Please don't feel guilty about telling people they can't come exactly when *they* want. It's really quite selfish of them to pout about this. They know the situation - ie that you're away - and should understand why you have said this. Honestly, having had some relatives in the past try something similar with me, I'm feeling quite cross on your behalf. In my case, OH spoke to them and made it clear how upset *he* was that they hadn't considered how I might feel. They made everything about their supposedly hurt feelings and were dismissing how hard I was working to find a way through our particular situation. I was trying to make everyone happy, and you are too, but other people need to do their part too. It's not like you've even had a particularly relaxing holiday! Please take that day, even if you don't "need" it.
Gayna I think you are a brilliant caring Wife/ Mum / Daughter / Daughter in law / HUMAN you always put others before yourself Making sure of everyone’s comfort & food I don’t know how you do it BE KINDER TO YOURSELF ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I am still astonished that your family travels to France so close to Christmas. You are an awfully good sport to handle it so well. As Christmas approaches, I feel ready and looking forward to hosting 14 people for Christmas Day dinner. I know I'm crazy, but I really enjoy getting out the good china and setting a gorgeous table once a year.
This may be premature... but paused at 8:10 to say - why not say 'we'd love you to come on Monday, but as I'll just be back you will need to cook for everyone Monday night...If you come on Tuesday I'll have my 'sh@t together and can cook for everyone.... just a thought..🙂
I don't call it selfish, I call it self care, sometimes you just have to say no for your sanity's sake. The dr sounds like he could do with a refresher course in 'customer service' haha I always enjoy your vlogs xx
I had a similar thing at my Doctor’s Surgery where I kept getting put with a doctor that made me feel very uncomfortable. In the end I told them about it and they registered me with a different doctor and put a note on my records to avoid the one I didn’t want. I’m glad you’ve got it sorted, it makes all the difference having a good doctor you feel comfortable with 😊
I fully understand the need to have the day to sort yourself out. I also understand that the rellies would want to spend as much time as they can with you. Vlogs not bored at all. I am delighted you are doing them. Hope Bill soon feels back to his usual self. 🎄
I think you handle the noise of all those people brilliantly! I can understand why Bill gets overwhelmed, bless him. I couldn’t cope as well as you do, I’m sure of that. Safe journey when you eventually travel home . Love WW xx
Glad you managed to speak to someone at your surgery who was nice. We have a doctor who sounds similar to yours. I refuse to have any appointments with her now. Hope you have a safe journey home & get a bit of time before the family descends on you for Christmas xx
We all enjoy watching your 'nothing' 😁. Shame your holiday didn't turn out quite as expected but it still looked as if your lot enjoyed themselves, good to spend time together too. Thank you for taking us along with you x
Seeing that snow is surreal. Yesterday, I stood in the bakery buying mince pies in 34-degree heat. But Boxing Day is expected to reach 38 degrees Celsius 😮
We took a chance on a November holiday in St Ives, the first day we were up early enough to watch the sun rise over the sea. We walked around all day enjoying the calm before the storm. The weather changed the next day and set in for the week so we came home again after the one perfect day. We were quite content with that😊
6 days of a ski holiday right before Christmas and one day home early for you to prep seems like a really good compromise to me. Maybe next year. Do you need to do anything special for Wilf for the drive home?
I'm the same way about background or continuous noise, Gayna. I can only stand so much before it makes me nervous and edgy, which makes me grumpy. I truthfully could live without a television at all, but I think it would literally kill my husband.
Hi Gayna, You have the same story as me - the “good girl” story where you do everything to please everyone except yourself. I have been struggling with this since my Mum died and have now started changing my story so I don’t feel taken advantage of. It’s hard but I’m getting there. On another note, I hate doctors like that. That’s why it took me 17 years to be diagnosed with endometriosis. Doctors (mostly male unfortunately) who just dismissed me and made me feel like I was imagining it all. 🤨
Fondue shit? huh. Is that what Toby said lol Anyway, everyone is a grown up and if they don't agree on when to come over and respect your space, they can come after New Year lol. I have no room in my life for when "others" want to come over since it's my life, my space, my boundaries and that all she wrote. Be kind to yourself and don't stress. Seriously! causes lots of inflammation and you will just get sick. Don't walk back how you feel either. It's okay to say things out loud and be okay with how you feel.
So if the visitors come a day earlier does that mean they leave a day earlier. If not, that means another day of catering for you. Glad they are able to shuffle it so you don’t get that doctor again.
No it’s a similar condition though. Suxamethonium sensitivity, fortunately it’s not a generally used anaesthetic these days but they’re use it in emergencies road side so it’s important to know who the carriers are. X
Why should you feel guilty, it is perfectly understandable for you to have a day to get organised, when having guests for five days., so surely they can see it from your point of view, so if you are not home until Sunday stick to your guns and make their arrival on the 24th. Merry Christmas to you all, and good health in 2025
Yay for sitting up in bed momentarily 🎉❤
Please don't feel guilty about telling people they can't come exactly when *they* want. It's really quite selfish of them to pout about this. They know the situation - ie that you're away - and should understand why you have said this. Honestly, having had some relatives in the past try something similar with me, I'm feeling quite cross on your behalf. In my case, OH spoke to them and made it clear how upset *he* was that they hadn't considered how I might feel. They made everything about their supposedly hurt feelings and were dismissing how hard I was working to find a way through our particular situation. I was trying to make everyone happy, and you are too, but other people need to do their part too. It's not like you've even had a particularly relaxing holiday! Please take that day, even if you don't "need" it.
Gayna I think you are a brilliant caring Wife/ Mum / Daughter / Daughter in law / HUMAN you always put others before yourself
Making sure of everyone’s comfort & food I don’t know how you do it
BE KINDER TO YOURSELF ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I am still astonished that your family travels to France so close to Christmas. You are an awfully good sport to handle it so well. As Christmas approaches, I feel ready and looking forward to hosting 14 people for Christmas Day dinner. I know I'm crazy, but I really enjoy getting out the good china and setting a gorgeous table once a year.
This may be premature... but paused at 8:10 to say - why not say 'we'd love you to come on Monday, but as I'll just be back you will need to cook for everyone Monday night...If you come on Tuesday I'll have my 'sh@t together and can cook for everyone.... just a thought..🙂
I don't call it selfish, I call it self care, sometimes you just have to say no for your sanity's sake. The dr sounds like he could do with a refresher course in 'customer service' haha I always enjoy your vlogs xx
😢 Take care of Gayna! People get over it!!!! Wishing you the best holiday always ❤
I had a similar thing at my Doctor’s Surgery where I kept getting put with a doctor that made me feel very uncomfortable. In the end I told them about it and they registered me with a different doctor and put a note on my records to avoid the one I didn’t want. I’m glad you’ve got it sorted, it makes all the difference having a good doctor you feel comfortable with 😊
I fully understand the need to have the day to sort yourself out. I also understand that the rellies would want to spend as much time as they can with you. Vlogs not bored at all. I am delighted you are doing them. Hope Bill soon feels back to his usual self. 🎄
I think you handle the noise of all those people brilliantly! I can understand why Bill gets overwhelmed, bless him. I couldn’t cope as well as you do, I’m sure of that. Safe journey when you eventually travel home . Love WW xx
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Hope Bill is more settled now, take care of yourself Gayna, be kind to yourself, treat yourself as you treat others🤗 xxx
Glad you managed to speak to someone at your surgery who was nice. We have a doctor who sounds similar to yours. I refuse to have any appointments with her now.
Hope you have a safe journey home & get a bit of time before the family descends on you for Christmas xx
We all enjoy watching your 'nothing' 😁. Shame your holiday didn't turn out quite as expected but it still looked as if your lot enjoyed themselves, good to spend time together too. Thank you for taking us along with you x
Seeing that snow is surreal. Yesterday, I stood in the bakery buying mince pies in 34-degree heat. But Boxing Day is expected to reach 38 degrees Celsius 😮
You always put your family first, so hopefully you’ve been able to recharge your batteries for Christmas celebrations 😊
We took a chance on a November holiday in St Ives, the first day we were up early enough to watch the sun rise over the sea. We walked around all day enjoying the calm before the storm. The weather changed the next day and set in for the week so we came home again after the one perfect day. We were quite content with that😊
Let them come early and let them help with the washing and ironing! xxx
6 days of a ski holiday right before Christmas and one day home early for you to prep seems like a really good compromise to me. Maybe next year. Do you need to do anything special for Wilf for the drive home?
I'm the same way about background or continuous noise, Gayna. I can only stand so much before it makes me nervous and edgy, which makes me grumpy. I truthfully could live without a television at all, but I think it would literally kill my husband.
Hi Gayna, You have the same story as me - the “good girl” story where you do everything to please everyone except yourself. I have been struggling with this since my Mum died and have now started changing my story so I don’t feel taken advantage of. It’s hard but I’m getting there. On another note, I hate doctors like that. That’s why it took me 17 years to be diagnosed with endometriosis. Doctors (mostly male unfortunately) who just dismissed me and made me feel like I was imagining it all. 🤨
I am not bored with your vlogs - I love them!
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It's lovely sharing nothing with you xx
Safe travels
Fondue shit? huh. Is that what Toby said lol
Anyway, everyone is a grown up and if they don't agree on when to come over and respect your space, they can come after New Year lol. I have no room in my life for when "others" want to come over since it's my life, my space, my boundaries and that all she wrote. Be kind to yourself and don't stress. Seriously! causes lots of inflammation and you will just get sick. Don't walk back how you feel either. It's okay to say things out loud and be okay with how you feel.
Nobody needs a Md. House. It ‘s only ok to watch on tv. 😚
So if the visitors come a day earlier does that mean they leave a day earlier. If not, that means another day of catering for you. Glad they are able to shuffle it so you don’t get that doctor again.
Actually dear cuckoo I think the visitors should be less selfish and cut you some slack but am 70 what do I know😂
Does Toby's family carry Malignant Hyperthermia? I have it, too, as do several members of my family 😊
No it’s a similar condition though. Suxamethonium sensitivity, fortunately it’s not a generally used anaesthetic these days but they’re use it in emergencies road side so it’s important to know who the carriers are. X
Why should you feel guilty, it is perfectly understandable for you to have a day to get organised, when having guests for five days., so surely they can see it from your point of view, so if you are not home until Sunday stick to your guns and make their arrival on the 24th. Merry Christmas to you all, and good health in 2025
I admire you.❤