Tim Ross on break-ups | DON'T GET BACK WITH YOUR EX | Let's talk relationships

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  • Опубликовано: 12 янв 2025

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  • @thebasementclipswithtimros9224
    @thebasementclipswithtimros9224  11 месяцев назад +2

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  • @Kristalwalker1972
    @Kristalwalker1972 11 месяцев назад +240

    Never go back to a place God delivered you from…..hence, my ex. All of my blessings are in front of me…..not behind.

  • @DesireeGray1206
    @DesireeGray1206 11 месяцев назад +102

    Exactly . You can’t be with someone who can’t recognize their trauma or upbringing

  • @berniceturner3596
    @berniceturner3596 10 месяцев назад +43

    If you have love for each other and worked on yourselves , had deep conversations about what the problems were, along with prayer, forgiven each other and feel you have a 2nd chance to make it right, go back! Some 2nd chances have lasted .

  • @characteristicallyauthentic
    @characteristicallyauthentic 11 месяцев назад +151

    “Stop using God for an excuse for the work that you won’t do!” 💯 💯💯

    • @amonioda
      @amonioda 11 месяцев назад +4

      I almost FLIPPED my table!!!

    • @berniceturner3596
      @berniceturner3596 10 месяцев назад

      Thank you!!!

    • @amandlaawethu1538
      @amandlaawethu1538 10 месяцев назад

      They can't help it. They use God as a weapon against men, only men

    • @erbi7745
      @erbi7745 10 месяцев назад

      Agreed

  • @KFontLab
    @KFontLab 11 месяцев назад +71

    “Work on you”…. YES!
    I always tell young ladies who ask “Be what you are asking for, become what you are seeking”
    You have to know yourself!

  • @RareAr
    @RareAr 11 месяцев назад +83

    35 and feeling hopeless like I’ll never have another connection like I did w/ my ex. Trying to lean on the Lord heal and wait. It’s not easy.

    • @ChrisondraRoane-n9n
      @ChrisondraRoane-n9n 11 месяцев назад +8

      😢😢😢 omgoodness same but I’m gonna have faith

    • @campbelltish
      @campbelltish 11 месяцев назад +4

      You will get through it 🙏🏾 I'm sending love & a peace of mind

    • @danielledavis8566
      @danielledavis8566 11 месяцев назад +6

      Ooo I feel you on that; hang in there hun, what's to come will be better that what's behind you 🙏🏾

    • @latinajones5483
      @latinajones5483 11 месяцев назад +5

      Me too 😢 ugh. I’m trying to stay away so bad !

    • @asiadp
      @asiadp 10 месяцев назад +1

      Same here :/

  • @JohnBenitez-w3k
    @JohnBenitez-w3k 11 месяцев назад +48

    Idk I’ve heard some testimonies where there was a break up, they fixed themselves, they came back together and now they’re living how God has called them to live.

    • @bettinalounkokobi8950
      @bettinalounkokobi8950 11 месяцев назад +5

      True, that happens but I think in this case the instruction was specifically for her not to go back

    • @serenedione
      @serenedione 10 месяцев назад +2

      Right, I feel like this is my scenario.

    • @serenedione
      @serenedione 10 месяцев назад

      ​@@bettinalounkokobi8950okay, so this is not a word for everybody...thank you‼️

    • @00Punk
      @00Punk 10 месяцев назад +2

      I feel like this is what I’m going thru right now, I’m 24. Knew this girl for 13 years since middle school, we always loved eachother, dated for 6 years, but I was young & dumb & we kept going in the same circles thru our adulthood. 0:02 My ex is now in another relationship & even tho she still wanted me in her life I told her I can’t do it bc she can’t show up for me the same way I can for her anymore. I I feel God has started working on me to reunite us at some point. This process started @ 23 last year in November & it’s been hard

    • @1Darkwave1
      @1Darkwave1 10 месяцев назад +2

      I am going though this right now. It's amazing... Nobody has ever given me what she has. We didn't work.... 8 years apart. Been through a lot in our separate lives... But realized that nothing or nobody could feel the spaces that she did. We both been working on ourselves, healing are chocolate traumas understanding ourselves and doing it all through faith and God. We have recently reconnected and guarded our centerpiece.... A 48 years old for the first time in my life I can see my future . Not living day to day anymore.... I put in the work and so has she and now we are stronger than ever and we both know that we want to work it out. I'm so excited. 🙏🏽!!! God is good

  • @stan4288
    @stan4288 10 месяцев назад +11

    D reason why most pple find it hard to get over their ex is becos most of these relationships involved sexual and soul ties which are so damnnn difficult to break..God who destined sex for marriage was smarter than us but we humans would rather have our own principles and our own truths....this is especially for ladies who are entangled with deadbeat and no good men but somehow still cant seem to break out of the toxic cycle....first thing is to repair ur relationship with God and then he will give u clarity...❤

  • @ericaburley9491
    @ericaburley9491 11 месяцев назад +9

    I've heard people say regarding past relationships. Remember why you left, chances are not much has changed.

  • @tanyshajackson4037
    @tanyshajackson4037 11 месяцев назад +39

    Ughhh I hate when a person refuses to be aware of them or just plain unaware.. like you can’t see you but you see everything else

  • @chikamsoodume3601
    @chikamsoodume3601 11 месяцев назад +29

    How is that most people are walking away with ..”don’t take your ex back “ ? This man said a whole lot ! Especially about showing up self aware if you want something real

    • @daddylightsministry106LaTrekaJ
      @daddylightsministry106LaTrekaJ 11 месяцев назад +4

      Maybe it has something to do with the title of the show.

    • @chikamsoodume3601
      @chikamsoodume3601 11 месяцев назад

      Yeah maybe ..

    • @86Kera
      @86Kera 11 месяцев назад

      @@daddylightsministry106LaTrekaJlol I had to back to read it 😊

    • @anjose9449
      @anjose9449 10 месяцев назад

      Perhaps that is what resonates with viewers the most.

  • @jeanthglee592
    @jeanthglee592 11 месяцев назад +26

    “He fit who you were not who you are going to be”!!👏🏾

    • @tamikabrown4647
      @tamikabrown4647 8 месяцев назад

      I wanted to throw my laptop...whewww🙌

  • @Godfavorsmi
    @Godfavorsmi 10 месяцев назад +19

    Sometimes it’s the right person at the wrong time

  • @amonioda
    @amonioda 11 месяцев назад +10

    And this is EXACTLY why I’ve been taking the past 2 years in therapy to learn and love myself after my last relationship. My relationship with GOD is the reason why I have peace with being single and I’m fine with waiting for the right one. I’ve noticed that I attract different men when I work on my healing. Thank you so much Unc Tim!

  • @Ladyj_media
    @Ladyj_media 11 месяцев назад +6

    “He fit who you were, not who you will be” ❤

  • @KeiyaHood
    @KeiyaHood 10 месяцев назад +2

    I like the part where he says we can instantly discuss what’s wrong with the other person but have no knowledge of ourselves, how we contribute to “the problem” the other person has.
    Sometimes we need a gentle reminder to have a discussion with the man in the person.

  • @denikkaray4699
    @denikkaray4699 11 месяцев назад +6

    Whewwwww!!!!
    “He for who you were not who you will be”
    I felt that thang in my knower!!!!!! Jesus

  • @katherinathompson4445
    @katherinathompson4445 11 месяцев назад +15

    I'm turning 38 this year.. this message slapped me up

  • @shawannamcday
    @shawannamcday 11 месяцев назад +6

    I felt that so deep he fit who you were not who you will be 😮😮

  • @WNichelle
    @WNichelle 11 месяцев назад +17

    I shouted this whole clip! 😭🙌🏾 I felt it in my knower and my souler! Lol be encouraged ladies,all loves, be intentional about YOU! 🫵🏾🥰 So much love and prayers for us and these times! 🥹🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @natural_free_spirit
    @natural_free_spirit 10 месяцев назад +3

    I’m not sure why, but it feels like in these times people are obsessed with relationships! Focus on self-love and learn to love yourself. Learn to be comfortable with yourself. Not dating, not having sex, and the right person will come I promise.

    • @justbelit
      @justbelit 10 месяцев назад

      Yea everyone seems so codependent and the social media posts they buy into doesn't help. Also pastors always preach on the "spouse coming" never to just be whole and content living in your purpose which could mean community NOT marriage.

  • @aliciacoleman7970
    @aliciacoleman7970 11 месяцев назад +6

    😮Pastor!!! Blew me back with that one.. just because it didn't happen in a time does Not mean God doesn't have a time for you.. Hallelujah

  • @211jevonte
    @211jevonte 11 месяцев назад +4

    This message also applies to ex employers, ex churches anything with an EX if you ask me.

  • @rameekaswint6594
    @rameekaswint6594 11 месяцев назад +3

    He fits who you were not who you are!!!!! 😊that's a word... i felt that in my SHINIIII

  • @alethiacampbell1365
    @alethiacampbell1365 11 месяцев назад +2

    'He fit who you were, not who you will be' 📢

  • @WNichelle
    @WNichelle 11 месяцев назад +12

    Oh my God, soooooo grateful this was recommended in my algorithm….THANK YOU for this WISDOM! 🥺🙌🏾😭🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️‍🩹

  • @KhadijahJames-be1xp
    @KhadijahJames-be1xp 11 месяцев назад +4

    I’m 33 and thought I was done after this past relationship. Now I know what I need to do. Praise God for this message!!!! This helped me so much 🎉🎉🎉

  • @monetpenny2910
    @monetpenny2910 11 месяцев назад +3

    You just spoke to me so clearly in a place that I have been avoiding. A place that the devil has been torturing me with. Thank you Tim Ross Thank you Jesus!❤

  • @shirlsshirls8594
    @shirlsshirls8594 10 месяцев назад +3

    Never ever go back to an ex. The risk far outweighs the benefits. Date looking ahead.

  • @GiMichelle30
    @GiMichelle30 11 месяцев назад +2

    I'm in this situation now where I contemplate going back to my ex. I'm still in his divine timing thank you God!

  • @Liabs07
    @Liabs07 9 месяцев назад

    I've been working on my trauma so long and finally watched this after months of having it saved. Thank you God for confirmation. I'm so proud of myself and the work done and still in progress. I am now able to speak up instead of being the "NOTHING IS WRONG" type of partner. The work is uncomfortable at times, but darkness is even more uncomfortable as a Child of Light.

  • @spaasm717
    @spaasm717 11 месяцев назад +4

    Just had my first counciling sesh since i became an adult, it was so good to break that barrier.

  • @TerrinaJazzmean
    @TerrinaJazzmean 11 месяцев назад +3

    I needed to hear that, I really did. I’ve been falling into doubt and it’s been rough. I’m not late I’m on Gods time, thanks Tim.

  • @BeautiforAshes
    @BeautiforAshes 11 месяцев назад +2

    Oooo, this is so good!! I'm glad I found this. I'm 1mo and a couple days posy break up and I tell you.... It's the distractions after a 21 day fast for me. The Lord brought me to Luke 4. Where Jesus fasted for 40 days and here comes the devil. Thanks for this episode. I love yall!!!

  • @Therealentreprenher
    @Therealentreprenher 11 месяцев назад +3

    This is some GOOD TEACHING.

  • @marcysweets
    @marcysweets 7 месяцев назад

    i got a chill. i need to watch this multiple times, cus you're speaking all truth but you know our head hardddd.

  • @jarayshaw9928
    @jarayshaw9928 10 месяцев назад +1

    Man i swear his videos be poppin up at the exact time i need them too.♥️

  • @williamanderson9352
    @williamanderson9352 10 месяцев назад +1

    JESUS!!! This is Sooooo good..

  • @RhenaLoveTarot
    @RhenaLoveTarot 11 месяцев назад +2

    No matter how much they convince you that they have changed. Just known that either. When you do get back with them , they just gonna do things differently , so they won't get caught. Reread that so it can sink in

  • @terrencelee9366
    @terrencelee9366 7 месяцев назад

    I had to break up with my girlfriend of 5 years because of I had to realize her happiness mattered more than me being comfortable. Our relationship was just built on being adults living with their parents that had little to no responsibility. But as I started to approach 30 and she started dropping hints at marriage and a family I started to see that I wasn’t the man financially and mentally to give her that so I had to let her go, we haven’t talked in a few months and I won’t lie it hurts . I spent the night with a woman recently and in all honesty it didn’t feel right at all . Idk where our lives might go in the meantime, I know she’s moved on and that hurts but I’m happy for her and who knows when and if the opportunity comes maybe we can try a second go at it and this time we’ll both be ready .

  • @jamiweed8857
    @jamiweed8857 11 месяцев назад

    Tim Ross I’ve been in the basement since day one. I’m crying at my desk right now because of the wisdom and confidence you are raising in your sons!
    I think you should do a conference for all young people to love themselves like you have shown your sons to do.
    May God continue to bless you.
    Love your sister in Christ
    Jami

  • @86Kera
    @86Kera 11 месяцев назад +1

    I think we also need to add to the message that yes God does give us the desires of our hearts IF they align with him. Now that may not happen when you want it or it may not happen. I think we just need to be in a place to accept his plan. I’m learning this myself. Do think in abundance in all aspects, also learning for myself. Not to discourage anyone but we just have to accept realities sometimes.

  • @Iamlindagraham
    @Iamlindagraham 11 месяцев назад

    Honestly. Good dictates. Leaning on our own understanding of things leads to further confusion.

  • @querida1809
    @querida1809 11 месяцев назад

    Yes, Yes finally, keep talking I have said this sooo many times to people about Adam and Eve, God want them to take responsibility and accountability for their own action's but instead they blame each other. Relationship is team effort. You have to be on the same page with each other. Thank you for this upload!

  • @ed16837
    @ed16837 10 месяцев назад

    It will take a great deal of emotional maturity from both to agree on conflict resolutions, where it all went wrong, how are things going to be different etc etc but there are some things that you can't come back from in a break up depending on your boundaries, going back can work for some people and it can work out great but for others it could be worse than the first time so just have to know the other person wants to work our the relationship as much as you and pour into each other in the best way possible

  • @marip5543
    @marip5543 10 месяцев назад

    Love it! Hard truths… self-awareness is key!

  • @jasminemwangi3687
    @jasminemwangi3687 11 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for this "He couldn't steward me into the person God has called me to be💯

  • @kadeem1417
    @kadeem1417 10 месяцев назад +1

    This is heavy! Why he snap like that 🏁🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @reality3595
    @reality3595 11 месяцев назад +2

    THIS IS SO GOOD!!!

  • @clariondenisha8457
    @clariondenisha8457 11 месяцев назад +1

    Omg! He fit who you were not who I will be!!!!! Jesus!!!!

  • @crystalcarter9375
    @crystalcarter9375 11 месяцев назад

    Man, Man of God!!! You’re on point!! God bless you and your wife. I needed that!!

  • @rae-geanjenkins2867
    @rae-geanjenkins2867 11 месяцев назад

    I wish I had found this page 2 years ago. It would have helped so much. Grateful to find it now though.

  • @porchewilliams1422
    @porchewilliams1422 10 месяцев назад

    THIS WAS FOR ME! PRAISS GOD! SPEAAAKKKKK 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾👏🏾

  • @CalebMenefee
    @CalebMenefee 11 месяцев назад +1

    Hey Tim Ross, I recently broke up with my girlfriend because of fear. I feared to be real with her in difficult moments. I feared letting her know how my childhood affected why I struggled with my ability to communicate certain things with her. To give context it was my first relationship. I didn't take advantage of the wisdom of the people in my life to overcome that fear and led me to make a rash decision. But, this time apart from her allowed God to show me where I fell short, and what I need to do to grow. And gratefully, I've been taking steps to change, though there is still more work to do
    I just wanted your opinion about trying to restore the relationship because I have this desire for her to know the better me, if that sounds right . If so, advice while waiting for the relationship to be restored. But, if not, advice on letting the relationship go.

  • @SheSoLovely3
    @SheSoLovely3 11 месяцев назад +1

    I felt it in my soul and my pinky toe! This was so good!!

    • @brizzybre
      @brizzybre 10 месяцев назад

      Pinky toe HAHA

  • @kimberlybernard35
    @kimberlybernard35 11 месяцев назад +1

    That don’t get back with him was FOR ME SPECIFICALLY!!!!!

  • @daphdaph906
    @daphdaph906 11 месяцев назад +1

    I love this question and the way your preparing yourself much as possible..I'm happy for you ma'am
    Tim, this advice is so helpful. Thank you for sharing

  • @tianatreasures4349
    @tianatreasures4349 11 месяцев назад +2

    I listened to this with an open mind And I Thank You! 🙏🏿

  • @lisabartley6944
    @lisabartley6944 11 месяцев назад +2

    BLESSED WEDNESDAY TIM ROSS YOUR FAMILY TEAM AND ALL THE DWELLERS FAMILIES 🎉🎊🗣️🎤🙏🔥🔥🔥🔥🙏💪🤗♥️🤎👑💙🔥🔥🔥🔥❗❗❗❗

  • @pastrylover1120
    @pastrylover1120 11 месяцев назад

    I needed to hear this badly.. thank you for being open to letting God speak through you.

  • @lashenamcelroy7446
    @lashenamcelroy7446 10 месяцев назад +1

    JESUS!!! 🗣️ “He fit who I was, NOT who I am going to be! My husband will steward me well and facilitate my growth! I’m a WHOLE GIFT 🎁.”

  • @chatwithanns
    @chatwithanns 11 месяцев назад +6

    Wisdom right here. You're timing is on point...thanks Mr Ross.

    • @chatwithanns
      @chatwithanns 11 месяцев назад +1

      Ohhh loved that 'knower': "He fit who you were, not who you will be". Woah! ♥

  • @ImJustSayingBTW
    @ImJustSayingBTW 11 месяцев назад

    I love this video! Thank you. I'm listening to it for the second time, back-to-back and will share this.

  • @jbill7808
    @jbill7808 10 месяцев назад

    I thought about getting back with my ex wife. We hung out & she was acting like she missed me. Then she went back to her self. Making excuse about hanging out. I remembered why the relationship ended it

  • @deannasimmons4756
    @deannasimmons4756 11 месяцев назад +1

    He kept the clip completely loaded billet after bullet 🔥

  • @kennyhenderson9390
    @kennyhenderson9390 10 месяцев назад

    Depends. 21 years together and married. We broke up but we worked at it to make it last. You have to heal and work on yourself both parties do.

  • @cmechell4702
    @cmechell4702 10 месяцев назад

    Thank you brother Tim 🙏🏽

  • @A.D-e7n
    @A.D-e7n 9 месяцев назад

    Wow, this is everything 🙌🏾

  • @MsBdoll87
    @MsBdoll87 11 месяцев назад +1

    😂😂 to the ending at the big black mommas! Great advice though uncle Timmy!

  • @WonkyWomanLife
    @WonkyWomanLife 10 месяцев назад

    Hard to start over at 61 and sick

  • @shelbyspellman3046
    @shelbyspellman3046 10 месяцев назад

    6:16 🤣 funny but true !

  • @daschuhow
    @daschuhow 11 месяцев назад +2

    Fabulous!! I felt that thang! 😂

  • @ImJustSayingBTW
    @ImJustSayingBTW 11 месяцев назад

    36 and never married. Great video

  • @lisabartley6944
    @lisabartley6944 11 месяцев назад +2

    BROTHER TIM ROSS I HOPE AND PRAY YOUR FATHER IS IMPROVING IN HIS HEALTH AND HEALING PROCESS 🗣️🎤🙏🔥🔥🔥🔥🙏💪🤗💙🤎👑♥️🔥🔥🔥🔥❗❗❗❗

  • @thetravelpalette
    @thetravelpalette 10 месяцев назад

    This is beautiful ❤

  • @Archangel-0092
    @Archangel-0092 11 месяцев назад

    8:40. I FELT THAT

  • @TylynnMusic
    @TylynnMusic 11 месяцев назад +1

    This is so good!

  • @nonadavis7866
    @nonadavis7866 10 месяцев назад

    You betta teach! 🤎

  • @faithful0487
    @faithful0487 11 месяцев назад

    I will be a gift to the man who be able to Steward me❤

  • @amandlaawethu1538
    @amandlaawethu1538 10 месяцев назад

    Men do not be triggered in a negative way. Listen give yourself time & treat them the way they are asking to be treated. Protect yourself at all cost. If your person does come back & truely apologies & gives corrective behavior then give it a try. They are primarily saying dont go back because it has an intended aim at men & they know its a draw for the women (click bait). Protect yourself at all cost.

  • @PushRadio
    @PushRadio 11 месяцев назад

    This is GOOD.

  • @ILiveUpToMyName
    @ILiveUpToMyName 11 месяцев назад +2

    😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨Man that breakdown was crazy!!!

  • @constancelatimore4467
    @constancelatimore4467 10 месяцев назад

    Love love love!

  • @daninejenkins7074
    @daninejenkins7074 11 месяцев назад

    This helped me!!! My God!💜

  • @stellaraze3794
    @stellaraze3794 10 месяцев назад

    Not God working on the fade 😂🤣

  • @tonyabarnes802
    @tonyabarnes802 10 месяцев назад

    Wow! This was for me!

  • @b.malieka
    @b.malieka 11 месяцев назад +1

    I love this !!!!!!

  • @admmgllc
    @admmgllc 11 месяцев назад +2

    Work on you!

  • @nicab564
    @nicab564 10 месяцев назад

    I needed this ❤❤❤

  • @trustnun_staylow
    @trustnun_staylow 11 месяцев назад

    This clip one of dem ones 💯🤞🏽

  • @delishiousdishesbyyolanda6301
    @delishiousdishesbyyolanda6301 11 месяцев назад

    I felt that thang too!!! 😂😂

  • @miamiflorida6965
    @miamiflorida6965 10 месяцев назад

    Let it go, and let God!

  • @EDaniels514
    @EDaniels514 11 месяцев назад +1

    I just would like to move on from my kids father and figure out how to be a very good single mother.. any episodes on parenting with God?

  • @SafeRn
    @SafeRn 11 месяцев назад +1

    This is good❤

  • @sterling.hopkins
    @sterling.hopkins 11 месяцев назад +1

    Bars🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @justbelit
    @justbelit 10 месяцев назад +1

    Work on you and stop idolizing getting married. If a spouse is for you, it will come when the time is right

    • @Naeem_El
      @Naeem_El 9 месяцев назад

      Preach!!!

  • @tanyshajackson4037
    @tanyshajackson4037 11 месяцев назад

    Love ya Tim❤❤

  • @blessingbennett18
    @blessingbennett18 11 месяцев назад +1

    YOU DONT HAVE TO TELL ME TWICE TIM!! 😂 I aint never going back in JESUS NAME 🙌🏾

  • @NaJahHoward
    @NaJahHoward 11 месяцев назад +1

    I felt like you was talking to me.