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- Опубликовано: 16 фев 2019
- Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?
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Nice!
omg second
Hi!
nice
Good theme
The sad part is most of the people watching this are lonley
I am
Well yeah, it's weird to see this video with a group of people. It's better to see this by yourself because everyone is different and everyone feels lonely at different times
@@toastydoggo2313 I feel lonely most OF THE TIME
I'm not, but i was curious about the subject and how help People
Sad reality
Conversations that I have:
4% with real people
96% in my mind
same here
Relatable. Most of my conversations nowadays are smalltalk, which I don't mind but I personally crave to have much deeper conversations and hang out with like minded people.
@@Lilflip20128 I wish for the same thing
can you stop with memes?
Yep
Being alone sucks man, I also hate it when I’m in public and I see people my age hanging out with their friends and having a good time, meanwhile I’m just sitting there all by myself just hating my life and my existence.
There's me
Literally me
I hate seeing groups of adult friends. I know I shouldn't but my dumbass is like "don't show off your friendship".
@@Itsant33😂 dw its normal to want something others have, especially something nice as friendship, ik how u feel
thats me i get so jealous when i see my few and only friends with their girlfriends and boyfriends and huge group of friends while i sit alone during all my classes and do the work with only myself while they and everyone is having a good time working and talking
"If you feel lonely, you are lonely." Love this line!
😂😂😂😂😂
😮 high iq time
No shit Sherlock
I have people around me who keep asking me if I'm okay. But I'm afraid of speaking to them because I'm afraid they'll judge me and then I'll judge myself. So, I have created my own loneliness.
water is wet type beat
"Loneliness"
*Recommended for you*
lmao same
youtube know me well
For real lol
Ya
Even youtube notice it
I'm at the point where I'm so lonely that I spend a majority of my days fantasizing about my ideal friendships and romantic partner.
Go find them! Don't sink into the hole. There's nothing good in the hole. There are lots of people who relate to you and who could potentially be your friends. Just keep trying.
Oh thats me. Lol
Shut up dont remind me of myself
@@snowleaf2834 thassa mood.
Viridian Sky I’m in this picture and I don’t like it.
it hurts so much when nobody reaches out to you in the first place. You are never directly talked to by your “friends” and continually excluded from the plans that they made together. You are just there; you’re not important in anyones life and they don’t seem to care about you at all. Nobody checks up on you to see how you are doing or if you want to hang out. Even when you reach out to them first, there is always an excuse of why they can’t go. Even when you thought you made a new friend-one who treats you like an existing person-they start to ignore you and act like you never existed. You eventually start to resort to books, movies, and music to escape from your reality and into a fantasy. You know you would be such a good friend if people just gave you a chance. You’re always left wondering, “what did I do?”
God that’s how I feel thank you for typing this
I don't know you, but I relate so much. I tried the converse after being left out by my "friends". Making plans and my "friends" just ignored me. I guess they just want to go away and d1e.
You put my feelings into words...
"You have to be the one to make things happen" might be good advice practically, but it never addresses the shitty feeling of not being wanted in the first place. ❤
It is mostly because of our social status is low many people in adulthood just want to increase their status
외로운 서로의 아픔을 비난하지 않고 보듬어 주어 힘이 되어 줍시다
The worst thing is going from feeling extremely lonely, to extremely fulfilled, then lonely again
That hits deep
Happens to me all the time...
Can relate
dudecool79 you think your getting better but then the thoughts come back.
:/
The worst part of loneliness is when you watch a movie and want to share your opinion with someone but you have nobody
and you end up talking to yourself
Why are you doing this to me.
I saw it as the good part of loneliness but ok. . . Toby_ Belle has a point.
Záncibar well the OGC did say that it was the worst part for them....
Same with video games I can’t find anyone that play bf1 or bf4 because everyone is playing fortnite and I can’t have so I can’t reach out to anyone
Damn :(
I began tearing up from how well they explained the daily living hell of loneliness I have, and began straight up crying when they explained how I actually can help my self..thank you so much.
I felt the same honestly
Same here
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes, he is dr.porass.
The worst thing is being around people and feeling like you are invisible
ZENO I feel called out
To those with social anxiety, that is the BEST thing.
@@fatcat1250 Feeling invisible?? I guess.
feeling invisible is what i want to be actually
Agreed
"I think my biggest problem is that I love being alone but I hate being lonely."
Same
Same here
Facts.
Like everybody
play games and communicate :)
it’s been probably 3-4 years since i found this, i come back to it from time to time ,once or twice a year, and find myself in tears almost every time
i try following this, i do not assume hostility or judge ,i reach out all the time, i’m always ready to open up and i cat escape feeling lonely regularly ,some things trigger it more than others and i don’t know what can i do with it
@@artemsavtsov983 same for me. It's usually the feeling that even if you opening up, no one care about it.
@@joysanni yeah, i feel like wasting time and effort now when meeting new people or reconnecting with old ones, because it may end in that way
@@artemsavtsov983 i just feel being annoying to everyone as i forcing myself to shut up and don't talk with anyone..
Sad thing, when you can't talk with your FRIENDS, because don't want to bother them with your loneliness, and also you can't find new one as they don't seem mutual in conversation or some kind of.
How are you guys doing? ❤
The feeling that you have everybody around you, but not with you
“Let’s reach out to someone today”
*Left on read*
A very good looking whale bruh I tried to talk to someone new in irl, ten minutes they just got up and walked away I WAS LEFT ON READ IRL
Same...
@@housecat1674 damn. that sucks. I know it dont feel like it... but that was not you. that was them. I had 2 experiences where I tried. one was great. one was not, and I let it ruin me.
*1 - in hs in florida we had a nice outdoors campus (art school). during lunch, I saw an obviously (facial/body expression) lonely boy sitting against a pillar looking down at the grass. I said "Hey man what's up? you new? want to go for a walk?" and he did. we had fun that one time. we never hung out with each other after that day, but he had made friends and always smiled and said hello to me in the halls. (I was art, he was music - no shared classes)
*2 - another time in hs, after school by the bus loading area, there was a nervous looking, very quiet kid with glasses. I thought the other time was good.. I made someone happy and I felt good. so I stood right in front of him, waved and said "hello!" and he just stared at me. I repeated my word... and he blinked. I felt so sad. like I was bothering him. I said sorry and slunk away. I never fucking did that again. it was stupid of ME. in hindsight, i shouldn't have ever let myself feel shame for reaching out.
* years later, I saw the boy from story 1. he was so happy to see me, and told me and the friends he was with, that I'd never know how much I changed his hs experience just from that one day. he made a lot of friends. I wish I could have been his friend, but it didn't happen - we were really different and lived far from each other.
what I'm trying to say, is we'll never be able to reach someone who isn't ready or willing to be reached. but this reaching out and trying again is a real thing that can have such an impact...
well I lied. I did reach out again. i met my last significant other inside of an abandoned building.. and I saw him a few weeks later walking in the streets where I lived. I pulled over and said "hey. wanna go for a drive?" he did. then i killed him... not. but we did joke about how i could have... we've been together 8 years. o.o
wanderingintime bro thank you so much wtf out of all the people I talked to about it your RUclips comment was the wisest and made me feel the most better, what a great start to my day! Also for a second I believed the killing joke lolll
@@housecat1674 hey that makes me happy to know. keep having a good day!
Schools: *I don't see the problem here.*
The true
They teach us about stuff like this all the time with those crappy posters
Also, our teachers are not our therapists
Edit: maybe I am wrong
*Hoodie*
@@xi3382
Schools: *HOLY SHIT WE HAVE A POTENTIAL SCHOOL SHOOTER SOMEONE CALL THE FBI*
@@vibing6530 He said SCHOOLS, not teachers.
The school can provide some kind of therapist...
The worst thing is being alone in a crowd. I go out to try to make friends and meet people but i end up feeling more isolated than ever.
thats why i dont go out with friends no more.. at this point every word i want to say makes me think that im weird.
Hey, just wanted to come back here to say that this video seriously improved my life last year. It made me realize during one of the worst times in my life that I was significantly isolating myself, making it worse. It encouraged me to reach out to people, and though I didn't make any life changing friendships, it made my senior year of high school a hell of a lot more bareable. So, yeah. Though you'll probably never see this, thank you.
i don't know you but i proud of you. i hope you feel better ^^
Well done! You're doing better than me, that's for sure
Let's just appreciate that RUclips gathered us all lonely ppl here in this video's comment section so we don't feel lonely.
Yessd
Thanks ❤️
RUclips is the only one who thinks us
I don't see how this should make anyone feel less lonely. They're in the exact same spot as before, equally lonely and pathetic.
But perhaps I'm just too pessimist.
Yeah
“If you feel lonely you are lonely”
Quote of the year
I saw this comment while watching that part
Hmm, yes. The floor here is made out of floor.
@@shinjilovrrr the chhair is made out of chair
@@ima13yroldpplessfortnutboi79 yeah, this is big brain time. Also, your name in chat
Every minute 60 seconds pass in Africa
For the last 10 yrs I'm a complete social outcast, I'm so lonely I talk to myself for hours very loudly like I'm talking to someone because I got no one to talk to literally no one. 😢☹️
Jesús 😭
@@kendallbr9166 yeah 🥺🥺
Can relate
Every time I feel so lonely to the point I can't endure it, I watch this video and cry at the thought of someone understands me. although I cry while watching it, I feel like being helped out
No one understand me irl but its nice seeing people that also dont have many friends and are usually lonely
you know? I wanted to comment: did anyone else cryed while watching this? Then i see your comment
But where ru from?
*_Emma🦋_*
I’m following you ;)
The worst is..when u spend time with ur "friends" and feel like u don't belong there anymore. Such a contradicting feeling that is.
I have 0 friends
@@abcdefglol3188 +1.
@@abcdefglol3188 +2
@@abcdefglol3188 +3
@@abcdefglol3188 hello?
I've been lonely for so long that it feels normal.
Yeah. And it’s like it would be weird if you *didn’t* feel lonely.
@@jacobgalvez4363 Exactly.
Hang in there!
Same here. I lost all my friends in 2016 and haven’t had any since.
Reki Jorve it starts to feel normal but it’s not good
learning that loneliness is an evolutionary trait of human kind rather than a mental illness makes me feel so much better
The worst part of loneliness is when you watch a movie and you want to share your opinion with someone but you have nobody and you end up talking to yourself.
The most heartbreaking words💔🔪
real
When you realize that you prefer daydreaming and making fantasies inside your head instead of talking to real people and facing real life...
escapism, eh? it's like a drug
Basically me in a nutshell
Yep I always do that all the time
its now a habit
Mood
Thats why I love the internet, I’ve met so many cool ppl but there is no need to worry about them thinking my voice is trash and my face is ugly, cuz they don’t know either of them
Loneliness: *More deadly than Cancer and Smoking*
Me: Guess I'll die.
Don't give up. Stay strong mate 💪🏻💪🏻
@@imperiomaximus9583 And remember: dying is gay
Heyy, let's try not to die together
Exactly what I thought when watching this. I've not had any friends for such a long time, that my life span is probably already been completely fucked up by now .
So say we all
The hardest part is moving on from the perfect person you met, most of you has already moved on but a part of you can’t let go
bro stop
You literally just explained the cause of all the anxiety I’ve had for so long.
I feel lonely if the teacher ask us to pick a group and i get left behind
Marceline Morales okay, so as the video itself recommends, I’m trying to lift somebody’s mood up although it’s not what I would normally do. But I can tell you that feeling left behind the group is a very familiar feeling. In fact, now that I think about it it’s been a long time since I actually cared about it because it happened so many times that it kinda became a normality for me to feel left out. Or maybe I just got used to it or I’m not trying anymore or whatever the video says. Anyways, in my case, I know that people would have accepted me if I tried a bit harder therefore I think you can choose not to be alone and maybe if you give yourself a chance( or multiple chances) you can get yourself out of that isolation bubble. And also you’re probably cool and funny and if you haven’t found the right people around you yet then just keep being yourself.
I hope it didn’t make you feel sadder, lol
Dayum
Marceline Morales LoL me always 👅
That’s what happened to me for a field trip. The field trip is tomorrow and I was put in a group full of guys who I barely know. I’m afraid of being humiliated if I go cause of the boys and other girls in a group together. So I can stay home or take my chances of humiliation. What should I do?
@@sanchez5863 If the field trip is something worth going to, then sure! Be yourself, and don't be scared. We all say things at the wrong time when we're nervous and feel out of place, so just take some breaths, and reassess where you are. I was the "lone wolf" in middle school, and a bit through high school as well. I've done TONS of really awkward things, and my heart races when just being spoken to. If people are speaking to you, listen, and I mean REALLY listen. Ask good questions, and be polite! Be calm, and when people talk to you, respond. Boys or girls, in the end, they're only your peers!
Loneliness is when you’re surrounded by people, but don’t feel connected with them. You have hours of conversation, but still feel empty and unsatisfied. You try to speak up, but they don’t understand.
yeah, and how to overcome this problem? we open up and accepting invitations from friends but now what?
@@hendywijaya3213 this is also my question
Sounds like every family reunion I went to.
A little late but here i go:
So i had this problem back in school too.
My "friends" were nice and all.
I talked a lot with them but it never felt right.
Sometimes i didnt say what i meant other times i just couldnt speak up.
The thing is (and thats the hard part) theyre not real friends.
Trust me if they hurt you (in anyway) or you dont feel comfortable around them -> get fucking rid of them.
Real friendship is so different from that i still cant believe it.
I dont have to think what im saying. It just clicks and i just feel happy now.
Youve to try again and again and thats the hardest part of the problem.
Every relationship is like that.
Youve to sort out the troublemakers/idiots/etc. and to do that youve to just try (again and again...).
Its not going to be easy but hang in there and believe in yourself.
Your future self will thank you.
Youll think back and it will be crazy how it changed.
Hope this somehow helps.
Feeling lonely is probably one of the worst things out there but its cureable.
Meeting new people makes you vulnerable and consumes a lot of time/energy but in
the end its the only way.
@@mertboy94 thanks for the answer :')
This is such serious issue, since we’re indeed built for good connections with others and quality time with friends. Scrolling through social media and texting don’t fulfill one’s social needs, unfortunately. That’s why we feel so lonely; we have unlearned to have qualitative real-life conversations and pay genuine attention to each other. Loneliness has taken a huge toll on my mental health and I hope it will get better in the future
Damn. This was one of the most surreal experiences of my life, the man just narrated everything I've been going through and everything that I've thought and felt in the past 3 years. In the past 3 years to cope with loneliness I developed a lot of bad habits and addictions including pornography and vaping. I never mental health was a big deal and made no effort to try and find out why I was feeling the way I did. Every single question he presented towards the end of the video my answer is yes to all of those. Ignoring friends, family and every single human being, deleting my social media accounts and trying to embrace some "lone wolf" mentality completely destroyed my metal health. I don't usually go on social media and talk about myself but I guess it's about time to change that and so this is me taking my first step towards curing loneliness and I hope that whoever is reading this finds the courage to open up and find a way outta the vicious cycle of loneliness. Stay strong brothers!!
It's been 2 weeks since you wrote this and i wanna know how much your life has changed?
How are you? You are alright?
@@sergiu1 I'm better now
@@kausarahsan4732 not much but I have a different perspective on life now and that has made things better. I'm alone but I no longer feel lonely
@@shreevatsak343 I'm happy for you. This video changed my perspective too.
I feel like RUclips is making fun of me at this point.
If you feel this way then I would think it’s trying to help. Gotta shift that perspective man. 😊
@@rib_rob_personal Only an idiot would think a non-thinking algorithm is trying to help them.
With videos like, how not to talk to yourself so often, and this one, starting to wonder that myself.
there's nothing to be shame
@@JKAZ_M No need to be mean. The algorithm starts collecting information about the user and if it detects searchs related to loneliness, it's gonna recommend you videos with that type of content. It may not "think" but stills help you
*"Loneliness is twice as deadly as obesity and as deadly as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day"*
I have the complete package then
me too!
Congratulations!
Just add alcohol
That is quite a claim, as well as the obesity one, I thought. I would have liked to see a source for this. Till then I just take it as a filler statement more for effect.
Agreed. If loneliness were a disease, I'd been dead a long time ago.
This video has really opened my eyes, I always want to talk to people in public but I'm always too scared of what they'll think of me. This is just a reminder for my future self, talk to more people when you get the chance. For all I know, people might want to talk to me too and they're afraid as well. I have to take the first step, I'll try my best to hold myself accountable. I hope anyone who reads this goes out of their way to talk to people as well, it'll be worth it in the long run even if we get rejected. Life is all about learning
Hello , how are you ?
I want to be your friend, if you don't mind ?
@@JuliaFinance-bz1swme to
I feel lonely, have no friends, have social anxiety and an eating disorder. I've felt this way for years and im only 16 😢😭
I hope things get better for you eventually!
Travel abroad
When I was your age I feel the same as you,, Im 23 now
@@edberaga Did things change?
@@_Infocars hm, I do have one close friend. And one is enough🥰
Free virtual hugs for my lonely people.
Thank u love
Thanks, "hugs back"
I thank you....
*hugs emotionally
Thank You
"Decline invitations untill the invitations stop"
Bold of you to assume I ever got any.
Nu ești singur, nici nu vei fi vreodată, atâta timp cât nu vrei. 🇷🇴
I used to get a few, to places that caused me anxiety. Now the have stopped coming, I'm fine with that :)
This is what I said too
I was once in class, and i stood behind a curtain to see og anyone would remember i Was there. And yes it was after a break so the teacher knew i was at school that day, and we had the same teacher Before, and after the break. No one, not even my best friend remembered me. So when i came out from hiding, i asked why they didnt say anything. They all didnt know i was at school that day. Yes this is a true story, and they actually didnt know i was at school. If you have any questions, i would gladly reply.
High five! 🖐
Loneliness has helped me a lot personally. It has taught me how to entertain myself better, which has lead to more interests in things such as learning or meditation. I think it is okay to like being alone. I personally do enjoy my alone time. I get overwhelmed being around people often times and feel drained by social interaction. I am not antisocial by any means though, just more reclusive and introverted. I prefer quality over quantity in all things, especially company. And I try to be grateful for every day, whether it has been a challenging day full of suffering, or an easy day full of pleasure. I like contrast in experience because I feel it necessary to better understand ourselves as individuals, and to better understand our own truths, whatever they may be. I like your videos. They are good entertainment and are very thought provoking, whether I agree or not with everything they say. Thank you :)
I am Sharofat and today I watched it twice to improve my listening skill. I'm planning to watch at least 2 videos in a day from this channel .
The Friendship Paradox: I have friends yet I feel I don't have friends at the same time.
Divine Jacob Mathew You might not have propper friends. Not the greatest thing to say here...
But I only redescovered the people I truly cared about ( and vice versa) at the age of 22.
Fuck that is relatable
Exactly
It feels like you're their strange neighbor
Exactly how I’m feeling
i enjoy my own company until i see a group of friends having fun on instagram
hot poison Maybe do yourself a favor and delete instagram pal. It offers nothing except unrealistic standards for beauty/life. I feel much better mentally since deleting it, maybe you should try it for a while and see if it improves your mindset :)
Flaya TV weell every time i delete the app i downloaded it after few days
hot poison try and resist the temptation
Chances are that you don’t talk to those friends a huge amount, what you should do is just hit them up every few days or so, send them something funny you’ve seen on Instagram, don’t go overboard to the point where it’s annoying but just have conversations with them. You’ll get closer and eventually get invites
that's just one moment of their everyday life though
I watched this video 4 years ago and it's just been suggested on my algorithm. I wanted to come back here and say that this video set the ball in motion which massive improved my mental health and my life. I live in a new country now and it's scary and would have been too lonely in my mind 4 years ago but now it excites me to be alone and make new friends again.
I bought and read 'Loneliness' by John Cacioppo & William Patrick and then bought it for people in my life i want to support.
Thank you Kurzgesagt, i hope your videos continue to help people in a rut as I was.
Ry
When you're alone and trying to console yourself and be happy, you realize that the people around you are treating you like a freak for being alone and you start to hate your loneliness.
"The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.
-Mark Twain
Amen.
And being lonely is what makes you uncomfortable with yourself.
video gaming = waste of time. housework is much better (karma)
bored? anyone??
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4 amazing tools: portable hydraulic strongarm 4 firefighters etc, hands free thermal vision (in mask imaging system), in mask heat vision (temperature display etc) or c-thru technology!
there are more amazing tools!
fire extinguishers 4 everyone? every home? companies? + every car !? (highway safety and more!) (+ child safety device!) + fireproof clothing? + cap, gloves, safety glasses etc !
(note: there are different types of fire extinguishers and application fields! powder, foam, water etc)
become a paramedic instructor in future? firefighter? + pump operator (+ driver) ? (volunteer?) high angle rescuer? ambulance driver or nurse?
give it a try! externship? externships?
or
surgery nurse? geriatric nurse? ambulatory care? home care?
(+ specializations? in several areas? wound care management, hygienics, instructor, first aid etc)
(a financial supporter? support fire and rescue departments in your area? (money 4 helmet lamps, new equipment etc. new vehicles? a turntable ladder? 2 turntable ladders? mass casualty ambulance bus?
support air ambulances? or retirement homes !? (see list below)
become a
midwife? or dental assistant ?
shuttle service? (disabled people, seniors, wheelchair user)
towing service or animal protection ?
at least
support animal welfare organizations? sponsorships??
(animal aid unlimited org, hsi org, sea shepherd org)
animal shelters in your area need money 4 food, maintenance work, expansion, staff, new vehicles, security staff, etc.
trips? beach trips? parks? poor dogs :(
(create new jobs? build new sanctuaries? new parks? zoological gardens? more veterinarians + animal hospitals + hospitality)
volunteer work? go walkies?
become an animal caretaker?
maybe... plant a tree? many trees? a walnut tree?? in a park, garden or backyard? crows and other birds would appreciate that.
or a japanese maple tree?
or go vegan ?
potato, zucchini, paprika, cucumber, tomato, rice, fries, ketchup, baked bread etc?
hey its animal friendly :)
vegan cookbooks? give it a try! its tasty
support a protectory? orphanage ? (money 4 disneyland trips or playstation 4?
charity work? palatoschisis or cataract aid organization support? (smiletrain org or operation restore hope e.v.?)
or kids cancer care? educate a child?
parking problems? ( smart parking solution com )
think about the environment. in your city. seriously
more railways + trams !? less cars? more bicycles? more gardens? etc.
or buy solar panels? learn from the solar experts?
emergency exit in a skyscraper? high rise rescue solution? SPARS parachute rescue system? ( cosmic-rs com )
stop abortions? change laws? strict restrictions?
increasing homelessness and pollution = serious problems.
time 4 serious solutions!
time 2 build new quarters? apartments? + assisted living ? (board and care homes)
+ medical examinations, checkups etc (+ dentist) ? care + support + coaching + social integration + employment etc? + small group wellness programs or trips?
NEW projects? (new jobs?) new hotel projects?? (with doctors, carers, nurses, security staff etc, seminar rooms, briefing rooms, a big pool? (+ diving schools?), + sport areas? spa?) + new motels?
serious + fast help? thousands need fast help!
yes, giving money 2 very poor people will make their lives better. they are everywhere. railway stations? 10, 20, 50, 100 ?
or sleeping pads, bags !? tents !? blankets? money 4 drugstore etc? mouth rinse? (caries ! etc.) maybe dog food? or veterinarian? eyes open!
(+ toothbrushes !? (sensitive!), multi-purpose toothpaste? good for those with no specific dental issues! or a specific category of toothpaste !? (caries, parodontitis ! ), mineral water without carbonates (in bottles? 6 x 1,5 L ?), a pocket mirror?, meds ? (toothache ! ), safety scissors?, nail clippers?, warm clothes + accessories?, plastic hand brush?, tissues?, trash bags?, a radio !? + batteries?, flashlight?, first aid kit? (+ wound care cream?, wound disinfection?), a backpack?)
+ cool deodorant spray? after shave? (a little bit better feeling..)
+ lockers !? (2 protect property! ) many lockers + big ones! free? (+ hygienics, sanitation etc)
search these people? help these people? inform these people. provide information? a shuttle service? 2 new quarters?
new jobs? new missions?
more proper facilities? + sanitation? more humanity? not less.
more facilities + better facilities + more employees + upskilling employees etc ?!
(in hospitals, retirement homes, homes for the disabled, homeless etc)
better treatment + more comfort 4 residents, patients etc??
better retirement homes? (better medical equipment? + AEDs, one way keyring r. masks, lifters, CPR simulators, pulse oximeters, seminars, training courses, training!, + regular checks!, trips, furniture (+ all weather outdoor furniture?), therapeutic massage armchairs, automat? drinks?, more wheelchairs (+ replacement) (+ silk or polyester pillows? more comfort? cushioning? (+ shoes? cushioning gel?) padding? less decubitus ! (+ anti decubitus mattress? positive negative pressure mattress?), less contractures ! (+ hand therapy balls?), rollator, protector pads? (elbows, hips ! etc? = less fractures, pain ! etc. safety first! think about your grandparents or older friends 2 ?), medical alert systems? (+ wearable medical alert buttons?), better documentation? (+ better systems?), more bathtubs? (+ more bathing? more assistance?), shampoo + eye shield? (demented patients!), better nail care? + more often? nail clippers 4 every resident?, therapeutics + dental therapeutics? (+ better oral, dental care? less oral thrush !, less periodontitis ! etc), better food? (+ bigger choice?) (+ additional: (4 residents + employees) instant mashed potatoes? (in a cup), vegan soups etc. + a microwave?), paintings + art, coast or beach atmosphere? gardens? botanical gardens? allergy? (plastic plants?), better alert systems (+ internal communication via phones? phones 4 all employees?), animals? pets or birds? allergy? bonsai maple trees? etc. + small jobs 4 residents? a workshop? textile processing? knitting? small kitchen jobs? or board game party? old people = bored 2 ?
balcony or terrace sunset evenings? (all weather outdoor furniture? sunshade? plastic palm tree? beach chair? lighting + lamps? adjustable pedestal fans? (hot days?) all disability friendly?
less isolation? (growing loneliness!) more community oriented activities? + small group trips? (gardens, theatre, museum, dance ball, coasts or beaches? ports?
sometimes? more often?)
higher wages 4 staff? ..much higher :)
(home care patients? they are lonely 2.. most of them!)
time 4 changes. time 4 more happyness. everybody wants 2 be happy! trips? visits? (with pets? no allergy?)
donate clothing?
support 4 daycare centers? (money 4 new furniture, medic courses, + training, equipment? (+ child and baby CPR simulators? etc)
indoor playground or waterpark employees? upskilling? + many more first aid kits (+ better signposts? + fire extinguishers, AEDs, emergency escape, plan, exit, staircase, ladder etc? everywhere? LARGE SIGNS? (+ corridors? on the ceiling? + arrows?) poor eyesight ! + health and safety stickers !? handicap signs or stickers? ), training, equipment, AEDs etc.
easy jobs?
clean-up operations?
bushes, parks, streets, lakes?, harbors?, seas?, coasts?, oceans?
clean up some plastic, broken glass or other trash?
trash = serious danger 4 animals. (pain in the stomach, injuries, die offs etc ):
its time 4 serious cleaning up operations!
(you can use hand nets, nitrile gloves. self protection!)
or use a boat? recycling bins?
(maybe... leave a slice of toast bread? in the shrubs? or on a grass area? for birds. they love it :)
(or walnuts? small pieces. on cold days. winter, autumn etc)
work at night?
(or new school projects? monthly?) volunteers? maybe ask your school teachers?
or maybe visit a diving school? become a diver? 4 mother nature ...
(the plastic trash that floats in the world's oceans actually decompose and release potentially toxic substances into the water)
,,,
lets save marine life :) lets remove some plastic and trash.
many turtles are in trouble struggling with plastic :(
+ better recycling systems all around the world? (+ africa, india, etc?)
+ sanitation? new wells and fresh water 4 animals ? (there are aid agencies)
create new ones? or new jobs?
+ new farms? (fruits, vegetables) + greenhouses? bakery? drug stores + pharmacies? new schools? diving or swimming schools? boat hire !? + life vests?, hand nets (plastic waste = global problem) + international help, assistance?
we need jobs. NO replacement of workers or employees!
we dont need robots etc. stop robot technology + developement. all kinds of it
Poker Face-_- Hey i am a new youtuber it would mean so much if you subscribed thank you i am a fan of you
Poker Face-_- Why does it bother me that he forgot to close the quotation?
*The worst loneliness isn't being alone, it's being alone surrounded by the people who don't care.*
Damn, sounds like what I got going for me.
@@duffy6542 I got a worse kind of loneliness. It's the one where you're the one who don't care about anyone. It can be even worse than not having anyone in the first place. I have to pretend in order to keep my social bonds but, really, if 90% of people I know disappeared, I wouldn't miss them. And it's not because they're bad, in fact most are very awesome people. I just can't bring myself to care, idk why.
@@GabrielFerCav Maybe you just dont feel like you actually relate to any of them on a deeper level or you dont really care about the things that you do with them. your friends arent catering to your emotional needs in the way you desire or doing the kind of activities that bring you joy, fullfillment, or actually have real value to you. im kind of having a bit of that issue too.
It's not that my friends arent great people and I do genuiney care about their well being, but if im honest with myself for alot of them if our friendship was to end or we stopped talking it wouldnt really bother me.
ouch
It shall pass
"If you are lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company" - Jean-Paul Sartre
This quote helped me A LOT, because it's you that makes you think you're alone, it's all in your head. Stay strong and keep going, there's so much to see in this world, so much to do in life, there's no time to waste on such fruitless thoughts!
After finishing school and moving to another country, I realized how lonely I was and is. I only interacted with people within my class. This can be called "forced cooperation" and because of this, I didn't feel lonely, because, despite the fact that sometimes I had a conflict with some classmates, we still got along, laughed and helped each other during the tests. I also had a friend with whom I spoke. In class, we felt comfortable with each other, but outside of school, we felt awkward. Then I moved to another country. I thought that this was a new page in my life and I should become more confident, but I became more withdrawn. I went to work and the work team was close. I felt that I didn't fit in there and I felt lonely, although the chefs tried to make friends with me, but I lost such a skill. One of the chefs told me that I was somehow cold in communication. I can't communicate with people. When I open my mouth, I forget the words, the sentences are broken and uncertain, I speak quietly and indistinctly. Confidence only arises when I become emotional. My sister and mother know me well my character and how loud and talkative I become with loved ones. Thanks to my sister, I do not feel completely alone, but only when she is not next to me. Sorry for the long comment. You know that lonely people have no one to tell about their anxieties and experiences. Maybe I really need to see a psychologist, because I have noticed more than once when with a person whom I have known for only 1 hour, I begin to talk about my life. It's very strange and I understand it.
I know this is late but I hope you feel better!
good luck bro with your life!
therapist: expensive
kurzgesagt: free and entertaining
Also kurzgesagt: here's your daily existential crisis video
Therapist: social interaction
Kurzgesagt: on your smartphone.
Don't use kurzgesagt as a therapist lol. it is interesting sure, but see a doctor.
Kurzgesagt knows me better than my parents it seems
@@Azakadune I would love too, but I cant stand the look of "I dont care" on their faces anymore
You know the world is dying when a video called "Loneliness" is #1 on trending
Just the ones who spend their time on the internet.
It's not dying. It's just going through some spiritual growing pains.
Right now it's number 9 trending
Good, this place sucks
or you could say people are taking responsibility for a wide spread problem? seeking help is after all courageous
"Nothing in this world can fill the biological need for connection." That shit hit me so hard. 😢 I'm a 27 year old female with no friends and that stuff hurts after over ten years of not having even one real friend. 💔 it makes you hate yourself & I definitely retreat from social situations at work now because everyone has their clics and when I sit at the table I just get ignored and they make plans to hangout when I am sitting there & dont ask me or try to talk to me and I say something awkward based on their reactions or give an honest answer and make people uncomfortable unintentionally.
I'm just lucky I have my husband because then I would really have no one who truly wants to spend time with me.
a quote i read somewhere: "A city is a densely populated area, full of lonely people"
You know you are extremely lonely when you want to share this video with someone but you can't send it to anyone who would be interested.
...And then there's a situation where there's just nobody to send it to.
you shared this video with everyone who watched it, so in a way, you aren't alone! :)
I think this problem affects a lot of people so u can share it with ur friends Im sure one or two will like it
*-P A I N-*
that’s exactly what i was gonna do-
Anyone wanna hold hands
alone. o o
What are you doing here and why havnt you made another vid yet?
Let's hold hands then ~~
No
I'd rather hug, thanks. My hands get sweaty when someone else holds them.
This was the most helpful video I've ever watched. Felt like it addressed every single thing about me,
man I need to put this in action.
Good luck to everyone who suffers from this too!
Crazy to realize like 5 years ago I was literally never on my own. Always busy schedules and fun weekends. Then shit happens in life and suddenly you see who you’re real friends are. Now I’ve spent probably 3 years of barely any real contact. The crazy part is you get used to it in the beginning. But the longer it’s continuing, the more it breaks me down. Quite desperate and tired of rejections. How to find new meaning and connections in life when ur 33 yo.
The best wombo combo is loneliness and low self esteem; everything else flows from it.
+ social anxiety + depression
I have low self esteem and loneliness so I know how it feels
Same
No Religion/spirituality + No friends + no family + low self esteem + procrastinator = Shitty times
@@jayluis189 literally me
The most connected era in the history and yet the most lonely one too.
It's because everyone feels like they have to put on an act to fit in but that means no one is genuine and we feel that in our gut so we eventually just don't bother with people more than necessary
Will we ever rewire?
@@saldownik probably not
@@saldownik it's hard to tell. But here are my two cents. It really depends on our further evolution. If the humanity will see that doing fine without much interaction and staying individualistic, then we will become more individualistic. If we'll see that it is an irrelevant way, we won't. Right now I think we'll stay the way we are now, social creatures. Even now there are a lot of cultures and societies which encourage collectivism. The western society is a different beast, we're pretty individualistic, but then again, we really we the rising loneliness problem
@@litphaniusmcmelloy4275 If we will rewire, it will be now much more likely by our design, than by an evolutionary crawl.
I avoided watching this video for 4 years, because I was so lonely.
Glad I've watched it now, done so sensitively. I agree with another commenter saying this is maybe one of the best videos I've ever seen
One of the most saddest thing is, it's when you have people around you, but you don't have anyone to share your emotions and thoughts to.
Yes ,you are right friend
I talk all day with imaginary people, dreaming of an imaginary life, while I'm locked in my room, it's not that different from a prison...
You need someone to talk to man? I'm here.
Relatable
yes
You should probably talk to someone.
Same I live within my head
We joke about recomendation, but sometimes its not so bad.
EDIT: got one thousand likes for a comment about recomendation.
maybe i dont want to be the bad guy anymore 😢
@No wow I have positivity I’m so EdGy
why does this have 666 likes
@@sharvaliladekar5857 it doesn't anymore.. that was a sign FOR YEEWWW
this one of the best recommendation i have watched, seriously.
この動画の通りになってました。人に会いたくなくて、病んでる自分を見られたくなくて引きこもって、だけど人と関わることでしか癒せないのにな
孤独って感じていいものなんだって思えました
I've been alone for years and it's starting to tire me out.
"Loneliness makes you decline invitations till invitations stops"
TOTALLY AGREE..
specially when those invitations werent about you but what you have, egoistic invitations, then i prefer to be lonely thanks.
E
you guys were getting invitations in the first place ?
@@goroland6904 I have the same problem. How am I supposed to have a social life when nobody cares about me enough to invite me to anything? My ex-”friends“ were like parasites, taking and never giving. I‘ve cut them off and now I‘m alone, but it‘s still better than pretending that people care about you.
From my experience, this seems to work. I had friends before 2020 but none of them were very close, and even tho I barely have any friends now, I feel less lonely than before because I’m better at occupying myself. Not having friends but keeping myself happy is probably not a permanent solution but it’s definitely a good first step toward not being lonely, I guess it’s like fully figuring myself out before rejoining society and trying to make friends again
You never realise how lonely you are until it’s the end of the day and you have a bunch of stuff to talk about but no one to tell it to :(
Yes, that's horrible
A personal journal, then you can go back and relive those experiences as you're reading along :)
This comment is like getting stabbed in the ribcage. Hits right where it hurts
😔❤️🩹
Now that you know you feel lonely you can start trying to fix it. Try a teamsport or call someone else to ask how've they been. Will be a painfull journey due to the fear of rejection as described in the vid. But remember that by showing interest in someone else is a good deed worth doing even if you don't get anything back.
so lonely, so depressed, so tired, i'm burnt out.
This video was the first thing to make me truly cry in a while. Thanks.
I feel a little less lonely knowing that everyone else is also lonely.
frrr
@@malxumx9727 :')
well yes, but actually no
@@axule4373 XD
Everyone is feeling lonely, but everyone doesn’t know. People are living facades and that is a worrying thing in this modern world. Social media?
I'm the type of person who likes to cheer everybody up, but when I'm not feeling good nobody seems to care about me and that's what makes me lonely
it’s called codependency, it’s a boundary issue, i suffer from it too
ya boi same
:/
I'm the one who connects everyone while im just a broken connection line.
It's pretty painful when you see everyone around you care for each other and not you while you're the main connector, as if you're the power cable that connects cities but no one cares for your maintenance.
Being a loyal person, this is a bullet to the gut.
Dumble King I’m the same way, now I spend most of my free periods thinking about what could have been if I didn’t make so many mistakes while everyone else is having fun and joking around
same
Oh this hurts, I’m 23 now, soon to be 24, my loneliness started at 16 and I’m so sick and tired of crying and feeling pathetic.
I want to change!
Look in to how your brain works. You’ll discover exactly what you think and feel the way you do.
One thing you can start doing right away, is flipping the script. Those thoughts that bring you down, change it to something you’re grateful for. Change your brain, change your reality
I usually don't feel lonely, but when I ask myself the question: "If me and my friends were to pair up, who would choose me?" I concluded that my friends have better friends than me
"Do you find yourself avoiding plans"
No, because i dont get invited
Haha I get invited but I make every possible excuse to not go
@@AGoogleUser-im2xw :v me too, but since I kept on declining people are avoiding to invite me now XDD
Invite them then. Eventually if they enjoyed with you company, they will invite you in the future
@@pixellee6955 I wasn't expecting actual advice, but thanks I'll do that!
Ah, that just happened to me this Thanksgiving day. I moved into a small city surrounded by relatives, so I thought I might get invited....wrong!
"The average number of friends is two"
Me, with 0 friends: great
but in usa, where are you from
Well I haven't had a single friend in like 30 years...
Ill be your friend☺️
Me with my only friend when parents think I'm 4 years old and keep trying to make me make new friends
same. hi everyone.
This channel is outstanding. Can´t thank you enough for the help you are giving me in times of loneliness.
I did not come here to get roasted
So fucking true
That's hilarious! I felt the same way.
a bee same I feel attacked
we*
I-
"Loneliness"
13 Million people : Aah Yes.
Loneliness = me
The vagueness is intruiging.
ikr
*facts*
Loneliness + Introvert = Me
This video helped me a lot. I really wanted to understand myself and your videos were always the best way. Thank you.
I’ve been ignored so many times now by people who I used to be friends with. My heart has been broken again and again with each time I trusted someone and shared my feelings with them. Experiences like that leave me feeling like friendships are a waste of time to pursue. Why get a friend if that requires me to trust them at some point? And why trust them when they can just as easily abandon me the way the others have done in the past? At this point, loneliness is the standard feeling I carry with me each day because there’s no other option. Either I’m lonely, or I’m lonely.
And now, every time I see other adult friends hanging out with each other and having a good time together. I always believe that they’re faking it.
Number 1 trending.
Shows how many people get lonely.
Preach brother preach! Is what i would say if i used reddit like you. But because i'm a human being with an iq above room temperature i cringed at this.
@@TheAngryCoffee the dude just said shows how many people are lonely. How does that show he uses reddit?
Mehdi Cane I cringed at this comment
Really the RUclips trending tab just nominates videos that the algorithm thinks is good rather then what people watch, but I do agree that in this day and more people are feeling more lonely than ever
Not really. It just shows this channel has many viewers and/or people find the topic interesting.
So people who are lonelier die faster, how convenient.
Now to start smoking daily to double the speed
On a positive side:
Less loneliness to face in your life, if you die sooner. You can’t feel lonely when you’re dead.
LOL
🖕
Not bad,Just breathing is exhausting
Wow, I wanted to say "thank you." This is one of the most insightful, practical, and intuitive documentaries I've watched. I've sent this to my family members and friends.
Never ever underestimate how destructive loneliness can be.
Things lose interest and importance. Why celebrate a victory alone? So why look for a win? To advance? Why even try if, after all, nobody cares?
Socially isolated, I spend months/years without real social contact other than the minimum at work. No friends, no children, no loved ones. I don't expect to find someone one day, as I am now unable to comprehend a lasting friendship or even an interest in the walking carcass I have become.
The web is even more dangerous due to the multitude of its toxic and negative impacts which end up reinforcing the feeling that the outside is hostile.
At the age of 40, I'm just waiting for my end, hoping at least the gift that it will be fast. People are nothing more than ghosts, shadows of a movie that passes through a veil, in which I do not participate, where no one even ask if i at least enjoy looking. From time to time, instinct wakes up, we want to fight. And so what? For what? For who? Even warriors must rest and need a reason to be fighting for.
For those sensitive, be careful with loners around you. When they cross the border, it will be like a cosmological horizon. Sometimes they can no longer be helped because they will no longer expect anything, you will just be another shooting star that will remind them how different and exterior they are. Then you will tire, then the person will tire and you will disappear into limbo, becoming a new gray echo.
this hit me sooo hard, you don’t know how can I recognize myself in what you’re saying. I relatable a lot in « Why celebrate a victory alone? So why look for a win?
To advance? ». I know you’ve written this a few months ago but I really hope that you can tell me that you’re better and advice me. Thanks for this sharing
@@maaj06 For now, it's holding up. After all these years, it's cyclical, I get used to it and a source of negativity is gone. A bit of relief after month of nightmares.
You know, when we think about it...If nothing makes sense, we are free to do what we want. In the face of time and the immensity of the universe, nothing has meaning and nothing is definitive. Nothing good, nothing bad, nothing matters really if you take the outer world has judge.
In the end, we are the ones who gives meaning to things, and they have no more importance than what we give them. We don't control what life will throw at our face, but we can decide how we'll take it. Life's a b.. ok. That's the norm. No need to cry about it forever because no one care. But no one said we can't give her a run for her money when we understand deeply that it isn't 'why" sadness and bad luck falls on us, but "when".
I discovered by chance that the local karate dojo was kyokushin. A full contact style, difficult, painful but which has always impressed me since childhood. On a whim, I went to take a look. Why not? After all, I'm only 25kg overweight and have smoked heavily for 20 years...The next day, I was covered in bruises, I could barely walk. When I got home, I had to crawl up my stairs but I did it. This was more beneficial than 10 months of anxiolytics.
It's fun because it's a bit like a "Fight Club" experience. Pain satisfies my self-destructive side. The rage I have against myself and against this life fuels my will to keep going. Solitude gives me more time to get back into shape. And getting voluntarily hit in the guts proves me that i'm not "that" fragile in the end.
I don't do it "for me", not to "win" nor for happiness and to feel good about myself of whatever BS, but to vanquish my old "me", to become better than who I was when I had still hope for the future and a good life. Burn my past to light a new path. It's not because i'll die alone that i can't die with dignity and some pride. And those doesn't depend of anybody but me. I don't care about self improvement, i don't care about blooming. i'm not a f. sunflower.
Every day, i want to give up, just stay in bed. Warm next to the fire. I fear that the abyss calls me back again at any moment. But i remember that has long has i don"t succomb to the calling, i'm the one in charge to choose how i'll make me suffer today. And i try to do it in a constructive way. I try. Not always succesfully, not every day, but the idea is there.
But I pay close attention to the great bursts of positivity that we sometimes have, which take our heads above water and then sink us even deeper the next day. The cursed Up&Down...I try to keep a routine. I study philosophy to nourish this momentum (stoicism is very interesting for strengthening one's mind. Harsh, but we are too deep in the abyss. Light philosophy and gentle thinking aren't strong enough to affect us. They are juste snacks for our darkness.)
Not really any advice, other than sharing those thoughts... Just one thing maybe : Do not wait. The goal is not to be better and happier tomorrow. F..k happiness, F..k tomorrow and F..k the other living things around us.. The idea is just to try to be a bit better than the wreck we were yesterday, even if it's just doing the dishes. Better done today than never, no?
There won't be sign of salvation, nobody'll come save us. Damsels in distress are for fairytales.
If you want to try a new practice to break the loop and support yourself in rebuilding yourself: choose something strong, intense, which will absorb you body and soul.
The thing you'll be proud to think "i did it, me alone" at the end of the game.
Build on it, think on it. I still would gladly die tomorrow, but today i won't be the one pressing the trigger. Too easy, life, too easy. You don't want me? Come take out the trahs yourself! BTW, be carefull with the angry racoon that has nothing to loose.
There is always the risk that life takes it from you in a way or another, but it won't take away the experience and the knowledge that one day, you looked at this b. right in the eyes and said "f..it, i won't die in passively and in silence".
I tried calligraphy...ended only writing dark words and thoughts. I tried survivalism...but why learn how to survive when the point is that i DON'T want to survive? Why learn how to protect when i don't have anything to defend? But hit, getting hitted, suffering but this breathing somehow? That is a familiar ground.
Take care
@@aznazg Oh dawnnnn that was so interesting to read, i really loved what you wrote, i read it 3 times lol.
I am a teen girl and i clearly don’t have your experience or juste a basic experience. I don't think I'm worth much at the moment. But I felt understood in this text, and it’s the first time ahahah.
It’s funny how we interpret unluck like, why me ??? As you say, I feel like i’m fighting with life but you’ve open my eyes in a part. Yes I cannot do anything, it’s the way life goes but still, why??
I did the same thing as you. I struggled alone, so i find something to really fight with. I do a sport. At first i was like maybe i’ll can do friends or just TALK with someone but again, no one come or just accept a new person. So i feel sad.
I have nothing to defend, me too, i’m angry with me. Did I think things were going to change ? it could be that life has nothing to offer, you must choose to accept and live with it or just give up. We have to fight. I won’t do it for me, but I would like to say « Look, I did it alone and no one never help me for anything » maybe it’s crazy lmao.
Loneliness separates us so much, and it's hard to hold on. I always think I have accepted but I find myself crying alone I look at myself and I really feel sorry for myself.
I listened to everything you said, I keep it and I even think about rereading it when I feel like I'm misunderstood. Your testimony is precious for me. thank you for the time you took, it did not pass before the eyes of a blind woman.
Also, English is not my first language, so sorry for the mistakes that i did.
Tysm, take care too.
@@maaj06 Carefull with the idea of what someone is worth. That's quite an illusion. Is water the same for the lost in a desert and someone at sea? Still..it's water. Nature is the same, perception differs.
Sad that it didn't clicked for a sport, but maybe you should try again? Having a stimulating and interesting activity (for you. Don't care what other could think) is a key.
Never be ok with the feeling that you may be worthless, forever alone, without goals nor meaning of live. Those seems like the words of depression and deep sadness more than anything. And this sickness wants you to feel miserable, helpless and vulnerable. Easy prey. That absolutely doesn’t mean that’s the case nor a fatality.
In fact, there is always something to fight for. Yourself. Your integrity. Protecting who you are of who you can become. You"re angry? Good. That the sign that somewhere, you are still fighting. Learn, train, try, miss, fail and start over. You want this to end? Good news, it will. Some day or another. But before that, why not try and try again to focus and become what you whish you could have been in another life?
Be prepared that there will always be obstacle. Even more if you're on the right way. There will always be. See it has a test of determination. Nothing else. A test to see how you'll adapt. Never listen to the voice who'll say "see? You failed again", it's a trap.
I don't have magic help for loneliness. I know i'll die alone, without family and probably without friends. And it's ok. I prefer to walk alone when i'm in a discovery trip. I want to share my experience but no one to talk to? Then i'll just write it. After all, most people i met became toxic sooner of later. (even at this very moment)
The years you're in aren't the easier but don't forget that things changes and you're still constructing yourself. Nothing is fixed. Still, don't be afraid to look for help if needed. There is no shame to it, but be very carefull when you says you're young and quite vulnerable, especially to strangers or people you aren't sure are trustworthy.
Take care
This video made me feel lonely because there weren’t Kurzgesagt birds
Nicolas Gleason-Boure, 10:37
@@hxm- those are not Kurzgesagt birds they are filthy normal PIDGEONS
11:39
Same😢
Yes there was, she was feeding them, you dont have to feel lonely anymore. Love Kurzgesagt Videos, keep it up and add more brids
Being introverted, having social anxiety and feeling lonely. Good job me.
we're in the same boat
What ur lying
Tbh social anxiety sucks. It drains all of my self esteem
@@kimnotloona I too suffer from it
Злой Хлебушек X_X sigh
Same
This is one of my favorite videos. I’ve shared it as a teaching tool, reviewed it before discussions, read the books and one of the articles (skimmed the others), and, over time, I can see the changes it’s made in me. 🦆
Being alone is soo peaceful
Peaceful indeed, but still alone
the worst combination is beinh lonely and having social anxiety.. i cry a lot
Hi
Lol same
Nitroh
Your not alone
I got hit with a lethal triple combo: loneliness, social anxiety, and crippling depression. So I’m watching this video and I’m like fuck, I should hit up my old friend and try to get back in it. Then depression is right behind me like that meme from icarly where Gibby beats Spencer with a stop sign. God, I guess I’ll just have to commit myself to one more day, and keep doing that.
@@bariumselenided5152 I got it triple combo that you said because I have existential crisis. Hell, this feeling is kill me mentally.
I forgot how to interact with people, my universe is made of my bed, youtube and books. I have so much to share but nobody to share it with, probably like all of you here.
Try to have a look around: in almost every big city there are "centers" talking about some topics in particular, Facebook and other networks have pages / channels focused on some topic, Telegram too has channels like that (for example, there's a Telegram's channel called Link4Universe, same name of a RUclips channel, talking about Cosmo and Astrophysics).
Nowadays, "Internet" turned tons of people into zombies who throw there their mind as trash (for a huge amount of reasons like culture, mental habit, force of will, laziness, etc), but it's not like there everywhere! This RUclips channel is an example, where contents are high-quality ones :D
Let's chat!
you could recommend a book to us :D
Yep you are so right
But right now you're sharing what you are experiencing thus we are relating to what you are saying
I realize the importance of reconnecting with old colleagues and buddies without knowing the complete disconnection for many years until now. A very insightful video from Kurzgesagt - thank you! I am going to share this with my last few connections I still have on Facebook.
every single day we have to think of the way how to make people happy if you see any one stay lonely you have to make talk with him and make him feel that he's important and beloved.. it's something you do to rescue someone from bad fate ❤
Man, You know that feeling when someone you consider a friend ignores you and makes you feel like you've been dumped
gloriousholy I know, This happens to me a lot but gosh it's a sore when it happens
@@boneshrimp6486 I've been forced to dump some friends because they drain my happiness and I have been trying to find a new crowd that makes me happy rather than miserable. Maybe it's time for you to look for better friends that bring you up.
feel this so much, but it's not just one friend for me, it's my whole friend group :,o
It's me who ignore my friends. Now none of them talk about me anymore
@@kirimaruisao4094 I feel you, I regret it so much. I wish I didn't ignore my only friend that I atleast feel comfortable to talk to. It all start when my old friend finally came to my class, shes always absence and I thought it was because I wasn't a good enough friend for her, but I want to spent more time with her(I was an idiot), so I left my other friend behind, I got carried away and didn't talk to my other friend for 2 days, now she think I hate her. I apologize to her and she won't even talk to me anymore, and my old friend keeps skipping class. I have no friends at all right now. I don't know what have my life turn into. I keep abandon my online friends (which I also feel very guilty about) to the point where I abandon my friends that I can talk always to. I just thought I wasn't good enough so I push people away, but I regret it for hurting their feelings. Although they may have forgotten about me now. I don't want friends or lover. I just want comfort. I'm so stupid, I miss everyone and I wish I'm not in this stupid phase.
“Loneliness means death”
Well then that’s all folks!
Chris Cheltenham If you’d like someone to talk to, my Discord is LocalMartian#7748. I feel lonely often aswell, wouldnt hurt to send a message and say hi
Jokers assemble!
@Chris Cheltenham• Don't forget to be grateful for what you have that you can be grateful for.
@@sebastianhead7680 can I talk to you cause im lonely and got no real friends : /
frostbite Sure, add me on discord at LocalMartian#7748 or just give me yours
man your the best youtuber i know, never have i shed tears from videos as consistantly as watching you
The only reason I feel lonely is because everyone around me decided to put barriers around themselves like a reservation for someone else who they want to get to know. Thus sprouted a growing social anxiety that made me doubt I could just speak to someone after so everyone decided to ignore me, or moreover decided I didn't exist in the same room. It has also made me an extremely quiet person when in public. I don't speak to anyone, I barely make any noise, nothing I do attracts attention, so why would I even try? The only people I have to talk to is my doctor, dentist, and limited number of family members. Which is good and all, but I wish I had more people around me who knew me as friends who I would also think them close enough to be considered as if they were like family.