"With love and compassion, your true friends will tell you what you need to know; others, out of convenience, will tell you what you want to hear" ~~cc
This is what people don't understand about me, as soon as I get a whif of dishonesty I'll create distance from that person unless concerns are clarified.
Hmm, a little cold. However, it's kind of necessary, that and good friendships work within boundaries. If they step over those boundaries, or you step over theirs, have a right to say so, and take a step back.
On test three, Personally speaking. On a couple occasions, where good things happened, a couple friends of mine came up to me and said straight out that they were really excited for me, but that they were a bit envious of what had happened. It was kind of like if your friend won a nice sum of money on the lottery, you'd be stoked for them of course, but at the same time you'd probably wish you had won something too. So someone being envious of you isn't necessarily a bad thing, as long as it doesn't turn into jealousy, because that's a deep seated poison.
(continued)...I know if someone gave money to me to give to another friend, what I personally would do is give ALL the money to the person who is supposed to receive it and they get to decide what they'll spend it on. I would NOT take part of that money and buy something for the person, even if it is something they want - unless that person SAID to me to take part of the money and get me this item.
After the series of test are completed and it concludes someone is not a true friend ,so now you have to pretend to be a friend to the person that was pretending to be your true friend . cool .
Frakly I find the Oposite is True, If your Happy Prosperious, Well Loved and Well onceted Freinds Come out of the Wood Works, If you Let any One know You Have a Problem, If That Person Doesn't Run Then You Have a true Friend
What if you tell a so-called friend you don't want a reply back and they reply back anyway. What if someone gives this friend money to give to someone else and the friend who's got the money spends that money on something the other person needs, rather than giving all the money to the person who's supposed to be receiving the money in the first place so that the receiver of the money can decide what he or she will buy with the money. Sorry if this sounds confusing:(. (continued next post)...
Call your friend at 4hoo in the morning and say im not feeling good ,Ex: i feel some tipe of anxiety and i cant breathe good, can you come with me at the hospital? True story it hapend to me and i went to the hospital with him and we left after 30 minutes...it was a test from him:)
This is so helpful! Thank you so much for sharing ! :) I found out I have one true friend who ticks all the boxes :D And we're keeping our friendship strong. :) ... I think, atleast that has been my belief up to now, that we get one, maybe 2 of those precious friends in our lifetime, and we should keep them and appreciate them for as long as possible. :)
2:15 I have a question. If I just got to know someone and considered us friends, and she told me a secret, okay. If I repeat it, shame on me. If I keep it, great. But here's the thing: if I knew she was testing me, trying to trick me, then that means that SHE isn't a good friend because she's manipulating me. She and her partner are trying to get me to spill! So, bottom line, if you want to tell if someone's a true friend, don't repeat secrets, but don't trust those who tell "fake secrets." they don't trust you. Why should you trust them?
I do not understand that "scarifying" point. Why should I want someone to scarify for me anything? I do not scarify anything for my friends. Why should I? I can feel empathy, but to sacrify? Why I should scarify for example a good offer in another country just because my friend thinks that she does not want to live without me? Why should I scarify that - or vice versa? Does a god friend ask me to scarify for her my own happiness? Telling me for example: "Because I do not have a boyfriend, you can not have either! You must scarify for me! Do not be with that other person!"
By sacrifice, she means that people who genuinely care about us would make reasonable (key word) sacrifices for us. Your examples such as not having a boyfriend because your friend doesn't, is not reasonable but is selfish
Thanks for your video, it was really helpfull! I have a question, for some reason i only atract people who are users in my life, it's always the same, they're only interested in getting things from me.Could you help me understand why this is happening to me? Thank you xx
I had this problem. It's from being too nice and naive. People always told me self-respect is what makes you get respect. Learn to say no and go with your instincts as to what is right and wrong. Don't try to please people and care about what they think. Just do what you think is right for yourself. People will notice. They will know that they can't manipulate and use you so they will either respect you or go find someone else to use.
This is a great informative video, but I would ask you to please slow down and compose your thoughts a little more before speaking on these subjects, possibly script yourself or whatever the case may be in order to improve your verbal delivery. I'm finding myself having to re-listen to your sentences over and over and over because they are worded very confusingly at times. With this piece of constructive criticism aside, very very helpful video.
Hi ! I really enjoy your videos. Can you give me a woman's perspective ? I have been going to a gym for the last 6 months. From day 1 when I signed up this girl who works at the front has been all up on me. 1) She asks where I have been if she has not seen me. 2) She tells me I look great. 3) She goes out of her way to talk to me very often. Up to 7 days ago she told me How Great I am looking. The other day we spoke and I gave her my number. She took it. Said thanks. But didn't look very pleased. Please let me know what you think !
So, what happened with the gym girl? You did not ask my perspective but as a woman I know how difficult it is being naturally friendly and nice to guys since they always thinks its flirting. It is not. Some people are just social and friendly. But in some cases it ofcourse can be flirting as well. Anyhow, I can go to tell some even totally random person that they look great or they have nice dress or shirt or hair...or what so ever. It just that, no agenda behind that opinion.
My so called friend attacked me on her trampoline and said I was useless. I wanted to cry and kill myself but she should be thinking that for what came out of her mouth AND her actions!
I think you are beautiful, but I am concerned you are a bit manipulative. Maybe you should just try to BE a better friend rather than being so paranoid and manipulative. I hope you can address this in yourself, otherwise you may never have valuable rewarding relationships in your life. Good luck.
I can't even trust my family members.
It seems that some of the equation for a good friendship is mutual respect for each other's boundaries.
I miss my dear friend who died last summer. I feel as if she was the best friend I will ever have.
I'm so sorry about your friend. don't worry their with God now and resting in peace, I will be your friend also my name is Tmonie Tiah Jordan 😊😊💚🌸💕💗🕇🤗
... maybe so... until you meet Jesus... he's the best. He always listens.
awe ;c Sorry for your loss!!
I don't believe in friendships anyway. I am my own keeper. Humans are unpredictable.
When your chips are low you know who your true friends are.
we cant wait that could be dangerous
A true friend tells you the truth,not what you want to hear,but how many people want to hear the truth ?
"With love and compassion, your true friends will tell you what you need to know; others, out of convenience, will tell you what you want to hear"
~~cc
This is what people don't understand about me, as soon as I get a whif of dishonesty I'll create distance from that person unless concerns are clarified.
"Real friend"? I even have doubts about my own existence.
my father once told me a good friend helps you move, a great friend helps you move bodies. :))
The more someone is all up in your shit, the less friendly you're going to feel toward them. Or maybe it's just me.
Hmm, a little cold. However, it's kind of necessary, that and good friendships work within boundaries. If they step over those boundaries, or you step over theirs, have a right to say so, and take a step back.
If you have to test your friends, you don't have any and you are not one.
What do we do when a friend backstabbbed and pretend on our face like nothing happened?
thank you for giving such amazing advice!!
On test three, Personally speaking. On a couple occasions, where good things happened, a couple friends of mine came up to me and said straight out that they were really excited for me, but that they were a bit envious of what had happened.
It was kind of like if your friend won a nice sum of money on the lottery, you'd be stoked for them of course, but at the same time you'd probably wish you had won something too. So someone being envious of you isn't necessarily a bad thing, as long as it doesn't turn into jealousy, because that's a deep seated poison.
Charles Bukowski: "You want to know who your real friends are? Just get yourself a jail sentence."
I find your advice very useful!
dicey stuff right here.
(continued)...I know if someone gave money to me to give to another friend, what I personally would do is give ALL the money to the person who is supposed to receive it and they get to decide what they'll spend it on. I would NOT take part of that money and buy something for the person, even if it is something they want - unless that person SAID to me to take part of the money and get me this item.
See how loyal they are. xD
Proverbs 18:24
A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
After the series of test are completed and it concludes someone is not a true friend ,so now you have to pretend to be a friend to the person that was pretending to be your true friend . cool .
Frakly I find the Oposite is True, If your Happy Prosperious, Well Loved and Well onceted Freinds Come out of the Wood Works, If you Let any One know You Have a Problem, If That Person Doesn't Run Then You Have a true Friend
Thank you this helped me a lot.
good friends are hard to come.. thanks for the vid
What if you tell a so-called friend you don't want a reply back and they reply back anyway. What if someone gives this friend money to give to someone else and the friend who's got the money spends that money on something the other person needs, rather than giving all the money to the person who's supposed to be receiving the money in the first place so that the receiver of the money can decide what he or she will buy with the money. Sorry if this sounds confusing:(. (continued next post)...
Thank you, this video is great, thanks so much!
I just found out my BFF is not my real friend! I lost another friend :(
Oh, sorry to hear that.. Hope you will find a true friend in the future!! Good luck!!
Don't feel lonely I lost two friends and they were my only friends at church along with the only ones in my grade so school is my only hope now
Great advice
Call your friend at 4hoo in the morning and say im not feeling good ,Ex: i feel some tipe of anxiety and i cant breathe good, can you come with me at the hospital?
True story it hapend to me and i went to the hospital with him and we left after 30 minutes...it was a test from him:)
You are probably a good cook, huh?
Me and my friend have been friends for 18 yrs because I'm 18 now thank you for sharing 😆😆
Good video. However I question the honesty test. A lot of abusive people hide behind being "honest" when they are being cruel.
Based on this its possible I have never had a true friend.. except for my mom.
Same here... the world's full of narcissists. God bless you.
lambchopxoxo mothers are always the best! Good luck, stay strong! ❤️
A week to find out if they are a true friend? THat seems a bit hasty to me.
This is so helpful! Thank you so much for sharing ! :) I found out I have one true friend who ticks all the boxes :D And we're keeping our friendship strong. :) ... I think, atleast that has been my belief up to now, that we get one, maybe 2 of those precious friends in our lifetime, and we should keep them and appreciate them for as long as possible. :)
2:15 I have a question. If I just got to know someone and considered us friends, and she told me a secret, okay. If I repeat it, shame on me. If I keep it, great. But here's the thing: if I knew she was testing me, trying to trick me, then that means that SHE isn't a good friend because she's manipulating me. She and her partner are trying to get me to spill! So, bottom line, if you want to tell if someone's a true friend, don't repeat secrets, but don't trust those who tell "fake secrets." they don't trust you. Why should you trust them?
My friend is not a true friend
sorry didn't say that last part right....to edit: unless that person SAID to me to take part of the money and buy the item.
what happens when we die?
Good video lady.
Proverbs 18:24 says that ONLY Jesus will always be there for Us at ALL times.
NO friendship will surpass the loyalty of Jesus
But does a true friend play testing games? Hmmm...
Otherwise, the criteria are interesting.
yes I agree
@butterflyRegrets Ehh ive had this problem just invite Him/her over more
I do not understand that "scarifying" point. Why should I want someone to scarify for me anything? I do not scarify anything for my friends. Why should I? I can feel empathy, but to sacrify? Why I should scarify for example a good offer in another country just because my friend thinks that she does not want to live without me? Why should I scarify that - or vice versa? Does a god friend ask me to scarify for her my own happiness? Telling me for example: "Because I do not have a boyfriend, you can not have either! You must scarify for me! Do not be with that other person!"
By sacrifice, she means that people who genuinely care about us would make reasonable (key word) sacrifices for us. Your examples such as not having a boyfriend because your friend doesn't, is not reasonable but is selfish
The word is "sacrifice" not scarify.
Thanks for your video, it was really helpfull! I have a question, for some reason i only atract people who are users in my life, it's always the same, they're only interested in getting things from me.Could you help me understand why this is happening to me? Thank you xx
I had this problem. It's from being too nice and naive. People always told me self-respect is what makes you get respect. Learn to say no and go with your instincts as to what is right and wrong. Don't try to please people and care about what they think. Just do what you think is right for yourself. People will notice. They will know that they can't manipulate and use you so they will either respect you or go find someone else to use.
I have a friend that is spook fake she doesn't even realize it nut if I get her angryand she will turn everyone against me? What should I do?
haha good one
my bff failed this test lol
This is a great informative video, but I would ask you to please slow down and compose your thoughts a little more before speaking on these subjects, possibly script yourself or whatever the case may be in order to improve your verbal delivery. I'm finding myself having to re-listen to your sentences over and over and over because they are worded very confusingly at times.
With this piece of constructive criticism aside, very very helpful video.
I have never had a real friend before I want to be one boy friend but he sometimes turns on me
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Hi ! I really enjoy your videos. Can you give me a woman's perspective ? I have been going to a gym for the last 6 months. From day 1 when I signed up this girl who works at the front has been all up on me. 1) She asks where I have been if she has not seen me. 2) She tells me I look great. 3) She goes out of her way to talk to me very often. Up to 7 days ago she told me How Great I am looking. The other day we spoke and I gave her my number. She took it. Said thanks. But didn't look very pleased. Please let me know what you think !
So, what happened with the gym girl?
You did not ask my perspective but as a woman I know how difficult it is being naturally friendly and nice to guys since they always thinks its flirting. It is not. Some people are just social and friendly.
But in some cases it ofcourse can be flirting as well.
Anyhow, I can go to tell some even totally random person that they look great or they have nice dress or shirt or hair...or what so ever. It just that, no agenda behind that opinion.
My so called friend attacked me on her trampoline and said I was useless. I wanted to cry and kill myself but she should be thinking that for what came out of her mouth AND her actions!
I was hurt and bleeding
God loves you... hang in there.
Good vid
lol
I think you are beautiful, but I am concerned you are a bit manipulative. Maybe you should just try to BE a better friend rather than being so paranoid and manipulative. I hope you can address this in yourself, otherwise you may never have valuable rewarding relationships in your life. Good luck.