Why Do Some Nigerian Parents Tell Their Children To Avoid Black Americans When Traveling To America?

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  • @sylviasworld9397
    @sylviasworld9397 2 года назад +74

    Black Americans were revered in my house by my Nigerian mum. She always chose to show us good examples though. She had a respect for Black Americans because they succeeded even after experiencing so much injustice.

    • @modrikisadopted6337
      @modrikisadopted6337 2 года назад +6

      I know Nigerian love Black Americans.

    • @nursemaggie2321
      @nursemaggie2321 2 года назад +5

      They "succeeded?!?" If you take the time to check their potentials and their actual realities I think you will say differently. However.

    • @TheNatekirk
      @TheNatekirk 2 года назад +8

      @@nursemaggie2321 soooo what are Africans doing that FBAs aren't doing? I go to college graduations almost every year and FBAs graduates are more than African graduates. So stop!

    • @omzy8700
      @omzy8700 2 года назад

      @@nursemaggie2321 I’m African but African are not succeeding until we build our own country, you going to another land talk about the black people that went through struggle,and laid the foundation for all other black people around the wolrld is sad , you wouldn’t be in America if it wasn’t for black American , you wouldn’t have found a job in a big company if it wasn’t for black America , neither buy a house in a white neighbourhood or take loan , we should focus fixing our own countries before talking bad about other black people in other countries ,Nigeria and as a whole Africa has already a lot of bad reputation so let’s fix Africa before talking bad about other black people.

    • @nursemaggie2321
      @nursemaggie2321 2 года назад

      @@TheNatekirk if you limit their potentials to graduating it's on you. Neither are the Africans operating to their full potentials so expand, you, your mind!
      If I were to respond to your comment directly, it's will be virtually impossible to compare both groups as you have done with having their population demographics, so your "more than" holds no grounds given that the demographics are not balanced. Just to add. Dig alittle deeper. When we as a people will recognize our REAL potential, then the tides would shift.

  • @abimbolaopaleye-oluwo7998
    @abimbolaopaleye-oluwo7998 2 года назад +149

    The narrative of that person is not the same for every Nigerian. As a Nigerian who have been here for over 30yrs I didn't get this talk from my family, because we do not have that type of ignorance. A person's upbringing plays a big role in his or her perspective to life.

    • @christaclemons1455
      @christaclemons1455 2 года назад +8

      Thank you 🙏🏽

    • @traceebclaybrook
      @traceebclaybrook 2 года назад +11

      Best response! I think people in general want their children to interact decent people…period!

    • @henry5118
      @henry5118 2 года назад +23

      It's not ignorance to advise your child against keeping bad company. Even black Americans themselves don't want to live around other black Americans.

    • @GrandEmporer
      @GrandEmporer 2 года назад

      Move back to Africa and help your dam people! Selfish dog.

    • @chukwumaolisehemekaouwarre3236
      @chukwumaolisehemekaouwarre3236 2 года назад

      @@henry5118 kase klose

  • @nikkyjackson6500
    @nikkyjackson6500 2 года назад +23

    This is the most intelligent African American RUclipsr I’ve seen. As a Nigerian living here in the States for over 8 years I agree with most of your points . Much love Bro 💪🏾👑

    • @trashtalker9753
      @trashtalker9753 Год назад

      Then you haven't seen many AA RUclipsrs.

    • @chrisudoka5420
      @chrisudoka5420 Год назад

      You are not Nigeria , that name alone is Caucasian name

    • @nikkyjackson6500
      @nikkyjackson6500 Год назад

      @@chrisudoka5420 I am a Nigerian but yes you’re right about my name . Omo Yoruba panbele nimi !!

    • @chrisudoka5420
      @chrisudoka5420 Год назад

      @@nikkyjackson6500 hahaha , sister i thought you are Caucasian before.

    • @nikkyjackson6500
      @nikkyjackson6500 Год назад

      @@trashtalker9753 I know there are brilliant content creators out there who are African Americans 👑❤️. I said He’s intelligent because He took his time to dig deeper about our mother land AFRICA ! He saw beyond what anyone will tell him, He studied the people and even came up with solutions on how to help his African American people in understanding the importance of education and open to lots of opportunities that is here in the States. I will love to give him a big hug , handsome and freaking smart 🔥🔥. On the other hand, I personally don’t like Kelvin Samuel culture vampires bunch of ignorant black men bringing down their women. Omg this is disgusting and a sign of self hate and ignorance. I’ve seen lots of these men acting weird on RUclips talking from both sides of their nasty mouth calling black women names . Are you African Americans not ashamed of yourself? How many race/ ethnic groups in the world talk down on their women on cyberspace?? Most of these nasty black men need to learn some manners. Disgusting 🤮

  • @brendafleming7951
    @brendafleming7951 2 года назад +24

    Oh my God Jay, you and I have the same mindset. I have only been to South Africa and Ghana, and had the best time of my life. I will be visiting more African countries.

  • @crystalboylston1575
    @crystalboylston1575 2 года назад +131

    I’m AA married to a Nigerian. The saying that Africans don’t like AAs is not true. I find that we do have so much in common. And honestly we together are finding that there is so much we need to do together. My Nigerian family love me. They are amazed at my honesty and straightforwardness. I advise all AAs to go to the continent because their is so much to be done and learn.

    • @jaycameronofficial
      @jaycameronofficial  2 года назад +10

      Wisdom!

    • @BronzeSista
      @BronzeSista 2 года назад +13

      What do Black Americans need to learn about Africa,? And why do we need to? Ghana did the year of return, but it was just a tourist trap. They didn't offer citizenship. i think we should visit but there is nothing there for us.

    • @Anthony_Ola
      @Anthony_Ola 2 года назад +51

      @@BronzeSista…so here’s the thing, you don’t need to learn anything from Africa…the white European Americans will learn from Africa on your behalf and then you can learn about Africa from them as usual. Best of luck believing their narrative.

    • @carlalandrau6033
      @carlalandrau6033 2 года назад +7

      There's still a lot to be done here in America.

    • @carlalandrau6033
      @carlalandrau6033 2 года назад +3

      I think we're learning enough from the Africans here in America.

  • @sykherebrown
    @sykherebrown 2 года назад +49

    I went to Africa (Nigeria and Kenya) for the first time in July and I loved it. If you're Caribbean or Afro-American, I highly recommend on visiting the continent. And you're right about Nigeria. The hustle is strong. It's definitely contagious.

  • @travelerawakenings8477
    @travelerawakenings8477 2 года назад +16

    This is not just Nigerian Parents. Hatian Parents warned their children also against African Americans. They see them as trouble makers who don't respect the law. We don't have the same values for sure. I was married to one, and I regret. We are very different. When we come to America, the second week we are here, we find a place to Learn English, then find a school and a,job. We focus on our goal. By two three year, we already graduated in College and ready to buy our first house and keep going. No time to be a gangster. The ones who want to be a gangster, do it back home. If we decide to come here, we have a goal and a plan that we try to reach..

    • @mitzi4043
      @mitzi4043 2 года назад +1

      Lots of generalizations. Just like Americans think all Haitians worship the devil via Voodoo.

    • @Kreedo1110
      @Kreedo1110 2 года назад

      @@supremefire31xd88 Exactly, begging makes us look weak. We should just worry about our conditions here in America rather than worrying about Africans

    • @yesohyes9198
      @yesohyes9198 2 года назад +2

      All of them including fake Ghanaians I see them on tiktok and also see them on some AA here in Ghana they will tell them to go back if they are criticizing the bad of their country. Watch them play good and hypocrites on the comments section here. Very funny people

  • @abdulidi733
    @abdulidi733 Год назад +4

    It’s just wonderful the way you put things in perspective. Respect man! When I left 9ja long ago to travel to America, no one told me to stay away from African Americans. Even my former coach who went to college in America and returned to 9ja NEVER told me anything negative about African Americans. Thanks for your objectivity!!

  • @moosshabaz90
    @moosshabaz90 2 года назад +5

    Keep preaching brother. I hope so many of our brothers in both continents hear 👂 and understand this. Peace from Africa

  • @charlesekine
    @charlesekine 2 года назад +14

    Your content was informative, there is so much work to be done really; we have to make conscious efforts at dis-mantling stereotypes, suspicion, etc; these vices set us wide and far apart from each other (Africans and Black Americans). Our exposure to other cultures enhances our global outlook and places us on a path of understanding the psychology of others and the politics of the world. I'm a Nigerian by the way, being street-wise is the code out here! That is what makes us ride the tide wherever we are in the world.

  • @khadidiatoufall472
    @khadidiatoufall472 2 года назад +35

    These people talking do not represent the whole Africa. I’m in my 60’s and grew up in Ivory Coast. In the 60's, 70's, and 80's before moving to the USA, 30 some years ago, we had-I still believe we still do-a great image of African/Americans: our history books then, taught us about slavery, the civil right in America, the bombing in Alabama, the Jackson five, and the Globe-Trotters, and so on... On our national television, we watched Soul Train, which helped us know artists such as James Brown, the Cool and the gang, Diana Ross, and so many A/As artists. Unfortunately, in Cote-d'Ivoire, we do not speak English, but we romanticized about Black Americans. For instance, even though at that time I did not speak English, in one of our bookstores (la Librairie de France), I bought Jet and Ebony magazines only to look at pictures of African/Americans. I'll rubbed my hands on their faces and loving them. In my family including every single Ivorian family, the same feeling was going on, we adored Black Americans. I could not wait to meet A/As in person. In fact, when I was leaving for the USA, my older sisters were excited about me meeting A/As, as if I was going to meet the Pope. Until I move to the USA 30 years ago to fulfill my dream of meeting my cousins as we call A/As in our community. So please, Africa is a vast continent with different experiences and upbringings.

    • @traceebclaybrook
      @traceebclaybrook 2 года назад +3

      Wonderful, glad you were taught better than to be judgmental.

    • @zikimma
      @zikimma 2 года назад +14

      merci Khadi... i'm also from Cote d'Ivoire and we were so in love with A/A that when you are to travel to USA- after the usual "make sure you bring back the educaitonal degree"...the joke was to tell you to also "come back with a cute A/A husband"... it's true the majority of people in Africa see the hollywood narative of A/A- so you cna't blame someone who as never been to America to have another opinion other thant what we see in the movies... the same goes for the western world thinking that African are all poor, sick and smelling bad. traveling is the best education... I came to the US as a teenager and i understood from the get-go that w/o our A/A family here we would not have any rights--so i am grateful to them... UNITED WE WILL WIN..DIVIDED THEY WILL CONTINUE TO SUBJUGATE US... THANKS

    • @therayman3
      @therayman3 2 года назад

      Are you related to Tacko Fall?

    • @Biobele
      @Biobele 2 года назад

      You were probably amongst the lucky few who were rich at the time. But your case or scenario is define not representative of all Ivorians.

    • @carlalandrau6033
      @carlalandrau6033 2 года назад +2

      Thank you , for that acknowledgment more of your people need to educate themselves. Some of their behavior is very hurtful to African Americans. African Americans do not understand the separatism/ classism / tribalism that a lot of Africans have. Black American see everyone that look like them as a part of them and for the most part we are loyal to each other. We strongly believe in Justice and equality for all. Most of all we believe together we stand divided we fall that is how we have made America better for our people. The work is still not done but we have reached an impasse.

  • @adejohnson137
    @adejohnson137 2 года назад +10

    I have lived in the US since I was 20. I am now in my 50s and I was never told about these negative perceptions of African-Americans before coming to the US.. Unfortunately, I have had mostly negative experiences with African-Americans. Yes, I have been luck with some African-American lifelong friends who helped me to counter those negative experiences. Education is needed on both sides but unfortunately the media is still in control of the black narratives.

    • @tonirowe1975
      @tonirowe1975 Месяц назад

      Thank for not judging all AA by your bad experiences with some of us ❤❤❤

  • @ifeifesi
    @ifeifesi 2 года назад +10

    My parents always told me to avoid people regardless of race or culture who behave contrary to the values we hold.

  • @dennisnyambane8530
    @dennisnyambane8530 2 года назад +10

    You are a breath of fresh air my brother! I'm from Kenya living in the 🇺🇸 and I understand exactly what you are saying! I hope to meet you in kenya and show you what I've done. Thank you.

  • @abode409
    @abode409 2 года назад +6

    Jay, I happened upon your video. Very nice take on this topic. I have one parent that is African American and one born in Africa. I was raised in the US and consider myself African American. I think you did an excellent job articulating this complex topic. It's important for us to think through this issue from an academic perspective (as you have done) and not jump to a defensive position . We need to develop thicker skin and look to the root of these issues. Ultimately it's important for use to handle our business. Once our community ( African American) is back on par, we will have more confidence and not be so bothered by these class issues.

  • @nanakofi1710
    @nanakofi1710 2 года назад +14

    The bottom line is we need to love ourselves as black people !

    • @sizla8837
      @sizla8837 2 года назад

      We aren't "Black People", we are Africans

    • @charleeshaw7423
      @charleeshaw7423 2 года назад +4

      Black Americans do love ourselves.. we always have
      We live it, we love it, and we have always shown it

    • @wisdommasterreviews4712
      @wisdommasterreviews4712 2 года назад

      @@charleeshaw7423 Africans are the ones that hate their self we do not have a bleaching epidemic!

    • @modrikisadopted6337
      @modrikisadopted6337 2 года назад

      Hard thing. Jay said improve on yourself and be on top of your game. We must all get well educated and rightly and travel not to look and dance and drink only but to build for yourself. After that go do what Jay is doing. Reach out and pull others up. Jay has raised tha stake, Its people like jay that will rock and rule Africa and rightly so. love is too expensive. no one has the capacity to give it. Besides who needs love in Nigeria now/ Go get knowledge, education, relationships, travel and be good. only very poor people have and do give love. you do not need to go to schoool to have that and it alone does not solve issues. can you die for me? No so do waht you can do. God bless Jay.

  • @luckyigbomor4088
    @luckyigbomor4088 2 года назад +25

    This is so true and so on point. I can see how traveling gas broadened your scope. This is the kind of content that needs to go viral. As far as I'm concerned you are an Igbo man. Everything about you screams Igbo chief. 😄

    • @jaycameronofficial
      @jaycameronofficial  2 года назад +3

      💪🏾💪🏾 Thank you for watching! And your encouragement

    • @mikejones-wn1sw
      @mikejones-wn1sw 2 года назад

      Lol, na you just see a brotha with money not a mystified african that somehow ended up in American

    • @luckyigbomor4088
      @luckyigbomor4088 2 года назад

      @@mikejones-wn1sw Perhaps if you articulate yourself better I'll be able to understand you.

    • @mikejones-wn1sw
      @mikejones-wn1sw 2 года назад

      @@luckyigbomor4088 meaning, he is an indigenous American. Not an African. And when africans see us on their shores. All they see is money and how to get us to spend money with them. They will never say to his face he is not a real african even though in there heart of hearts they know he is not. We know it as well some of my people choose to play this fantasy game. That we somehow derived from african people or they are us and we are them. But we are not. Even the people in these countries on the continent of africa are immigrants, some from different areas of the continent and some from India. There are alot of mixed race africans. Spain is actually connected to the african continent. So the admixture is a lot higher then they portray. The only issue my people really have is that your people sold some of my people. Who traveled to your continent and set up shop, and set up order and structure and gave your people culture. Only to be stabbed in the back, invaded and captured only to sell them to white people like the Spaniards and British etc. These people were looking for a certain type of people and not any ol african. So the ones who decide to go back we wish them the best with that. And to the africans who come here we ask that you go back home after 10 years and stay there and build up your lands so you don't have to keep running here to us. And undermine us and side with the white man against us like you did in the past. But that would betoo much like right. Hopefully this long drawn out explanation is able to bring you up to speed, I understand English is not your first language and I sympathize that with you.

  • @sozb6708
    @sozb6708 2 года назад +9

    I feel sorry for people who didn't grow up with ALL kinds of Black people. I grew up in Memphis in the 90s. People from there have a "point and kill" mentality too. If they want it they gone go after it legally or illegally they gotta have it. Top notch hustlers on both sides of the coin. On my visit to Nigeria I felt VERY MUCH at home! The colorfulness, swag, aggression, sweet talk, tuff talk, confidence... it was so familiar .

    • @chrisl8815
      @chrisl8815 2 года назад

      Uncultured..

    • @sozb6708
      @sozb6708 2 года назад +2

      @@chrisl8815 false. It is THE CULTURE. Be strong. Win for your people. No dey carry last. It is original. They don't take on the false cloak of modesty that was given to others through colonization/slavery. I reject fake kindness too. When I present myself to the world I let it be known...I am here to win my family.

    • @chrisl8815
      @chrisl8815 2 года назад

      @@sozb6708 LOL

  • @njemilenantan2269
    @njemilenantan2269 2 года назад +9

    Listen to what she says though. She is not co-signing it. She is saying that how can you do this when the Black Americans fought for you to have certain benefits when you get there? She says that Black Americans can feel this perception that some Africans feel superior.

  • @aghonelego2379
    @aghonelego2379 2 года назад +16

    great talk man. I'm Nigerian. You addressed this issue better simply because you have traveled. You have lived in Africa and some countries and understood cultural differences and adjustments.

    • @nikkyjackson6500
      @nikkyjackson6500 2 года назад +2

      Yes as a Nigerian I agree with you . He’s a smart Man

  • @soleil2118
    @soleil2118 2 года назад +16

    Your wisdom 🙌🏾 is way beyond your years. I hope and pray that our people listen to you. All the points you brought up are valid. I wish my parents had the talk with me, they told me we were the same, they were our people...I came and embraced our people in America, married one and had children, but I am living to regret it. They would do the least around you and try to get the most out of you, whether work or in marriage and give you pack of excuses. The minute the python gets its kill like you said, build a house or run a successful business, then you will see the real them.. like their masters, they steal it or ruin it for you. Our people act like their former masters act around the world, they are yet to see it and fight to heal from that. It's truly hard to feel sorry for people who have access to so much but sit around and complain. May that crown of divine wisdom never depart from you. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @jaycameronofficial
      @jaycameronofficial  2 года назад +1

      Wow thank you for sharing.

    • @Laidout2004
      @Laidout2004 2 года назад +2

      Again painting everyone the same is ignorant as he stated throughout the entire video. I guess you missed that. I had a close friend who married a Nigerian man and he was very lazy, abusive, entitled, cheater, etc. But thinking all of them are the same would be ignorant.

  • @ltfkdk861
    @ltfkdk861 2 года назад +4

    Excellent, Excellent talk!!!!! the best analysis of the tension between Africans and African americans, brilliant job Jay, much love.

  • @damilola3636
    @damilola3636 2 года назад +29

    This funny thing about this is that it not actually widespread in Nigeria, but it happens. I would say that the type of perception was actually shaped by the media.
    I see a lot of Africans here claiming it’s only Nigeria. But majority of Africans would agree that their parents told them similar things about Nigerians as well whenever they are travelling out of their country. I have met people from three different African countries who confirmed this.
    It is more or less like a toxic cycle among Africans and people of African descents. Sometimes I tried to understand the root cause of this but it is always hard to reach a conclusion. Could it be a result of abuse which stem from both slavery, colonialism and neocolonialism that has made people of Africa and Africa always going against themselves to look good to their oppressors?

    • @jaycameronofficial
      @jaycameronofficial  2 года назад +4

      Thanks for sharing. It definitely sounds like a biproduct of all three.

    • @kwamekankam-boadu2467
      @kwamekankam-boadu2467 2 года назад +5

      @@Damilola, I'm of Ghanaian & Nigerian heritage, yet none of my uncles nor aunties, or parents ever shared such a thing with me,.

    • @damilola3636
      @damilola3636 2 года назад +1

      I think you got the best of both worlds.:-) I am aware of Ghanaians who were both born abroad and in Ghana who have attested to this. People from other African countries included.
      They didn't tell me about that either, and the majority of my pals are also unaware of it.

    • @yesohyes9198
      @yesohyes9198 2 года назад +5

      @@kwamekankam-boadu2467 Keep lying to yourself I see Ghanaians attacking AA when they say the truth and call them names you can look for validation here but we all know the truth. Also a lady from Sierra Leon 🇸🇱 say on Tiktok same thing. That their parents say such to them, it’s right there so anybody pretending is fake. My Ghanaians friend said they are rough that’s why they don’t associate themselves with them here in USA. Fake all want we know you all

    • @sunnyyande378
      @sunnyyande378 2 года назад +3

      @@kwamekankam-boadu2467, it is good that you were not told. On the other hand, the fact that you were not told doesn't mean that others were not. This is the difference I see between Nigerians and Ghanaians. You see that Nigerian coming coming to a TV show to tell it the way it is, Ghanaians would never do that. They will say it is not a nice thing to say even if it is true that our parents told us that. It is part of the whole what Jay is saying "different culture" and we have to acknowledge this.

  • @babalegba4605
    @babalegba4605 2 года назад +11

    I am a Nigerian that has lived in New York since 1998. My parents never told me that nonsense. And I don't know of any others that were told that.

    • @ADE-of-LAGOS
      @ADE-of-LAGOS 2 года назад +3

      It's usually elitist Nigerian parents that does such. The same way they do back home looking down on people on the lower rung of the ladder.

    • @bandit4true
      @bandit4true 2 года назад

      @@ADE-of-LAGOS more than likely 100%

  • @benedictonobrakpeya9635
    @benedictonobrakpeya9635 2 года назад +10

    My parents did not tell me that, i am a Nigeria living in Denver, colorado.shocking to hear this

  • @saavwafare
    @saavwafare 10 месяцев назад +1

    My brother!!! This posting is 🔥
    The way you've broken down acclimating to other cultures abroad and using those attributes to your advantage is priceless! I've traveled and have learned how to adjust but your explanation really resonated (the lightbulb came on!) with me. I appreciate your content. 🙌🏾

  • @jasonnelson316
    @jasonnelson316 2 года назад +7

    Great video. I am AA and have friends on the Continent and in the US from a few various countries. I understand how my Ghanaian friends are different from my Nigerian friends. It's a life skill on knowing how to flow with people from various backgrounds. The experience in the airport that you described could easily have happened in New York City. lol

    • @wisdommasterreviews4712
      @wisdommasterreviews4712 2 года назад +1

      AA and Foundational Black Americans are not the same!AA is a term we never wanted or voted for because it's a false title! We are not immigrants to America! We built America and are indigenous to the land!AAs real are 1st and Second Generation Africans born in America from Immigrant parents but have no genealogy in the Americas!

    • @chukwumaolisehemekaouwarre3236
      @chukwumaolisehemekaouwarre3236 2 года назад

      @@wisdommasterreviews4712 you are not but Africans

    • @carlalandrau6033
      @carlalandrau6033 2 года назад

      It's about knowing how to assimilate into a country.

  • @jasiribusiness2544
    @jasiribusiness2544 Год назад +1

    You have absolutely nailed it on this issue my brother. I have always wondered how to explain it articulately while discussing this topic with friends & colleagues. Spot on!

  • @fistandpen2505
    @fistandpen2505 2 года назад +25

    "I can kill the game in America, I can kill the game in Africa"... all I can say is spoken like a true Naija man lol! Going to Nigeria done caused a whole problem Jay, woke up that Naija spirit in you.
    You're a 100% right jokes aside. I think Nigerians will also need a broader education about ADOS, rather than just the goblins and I think that's happening, but I think ADOS also need to be real about how some of this perception gets communicated (rap, movies etc.... and now IG) to the broader world AND in the community (cab driver just got killed in NYC). As a Nigerian, we're going thru the same thing the lawyers, entrepreneurs, artists e.g., doing it gotta seize the narrative from the scammers and corrupt folks. Because of that, I don't get salty when people say that stuff about Nigeria. It is MY responsibility to do my part on that.

    • @jaycameronofficial
      @jaycameronofficial  2 года назад +2

      Hahaha!

    • @tloutlou2655
      @tloutlou2655 2 года назад +4

      I hate the word "ADOS"

    • @csting9738
      @csting9738 2 года назад +3

      Sure so long as you deal with the ghosts too. Some tribes in Nigeria sold us to the Europeans. Keep things in perspective.

    • @modrikisadopted6337
      @modrikisadopted6337 2 года назад +1

      @@tloutlou2655 what does it mean any way? Does it mean profit or loss of money? I hate to lose money

    • @modrikisadopted6337
      @modrikisadopted6337 2 года назад +5

      @@csting9738 what do we now do to the tribes? some tribes cause World War 1 and WW2. Some are warming for WW3. The story of the slave trade are those written by Authors you need to investigate. Sold keh? Sell or no sell, did they have the power to resist the slave traders with all the guns and conspiracies etc. Hope we can go after the ones selling us in Libya etc today. My point is lets leave that progress to building while we handle the past constructively

  • @tok1879
    @tok1879 2 года назад +1

    Bro, the ability to see from so many different perspectives and share a break down from that POV the way you do, is not something just anybody is blessed with... Respect! Subscribed!

  • @blafred
    @blafred 2 года назад +2

    I'm not sure if this is under your belt already. But you would make A GREAT MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER!!!

  • @Samba652
    @Samba652 2 года назад +1

    Maaaan YO
    You dropped major GAME brotha
    Much respect to you indeed !

  • @akasimensah7953
    @akasimensah7953 2 года назад +3

    We are always offended when Nigerians say something but we will be happy to insults them

  • @randomvideoshere6540
    @randomvideoshere6540 2 года назад +1

    I love your take. You are intelligent and well traveled so your insight is powerful. I love you. You hit it spot on

  • @ibinabos.amachree8762
    @ibinabos.amachree8762 2 года назад +3

    Jay, You nailed it please try and visit other regions or states of Nigeria. You can start with the south south, south east and west .

  • @RodrigoOswego
    @RodrigoOswego 2 года назад

    Excellent video! Thank you for taking the time to share your story and your wisdom!!

  • @Isiejeme0829
    @Isiejeme0829 2 года назад +57

    Nice you brought this up, as you do maybe you'd also take the time to explain to Nigerians/Africans what transpired when the first major influx into America happened. We heard stories of how some "black" americans will ridicule, shame Africans for their accents, names, hair, food choices and even the way they smelled. However, you have travelled to Africa multiple times, can attest to the behaviour of Africans to people from other lands, not to talk of black Americans (folks who're originally closer to them) who we held in high regards (until recent revelations, online bile started) and still do but only now a little reserved. Moreover, Africans have encountered many faces/races since creation, I believe the last thing they'd want is to detest the descendants of enslaved Africans (some of who are now FBA, ADOS, all other acronyms) because we're a people of the earth and love those who show us love, can be very bitter to those who show us hate. I know not all "black" Americans are negative towards Africans but research shows that they're in the majority. Let the good ones stand up and let's forge ahead OR NOT.

    • @traceebclaybrook
      @traceebclaybrook 2 года назад +12

      Let’s be real AODS is not the majority. There are too many educated black Americans who don’t have time to worry about or hate Africans. Maybe some Africans need to visit some prominent HBCUs.

    • @Isiejeme0829
      @Isiejeme0829 2 года назад +4

      @@traceebclaybrook I accept your position and hope your suggestion is taken up by more Africans. However, we're now reflecting on what triggered that behaviour in some African parents, we will like the problem/s tackled from the roots. Bless.

    • @BronzeSista
      @BronzeSista 2 года назад +12

      I live in the Southern states. I didn't even have any Africans in my high school. What Nigerians need to know is most Black American parents don't ever talk about Africans period, unless it was African children are starving, please eat you food. Nigerian parents can tell their children stay away from Black Americans. Its no lost to us, because they are not apart of our lives. I rarely hear any Black Americans say, they want to visit Nigeria. Its always Ghana, South Africa, Egypt, Kenya, Tanzania and Liberia.

    • @Isiejeme0829
      @Isiejeme0829 2 года назад +5

      @@BronzeSista Some A A have come, have made Nigeria home. Nigeria is different from Ghana and the others. Do you, leave us alone.

    • @ADE-of-LAGOS
      @ADE-of-LAGOS 2 года назад +7

      Funny, I met a young lady of Nigerian descent who shared her same experience. Even though she was born here. The jokes were about her name. But am sure it was all ignorance. It's on both sides.

  • @moongoddess987
    @moongoddess987 2 года назад +2

    As an African living in Africa. I regularly ask myself "there's no corner of Africa including the Sahara desert where you won't find white Americans, what about my own black Americans, why are they not coming?.

  • @misslady5029
    @misslady5029 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for your narrative brother! Most of us have never traveled out side our neighborhoods ..and mad if someone else does..have certain cultural basis. That's why it is so important that you study the cultural before you travel! My father used to always say...if you don't ask you don't know!😊❤

  • @amgmusicsl
    @amgmusicsl 2 года назад

    Wooooooow. A man who can walk in both spheres. Bruh you da mehn. A lack on understanding both cultures can be a major hurdle and barrier. Haven’t even listened to the entire podcast. Have already subscribed and will be sharing this link for sure

  • @bedinabebe4521
    @bedinabebe4521 2 года назад +6

    Ghana has many great children's books. Upon seeing them, I was disappointed that my son was grown when I got the opportunity to take him there. Those books make wonderful gifts.

    • @tombimashri8149
      @tombimashri8149 2 года назад

      PSE could u tell us are the books in English or is it just Ghanians language and where can we buy those books PSE. X you

  • @joannakolawole2378
    @joannakolawole2378 2 года назад +1

    This video motivated me!!!
    Thank you so much🙏🏽

  • @FreedomBiafra
    @FreedomBiafra 2 года назад +18

    Every Afrikan american parent has told their child to stay away from Tyrone, Leroy , or Tameka. Why should it be any different when it comes to Nigerian parents saying it?

    • @bosshogg0713
      @bosshogg0713 2 года назад +13

      There a difference between "stay away from bad people" than telling someone to stay away from a whole group of people.

    • @sumayyaporche3225
      @sumayyaporche3225 2 года назад +9

      @@bosshogg0713 Exactly 💯

    • @africanqueen1giselle642
      @africanqueen1giselle642 2 года назад

      No, this statement isn't true. The only thing we have been told is to stay away from the white people and for good reasons.

    • @FreedomBiafra
      @FreedomBiafra 2 года назад +5

      @@bosshogg0713 you can't move the goal post and you can't generalize all Nigerians. Y'all hear one or two Nigerians say this and all of sudden y'all experts? None of you probably never met a Nigerian. Again, there are Afrikan american parents that tell their children to stay away from a specific group or person. It's no different

    • @bosshogg0713
      @bosshogg0713 2 года назад

      @@FreedomBiafra Another goal poster..lol let's not at like some African parents don't tell their kids to stay away from African Americans. I hadn't really given my prospective so I don't get the whole goal post comment. I been to the continent and for the most part the people are welcoming. But, we all know that it happens. That's all I'm saying. Look I get along with my brothers and sisters in general and they will tell you themselves then they get here and be best friends with us, so I'm not talking out of ignorances.

  • @robbycarson4999
    @robbycarson4999 2 года назад +1

    Preach brotha Jay! Preach!! I'm loving yo strategy of taking advantage of the opportunities u've got on both sides in North America n Africa. Now that is what I call max optimization! Ur mos def applying SWOT Analysis all across!! Life is all about survival of the fittest period! Be it in Africa or the West! The only difference is the skills applied in the different environments. Based on what I've studied in school in operations mgmt, I've come 2 understand that in any situation u may find yourself in, b4 u do anything, always apply the SWOT analysis strategy. This allows u to assess yourself n the environment ur in to determine the best strategy 4u 2b successful. All successful businesses apply this strategy 2 remain competitive!! U can do research about it. Life is basically like it is the business world! U gots 2 find a way 2 stay competitive period!! Otherwise, u won't last very long!! All we have 2 remember that SWOT analysis is a universal strategy that can be applied in all types of situations. U can apply it in a family setting, at your job, etc.. Am yet 2 find a situation where it isn't applicable. Thats how immigrants like Nigerians r able to hustle n take advantage of the opportunities available n be successful in foreign lands while some indigenous folks r busy crying foul, waiting on their govts 2 come 2 their rescue. Remember, if it is not Nigerians, the next person in line will take it from u if u don't get off yo behind n take advantage of your opportunities! Like the saying goes: U can't make an omelette without cracking a few eggs. Sometimes part of trying 2 survive n remain competitive u may have 2 step on a few toes in order 2 get to the next stage of the hustle! Beli dat!! Its called life n l'm just keeping it 💯!!

  • @AmericanAfrikan-BurkinaFaso
    @AmericanAfrikan-BurkinaFaso 2 года назад +5

    It is much ignorance on both sides. I am AA married to a beautiful Nigerian wife who is amazing. From her family to her friends. My family is very accepting towards her and loves her family to death! That said I also have Nigerian friends who have told me that their family has told them to stay away from us. It definitely hurts because it seems as if they encourage them to almost worship whites whom did their people much damage but loathe us. However I’ve seen AAs (usually adolescence) tease and mock our African brothers and sisters in school. We need to come together and JAY you are helping bridge this gap! We are one people and strongest together! We need to raise our kids differently with more tolerance and education. “Up you mighty race”- Marcus Garvey!

    • @laurenclark7345
      @laurenclark7345 2 года назад

      Would a Black American Woman be permitted to marry a Nigerian man of well means, if she went to Nigeria?

    • @laurenclark7345
      @laurenclark7345 2 года назад

      How does this benefit Black American women? Does your union permit Black American women access to resources in Nigeria?

    • @immaculate2197
      @immaculate2197 Год назад

      @@laurenclark7345 if you are good and lucky to meet a rich Nigeria man then you good . Nigerian rich men want a good and traditional woman

    • @laurenclark1990
      @laurenclark1990 Год назад

      @@immaculate2197 Sorry Sir! It doesn't work that way. And you didn't answer my question. That's improper advice and it's untruthful. How does this work for Black American women?

    • @immaculate2197
      @immaculate2197 Год назад

      @@laurenclark1990 the black American who wants to marry a well to do man must go to Nigeria coz the rich Nigerians mostly stay in Nigeria

  • @kokoajay5540
    @kokoajay5540 2 года назад +2

    I wonder why the beef is for Nigerians when they have never been the only African in the 🇺🇸

  • @HoneyBunches100
    @HoneyBunches100 2 года назад +4

    People who are good judges of character will recognize who has morals and principles and who DOES NOT and thus cannot be trusted because they do not live by any Code of behavior.

  • @LinLin-cb5xk
    @LinLin-cb5xk 2 года назад +2

    Thank you for your insight and most importantly your understanding. I'm Nigerian I feel sometimes we are misunderstood

  • @sammytosin1088
    @sammytosin1088 2 года назад +4

    Black people all over the world need to come together in some kind of union. We need an avenue to talk to one another. Then only can we begin to understand ourselves.

    • @chrisl8815
      @chrisl8815 2 года назад +1

      Most BAs claim they are not African. So how do you expect that to work?

  • @fjwells593
    @fjwells593 2 года назад

    Great one and well said and INFORMATIVE! Eyeopening! I highly recommend this VIDEO! God bless you, Jay!

  • @Melanin_Move
    @Melanin_Move 2 года назад +3

    Boy it really hits the emotions to hear such truth!

  • @wakaikozy6084
    @wakaikozy6084 2 года назад +1

    Thanks for insights Jay.. This was powerful

  • @nanaasafu-adjaye4239
    @nanaasafu-adjaye4239 2 года назад +11

    Different strokes all across continents, countries, … right down to homes. So, I’m not surprised we have some IGNORANT stuff “coming from certain homes” or quarters as she says on her platform. Although I’m not Nigerian & cannot speak to how pervasive that line of thinking is in the country, as an African immigrant, I can categorically say not all from the continent or even from Nigeria would promote or pursue such thinking. We come to the US-American mainland seeking to live in HARMONY, RESPECT & PEACE; of course, & obviously, along with that comes the crass. Some people just can’t help themselves continuing in such thinking, & behavior that comes from that.
    Thanks, Jay, for the tact & effort putting all of this in perspective addressing such toxic stuff put out there..

    • @vernastawhyte9047
      @vernastawhyte9047 2 года назад

      They call us child of slaves. From in the early 1970s when they start coming to 🇺🇸 us. They sold us for 30 pieces of silver. Hence 400yrs of slavery.

    • @Lodestarter
      @Lodestarter 2 года назад

      The BLM are trained MARXISTS. They spread division for fun.

  • @tstar5944
    @tstar5944 2 года назад +1

    NEWS FLASH: The world needs Africa, NOT the other way around. Let's clear that up!!!!

  • @room920renalforlife
    @room920renalforlife 2 года назад +7

    A while back I had a coworker who I believe was Swahili. She routinely talked about how African American men are weak and emotional. She and her fam really looked down on us. I explained to her that the whole reason most people are in this country and for sure the reason why there are now so many Africans who are able to come here is because of the fact that AAs fought and died for those rights. Absolutely nothing has been given to AAs. Zero. We’ve had to fight and sometimes die for everything we have so if your family came here after 1865 (about when the 14th amendment was passed) you’ve benefited from our success.

    • @sungoddessbeauty9289
      @sungoddessbeauty9289 2 года назад +1

      There is no tribe or nation called Swahili. Swahili is a language spoken by different nations in Africa.

    • @mickdals7549
      @mickdals7549 2 года назад +4

      Try and make sense. Africans coming to America has got nothing to do with your struggle. America has been benefiting immensely from the natural resources taken from Africa till date.

    • @sungoddessbeauty9289
      @sungoddessbeauty9289 2 года назад +4

      Why do Americans always try throw their struggles about fighting for the benefit of Africans?
      I am here for 10-11 months, I am solely surviving on my savings. My husband works. What benefit has the hero’s of this countries given me as an African.
      With much respect, Americans ancestors who fought for their freedom first. Not for me. I am here because of marriage. And that has nothing to do with the struggles of the country.
      The price of a Green card is €1225+$585+$83
      That’s something I paid already out of my pocket. And I still don’t have the card. Yet my money has long been added to the tax system of this country. I don’t have no benefit in America. And if it comes to the point where I have the permission to work, it won’t be because of the history of America. It will be because I put out a resume and showed a great work ethic. And I will be paying high taxes, taxes that will be paying for some of those food stamps that I will never be on.
      I barely speak when in public because I am so terrified of the scrutiny from AA. So I keep quiet.

    • @sungoddessbeauty9289
      @sungoddessbeauty9289 2 года назад +2

      14th Amendment is for you not me, I’m here for a year and I can’t get none of the benefits that you folks claim we are here for. I can’t even get a drivers licence here until I get my green card.
      I don’t get how we are always being shamed for being here. Mandela fought for black South Africans, I can never claim that my liberation in 1990-1995 was for other nations when they came to South Africa.
      Gravitate towards me, and I will gravitate towards you too. You can’t mistreat Africans and then expect them to mingle with you.
      I understand this 14th amendment talk, but if I had come here before that, I would still be working hard for mines.
      And folks should remember that the Americans ancestors who fought for America and built America were our people.
      The slaves that were put in those boats to come and build America did not get into those boats as Americans. They were Africans. Kinta Kunte was African from Gambia. My 20 year old son was born in Ireland and he will tell you he is not European or Irish. He will tell you that he is “Irish born”
      Because he has no Irish heritage he just got born because I was in Ireland when I went into labour.
      So America was built by my ancestors too. The slaves were taken from our villages. And AA were born. But it’s my ancestors too.
      So part of my Africans

    • @mickdals7549
      @mickdals7549 2 года назад +2

      @@sungoddessbeauty9289 These BAs exaggerate their struggles just to compensate for their laziness and insecurities.

  • @marzouklatoundji7149
    @marzouklatoundji7149 Год назад +1

    Well said, my philosophy is to surround myself with + people.

  • @vernellsexton9616
    @vernellsexton9616 2 года назад +4

    I been to Nigeria. Sir, you are full ish. You about that Travel Money. I can never support and I am moving to Africa. I was traveling to Africa in the 1980s. You young Pan Africans are just fools.

  • @Cora_la_flor
    @Cora_la_flor 2 года назад

    This is great advice. Very inspiring and motivating. Thank you!

  • @orlasun5934
    @orlasun5934 2 года назад +15

    Anecdotes are not evidence that this is widespread.
    . No doubt some Nigerian parents could have advised their kids as such. This does not amount to all Nigerian parents have advised such .
    The negative stereo types seem to grow wings and fly for all varieties of Black groups and communities... It doesn't mean these issues don't exist...What it means for us as Black people is how do we squash and turn the negative tides and start to work together to accentuate our positives ? It's the only chance we have as a collective people to work together. My glass remains half full amidst the negative noise.
    We all need to stay away from negative influences regardless of creed or culture. There are good and bad everywhere.
    There are some great projects in the pipeline in a few African nations. I am just so much willing these projects to succeed so we can turn the corner as a people. It really be is down to us..... we have to rise above the pettiness and appeal to our best wisdoms and higher selves to turn the tide and soar. These divisions don't help

    • @Lodestarter
      @Lodestarter 2 года назад

      I assure you that no parents talked that way. Go stay with the whites. This is liberals playing divisive games.

  • @LilDusty5528
    @LilDusty5528 2 года назад

    This was a refreshing take on the topic. Thank you for this.

  • @yawos9024
    @yawos9024 2 года назад +4

    The same way other Africans are told to avoid Nigerians as much as possible. This is really silly. How many Nigerian parents have you counted to assume people are instructed to do such a thing.

    • @realtalk41
      @realtalk41 2 года назад

      hw are you differen for what he just said ,

    • @alvanalvino
      @alvanalvino 2 года назад

      200 millions plus Nigerians and they generalise is like that. Who cares? The AA don’t feed us do they? They have nothing we want. We are the alfas of Africa. Over 1 billion strong minus then with over half of the planets resources at our continents disposals. We just need to get rid of our leaders democratically or using revolution then fix our continent. Crash western economies by kicking their businesses out of Africa if they still refuses to pay reparation in the next 30 years then ask the diasporas everywhere to return to Africa to enjoy the wealth of their ancestors. Those raised on divisionism who choose to become gatekeepers of the oppressors screaming USA can remain where they are. Africa don’t need them as much as they need Africa. They can stupidly remain in their ignorance while their oppressors strip the land of their ancestors bare of excessive resources while they remain in abject poverty still reading from their 500 years old racist books that describes Africa as the dark continent of poor peoples. We were swimming in gold while the West lived in dirt. We will rise again with or without the diasporas. That is a fact. Those AA who are all traveled have very broad minds and they are reasonable and balanced and Africa is always open to them. It is their ancestral and spiritual home and we don’t gate-keep our kind so long as they come not with hate towards us to exploit us but to learn from us and become one with us.

  • @StandUpGill
    @StandUpGill 2 года назад

    Fantastic work/vid and message. It has great longevity for inspiration and food for thought intellectually. Continued successes.

  • @maameabena1458
    @maameabena1458 2 года назад +6

    Some of us our parents have to sell their lands to educate us, the day l had my American visa l didn't have plan ticket. I had to ask around, work for 2month to get my plan ticket. When l came I saw the opportunities in America, worked, got education and myself and husband doing well. Majority of us here are not privilege we came to survive and build for our parents. All these opportunities and government help no one have the excuse to fail

    • @sandrabanks2532
      @sandrabanks2532 2 года назад +1

      Why the slight toward AA? Such ungratefulness, disregard, for the sacrifice , sufferage we endured to exist as humans in the USA. SUCH hint of superiority , my parents taught us to L💜VE our people 🌍🕊🙏🏾

    • @sandrabanks2532
      @sandrabanks2532 2 года назад

      Our entire family are university graduates. 🌍NE L💕VE🕊

    • @loriannrichardson7644
      @loriannrichardson7644 2 года назад +2

      Not all Nigerians are successful in the US -- don't get it twisted. I know this for a fact -- I've worked with Nigerians. And if you think that negative stereotype is only about Black Americans, you haven't been paying attention. Nigerians have a negative reputation around the world.
      And what many don't know is that Black American women are the most educated group in the US, and as a demographic are #1 in creating businesses.

    • @preshyudoh
      @preshyudoh 2 года назад

      @@loriannrichardson7644 we are the most successful black ethnic group in America, don’t even think of it. Remove black female Immigrant of ( Carribean and African decent) from the most educated black female demographic in the US and that statistics drops to nothing. Among the most educated black women America, the one’s with high earning degrees in (medicine, science and Tech) are black women from immigrant background.

  • @ericagittens3295
    @ericagittens3295 2 года назад +1

    Thanks so much for that gold nugget

  • @Jenny-hk6eg
    @Jenny-hk6eg 2 года назад +6

    How many AA actually have good intentions towards the Africans? Most of them like to get over Africans and also mock them especially with accent.
    Even as a doctor here, the hate I get from AA is mind blowing. Sometimes I just think they are jealous period. Yes my child wouldn’t marry any AA.

    • @barrypayton2832
      @barrypayton2832 2 года назад +2

      There are many African Americans that have great intentions towards Africans. I depends on who you chose to associate with. There are AA that embrace several cultures and traditions of different ethnic groups. Especially in the major cities across the U.S. In my city there's a placed called Congo Square where we drum rhythms and dance our traditional steps of our African Ancestors. We go to African restaurants, mainly Gambian and Ethiopian. These are just a few examples of community coalition here. It's sad that your experience was not pleasant. Hopefully things will change for your child.

    • @frankbediako1372
      @frankbediako1372 2 года назад

      ​@@barrypayton2832 I guess your medical education didn't erase your ignorance. Good job, Uncle Tom. Azikewe was educated in an HBCU: food for thoughts!!!

    • @frankbediako1372
      @frankbediako1372 2 года назад

      Ignorance is a bliss. Hope you are not from Africa.

    • @bandit4true
      @bandit4true 2 года назад

      Yes let them marry the white people that you so much want to embrace.

    • @demeatricecosta2821
      @demeatricecosta2821 2 года назад +1

      Your comment is ignorant. As an educated AA I would love to know who you are. I would redirect all of AA professional friend away from your practice. Wow. If I ever find out who you are I will certainly expose you. I love all people from the Diaspora. Wow.

  • @AfricanUSA-th9ov
    @AfricanUSA-th9ov Год назад

    We Nigerian Living In America Don't Kick Our American Children Out When They Turn To 18 Years. We Help Them Until They Finished University. My American Daughter Finished High School in July 2022, We Let Her Go Straight To College August 2022. We Didn't Let Her Take Any Time Off. She Is Now In Second Semester Into Nursing school And Still Have A Place And Her Bedroom In Our House. We Pay For Her UBER To Go And Come. We Will Continue To Support Her Until She Is Done Schooling And Started Making Money And We Will Still Let Her Live At Home With Us With Love, Joy And Happiness ❤️

  • @nubianqueen09
    @nubianqueen09 2 года назад +4

    Thank you sir for speaking truth to this sensitive issue. I NEVER got such talks either. I hung with AA ALL the time and there NEVER was any disrespect!! I enjoy my AA family and friends. Respect is mutual. We are one race! The sooner we begin to connect collectively, the quicker we can begin to rid ourselves of wyte supremacy!!

  • @glamanesthesia5259
    @glamanesthesia5259 2 года назад +1

    I don't understand how they can say this when literally most of the population is in such dire situations and poverty. Like how can you look at someone as inferior.
    We literally fought for the rights we have, and didn't flee our country and thus africans even have the opportunity they have in the states cos of African americans.

  • @fortunatebabygirl8812
    @fortunatebabygirl8812 2 года назад +3

    Jay is so wise!
    Brilliant analysis.

  • @crownclearwater3152
    @crownclearwater3152 2 года назад +1

    When Africas move to the states they move in suburban areas. They’re not interested in their children learning to be victims, criminals, and subject to the urban culture of our young people today. This is very sad but true, and I don’t blame them.

  • @vintagechild4418
    @vintagechild4418 2 года назад +6

    Unfortunately both places have a caste system. It is very real, but you nailed it, we have differences, but a common enemy. If we can unite around a common goal of freedom, we can get somewhere.

  • @chesnelhenry7315
    @chesnelhenry7315 2 года назад

    Thank you for this comprehensive commentary of understanding the reality of the two cultures: African and Afro American.

  • @danieltessema4270
    @danieltessema4270 2 года назад +11

    The blame should not go only one way, rather it should be either way! Once, I used to work in a neighborhood where mainly black people live. They used to harass me every single day even the disabled and homeless ones. One day, a decent-looking guy, probably educated, listened to the way I spoke and called me "kunte, fresh off the boat!" and I could not take it anymore. I yelled at him "I came through the airport! you're ignorant that you wouldn't even bother to ask your forefathers how they got here! I am a free man, mentally and physically!" all of the sudden, he recoiled and said "I am sorry man! I shouldn't say that, I sincerely apologize for my word" After that we end up being good friends till this moment.

    • @teresaautreyexperience
      @teresaautreyexperience 2 года назад

      don't assume all black people came off a boat from Africa. Go read history we are n ot the same. We were in America before Slavery, most of us. How about Nigerians complain about the treatment of white people instead of what they don't like about black people. If it was not for the black people in America the Nigerians and all others from the continent of Africa would not have some of the privledges they have NOW. I'm so sick of the hate from across the ocean. Stay in your land and you won't have to worry about black people in America. WE ARE NOT AFRICANS!

  • @glennokafor6118
    @glennokafor6118 2 года назад +2

    Growing up in Lagos when we see some among us who look well nurtured, we called them black Americans. That's the depth of the love most of us had for AA

  • @randomvideoshere6540
    @randomvideoshere6540 2 года назад +6

    Everyone has a whole lot to learn from Nigerians, dislike or distrust them , doesn't matter. Watch and learn

    • @wolsilita
      @wolsilita 2 года назад +4

      As do Nigerians from others...Your country is wealthy, but it's citizens poor, nothing in that to brag about...trust!

    • @randomvideoshere6540
      @randomvideoshere6540 2 года назад

      @@wolsilita 👌👌👌👌👌

  • @andycool248
    @andycool248 2 года назад +2

    That Lady analysis about parents from nigeria saying their children should be careful when they get to America with African Americans is not true,I don't know where she get it from.I believe more in African americans in america,I trusted them more.

  • @ernestmwape
    @ernestmwape 2 года назад +20

    Does that Lady know what other Agricans think about Nigerians? Not too long ago Nigerian passport was a red flag at any airport or border point! That loudness and forthrightness needs calling out. Why doesnt she stay right there in Nigerian after the "talk" she had from her relatives? 🤡

    • @zeezeeabbas4190
      @zeezeeabbas4190 2 года назад +1

      Exactly 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

    • @kelvinotuya9663
      @kelvinotuya9663 2 года назад

      Just shut up fool

    • @yesohyes9198
      @yesohyes9198 2 года назад

      No body cares Nigerians are doing great every where you can validate yourself here Nigeria is still up there than many African that’s why jealous is too much. Nigeria is the American of African hated by close minded African just like Americans are hated by the whole world but blacks are trooping there. lol

    • @reznikboris5
      @reznikboris5 2 года назад +13

      THIS WOMANS AR LEAVING IN NIGERIA, SO I DONT KNW WAT UR TALKING ABOUT, MOST OV AFRICAN PARENTS SAID THIS TI THERE KIDS BCZ OV WAT THEY SEE IN AMERICA MEDIA, SO STOP TALKING RUBBISH

    • @mddi1420
      @mddi1420 2 года назад

      drug dealers, pimp, scammer in my country.

  • @joeanamoawallace2220
    @joeanamoawallace2220 2 года назад

    Hey Jay, your explainations are very 'eye opening'. Keep it up. Such opportunities will help avoid pauschalized bias!

  • @iTuber012
    @iTuber012 2 года назад +6

    Not only that but they have a slur word for us as well .. they call us Akata and try to pretend it's not an insult but go on Twitter and search up the word and see how it's used amongst themselves and you'll see it's clearly a slur
    I'm still rooting for Nigeria as it has all the tools needed to be a world power if they get their act together

    • @jeffreyantwy8775
      @jeffreyantwy8775 2 года назад +5

      Akata is not an insult please. Its used for people who have Nelly's style of fashion in the 90's n 2000's.

    • @reznikboris5
      @reznikboris5 2 года назад +2

      I CAN BET MY LIFE, AKATA IS NOT INSULT IS JUST THAT AFRICAN PPL LOVE THE WAY BLACK AMERICA CHOOSES TO LEAVE THERE LIFE THEN MOST AFRICAN LOVE THAT LIFE THAT IS WHY WE CALL AFRICAN AMERICAN AKATA

    • @IamGodSon
      @IamGodSon 2 года назад

      @@jeffreyantwy8775 the hip hop fashion and culture.

    • @njemilenantan2269
      @njemilenantan2269 2 года назад +2

      iTuber012 - they use it because they know it upsets you. All it means is a foreigner and my Nigerian friend told me the literal meaning of this. They also call other Nigerians this who have travelled. Tariq Nasheed has played on the word in order to rile up his FBA followers.

    • @akinakinsiku6818
      @akinakinsiku6818 2 года назад +4

      Stop this narrative. Akata is not derogatory name for AA. When I go back to Nigeria I get called Akata. As a kid living in Lagos...If I speak English in certain settings, I was called Akata. It simply implies a black person ( even Nigerian) raised outside of Nigeria. It is like saying 'posh'.

  • @sterlinelouisrn555
    @sterlinelouisrn555 2 года назад +1

    This is a wonderful topic 👏
    Growing up in the U.S. as a Haitian my parents never told me to avoid a Black Americans but I have that mindset because I hear that a lot in my community to avoid them if you don't want to get deportation or mess up. This stay with me and I passed the same thing to my son. He would say mom these kids are not bad influence, let me play with them and I would feel bad.

    • @thewordsmith5440
      @thewordsmith5440 Год назад

      So is Oprah a bad influence too? My problem is there is a such thing as upper middle class black Americans and the Jack and Jill society. Of course someone in the ghetto or in a bad community is going to exhibit poor behaviors. There are Haitian Americans who get into legal trouble. Crime was not invented by African Americans. Crime is present all over the caribbeans and in Africa. It can even be worse due to the larger gap between rich and poor so the poor get desperate. Venezuela crime was terrible not 2 or 3 years ago. My friends there would tell me how they feared getting robbed and killed just going outside because of how the country was.

  • @kofirey6752
    @kofirey6752 2 года назад +6

    VERY GREAT 🏆 Our energy should be focused on building a Nation 🌅 One person at a time
    REMEMBER AFRICA'S DNA DOES NOT COME FROM AMERICA? AFRICAN AMERICAN'S DNA COMES FROM AFRICA 🌍

  • @jhakusembe8211
    @jhakusembe8211 2 года назад +2

    I'm glad she specifically metioned the Nigerians. They behave the same way in south Africa

  • @dayosonictv
    @dayosonictv Год назад +3

    I'm a Nigerian, this man just nailed it. we use to say why AA are busy complaining about racism, we are busy looking at the crack in the system and get to the bag asap and we out asap back to Africa. then back again to get more bags cos we understand that we at war when it comes to being wealthy , no time for winging and shit. . it's like logic and reasoning over emotions and feelings for us Nigerians, so we get to the bag with full speed and bounce back to Africa.

  • @uhunomauwaifiokun7309
    @uhunomauwaifiokun7309 2 года назад +1

    They mock African’s accent,looks, dressing and well being. Trust me they will run

  • @giftygyimah3478
    @giftygyimah3478 2 года назад +13

    As a Ghanaian, I'm shocked 🥺 this is my first time hearing something like this

    • @py20
      @py20 2 года назад +3

      Me too. Incredible!

    • @yesohyes9198
      @yesohyes9198 2 года назад +4

      But Ghanaians say same thing to their children stop pretending. I do see you guys on Tiktok

    • @py20
      @py20 2 года назад +5

      @@yesohyes9198 Feel free to believe as you choose; it's a free world!!! Of the 32m people in Ghana, what percentage are on Tiktok?

    • @yesohyes9198
      @yesohyes9198 2 года назад +1

      @@py20 Exactly just stop pretending

    • @py20
      @py20 2 года назад +4

      @@yesohyes9198 Feel free to believe as you do; it's your choice!

  • @dolapoogunsanlu6865
    @dolapoogunsanlu6865 2 года назад

    Wow...this is a very balanced and an unbiased commentary. I just subscribed.

  • @py20
    @py20 2 года назад +18

    Jay, the counsel these Nigerian ladies claim to have received from their parents is sad, but I this is definitely not widespread within the broader African community. First of all, how many African parents have any meaningful knowledge about African Americans and their lifestyle/struggles to give that warning to their immigrant children? Other than the privileged few who probably travel abroad or have access to cable television and American movies, the vast majority of people living in towns and villages across Africa know little to nothing about AAs. Personally, I heard about this "Do not associate with African Americans" warning we were supposedly given on RUclips. Out of curiosity, I've asked other African immigrants I know, mostly Ghanaians, and not one was told this prior to coming to America. You are told to go and work hard, yes. You are told to stay out of trouble and focus on your goals, yes. You are told to not to throw away the values you were raised with, and to remember where you come from, yes. But isn't that what all responsible parents tell their children when they are leaving home to pursue their dreams?

    • @py20
      @py20 2 года назад

      @Akosua Obaasima, there's another RUclips video that alleges that US Immigration Officers are instructed to warn us, upon arrival into the country, to stay away from AAs. Incredible!

    • @py20
      @py20 2 года назад +1

      @Akosua Exactly! Sadly, there are people who believe this ridiculous stuff.

    • @keskelvin7653
      @keskelvin7653 2 года назад +5

      Come on guys! What she said on that interview was long time ago, how poor parents who have managed to train their kids and sending them to further education abroad or working for greener pastures, in the 60s 70s 80s their perspective about African Americans at that time was violence, drugs, and Prison, and they were scared to let their kids to go down that route, So the best they could do was to stay far from trouble (African Americans) because they wouldn't want their kids to be deported, and that would ruin their lives and put them to shame. Nigerians never hated or look down on African Americans, they are only staying out of trouble. Nigerians are the most diverse people in Africa, they interact and marry from any race or background. *You guys are misunderstanding the whole interview* She said *Back in the days* not nowadays.

    • @chukwumaolisehemekaouwarre3236
      @chukwumaolisehemekaouwarre3236 2 года назад

      @@keskelvin7653 gbam

    • @vfrmr6401
      @vfrmr6401 2 года назад

      @@keskelvin7653 I don’t believe her. False narrative! I’ve been to west Africa. I’ve never heard anything like that. It’s a false narrative but what I know is that African Americans along with all Americans have been made a where of the scams ran by Africans. We do know that it’s not all Africans but it is wide spread. I experienced it in Africa. Everywhere I turned there was a scam going on. So sad but true.

  • @sunnyyande378
    @sunnyyande378 2 года назад +2

    Jay, this is a fantastic analysis. It could never be said better. As an African and a Nigerian, I am sad to see that our African Amerin brothers and black people all over the world are not competing with Europeans, white Americans, Chinese, Indians for contracts in Africa. They stay there in America compaining about no infrastructure, no rule law, no democracy, they don't like us etc. I am not saying that some these complains are not true, but what I am saying is that the Europeans, white Americans, Chinese, Indians are going to Africa, operating under the same conditions and benifiting from it. Why not our brothers? The Nigerians are not only taking opportunities in the West, they are doing it any where they can find it all over the world. An African American would go to Nigeria for example and say they don't have this here like we do America. Why can't you take that opportunity and bring it to Nigeria? It is time we black people rise up and start taking opportunities worldwide.

    • @BronzeSista
      @BronzeSista 2 года назад

      How do you know we don't take opportunities in America? Do you live in America?

    • @sunnyyande378
      @sunnyyande378 2 года назад

      @@BronzeSista, You need to read my comment again. I never said our black American brothers and sisters don't take oppotunities in America. I said our our black American brothers and sisters are not taking up opportunities in Africa. If you want to debate on that, I am ready.

    • @BronzeSista
      @BronzeSista 2 года назад

      @@sunnyyande378 why do you feel we need to work in Africa?

    • @sunnyyande378
      @sunnyyande378 2 года назад

      @@BronzeSista, I feel so because we are one. This is my opinion and you are allowed to have different opinion.

  • @Deeplyrooted73
    @Deeplyrooted73 2 года назад +17

    Where there is love, there is correction. A friend and or family member who tells you what you want to hear, in spite of your wellbeing is an enabler. Now with that said, correction goes both ways. AA’s are currently stuck on a hamster wheel of self righteousness, self-pity and self victimization. I currently live in the ATL and at one time loved it. However, the black-on-black crime is at an all-time high. I have an anxiety that I didn’t have when I was visiting extended family in Ethiopia. To be honest, I'm not even going to pay any attention to another protest! If we don’t value our own lives, then why should anyone else.
    Now that is off the table, I pose the question. If you desire a better standard of living, shouldn’t one be open to correction? If Africa wins, the diaspora wins. Egotistical, Prideful, Quick to anger against one’s own complexion. Save that fiery warrior spirit for BABYLON. They still want to sow seeds of division for the easily influenced. Civilized cultures must learn to disagree or stay in chains!

    • @jaygray1596
      @jaygray1596 2 года назад

      This is one of the Problem we have with Africans You can't Relate to Our Fight against Racism in America, and when we Complain about the Oppressions we Continue to Receive From America. Africans like you Sound like the White Supremacists we are Fighting everyday So Shut up and let us keep Oppressing you. If you have a Problem with Black Americans get out of there Communities and Go and See How the Caucasian People Treat You in there Communities Period.

    • @kiwishbj1
      @kiwishbj1 2 года назад +1

      Thank you. Tell them.

    • @lailaharris2881
      @lailaharris2881 Год назад +1

      Well I was born at Grady Hospital. I’ve lived in GA my whole life. I’m an educated woman who attended school in Decatur Georgia my whole life. I attended UGA and graduated with a Bachelor’s Degree. I’ve been around black people my whole life in ATL. Everyone in my life black men and women are all educated and intelligent. Let’s not make broad generalizations about African Americans. I know the area to stay away from in ATL. There is crime everywhere with everyone. The gun laws make it easy for people to comment crime. Overall I love 💗all my black brothers and sisters and I wish we’d stop creating the narrative they want. If only we stick with the CODE like other races- we’d be unstoppable. Yes there is a gun problem in ATL due to gangs and survival- other races do have problem-theirs is drugs with meth and fentanyl. But it’s labeled as an epidemic…we all have demons to face.

    • @Deeplyrooted73
      @Deeplyrooted73 Год назад

      @Follow the Light 😂😂🤣🤣

  • @nanayaw9754
    @nanayaw9754 2 года назад +1

    The IGNORANCE on both sides should stop 🛑. We must admit that there are prejudices on both sides fueled by generalizations and in most cases ethnocentrism. We all loose if we keep putting each other down. What needs to happen is, There should be the willingness to learn about and from the cultures on both sides. We should all accept that we’ve suffered traumas at various stages of our existence and there traumas are contributing to the culture wars.

  • @nathaliea4846
    @nathaliea4846 2 года назад +6

    Great and fair analysis of the situation/ tension. I feel it’s getting worst with the conversation about “Reperation”. In my conversations with my African American friends I felt like “you Africans are coming again to take advantage of what will be given” so I stop participating in the conversations. Thank you for this video.
    On another note, “francophone” Africans ( I am one of them) do not have that “go getter attitude of our “ anglophone” brothers/sisters. It takes years to learn those skills, you should be proud of your accomplishments.

    • @maazi.naaniya9158
      @maazi.naaniya9158 2 года назад

      If reparations came even if you came how would you get anything? Your birth certificate will not be one from America. Cash reparations would never could never gi to all who "deserve" them, because we have homeless who have no identification card. Prisoners doing life. Mentally ill people. Most AAs would however be able to show that they were born in America. Last names would disqualify most. African immigrants and 1gens. But Caribbeans would in most cases have the same last names

    • @raineyfall628
      @raineyfall628 2 года назад

      Thank you for saying this! We wasted so much time & money in Francophone countries. I hope it gets better.

    • @essienessien5032
      @essienessien5032 2 года назад

      Am sure your parents were largely uninformed and parochial my dear sister.I have a lot of cousins/friends who are there without the kind of orientation you are pushing out.Please for yourself and family.Thanks.

    • @nathaliea4846
      @nathaliea4846 Год назад

      @@maazi.naaniya9158 I am not trying to get any compensation here. Reparation is a global conversation, and it also applies to colonization. There is no harm in participating in the conversation to learn from my African American friends if there is a common understanding that I have no interest in claiming any part of their pie.
      We African better pay close attention to the conversation now that the argument is "Reparation should be paid by Africans" (Don Lemon's show guest).

    • @maazi.naaniya9158
      @maazi.naaniya9158 Год назад

      @@nathaliea4846 there's no way for African nations to pay all of the Diaspora. 1. How much African DNA do you need to qualify? 2. If they pay all of the people who had an enslaved ancestor taken from Africa I doubt there is enough money for that just take all Black and part Black people in Brazil there won't be any bread 🍞 for our 🥪 🥪 in America

  • @uzoejekwumadu7731
    @uzoejekwumadu7731 2 года назад +2

    Cross cultural understanding is very important in reducing ethnocentricim, promoting tolerance and social cohesion

  • @nanafrima5522
    @nanafrima5522 2 года назад +8

    This is the same conversation you get from your parents about the Caribbean community while growing up in the Uk especially if your parents were not born there. We are to busy fighting among ourselves following false narratives that’s why we cannot prosper as a whole.

    • @njemilenantan2269
      @njemilenantan2269 2 года назад +1

      Then you get to the UK and find out that you are treated no differently than Caribbean people. The divide was wider back in the day it has lessened now but there are still some African people who look down on Caribbean people.

    • @nanafrima5522
      @nanafrima5522 2 года назад

      @@njemilenantan2269 more fool them!!

  • @richburgh532
    @richburgh532 2 года назад +1

    Good topic Jay, thanks for the discussion. I am America born (Gullah-Geechie) and have always taught the African way that was handed down by generations. Africa is in my blood. I have a family in Nigeria that has accepted me as family (Igbo) and I know they don't think that way. Not all black Americans are gang members, drug dealers etc., I live in Southern California, I taught my kids to stay away from trouble not away from black people.

  • @charlesakan-man7859
    @charlesakan-man7859 2 года назад +8

    What I know is many African parents warn their children to stay away from Nigerians because they will corrupt them. And I don't think every Nigerian is corrupt.

    • @africaine4889
      @africaine4889 2 года назад

      That must be west African parents. My family lived in a lot of african countries( west,east and central) but never did they say to avoid a certain kind of people..Same in the west. But hey we are not west africans so dont know

    • @damilola3636
      @damilola3636 2 года назад +3

      You’re right. I have met a lot of Africans with the same ideologies about Nigerians…

    • @tombimashri8149
      @tombimashri8149 2 года назад +1

      @@damilola3636 wonder why what's the reasons why?

    • @sean-et4wr
      @sean-et4wr 2 года назад

      That’s a lie..but who cares? Nigerians don’t want you either.

    • @anthoniquesharon1828
      @anthoniquesharon1828 2 года назад +1

      @@tombimashri8149
      Nigerians are good people but these days because of unemployment some few nigerian youth are becoming something else involved in human trafficking, Yahoo boys, scams but they are bright and I personally blame the government for this.

  • @ulia6545
    @ulia6545 2 года назад +1

    This is a very interesting talk, I am of black Caribbean heritage.. born in the 70s.. an growing up African children was not allowed to play with West Indian children.. it was really sad, as my best friend raphela was told by her mother she can no longer play with me, could not understand I had done nothing wrong, she said because your West Indian .. I actually did not know I was West Indian an saw myself a just being black.. as the years evolved I observed African descent was now mixing with West Indian descent.. maybe because of the mindset of the parents is different, because most definitely in the 70s-80s there was a clear division,

  • @BronzeSista
    @BronzeSista 2 года назад +4

    I know some Black people complain, but we have accomplished quite a bit, to be descendants of slaves. We have 30,000 Black doctors in America. We have 142 financial institutions in America. We have Black lawyers associations, Black engineer associations. So please stop the pity party talk about Black Americans. There are low income people everywhere, in America, even so we are still doing better than many countries financially.

    • @trinabennett6652
      @trinabennett6652 2 года назад +2

      WE HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO COMPLAIN and we FIGHT not FLEE!!!!….

    • @chrisl8815
      @chrisl8815 2 года назад

      @@trinabennett6652 You are doing nothing but complaining all day.

    • @trinabennett6652
      @trinabennett6652 2 года назад

      @@chrisl8815 9 Days LATE!!!!!!????YOUR STATEMENT is IRRELEVANT go FLEEEeeee👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿

    • @chrisl8815
      @chrisl8815 2 года назад

      @@trinabennett6652 Yet your angry self had the time to reply despite the irrelevance. Your life is a mess.

  • @linzierogers5024
    @linzierogers5024 Год назад

    Claiming to be African American while not being so can be stopped by requiring a notarized birth certificate.

  • @jm6566
    @jm6566 2 года назад +3

    I hate when Africa is talked about as if it's a country and not a continent. The snippet of the Nigerian discussion video is taken from some cheap program that's most likely not televised on their national tv. I doubt very much that every African kid is warned against all African Americans. They're most likely advised not to get into bad company and adopt bad habits, no matter the colour of the people. Just like Americans warn their fellow Americans of all sorts when they travel to African countries. We can all blame the steretypes we get fed. You have arrogant Americans just like you have arrogant Africans. If I start acknowledging every indigenous person's ancestor's sacrifice everywhere I go I wouldn't bother travelling. Just because we share the same colour skin doesn't mean every African that lands in America should verbally acknowledge the sacrifice of African Americans. Do you ask that of the French, Germans or Spanish? Instead we should work together economically together just like other races do. We should take our unity forwards and not create unity from the past as that's why black folk don't make progress. Always looking behind instead of forwards. Mutual respect and mutual business, economic prosperity should be the main focus. Anything other than that is stalling.

  • @rosebellcarter2695
    @rosebellcarter2695 2 года назад +1

    They want to reap black American's benefits but don't want to affiliate with the struggles. That's why Africa is in the present state because Africans promote division amongst black. Asians have this talk with their kids too and we considered them racist so how should we considered Nigerians?