You’re like 20, dude. I felt lost my entire 20s. You have to find yourself through trying different things and learning lessons. I’m 30 now and I finally feel like I’m on the other side of the 8 ball. You will get there.
Hey dude, you know what? I just stumbled onto your video by accident, but something pushed me to listen to the whole thing. And guess what? Your words really hit home for me, because I've been there too. You know? First off, I can’t make this shorter, so bear with me, grab a coffee and stick with me on this. I promise, you won’t regret it. I man, I totally get where you’re coming from, and need to say that you’re not alone in feeling that way. I went through a period of deep depression myself, with a lot of isolation and confusion, and it felt like I’d never get past it. Not only did life seem bleak, but I was also unknowingly dealing with high-level ADHD and being on the autism spectrum. At the time, I didn’t know nothing about this, I knew something was not right, also did not understand how much these factors shaped my perspective, but I was frustrated, exhausted, and wondering if I’d ever feel truly connected to myself or others. What kept me going, though, was the sense that life had to hold more than what I was experiencing. And I’m grateful now that I didn’t give up because, through persistence and some life-changing insights, I found that life can feel better-and not just “better” in a small way, but rich, full, and meaningful. Sometimes, it helps to look at life as a journey of self-discovery, where the ups and downs are steps that guide us toward inner strength and resilience. The truth is, and you know, something I haven’t talked about much, let me open a parallel thread here, but that really changed everything for me, was an extraordinary experience I had with God. It was one of those moments that’s hard to put into words, but it brought me a peace I’d been searching for, and it redefined how I see myself, my purpose, and the world around me. It’s a story that would take some time to tell fully, but I’d be more than happy to break it down and share if you’re ever interested. That experience was such a turning point, and it gave me a level of hope and strength that’s carried me forward ever since. But going back to where I was talking to you is that the hardest moments often end up being the times that shape us most profoundly, helping us develop patience, empathy, and a deep understanding of ourselves. By working on building that inner resilience, balancing and strengthening yourself from within. Does it make sense? You’re creating a solid foundation for the kind of life you want, with meaningful relationships, fulfilling goals, and moments of real joy. One thing that made a difference for me was finding an outlet to explore who I was, and for me, that was music. I started put more effort in how to play an instrument, at the beginning it was outrageous hard for me, everyone else was able to learn expect my self. That was because of the ADHD and the muscle hypotonia in my hands and difficulty with fine motor coordination due to autism. But just because of the ADHD hyper-focus, I believe it lead me to overcome and I could progress through baby steps and eventually, because it become my autistic stimming I could develop a very significant level of performance on my instrument. And it was like finding a piece of myself I hadn’t known was missing. Through that, I found a comfortable refuge and a sense of identity that I hadn’t felt before. This didn’t happen overnight, but gradually, focusing on something I could develop over time helped me get a clearer vision of what life could look like. It gave me confidence, and it reminded me that even small steps lead to big changes over time. If you’re looking for a way forward, try focusing on building one skill or hobby that brings you a sense of peace or curiosity, something that allows you to express yourself and find your own voice. You could start by exploring areas that resonate with you, whether it’s a creative skill, a physical activity, or even a new area of study that interests you. Dedicate some time each week to developing this part of yourself, and don’t put pressure on it to be “perfect.” The point is simply to have a space where you can find good feeling, good vibes, perhaps even "Will I ever feel content?" You know, Contentment can feel like a distant goal, but sometimes it sneaks up on you when you’re least expecting it. For me, I was able to find lots of that just by allowing myself to experience activities that I was feeling like doing, for instance: Have you ever thought about getting near to the ocean? scuba diving, have you heard about? This is just awesome! Surfing, perhaps, why not? Hiking? Mountain bike? Snowboard? beach volley? Self-defense, Krav Maga? Chess? Why just don't give it a try? Contentment was about discovering parts of myself I hadn’t explored, like music and creativity. These things helped me feel more whole and settled, and slowly, contentment grew from there. It’s okay if contentment feels hard to imagine right now. You’re on a journey, and with each step, you’re building the foundation for those moments of peace and contentment to appear.something that can give you joy. If you find that you’re growing, challenging yourself, and finding fulfillment in the process. I want to share something I’ve learned: life can take you to incredible places you might never have imagined, even from a low point. I never would’ve thought it was possible, but I’ve had the chance to stand on stages, to perform for big audiences, an experience I couldn’t have pictured in my wildest dreams. And in my personal life, I met and married the most amazing woman, someone beyond anything I could have hoped for. Professionally, I’ve grown into a role where I’m competing at the top level in my field, which felt unreachable at one point. I say this not to boast, but to encourage you: if you keep pushing forward, you might find yourself achieving things you’d never thought possible. It’s about sticking with it, developing who you are, and being open to the good that persistence and self-growth can bring. You got to be strategic, why not set small goals for each day? It could be something like trying one new activity, journaling your thoughts, or reaching out to someone who makes you feel supported. These little actions build up over time, and they create momentum, reminding you that life is moving forward, even if it feels slow. And remember, as you put in the work to strengthen your inner self, you’ll be amazed at the changes it can bring. You start noticing your reactions shifting, your patience growing, and a new confidence emerging. Every bit of effort you invest in yourself adds up. Oh, come on, did I wrote a book here? I'm sorry . rsrsrs. Life has its challenges, but every difficulty you overcome becomes a part of the stronger, balanced version of yourself that you’re building. If you can focus on that vision, you’ll start to notice the positive shifts in ways you couldn’t have predicted. The journey may be slow, but it’s absolutely worth it. And along the way, remember that you’re not alone, many of us have been there, and we’re here cheering you on. Let me hear your thoughts!
ur not alone and it’s not an individual responsibility to “better” yourself. i’m in my first semester of community college and the future, collectively, feels so unstable for our generation. There’s a good book that’s been making me feel less alone in these struggles of isolation and economic uncertainty , coming up short: working class adulthood in an age of uncertainty by jennifer m silvia. while it’s a little dated as in made pre-2020’s , it still really resonates with how the move into adulthood is deteriorating and isolating. to find something to be apart of that covets prosperity for all is not easy in an online world but i have hope
Thanks for sharing. I didn't know what to do when I hit adulthood and I'm a schizo so they put me on medication which made me lose all motivation so I stayed laying down in a RV 24/7 for several months with no way out. It seemed endless until one day I had a dream about how perfect id be if I overcame all my insecurities and short comings and kept having those dreams until one day I threw away the pills shaved my head and did the best I could to get my life back in order. Hang in there guy, nothing is permanent. Life will get better, Just wait.
I just started college and I feel you brother. Currently feeling lost in the world as well. I hope you start to find a path as well. It's the worst because when the semester started I felt so sure of myself and where I wanted to go and now I feel like I'm just trying to keep my head above the water.
Dude!!! When the Holy Spirit is with you He makes himself known and he is like a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Its real bro you DO NOT have to feel alone.
@@Scullans It's not the truth. It's made up. You've been brainwashed by centuries of indoctrination by a loony bin we call the church. Of course, keep believeing it if you want to!! I still will and ALWAYS will call you 'believers' what you really are... cultists. Whether you even know it or not. Funny thing is, cultists usually don't even know what they are part of is a cult. But hey, whatever keeps you happy I guess.
It's a good thing to hate you job. It's very easy to become scared and locked into a job that gives you too much comfort, and will make you fearful of moving on and progress.
Hey buddy. Lots of people feel this way going into and out of college. I know I did. Someone smart once told me that our brains like to settle for ideas that they're comfortable with, even if those ideas are destructive or painful, or even just innocuously regressive. Brains do this because brains are stupid, and they corollate comfort with safety. And safety is tantamount to survival. It sounds like you have a lot of experience with people entering and leaving your life. So, of course, if this is an idea you are comfortable with, your brain will try to convince you to get used to it. To be "safe". That's why imagining yourself in long-lasting friendships might seem hopeless, or too much of a bother. Putting in the work on a relationship (with friends or lovers) might feel like an enormous obligation. But it's just a regular-sized obligation. Like the pursuit of anything worth having. But I understand that, for someone comfortable with being lonely, it is a lot of work. It's arguing with your brain when it tries to tell you that you're wasting your time, or that you shouldn't bother. You have to argue with it every single time it says stuff like that. Fortunately, you have the upper hand, because you're right. People need personal connection. That is a universal axiom. And you; what are you, not people? Over 7 billion human beings on this earth, and you're somehow the one exception? Our brains can be really obnoxious. They're always trying to convince us that we're exempt from stuff like this, like we're that unlucky. Your brain is just trying to protect you. To your brain, "Comfort = Safety = Survival". You just have to convince it that, in instances like this, you don't need its protection. It's a hassle, but it's what you do when you it tells you not to bother with something important.
Alright man, I'm going to give you some tough love, and you can take it or leave it since I am just some dude on the internet, and my perception of you is based off a short 20 min video, so take what I say with a huge grain of salt. But it seems like you know what's causing your depression or sadness or whatever you want to label it, and in a way, you almost seem to accept it. Which I do personally find odd because the last 1/3rd of the video, you were spitting some raw facts man lol. You know times will be better if and only if YOU chose for them to be. The advice you were giving towards the end applies perfectly to your own situation, and you even taking the time to sit down and record this video, at least in my mind, shows that you want to take steps to either fix the problem, or relieve stress by talking about it. Those are both great steps, but ultimately, if you don't like being alone, you gotta go do something about it. Ask yourself this, what sucks more. The suck of doing the hard work it requires to fix the issue you're facing, or the suck of experiencing it every single day, and accepting that it will be that way for a long time. Truly ask yourself that and if you're ok with being alone, then I respect your choice, but I'm sure you want more. I'm sure you, as well as 99.9% of people out there, would love to share their life experience, and joy and love with friends and people. Don't give up. Also I am just some dude on the internet, some I could be armchair psycho analysing you, and be way off, so just do what you think you should do. All love brother. Edit: It takes a lot of courage to show something so personal on the internet of all places, and I immensely respect that btw, after re-reading my comment I realized it came off a bit harsh, but don't let it seem like I have any ill intent or hostility for you. I love everyone and want to see everyone happy, and sometimes I think some people just need some tough love. Keep doing you homie.
What I think I’ve figured out about making friends is it works best if you be a source of comfort for them And continue to comfort people who give that comfort back Also I think people in general are often at their most authentic when they first meet someone because we all meet people all the time without worrying about it so, I’ve tried to replicate that comfortability and I actually only recently found what I might be able to call an authentic friend group because each of us brings something different that’s comforting to the interaction and to be honest I think I was authentic with them because at first I didn’t care if we were friends or not so there was no instinct to latch on or conform
This feeling gets progressively worse if you dont act on it. It depends on what you want. You really gotta think and ask yourself, do i want to be alone? Is this what i want? If so thats fine, some people are like that. But if you yearn for connection, find it, or at least try to let it find you. You seem like your into anime and gaming, maybe try joining a gaming club or anime club on campus and meet people who share common interests. Theres tons of people like you out there, and from what ive seen when yall get together, you thrive. Good luck out there man, life aint ez but youll find your way.
ultimately, I can second jesus too, but in the short term try hearing yourself talk in your head - you wouldn't think that does anything at all but it's been helping me a lot lately. Kind of like when they illustrate scenes in an anime of a character with tons of reverb on their voice saying what their thinking to make it sound super spacious and internal ect.
ill share some lyrics from my favorite song, godspeed my algo friends I hope you find something to love Something to do when you feel like giving up A song to sing or a tale to tell Something to love, it'll serve you well
It sounds like you're depressed and sometimes (most of the time) people don't understand how bad their depression is because they live with it for so long that they normalised their skewed/warped view of what "happiness" and "depression" is. If you haven't seek out for help yet please do and it can potentially change your life within weeks. I was like you and downplayed my depression until i took medication for it and realised how skewed on what it meant to be happy. Even though I'm extremely behind in life, as i only gotten my first job at the age 24, due to anxiety and depression, I am very happy and hopeful for my future.
Do not let fear and despair control you. Humans have a tremendous ability to gather courage. You must channel that ability. Like the many men of days past, as young as you and I, who gave their very lives to save this world in not one but two World Wars. Whenever I'm feeling worried about doing something or seizing an opportunity, I remind myself of all those young men who perished. They died with courage, in defense of freedom. In turn so you and I can carry the torch. If you want something, seize the moment and go for it. Life is a game of probability, and I promise you that if you put in the effort, your hope will pay off. Good luck. Make us proud.
You won’t be alone forever I thought I would for the longest time I thought I’d be alone my whole life then one random night on September 28th of 2023 I checked this girls story thag I followed I had never properly talked to her hell I sent one other message to her and it was about my music taste because she commenred on somthing of mine and I didn’t think anything of it but when I posted that story she replied and we spoke and spoke and we spoke and we didn’t stop speaking not for the longest of time I fell so hard for her I fell in love with her that first night and I knew she was the one she was the first one and she’s the only one. I love her. Things can come at anytime you never expect it today can the same but tomorrow can change your life you’ll never know I’m not saying sit around and wait but I am saying that there’s always hope you’ll find people you’ll put yourself out there out more talk more, you did a amazing thing making this video for yourself you should be proud. We’re proud of you, I wish you the best man good luck
You HAVE to put your Hope and Faith in Jesus... Better yet get your hope from Jesus... if you don't do that then honestly you deserve to be embarrassed/rejected/shunned by any and all in your way... You're a man, you didn't die on the cross so give yourself the hope that comes from the Christ Love conquers Hate I am Rich, I am Strong!!! Thy will be done! Believe in Jesus Christ for Salvation~!
God will show you what he designed for you and what to have hope in and look forward too. It is amazing and will transform your mind like Romans 12:2 says.
I cannot explain how much i understand this , i truly have done 100s and 100s of hours of research on our existence as an atheist and the more and more i dug the closer it brought me to Jesus Christ. In Christianity , Jesus says multiple times Do not fear , Do not fear , Do not fear , and he explains how He as God is loving and all caring ( God in the trinity Father , Son , Holy spirit Each of them has a role and exist as three entities, but they ultimately comprise one main entity.) He loves us so much ,We as humans had a debt of sin to God where the payment and requirement was death (eternally) But Jesus loved us so much he come down here as a man-god Mostly God , but as human as we are. He performed miracles and rose from the dead. And there is historical documentation for all of that. Even the people who hated him and murdered him wrote of it. He lived a sinless life to pay off the debt of sin we all have , but also to show us to love one another and have a set of morals The Father wishes for us. He is a loving living God. He loves you more than you can ever know and he truly wants the best for all of his children no matter of who they are. A lot of people argue if god exist why do bad things happen ? But we did that , We had it made with god , until we chose rebellion against him. Everything is so wonderful and amazing once you start realizing you , the earth , and everything is a masterpiece of Gods work. As always do your own research but ill close it out with this [Romans 8:31] If God is for us, who is against us? He who did not withhold his own Son, but gave him up for all of us, will he not with him also give us everything else? Who will bring any charge against God's elect? Have a good day brother and anyone reading this i truly cannot explain how much God has done for me in bringing me back to a place of happiness and i hope the same for you all God bless 😊
So what you're saying is that children today that are starving and dying from cancer are responsible for humanities rebellion that occured 1000s of years ago? Make it make sense fam. Genuinely asking
@@VONisHope Ok so , Id first off like to say Jesus himself said "Allow the children to come to me,” Jesus said. “Don’t forbid them, because the kingdom of heaven belongs to people like these children." in Matthew 19:14. For they are young and not as sinful as a lot of adults are and are realistically doing a lot of things because parents told them too , but at the same time Jesus is a just judge. He takes everything into account even for people who have never heard his name. And what separates Jesus from any other God is he is a suffering one , he knows our pain , our trials , the horrors of life as he walked on the same earth you and i do. But he lived a perfect and sinless life , and yet still as perfect as he was His own creations decided to crucify him and stab him in the ribs to see water and blood flow out and then he rise 3 days later. But with that suffering he says simply "Have faith in God,” Jesus answered. 23 “Truly[a] I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them. 24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours." in Mark 11:22-24 So with that it's saying have faith in Jesus , and nothing is impossible if its the the will of the God in heaven it will happen , but even when you're suffering as a Christian it isn't God punishment , but it could be a test of faith because anyone can say they "know" Jesus with lip service but if you truly are a Christian and have faith in Christ you have eternal life after this one. And I'm not saying that is the cause or reason for cancer But when Adam and Eve chose rebellion from God our whole species was "cursed" so to say and that curse was death misery and sin when we got kicked out of paradise for said rebellion. We went against god for the forbidden fruit of knowledge and that is why we now suffer, not because God hates us but because we are creatures of sin and mortality. But through the Sacrifice of Jesus we were given a forgiveness of the debt of sin we all hold and through faith in Jesus anyone and everyone is promised a life of eternal length where no pain and no suffering exist. God is also not of our realm and is not confined to human expectations and such. Suffering sucks yes , but the eternal life promised by Jesus is more alive than any of us will ever be separated from fleshly temptations and suffering. I hope i answered your question i tried as best as i could as there is no direct "reason" i as a human can answer outside of scripture.
Start reading the bible and let God should you wisdom! Read Proverbs. There are seasons in life. Figure out how to hear from God through Jesus and His Spirit! Pray in your alone time that Jesus would reveal His existence to you. Matthew 11:27: "My Father has entrusted everything to me. No one truly knows the Son except the Father, and no one truly knows the Father except the Son and those to whom the Son chooses to reveal him".
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You’re like 20, dude. I felt lost my entire 20s. You have to find yourself through trying different things and learning lessons. I’m 30 now and I finally feel like I’m on the other side of the 8 ball. You will get there.
Hey dude, you know what? I just stumbled onto your video by accident, but something pushed me to listen to the whole thing. And guess what? Your words really hit home for me, because I've been there too. You know?
First off, I can’t make this shorter, so bear with me, grab a coffee and stick with me on this. I promise, you won’t regret it. I man, I totally get where you’re coming from, and need to say that you’re not alone in feeling that way.
I went through a period of deep depression myself, with a lot of isolation and confusion, and it felt like I’d never get past it. Not only did life seem bleak, but I was also unknowingly dealing with high-level ADHD and being on the autism spectrum. At the time, I didn’t know nothing about this, I knew something was not right, also did not understand how much these factors shaped my perspective, but I was frustrated, exhausted, and wondering if I’d ever feel truly connected to myself or others.
What kept me going, though, was the sense that life had to hold more than what I was experiencing. And I’m grateful now that I didn’t give up because, through persistence and some life-changing insights, I found that life can feel better-and not just “better” in a small way, but rich, full, and meaningful. Sometimes, it helps to look at life as a journey of self-discovery, where the ups and downs are steps that guide us toward inner strength and resilience.
The truth is, and you know, something I haven’t talked about much, let me open a parallel thread here, but that really changed everything for me, was an extraordinary experience I had with God. It was one of those moments that’s hard to put into words, but it brought me a peace I’d been searching for, and it redefined how I see myself, my purpose, and the world around me. It’s a story that would take some time to tell fully, but I’d be more than happy to break it down and share if you’re ever interested. That experience was such a turning point, and it gave me a level of hope and strength that’s carried me forward ever since.
But going back to where I was talking to you is that the hardest moments often end up being the times that shape us most profoundly, helping us develop patience, empathy, and a deep understanding of ourselves. By working on building that inner resilience, balancing and strengthening yourself from within. Does it make sense? You’re creating a solid foundation for the kind of life you want, with meaningful relationships, fulfilling goals, and moments of real joy.
One thing that made a difference for me was finding an outlet to explore who I was, and for me, that was music. I started put more effort in how to play an instrument, at the beginning it was outrageous hard for me, everyone else was able to learn expect my self. That was because of the ADHD and the muscle hypotonia in my hands and difficulty with fine motor coordination due to autism. But just because of the ADHD hyper-focus, I believe it lead me to overcome and I could progress through baby steps and eventually, because it become my autistic stimming I could develop a very significant level of performance on my instrument. And it was like finding a piece of myself I hadn’t known was missing. Through that, I found a comfortable refuge and a sense of identity that I hadn’t felt before. This didn’t happen overnight, but gradually, focusing on something I could develop over time helped me get a clearer vision of what life could look like. It gave me confidence, and it reminded me that even small steps lead to big changes over time.
If you’re looking for a way forward, try focusing on building one skill or hobby that brings you a sense of peace or curiosity, something that allows you to express yourself and find your own voice. You could start by exploring areas that resonate with you, whether it’s a creative skill, a physical activity, or even a new area of study that interests you. Dedicate some time each week to developing this part of yourself, and don’t put pressure on it to be “perfect.” The point is simply to have a space where you can find good feeling, good vibes, perhaps even "Will I ever feel content?"
You know, Contentment can feel like a distant goal, but sometimes it sneaks up on you when you’re least expecting it. For me, I was able to find lots of that just by allowing myself to experience activities that I was feeling like doing, for instance: Have you ever thought about getting near to the ocean? scuba diving, have you heard about? This is just awesome! Surfing, perhaps, why not? Hiking? Mountain bike? Snowboard? beach volley? Self-defense, Krav Maga? Chess? Why just don't give it a try? Contentment was about discovering parts of myself I hadn’t explored, like music and creativity. These things helped me feel more whole and settled, and slowly, contentment grew from there. It’s okay if contentment feels hard to imagine right now. You’re on a journey, and with each step, you’re building the foundation for those moments of peace and contentment to appear.something that can give you joy. If you find that you’re growing, challenging yourself, and finding fulfillment in the process.
I want to share something I’ve learned: life can take you to incredible places you might never have imagined, even from a low point. I never would’ve thought it was possible, but I’ve had the chance to stand on stages, to perform for big audiences, an experience I couldn’t have pictured in my wildest dreams. And in my personal life, I met and married the most amazing woman, someone beyond anything I could have hoped for.
Professionally, I’ve grown into a role where I’m competing at the top level in my field, which felt unreachable at one point. I say this not to boast, but to encourage you: if you keep pushing forward, you might find yourself achieving things you’d never thought possible. It’s about sticking with it, developing who you are, and being open to the good that persistence and self-growth can bring.
You got to be strategic, why not set small goals for each day? It could be something like trying one new activity, journaling your thoughts, or reaching out to someone who makes you feel supported. These little actions build up over time, and they create momentum, reminding you that life is moving forward, even if it feels slow. And remember, as you put in the work to strengthen your inner self, you’ll be amazed at the changes it can bring. You start noticing your reactions shifting, your patience growing, and a new confidence emerging. Every bit of effort you invest in yourself adds up.
Oh, come on, did I wrote a book here? I'm sorry . rsrsrs.
Life has its challenges, but every difficulty you overcome becomes a part of the stronger, balanced version of yourself that you’re building. If you can focus on that vision, you’ll start to notice the positive shifts in ways you couldn’t have predicted. The journey may be slow, but it’s absolutely worth it. And along the way, remember that you’re not alone, many of us have been there, and we’re here cheering you on.
Let me hear your thoughts!
community is all we as ppl have. how u spend ur days is how u spend ur life and so on.........count on people & count on love .
ur not alone and it’s not an individual responsibility to “better” yourself. i’m in my first semester of community college and the future, collectively, feels so unstable for our generation. There’s a good book that’s been making me feel less alone in these struggles of isolation and economic uncertainty , coming up short: working class adulthood in an age of uncertainty by jennifer m silvia. while it’s a little dated as in made pre-2020’s , it still really resonates with how the move into adulthood is deteriorating and isolating. to find something to be apart of that covets prosperity for all is not easy in an online world but i have hope
I feel hopeless too.
Thanks for sharing.
I didn't know what to do when I hit adulthood and I'm a schizo so they put me on medication which made me lose all motivation so I stayed laying down in a RV 24/7 for several months with no way out. It seemed endless until one day I had a dream about how perfect id be if I overcame all my insecurities and short comings and kept having those dreams until one day I threw away the pills shaved my head and did the best I could to get my life back in order.
Hang in there guy, nothing is permanent. Life will get better, Just wait.
Hope things get good for you brother never give up or lose hope
I just started college and I feel you brother. Currently feeling lost in the world as well. I hope you start to find a path as well. It's the worst because when the semester started I felt so sure of myself and where I wanted to go and now I feel like I'm just trying to keep my head above the water.
God puts strength in you, you have purpose.
How marvellous to wake up at 4:00AM and breathe the fresh air
Dude!!! When the Holy Spirit is with you He makes himself known and he is like a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Its real bro you DO NOT have to feel alone.
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@@karlfleming7182 just because you reject the truth about God doesn't mean we all have too!
@@Scullans It's not the truth. It's made up. You've been brainwashed by centuries of indoctrination by a loony bin we call the church. Of course, keep believeing it if you want to!! I still will and ALWAYS will call you 'believers' what you really are... cultists. Whether you even know it or not. Funny thing is, cultists usually don't even know what they are part of is a cult. But hey, whatever keeps you happy I guess.
@@Scullans keep living in your dream, your fortunate enough to not have woken up from it.
@@Jesamisus start making some sense why don't ya
It's a good thing to hate you job.
It's very easy to become scared and locked into a job that gives you too much comfort, and will make you fearful of moving on and progress.
Hey buddy.
Lots of people feel this way going into and out of college. I know I did.
Someone smart once told me that our brains like to settle for ideas that they're comfortable with, even if those ideas are destructive or painful, or even just innocuously regressive. Brains do this because brains are stupid, and they corollate comfort with safety. And safety is tantamount to survival.
It sounds like you have a lot of experience with people entering and leaving your life. So, of course, if this is an idea you are comfortable with, your brain will try to convince you to get used to it. To be "safe". That's why imagining yourself in long-lasting friendships might seem hopeless, or too much of a bother. Putting in the work on a relationship (with friends or lovers) might feel like an enormous obligation.
But it's just a regular-sized obligation. Like the pursuit of anything worth having. But I understand that, for someone comfortable with being lonely, it is a lot of work. It's arguing with your brain when it tries to tell you that you're wasting your time, or that you shouldn't bother. You have to argue with it every single time it says stuff like that.
Fortunately, you have the upper hand, because you're right. People need personal connection. That is a universal axiom. And you; what are you, not people? Over 7 billion human beings on this earth, and you're somehow the one exception? Our brains can be really obnoxious. They're always trying to convince us that we're exempt from stuff like this, like we're that unlucky.
Your brain is just trying to protect you. To your brain, "Comfort = Safety = Survival". You just have to convince it that, in instances like this, you don't need its protection. It's a hassle, but it's what you do when you it tells you not to bother with something important.
Alright man, I'm going to give you some tough love, and you can take it or leave it since I am just some dude on the internet, and my perception of you is based off a short 20 min video, so take what I say with a huge grain of salt. But it seems like you know what's causing your depression or sadness or whatever you want to label it, and in a way, you almost seem to accept it. Which I do personally find odd because the last 1/3rd of the video, you were spitting some raw facts man lol. You know times will be better if and only if YOU chose for them to be. The advice you were giving towards the end applies perfectly to your own situation, and you even taking the time to sit down and record this video, at least in my mind, shows that you want to take steps to either fix the problem, or relieve stress by talking about it. Those are both great steps, but ultimately, if you don't like being alone, you gotta go do something about it. Ask yourself this, what sucks more. The suck of doing the hard work it requires to fix the issue you're facing, or the suck of experiencing it every single day, and accepting that it will be that way for a long time. Truly ask yourself that and if you're ok with being alone, then I respect your choice, but I'm sure you want more. I'm sure you, as well as 99.9% of people out there, would love to share their life experience, and joy and love with friends and people. Don't give up. Also I am just some dude on the internet, some I could be armchair psycho analysing you, and be way off, so just do what you think you should do. All love brother.
Edit: It takes a lot of courage to show something so personal on the internet of all places, and I immensely respect that btw, after re-reading my comment I realized it came off a bit harsh, but don't let it seem like I have any ill intent or hostility for you. I love everyone and want to see everyone happy, and sometimes I think some people just need some tough love. Keep doing you homie.
What I think I’ve figured out about making friends is it works best if you be a source of comfort for them And continue to comfort people who give that comfort back
Also I think people in general are often at their most authentic when they first meet someone because we all meet people all the time without worrying about it so, I’ve tried to replicate that comfortability and I actually only recently found what I might be able to call an authentic friend group because each of us brings something different that’s comforting to the interaction and to be honest I think I was authentic with them because at first I didn’t care if we were friends or not so there was no instinct to latch on or conform
God bless you
This feeling gets progressively worse if you dont act on it. It depends on what you want. You really gotta think and ask yourself, do i want to be alone? Is this what i want? If so thats fine, some people are like that. But if you yearn for connection, find it, or at least try to let it find you. You seem like your into anime and gaming, maybe try joining a gaming club or anime club on campus and meet people who share common interests. Theres tons of people like you out there, and from what ive seen when yall get together, you thrive. Good luck out there man, life aint ez but youll find your way.
you got this I believe in you brother 💪🏼🙏🏼
ultimately, I can second jesus too, but in the short term try hearing yourself talk in your head - you wouldn't think that does anything at all but it's been helping me a lot lately. Kind of like when they illustrate scenes in an anime of a character with tons of reverb on their voice saying what their thinking to make it sound super spacious and internal ect.
ill share some lyrics from my favorite song, godspeed my algo friends
I hope you find something to love
Something to do when you feel like giving up
A song to sing or a tale to tell
Something to love, it'll serve you well
It is going to be ok
It sounds like you're depressed and sometimes (most of the time) people don't understand how bad their depression is because they live with it for so long that they normalised their skewed/warped view of what "happiness" and "depression" is. If you haven't seek out for help yet please do and it can potentially change your life within weeks. I was like you and downplayed my depression until i took medication for it and realised how skewed on what it meant to be happy. Even though I'm extremely behind in life, as i only gotten my first job at the age 24, due to anxiety and depression, I am very happy and hopeful for my future.
Do not let fear and despair control you. Humans have a tremendous ability to gather courage. You must channel that ability.
Like the many men of days past, as young as you and I, who gave their very lives to save this world in not one but two World Wars.
Whenever I'm feeling worried about doing something or seizing an opportunity, I remind myself of all those young men who perished. They died with courage, in defense of freedom. In turn so you and I can carry the torch.
If you want something, seize the moment and go for it. Life is a game of probability, and I promise you that if you put in the effort, your hope will pay off. Good luck. Make us proud.
Melodic death metal and bands like Architects help
You won’t be alone forever I thought I would for the longest time I thought I’d be alone my whole life then one random night on September 28th of 2023 I checked this girls story thag I followed I had never properly talked to her hell I sent one other message to her and it was about my music taste because she commenred on somthing of mine and I didn’t think anything of it but when I posted that story she replied and we spoke and spoke and we spoke and we didn’t stop speaking not for the longest of time I fell so hard for her I fell in love with her that first night and I knew she was the one she was the first one and she’s the only one. I love her. Things can come at anytime you never expect it today can the same but tomorrow can change your life you’ll never know I’m not saying sit around and wait but I am saying that there’s always hope you’ll find people you’ll put yourself out there out more talk more, you did a amazing thing making this video for yourself you should be proud. We’re proud of you, I wish you the best man good luck
Look for hobbies and fun things to do with others around campus!
Hello everyone
You HAVE to put your Hope and Faith in Jesus... Better yet get your hope from Jesus... if you don't do that then honestly you deserve to be embarrassed/rejected/shunned by any and all in your way... You're a man, you didn't die on the cross so give yourself the hope that comes from the Christ
Love conquers Hate
I am Rich, I am Strong!!!
Thy will be done!
Believe in Jesus Christ for Salvation~!
Jesus is the answer ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You feel hopeless dude? C'mon
THE HUMAN CONDITION IT'S LIKE HE'S THE FIRST TO EVER GO THRU IT AT LEAST THERES SOMEONE TO PUT IT INTO WORDS!!!! AMEN!! GOD BLESS!!
jesus christ is our eternal hope
God will show you what he designed for you and what to have hope in and look forward too. It is amazing and will transform your mind like Romans 12:2 says.
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Your likeable man. Get outside more. fuck what other think.
I cannot explain how much i understand this , i truly have done 100s and 100s of hours of research on our existence as an atheist and the more and more i dug the closer it brought me to Jesus Christ.
In Christianity , Jesus says multiple times Do not fear , Do not fear , Do not fear , and he explains how He as God is loving and all caring ( God in the trinity Father , Son , Holy spirit Each of them has a role and exist as three entities, but they ultimately comprise one main entity.) He loves us so much ,We as humans had a debt of sin to God where the payment and requirement was death (eternally) But Jesus loved us so much he come down here as a man-god Mostly God , but as human as we are. He performed miracles and rose from the dead. And there is historical documentation for all of that. Even the people who hated him and murdered him wrote of it. He lived a sinless life to pay off the debt of sin we all have , but also to show us to love one another and have a set of morals The Father wishes for us. He is a loving living God. He loves you more than you can ever know and he truly wants the best for all of his children no matter of who they are.
A lot of people argue if god exist why do bad things happen ? But we did that , We had it made with god , until we chose rebellion against him. Everything is so wonderful and amazing once you start realizing you , the earth , and everything is a masterpiece of Gods work. As always do your own research but ill close it out with this
[Romans 8:31]
If God is for us, who is against us? He who did not withhold his own Son, but gave him up for all of us, will he not with him also give us everything else? Who will bring any charge against God's elect?
Have a good day brother and anyone reading this i truly cannot explain how much God has done for me in bringing me back to a place of happiness and i hope the same for you all God bless 😊
why are you telling a White Man to follow a jew
truly, God bless you.
So what you're saying is that children today that are starving and dying from cancer are responsible for humanities rebellion that occured 1000s of years ago? Make it make sense fam. Genuinely asking
bingooo, Jesus is Lord and saved me from my hopelessness so long ago and built my life up so much.
@@VONisHope Ok so , Id first off like to say Jesus himself said "Allow the children to come to me,” Jesus said. “Don’t forbid them, because the kingdom of heaven belongs to people like these children." in Matthew 19:14. For they are young and not as sinful as a lot of adults are and are realistically doing a lot of things because parents told them too , but at the same time Jesus is a just judge. He takes everything into account even for people who have never heard his name. And what separates Jesus from any other God is he is a suffering one , he knows our pain , our trials , the horrors of life as he walked on the same earth you and i do. But he lived a perfect and sinless life , and yet still as perfect as he was His own creations decided to crucify him and stab him in the ribs to see water and blood flow out and then he rise 3 days later. But with that suffering he says simply "Have faith in God,” Jesus answered. 23 “Truly[a] I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them. 24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours." in Mark 11:22-24 So with that it's saying have faith in Jesus , and nothing is impossible if its the the will of the God in heaven it will happen , but even when you're suffering as a Christian it isn't God punishment , but it could be a test of faith because anyone can say they "know" Jesus with lip service but if you truly are a Christian and have faith in Christ you have eternal life after this one. And I'm not saying that is the cause or reason for cancer But when Adam and Eve chose rebellion from God our whole species was "cursed" so to say and that curse was death misery and sin when we got kicked out of paradise for said rebellion. We went against god for the forbidden fruit of knowledge and that is why we now suffer, not because God hates us but because we are creatures of sin and mortality. But through the Sacrifice of Jesus we were given a forgiveness of the debt of sin we all hold and through faith in Jesus anyone and everyone is promised a life of eternal length where no pain and no suffering exist. God is also not of our realm and is not confined to human expectations and such. Suffering sucks yes , but the eternal life promised by Jesus is more alive than any of us will ever be separated from fleshly temptations and suffering. I hope i answered your question i tried as best as i could as there is no direct "reason" i as a human can answer outside of scripture.
Quit taking yourself so seriously.
Start reading the bible and let God should you wisdom! Read Proverbs. There are seasons in life. Figure out how to hear from God through Jesus and His Spirit! Pray in your alone time that Jesus would reveal His existence to you. Matthew 11:27: "My Father has entrusted everything to me. No one truly knows the Son except the Father, and no one truly knows the Father except the Son and those to whom the Son chooses to reveal him".