Absolutely agree with these. Eye contact is super important to me. I guess it implies confidence and i like confident men. Also hands. Do you know what i think if i meet someone and am attracted to him? I'm glancing at his hands and thinking "would those hands be like sandpaper if he touched me?" 😳 Touching may be well down the track but if his hands look as if they would abrade your skin, it isn't a nice thought. A little handcream is sometimes necessary if a man is in a physical trade. Great thoughts, Carey. 😊
Great advice. Here’s 1 additional thing I do sometimes. I take my 5yo grandson with me places. He is a grandma magnet. I have been working with him to say my grandpa thinks you’re attractive. If nothing else it’s fun.
This would have worked for me if you said you brought your dog. Grandkids - imply that you are an on-call babysitter - and raising kids is something I want to be done with. Now don't get me wrong - I'm not talking about the kids and grandkids visiting with you from out of town for a few days or a long weekend, or the grandkids spending 2 weeks during the summer holidays with you. That's what family does - I'm referring to them being at your house every afternoon or living with you every weekend.
I was a single dad and from little on I had a house full of little boys. Pals who stayed over night and over summer and holidays. 4-5-6 at a time.. Best years of my life. I built a work at home business in the early 90s so I made the meals and met school buses. When I have the chance I take on my three grandsons for as long as I can. Love them kids. Great for attracting childless NYC career women from NYC. Lots of those available. A dog. Never wanted one.@@ssiegreen5292
Some of us don't find any facial hair attractive lol. Great video. I especially like what you said about approachability. Confidence is important, sure, but so is kindness and interest in the other person. Which I think is actually also an indicator of confidence.
True that. some love the smooth face. ;) This is not a list of the qualities women want. Thats a different episode ;). It’s a list of what they notice first. You can’t notice kindness and curiosity without first getting to know someone. 👍
What do I notice first??? Height and build. Sorry - I know it's such a cliché - but at 5'10 - height does matter somewhat to me - not as much as it did in my younger years, but it still gets me to notice and give a second look. Bonus points if you're well over 6' - sorry cliché cliché cliché - I know! Second - eyes and facial expressions, including micro expressions with #3 body language. After that it filters down into my more personal preferences - but as I got older, they have gotten more general. It matters more to me who you are on the inside than on the outside. Clean cut, neat and taken care off - no matter whether you have hair or not, wear glasses or not, have a beard or mustache or not. Smell good but not overpowering or headache inducing. Comfortable clothes that fit well. I have more of a leaning towards a man rocking jeans and boots [with a cowboy boot heel or even steel toed work boots] or nice leather shoes [oxfords, derbies, brogues etc] if he chooses to dress up a bit, over loafers, sneakers, sandals or heavens help me - flipflops. And I want those jeans or pants to stay up - and not show your underwear or worse when you bend over, so a belt is nice, but not necessary if they stay up otherwise, LOL
@@CoffeewithCarey That's your fault! I've always liked them [men's boots] - but never really given it any specific thought until your recent clothing/appearance video, when I really mulled it over. I'm beginning to think all he needs is boots ROFL!!!
#1 shoes 👞 for me, #2 please no Cologne or overdo it on the fragrance just fresh and clean for sure and #3 for goodness sake get a hair cut if you have any & put styling products. 🙃😅
Men need to make sure their nose hair is trimmed. Nothing more unattractive than 1 inch nose hairs sticking out. Even after the first date. Check this before going out.
Absolutely agree with these. Eye contact is super important to me. I guess it implies confidence and i like confident men.
Also hands. Do you know what i think if i meet someone and am attracted to him? I'm glancing at his hands and thinking "would those hands be like sandpaper if he touched me?" 😳 Touching may be well down the track but if his hands look as if they would abrade your skin, it isn't a nice thought. A little handcream is sometimes necessary if a man is in a physical trade.
Great thoughts, Carey. 😊
Thanks, Dawn. and yes, direct eye contact definitely makes a bold statement!
Makes all sense! Just got home from work, taking some rest, coffee beside me and listening to you.. helps me relax, wonderful 🙂☕️
time for yourself and personal growth! that IS wonderful. thanks for letting me know you’re enjoying. 🤎👍
At 69, I'm happy to still be alive. BTW, I'm an "Old Spice" guy. 👍👍☕☕
I hope there is a lot more to be happy about since 69 is so young.
Dad wore Old Spice. 😊
I really liked this video, many good tips.. thank you…
Thank you, Paul!
Great advice. Here’s 1 additional thing I do sometimes. I take my 5yo grandson with me places. He is a grandma magnet. I have been working with him to say my grandpa thinks you’re attractive. If nothing else it’s fun.
❤️ Any excuse to spend time with grandkids!!! That would not work on this grandmother. I don’t like kids. Just my own. 😆
This would have worked for me if you said you brought your dog. Grandkids - imply that you are an on-call babysitter - and raising kids is something I want to be done with. Now don't get me wrong - I'm not talking about the kids and grandkids visiting with you from out of town for a few days or a long weekend, or the grandkids spending 2 weeks during the summer holidays with you. That's what family does - I'm referring to them being at your house every afternoon or living with you every weekend.
@@ssiegreen5292 yes to the dog!!
I was a single dad and from little on I had a house full of little boys. Pals who stayed over night and over summer and holidays. 4-5-6 at a time..
Best years of my life.
I built a work at home business in the early 90s so I made the meals and met school buses.
When I have the chance I take on my three grandsons for as long as I can.
Love them kids.
Great for attracting childless NYC career women from NYC. Lots of those available.
A dog. Never wanted one.@@ssiegreen5292
Some of us don't find any facial hair attractive lol. Great video. I especially like what you said about approachability. Confidence is important, sure, but so is kindness and interest in the other person. Which I think is actually also an indicator of confidence.
True that. some love the smooth face. ;)
This is not a list of the qualities women want. Thats a different episode ;). It’s a list of what they notice first. You can’t notice kindness and curiosity without first getting to know someone. 👍
What do I notice first??? Height and build. Sorry - I know it's such a cliché - but at 5'10 - height does matter somewhat to me - not as much as it did in my younger years, but it still gets me to notice and give a second look. Bonus points if you're well over 6' - sorry cliché cliché cliché - I know!
Second - eyes and facial expressions, including micro expressions with #3 body language.
After that it filters down into my more personal preferences - but as I got older, they have gotten more general. It matters more to me who you are on the inside than on the outside. Clean cut, neat and taken care off - no matter whether you have hair or not, wear glasses or not, have a beard or mustache or not. Smell good but not overpowering or headache inducing. Comfortable clothes that fit well. I have more of a leaning towards a man rocking jeans and boots [with a cowboy boot heel or even steel toed work boots] or nice leather shoes [oxfords, derbies, brogues etc] if he chooses to dress up a bit, over loafers, sneakers, sandals or heavens help me - flipflops. And I want those jeans or pants to stay up - and not show your underwear or worse when you bend over, so a belt is nice, but not necessary if they stay up otherwise, LOL
Oy, you always crack me up with how specific you are! Lol “steel toed work boots” 😆😆😆
@@CoffeewithCarey That's your fault! I've always liked them [men's boots] - but never really given it any specific thought until your recent clothing/appearance video, when I really mulled it over. I'm beginning to think all he needs is boots ROFL!!!
@@ssiegreen5292 hahahha. stop it!!! Lol
#1 shoes 👞 for me, #2 please no Cologne or overdo it on the fragrance just fresh and clean for sure and #3 for goodness sake get a hair cut if you have any & put styling products. 🙃😅
If you have any…
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Why women likes biceps and broad shoulders chest 😂😂😂
I can’t imagine.
Men need to make sure their nose hair is trimmed. Nothing more unattractive than 1 inch nose hairs sticking out. Even after the first date. Check this before going out.
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I m 25 !! I don’t care women’s love me!! But I got lots of women 😂! Thank you though 🫡
You’re welcome though. :)