He owned and lived in a bus. He travelled around the USA and visited every VA hospital in the nation. He was a great actor and a wonderful human being.
@@billwendell6886 Look at the bright side. We have Trump because these days being a zero integrity piece of scheiss does not disqualify you from anything including the most important job in the nation.
@@billwendell6886, yeah… you’re probably right. I guess it depends on how one defines patriot. Simply waving the flag and saying ‘we’re #1!” Ain’t it. G’day, mate.
it never got this dramatic or heartbreaking but 1 night after being repeatedly rejected at salsa class I thought I am not enjoying this let me spend my time else where
It is easy to rationalize and accept you've failed yourself, but having to face letting down everyone who had hopes and expectations for you is much worse.
@@triumph_cv He didn't need to comfort her. She was the one putting the pressure on him. The ending is still to Hollywood and doesn't represent reality for a lot of men.
His family and friends knock down the girl that he does like. Then Marty realizes that the only one who has to like the girl is HIM. His life improves once he lives for himself, not his family.
Family isn't everything. Seeking their approval isn't everything. Every time I sought advice from a family member, it never worked out well. I eventually stopped seeking advice from them. They may love you, but they don't always know what’s best for you. That's where you have to trust your judgment, and make the best decision possible. It can't be any worse.
thats a slippery ideal though. "live for yourself" is a few short mental jumps from "only my own happiness matters" and while the former is a good ideal the latter is barely disguised hedonism
A simple yet moving film about ordinary people, not mega-rich models, stock brokers, and influencers. No explosions, no car cases, no CGI, no aliens. Refreshing and, nearly 70 years later, people can still relate to what Borgnine's character was feeling.
You guys are getting really weird about it. “No tattoos, no swearing” 😂 you like movies about unicorns and the tooth fairy as well? Some people like gritty movies some people like the whimsical stuff. There’s nothing wrong with either of them so get off your high horse.
If they were thinking about it enough to roll a major motion picture on the subject, I have to wonder if it was actually just as relatable. The older I get the more I find things maybe haven't changed as much as people want to think they have. Humans will be humans after all.
@@WayneMarion and what are you basing that on? I’m going to tell you something that your parents never told you and should have….you are unintelligent and need to rectify that soon…I’d be more explicit but RUclips will censor me
WOW!! TY for adding that!! I didn't know. EB was later on the TV show McHale's Navy- and any number of films- But I loved him, adore his work in the Wild Bunch!!
He said in an interview that he knew he had the role 'sewed up' when he did an informal read of this scene for Delbert Mann and Paddy Chayefsky, and they started crying. 😢
"So I'll die without a son." To be an unmarried man in an Italian family, and not a priest was a mark of shame and worry on that family in those times. Borgnine is brilliant at showing pain in subtle ways. His call to Mary Feeny in the movie and that rejection he conveys is incredibly believable.
As one who knows your pain...I can suggest this...go see, the Philippines. I am sure as I have done this myself...you will be selected by a woman you feel is wayyy out of your league. She will choose you, it will be a whirl wind experiance and you will never feel the same way about yourself. Ever again. As I said...I know this...first hand. All you have to do, is pack and fly. You will be changed forever.
If I recall… his “friends” were part of the problem. And we can all relate to feeling like this. Our inner dialogue, a constant refrain of “what’s wrong with me?” He was the quintessential “nice guy” who was unlucky in love… until he wasn’t. ❤️
Ernest Borgnine truly was a great actor, but he was also a really decent guy... Back in the 90s, he and his son stopped in their motorhome for fuel at my dad's Service Center in Spring, Texas. Mr. Borgnine actually walked in to the cashier's building himself to pay for the diesel. All of the guys in the shop recognized him from about 150 feet away and walked over to say hello... And he obliged everyone for a good twenty minutes. It's unimaginable today, that any current "Star" could or even would do anything like that. Both he and his son were very nice people.
Not true about today's celebrities. Just the huge fake ones. But so many actors enjoy meeting people and lingering and chatting. It happened to a friend of mine when Casey Affleck walked into the store she worked at in Berlin.
In 3 weeks I'll be 67. Single my whole life, no kids. This hits hard. Life isn't so glamorous for millions of us. If only Mothers would JUST back off and let their son's become who they want to be, NOT who THEY want them to be!
I wish I would have had the freedom to have become myself. I always tried to please others including my mother. It got me nowhere except into an inescapable trap I'll never get out of.
Great comments. I have had loves in my life. When I was young I thought I couldn't be happy unless I had a romantic connection. It wasn't until much later I knew I could be, and was, happy being single. My dear (younger) friend is stuck in the relationship cycle and is not happy. Makes me sad for her. My worry used to be that I don't want to be alone when I'm old. I realized I won't be because I have a great friends network. Many other single moms that I'm tight with. We are there for each other. Also... A very tight relationship with my son. I know he will be there for me. 💕
"Language has created the word “loneliness” to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word “solitude” to express the glory of being alone." -Paul Tillich
Whatever people say about the guy, I was a nobody, met him at Dragoncon in 2008, when i met him again at the same con in 2012, he stepped past the two young ladies fronting his table, held his hands to me, and smiled, and said "Brother Tim"! my nerd friends were floored -- as was I, he remembered our conversation, like it had been the day before, he died, like a year later.
Glad you got to see Enie then. I remember going to DragonCon and seeing him but was afraid to pay the 75 bucks for meet and greet because i just lost my job. I still regret it being a huge fan. My distant cousin worked with him on Marty.
@RevLeigh55 This woman reminds me of my mother constantly pushing if you're not married, you're nothing. I'm a widow for 19 years. And dating is horrible even after a few long-term relationships. The 19 years I've been a widow, it really is not worth it. I am happy bing single, enjoying my three sons and my two dogs. Society brainwashes us that we need a partner, a husband or we're not gonna be happy.
@@Sun2day-f6fThat’s true. The other day I told my husband the guy next door said hello and we commented about the loud thunder. My husband said he ignores people because you never know what mood they’re in. I don’t get angry or hurt when I’m ignored.
My mom is my world, she always joked Im her favorite daughter (I'm her only daughter lol) but I'm worried 😢 I can't handle the world with her May God bless them
It's sad that they can't make movies like this anymore. Just a simple story about life, great performances, heartbreaking and uplifting at the same time. No studio would take a chance on this.
I had the great pleasure of interviewing Ernest Borgnine, and though it had nothing to do with Marty, I couldn't help but take a moment to compliment him on this movie, which I have alway loved. He was as gracious as you would expect, a true gentleman and one hell of an actor.
I can relate, after a while it gets ridiculous to continue. But I fully understand that you can’t win if you don’t enter. So I’ll be a loser, somebody has to be.
I remember feeling like this. I got my heart broken so hard by putting myself out there, I didn’t want to risk it again. I remember sitting on the edge of my bed, crying. My mom came in and I had the same reaction as Marty. The very next January, I put on my proverbial blue suit and went out begrudgingly, and that’s when I met my beautiful husband. This feeling though, it the pit of despair. You feel so hopeless, invisible, unworthy. Yet, you have to keep finding ways to get yourself out there despite those feelings. ….
I wouldn't call myself ugly on the outside, but definitely feel like I have an ugly past. I know what it feels like to be unwanted. But what's amazing about my baby is she doesn't see me that way. She sees me as the most beautiful man in the world inside and out 😭😭😭😭 there's somebody out there who will appreciate you I promise
The issue is, if you truly belive that your ugly, and that's what you feel. And if you feel that your ugly, then that's what you see. Trust me, I know that feeling very well. Granted I got much better over the years, but there were many years that I felt just like this character. That's why people love this scene, as it's very relateable for many men.
Caucasian young men in the 60s decided they didn't want to do that anymore. They didn't want to put on suits and show a girl they could dance. The girls finally stopped trying to twist their arms. What replaced it was avoidance (like Marty) or mosh pit jiggles, pickups, heavy drinking and drugs. No indication that the guy couldn't dance of that he thought he looked g-y. He felt confident just sitting or leaning and watching the parade. In the late 70s the music industry tried to restart the couples dancing in the non latin sector by showcasing popular actors like Travolta, Bacon and Swayze in movies. Young men rejected it again in the 80s. I think Xanadu killed it. Too elaborate and a bit too effeminate with the young men in the film. By then 20 years had passed and such clubs were long gone or being torn down.
@@STho205 You forgot the rise of discos in the '70s & '80s.. That was a real trend toward dance clubs. Studio 54 and all the copycat places around the country.. Don't distort history.
@@DexterHaven which became a hive for club girls and gay men. The US disco trend lasted about 10 years centered on 1977, and was mostly replaced by the comedy club return.
@@STho205That was about the time they split one paycheck into two for double the workforce. Most of these social-clubs where led and organized voluntarily, making it Impossible to sustain due to most working more hours for less. But hey, atleast consumption is up.
sax dolls are like 300 bucks on temu. wannantalk unworthy? chicks with a body count higher than they can count. stop chasing andnjust treat yourself. consider it the new normal. because in a decade, it will be. men with be done with they over va.ued come dumpsters.
He gave a free talk at the la noho library-standing room only all ages-he exuded warmth kindness sincerity and love for all-no ego-said he got paid $500 for “Marty” - what a film-what a guy-genuine -his smile lit up the room-amongst all else he talked about buying his RV to see America & it was wonderful to feel the love he had for his family - need more like him
The character of Marty is only supposed to be in his mid-30s. It's amazing how society can make you feel like you have no chance at finding your person after such a young age! And I felt the exact same way at 34, and met my now-husband at 35. If you want to find someone, you don't have to give up.
My husband was 37 when we met. His whole family thought he'd never marry. They never liked me much but that didn't bother us. 40 years later most of them are gone and we're still married.
This movie was moving and real. It felt so sad that he was alone and everyone wanted him to “ find “ someone BUT then when he finally finds a girl All the ppl in his life tried to discourage him for their own selfish reasons. He finally realized he HAD to choose happiness for himself Disspite his friends and family. A true life lesson
Marty is my spirit animal. I feel his pain when it comes to suffering from loneliness and being neglected. Hoping to find happiness and all you keep getting in return is more hurt and pain from heartbreak and rejection. This movie has a message I really wish some took to heart these days.
When I add up the years of all my long-term relationships, it comes to about 30 years. I'm solo now. I went from one relationship to the next without any real time-out. After my last one ended, a voice inside myself said, "You need some time to be on your own for a while before the next one." With some effort on part, along with some time, and to my utter surprise, I came to embrace the solo lifestyle. Man oh man, I absolutely LOVE it! I have no desire to get into a relationship again. And the more time that goes by, the more and more I love solo living even more so. I learned that ALONE vs. LONELINESS are two different things. Alone is just the physical thing of having no one around. Loneliness is a mental state. You can feel totally lonely when you are in a roomful of people, or you can feel totally at peace and content when you are all by yourself. 😃
0:50 “Some stupid woman who I didn’t even want to call up” That’s when the rejection and loneliness gets to be too much… when you try to hang out with someone you’re not even that into, you just need someone… but then even they reject you… that’s when you give up and embrace the loneliness.
I watched this movie a few years ago on TCM. The plot is so simple but kept me riveted. When folks say they don’t make them like they used to, this is what they mean. The best story telling doesn’t need a whole lot of flash and bang. Marty is absolutely the best of story telling.
The egos have taken over. There is no humility (humbleness) in actors, let alone any of the rest of Hollywood, today. Only a truly humble person can deliver a humble performance. And only a truly humble person can truly love, like Ernest Borgnine.
Formula Movies are made by mega studios to make money . That’s why I watch independent films, foreign films that deal with people, their emotions and the artists that translate their vision onto the screen.
If you haven't seen "Marty" do yourself a favor and check it out. It is a great movie and Ernest Borgnine truly earned the Oscar for it. Casablanca was similar in that neither movie was really supposed to be anything special but somehow everything came together and they turned out to be really special movies. it really is a heart warming movie.
Very true. Dating in 2024 is much different than in 1954. It makes things easier but it took the personal element from it. Women dont love themselves anymore. They don’t respect themselves anymore. They’re not discreet anymore. They don’t leave anything to imagination anymore. They expose themselves in every single way on facebook, instagram, tik tok, etc. if a woman is doin that, what type of men they’re gonna meet? Creeps. Kinda sad.
Even then, social media would reject him, mostly because he’s a 30 year-old man, white, straight, fat, short (Ernest, and thereby Marty, was 5 foot, 9 and a half inches tall) and lives at home with his mom. Modern society standards would have excluded Marty, even on social media.
@@ghanasoul The majority of people in poverty r womenn and children and males now outnumber womenn in the world because of males committing femicide. Male tyranny and crimes against humanity need to be addressed. Until then enjoy the male loneliness epidemic and declining birth rates. 🐱🥂🐻
Boy is that the power of art reflecting/portraying realities! Being on the phone as a 47 yr old guy frustration dumping recently to my 77 year old mother on the phone. "You don't understand!" I exclaimed. She replied; " I do understand ". Then as the conversation continued she proved she didn't understand. I don't look like a "Marty" on the outside but feel the suffering of one. on the inside.
Our media-driven culture really got it's start in the 1950s. We had Paul Newman, Marlon Brando and James Dean in the movies...so guys like "Marty" compared themselves to them and decided they were deficient. Our country is driven by celebrity.
Reminds me of The Carpenters Superstar “ Loneliness is such a sad affair “ . That really got to me after seeing this clip. My hat off to the one who thought of putting this clip on RUclips.
It must have been surreal experience for Ernest Borgnine to win the best actor Oscar over fellow nominee, Spencer Tracy, who he co-stared in "Bad Day at Black Rock" also in 1955. He respected Spencer so much.
Tracy advised Borgnine not to take the part in "Marty", saying that it would be a little black & white movie that no one would ever see. At the Academy Award ceremony, as Borgnine walked to the stage to accept the Oscar, he passed Tracy, and Tracy said "you never listen to me, do you?"
Sometimes someone hurts you so badly that you are never the same. You can never trust again, not like you once did. I am not saying that you should give up. Only to recognise that you are different now, you can not return to the naïve man you once were.
Huge Borgnine fan. He played a sadistic character who beat Sinatra to death in "From Here to Eternity" and then masterfully played Marty, a sensitive and vulnerable man. In real life, he was cheerful and friendly.
I know exactly what he's saying, after enough years have gone by it's not worth trying anymore...you just gotta be happy with yourself. And yeah he does find someone perfect and that's great! But that's what makes it a movie. In real life, you'll never meet her.
My mother is the same. Insists on me being handsome, smart, and charming. But it's like Marty said: "Whatever they want, I ain't got." and I'm fine with it. You learn to live with it. Is it painful? Yes. But you learn to endure it.
In an interview Borgnine said while filming “Marty” in Hoboken he needed extra security because he was receiving death threats because his character killed Frank Sinatra’s character in “ From Here To Eternity “. LoL Ernest played some dark characters but Marty was wonderful and through his interviews you can tell that he loved life and was a genuinely good guy
Proverbs 18:24 A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a Friend who sticks closer than a brother. Matthew 11:28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
Erine was one of the greatest film actors of his generation. He was great in Marty, From Here to Eternity, Bad Day at Black Rock, The Poseidon Adventure, and The Emperor of the North, all classics that are still worth watching today.
This movie is annoying. They dog on him for being single and then when he finds a woman he really likes, they dog on her for being "dog faced". I know that's intended in the set up for the film's climax, but it hits too close to home for this viewer. We're all too often faced with the cruel and prejudiced busybodyness of those around us.
Even just thinking about this scene and this entire movie, makes me tear up. Such honesty about the human condition. And what amazing performances, that script! One of my most favorite films for sure
He owned and lived in a bus. He travelled around the USA and visited every VA hospital in the nation. He was a great actor and a wonderful human being.
We have Gary Sinise now. When Hollywood didn't cancel you for being a patriot.
33rd degree Mason..
@@seeburgm100a good for him.
@@billwendell6886 Look at the bright side. We have Trump because these days being a zero integrity piece of scheiss does not disqualify you from anything including the most important job in the nation.
@@billwendell6886, yeah… you’re probably right. I guess it depends on how one defines patriot. Simply waving the flag and saying ‘we’re #1!” Ain’t it. G’day, mate.
“I ain’t got it” … I felt that hard
Millions of us do....we just don't make the news
Me too.
there are women picked over 2
it never got this dramatic or heartbreaking but 1 night after being repeatedly rejected at salsa class I thought I am not enjoying this let me spend my time else where
@@Fatelvis2 I’m sure there are. Loneliness doesn’t care about gender, age, geography, etc.
What hits hard is that his loneliness hurts him, but seeing his mom sad because of him and being powerless to do anything hurts him far more.
When he pats his mom's hand at the end to reassure and comfort her... So heartbreaking
It is easy to rationalize and accept you've failed yourself, but having to face letting down everyone who had hopes and expectations for you is much worse.
The performance was worth an Academy Award.
@TennesseeHomesteadUSA
Yep, and he got it!
@@triumph_cv He didn't need to comfort her. She was the one putting the pressure on him. The ending is still to Hollywood and doesn't represent reality for a lot of men.
His family and friends knock down the girl that he does like.
Then Marty realizes that the only one who has to like the girl is HIM.
His life improves once he lives for himself, not his family.
Great assessment... very true
Family isn't everything. Seeking their approval isn't everything. Every time I sought advice from a family member, it never worked out well. I eventually stopped seeking advice from them. They may love you, but they don't always know what’s best for you. That's where you have to trust your judgment, and make the best decision possible. It can't be any worse.
I lost it all because of this... trying to have both. I lost her love... families approval... my future... it all feels empty now
thats a slippery ideal though. "live for yourself" is a few short mental jumps from "only my own happiness matters" and while the former is a good ideal the latter is barely disguised hedonism
A simple yet moving film about ordinary people, not mega-rich models, stock brokers, and influencers. No explosions, no car cases, no CGI, no aliens. Refreshing and, nearly 70 years later, people can still relate to what Borgnine's character was feeling.
I still watch it to remind myself of what good movies used to look like!
@@mattdaugherty7865 exactly !!
no tattoos, no swearing, no drugs or gunfights.
You guys are getting really weird about it. “No tattoos, no swearing” 😂 you like movies about unicorns and the tooth fairy as well? Some people like gritty movies some people like the whimsical stuff. There’s nothing wrong with either of them so get off your high horse.
@@magesalmanac6424 Careful. Don't fall off your horse.
More relatable now than what it was in 1955.
Yes indeed.
If they were thinking about it enough to roll a major motion picture on the subject, I have to wonder if it was actually just as relatable. The older I get the more I find things maybe haven't changed as much as people want to think they have. Humans will be humans after all.
@@bryanmack4054
Whatever makes you feel better but, then was nothing like now. Nothing.
Only in 1955 there wasn't social media, dating sites, email, texting, video games and all the other connections/stimuli that we have nowadays.
@@WayneMarion and what are you basing that on? I’m going to tell you something that your parents never told you and should have….you are unintelligent and need to rectify that soon…I’d be more explicit but RUclips will censor me
Good movie! Borgnine deserved the Oscar he got for that performance.
Ernest Borgnine received the Best Actor Oscar for Marty in 1956. It’s an excellent film about life.
WOW!! TY for adding that!! I didn't know. EB was later on the TV show McHale's Navy- and any number of films- But I loved him, adore his work in the Wild Bunch!!
He said in an interview that he knew he had the role 'sewed up' when he did an informal read of this scene for Delbert Mann and Paddy Chayefsky, and they started crying. 😢
Totally agree.💕🙂
@@timisaac8121how many times have you watched the WB?
If they still made them like this, I'd still be going to the movies.
There was a "normal" movie few years ago. I liked it so much to watch. Manchester by the sea
Me too
@@jamescromwell5013 Never saw Manchester movie yet, and the town is near me.
Back when acting actually mattered.
@@DexterHaven It' a nice movie.
"So I'll die without a son." To be an unmarried man in an Italian family, and not a priest was a mark of shame and worry on that family in those times. Borgnine is brilliant at showing pain in subtle ways. His call to Mary Feeny in the movie and that rejection he conveys is incredibly believable.
Just be quiet and watch a movie. Stop commenting and critiquing and analyzing. Jee whiz
This is a good comment
this is a very interesting point thank you for your input ( don’t mind the first guy in the replies )
The negative guy is in a weird way like Marty's mom and friends. Trying to keep him psyched out for no real reason other than their own misgivings.
This is a moving evocation of social pressure. As a lifelong bachelor myself, I relate.
As one who knows your pain...I can suggest this...go see, the Philippines. I am sure as I have done this myself...you will be selected by a woman you feel is wayyy out of your league. She will choose you, it will be a whirl wind experiance and you will never feel the same way about yourself. Ever again. As I said...I know this...first hand. All you have to do, is pack and fly. You will be changed forever.
People don't understand how hard it is, and everyday I feel sad because no one out there loves me.
@@greyowl750 whereabouts ?
@@greyowl750
I'm a local guy in southeast Asia and there are no women who choose me. You just got the white privilege and it's unfair.
@frog6054 I'm sorry man. Keep hunting. Here in Canada, I'm a average dude too..gotta do back flips to talk to them here too.
parents want you to get married because they don’t want you to be alone when they’re gone
Not sometimes, almost all parent felt that way dude
Very relatable. To all my fellow lonely people out there, man or woman, I wish you all the best and may you find happiness.
Put on the blue suit, and just go. ❤
No
@@vivcole3812 You'll feel worse if you don't even try.
If I recall… his “friends” were part of the problem. And we can all relate to feeling like this. Our inner dialogue, a constant refrain of “what’s wrong with me?” He was the quintessential “nice guy” who was unlucky in love… until he wasn’t. ❤️
I just can't connect with other human beings.
Ernest Borgnine truly was a great actor, but he was also a really decent guy... Back in the 90s, he and his son stopped in their motorhome for fuel at my dad's Service Center in Spring, Texas.
Mr. Borgnine actually walked in to the cashier's building himself to pay for the diesel.
All of the guys in the shop recognized him from about 150 feet away and walked over to say hello... And he obliged everyone for a good twenty minutes.
It's unimaginable today, that any current "Star" could or even would do anything like that.
Both he and his son were very nice people.
Met telly savalas in a Greek diner, go figure, in new hyde park LI in the 70's. Nicest guy.
Not true about today's celebrities. Just the huge fake ones. But so many actors enjoy meeting people and lingering and chatting. It happened to a friend of mine when Casey Affleck walked into the store she worked at in Berlin.
I think you'd love Keanu Reeves then.
Don't know about that, I met Morgan Freeman in 2008 and he was a humble man and good.
@@organboi Lol, the first thing that sprung to mind when you mentioned Casey Affleck was "I'm the king a' Dunkin' guy!"
In 3 weeks I'll be 67.
Single my whole life, no kids.
This hits hard.
Life isn't so glamorous for millions of us. If only Mothers would JUST back off and let their son's become who they want to be, NOT who THEY want them to be!
Same here, 65. The longer I live, the more it seems life is just work to pay your way and dealing with whatever problem comes up that day.
I wish I would have had the freedom to have become myself. I always tried to please others including my mother. It got me nowhere except into an inescapable trap I'll never get out of.
You let your momma run your life?
@@lond2835 everybody but you runs yours
I want to be your friend if u want... 🤗
Single and happy. Being alone is not the same as loneliness. My peace and freedom are my joy.
@@petetj333 once you learn to love yourself, a lot of joy can be had in going to the gym, pursuing your hobbies, and traveling... Alone and in peace
Agreed.Very bad idea for your entire happiness to be totally dependent on the continuing presence of other people.
Great comments.
I have had loves in my life. When I was young I thought I couldn't be happy unless I had a romantic connection. It wasn't until much later I knew I could be, and was, happy being single. My dear (younger) friend is stuck in the relationship cycle and is not happy. Makes me sad for her.
My worry used to be that I don't want to be alone when I'm old. I realized I won't be because I have a great friends network. Many other single moms that I'm tight with. We are there for each other.
Also... A very tight relationship with my son. I know he will be there for me. 💕
I didn't ever feel like I knew who I was until I lived alone. Now I couldn't imagine it any other way
"Language has created the word “loneliness” to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word “solitude” to express the glory of being alone." -Paul Tillich
Ernest Borgnine won the Best Actor Oscar for this! 1956.
Whatever people say about the guy, I was a nobody, met him at Dragoncon in 2008, when i met him again at the same con in 2012, he stepped past the two young ladies fronting his table, held his hands to me, and smiled, and said "Brother Tim"! my nerd friends were floored -- as was I, he remembered our conversation, like it had been the day before, he died, like a year later.
Glad you got to see Enie then. I remember going to DragonCon and seeing him but was afraid to pay the 75 bucks for meet and greet because i just lost my job. I still regret it being a huge fan. My distant cousin worked with him on Marty.
@@slackjaw4270whenever I went to conventions, this was always the thought that I may never see them again and just spend my money to see them.
I’m also done trying. It’s liberating.
Me too! Been married more than once. Divorced and widowed. Then burned by narcissistic guys. Not worth it anymore.
@RevLeigh55 This woman reminds me of my mother constantly pushing if you're not married, you're nothing. I'm a widow for 19 years. And dating is horrible even after a few long-term relationships. The 19 years I've been a widow, it really is not worth it. I am happy bing single, enjoying my three sons and my two dogs. Society brainwashes us that we need a partner, a husband or we're not gonna be happy.
C'mon, have you tried going out in a blue suit yet? Do it the old lady... ;)
This story is even more relevant in todays society than it was back then. People are more connected electronically but not personally these days.
@@henrywallacesghost5883 very true, we're in the midst of a male loneliness epidemic.
@@triumph_cv and nobody cares. But it is okay if you just work on yourself and live your life.
@@Sun2day-f6fThat’s true. The other day I told my husband the guy next door said hello and we commented about the loud thunder. My husband said he ignores people because you never know what mood they’re in. I don’t get angry or hurt when I’m ignored.
@@alanrogs3990 that's the plan. Learn to make your own happiness 👍
As the saying goes……you meet a lot of people with television but there’s no real connection.
Superb acting by Mr. Borgnine. Thank You for your brave and selfless service in WWII. RIP Mr. Borgnine.
He played with the pasta a little too much, though, too idle, not natural. Brando would have done it different.
The moment my mother died is the moment I knew I would never be genuinely loved by another woman again for the rest of my life.
Hope you are doing ok
My mom is my world, she always joked Im her favorite daughter (I'm her only daughter lol) but I'm worried 😢 I can't handle the world with her May God bless them
I'm sorry bro. I pray that the statement will not be true and I pray God blesses you.
The world seems a little less safe, doesn't it?
Such a lovely, uplifting movie. Borgnine said that little pat on ma’s arm was a gesture he used on his mother.
Yeah..."I'm not mad at you, Ma...I'm just mad."
Great comment. Never knew that.
I’m 37 and it hurts how much I can relate to this movie scene
Loneliness is like a curse the more you try to avoid the more it engulfs you 😢
Borgnine is so great in this heartbreaking scene. He deserved the Oscar he received.
Absolutely. When a scene is so well acted it's relevant and poignant even today you know it was a special performance
I believe he got the Oscar due to that scene 🎬. It was raw, brilliant. He laid his soul bare. What do you want from me? Heartbreaking ❤️🩹 💔
The woman playing the mom was good too. Sometimes you don't recognize how good the actors that are played off of are.
back in those days many were from the theatre, and black and white film is excellent for humans; photo or film.
I’m thinking of Psycho, the “we all go a little mad sometimes” scene. Its Anthony Perkins scene and Janet Leigh just has a few lines but she’s so good
Better to be lonely sometimes than sorry all the time.
@@vannshuttleworth4738 or miserable with the wrong person
Must be something in between the two,
Absolutely.
Very true.
Chris Rock said it best: "married and miserable or sad and lonely"
Being married and having children is not necessary. But Being kind to yourself always is.
It's sad that they can't make movies like this anymore. Just a simple story about life, great performances, heartbreaking and uplifting at the same time. No studio would take a chance on this.
He won the Oscar for this role.
@sjr100 They can't, because the people who made it are dead, and have all proven irreplaceable.
It’s just dumbed down crap today. Modern audiences have lost their humanity.
Agreed. How many comic book movies does the world need?
My labby boy watches westerns with me Saturday, a few hours of The Rifleman, and other movies.
I had the great pleasure of interviewing Ernest Borgnine, and though it had nothing to do with Marty, I couldn't
help but take a moment to compliment him on this movie, which I have alway loved. He was as gracious as you would expect, a true gentleman and one hell of an actor.
Millions of people have never married for the reasons he states. Life can be lonely, but it's better than a bad marriage.
He just summarised what the bottom 80% of men go through.
A mother like her will never understand his position.
Salute to you Ernest Borgnine, RIP.
I don’t want to get hurt no more 😢poor man
I can relate, after a while it gets ridiculous to continue. But I fully understand that you can’t win if you don’t enter. So I’ll be a loser, somebody has to be.
@@leftyoverton4347 i used to say the same thing. "someone has to be the loser".........it gets better
I remember feeling like this. I got my heart broken so hard by putting myself out there, I didn’t want to risk it again. I remember sitting on the edge of my bed, crying. My mom came in and I had the same reaction as Marty. The very next January, I put on my proverbial blue suit and went out begrudgingly, and that’s when I met my beautiful husband. This feeling though, it the pit of despair. You feel so hopeless, invisible, unworthy. Yet, you have to keep finding ways to get yourself out there despite those feelings. ….
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@@tomfields3682yea and Im sure u have 50 simps lined up and dating 3 a day God forbid u end alone cause ur a woman right
I wouldn't call myself ugly on the outside, but definitely feel like I have an ugly past. I know what it feels like to be unwanted. But what's amazing about my baby is she doesn't see me that way. She sees me as the most beautiful man in the world inside and out 😭😭😭😭 there's somebody out there who will appreciate you I promise
happy for you
I always saw Borgnine portray bullies and tough guys. I had forgot about this film; such was the versatility of this very talented actor.
Loneliness will kill anyone's spirit for life. Truly sad
There is so much truth in this very short clip.
He is not ugly at all.
@@unsinnkim3690not just the 40s but also in today's world
@@unsinnkim3690 I think he said he was 34 in the movie
Yet to most folks, he just doesn't have it... I know that feeling all too well.
The issue is, if you truly belive that your ugly, and that's what you feel. And if you feel that your ugly, then that's what you see. Trust me, I know that feeling very well. Granted I got much better over the years, but there were many years that I felt just like this character. That's why people love this scene, as it's very relateable for many men.
@andrewmartinez9613 this was the 50s.
Marty was a great movie that many men even today can relate to. Especially if you are Italian. Ernest Borgnaine was perfect for this roll.
It was originally a live TV play, with Rod Steiger...he also was perfect.
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Back in the day when Dance Halls and Social Clubs were in nearly every community.
Caucasian young men in the 60s decided they didn't want to do that anymore. They didn't want to put on suits and show a girl they could dance. The girls finally stopped trying to twist their arms. What replaced it was avoidance (like Marty) or mosh pit jiggles, pickups, heavy drinking and drugs. No indication that the guy couldn't dance of that he thought he looked g-y. He felt confident just sitting or leaning and watching the parade.
In the late 70s the music industry tried to restart the couples dancing in the non latin sector by showcasing popular actors like Travolta, Bacon and Swayze in movies. Young men rejected it again in the 80s. I think Xanadu killed it. Too elaborate and a bit too effeminate with the young men in the film.
By then 20 years had passed and such clubs were long gone or being torn down.
@@STho205I didn't think it was white men who stopped I thought it was the second wave feminism of the 60s.
@@STho205 You forgot the rise of discos in the '70s & '80s.. That was a real trend toward dance clubs. Studio 54 and all the copycat places around the country.. Don't distort history.
@@DexterHaven which became a hive for club girls and gay men. The US disco trend lasted about 10 years centered on 1977, and was mostly replaced by the comedy club return.
@@STho205That was about the time they split one paycheck into two for double the workforce. Most of these social-clubs where led and organized voluntarily, making it Impossible to sustain due to most working more hours for less. But hey, atleast consumption is up.
I'll be 70 soon and even as a kid this movie made a big impression on me.
Now that’s an actor. A man who could only do that if he could empathise. A light in a dark world. Blessings to him
Story of my life. Whoever knew someone would be so unwanted and unworthy?
The reason the majority of people in poverty are womenn and children is because of males tyranny. There's always people with bigger problems than u.
sax dolls are like 300 bucks on temu. wannantalk unworthy? chicks with a body count higher than they can count. stop chasing andnjust treat yourself. consider it the new normal. because in a decade, it will be. men with be done with they over va.ued come dumpsters.
He gave a free talk at the la noho library-standing room only all ages-he exuded warmth kindness sincerity and love for all-no ego-said he got paid $500 for “Marty” - what a film-what a guy-genuine -his smile lit up the room-amongst all else he talked about buying his RV to see America & it was wonderful to feel the love he had for his family - need more like him
AND he got an Oscar for it!
The character of Marty is only supposed to be in his mid-30s. It's amazing how society can make you feel like you have no chance at finding your person after such a young age! And I felt the exact same way at 34, and met my now-husband at 35. If you want to find someone, you don't have to give up.
My husband was 37 when we met. His whole family thought he'd never marry. They never liked me much but that didn't bother us. 40 years later most of them are gone and we're still married.
This movie was moving and real. It felt so sad that he was alone and everyone wanted him to “ find “ someone BUT then when he finally finds a girl All the ppl in his life tried to discourage him for their own selfish reasons. He finally realized he HAD to choose happiness for himself Disspite his friends and family. A true life lesson
Marty is my spirit animal. I feel his pain when it comes to suffering from loneliness and being neglected. Hoping to find happiness and all you keep getting in return is more hurt and pain from heartbreak and rejection. This movie has a message I really wish some took to heart these days.
Has a happy ending for him. For the rest of us men in the real world it won't end so happy
A big night of heartache. Boy, can I relate.
"I'm just a fat, ugly man"!
"YOU'RE NOT UGLY"!
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One of the finest movies ever made ❤
When I add up the years of all my long-term relationships, it comes to about 30 years. I'm solo now. I went from one relationship to the next without any real time-out. After my last one ended, a voice inside myself said, "You need some time to be on your own for a while before the next one."
With some effort on part, along with some time, and to my utter surprise, I came to embrace the solo lifestyle. Man oh man, I absolutely LOVE it! I have no desire to get into a relationship again. And the more time that goes by, the more and more I love solo living even more so.
I learned that ALONE vs. LONELINESS are two different things. Alone is just the physical thing of having no one around. Loneliness is a mental state. You can feel totally lonely when you are in a roomful of people, or you can feel totally at peace and content when you are all by yourself. 😃
Amen Jim, Im with ya!
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Absolutely and Amen to the lonely in a room full of people.
Well said.
You're coping. You didn't want this.
One of the best actors to live😊
0:50 “Some stupid woman who I didn’t even want to call up” That’s when the rejection and loneliness gets to be too much… when you try to hang out with someone you’re not even that into, you just need someone… but then even they reject you… that’s when you give up and embrace the loneliness.
I watched this movie a few years ago on TCM. The plot is so simple but kept me riveted. When folks say they don’t make them like they used to, this is what they mean. The best story telling doesn’t need a whole lot of flash and bang. Marty is absolutely the best of story telling.
I feel bad for his Mama too. She just wants him happy with a family. It's sad.
Where are the Earnest Borgnines' today? Such a great actor.
The egos have taken over. There is no humility (humbleness) in actors, let alone any of the rest of Hollywood, today.
Only a truly humble person can deliver a humble performance.
And only a truly humble person can truly love, like Ernest Borgnine.
Formula Movies are made by mega studios to make money . That’s why I watch independent films, foreign films that deal with people, their emotions and the artists that translate their vision onto the screen.
The RUclips algorithm knew I needed to see this today.
Whilst most Hollywood movies are very unrealistic, the movie Marty is as real as it gets.
If you haven't seen "Marty" do yourself a favor and check it out. It is a great movie and Ernest Borgnine truly earned the Oscar for it. Casablanca was similar in that neither movie was really supposed to be anything special but somehow everything came together and they turned out to be really special movies. it really is a heart warming movie.
Huh, I've never seen him act in his youth. This was really great acting.
He served in the USN during WW2 as a young man.
@@joeavent5554 he won an Oscar for this role 🤯
I saw this movie years ago. Broke my heart. He’s a good man. The self doubt is sad.
A lonely guy today would just turn to social media. He would never make it to the ballroom.
Very true. Dating in 2024 is much different than in 1954. It makes things easier but it took the personal element from it. Women dont love themselves anymore. They don’t respect themselves anymore. They’re not discreet anymore. They don’t leave anything to imagination anymore. They expose themselves in every single way on facebook, instagram, tik tok, etc. if a woman is doin that, what type of men they’re gonna meet? Creeps. Kinda sad.
Could you imagine the ballroom of today? Empty souls in a toilet.
Social media is today's ballroom.
Even then, social media would reject him, mostly because he’s a 30 year-old man, white, straight, fat, short (Ernest, and thereby Marty, was 5 foot, 9 and a half inches tall) and lives at home with his mom. Modern society standards would have excluded Marty, even on social media.
@@ghanasoul
The majority of people in poverty r womenn and children and males now outnumber womenn in the world because of males committing femicide. Male tyranny and crimes against humanity need to be addressed. Until then enjoy the male loneliness epidemic and declining birth rates.
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One of my favorite movies, I wish I could find a man like Marty
That scene made my heart ache. For him and his Mum.
Boy is that the power of art reflecting/portraying realities! Being on the phone as a 47 yr old guy frustration dumping recently to my 77 year old mother on the phone. "You don't understand!" I exclaimed. She replied; " I do understand ". Then as the conversation continued she proved she didn't understand. I don't look like a "Marty" on the outside but feel the suffering of one. on the inside.
Our media-driven culture really got it's start in the 1950s. We had Paul Newman, Marlon Brando and James Dean in the movies...so guys like "Marty" compared themselves to them and decided they were deficient. Our country is driven by celebrity.
Reminds me of The Carpenters Superstar “ Loneliness is such a sad affair “ . That really got to me after seeing this clip. My hat off to the one who thought of putting this clip on RUclips.
This movie is so relatable. I never understood what others had that I lacked. This packed a punch when I first saw it. It still does.
The movie that made me love Ernest Borgnine. So nice to know that in real life, he was happily married for a long time to a beautiful woman.
It must have been surreal experience for Ernest Borgnine to win the best actor Oscar over fellow nominee, Spencer Tracy, who he co-stared in "Bad Day at Black Rock" also in 1955. He respected Spencer so much.
@@brockjennings didn’t know this. Thanks 🙏
Tracy advised Borgnine not to take the part in "Marty", saying that it would be a little black & white movie that no one would ever see. At the Academy Award ceremony, as Borgnine walked to the stage to accept the Oscar, he passed Tracy, and Tracy said "you never listen to me, do you?"
Sometimes someone hurts you so badly that you are never the same. You can never trust again, not like you once did. I am not saying that you should give up. Only to recognise that you are different now, you can not return to the naïve man you once were.
The golden age of Hollywood is dead,great actors great movies.
Bloody hell , what a scene, such instant pain watching this clip.
This is a great study in acting. Both actors are wonderful. I couldn't stop watching.
Huge Borgnine fan. He played a sadistic character who beat Sinatra to death in "From Here to Eternity" and then masterfully played Marty, a sensitive and vulnerable man. In real life, he was cheerful and friendly.
I know exactly what he's saying, after enough years have gone by it's not worth trying anymore...you just gotta be happy with yourself.
And yeah he does find someone perfect and that's great! But that's what makes it a movie. In real life, you'll never meet her.
And 70 years later, you'll still need to pay to watch it on RUclips. That speaks volumes.
Speaks volumes? That greed has no limits?
@@steveschmidt5156 It's called capitalism. Deal with it. I would argue that it's ignorance that has no limits.
Here’s a bold, crazy idea-- buy a hard copy of the film. Then watch it anytime you want.
@@steveschmidt5156 Yep The tribe wants them shekels.
Do you get paid for your work? I am sure RUclips has to pay their employees somehow…
I think men relate to this even more today. Well, I definitely do.
Ernest Borgnine had a superstar acting career that lasted 60 years, won an Oscar, had a blasted on his TV series too!😊 Very relatable actor!😊
This conversation shows a genuine concern of a parent 🥺 Golden Era ☮️🤍
Women will never understand the amount of pain men like this go through.
First saw this as a teenager; it resonated decades ago and still does….
Borgnine won an Oscar for this movie,well deserved
My mother is the same. Insists on me being handsome, smart, and charming. But it's like Marty said: "Whatever they want, I ain't got." and I'm fine with it. You learn to live with it. Is it painful? Yes. But you learn to endure it.
Yup and you get gaslighted by the people you are around with if you asked why can’t you get a girlfriend and they say, it’s your fault.
Wow, that was a sad, but wonderfully acted scene.
I wonder if the little pat he gives his mother on the hand at the end was ad libbed. It tells you all you need to know about this man's heart.
@@alanmaslac2065 Borgnine was so talented I'd bet it was ad libbed as such a skilled actor can feel out the scene! Great observation
It'll soon be 20 years since I've been alone, I feel this straight to my core
My Dad got to meet him a couple times at a golf tournament, said he was a nice guy.
Ernie you were wonderful ❤
26 years in a long term relationship over. The lonliness alone now wasnt welcome but now is. Amazing what time to yourself can achieve.
In an interview Borgnine said while filming “Marty” in Hoboken he needed extra security because he was receiving death threats because his character killed Frank Sinatra’s character in “ From Here To Eternity “. LoL Ernest played some dark characters but Marty was wonderful and through his interviews you can tell that he loved life and was a genuinely good guy
He was equally convincing playing the dark side.
Remember his character "Shack", the sadistic railroad dick in "Emperor of the North"? Polar opposite of Marty.
What a brilliant movie this is . Could watch it a 1000 times 🙏🏻
Proverbs 18:24
A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a Friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Matthew 11:28
Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
Still one of the truest and most painful lessons ive learned.. live this scene
My name is Marty and I feel exactly how he feels.
Isn't life strange?
Erine was one of the greatest film actors of his generation. He was great in Marty, From Here to Eternity, Bad Day at Black Rock, The Poseidon Adventure, and The Emperor of the North, all classics that are still worth watching today.
This was my absolute favourite movie and it introduced me to Ernest. An absolute legend of an actor ❤
This movie is annoying. They dog on him for being single and then when he finds a woman he really likes, they dog on her for being "dog faced". I know that's intended in the set up for the film's climax, but it hits too close to home for this viewer. We're all too often faced with the cruel and prejudiced busybodyness of those around us.
Only in Hollywood would they consider her "dog faced", anywhere else she would be considered attractive.
Even just thinking about this scene and this entire movie, makes me tear up. Such honesty about the human condition. And what amazing performances, that script! One of my most favorite films for sure
Amen brother!..after 53 years I know I'll die alone and I'm okay with that...