I went thru a DIVORCE myself and was so depressed, BUT eventually I got over it.. Anyone can.. It just takes time to heal the emotional, mental and physical wounds.. Hang in there and things will change..
I've been separated since around mid 2014 and she hit me with divorce papers in June 2018. I never talk about it to anyone but I'm still having a tough time, even to the point of isolating myself from whomever possible, becoming unemployed and losing literally everything, sleeping as much as possible so I can escape reality for a short time, and just letting myself go completely in every way you can imagine. I've always been a go-getter, I've always worked hard, I've always refused to let adversities defeat me in any way. I can run directly into a firefight...towards rounds that are buzzing past my head and never give up short of death, but now I've allowed separation and divorce to cause me to hunker down and crumble in defeat.
@@richardwilliams2560 you can't keep letting the divorce take hold of you like this it's to many beautiful women out there that I'm sure would love to love on you, Praying that you pull yourself up dust yourself off and move on💙💙
I don't really know why I clicked on this video. I got divorced in 1988 (separated in 1987) because my (ex) wife decided that having a family wasn't important to her. She started drinking and doing drugs and "having relations" with several guys while in college even though she was married with 4 children. I did all I could to keep things together including dropping out of college. Anyway, long story short, I met a wonderful woman that was willing to take me with all the baggage (I was fighting for custody of the kids). We married in 1990 and had another child together and now have 7 grandchildren. Most folks would say a man couldn't have a clue where you're coming from but I assure you I do. Be strong and continue to do what is right by your children. Hopefully their father will get it together and be able to be part of their lives. My parents divorced when I was 5 and my father wasn't in my life so I can relate to what the kids are going through too. God Bless you and your family, Scott
Popped on mine too, so strange. Hope she is okay now. Well, guess my click adds to the view count, but only watched a couple of minutes. Good luck young lady and your family.
I been dealing with this same addiction for the last 20 years with my ex-wife. She told me she's been using our whole relationship and that got me thinking how much did I really know about her and I realized I loved her potential more than I loved her.
@@sleeplessgamingct4227 They say love is blind. I think we should be more understanding and not be so critical. It's hard to let go of someone sometimes.
Girl, you are more wise than you give yourself credit for. Lots of us have been in dead marriages for 30 yrs or more. Kudos for you making the decision to get out with your boys when you did. No telling what could’ve happened and I hate to think of what could have. God Bless
I'm so sorry you had to go through this, I used to use meth and it is a horrible substance, but I was blessed with my husband who helped me get through it. Once I realized after using it for so long that I was sleeping on it, not losing weight and not getting the "high" that I once did and also realizing that it was stealing my happiness from tomorrow I decided that it wasn't worth it. The come downs were not worth it and once I sobered up and made another realization that I would lose my husband so I made the choice to stop cold turkey. It was the best decision of my life, I mean I did have to switch down to another drug, but I eventually stopped altogether. I don't even have the craving to do it anymore because I'm like, "you know I don't really feel like being depressed tomorrow". I went from using meth, switched to coke and now I just drink occasionally, however just like I'm a happy drunk I was also a happy person when I was high and not aggressive or scandalous, and most people were surprised at my honesty when they asked me if I was high. I was more or less a hazard to myself. I think once he truly sobers up he will realize how much he misses his kids. All addicts do, I know that because I used to talk to the worst of them who had kids. Just keep on keepin' on, enjoy your life, enjoy your kids and once time goes by he will come back (to the kids)
My dad was an addict throughout my entire childhood, I lived with him at one point when I was about 12 and I'm still trying to heal from the abuse and trauma he put me through. I'm glad you're protecting your kids
Divorce is often these days, im 16 year old guy, and my view on marriage is a no. Kids are supposed to learn from their grown ups, but what are the kids gonna learn when they see their grown up fail plenty of times over and over again with marriage. Im not saying that everybody fail, but now days less people stick together till the end. Many people tend to get lazy when they are married, thinking '' i got the girl already, dont need to anything '' , they stop putting effort in the relationship etc and that leads to divorce. Ofcourse there are plenty of reasons for divorce, but if both just put as much effort it wouldn't be these many divorces. I rather have a partner for years before marrying her. If me/she gets lazy in the relationship, me/she could be gone when me/she comes home.
Thelrbe :Marriage isn't a fairy tale. All marriages have problems. Its when you both choose to stick together through better or WORSE. Marriage is the best adventure you could ever take. You"re 16, things will change. You will learn that grown ups are human too... the people you look up to, will one day seem so flawed... But thats all of us. Love and forgiveness will get you through. This video breaks my heart, I am praying for you and anyone that goes through problems in their marriage. I watched my parents go through something I thought I would never see them go through. My world was SHATTERED. My mother told me the only way that they would stay together is if there was a miracle from God. And thats exactly what God gave her. No one saw it coming, but Jesus saves and restores. Satan comes to kill steal and DESTROY. Don't let him. Find your strength in the Lord. Blessings
TheIrbe im 17 and i totally agree of course it aint perfect but people dont want to stick through the tough times and many people get lazy is soooooooooooo scary
I grew up with both my parents using drugs , my dad ended up committing suicide when I was 14 , and moved out because my mom continued to use and I got pregnant and didn't want my baby around it , I'm now 17 and my mom passed away last year because of drug overdose , it's takin such a toll on my life , a big amount of my other family members use drugs and I choose to not be around them because I don't want my daughter to grow up seeing what I grew up seeing , but I'll be 18 in 2 months , I already have my own house and car , and doing a lot better than before , I have two younger sister and two younger brother who now stay with my grandparents and there doing a lot better now , of course we all have our emotional issues , but life goes on , I wish you and your kids the best !
Wow, you're 18 and has a kid while living on your own with horrible memories. You ought to take a week off and go to the beach while your child lives with your grandparents and just chill. And maybe try to smile :P
My dad cheated on my mum with my teacher and they had 3 kids then he cheated on my teach with a model and had 4 kids but then he came back to my mum but she was over him and she was dating this really rich guy called max and she's not a gold digger my mums really rich so she's not a gold digger so anyway my dad got rejected from my mum so he then went back to his model gf and they got married and had 3 more kids so I have a lot of sisters and brothers and 3 mums and 2 dads and I had a gf I made her pregnant now we have a child named Jess and she's so cute but there's no way I'm marring her until I'm 26 cause right now I'm 17 and my gf is only 14
A poem of the heart.... More than life itself, I love you. Beyond your wildest dreams, I love you. When you feel nothing, I love you. When you are depressed and suicidal, I love you. When you cannot face another day, I love you. When you are all alone, I love you. When no one else loves you, I love you. When no one seems to care, I love you. When the tears will not stop flowing, I love you. When there is no hope left, I love you. When you need a friend, I love you. When you need a best friend, I am here. I will never leave you child. I will never forsake you. I will forgive every wrong that you have done. I will overlook all of your mistakes. I will help turn your sorrow into joy. I will forever embrace you and hold you. If you will simply receive Me. ...That's all I ask. -The Lord Jesus Christ
Not sure what attracted me to your story. I’m probably old enough to be your Grandfather @ 72. I’m now a 31 year Recovering Alchoholic. I got sober but my wife & Family didn’t. So 2 years sober I filled for divorce. I looked around & said I don’t fit here any more. I believe in a Higher Power & was an active AA guy. I’d asked Higher Power for a woman who understood t Program. 9 months living alone Friends told of an out of town lady coming for Labor Day weekend, would I come over for dinner. Well, I did & we were a perfect match. She had been in Al-anon longer than I’d been sober. We commuter dated for 2 years as at 40, she got her Computer Programmer Degree, then got a job in my town & moved in😊! We’ve been together 27 years now & couldn’t be happier! Sober on my worst day is better than being a slave to a Drug! You have made t right decision. You can’t make someone Sober, they have to want it. You might consider Al-anon. It’s for You, not your Addicted X. May God Bless you & your Family. Keep doing the right things one day at a time & Your Higher Power will give you what you need in your life!
Two years of mental, emotional and psychological abuse is more than enough of your life and your kids' lives. You can not help an addict until they want to help themselves. YOU did nothing wrong! It was his choice and the monster grabbed hold. Best to move on in a positive direction for you and your children. May God richly bless you as you move forward.
Divorce is wrong! Tell the truth if you’re a Christian. Only love to you all! But if you love someone then you tell the truth. I have been through rape and physical abuse but then I became a serious Christian. I sought God and He helped us both. God hates divorce. I’m sorry and please forgive me if this comment offends anyone. Tell the truth. Don’t be seduced by this world. Don’t get divorce. Did you try praying?
@@thereisabattleforyoursoulj3787 Fucking looney tune! Let me guess u live in the middle of the country. Love "christians" who fucking think they should judge other when that is Gods fucking job. Dip shit.
Went through this with my ex wife... married 19 years... half that time she walked a slippery slope with meth and heroin... I invested so much of myself into her... into her dreams... and she let it all go to hell for drugs... I never felt such betrayal... last four years were the worst... when we were younger I put her through nursing school and she made really good money... I worked full time and took care of the kids almost entirely so she could sleep and take care of herself since we relied so heavily on her income... eventually she lost interest in me, the kids, our lives... she started cheating extensively... she spent so much time away from us it was like we were separated... she lost her nursing license and shortly after that we became homeless... I was able to buy an old RV which we lived in for about a year until the state took our kids away... that was the final straw... I decided to divorce her... I got the kids back but irreparable damage has been done... I moved across the country and started over with the help of family... I haven’t seen her or talked to her in over a year... she has nothing to do with the kids... my 16yo talked to her a couple months ago and asked her when she was going to straighten out her life and move to be closer to them... she told him she wasn’t going to because she was happy being a junkie and living on the streets... drugs are demons, man... once they get their talons in you, you’re unlikely to survive unchanged... this is the real pandemic of our times... stay strong and live for your kids... they will be your redemption
Oh my God I'm so sorry you've had to go through that. I admire your strength for getting through that. My son's father is an alcoholic and was abusive and I could relate to your story. He has no interest in going to rehab and has bipolar disorder type one and will not take his medication or go to therapy. I ended the relationship a year ago because I just couldn't take it anymore and there was no way I was going to let my son grow up in a dysfunctional household. Hugs.
You are 100 percent right drugs are demons will take over the user body n say n do horrible things. Help your love one specially with prayer to God Jehova. And then with everything else hopefully that person it's willing to fight back to recover everything ask for strength from God and you will receive it with LOVE.
I’m a recovering pill/heroin addiction. But have been clean almost 6 years and happily married with a 2 year old daughter. Thankfully my wife was patient and stuck with me. Addiction is a disease and can’t be cured but it can be treated and you can live free. If I can do it anyway can. If I started using again I would leave to not put my family through it but for today I’m clean. When I get cravings I think is this few moments of feeling good worth loosing my wife and daughter over and it’s not.
I can't get over the horrible, rude, disrespectful, ignorant, comments on this video. Like are you freaking kidding me! This is a woman in PAIN! She's sharing her story to help others. Omg this video has been in your "recommendations" DELETE IT! If you don't want to watch it DON'T! Like where has the compassion in the world gone. This woman is so beyond strong and brave and everyone who comments rude shit I wish nothing but badness on you!!!!!
You are a beautiful soul I feel bad for you and your boys but sweetheart keep your head up you are a beautiful woman and you will find a good man eventually I will keep you in my prayers
I'm really appalled by the people defending this man. My own father was/is an addict. He was (and still is?) addicted to crack. You may call it a 'mental illness', but it is a choice. He chose to take these substances knowing that it would ruin his life and the lives of those around him. I cannot believe that people would classify it on the same level as things like depression, schizophrenia, psychosis: things that people cannot control. Anyway, as soon as crack came into the picture, my dad began stealing from my mom, he wouldn't come home, he put me in VERY dangerous situations, smoked crack with me in the house, brought me to his dealers place (my mom at this point was oblivious to his addiction, as addicts are incredibly manipulative). He beat my mother, and when she realized it was all because of the drugs she left him. But that didn't stop him from breaking in a week later and beating her again. When he went to rehab, the counsellors told him (like they do all addicts) that nothing is their fault, and that they should forgive themselves, and that everyone around them should forgive them, too. When my mother went to counselling, she was also told that she should 'forgive him so they could move on'. Rehab, and the countless times he went, never worked. You should NEVER 'give addicts a break because they're sick', because it only enables them to make bad choices. I myself was addicted to cocaine for a period of time and although I am 100% okay now and I never "ruined" my relationships, I can say that I put my poor mother through hell a second time and it is one of my biggest regrets in life. It was her 'no bullshit' attitude that kept me from ruining my life. Addicts are not like normal people. To this day my father lies about how long it's been since he last did drugs. He claims that he doesn't do crack anymore, but he 'does coke at parties', and is also an alcoholic instead. I've seen how an addict can ruin a family when left to run amuck. This woman did the right thing, and cutting him out was the best thing for her and her kids.
Very very true, it was best for the kids and her. But, he does need help, and drugs can never overpower love. I'm sure her boyfriend cares, even as stupid as he was, I can't imagine him not caring if her and the kids died (sounds depressing but yeah) and I think that's what people is trying to say :)
so based off everything you just said... YOU made the choice to start taking cocaine and in your own words that means you took "these substances knowing that it would ruin his (your) life and the lives of those around him (you)"?? And again, in YOUR OWN words you said the best thing she could do is cut the guy out of her life... so you think YOU should have been cut out of your families life?? Or does all that apply only to this guy and your father and not yourself? You cant have it both ways. Either all three of you are evil drug abuser who don't care about your families or none of you are...
tronclay No, it very much applied to me. I'm happy that my mom threatened to kick me out and threatened to revoke my rights in the household. It forced me to straighten myself out. She kept me under the equivalent of house arrest, I was watched 24/7 and was not allowed out of the house. I didn't ruin anyones life, though, that's the difference. My attitude changed, I was much less hospitable, but I was never abusive, manipulative, I never stole, etc. If I had, my mother would have kicked me out right away. It is not her job to clean up my fuck-ups after everything she did for me. I knew what I was doing when I took these drugs. I did it as an escape, and I did it in hopes that I would die. Luckily my family's attitude snapped me back into reality. And if it hadn't, I would be dealing with the consequences. It is not fair to torment innocent people. My father is scum. He put me in dangerous situations, put my mother in financial/emotional distress, damaged me emotionally, and still has the audacity to expect me to forgive him. The problem is that every time he was forgiven, he took that as his incentive to find sneakier ways to do what he was doing. This man needs help, yes, but it is not her job to suffer and allow her kids to suffer for his mistakes.
Tea Cloud As long as you admit you are as much of a scumbag as he is for taking the risk that you would both ruin your families lives, then we are on the same page. You seem to blame your father for all your actions, its obvious by the way you keep bringing him up. Does this womans husband have the same luxury of blaming someone else? Who knows, all we know is what ONE person in a bad relationship claims happened.
tronclay I wasn't blaming my father for anything really, merely pointing out how his stupid choices negatively affected my family, and how this woman's situation could have turned out a similar way if she had of 'just forgiven him and moved on'.
I have no idea why this popped up today...but I watched you. My life was pretty much like yours.i raised my kids alone and got rid of the drug addict I was married to. I’m still here...50 years later. Life has a way of working out. Good luck to you.
Jessica Alba will probably hire her to work at The Honest Company and they'll both burst into tears and hug each other before the interview even starts. With Jessica blubbing, "you're hired!" and then both women crying even more because it's all so adorable when one sister helps another. Then they'll both make videos about sharing stories and new beginnings. Eventually Dr Phil will join them and together they'll talk through those issues and have a group hug and a few more tears will be shed. With Dr Phil looking on proudly at how much progress his girls have made. Then they'll talk about their journey on Ellen and you'll see them doing Carpool Karaoke with Corden. Then the book will come out, "My Journey - Never give up - A woman's struggle to find herself in the modern world" with a forward from Dr Phil.
Lmao! Although, my wife comes home and spends an hour in the bathroom when she comes home and when I walk in a room she puts her phone down as if she wasn't on it. I asked her about it and she said" I think you think,I am addicted to the phone" . I said,you are! However, wtf? Time will tell.
Why do people commit to having kids when they're going to divorce? This day and age people are failing relationships so often I'm not even going to have one let along consider kids. It's much easier
I'm 99.99% sure she didn't enter into her marriage thinking "hey he's probably going to become addicted to drugs and make our home a dangerous place to raise children" and marry him and have children with him anyway.
***** It doesn't seem that that was the case with this woman and her family, but there are people out there who have a child when things aren't going well in the relationship, thinking that a baby will fix it and bring them closer together again. It happens regularly.
Did you not watch the whole video? She said she never could fathom a divorce ever and that's why she tried for so long to stand by his side. Question for you... you marry the love of your life, you are together for 10+ years... lets say not drugs let's say he starts beating you.. physically abusing you, or not that just the verbal.. do you stay with him forever letting your kids see him hitting or constantly yelling at you calling you a bitch a cunt yelling in your face, really do you want to put not just yourself, but more importantly your children through that? Having them constantly stressed worried scared? or would you rather take them out of that situation and let them see their dad or mother who is doing that abuse? You never plan to get divorced, you don't plan to do drugs, you never set out saying im going to get addicted to this or that.
I kept seeing this pop up, and I finally listened. I'm going through something similar with Divorce but know that God's got your back. You might be in a better place right now. May God bless you.
I recommend Alanon or Nar-Anon. You can Google the meeting times. Please go to at least six meetings before making a decision of whether it is for you.
Poor memory often happens to people who suffer PTSD from constant abuse and elevated stress levels/ being in fight or flight mode. Your amygdala which is partly responsible for memory, is compromised when you're under stress for long periods of time like sounds like you have been.
Or it can happen from 10 other causes, you are not helping this way. She never claimed to show any compassion for whatever her husband was going through either.
@@georgiosdrosinos7531 she's not an addiction counselor or mental health care worker. When you're trying to look out for the well-being and mental stability of your children in a situation where you're living with an addict, you have to put your compassion aside. I lived with an addict for over 10 years who was mentally abusive, manipulative and volatile because I was so compassionate for his state... I felt so bad for him, but now my son resents me for having stayed with him for so long. If you've never lived with an addict and you've never been the other parent, the responsible party, you probably wouldn't understand her lack of compassion.
@@sunshinestatesurvival What is more interesting is why you even lived with an addict for over 10 years? You are just projecting then, because in this case we have a marriage withsomeone who was not an addict for 11 years and took the woman 6 months to divorce him without even asking whats wrong.
@@georgiosdrosinos7531 she WAS with an addict. I don't know what video you are watching. But you do sound like a super compassionate understanding person yourself, so I'm sure you'd understand why a compassionate empath would stay with their addict husband for 10 years.
This video was made 5 years ago, it's April 2019, and this is in my recommendation.. Of course RUclips knows I'm so damn nosey - thanks!! No matter how old the video, many woman (fortunetly not myself) can relate. I'm sure you're doing fine, you seem like a strong person. Either way, I hope all is well with you and the kids. Thank you for this video.
I'm not sure how I came across this video...but you are such a gorgeous person inside & out! I just love listening to you speak, so strong but amazingly sweet.
I’m so glad that I came across your video. My husband is doing the same things that your ex did. I’m moving out this coming June. I was staying with him for the kids and realized is affecting the kids more then helping them. He is never around
Sierra Brown u WILL be fine!!!!!!! I cannot emphasize that enough...not that it’s easy, but somehow we mommas get ourselves together & take care of business. Just know that u aren’t going thru it alone...u may want to find some other single moms that can support each other. Best of luck to u. Saying a prayer for u now...
The love for this drug is not something you learn about in class. I lost my first wife to this drug. You're blessed to have survived with your kids and life intact. Keep your head up.
Why is this on all my related videos when what I watch is mostly makeup tutorials and music videos? Like just how much are you paying to promote a video of you telling your life story in such explicit details??? I finally clicked thinking it was gonna be a fake funny vid but no it's some 30 minute long train of thought by a woman I have no idea about.
You idiots obviously have no compassion and no sympathy for others. How sad that we have gutless, ruthless, pricks such as yourselves in this world. If you would have spent two damn minutes to watch the video you would have heard her reason for the video. She does it to inform others of her situation, what she went through, her story. She says she wants to empower women and if they are going through the same type of problem see how she dealt with it. Get your heads out of your asses and be more compassionate! If you didn't want to watch it then you shouldn't have watched it. Don't be a heartless asshole and post on here how she's whining and how pathetic you think it is. You're pathetic for not seeing the beauty and strength in this video.
vermon1112 I have compassion and sympathy, but not for someone who is literally paying money to have a video of them crying for attention pop up in everyone's YT feed. She is fake as fuck.
As a child who had a father with a substance abuse problem, know you did do the right thing. Your children will thank you at some point. I have thanked my mother for getting me away from that. I'm so sorry you are going through this, but you are right! There is a light. Keep making your way towards it. Lots of love and prayers for your family.
I thank your mom for leaving my dad does Crack he has my whole life I'm 16 and I have older sisters the oldest is about to turn 24 and I'm old enough to know now my mom will never leave my "father".
Since you are 16 if there is someone whilling to help support you and allow you to go to school you have the option of emancipation also. Remeber you have the power to make your own choices and to not follow your parents path.
This so very sad. I feel so bad for this young woman and her family. I feel her paid. I know that things will get better for and your family. Focus on your children. They are truly gifts sent to us to cherish. The poor father is also having a difficult journey. You will be in my thoughts. And You WILL get through this.
For once I don't mind saying me too! Became a cocaine dealer after losing his day job, that was the end of my being a stay at home mother, got a great job and 6 months later divorce. My 2 sons were 7 & 9 y/o and have a very troubled relationship with their father who is now dying of cancer.... should have known when he wouldn't change diapers, push a stroller or put a baby in the backpack. He didn't want to pay child support either. I so feel your pain Mama. I hope life is much much better for you. Sending you all big love.
Your story resonated with me. My son's father is an alcoholic and he won't even consider going to rehab. He also has bipolar type 1 and won't take meds and won't go to therapy. Sometimes even though it hurts we know we have to let them go. I felt this. He was also verbally, emotionally and physically abusive throughout our 3-year relationship. Our son is 1 year old now but I left his father when he was two weeks old. I knew I couldn't live that way anymore and I wasn't going to allow my son to grow up like that.
***** You're right. They would be lucky to have their father. Too bad he made poor decisions and is no longer the type of person that deserves to be a part of his children's lives. I hope that he can turn his life around for their sake but I doubt it.
So sorry Jeni. Don't ever beat yourself up for missing signs. I was a meth addict and hid it from all of my loves ones. I have a video up on my channel titled "the truth not suitable for children" where I finally broke my silence about my past drug abuse. You absolutely did the right thing. I hope for his sake, your sake, and your boys sake that he can turn it around and have a good outcome. I have seen what meth can do as I lived it myself, and have seen many marriages fail for that exact reason. I have also lost loved ones to it. Again I am so sorry that you had to go through that all.
Why is this weeping woman being recommended to me every single day i turn on RUclips??Why???I dont care about a divorce and i dont want to know.Please leave me alone
You got all that from 1 single RUclips video? It takes years to really know a Person. I’m sorry but no one could tell anything from a single video. You’d be surprised at how fair people can be on RUclips and Facebook.
This video is almost 5 years old and it randomly showed up in my feed. We all have a story to tell. My marriage was brutal. Thanks for telling your story.
because this woman's is trying to profit off suckers who view her vids, did you look at the video description? Its full of ad/paid promo links. She is trying to make a sucker out you and profit off it.
The power of the paid promotion... but also the weakness of the paid promotion, since many to whom it was recommended didnt seem to want to see it, and in fact left an incredible amount of hate filled comments lol. They gotta work on the paid promotion... or maybe shes just gotta spend more haha.
I was with my ex-husband for 14 years. We had three amazing children together. He battled addiction and alcoholism off and on during our entire relationship. I tried so many ways to help him and to save our family. He did not want to change. They have to be the ones who want to change for themselves. You did the right thing by leaving. I wish I had ended my marriage sooner. I never thought I'd feel that way. I thought we'd be together forever. I loved him and watched the person I cared so much about completely disappear. It got so bad at the end that he tried to kill me and kill himself twice in front of my children. I brought that up during our divorce hearing. The judge asked him if he had anything to say in defense of himself on that. He simply said "no". I thought for sure he would deny it or at least try to make an excuse for it, but there was just nothing he could say. I was being honest. The judge gave me sole custody of the kids and said he could only see the kids at my discretion. He has not even asked how they were doing, much less tried to see them. He does not pay his child support. He got a job working under the table to avoid that and feed his habits. Sadly, he went to worse drugs. He drank beer, snorted pain pills and did cocaine while we were together. I recently found out that he moved on to heroin. It makes me sad for the life he chose. It makes me sad that addiction took over and stole him from our children. Sometimes leaving is the best thing. You're in my prayers. Stay strong sweetie.
+MikePeterson Who exactly should be taking this pill? My children were born by choice in a loving marriage. When my husband got caught up with partying with his friends and became an addict it changed everything about him. Not just with me and his children. Even his parents that were fighting cancer, it destroyed their relationship. Having children does not make someone act that way.
so people are brave for being with some idiot and even when they know they will not change still be with them?? people call that brave??? wow what a bunch of idiots to think that.. brave is the women or men who think of themselves first and leave those idiots.. those who do that are the brave ones and smart ones...
She is a disgrace to her husband proverbs 12:4 He got rid of her according to the bible Proverbs 21:19 The bible has warned men about evil females Proverbs 25:24 We can only hope she is damned to HELL !
Some Men is waste of time. The mentality is like, a street dog you take home from the street. You watch it and clean it. And what does it do? It goes back to the street, and role it self in to dirt again.
key word "take it correctly." I took birth control correctly for years and never got pregnant. My mom, on the other hand, got pregnant twice after "taking it correctly." -.-
I am currently divorcing my wife who i found out is a covert narcissist. It wasn't my fault and it wasn't your fault either. You are an amazing, beautiful woman. His loss.
God that was like ripping skin off my arm for fun. I don't know how i got conned into watching this video. But once it started i just wanted to find out what drug he was on.Took her 15 minutes to say meth. Longest clickbait life waste. She clearly wrote this beforehand and really thought how can i keep as many details out of this as possible...but belittle my ex as much as i can to validate my life. She may even be justified, but without this martyr's back story it just sounds like narcissim. Also youtube...you never were awesome but throwing this crap into my list...pretty low youtube pretty low.
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@B AA I still will pray for those broken women and miserable women that they find GOD and know what true love is. God bless you and have a happy Sunday.
I feel a bit sad about the attitude of divorce indisciplined men pose. I need a serious relationship and I pray that I live forever with whoever she may be
It's like the person you love and the father of your children is dead, yet he's still around. Like a zombie with a mean spirit. No job yet he colors in his adult coloring books. I truly understand the heartache. As his mother it breaks my heart!
Wow omg so sorry to hear this.. I'm sure hes not a badd person I'm sure hes just addicted to drugs.. It's a vicious cycle Alanon meetings are very helpful for family and friends of any type of addict alcoholic or other... Really helps to allow us to Detach with love.. The more he is enabled by anyone the more chances he will stay the way he is... It's our job as the sober person to understand what we are doing that enables the behavior... Al anon is free in every state of the world... The meetings are free and there is no dues for membership but what you do get out of the program will help change your life forever and free you from the pain of another's addiction... Much love to you
Iona G two sides to every story. She may deserve jail. She might deserve a presidential medal. Being deserving is not a good way to encourage good responsible behaviour. (Psychologist). That’s my experience of 15 years.
+atlg8or6137 Amen to that. I'm 29 and after a divorce and dozens of tumultuous, failed relationships I've found a good woman. I'm going to do everything in my power to keep her and treat her right. They are almost impossible to find these days.
+atlg8or6137 Easier said than done brother...What does "work it out" even mean? Do you know what that means? I don't. I do understand why my divorce happened and it was through reading and learning that I determined why it failed and why marriages fail. It's deeper than "your marriage just needs work." SOOOOOOO much deeper.
+ReticentIndignation Every situation is different. SOME men take their relationships for granted, and think that the grass is always greener on the other side. It's rarely the case. If your situation was different, then take my comment as not applying to you.
atlg8or6137 All the work in the world isn't going to change the other person or their mind is all I'm saying. It isn't that easy. It isn't always the man fucking it up either. I had what I thought was a good woman at one point...maybe she still is.
He didn't make enough money huh? Money that he made was "missing"? Terrible husband! He had a hobby and did not do what you wanted all the time? Terrible husband! "Such a jerk".
@THANATOS FANATICOS dude i'm just pointing out how i'm getting a recommendation for a video that was years ago, there is literally no reason to get mad here, MATE.
I have never commented on a RUclips video before, but felt compelled as I have experienced being in a relationship with an addict, and 11 years later, though we are no longer together and he's lost his friends and family and countless other things, he still cannot quit slowly killing himself. I would just like to say it does get easier and leaving him and contacting his family was the right thing to do. All you can do is offer your help- but it's up to him to take it. The person who commented (Marcin O) saying that you don't "loose" someone to drugs/alcohol, has obviously never gone through this type of situation and is absolutely wrong in saying what he (she?) said. Addiction is so much stronger than you think it is. It has more control over the addict than anything or anyone. All logic, all rationality, all reason, all people, all things of significance and importance are out of play. The addiction completely takes over the addicts' life. So saying that someone may not have had a strong enough relationship is completely irrelevant; because once they jump into this heavy currant river, it is indescribably difficult to attempt to help them out of it, regardless of what kind of relationship you had with this person. The relationship with drugs is more powerful. You are trying to swim up stream while carrying another person who is swimming in the opposite direction. The difference between the pull of a relationship and the pull of drugs is that drugs physically affect you; whereas a relationship is more of a connection of the mind and emotions. Though a strong relationship with someone can be powerful, the relationship with drugs can be stronger because it gains control of your mind, emotions, and your physical body. They begin to physically need the drug, like one physically needs water. EVERYTHING becomes secondary to the addiction. You have done the right thing. You cannot help someone who does not want to be helped. I hope your ex can one day accept the help that is offered to him.
This is so well-said, samantha, it deserves 1000 upvotes! It's almost unbelievable there are people out there like Marcin O. who believe you can love someone enough so they never do anything hurtful. There are so many things wrong with that idea, starting with the astounding assumption that people NEVER change. No matter how much love and understanding and communication and work someone puts into a relationship, it's still possible that the other person will slowly start to perceive going home and doing the same thing "monotonous" and conclude the only way to relieve their boredom is to try new and possibly dangerous things. Blaming the victim for this is so reprehensible it makes my blood boil.
You have no makeup, your hair is a mess and you try to fix it with a pen, a very casual dress, crying,.............................. But you still look very BEAUTIFUL. Because you are a GENUINE person. A Pure, Honest, Brave, Kind, Real,................................ woman! I have lots of respect for you. Thanks for your GREAT video. I Subscribed. Love you, sister
@Lala lalala Your comment made me sad.... you sound cold, bitter, hateful, and misogynistic (and I don't know if you're male or female). You're judgemental and critical not only of this girl who is having a difficult time realizing that her dream family is now shattered, but of women in general. Sounds like you have a cold heart.🖤
Poor lady. May you find joy and peace and be blessed and increased. May you be protected from evil and guarded by angels of the heavenly courts that exceed in strength.
ScorpTac If you took my comment as an "attack" then your comprehension skills need improvement. Judging her for airing her families dirty laundry where her husbands family, her family, her kids friends, friends of friends etc can see? Yes
Either way it's still an attack. When people take part in behavior s that cause hurt or trauma they need to be prepared for the consequences that come with that. She is doing nothing wrong by sharing her experience. Unfortunately that is going to include other people. Why should she be silenced. If you don't like what she's saying don't watch.
chaosvixenxoxo I agree. I think she's incredibly brave for being vulnerable and sharing her story, but there are times that she crosses the line into being too personal. Anyone can watch this… ANYONE. You have to remember that a) she's talking about real people and they deserve some degree of privacy, and b) you have to be safe on the internet. So I do agree with you, to an extent. At the same time, I feel for her and I wish her the best. Divorce is never easy.
I am going through a Divorce and typed in Divorce Vlog when I ran across this...Sweetheart I am so sorry, I have tears in my eyes for you as I watch and type this . When you loose someone to addiction, it's worse than loosing them to death because of the vicious cycle of having your heart ripped out of your chest repeatedly. I left someone that I almost married because he chose addiction over being in mine and not what still keeps you up at night... I pray for your ex husband, that he doesn't loose sight of why he call his self a man and he gets sober for his self and your kids... Wipe your eyes love, God has a plan... Always remember that...
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I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054
I'm sorry. Hopefully your better by now. Time heals. I was him. I understand everything you said. I lost a career due to an injury and spiralled into drugs. My wife divorced me in 2010. A strange thing happened then. I missed my family more than the drinking, more than the drugs. It wasn't easy . I wish it had been,but it wasn't. I cleaned myself up. Started talking to my wife every now and then. She started dating again. Not easy for me to deal with. But slowly over time. Things became better. We talked more. Hung out a little bit more and more. She said the old me felt like he was back. I haven't had a drink or drugs in 8 years. We remarried and life is back to normal. Maybe even better. So I get you and your story. Rehab is not for people who need help, it for people who want help. Not sure how I came across this. But I felt compelled to say either way life can get better. Thanks for your story.
Kendalika, After much soul searching and walking to the top of a mountain to do some contemplation, I have reached the conclusion I still don't give a shit. People who air their dirty laundry in public are attention seekers and fake. Kendalika I would like to Kindalika you but you have a real foul mouth lol
Kendalika, Its not hate, I was just joking but at the same time people with problems should confide in their friends or family if they need to, a public forum like this is not the place to do it, any way I wish you , this woman and every one else all best
your story strikes deep into my heart! May God bestow enough strength to cope up with the sufferings that you had gobe through. I hope you're in a better off position now. May God rekindle you with his blessings to lead a happy life !!
Like they say in the rooms, they live to use and use to live. They put the substance over their own families. Nothing is more important to them than their next fix. This is true even with alcoholics.
This was such a hard video for her to make... And I'm crying for her reading these comments from asshole trolls just being so mean to her.. God bless you girl
When you sit here and have emotions over some random ass person on the internet that you've never known, never seen, and never talked to and you sit here and cry about it - you're probably some crazy, emotional, psycho bitch such as this lady in the video. No wonder you like her, you are just like her. So just like her, fuck off.
so i watch strategy game lets plays. Maybe You tube thinks divorce is a strategy game? Oki i look how to tell YT what i like watching then, thx for the tip
IIIspirit No, RUclips doesn't think a strategy game is the same. Press "not interested" and "tell us why" and it will tell you what video triggered this.
google has been testing new software.. same with google maps, if it doesn't have enough data on certain areas, it will take you through those areas to get more information even though it's not the fastest route. they are trying to see if people will notice and if they can change what people watch/are interested in. Same with facebook and twitter.
Drug addiction is a serious thing. I grew up as a child in a similar story where my mother was also married to someone that had developed a drug addiction and she did struggle after she left. She focused on her kids and all of her children including myself are great people with good careers. You will find love again and if you focus on your children they also may have a great chance on making good choices in life. As for the person that is the drug addict. you must be a distant support system so that they can have the reason "Why" they want to become addicted free.
Well, that's kind of the problem actually. We live in a society full of people who think that just because divorcing is doable that it's completely ok to just marry and divorce whoever whenever. That's not really what it's for. In a situation like this, obviously it's better to just make a break and move on, but like abortion not being birth control, divorce isn't your safety net for marriage.
No one said anything about a safety net. Personal happiness is above all else in my opinion. This situation of course is different but every relationship has it's circumstances. So I don't see a problem with divorce. It's just a break up on paper.
No see marriage is suppose to more than a BG or gf. It's suppose to be for better or for worse. But you also have to really KNOW who u are marrying cuz it's suppose to be one person forever.
It is Jan.7, 2020...I don't know why I clicked on this, but know you ABSOLUTELY succeeded in helping someone...me, and in a completely different way. Thank you. I will probably never actually know you, but I owe everything to you and to God for me clicking when I normally wouldn't.
Why are people blaming this lady and calling her names???? Can you imagine what she went through? there is 2 sides to every story, but still- she is so brave. Hang in there love.
No we don't know what she went through because we weren't there. We don't know any side to the story except hers and he's not making a spectacle of himself on RUclips about the divorce, she is. That shows a level of self-absorption on her part because she is airing her dirty laundry not him. Did any of you ever stop to think the type of person that broadcasts this type of very private family issue is an attention seeker exhibiting attention seeking behavior? It's a trait most "infuencers" on RUclips share. We don't really know a thing about their relationship or if what she is saying has a single grain of truth to it. Many of you are simply making the assumption her husband is a villain and she is blameless. That's an awfully big assumption to make based only on the word of somebody you don't know and have never met. I keep hearing her supporters mentioning she's pretty. Wtf does that have to do with anything? If she was ugly would that somehow make her less credible? Guys in this thread are simply whiteknighting her because they find her attractive and women whiteknighting her are either disgruntled divorcees themselves who have a clear gender bias when it comes to exes or feminazis (radical feminists) who operate under the automatic assumption all men are bad and liars and all women are good and 100% honest.
@@philosoraptor2285 I respectfully disagree. Your assumption that all influencers are self absorbed and attention seeking is unfounded; some of them may be, but even that isn't a reason to shun someone sharing their story. Moreover, people showing her compassion are "whiteknighting"? People can't just be nice and extend her compassion for no reason, in your opinion? Some people choose to talk to heal, and she happened to have a platform and use it- I personally don't see the harm in it. Choosing to be kind instead of being vitriolic is the approach I decide to take when strangers are sharing their struggles, and that is what I will personally stick with. You are fully entitled to your opinion.
Thank you for sharing your story which takes alot of courage. Do not beat yourself up too much about not seeing "the signs" of drug abuse. I did meth from early teens until i was 22. With that being said it would be difficult for my wife to use meth and me not know. Well i was definitely wrong because my ex wife used meth for years and one night she left with our teenage daughters. In January it will be five years since she left me for her dealer. I am still having a hard time knowing that she chose meth after our 19 yrs together and the luxury of all the material things we had. I quit meth when i met her and she hid her addiction well. I know its not my fault but yet i still think where did i go wrong. Your a very strong and beautiful young woman and i wish you the best, thank you again for sharing atleast i know i am not alone.
Choop you also show courage sharing your story. sorry to hear that this happened to you, it is definitely not your fault. sending positive vibes your way.
plz get back ur daughters from her as they r not safe with her at this stage if she continues taking... this stuff plz save them n ur wife if u can don't leave them on their own
*It's 2020. I just came by to drop a word of support for you and your journey and your decision. I have 100% empathy and respect for your decision and your circumstances. I think you did the best, most loving and selfless things for your family - both your ex and your children - throughout this whole situation.* *I am embarrassed for our species by the cheap hit piece video/s criticizing you a while back; by far some of the most misogynistic, ignorant, disgusting, ridiculous, vile sentiments I have ever seen. You deserved the opposite energy sent your way, so I am really sorry that happened, and I hope you and your family are well and healing and on your way to thriving in spite of everything.* *ps - RUclips should be embarrassed to have stuff of that magnitude of misogyny and ignorance on their platform. Anyway, sending love and positive energy your way. Best wishes to you.*
I'm sorry to find out this is the reason for your divorce. I have family (sister & brother) who got heavily addicted to meth. One thing I wanted to point out and I know you said you don't have alot of knowledge on this topic but is not a choice. He didn't chose the drug over his family. He was addicted and addiction is a powerful powerful thing. Once a person is addicted they have no control over anything. They can't logically or willingly make decisions in their lives. I'm curious did he ever go to rehab? Did his family and yours try an intervention like thing where everybody came together to help him? Is he still addicted?
It was a choice and he did choose drugs over his family. People make choices not the drugs. He made the choice to get involved with them in the beginning, if it's something you have to hide from your family than you know from the start it's not right.
angelfacemoma I think all drugs are different and Meth is a particularly nasty one - it seems to totally destroy people. They effectively become the drug. It's incredibly sad.
Yea he chose to do it the first time however nobody knows why. And all it takes is 1 time. Meth takes over. And like I said above the person doesn't have control over anything. Especially decisions. And getting help is the hardest thing to do. You have to really understand addiction to understand the thoughts in someone's mind and actions they do.
I guess. I suppose it's hard to understand, especially when you've lived with someone who has been addicted to something. I still wouldn't go as far as to say they can't help it.
I'm watching in 2019. Being a woman who lost the man I love to Alcohol... even though he is passed out on the couch now. Addiction is Evil. I've never not known alcoholism and drug addiction around me. It IS ok to Leave. You do not sound like someone who is looking for anything but for him to be a better person. It's unfortunate. I've spent the better part of 20 years in a battle with Budweiser... that, once I decided I can't win. I've stopped Fighting it. Live together, no kids, Love him Dearly. But, I ONLY have Myself to worry about. People who do not understand addiction, will bash you. Stay Strong.
Same here my husband is addicted to bud light and I feel so sad most of the time because i feel alone and i shouldn't feel alone if hes my husband sometimes he talks to me sometimes he dosent he deinks every day and I feel like i have to walk on egg shells around him he gets angry if i tell him to please drink less get help its no use 😭😭 how can I leave a man that I love how can I fight this
addiction is so terribly real, hopefully one day he realizes alcohol is a shitty drug and stops drinking. its literally paying good money to poison yourself, huge waste.
@@stenyguzman2125 The Only thing you can do is find strength for YOU. I am in no danger. And, there are no children in my home. For me, it is a decision to stay, ALANON is a good place, if that is an option. However... if you or children are unsafe... That changes things Greatly. My son is well over 20, things only got BAD in the past several years... My life started with alcoholic parents... I was Determined to At Least give my son Better than that. And, in those years... things were better. Once there was no child home... All limits were blown out.
@@stenyguzman2125 nothing will change until you change them. Take a stand, enough is enough! Life is too short to not live it. Put God in the middle, pray for your husband & ask God for the strength to conquer this. HE can & will make things hapoen. Know your worth! You deserve to be happy just as much as anyone else. Take a stand & fight for your happiness!! ❤
I am so very sorry that you had to experience this. He is sick, and has almost no control over the addiction. I lost my brother to alcoholism. Even knowing it was killing him, he could not stop. You are absolutely beautiful and obviously very strong to be able to share a very painful thing in life. God bless you and yours.
I'm very sorry that you lost your brother. My son's father is an alcoholic and I'm pretty sure there's something wrong with his liver and he knows he needs to stop but I don't think he ever will. I don't think I'll ever live to see the day he gets clean and sober and I've accepted that. That's a huge part of the reason we are no longer together. He has many demons that I can't help him fight anymore. It's up to him whether or not he wants to stop and get help but I'm not going to be along for the ride anymore.
CRAZY married me and said I drank too much. I met CRAZY in a bar, go figure... She said I pressured her for sex, but we were celibate before marriage. I coulda hit it if I wanted, but I didn't out of respect for her father as we were at her home.
rtrain67 I've been in so many relationships with women and the one thing that I have learned (if anything) is that most of them are full of shit, (and I'm sure this woman is no exception to that rule) I'm sure if her "ex" could give his side of the story it would paint a more lucid picture. The fact that she's disrespecting her "ex" by publicly airing their dirty laundry here on Youtub and engaging in this poor me victim porn only underscores her cuntyness. Her ex should think of their divorce as a blessing.
I'm here policing comments, making sure no one is being rude ;) to my soulmate friend, and I'm so happy to see the support :) I think this will help you too, to see that you aren't alone, as well as others to see that they aren't alone.
I'm literally going to scour law books for case file/ precedence on whether or not i can sue her ass! This was an egregious waste of time and has emotionally damaged me forever, just to know that people like her exist makes me suicidal! I am not living in the same world as this fucking mess of a human being. And she's raising kids?? Ohhh HELLLL NAW! This shit needs to be stopped:) lmao.............
You made the right decision. You did the right thing. I just hope the next time somebody decides to sell drugs to another human being they think about the destruction that is caused in their life and their families. I wish you all the best.
Willisa Rivers you have no clue what your talking about. My 24 year old son died from a METH overdose very recently. When you understand the addiction disease then give your opinion, till then get educated and go through what this woman and myself have, then judge us.
Willisa Rivers yes she left him during a hard time in his life bit do you not think she was going through stuff too? It doesn't seem like he wants to put enough effort into getting better. It is hard to recover from a drug especially something as addictive as meth. If he did recover there is a high chance that he will start using again or even start using other drugs. It was his decision to start using, his decision to blow all their money on drugs, and his decision to treat his family like crap (effect from the drugs he chose to use). If she didn't leave him she could suffer for years and years because of his decisions. They could end up losing everything, his young children would have to grow up watching their dad ruin his life, his children will have drugs in their house they might find and start using at an even younger age which could ruin their lives even more than their father's. Even growing up watching their dad could traumatize them, cause depression, and cause them to do bad in school. She did the right thing for herself but more importantly for their children. I'm sure she still loves him and wants what's best for him and she will probably be there for him whenever he needs help. And personally as long as he doing drugs like that he should have no right to see his children.
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@@joshuafalade4754 Thank you for sharing your wisdom and advice. But this is not our case. We don't have problems with infidelity. We both have access on our phones and emails. Our problem is I guess culture differences, so different point of views, personalities, etc.. which leads to big fights. Hmm we should be able to figure out what is best for us. Glad to hear you are happy and doing now. I wish you a wonderful day.
i feel for both parties in this video but that doesn’t mean anyone has the right to attack this woman for protecting herself, her financial assets and her children. the comments are so sickening. i know its youtube and youtube is a fucking cesspool of hate but come on. "bros before hoes," right guys? grow the fuck up. i'm pretty sure we were all taught in kindergarten that the golden rule is "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all." is this woman hurting anyone? did she post pictures or videos of this man? no. she is not hurting anyone, she is venting and trying to share her story so that other people don't feel as alone. why do you feel personally attacked by this video?? also if this video would "not stop showing up in your recommendations" OH NO OH MY GOD NOOOOO all you have to do is click the vertical "..." to the side of the video and click "not interested." its not that hard.
Bob Loblaw I agree, we are all entitled to our own opinions. Some may want her to take this down just because of the reasons you've stated, but in other cases, we find things helpful. We find that we are not alone thru this lady's divorce journey.
@@shadowwarriorshockwave3281 Probably because of the new algorithm that youtube is messing with that is supposed to get you to watch things outside your regular feed. I was watching comic con panels that I had missed because they had been taken down and uploaded again.
I’m thinking about getting divorced as well. My wife likes to spend time with her guy friend and stay overnight at his place. She keeps saying “we’re just friends”. Either get use to it and be a man. So now I’ve been suppressing this emotion and trying to be okay with all of this... but now, I think it’s time to make the move.
Can you please do an update for all of us that had this randomly pop up in our feed April/May 2019?! 🙏 I think it's safe to say we're all wondering. 🤔 I have to say I was glued. It takes a strong person to speak about the details of your own divorce. I'm divorced as well, (re-married now,) but I admire your strength to share your truth! 🙌💖💪
@@BLWSquared Thanks for the advice. I couldn't wait for an update to never come so I actually flipped through her videos lol. She is so happy now! Great kids, great bf, great life. 😍
Ginger Ninja Thank you both ..definitely agree and will search for more. I have recently gotten braver on my RUclips spiritual reading channel and added a playlist of "Shanny Testifies" and speak on things like my sexual abuse story. Etc. It's helpful for us all to share whoever is willing. Blessings guys genuinely !
Thank you, capeless hero! I assume you are capeless, anyway. Joke aside, hardcore drugs are never fun for a partner or the family, must have sucked for her.
+Thomas Armstrong why the tell would anyone make this up? For money? A story that could easily be proven to be a lie? Look at her reaction. She's genuine... if she was making this up she deserved an oscar... I don't understand why people even question this, honestly.
I listened to your story and my heart ached for you. I applaud your courage. Not only in getting away from him, but also posting this publicly and letting other women hear your story.
Emma Downey not just women, my father had to leave his ex and fight in court for my half sisters, for months. She got drunk, high, physically and verbally abused them, left them for hours on end (at ages of 7-8) to go to the pub and get drunk and bring strange men home, all while not allowing us to see my sisters and trying to get my father on some sort of scheduled visit. She had two more kids after leaving him just so she could get money from the government, but one of them was taken away and the other is with his father. I know you meant well and I'm not being a dick or anything, I just want to make it clear, it's really important to show that women are just as bad and that society shouldn't overlook it, because when it does overlook it people like my family get hurt.
I don't know if she's telling the truth or if it's a lie, or whatever the situation is honestly. But to read so many nasty comments from strangers that think it's normal or okay to say these types of things makes me pity how stressful or sad their lives must be. Happy people don't write rude/ nasty comments on the Internet. I hope all of you fix what's going on in your life, and stop writing such ugly things about another human
Yeah, that may be true but that is the ones MOST American women go for. You know the old story, nice guys finish last or never finish at all because MOST American women won't give them the time of day. So you then have women like this who get hurt. Don't feel sorry for this one either because its the SAME story with the SAME ending. Want to stop this? Stop marrying shitbags who treat women like crap.
I agree and it's very discouraging to see this much nastiness, but almost all the men in my life wether it's friends or family or whatever are really awesome. I just feel bad for women who don't have that in their life because comment sections like this could make people very jaded.
Jackie Menschausen I worked full time, took care of the house... his money was his money and if I needed anything or spent my own money I was selfish ... turned out he had another girlfriend with s child for which I was duped into wrapping a present for... while I was pregnant... the day I caught him with the other woman, the first thing he told me is that I was selfish. There was just no going back after that. However, I spent the next five years dealing with accusations that I was keeping our child away from him despite agreeing to a generous visitation plan and honoring it, plus allowing him access to our child during ‘my legallly appointed parenting time’ pretty much every time he asked... only to have it used against me in court as though I was asking for him to take our child during my parenting time. Our son just turned 18 and that kind of shit never ended. I usually advise women to do it on their own or if a dude is absent... let him be and thank your lucky stars that you are not stuck dealing with someone whose parenting priority is to use the children to hurt you. I know a lot of men who do this... although women will do it to men as well... I just know more about the stories of men doing it to women as I have seen what they go through. My situation was nothing compared to what I’ve seen other women go through and for no real reason. If you feel you must share parenting with a man, take a long time to get to know him and do not ignore the signs. I was with mine for five years before I got pregnant and there were signs that he was not a good one to reproduce with and I ignored the signs. But I did not know the signs to look for... Ignorance rarely protects anyone from horrible long term consequences. Don’t expect people to simply do what is right and by all means don’t think the court system will protect you somehow... it does to a certain extent, but the courts can do nothing about a lot of the crap you will have to endure.
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Hello I stumbled on to your video for some reason....after watching the video I so know why I was sent here. Your story almost word for word could be mine 11 yrs ago.Except I have one son (now 20) I could talk with you for hours young Lady....but I will say one thing instead....YOU DID THE RIGHT THING, NEVER FORGET THIS, BELIEVE IT. I know we love this person and don't wish to rip our Kids lives apart, but the kids (and us Mommies) are in danger. I knew it was time to go when I had to sleep outside my son's bedroom door on the floor because I was so scared my Ex might mistake my son for an intruder in his paranoid state. Keep talking about it and loud and clear to anyone who will listen because it gets easier and less painful each time. I will be rooting for you and your kids....You are on the right Path, sincerely Lynne
It makes sense to live him,yes because of the drugs, yes. But if we hear the other side, who knows? But the drugs involved, no question about it. Run lady, Run! You n kids don't deserve that. That I understand.
I am watching this in December of 2019, and it really hurts to know that people choose drugs over people even over themselves, I am experiencing and struggling with my husband’s addiction and it feels horrible. How can I reach out to you?
Jimmy Shadow I am sorry you are going through this horrible pain, I know what you mean you probably want all the answers, but the only I can tell you it is that the only choice we have is keep going and take care of ourselves, keep loving your wife but take care of you and if you have children take care of those that are being affected by her addiction. May God gives us the strength that we need, and the wisdom to do what it is the best.
Psalm 34:18 New Living Translation (NLT) 18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. The Lord Jesus Christ wants to heal and restore you.
did u go to college, and have a degree? I know this is off subject just so at least I hope u know always have a back up plan if your a stay at home mom, for this alone. some girls just think everything is perfect things happen in life than have no experience in the world of working, so important to have a career.
I did and do. I also worked for the same Fortune 500 company for over 10 years prior to becoming a SAHM. Not as easy to just work with child care expenses but I am very fortunate that I do have all of that in my back pocket (-;
ok wow that's great than, yes and I only say because a lot of girls want to be stay at home moms and don't have anything to back themselves up and its just so important for there children. at least before being a stay at home mom
ahh not in my books lmao. shows a lot when you accomplish getting a degree and about yourself as a person, if that's all u aspire to be you don't have many goals in life.sensing maybe u are? yikes lol
no I'm not, I do know so many amazing mothers who are and I'm a nanny and I will be staying home with my kids when I have them. Being at home with your children isn't a good aspiration? Really? Hmmm- well let's think about that, don't mothers generally spend their days nurturing, teaching and raising their child/ren to be productive members of society? Seems like those children would have a different opinion about your comments about their mothers who "don't have many goals in life", I appreciate my mom who unselfishly made sacrifices to be home with my me and my siblings all day everyday.
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry you and your family went through all of that pain. I’m currently going through this with my wife. We have 3 boys together and one day she just got up and left the boys and I. Causing me to quit my job and be a stay at home father. In the beginning she claimed she left because of me and convinced everyone that’s why she took off. I was devastated because she moved right in with some guy. I had suspicions that it was because of drugs. She even told me that she loved him and has seen the boys maybe 16 days in 10 months. A few months ago she admitted she was on meth and now she is saying the drugs have a grip on her. I’ve kept my vows to her and this marriage this whole time. I’m a Christian. She is now saying she wants to be my wife again and wants her family back but she isn’t doing anything to prove that. She’s cried to me and said how much she wants to stop many times but still there is no movement. They are both drug addicts and have nowhere to live. They sleep at hotels and in her car at times. I don’t enable her by any means. I did start the divorce but letting go is still hard because I have this little hope that she will stop the drugs and get clean. Ive learned she needs to want that change. I don’t let her come around our boys because I don’t want anyone on drugs around this family. I explained to her that I would hope she would do the same for me if she was in my position. She’s missed birthdays and our oldest sons first day of school. Slowly I’m gaining the strength and courage to follow through with this divorce, but letting go is the hard part. Despite all of the damage she has caused, I still love that woman unconditionally. Maybe it’s because the thought of starting over or who would ever want to take the responsibility of being a step mother to 3 boys. She took my pride, heart, and confidence when she abandoned us. I have been working on myself and I am feeling better. The pain i have for my boys is unbearable at times. Especially when they ask about her. I wish this pain and devastation on no one. Your video gave me some light in my life and thank you. I tried finding your email but I couldn’t find it. I’m praying for you and your family.
I went thru a DIVORCE myself and was so depressed, BUT eventually I got over it.. Anyone can.. It just takes time to heal the emotional, mental and physical wounds.. Hang in there and things will change..
David Young I love your uplifting comment so sad story may you guy's find courage
Divorce is a horrible horrible thing, it takes the Lord Jesus to heal the deep nasty wounds and end the vicious cycles.
I've been separated since around mid 2014 and she hit me with divorce papers in June 2018. I never talk about it to anyone but I'm still having a tough time, even to the point of isolating myself from whomever possible, becoming unemployed and losing literally everything, sleeping as much as possible so I can escape reality for a short time, and just letting myself go completely in every way you can imagine. I've always been a go-getter, I've always worked hard, I've always refused to let adversities defeat me in any way. I can run directly into a firefight...towards rounds that are buzzing past my head and never give up short of death, but now I've allowed separation and divorce to cause me to hunker down and crumble in defeat.
Big problemm is you might not know your depressed.
@@richardwilliams2560 you can't keep letting the divorce take hold of you like this it's to many beautiful women out there that I'm sure would love to love on you, Praying that you pull yourself up dust yourself off and move on💙💙
I don't really know why I clicked on this video. I got divorced in 1988 (separated in 1987) because my (ex) wife decided that having a family wasn't important to her. She started drinking and doing drugs and "having relations" with several guys while in college even though she was married with 4 children. I did all I could to keep things together including dropping out of college. Anyway, long story short, I met a wonderful woman that was willing to take me with all the baggage (I was fighting for custody of the kids). We married in 1990 and had another child together and now have 7 grandchildren.
Most folks would say a man couldn't have a clue where you're coming from but I assure you I do. Be strong and continue to do what is right by your children. Hopefully their father will get it together and be able to be part of their lives. My parents divorced when I was 5 and my father wasn't in my life so I can relate to what the kids are going through too.
God Bless you and your family, Scott
Really cute
Wow Scott!! That gave me goosebumps. I'm glad all turned out for the better for you.
That's what happen to my family my mom left me dad with 4 kids :(
DutchKnifeGuy Thanks Mark, mom did well with us kids and was able to keep it going.
Great.
this is so random... i dont even watch vlogs and this suddenly pooped up in my recommedations
and we both clicked it! 0_o
"Pooped up in your recommendations"? YIKES!
yeah well... whats done is done
lol Right?!?
Popped on mine too, so strange. Hope she is okay now. Well, guess my click adds to the view count, but only watched a couple of minutes. Good luck young lady and your family.
I been dealing with this same addiction for the last 20 years with my ex-wife. She told me she's been using our whole relationship and that got me thinking how much did I really know about her and I realized I loved her potential more than I loved her.
So she was using for 20 YEARS...and you didn't notice? Are you blind?
@@sleeplessgamingct4227 what an ass you are. Do you have any idea how sly and calculated some people can be
@@sleeplessgamingct4227 They say love is blind. I think we should be more understanding and not be so critical. It's hard to let go of someone sometimes.
Damn. Yeah this suddenly appeared in my suggested videos. Hope she's doing ok now.
Same
Ya just appeared for me too. Until your post I thought it was new.
@@rybo510 seriously! I thought it was recent too
@@jessicaoberry3182 forreal forreal!
@BobbyG Word. I totally felt her pain. My dad was just like her husband with the drugs but thankfully he kicked his habit. 20 years sober!
Girl, you are more wise than you give yourself credit for. Lots of us have been in dead marriages for 30 yrs or more. Kudos for you making the decision to get out with your boys when you did. No telling what could’ve happened and I hate to think of what could have. God Bless
I'm so sorry you had to go through this, I used to use meth and it is a horrible substance, but I was blessed with my husband who helped me get through it. Once I realized after using it for so long that I was sleeping on it, not losing weight and not getting the "high" that I once did and also realizing that it was stealing my happiness from tomorrow I decided that it wasn't worth it. The come downs were not worth it and once I sobered up and made another realization that I would lose my husband so I made the choice to stop cold turkey. It was the best decision of my life, I mean I did have to switch down to another drug, but I eventually stopped altogether. I don't even have the craving to do it anymore because I'm like, "you know I don't really feel like being depressed tomorrow". I went from using meth, switched to coke and now I just drink occasionally, however just like I'm a happy drunk I was also a happy person when I was high and not aggressive or scandalous, and most people were surprised at my honesty when they asked me if I was high. I was more or less a hazard to myself. I think once he truly sobers up he will realize how much he misses his kids. All addicts do, I know that because I used to talk to the worst of them who had kids. Just keep on keepin' on, enjoy your life, enjoy your kids and once time goes by he will come back (to the kids)
Bravo to you for your strength, my dear!
My dad was an addict throughout my entire childhood, I lived with him at one point when I was about 12 and I'm still trying to heal from the abuse and trauma he put me through. I'm glad you're protecting your kids
Divorce is often these days, im 16 year old guy, and my view on marriage is a no. Kids are supposed to learn from their grown ups, but what are the kids gonna learn when they see their grown up fail plenty of times over and over again with marriage. Im not saying that everybody fail, but now days less people stick together till the end. Many people tend to get lazy when they are married, thinking '' i got the girl already, dont need to anything '' , they stop putting effort in the relationship etc and that leads to divorce. Ofcourse there are plenty of reasons for divorce, but if both just put as much effort it wouldn't be these many divorces. I rather have a partner for years before marrying her. If me/she gets lazy in the relationship, me/she could be gone when me/she comes home.
You sound like a very smart young man. You are going to go places. :)
Thelrbe :Marriage isn't a fairy tale. All marriages have problems. Its when you both choose to stick together through better or WORSE. Marriage is the best adventure you could ever take. You"re 16, things will change. You will learn that grown ups are human too... the people you look up to, will one day seem so flawed... But thats all of us. Love and forgiveness will get you through.
This video breaks my heart, I am praying for you and anyone that goes through problems in their marriage. I watched my parents go through something I thought I would never see them go through. My world was SHATTERED. My mother told me the only way that they would stay together is if there was a miracle from God. And thats exactly what God gave her. No one saw it coming, but Jesus saves and restores. Satan comes to kill steal and DESTROY. Don't let him. Find your strength in the Lord. Blessings
Yes you are definitely 16
casperld actually not, yet, 4 november i will be 16.
TheIrbe im 17 and i totally agree of course it aint perfect but people dont want to stick through the tough times and many people get lazy is soooooooooooo scary
I grew up with both my parents using drugs , my dad ended up committing suicide when I was 14 , and moved out because my mom continued to use and I got pregnant and didn't want my baby around it , I'm now 17 and my mom passed away last year because of drug overdose , it's takin such a toll on my life , a big amount of my other family members use drugs and I choose to not be around them because I don't want my daughter to grow up seeing what I grew up seeing , but I'll be 18 in 2 months , I already have my own house and car , and doing a lot better than before , I have two younger sister and two younger brother who now stay with my grandparents and there doing a lot better now , of course we all have our emotional issues , but life goes on , I wish you and your kids the best !
Wow what a hard life.
Wow, you're 18 and has a kid while living on your own with horrible memories. You ought to take a week off and go to the beach while your child lives with your grandparents and just chill. And maybe try to smile :P
keep yr head up. yr the shit and you deserve the shit
My dad cheated on my mum with my teacher and they had 3 kids then he cheated on my teach with a model and had 4 kids but then he came back to my mum but she was over him and she was dating this really rich guy called max and she's not a gold digger my mums really rich so she's not a gold digger so anyway my dad got rejected from my mum so he then went back to his model gf and they got married and had 3 more kids so I have a lot of sisters and brothers and 3 mums and 2 dads and I had a gf I made her pregnant now we have a child named Jess and she's so cute but there's no way I'm marring her until I'm 26 cause right now I'm 17 and my gf is only 14
BRUH BRUH
A poem of the heart....
More than life itself, I love you.
Beyond your wildest dreams, I love you.
When you feel nothing, I love you.
When you are depressed and suicidal, I love you.
When you cannot face another day, I love you.
When you are all alone, I love you.
When no one else loves you, I love you.
When no one seems to care, I love you.
When the tears will not stop flowing, I love you.
When there is no hope left, I love you.
When you need a friend, I love you.
When you need a best friend, I am here.
I will never leave you child.
I will never forsake you.
I will forgive every wrong that you have done.
I will overlook all of your mistakes.
I will help turn your sorrow into joy.
I will forever embrace you and hold you.
If you will simply receive Me.
...That's all I ask.
-The Lord Jesus Christ
Amen!
So beautiful!
💗💗💗
❤️AMEN ❤️
Absolutely perfect ❤️
This was 6 years ago. I hope you are at a better place now.
hope she gets healed and move on.....and become a better version of herself and be happy .
Damn i just realized that
Ugh. Just seeing this now. I hope she’s happy now🌹
Divorce... hehehehehehehe
It takes the wind right out of your sails to have someone who you love choose drugs or alcohol over you. Stat strong and keep your children safe
Not sure what attracted me to your story. I’m probably old enough to be your Grandfather @ 72. I’m now a 31 year Recovering Alchoholic. I got sober but my wife & Family didn’t. So 2 years sober I filled for divorce. I looked around & said I don’t fit here any more.
I believe in a Higher Power & was an active AA guy. I’d asked Higher Power for a woman who understood t Program. 9 months living alone Friends told of an out of town lady coming for Labor Day weekend, would I come over for dinner. Well, I did & we were a perfect match. She had been in Al-anon longer than I’d been sober.
We commuter dated for 2 years as at 40, she got her Computer Programmer Degree, then got a job in my town & moved in😊!
We’ve been together 27 years now & couldn’t be happier!
Sober on my worst day is better than being a slave to a Drug!
You have made t right decision. You can’t make someone Sober, they have to want it. You might consider Al-anon. It’s for You, not your Addicted X.
May God Bless you & your Family. Keep doing the right things one day at a time & Your Higher Power will give you what you need in your life!
Two years of mental, emotional and psychological abuse is more than enough of your life and your kids' lives.
You can not help an addict until they want to help themselves.
YOU did nothing wrong! It was his choice and the monster grabbed hold.
Best to move on in a positive direction for you and your children.
May God richly bless you as you move forward.
Amen. That is the truth.
Divorce is wrong! Tell the truth if you’re a Christian. Only love to you all! But if you love someone then you tell the truth. I have been through rape and physical abuse but then I became a serious Christian. I sought God and He helped us both. God hates divorce. I’m sorry and please forgive me if this comment offends anyone. Tell the truth. Don’t be seduced by this world. Don’t get divorce. Did you try praying?
@@thereisabattleforyoursoulj3787 Wow, I am the opposite. I was raised a serious Christian and now I will NOT set foot in a church. God is not real!
@@thereisabattleforyoursoulj3787 Fucking looney tune! Let me guess u live in the middle of the country. Love "christians" who fucking think they should judge other when that is Gods fucking job. Dip shit.
Erina Lynskey this was a great comment but it just turned into a religious battle
Went through this with my ex wife... married 19 years... half that time she walked a slippery slope with meth and heroin... I invested so much of myself into her... into her dreams... and she let it all go to hell for drugs... I never felt such betrayal... last four years were the worst... when we were younger I put her through nursing school and she made really good money... I worked full time and took care of the kids almost entirely so she could sleep and take care of herself since we relied so heavily on her income... eventually she lost interest in me, the kids, our lives... she started cheating extensively... she spent so much time away from us it was like we were separated... she lost her nursing license and shortly after that we became homeless... I was able to buy an old RV which we lived in for about a year until the state took our kids away... that was the final straw... I decided to divorce her... I got the kids back but irreparable damage has been done... I moved across the country and started over with the help of family... I haven’t seen her or talked to her in over a year... she has nothing to do with the kids... my 16yo talked to her a couple months ago and asked her when she was going to straighten out her life and move to be closer to them... she told him she wasn’t going to because she was happy being a junkie and living on the streets... drugs are demons, man... once they get their talons in you, you’re unlikely to survive unchanged... this is the real pandemic of our times... stay strong and live for your kids... they will be your redemption
Stay strong
Oh my God I'm so sorry you've had to go through that. I admire your strength for getting through that. My son's father is an alcoholic and was abusive and I could relate to your story. He has no interest in going to rehab and has bipolar disorder type one and will not take his medication or go to therapy. I ended the relationship a year ago because I just couldn't take it anymore and there was no way I was going to let my son grow up in a dysfunctional household. Hugs.
Oh no. Reason Why I left my babydady. I left him after 11 yrs. He didn't want to change or get a job. He was getting to be so abusive.
You are 100 percent right drugs are demons will take over the user body n say n do horrible things. Help your love one specially with prayer to God Jehova. And then with everything else hopefully that person it's willing to fight back to recover everything ask for strength from God and you will receive it with LOVE.
I’m a recovering pill/heroin addiction. But have been clean almost 6 years and happily married with a 2 year old daughter. Thankfully my wife was patient and stuck with me. Addiction is a disease and can’t be cured but it can be treated and you can live free. If I can do it anyway can. If I started using again I would leave to not put my family through it but for today I’m clean. When I get cravings I think is this few moments of feeling good worth loosing my wife and daughter over and it’s not.
I can't get over the horrible, rude, disrespectful, ignorant, comments on this video. Like are you freaking kidding me! This is a woman in PAIN! She's sharing her story to help others. Omg this video has been in your "recommendations" DELETE IT! If you don't want to watch it DON'T! Like where has the compassion in the world gone. This woman is so beyond strong and brave and everyone who comments rude shit I wish nothing but badness on you!!!!!
What are you talking about?
so many people are commenting like "why is this in my news feed" and "omg stop bitching"
Well said.
"attention whoring" by sharing her story which will help other people. wow... it's so sad you feel that way.
tianalee13 Wow!
This is grief. You lost your husband. His body is there but the entity inside is something else. I pray you're all better now.
Wow. I've never heard it said like that. " The entity in side him is something else". So true!!! Thank you
You are a beautiful soul I feel bad for you and your boys but sweetheart keep your head up you are a beautiful woman and you will find a good man eventually I will keep you in my prayers
Deliciousdiva5 YES, AMEN *Addiction IS a DEMON*
Robert Wright I Call them *THE WALKING DEAD* .... sad
THE ENTITY INSIDE. HAHA HAHA HAHA. DO YOU DO DRUGS
I'm really appalled by the people defending this man. My own father was/is an addict. He was (and still is?) addicted to crack. You may call it a 'mental illness', but it is a choice. He chose to take these substances knowing that it would ruin his life and the lives of those around him. I cannot believe that people would classify it on the same level as things like depression, schizophrenia, psychosis: things that people cannot control. Anyway, as soon as crack came into the picture, my dad began stealing from my mom, he wouldn't come home, he put me in VERY dangerous situations, smoked crack with me in the house, brought me to his dealers place (my mom at this point was oblivious to his addiction, as addicts are incredibly manipulative). He beat my mother, and when she realized it was all because of the drugs she left him. But that didn't stop him from breaking in a week later and beating her again. When he went to rehab, the counsellors told him (like they do all addicts) that nothing is their fault, and that they should forgive themselves, and that everyone around them should forgive them, too. When my mother went to counselling, she was also told that she should 'forgive him so they could move on'. Rehab, and the countless times he went, never worked. You should NEVER 'give addicts a break because they're sick', because it only enables them to make bad choices. I myself was addicted to cocaine for a period of time and although I am 100% okay now and I never "ruined" my relationships, I can say that I put my poor mother through hell a second time and it is one of my biggest regrets in life. It was her 'no bullshit' attitude that kept me from ruining my life. Addicts are not like normal people. To this day my father lies about how long it's been since he last did drugs. He claims that he doesn't do crack anymore, but he 'does coke at parties', and is also an alcoholic instead. I've seen how an addict can ruin a family when left to run amuck. This woman did the right thing, and cutting him out was the best thing for her and her kids.
Very very true, it was best for the kids and her. But, he does need help, and drugs can never overpower love. I'm sure her boyfriend cares, even as stupid as he was, I can't imagine him not caring if her and the kids died (sounds depressing but yeah) and I think that's what people is trying to say :)
so based off everything you just said... YOU made the choice to start taking cocaine and in your own words that means you took "these substances knowing that it would ruin his (your) life and the lives of those around him (you)"??
And again, in YOUR OWN words you said the best thing she could do is cut the guy out of her life... so you think YOU should have been cut out of your families life?? Or does all that apply only to this guy and your father and not yourself? You cant have it both ways. Either all three of you are evil drug abuser who don't care about your families or none of you are...
tronclay No, it very much applied to me. I'm happy that my mom threatened to kick me out and threatened to revoke my rights in the household. It forced me to straighten myself out. She kept me under the equivalent of house arrest, I was watched 24/7 and was not allowed out of the house. I didn't ruin anyones life, though, that's the difference. My attitude changed, I was much less hospitable, but I was never abusive, manipulative, I never stole, etc. If I had, my mother would have kicked me out right away. It is not her job to clean up my fuck-ups after everything she did for me. I knew what I was doing when I took these drugs. I did it as an escape, and I did it in hopes that I would die. Luckily my family's attitude snapped me back into reality. And if it hadn't, I would be dealing with the consequences. It is not fair to torment innocent people. My father is scum. He put me in dangerous situations, put my mother in financial/emotional distress, damaged me emotionally, and still has the audacity to expect me to forgive him. The problem is that every time he was forgiven, he took that as his incentive to find sneakier ways to do what he was doing. This man needs help, yes, but it is not her job to suffer and allow her kids to suffer for his mistakes.
Tea Cloud As long as you admit you are as much of a scumbag as he is for taking the risk that you would both ruin your families lives, then we are on the same page. You seem to blame your father for all your actions, its obvious by the way you keep bringing him up. Does this womans husband have the same luxury of blaming someone else? Who knows, all we know is what ONE person in a bad relationship claims happened.
tronclay I wasn't blaming my father for anything really, merely pointing out how his stupid choices negatively affected my family, and how this woman's situation could have turned out a similar way if she had of 'just forgiven him and moved on'.
I have no idea why this popped up today...but I watched you. My life was pretty much like yours.i raised my kids alone and got rid of the drug addict I was married to. I’m still here...50 years later. Life has a way of working out. Good luck to you.
Jessica Alba will probably hire her to work at The Honest Company and they'll both burst into tears and hug each other before the interview even starts. With Jessica blubbing, "you're hired!" and then both women crying even more because it's all so adorable when one sister helps another. Then they'll both make videos about sharing stories and new beginnings. Eventually Dr Phil will join them and together they'll talk through those issues and have a group hug and a few more tears will be shed. With Dr Phil looking on proudly at how much progress his girls have made. Then they'll talk about their journey on Ellen and you'll see them doing Carpool Karaoke with Corden. Then the book will come out, "My Journey - Never give up - A woman's struggle to find herself in the modern world" with a forward from Dr Phil.
on point xD
Lmfaoooooo
shut the fuck up
This comment made my day *insert thank you gif*
Lmao! Although, my wife comes home and spends an hour in the bathroom when she comes home and when I walk in a room she puts her phone down as if she wasn't on it. I asked her about it and she said" I think you think,I am addicted to the phone" . I said,you are! However, wtf? Time will tell.
Why do people commit to having kids when they're going to divorce? This day and age people are failing relationships so often I'm not even going to have one let along consider kids. It's much easier
^^preach
I'm 99.99% sure she didn't enter into her marriage thinking "hey he's probably going to become addicted to drugs and make our home a dangerous place to raise children" and marry him and have children with him anyway.
***** It doesn't seem that that was the case with this woman and her family, but there are people out there who have a child when things aren't going well in the relationship, thinking that a baby will fix it and bring them closer together again. It happens regularly.
People don't get married and then think "Oh, I'll divorce, no biggie" NO.. things happen.
Did you not watch the whole video? She said she never could fathom a divorce ever and that's why she tried for so long to stand by his side. Question for you... you marry the love of your life, you are together for 10+ years... lets say not drugs let's say he starts beating you.. physically abusing you, or not that just the verbal.. do you stay with him forever letting your kids see him hitting or constantly yelling at you calling you a bitch a cunt yelling in your face, really do you want to put not just yourself, but more importantly your children through that? Having them constantly stressed worried scared? or would you rather take them out of that situation and let them see their dad or mother who is doing that abuse? You never plan to get divorced, you don't plan to do drugs, you never set out saying im going to get addicted to this or that.
I kept seeing this pop up, and I finally listened. I'm going through something similar with Divorce but know that God's got your back. You might be in a better place right now. May God bless you.
hope you are OK been there too -__-
Aunt Reese she ate her kids 🤪🤪🤪
Sending you love 💞❤
I recommend Alanon or Nar-Anon. You can Google the meeting times. Please go to at least six meetings before making a decision of whether it is for you.
You do realise god is made up, like Santa and Harry Potter....
Poor memory often happens to people who suffer PTSD from constant abuse and elevated stress levels/ being in fight or flight mode. Your amygdala which is partly responsible for memory, is compromised when you're under stress for long periods of time like sounds like you have been.
Thanks for this comment
Or it can happen from 10 other causes, you are not helping this way. She never claimed to show any compassion for whatever her husband was going through either.
@@georgiosdrosinos7531 she's not an addiction counselor or mental health care worker. When you're trying to look out for the well-being and mental stability of your children in a situation where you're living with an addict, you have to put your compassion aside. I lived with an addict for over 10 years who was mentally abusive, manipulative and volatile because I was so compassionate for his state... I felt so bad for him, but now my son resents me for having stayed with him for so long. If you've never lived with an addict and you've never been the other parent, the responsible party, you probably wouldn't understand her lack of compassion.
@@sunshinestatesurvival What is more interesting is why you even lived with an addict for over 10 years?
You are just projecting then, because in this case we have a marriage withsomeone who was not an addict for 11 years and took the woman 6 months to divorce him without even asking whats wrong.
@@georgiosdrosinos7531 she WAS with an addict. I don't know what video you are watching. But you do sound like a super compassionate understanding person yourself, so I'm sure you'd understand why a compassionate empath would stay with their addict husband for 10 years.
This video was made 5 years ago, it's April 2019, and this is in my recommendation.. Of course RUclips knows I'm so damn nosey - thanks!! No matter how old the video, many woman (fortunetly not myself) can relate. I'm sure you're doing fine, you seem like a strong person. Either way, I hope all is well with you and the kids. Thank you for this video.
Same.
Well she's still making videos like twice a week so I'd say she's fine.
Same it was in mine to
How are things now ,I hope you have found happiness.xx
Leilani same!
I'm not sure how I came across this video...but you are such a gorgeous person inside & out! I just love listening to you speak, so strong but amazingly sweet.
I was thinking the same thing! She is a beautiful woman.
love you Megan!
Love you💖
IKR
Thank you, Megan ❤️
Nothing takes so much courage as confessing to all the world the faults of another person.
What was she confessing exactly??
Agreed. It was sarcasm.
B. Alexander She was confessing the faults of her ex-husband.
What. No. I was the one who first made the point. Thank for agreeing with me.
Her ex is a meth head. What are you failing to process?
I’m so glad that I came across your video. My husband is doing the same things that your ex did. I’m moving out this coming June. I was staying with him for the kids and realized is affecting the kids more then helping them. He is never around
Sierra Brown u WILL be fine!!!!!!! I cannot emphasize that enough...not that it’s easy, but somehow we mommas get ourselves together & take care of business. Just know that u aren’t going thru it alone...u may want to find some other single moms that can support each other. Best of luck to u. Saying a prayer for u now...
Noo... Plz sis dont do that..
i dont have any explanation for your matter... But its gonna affects alot to the children..
Good for you! ❤
Maybe he wants you out. Its all a master strategy game to get his karen wife to leave on her own.
100% the Dad was the actual victim
OK
lol
Yeah, 'cause she FORCED him to take meth. ...Right.
she wouldn't swallow?
lol you guys are so dumb hahahaha men like you should just stay single
Laura York With turds like you floating around Laura, how is staying single that bad a choice ?
The love for this drug is not something you learn about in class. I lost my first wife to this drug. You're blessed to have survived with your kids and life intact. Keep your head up.
asafegous damn c hope you’re doing well and prayers for everyone involved
My wife is dead due to this drug.
Why is this on all my related videos when what I watch is mostly makeup tutorials and music videos? Like just how much are you paying to promote a video of you telling your life story in such explicit details???
I finally clicked thinking it was gonna be a fake funny vid but no it's some 30 minute long train of thought by a woman I have no idea about.
Me too! Seriously, why the fuck does this keep popping up in my recommended videos?? I think this is sort of pathetic, tbh.
this is fucking BS. like yeha you're crying and shit. but aint nobody got time for this shit.
You idiots obviously have no compassion and no sympathy for others. How sad that we have gutless, ruthless, pricks such as yourselves in this world. If you would have spent two damn minutes to watch the video you would have heard her reason for the video. She does it to inform others of her situation, what she went through, her story. She says she wants to empower women and if they are going through the same type of problem see how she dealt with it. Get your heads out of your asses and be more compassionate! If you didn't want to watch it then you shouldn't have watched it. Don't be a heartless asshole and post on here how she's whining and how pathetic you think it is. You're pathetic for not seeing the beauty and strength in this video.
i would read that, but NOBODY CARES
vermon1112
I have compassion and sympathy, but not for someone who is literally paying money to have a video of them crying for attention pop up in everyone's YT feed. She is fake as fuck.
Never stay with liars, cheaters or abusive people, but most important
Don’t be one😝
Very well said
Shibli Rahat lol what? 😂
Why do you think that?
@@shiblirahat111 that’s me except broke , thank god I’m not down baf
@@shiblirahat111 he is a good man and holy
Never judge a story based on one side, how about that
As a child who had a father with a substance abuse problem, know you did do the right thing. Your children will thank you at some point. I have thanked my mother for getting me away from that. I'm so sorry you are going through this, but you are right! There is a light. Keep making your way towards it. Lots of love and prayers for your family.
True. Children deserve better than to be codependent with a drug user, even if it is a parent.
I thank your mom for leaving my dad does Crack he has my whole life I'm 16 and I have older sisters the oldest is about to turn 24 and I'm old enough to know now my mom will never leave my "father".
Since you are 16 if there is someone whilling to help support you and allow you to go to school you have the option of emancipation also. Remeber you have the power to make your own choices and to not follow your parents path.
How do I make RUclips not recommend videos like this one to me?
it's simple -- u just e-mail youtube@internet.com and ask to be removed.
When you put your mouse cursor on the title, 3 dots appear on the right, click on that and then click on not interested.
Thumbs down a video and videos like it won't be recommeded as much.
Yes, please make it stop.
Yea same
It's 2019 and this popped up in my recommendations
This so very sad.
I feel so bad for this young woman and her family.
I feel her paid.
I know that things will get better for and your family.
Focus on your children.
They are truly gifts sent to us to cherish.
The poor father is also having a difficult journey.
You will be in my thoughts.
And
You WILL get through this.
The father is not poor, he is a cheating bastard and deserves hell.
Just popped up in mine too. Wonder why so many people now..
Same here..Germany.
For once I don't mind saying me too! Became a cocaine dealer after losing his day job, that was the end of my being a stay at home mother, got a great job and 6 months later divorce. My 2 sons were 7 & 9 y/o and have a very troubled relationship with their father who is now dying of cancer.... should have known when he wouldn't change diapers, push a stroller or put a baby in the backpack. He didn't want to pay child support either. I so feel your pain Mama. I hope life is much much better for you. Sending you all big love.
Your story resonated with me. My son's father is an alcoholic and he won't even consider going to rehab. He also has bipolar type 1 and won't take meds and won't go to therapy. Sometimes even though it hurts we know we have to let them go. I felt this. He was also verbally, emotionally and physically abusive throughout our 3-year relationship. Our son is 1 year old now but I left his father when he was two weeks old. I knew I couldn't live that way anymore and I wasn't going to allow my son to grow up like that.
You are strong mama, you're boys are lucky to have you! Hugs!
***** You're right. They would be lucky to have their father. Too bad he made poor decisions and is no longer the type of person that deserves to be a part of his children's lives. I hope that he can turn his life around for their sake but I doubt it.
So sorry Jeni. Don't ever beat yourself up for missing signs. I was a meth addict and hid it from all of my loves ones. I have a video up on my channel titled "the truth not suitable for children" where I finally broke my silence about my past drug abuse. You absolutely did the right thing. I hope for his sake, your sake, and your boys sake that he can turn it around and have a good outcome. I have seen what meth can do as I lived it myself, and have seen many marriages fail for that exact reason. I have also lost loved ones to it. Again I am so sorry that you had to go through that all.
Your story really moved me!
I commented with predictive text haha didn't work well. Thank you for sharing xoxoxox
Why is this weeping woman being recommended to me every single day i turn on RUclips??Why???I dont care about a divorce and i dont want to know.Please leave me alone
*****
Good tip, just so weird that a 3 year old video keeps popping up on everyone's channel
Try removing it from your history .
Googles AI has turned into a weeping woman.
I see it because I watch a lot of videos "how to" and "why" stuff. Her title has why in it.
OMG >)
You’re a sweet, pretty, intelligent woman; the whole package. I can’t understand how he would let you go, much less not being there for his children.
I was thinking the same, but couldn’t word it as well as you have.
Yeah. Because the face they show on camera is the real them.
Because you only see one side of the story
You got all that from 1 single RUclips video? It takes years to really know a Person. I’m sorry but no one could tell anything from a single video. You’d be surprised at how fair people can be on RUclips and Facebook.
This video is almost 5 years old and it randomly showed up in my feed. We all have a story to tell. My marriage was brutal. Thanks for telling your story.
why is there so much hate in the comments? I don't understand
Yea I shouldn't be surprised... but yet still disappointed at how much hate is in the comments...
Me neither /:
because this woman's is trying to profit off suckers who view her vids, did you look at the video description? Its full of ad/paid promo links. She is trying to make a sucker out you and profit off it.
Found the broke guy who can't get a girlfriend!
The power of the paid promotion... but also the weakness of the paid promotion, since many to whom it was recommended didnt seem to want to see it, and in fact left an incredible amount of hate filled comments lol. They gotta work on the paid promotion... or maybe shes just gotta spend more haha.
I was with my ex-husband for 14 years. We had three amazing children together. He battled addiction and alcoholism off and on during our entire relationship. I tried so many ways to help him and to save our family. He did not want to change. They have to be the ones who want to change for themselves. You did the right thing by leaving. I wish I had ended my marriage sooner. I never thought I'd feel that way. I thought we'd be together forever. I loved him and watched the person I cared so much about completely disappear. It got so bad at the end that he tried to kill me and kill himself twice in front of my children. I brought that up during our divorce hearing. The judge asked him if he had anything to say in defense of himself on that. He simply said "no". I thought for sure he would deny it or at least try to make an excuse for it, but there was just nothing he could say. I was being honest. The judge gave me sole custody of the kids and said he could only see the kids at my discretion. He has not even asked how they were doing, much less tried to see them. He does not pay his child support. He got a job working under the table to avoid that and feed his habits. Sadly, he went to worse drugs. He drank beer, snorted pain pills and did cocaine while we were together. I recently found out that he moved on to heroin. It makes me sad for the life he chose. It makes me sad that addiction took over and stole him from our children. Sometimes leaving is the best thing. You're in my prayers. Stay strong sweetie.
+MikePeterson Who exactly should be taking this pill? My children were born by choice in a loving marriage. When my husband got caught up with partying with his friends and became an addict it changed everything about him. Not just with me and his children. Even his parents that were fighting cancer, it destroyed their relationship. Having children does not make someone act that way.
so people are brave for being with some idiot and even when they know they will not change still be with them?? people call that brave??? wow what a bunch of idiots to think that.. brave is the women or men who think of themselves first and leave those idiots.. those who do that are the brave ones and smart ones...
She is a disgrace to her husband proverbs 12:4 He got rid of her according to the bible Proverbs 21:19 The bible has warned men about evil females Proverbs 25:24 We can only hope she is damned to HELL !
Some Men is waste of time. The mentality is like, a street dog you take home from the street. You watch it and clean it. And what does it do? It goes back to the street, and role it self in to dirt again.
key word "take it correctly." I took birth control correctly for years and never got pregnant. My mom, on the other hand, got pregnant twice after "taking it correctly." -.-
I am currently divorcing my wife who i found out is a covert narcissist. It wasn't my fault and it wasn't your fault either. You are an amazing, beautiful woman. His loss.
I need to hear his side of the story.
Best comment ever.
Dom Dominick no it's always mans fault!!
God that was like ripping skin off my arm for fun. I don't know how i got conned into watching this video. But once it started i just wanted to find out what drug he was on.Took her 15 minutes to say meth. Longest clickbait life waste. She clearly wrote this beforehand and really thought how can i keep as many details out of this as possible...but belittle my ex as much as i can to validate my life. She may even be justified, but without this martyr's back story it just sounds like narcissim. Also youtube...you never were awesome but throwing this crap into my list...pretty low youtube pretty low.
Dom Dominick id like to hear from the good guys that single mom here pushed to the curb before she choose this looser.
acornbrew my thoughts exactly. she'll be on Oprah with a best seller one day
It's always ok to leave, we don't have to stay with abusers. "What's love but a second hand emotion?" - TIna Turner
Been seeing this for a week now finally decided to watch it..I hope u are doing well..be strong..
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Yeah your only about 4 years to late. Pmsl.
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@B AA keep it that way until GOD blesses you
@B AA I still will pray for those broken women and miserable women that they find GOD and know what true love is. God bless you and have a happy Sunday.
I feel a bit sad about the attitude of divorce indisciplined men pose. I need a serious relationship and I pray that I live forever with whoever she may be
It's like the person you love and the father of your children is dead, yet he's still around. Like a zombie with a mean spirit. No job yet he colors in his adult coloring books. I truly understand the heartache. As his mother it breaks my heart!
Wow omg so sorry to hear this.. I'm sure hes not a badd person I'm sure hes just addicted to drugs.. It's a vicious cycle Alanon meetings are very helpful for family and friends of any type of addict alcoholic or other... Really helps to allow us to Detach with love.. The more he is enabled by anyone the more chances he will stay the way he is... It's our job as the sober person to understand what we are doing that enables the behavior... Al anon is free in every state of the world... The meetings are free and there is no dues for membership but what you do get out of the program will help change your life forever and free you from the pain of another's addiction... Much love to you
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@@realking9866 It's one year on. Any luck?
Baby girl, divorce is NOT easy. Look after yourself. You deserve stability and love again.
Iona G two sides to every story. She may deserve jail. She might deserve a presidential medal. Being deserving is not a good way to encourage good responsible behaviour. (Psychologist). That’s my experience of 15 years.
@Andres Larsson ummm she bailed him out of debt dumbass. She was working idiot
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Gentlemen,
When you've got a good woman, don't fuck it up. Work it out!
+atlg8or6137 Amen to that. I'm 29 and after a divorce and dozens of tumultuous, failed relationships I've found a good woman. I'm going to do everything in my power to keep her and treat her right. They are almost impossible to find these days.
+atlg8or6137 Easier said than done brother...What does "work it out" even mean? Do you know what that means? I don't. I do understand why my divorce happened and it was through reading and learning that I determined why it failed and why marriages fail. It's deeper than "your marriage just needs work." SOOOOOOO much deeper.
+ReticentIndignation Every situation is different. SOME men take their relationships for granted, and think that the grass is always greener on the other side. It's rarely the case.
If your situation was different, then take my comment as not applying to you.
atlg8or6137 All the work in the world isn't going to change the other person or their mind is all I'm saying. It isn't that easy. It isn't always the man fucking it up either. I had what I thought was a good woman at one point...maybe she still is.
xc I
He didn't make enough money huh? Money that he made was "missing"? Terrible husband! He had a hobby and did not do what you wanted all the time? Terrible husband! "Such a jerk".
What the hell, I'm in 2019 and i NOW see this?
*WELL UR THE ONE WHO FREAKIN WATCHED IT,AND DONT SAY"U WATCHED IT TOO U WANNA KNOW WHY? BECAUSE I CAN*
@THANATOS FANATICOS dude i'm just pointing out how i'm getting a recommendation for a video that was years ago, there is literally no reason to get mad here, MATE.
lol Lolo *what is making you so ragey*
@@zeneca9232 just kids who don't belong here (the Internet)
Yeah, lol. :)
I have never commented on a RUclips video before, but felt compelled as I have experienced being in a relationship with an addict, and 11 years later, though we are no longer together and he's lost his friends and family and countless other things, he still cannot quit slowly killing himself. I would just like to say it does get easier and leaving him and contacting his family was the right thing to do. All you can do is offer your help- but it's up to him to take it. The person who commented (Marcin O) saying that you don't "loose" someone to drugs/alcohol, has obviously never gone through this type of situation and is absolutely wrong in saying what he (she?) said. Addiction is so much stronger than you think it is. It has more control over the addict than anything or anyone. All logic, all rationality, all reason, all people, all things of significance and importance are out of play. The addiction completely takes over the addicts' life. So saying that someone may not have had a strong enough relationship is completely irrelevant; because once they jump into this heavy currant river, it is indescribably difficult to attempt to help them out of it, regardless of what kind of relationship you had with this person. The relationship with drugs is more powerful. You are trying to swim up stream while carrying another person who is swimming in the opposite direction. The difference between the pull of a relationship and the pull of drugs is that drugs physically affect you; whereas a relationship is more of a connection of the mind and emotions. Though a strong relationship with someone can be powerful, the relationship with drugs can be stronger because it gains control of your mind, emotions, and your physical body. They begin to physically need the drug, like one physically needs water. EVERYTHING becomes secondary to the addiction.
You have done the right thing. You cannot help someone who does not want to be helped. I hope your ex can one day accept the help that is offered to him.
This is so well-said, samantha, it deserves 1000 upvotes! It's almost unbelievable there are people out there like Marcin O. who believe you can love someone enough so they never do anything hurtful. There are so many things wrong with that idea, starting with the astounding assumption that people NEVER change. No matter how much love and understanding and communication and work someone puts into a relationship, it's still possible that the other person will slowly start to perceive going home and doing the same thing "monotonous" and conclude the only way to relieve their boredom is to try new and possibly dangerous things. Blaming the victim for this is so reprehensible it makes my blood boil.
You have no makeup, your hair is a mess and you try to fix it with a pen, a very casual dress, crying,.............................. But you still look very BEAUTIFUL. Because you are a GENUINE person. A Pure, Honest, Brave, Kind, Real,................................ woman! I have lots of respect for you. Thanks for your GREAT video. I Subscribed. Love you, sister
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KENELY GAMING no
NO HATE ThO
@Lala lalala your a dumb ass, maybe meth head also
@Lala lalala Your comment made me sad.... you sound cold, bitter, hateful, and misogynistic (and I don't know if you're male or female). You're judgemental and critical not only of this girl who is having a difficult time realizing that her dream family is now shattered, but of women in general. Sounds like you have a cold heart.🖤
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Poor lady. May you find joy and peace and be blessed and increased. May you be protected from evil and guarded by angels of the heavenly courts that exceed in strength.
So we as a society have reached a point where airing our dirty laundry for the world to see is somehow respected, encouraged and accepted?
Apparently it was about the same time when anonymously attacking someone on the internet was accepted. Beam and mote. Just sayin.
ScorpTac good one!
ScorpTac If you took my comment as an "attack" then your comprehension skills need improvement. Judging her for airing her families dirty laundry where her husbands family, her family, her kids friends, friends of friends etc can see? Yes
Either way it's still an attack. When people take part in behavior s that cause hurt or trauma they need to be prepared for the consequences that come with that. She is doing nothing wrong by sharing her experience. Unfortunately that is going to include other people. Why should she be silenced. If you don't like what she's saying don't watch.
chaosvixenxoxo I agree. I think she's incredibly brave for being vulnerable and sharing her story, but there are times that she crosses the line into being too personal. Anyone can watch this… ANYONE. You have to remember that a) she's talking about real people and they deserve some degree of privacy, and b) you have to be safe on the internet. So I do agree with you, to an extent. At the same time, I feel for her and I wish her the best. Divorce is never easy.
This video is 5 years old, but I hope you found happiness & someone to love you unconditionally, the way you deserve! God Bless!❤❤
"Unconditionally"... "The way you deserve" - Contradiction at it's finest.
@@retiredtidepodeater3339 Pure facts.
Stuff love is what you have to do in order to protect yourself and your children.
@@TR-Creations .
there is no "unconditional" love.
I am going through a Divorce and typed in Divorce Vlog when I ran across this...Sweetheart I am so sorry, I have tears in my eyes for you as I watch and type this . When you loose someone to addiction, it's worse than loosing them to death because of the vicious cycle of having your heart ripped out of your chest repeatedly. I left someone that I almost married because he chose addiction over being in mine and not what still keeps you up at night... I pray for your ex husband, that he doesn't loose sight of why he call his self a man and he gets sober for his self and your kids... Wipe your eyes love, God has a plan... Always remember that...
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I'm sorry. Hopefully your better by now. Time heals. I was him. I understand everything you said. I lost a career due to an injury and spiralled into drugs. My wife divorced me in 2010. A strange thing happened then. I missed my family more than the drinking, more than the drugs. It wasn't easy . I wish it had been,but it wasn't. I cleaned myself up. Started talking to my wife every now and then. She started dating again. Not easy for me to deal with. But slowly over time. Things became better. We talked more. Hung out a little bit more and more. She said the old me felt like he was back. I haven't had a drink or drugs in 8 years. We remarried and life is back to normal. Maybe even better. So I get you and your story. Rehab is not for people who need help, it for people who want help. Not sure how I came across this. But I felt compelled to say either way life can get better. Thanks for your story.
You did great.
Who gives a shit, ya drama queens
Another idiot person
Kendalika, After much soul searching and walking to the top of a mountain to do some contemplation, I have reached the conclusion I still don't give a shit.
People who air their dirty laundry in public are attention seekers and fake.
Kendalika I would like to Kindalika you but you have a real foul mouth lol
Kendalika, Its not hate, I was just joking but at the same time people with problems should confide in their friends or family if they need to, a public forum like this is not the place to do it, any way I wish you , this woman and every one else all best
I felt you when you said "he chose the substance over his family" that opened an old wound, with my dad.
your story strikes deep into my heart! May God bestow enough strength to cope up with the sufferings that you had gobe through.
I hope you're in a better off position now. May God rekindle you with his blessings to lead a happy life !!
Like they say in the rooms, they live to use and use to live. They put the substance over their own families. Nothing is more important to them than their next fix. This is true even with alcoholics.
Same. Severe.
Going through the same I asked for divorce if he didn’t want to leave the alcohol he chooses to leave me.
This was such a hard video for her to make... And I'm crying for her reading these comments from asshole trolls just being so mean to her.. God bless you girl
bitch please. im not even gonna capitalize im sooooo beside myself. buahhaha!!!
I find it sexual arousing when I see females crying.
You're a maniac.
When you sit here and have emotions over some random ass person on the internet that you've never known, never seen, and never talked to and you sit here and cry about it - you're probably some crazy, emotional, psycho bitch such as this lady in the video. No wonder you like her, you are just like her. So just like her, fuck off.
Sweetheart, I guarantee when you’re both in your 60s you’ll be so glad you’re not having to change his diapers.
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why you tube said i wanna watch such videos?
Based on what you previously have watched?
If it isn't you can correct RUclips by saying you aren't interested.
so i watch strategy game lets plays. Maybe You tube thinks divorce is a strategy game? Oki i look how to tell YT what i like watching then, thx for the tip
IIIspirit No, RUclips doesn't think a strategy game is the same. Press "not interested" and "tell us why" and it will tell you what video triggered this.
hey great found the button. Interestingly there was no other video shown that relates, so maybe google tries something out on this one.
google has been testing new software.. same with google maps, if it doesn't have enough data on certain areas, it will take you through those areas to get more information even though it's not the fastest route. they are trying to see if people will notice and if they can change what people watch/are interested in. Same with facebook and twitter.
People act like divorce is such a bad thing. Marriage is just a relationship. Some relationships work out and some don't.
Drug addiction is a serious thing. I grew up as a child in a similar story where my mother was also married to someone that had developed a drug addiction and she did struggle after she left. She focused on her kids and all of her children including myself are great people with good careers. You will find love again and if you focus on your children they also may have a great chance on making good choices in life. As for the person that is the drug addict. you must be a distant support system so that they can have the reason "Why" they want to become addicted free.
Well, that's kind of the problem actually. We live in a society full of people who think that just because divorcing is doable that it's completely ok to just marry and divorce whoever whenever. That's not really what it's for. In a situation like this, obviously it's better to just make a break and move on, but like abortion not being birth control, divorce isn't your safety net for marriage.
No one said anything about a safety net. Personal happiness is above all else in my opinion. This situation of course is different but every relationship has it's circumstances. So I don't see a problem with divorce. It's just a break up on paper.
Ansar Andino If there are kids involved they usually don't see it that way.
No see marriage is suppose to more than a BG or gf. It's suppose to be for better or for worse. But you also have to really KNOW who u are marrying cuz it's suppose to be one person forever.
You cant save a person who doesn't want to be saved...sad but true
sunflowerist
I so needed to hear this - Thank You 😘😘😘😘
U cant save a person period ! They have to save themselves !
sunflowerist hello you look familiar
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It is Jan.7, 2020...I don't know why I clicked on this, but know you ABSOLUTELY succeeded in helping someone...me, and in a completely different way. Thank you. I will probably never actually know you, but I owe everything to you and to God for me clicking when I normally wouldn't.
I love this ❤️
I don't even know what you gained, but I know exactly what you mean!
Why are people blaming this lady and calling her names???? Can you imagine what she went through? there is 2 sides to every story, but still- she is so brave. Hang in there love.
No we don't know what she went through because we weren't there. We don't know any side to the story except hers and he's not making a spectacle of himself on RUclips about the divorce, she is. That shows a level of self-absorption on her part because she is airing her dirty laundry not him. Did any of you ever stop to think the type of person that broadcasts this type of very private family issue is an attention seeker exhibiting attention seeking behavior? It's a trait most "infuencers" on RUclips share. We don't really know a thing about their relationship or if what she is saying has a single grain of truth to it. Many of you are simply making the assumption her husband is a villain and she is blameless. That's an awfully big assumption to make based only on the word of somebody you don't know and have never met. I keep hearing her supporters mentioning she's pretty. Wtf does that have to do with anything? If she was ugly would that somehow make her less credible? Guys in this thread are simply whiteknighting her because they find her attractive and women whiteknighting her are either disgruntled divorcees themselves who have a clear gender bias when it comes to exes or feminazis (radical feminists) who operate under the automatic assumption all men are bad and liars and all women are good and 100% honest.
@@philosoraptor2285 I respectfully disagree.
Your assumption that all influencers are self absorbed and attention seeking is unfounded; some of them may be, but even that isn't a reason to shun someone sharing their story. Moreover, people showing her compassion are "whiteknighting"? People can't just be nice and extend her compassion for no reason, in your opinion?
Some people choose to talk to heal, and she happened to have a platform and use it- I personally don't see the harm in it. Choosing to be kind instead of being vitriolic is the approach I decide to take when strangers are sharing their struggles, and that is what I will personally stick with.
You are fully entitled to your opinion.
I don't know why this was recommended to me... but I watched the whole thing. Sad. Hope you're both fine now.
Thank you for sharing your story which takes alot of courage. Do not beat yourself up too much about not seeing "the signs" of drug abuse. I did meth from early teens until i was 22. With that being said it would be difficult for my wife to use meth and me not know. Well i was definitely wrong because my ex wife used meth for years and one night she left with our teenage daughters. In January it will be five years since she left me for her dealer. I am still having a hard time knowing that she chose meth after our 19 yrs together and the luxury of all the material things we had. I quit meth when i met her and she hid her addiction well. I know its not my fault but yet i still think where did i go wrong.
Your a very strong and beautiful young woman and i wish you the best, thank you again for sharing atleast i know i am not alone.
Choop you also show courage sharing your story. sorry to hear that this happened to you, it is definitely not your fault. sending positive vibes your way.
Nicole Miccolis Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your story!
Thanks for being brave enough to share this story;'(
plz get back ur daughters from her as they r not safe with her at this stage if she continues taking... this stuff plz save them n ur wife if u can don't leave them on their own
*It's 2020. I just came by to drop a word of support for you and your journey and your decision. I have 100% empathy and respect for your decision and your circumstances. I think you did the best, most loving and selfless things for your family - both your ex and your children - throughout this whole situation.*
*I am embarrassed for our species by the cheap hit piece video/s criticizing you a while back; by far some of the most misogynistic, ignorant, disgusting, ridiculous, vile sentiments I have ever seen. You deserved the opposite energy sent your way, so I am really sorry that happened, and I hope you and your family are well and healing and on your way to thriving in spite of everything.*
*ps - RUclips should be embarrassed to have stuff of that magnitude of misogyny and ignorance on their platform. Anyway, sending love and positive energy your way. Best wishes to you.*
You have way too many doors behind you.
Loool
+Terrance Smith xD
+Terrance Smith I don't even know how I came across this video but I'm glad I did because of this comment. hahahahahahahahahahha
+lady kay and may I add they are really nice looking doors, as doors go.
+Terrance Smith lol! I thought that was some deep metaphorical comment about lost opportunities.
I'm sorry to find out this is the reason for your divorce. I have family (sister & brother) who got heavily addicted to meth. One thing I wanted to point out and I know you said you don't have alot of knowledge on this topic but is not a choice. He didn't chose the drug over his family. He was addicted and addiction is a powerful powerful thing. Once a person is addicted they have no control over anything. They can't logically or willingly make decisions in their lives. I'm curious did he ever go to rehab? Did his family and yours try an intervention like thing where everybody came together to help him? Is he still addicted?
It was a choice and he did choose drugs over his family. People make choices not the drugs. He made the choice to get involved with them in the beginning, if it's something you have to hide from your family than you know from the start it's not right.
angelfacemoma I think all drugs are different and Meth is a particularly nasty one - it seems to totally destroy people. They effectively become the drug. It's incredibly sad.
Ummmm he chose to take the drug in the first place. He chose not to get help.
Yea he chose to do it the first time however nobody knows why. And all it takes is 1 time. Meth takes over. And like I said above the person doesn't have control over anything. Especially decisions. And getting help is the hardest thing to do. You have to really understand addiction to understand the thoughts in someone's mind and actions they do.
I guess. I suppose it's hard to understand, especially when you've lived with someone who has been addicted to something. I still wouldn't go as far as to say they can't help it.
I'm watching in 2019. Being a woman who lost the man I love to Alcohol... even though he is passed out on the couch now.
Addiction is Evil. I've never not known alcoholism and drug addiction around me.
It IS ok to Leave. You do not sound like someone who is looking for anything but for him to be a better person.
It's unfortunate. I've spent the better part of 20 years in a battle with Budweiser... that, once I decided I can't win. I've stopped Fighting it. Live together, no kids, Love him Dearly. But, I ONLY have Myself to worry about.
People who do not understand addiction, will bash you. Stay Strong.
That's so true & so brave of you to share! Stay strong & diligent!❤
Same here my husband is addicted to bud light and I feel so sad most of the time because i feel alone and i shouldn't feel alone if hes my husband sometimes he talks to me sometimes he dosent he deinks every day and I feel like i have to walk on egg shells around him he gets angry if i tell him to please drink less get help its no use 😭😭 how can I leave a man that I love how can I fight this
addiction is so terribly real, hopefully one day he realizes alcohol is a shitty drug and stops drinking. its literally paying good money to poison yourself, huge waste.
@@stenyguzman2125 The Only thing you can do is find strength for YOU. I am in no danger. And, there are no children in my home. For me, it is a decision to stay, ALANON is a good place, if that is an option. However... if you or children are unsafe... That changes things Greatly. My son is well over 20, things only got BAD in the past several years... My life started with alcoholic parents... I was Determined to At Least give my son Better than that. And, in those years... things were better. Once there was no child home... All limits were blown out.
@@stenyguzman2125 nothing will change until you change them. Take a stand, enough is enough! Life is too short to not live it. Put God in the middle, pray for your husband & ask God for the strength to conquer this. HE can & will make things hapoen. Know your worth! You deserve to be happy just as much as anyone else. Take a stand & fight for your happiness!! ❤
I am so very sorry that you had to experience this. He is sick, and has almost no control over the addiction. I lost my brother to alcoholism. Even knowing it was killing him, he could not stop. You are absolutely beautiful and obviously very strong to be able to share a very painful thing in life. God bless you and yours.
I'm very sorry that you lost your brother. My son's father is an alcoholic and I'm pretty sure there's something wrong with his liver and he knows he needs to stop but I don't think he ever will. I don't think I'll ever live to see the day he gets clean and sober and I've accepted that. That's a huge part of the reason we are no longer together. He has many demons that I can't help him fight anymore. It's up to him whether or not he wants to stop and get help but I'm not going to be along for the ride anymore.
I've seen crazy before, don't need to see it again.
You know that's right. Hope it didn't cost you too much figuring it out.
CRAZY married me and said I drank too much. I met CRAZY in a bar, go figure... She said I pressured her for sex, but we were celibate before marriage. I coulda hit it if I wanted, but I didn't out of respect for her father as we were at her home.
rtrain67 I've been in so many relationships with women and the one thing that I have learned (if anything) is that most of them are full of shit, (and I'm sure this woman is no exception to that rule) I'm sure if her "ex" could give his side of the story it would paint a more lucid picture. The fact that she's disrespecting her "ex" by publicly airing their dirty laundry here on Youtub and engaging in this poor me victim porn only underscores her cuntyness. Her ex should think of their divorce as a blessing.
She did that guy the biggest favor leaving him.
rtrain67 Aye, once is enough.
FFwd to 13:12 she STARTS to tell WHY. @
14:18 she says WHY.
#meth
You're the real MVP. Never change. Lol
Thanks
Not all heroes wear cape
Thanks, we care about the her story but I also need to get in the shower.
Thank you!!!! Lmao!!!
April anyone? 💀
2019
Yep
Baby Yazzy 😂🙋🏻♀️
Yes me!
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Can I have an upgrade now after 6 years??!!
Tell me you got married again, having kids and a beautiful house wit a backyard full of flowers!!!
I'm here policing comments, making sure no one is being rude ;) to my soulmate friend, and I'm so happy to see the support :) I think this will help you too, to see that you aren't alone, as well as others to see that they aren't alone.
Why in the fuck was this recommended for me?
I'm literally going to scour law books for case file/ precedence on whether or not i can sue her ass! This was an egregious waste of time and has emotionally damaged me forever, just to know that people like her exist makes me suicidal! I am not living in the same world as this fucking mess of a human being. And she's raising kids?? Ohhh HELLLL NAW! This shit needs to be stopped:) lmao.............
I'm wondering the exact same thing.
You're probably typing the word marriage more often on RUclips ;)
I'm not married or divorced - and have never taken meth in my life :D.
Same here
You made the right decision. You did the right thing. I just hope the next time somebody decides to sell drugs to another human being they think about the destruction that is caused in their life and their families. I wish you all the best.
Willisa Rivers you have no clue what your talking about. My 24 year old son died from a METH overdose very recently. When you understand the addiction disease then give your opinion, till then get educated and go through what this woman and myself have, then judge us.
Willisa Rivers yes she left him during a hard time in his life bit do you not think she was going through stuff too? It doesn't seem like he wants to put enough effort into getting better. It is hard to recover from a drug especially something as addictive as meth. If he did recover there is a high chance that he will start using again or even start using other drugs. It was his decision to start using, his decision to blow all their money on drugs, and his decision to treat his family like crap (effect from the drugs he chose to use). If she didn't leave him she could suffer for years and years because of his decisions. They could end up losing everything, his young children would have to grow up watching their dad ruin his life, his children will have drugs in their house they might find and start using at an even younger age which could ruin their lives even more than their father's. Even growing up watching their dad could traumatize them, cause depression, and cause them to do bad in school. She did the right thing for herself but more importantly for their children. I'm sure she still loves him and wants what's best for him and she will probably be there for him whenever he needs help. And personally as long as he doing drugs like that he should have no right to see his children.
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@@joshuafalade4754 Thank you for sharing your wisdom and advice. But this is not our case. We don't have problems with infidelity. We both have access on our phones and emails. Our problem is I guess culture differences, so different point of views, personalities, etc.. which leads to big fights. Hmm we should be able to figure out what is best for us. Glad to hear you are happy and doing now. I wish you a wonderful day.
i feel for both parties in this video but that doesn’t mean anyone has the right to attack this woman for protecting herself, her financial assets and her children. the comments are so sickening. i know its youtube and youtube is a fucking cesspool of hate but come on. "bros before hoes," right guys? grow the fuck up. i'm pretty sure we were all taught in kindergarten that the golden rule is "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all." is this woman hurting anyone? did she post pictures or videos of this man? no. she is not hurting anyone, she is venting and trying to share her story so that other people don't feel as alone. why do you feel personally attacked by this video?? also if this video would "not stop showing up in your recommendations" OH NO OH MY GOD NOOOOO all you have to do is click the vertical "..." to the side of the video and click "not interested." its not that hard.
We live in a critical world
That's..not..the golden rule. The golden rule is "Treat others how you want to be treated."
Bob Loblaw ...nope!! She is HELPING people!! Like me!!!! She is allowed to "air out" that "dirty laundrey" that she did not create
Bob Loblaw I agree, we are all entitled to our own opinions. Some may want her to take this down just because of the reasons you've stated, but in other cases, we find things helpful. We find that we are not alone thru this lady's divorce journey.
Dulce Amor Gamez
2014 popped up on my feed. Well hoping you are all better. It’s June 2019
Why did I click this? Nine months old Don't really care.
Same. Weird. Hope she's doing better. Seems like a genuine sweet lady ❤
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JULY **
On today's episode of *WHY TF THIS IS IN MY RECOMENDATIONS* ....
PrigreysiousOP94 same I found this searching ssundee wtf
ShadowWarrior& Shockwave same
@@shadowwarriorshockwave3281 Probably because of the new algorithm that youtube is messing with that is supposed to get you to watch things outside your regular feed. I was watching comic con panels that I had missed because they had been taken down and uploaded again.
@@dcworld4349 yeah I was watching UFO videos and then boom, weird!
Anonymity Jones found some good ones?
I’m thinking about getting divorced as well. My wife likes to spend time with her guy friend and stay overnight at his place. She keeps saying “we’re just friends”. Either get use to it and be a man. So now I’ve been suppressing this emotion and trying to be okay with all of this... but now, I think it’s time to make the move.
Run!!!!!
@@nervotica7991 hope they don’t have kids, but for sure he needs to dump her and her male “friend”
Dump the bitch! She’s sleeping with him. Face up to it!
Pretend that you are also sleeping over your female friend and tell her that you both are only friends. She'll die on the inside.
Can you please do an update for all of us that had this randomly pop up in our feed April/May 2019?! 🙏 I think it's safe to say we're all wondering. 🤔
I have to say I was glued. It takes a strong person to speak about the details of your own divorce. I'm divorced as well, (re-married now,) but I admire your strength to share your truth! 🙌💖💪
Ginger Ninja it popped up randomly for me as well blessings to everyone in life in general
If you search “CandidMommy Divorce” several other videos come up.
@@BLWSquared
Thanks for the advice. I couldn't wait for an update to never come so I actually flipped through her videos lol. She is so happy now! Great kids, great bf, great life. 😍
Ginger Ninja Thank you both ..definitely agree and will search for more. I have recently gotten braver on my RUclips spiritual reading channel and added a playlist of "Shanny Testifies" and speak on things like my sexual abuse story. Etc. It's helpful for us all to share whoever is willing. Blessings guys genuinely !
Yes please do!
*TL;DR Husband got into hardcore drugs after many years being together.*
Thank you! LOL
Thank you, capeless hero! I assume you are capeless, anyway. Joke aside, hardcore drugs are never fun for a partner or the family, must have sucked for her.
I dont blame him.
** Spoilers: ***
Meth.
+Thomas Armstrong why the tell would anyone make this up? For money? A story that could easily be proven to be a lie? Look at her reaction. She's genuine... if she was making this up she deserved an oscar... I don't understand why people even question this, honestly.
I listened to your story and my heart ached for you. I applaud your courage. Not only in getting away from him, but also posting this publicly and letting other women hear your story.
Emma Downey not just women, my father had to leave his ex and fight in court for my half sisters, for months. She got drunk, high, physically and verbally abused them, left them for hours on end (at ages of 7-8) to go to the pub and get drunk and bring strange men home, all while not allowing us to see my sisters and trying to get my father on some sort of scheduled visit. She had two more kids after leaving him just so she could get money from the government, but one of them was taken away and the other is with his father. I know you meant well and I'm not being a dick or anything, I just want to make it clear, it's really important to show that women are just as bad and that society shouldn't overlook it, because when it does overlook it people like my family get hurt.
Yep, even you talking about talking to your mom makes me cry. I always break down when I talk to my mom
I don't know if she's telling the truth or if it's a lie, or whatever the situation is honestly. But to read so many nasty comments from strangers that think it's normal or okay to say these types of things makes me pity how stressful or sad their lives must be. Happy people don't write rude/ nasty comments on the Internet. I hope all of you fix what's going on in your life, and stop writing such ugly things about another human
great comment kat.you are a sweety,no doubt.
Thank you, finally one comment that isn't like most of the comments here.
Excuse my gender..most are stupid, immature and selfish....
Yeah, that may be true but that is the ones MOST American women go for. You know the old story, nice guys finish last or never finish at all because MOST American women won't give them the time of day. So you then have women like this who get hurt. Don't feel sorry for this one either because its the SAME story with the SAME ending. Want to stop this? Stop marrying shitbags who treat women like crap.
I agree and it's very discouraging to see this much nastiness, but almost all the men in my life wether it's friends or family or whatever are really awesome. I just feel bad for women who don't have that in their life because comment sections like this could make people very jaded.
He worked 6-7 days a week, 13 hours a day..."money was tight".
Jesus, I'm stressed just hearing that.
Jackie Menschausen I worked full time, took care of the house... his money was his money and if I needed anything or spent my own money I was selfish ... turned out he had another girlfriend with s child for which I was duped into wrapping a present for... while I was pregnant... the day I caught him with the other woman, the first thing he told me is that I was selfish. There was just no going back after that. However, I spent the next five years dealing with accusations that I was keeping our child away from him despite agreeing to a generous visitation plan and honoring it, plus allowing him access to our child during ‘my legallly appointed parenting time’ pretty much every time he asked... only to have it used against me in court as though I was asking for him to take our child during my parenting time. Our son just turned 18 and that kind of shit never ended. I usually advise women to do it on their own or if a dude is absent... let him be and thank your lucky stars that you are not stuck dealing with someone whose parenting priority is to use the children to hurt you. I know a lot of men who do this... although women will do it to men as well... I just know more about the stories of men doing it to women as I have seen what they go through. My situation was nothing compared to what I’ve seen other women go through and for no real reason. If you feel you must share parenting with a man, take a long time to get to know him and do not ignore the signs. I was with mine for five years before I got pregnant and there were signs that he was not a good one to reproduce with and I ignored the signs. But I did not know the signs to look for... Ignorance rarely protects anyone from horrible long term consequences. Don’t expect people to simply do what is right and by all means don’t think the court system will protect you somehow... it does to a certain extent, but the courts can do nothing about a lot of the crap you will have to endure.
Jackie Menschausen wow, I hope this helps someone!
Brings back bad memories, doesn't it?
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Hello I stumbled on to your video for some reason....after watching the video I so know why I was sent here. Your story almost word for word could be mine 11 yrs ago.Except I have one son (now 20) I could talk with you for hours young Lady....but I will say one thing instead....YOU DID THE RIGHT THING, NEVER FORGET THIS, BELIEVE IT. I know we love this person and don't wish to rip our Kids lives apart, but the kids (and us Mommies) are in danger. I knew it was time to go when I had to sleep outside my son's bedroom door on the floor because I was so scared my Ex might mistake my son for an intruder in his paranoid state. Keep talking about it and loud and clear to anyone who will listen because it gets easier and less painful each time. I will be rooting for you and your kids....You are on the right Path, sincerely Lynne
I also came across this by "chance". There are no accidents!
Actually by God! ^ and by nothing else ❤️
It makes sense to live him,yes because of the drugs, yes. But if we hear the other side, who knows? But the drugs involved, no question about it. Run lady, Run! You n kids don't deserve that. That I understand.
Hi
Lynne N,hope you are with a good man!
I am watching this in December of 2019, and it really hurts to know that people choose drugs over people even over themselves, I am experiencing and struggling with my husband’s addiction and it feels horrible. How can I reach out to you?
I'm going through it with my wife and its tearing my heart out my chest...I dont know what to do anymore...I hate this so bad
Jimmy Shadow I am sorry you are going through this horrible pain, I know what you mean you probably want all the answers, but the only I can tell you it is that the only choice we have is keep going and take care of ourselves, keep loving your wife but take care of you and if you have children take care of those that are being affected by her addiction. May God gives us the strength that we need, and the wisdom to do what it is the best.
@@jshadowens1979 leave her
Psalm 34:18 New Living Translation (NLT)
18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted;
he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.
The Lord Jesus Christ wants to heal and restore you.
Amen 🙏
Amen!
God isn't real
🙏 Amen
@@ewanrodger4365 to you only
did u go to college, and have a degree? I know this is off subject just so at least I hope u know always have a back up plan if your a stay at home mom, for this alone. some girls just think everything is perfect things happen in life than have no experience in the world of working, so important to have a career.
I did and do. I also worked for the same Fortune 500 company for over 10 years prior to becoming a SAHM. Not as easy to just work with child care expenses but I am very fortunate that I do have all of that in my back pocket (-;
ok wow that's great than, yes and I only say because a lot of girls want to be stay at home moms and don't have anything to back themselves up and its just so important for there children. at least before being a stay at home mom
marie kr, it's completely fine to aspire to be stay at home mom and not have a degree, some husbands are trustworthy and are dependable.
ahh not in my books lmao. shows a lot when you accomplish getting a degree and about yourself as a person, if that's all u aspire to be you don't have many goals in life.sensing maybe u are? yikes lol
no I'm not, I do know so many amazing mothers who are and I'm a nanny and I will be staying home with my kids when I have them. Being at home with your children isn't a good aspiration? Really? Hmmm- well let's think about that, don't mothers generally spend their days nurturing, teaching and raising their child/ren to be productive members of society? Seems like those children would have a different opinion about your comments about their mothers who "don't have many goals in life", I appreciate my mom who unselfishly made sacrifices to be home with my me and my siblings all day everyday.
So what's his side of the story?
He doesn't get one obviously. Typical Self entitled American woman.
Just another liberal propaganda to show that marriage is not good!
This video is so American
+ginson1012 I don't know what the means. If it's what I think it means then I agree
im so here for that as well
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry you and your family went through all of that pain. I’m currently going through this with my wife. We have 3 boys together and one day she just got up and left the boys and I. Causing me to quit my job and be a stay at home father. In the beginning she claimed she left because of me and convinced everyone that’s why she took off. I was devastated because she moved right in with some guy. I had suspicions that it was because of drugs. She even told me that she loved him and has seen the boys maybe 16 days in 10 months. A few months ago she admitted she was on meth and now she is saying the drugs have a grip on her. I’ve kept my vows to her and this marriage this whole time. I’m a Christian. She is now saying she wants to be my wife again and wants her family back but she isn’t doing anything to prove that. She’s cried to me and said how much she wants to stop many times but still there is no movement. They are both drug addicts and have nowhere to live. They sleep at hotels and in her car at times. I don’t enable her by any means. I did start the divorce but letting go is still hard because I have this little hope that she will stop the drugs and get clean. Ive learned she needs to want that change. I don’t let her come around our boys because I don’t want anyone on drugs around this family. I explained to her that I would hope she would do the same for me if she was in my position. She’s missed birthdays and our oldest sons first day of school. Slowly I’m gaining the strength and courage to follow through with this divorce, but letting go is the hard part. Despite all of the damage she has caused, I still love that woman unconditionally. Maybe it’s because the thought of starting over or who would ever want to take the responsibility of being a step mother to 3 boys. She took my pride, heart, and confidence when she abandoned us. I have been working on myself and I am feeling better. The pain i have for my boys is unbearable at times. Especially when they ask about her. I wish this pain and devastation on no one. Your video gave me some light in my life and thank you. I tried finding your email but I couldn’t find it. I’m praying for you and your family.
He is the best when it comes to recovery ex back💔💔😭
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