imo one of the worst things you can teach a kid is "If people make fun of you for being different, stop being different." There are too many grown adults even now not willing to fully enjoy their lives because their hobby or interest is "weird".
I used to be afraid of death, but I realize now that death is the only reason not to be in a constant state of terror. Life has the potential to be a carnival of horrors, yet I know that no matter how bad it might get, my death will be there to liberate me from it. Truly my greatest friend, in my darkest hour. I also really enjoy how broccoli can be used in so many different cuisines, from all over the world, and yet it somehow always feels like it belongs. Such a versatile vegetable!
Are these broccoli comments spammed all over the tinternets or is this just for the benefit of citizens of Stavvy’s world? Ps I used to do I side dish of baked purple broccoli and pine nuts wrapped in pancetta. Blooming lovely 🥦
Absolutely amazing advice from Matteo. Very introspective and articulate. Love this podcast, that’s why I pay patreon and sometimes miss watching for a month. Take the money.
As a public school teacher it does warm my heart how much more accepting the youth is. And stav is right. The gay bullies are insane. There are never any survivors.
This was wholesome lol. I know most of these call ins we roast how fucked most of these people's choices are, but it was nice to hear a guy who isn't worried that his son likes "girl" things, but just wants advice on how to make his son feel safe being himself.
That kid will be eaten alive but you seem like a damm good father. Just be there for him like Mateo said. From a straight guy whos dad was horrible and made everything about him
@@somethingcreativeprobably5160 good for you. I'm talking from experience. I am not the manliest man but can be when I need to be. As a child my kindness was seen as a weakness. Western schools can be brutal. Worse if your dad doesn't care about you
I think growing up as a kid now being gay must be infinitely easier than it use to be. Hell, I'm only 35 and there wasn't a single person in my school who came out as gay. We knew who some of them were, but they didn't exactly advertise it. Then there were others who came out later; either in college or after.
its a little column a column b, back when my uncle was coming out in the 90s homosexuals were “in their place” so the news didnt cover it as much…now good luck finding a single conservative online who hasnt memorized the names of every single trans person on the internet, knows their life story, and doxxes and harasses them constantly. my uncle says he feels bad for me because yes now I have more allies but the people who want to hurt me are 10x as obsessive and violent now. I’m a gay dude who just looks kinda feminine but I’ve had so many people down here in TX give me trouble. I don’t even go out in public as often as I used to its just not worth the hassle
@@Grethemsky Gotta move my friend. I live on Long Island and people wouldn't even bat an eye at you for being gay, despite the fact that in terms of politics...it's about a 50/50 split. I wouldn't suggest moving here though unless you're comfortable spending 60% more than the national average on cost of living.
@@willvr4 I dont think im legally allowed within 100 miles of Wall Street after some stuff I’ve said on the internet. US is a failed state anyhow, only a year and half left till my group moves. Good luck tho brother big cities are fucked
"The only parents job is to make a kid feel safe" Not to trauma dump but I was put in one of those troubled teens camps that abused me and haven't felt safe since. Seriously that's the best advice to being good parent. Don't make them feel unsafe.
He won’t get picked on. That kinda stuff doesn’t really start happening until 5th grade. Even then they need to know how to handle situations on their own. Bright colors are in anyways. Your problem is you need to chill out and not worry.
Also with the kid being so young, I think that’s more often gender dysphoria. At 5 they don’t really even know anything abt attraction, but do have some sense of gender. No way to tell on either from tho, also they answered the question well and if the dad is this accepting and wanting to be proactively helpful for his gay son, he’ll probably be a good father for a trans daughter as well.
There is nothing more intimidating than a flamboyantly gay man who can fuck you and you can't do anything about it. However, the most powerful gays are the ones who have that power, but never need to use it 🫡
The answer is also yes he's probably going to be bullied. Also how much if his mother is in both their ears trying to gaslight them into thinking that the kid wants to be a girl when he grows up. Children dont know about that concept unless someone feeds it to them
If they are worried about giving the kid a complex. Then why would somebody tell the kid that he could become a girl when he gets older? He didn’t come up with that idea on his own.
Nah I went to school with a girl who cried when she found out she couldn't be a horse. Kids know what they want without (and despite) adults planting any ideas; you ask a classroom of 5 year olds what they want to be and you're not going to get as many future doctors and MLB stars as you'd think if you asked their parents
Dude should spend more time telling his son that some of his ideas suck. Know what gives a kid a complex? Letting them think whatever they want. Parenting is supposed to be guidance. "You can't be a girl. You are a boy. Here are some reasons why you should be proud to be a boy." It's not that hard, but everyone wants to be a wokie these days and fear the scowls of some person in your life that obviously never mattered.
@@trueblue9101 Nah, it's extremely rational And even then, why would that be a bad thing? Seeing as how they built this country to what it is now and experienced a far more prosperous time than any other generation that came after them
Look, don’t set your children up for failure. Love them and teach them they get to be themselves, but do not let them walk into their school with targets on their backs.
Use your kid as a social experiment instead of just saying no. Good job, I’m sure his completely developed 6 year old brain will be able to cope with not being able to make any normal friends at these formative years.
kid will definitely have friends lol you might be projecting but even when i was in elementary (early 00's) the girly/feminine kids had friends. There's just assholes around no matter what but raising your child to have spine and be loved will overshadow all that shit.
Damn, if that guy had anything to his personality other than being gay he might be a good guest. And if he where anywhere close to funny, i still wouldn't watch him as a comedian.
@@DeathCrunchohhh so you’re just a loser that’s hating as get back for a another grown man you don’t even know. Tell us you have nothing better to do with your life without telling us🤣🤣💀
Wow. An actual wholesome question and not like someone asking permission to traumatize someone else. Nice
Never enough Matteo on the pod. He's amazing
Where the hell is this episode uploaded? He keeps uploading clips and I can't find the whole pod
😢
@@homunculusgrey2921 most likely on patreon
@@homunculusgrey2921patreon
His patreon
Except for his comments on the name "Randy". I feel attacked 😂
"The only job for parents to do is to make their kids feel safe"
Matteo just rained in 20 years of therapy in one sentence for me.
Its def about alot more than that🤦🏾♂️🤣🤣🤣
@@KidFromQueens”well akshually ☝️🤓” ass comment
Reined in
rayned in
@@wingdingdmetrius8025 That isn't a word
Matteo's comment about Italian families going out like "do we remember the lie" is so true lol
Also, dysfunctional families in general!
@@djangotraneYeah. Italian families.
IAN CATCHING STRAYS AGAIN. THERE ARE NO OFF DAYS
that was no stray, that was an across the map headshot
imo one of the worst things you can teach a kid is "If people make fun of you for being different, stop being different." There are too many grown adults even now not willing to fully enjoy their lives because their hobby or interest is "weird".
Most people are NPCs, went to jury duty the other day and it was like grade school
I used to be afraid of death, but I realize now that death is the only reason not to be in a constant state of terror. Life has the potential to be a carnival of horrors, yet I know that no matter how bad it might get, my death will be there to liberate me from it. Truly my greatest friend, in my darkest hour. I also really enjoy how broccoli can be used in so many different cuisines, from all over the world, and yet it somehow always feels like it belongs. Such a versatile vegetable!
Are these broccoli comments spammed all over the tinternets or is this just for the benefit of citizens of Stavvy’s world?
Ps I used to do I side dish of baked purple broccoli and pine nuts wrapped in pancetta. Blooming lovely 🥦
I hate broccoli and I’m also gay
Mental illness is hilarious
That sounds like the mentality of a slave to be honest.
Gay attempt at being profound
This was wholesome as hell, and stavs take of not letting him become badass gay bully is hilarious
“I’m hoping to raise the next Matteo Lane, not the next Ian Fidance” 😂😂
Absolutely amazing advice from Matteo. Very introspective and articulate. Love this podcast, that’s why I pay patreon and sometimes miss watching for a month. Take the money.
The answer? Hell yeah brother.
Best, hell yeah brother in the game
lmao here to say this
Put that kid in a self defense classes, it’s hard to make fun of a kid that can beat you up.
Happy to see a podcast and a father that aren't trying to push children back in the closet 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Omg this was so wholesome
Need a spin off show with these two 😂
Straight Randy; the Loving Father to a Gay Child
: A Memoir
@@selcatroncoming to broadway soon.
Just an minute and 30 in and Hell yeah dude be the best dad. Fuck em just support your son and let him know how loved he is.
Matteo is so sweet, what a great guy
Shout out big Rand
Matteo is an absolute king.
Damn, what a good dad.
As a public school teacher it does warm my heart how much more accepting the youth is. And stav is right. The gay bullies are insane. There are never any survivors.
This was wholesome lol. I know most of these call ins we roast how fucked most of these people's choices are, but it was nice to hear a guy who isn't worried that his son likes "girl" things, but just wants advice on how to make his son feel safe being himself.
Hey, now, I watched the show to laugh not to get choked up
That kid will be eaten alive but you seem like a damm good father. Just be there for him like Mateo said. From a straight guy whos dad was horrible and made everything about him
I don't know about that. I'm openly gay in a place like India and most people are chill about it
@@somethingcreativeprobably5160 nobody will ever love you :(
@@somethingcreativeprobably5160 I know it smell crazy in there
@@somethingcreativeprobably5160 good for you. I'm talking from experience. I am not the manliest man but can be when I need to be. As a child my kindness was seen as a weakness. Western schools can be brutal. Worse if your dad doesn't care about you
@@mj.lwhat do you mean by this? Do you know this guy personally?
This is a great dad 🥹❤️
Matteo beautiful answer.
I think growing up as a kid now being gay must be infinitely easier than it use to be. Hell, I'm only 35 and there wasn't a single person in my school who came out as gay. We knew who some of them were, but they didn't exactly advertise it.
Then there were others who came out later; either in college or after.
its a little column a column b, back when my uncle was coming out in the 90s homosexuals were “in their place” so the news didnt cover it as much…now good luck finding a single conservative online who hasnt memorized the names of every single trans person on the internet, knows their life story, and doxxes and harasses them constantly. my uncle says he feels bad for me because yes now I have more allies but the people who want to hurt me are 10x as obsessive and violent now. I’m a gay dude who just looks kinda feminine but I’ve had so many people down here in TX give me trouble. I don’t even go out in public as often as I used to its just not worth the hassle
@@Grethemsky Gotta move my friend. I live on Long Island and people wouldn't even bat an eye at you for being gay, despite the fact that in terms of politics...it's about a 50/50 split.
I wouldn't suggest moving here though unless you're comfortable spending 60% more than the national average on cost of living.
@@willvr4 I dont think im legally allowed within 100 miles of Wall Street after some stuff I’ve said on the internet. US is a failed state anyhow, only a year and half left till my group moves. Good luck tho brother big cities are fucked
@@Grethemsky Long Island isn't NYC. I live in the suburbs an hour away. It's really nice, just expensive as fuck.
@@willvr4 ah I see sorry I’m just a southern belle 😂
This was genuinely such good advice 😭
Matteo should be a full time co-host. He's great
Ian really should have been an accountant. He could have named his practice “Fidance Finance.” The marketing writes itself.
Everybody listen to Matteo here. He is a smart dude.
one of the better clips inna while
This was actually the best advice I've seen you guys give somebody 😂
In tears. 😂
"Let him do whatever he wants" is this even advice 😂😂😂😂
stav is so right, the bullies in my high school were caddy gays just wanting to start drama 🤣🤣🤣
Hell yeah, brother! 💋
I got bullied by a gay kid 😭😭
"The only parents job is to make a kid feel safe"
Not to trauma dump but I was put in one of those troubled teens camps that abused me and haven't felt safe since. Seriously that's the best advice to being good parent. Don't make them feel unsafe.
Great video 😂❤
Crazy that they let someone that looks like Stavros work in a school
He won’t get picked on. That kinda stuff doesn’t really start happening until 5th grade. Even then they need to know how to handle situations on their own. Bright colors are in anyways. Your problem is you need to chill out and not worry.
Excuse me. Anyone know where that Led Zeppelin shirt is from?
The guest is jacked
Big Randy going in for his saucy kid good for him
Whwre is the full episode? Is it only on Patreon?
Good job keeping some new content flowing you Albanian beast
I was a gay bully growing up 😂
Caller might not actually have a son 🥚
Dude was 100% a fruit
Also with the kid being so young, I think that’s more often gender dysphoria. At 5 they don’t really even know anything abt attraction, but do have some sense of gender. No way to tell on either from tho, also they answered the question well and if the dad is this accepting and wanting to be proactively helpful for his gay son, he’ll probably be a good father for a trans daughter as well.
Kids nowadays don't give a fuck about stuff like that. Wear pink.
Hell yeah
Ian didnt deserve that but it was hilarious
As a trans girl, this sounds like a trans kid. Have that conversation before puberty.
Kids on the west coast in 2024.... he'll be fine
as a closeted transgirl this clip makes me want to cry, i wish i had this support when i was a kid
id put the kid into boxing class, hes gonna need some hands
There is nothing more intimidating than a flamboyantly gay man who can fuck you and you can't do anything about it. However, the most powerful gays are the ones who have that power, but never need to use it 🫡
But he wants to do ballet!!!
*Billy Elliot reference
The answer is also yes he's probably going to be bullied. Also how much if his mother is in both their ears trying to gaslight them into thinking that the kid wants to be a girl when he grows up. Children dont know about that concept unless someone feeds it to them
😂
Wow its almost like hes imprinting off his sister
Just assuming this kid is gay at 5 is crazy. The kid obviously looks up to his older sister. Once he’s around the boys he’ll be fine.
Masculinity isnt inherent to being born a male
Was looking for this comment, seems very likely to me as well
Big Randy sounded like he had a little touch of the fem in his voice.
You cant reason with kids.
They will bully the F outta him.
You can reason with kids.
Kid is doomed
I think he'll get by on the west coast but kid's going to have to start taking ballet/karate or something if they ever move.
Maybe, he also might be super popular with the other boys and contract something before he knows about stds too.
Only because of assholes who think the way that you do
He'll be fine. He's got a great supportive dad, which counts for a lot.
And you're doomed right now, so who cares
If they are worried about giving the kid a complex. Then why would somebody tell the kid that he could become a girl when he gets older? He didn’t come up with that idea on his own.
I don’t think anyone told them that~
Nah I went to school with a girl who cried when she found out she couldn't be a horse. Kids know what they want without (and despite) adults planting any ideas; you ask a classroom of 5 year olds what they want to be and you're not going to get as many future doctors and MLB stars as you'd think if you asked their parents
Dude should spend more time telling his son that some of his ideas suck. Know what gives a kid a complex? Letting them think whatever they want. Parenting is supposed to be guidance. "You can't be a girl. You are a boy. Here are some reasons why you should be proud to be a boy." It's not that hard, but everyone wants to be a wokie these days and fear the scowls of some person in your life that obviously never mattered.
@@aesop2733aren’t you the one who doesn’t matter scowling at “wokies” rn. Pretty sure the whole “wokie” thing is ignoring people like yourself.
@@aesop2733 can't smoke in bars no more cuz of woke smh
dude is failing his son wtff
This dad should be picked on for having a girly son
This man failed as a father lmao he had 1 job
And you failed at life so what now babe
You shouldn't encourage him to be girly tbh. Setting him up for failure.
Boomer take
@@trueblue9101 Nah, it's extremely rational
And even then, why would that be a bad thing? Seeing as how they built this country to what it is now and experienced a far more prosperous time than any other generation that came after them
Dipshit take 💕
@@Patrick.Weightman "[boomers] experienced a far more prosperous time" their parents created those conditions
Gay bully here, this is dumbass advice
Kid has probaly been raised by iPad.
Someone should call CPS on this dude
Why?
Failed as a father🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
Look, don’t set your children up for failure.
Love them and teach them they get to be themselves, but do not let them walk into their school with targets on their backs.
Use your kid as a social experiment instead of just saying no. Good job, I’m sure his completely developed 6 year old brain will be able to cope with not being able to make any normal friends at these formative years.
what do you mean by normal? like what do you think the standard is?
Did you not even watch the episode? Why are you here?
kid will definitely have friends lol you might be projecting but even when i was in elementary (early 00's) the girly/feminine kids had friends. There's just assholes around no matter what but raising your child to have spine and be loved will overshadow all that shit.
We weren't friends with you because you were lame, not gay
is the common observation not just that boys who like girly things usually just make friends with the girls?
Damn, if that guy had anything to his personality other than being gay he might be a good guest. And if he where anywhere close to funny, i still wouldn't watch him as a comedian.
Hater moment
@@CeeLoGreen666 The hater moment was when he laughed at and tore down Ian, a far more sucessful comedian.
You are definitely a lonely sad person who will probably die alone if you don’t do some deep self reflection on your attitude towards others.
@@DeathCrunchohhh so you’re just a loser that’s hating as get back for a another grown man you don’t even know. Tell us you have nothing better to do with your life without telling us🤣🤣💀
@@DeathCrunch if ur a real fan you'd know putting down Ian is an ongoing joke that he's in on.