Hope you get better and better. I can feel your pain, especially when you talked about watching the river and never being in the stream. Actually I think it's really what is really scary about depression. I personnally would compare the healing path as a roller coaster. Especially at the beginning but little by little everything becomes more calm. By hearing you, I'm sure you're going to get through this. I've been struggling with depression too. And it has been a wild ride. But now I'm considering I'm good even if not everything is figured out. But don't need to figure out everything to get better. I've also dealt with high perfectionism. But I've been burned out of it. What healed me of it is seeing the beauty in imperfection. Now, I really appreciate imperfection and see it as a part of the beauty of this world. Also I think it's reaaally easy to be perfectionist when we set high expectation to ourselves but it's a sort of self sabotaging process. I do agree when you talk about strength and weakness. As an infj I also have a sensing inferior function, which is quite difficult to deal with sometimes. I wasn't conscious about it but for years, I've been living constantly through my inferior function and it put me a lot of stress because I will never be an estp for example. I tried to be constantly aware of the world I lived in but I couldn't understand why I couldn't manage to see or understand things like the other persons. I was just fleeing from myself, by diminishing my strength. But now I've took this power back, I've recognized who I am and not over comparing with other people which is absurd when you start understanding cognitive functions etc. Sport is certainly an ally for people with low sensing. I personnally loved martial art. Well I'm stopping here because it will become too long perhaps. Take care 👍💪
Thank you for this wonderful comment. You somehow managed to watch it even though I had made it unlisted and it prompted me to make it public, so thank you. I really love your way of comparing it to a rollercoaster that comes down with a sense of calm at the end. I can feel that calmness flowing in to my life and I'm really glad for you to affirm that it is here to stay. I also really love martial arts, I might get on that again. Have a wonderful day 🙏
Lately im scared to look at myself at the mirror for toot long, it didn’t happen since 3 years. I know exactly what to do but there is sine kind of force that is countering myself and i end up going back to the old toxic habits instead of the healthy way that i know what to follow. It’s like the fear of harming others with the plain truth hold me back, however i can’t ignore it. It’s starting ti hurt me deeply however everyday i try to get back to the truth that i know even if it disadvantages my position in the eyes of others. We are a highly complicated and easy to misunderstood bunch. But, when we fund our inside strength and focus we are almost unstoppable to the point that it even scares ourselves Improvement is the only salvation. Also the hard step of self respect and value what we like instead pf sabotaging ourselves like it’s comfortable to do; i am writing that during hangover but i believe that I’m on the right path right now. Thanks for your advices and your channel.
@@bigpasta8487 I think this "force" you are talking about is us lying to ourselves and making things harder than they need to be. This is why it's so hard to look at ourselves in the mirror, the behaviour is so incredibly dumb that we start to hate ourselves for it. Now the self-hatred is the primary issue that we need to tackle first and foremost. The self-hatred makes even the smallest tasks feel like mountains, even though their just small stair-steps. With gentleness towards ourselves we see the stairs instead of the mountains and find it easier to walk on the right path. Thanks for the kind words and for sharing. It's not easy when you're in the thick of it. You know deep down that you're incredibly strong so you don't want to be seen as weak, but in reality it's a sign of strength. Because you need it for the circumstances when you are misunderstood. Standing in the truth that you KNOW that you are not weak and that you're not a victim no matter what they say. That sh€# aint easy braddah 👊 Being Ti/Fe users- Fe activates Ti, so being honest to others how you actually feel instantly shines a light on the lies. Just remember that over-estimating your progress prematurely to them is another way for the lies to creep back inside because that is a subtle way of lying that makes us feel isolated in this experience again. Papa bless 🫡
@ a lot things that i really resonate with in your words, luckily i still haven’t lost my optimism. Being gentle with our own thoughts can really be beneficial. I like to think my life as in chapters, so even if right now it’s not going well the important thing is to not get stuck for too long. Other small things that i found helpful are going in nature and walking, also trying to meet new people even if we don’t really want to. thank you for the encouragement and wish you good luck 🤞
Regarding the fear of being seen through; people can only see what you show in the context and not anything else although it could feel like it. I had this fear and this was a big one that my therapist told me. If one feel like they feel or think that something is true for an example it should not matter what others think about that in a way. People also see what you give out through their own psychological lens too. I mean it is inevitable. One could still hold something true and also accept the other ones reaction.
@@AlbinBjörkman-q9n I agree. We are all reflections reflecting and therefore it can be very tricky to find the source of the light. I easily use the reflections to try and get a picture of who I am, but my true self is to be uniquely accessed by me. Something I've known for years, but forget many, many times everyday.
Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors⛵️
@@Hanna-so6lf Very true, Hanna! I have that quote on a t-shirt and was close to wearing it for this video 😯
@AdamPratar next time 😄
Hope you get better and better. I can feel your pain, especially when you talked about watching the river and never being in the stream. Actually I think it's really what is really scary about depression. I personnally would compare the healing path as a roller coaster. Especially at the beginning but little by little everything becomes more calm. By hearing you, I'm sure you're going to get through this. I've been struggling with depression too. And it has been a wild ride. But now I'm considering I'm good even if not everything is figured out. But don't need to figure out everything to get better.
I've also dealt with high perfectionism. But I've been burned out of it. What healed me of it is seeing the beauty in imperfection. Now, I really appreciate imperfection and see it as a part of the beauty of this world. Also I think it's reaaally easy to be perfectionist when we set high expectation to ourselves but it's a sort of self sabotaging process.
I do agree when you talk about strength and weakness. As an infj I also have a sensing inferior function, which is quite difficult to deal with sometimes. I wasn't conscious about it but for years, I've been living constantly through my inferior function and it put me a lot of stress because I will never be an estp for example. I tried to be constantly aware of the world I lived in but I couldn't understand why I couldn't manage to see or understand things like the other persons. I was just fleeing from myself, by diminishing my strength. But now I've took this power back, I've recognized who I am and not over comparing with other people which is absurd when you start understanding cognitive functions etc. Sport is certainly an ally for people with low sensing. I personnally loved martial art.
Well I'm stopping here because it will become too long perhaps. Take care 👍💪
Thank you for this wonderful comment. You somehow managed to watch it even though I had made it unlisted and it prompted me to make it public, so thank you. I really love your way of comparing it to a rollercoaster that comes down with a sense of calm at the end. I can feel that calmness flowing in to my life and I'm really glad for you to affirm that it is here to stay. I also really love martial arts, I might get on that again. Have a wonderful day 🙏
Lately im scared to look at myself at the mirror for toot long, it didn’t happen since 3 years. I know exactly what to do but there is sine kind of force that is countering myself and i end up going back to the old toxic habits instead of the healthy way that i know what to follow. It’s like the fear of harming others with the plain truth hold me back, however i can’t ignore it. It’s starting ti hurt me deeply however everyday i try to get back to the truth that i know even if it disadvantages my position in the eyes of others. We are a highly complicated and easy to misunderstood bunch. But, when we fund our inside strength and focus we are almost unstoppable to the point that it even scares ourselves Improvement is the only salvation. Also the hard step of self respect and value what we like instead pf sabotaging ourselves like it’s comfortable to do; i am writing that during hangover but i believe that I’m on the right path right now. Thanks for your advices and your channel.
@@bigpasta8487 I think this "force" you are talking about is us lying to ourselves and making things harder than they need to be. This is why it's so hard to look at ourselves in the mirror, the behaviour is so incredibly dumb that we start to hate ourselves for it. Now the self-hatred is the primary issue that we need to tackle first and foremost. The self-hatred makes even the smallest tasks feel like mountains, even though their just small stair-steps. With gentleness towards ourselves we see the stairs instead of the mountains and find it easier to walk on the right path. Thanks for the kind words and for sharing. It's not easy when you're in the thick of it. You know deep down that you're incredibly strong so you don't want to be seen as weak, but in reality it's a sign of strength. Because you need it for the circumstances when you are misunderstood. Standing in the truth that you KNOW that you are not weak and that you're not a victim no matter what they say. That sh€# aint easy braddah 👊 Being Ti/Fe users- Fe activates Ti, so being honest to others how you actually feel instantly shines a light on the lies. Just remember that over-estimating your progress prematurely to them is another way for the lies to creep back inside because that is a subtle way of lying that makes us feel isolated in this experience again. Papa bless 🫡
@@bigpasta8487 btw, what is this fear of hurting others that you're talking about? I don't think I have that
@ a lot things that i really resonate with in your words, luckily i still haven’t lost my optimism. Being gentle with our own thoughts can really be beneficial. I like to think my life as in chapters, so even if right now it’s not going well the important thing is to not get stuck for too long. Other small things that i found helpful are going in nature and walking, also trying to meet new people even if we don’t really want to. thank you for the encouragement and wish you good luck 🤞
Suffering is preferable to the easy, normal way.
Suffering IS the easy normal way 🙃
@ i concur
Regarding the fear of being seen through; people can only see what you show in the context and not anything else although it could feel like it. I had this fear and this was a big one that my therapist told me. If one feel like they feel or think that something is true for an example it should not matter what others think about that in a way. People also see what you give out through their own psychological lens too. I mean it is inevitable. One could still hold something true and also accept the other ones reaction.
@@AlbinBjörkman-q9n I agree. We are all reflections reflecting and therefore it can be very tricky to find the source of the light. I easily use the reflections to try and get a picture of who I am, but my true self is to be uniquely accessed by me. Something I've known for years, but forget many, many times everyday.
Are you a pisces bro ??
I'm a cancer sun and Leo moon ✌️
@AdamPratari omg I knew you are water first , you are not like Taurus ENTP'S who act emotionless and only money driven , you are way better :)
@@Lu-ot8hs Haha thanks 😅 I think most of those are actually Entjs and Estps who have mistyped though 🫣