I'm Married to a Japanese (Full Documentary) [2018]

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  • Опубликовано: 24 окт 2018
  • This documentary (Borderless Love - I'm Married to a Japanese 2018 Documentary) focuses on interracial marriages in Japan, specifically marriages between a person of African descent and a Japanese person.
    We wanted to find out more about this relationship dynamic. What are the unknowns of this dynamic, the challenges, and the benefits if any? Our goal was to shed some light for those who are interested in walking a similar path, but also to provide insight for anyone who was curious.
    Four unique families will share their stories with you and our hope is that you will find this documentary insightful, informative and valuable.
    We also want to say THANK YOU to all the families who made this documentary possible, by sharing their stories with us. Namely: Devon, Mai, Yasuhiro, Mika, India, Natsumu, Dean and Jun.
    Remember to find us on Instagram at / theblackexjp and on Facebook at / theblackexjp
    Time Stamps for Each Segment (Interview):
    Devon & Mai: This is the first interview (Watch from beginning).
    India & Natsumu: 26:44
    Kasuhiro & Mika: 1:01:08
    Jun & Devon: 1:32:18
    Japanese Subtitles done by: Chika Little
    Visit our website: www.blackexjp.com
    You can also find some of the interviewees in this documentary on the following social media platforms:
    Mika: @miminyanko (Instagram)
    Dean: @irie876 & @dmilliz (Instagram)
    Devon: @jamaicasprince (Instagram)
    Mai: / @lifeofmai1376
    Also, remember to subscribe to our channel if you'd like to see weekly videos on the black experience in Japan.
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    Thank you for watching!
    #borderlesslove #blackinjapan #immarriedtoajapanese

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  • @TheBlackExJp
    @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +370

    Thank you for watching! We hope you found this documentary insightful and informative. The documentary is divided into four segments (time stamps can be found in the description), so you can watch each segment at your leisure if you're unable to watch it all at once. Also, consider subscribing if you'd like to watch weekly videos on the black experience in Japan.

    • @georgeopuku7724
      @georgeopuku7724 5 лет назад +4

      The Black Experience Japan what is the Name of that dating app again

    • @ohbrother8530
      @ohbrother8530 5 лет назад +3

      Great video

    • @elizabethd.7662
      @elizabethd.7662 5 лет назад +5

      The Black Experience Japan Great documentary. There's something truly unique and appealing about the 3rd couple. A follow up feature on them might be interesting. Many of the other viewers noted they were the favorite also. Just food for thought. Thanks

    • @user-uo1dv6pd3u
      @user-uo1dv6pd3u 5 лет назад +3

      I need more of these kind of video~!

    • @paulettemundy6261
      @paulettemundy6261 5 лет назад +6

      Me again whats the experience in dating a senior, Japanese in japan I've had friends who tells me different things, im a senior too never bin married not really thinking about that just taking it easy im mixed from different from different culture from jamaica but different hetnasity

  • @roliver3165
    @roliver3165 5 лет назад +1827

    The first couple is spot on. My wife told me I had no chance when we first met. She said the 10 year age gap was too big but we could be friends. I said cool and we just hung out and had fun without any pressure. Well I guess she liked hanging out with me a little too much and we’ve been married 14 years!!😂😂😂

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +51

      Great story! Thanks for sharing!

    • @RezaOLine
      @RezaOLine 5 лет назад +5

      how can you get a young wife..??

    • @RaikenXion
      @RaikenXion 5 лет назад +37

      Fair play dude you didnt give up. I met my true love at high school and she was really into me we had a connection, but i was too scared of what my friends and teachers would think of our age gap, and i was only 3 years older than her. Ive lived to regret it for 17 years now i still think about her. I never told her how i felt about her either, shes moved on now.

    • @ogungou9
      @ogungou9 5 лет назад +60

      10 years gap is nothing ... sometime, between intelligent people or like-minded people or
      people who complement each other.

    • @MOTIVATIONBYDAR
      @MOTIVATIONBYDAR 5 лет назад +53

      @@RaikenXion Let it go and move on. Living in the past instead of living in the present only serves to make one bitter and regretful.

  • @ginnyyamamotosyphax291
    @ginnyyamamotosyphax291 2 года назад +93

    I’m Japanese American and my husband is African American. When we got married it wasn’t good with some of the relatives. My parents accepted my husband fairly quickly and he and my father are best buds. Two of my maternal aunts tried to tell my mother “talk her out of marrying him! It will not be good.” My mother stood her ground and basically said Ginny is an adult and will make her own decisions. My brother on the other hand wasn’t so accepting. Treated him badly until our son was born, 5 years later. My paternal uncle definitely didn’t like my husband solely based on the color of his skin. We almost didn’t have kids worrying about how they would be treated but found a community that is very multicultural. Worked out fabulous.
    His father wasn’t so welcoming to me. Very judgmental, condescending and rude to me. We never had a good relationship because of that. Unfortunately, it never changed, so when he passed…I was relieved. Didn’t have to have him act that way towards me anymore.
    Since 9/11, my husband gets stopped by TSA EVERYTIME. Sad, but true. Now with the Black Lives Matter movement here in the states, luckily we’ve raised our kids to be aware of their surroundings, friends, etc. So they were very well prepared for the current times. Sad, but a must.
    So there are struggles being an interracial couple. There were people betting we would get a divorce before the first year and we just celebrated our 40th anniversary this past October 10. My sister married a Japanese guy twice…didn’t work!
    I’m Buddhist and my husband was raised Lutheran. But made it clear he wasn’t going to any church. So I raised our kids in the Buddhist Jodo Shin Shu sect. The kids needed something with the thought when they were old enough to make a decision to go elsewhere for religion, that would be okay with us.
    I have a ton of stories being interracial couple. I could write a few books! LOL
    Congratulations to the both of you. Glad I found this channel.

    • @yangz._.5010
      @yangz._.5010 Год назад +6

      Why is there no reply’s to you? This comment is so beautiful.

    • @ginnyyamamotosyphax291
      @ginnyyamamotosyphax291 Год назад +6

      @@yangz._.5010 no worries about anyone commenting. I just wanted to share our experiences. Thank you for your comment. 🥰

    • @Zara-or6pv
      @Zara-or6pv Год назад +2

      Bless you x

    • @bugme9085
      @bugme9085 Год назад +4

      Wow thanks Ginny 😀😊iam black from Louisiana ,my wife is Japanese from Tokyo ,we’ve been marry 16 yrs this year Octubre 10th, ☺️congrats to you Ginny as well,😃we have a son now 6 years old he speaks fluent Japanese , but her father Kenji told me no 😣I couldn’t marry Ai, but a month later he called me and said I can marry her, 😀we’re great friends now, 😃we plan to live in Japan later to take care of them now in their older ages.

    • @ginnyyamamotosyphax291
      @ginnyyamamotosyphax291 Год назад +2

      @@bugme9085 love your story too! Not going to lie, I’m kind of jealous you’re moving to Japan! I loved visiting. Didn’t want to go for years because I heard the Japanese folks there were rude and treated Japanese Americans poorly. We found out otherwise. But I’m not too sure about if we lived there. Good luck!!! Happy holidays!

  • @cristianventura8083
    @cristianventura8083 5 лет назад +380

    the first couple- when a woman tells you, I wish I could give you the feeling that your family gave me. "she loves her man"

    • @axdel24
      @axdel24 4 года назад +32

      That’s true , also the fact that she picked up on being made welcome and accepted by his family must have been of initial concern to her .It shows how important it is for families and relatives to accept whomever their family members chose to marry, they should spend less time being critical , It’s their life and choice (KNOW YOUR BOUNDARIES FAMILY ) People don’t understand that in a marriage the couples themselves don’t know how it’s going to work out , they just know the care about each other.. but they want it to work out and are doing their best to make it happen. They need all the help they can get , not criticisms. The Jamaican family of the first couple may never know how their attitude to his wife has given this union hope. 👍

    • @jackolantern7342
      @jackolantern7342 4 года назад +10

      Yeah that just hit me in the feels. Really cute couple.

    • @satobaide
      @satobaide 4 года назад +6

      that's because she spends years in the states, it would be different if she never been outside Japan yet she still love her man.

    • @javidgt8
      @javidgt8 4 года назад +7

      No cap. Im not Jamaican but im Guyanese which is already pretty close in culture and location and i completely understand what shes saying. Caribbean people are so open and welcoming to literally anyone. I honestly feel they are some furthest from the word racist in any sense compared to any other race of people ive ever met. Ive always loved how they never even make a face at anyone of any race who are introduced to them. And the best part? Theyll always offer a plate of food and a good conversation to you the moment you meet

    • @christineokosun
      @christineokosun 4 года назад +1

      @@axdel24 I wish I could like this a million times!!!!❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Ramgoempire
    @Ramgoempire 5 лет назад +781

    HE IS A REAL JAMAICAN WE ALWAYS LATE 70 PERCENT OF TIME...MY HIGH SCHOOL TEACHER TOLD ME ONCE I WAS GOING TO BE LATE FOR HEAVEN

    • @Ramgoempire
      @Ramgoempire 5 лет назад +6

      @Buzz Banna lol are u the guy in the video

    • @temi6730
      @temi6730 5 лет назад +17

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. This cracked me up big time. OMG

    • @Ramgoempire
      @Ramgoempire 5 лет назад +1

      @@temi6730 lol

    • @Ramgoempire
      @Ramgoempire 5 лет назад +5

      @@marineboy4181 its true lol

    • @crystalmaturah7147
      @crystalmaturah7147 5 лет назад +19

      I am a Jamaican and I am still learning to be on time...lol

  • @goodquestion5617
    @goodquestion5617 5 лет назад +588

    The third couple, her husband is so carefree. He seems so happy with her.

    • @kennyn5605
      @kennyn5605 5 лет назад +61

      I agree. They were so childlike and very comfortable with each other.

    • @alisonshimizu8064
      @alisonshimizu8064 5 лет назад +22

      That's my friend!

    • @mkmgramirez
      @mkmgramirez 5 лет назад +14

      They were my favorite couple followed by the last couple who spoke.

    • @misst.e.a.187
      @misst.e.a.187 5 лет назад +13

      I think he looks very sweet

    • @inspiregracevlogs2365
      @inspiregracevlogs2365 5 лет назад +8

      They really do look like good friends.

  • @jadibdraws
    @jadibdraws 5 лет назад +214

    The third couple felt alot more real not downplaying the other relationships but just mean they seem much more mature and open with their relationship and idk seeing that is really refreshing. They admit they aren't perfect and they sometimes run into problems but you can tell the love is still there and they are comfortable with each other and their differences and that's really beautiful

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +8

      Thanks for watching, we appreciate it!

  • @tereseus
    @tereseus 5 лет назад +44

    Awww the third couple gave a proper version of what it is like being in such a situation. They look like they make each other happy everyday.

  • @bcaiqs
    @bcaiqs 5 лет назад +51

    I love how you allowed us to see the interaction between the couples , instead of just asking questions. Thank you ! this was fun to watch

  • @gloriayamato5426
    @gloriayamato5426 5 лет назад +643

    Married into a Japanese family as an African American woman, 40 years ago, talk about adventure, LOL! I love this documentary. Thanks to all involved

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +21

      Thanks for watching Gloria! How has your experience been?

    • @gloriayamato5426
      @gloriayamato5426 5 лет назад +69

      The Black Experience Japan, by now our family is international to the extreme (children, grandchildren) and having this resource to share helps us sort, discuss, move forward grow and enjoy our diversity

    • @geronimo4621
      @geronimo4621 5 лет назад +5

      @@gloriayamato5426 I cant stand lies,, I have friends who couldnt rent an apt. couldnt get a job and worse some of em took their lives..

    • @90sbaby1
      @90sbaby1 5 лет назад +7

      ..Why is it *you* who married *into his* family...? Did he not marry *into* yours too...? Do you not have a family or...? Did he not care to be accepted by your family yet you cared to be accepted by his or...? Anyways...congrats.

    • @missjones54
      @missjones54 4 года назад +36

      @@90sbaby1 typically when any woman becomes married, they drop their surname & take on their husbands as well as the children(if had). The man's legacy continues. You marry into your husband's family he does not marry into yours. (Doesn't mean your family isn't his)

  • @trevnti
    @trevnti 4 года назад +48

    "I'm never going to think negative 1st" - oh how different the world would be with the perspective

  • @petitoto1
    @petitoto1 5 лет назад +274

    She is very lovely and full of life. I like the way she bridges the language gap between her husband and the viewers. Japanese men seem to be very kind and patient toward their women.
    I'll never look at interracial relationship through the same lenses again. Thank you for your wonderful documentary and good luck to all those adorable couples!

    • @BodyCulinary
      @BodyCulinary 4 года назад +5

      Well said. 👩🏿‍🌾👩🏿‍🍳🤸🏾‍♀️✨

  • @piquedard
    @piquedard 5 лет назад +325

    ..i'really impressed by the third couple...they are so "genuine" so to speak and seem to be both friends and lovers which is a very healthy combination

  • @tanyawashington5472
    @tanyawashington5472 5 лет назад +154

    I loved the interaction with couple #3

  • @dmiller2055
    @dmiller2055 4 года назад +290

    At the end of the day we all want the same thing, no matter our race: To be loved and respected. Enjoyed the videos.

  • @nicholasmartin4559
    @nicholasmartin4559 5 лет назад +167

    Maaaaad.... Chemistry on the 3rd Couple is crazy... like the perfect international relationship!

  • @leoneranger9348
    @leoneranger9348 5 лет назад +50

    The third couple cracked me up! So cute and amazing how they navigate the mixed language communication. Bless 😻

  • @Tishauna
    @Tishauna 5 лет назад +292

    Lmfao, the 3rd couple was funny. Especially when Mika said it was dangerous speaking English because now he knows when she’s talking about him. 😂

  • @dwaynerodrigues4715
    @dwaynerodrigues4715 4 года назад +53

    They third couple is amazing, the connection is so natural.They are the best example of inter-racial relationships.

  • @tahntalus
    @tahntalus 5 лет назад +86

    Loved the third couple speaking Japanese together!!! Cool documentary!!

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +4

      🙏🏿 Thanks for watching, we appreciate it!

  • @sophia4christ
    @sophia4christ 4 года назад +151

    As Jamaicans we are naturally warm and welcoming especially to strangers. So a foreigner marrying into our culture will always be welcome. 😄🙏🏾❤️🇯🇲😄

    • @bvie3337
      @bvie3337 3 года назад +4

      They lied everything...
      I know them both and the husband here was married to my friend while they met up.
      The wife here was messing around with a few guys in Roppongi including the husband's Bros while they first met. That's how the husband met her. (That's the chick his bro was messing with.)
      And later on they had an affair, caused a lot of dramas.
      Then my friend (the husband's ex wife) divorced the husband here...
      Karma is real.
      It's so insane to see people made up stories and lie in front of the camera.
      WOW just wow!

    • @dxsolatedvon6198
      @dxsolatedvon6198 3 года назад +1

      @Kitso Modiba 😂😂

    • @maelramkissoon272
      @maelramkissoon272 3 года назад +1

      Unless you guys are dealing with trinidadians

    • @Victoria-bo9xk
      @Victoria-bo9xk 3 года назад +1

      @@bvie3337 wow. Are you for real?

    • @Victoria-bo9xk
      @Victoria-bo9xk 3 года назад

      @@bvie3337 also whish couple are you talking about?

  • @teachernakiatouringtheatre1831
    @teachernakiatouringtheatre1831 5 лет назад +765

    I LOVE seeing the black woman in the third video speaking Japanese. I love seeing them talk and communicate via facial expressions and hand gestures.

    • @intershopping3584
      @intershopping3584 5 лет назад +29

      yeah they are so connected : )))

    • @CreepyMitten
      @CreepyMitten 5 лет назад +11

      That was great, but what I didn't like about her was how she kept saying "I'm the wife so I'm right" and things similar to that.

    • @jamesmoore8435
      @jamesmoore8435 5 лет назад +7

      Me too. I thought that was very cool

    • @fahimabemberry9756
      @fahimabemberry9756 5 лет назад +1

      I know right? Mmmm I wonder🤔

    • @trunks06
      @trunks06 5 лет назад +3

      Ty L yea she was definitely feisty

  • @lusimyer
    @lusimyer 5 лет назад +155

    I love the third couple. ..after watching them I believe they suit each other and belong together. Very sweet. He sounds like a lovely man.
    Last couple...kids are cute xox

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +1

      Thanks for watching Lusi!

    • @lusimyer
      @lusimyer 5 лет назад +1

      Thanks for the insight. ...very interesting.

  • @ginawu5302
    @ginawu5302 5 лет назад +64

    The 3rd couple is so real. I LOVE the husband said his wife is cute & scary🤣🤣🤣 just like any other couple out there. You can tell they love each other from the way they look at each other😍

  • @XOXOPriscilla
    @XOXOPriscilla 4 года назад +32

    I like how the 2nd husband said "I don't see her as foreign." I thought that was beautiful because I understood it to mean he sees his wife as home. I also found it hilarious to hear the 3rd couple argue and adore each other, even with all the mis-communication they seem to have a magnetic pull towards each other. Great episode.

    • @maxdee7940
      @maxdee7940 2 года назад

      She looks a bit Japanese, l think. All the couples are fabulous anyway. 👌

  • @cncfan
    @cncfan 5 лет назад +317

    Mai in the first couple grew up in my neighborhood in California! She gave me a lot of tips and pointers when I visited Japan for the first time. Small world we live in.

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +20

      Wow, small world indeed. Thanks for watching!

    • @degreat1922
      @degreat1922 5 лет назад

      cncfan like seriously

    • @degreat1922
      @degreat1922 5 лет назад

      cncfan my Facebook name is Great Patrick Eze from Lagos as well,so add me up let's talk more

  • @lazarusbanks1277
    @lazarusbanks1277 5 лет назад +144

    GOLDEN RULE: If people feel comfortable feeling on you without asking, feel on them right back at the same time. Regardless of who or where you are. You'll be surprised at what happens.

  • @nahziaskye1350
    @nahziaskye1350 5 лет назад +73

    3rd couple was my fave!!!! How did I even get here though lol! But now I'm hooked lol!

  • @princerajuforall
    @princerajuforall 2 года назад +10

    Third couple (American&Japanese), she learnt Japanese language and she is talking Japanese very fluently. That's a good sign a wife loves his husband, his culture, his country very much.

  • @Reirae
    @Reirae 5 лет назад +82

    The second couple - arguing about how your significant other doesn't know how you feel without you telling them happens all over the world! You seem like a lovely, normal couple :) best of luck with everything

    • @MTMF.london
      @MTMF.london 4 года назад

      Yeah, I think it's a man-women thing rather than cultural thing. And "ghosting" happens everywhere in internet dating, not just Japan.

    • @Kagekivx
      @Kagekivx 17 дней назад

      It's much more pronounced in Japanese culture. They will give you the "cold shoulder" instead of confronting you directly for example.

  • @G1Transformed
    @G1Transformed 5 лет назад +158

    African-American male here who’s been living in Japan for 19 years-man, time flies. I’ve been married to a Japanese woman for 13 years and counting. While my experience isn’t exactly the same as the couple being interviewed, I certainly understand many of the things they’ve experienced as I myself have experienced the same things to some degree in some fashion.
    Before I get too carried away, I’d like to say that this channel is fantastic and I’m glad I found it-found it on by happenstance last night.
    Anyway, I haven’t watched the whole video through-I’ve only watched the first couple and 20-minutes of the second couple’s story-but I will watch the whole video through in just a bit. Listening to these two couples, reminded me of my early years of dating in Japan and the first few years of marriage as well. Both couples speak of having children in Japan with trepidation, which I think is both good and bad. Knowing the difficulties their biracial child may/may not go through is good, as that will prepare them to educate themselves before their child is born, but also how to prepare that child for a future that may or may not be tough. I haven’t seen the movie “Half” that India spoke of, but I’m aware of it. I think it’s a good start, but I hope that she doesn’t let that stories told in that movie be the bookend to what she and her family could expect in the future. Those experiences are those people’s experiences at those specific moments in time. Could they still happen? Sure. Will those experiences happen to you and your family? Who knows? Again, I’m not saying the movie is bad or that the stories are all wrong-I haven’t seen movie. I’m just saying don’t let only the stories shape what your future experience could be. Find as much info as possible and arm yourself with it!
    Racism is a thing in Japan, as it is everywhere else, but I haven’t experienced the same type of racism as it often done in the States. People don’t assuming I’m going to steal something when walking into a store or that I’m casing some place for a future crime. Police officers don’t stop me for random searches-though I’ve heard that does happen in Japan (but not to one specific race). Japan pretty much lumps every non-Japanese person into the same basket, though that basket may have sections for specific groups like Americans, Chinese, Filipinos, etc., but when you get down to it, it’s still Japan versus everyone else. Should you ever come to Japan, you’ll notice that Japanese people almost never refer to non-Japanese by their respective ethnicities, but instead refer to all non-Japanese as outsiders (gaijin) or foreign nationals (gaikoku-jin). The news always points out wrong doing done by foreign nationals, which often makes me feel that we foreigners are being singled out, as news back home does this too. The things that bother me are ridiculous stereotypes: all black people can sing well; dance well; play all sports well and are play boys, etc. Well, that and TV personalities believing performing/acting in black face is a form of respect despite being called out on it when it happens.
    I have not attended school in Japan, so day to day experience among the youth is nearly lost on me, but mind you that I have two children of my own that attend Japanese public school. I have gone to their school several times for school functions and such, and from what I’ve seen and heard, things are good. My children have many friends in the neighborhood and at school. As my wife and I were worried when our first child was preparing for school, we talked to the teachers about it, and my first child’s homeroom teacher set aside a day during the first week of school to talk about famous biracial Japanese, which was great! I say great because most Japanese don’t look at those stars as “other” when watching them on TV. Eventually, a person’s being different wears off, and you as a person kicks in. If you speak Japanese, this will happen rather quickly. Though you’ll likely still experience curious stares and (audible) whispers on buses and trains-many people in Japan assume foreign people cannot understand their language. If I could offer advice on this, ignore it. Japan is a country in which 99% of people are Asian. IIRC, 1% is non-Japanese, though the high end of that 1% is Asian. Stop thinking what people think of you-be you! If you’re a good person, that’ll show through.
    Should you get married to a Japanese national while living in Japan, BUY BOOKS! Read up on what could happen should you have children and what will likely happen should you get divorced! Seriously. Get your visa in order. If you have a working visa, change it to a spousal visa shortly after marriage-your job prospects will open wide up. And when the time’s right, change that visa to a permanent resident visa. Should your marriage take a turn for the worse and you’re on a spousal visa, your status will be in trouble.
    Should your spouse want to go to your home country, they probably should change their surname to match yours (assuming you are male). In my experience, it helped my wife a lot while going through immigration. I don’t know how accurate this, but my understanding is that children in Japan assume their mother’s surname, so if you want your child to have your name, be sure to have your Japanese wife take your name too.
    Anyway, that’s all I’ve got for now. Back to watching some other experiences.
    EDIT:
    For Dean and Jun or any couple, really, who wants their children to be bilingual,
    If you want your child to be bilingual create an environment for them to succeed in that. My children go to a Japanese elementary school and junior high school and speak English very well.
    How did my wife and I do it? Well, it wasn't easy, as their was always the social reminder that English was the odd language out, but two parents speaking English and Japanese in front of them often surely showed them that it was okay to speak English. My parents sent them lots of children programming to watch when they were younger and to my surprise and delight they preferred that to Japanese programming for children. Surely, that extra English helped immensely as they were roped into those stories.
    When my eldest child was two, we took put her in daycare while visiting the States. Since we missed summer school, this was the next best thing, as it allowed her to be around other children the same age as she, and best of all, none of them or the caretakers could speak Japanese. Once my daughter realized that no one would speak to her in Japanese, she just switched to English. Naturally, she had vocabulary gaps, but she worked them out via gestures and trying over and over until the people around her figured them out.
    When we returned to Japan, she spoke much more English in public and private and I continued to only speak to her in English--to this day, I still speak to her and her brother in English. We bought a lot of children books while in the States, early child readers, which she tried at first, but many of them were too difficult, as she didn't study English regularly. I was okay with that, as I didn't want to force her.
    Several years later, after her brother was born and she started going to elementary school, she showed an interest in video games. My father sent her and her brother Leapfrog's Leap Pad with a lot of educational video games--check them out! Those games created an interest in reading for her and her brother, and that opened the door for me to try a book a missionary friend recommend for me to try called Teach Your Child to Read in 100 Easy Lessons. The book didn't make sense to me, as it taught reading in a way that was very unfamiliar to the way I was taught, but you know what? It worked!
    In short, you can raise bilingual children in Japan without paying through the roof for it. Create a bilingual environment and support it. Even when you think it isn't working, keep at it! Show your children that it is okay to speak English by using it with your spouse as often as possible. If one of you rejects it, guess what? Your child just might too, especially if that parent is the one that spends the most time with him/her.
    My children still enjoy games, and that's fine, but I have just one rule really: all games must be played in English. Many Nintendo Switch games come with English support (if buying in Japan). Nintendo's 3DS is region locked, so I purchased an American machine which meant I had to purchase the American version of the games they wanted, which was fine, as they only offered English, French and Spanish.
    I know video games aren't for every family, but they can be a motivator to learn to read if you play games.

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +25

      Thanks a lot for sharing! I’m sure other viewers will appreciate the comment.

    • @mamaedina1
      @mamaedina1 5 лет назад +13

      Very kind of you to have taken time to explain in so much detail. Thank you

    • @KhemistryIBMOR
      @KhemistryIBMOR 4 года назад +7

      With all that verbiage, you needed to create a video.

    • @karong7017
      @karong7017 4 года назад +1

      You have too much free time. Get a hobby.

    • @faithboit2634
      @faithboit2634 4 года назад +7

      I didnt finish to read its very long lol😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂i read one paraghraph i saw its too long,i stop reading

  • @tanishagrier9734
    @tanishagrier9734 5 лет назад +32

    they're so cute. I love how the third couple's wife speaks Japanese. That is so cool!

  • @mayasayonara9169
    @mayasayonara9169 3 года назад +9

    I really like the second couple, very honest and open. The guy seems so sweet and chilled. And they both give some insightful information on how Japanese communicate vs foreigners and how that can be an issue in their marriage. I wish them the best!

  • @PurplePaisleyPlanner
    @PurplePaisleyPlanner 5 лет назад +94

    Being from a interracial family myself....its nice watching this video.

  • @storytimewithamy
    @storytimewithamy 5 лет назад +346

    I love that first couple... Still watching the rest.
    Edit; ok, all the couples are so cute. I wish them all a happy marriage.

    • @jazziecat2354
      @jazziecat2354 5 лет назад +2

      me to!!

    • @cleocole493
      @cleocole493 5 лет назад +1

      HeColouredMeBeautiful 91 I’m still on the first. Crossing my fingers they’re not all heterosexual and married...

    • @luise-lottefidan5786
      @luise-lottefidan5786 5 лет назад

      AMEN🙏

  • @sweetbirthy2008
    @sweetbirthy2008 5 лет назад +65

    I like the third couple,hilarious,she even speaks english fast like japanese

  • @aathompson19
    @aathompson19 4 года назад +23

    1st couple is lovely, I felt their connection!! Also I loved when India talked of Natsumu's protectiveness, lovely couple; they should start a blog for foreign and interracial couples, they have a lot of invaluable information to impart!! The 3rd couple is so cute and honest with each other, I could listen to them all day!

  • @clebentadurandys1335
    @clebentadurandys1335 5 лет назад +124

    I said I was going to watch the video for a few minutes, wrong again. I wish it never ends.

    • @dang609
      @dang609 5 лет назад +2

      I have to agree with you. I really enjoy it.

    • @idamaebennett9965
      @idamaebennett9965 4 года назад +2

      Me too I love I enjoy all four couple I truly appreciate watching I learned so much thank you.

    • @oliviaedralin1436
      @oliviaedralin1436 3 года назад

      Me too!!! 😂😂😂

  • @studiohq
    @studiohq 5 лет назад +141

    What ... did you just go and look for the cutest couples in Japan or what. They are all adorable

  • @natashabetts7509
    @natashabetts7509 4 года назад +31

    The third couple would make for great reality tv.

  • @sireawesome1863
    @sireawesome1863 4 года назад +13

    i have a Japanese girlfriend, so now i understand things i never knew before about dating Japanese . this video was really informative.

  • @marthacmd
    @marthacmd 5 лет назад +122

    very good! I moved out of the US to Ghana, and loving their cultural life..... best move i ever made!!

    • @abdulmukar2131
      @abdulmukar2131 5 лет назад

      marty mart God bless you

    • @sugarmommasweetsandtreats9532
      @sugarmommasweetsandtreats9532 5 лет назад

      That's awesome!

    • @GhanaianBliss
      @GhanaianBliss 5 лет назад +3

      Lovely...

    • @afrocentricallyshakina
      @afrocentricallyshakina 5 лет назад +3

      marty mart I love that! I’m trying to get citizenship in Nigeria but I’d have to come back and forth. I have to come and work for a while then go stay for some weeks then come back. How do you make a living?

    • @nehemiahdabire106
      @nehemiahdabire106 4 года назад

      You did a great thing moving to Ghana. Are you there for the year of return? Make sure to SPREAD THE WORD!!!!!!!!!!

  • @baseman2002
    @baseman2002 5 лет назад +46

    What a fantastic video. Funny too especially the first couple speaking about the chicken wings.

  • @clemma
    @clemma 4 года назад +20

    Love the second couple. They seem so comfortable with each other and very realistic about their differences. Hope they are doing well

  • @payehomage6816
    @payehomage6816 5 лет назад +19

    I met my husband on craigslist too. We've been married for 7 years. I was kind of shy to admit it. lol. Thanks to everyone for sharing their stories.

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +3

      I think what’s important is that you guys met and love blossomed. And thanks for watching, we appreciate it!

  • @randommusings4957
    @randommusings4957 5 лет назад +87

    This would make an interesting reality show. I think Mika and her husband would be especially interesting! She's pretty funny🌻

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +2

      This is true. Thanks for watching!

    • @usedbyjesus
      @usedbyjesus 5 лет назад

      @ben yosep not true could be international or on mpt

    • @khumishomogorosi2923
      @khumishomogorosi2923 3 года назад

      Too funny, I find her husband funny too even though I have no idea what he saying

  • @sabrinasiggers1602
    @sabrinasiggers1602 5 лет назад +101

    I love the 3rd couple's chemistry.

  • @ThePlanet_L.I.
    @ThePlanet_L.I. 4 года назад +25

    The 3rd couple very adorable to see them communicate with each other

  • @ThePuckYeah
    @ThePuckYeah 5 лет назад +67

    I'm a biracial women married to a Japanese man and my husband has the same mindset as the third man. Actually, I can relate so much to the third couple.

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +2

      Thanks for watching and for sharing your experience Sadie!

    • @soul2soul4
      @soul2soul4 4 года назад +2

      Half white half black?

  • @ntpy7005
    @ntpy7005 5 лет назад +73

    A unicorn, wow! I love the first couple, they seem really connected and down to earth. This is great, you know. People of diverse culture coming together and starting a life. I wish you guys all the very best. 😍

    • @kellymckenna1284
      @kellymckenna1284 5 лет назад

      Want to like them, just too soon for me to decide they will be together in 5 years.

    • @mommymarine1756
      @mommymarine1756 5 лет назад +2

      Stealth74u I think he said unicorn because she's Japanese but grew up in the States like him. That's not usual...unicorn.

    • @ntpy7005
      @ntpy7005 5 лет назад +12

      Stealth74u I feel he said unicorn cos she's one of kind and a rare gem. She rocks his world in all entirety.

    • @MTMF.london
      @MTMF.london 4 года назад +2

      @@kellymckenna1284 Well, nobody knows for sure with any couple, be they interracial or of same culture/ethnicity or even with two people who have known each other all their lives. I actually know a couple who grew up together, same background, went to same college and got married. Everyone thought their marriage was a match made in heaven, yet got divorced pretty quickly. They realized they were just doing what others had expected them to do. Both remarried others and live happily ever after (so far).

  • @DivineLightFitness
    @DivineLightFitness 5 лет назад +16

    This docuseries is super cool! I am from Boston originally, so seeing the third woman in the video gave me a smile. I love how she speaks Japanese to communicate with her husband. Now that is dedication!

  • @hotdrumchick
    @hotdrumchick 5 лет назад +79

    I luv the third couple, Mika and Yasuhiro. They are so animated (especially her, lol) and I'm sure they have fun together.

  • @TT-di4qz
    @TT-di4qz 5 лет назад +44

    This was really cool to watch! Best wishes to each of the couples.

  • @LeSweetpea
    @LeSweetpea 5 лет назад +118

    They’re such a cute couple 💕💕 Cali & Jamaica

    • @annramirez9259
      @annramirez9259 4 года назад +10

      Don't you mean Cali & NY?

    • @maggienoomaara19
      @maggienoomaara19 3 года назад +2

      Very kool, cute couple! Love their open fluid communication and equal respect for one another and how they truly embrace their differences👩🏻‍⚕️👨🏽‍✈️

  • @lonewolf277
    @lonewolf277 4 года назад +18

    The 3rd one ,I love how he smiles with her!😃

  • @charlimcneal5992
    @charlimcneal5992 5 лет назад +28

    I love this 3rd couple sooooooo much! They are hilarious😂 such a lovely couple. I really thank all the couple's for sharing their experiences 😍

  • @olisa633
    @olisa633 5 лет назад +43

    The last chicken wing thing was funny. You had two while he's had ten and you are still asking him if he wants the last one - you should take it without feeling guilty. Really nice couple.

  • @DanielleAbigail
    @DanielleAbigail 5 лет назад +448

    The third couple is so cute!

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +8

      Thank you for watching Danielle!

    • @martiwaterman1437
      @martiwaterman1437 5 лет назад +31

      @@descendanttravels7639 Are you being held hostage by someone who forced you to watch this?

    • @paulpeartsmith
      @paulpeartsmith 5 лет назад

      Descendant Travels fetish? What is wrong with you? What's so natural about restricting yourself?

    • @paulpeartsmith
      @paulpeartsmith 5 лет назад +5

      Graffiti kingdom Oh my dear, it seems that it's you that has an issue with other people's lives. I do hope you're not like this offline. It's a sad way to look at life. Calling people " swirllers" and making out that a video about mixed cultural relationships is somehow fetishistic and unnatural is...silly. Be your best self, show some good manners rather than your views on taste please.

    • @paulpeartsmith
      @paulpeartsmith 5 лет назад +2

      Graffiti kingdom No one is questioning the existence of anything darling. It's the meaning that you have implied upon it that is questionable. Acceptance is a wonderful thing, however bitterness is not. You sound very uncharitable I'm afraid and there's no need. Love who you want.

  • @jeffsama7601
    @jeffsama7601 5 лет назад +309

    The black lady in the third couple speaks very fluent japanese

    • @beriljoseph6502
      @beriljoseph6502 4 года назад +1

      jeff okello how do you know that while you are not speaking Japanese

    • @yaddygarms2226
      @yaddygarms2226 4 года назад +12

      How do you know he doesn’t speak Japanese?

    • @isabelleelkhoudri6495
      @isabelleelkhoudri6495 3 года назад

      But she's not helping the viewers🙃 She's answering or reacting to husband's comments rather than translating for the viewers.

    • @thespunkavenue3471
      @thespunkavenue3471 3 года назад

      The y should do what Tokyo meets Brooklyn. By interpreting on screen

    • @briannawebb8767
      @briannawebb8767 3 года назад

      @@isabelleelkhoudri6495 there are subtitles

  • @BlackALLucian
    @BlackALLucian 4 года назад +9

    No hate comments so far, NICE! Keep spreading the positively.

  • @kocoaberry7041
    @kocoaberry7041 5 лет назад +74

    They all seem like such nice people. In reality you can't stop people from moving and mixing. Its in our nature-more so than hate. I wish them the best and more beautiful babies.

  • @juju1992ful
    @juju1992ful 5 лет назад +47

    I love my Japanese boyfriend so much. I honestly never thought I would be dating interracially. The culture I adore so much.

  • @rochellemckinney3220
    @rochellemckinney3220 5 лет назад +17

    I am so tickled by the third couple. All were very informative 😊👍🏽👍🏽

  • @williamkijazi3000
    @williamkijazi3000 5 лет назад +45

    3rd couple - amazing chemistry

  • @calvinhenderson9283
    @calvinhenderson9283 5 лет назад +113

    The Third Couple I Cant Wait To See The Beautiful Babies keep us posted

  • @halojeff15
    @halojeff15 5 лет назад +412

    i watched the full thing and i agree with some of them , at the end of the day we're all humans doesn't matter black, white, asian etc . we all bleed, have family, friends, love , hate, etc. so treat each other with love and kindness.

  • @sinenhlanhlamtshali532
    @sinenhlanhlamtshali532 5 лет назад +42

    I really loved the third couple

  • @BevinMarwa
    @BevinMarwa 5 лет назад +32

    Third couple, love without boundaries

  • @ChRisu_Ojisan
    @ChRisu_Ojisan 5 лет назад +205

    third couple is the best !!

    • @AndreasinGodshands
      @AndreasinGodshands 5 лет назад +11

      First and third couples are great. Admire the friendship and love connection. Too cute and really interesting. They also seem genuine and down to earth.

    • @marlenesilva9290
      @marlenesilva9290 5 лет назад +15

      The 3rd couple is my favorite, so loving and natural. I found myself laughing right along with them. They seem to be building a dynamic life together!

    • @tinawilliams2912
      @tinawilliams2912 4 года назад +2

      I love the third couple the best

    • @beatriceblue50
      @beatriceblue50 4 года назад +2

      The third couple is awesome she says her Japanese is not great girl is the bomb

  • @lejaponennoiretblanc
    @lejaponennoiretblanc 5 лет назад +75

    Amazing work my brother hahaha I want to be in the next one ! I will start to watch the first part ✊🏾

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +2

      Awesome! Thank you for watching!

    • @blsdava1
      @blsdava1 5 лет назад +2

      Yes! @Le Japon - you two are such a BEAUTIFUL couple. That would be great!

  • @lornaellis7725
    @lornaellis7725 5 лет назад +10

    Mai & Devon, I so enjoyed your video! This is a great start. Mai when you said..."...we were best friends...", I shouted..."Yes, I can see/feel that!".

  • @shepursues1173
    @shepursues1173 5 лет назад +38

    Loved listening to the last couple where the black female speaking in Japanese to her husband.. beautiful!

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +3

      Thanks for watching, we appreciate it 🙏🏿

    • @mcpowell4028
      @mcpowell4028 4 года назад

      You can't be in a biracial relationship and both parties not communicative effectively both .She should speak English ,& Kids should also speak English .Just my advice

  • @randommusings4957
    @randommusings4957 5 лет назад +156

    India and her husband actually look very much alike

  • @LimingLyn
    @LimingLyn 5 лет назад +67

    Love your video, 2 Thumbs Up! All the couples had wonderful advice and having black women was most enjoyable as you mostly see black men marrying Japanese women. Yasuhiro and Mika are a beautiful couple and I truly enjoy them and how they are so into each other. What she said about where she's is buried and the divorce choice is so wonderful. Can't wait for the next video.

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +2

      Thank you! Thanks for the comment and thanks for watching!

  • @najmaali2916
    @najmaali2916 5 лет назад +27

    Man...the third couple are very cute. The girl speaks sooo fast😂

  • @nktwrk73
    @nktwrk73 5 лет назад +90

    1st couple, she gave her dad a high five...lmao!

  • @viokand
    @viokand 5 лет назад +212

    The first couple are awesome, I laughed so hard, I liked the chicken wings story

  • @alexandriacarter8495
    @alexandriacarter8495 4 года назад +19

    Adorable he remembers exactly what I was wearing I love that.
    All cute couples but 3rd couple my fave. Her Japanese is amazing 😍

  • @inazuma11z
    @inazuma11z 5 лет назад +31

    the 3rd couple are so adorable! so fun to lesten! goodluck guys!

  • @Br0mBoN3s
    @Br0mBoN3s 5 лет назад +9

    The first couple is too cute.... how they learned from each other is so sweet

  • @schebania_
    @schebania_ 5 лет назад +120

    the third couple is lovely. I smiled the whole time watching them

  • @cowuor1
    @cowuor1 5 лет назад +13

    I like this couple because they are genuinely honest about everything.

  • @neicyt828
    @neicyt828 5 лет назад +18

    Omg I love all of the couples but, the 3rd couple is sooooo cute! ❤ I love their interactions with each other!

  • @Celisar1
    @Celisar1 Год назад +3

    The first couple is fantastic. They function together beautifully, let each other talk equally while really listening, complement each other’s thoughts, agree and laugh with each other. That’s partnership goals right there. I bet they will have a long and happy marriage.

  • @caseybashment6334
    @caseybashment6334 5 лет назад +30

    This is a good documentary. As a yard man living in Brooklyn, NY. it is great to see other couples live their lives experiencing other countries and cultures.

  • @kimone99
    @kimone99 5 лет назад +16

    Very interesting documentary, Thank You for sharing. They are all beautiful couples and I thoroughly enjoyed hearing their stories. Wishing them all the very best!! Bless

  • @mstexasg6243
    @mstexasg6243 5 лет назад +36

    I am a black American woman. I am married to a white German man. So while I may not be married to a Japanese man I do understand the international interracial dynamic.

    • @debdam7851
      @debdam7851 5 лет назад +1

      NICE!!

    • @mroots1696
      @mroots1696 4 года назад

      Heard Germans are not that tolerant of mixed couples

    • @margaretgreenshields6885
      @margaretgreenshields6885 4 года назад

      So tell me how that ok yet it not ok for white women two be with black men by it fine for other races

    • @sebentilezanini1085
      @sebentilezanini1085 3 года назад +1

      @@mroots1696 depends on which part of Germany you're in....but then again in all societies some people are welcoming and some are not

    • @avelinaosborne32
      @avelinaosborne32 3 года назад

      @@margaretgreenshields6885 black men are welcome to our leftovers. That's exactly what this old grandma is.

  • @LeSweetpea
    @LeSweetpea 5 лет назад +33

    Love this!

  • @lialiakicks
    @lialiakicks 5 лет назад +46

    Great documentary 👍🏾
    I think my favorite couple was the 2nd couple. They were sooooo cute and I loved hearing their perspectives and advice.
    Sorry if this is a silly question, but will you put subtitles for the 3rd couple?? 🤔
    Sometimes the wife didn’t translate everything that her husband said, which is fine as the basic points were said, but adding English subtitles might increase some more context to what the husband was saying.

    • @vnkcek
      @vnkcek 5 лет назад +52

      Here are some things he said that she didn't translate:
      "She is very kind, more kind than Japanese. All of my family members are very happy and welcome her."
      "At first, she asked if I was okay with her skin being dark, so I got angry. We are all human, there is no difference. The only difference is the language." (then she talks about racism) "If you worry too much about discrimination, you'll invite it into your life. If anybody says anything about your skin color, just say 'yes, it's different, so what?'"
      At the family gathering (houji), all of my relatives praised her for being a wonderful wife. I didn't even tell her what to do, but she went ahead and started pouring tea for my grandpa and others and taking care of my grandma."
      "I was living with my mom so when we decided to get married, she said my mom can live with us. (Everybody loves her because) she is very industrious and tries very hard (to do the right thing)."
      "The family is peaceful when wife has more power."
      "(We want) Two or three kids?"
      "Advise? Accept everything. Accept all the differences, different culture, food, everything. Then you'll see the true kindness."
      (Why did you marry an American?) "She approached me very aggressively, like a bazooka. And she was very supportive when I was going through a tough time."

    • @mariabarnes9197
      @mariabarnes9197 5 лет назад +13

      @@vnkcek thanks for the translation, as I wondered what he was saying. It contributed to a more complete picture of his thinking, family dynamics, & they function within the relationship.

    • @CoolCAlady
      @CoolCAlady 2 года назад

      @@vnkcek yes thank you for the translation. I had missed some of the points he was making 🙂.

  • @chichi8946
    @chichi8946 5 лет назад +17

    Thx Ranzo,very interesting video, appreciate all of the families willing 2 share their stories

  • @linmc5074
    @linmc5074 5 лет назад +22

    Third couple: cute: no divorce! She must have a good one!

  • @drkim4077
    @drkim4077 4 года назад +42

    OMG the 3rd couple 😍😍
    Where can I find that kind of chill man?

  • @pamelaarias5586
    @pamelaarias5586 4 года назад +7

    I had to come back to say that this documentary has been very informative, and eye opening hats off to BEJ,

  • @wokemanishboi5003
    @wokemanishboi5003 5 лет назад +58

    India's accent DOESN'T sound southern at all. She MUST'VE have been in a Japan for a long time..

    • @TheBlackExJp
      @TheBlackExJp  5 лет назад +39

      I find quite a few people telling others that they are not where they say they are from because of their accents. If someone says they are from somewhere why doubt them? In my experience accents varies even within States or small countries.

    • @t.j.7789
      @t.j.7789 5 лет назад +2

      I hear the Japanese pronunciation in her speech. That's sweet.

    • @victorparker308
      @victorparker308 4 года назад +2

      Not everybody from the south has stereotypical southern accents. Grew in California but my parents were from Mississippi. Back then most kids parents were transplants to Cali from other places. Mine had no discernable southern accents. Sounded and spoke like everybody else.

    • @Smiley0725
      @Smiley0725 4 года назад

      Methinks so too

    • @deemaverick987
      @deemaverick987 4 года назад

      She may have lived other places. Im told I do not sound like Im from Mississippi. I have been gone from there a many many many years.

  • @mommynti3stewart391
    @mommynti3stewart391 5 лет назад +15

    OMG. I loved the first couple the Jamaican and Japanese. You guys were destined to be together. God bless you 🙏

  • @CynthiaDean-ef2fz
    @CynthiaDean-ef2fz 3 месяца назад +1

    Soo glad to see people of different backgrounds coming together, living, loving, caring and sharing !

  • @MOTIVATIONBYDAR
    @MOTIVATIONBYDAR 5 лет назад +7

    Great video. I liked what the third guy said about not being able to stop interracial marriages in this new connected modern world.
    I grew up seeing very few interracial relationships to now having many friends in interracial relationships.

  • @camillechase6895
    @camillechase6895 4 года назад +19

    The 3rd couple is wow. Love love.

  • @amu33331
    @amu33331 4 года назад +11

    I definitely need to say this! Haha Kasuhiro was giving so many compliments and praises and she downplayed them! Own them girl.

  • @RaDiCaLPrInCeSs90
    @RaDiCaLPrInCeSs90 5 лет назад +71

    The third couple is really fun... the only one I didn't skip through.