Less grind, more chill | Eso Tolson | TEDxMemphis

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  • Опубликовано: 21 дек 2024

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  • @stayhappylittlemermaid
    @stayhappylittlemermaid 3 года назад +55

    Do it because you WANT to, not just because you HAVE to. When you do what you want, you create an Unstoppable POWER.

    • @mr.c2485
      @mr.c2485 3 года назад

      That’s very true. I taught my kids that if they do what they want they’ll never work a day in their life.

    • @thisisepic3052
      @thisisepic3052 3 года назад

      Yes nice.

    • @KevlarKoat
      @KevlarKoat 3 года назад

      And if you don't want to, you're looking in the wrong place and need to think about what you really want to do with your limited years.
      ..or look deeper, if the problem persists look inward and ask "Why don't I want to?" your inner child might reply with "..because I don't deserve it" (Deficient self-esteem) or "..I deserve not to work that hard and still succeed" (Excessive self-esteem)
      If this is the case therapy is the solution. Despite lacking in therapist feedback RUclips therapy works great for me!

  • @hanzlearningsolutions
    @hanzlearningsolutions 3 года назад +58

    The grind is the biggest problem in work life balance and also why people are quitting in record numbers. People are treated as numbers, not as individuals.

    • @B0kkos
      @B0kkos 3 года назад +1

      Pretty sure people are quitting en masse as a social movement in repudiation of economic and personal mistreatment by employers amplified by the pandemic, but whatever keeps the pro-corpo myth alive goes 🤷‍♂️

  • @PkmnMasterHolly
    @PkmnMasterHolly 3 года назад +27

    I constantly need to be reminded of this! The grindset-mindset always seems to come creeping back in for those with really high drive and passion. Thank you for this reminder!

  • @hamzeahmed3502
    @hamzeahmed3502 3 года назад

    Thank you so much for your time ⏲️

  • @TheGixernutter
    @TheGixernutter 3 года назад +12

    Great video. Nice to have someone acknowledge this. It's all about balance. Grind and chill. It is most definitely a valuable discipline learn how to prioritise both in perfect harmony. Sadly, society does not promote balance, and as a result we all loose something of ourselves in this chaos.

  • @kellandsmith9946
    @kellandsmith9946 3 года назад +3

    I love this. Yall remember the sabbath? This is what that needs to look like. A community that actually notices our humanity and recognizes when we need the chill. Eso tolson, you my friend, deserve great credit for your greatness

  • @noraayouch1450
    @noraayouch1450 3 года назад +3

    Such a great topic!!!.
    Doing unpleasant and tiring work every single day, plus feeling guilty about chilling,that's the most terrible thing that a human being can experience through their life,but without experiencing that grind we will never understand the importance of relaxing and having time of ourselves and we will never know that grind is such a poison that kills our live bit by bit,this why people should do what they make them feeling happy,optimistic and more productive without getting bored.

  • @Steve-ye9dg
    @Steve-ye9dg 3 года назад +8

    on medical leave because I didn't do this. I'm learning. Great timing, thanks for the video

  • @t.wilson7962
    @t.wilson7962 2 года назад

    Necessary talk!! Soooo many believe in grind culture not knowing truly how detrimental it is, unfortunately. Burnout is a horrible side effect of grinding however, stroke, Bell’s palsy, heart attack, & other deadly health complications can be a result of grind culture.

  • @Fer-De-Lance
    @Fer-De-Lance 3 года назад +6

    There is a point when you have had enough and need to rest.

  • @alyssayoung3163
    @alyssayoung3163 3 года назад +16

    The older generations that seem to think working yourself into a grave with no true time for yourself or your happiness really make me sad. I plan on LIVING and enjoying my short time on this earth, not just slaving away for a corporation that doesn’t care about me. That doesn’t make me or anyone else like me lazy (Right now I’m a full time college student with 4 jobs, I KNOW I’m not lazy), we just want to live a life that’s worth living, not live a life serving someone else and building someone else’s wealth.

    • @paulmerwin2887
      @paulmerwin2887 3 года назад +1

      Salute for working 4 jobs

    • @garfunky2
      @garfunky2 2 года назад

      Remember the older generation's hard work is what ENABLES you to take it easy in the first place. I'm not from that gen but I recognise it was a different time and grinding was the only way to provide something meaningful your children. If you have the luxury and the privelege to not do that now then good on you, but that doesn't make you better than the older generation

  • @spinach4u
    @spinach4u 3 года назад

    this is why we don't listen to others, the information is constantly changing. Grind! Burn! Work Hard Play Hard, oh wait, we were wrong, now chill.... Do what is right for YOU!

  • @voidstorm2957
    @voidstorm2957 3 года назад +24

    Life is too short to be doing things you don't want to do. Everything has to have balance and if you tip the scale too far to one side eventually you'll fall off.

    • @theharshtruthoutthere
      @theharshtruthoutthere 3 года назад

      Were you willing to research stuff deeply for whole 2 years? Were you willing to do research of any kind?

  • @Yani-TV
    @Yani-TV 3 года назад +4

    Awesome job! I really enjoyed this. Simply put don't work your life away.
    I have noticed a shift with the increase of mental health awareness.
    I look forward to seeing how we can incorporate resting and enjoying the fruits of our labor into the new narrative.

  • @TwistedLyfofTV
    @TwistedLyfofTV 3 года назад +2

    Baby! The car is Def my chill spot almost everyday before I walk in the house.

  • @nancyott7486
    @nancyott7486 3 года назад +1

    Great topic! I liked your suggestions also! You're a wise young man, as our creator also told us to rest. Praise God. Thank you

  • @poupee9564
    @poupee9564 3 года назад +7

    Duties as office or housework are the most loyal:they will wait for you until the end of times.

  • @AS-tb2mo
    @AS-tb2mo 3 года назад +4

    Yes. My 63 year old dad is now retired and considered himself lazy when he say around all day. He is on a crutch now, no job to go to, takes care of his family but still feels lazy when he isn't up moving ALL day long. It's awful when I tell him that he can rest after working since he was 13 years old. 50 years isn't enough i guess.

  • @lionra4523
    @lionra4523 3 года назад +1

    Thank you!

  • @mostafahelal2762
    @mostafahelal2762 3 года назад +2

    The working environment needs to listen to this lecture 😫

  • @IxAMxSMILEY
    @IxAMxSMILEY 3 года назад +10

    Really well said 👏 Relaxing is underated.

  • @sucessology7570
    @sucessology7570 3 года назад +1

    Consistency will always be the key, ofc you can succeed working a little every day, long term will always be the key, don't take burn out as a cool thing

  • @TianZhaoHeavenlyFortune
    @TianZhaoHeavenlyFortune 3 года назад +9

    I agree though I actually think there are more people who prioritize the "chill" over the "grind".

    • @Orkahnes
      @Orkahnes 3 года назад +4

      It might look like it yes, though I think a lot of people cant chill guiltfree because societies pressure is hammering down. Procrastination is a big thing.

    • @theminisimmer
      @theminisimmer 3 года назад +4

      @Yummy Spaghetti Noodles yeah sure whatever but having a balance is where you should be at. Because working your fingers to the bone and causing mental illnesses and physical strain might just end your whole life.

    • @Kevin-jc1fx
      @Kevin-jc1fx 3 года назад

      @Yummy Spaghetti Noodles Yeah, but with too much work, the only place you will get to is the grave. Balance is key.

  • @AneliyaDimitrova123
    @AneliyaDimitrova123 3 года назад +6

    Perfect topic and speaker for 1 January! I wish there was as much on the chill as on the grind. For instance, if we are not taught how to do it, how did the speaker make it (he does look like he made it, doesn't he)? And what about some studies and stats on chilling to get us on our way of successfully integrate chill into the grind?

    • @nicholascurran1734
      @nicholascurran1734 3 года назад

      Run your computer at max cpu/ram, and monitor performance. It experiences burnout, too. Reboot does wonders. Humans need reboots too. This is the chill.

  • @BananaDope
    @BananaDope 3 года назад +1

    I sometimes have the bad habit of too much chill and I throw away everything

  • @Okaylilmesh
    @Okaylilmesh 3 года назад

    Yes ty!

  • @ScribaeEducantum
    @ScribaeEducantum 3 года назад +1

    Hello 👋
    Happy New Year!
    God Bless You All 👋👌

  • @mmatrainee
    @mmatrainee 3 года назад +2

    This is what I've been telling people...

  • @superdhebz
    @superdhebz 3 года назад

    Thank you so much for this reminder! :)

  • @dontwannabefound
    @dontwannabefound 3 года назад +2

    For those who want to get back to the grind 7:00

  • @offtherecordsafeandsacreds8103
    @offtherecordsafeandsacreds8103 3 года назад

    Brilliant and necessary insight!!!!

  • @motivationbaychannel6891
    @motivationbaychannel6891 3 года назад +2

    No matter how many times you fall down, never give up. Remember how many times a child falls before he learn how to walk.
    Much Love😍

  • @sizesmall1756
    @sizesmall1756 3 года назад

    Great voice.

  • @rashim
    @rashim 3 года назад

    Another great way to chill is Pomodoro Timer. It reminds to take a break after a period of time, which has helped me immensely.

    • @kendallstark4302
      @kendallstark4302 3 года назад

      Is that an app, and if so, does the icon look like a tomato? "Pomodoro" is Italian for "tomato".

    • @Kevin-jc1fx
      @Kevin-jc1fx 3 года назад

      @@kendallstark4302 There are apps for it but it is first of all a method of time management. The icons usually look like a tomato because the original pomodoro timer's where actually physical devices and as the name suggests, they were shaped like tomatoes.

  • @gasaxe6056
    @gasaxe6056 3 года назад +2

    Farmers know the grind and know they need rest in order to do it the next day.

  • @alexialeavymusic
    @alexialeavymusic 3 года назад +20

    These previous years have shown how badly this conversation is needed.

    • @theharshtruthoutthere
      @theharshtruthoutthere 3 года назад +1

      THE TRUTH IS ALWAYS IN PLAIN SIGHT. NEVER TRULY HIDDEN - ONLY COVERED WITH LIES.

  • @OmehabibaKhan
    @OmehabibaKhan 3 года назад +2

    Love this

  • @graciela9494
    @graciela9494 3 года назад +1

    Hola feliz año para todoss y todassun placer conocerloss

  • @MYCALLWILLIAM
    @MYCALLWILLIAM 3 года назад +1

    Spot on 🤘

  • @re-lmayer2546
    @re-lmayer2546 3 года назад +1

    Enough videos, I need to chill

  • @Preet24417
    @Preet24417 3 года назад

    Very very useful...thank u

  • @alicesmith1016
    @alicesmith1016 3 года назад +22

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      @alanfoss8990 3 года назад

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  • @BenBrrown
    @BenBrrown 3 года назад +2

    👀 I love this topic

  • @jk-ut2bs
    @jk-ut2bs 3 года назад +1

    respect respect

  • @ahmedassadi9227
    @ahmedassadi9227 3 года назад +2

    If I stop burning out imma fail pharmacy 😵, cuz all I do is procrastinateeee then I start the grind cramming things up n burning out when there’s no more time left

    • @Kevin-jc1fx
      @Kevin-jc1fx 3 года назад

      You should just fix your issue which is procrastinating. You clearly don't want to do that, but why? Address the root cause and the procrastination will go away along with the need to burnout at the last minute all the time. Is it because you wanted another major, did your parents force you to do it? When you graduate, will you enjoy working in that field or will you spend your whole life waiting for weekends and finally retirement?
      Opt out of a life you will hate, you only have one.

  • @guitarfumar
    @guitarfumar 3 года назад

    Not really just a comment on this talk but it seems most TED talks are 3/4 talking about an issue, 1/8 quickly “fixing” it, and by that time 1/8 just me wondering why the solution doesn’t seem to have much depth.

  • @makovski777
    @makovski777 3 года назад

    Life, however, is a constant movement, not once associated with great fatigue, the regeneration of the body is very important, at such a moment;-)

  • @american236
    @american236 3 года назад +1

    I AGREE. I dedicate this video to the Gary Vaynerchuk‘s of the world and the Elon musk‘s.

  • @kenzito101
    @kenzito101 3 года назад

    It feels like cellphones are the biggest reason we struggle to chill. How often do we just go outside without them and sit on some grass just being present. Instead, even now as I type this, we are doing something on the phone instead of chilling.

    • @Kevin-jc1fx
      @Kevin-jc1fx 3 года назад

      It all depends on how we use it, the phone can actually help us chill. Watching videos we enjoy, listening to good music etc are also ways to relax and chill I think.

  • @dumdum713
    @dumdum713 3 года назад

    In the end... U think about the beginning...

  • @BigNovemberScorpio
    @BigNovemberScorpio 3 года назад +3

    👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽💯

  • @nickp9994
    @nickp9994 3 года назад +4

    Tons of people don’t even know how to chill while on vacation😂

  • @weaponofmassconstruction1940
    @weaponofmassconstruction1940 3 года назад +2

    I like grinding though! Oh you mean something else.

  • @levimin9496
    @levimin9496 3 года назад

    Damnn im 18.. and i saw this.. that to accidentally?? No.. i wated to chill lmao.. you helped me man !!!!

  • @briangateley4909
    @briangateley4909 3 года назад +1

    It's a 🐀 Race
    Running fer that 🧀
    Time fer a Chill.

  • @정솜결
    @정솜결 3 года назад

    영상감사합니다ㆍ솜결

  • @yasanhamad9321
    @yasanhamad9321 3 года назад +1

    Nice❤️🦄

  • @arcangelvillalon8237
    @arcangelvillalon8237 3 года назад

    Lo maximo🇱🇹🇨🇱

  • @customers59
    @customers59 3 года назад +1

    pay attention

  • @GaasubaMeskhenet
    @GaasubaMeskhenet 3 года назад

    rent is extortion
    eviction is a public health hazard
    let people rest

  • @amirafashion2757
    @amirafashion2757 3 года назад +1

    🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @AguiSi
    @AguiSi 3 года назад

    DUBIDUBI DUUU BA! DUBIDUBI DUUU BA! PEEEEERRYYY!!!

  • @DeepaAryan
    @DeepaAryan 3 года назад

    Nice video👍

  • @China-129
    @China-129 3 года назад

    TEDx | Thanks for Your role and women do hold high positions!
    TEDx | Welcome to- a new history 2022-
    TEDx | Welcome to- a new life in a better than before 🌎!
    TEDx | Welcome to: your story 2022- every day!
    TEDx | I Thank you!
    TEDx | we need you.
    O please! TEDx | help meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!.
    Thank you.
    🌏
    # # #
    .

  • @gergc4871
    @gergc4871 3 года назад

    I knew it. Sam Elliott singlehandedly destroyed the world.

  • @MammaApa
    @MammaApa 3 года назад

    Shoutout to everyone doing the bare minimum at their job. Strive to do less.

    • @theminisimmer
      @theminisimmer 3 года назад +1

      Shout out to the drones of capitalism. Strive to lick boots.

    • @MammaApa
      @MammaApa 3 года назад +1

      @@theminisimmer If you thought I was being sarcastic you are wrong.

  • @sangrepuro
    @sangrepuro 3 года назад

    ❤️👍🏻

  • @dm20422
    @dm20422 3 года назад

    🇺🇸

  • @IngenieríaCivilT
    @IngenieríaCivilT 3 года назад

    Memphis Depay

  • @cebolla7260
    @cebolla7260 3 года назад

    Good things come to those who wait but what it is is the leftovers of those who hustle. Make rest a necessity not an objective.

  • @aaaaii6511
    @aaaaii6511 3 года назад +2

    Okay i see your point, but i think chillin has to be a routine thing. Military means no chill when it comes to corporate war. The grind is what kills apart of you... So you can kill the enemy.

  • @j03T3XAz
    @j03T3XAz 3 года назад +1

    hustle hard(ly)

  • @garfunky2
    @garfunky2 2 года назад +2

    OK Ted Talks have really gone downhill... At surface level this is a cool subject, but the talk itself doesn't add anything valuable to the conversation other than "hey this is a topic that resonates with the young generation". The argument against the grind is weak. The advice on HOW to chill is even more laughable, feels like something you get from a 15 second tiktok video. This is Ted talks for goodness sake! Get the evolutionary biologist to talk about how the grind results in stress levels not seen before in history, and how this impacts fertility, mental health, and human evolution. Talk about how to resolve it through a united effort from all parties. Because end of the day it's not just down to the individual. People have family to support overseas, or the need to bring their clan out of poverty... Good on this guy for trying but having an arts person to talk about such a deep neurological subject is tough

  • @BNNNB
    @BNNNB 3 года назад +1

    Never seen someone overthink how to chill….

  • @splabbity
    @splabbity 11 месяцев назад

    This

  • @ak.5620
    @ak.5620 3 года назад

    Hi

  • @garybentlage481
    @garybentlage481 3 года назад +3

    It does not help when the manosphere is always saying stay on ur grind, they rarely ever mention what u just mentioned and that is CHILL!!?

    • @blueking5739
      @blueking5739 3 года назад +2

      You are taking what they say to the extreme, you can do whatever you want.

  • @elenadimitrovska
    @elenadimitrovska 3 года назад

    First

  • @XeLYoutube
    @XeLYoutube 3 года назад

    modern way to explain monks and meditation, how to meditate? dont meditate.

  • @dhanadhana
    @dhanadhana 3 года назад

    Ayy, it's not wise to post this on new year where everyone wants to be grind more 😅

  • @austinricky
    @austinricky 3 года назад

    You do know the base level of “grind” and “chill” is not even close to how you think it is buddy? You and people that would go to a Ted talk have a different mindset than your typical person living in North America. Do your research properly before making exuberant claims about the actually extremely lazy workforce today.

    • @highcaliber350
      @highcaliber350 3 года назад

      You're... Kind of proving his point about the grind culture by saying so...

    • @austinricky
      @austinricky 3 года назад

      @@highcaliber350 yet you can’t truly subject me to being the opposite? Why? Because we all know that chill is more important than grind and grind will lead you to complete sorrow.

    • @austinricky
      @austinricky 3 года назад

      @@highcaliber350 do you know why? Because with winning comes humbleness with humbleness comes an integral need to help others/ change the world. Obviously that leads back to grind but still it’s a self defeating prophecy.. we or most of us know the most important answers to the world we just don’t grind towards it properly (or even close to). So that’s the imperative to my standpoint of this video.

  • @austinricky
    @austinricky 3 года назад

    Whoever in today’s society is actually “grinding” to work their way up the pyramid of different institutions doesn’t know the pillars of those institutions and will automatically work their way to burnout. So if you’re advocating chill you have to totally change what you’re saying about the average persons level of grind. I don’t think your close to correct.

  • @garythomas4936
    @garythomas4936 3 года назад

    Oh my... "We AXE kids..."
    That could be illegal and dangerous.

  • @helenagreenpine1496
    @helenagreenpine1496 3 года назад +1

    dude hates the protestant work ethic that created this country

  • @Dstew57A
    @Dstew57A 3 года назад +1

    Yeah..chill your self right into poverty

    • @blueking5739
      @blueking5739 3 года назад +1

      I know right specially if you are a person that’s already struggling

    • @Dani-mw5gk
      @Dani-mw5gk 3 года назад +1

      He’s not saying to quit lol he’s saying to rest. The important thing is to bounce back.

  • @electrocola9765
    @electrocola9765 3 года назад

    He can't handle grindset

  • @240hzGaming
    @240hzGaming 3 года назад

    pffft there is no less grind on OSRS If ur not grinding ur XP WASTING

  • @Devin-_-
    @Devin-_- 3 года назад

    Lol, TedX really does let anyone say anything they want.

  • @StanzinYutung
    @StanzinYutung 3 года назад +3

    Blah blah blah

  • @livefree1030
    @livefree1030 3 года назад

    All people of western world should quit their jobs and focus on life on social media and the metaverse.

  • @China-129
    @China-129 3 года назад

    TEDx | Thanks for Your role and women do hold high positions!
    TEDx | Welcome to- a new history 2022-
    TEDx | Welcome to- a new life in a better than before 🌎!
    TEDx | Welcome to: your story 2022- every day!
    TEDx | I Thank you!
    TEDx | we need you.
    O please! TEDx | help meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!.
    Thank you.
    🌏
    # # #
    .

  • @China-129
    @China-129 3 года назад

    TEDx | Thanks for Your role and women do hold high positions!
    TEDx | Welcome to- a new history 2022-
    TEDx | Welcome to- a new life in a better than before 🌎!
    TEDx | Welcome to: your story 2022- every day!
    TEDx | I Thank you!
    TEDx | we need you.
    O please! TEDx | help meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!.
    Thank you.
    🌏
    # # #
    .

    • @Kevin-jc1fx
      @Kevin-jc1fx 3 года назад

      What exactly do you need help with?