was fun and would want to meet her again if she wants and she just replied with "Sure, thanks" and vanished. I don't know what to now. HELP
I don't necessarily see that you were chasing, however; I would not have said that in a text. I would have said I had a great time, period. Then went back into doing me. But, what's done is done. Go into no reach out and start over to no texting etc. Continue to watch the videos. Do not be her friend. Give her nothing. You'll be okay.
She just wanted to see if she still has an effect on you. When u became positive around her and when u messaged her after the date, she was happy and boosted her ego and went on her merry way.
Hi Craig! Love your work! My partner just dumped me after 4yrs. Said he doesn’t know what’s going on in his life and has been depressed for the past few months and says he doesn’t know what’s going on with himself. Very up and down about saying things will be fine maybe we can still be friends or maybe things will go back to normal. he was at the point of going to talk to someone. He hasn’t been speaking to many of his friends since. Give me some insight please. I’ve not Spoken to him in a week as I don’t want to interfere we only split two weeks ago. Xo
What if you have to do the break up even if you dont want to but because he is not ready for a commitment you have to walk away? Does the no contact work.still?
Yes it can. It depends on a lot of things; the breakup, their personality, connection, length of relationship etc. No contact is for both people to get time apart, heal and grow. The side effect is making them miss you, consider reconciling and so forth. Your situation is similar to mine in the sense that she was not in the state of mind to be able to sustain a relationship. I've gone no contact to work on myself and heal. Reflecting on things that I saw myself doing while we together that you don't notice until it's too late. She is fighting a deep depression and is very overwhelmed with life at the moment. People need time to themselves after a breakup. Yes it sucks that you want them back right now... but allowing them to figure things out and get to a better place is what needs to happen. It could take a long time. If they come back you need to be the best version of yourself and be able to accept whatever outcome happens.
As a women I disagree that women have endless dating options. I've been single since my break of 10 months ago & all the options I've had have been guys who are emotionally unhealthy & immature.
I don’t believe it’s gender specific. I think there’s a lazy attitude towards throw away dating in that it’s far easier today to connect and date, but that’s both sexes. No contact is self respect. If the dumper thinks they can get better etc go and let them. It’s their choice.
@@katieb5052 I resonate with this too and along the same timeline. I came out of toxic relationship with an emotionally immature person about 10 months ago. I needed time out from dating after the relationship as it drained the energy out of me. There’s a standard I would like to find in a partner where they hold themselves responsible so we support each other and grow as couple. I’m not interested in fixing someone who is using relationships to deal with unresolved traumas. This is where maturity comes into play and I fully accept that I’m limiting my options when I know full well that there’s a lot of immature people out there desperate to get into relationships. I’d rather be single and happy with myself than chasing toxic relationships. The relationship with yourself is far more important than the relationship you haven’t got. Good luck to you x
It's been a year since we last met, I've been waiting for him all this time, but we broke up, yesterday he came to my country, we are now in the same city but he didn't text me, this might be the last chance I see him Should I ask him to meet?
My ex girlfriend removed me from her social media two months ago. Should I send her a request to add me on social media? I really don't know what to do
So my ex fiance broke up on April 1st. I kept in contact, texting, intimacy. He always texted back within minutes. I went into no contact July 5. It's day 56 today...at what point do I reach out?
You don't. Sit on your busy itchy fingers. You did well before you met him, you're alive after 56 days. So no reason. When a man wants you back, he'll know how to get you back. Just be firm... don't cave in. Ask God to give you the strength to go ahead one minute at a time. You'll be proud in the end.
I am not sure if no contact is right for me. My ex and I broke up mutually but I alluded to it. It’s been over a week and I told him I wanted him back on Friday. He said he wanted to get back but wasn’t sure if it was the right decision and needed some time. But he was a great bf so I am not sure if I should keep fighting for the relationship if I alluded to it and it was mutual.
Sweetheart you need to just STOP! You will look desperate and pathetic if you don't stop. If you now know you are doing it all wrong then correct the situation by backing away and leaving him alone. You need to fix YOURSELF. Watch these videos and start your journey to success and healing for YOURSELF FIRST the rest will follow. ❤️
@@maura4261 Hey girlie ❤️ how are you holding up? I know this place you're in is challenging but, I know you have to give yourself a bit of credit that you are so much stronger than you know. Everytime you want to call or text which is very tempting. Call your best friend or a family member up instead. Another way to keep from doing making a mistake(s) I find that works for me besides calling my friends/family is going for a good walk, jog, dance class. Anything that requires me to focus on other people " mindfulness". Get a journal and write whatever comes to mind. How you been feeling, express it in singing, poetry, writing, dancing. Remember it's okay to cry every now and then also. Let your mind and body heal. You'll thank yourself for it and will be more emotionally Dane later and stronger for the next person or for the returning partner IF that is what happens ( no judgement). Be open and receptive to the person you want back BUT LET THEM DO MOST OF THE WORK OR ALL OF IT. They broke up with you for a reason even if it had nothing to do with you. Use this time of transition and maturing because that's what this time is for, to be more confident, calmer, and wiser. You want to prove more to yourself that they are not GOD. You were fine before them, during them, and can survive without them. It's them who needs to question if they can do without and better. Sending you a virtual 🤗 hug. I know you can do it. Leave them alone and let them call you. Don't beg, plead, or cry when talking to them. Don't even waste energy if they try to push buttons to make you mad. Pay them dust with a smile and happiness/confidence in your voice. That's attractive. 😘
Ex came back calls me but all he talks about is sex last time he called me i didn't answer his calls now it's been two days he stopped calling me , is it worth it ? Should I even answer his calls ?im confused 😢😤
He is just not ready for a commitment . If smo talks alxays about sex ig is better yo break up with him 1nd you will find smo who love uou without asking for sex . Don't give him what he wants
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Coach Craig is amazing at what he does. When we did a Skype, he knew exactly what I was going through and helped reassure me that things would be fine. Also, on his second statement, he guessed that I was adopted, and then my ex messaged me twice 5 minutes into our session, we were both mind blown and had a great laugh about it. Thank you Coach Craig for all your help!!!
What can I say…. I’m goooooooooood lol. Thanks for the kind words Zach! 💪
@@CoachCraigKenneth Hell yeah you’re good! I honestly can’t wait to do another Skype with you once my funds replenish. It’s the slow season at work but busy season is right around the corner, so it’ll happen soon enough!
@@zachtolchin3320 Hey I was going to buy a skype session with craig but had a question. So its a 1 hour session, but i am afraid i wont be able to explain everything to craig in that time and get the questions i have answered. So idk if it would be better to do email coaching so i can explain the whole relationship and get the help and answers i need. I wouldn’t even know how to start the conversation honestly. any help ?
@@CoachCraigKenneth hey coach! I was looking to buy a skype session but i am afraid i wont be able to talk about everything with you in that short time nor have all my questions answered. Would it be better for me to do email coaching? So I can explain everything about it and so you have the full picture of how things happened? its been a month since the breakup and its been mixed signals of on and off talking and her wanting to see me in the future, but now she and i haven’t talked in 2 weeks but the break up was 4 weeks ago. So should i do email coaching then ? thank you!
@@raulcastillo9600 honestly, I had those same concerns, my situation was/is pretty complicated and I was also worried that I wouldn’t have enough time. I even wrote the whole situation down in bullet form to save time but Coach Craig was so good and efficient that I really used my bullet points once the entire time. Don’t worry about you starting to conversation, Craig really took the lead with everything starting with just talking to me about what I do for work and where a live and eased into asking me about my situation. I ended up having enough time plus a little extra, so I really wouldn’t worry about that. I was very pleased with how everything went and how he made me feel and really eased my anxiety a bit. The Skype is definitely worth it, being able to look at him face to face helped a lot since he can read you like a book and knew exactly what to ask and when. Good luck and I hope this helped.
It's so hard to be angry with someone you're convinced that you love unconditionally, but sometimes anger is what we need to be able to cope.
Yeah...that "unconditional" love can mess with you...anger is the necessary antidote to take appropriate actions sometimes.
My ex and I broke up back in May and I’ve been sending him texts for months to get back together and it got to the point he didn’t reply anymore. After 5 months I decided to give myself my own closure and erase myself from that situation and move on. No more hopes, no more chasing and no more suffering. Just working on myself everyday to become a better me! 🥰
@@Polly1589 I’m having healthier relationships ever since and now after a year without seeing him, I run into him and we had a little normal conversation, because we have so many mutual friends, but I was able to heal and he watches my stories sometimes, specially lately 😅 but I’ve learned that the more you beg, the more the person pulls away!!! Self respect and love is the key for everything! Sending love for y’all that are going through something like that! 🥰
@@fancy.champagnetrue, but did he make any efforts coming back to u on his own. How's ur relationship with him now? I'm guilty of texting too but for a month n when I called for not making efforts n told if u want to leave , u can n then he blocked me
That is such a betrayal of trust. You will never be able to trust this person 100% again. She deserves much better.
Made the mistake of trying to be friends after. Only ended up hurting me. Don’t do it for your own mental health.
She came back after a month of no contact. I’ve been working on my self and continuing to do so. Thanks coach for the videos
5 more days and ill be at a month! Praying she comes back
And know your attachment styles
@@LaudauteDominum-er2mr learning about attachment styles is so key after learning about it. It’s literally language between the two. And if you can’t understand their language then you won’t learn how to love them or be loved.
@@i_Gotcha_ exactly!!! But I experienced gaslighting and manipulations...etc...he's a narc as well.
I am amazed by people who view their breakups like this lady. I learn what "not" to do by observing other people as well...
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Thanks for this one! Perfect timing. This helps me hold on to my resolve to stay in no contact. When I heard this video, my ex’s parting words flooded my memory of how resolved & shut down he was to “move on”, how he was happier without me. Okay, DONE ✅ I gave him the gift of my absence since he didn’t appreciate my presence. My head is strong, my heart still longs for what we shared. Craig, listening to your videos helps me continue to hold onto my self-respect ‼️thanks, again 🙏
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Thank you so much for doing a video about discerning when we should convince ourselves we do NOT want our ex back. It can be so, so hard when we love them, but their behavior is just not conducive to building a healthy, loving relationship no matter what we change/try. The reminder to tap into anger/allow myself to feel angry is so timely and important. I think I've suppressed that part of me (made it taboo) since childhood.
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What a horrible situation. Mine is much worse, and I’m now at the point where I’m asking myself why would I even want him back. Cheaters and liars have no regard for how they destroy ppl
or the soul-searing trauma that they cause.
My ex showed signs of narcissistic asshole behavior in last talk. He lied and said it was my fault he lied.
Craig, 8 weeks ago my wife suddenly left me after living together for 31 years. She want to start a new life without me and the kids. She bought a motorbike, tattoo and so on. Clear signs for a woman of 54 (MC). I'm in no contact phase right now, difficult, but find a lot of support from your video's. Thanks.
I'm sorry to hear that, there must be some explanation? You'll get through this
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Hope you’re doing good. When it’s marriage and kids it gets messy. And don’t wish that upon anybody.
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@@mmt2310 2,5 years later, we (me and also the kids) never spoke to her again and are deforced for a year now.. At first I was devastated, but now I grew stronger.
Once a cheater always a cheater, don't try to salvage relationships like this one, you better off with someone else
@@abdurllerabdurller2774 Craig is all the help I need, he's the best out here, thank you though
Or 🚫 one..it is ok to heal and be alone
@@abdurllerabdurller2774 I hate scammer's
Once they have done it once,they will do it again,i honestly believe that this guy seems to lack empathy,you deserve so much better
The ex said erase my number, block me! So , done . I’m off to a new day, Coach Craig is so right in all ways, thank you so much ❤️
Wow that's mature of them 😆
O. M. G - this was exactly the same situation with my ex. He pulled the friendship card and still wanted to live together and share the same bed. Eventually I couldn't continue it so I had to kick him out. That was the only time I saw him upset
Hah, too late for me. I never wrote the hand written letter, but I did cry and plead. Still, I never heard back from her for almost two years. I Wish I’d known this a long time ago. But fuck it, life goes on and learning from your mistakes and living your best life is the best revenge ever. 💪🏽
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I just caught my gf lying to me for the second time. I hate seeing her stuff in my apartment it's heart breaking and sad and my anxiety is uncontrollable currently.
I just kicked out my lying bf after 6 years together. It's so hard because you wish it never got to this point... Stay strong, we have to remember that we're not the ones who did something wrong. Hold your ground. If it's meant to be, it'll be. Until then, don't accept unacceptable behavior.
@@valeriepastrychef7500 I agree, I'm still trying to process my thoughts. I've been with her for 9 years... ugggh. Lack of trust really sucks. 😔
@@PipSqueekOG I know, man. We want to trust them so bad. Once we trust them again, they end up lying again. The hardest part is wondering why they can't just be honest. I'm sending you good vibes all the way from Hawaii! I don't know where you're at, but I definitely know how you feel.
@@valeriepastrychef7500 exactly! And she turns it around on me saying I'm controlling. I just want respect and love. Thank you, I'm in Seattle.
@@valeriepastrychef7500 and she deny it, instead of admitting. Makes me feel stupid.
I lost a friend of 15 years over some shadiness as we were coworkers. He's dead to me...she should drop that zero
All this living and moving with her gives me using vibes. She's the provider in the relationship.
I’m latina and there’s no way I could keep my cool and allow him to stay all those months after that betrayal.. wtf!!! I would’ve thrown his shit to the street
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@@abdurllerabdurller2774 unfortunately im not like most people who listen to their hearts, my heart says yes but my brain says no, leave them alone. The bible teaches us that the heart is the fountain of illusions. The heart will decieve us and keep us in mental shackles. When the brain tells you if this person walked and doesn't want anything to do with you, leave them alone. Eventually you will find someone who does.
Well I did make the break up hard, and my ex moved to the other side of the world..
Yup I kept the dog and he’s gone...I let him visit his dog with very little conversation
incredibly disrespectful that he was doing all that WHILE living with her. similar thing happened to me. if affection is lost, that's one thing, but conscious deception over a period of weeks / months... that is simply cruel and emblematic of poor character. leave the relationship like a man / woman and show some honor to your prior partner
I know I’m two years late to comment, but the whole “friendship” stuff is one of the most repulsive things an ex can do. Maybe this would have been a bad move, but if my ex insisted on living together _and_ remain friends (he wanted to be friends and I rejected), I think I’d blow up at him and say some pretty cruel things.
This woman deserves so much better.
Ex wife told me goodbye when I told her I wasn’t interested in being just friends after spending a ton of time together the last 3-4 month’s…not good! I’m afraid she’s gone for good this time.
Good...eff her. She isn't worth your time anymore my man.
Gone until she realizes she made a mistake. Stand your ground
Tell him he better call Tyrone!.....and he can't use your phone.
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This exact story happened to my gf. She and I have a great relationship. She has introduced me to her family and I to mine. No fighting between us really. Problem is she recently broke up with me because it seems she still has a trauma from her past relationship. She tries her best. She goes to therapy, among other things. She’s awesome! But, she broke up with me saying she’s afraid of getting hurt again or hurting me. We’ve talked about how our relationship is not the problem, rather it seems she still has residual wounds to work on. What should I do?
Is there an update? I’m broadly in a similar position.
3.5 months of no contact with ex wife other than one time she asked me to take her daughter from her 2nd marriage (separated), I was #1, to cheer because she had to work late. I really didn’t talk to her when she got there to pick her up. She said thank you, I nodded and left.
It’s really tough, I thought we really had a shot at making things right.
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He fd around looking online and found something else... mine was living at my house and I did some digging and confronted him and he admitted it .. yeah he wants to keep the door open eh I beg to differ
Such an interesting break down! This lady would do well not to tolerate being treated like that...
Wish I watched these videos when I was going through my breakup!
Jeez this guy sounds just like my ex!! Why are they all the same!?!?
Abusers use the same tactics.
These are well known female gestures, however, men do not do that which explains why these strategies are not working. I am really curious to know what men really do to reconnect after a breakup.
I'm in the same situation as that story you read except we're married for 12 years and we have an autistic son together and two weeks ago he was all over me love me we fix in our house put a new roof on and change countertops to update it cuz we were selling it to move to Florida and retire and then all of a sudden he said he was not happy and the spark was gone and he moved to be closer to his job which he said he hated that's why we were moving to Florida and he was transferring he had already put in his transfer so now he has an apartment an hour away closer to his job this blind side in me we never argue we get along great we have great sex I have no clue what to do from here and me and my son are devastated and my son said he wanted nothing else to do with him. But he said we could be friends and he'll still help me with the house it wants to come and see our son which he is not our son's biological father But he has raised him but he was has the paperwork filled out to adopt him so I don't know what to do now
I mean I did all of that in a day, I wanted to talk to him bc I felt guilty after telling him I was tired and done with him and his bullshit, that he needed to heal the trauma with his mom (the mom brought him from his home country to nyc and were living with her then boyfriend’s family but it was a mess, they treated her badly after they split up and she left him there bc he wanted to stay to wait for documents they needed and their relationship got damage by that and almost lost contact and he became independent at 15) and the lost of his grandpa which I now understand that it was a huge lost bc he was the only person who chose him, so I felt guilty but he reacted so mean and upset when we met up bc I went to his apartment to get my bag back (was funny to get it back bc I could never bring it back home bc every time I tried he would think I was trying to break up with him) he said that he changed for me and partners don’t change for their partners and that he completely changed for me (he was a good guy BUT I felt I was doing a lot, going to check on him, visits, dates, he barely visited and I was the one who had to do all of that) I gave him the handwritten letters I was writing for our anniversary of a year ( I was planning to give him the letters and then break up but he ended up breaking up with me through a phone call) but yeah I kind of pleaded but not to come back as I told him but to just clarify everything between us but he didn’t want to see me or hear me (I don’t understand why he acted that way, he wanted to break up with me a week before the phone call and everything seemed ok but his mother’s new boyfriend got surgery and he got distanced but he said he lost interest on me and he didn’t love me no more) so He unfriend of everything and he wanted to remove me from the root, right now I just decided to accept that, since the momento we split up I didn’t look for him, I unfriend him too, bc he let me follow him back and he was posting like crazy saying that he is back in the game and that he came back (after the death of his grandpa he said he wanted his old self back bc he felt empty and I used to say to him that that is not gonna happen but he can create a new self, a better self with what happened to him and what he learned from all of those emotions bc no one can bring the past back or try to be someone we used to be bc then we don’t grow as a person) I know he is not a bad person but it was a messy situation and I didn’t want to deal with that no more I was getting lost and started being anxious and I was like that in my first relationship and I didn’t want to repeat that again, not ever again. I was sad about the breakup but I know I did my best (he used to say he was depressed and I stayed with him bc my brother passed away due to depression and I got so worry even when his mom would be clueless about his psychological state, he was more like a father than a son, I think I stayed long enough to avoid any disaster but I’m happy I was able to breakup with that persona before losing myself trying to love him while he didn’t love me no more :) it’s been two months and I feel good, sometimes I miss the old memories but that’s all.
This story is heart wrenching. The pain and trauma he must have put her through. What a jackass! I truly believe in karma.
Update… on date 45 of NC and haven’t heard from her. Other than seeing a couple stories she had posted(i didnt view them) …. Losing hope :/
Sounds like the guy is going through a midlife crisis, which is a situation in which the wayward spouse often starts an affair and becomes narcissistic. A lot of the statements recounted in this video sound like those put in place to keep you tied in as narcissistic supply while he goes and obtains further supply elsewhere. It's a really tough situation and I hope you've been able to work yourself through this. It's extremely sad when our spouses do this, especially because it's because of their own low self-esteem and childhood traumas 🙁
My Ex is viewing all my Instagram stories almost as soon as I upload them. For some reason I feel like this is sort of breaking no contact as she can keep tabs on me?
Take some breaks dont post for a few days then post again each time you hold back their anxiety goes high. The stories help them keep calm like you are still connected. On the days you don’t post anything they go crazy.
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You think? My ex is also always the first to view my stories on snapchat. It is out of character of him to do so because he is seldom on his phone because of work. When we were still together his reponse would take an hour or two or three. Then when we broke up its like he is always online cause everytime i post a story with a few minutes of intervals, he would always view them.
He even replied to one of them.
So ill try what you suggested. Ill stop posting for the time being.
Make sure you are being mysterious and not posting *too much*. How often do you post? My ex has done it once since the break up, since we unfollowed me. I think it is a good sign but cannot be for sure.
Mr. Craig no contact is so tough it’s basically been a month since the break up and I’m trying to let go and just let what happens happen but it’s so tough
You will get there. Time heals every thing. Just trust yourself, and dont devalue yourself
Put him out! Keep the dogs. You don't need 3. He's gaming you just to live for free.
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I really wish I can do a Skype coaching call with you but I just don't have the money 😢
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Could you please make a video for people who were wrongly accused of cheating?
The person probably is either still scared from being cheated on in the past or they are projecting and have a guilty conscious for cheating...
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My ex broke up with me a few days ago, and she’s already starting seeing other guys and I must continue to live with her for another three weeks (circumstances out of my control) do you think this will damage the chances of her reaching out to me when I start the no contact? She seems pretty happy and high spirited about what she’s doing and I’m just hurting whilst trying to act normal and kind around her
@@Redouku Im gonna try, thank you!
She shouldn’t have been looking thru the house. She should have just dumped him and be done with it.
We had an argument, she told me to pack my stuff and i left, i wrote a message three days later she replied saying its over. I’ve been in nc ever since it’s been just over 4 months now. She looks sad in her pics. Should i reach out?
Love the channel. I feel that the same things are discussed often, though.
Okay next video I’ll just rank my top Star Wars movies
@@CoachCraigKenneth Just be sure that Empire is at number 1. Haha
It’s my favorite movie of all time. It can never be topped
Ummm... maybe cuz its a channel specializing in "relationships and break ups" thereof, maybe??? That's the focus...
@@reikilady4216 This is a solid point as well.
She made contact a few days after no contact, did say she missed me but said she still needed space… and that we would text some other time..
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Hi Coach Craig, I broke up with my bf today. 😪 We have been together for 1 year and we wanted to live together but he (muslim) says we need to get married first or else we can t live together. I feel that is manipulation. He knows I am not muslim nor am I interested in becoming one. And he knows that. I will not marry a man only to live together with him.
Good we both single we can date now
You two are not on the same page. I recommend you get close to the Lord and find your calling.
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My ex reached out to me last Wednesday after 4 months of NC and she said she missed me and wanted to see me and talk to me, so I planned a meet up with her on Saturday, we meet and did some catching up it was short but fun, I didn't mention anything about our past relationship or break up or didn't act needy, was just positive. she was happy to see me and kept saying I've changed and was even touchy. After meeting she vanished till I texted her the next day telling her it was fun and would want to meet her again if she wants and she just replied with "Sure, thanks" and vanished. I don't know what to now. HELP
You should have never said you wanted to meet again . Let her come to you and chase you ... never chase
I don't necessarily see that you were chasing, however; I would not have said that in a text. I would have said I had a great time, period. Then went back into doing me. But, what's done is done. Go into no reach out and start over to no texting etc. Continue to watch the videos. Do not be her friend. Give her nothing. You'll be okay.
She was touchy... you should probably have made a move, know what i mean ? Or at least should have made the next date. ;)
She just wanted to see if she still has an effect on you. When u became positive around her and when u messaged her after the date, she was happy and boosted her ego and went on her merry way.
@@biancafelton6087 so what would you have done if you were in my shoes?
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Hi Craig! Love your work! My partner just dumped me after 4yrs. Said he doesn’t know what’s going on in his life and has been depressed for the past few months and says he doesn’t know what’s going on with himself. Very up and down about saying things will be fine maybe we can still be friends or maybe things will go back to normal. he was at the point of going to talk to someone. He hasn’t been speaking to many of his friends since. Give me some insight please. I’ve not
Spoken to him in a week as I don’t want to interfere we only split two weeks ago. Xo
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What if you have to do the break up even if you dont want to but because he is not ready for a commitment you have to walk away? Does the no contact work.still?
Yes it can. It depends on a lot of things; the breakup, their personality, connection, length of relationship etc. No contact is for both people to get time apart, heal and grow. The side effect is making them miss you, consider reconciling and so forth. Your situation is similar to mine in the sense that she was not in the state of mind to be able to sustain a relationship. I've gone no contact to work on myself and heal. Reflecting on things that I saw myself doing while we together that you don't notice until it's too late. She is fighting a deep depression and is very overwhelmed with life at the moment. People need time to themselves after a breakup. Yes it sucks that you want them back right now... but allowing them to figure things out and get to a better place is what needs to happen. It could take a long time. If they come back you need to be the best version of yourself and be able to accept whatever outcome happens.
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Is it true no contact works less for women because their endless dating options in the current dating market?
I believe this is more likely true, until they get jerked and passed around by a-holes.
@@breatheliveandthrive7404 by that time they are used up and no good man who knows they've been used up want them anymore.
As a women I disagree that women have endless dating options. I've been single since my break of 10 months ago & all the options I've had have been guys who are emotionally unhealthy & immature.
I don’t believe it’s gender specific. I think there’s a lazy attitude towards throw away dating in that it’s far easier today to connect and date, but that’s both sexes. No contact is self respect. If the dumper thinks they can get better etc go and let them. It’s their choice.
@@katieb5052 I resonate with this too and along the same timeline. I came out of toxic relationship with an emotionally immature person about 10 months ago. I needed time out from dating after the relationship as it drained the energy out of me. There’s a standard I would like to find in a partner where they hold themselves responsible so we support each other and grow as couple. I’m not interested in fixing someone who is using relationships to deal with unresolved traumas. This is where maturity comes into play and I fully accept that I’m limiting my options when I know full well that there’s a lot of immature people out there desperate to get into relationships. I’d rather be single and happy with myself than chasing toxic relationships. The relationship with yourself is far more important than the relationship you haven’t got. Good luck to you x
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It's been a year since we last met, I've been waiting for him all this time, but we broke up, yesterday he came to my country, we are now in the same city but he didn't text me, this might be the last chance I see him Should I ask him to meet?
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My ex girlfriend removed me from her social media two months ago. Should I send her a request to add me on social media? I really don't know what to do
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So my ex fiance broke up on April 1st. I kept in contact, texting, intimacy. He always texted back within minutes. I went into no contact July 5. It's day 56 today...at what point do I reach out?
You don't. Sit on your busy itchy fingers. You did well before you met him, you're alive after 56 days. So no reason. When a man wants you back, he'll know how to get you back. Just be firm... don't cave in. Ask God to give you the strength to go ahead one minute at a time. You'll be proud in the end.
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@@marsboyo1995 day 60. Still haven't reached out. He proposed to me and HE broke it off so he's the one that should reach out.
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I am not sure if no contact is right for me. My ex and I broke up mutually but I alluded to it. It’s been over a week and I told him I wanted him back on Friday. He said he wanted to get back but wasn’t sure if it was the right decision and needed some time. But he was a great bf so I am not sure if I should keep fighting for the relationship if I alluded to it and it was mutual.
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Sweetheart you need to just STOP! You will look desperate and pathetic if you don't stop. If you now know you are doing it all wrong then correct the situation by backing away and leaving him alone. You need to fix YOURSELF. Watch these videos and start your journey to success and healing for YOURSELF FIRST the rest will follow. ❤️
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@@maura4261 Hey girlie ❤️ how are you holding up? I know this place you're in is challenging but, I know you have to give yourself a bit of credit that you are so much stronger than you know. Everytime you want to call or text which is very tempting. Call your best friend or a family member up instead. Another way to keep from doing making a mistake(s) I find that works for me besides calling my friends/family is going for a good walk, jog, dance class. Anything that requires me to focus on other people " mindfulness". Get a journal and write whatever comes to mind. How you been feeling, express it in singing, poetry, writing, dancing. Remember it's okay to cry every now and then also. Let your mind and body heal. You'll thank yourself for it and will be more emotionally Dane later and stronger for the next person or for the returning partner IF that is what happens ( no judgement). Be open and receptive to the person you want back BUT LET THEM DO MOST OF THE WORK OR ALL OF IT. They broke up with you for a reason even if it had nothing to do with you. Use this time of transition and maturing because that's what this time is for, to be more confident, calmer, and wiser. You want to prove more to yourself that they are not GOD. You were fine before them, during them, and can survive without them. It's them who needs to question if they can do without and better. Sending you a virtual 🤗 hug. I know you can do it. Leave them alone and let them call you. Don't beg, plead, or cry when talking to them. Don't even waste energy if they try to push buttons to make you mad. Pay them dust with a smile and happiness/confidence in your voice. That's attractive. 😘
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This guy is super foul!!!
Sounds like this guy may have some Cluster B traits 😬
Ex came back calls me but all he talks about is sex last time he called me i didn't answer his calls now it's been two days he stopped calling me , is it worth it ? Should I even answer his calls ?im confused 😢😤
If he only talks about sex don't answer him..a relationship should be more than having sex..he's a fuckboy
He is just not ready for a commitment . If smo talks alxays about sex ig is better yo break up with him 1nd you will find smo who love uou without asking for sex . Don't give him what he wants
@Lydia I had the same thing, if he doesn't make an effort with you otherwise then no its not worth it
Why did he go live with the other chick? I would've told him to go live with her.
YES, I AGREE JUST LIKE MYSELF I TEND TO EARN MY EX AS WELL AS LEARN ABOUT HIM AND HE MY EX WILL LEARN MORE ABOUT ME AND EARN ME AS WELL.
This is total abuse !! In France I’ll say « on est bon mais pas con! » ( kind but not stupid !)