Yeah my ex did the same thing. Passed an STD to me, lied about it and had the nerve to say I got it from someone else. And called me crazy when I called her crazy. Then she moved on to someone else literally two days later. WTF
Exactly same thing happened. I was also gaslighted and at one point I thought I was going crazy. He Jst sucked out all the life and confidence out of me. Plus he gave me the trust issues. It has taken me years to recover. I am still in the process of recovery. My view of relationship changed after being in a relationship wid him for 2 n a half years. But breaking up was the best thing that ever happened to me. 😇
Yes.. apparently i dated 1 sociopath. Took me a year to finally had enough and say no to this person. Thanks God i can finally be free from this person eventually.
Psych2Go :I'm a fan of yours, lately,since the moment I discovered the channel!I'd like to ask you s.t.:is it possible to happen with other relationships too?I mean,not only in dating case...Thank you much~much for taking the time to read and-probably-reply to my daft comment.Greetings from south Europe.
I think I can help answer your question. From what I can understand, you are asking if sociopaths act the same way even if it is not a romantic relationship, right?
This is extremely true. My exboyfriend cheated on me more than 2x in our relationship and I somehow found a way to apologize for his actions, any negative feeling he expressed towards me, he would manipulated his words to where I was the one apologizing instead of him. I found myself always wanting to seek his approval. I didn't realize our relationship was a wreck until we broke up.
Annahmarie everyone goes through a terrible partner at some point. And sometimes we're the terrible partners. The thing that is important is learning from those mistakes and not commiting them again. I'm glad you are better, I hope you find a better man and dont let that wound ruin your future paradise. Be happy and be positive, happy holidays. 💙
My Ex nearly killed me. My parents and friends tried to help me when I was with him, but he kept pulling me away from everyone and gas lighting me on a daily basis. When we finally broke up, my whole life slowly came back together - went back to school, got a job, reunited with friends and my current boyfriend is unlike anything I've ever known. I had no idea that the relationship I was in was bad, I honestly thought that I was the crazy one, and that I deserved the abuse. :/
Yes, that's basically how it usually turns out. Ignore the other ignorant comments, people who's never dated a psychopath/sociopath will never understand and they'll do their best to discredit you
Bobby White I have seen over 400 animes and he remains my favorite character. He never once swayed from his way of self sacrifice and i really loved it.
It is sad.. I do my best to be a good friend to her without sacrificing my control over my own life, but after trying to do that for the years I've known her, with her still overstepping her boundaries and very obviously trying to emotionally manipulate me.. Gotta tell you man, it's mentally draining.
as someone who is a sociopath and is in a healthy relationship, I can confirm that it is possible for a sociopath to change some habits, the hard part is recognising your own flaws to start, and getting motivated to do so
that's interesting. so, are you saying that a sociopath can have a conscience even if they don't have empathy? or are you saying that a sociopath can choose their behaviors in order to meet their goals?
Another sociopath here, throwing in my two cents! I'm still quite manipulative towards those around me, except for the people I'm extremely close to. That is to say, we're perfectly capable of making exceptions to our behavior.
13 common traits for sociopathy: 1) Grandio sense of self 2) Manipulative and Conning nature 3) Superficial Charmer 4) Pathological liar 5) Lack of Guilt or Shame 6) Shallow Emotions 7) Need for Stimulation 8) Lack of Empathy 9) Impulsive nature 10) Juvenile Delinquency 11) Unreliability 12) Sexual Deviant 13) Criminal Versitilaty
This is a little misrepresentative. Sociopaths lack empathy but will still follow social norms. If they see a happy couple doing well they will typically mimic the actions of the couple. Sociopaths also aren't narcissistic. This video isn't describing sociopathy this is describing a bad relationship.
Christabel marie Actually sociopathy is a personal disorder not a mental illness which is a big difference. The point is - mental illness can be cured or supressed with help of medics and doctors. Its something a person cannot control and mostly doesnt even realize he has it. Sociopathy on the other hand cannot be cured or even diagnosed if the sociopath is good actor and lier. Most of sociopaths are also know that they are sociopaths or at least they are different. However they dont mind it in most cases. Unlike mentally ill people, socio can fully control their actions and behavior. They can supress it too, but only if they want. See the difference?
Mimicry usually only goes so far. I was married to a sociopath for seven years (the fact that she was sadistic and a schizophrenic, i.e. saw and heard illusions, only made it worse.) In public, the sociopath may seem like able, fun, and usually very charismatic. In private, eventually it becomes a different story. Once they let down their guard you can see the real disorder at work. Also, sociopaths CAN BE narcissistic in the sense that the only one that matters to them is themselves. It doesn't bother them if you're hurt, but apply a little pain or humiliation to them and the difference between right and wrong becomes abundantly clear to them. For this reason, a sociopath will normally lean toward sadism rather than masochism.
Brodie Hewitt I think that's what I find scary... I fell for someone like that.. very good at acting like a gentleman until years later when I realized he never actually cared about me or a lot of other things... there were definitely red flags but when someone is skilled at blending in and you're naive and/or in love you can miss those red flags...
Brodie Hewitt i was friends with a sociopath and they suffered from narcissistic personality disorder as well. for others, it might be hard for people to differentiate because a sociopath might do things that can point to them being a narcissist. the two commonly seem to go hand in hand but every case is different.
I wish people would be serious in this comment section. Don't you have anything better to do? It's a horrible thing to go through no matter how strong you think or thought you once were. It tears you down to nothing. You once were a happy, intelligent person with a great life full of friends and creativity. These men and women suck the life out of you. 😰
if a person sucks the life out of you that means you were never the true happy intelligent person to start with just a person with a fort waiting for someone to break the walls down. Why? Well because a happy intelligent person would never let someone who is toxic break them down.
This isn't a joking matter and the people making jokes are cruel. These people destroy lives, destroys souls. You can't possibly understand unless you have experienced it yourself. I used to be outgoing and happy with lots of interests. Now I haven't left the house for over 7 months other than go to the store or to therapy.
People likes to depict "sociopath" as bad bunch for relationships. So yeah our mind is twisted but we also wanted love whats the point of feeling unloved and undated for along time.
I Am The Bad Wolf well shit... what your saying does sound bad, but there isn't really anything else you can do in a relationship like that. I know that sounds bad but in most cases, it's true. if they truly are the sociopath you beleive they are, then they won't accept the help, or the offer will make them angry or feel worse.
@@thaliajones9383 Much better. It's been almost 4 years now since we broke up and I've healed a lot from it. The whole situation put me on a path focused on intense healing and exploration of inner self, so while the whole thing was deeply traumatizing at the time, I'm happy with who I became and everything I learned from the situation. I learned if we choose to focus the brighter sides of life and find the lessons each adversity brought, then even the most traumatizing situations can lead to immense growth.
Most of these are signs of an abusive partner to be honest. If you read up on it you'll see a lot of these traits are (blaming the other, bartering for control/power, isolating them, especially from friends and family, etc). That doesn't even mean they're a sociopath, just that they're abusive.
My ex, almost 3 years ago I had my son Axel. During my pregnancy this was literally the relationship. I remember crying in a public bathroom telling a close friend after I had my son I was going to kill myself. My ex mentally, emotionally and physically damaged me. He told my mom and I the pregnancy was a good king of entrapment. When we were alone he constantly told me no one will ever love someone with a child that isn't there's. I'm now both mom and dad, it's really hard. Being so emotionally traumatized, depressed and scared everyday is the hardest thing to live with.
I was in a relationship like this for a whole year. it just wasn't the guy i was dating, it was his friends aswell. as his girlfriend they always complained about me and told him how he should change me, or they themselves would pull me aside and pick me apart. its cruel how people like this walk on others and truly don't get how badly they hurt you. but i got my happy ending. i left that guy and today i am now engaged to the man of my dreams who makes me feel happy every single day ♡ so never give up! never give in! and always no there is always something so much better.
Lol here's me sharing my story. So, i'm and was a lonely person almost always. I did have alot of friends, but guys? They saw me as their sister, or just somebody accurately ugly to be with. One day, this.. changed. There was this one guy. I'll refer to him as "J" because i dont want to expose anyone. "J" approached me one day as i was crying and hugged me and told me everything was going to be alright. I felt safe. We soon grew close, so close, he ended up telling me he loved me. I started loving him back, and i was a fool to do so. "J" was well, different. He would always insult me with the way i dressed, looked, acted and when i insulted him back, he'd be extremely angry and tell me to lose my temper because i was being really petty (boy what?). And i did. I started acting fakely around him, be somebody he wanted me to be, but i hated it. "J" would love to fish for compliments. "Boo, i think im too fat" he'd say, and i'd be like "no, sweetheart, thats not true" but when i did the same, exp. "J, am i annoying" he'd agree, "Lol kinda" and he knew how it hurt my feelings. It was, A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP. Come to say, me and "J" are not talking anymore, and i'm glad, after all this time. No, i sadly wasnt the one who ended it. One day he woke up and realized i was getting boring, and well.. text-dumped me. I was so sad, i begged him to tell me why and i promised him i'd change. Oh well, i did change. After crying myself to sleep for 3 days in a row, i woke up not loving him anymore. Instead i felt this urge to puke everytime i heard his name, and i blocked him. My friends, who i had completely cut off because he said so, comforted me, and "J" was out of the story to this day. "J"... if you know who you are out there and read this, i hope you realise you're a piece of trash, and no, you'll never be a model. I'm so happy you made me realize not everyone who promises keeps it. I do hope you change some day and make someone happy, and although it wasn't me, i'm in better hands now. Preach 💐
I hear ya. A lot of people (me as well) will read it and recognize their exes in "J". Love-bombing, idealization, devaluation, and finally, discarding. It's always the same shit with sociopaths. I hope you have recovered. Best wishes to you and stay strong
Kuu Chan texting, also i used lol as a grinning (im not the best storyteller lmao) also i'm super happy i'm not married to him, i mean... he ruined my self esteem.
I dated a sociopath for 3 1/2 years. He is currently now living with my 21 year old niece (he is 32) and she is pregnant with his baby. He sucked me in with love bombing and was a master Manipulator so that I would do anything for him while he did nothing. That relationship was so traumatizing. He was also emotionally, verbally and on one occasion physically abusive. It's been 2 years now since we ended and I am not done healing the wounds he inflicted. Its a scary thing
I'm not sure if this quote will help/be inspiring in any way but: "Physical wounds can be treated without much difficulty, but emotional wounds are not so easy to heal" - N/Natural Harmonia Gropius.
the difference is Psychopath is born like that, while Sociopath was born normal and gained the traits during abusive social interaction in childhood, that's why "socio" appears in his name.
I was in a friendship with a sociopath and it was terrible, she would constantly insult me and make fun of my insecurities.she was also super over protective always wanting to know what I was doing who I was texting etc she was super controlling and toxic
Lavids Child David and Liza are my parents Sherlock, originally, isn't a sociopath. He just had a better control of himself in the majority of situations. I don't even know what they did in the TV serie, but it's very good.
I've made the mistake of dating one. He always made me feel crazy for having feelings other than happy ones. If something concerned me, he'd blow me off since it wasn't his problem. When dating a sociopath, you are often fending for yourself. Thanks for making this video.
I'm a sociopath and it isn't really like this. you can make the choice to try for others even if it doesn't come natrually or seem to matter much. it will be like their happiness is your accomplishment and watching them succeed becomes something you want. we can't pretend to feel what you feel, but if you are important, we will try to make you feel better.
Eloise Margo agreed. I can realize what I'm doing to people and consciously make the decision to not do so because I know it's wrong to normal people, even if not to me.
Yeah, I agree. The fuel to doing something is to know that someone that matters to you is happy. And everyone else doesn't matter. I find it hard to try something against my nature, it's really hard, even if it's with great rewards... I lack empathy. The downside is when I have to be "happy", I often have to act that way... I feel empty from emotions, the only things I mostly feel are sadness, emptiness and anger, but I think I can love someone, and when I do, I really want them to have the best life.
My motivation to make my partner happy is similar. I enjoy to be loved and cared and I if my partner makes me happy it feels like I owe them something. I feel in duty to make them happy and it's an achievement for me. But I am not motivated by feelings.
My ex was like this except he never promised to change his behavior or his ways or anything to keep me, if I said I was tired of something he didn’t care if I tried to show him how he was treating me by saying how would you like it if I talked to other attractive guys or invited men off social media over just because they were hot he said “Go for it, I hope you’re happy with them”. He didn’t see his behavior as cheating but would see it as cheating if I did the exact same thing. He manipulated all facts in his favor. It was completely impossible to get along with him unless I chose to be a doormat that allowed him to do whatever he wanted and walk all over me. He was a huge fault finder and often threw in insults and jabs to make me feel bad about myself. Just a horrible person who sucked me in by love bombing me.
@@cortezmarsh4693 I left him one month after his behavior changed from sweet, nice, caring, and loving to a Narcissist who could have other women "friends" as side chicks once I discovered what was going on behind my back and him starting to insult and mistreat me I left him. So how is that weak? Most people when they are in love like I was would stick around and let themselves be abused but I left heartbroken that the man who love bombed me and made me feel on top of the world for two months and treated me like garbage the 3rd month and I left. I didn't put up with it even though I really loved him. So how am I weak? I never put up with it I left.
I'm not offended but people often look at me in judgement because I oppose society, while they look at my girlfriend as an angel because she fits in very well, but behind the curtains I'm the one usually dealing with her emotional uproar and overpowerment, I feel like I'm constantly being controlled while when it comes to her she can do whatever she wants.
Sounds like my last relationship.... He broke me and I almost lost all of my friends. I was lucky to even talk to one girl (please note that I am straight and a girl).
being a sociopath doesn't automatically make someone a bad, abusive person. I have a close friend who is socio, and he's wonderful. it's actually quite interesting to learn how he sees and understands things.
^^^ THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS!!! Myself, I manipulate those around me except for a handful of people, who I hold very close to my heart. I consider myself to be a sociopath (though I have not and do not intend to get a professional diagnosis) and this video was honestly quite misleading.
GreyAlien〈3 Yea but since the guy told him he is a sociopath and share personal things with him, like how he sees something,. then its propably honest frienship.
you good people out there be strong you will endure. if your significant other does not give 50% or help you when you are struggling then your better off alone. you will be stronger smarter and more resourceful. besides there are about 3 billion people out there.
I mean its ok to have some moments that are a little sociapathical. In fact, a mass majority of the world are severe sociopaths. So as long as your not a complete sociopath you should be fine.
Victoria McBunny yeah i might be too but i have been pretending for so long that i dont know if its true or not. honestly, its scary, not knowing WHO you are.
Yep! Married one. After 13 years Im going to write a book I have so many stories! I hope that book will help some be aware of sheep in wolves clothing. How they are more common among us than what we think. Also, the number #1 redflag in my opinion (and experience) that youre dealing with a sociopath is charm. Charm is not a natural human trait. It is an act, EVERY time. It can be very allurring, especially to the hopeless romantics looking for love though it "works like a charm" on anyone! Real people who arent fake have no desire to be charming to impress anyone. They are the "what you see is what you get" people and what you think of me is none of my business. Ted Bundy was said to be an attractive, very charming individual....
Yes I do! I believe it is a manipulation tactic that becomes second nature to manipulative people. Im a people watcher. I pay lots of attention. I also bartended for 14 years and in that time there arent too many personalities I havent crossed paths with. Ive seen the oh so charming turn around and their charm disappear. If its a personality trait then I dont think it would have a switch, or a dimmer ("turning up the charm"). Ive yet to meet a charming toddler... I guess if there is an exception to my theory then that would be a person who has charm but with some modesty, maybe...
bitch get off ur high horse its a fucking sickness your born with it who the fuck would choose to be like this? yo man wasnt out to get you, he had mental issues. way to go though make people with illnesses feel incompetent and untrustworthy, whatever helps you sleep at night though
Christy McKee What made you decide to write about it. And have you ever encountered Ted Bundy? I have. He was very charming. Went as far as saying "my mother would be so hurt to hear you saying those words" I told him he was no one special and asked him why I should trust a complete stranger that shows up in a bar in Greeley, Colorado at 12:00am wanting to take a woman he's never spoke to before now to breakfast. Of course he was pissed bc his charm failed him miserably.
#10 they can completely change who they are depending on who they're around. Changing masks to show each person that they encounter what they want to see.
Arr Ere No. Usually I just want to tell them to stfu. Well, this when they are crying bc of stupid shit. When it's serious... Well, i still don't care, but i leave them be.
Bloody hell Everything is like my husband. And I’m married to him since 11yrs. It’s so suffocating and I was totally convinced that I’m at fault for my condition.
Oh it seems I *AM* dating a sociopath. That's pretty sad... May I ask if you could make a video on how to handle a sociopathic person? I mean, it probably won't be much, considering how they are. But... I'd like to know how to control it and be happy with them, because I really love him.
Just because someone is a sociopath doesn't mean they can't change or that you have to deal with it. Don't let them isolate you, but if you're the type of person who isn't hurt or bothered by what they do, then I don't believe there's anything wrong with things. But if they do, then try and talk to them and find some even ground. And if the behavior continues to happen and effect you and nothing changes, then you might want to consider whether or not your affection for them is strong enough to make up for that behavior. Honestly, that's the best advice I can give since I'm not sure what exactly they're doing or how extreme it is, so hope it helps to some extent.
dracocrusher Thanks a bunch for that! I'll really try to take it in count. I don't believe he's a "bad person" at all, as it is basically relative. But really, I can't thank you enough for that. :)
Yano Himisaki :Maybe,consulting a pro,and seek a therapist for help,but NOT for him. . .It's about YOURSELF being in love with someone that can never'll be capable for having healthy relationships with target~people...Honestly,you're not for litters,sweetie. I'll pray for you dear!Love and wishes from Lia
I became a sociopath after i fell deeply in love and was scarred bad by here. I began to lose my feelings, i wouldnt feel anything. I began to lose weight because i wouldnt eat. Everyone i saw i would not trust even my family, i didnt even cry when my dog died and now i dont even feel pain or sadness towards anyone. I cant help it, i prayed to god to help me bring back my feelings and emotions. I want them back. I know im good at manipulation, i get people to do what i want and idk if thats bad or good. Im sorry to anyone who has to date someone as me. but we cant help it. im sorry :’(
zzz This is interesting because I have been entangled with a person who I think is a Sociopath/Narc or both. Recently, he told me that when he first saw me I looked and acted like a girl he once loved who crushed his heart and that he then wanted to punish me for it. He said he was 18 when that girl broke him and that he decided to never love again. He is now in his 40's. I thought he was lying, but after reading your comment, maybe it was the truth. Sorry you were hurt that badly and can't seem to find your way back. :(
Waa waa waa I’m a sociopath but I can’t help it so instead of seeking therapy to change myself I’m just gonna continue to victimize and abuse other people. Woe as me 😔
Well, Japan has an entire sub-genre devoted to it, it's called chibi. In English, it's called superdeformed, but I find that to be a really messed up translation. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chibi_(term)
Bobby White I watch enough anime to know what chibi is. Thanks for your help tho. Never said I was new to the idea of the art style, just said it was cute
Grant I was diagnosed with narcissism and I've only done like two or three of these things to previous people I've dated. Narcissists aren't all fucking jerks just because they look for constant admiration.
Electricninjamonkey Just because someone is a narcissist doesn't mean they're jerks. Also, you're putting words in someone's mouth, your reference to the original comment wasn't said or implied in the comment at all even if it was an over exaggeration.
I dated one once. It was HORRIBLE he never listened when I said no. He'd force me to do things I didn't want to saying things like "You'd do this if you love me" he constantly lied to me. He even blamed me for him not being allowed to see his three year old daughter (he was 17 so he had her at 15) and tried to lie to me saying the girl raped him then manipulated the courts into saying he couldn't see her again blaming me when I didn't even know him when this hsppened. And he was an Internet stalker!! *shudders* worst relationship I've ever been in. And I've been in multiple bad ones.
Sarah Adler I'm doing better yes, I finally found a healthy relationship and they've helped me work through a lot of things from my past. Thank you for your concern.
This is so saaad, my ex was a sociopath. It’s really impressive the way that he used to manipulate me or make me feel guilty about anything, I’m really a person that has a 6th sense or knows how to figure things out, but with him it was like idk I just loved him so much that he blinded me somehow😢 But i’m glad that we are not together anymore !!
i'm a sociopath myself. Trust me, some of these are kind of two way. When you recognize something is 'wrong' with you trying to change and understand certain aspects is incredibly frustrating. Manipulation is the way of the world, it just comes natural. Trust me though it can be geared and channeled positively. I enjoy building my partner up as it brings on a personal feeling of accomplishment like building a birdhouse or changing your oil. "Look what I did" kind of deal. Being self centered... rereading my above comment... just... yeah. It often takes a second glance and going over the entire situation in the eye of cause and effect to even realize we were in the wrong. Empathy/Sympathy, we're instinctive, basic, self preservation or "how does this benefit me" comes first. Everyone else, even family comes second, it takes a REALLY strong bond to overcome that. It's pretty much down to a lack of inner immediate reasoning and often we have to go in scripted for anything that rubs off as true empathy.
Three years of therapy to start, after I was caught smashing windows when I was about 11. Honestly had no idea why I did it beyond I wanted to. I knew it was wrong, didn't care, didn't even know why beyond impulse. Doctor couldn't officially diagnose me with anything but they tried giving me ritilin to see if that helped, oh it did not. basically I had to learn to manually use cause and effect, run a course of action in my head before really doing anything major. .. ugh I still remember those sliding tile puzzles I'd get lost in doing as I sat on that chair at the office. It took to cement it my father dying. I was a little sad sure, but more a reaction of... like your cat dying. Sure, you're bummed but what can ya do, people die.
Derek Gaines That's cool. I'm glad you're not one of those edgy teens that say they're crazy because they think they can make a mental illness a fashion trend. Glad to see someone telling the truth.
Thank you, I just wanted to give the other side of the spectrum. Really it then comes down to nature vs nurture. A sociopath has no remorse, has to actively think or will 90% of the time pick the more self-serving option in any decision (God knows I do). Though often times can be some of the most giving people too even if self-serving I have a very small pool of people I keep in my circle but I know I can depend on any one of them thanks to the relationships I fostered with them. I am grateful to my mother for instilling one simple saying, "If you have and do not need, then give. Only good can come of it". Best advice ever and tried to teach that to my nephew who I spotted early on was also a sociopath, he's a bum now... and pretty much yes, he was emo and angsty.
I have come to learn much about myself and who I attract. I learned I was an empath several years ago and at the time I was involved with a high level abusive narcissistic partner. I learned that empaths attract narcissistic ppl and after finally freeing myself from that destructive person, I watch others very carefully and have had to walk away from other potential love interests due to them exhibiting similar characteristics of past partnerships. I have learned it is imperative to implement self care and self love. My childhood was very abusive and the last person I was seriously involved with highlighted those issues derived from my youth. I realized they were highlighting the issues I needed to heal in order to attract the right person for me. I'm still working on cracking the code so to speak, but I know I am better off now vs. my past. Thank you for the information👍💞😁
Psych2Go Haha, oh my god. That's funny. But I am kinda serious. She's really mean, beyond what she probably should be. She'd blame me for things she's done and I'd get in trouble for it. Just to name one thing. Anyway, she's off at college now so I'm doing better. Though I'm still pretty socially awkward, mostly due to her. Fun fact, I've actually had people cry when I told them my full life story.
TheDragonEmperor00 Am I a sociopath because I know that was supposed to make me feel bad for you but all I felt was the hunch that you were probably just very narcissistic or maybe a bit thick
Kmine Channle not yet complete Ya know, I don't blame ya, but I personally hate a lot about myself. A lot more than I really should. In fact I would rather be left alone than to be told good things about myself. Pretty far from being any narcissistic.
I think it’s important to remember that sociopaths don’t necessarily have to fit every single criteria. My boyfriend did all of these except for the isolation part. He never tried to isolate me, but he would be very loving for many days and then completely cold and abandoned me for days on end. Looking back I think he did it to try and emotionally manipulate me and hurt me because he didn’t really like women and he admitted that
My brother is definitely a sociopath then. He's beat me up a lot, said sorry and he wouldn't do it again, but he HAS. He always talks about wanting to get a job, but he never makes the effort. A few days ago I had a mental breakdown and I was crying, so he videotaped me and 30 people saw it. He doesn't sympathize, for example, for people who have anxiety. He says they should just stop overthinking. And more. He doesn't think he's wrong for videotaping me when I was already upset and beating me up, and my dad agrees.
well then... my ex was a sociopath.... he was always controlling who i could and couldn't be friends with, sometimes id complain about my parents a little (because everyone does that at least a little bit) and id complain about how sometimes my dad would give me compliments that embarrassed me like him saying how i could be a model and blah blah and my ex would act all weird and say how i couldn't be a model because... i didn't have to if i didn't want too? 1 week after my dad died he didn't show very much sympathy at all because apparently me complaining a little bit time to time meant that i straight up hated my dad or something in his mind and he acted really surprised when i was sad because my dad died and then told me i should get over it... like wtf dude fathers can be an extreme part of child development and for me too loose him about 2 weeks after i turned 12 and im just supposed to "get over it"... (yes i was stupid to be in a relationship with him from the age 10 to 12 considering i didnt know as much as i do now but its pretty stupid for me to be in another relationship at age 13 so... experience i guess? but hey at least i got smart enough to cut it off after he threatened to commit suicide to get me to stay with him) now im going to mumble on about other sociopathic type shit my ex did like oh idk he'd call me at 6 or 7 am randomly when he knew i had a sleeping disorder and on top of that he'd call even more if i didn't pick up the phone and then claim i was trying to pull some sick joke, he had planned to have me come with him to his vacation house and then stalk me in the bathroom with a secret hole in the wall, he touched/hit my breasts to annoy me because he thought it was funny... once he even stroked them in public and then bragged to his twin brother about it in front of me, he would ask overly personal questions like if i had a tampon in and if he found out i was on my period he'd use me as a threat against some boys who would sexually harass me like complimenting my bras, saying they saw me naked ect. dont think my ex wasn't guilty of some of that shit.... and then there was the fact that if he didn't get along with someone i knew, i couldn't be friends with them anymore because he didn't want me around ppl he didn't like and he would claim that one of my greatest friends would kill me simply because he didn't like her... and he would plan to stalk us hanging out even going as far as to send his twin over to her house to keep watch, he was also super controlling of what i could and couldn't do... he wouldn't let me do girly stuff with him or with my girl friends and would tell us if we wanted to do girly shit we should plan our own day and when we did just what he said he got all mad saying that i just didn't want to spend time with him... he would emotionally torment me alot aswell... so my last birthday present i got from my dad was a bike and i cherished that bike because of that and my ex would literally threaten to knok it over if i didn't do what he wanted and a week after i got the bike he fucked it up.... there was even a time i trusted him with my phone and he broke the fucking screen because he put it in his backpack and claimed he forgot it was in there and threw it off the side if a play structure... and said i shouldn't be mad because at least I had enough money to fix it... and there are so many other things i could vent about like how he wanted me to favor him over my family, how he would be racist to blacks constantly even though im half black, how he planned our entire future, said he wouldn't allow me to adopt because of his belief that the child needs to be blood related, put a tracking chip in me because he didn't trust me,tried to control where i went to school at what age (i was in homeschool wanting to be in regular school and he was trying to get me to not go to regular school until i got my license bc that what he planned to do), he expected me to like everything he did just because i liked one thing he did, tried to use me as a way to benefit him with my possessions, got mad at any of my interests that he didn't have and would question my for my likes and dislikes ... and this one i kinda blame myself for not leaving but he was open about saying he only liked me because i was pretty... and now he says that i was the crazy one in the relationship if you read through that all... damn and just know that im glad i broke that relationship off later than never... i was stupid af for not leaving sooner, im 13 currently and im with another guy that respects me more and im honestly really happy with him and we literally tell eachother everything (so we dont have jealousy and so we understand eachother better) and honestly it seems to be going pretty well and yes i do admit we have our snags at times because we dont fully understand eachother yet but we have been working to get through it.... and i know if it goes downhill i should talk to him about it to work it out and if that doesn't work i should just leave... I've learned and i know i still have a loooong way to go and most people would say im too young but hey i probably am but oh well its my choice to deal with heartache so ehhh... so feel free to leave your opinions if you want i guess im not really gonna care so there isn't really a point but whatever floats your boat puddin
Ive been struggling for the past year dealing with a recent attempt at suicide. I was hospitalized and was diagnosed with ptsd, anxiety disorder and major depression. Its truly been a long battle. Especially with personal identification. I met my now gf during my process in the hospital and have learned a lot about who and how i was. Seeing a video like this. Is enlightening in a very heavy manor. I share some very in depth traits with this list and a few other videos ive watched. I understand i cant diagnose myself. But seeing content like this is eye opening. Im an ex gang member. Drug abuser and alcoholic. And struggle with understanding whats right and wrong. And as i further define myself the sense of pride does take over and the need for self gratitude on a grandiose scale is a must. Which then neglects me to others around me. It's videos like this which truly does help in the battle of mental illness. I can now relate myself to a few issues and been having an depth conversation with my gf about how i can use certain traits available from guidelines like this, to further my self healing and goal to identify myself in the future. Being a male and exposed to certain myths and traits the media and society imposes on what should define a man truly contradicted how i should mould myself. Its videos like this and open opinions of peoples past experience and fears that now help me redefine and avoid becoming that fear my gf once lived. Thanks for having info like this readily available and taking your time to educate to the best of your ability. Truly gives me second light on the battle i have amongst my own being in which person i feed to win the fight of self definition. It brings light to the ignorance ive embraced not knowing how or where to talk about my own ilness. Keep up the awesome work.
Well. I guess my ex was a sociopath. He showed all of these signs. He would blame me for things and start fights. When I would fight back he would say it's all my fault for all of our fights. Then I would be apologizing. He was also so manipulative...
Freya Hammar It actually is one sided. Not every socio is like the video says. Btw by seeing your comments Im pretty sure you re not a sociopath ya edgy teen.
My husband actually got diagnosed as mentally insane when he was 13. Also he has sociopathic traits. However, he doesn't act like anything described in this video. He's actually one of the few genuinely nice and kind people I know. Is there a different type of sociopath where they're not terrible people but the way their mind works is just different? Or am I describing something else?
I'm no expert, but I fully believe that it's possible for people with sociopathic traits to not act out on those traits. That doesn't necessarily mean they're no longer a sociopath, but something you have to realize is that sociopaths tend to be pretty smart. So it's completely possible for a sociopath to recognize that specific sociopathic behavior, like being manipulative and controlling, is not always beneficial or poses social or material risks they don't want to take. Which would cause them to not act out on said behavior for their own sake. But that's just my thoughts.
I have sociopathic traits, but I don't enact upon them. For example, sometimes I'll feel zero sympathy/empathy in a situation that warrants it, but I'll still offer support/condolences. I can't help the way I feel, but I can control how I interact with others in a way that doesn't put them off. Mindset is one thing; actions are another.
I wasn’t dating a sociopath but I had friends like that. They projected all their insecurities and blamed one of our friends for problems they weren’t even aware of. They cut me off because I stood up for that person. They were cool in high school but after we graduated something changed in them. They weren’t the same person I became friends with.
+Chris Spence Sex benefits them. Not going to jail for abandoning your kids benefits them. Some people (e.g. a certain parent I know), like to control and manipulate others so much that parenting provides a direct benefit due to the control you have over other people (your kids).
Jason Rennie you... You do realize my first comment was a joke right? I even did an emote. The fact that I had to explain the joke, and then explain that it was a joke is getting frustrating.
I'm a sociopath, diagnosed by a doctor and it runs strongly in the family. We can't control our lack of emotion! Stop accusing us of being bad people for being born with a brain defect! It's like telling an autistic kid to stop being autistic and they can't! We try to show sympathy but it's hard to express. Half the stuff in the video is false. The only major true sign in this video is we're money, food, love driven. I seriously don't know what they're talking about with the "advantage" thing because I've never heard of it or thought of it, the point being is stop shaming us for something we personally can't control.
Its not about bad people its about having a peaceful life without one as a partner. I had a dreadful life at an early age because i did not understand this personality. I felt that I should stand by my husband which I did until it was too late, my life was wrecked and I was harmed badly and left very frightened. Lost my home, my job and lots of money!I was afraid of starting another relationship for 20 years!
Depressed Metal head - while it's not his fault that he has a disorder, it is his fault that he ruined her life and hurt her. Although he can't feel remorse, he can control his own actions and he needs to take responsibility for that. The fact that you are a diagnosed sociopath but are not inclined to hurt people does show that sociopaths are not to be automatically kept from taking responsibility for the things they do. The point is, not every person with a mental illness is the same. Some sociopaths are like the ones in this video, some are like you, and some are anywhere in between.
Currently I am in a relationship with a guy who was diagnosed as a sociopath by a doctor. I love him, really want to keep him. But I have a slight borderline disorder. And sometimes it can be really hard. I'm trying to understand him. Can you give me advise as he can not really.. :/
I've dated sociopaths, they all killed animals not as in hunting but out of cruelty. I've experienced this list But when it comes to number 7..I don't fuck around lmao. Sociopath or not I'm not saying sorry. One of the few times I can pick out a sociopath is when they try to make you feel guilty over something you didn't do, or that they did.
O Fira actually, not to like come out as being rude, just a minor mishap is the difference between physcopathy and sociopathy. The trait of killing animals is a trait of a phsycopath, that is the difference, physical harm is the physcopath trait, sociopathy is more of the loss of being able to comprehend emotions. Both have these traits but the harming of animals and people are physcopath
i honestly watched this to know if i'm the sociopath
good news! i'm not!
Gaia Nitti Same!
Gaia Nitti same
Gaia Nitti same..and i know i am
Gaia Nitti Me too dude, I'm probably not but it's still very possible..
What would happen if 2 sociopaths started dating each other?
Wait, nevermind. We don't need any more Sherlock/Moriarty combos.
Dalton Grant LOL TRU!!! 😂👌🏼
Dalton Grant one can become the greater one
They would be compatible because they understand each other, and they both know their ways so they won't be really manipulated by each other.
I'd ship it
I'm not dating anyone but this did help me identify a sociopath in my life and it's my mom
knowing this I'll probably move out now
Kitty Sings dad ;(
Poor you
Kitty Sings that's my dad
same it describes my mom😮
my ex shows every single sign on this list (And called me crazy wow just wow)
Libby Land you believe this video?
Yeah my ex did the same thing. Passed an STD to me, lied about it and had the nerve to say I got it from someone else. And called me crazy when I called her crazy. Then she moved on to someone else literally two days later. WTF
Relatable
@Spencer S lol. I guess you should’ve got to know them more before having sex.
Exactly same thing happened. I was also gaslighted and at one point I thought I was going crazy. He Jst sucked out all the life and confidence out of me. Plus he gave me the trust issues. It has taken me years to recover. I am still in the process of recovery. My view of relationship changed after being in a relationship wid him for 2 n a half years.
But breaking up was the best thing that ever happened to me. 😇
My ex was a sociopath and he put me through an emotional hell. As soon as we broke up, the sense of relief I felt afterwards was amazing.
Same here
This sounds like a sociopath using an emotional stance to sound like the victim.
We all know you’re the actual Sociopath. Nice try gaslighting your victim.
"We all know"... Nice alleged certainty fallacy.
Lex Tez
Mine too !! Same pinch. Feels relieved after breaking up.
I'm single at the moment, so I don't know why I'm watching this...
Ruby Edgar same. Maybe just so I can look for the signs?
So you can FEEL GOOD at the fact that you now have the information to check who is a sociopath, at least in a relationship
Ur brain wants to protect ur heart
Well-baked Jews I watched this because I've been questioning my friendship for two whole years now and I still don't know what to do
I don't understand how this many people have commented without making an insult towards your name yet.
Yes.. apparently i dated 1 sociopath. Took me a year to finally had enough and say no to this person. Thanks God i can finally be free from this person eventually.
Missdemeanour555
They can't control it.
maybe it takes one sociopath to know one, just saying
And 10. Sexually abusive and/or suggestive and unable to grasp the idea of anyone's boundaries.
Preach
BrotherTree1 oh yes! That’s a good one to add.
This is a very important one.
@Bob squash mine was
Taniyia Rogers same🙂
This video was previously unlisted. How did some of you get early access to it? Sociopaths in the house?
Psych2Go omg
Psych2Go lmao
Psych2Go I have a questio. what are some ways a sociopath can try to lessen their bad habits without medication.
Psych2Go :I'm a fan of yours, lately,since the moment I discovered the channel!I'd like to ask you s.t.:is it possible to happen with other relationships too?I mean,not only in dating case...Thank you much~much for taking the time to read and-probably-reply to my daft comment.Greetings from south Europe.
I think I can help answer your question. From what I can understand, you are asking if sociopaths act the same way even if it is not a romantic relationship, right?
My cat is a sociopath.
Send help.
BTS Bish Your cat just needs to be understood. Cats get a bad rep.
Help has been sent boi!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D
BTS Bish lol
there is a lot of people like that' , if we can call them people. 😈
All cats are sociopaths.
I put myself through a year and a half of the worst relationship I'll ever have. She fit every single one of these. I wish I could have seen it.
NorthwestBearcat1214 be careful she could come back
SOOOOO TRUE U DONT NOTICE UNTIL ITS TO LATE
same homeboy
NorthwestBearcat1214 same i dealt with him for 2 years
Aww:( I hope you find a good girl one day and never tolerate emotional abuse again 💔
I dated one and it lasted for 5 months. I left and never looked back. A total freaking monster.
Same with mine
hey dude, I also ever dated for about 4 months with a sociopathic girl.
I dated one too for 4 months. He was just getting worse. I couldn't deal with it any longer
7 months for me. It was hell.
What am I doing here? I don't even have a boyfreind..
poo nuggo neither
poo nuggo Neither.
No girlfriend lol
It will certainly help you out in the future .
:(
This is extremely true. My exboyfriend cheated on me more than 2x in our relationship and I somehow found a way to apologize for his actions, any negative feeling he expressed towards me, he would manipulated his words to where I was the one apologizing instead of him. I found myself always wanting to seek his approval. I didn't realize our relationship was a wreck until we broke up.
Annahmarie everyone goes through a terrible partner at some point. And sometimes we're the terrible partners. The thing that is important is learning from those mistakes and not commiting them again. I'm glad you are better, I hope you find a better man and dont let that wound ruin your future paradise. Be happy and be positive, happy holidays. 💙
Seems like you were just an easy peice of ass
Jeff Dunham communism
If only they had a dating site for only Sociopaths oops nvm they already have tender
Annahmarie relatable
My Ex nearly killed me. My parents and friends tried to help me when I was with him, but he kept pulling me away from everyone and gas lighting me on a daily basis.
When we finally broke up, my whole life slowly came back together - went back to school, got a job, reunited with friends and my current boyfriend is unlike anything I've ever known. I had no idea that the relationship I was in was bad, I honestly thought that I was the crazy one, and that I deserved the abuse. :/
what does gas lighting mean??? is that some weird gen z hobby Im unaware ?? please tell me i feel like an outdated relic.
Use of the term gaslighting makes me question you.
Yes, that's basically how it usually turns out. Ignore the other ignorant comments, people who's never dated a psychopath/sociopath will never understand and they'll do their best to discredit you
Gaslighting: a form of manipulation where the perpetrator makes the victim question their sanity as if someone were wrong with them
What ITS NOT FUNNY
If my mom saw this 26 years ago I wouldn't be born 😂
oh-😀
Lmao! 🙌🏼
If my mom saw this 60 yrs ago i wouldn't be born !!!! Yikes !!!
Same
😂
I'm not dating a sociopath, but I'm fairly certain one has latched onto me as a friend..
Sociopaths can try. It is a disorder, they can't change, but they can still try. It's sad.
They make decent friends yes?
Hey, what did you think about Oregairu???????????????????????
Bobby White I have seen over 400 animes and he remains my favorite character. He never once swayed from his way of self sacrifice and i really loved it.
It is sad.. I do my best to be a good friend to her without sacrificing my control over my own life, but after trying to do that for the years I've known her, with her still overstepping her boundaries and very obviously trying to emotionally manipulate me.. Gotta tell you man, it's mentally draining.
as someone who is a sociopath and is in a healthy relationship, I can confirm that it is possible for a sociopath to change some habits, the hard part is recognising your own flaws to start, and getting motivated to do so
that's interesting. so, are you saying that a sociopath can have a conscience even if they don't have empathy? or are you saying that a sociopath can choose their behaviors in order to meet their goals?
Another sociopath here, throwing in my two cents! I'm still quite manipulative towards those around me, except for the people I'm extremely close to. That is to say, we're perfectly capable of making exceptions to our behavior.
+mad dusa, wow another complete idiot. first of all, not everyone has the same symptoms. second of all sympathy isnt the same as empathy.
Stfu you're not a sociopath, sociopaths never self analyse so saying you're a sociopath is a clear indicator you're not.
Oh boy, all of these, and literally ALL signs describe my ex. good thing I broke up!
Steffi Ackermann same here! but with my old friend. thank god im not friends with them anymore, it was ruining me. i'm a much better person now. :)
Lol same, I actually broke up because of this video! All of the signs were positive when I though about it, thank God for this video!
Steffi Ackermann same lol
I am the same my ex was exactly like this. and i never realised, I am glad I got out of that relationship
Steffi Ackermann attack on titan
13 common traits for sociopathy:
1) Grandio sense of self
2) Manipulative and Conning nature
3) Superficial Charmer
4) Pathological liar
5) Lack of Guilt or Shame
6) Shallow Emotions
7) Need for Stimulation
8) Lack of Empathy
9) Impulsive nature
10) Juvenile Delinquency
11) Unreliability
12) Sexual Deviant
13) Criminal Versitilaty
Kind of sounds like the traits of a narc
Hey stop describing me
This is a little misrepresentative. Sociopaths lack empathy but will still follow social norms. If they see a happy couple doing well they will typically mimic the actions of the couple. Sociopaths also aren't narcissistic. This video isn't describing sociopathy this is describing a bad relationship.
this shits confusing me even more am i a sociopath or not? 😂
Christabel marie Actually sociopathy is a personal disorder not a mental illness which is a big difference. The point is - mental illness can be cured or supressed with help of medics and doctors. Its something a person cannot control and mostly doesnt even realize he has it.
Sociopathy on the other hand cannot be cured or even diagnosed if the sociopath is good actor and lier. Most of sociopaths are also know that they are sociopaths or at least they are different. However they dont mind it in most cases. Unlike mentally ill people, socio can fully control their actions and behavior. They can supress it too, but only if they want.
See the difference?
Mimicry usually only goes so far. I was married to a sociopath for seven years (the fact that she was sadistic and a schizophrenic, i.e. saw and heard illusions, only made it worse.) In public, the sociopath may seem like able, fun, and usually very charismatic. In private, eventually it becomes a different story. Once they let down their guard you can see the real disorder at work.
Also, sociopaths CAN BE narcissistic in the sense that the only one that matters to them is themselves. It doesn't bother them if you're hurt, but apply a little pain or humiliation to them and the difference between right and wrong becomes abundantly clear to them. For this reason, a sociopath will normally lean toward sadism rather than masochism.
Brodie Hewitt I think that's what I find scary... I fell for someone like that.. very good at acting like a gentleman until years later when I realized he never actually cared about me or a lot of other things... there were definitely red flags but when someone is skilled at blending in and you're naive and/or in love you can miss those red flags...
Brodie Hewitt i was friends with a sociopath and they suffered from narcissistic personality disorder as well. for others, it might be hard for people to differentiate because a sociopath might do things that can point to them being a narcissist. the two commonly seem to go hand in hand but every case is different.
I wish people would be serious in this comment section. Don't you have anything better to do? It's a horrible thing to go through no matter how strong you think or thought you once were. It tears you down to nothing. You once were a happy, intelligent person with a great life full of friends and creativity. These men and women suck the life out of you. 😰
if a person sucks the life out of you that means you were never the true happy intelligent person to start with just a person with a fort waiting for someone to break the walls down. Why? Well because a happy intelligent person would never let someone who is toxic break them down.
Wait, are you saying the COMMENT SECTION is a horrible thing to go through no matter how strong you think or thought you once were? Lol.
Blue Verde - What you just said there demonstrates that you yourself are a sociopath. Fact.
This isn't a joking matter and the people making jokes are cruel. These people destroy lives, destroys souls. You can't possibly understand unless you have experienced it yourself. I used to be outgoing and happy with lots of interests. Now I haven't left the house for over 7 months other than go to the store or to therapy.
+Lucifer I'm so fucked up I fapped to this video.
I've never dated anyone, so IDK why I'm watching this!
same
Me too
You’re not alone pal.
Gia Perez beautiful as u are. Why not?
same
Veronica needed this video when she was dating JD
Fall Singer who?
A L B I N Ø it is from the movie/play “Heathers”
Um..?0
JD is a psychopath, not a sociopath
....im crying at 3 in the morning when i got school in a few hours...
will use this guide not to identify a sociopath, but to hide my sociopath from my partner
Minato Shujinko ^^^ The same.
Minato Shujinko do you mean you'll improve in time... then God bless you for giving equal opportunities and shares to your partner
Ebony says who?
People likes to depict "sociopath" as bad bunch for relationships. So yeah our mind is twisted but we also wanted love whats the point of feeling unloved and undated for along time.
Minato Shujinko LMAO SAME
I have been in a relationship with a Sociopath before... luckily, I noticed how he was acting and quickly ended it
Welp, I'll be right back. I gotta go dump someone...
lol xD
DownTownCosplayer lol
DownTownCosplayer yah don't try to get them help...just dump them...thats what you would dp if someone had depression...right?
I Am The Bad Wolf
well shit... what your saying does sound bad, but there isn't really anything else you can do in a relationship like that. I know that sounds bad but in most cases, it's true. if they truly are the sociopath you beleive they are, then they won't accept the help, or the offer will make them angry or feel worse.
DownTownCosplayer every woman i have ever met show signs of being a sociopath.
this confirmed a lot for me. i dated a sociopath for 3 years... and i'm still dealing with the trauma of it today.
how are you now?
@@thaliajones9383 Much better. It's been almost 4 years now since we broke up and I've healed a lot from it. The whole situation put me on a path focused on intense healing and exploration of inner self, so while the whole thing was deeply traumatizing at the time, I'm happy with who I became and everything I learned from the situation. I learned if we choose to focus the brighter sides of life and find the lessons each adversity brought, then even the most traumatizing situations can lead to immense growth.
#2 is probably a sign of an abuser, too.
Most of these are signs of an abusive partner to be honest. If you read up on it you'll see a lot of these traits are (blaming the other, bartering for control/power, isolating them, especially from friends and family, etc). That doesn't even mean they're a sociopath, just that they're abusive.
I'm actually checking this to see if I'm a sociopath 😂
I'm not, apparantly
Floortje - i am shit , i wana change b
Floortje - No I may be a sociopath.
damn.
Nick/Ecu Mapping if u worry that are one the u aren't because they don't worry
brofoot12203 Oh okay
*Ha! Im not dating anyone, problem solved!*
Otherwise, great video, love your animations and drawings! So much simpler than mine yet more effective :D
SvenInMotion omg I watch you!
SvenInMotion :Well,you're not dating anyone AT THE MOMENT,but what about the future...?Isn't it usefull to be able to control it some day?Wishes.
Jcamerer omg not creepy at al!
Lol jk, thanks :D
Yeah, me neither. :)
SvenInMotion same
My ex, almost 3 years ago I had my son Axel. During my pregnancy this was literally the relationship. I remember crying in a public bathroom telling a close friend after I had my son I was going to kill myself. My ex mentally, emotionally and physically damaged me. He told my mom and I the pregnancy was a good king of entrapment. When we were alone he constantly told me no one will ever love someone with a child that isn't there's. I'm now both mom and dad, it's really hard. Being so emotionally traumatized, depressed and scared everyday is the hardest thing to live with.
I want to talk you plz
I'm not a sociopath or anything, but I get motivated by food. I-I don't know why, but all I know it is delicious!
Krazy_Koala true
Krazy_Koala SAMEE
FOOD
IS
LIFE
Krazy_Koala #foodmotivatesme
#TheFatAssCommentSection 🍔🍰🍦🍩😂😂😂
Yasssssss
This sounds EXACTLY like my mom... But we are not dating...
Lol...
Akumy
Same
Lol edipo
welp, your mom must be a sociopath then!!!
Dont mind the comments, your mother totally can be a sociopath and if shes harming your psychologically you should consider fiding help
i wondered what was missing and it was their necks...
I sure know how to pick em!! After discovering I was married to a narcissistic psychopath for 11 yrs, my recent x boyfriend is a sociopath!! Wow! 😓😫
I was in a relationship like this for a whole year. it just wasn't the guy i was dating, it was his friends aswell. as his girlfriend they always complained about me and told him how he should change me, or they themselves would pull me aside and pick me apart. its cruel how people like this walk on others and truly don't get how badly they hurt you.
but i got my happy ending. i left that guy and today i am now engaged to the man of my dreams who makes me feel happy every single day ♡
so never give up! never give in! and always no there is always something so much better.
Raven Antebi aww thanks for your honesty. GUUUUUUUURl!!!!!
Raven Antebi That's exactly my moms story except it was 10 years
Lol here's me sharing my story.
So, i'm and was a lonely person almost always. I did have alot of friends, but guys? They saw me as their sister, or just somebody accurately ugly to be with. One day, this.. changed. There was this one guy. I'll refer to him as "J" because i dont want to expose anyone. "J" approached me one day as i was crying and hugged me and told me everything was going to be alright. I felt safe. We soon grew close, so close, he ended up telling me he loved me. I started loving him back, and i was a fool to do so. "J" was well, different. He would always insult me with the way i dressed, looked, acted and when i insulted him back, he'd be extremely angry and tell me to lose my temper because i was being really petty (boy what?). And i did. I started acting fakely around him, be somebody he wanted me to be, but i hated it. "J" would love to fish for compliments. "Boo, i think im too fat" he'd say, and i'd be like "no, sweetheart, thats not true" but when i did the same, exp. "J, am i annoying" he'd agree, "Lol kinda" and he knew how it hurt my feelings. It was, A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP. Come to say, me and "J" are not talking anymore, and i'm glad, after all this time. No, i sadly wasnt the one who ended it. One day he woke up and realized i was getting boring, and well.. text-dumped me. I was so sad, i begged him to tell me why and i promised him i'd change. Oh well, i did change. After crying myself to sleep for 3 days in a row, i woke up not loving him anymore. Instead i felt this urge to puke everytime i heard his name, and i blocked him. My friends, who i had completely cut off because he said so, comforted me, and "J" was out of the story to this day. "J"... if you know who you are out there and read this, i hope you realise you're a piece of trash, and no, you'll never be a model. I'm so happy you made me realize not everyone who promises keeps it. I do hope you change some day and make someone happy, and although it wasn't me, i'm in better hands now. Preach 💐
I hear ya. A lot of people (me as well) will read it and recognize their exes in "J". Love-bombing, idealization, devaluation, and finally, discarding. It's always the same shit with sociopaths. I hope you have recovered. Best wishes to you and stay strong
Aurz x I honestly thought the story would end 'we are still married now ;-;' but its good you stopped speaking. + who says lol irl?
Kuu Chan texting, also i used lol as a grinning (im not the best storyteller lmao) also i'm super happy i'm not married to him, i mean... he ruined my self esteem.
YOU ARE A PIECE OF TRASH "J" AND NO YOU WONT EVER BECOME A MODEL ! WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND "J"
Alieya Ariesa yas indeed girl slay ❣
I'm a high-functioning sociopath! Merry Christmas! *gunshot*
Paco Ramirez Sup Sherlock!
Eyyy same here
Do your research
Are you *actually* a sociopath or just an edgy team
@@josanishere1384 it's a Sherlock reference, great show 10/10
I dated a sociopath for 3 1/2 years. He is currently now living with my 21 year old niece (he is 32) and she is pregnant with his baby. He sucked me in with love bombing and was a master Manipulator so that I would do anything for him while he did nothing. That relationship was so traumatizing. He was also emotionally, verbally and on one occasion physically abusive. It's been 2 years now since we ended and I am not done healing the wounds he inflicted. Its a scary thing
Hi, I tried to send a Direct Message but couldn’t. I know exactly what you went through!
I can feel you. I'm living the same thing
I'm not sure if this quote will help/be inspiring in any way but: "Physical wounds can be treated without much difficulty, but emotional wounds are not so easy to heal" - N/Natural Harmonia Gropius.
after knowing what a sociopath is i guess I am a sociopath
I think it's pretty badass
do you feel emotions or care for other peoples feelings
yes and i drool with crazy thought when it comes girls
knight shade if you think you might me a sociopath, you should get yourself checked by a professional
Superjavi mlp that's just rude
*Has no idea what a Sociopath is*
*Thinks it's Psychopath misspelled*
*Watches video and slaps self in the face*
Lol
the difference is Psychopath is born like that, while Sociopath was born normal and gained the traits during abusive social interaction in childhood, that's why "socio" appears in his name.
[{Enchanted Willow}] lead by example, lol
I'm watching this video, and wow, I could actually say I dated a sociopath...almost to the T
Ritalin users always say sorry when they feel guilty and ashamed
I was in a friendship with a sociopath and it was terrible, she would constantly insult me and make fun of my insecurities.she was also super over protective always wanting to know what I was doing who I was texting etc she was super controlling and toxic
She just wants attention.she is not worth of any danger
What If I'm mentally dating Sherlock
Lavids Child David and Liza are my parents, Aren't we all... xD Sherlock is life.
Lavids Child David and Liza are my parents
Sherlock, originally, isn't a sociopath. He just had a better control of himself in the majority of situations. I don't even know what they did in the TV serie, but it's very good.
He is actually on the autistic spectrum. He's not a sociopath.
Lavids Child David and Liza are my parents NO HES MINE
Pfft nah he's mine
Sounds like regular people.
Burdigo Weg I don't know what kind of shitty relationships you've had in your life, but noooo
i feel sad for you
No, I know lots of people who DONT do this. This is something you should never tolerate, at least when it becomes a pattern
According to this video the vast majority of the world's population are severe Sociopaths. We should have unions by now.
Burdigo Weg real
My cousin is dating a sociopath...
WELP TIME TO RUIN THEIR RELATIONSHIP
:Phanic!TøpTen_ _ChemicalSeptipliers: lol
I dated a sociopath for 8 years and it was a living hell, I was so happy when I got the courage and strenght to leave and start a new life for myself.
Just another day in da hood mah homie d!
my exwife. after living a hell like that I am amazed I survived.
Keep going dude :)
Gail Cat Thx its tough
Been there, I feel your pain....
So you now possess the experience of surviving
freeyourmind88 I had a mental breakdown with my ex boyfriend. Turns out he was the fuel and the match!!
I've made the mistake of dating one. He always made me feel crazy for having feelings other than happy ones. If something concerned me, he'd blow me off since it wasn't his problem. When dating a sociopath, you are often fending for yourself. Thanks for making this video.
I'm a sociopath and it isn't really like this. you can make the choice to try for others even if it doesn't come natrually or seem to matter much. it will be like their happiness is your accomplishment and watching them succeed becomes something you want. we can't pretend to feel what you feel, but if you are important, we will try to make you feel better.
Eloise Margo agreed. I can realize what I'm doing to people and consciously make the decision to not do so because I know it's wrong to normal people, even if not to me.
Yeah, I agree. The fuel to doing something is to know that someone that matters to you is happy. And everyone else doesn't matter. I find it hard to try something against my nature, it's really hard, even if it's with great rewards... I lack empathy. The downside is when I have to be "happy", I often have to act that way... I feel empty from emotions, the only things I mostly feel are sadness, emptiness and anger, but I think I can love someone, and when I do, I really want them to have the best life.
"Trust us"
My motivation to make my partner happy is similar. I enjoy to be loved and cared and I if my partner makes me happy it feels like I owe them something. I feel in duty to make them happy and it's an achievement for me. But I am not motivated by feelings.
Eloise Margo how did you discover you're a sociopath?
My ex was like this except he never promised to change his behavior or his ways or anything to keep me, if I said I was tired of something he didn’t care if I tried to show him how he was treating me by saying how would you like it if I talked to other attractive guys or invited men off social media over just because they were hot he said “Go for it, I hope you’re happy with them”. He didn’t see his behavior as cheating but would see it as cheating if I did the exact same thing. He manipulated all facts in his favor. It was completely impossible to get along with him unless I chose to be a doormat that allowed him to do whatever he wanted and walk all over me. He was a huge fault finder and often threw in insults and jabs to make me feel bad about myself. Just a horrible person who sucked me in by love bombing me.
Your weak
I understand this
@@cortezmarsh4693 I left him one month after his behavior changed from sweet, nice, caring, and loving to a Narcissist who could have other women "friends" as side chicks once I discovered what was going on behind my back and him starting to insult and mistreat me I left him. So how is that weak? Most people when they are in love like I was would stick around and let themselves be abused but I left heartbroken that the man who love bombed me and made me feel on top of the world for two months and treated me like garbage the 3rd month and I left. I didn't put up with it even though I really loved him. So how am I weak? I never put up with it I left.
Oh, according to this, I'm kinda a sociopath. Any girl is lucky not to have me.
forever_ a _loon so probaply you should try to change
Yaseminlain Ksknd It doesn't work. trust me
forever_ a _loon just date another sociopath they'll understand you at least
forever_a_loon You can't self diagnose
I said "kinda"
Well now I realise how much better is being single like than being with a sociopath.
I'm not offended but people often look at me in judgement because I oppose society, while they look at my girlfriend as an angel because she fits in very well, but behind the curtains I'm the one usually dealing with her emotional uproar and overpowerment, I feel like I'm constantly being controlled while when it comes to her she can do whatever she wants.
Two face? Look someone you deserved.
Sully Thomasson I’ve been through this, can help if needed
Maybe shes a Narcissist, research about narcissistic personality disorder
If you truly “oppose “ society , then do what society frowns upon in a relationship the most..... raccoon the bitch if she does it again
Sounds like my last relationship.... He broke me and I almost lost all of my friends. I was lucky to even talk to one girl (please note that I am straight and a girl).
being a sociopath doesn't automatically make someone a bad, abusive person. I have a close friend who is socio, and he's wonderful. it's actually quite interesting to learn how he sees and understands things.
^^^ THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS!!! Myself, I manipulate those around me except for a handful of people, who I hold very close to my heart. I consider myself to be a sociopath (though I have not and do not intend to get a professional diagnosis) and this video was honestly quite misleading.
Andi Rogynous Exactly! it is a personality disorder
Ever heard of faking it, till you make it?.
Pink Star Lacking empathy doesn't mean you can't be kind.
GreyAlien〈3 Yea but since the guy told him he is a sociopath and share personal things with him, like how he sees something,. then its propably honest frienship.
I have learned that I am the sociopath.
We all learn something new about ourselves everyday. However, proper diagnosis is important too.
Psych2Go I'll get back to you on that one.
Steven Mellon so fucking edgy mang
oo edgy
so... what are you sopoused to do now. I mean is there anythinf to change that you like that?
What puts me off is the narcisistic trait. Can a sociopath have depression??
Camila Agüero Rodríguez Yes, it's possible and actually quite common!
you good people out there be strong you will endure. if your significant other does not give 50% or help you when you are struggling then your better off alone. you will be stronger smarter and more resourceful. besides there are about 3 billion people out there.
Nice message, but 3...?
Lmaoooo who else got scared when she drew the emotions for hypocritical, bc that's me af
Flying Difficulty same
I have some of these signs..Fuck
I mean its ok to have some moments that are a little sociapathical. In fact, a mass majority of the world are severe sociopaths. So as long as your not a complete sociopath you should be fine.
*9 signs you're dating a sociopath*
Me: Fuck, I'm the sociopath!
Victoria McBunny Lmaooo same af
Victoria McBunny yall need help ^^ this doesn't make you cute, this makes you fucking crazy
Santy Valens This isn't a cute little quirky ha ha lol thing, it's fucking freaky as fuck.
Victoria McBunny yeah i might be too but i have been pretending for so long that i dont know if its true or not. honestly, its scary, not knowing WHO you are.
べてがんですあなたはす who tf said its cute? its terrible.
Yep! Married one. After 13 years Im going to write a book I have so many stories! I hope that book will help some be aware of sheep in wolves clothing. How they are more common among us than what we think. Also, the number #1 redflag in my opinion (and experience) that youre dealing with a sociopath is charm. Charm is not a natural human trait. It is an act, EVERY time. It can be very allurring, especially to the hopeless romantics looking for love though it "works like a charm" on anyone! Real people who arent fake have no desire to be charming to impress anyone. They are the "what you see is what you get" people and what you think of me is none of my business. Ted Bundy was said to be an attractive, very charming individual....
u really think charm is controlled and not natural . ? *makes me think*
Yes I do! I believe it is a manipulation tactic that becomes second nature to manipulative people. Im a people watcher. I pay lots of attention. I also bartended for 14 years and in that time there arent too many personalities I havent crossed paths with. Ive seen the oh so charming turn around and their charm disappear. If its a personality trait then I dont think it would have a switch, or a dimmer ("turning up the charm"). Ive yet to meet a charming toddler... I guess if there is an exception to my theory then that would be a person who has charm but with some modesty, maybe...
bitch get off ur high horse its a fucking sickness your born with it who the fuck would choose to be like this? yo man wasnt out to get you, he had mental issues. way to go though make people with illnesses feel incompetent and untrustworthy, whatever helps you sleep at night though
Charm in NOT natural... they always want something,
Christy McKee What made you decide to write about it. And have you ever encountered Ted Bundy? I have. He was very charming. Went as far as saying "my mother would be so hurt to hear you saying those words" I told him he was no one special and asked him why I should trust a complete stranger that shows up in a bar in Greeley, Colorado at 12:00am wanting to take a woman he's never spoke to before now to breakfast. Of course he was pissed bc his charm failed him miserably.
#10 they can completely change who they are depending on who they're around. Changing masks to show each person that they encounter what they want to see.
well now I know I am not a sociopath because I get upset when other people cry
I don't. I get annoyed actually, but I'm not a sociopath
Arr Ere No. Usually I just want to tell them to stfu.
Well, this when they are crying bc of stupid shit. When it's serious... Well, i still don't care, but i leave them be.
Well guess who just found out that their ex is a sociopath!
about 75% of all people in the comments section
*raises hand*
775234 The One yeah and theyre probably all friggin wrong anyway
Alex Watt me too :)
Alex Watt same here. good riddance.
that awkward moment when you watch the video to see if your boyfriend is a sociopath... but all these traits apply to you
hmak mstkrkmemr Happened to me, too.
So you don't realize of all these things? You can't help it?
Bloody hell
Everything is like my husband.
And I’m married to him since 11yrs. It’s so suffocating and I was totally convinced that I’m at fault for my condition.
Imma thraow magh baomeraing!
My EX husband 100%
My EX wife 100%! Maybe we can set them up?
Plot twist: the significant other was normal. Signs 3, 5, 7, 8 from the video.
I think my girl friend is dating a sociopath.
Nicholas Rios I say you should keep a close eye on her just so you can keep her safe
@@ingamingpc1634 ummm should i tell you?
Oh it seems I *AM* dating a sociopath. That's pretty sad... May I ask if you could make a video on how to handle a sociopathic person? I mean, it probably won't be much, considering how they are. But... I'd like to know how to control it and be happy with them, because I really love him.
Just because someone is a sociopath doesn't mean they can't change or that you have to deal with it. Don't let them isolate you, but if you're the type of person who isn't hurt or bothered by what they do, then I don't believe there's anything wrong with things. But if they do, then try and talk to them and find some even ground. And if the behavior continues to happen and effect you and nothing changes, then you might want to consider whether or not your affection for them is strong enough to make up for that behavior.
Honestly, that's the best advice I can give since I'm not sure what exactly they're doing or how extreme it is, so hope it helps to some extent.
^ I second that notion
dracocrusher Thanks a bunch for that! I'll really try to take it in count. I don't believe he's a "bad person" at all, as it is basically relative.
But really, I can't thank you enough for that. :)
Apex Devil :I hope you don't mean it!And spending the rest of her life in prison as a killer,that does not sounds like "her dream come true"...
Yano Himisaki :Maybe,consulting a pro,and seek a therapist for help,but NOT for him. . .It's about YOURSELF being in love with someone that can never'll be capable for having healthy relationships with target~people...Honestly,you're not for litters,sweetie. I'll pray for you dear!Love and wishes from Lia
I became a sociopath after i fell deeply in love and was scarred bad by here. I began to lose my feelings, i wouldnt feel anything. I began to lose weight because i wouldnt eat. Everyone i saw i would not trust even my family, i didnt even cry when my dog died and now i dont even feel pain or sadness towards anyone. I cant help it, i prayed to god to help me bring back my feelings and emotions. I want them back. I know im good at manipulation, i get people to do what i want and idk if thats bad or good. Im sorry to anyone who has to date someone as me. but we cant help it. im sorry :’(
zzz same thing happened to me. i feel u.. im an actually diagnosed sociopath and i hate it so much bc i always ruin relationships when i dont mean to
You are weak minded
zzz This is interesting because I have been entangled with a person who I think is a Sociopath/Narc or both. Recently, he told me that when he first saw me I looked and acted like a girl he once loved who crushed his heart and that he then wanted to punish me for it. He said he was 18 when that girl broke him and that he decided to never love again. He is now in his 40's. I thought he was lying, but after reading your comment, maybe it was the truth. Sorry you were hurt that badly and can't seem to find your way back. :(
Lay off the prozac. It makes you wonky.
Waa waa waa I’m a sociopath but I can’t help it so instead of seeking therapy to change myself I’m just gonna continue to victimize and abuse other people. Woe as me 😔
sounds like me... :/
Rick Sanchez He can't help it but he can improve.
You realize this is 99% a joke right?
NO They won't change 2:31
Hope you learned your lesson. No one likes you!!! Just learn the hard way and take the consequences. You'll change that way.
I relate!! It’s ok
This Will Help Me In The Future, Thank You!
The drawings in these videos are so cute. I have a hard time listening to what they're saying because I'm too distracted by the art style 😂♥️
Diana Kiaee Indeed!!Me too...so I always watch twice... or even more
ramfaki lol omg I thought I was the only one 😂
Well, Japan has an entire sub-genre devoted to it, it's called chibi. In English, it's called superdeformed, but I find that to be a really messed up translation.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chibi_(term)
Bobby White I watch enough anime to know what chibi is. Thanks for your help tho. Never said I was new to the idea of the art style, just said it was cute
Diana Kiaee No you're not.I'm in love with the cute drawings
Wow, how the heck did I get in this mess. I have to get out this toxic relationship. Thanks for sharing stories guys!
This is all him..my mom would never know.. :(
Great video, but that's not sociopathy: That's Narcissistic personality disorder.
Dating a sociopath is much, much worse....
Grant All sociopaths are narcissists but not all narcissists are sociopaths.
Grant I was diagnosed with narcissism and I've only done like two or three of these things to previous people I've dated. Narcissists aren't all fucking jerks just because they look for constant admiration.
Also many people express those symptoms due to chronic drug abuse
Electricninjamonkey Just because someone is a narcissist doesn't mean they're jerks. Also, you're putting words in someone's mouth, your reference to the original comment wasn't said or implied in the comment at all even if it was an over exaggeration.
Electricninjamonkey I try to make as much of a good reputation as I can around people. I'm trying to get myself treated. So I'm not a jerk.
I dated one once. It was HORRIBLE he never listened when I said no. He'd force me to do things I didn't want to saying things like "You'd do this if you love me" he constantly lied to me. He even blamed me for him not being allowed to see his three year old daughter (he was 17 so he had her at 15) and tried to lie to me saying the girl raped him then manipulated the courts into saying he couldn't see her again blaming me when I didn't even know him when this hsppened. And he was an Internet stalker!! *shudders* worst relationship I've ever been in. And I've been in multiple bad ones.
emily smith im so sorry you went through that! are you better now? i hope you're doing well.
Sarah Adler
I'm doing better yes, I finally found a healthy relationship and they've helped me work through a lot of things from my past. Thank you for your concern.
emily smith you have to be stronger gurl, you better have some higher expectatives now so you don't attract those insane boys lmao
Yeah, I have a zero tolerance for that type of shit now. They start it's over
This is so saaad, my ex was a sociopath. It’s really impressive the way that he used to manipulate me or make me feel guilty about anything, I’m really a person that has a 6th sense or knows how to figure things out, but with him it was like idk I just loved him so much that he blinded me somehow😢 But i’m glad that we are not together anymore !!
im actually here to see the art its so cute ♡
i'm a sociopath myself. Trust me, some of these are kind of two way. When you recognize something is 'wrong' with you trying to change and understand certain aspects is incredibly frustrating. Manipulation is the way of the world, it just comes natural. Trust me though it can be geared and channeled positively. I enjoy building my partner up as it brings on a personal feeling of accomplishment like building a birdhouse or changing your oil. "Look what I did" kind of deal.
Being self centered... rereading my above comment... just... yeah. It often takes a second glance and going over the entire situation in the eye of cause and effect to even realize we were in the wrong.
Empathy/Sympathy, we're instinctive, basic, self preservation or "how does this benefit me" comes first. Everyone else, even family comes second, it takes a REALLY strong bond to overcome that. It's pretty much down to a lack of inner immediate reasoning and often we have to go in scripted for anything that rubs off as true empathy.
Derek Gaines that's deep...
Derek Gaines How do you know that you're a sociopath? Don't sociopaths not know that they're sociopaths and take being called one an insult?
Three years of therapy to start, after I was caught smashing windows when I was about 11. Honestly had no idea why I did it beyond I wanted to. I knew it was wrong, didn't care, didn't even know why beyond impulse. Doctor couldn't officially diagnose me with anything but they tried giving me ritilin to see if that helped, oh it did not. basically I had to learn to manually use cause and effect, run a course of action in my head before really doing anything major. .. ugh I still remember those sliding tile puzzles I'd get lost in doing as I sat on that chair at the office. It took to cement it my father dying. I was a little sad sure, but more a reaction of... like your cat dying. Sure, you're bummed but what can ya do, people die.
Derek Gaines That's cool. I'm glad you're not one of those edgy teens that say they're crazy because they think they can make a mental illness a fashion trend. Glad to see someone telling the truth.
Thank you, I just wanted to give the other side of the spectrum. Really it then comes down to nature vs nurture. A sociopath has no remorse, has to actively think or will 90% of the time pick the more self-serving option in any decision (God knows I do). Though often times can be some of the most giving people too even if self-serving I have a very small pool of people I keep in my circle but I know I can depend on any one of them thanks to the relationships I fostered with them. I am grateful to my mother for instilling one simple saying, "If you have and do not need, then give. Only good can come of it". Best advice ever and tried to teach that to my nephew who I spotted early on was also a sociopath, he's a bum now... and pretty much yes, he was emo and angsty.
Onision
Strega 0 omg 😂
yes don't click on his videos, I can tell he's not a good person
Strega 0 *dying*
dude I was waiting for some one to say that
I have come to learn much about myself and who I attract. I learned I was an empath several years ago and at the time I was involved with a high level abusive narcissistic partner. I learned that empaths attract narcissistic ppl and after finally freeing myself from that destructive person, I watch others very carefully and have had to walk away from other potential love interests due to them exhibiting similar characteristics of past partnerships. I have learned it is imperative to implement self care and self love. My childhood was very abusive and the last person I was seriously involved with highlighted those issues derived from my youth. I realized they were highlighting the issues I needed to heal in order to attract the right person for me. I'm still working on cracking the code so to speak, but I know I am better off now vs. my past. Thank you for the information👍💞😁
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Box Fish I always thought he was more organized, like a psychopath
Box Fish I was looking for this comment haha
Box Fish OH my GOd.... (._. ) *insert dramatic music
Box Fish
Lol, not really. I think he's faking that... At least I hope so...
Box Fish keemstar
I think my sister's a sociopath then.
Oh dear.. How are you doing?
Psych2Go Haha, oh my god. That's funny. But I am kinda serious. She's really mean, beyond what she probably should be. She'd blame me for things she's done and I'd get in trouble for it. Just to name one thing. Anyway, she's off at college now so I'm doing better. Though I'm still pretty socially awkward, mostly due to her. Fun fact, I've actually had people cry when I told them my full life story.
TheDragonEmperor00 Am I a sociopath because I know that was supposed to make me feel bad for you but all I felt was the hunch that you were probably just very narcissistic or maybe a bit thick
Kmine Channle not yet complete Ya know, I don't blame ya, but I personally hate a lot about myself. A lot more than I really should. In fact I would rather be left alone than to be told good things about myself. Pretty far from being any narcissistic.
SAME!!!
Huh. It's nice to know that all my friends r sociopaths
SaltyPaper AJ hahaa
Wait for real?
Same..
Or are you the sociopath
I think it’s important to remember that sociopaths don’t necessarily have to fit every single criteria. My boyfriend did all of these except for the isolation part. He never tried to isolate me, but he would be very loving for many days and then completely cold and abandoned me for days on end. Looking back I think he did it to try and emotionally manipulate me and hurt me because he didn’t really like women and he admitted that
My brother is definitely a sociopath then. He's beat me up a lot, said sorry and he wouldn't do it again, but he HAS. He always talks about wanting to get a job, but he never makes the effort. A few days ago I had a mental breakdown and I was crying, so he videotaped me and 30 people saw it. He doesn't sympathize, for example, for people who have anxiety. He says they should just stop overthinking. And more. He doesn't think he's wrong for videotaping me when I was already upset and beating me up, and my dad agrees.
*when you realize almost all of these describe yourself*
AM I A SOCIOPATH???
;-; save me jebus
Beter Griffin ahhhh ok ☺️ - u -
WAIT...
0-0
DANGIT
haha ALL HAIL THE LORD JEBUS
Pretty sure your not
Game Hazard HE'LL SAVE US ALLL
Lucy Lounder ok :P
well then... my ex was a sociopath.... he was always controlling who i could and couldn't be friends with, sometimes id complain about my parents a little (because everyone does that at least a little bit) and id complain about how sometimes my dad would give me compliments that embarrassed me like him saying how i could be a model and blah blah and my ex would act all weird and say how i couldn't be a model because... i didn't have to if i didn't want too? 1 week after my dad died he didn't show very much sympathy at all because apparently me complaining a little bit time to time meant that i straight up hated my dad or something in his mind and he acted really surprised when i was sad because my dad died and then told me i should get over it... like wtf dude fathers can be an extreme part of child development and for me too loose him about 2 weeks after i turned 12 and im just supposed to "get over it"... (yes i was stupid to be in a relationship with him from the age 10 to 12 considering i didnt know as much as i do now but its pretty stupid for me to be in another relationship at age 13 so... experience i guess? but hey at least i got smart enough to cut it off after he threatened to commit suicide to get me to stay with him)
now im going to mumble on about other sociopathic type shit my ex did like oh idk he'd call me at 6 or 7 am randomly when he knew i had a sleeping disorder and on top of that he'd call even more if i didn't pick up the phone and then claim i was trying to pull some sick joke, he had planned to have me come with him to his vacation house and then stalk me in the bathroom with a secret hole in the wall, he touched/hit my breasts to annoy me because he thought it was funny... once he even stroked them in public and then bragged to his twin brother about it in front of me, he would ask overly personal questions like if i had a tampon in and if he found out i was on my period he'd use me as a threat against some boys who would sexually harass me like complimenting my bras, saying they saw me naked ect. dont think my ex wasn't guilty of some of that shit.... and then there was the fact that if he didn't get along with someone i knew, i couldn't be friends with them anymore because he didn't want me around ppl he didn't like and he would claim that one of my greatest friends would kill me simply because he didn't like her... and he would plan to stalk us hanging out even going as far as to send his twin over to her house to keep watch, he was also super controlling of what i could and couldn't do... he wouldn't let me do girly stuff with him or with my girl friends and would tell us if we wanted to do girly shit we should plan our own day and when we did just what he said he got all mad saying that i just didn't want to spend time with him... he would emotionally torment me alot aswell... so my last birthday present i got from my dad was a bike and i cherished that bike because of that and my ex would literally threaten to knok it over if i didn't do what he wanted and a week after i got the bike he fucked it up.... there was even a time i trusted him with my phone and he broke the fucking screen because he put it in his backpack and claimed he forgot it was in there and threw it off the side if a play structure... and said i shouldn't be mad because at least I had enough money to fix it... and there are so many other things i could vent about like how he wanted me to favor him over my family, how he would be racist to blacks constantly even though im half black, how he planned our entire future, said he wouldn't allow me to adopt because of his belief that the child needs to be blood related, put a tracking chip in me because he didn't trust me,tried to control where i went to school at what age (i was in homeschool wanting to be in regular school and he was trying to get me to not go to regular school until i got my license bc that what he planned to do), he expected me to like everything he did just because i liked one thing he did, tried to use me as a way to benefit him with my possessions, got mad at any of my interests that he didn't have and would question my for my likes and dislikes ... and this one i kinda blame myself for not leaving but he was open about saying he only liked me because i was pretty... and now he says that i was the crazy one in the relationship
if you read through that all... damn and just know that im glad i broke that relationship off later than never... i was stupid af for not leaving sooner, im 13 currently and im with another guy that respects me more and im honestly really happy with him and we literally tell eachother everything (so we dont have jealousy and so we understand eachother better) and honestly it seems to be going pretty well and yes i do admit we have our snags at times because we dont fully understand eachother yet but we have been working to get through it.... and i know if it goes downhill i should talk to him about it to work it out and if that doesn't work i should just leave... I've learned and i know i still have a loooong way to go and most people would say im too young but hey i probably am but oh well its my choice to deal with heartache so ehhh... so feel free to leave your opinions if you want i guess im not really gonna care so there isn't really a point but whatever floats your boat puddin
Durpy_ Meowth Wow. I can't believe he did all that. And at such an early age!
Durpy_ Meowth When I was reading a few lines of this comment I was thinking when will this end? I am not reading all of that. XP
Durpy_ Meowth I am so sorry for you Im glad you broke that relationship and that your happy now(PS I lost my dad when I was 12 too)
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Durpy_ Meowth You're dating at 12? Child that is too young! Jk You can do what you want.
Ive been struggling for the past year dealing with a recent attempt at suicide. I was hospitalized and was diagnosed with ptsd, anxiety disorder and major depression. Its truly been a long battle. Especially with personal identification. I met my now gf during my process in the hospital and have learned a lot about who and how i was. Seeing a video like this. Is enlightening in a very heavy manor. I share some very in depth traits with this list and a few other videos ive watched. I understand i cant diagnose myself. But seeing content like this is eye opening. Im an ex gang member. Drug abuser and alcoholic. And struggle with understanding whats right and wrong. And as i further define myself the sense of pride does take over and the need for self gratitude on a grandiose scale is a must. Which then neglects me to others around me. It's videos like this which truly does help in the battle of mental illness. I can now relate myself to a few issues and been having an depth conversation with my gf about how i can use certain traits available from guidelines like this, to further my self healing and goal to identify myself in the future. Being a male and exposed to certain myths and traits the media and society imposes on what should define a man truly contradicted how i should mould myself. Its videos like this and open opinions of peoples past experience and fears that now help me redefine and avoid becoming that fear my gf once lived. Thanks for having info like this readily available and taking your time to educate to the best of your ability. Truly gives me second light on the battle i have amongst my own being in which person i feed to win the fight of self definition. It brings light to the ignorance ive embraced not knowing how or where to talk about my own ilness. Keep up the awesome work.
Well. I guess my ex was a sociopath.
He showed all of these signs.
He would blame me for things and start fights. When I would fight back he would say it's all my fault for all of our fights. Then I would be apologizing. He was also so manipulative...
GalickInc I'd call your ex and be hey sociopath then just hang up
Danieru Almost did but I didn't want anymore drama
Same, my ex made me do what he said for a month because I didn't want him mad at me :/ literally hell on earth
Terra Cat Ikr. My ex is still trying to start drama with me though like chill dude.
As a sociopath I find this harsh and one-sided.
Same.
As a sociopath I find this harsh and one-sided.
Playing the victim card now are we?
NYGGJELEBEITE you're probably not a sociopath
What makes you say that?
Freya Hammar It actually is one sided. Not every socio is like the video says. Btw by seeing your comments Im pretty sure you re not a sociopath ya edgy teen.
My husband actually got diagnosed as mentally insane when he was 13. Also he has sociopathic traits. However, he doesn't act like anything described in this video. He's actually one of the few genuinely nice and kind people I know. Is there a different type of sociopath where they're not terrible people but the way their mind works is just different? Or am I describing something else?
I'm no expert, but I fully believe that it's possible for people with sociopathic traits to not act out on those traits. That doesn't necessarily mean they're no longer a sociopath, but something you have to realize is that sociopaths tend to be pretty smart. So it's completely possible for a sociopath to recognize that specific sociopathic behavior, like being manipulative and controlling, is not always beneficial or poses social or material risks they don't want to take. Which would cause them to not act out on said behavior for their own sake. But that's just my thoughts.
Sounds pretty accurate, I'd say rational more than smart.
maybe he is soo good at being a sociopath, that he mastered the art of being nice
Sociopaths aren't insane. They "just" have a personality disorder. Also, He may not be a full-blown sociopath.
I have sociopathic traits, but I don't enact upon them. For example, sometimes I'll feel zero sympathy/empathy in a situation that warrants it, but I'll still offer support/condolences. I can't help the way I feel, but I can control how I interact with others in a way that doesn't put them off. Mindset is one thing; actions are another.
I wasn’t dating a sociopath but I had friends like that. They projected all their insecurities and blamed one of our friends for problems they weren’t even aware of. They cut me off because I stood up for that person. They were cool in high school but after we graduated something changed in them. They weren’t the same person I became friends with.
Onision is a sociopath
Hahaha was actually the first person I thought of when I watched this video. Thought someone would have commented on it. =D
Your Dadd I was waiting for this comment
Hello fellow pineapple :D
Kira Vega yes same thought
Kira Vega yup
I'm pretty sure most parents are sociopaths lol
Joeking Bruh Parents couldn't be, because the first requirement means you already cost too much to have. 🤣
Joeking Bruh How?
Psycho Senpai The video says a sociopath will only do something if it personally benefits them, and children are super expensive.
+Chris Spence Sex benefits them. Not going to jail for abandoning your kids benefits them. Some people (e.g. a certain parent I know), like to control and manipulate others so much that parenting provides a direct benefit due to the control you have over other people (your kids).
Jason Rennie you... You do realize my first comment was a joke right? I even did an emote. The fact that I had to explain the joke, and then explain that it was a joke is getting frustrating.
I'm a sociopath, diagnosed by a doctor and it runs strongly in the family. We can't control our lack of emotion! Stop accusing us of being bad people for being born with a brain defect! It's like telling an autistic kid to stop being autistic and they can't! We try to show sympathy but it's hard to express. Half the stuff in the video is false. The only major true sign in this video is we're money, food, love driven. I seriously don't know what they're talking about with the "advantage" thing because I've never heard of it or thought of it, the point being is stop shaming us for something we personally can't control.
Its not about bad people its about having a peaceful life without one as a partner. I had a dreadful life at an early age because i did not understand this personality. I felt that I should stand by my husband which I did until it was too late, my life was wrecked and I was harmed badly and left very frightened. Lost my home, my job and lots of money!I was afraid of starting another relationship for 20 years!
Diane Reid well it's not your husbands fault.
oh my god this is incredibly true and exactly how i feel
Depressed Metal head - while it's not his fault that he has a disorder, it is his fault that he ruined her life and hurt her. Although he can't feel remorse, he can control his own actions and he needs to take responsibility for that. The fact that you are a diagnosed sociopath but are not inclined to hurt people does show that sociopaths are not to be automatically kept from taking responsibility for the things they do.
The point is, not every person with a mental illness is the same. Some sociopaths are like the ones in this video, some are like you, and some are anywhere in between.
Currently I am in a relationship with a guy who was diagnosed as a sociopath by a doctor. I love him, really want to keep him. But I have a slight borderline disorder. And sometimes it can be really hard. I'm trying to understand him. Can you give me advise as he can not really.. :/
I've dated sociopaths, they all killed animals not as in hunting but out of cruelty. I've experienced this list
But when it comes to number 7..I don't fuck around lmao. Sociopath or not I'm not saying sorry. One of the few times I can pick out a sociopath is when they try to make you feel guilty over something you didn't do, or that they did.
O Fira actually, not to like come out as being rude, just a minor mishap is the difference between physcopathy and sociopathy. The trait of killing animals is a trait of a phsycopath, that is the difference, physical harm is the physcopath trait, sociopathy is more of the loss of being able to comprehend emotions. Both have these traits but the harming of animals and people are physcopath
I am sociopath but I never kiled animal.I do have empaty and show emocions.But doctor said I am a sociopath so....