Hobbies That Make Men MORE Attractive?

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  • @CourtneyRyan
    @CourtneyRyan  Год назад +82

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    • @harikumar3038
      @harikumar3038 Год назад +2

      please share the report / article referred to in the video

    • @didamnesia3575
      @didamnesia3575 Год назад +2

      Good provider = money.
      When a woman says "good provider" on a date to me I know she's a gold digger or at least only values money and won't be around for any tough times or honestly, just normal times

    • @TheTarutau
      @TheTarutau Год назад

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    • @vaeldsable
      @vaeldsable Год назад +2

      @@Barbarian___ Dungeon and Dragons? Incel hobby number one :)

    • @bobbobert1964
      @bobbobert1964 Год назад +1

      @mrytully right none of these were skills. Art, musician, woodworking, making something, producing something…. Watching sports?

  • @blacksheepwall79
    @blacksheepwall79 Год назад +1257

    The most attractive hobby for a man is not choosing your hobbies based on what is attractive.

    • @dkkogmaw1311
      @dkkogmaw1311 Год назад +30

      ok mommy

    • @JuancoPRoFlow
      @JuancoPRoFlow Год назад +4

      🤣

    • @JBrooksNYS
      @JBrooksNYS Год назад +54

      It won’t make me change my hobbies but it will prioritize which of my hobbies I will present to a woman… that is if she even cares enough to stop talking about herself and ask about me.

    • @ATLBraves1992
      @ATLBraves1992 Год назад +14

      This. For every hobby you will find someone that’s passion driven. Never chose a hobby to make yourself more attractive if you don’t like it.

    • @Anemone3690
      @Anemone3690 Год назад

      😂😂😂❤

  • @AshenaryG
    @AshenaryG Год назад +546

    For any dude out there watching this, dont gauge your hobbies based off of external validation. Find hobbies that are personally fulfilling to you. Theres nothing wrong with trying to increase your attractiveness but at the end of the day you should be investing in yourself and what makes you happy. There's someone out there that will like you for who you are, and building yourself to represent what others tell you will make you "more attractive" is a hollow path not worth walking. Chin up brothas

    • @artemioolivas5689
      @artemioolivas5689 Год назад +9

      On point.

    • @x-man5056
      @x-man5056 Год назад +5

      It's a good point and well said. But...picking up a hobby, outside your normal maybe, perhaps one a women could enjoy with you is still a worthwhile endeavor. Romance is a 'WE' thing. Example: I'd never let her put a wrench on my bike. But lots of women, at least in Nevada, like to shoot. And a list as long as my leg more also.
      None of my hobbies bring me "validation" outside or inside. They are just fun ways to pass spare time, be creative. A hobby WITH HER, still feels like a fun way to pass time. For any Dude reading this, be open to it. One "WE thing" could lead to another. You need to be able to do things together, beyond horizontal bop. It's kinda what the whole LTR thing is about.

    • @overbank56
      @overbank56 Год назад +1

      Makes sense

    • @eryko2338
      @eryko2338 Год назад

      exactly!!

    • @x-man5056
      @x-man5056 Год назад +2

      @@utube72 How about a video on hobbies that appeal to both men and women? Most of us here want to succeed with women, not avoid them or trash them. Don't need coaching for that.

  • @briar35981
    @briar35981 Год назад +761

    Hobbies and interests do make a man more attractive and diverse. If you do get into a relationship don't let the woman take your hobbies from you. So many men have had their hopes, dreams, and opportunities taken away by a relationship. Make sure the relationship compliments your life and is not your life. Also shopping and spending money isn't a hobby ladies.

    • @thes.t.a.gprince9952
      @thes.t.a.gprince9952 Год назад +8

      @@isaura-22 I agree , I have things that I know women won't find attractive like video games. But I also love literature like stories of any kind and I really get deep into those things. Me being into Aristotle or St Benedict. Does that make me attractive I don't know I really don't care. And if some girls are attracted to that ,that's fine and vice versa

    • @ArmaGuyz
      @ArmaGuyz Год назад +2

      FACTS

    • @ARTDEVGRU247
      @ARTDEVGRU247 Год назад +8

      @Cracked Walnut Nut smh 🤦

    • @ruleaus7664
      @ruleaus7664 Год назад

      @Cracked Walnut Nut
      What kind of distorted thinking is that? Do you realize 20-40% of divorces are because of infidelity?

    • @josephcolton2614
      @josephcolton2614 Год назад +18

      A friend of mine told his wife: "I've had this hobby before you and I'll still have it after you..."

  • @mimicotom
    @mimicotom Год назад +159

    Cooking is a good hobby. When I was dating, I was flat broke and could not afford restaurants for dates. When I told the women I was dating, that I could cook for them at my apartment, they all dropped me like a hot stone when I explained my finances. I had one girl who took me up on my offer. We had a very nice chicken dinner with wine, soft music and good conversation. We celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary next year. BTW...my finances have greatly improved since then. I also play piano. I don't know a women out there who does not like a man who plays piano.

    • @emptysoul2757
      @emptysoul2757 Год назад +19

      Those other women are absolute airheads. Bullets were dodged

    • @jjberg83
      @jjberg83 Год назад +5

      I love it. I was/kind of still am in that situation. I never explained my finances but when they saw my vintage 1 bedroom apartment they all took off. I did some solo VERY high end travel when I hit an unexpected windfall and many of them tried to come back lol

    • @davidbowman2035
      @davidbowman2035 Год назад +1

      I'm getting back to learning the piano and your comment gives me motivation.

    • @dgwaters
      @dgwaters Год назад +7

      You are so lucky dude. I would love to meet a girl, get married, and celebrate 25 years of marriage.

    • @mk0759
      @mk0759 6 месяцев назад +2

      That's actually a great filtering technique, because what all those women who dropped you were telling you is thst they are first and foremost looking for a man to foot the bills for a lifestyle they can't afford. And you found that out before wasting any more time and money on them for a first date. Congratulations on your long marriage. It's a shame that the dating market is an even more caustic, degenerate wasteland than it was 25 years ago thanks to the negative impacts of social media, loss of family values and foolish political and legal policies in most western countries.

  • @NeonClone66
    @NeonClone66 Год назад +132

    How the hell did musical talent not make it onto the list!?!? I played basketball for 10 years, never drew me interest from a girl. I’ve been into singing for only 10 months, and it’s been a different story

    • @ufodubz2699
      @ufodubz2699 Год назад

      It’s because most women see basketball players as douchebags

    • @glenchapman3899
      @glenchapman3899 Год назад +18

      Absolutely. And the number of famous musicians who say "Getting girls" was one of their motivations for getting into music in first place.

    • @NeonClone66
      @NeonClone66 Год назад +6

      @@glenchapman3899 right. True for many musicians. Lemme be clear tho… getting women was not the motivating factor for me haha doin it to better myself. Courtney always preaches just that💯

    • @funkysoulman3861
      @funkysoulman3861 Год назад +6

      I was waiting for "plays an instrument" to be one. I guess that one takes too much time. I guess a woman would get jealous i'd have my hands on the guitar more than her.

    • @NeonClone66
      @NeonClone66 Год назад +1

      @@funkysoulman3861 💀😭

  • @ollysombrero8427
    @ollysombrero8427 Год назад +408

    Here's my two cents:
    I do believe that people are drawn to the feeling they get when they're in the presence of a passionate personality. I think it has less to do with the actual hobby itself, and more to do with how passionate or even obsessive the other person is about a certain topic.
    So don't go out there and get a random hobby just to attract people. Because unless you're REALLY passionate it won't count.
    No?
    Am I romanticizing it??
    I might be...

    • @thementalityman6993
      @thementalityman6993 Год назад +37

      I completely agree! I wouldnt want a partner without hobbys simply because I have my own ones and dont want to give them up

    • @MikeyP109
      @MikeyP109 Год назад +20

      Even the video game topic. As it turns out, women play them too.

    • @Aumaan924
      @Aumaan924 Год назад +12

      I completely agree with you but I can't think of it so straight forward or simple... because I've been in situations where one of my particular hobbies would be the reason the woman was disinterested, mostly because they weren't interested in it themselves, so hobbies sometimes kinda need to align between partners

    • @MikeyP109
      @MikeyP109 Год назад +8

      @@Aumaan924 which puts less value on the hobby and more on common interests.

    • @foxdevilsadvocate8567
      @foxdevilsadvocate8567 Год назад +12

      Passion. Having passion outside of a relationship is AWESOME for both men and women. It shows that when they are focused, dedicated, and absolutely involved in something that they love to do/talk about, it *could* show up in the relationship towards the person they are dating. Plus, it's less pressure on the other person to provide "entertainment". The person is growing, learning, educating themselves, etc.
      It's just so much of a hot thing.
      Though of course, there is that balance. If ALL you do is talk about that one thing, then it can get pretty mundane quick. However if it branches out to skills the other person can see (mechanical, electrical, artistry, etc.), then there is that link that can connect to a wider variation of experiences.

  • @notanumberafreeman6903
    @notanumberafreeman6903 Год назад +296

    Lack of hobbies has never been a problem for me. The fact her hobby, her only one, is shopping, however, is.

    • @Hiergibtesnixzusehen
      @Hiergibtesnixzusehen Год назад +34

      Shopping is not a hobby lol

    • @notanumberafreeman6903
      @notanumberafreeman6903 Год назад +50

      @@Hiergibtesnixzusehen To them it is. Go ask 10 women what their hobbies are. I guarantee you "shopping" will be the number one answer for 5 of them, in the top 10 for at least 9 of them.

    • @dobermanownerforlife3902
      @dobermanownerforlife3902 Год назад +28

      @@notanumberafreeman6903 most women's hobbies include spending money, like travel. Second is things that derive attention, like dancing.
      Nothing useful or productive.

    • @animalgarden825
      @animalgarden825 Год назад +14

      @@notanumberafreeman6903 Many women list shopping as an interest or hobby in their Tinder-profiles. Very alarming and a big red flag!

    • @MonsterTomten
      @MonsterTomten Год назад +5

      Last year I went to a date and asked her about her interests. She said she really liked to walk outside. I tried in vain to ask about any other hobbies.
      I didn't go on a second date because I couldn't see a future with her. As someone who has alot of interests. Excersise, music, painting, engines etc

  • @kojack635
    @kojack635 Год назад +230

    -Being rich
    -Having money
    -Working out/have a 6 pack
    -Traveling to bouji places and uploading to social media

    • @tr607
      @tr607 Год назад +40

      Truth. The article is bs. They DGAF about actual hobbies. These are all hobbies that they gain something from. Traveling is a "hobby"? 😂 Pets? My dog is not a hobby.

    • @MrDigztheswagking
      @MrDigztheswagking Год назад +1

      Be rich 🤑 chicks give zero fucks about about a man's hobby 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @prasedomaci9264
      @prasedomaci9264 Год назад +15

      @@tr607 I would argue having 20+ tarantulas can be considered a hobby... and I have yet to meet a woman, that finds me more attractive, because of it.

    • @tr607
      @tr607 Год назад +1

      @@prasedomaci9264 😂👍

    • @NAPAuniversalJoints
      @NAPAuniversalJoints Год назад +1

      truth

  • @donrosen8618
    @donrosen8618 Год назад +460

    00:00 Intro
    00:45 Skillshare Ad
    01:40 eHarmony Article Top 10 Hobbies
    05:14 Top exercises to list
    05:42 Speak another language
    06:25 More stats
    07:00 Article Conclusion
    09:07 Courtney's Conclusion

    • @AkinlabiStClair
      @AkinlabiStClair Год назад +53

      Here have this king 👑

    • @elijahtorres9111
      @elijahtorres9111 Год назад +7

      God Bless

    • @philcliffe6909
      @philcliffe6909 Год назад +16

      So you've listed everything except what the video was about, 10 Hobbies.... marvellous.

    • @StonedNoob
      @StonedNoob Год назад

      @@philcliffe6909 well isn’t that on the video provider?

    • @philcliffe6909
      @philcliffe6909 Год назад +1

      @@StonedNoob Since when has 'Intro' been a hobby. Since when has 'Skillshare Ad
      ' been a hobby. Since when has 'eHarmony Article Top 10 Hobbies
      ' been a hobby.... Do I need to go on or has the penny dropped yet.

  • @cur244
    @cur244 10 месяцев назад +31

    You're absolutely right about people with no hobbies being unbelievably boring. For some reason finding women with a hobby that doesn't involve screens seems incredibly difficult.

    • @theNightrage
      @theNightrage 7 месяцев назад

      I find the opposite to be much harder tbh

    • @ronaldgmaster5782
      @ronaldgmaster5782 6 месяцев назад +1

      If she is cute you won’t care if she has hobbies.

    • @cur244
      @cur244 6 месяцев назад

      @@ronaldgmaster5782 If she has no hobbies she's not cute. No hobbies means sitting on the couch staring at a screen all day.

    • @cur244
      @cur244 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@theNightrage You'd rather have a woman that sits on the couch and stares at a screen all day? To me that's incredibly boring.

    • @theNightrage
      @theNightrage 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@cur244Well... As a nerd myself I kinda disagree really hard here.... But that´s what society made people think for years now, I guess.

  • @roshanranjan8701
    @roshanranjan8701 Год назад +84

    As long as u have a hobby, that alone is considered attractive. It does not have to be smth that a woman MUST LIKE in order for her to view it as attractive.

    • @CourtneyRyan
      @CourtneyRyan  Год назад +16

      Yes!

    • @SuperZippyzippy
      @SuperZippyzippy Год назад +7

      Unless your hobby is video gaming

    • @Hiergibtesnixzusehen
      @Hiergibtesnixzusehen Год назад +1

      @@SuperZippyzippy Because most of the gamers completely overuse that. Unfortunately

    • @johnq4520
      @johnq4520 Год назад +3

      I have all kinds of hobbies and still don't get the kind of women that I want to be attracted to me.

    • @SuperZippyzippy
      @SuperZippyzippy Год назад +1

      @John Q45 same.. I'm a gamer women just suck 😆

  • @Shadow25720
    @Shadow25720 Год назад +38

    But the most important thing is, that your hobby brings you joy and not how attractive it makes you

  • @SenseiAgot
    @SenseiAgot Год назад +199

    I share several of that list of hobbies you mentioned Courtney (travelling, exercising, dancing, cooking, politics, pets, photography and sports), but I also have quite a few geeky hobbies that have been heavily criticized by people over the years, like video games, comics and anime. I never gave a damn about others opinions regarding that. At some point I launched a website to publish news and opinion pieces about those geeky hobbies also including music, cinema, literature, etc. Later a girlfriend of mine told me I was wasting my time... She's no longer my partner, obviously, and that website not only made some money, it served as a portfolio for my last two jobs, both related to the entertainment industry (organizing comic book conventions and writing for an anime streaming service). I also have a wife that shares most of my geeky hobbies. Never let anyone go after you because of your hobbies.

    • @flashnimi
      @flashnimi Год назад +12

      Thats awesome! You accepted yourself and embraced who you are, turning it into a major strength and finding a partner who celebrates you! Major respect

    • @mysticstarhf9265
      @mysticstarhf9265 Год назад +9

      I have to tell you, I have met some amazing and incredibly attractive women over the years that from outward appearance you'd never know they were interested in Marvel, comics, anime and ComiCon. Few and far between but they are out there. Being married myself, it's easier to carry on a conversation with them as they know you aren't trying to date them; I've met them all through my job. I've hooked some of those ladies up with some guys I know that enjoy those same things and they've ended up married with kids and doing well. I think if the geeky ladies let more of that side show instead of suppressing it publicly, more of the geeky guys they are looking for would take a chance to ask them out.

    • @SenseiAgot
      @SenseiAgot Год назад +4

      @@mysticstarhf9265 yeah, I know there's quite a lot of ladies like that. Specially nowadays, that geeks are the mainstream. But when I was a teen? Damn. I was ridiculed on a daily basis for my hobbies. But I didn't care AT ALL. I was a tough kid hahaha

    • @SenseiAgot
      @SenseiAgot Год назад +1

      @@flashnimi yeah, I was always very assertive in that regard. I valued my individuality way too much to buckle under people's idea of what's acceptable as cool. Even though I did have many normie interests as well, and still have.

    • @ewoman3584
      @ewoman3584 Год назад +2

      She doesnt realize the money that can be made with some hobby things! LOL

  • @TheTrueHasenfeffer
    @TheTrueHasenfeffer Год назад +3

    I don't mean to be contrary, but I refuse to change any particular hobby I enjoy on the offhand chance they may not like it or are turned off by it.

    • @Jpsears1342
      @Jpsears1342 Год назад

      *Thanks for watching send a direct message on the telegram handle above, I will love to hear your thoughts on it and for more enlightenment☝️👋*

    • @Gustavog74
      @Gustavog74 Год назад

      Women only care about a guy’s looks.

    • @Gustavog74
      @Gustavog74 Год назад

      Women only care about a guy’s looks.

  • @brianwaller7383
    @brianwaller7383 Год назад +5

    At 44 I don’t care what my hobbies make me look like to the opposite sex. I do my hobbies because I enjoy doing it not doing it for female validation.

  • @Firesword534
    @Firesword534 Год назад +73

    Writing is a big hobby of mine. It's a way for me to be creative and tell the kind of stories I'd want to read but can't find other places. My other big hobby is whisky collecting. It's something I enjoy in moderation, but the whole process of distilling and how a whisky is shaped by the area it comes from is fascinating to me.

    • @WilliamsWorlds
      @WilliamsWorlds Год назад +4

      I'll second the writing. One of the big things that impressed my current GF was some of my short stories.

    • @sleepisthecousinofdeath7395
      @sleepisthecousinofdeath7395 Год назад +2

      I write but I would never show someone lmao ain’t no girl want to read poetic stories

    • @CommentorX
      @CommentorX Год назад

      So you're an alcoholic Hemingway wannabe? How's that working for you?

    • @sleepisthecousinofdeath7395
      @sleepisthecousinofdeath7395 Год назад +2

      @@CommentorX *someone likes alcohol*
      Church soccer moms: “yOuRe An AlChoLhIc”

    • @grapeboi9256
      @grapeboi9256 Год назад +2

      That's great! I personally like to write music and short stories myself

  • @VideoGameRoom32
    @VideoGameRoom32 Год назад +70

    I think your channel will reach 500k subscribers by the end of this year because you have such great content. Other RUclipsrs are complaining they are losing viewers because the RUclips algorithm changed this year and hard to get viewers now. I don't think that algorithm is true because your channel is going fast and proves it wrong. Good job, Courtney.

    • @CourtneyRyan
      @CourtneyRyan  Год назад +15

      Thank you so much! I didn’t know other people were experiencing that, luckily I’m not! Lol

    • @TheMovieTeaser
      @TheMovieTeaser Год назад

      Hopefully not there’s enough poison in the world

  • @robertholtz769
    @robertholtz769 Год назад +26

    I started ballroom and swing dancing over the past year and a half. I have always liked dancing, but was always a bit shy about it when I was younger. Part of that is because people my age at the time really only knew how to club dance and that wasn't my jam. Now I am either training with my coaches or social dancing 3 to 4 times a week. I am meeting tons of people and I really hope to meet a nice girl who shares this passion with me.

    • @nosferatualucard2613
      @nosferatualucard2613 Год назад +4

      Speaking from my own experience, ballroom dancing is a lot of fun indeed. If you continue to get better at it, it will not take long until you are pretty much in the top 10% best dancers at a regular dancing party (where the theme is ballroom dancing, or swing) or even better. And you will meet plenty of women who would like to dance with you regularly. So people (women) will naturally "accumulate", just as a side effect of you being a good dancer and regularly going to dancing parties. At least that what happened with me, and i am definetely not the extroverted or "player" type really.
      Also, at most events i go to, there are usually more women than men (not everytime of course. but most of the time). Secondly, i feel like most women i dance with really find great joy in that hobby (maybe even more than I do), so it buffles me a bit, that you have not found a women yet, that "shares that passion with you", but as I said, it will definitely not take long for you to find something like that.

    • @robertholtz769
      @robertholtz769 Год назад

      @@nosferatualucard2613 For context, I am 30 and I am looking for a girl in her early to mid twenties who wants to be a mom primarily. Also, my preferred ballroom coach has taken some time off and I have moved more into the West Coast Swing world. I have been told it is a much younger community.
      It isn't that I haven't found ladies who share this passion. It is more that the community is a bit older than I initially estimated. The college girls that frequent the socials that I have gone to are often very reserved and are hard to get to open up in conversation.
      All in all, regardless of the style, I am having a ton of fun meeting people in general and practicing my social dance and conversation skills. I went to my first convention style event for WCS two weekends ago and I had a ton of fun. I look forward to more events like that and I am certain that I will cross paths with girls I am looking for sometime soon.

  • @MP-ut6eb
    @MP-ut6eb 7 месяцев назад +4

    My top 3 as a guy (i like doing them):
    1 Photography (not for the socialis, but for the creative aspect of it).
    2 Cardio: Running/walking in the nature, expecially in the countryside.
    3 Learning about... everything? I use many tools for that, RUclips, books, or internet in general.

  • @colinmckendrick9803
    @colinmckendrick9803 Год назад +7

    As a guy I find a girl who is busy working and bettering herself to be the most attractive. Bonuses are if she can cook and clean. But 100% a girl that isn’t caught up in the modern day to day bull crap and media and staying home and being on the internet is HUGE deal for me

  • @wei-enwong315
    @wei-enwong315 Год назад +23

    Most women I meet in person did not really care about my hobbies. They were more interested in telling me their hobbies.

    • @CliveRosefield
      @CliveRosefield Год назад

      precisely. People want you to be interested in them.

    • @RAILWAY_FILMS
      @RAILWAY_FILMS Год назад +1

      number 1 on the mens list in actuality is this : 1. LISTENING, if that's your hobby, you're off to a good start. but you have to be able to at least carry a conversation with some short answers that keep it moving. I think they said traveling was number 1 but its actually listening because believe me, if you go traveling with a women and aren't listening to her during your trip, your trip is going to come up shorter than planned

    • @PSYCHIC_PSYCHO
      @PSYCHIC_PSYCHO Год назад

      Women don't have hobbies; they have utterly crap interests like: Fashion, Makeup, Selfies, Dancing, Pop-Music, Celebrities, Instagram, and Only Fans

  • @stevenzarzecki
    @stevenzarzecki Год назад +11

    I wish women realized how attractive it is for women to have interesting hobbies. Based on dating profiles I've come across, travel, drinking, and brunch seem to be the only things women are interested in.

  • @Pault3788
    @Pault3788 Год назад +16

    If old age,medical and physical problems ever become attractive,I will finally meet someone👍🏻

  • @thefloridian8135
    @thefloridian8135 Год назад +13

    I really enjoy your channel! I don't use it for dating advice. Most of your advice are great ideas for self improvement and I apply that. I'm very empathetic, so I enjoy learning from others and what their perceptions are. Your advice really helps me understand what I need to work on for myself.

  • @tdotvy4579
    @tdotvy4579 Год назад +7

    I’ve had this issue where people tell me I’m doing too much. I’m super outdoorsy and love keeping my body in motion. Some of my hobbies include Jiu Jitsu, rock climbing, mountain biking, snowboarding, hunting and fishing. I also have a fulfilling career and side hustles that bring me happiness. When I’m not working, I’m either at the gym or spending time doing my hobbies. I don’t really do bars or nightlife so finding women that understand my lifestyle is hard. I live in a city so my lifestyle seems too active but when I’m out in my scene, I’m too much of a yuppy lol. It’s a weird spot that I’m in. I have learned to enjoy being by myself. I believe you’re only young once and your body is capable of so much. I don’t want to look back and say I wish I would’ve done this when I was young and strong. We live in a day and age where information and opportunity is all around us; Take advantage of that to learn and absorb as much as you can. I’ll save the book reading (I listen to audiobooks) and “Netflix and chill” for when I’m no longer able to move like I used to when I was 20. I don’t necessarily want a girl to enjoy the things I enjoy but understand that this is what keeps me sane and happy. Heck, maybe she can come tag along and enjoy things I enjoy doing and vice versa. Also, it probably doesn’t help that I’m 5’ 6” lol. But I check everything else I believe. And I would also say I’m a bit shallow when it comes to looks.

  • @ChrisW1019
    @ChrisW1019 Год назад +83

    As a man I care whether or not a woman has hobbies, interests and passions. It doesn't matter a whole lot to me what they are as long as she has some. For me, music is the love of my life. I love a woman who also shares a love and knowledge for music.

    • @tigerbear3038
      @tigerbear3038 Год назад +8

      I don’t know a single person who doesn’t like music. Just listening to music is not a hobby imo

    • @dylanswrld
      @dylanswrld Год назад +6

      @@tigerbear3038 he probably plays it too, and if not, listening to it is a hobby if you know what you’re listening for. theres a lot to listen to if you know music theory, which im guessing you don’t based off your comment

    • @robb4394
      @robb4394 Год назад

      ​@@tigerbear3038 I wouldn't say that I dislike music, but I honestly have no love for it. If I have headphones in there's a 100% chance that I'm listening to an audio book or podcast.

    • @slick8086
      @slick8086 Год назад +7

      I agree I find it really strange that music doesn't show up on that list at all. I grew up in a family that played music and sang together. And even at family reunions distant family did the same. Mostly folk song and none of us were ever "professional musicians." I would have guessed that music would be on that list before "watching sports" at least.

    • @megasoid
      @megasoid Год назад +2

      Agreed.

  • @drip369
    @drip369 Год назад +45

    Oh trust me, even just cooking for a girl as a first date is a lot of fun. I've been with some girls that couldn't cook nearly as good as me and I've dated some girls that liked to cook beside me and it sure is a skill in which I'm thankful to my mother and grandmother for getting me started at the age of 7

    • @drip369
      @drip369 Год назад +3

      3:49 110,000%

    • @sleepisthecousinofdeath7395
      @sleepisthecousinofdeath7395 Год назад

      Can you cook me mr jones?

    • @drip369
      @drip369 Год назад

      @@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395 when is your nap time 🤣🤣💀

    • @jdally9872
      @jdally9872 Год назад

      how do you even pitch the idea of coming to your house and cooking for her as a first date idea? wouldn't most women be completely uncomfortable with that, wanna meet in a public place first etc

    • @johnshukeireh5804
      @johnshukeireh5804 Год назад

      @@jdally9872 I’ve wondered the same

  • @NemesisLex
    @NemesisLex Год назад +6

    May God sweep me off the surface of this earth if I ever choose my hobbies based on whether they make me interesting to others.

  • @vapeking466
    @vapeking466 Год назад +35

    As a 49yo man I believe the list of what a women requires or wants continues to grow over the years while the opposite is true for men. As long as your nurturing, polite, look to be on my level looks wise ,"average" and I trust you is my requirements 😂 As for hobbies I had lots as a younger guy but as I get older I lose interest in many of my past hobbies. I do enjoy investing and exercise but travel is a no. However if I had a girl I would have no problem with taking her anywhere I just don't care to travel alone as a "hobby".

    • @emptysoul2757
      @emptysoul2757 Год назад +3

      I agree on the traveling alone part. Sounds like a great way to piss money away

  • @ziegjecht9235
    @ziegjecht9235 Год назад +2

    I don't know why this was recommended to me, but any man picking up hobbies to appear more attractive is fucking up. Do what you enjoy bro. Don't concern yourself with wants of women, you'll never measure up to their delusions.

    • @Jpsears1342
      @Jpsears1342 Год назад

      *Thanks for watching send a direct message on the telegram handle above, I will love to hear your thoughts on it and for more enlightenment☝️👋*

  • @Condor-gb1xp
    @Condor-gb1xp Год назад +20

    I feel like dating apps limiting the amount of hobbies you can select is really a hinderance. I do a lot and limiting to 5 sometimes means I have to choose between what hobbies will make me seem attractive and what hobbies will attract the kind of people I’m looking for. I’m an athletic guy but I’m looking for someone more on the nerdy side and striking that balance without feeling superficial seems impossible.

    • @Condor-gb1xp
      @Condor-gb1xp Год назад

      @Raven Carlton I appreciate the help. I moved to a new area by myself recently so your advice helps in a lot of ways

  • @jappie3143
    @jappie3143 Год назад +21

    I Paint miniatures as one of my hobbies, and i get always a positive response from a girl. I believe it is because its a creative hobby, and challenging because they are really small.

    • @gilian2587
      @gilian2587 Год назад

      Branch out to clocks? Make bank?

  • @aizarcabrera1807
    @aizarcabrera1807 Год назад +13

    “It’s like talking to a doorknob”...!!! 😂😂😂. You always make the most ridiculous analogies, and I love them 🙌🏽🤗

    • @AmericanDuck
      @AmericanDuck Год назад

      That saying has been around for more than a century, but it’s cool that she uses it.

  • @massimo7219
    @massimo7219 Год назад +27

    I’m surprised that something involving music wasn’t on the list. Either singing or playing an instrument gives a huge boost to a man. My father was a professionally trained opera singer and there were women throwing it at him right in front of my mother.
    When I was in high school, I had girls call my house and ask if I was home just to hear my dad’s voice. His accent didn’t hurt any too. They knew I was at football practice but they still called anyway.

    • @rustykoenig3566
      @rustykoenig3566 6 месяцев назад +1

      LOL! Thats epic! Your girlfriend calls and you answer: DAMNIT! Im gonna call BACK... so DON'T answer the damn PHONE! 'click'

  • @tastybrownie7448
    @tastybrownie7448 Год назад +2

    The list:
    1. Travelling
    2. Exercise
    3. Theatre
    4. Dancing
    5. Cooking
    6. Outdoor Interests
    7. Politics
    8. Pets
    9. Photography
    10. Watching Sports

  • @patrickjones8754
    @patrickjones8754 Год назад +33

    2nd date with my wife in college- I cooked dinner for us and it was TERRIBLE. Got much better over the years but I’m sure it scored me points back then 😂😂😂

  • @jambajoby32
    @jambajoby32 Год назад +11

    Courtney I was once a full time musician and i did attract many women. My frustration with it was though it was my job, they saw me as a muse or novelty. It was great being able to pull some babes & really helped me figure out looks are looks and nothing more.

    • @gilian2587
      @gilian2587 Год назад

      That's not nothing.

    • @jambajoby32
      @jambajoby32 Год назад

      @@gilian2587 wut 🤔

    • @gilian2587
      @gilian2587 Год назад

      @@jambajoby32 Figuring out that looks are looks and nothing more. That's not nothing.

    • @jambajoby32
      @jambajoby32 Год назад

      @@gilian2587 oh.. it is something! But it’s nothing more than just looks.

    • @Rikalonius
      @Rikalonius Год назад

      Women are attracted to musicians, until they date them, then suddenly their commitment to music becomes an impediment.

  • @kaironconqueror5817
    @kaironconqueror5817 Год назад +5

    For me - A woman interested in exercise and good nutrition is an indicator that she has a positive self image (or at least working towards it), is less likely to suffer from depression, less prone to disease of all types, and can go on fun outings/travel in the world without becoming easily fatigued. It demonstrates she has done her research about health & fitness which typically indicates a higher average intelligence. It shows an understanding of delayed gratification, and not afraid of tackling hardship in a constructive and methodical manner.

    • @Sergio_Loureiro
      @Sergio_Loureiro 9 месяцев назад +1

      I agree with you IF and this is a BIG IF, the reason she doe it is that one you are saying. If she makes exercise to put photos of her ass on Tik Tok and Instagram, she is just a very superficial person whose self-esteem comes, almost all from her appearance.

    • @kaironconqueror5817
      @kaironconqueror5817 9 месяцев назад +2

      @@Sergio_Loureiro
      Any hint of excessive vanity is a deal breaker for me. Those types become bitter AF the second they hit "the wall" and it only gets worse over time.

  • @gaboon74
    @gaboon74 7 месяцев назад +1

    I tell my Nephew (since he was about 10yrs old now, 18).... Nicholas, learn to dance, learn to cook, learn to Dress sharp, be a Gentleman, and above all never stop learning or being curious. He is presently in a top Engineering school, dabbles in cooking, works-out and I'm immensely Proud of Him!!

  • @BasedGrant
    @BasedGrant Год назад +3

    If you're picking a hobby because it attracts women and not because you enjoy it, you deserve neither.

  • @therogueprince3790
    @therogueprince3790 Год назад +19

    If D & D isn’t on this list I’m screwed.

    • @MikeyP109
      @MikeyP109 Год назад +4

      Women play D&D too. Sadly, nerdy type hobbies are often looked down upon. I really have no idea why, as they are just as valid. Me being a nerd will testify.

    • @michaelrespicio5683
      @michaelrespicio5683 Год назад +2

      @@MikeyP109 Same with video games. There are so many gamer girls on RUclips and Twitch so I don't know why it's looked down upon even if people are responsible with it, myself included. I've even seen women work at game companies and they spend lots of time producing the games in the first place

    • @MikeyP109
      @MikeyP109 Год назад +1

      @@michaelrespicio5683 I've met great people in gaming, women and men alike.

    • @Geaxuce
      @Geaxuce 6 месяцев назад

      BOYS NIGHT! 😎

  • @AmericanDuck
    @AmericanDuck Год назад +5

    Here are mine:
    1. Pilates twice a week
    2. Miata Car Club- twice monthly
    3. Record collector - I make a trip twice a month or whenever I’m near a shop. I love music, played saxophone for 20 years.
    4. Film buff
    5. Theatre and Musicals/Concerts
    6. Motorcycle rides- on a hiatus for now, but I lived on a motorcycle daily for 20+ years
    7. Cooking- I cook at least once a day.
    8. Mountain Biking- once a week or more often- trails next to my house
    9. Was big into dancing in clubs, but now that I’m older, I don’t enjoy the younger crowds. BTW younger people in general have no moves. I stopped a few years ago, but I’d happily go back with girlfriends.

    • @Vlad_Portnov
      @Vlad_Portnov Год назад

      Nice, which miata do you have?

    • @AmericanDuck
      @AmericanDuck Год назад

      @THE ADAM FRIEDLAND SHOW I’m 6’1” and I’m over 100k. That’s not enough for them, either. You need the car, the clothes, the looks.

    • @AmericanDuck
      @AmericanDuck Год назад

      @@Vlad_Portnov got a 2019 ND2 RF. We just went out last weekend and did some canyon runs.

    • @AmericanDuck
      @AmericanDuck Год назад

      @THE ADAM FRIEDLAND SHOW good for you. I’m 50, divorced with kids on my weekends, so that could have something to do with it. Had no problems with girls when I was younger. I get looks, but the quality of women I interact with near my age is down and I’m not interested in younger women really. I’ve been finding interested girls in their 20s, but it’s not my interest to waste time with them when I have kids that are only 8 years younger. No women near my age that I find attractive seem to be around at all or have huge flaws when I do find them. A lot of them have some kind of damage or are making as much as me and are looking for a very rich guy. Also, I’m in great shape. I’m probably just ugly like you said or not a big enough asshole. I’m not really trying either.

  • @Shah-of-the-Shinebox
    @Shah-of-the-Shinebox Год назад +11

    I have two strange hobbies: collecting Vinyl records and being a movie buff. Those probably rank pretty low, but it’s what i enjoy. Great video Courtney!!!

    • @johnkeith2450
      @johnkeith2450 Год назад +1

      Two good ones

    • @chrisorr3919
      @chrisorr3919 Год назад +1

      You've got to enjoy it, so that's all that's Important.

    • @ApesAmongUs
      @ApesAmongUs Год назад +3

      I'd bet any amount of money that those "strange" hobbies are both vastly larger than "traveling" in terms of the number of people who take part in them.

    • @AVFtube
      @AVFtube Год назад

      Myself and almost all of my friends also have these hobbies.

    • @Shah-of-the-Shinebox
      @Shah-of-the-Shinebox Год назад

      @@AVFtube it’s great to have that kind of circle of friends.

  • @Jack2x92
    @Jack2x92 Год назад +2

    The main problem why dating is messed up is because of social media. Cause before social media, both men and women had a realistic approach towards each other. Where as today, there are some extremely good looking guys on tiktok or Instagram which is not the main problem, the main problem is that those “good looking” guys are only like 2-3% out of 100% and 90-95% women are aiming for top 2-3% men (even the unattractive ones) which is an absolute nightmare for 5/10 or below looks guys. And over 80% of us are ignored

    • @Gustavog74
      @Gustavog74 Год назад

      Women only care about a guy’s looks.

  • @IlonggoDad
    @IlonggoDad Год назад +1

    Its all about being passionate.
    A man with a strong passion towards something makes him more attractive.

  • @youme1614
    @youme1614 Год назад +45

    Video begins at 1:42. Hello everyone! Thank you for supporting the channel! Enjoy!

  • @ajtaylor8750
    @ajtaylor8750 Год назад +9

    I've always kept my hobbies close to me because they are a part of who I am and how I view myself. I'm always learning new skills to better myself and always looking for new interests because I might grow old of my current hobbies and want to explore new ones in the future. Not shocked that #1 and #2 are exercise and traveling because women are attracted to physically fit men who are well rounded with the world.

    • @charlesselrachski34
      @charlesselrachski34 Год назад +1

      i thought you said well walleted, because last time i travelled it wasnt cheap

    • @Robert-xs2mv
      @Robert-xs2mv 8 месяцев назад

      @@charlesselrachski34depends on how one travels, and what is considered “ not cheap”? $10; $100; $1000; more, per day?

  • @jerzykozio2395
    @jerzykozio2395 Год назад +19

    Dive into a hobby that let's you express your creativity over time, like playing an instrument, mastering a skill like making furniture, it works like a magnet. Great video btw ;)

    • @makattak88
      @makattak88 Год назад +2

      Sailing is mine. Absolutely love it. Technical, takes physical and mental effort, foresight, rigging and can be dangerous. But also, sailboats have cabins where you can invite someone in to have a little fun.

  • @Wickit96
    @Wickit96 Год назад +6

    I'm a huge car guy, well automotive I should say, anything having to do with cars, trucks motorcycles and racing in general, and that definitely helps within the community itself, but starting to venture out and incorporating that with other hobbies like traveling, making videos documenting such and I make money from doing so as well so thank you for putting it out there that having something that you enjoy that also makes you money is just as good as the ones listed

    • @Robert-xs2mv
      @Robert-xs2mv 8 месяцев назад +2

      Cars move the body, motorbikes move the soul!

    • @jamestravis1147
      @jamestravis1147 5 месяцев назад

      @@Robert-xs2mv Yes, until the car moves the motorcycle, and the soul leaves the body. Love both, but people tend to be self-absorbed and will run over you on a bike these days more than ever.

    • @Robert-xs2mv
      @Robert-xs2mv 5 месяцев назад

      @@jamestravis1147 why as a biker one is so much more aware of their surroundings, their lives literally depend on it. On the other hand we can accelerate into gaps cars simply can’t. And as a truck driver, I can say a car hit by one of use also make the soul leave the body. Why I don’t like cars

  • @notequalto5179
    @notequalto5179 Год назад +1

    Answer: the one that makes you happy. Passion is hot, and you're enjoying yourself. Goodbye

  • @JasonMoir
    @JasonMoir Год назад +6

    Theatre is probably listed because it indicates the man has more disposable income. Theatre tickets are not cheap, so making it a hobby indirectly says you have money.

  • @themagescorner
    @themagescorner Год назад +4

    Well I say fuck all this data. Be authentic, confident but be yourself. I put Dungeons and Dragons as one of my interests, and Gamer. I’m 38. If women see this as me being a man child, well feel free to skip. I’m gonna game until my 80s lol, and luckily women nowadays play games a lot more than they used to, but usually younger women, or those into engineering/IT.

    • @Jpsears1342
      @Jpsears1342 Год назад

      *Thanks for watching send a direct message on the telegram handle above, I will love to hear your thoughts on it and for more enlightenment☝️👋*

    • @Gustavog74
      @Gustavog74 Год назад

      Women only care about a guy’s looks.

  • @AgentKain
    @AgentKain Год назад +10

    I have a full range of hobbies, but my main ones are art, design, martial arts as well as video games. I've honestly never had any woman have an issue with the fact that I like to play video games, and I think it's because I like to do other things and not just that. Any woman who does take issue is likely basing it off a previous relationship where they had no balance in their life. but otherwise most women don't mind it at all.

  • @kanabezfilmow307
    @kanabezfilmow307 6 месяцев назад +1

    jesus christ how many times i was on a date or i was texting a girl and when i asked her what's her hobby or generally what's she's interested in she answered "emm nothing" like girl wtf are you doing in your free time, staring at a wall ?!

  • @distinguisheddrei7036
    @distinguisheddrei7036 Год назад +1

    I love drawing, and now that I know how to do it it helps me cope. It helps me feel better and not stress.

  • @jatbatman
    @jatbatman Год назад +5

    I don't see exercise as a hobby. It's something you do for health, strength, and maybe aesthetics.
    My hobbies include things like knife collecting, archery, axe throwing, shooting (don't do this as often as I would like), and sewing. Knife collecting is hit and miss as far as if it is attractive to women, some like it and it scares some away. The sewing gets mixed reviews as well. The rest are definitely more favorable to most women.

    • @innocentrage1
      @innocentrage1 Год назад +1

      I work out 2-3 hours a day, yeah its overkill but I want abs damn it! That being said its pretty much my hobby and fun time because its all I have time for

    • @jatbatman
      @jatbatman Год назад

      @@innocentrage1 abs are obtained by getting fat off the abdominal region. Lol I assume you are aware of that and doing a good amount of cardio if you are doing 2-3 hours a day though.
      I don't care about abs, my genetics don't really work to my advantage there. I can easily be built, but even when I was a "healthy" weight when I was younger I never really had defined abs. 🤷‍♂️ I have a ton of core strength, but I would have to be underweight to accomplish abs. My torso and abdomen are where I store almost all of my fat.

  • @James-wj5du
    @James-wj5du Год назад +8

    Always excited to see a notification from Courtney! 🎉

  • @johnhoward2900
    @johnhoward2900 Год назад +3

    Back in 2012, I took up Argentine Tango and, in my humble opinion, became a pretty good dancer.
    At the time, I was going through a divorce and that helped me get through the stress and sadness.
    Typically, women out number men three or four to one. I like that ratio!
    Women dig a guy that can dance or at least put forth the effort to give it a try.

  • @JFHeroux
    @JFHeroux Год назад +2

    1. TRAVELING
    2. SECOND LANGUAGE (or more)
    3. MUSICAL INTERESTS (the broader, the better)
    4. BEING ACTIVE (but not overly focused on sports)
    5. BEING HANDY (big turn on when a woman shows interest and can actually work WITH me on projects)

    • @franciscocolin2008
      @franciscocolin2008 Год назад +1

      This list is more accurate! I can relate to all of them. Politics can be such a turn-off

  • @believeurhappy4410
    @believeurhappy4410 7 месяцев назад +1

    I’m sooo happy I found your channel ❤ I really need this guidance on how to be more attractive and dress better and all round bettering myself. You’re very good at this.

  • @cailenarnold2517
    @cailenarnold2517 Год назад +7

    I am current in the process of getting my pilots license and when I mention that to women that I meet they are fairly intrigued. Problem is that flying is an expensive hobby so it’s not accessible to everyone. My opinion is men should have multiple hobbies, especially those you listed in the video. Hobbies for both genders can signify the kind of person they are. A man who travels a lot, plays rugby and has a dog can signify to a woman that this man is a risk taker who’s athletic but is also family oriented.
    As a man, what I do find to be attractive in women is a woman who can cook, likes to read and wants to take care of herself in the form of exercise. Instagram is a good background check for men to use because it can show what most women’s hobbies are. What is most certainly unattractive for a man to see is a girl who’s interest is to be in the clubs all the time and posting thirst traps on her social media.

    • @joshua.merrill
      @joshua.merrill Год назад +1

      I’m working on my helicopter PPL, and it’s so expensive, but it does have a certain appeal. My problem is I don’t do anything that girls tend to do too, so I’ve got a hard time meeting girls.

    • @imjusteyex
      @imjusteyex Год назад

      Same here lol but I find that either women think I just have money or they view it as something I will never achieve so stop talking to me as a whole.

  • @wanr5701
    @wanr5701 Год назад +16

    Similarly i do think women that have hobbies are more attractive.
    When I say hobbies, I am referring to active hobbies like doing sports (playing sports or become coaches), fitness, martial arts, arts (dancing, stage play, painting, etc), community service, volunteering in the community, gardening, etc. Not passive hobbies like watching sports as spectators in the venue or TV, binge watching on the couch, food hunting, shopping, afternoon tea with friends, etc.
    IMO active hobbies increase one's value; passive hobbies decrease one's worth.

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 Год назад +2

      Passive men don't like women with active hobbies.

    • @emptysoul2757
      @emptysoul2757 Год назад

      @@wyleecoyotee4252 I mean, yeah, a lazy dude would also want a lazy chick. What’s your point ?

    • @wanr5701
      @wanr5701 Год назад

      @@wyleecoyotee4252 totally agree. In my observations, most passive men will not date nor prefer women with active hobbies. Perhaps because the latter are too active and fulfilled for their liking.

    • @ronaldgmaster5782
      @ronaldgmaster5782 6 месяцев назад

      Why do you want a woman with active hobbies? Whats wrong with netflix and chill?

    • @wanr5701
      @wanr5701 6 месяцев назад

      @@ronaldgmaster5782 netflix and chilling is OK when need to wind down from active hours on the day. Making it a habit regularly everyday and on weekends are not.
      Most men like to watch sports on the TV and o live at the venue, yet very few of those that watched actually actively participate be it as players, coaches, and/or officials. That makes them stand out, that makes them special among any other sports fans. Those that didn't participate and only content being spectators are no different than the lazy bums of Netflix and chill, eating and shopping.
      The same goes with women. Even when she is doing hard labour for living, she still can actively pursue something more leisurely hobbies like painting, community service, knitting, musical instruments, or even tailoring. That makes her stands out among her peers and added more value as a person.
      In short, I choose women with active hobbies because they are not lazy bums. When she can't even do something to stand out from the rest than why we need to settle on her?

  • @drip369
    @drip369 Год назад +27

    Definitely strength sports. Lots of girls love that I train strongman both conventional and old school, and even just the hobby of being able to fix things and build things, which includes cars and houses because they are useful. I even had an ex that was turned on by my tailoring skills when I fixed an old nightgown of hers and made it fit her better. The more capable you are, and the more useful you are the more attractive you are, and, you can even say: the more confident you become

    • @drip369
      @drip369 Год назад +1

      I definitely do get a good bundle of random new followers as well as direct messages on Instagram just because of displaying both strength and skills

    • @watamutha
      @watamutha Год назад +2

      So they basically want you to be Batman.

    • @Aaron-kj8dv
      @Aaron-kj8dv Год назад +1

      tailoring would be an awesome skill to learn. Where did you learn that?

    • @kkoch666
      @kkoch666 16 дней назад

      drippy drippy drippy

  • @plexq
    @plexq Год назад +1

    Top tip. Be an interesting human being with hobbies that you are passionate about - competence is interesting - passion is interesting. Find a partner who is passionate about similar things, or at least understands what it's like to be a passionate person. The end. If you're simping enough to get a hobby because "Woman Like It", then you've already lost, and you'll end up with somebody who doesn't appreciate the real you. Do yourself and especially them a favor and don't do that.

  • @cenktoplar8378
    @cenktoplar8378 Год назад +2

    I'm 6'1 and weigh 205 lbs and fight Professionally as a part time job and I also give lessons and I am still single Courtney ?

    • @Gustavog74
      @Gustavog74 Год назад +1

      Women only care about a guy’s looks.

  • @n1c704
    @n1c704 Год назад +7

    Aside from attraction, if you (yes you Americans) can speak multiple languages you also increase your dating pool options. Even basic understanding of another language is a good ice breaker.
    *this is especially true if you are in a larger city or in a border state.

    • @chunsze635
      @chunsze635 Год назад +1

      Probably only native english speaker would find billingual impressive. The other day I talked to a English lady who has 2 childrens and she said she regretted she didn't ask her husband who is an Argentian to teach them Spanish. I mean there're no diffcult languages in this world if you start speaking and listening to it at a very young age and if her children could literally speak both that'be great, but i don't think it's that impressive at all compared to people from Europe mainland, Asia or anywhere in the planet. She added: if my kids could speak Spanish then that's billingual, which is so great, isn't it!? lol

    • @thossi09
      @thossi09 Год назад

      @@chunsze635 Exactly, the only people who'd be properly impressed by someone being bilingual are monolingual people. Although with the spread of English as a "dominant" language, it hardly counts towards bilingualism these days. On the other hand, a fair amount of people I know are at least trilingual - they speak their native language, they speak English, and they speak Norwegian. Some might even count as "quadlingual" - their native language, the official language of their country, English, and Norwegian. Now, that's impressive ;) (I'm not one of them, unfortunately.)

    • @ruleaus7664
      @ruleaus7664 Год назад +1

      Not really any point to learning a language I won't use or hardly ever use. But because I'm in the U.S. it may be worth learning Spanish.

    • @thossi09
      @thossi09 Год назад

      @@MakeMoneyOnlineWithEmma Lol.

  • @aleidius192
    @aleidius192 Год назад +34

    No hobby will make you more attractive than fitness. It develops not just the physical but characterological attributes women are looking for.
    Reading is another good one so when you meet a girl you actually have something to say!

    • @CourtneyRyan
      @CourtneyRyan  Год назад +3

      🙌🏼 both are great ones!

    • @simonschneider5913
      @simonschneider5913 Год назад +3

      physical exercise, of course....reading is fine, too...BUT: i consider most of the stuff people read these days to be as destructive as TV or social media, which lead me to drop "reading books" as an indication of intellect or education.

    • @te9591
      @te9591 Год назад

      Fitness can help train courage.

    • @cameronf3343
      @cameronf3343 Год назад +2

      Fitness shouldn’t be considered a hobby though. Different types of fitness for subsets like football or weightlifting or hiking, yeah, sure, but the act of just getting up and moving - intentionally - isn’t a hobby. It’s a basic need. Every human being on earth benefits from getting at least a combined hour of exertion in each day. Our ancestors did it for millions of years and thousands of generations. It’s a base.

    • @r3alphasigma
      @r3alphasigma Год назад +1

      Brains 🧠 over Brauns 💪 Bro.

  • @gk_zone4274
    @gk_zone4274 Год назад +6

    Politics surprised me (so did theatre). Maybe because of what happened in recent years I believe. The most recent date I had (met via tinder) was definitely into politics, which was a good thing for me, since we agreed on a lot of issues, although I'm a little more open minded than her. She was also really surprised at how well I can cook (first date was at my place).
    Also it's nice to have a scientific explanation on why us guys generally look for women who are physically active and health conscious. As someone who workout, I can't find myself dating someone who is overweight and lazy. Ijs 🤷🏿‍♂️

    • @Jpsears1342
      @Jpsears1342 Год назад

      *Thanks for watching send a direct message on the telegram handle above, I will love to hear your thoughts on it and for more enlightenment☝️❤️*

  • @Mr.Canuck
    @Mr.Canuck 9 месяцев назад +1

    My life has been endless hobbies, anything hands on and Im all over it, molding casting/mixed media highly detailed sculpture, fine woodworking, artistic metal work, interior design and construction, stone masonry, a full time tattoo artist. Its always been very meditative and therapeutic I switch off and create, researching, visualizing, planning, problem solving, improvising, nit picking down to the finest details that only I would notice, I live for it. If my hands or eyes were taken away Id likely throw myself off a high bridge in short order....my wife would understand 😅. Hobbies cleanse the mind and free the soul.

  • @spirit-smithentertainment-89
    @spirit-smithentertainment-89 Год назад +1

    I would think.
    1. Travel - For Me I would rather give my money to less fortunate individuals than travel more important to me.
    2. Exercise - I do exercises but I need to not keep getting sore but to eventually get a chiseled body all around and six pack abs.
    3. Theatre - I don’t get as much still but I have other things going on like my Independence & trying to do music, and film, and modeling eventually.
    4. Theatre Arts Of Dancing - I had learned Hairspray dance moves almost for each scene but I did learn to do normal dancing even back then my friends would ask me how did I learn to create my own style of dancing I just did still do to this day from age 12-25.
    5. Cooking - I like to cook food on an oven more than making food in a microwave.
    6. Outdoor Activities - I love to find new places and time photographs of the place especially when it’s in nature more or hiking trails or oceans love oceans. or if I like a place a lot then I’ll use it as a filmmaking spot or to be put in a film.
    7. Politics - I will never agree w/ Politics unless if people that are in it will change if not then that’s a problem I cannot fix because if I don’t agree with it then that means I don’t have to be involved because most of it not all it but now it is bullshit in chef salad I got that from a movie don’t ask me where I found that line from what movie if anyone know then great and if not that’s okay too but I honest opinion about Politics it could be different but the issue is playing fire with fire. So what’s the point if you’re re gas lighting more of fire from another side and your adding onto t and nothing frets done it’s like trying to win a war with guns against guns it’s basically coming down to others that would kill other people because our views on Politics that’s why for my reason I don’t have any view on it because it turns people against others that’s not right it human society it’s exactly that way it’s destructive and and violent I don’t care for those things I just want for their to peace, care for one another, equal rights for everyone out there, and have it be a better place than it being the way it is now.
    8. Animals- Love Animals Cats and Dogs both used to work w/ animals volunteered for 7/and a half years when I did.
    9. Photography - I certainly do Photography when I feel like when I see a new place for the first time or if I see a beautiful moon, or sunset I will try to capture it by my camera and then it’s taken then I edit it and finish it, post it if I want to on my Instagram.
    10. Sports - Not anymore I used to but I have damaged my feet enough times to know to not do them because their is sometimes loosing balance and re-straining my feet again or my ankles more so yeah have to be careful.
    11. Like Languages and accents - I know a little bit of Spanish but I’d like to learn more.
    12. Filmmaking - It’s a great one and I know can be a job.
    13. Artwork - I think it should be on the list or as a job.
    14. Music - Should that be on the list I do it all the time like all the time.

  • @tyler4418
    @tyler4418 Год назад +7

    Nothing reminds me that I'm going to die alone quite like one of Courtney's videos...

  • @rooster-zg4oo
    @rooster-zg4oo Год назад +3

    Men..rule #1 is who gives a fuck if a chic thinks your hobby is attractive. Do what you want. We do not change to make them happy.

    • @Jpsears1342
      @Jpsears1342 Год назад

      *Thanks for watching send a direct message on the telegram handle above, I will love to hear your thoughts on it and for more enlightenment☝️❤️*

  • @MrMockingbird1313
    @MrMockingbird1313 Год назад +29

    Hey Courtney, I'm a 60+ man, who has spent enormous amounts of time on dating sites. Here are my instant turn offs. Especially if several of these items show up in a cluster: travel abroad, fine dining, wineries, theater, living in an expensive part of town, season tickets to sports team games, weekends in BnBs. All these are very expensive activities. Almost as bad is a woman who lists: needlepoint, quilting, baking dessert, antiquing, shopping, horses, motorcycles, domestic travel to expensive sites. What is most attractive is a woman who has a mixture of things like domestic travel, family events, camping, day trips, DIYs, normal pets, gardening, cards, dancing, watching both new and old movies, politics, museums, and countless other similar interests. The WORST bio is a woman that wants to go to expensive destinations, see Broadway shows, fine dining, box tickets at a sports event, with off track betting. What I am saying is that many women make unrealistic profiles and are not wanting a mix of interests, at various price points. Many women follow their profiles about if you voted this way or that way, or you support a Supreme Court decision, or have some other perceived character flaw don't respond. I think the world has all gone crazy. All I want is a normal woman.

    • @cebedojames
      @cebedojames Год назад +9

      those hobbies are all fine as long as they are rich and they pay for it.

    • @Rppiano
      @Rppiano Год назад +2

      @@cebedojames which doesn't happen

    • @edwardmylnychuk5774
      @edwardmylnychuk5774 Год назад

      100000000000000000000000% dead on brother, i go onto dating sites now just to laugh at these ?????????????? that are out to lunch, i had one contact me years ago and ask me what i thought about the site and when i said most women are out to lunch she never called back, bleeeeeeeeeeep

    • @sjdtmv
      @sjdtmv Год назад +1

      I am also a 60* guy and you are on the money, ( with your money ) you can't put an old head on young shoulders, older you get the wiser you should become, if you don't, you can have nothing and be penny less in your 60s, I know a few...

    • @mnkwazi
      @mnkwazi Год назад

      @@sjdtmv True, life will be hard for those who don't plan.

  • @BT-ns4xl
    @BT-ns4xl Год назад +1

    An instrument is huge. This also shows the girls who say "I don't want someone who goes to the gym/six pack." As someone who gained 20 lbs and lost their six pack I can tell you the truth. Girls want a six pack not a dad bod.

  • @dinahnicest6525
    @dinahnicest6525 5 месяцев назад +1

    The last woman I dated didn't like when I told her that I often go camping alone because either I'll get married some day or I won't. If I do, I'll probably have to give it up. If I don't, then this is it. She said marriage shouldn't be a matter of having to give up things. I wanted to say "It's just giving up."

  • @Courtney-Alice-Gargani
    @Courtney-Alice-Gargani Год назад +8

    Have a fun hobby and have her involved with you.

  • @Goobtard
    @Goobtard Год назад +4

    I think the Thetre thing is just about the fact that lots of women have a fantasy about dating a sensitive, emotional, romantic artist type. Someone who lists Thetre, Poetry, Painting, etc. is tapping into this belief that this man will be more romantic.

  • @JazzBear
    @JazzBear Год назад +7

    My hobby is martial arts. I always thought of it being an excellent hobby because of the self improvement and self empowerment aspects of it. It eventually becomes a way of life.

    • @gilian2587
      @gilian2587 Год назад

      Which ones have you worked with?

  • @vijayiyer8518
    @vijayiyer8518 Год назад +1

    I like going to cultural events like theatres, films and concerts. I used to be a reasonably good cook (haven't cooked much lately, lol). I'm knowledgeable about politics. I had a phase where I wrote about 100 poems. I've recited some of those on stage. I like watching sport, and visiting sporting events. I have travelled quite a bit in the past. This has helped me in my dating life, because my broad range of interests has resulted in me being able to propose interesting dates. I lived in dublin, Ireland for thirteen years. I spent a fair bit of time getting to know the city by going by myself to plays, movies, restaurants, sporting venues, bars (especially those with live music), concert halls, and sporting venues. As a result, when I asked women out on dates, I always had a wide range of entertainment options I could suggest for dates. This definately made women more interested in spending time with me. I also cooked some Indian food for a french woman I was seeing for about one and a half years, on, I think, our third or fourth date. I made sure it was mild enough for her liking. She ended up really appreciating it.

  • @neveragainsam9786
    @neveragainsam9786 Год назад +1

    This cracks me up. All women have to do is look good and be feminine. So many can’t.

  • @gregorysalazar8370
    @gregorysalazar8370 Год назад +4

    Wow! As a 61 year old divorced man living in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico as a retired Expat, I can vouch for this list. Women from 20 to 70 love all the aforementioned hobbies and interests that they find attractive, but alas, complain about so few expat men compared to the large expat female community. Those few of us that are single and active can expect lots of female attention.

  • @malokai1491
    @malokai1491 Год назад +6

    Haven’t even started the video but mixed martial arts or really any martial art is probably the best. I had no game at all when I was younger but always got away with it because girls loved my favorite hobby. Plus it’s an extremely effective form of exercise so I always had low body fat % which is a big help when it comes to attractiveness, especially since my genetics are average at best

    • @malokai1491
      @malokai1491 Год назад

      @@TheNaturalHealthBlogger six pack and low body fat comes with the territory, historically, but I’ve had a completely different experience than that which you’re suggesting, as have my training partners, albeit anecdotally. Perhaps it’s locationally specific or I just got lucky, but there were a lot of women who were interested in coming to watch workouts or sparring sessions, asking questions about every aspect of training, competing, associated lifestyle, and asking me to show them techniques. When I was in school, women took no interest in me if they didn’t know. I have some semblance of game now so I don’t rely it anymore, but it is definitely still a huge positive in my dating life. If for no other reason than associated confidence boost and well maintained fitness level.

  • @naveensayeeram3068
    @naveensayeeram3068 Год назад +9

    Courtney I just want to say, you’re videos have helped me so much to grow as a person and understand women better. Thank you so much for making videos like these ❤❤

  • @Enjoymentboy
    @Enjoymentboy Год назад +2

    Wow. With the exceptions of cooking and photography I would NEVER consider these to be "hobbies". At best they would be interests. I have always seen hobbies as an activity that deeply involves creativity. There is nothing creative about politics or travelling or just sitting there watching a play that someone else wrote or performs. Perhaps it is just that I use a different internal thesaurus than others but hobbies, at least for me, are not passive. They require direct and active action on the part of the person. While model trains may not be sexy to a woman it is FAR more creative than being an armchair political critic.
    I've also found many people, women specifically, seem to have this need to find a way to make money from their hobbies but once you do this it changes that hobby into work. I've heard this said to me many times with my hobbies. "Oh, you're so good at that. You should sell them. You could make a lot of money" but making money from it is NOT why I enjoy the hobbies I have. I do them because I enjoy them and I find it very relaxing to take random things and make something coherent and pleasant from them. Like with cooking: Taking a bunch of ingredients and making a wonderful meal. THAT is where the creativity comes from. But while opening a package of prepared food and popping it in the oven is TECHNICALLY cooking it's not the same thing as actually making it from scratch.
    Definitely food for thought. No pun intended.

    • @Jpsears1342
      @Jpsears1342 Год назад

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  • @jmathtech
    @jmathtech Год назад +1

    I have never lacked hobbies. I've turned some of my hobbies into business opportunities. I enjoy reading, photography, computer programming, exercising, hiking, skating, sports, building things, playing music, singing, cooking, etc. When I ask someone if they have any hobbies and they don't; that seems very foreign to me. I don't know what or where I would be without them. Bored outta my mind that's for sure lol!

  • @thewindupsweetheart
    @thewindupsweetheart Год назад +6

    as a musician, I feel left out ☹️
    guess I’ll go write a song about it now

    • @evanrosario
      @evanrosario Год назад

      Music is a language. You are bilingual

    • @bumpygumpson
      @bumpygumpson Год назад

      Tell them you can play wonderwall and they'll be all over you

  • @thebg8774
    @thebg8774 Год назад +4

    This is fine... EXCEPT in my 40+ years of dealing with females in EVERY single relationship I had the hobbie might have been attractive, but they ALL tried to get me to stop my hobbies because they said it took time away from them...🙄

    • @MrDigztheswagking
      @MrDigztheswagking Год назад +2

      Women do not care about a man's hobby lol your 40 years of actual life experience is correct

    • @AmericanDuck
      @AmericanDuck Год назад

      I rode motorcycles and guess what my ex-wife begged me to stop doing?

    • @MrDigztheswagking
      @MrDigztheswagking Год назад

      @@AmericanDuck they don't care about hobbies at all lol I hope men don't take these videos to heart

  • @IEdjumacate
    @IEdjumacate Год назад +7

    Just a reminder to everybody that this is not a magic trick. You gotta find a hobby that you truly love. I love cooking, music & mma. Those are my main 3 hobbies. Rarely do they ever get me women. I think having passions/hobbies is good for keeping women around, but don’t think that if you suddenly pick up a hobby women will be all over you. It seems obvious but a lot of guys are looking for an instant solution. It’s never like that.

    • @Gustavog74
      @Gustavog74 Год назад

      Women only care about a guy’s looks.

  • @BT-ns4xl
    @BT-ns4xl Год назад +1

    I think if anyone has no hobbies they shouldn't even date yet. Usually if you have no hobbies you focus a lot on your partner for entertainment and creates burnout.

  • @keithkekenbosch9289
    @keithkekenbosch9289 Год назад +1

    My hobbies are cooking, baking, drawing, painting, learning languages, swimming and workouts

  • @Kevin09210
    @Kevin09210 Год назад +4

    I do martial arts (which keeps me fit) and im also a car enthusiast and mechanic (my job as well as hobby). I had the second passion before, but I barely attracted girls. When i started doing the first, I met more women in one year than the prior 10, lol.

    • @ronaldgmaster5782
      @ronaldgmaster5782 6 месяцев назад

      Cool what martial art do you do? Have not seen many women at my mma studio.

  • @CZitoMusic
    @CZitoMusic Год назад +5

    As a musician, I find women are attracted to this, even if it's not your career or side hustle. Most women are into music so if you can serenade a girl with guitar, piano or whatever you might play, I think that will give you bonus points. In general, any hobby that demands time, effort and discipline will make any person more attractive. I've had experiences where women have told me nothing interests them and it's the biggest turn off, no matter how physically attractive she is. Just my thoughts on the this topic, great video!

  • @surefiremushroomsmicrogreens
    @surefiremushroomsmicrogreens Год назад +5

    I’ve found that knowing more than your partner is actually a turn off. Sometimes doing more makes potential partners afraid to commit. The worst is having someone who wants to sit on the couch or be physically bound to a life of barely any exercise and make excuses for themselves about why they can’t do something when they most certainly can.

  • @brianfoss571
    @brianfoss571 5 месяцев назад

    You definitely don't have to be older to be into live theater. I think a lot of people appreciate it because they want to support local performers and artists while taking a break from screen-based entertainment. Like a concert, you're having a communal, in-person experience with a fandom while giving the actors the satisfaction of an immediate reaction to their performance. Tickets usually aren't cheap (part of the reason audiences tend to skew older), but it's an activity that covers plenty of bases. Plus, a lot of the fandom involves discussing how different actors approach a role / interpret a character. (And for a musical, memorizing the soundtrack inside and out!)

  • @joshuaa.kennedy8837
    @joshuaa.kennedy8837 Год назад +1

    Traveling, politics and languages together are a clue to this person could be very important. Women don't want a man for what they are but what he could be.

  • @megantaylormichaels
    @megantaylormichaels Год назад +3

    Purity is the single most attractive trait hands down for nearly ALL men. Next is having no tattoos and limited amount of pearcings. Then being in shape financially and physically. Note how these items are all within the control of the individual and say a lot about their intelligence, character, upbringing, and morals.

    • @Jpsears1342
      @Jpsears1342 Год назад

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  • @Maniac742
    @Maniac742 Год назад +3

    Traveling is not a hobby. Not really. Wandering around the world is not a skill. Travel is what you do for vacation or work. It's not a regular thing. And what women refer to as "traveling" is prohibitively expensive to do often. They want to travel to Acapulco or Italy, not Tennessee.
    The rest of list is at least legit. Exercise, dance, theatre, and cooking are all actual skills.

    • @Jpsears1342
      @Jpsears1342 Год назад

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  • @RealityHurts923
    @RealityHurts923 Год назад +4

    I agree and can stress the importance of getting with someone that shares the same principals and values. I dated a girl that thought it was ok to go out and dance and grind on other guys and claimed it was “just dancing”. I was called “insecure and controlling” of course. Also when I asked how would she feel if I did that with girls. She stayed silent but was still mad at me for calling her out. My now Fiancée shares almost all the same values as me and these situations and arguments never happen. You have to be confident enough to let the toxic ones go but also confident to give others a chance and not assume 100% of women are the same.

  • @nobee99
    @nobee99 Год назад +1

    I’m curious, does playing an instrument fall under the theatre category? I’m surprised it wasn’t on the list outright

    • @Jpsears1342
      @Jpsears1342 Год назад

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