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This week's podcast is for all those who need a little TLC from New Zealand. For those who need a gentle reminder. It's for you that we share this story. For you we share this song.
We hope this episode wraps you in as much love as it did us.
With love, always.
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I was once told by a very wise lady to never say , “stay strong” to someone going through grief. She explained that the person going through grief should not “stay strong” but instead should be as fragile and vulnerable as they need to be. Instead it is the other people that should “stay strong” for them . Stay strong is not for you, it’s for Brian to stay strong for you and allow you to be whatever you need to be.
Thank you for sharing, I love that. And yes...so true....Brian is the strongest of all strongs. My ultimate stay and strength and anchor ⚓️ I feel very loved ❤️
Thank you again for being with us 😊
Brian is grieving too.
I wouldn’t say, stay strong, to the grieving person, although, myself, as the grieving person I feel I’d have to stay strong for the kids, the mokos and close whanau.
To us, it’s a term of endearment ❤️ I always say, Kia Kaha Whanau, which includes each & every person who loved the deceased, especially their family ❤️❤️ Sending lots of aroha to all of you xxx
As a kiwi like any kiwi we enjoy having you here. As a word of encouragement, we do you hope you STAND strong and steadfast.
Thank you Liz & Brian, my Granddaughter past away 9/5/2019 my Eldest Granddaughter she was 12ys old, she had a heart ❤️ transplant aged 11ys old after a year of normality in three day's her body shutdown & left us...i couldn't understand why she passed away b4 me i was 55yrs old then im 60 now she would be 17 now, i never got the chance to say goodbye...i was leaving in Huntly not far from Hamilton at the time i got a phone call from one of my daughter's saying that she pastaway 😢...it hit my whole family hard she was our princess 👸, i prayed 🙏 everyday that the Lord grant me one time with my moko(Granddaughter) then one night 🌙 I had a dream that i was sitting down looking out this window but it had no glass it was open clear view of nature it was beautiful to look at, as if i was looking into heaven it was so beautiful, and then out of the blue my Granddaughter stood up behind this window with no glass, i stood up ran to her hugged kissed her all over her face, i was crying at the same time she was smiling, she said to me that it's "Allright im ok" 👍, then i woke up and i remembered when i woke up i was crying 😢 i cried some more because the Lord granted me just one time with my princess 👸, it was only a short dream but i was thankful, i told my family about my dream especially her mum my daughter, we both cried it was happy tears, because we know that she is ok 👍 👌 .
Oh my friend…thank you so very much for sharing your hopeful and heart touching experience with us. Your beautiful words bring much comfort. Thank you for being kind and brave enough to share your sweet girl with us. Thank you.
Our heart beats with yours ❤️Liz x
The images during the final song brought me to tears. Especially of Mom, kids, and pup walking down the beach together. 😍Just beautiful.
Thank you for being with us and for your kind words, thank you 🥰
Thank you Liz for sharing your grief at the loss of your mother, and thanks to Brian for his sensitive, caring response. It is indeed a beautiful song, written by Don McGlashan (a dear friend of mine) who was the lead singer for the Mutton Birds. Maybe you’ll get to meet him one day, although he spends much of his time in Vancouver these days having married a Canadian woman, but does return home for periods every year.
How special to have Don as a friend! Please, next time you see him pass in my gratitude and love 🥰 Thank you for your kind words, Liz x
Just go with your grief - its a natural life event to grieve the loss of those you love.
Eventually it becomes easier and you will have overcome this - but until then grieve the way you need to grieve.
You are soul-tied to your mum and this is why it hurts. Embrace your mums love coz its a huge part of you. Give your mum a big hug and tell her you love her - visualise it and feel it whenever you need to.
God bless you
Thank you ❤️
I bloody love you two. The video was so perfect. Thank you for introducing me to the song, to be honest I have never heard of it before but so beautiful and powerful. We are all here for you Liz, you are not alone. Keep putting one foot in front of the over, it will get easier, I promise. Happy belated birthday Bri, take care both of you. Kia kaha
Thank you so much, Sue. What a lovely message. Thank you ❤️Liz and Bri x
Loved your message it was beautifully worded and you voiced a heartfelt feeling. "Kia Kaha" is like saying "Take a breath ... today maybe like a ton of bricks on your shoulders ... but take a breath ... remember the good times you shared with your mum, they are the cherished moments that are worth holding on to".
Thank you, Heydon. In all the languages in all the world I can't think of two words more beautiful or meaningful. I never realised that until now and was so excited to share. Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate you very much ❤️ Liz
Tears, Liz. Tears of pure grace, understanding, and aroha. Thank you. ❤
Thank you, Kim ❤️
Omgosh guys, this vlog is beautiful. I was crying my head off. I truly believe that whatever energy you put out there, you get back.💖
We absolutely love the song. Mark was so smart to point you to this song.👍💖 We are so happy, Liz, that it makes you feel better. You found and understand your anchor.💖 We love it.
The pictures showing the beautiful area you live in (great job Brian👌)are heartwarming and perfect for this song. So beautiful💕. ...and there is your Maggie walking peacefully with you guys, carrying a big stick. Just beautiful.💖 Thank you, guys.🥰
By the way, happy belated birthday, Brian. 🎉
Also, Liz, thank you for your letters. I love them. I just need time and a better headspace to re-read them and reflect on them. Thank you, Liz. Love you💖💖💖
I love you too, Renata. Thank you, for everything my lovely friend 💕
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Please keep your head above water
Kia kaha. Life comes, life goes. Memories stay. Love is in your life.
The rain falls on the loved and the unloved. Really hope you find hope beyond today.
Thank you, Simon ❤️
When my Father and Grandmother died, being the strongest in the family, strength was zapped from my very soul at those losses. Strength was what i needed in those moments,being reminded of it,is what i needed. I am a clone of my father, and i was my nans favourite, i can understand how some people look it as a kind of betrayal from within,but it's never a betrayal, greif comes and goes, and it's taken in a different context from one person to the next. I know you are strong Liz, as am i,for me,i lose focus of that at times,much love.
Oh, Andy...thank you so much for this message my friend. You are right, life throws us some really hard stuff. I am so very sorry that you lost two of your most precious people. You are right, to be reminded of our strength is a gift. As is people opening up and sharing their story. It reminds us all we are not alone. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Andy ❤️ Liz x
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Thanks Liz,hugs to you both.
Another grounding song is kiwi Dave Dobbyn. ." Welcome Home"..
I just watched yr vid and started crying, because I get it. I’m Maori so I had a heap of support, and I had prepared myself for it, but it is something else. I lost my mom coming up 2 yrs ago, I still think of her every day and tear up at random times, but to describe how it impacted me, early on it felt like I was lost in a forest without a map or compass, or adrift on a boat without oars. It literally felt like a part of me had been severed. I would take forever to dress, and shower. I would walk around forgetting what I was supposed to be doing. I was always a planner but for 2 months I couldn’t think more than a day ahead. My great husband got me through. My dad and I got closer, I visit him every day now. It’s still a struggle. But I try to focus on the future as the past makes me sad. The priest at my mothers funeral said something profound to me that gave me comfort, he said she’s taken up her place as ‘tupuna’, and as Maori we hold our ancestors as esteemed, he said women are whakapapa and without women there is no whakapapa so her place as tupuna will resonate through her whakapapa, Kia kaha
Oh...what a beautiful message. Thank you so very, very much - not only sharing the loss of your darling mum but for describing the feeling of grief so perfectly.
I thought it was just me that couldn't remember what I was supposed to be doing a minute after I began doing it...and feeling as though things that happened yesterday happened last year...this message brought me great comfort. Thank you. My heart is with yours. Kia Kaha my brave friend ❤️ Liz xx
Love ❤️ you 2,I'm in tears now. 😢
❤️ Thank you for reading the letters, Marlène. You are a treasure x
This was quite an emotional podcast. Life has been throwing some curved balls over the last year here in Aussie for this Kiwi. Liz, Brian... This was an uplifting Podcast. Takes me back to my upbring in NZ and this fortifies me. Thank you.
Thank you so much for being with us, Bruce. We appreciate you. Sending you love, and strength and wish you easier times ahead. Thank you, Bruce. ❤️ Liz and Brian
People call me strong & I do my best. It means I don’t grieve very well & shun support when I really need it.
😢😢❤Thank you for sharing your heart. We buried our 85yr old mother two weeks ago. She had stage 4 lung cancer 😭. I miss her very much. My sister and I cared for mum right up til she peacefully passed away. Im not ready to be around lots of people. Depending on who u r Kia Kaha can make u cringe or it can bring strength as u grieve. I love the song Anchor ❤i cldnt stop crying😭😭😭 the words r so powerful n uplifting. For me my Anchor is knowing I have God holding me in my loss, my husband, and my whānau who surround me. They are my Kia Kaha! An anchor that holds me, grounds me as I cry, without that, grief can lead us to a dark place.
Thank you Liz&Brian❤
I really needed this. Perfect Timing🫂
Thank you for sharing, my friend, we are so glad that it touched you. Our deepest condolences for the loss of your precious mum ❤️
Love and hugs, Liz and Brian xx
I love this discussion. As a Londoner who came to New Zealand in 1953 (I'm 85) I liked the saying Kia Kaha early on but could never put an exact translation on it. I think there's more than just "stay strong", I've always felt there is also a strong feeling of warmth and genuine understanding. I"m glad you have got such a sensitive answer to this, and we do all feel things in different ways. I've had to learn not to expect to feel the way that others do, like using the term "mindfulness" doesn't do anything for me, I think from hearing so many people using it. I understand the concept, but am glad we have so much language and music to benefit us all.
What a lovely message, Sheila. Thank you so much for being with us and for taking the time to write and share your thoughts, we appreciate you enormously. Have a lovely weekend and thank you again ❤️ Liz x
As a man, it is nice to be reminded that I need to be strong, not only for myself, but also for those around me and who I care for. Thanks for sharing and allowing us to reflect on ourselves. As always another great podcast - Kia Kaha! ♥⚓
Thank you, Randy. Thank you for being you and for always saying lovely things... We love you! Liz and Brian ❤️
Kia kaha is like Tane growing roots into Papatuanuku and remaining grounded e.g. don't lose yourself in whatever chaos / change that is happening in ones life.
Beautiful. Thank you ❤️
Dang, just finished dinner and having a little quiet time, listening, with tears running down my cheeks. Love to you both.
Me too reading these comments!! Love back to you my friend. Thank you for being with us ❤️
Please remember that death only hurts those of us who are left behind. ..... And it IS ok to grieve.... That includes breaking down as well.
As a very dear friend once said to me...."Tears provide clarity of vision"😍
❤️ Thank you
Kia ora Liz an Brian that was just awesome my dad passed away a month ago now an i no what your going thru i still cant believe hes gone i miss my dad so much an listening to this song just brought back so many memories an tears thank you Liz n Brian by the way the mutton birds are a awesome group think ill listen to this song an go for walk too an maybe its time to deal with passing of my dad ❤ kia kaha an nga mihi which means thank you
Nga mihi nui ki a koe, Rangi. This message means such a lot to us. I am sorry for the loss of your precious dad. Please go for that walk and (as so many lovely people here have told me) be gentle on yourself and allow yourself time to grieve. My heart is with you, Rangi. Thank you for being brave and kind enough to share your pain with us. Kia kaha, my friend ❤️
With love, Liz x
I love your videos, NZ is better for people like yourselves, well done and sorry for your loss.
Peace is becoming your shield. You might have a English accent, but your one of us too, and we need you guys, we really do.
Thankyou for being wonderful.
What a beautiful message. Thank you so very much. ❤️
Kia Kaha ~ The battle is within your mind, your mind will look outside in your environment and say do this and do that but looking for answers outside of yourself has never worked however staying strong standing your ground where you are inside and relaxing letting go changes the inside - Everyone suffers because they have a way they want it to be.” If you have to be doing anything about it to try and be OK, it means you’re suffering - we need to stop doing that first so that we can be okay
Wonderful words. Thank you, Dennis ❤️
Great story. Very heartfelt, and remided me of the memory of my parents.
Deepest condolences guys.
Kia Kaha.
Thank you, Shane ❤️
When I lost my Mum, I expected it........ Most of us go through this....... I thought I was prepared.... However you don't actually know the profound grief until you go through it. Kia Kaha is the most beautiful of phrases....as you said it is not telling you to be strong. You are staying strong to be functioning at all. Because she shaped who I am, I will always be grateful to my Mum ( and annoyed about the fat feet😂) I carry her DNA and have 8 children, she will live on through her Moko .... Big hugs... 💖💖💖
What beautiful words and how true…no one can prepare you. Thank you for sharing. Your comment means so much to me, thank you ❤️
My fave bit was the beautiful smile from your table at the cafe. Love to you both and thanks for taking us with you on this life in our beautiful Aotearoa. Also been way too long since I listened to the Mutton Birds.
Thank you, Anna, so very much ❤️
Love you, Liz, you beautiful soul
Thank you, Jessica x
Thank you both ... i can feel your love and empathy ... kia rongo i to aroha mo aotearoa ... feel your love for new new zealand .... i am paheka kiwi, gb,nz
Thank you so much, Graeme ❤️
Thank you for loving our country
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being weak gives an opening for love to come in
Thank you for being with us and for sharing, Michael 😊
I really enjoyed this one. Anchor Me is a good analogy of kia kaha, maori words and expressions always have deeper subtext than general translation.
Thanks for sharing your experience
Thank you for being with us, Ricki ❤️
First of all, belated Birthday wishes for you Bri. Hope you enjoyed your day. Liz, you have the most natural and captivating way of relating a story. I could have sworn you were talking to just me... You are, by far, the best story teller I have ever heard. Your first book is a very positive example of your craft. You should write a book of bedtime stories for adults. I would love to hear you relate a story that was total bs and listen to you, where the facts are totally untrue. I bet you could spin it just the same because you are skilled at story telling. Also loved Bri expressing to you how your new understanding of Kia Kaha affected him and what it means to him. He was so proud of you Liz. I have an idea . How about recording some stories for adults. The content could be anything you choose but spoken in the true Liz style , so, on that note... Kia Kaha Liz and Bri xx
Oh, Jan and Rob! THANK-YOU!! What a very special compliment ❤️Storytelling is a passion of mine so it means a lot to me to know you enjoy my work. Thank you.
I am currently in the throes of writing a book of mini stories (about 300 words a chapter) it will be called (something along the lines of) 101 reasons why we never left NZ. Now, I’m excited to get on with that and release it!! I’ve written 25 chapters, only another 76 to go..😂📚
Thank you again for your support and please, if you have any ideas or suggestions I love that stuff avd welcome it with open arms. Email me liz@itsadrama.com
Thank you so much. You have made me smile from ear to ear! 💕Liz xx
Well that was just beautiful! Queen Elizabeth 2 described Prince Phillip as her strength and stay. As a person who used to sail stays hold the mart up. Stays are very important in boating and in life. I loved the Mutton Birds song. I’ll need to look more up. Stay strong had a completely different meaning to be strong. I would never tell someone to be strong. I have described to people how strong they are. Thank you for sharing your reflections. This was a wonderful podcast! ❤
Thank you so very much, Shelley ❤️
I love a song by Prince Tui Teka. It’s called mum. It’s truly a mum song ❤
Kia tino whakahihi ki a koe - so very proud of you, Liz. I share Te Reo with you because this too is a part of Aotearoa your anchor.
To hoa - your friend Tracy
Arohanui ❤️❤️
Homai e koe te maia ki ahau, Tracy. Thank you for everything.
To hoa,
Liz xx ❤️
Don McGlashan is a genius. Envy of Angels is another beautiful album by the Muttonbirds. It was written in the UK, but it’s Kiwi as
Agreed! Thank you for joining us, we will check the album out 😊
As an ex pat kiwi living in Australia for 24 years. I truely believe that kiwis are so sympathetic, understanding, and loving people. I always get Aussies sharing stories with me that they wouldn’t even talk to their own families about. We are extremely good listeners. And we aren’t judgemental. We just support in time of need. I don’t comment much. But I had to 😂 Been a subscriber for 2 years now. Love you guys ❤
I agree wholeheartedly. They know when it's too much and when to stay quite. It's remarkable and wonderful. Thank you for saying hi, Diesel, we send you much love to Australia 🇦🇺❤️
Sorry to hear about your mom thats life,Liz stay strong kia kaha everyday is different moving forward when you down youre loving husband gives you words of encouragment.we loves you so much you such a happy couple s we prayed for your family.
❤beautiful song 🎵 😍
Wow thank you liz going through medical issues and this whole message was great and yes that song is a kiwi song that is needed and i needed it today kia kaha
That feels wonderful to know it touched you, Glen ❤️ Thank you for being with us and for finding the message you needed.
Sending you so much love and strength. Kia Kaha,
Liz and Brian xx
BRIAN WATCH THE EQUIPMENT!! Otherwise, "Technical Difficulty, Please Stand By!". Happy Belated Birthday Mate!! By the way, Yes, free advertising is in Tucson! I did have a IT'S A DRAMA T-Shirt mide that I wear in Tucson!! I think I felt Marks sentiments where, I didn't want to overcomplicate things! But so long as Liz knew where my heart was that's all that mattered!! Despite saying this in the comment section of youtube, please keep me anonymous as much as possible for what I'm about to say. I had to rewatch this episode over a few times with a lump in my throat! especially what Brian was saying around the 10:30 mark!! 18 months ago I was nearly killed in a wreck which PD determined wasn't my fault. I called a couple of former coworkers, that I've always been in contact with, more importantly former bosses who hired me, & telling them I was ready to end things. It's been a long road to recovery!! Without any finger pointing or shame, the only thing they both said was what can I do to help? Mental health they check in every morning no matter how busy their schedules are & even with their kids! This past 4th of July, with Dr.'s clearance, they got me up to Lake Tahoe so I could spend it with them & their families!! Wanted to share that with you! That's what keeps me going, & now they understand why I say Kia Kaha!! I do miss home, but they obviously make the U.S. home for me! Great Movie 2008 Forever Strong. Sorry for the novel! Not only your words on your shows, but can tell just how genuine you both are!! Kia Kaha, Kiwi Kindness, & sincere greetings from Tucson, AZ! Cheers!!
What a heart warming story, Luke. We are so very glad you are feeling better and stronger. My heart is singing for you, it really is. Thank you for your lovely support and for keeping us close to you on that shirt! (Wow!! Can we buy your merch??!! ) Stay strong lovely friend and thank you again for being brave, honest and generous enough to send this comment. With love, Liz and Bri-the-tech-wrecker xx
In the boomer generation we as men were all taught to protect calm and push on. We grieve differently as men need to analyse, women need to be emotional its just how we are wired.
Dosent mean men dont have emotions they process emotional difficulties in a different fashion.
I was once told by Maori elders i was a warrior.
In there culture its not only a position of being the protector but one of educator providers and overall guide to his whole community.
Aussie Jeff Moore
Thank you for watching and for this thoughtful comment, Jeff, we appreciate you 😊
Good stuff. Very pithy. Thanks
Glad you enjoyed it, Jenny. Thank you for being with us! 😊
I loved the 'spreading your imaginary skunk tail, and spraying him!' I used kia kaha to you, also but I think 'kia kaha has more to it than 'stay strong' - it's not a direct translation (nothing ever will be in Maori/English anyway). I am so sorry for any Maori listening if I'm wrong, but I think it means "the outside world may be falling to bits, but hold onto who you are emotionally and spiritually. Maori people have a lot to teach us about the mourning process - and that's what it is - a proces. That they understand the 'getting out of emotions" - there is wailing and grief at a tangi - and it's healthy. They let their enotions out, and they own them. Not like our Western 'stiff upper lip' culture. Sorry tangent there! Love to you both ❤
What perfect words, thank you. Love to you too my friend. Brian and I are thinking of you ❤️
Beautiful ❤❤❤
Thank you, Mark 🥰 xx
We do need more blonde haired blue eyed kiwis in NZ right now!
Your an absolute gem Liz. Like Brian I use Kia haha alot and usually arohanui when signing off in the written sense. Arohanui
Thank you, my friend. I appreciate your kindness and for being with us. Thank you.
Arohanui,
Liz x (and Bri!)
Arohamai whanau , steadfast , stay the course , your walk of life is tino ataahua
Nga mihi nui ki a koe. Your words mean a lot to us.
With love, Liz and Brian x
God has not
Taken her from you
He has just hidden
Her in his heart.
So that she may
Be closer to yours
Thank you, Peter ❤️
Kia ora
Tino ataahua kopu 😊❤❤,aroha nui korua ,not sure this is right, haven't used,te reo Maori since I was a little boy , when my grandfather passed on 😢 thank you for your clip ,😊❤❤
Thank you, Jeff. You are wonderful. Thank you ❤️
Kia Kaha, Kia Maia, Kia Manawanui Liz,
That is beautiful. Thank you, John ❤️
kia tu kaha ki te korero
Ka nui te mihi, Peter 😊
Kia ora, I'm not going to give you words of wisdom or say Kia kaha as I havnt lost my mum so don't know that feeling but all I can say is I'm so sorry for yr loss, ⚓ me is a beautiful song and so apt, Kua haere ia ki tōna moenga roa. "She has gone to her eternal rest"
Nga mihi nui
You made me tear up..
And you made me tear up with this beautiful comment. Nga mihi nui, Tamara. I appreciate you very much ❤️ Liz
WOW THAT SONG BROUGHT BACK MEMMORIES I REMEMBER WHEN IT FIRST CAME COULDN,T TELL U THE YEAR TO MUCH WATER UNDER THE BRIDGE SINCE ALSO TO LET USE BOTH EX KIWI ENJOYS YR SHOW AS REMINDS ME OF HOME SO TAKE CAE AND STAY STONG OH ALSO MR YOUNG FELLA BELATED HAPPY BIRTHDAY AND FOR MANY MORE TO U AND YR LOVELY ASAWA = WIFE
Thank you so much for joining us and for your lovely comment! WE appreciate you very, very much! 🥰 The young fella and his wife! xx