@@mkailov13 not really its the fact that you are willing to walk away and say to her go to hell that works...notice I said willing meaning you are with her,you show her love but the key thing to remember is that the idea is to get a girl that has certain qualities and treats you in a certain way and not necessarily one specific girl
The point you just made right towards the end- that's the single biggest thing I think any guy should make the cornerstone of all his relationships. Live YOUR life and invite them into it. I've made the mistake of trying to woo a girl , so id take them to fancy restaurants, on trips, a bunch of flashy stuff to try and impress. Not that I dont take vacations or go to nice restaurants , but just not in the way I portrayed it in the beginning. So it became the expectation. That's the total wrong thing to do. Keep living your life and just invite them to participate. Not only will you set the right expectations, but then you dramatically lessen the risk that later on having the situation where they say they didnt know the real you and now they dont like you. Be you from the get go and you'll know it's you being you that she really likes
You start out simple, and once they earn a spot/after shes proven herself you take her somewhere. I wouldnt take a woman on a trip for months and months into the relationship unless she paid half
It's because he's spent the last 18 years perfect-pitching his voice to cut through heavy bass in nightclubs. Notice how his "normal speaking" voice is most people's "shouting" voice
Man that was like a machine gun barrage of pure content. Todd's concept are not pulled out of thin air, that's why he's able to talk about things so matter-of-factly because everything is rooted in experience. Love your videos dude
Are you my brother from another mother? SAME HERE, but she was my fiancee not girlfriend... So... Trying to be better for the next and I will be(if there is a next one hah, just 1-2 hookups so far)
@@michir6279 they were 2 hookups. 9 months later - I have had 6 month relationship and then an open relationship. Now single again for 2 days, hopefully won't be for long.
I don't often write comments. but this is good advice. when some body truly undersatnds a topic they can present it very clearly. this is a perfect example.
Wow Todd. Already 46k sub. I have been subscribed to your new channel when there were only 2-3k subs. Betrayed and everything taken away yet you've built everything from scratch and doing it even better than ever. You've my respect. PS: You by far are the best PUA I have come accross and its your advice that gets me actual results.
This is absolute gold. I did this exact thing with the current girl i'm seeing by doing nothing more than giving out qualifying statements about my previous relationships and what I liked/disliked. The beauty of this is she will actively try and jump through your hoops and want to please you. Every girl wants a relationship, in fact it's the easiest part of game once you've fully mastered the initial courtship phase.
Because u are undersocialized. Most people learn this stuff intuitively in like highschool lol. Not hating I’m the same way. You’re behind and you need to catch up.
J. Ward dude in this generation of social media believe me it’s hard but not impossible ,hoes nowadays starts the conversation with this questions ....”what do you do for a living” , do you have a car”? When girls asks that makes me wanna walk away ,
what I discovered from this video for myself is the need to "have a life that I enjoy and that I am proud of." I can see that for many guys that the "self-esteem" is a function of the life they are currently living, and if that life is less than that which has them be proud than that will be an obstacle in believing and empowering "frame." Thanks bro!
@@christopherg.8591 you respond to all of her texts immeaditely or always the same day..... she treats you like a pen pal & texts you as much or more than actually hangs out and does fun things with you in person
Damn. I had sex with a girl recently (twice) and afterwards she was not the same. We still hang out but its texting a lot right now. She is NOT an affectionate woman either
My ex fiance of 3 years broke up with me. shortly not even 1 year later she found someone else and moved on. I had panics attacks and felt so depressed when I found out. The worst feeling ever. I'm glad I found Todd's channel again. This video helped in a way. Thank you!!!
The most important advice for me when I started to change my dating life was to actually have a life. It is mentioned here, thankfully, but it can't be stressed enough. Have a purpose and go after it with determination like nothing else.
There is a lot of bad, and negative, advice put out on the topic of how to get a girlfriend. If you want a healthy relationship, you need to bring value to the table, and actually understand what a relationship is. Here is my brief guide for how to get into a relationship that is good for you (on your terms) but also good for her, since that's really the only way to have a successful relationship long-term. In short, the difference between a relationship, and two people who are merely attracted to each other, is the narrative and the implied contract. See more on these ideas and how to make them work for you in the video. systembytodd.com
I see sadness in your eyes. Mildly depressed, tired look. I hope everything is alright and I wish youwell, because I can sense you are being genuine with what you are saying
I was just in a relationship that went way south. Everything you said not to do I did later on, now I know why it went south. I got way too needy and my life stopped being my own and became centered around her’s. Wish I would have seen this video sooner
its almost like no one else in the universe was talking about how to get a girlfriend right now. Todd saw this and decided it must be done.. GG Todd. G fukin G
I personally wouldnt buy max's product. I didnt like natural. The only RSD program that blew my mind and was worth buying was Women by Todd but its not available anymore.
Awesome video Todd. Small advice: I would make your voice tone a bit more dynamic, so you're not in high pitch all the time. Your voice then becomes nicer to listen to.
Pro tip: Once you are well into the relationship If you treat a relationship like its game you will eventually fail. Learn to communicate with your partner, if you want anything that could potentially go beyond a several years
Nice stuff Todd.. could you please comment on this: "Far too much Game coaching is just veneer of behaviors painted on a rotting board. A good Game coach should direct 80% of his energies on Inner Game. Only when Inner Game mastery is achieved with right mindsets engrained, ex: buyer frame, abundance mindset, dating multiple girls, there is no ONE, anti One-itis, always setting the frame, willing to walk... should the remaining 20% be taught."
LOL! "inner game". You're joking, right? This is 100% social engineering. You're hacking women, essentially. If you have "inner game", you don't have game at all, you're just a great person. Unless of course you mean "wearing the mask for so long you become the mask". In which case, just wear it long enough. No video needed.
only problem i have is outside of work i literally have almost nothing that i do thats interesting. there just isnt anything that i see where i can go "oh that interests me". everything is kinda just meh. the best part about my last relationship was that suddenly there were things that i did that were interesting, we went to see the Aladdin musical, went to pubs to play pool and have dinner, watched a lot of movies together, went away for the weekend to go skydiving. and while these things were fun and stuff that i was interested in doing i have no interest in doing them by myself. im not going to go to a show alone, or to a bar alone to play pool. movies i can do alone fine. i think what i need are more interesting friends haha. which is why when we broke up and she said we can stay friends i was fine with it, since if we did then i'd still at least have someone to do these exciting/interesting things with. but then it went from "We can be friends" to "it would be awkward to hang out" to blocking me and never speaking. all because i tried to do what she said she wanted and maintain a friendship. girls be crazy saying different stuff to what they actually want zzz.
don't make into a formula either, let it flow! be the boring guy, so.what!! tell girls u meet that u are only interested in a few things. be that guy!! If u aren't comfortable being that guy, then do.want it takes to find ur passion.and follow it.
I am reminded of that eternal paradoxical problem that men tend to face. When a man acts real nice and positive toward a woman, she seems to pull back and react in a negative way. Why is this so?
It's not about being positive or nice per se it's about being TOO positive too soon. Why would you treat her so nicely and so positively early on when she hasn't shown you what's cool about her in order for you to give her that attention? That is the question that the woman is saying to herself. We men think that we are being gentleman but you should only be a gentleman on your terms not hers. The reason why a woman pulls back a little bit more when you are that nice early on its because you're doing exactly what Todd described in the video. You're treating the girl like she's special too early on in the interaction and therefore treating her as if you want her over any other woman. In other words, you are putting her on a pedestal and acting like you need her. Men of value tend to challenge women a little bit more and then once the woman has accepted his frame of having a relationship on his terms and realised that being with him is a win for her, you can then qualify her in return and then be the gentleman. You are a prize not her so act like she should try to win you over, not the other way around.
I absolutely agree with Todd. I married my gf. It's like a 7 meet 7... But the 8, 9 & 10s get jealous about it from time to time. Because their relations don't work or don't last... Because they never had a gameplan... Because they don't understand that women like guys who control the situation... Because girls' ideal match is weighed on social standing not on factual metrics... And because most people don't know their own value. Know what you bring to the table... Looks, financial stability, promising future, maybe even ancestry, or the coalition and affiliation that you bring would have value to it... If you average above the mean of the group that you meet and you have confidence plus good social skills you should have no problem getting yourself a great gf. Add to that what Todd gives out in his videos... This will be a game changer.
Hey I have a question! If I'm screening for the things I want in a girl, what do I do when I find out they don't have everything I want, but yet I still enjoy spending time with them? Do I say nah nice meeting you, do I keep her around for social proof? Adapt and say I can't have everything I want in life? haha any advice is welcome!
Guys who bought Todd's new program, a question : I didn't know where to ask this, but I am wondering if the System teaches only Todd's style and spin on game (where you essentially copying his style and what he does), or does teach the core principles that makes you effective in a way, where you still have room to inject your own personality, to be who you are without putting on a certain 'Todd mask'??
The system is a structure and todd gives you theory, examples, and exercises that you can do immediately. You inject your own personality into todd's structure and the result is good game. He really makes it easy for you to create your own versions of his concepts. I highly recommend it.
Great topic... What you're presenting is the idea of "Mastermind" talked about in Napoleon Hill's book "Think and Grow Rich!" A book that someone who's looking to "do some things in your life to improve you as a person" should definitely read. Mastermind is a principle that's common in business but applies to any relationship. It's where all parties agree the Mastermind (relationship) is more important than their own personal needs (not the other person)... In this case, you might give up a night with the guys because her cat died and she needs some comfort, that's supporting the mastermind but you don't give up a planned night with the guys because she started some shit, in fact, in a Mastermind, she has a responsibility to not start some shit on that night (making the relationship more important than self).
18 years dating and doing game and still hasn’t found a woman to settle down with, I like Todd but I’d rather listen to someone who’s been with the same woman for 18 years giving relationship advice.
Fucking genius! Again and again you amaze me, by breaking the formless (i.e. relationship) down into a blueprint and therefore making it more graspable, manageable and putting us in the driver seat as we can create relationships and interactions in a smart way, that makes it more fun, fulfilling and sustainable for both or all parties involved. Thank you, Todd, for putting out your great content.
Todd, what if you are in relationship where she starts feeling too comfortable and doesn't value you as much as initially, how do you gain that value back?
Rashid Makhmud Pull Back by leaving her and don’t initiate contact again after the break up. She will respect you and regain attraction because she think that you don’t have the bulls to break up with her
@Moan not sure if you've had a girlfriend but that will just make them crazy which will make your life harder. In which case breaking up will be the only rational option. Rashid, I think the right way is to just focus on your hobbies and goals and put yourself first for a bit, you don't have to break up, or fuck with her emotions. Remember your path, remember the reason she found value in you in the first place, because between the sex and comfort and talks of a future together you probably forgot about your greater purpose as a man. If she insists that you are neglecting her because you are spending less time with her, well then that is a hurdle your relationship has to overcome. Relationships are tested by these kinds of road bumps. But you don't want to sacrifice yourself and your vision to fit this girls vision and narrative for you. You must live a life that you are proud of at the end of the day.
Yo Yev “You dont want to sacrifice yourself and your vision to fit this girl’s vision and narrative for you” Damn bro that just hit me hard. Im trying to be an actor and this girl doesnt support me doing it. She’s actually pretty boring outside of work. Just lays around all day watching netflix.
I was wondering how you can let the girl know your preferences without outright stating them (which can come across as being arrogant), I think the advice to 'live the relationship you want' is a good idea, at least heading in that direction gives you both an idea of where you want to go and give you an idea of how it would be with that person. I myself like a good amount of alone time and working on side projects, but also like to be outdoors and semi-active. It'd be an ideal if a future partner enjoyed or is open to similar things, so might as well give it a go and see if any girls find it interesting or are open to adapting or trying them out with me. I realize there probably won't find anyone who like everything exactly as I do, but it gives us both a clearer picture of how the relationship might be if it were to go further
I'ma watch this everyday, until it becomes nature... This is basically the set of fundamental keys to women! Thx for everything you've done in order to get to where ur at and providing this! Many More Blessings to u friend.
And if this woman isn’t matching up to your criteria and failing at every turn. Dump her. Don’t lie to yourself and give her some slack when she obviously isn’t turning out to be the wife/girlfriend/partner that suits you.
I swear I’m getting brainwashed but I love it I need to get better. Everything is for the best I have a lot to learn from you Todd. I appreciate everything you do for us as men. The dating world is scary but we can’t live in fear, we need to get out of our comfort zone and follow the techniques to maintain control and boundaries. I’ve learned a lot and I’m changing my perspective. I’d like to meet you and have you coach me if you’re ever in the South Carolina area 😎
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RUclips channel 9 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,596 subs and > 1,000 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
The paradoxical thing about women is that on one light they want the highest caliber men like tall AND cute AND muscular AND financially savvy AND socially savvy but still most often are attracted to drug addicted who most society call „losers“. Strange paradox woman nature is, isn’t it ?
i'm a guy, 32 year old and still single. never had a girlfriend. i only danced with a girl of my class when i was 7. i had a few childhood female friends. one of them was my guest at home and we experienced a platonic love watching each other and smiling, hiding our faces under pillows and showing our faces again to look at each other. but this doesn't count as having a girlfriend. as i was growing in my teenage years something went wrong with my development. i don't think i'm ugly. what makes me unattractive is the fact that i am underdeveloped and i look like an aged boy. i don't look like an adult. i will have to find and spend a lot of money for plastic surgery or corrections. i want the doctors to make me look like an adult. it's not just the size but also proportions of my body and face that is not ok. i think i am unlucky to have a rare condition because most people develop normally. i think girls don't like me because i am underdeveloped. can you tell me what i do to find a girlfriend ?
As far as I understand: get many girls around you and by little game, you can get a few of them. But what if for some reason I want a spesific one? I believe that all this game, pua and even red pill to an extent can't help with that. You can get A girl you'd like but not THE girl you like. At least this has been my experience. I can get good looking girls but I have never got a girl that I said to myself: boy this one is pretty enough that if she has a good character, I'll go very long term. It might be because of the needines mentioned. However, all the possibly needy moves I make comes after I had already analyzed her movements up until that point as not interested. The moves are more to totaly convince myself that she isn't into me and leave her behind.
I really like this guy, he's rather wise. Kezia Noble points out how men today often lack role models of dominant men. Instead many of us grew up with absent fatheists ND harried mothers, or abusive sisters and all manner of lack of good teaching we do well to know and practice until we are proficient. As Todd so Nobly points out, the pick up artist , I'm paraphrasing, is only one experience you'll be presenting. So we want to be adding value by leading in some way that is our brand of masculine. And taking charge afterwards also, in relationship by constantly providing what we promise.
I don't know how you do it but you always upload the video that I need at the time that I need it. Thanks so much. Loved the video. I find it really helpful. Just watched and going to watch it again right now 🖒🖒🖒
I feel like some people are dismissing this advice as obvious,. Sure, it sounds like common sense when it’s spelled out like this, but so many men can’t execute this in real life. That’s why this guys advice is so intelligent and important. Todd know his shit, fellas. This is a very smart man. Listen up.
Todd, make a video about escorts, please say what it means from an evolutionary standpoint and what are the advantages and dissadvantages, it will imporove your game, sexual experiences, nonneediness, masculinity, reference experience, social muscle yada yada yada?
Hey Todd, could you make a video about making friends in general? I find having trouble building a social life, let alone getting girls (feels like a step too far if you know what I mean). Thanks in advance.
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"Wanting and trying to get a girlfriend prevents you from having a girlfriend"....wow powerful todd
telling her how do behave sounds like sociopath over possessive boyfriend but i like that i hope i like her idea
But at the same time, not wanting and not trying will also yield nothing, so which is it?
Zach sounds like nobody benefits if nobody gets what they want
@@mkailov13 not really its the fact that you are willing to walk away and say to her go to hell that works...notice I said willing meaning you are with her,you show her love but the key thing to remember is that the idea is to get a girl that has certain qualities and treats you in a certain way and not necessarily one specific girl
So what to do sit at home and wait? 😄
The point you just made right towards the end- that's the single biggest thing I think any guy should make the cornerstone of all his relationships. Live YOUR life and invite them into it. I've made the mistake of trying to woo a girl , so id take them to fancy restaurants, on trips, a bunch of flashy stuff to try and impress. Not that I dont take vacations or go to nice restaurants , but just not in the way I portrayed it in the beginning. So it became the expectation. That's the total wrong thing to do. Keep living your life and just invite them to participate. Not only will you set the right expectations, but then you dramatically lessen the risk that later on having the situation where they say they didnt know the real you and now they dont like you. Be you from the get go and you'll know it's you being you that she really likes
jus b urself
@@WonderBlubber nah
@@OpTiclightning I know, I'm mocking the other guy.
You start out simple, and once they earn a spot/after shes proven herself you take her somewhere. I wouldnt take a woman on a trip for months and months into the relationship unless she paid half
I don't think anyone will like me, if I was completely myself... 😞 Then what? 😔
You know you're a good speaker when Google auto generated captions are 100% accurate for the whole video
Straight facts
not true . lol
It's about the accent
It's because he's spent the last 18 years perfect-pitching his voice to cut through heavy bass in nightclubs. Notice how his "normal speaking" voice is most people's "shouting" voice
@@thehuman3077 😳🤯🤯🤯
Man that was like a machine gun barrage of pure content. Todd's concept are not pulled out of thin air, that's why he's able to talk about things so matter-of-factly because everything is rooted in experience. Love your videos dude
Where was this video when I started going downhill and getting needy with my ex
It was in the making
Are you my brother from another mother? SAME HERE, but she was my fiancee not girlfriend... So... Trying to be better for the next and I will be(if there is a next one hah, just 1-2 hookups so far)
Damyan Kostadinov same
@@damyankostadinov4676 1-2 hookups, i have 1-2 arms and have had 1-4 girlfriends
@@michir6279 they were 2 hookups. 9 months later - I have had 6 month relationship and then an open relationship. Now single again for 2 days, hopefully won't be for long.
"Explicitly expressed or implicitly implied"... That's how you know Todd is speaking. Love you my maan :D Great video as always.
because redundant words are being used?
FXraider he could have just said “expressed or implied” instead of trying to sound smart
The words explicitly and implicitly are not redundant, since something could be expressed implicitly and something explicitly implied.
I don't often write comments. but this is good advice. when some body truly undersatnds a topic they can present it very clearly. this is a perfect example.
13:26 Todd is so good at pick up that he is picking up without actually picking up.
Wow Todd. Already 46k sub. I have been subscribed to your new channel when there were only 2-3k subs. Betrayed and everything taken away yet you've built everything from scratch and doing it even better than ever. You've my respect.
PS: You by far are the best PUA I have come accross and its your advice that gets me actual results.
Jasman Rautella facts!
Jasman Rautella What happened? Is he no longer with RSD? What’s the story?
@@evanserickson
He's no longer with RSD but what happened, I do not know.
11 months later he's 3x that amount , impresive !
This is absolute gold. I did this exact thing with the current girl i'm seeing by doing nothing more than giving out qualifying statements about my previous relationships and what I liked/disliked. The beauty of this is she will actively try and jump through your hoops and want to please you. Every girl wants a relationship, in fact it's the easiest part of game once you've fully mastered the initial courtship phase.
Onder Hassan what is the initial courtship phase?
Ayoub Zahiri The process from opening to closing.
Can you give some examples of what to do when qualifying a girl
why do I feel like i need a phd to get a girlfriend and have a good relationship?
Yea, I know how you feel. It shouldn’t be like a science should it? But then again, if that’s what’s needed it’s what’s needed
lack of experience
I'm a doctor not a good one or a real one its still hard
Ha ha ,good one ,
Because u are undersocialized. Most people learn this stuff intuitively in like highschool lol. Not hating I’m the same way. You’re behind and you need to catch up.
I can't get a date let alone a gf
since u know todd, this problem is already solved
There's a difference between getting one and getting one that you actually want
nobodysperfect06 yes so true. I could get a 7 or below. But I'm after 8's and 9's
J. Ward dude in this generation of social media believe me it’s hard but not impossible ,hoes nowadays starts the conversation with this questions ....”what do you do for a living” , do you have a car”? When girls asks that makes me wanna walk away ,
nobodysperfect06 facts
what I discovered from this video for myself is the need to "have a life that I enjoy and that I am proud of." I can see that for many guys that the "self-esteem" is a function of the life they are currently living, and if that life is less than that which has them be proud than that will be an obstacle in believing and empowering "frame." Thanks bro!
Step one. Dont allow a texting relationship
John Mark Woodworth this was a mistake I almost made recently
What's a texting relationship?
@@christopherg.8591 you respond to all of her texts immeaditely or always the same day..... she treats you like a pen pal & texts you as much or more than actually hangs out and does fun things with you in person
Chris Smith interesting. Much appreciated 👌
Damn. I had sex with a girl recently (twice) and afterwards she was not the same. We still hang out but its texting a lot right now. She is NOT an affectionate woman either
My ex fiance of 3 years broke up with me. shortly not even 1 year later she found someone else and moved on. I had panics attacks and felt so depressed when I found out. The worst feeling ever.
I'm glad I found Todd's channel again.
This video helped in a way. Thank you!!!
this is pure gold for a young man like me thanks
Anthony Travaglione I am going to be a rockstar so I can get lots of love
Todd’s the college Professor you never knew you needed lol Great vid as always man
The most important advice for me when I started to change my dating life was to actually have a life. It is mentioned here, thankfully, but it can't be stressed enough. Have a purpose and go after it with determination like nothing else.
Purpose is bullshit. Your purpose is to work and die. Welcome to the shit show called the machine.
How about “ does my napkin smell like chloroform to you?”
80% of the time it works everytime
@@rbcompound3774 what u talking about willis every time i tried it it worked
although shouldn't have dont it on 12 year olds now im going to jail :(
Hold up...
That's too needy. You should say "Your napkin doesn't smell as good as mine and I don't date girls with normal napkins"
There is a lot of bad, and negative, advice put out on the topic of how to get a girlfriend. If you want a healthy relationship, you need to bring value to the table, and actually understand what a relationship is. Here is my brief guide for how to get into a relationship that is good for you (on your terms) but also good for her, since that's really the only way to have a successful relationship long-term. In short, the difference between a relationship, and two people who are merely attracted to each other, is the narrative and the implied contract. See more on these ideas and how to make them work for you in the video.
systembytodd.com
Todd V Dating could you do subtitles, please?
Todd. Can you give more advice on things you can say in an interaction with a girl to set yourself in a frame of value.
go out and find out yourself. its not what you say, but where its coming from
That's so vague^. I understand the concept but that's why I'm confused. How to you go about creating that frame if you're not used to it.
practice. how do you think Todd got this knowledge? Tip: not from a book
When you watch too many videos and the algorithm recommends this to you.
I see sadness in your eyes. Mildly depressed, tired look. I hope everything is alright and I wish youwell, because I can sense you are being genuine with what you are saying
I’m willing to bet it’s 2 decades of going out until 3am
Fr doubt this pussy slayer sad😂stop playin w em
I was just in a relationship that went way south. Everything you said not to do I did later on, now I know why it went south. I got way too needy and my life stopped being my own and became centered around her’s. Wish I would have seen this video sooner
Would be cool to hear your take on open and close relationships, and setting boundaries
@Yousef Zachary really?
@Yousef Zachary really?
Never get in an open relationship in the first place.
Bro this is the real wanderlust channel 😂
its almost like no one else in the universe was talking about how to get a girlfriend right now. Todd saw this and decided it must be done..
GG Todd. G fukin G
Djay_Popping well, Max has “girlfriend game”
I personally wouldnt buy max's product. I didnt like natural. The only RSD program that blew my mind and was worth buying was Women by Todd but its not available anymore.
@@PhilArgee1998 natural is full of fluff
Nice lighting
That lighting dude... awesome
this guy is smart. my goodness
Great practical (non woo-woo) advice.
stealth797 "you gotta raise your vibrations to match the frequence of the girl and then melt into an electromagnetic wave"
-Rsd Chody Red Beard Master of Stupid Thumbnails
clearly you just need to buy relationship crystals, available for only 149.99 at my online store!
lets take a moment to appreciate todd keeping this content on the platform for everybody top enjoy during this PC culture times
Hi Todd!
Can you add a little extension in the system to how to make new friends effectively. I think it would make it more complete.
Awesome video Todd. Small advice: I would make your voice tone a bit more dynamic, so you're not in high pitch all the time. Your voice then becomes nicer to listen to.
Pro tip: Once you are well into the relationship If you treat a relationship like its game you will eventually fail. Learn to communicate with your partner, if you want anything that could potentially go beyond a several years
are you in a successful relationship currently?
Todd the god
Niega Please!
Nigga Come on!
Todd the Godd
TODDGOD
Nice stuff Todd.. could you please comment on this:
"Far too much Game coaching is just veneer of behaviors painted on a rotting board.
A good Game coach should direct 80% of his energies on Inner Game. Only when Inner Game mastery is achieved with right mindsets engrained, ex: buyer frame, abundance mindset, dating multiple girls, there is no ONE, anti One-itis, always setting the frame, willing to walk... should the remaining 20% be taught."
LOL!
"inner game".
You're joking, right? This is 100% social engineering. You're hacking women, essentially. If you have "inner game", you don't have game at all, you're just a great person.
Unless of course you mean "wearing the mask for so long you become the mask". In which case, just wear it long enough. No video needed.
you are flying Todd , great content and delivery all along
This might be the best RUclips video I've ever seen. Definitely will be coming back for a few more listens. Thanks for the great content!
been following todd for many years and this is one of my favorites. Thank you so much
only problem i have is outside of work i literally have almost nothing that i do thats interesting. there just isnt anything that i see where i can go "oh that interests me". everything is kinda just meh. the best part about my last relationship was that suddenly there were things that i did that were interesting, we went to see the Aladdin musical, went to pubs to play pool and have dinner, watched a lot of movies together, went away for the weekend to go skydiving. and while these things were fun and stuff that i was interested in doing i have no interest in doing them by myself. im not going to go to a show alone, or to a bar alone to play pool. movies i can do alone fine.
i think what i need are more interesting friends haha. which is why when we broke up and she said we can stay friends i was fine with it, since if we did then i'd still at least have someone to do these exciting/interesting things with. but then it went from "We can be friends" to "it would be awkward to hang out" to blocking me and never speaking. all because i tried to do what she said she wanted and maintain a friendship.
girls be crazy saying different stuff to what they actually want zzz.
don't make into a formula either, let it flow! be the boring guy, so.what!! tell girls u meet that u are only interested in a few things. be that guy!! If u aren't comfortable being that guy, then do.want it takes to find ur passion.and follow it.
First comment, been waiting for this video from Todd for a while, thanks Todd!
I am reminded of that eternal paradoxical problem that men tend to face. When a man acts real nice and positive toward a woman, she seems to pull back and react in a negative way. Why is this so?
It's not about being positive or nice per se it's about being TOO positive too soon. Why would you treat her so nicely and so positively early on when she hasn't shown you what's cool about her in order for you to give her that attention? That is the question that the woman is saying to herself. We men think that we are being gentleman but you should only be a gentleman on your terms not hers. The reason why a woman pulls back a little bit more when you are that nice early on its because you're doing exactly what Todd described in the video. You're treating the girl like she's special too early on in the interaction and therefore treating her as if you want her over any other woman. In other words, you are putting her on a pedestal and acting like you need her. Men of value tend to challenge women a little bit more and then once the woman has accepted his frame of having a relationship on his terms and realised that being with him is a win for her, you can then qualify her in return and then be the gentleman. You are a prize not her so act like she should try to win you over, not the other way around.
Damn. Right on point. Thank you for the clarification. Makes complete sense. Cheers!
I absolutely agree with Todd.
I married my gf.
It's like a 7 meet 7... But the 8, 9 & 10s get jealous about it from time to time.
Because their relations don't work or don't last... Because they never had a gameplan... Because they don't understand that women like guys who control the situation... Because girls' ideal match is weighed on social standing not on factual metrics... And because most people don't know their own value.
Know what you bring to the table...
Looks, financial stability, promising future, maybe even ancestry, or the coalition and affiliation that you bring would have value to it... If you average above the mean of the group that you meet and you have confidence plus good social skills you should have no problem getting yourself a great gf.
Add to that what Todd gives out in his videos... This will be a game changer.
Hey I have a question! If I'm screening for the things I want in a girl, what do I do when I find out they don't have everything I want, but yet I still enjoy spending time with them? Do I say nah nice meeting you, do I keep her around for social proof? Adapt and say I can't have everything I want in life? haha any advice is welcome!
3 years later, engaged, very happy, operating under his logic framework. Excellent work.
Guys who bought Todd's new program, a question :
I didn't know where to ask this, but I am wondering if the System teaches only Todd's style and spin on game (where you essentially copying his style and what he does), or does teach the core principles that makes you effective in a way, where you still have room to inject your own personality, to be who you are without putting on a certain 'Todd mask'??
The system is a structure and todd gives you theory, examples, and exercises that you can do immediately. You inject your own personality into todd's structure and the result is good game. He really makes it easy for you to create your own versions of his concepts. I highly recommend it.
Great topic... What you're presenting is the idea of "Mastermind" talked about in Napoleon Hill's book "Think and Grow Rich!" A book that someone who's looking to "do some things in your life to improve you as a person" should definitely read.
Mastermind is a principle that's common in business but applies to any relationship. It's where all parties agree the Mastermind (relationship) is more important than their own personal needs (not the other person)... In this case, you might give up a night with the guys because her cat died and she needs some comfort, that's supporting the mastermind but you don't give up a planned night with the guys because she started some shit, in fact, in a Mastermind, she has a responsibility to not start some shit on that night (making the relationship more important than self).
18 years dating and doing game and still hasn’t found a woman to settle down with, I like Todd but I’d rather listen to someone who’s been with the same woman for 18 years giving relationship advice.
I have to make time to watch all this channel's videos. Thanks a lot Todd
Got the system. Amazing program so far and already saw improvements in my game. Keep it up!
Fucking genius! Again and again you amaze me, by breaking the formless (i.e. relationship) down into a blueprint and therefore making it more graspable, manageable and putting us in the driver seat as we can create relationships and interactions in a smart way, that makes it more fun, fulfilling and sustainable for both or all parties involved. Thank you, Todd, for putting out your great content.
Todd, what if you are in relationship where she starts feeling too comfortable and doesn't value you as much as initially, how do you gain that value back?
Rashid Makhmud Pull Back by leaving her and don’t initiate contact again after the break up. She will respect you and regain attraction because she think that you don’t have the bulls to break up with her
@Moan not sure if you've had a girlfriend but that will just make them crazy which will make your life harder. In which case breaking up will be the only rational option. Rashid, I think the right way is to just focus on your hobbies and goals and put yourself first for a bit, you don't have to break up, or fuck with her emotions. Remember your path, remember the reason she found value in you in the first place, because between the sex and comfort and talks of a future together you probably forgot about your greater purpose as a man. If she insists that you are neglecting her because you are spending less time with her, well then that is a hurdle your relationship has to overcome. Relationships are tested by these kinds of road bumps. But you don't want to sacrifice yourself and your vision to fit this girls vision and narrative for you. You must live a life that you are proud of at the end of the day.
Yo Yev “You dont want to sacrifice yourself and your vision to fit this girl’s vision and narrative for you”
Damn bro that just hit me hard. Im trying to be an actor and this girl doesnt support me doing it. She’s actually pretty boring outside of work. Just lays around all day watching netflix.
I was wondering how you can let the girl know your preferences without outright stating them (which can come across as being arrogant), I think the advice to 'live the relationship you want' is a good idea, at least heading in that direction gives you both an idea of where you want to go and give you an idea of how it would be with that person. I myself like a good amount of alone time and working on side projects, but also like to be outdoors and semi-active. It'd be an ideal if a future partner enjoyed or is open to similar things, so might as well give it a go and see if any girls find it interesting or are open to adapting or trying them out with me. I realize there probably won't find anyone who like everything exactly as I do, but it gives us both a clearer picture of how the relationship might be if it were to go further
The most well informed having a girlfriend healthy relationship video I could possibly watch. Thank you very much!
I'ma watch this everyday, until it becomes nature...
This is basically the set of fundamental keys to women!
Thx for everything you've done in order to get to where ur at and providing this! Many More Blessings to u friend.
I've never had one and I'm 25
You need to get on that man. I can get them but I can’t seem to keep them.
And if this woman isn’t matching up to your criteria and failing at every turn. Dump her. Don’t lie to yourself and give her some slack when she obviously isn’t turning out to be the wife/girlfriend/partner that suits you.
Dude, you are killing it with the content. Way to go!
Truly, I appreciate the simplicity of your titles lol
I swear I’m getting brainwashed but I love it I need to get better. Everything is for the best I have a lot to learn from you Todd. I appreciate everything you do for us as men. The dating world is scary but we can’t live in fear, we need to get out of our comfort zone and follow the techniques to maintain control and boundaries. I’ve learned a lot and I’m changing my perspective. I’d like to meet you and have you coach me if you’re ever in the South Carolina area 😎
Great advice Todd, been dealing with this girlfriend topic for a while now, but this advice showed me the big clear picture.
Totally agree. I think it works both ways: just live your normal life, be yourself and don't be needy, for sure.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RUclips channel 9 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,596 subs and > 1,000 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
Beauty vid big bro! Where’d you find that outro music though ?
The paradoxical thing about women is that on one light they want the highest caliber men like tall AND cute AND muscular AND financially savvy AND socially savvy but still most often are attracted to drug addicted who most society call „losers“. Strange paradox woman nature is, isn’t it ?
13:21 I know why you're laughing 😂
Todd keeps dropping the knaaaawwwledge but all I want to know is what camera he's using.
Todd sensei thank you. It's always the hardest when you wanna keep a 10. Your advice is awesome
i'm a guy, 32 year old and still single. never had a girlfriend. i only danced with a girl of my class when i was 7.
i had a few childhood female friends. one of them was my guest at home and we experienced a platonic love watching each other and smiling, hiding our faces under pillows and showing our faces again to look at each other.
but this doesn't count as having a girlfriend.
as i was growing in my teenage years something went wrong with my development.
i don't think i'm ugly. what makes me unattractive is the fact that i am underdeveloped and i look like an aged boy. i don't look like an adult. i will have to find and spend a lot of money for plastic surgery or corrections. i want the doctors to make me look like an adult. it's not just the size but also proportions of my body and face that is not ok. i think i am unlucky to have a rare condition because most people develop normally.
i think girls don't like me because i am underdeveloped.
can you tell me what i do to find a girlfriend ?
Sounds like you need testosterone. Have you been checked out by an endocrinologist?
Me: Yeah I’m gonna do this!
Then he says: you have to have a life 😫🤣
Nooooooo fuuuuucc!!
Oh well this advice isn’t for me yet.
Thanks Todd V, found this very insightful and necessary conversation to have. Didn't consider a lot of these prerequisites.
Neediness turns off friends. Neediness turns off all people.
As far as I understand: get many girls around you and by little game, you can get a few of them. But what if for some reason I want a spesific one? I believe that all this game, pua and even red pill to an extent can't help with that. You can get A girl you'd like but not THE girl you like.
At least this has been my experience. I can get good looking girls but I have never got a girl that I said to myself: boy this one is pretty enough that if she has a good character, I'll go very long term.
It might be because of the needines mentioned. However, all the possibly needy moves I make comes after I had already analyzed her movements up until that point as not interested. The moves are more to totaly convince myself that she isn't into me and leave her behind.
I really like this guy, he's rather wise. Kezia Noble points out how men today often lack role models of dominant men. Instead many of us grew up with absent fatheists ND harried mothers, or abusive sisters and all manner of lack of good teaching we do well to know and practice until we are proficient. As Todd so Nobly points out, the pick up artist , I'm paraphrasing, is only one experience you'll be presenting. So we want to be adding value by leading in some way that is our brand of masculine. And taking charge afterwards also, in relationship by constantly providing what we promise.
Very very good video, thanks Todd for this!
One of the most profound explanation of relationships. Very good info. And mostly common sense that I have often overlooked.
Best Venusian arts advice channel on youtube, period.
Great ! Like the old girlfriend video in your old channel (RSD TODD) and improved ;) Thanks Todd V !
14:18 I hate it when people do this, although I do it at times... 😐
Such a good video and advice right on spot thank you for the great content!🙌
Sad thing is there are people out there married for decades who don't understand this.
I don't know how you do it but you always upload the video that I need at the time that I need it. Thanks so much. Loved the video. I find it really helpful. Just watched and going to watch it again right now 🖒🖒🖒
Todd’s the man. Thank you brother.
Todd is genuine and knows his stuff
Great video, Todd. Amazing shots (cinematography), also! Thanks for the value as always.
I feel like some people are dismissing this advice as obvious,. Sure, it sounds like common sense when it’s spelled out like this, but so many men can’t execute this in real life. That’s why this guys advice is so intelligent and important. Todd know his shit, fellas. This is a very smart man. Listen up.
This video has changed my perspective on everything
Great framework, sound advice, thanks for sharing!
Really great advices for free! This prettily sums up everything about game, dating and relationships... Thanks a lot Todd!
I think the more important question is why the hell you would even want one!
yes true
Great stuff, but if come to the conclusion im far from wanting anything currently
Love you Todd, great advice and detailed video 5/5
Todd, make a video about escorts, please say what it means from an evolutionary standpoint and what are the advantages and dissadvantages, it will imporove your game, sexual experiences, nonneediness, masculinity, reference experience, social muscle yada yada yada?
It's not a sexy answer, but healthy relationships offer so much growth and insight.
Lol "oh gosh I slept with a loser and now I feel icky and awful"
Wow mad enlightening!!! Todd is amazing. Wicked helpful.
Clicked because of thumbnail. Looks like superhero
Everyone walking past him must be so confused
Hey Todd, could you make a video about making friends in general? I find having trouble building a social life, let alone getting girls (feels like a step too far if you know what I mean). Thanks in advance.
Great, value-giving content as always. Thank you Todd
Every man who considers to get a girlfriend, should watch this first. Thx Todd!