"I don't really have friends" and why loneliness is okay.

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  • Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024

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  • @samanthacboyer
    @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +30

    Hey, friend! I'd love to have you in our community on Patreon! Here’s the link if you'd like to check it out: www.patreon.com/SamanthaBoyer
    Also, please tell me I'm not the only one with a closet full of half-finished, well-loved-but-abandoned-nevertheless paintings? 🤭

    • @francineh.7825
      @francineh.7825 3 месяца назад +7

      You are definitely not the only one!

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +2

      @@francineh.7825 Thank youuuu 🙈

  • @vanoramoon674
    @vanoramoon674 3 месяца назад +177

    I am alone, but I am NOT "lonely." There is a difference. I like my life.

  • @robot7759
    @robot7759 2 месяца назад +29

    You have your friends on your lap. Animals are unconditional.

  • @gwenritch
    @gwenritch 3 месяца назад +135

    I’m in my early 60s and have been alone more than half my life more or less. No kids but I have a full house and big property full of rescued cats. I moved away from Canada and moved to another country, no English, no friends except rescued cats. It’s good, been painting and hosting little paint parties and loving my fur babies! No stress, just calm, peace and feeling grace with all I have!

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +8

      Oh my gosh, that's a dream life right there! 🥹 Gonna screenshot your comment and put it on my vision board 🤭🖤

    • @mekomckracken2358
      @mekomckracken2358 3 месяца назад +4

      You have my dream life. :)

    • @vitaveritas7654
      @vitaveritas7654 2 месяца назад

    • @SIERRATREES
      @SIERRATREES 2 месяца назад

      sounds fantastic. Painting & fur babies. - purrfect.

    • @samstruys3088
      @samstruys3088 Месяц назад +1

      I'm 50 years, love nature and kittens and have no kids. Your life sounds lovely. Having a safe place amidst nature, surrounded by kittens and doung Art is... yeah, that which make my Anxiety Disorder and OCD, depression and a vast confusion regarding relationships less difficult.
      Big hugs to all of your kitten and to yourself.
      Have a nice day,
      Sarah.

  • @Belluser-we1uc5cb2l
    @Belluser-we1uc5cb2l 2 месяца назад +23

    After my husband died, my friends disappeared and stopped calling and not returning calls. I am very picky who I call a friend. I don't think people know what that means. Peace ✌️ is what I got and needed. No drama or gossip.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      So sorry for your loss, but happy to hear you've found peace 🖤 Wishing you light and fairy magic, friend!

  • @sarabaity3147
    @sarabaity3147 3 месяца назад +169

    I just now, not even 5 seconds ago, had the thought of, I actually don’t have any friends to hang out with regularly and I’m almost in love with that because I love spending time with myself and doing my own things so much - and then I opened up RUclips and this was the first recommended video. Just, wow.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +16

      Ah! So glad you resonate! 🖤 Sounds like the fairies brought you here 🧚🤭

    • @MysticFox05
      @MysticFox05 3 месяца назад +3

      Me too! I would sometimes feel bad about it. But I don’t anymore. Plus, I have my puppies. That’s all I need 🥰

    • @lightdancer4146
      @lightdancer4146 2 месяца назад +6

      Me too! How extraordinary! Quite literally walking in the woods near a waterfall and thinking about being short on friends, got home, opened RUclips and here we are!! I’ve been worrying and bemoaning the fact I have no real friends, but I have me! Enjoy you 😊

    • @evannegregory5509
      @evannegregory5509 2 месяца назад +7

      This really hit home for me! When my husband passed away 3 years ago my children worried that I would be lonely and encouraged me to volunteer, join a gym or club, join a church ect. What they don't realize is after a long marriage with my best friend and raising a family I know enjoy my solitude and don't need companionship. My children and 2 grandchildren are enough for me. I am content.😊🙏

    • @Divinelywriting
      @Divinelywriting 2 месяца назад +3

      I’ve been feeling that way too. In the last 6 months I feel like there’s been a shift in my friendships. We don’t really have the same priorities and outlook in life. They’ve stayed stagnant while I’ve moved forward. I can’t stay back with them when I’ve got so much more to look forward to.

  • @artbydebrafarrell5197
    @artbydebrafarrell5197 3 месяца назад +64

    I love solitude and peace, as an empath I need to be away from people. I paint and love my fur babies who never judge. We are all different, we all need different things.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +6

      Absolutely agree! Although, sometimes I do get the feeling that my kitties are, in fact, judging me 🤭 😅

    • @SIERRATREES
      @SIERRATREES 2 месяца назад

      I completely understand and am the same.

    • @kle133
      @kle133 Месяц назад +1

      😊eu também sou assim, mais meus parentes não entendem

  • @starrnanigans6402
    @starrnanigans6402 3 месяца назад +43

    Sad thing is, I’m an introvert by nature, but I *am* genuinely lonely because all of my friends seem to have become more like acquaintances. I only see them if I message them first, and meet on their terms (their time table, their location, their plans). I used to see friends daily because of school and college, then every few weeks, and now I’m lucky if I see friends 1 or 2 times a year. And it’s hard for an introvert to find people who are willing to let you into their social circle; everyone seems set in their friendships with no room for more. I’m trying to find ways to meet more folks and make friends, but it’s a slow, lonely process.

    • @erissatiah1797
      @erissatiah1797 2 месяца назад +8

      I honestly relate to what you wrote so much. I too have put my introverted self out there and never seem to meet friends who put in the same amount of effort and it's honestly exhausting.

    • @katec9893
      @katec9893 2 месяца назад +6

      I'm similar, I call it being a sociable introvert. I'm about 60% introvert so it's maybe harder than being 90% because of the fine line between loneliness and overwhelm from too much social interaction.

    • @NormieNeko
      @NormieNeko 2 месяца назад +4

      It's like this with extroverts as well. Most people have overstimulated with scheduled lives that don't leave much room for socializing with friends. People are mentally or physically tired. Many are used to the convenience of social media, as well, where parasocial relationships with influencers and content creators feel real and enough (but they're not).
      It's not like it was even in the late 20th century with secular BBQs and church potlucks. People had more community and tribalism before then. We've lost all of that. We can form many more connections nowadays, but they're also more shallow, surrounding niches. You get along over politics, gaming, AI art, or fitness etc, but you don't bring up much else but the niche subject that connects you. It's sad.

    • @GloryBe123
      @GloryBe123 2 месяца назад

      @@katec9893i can relate to that.

    • @GloryBe123
      @GloryBe123 2 месяца назад

      @@NormieNeko True

  • @skeingamepodcast5993
    @skeingamepodcast5993 3 месяца назад +38

    I have a boyfriend and we're both kind of hermits. We're not afraid to say when we need alone time and even when we're together, we don't fill the sweet silence with pointless chatter. We both live on sailboats, so we can literally float away from society. I'm 40 and I don't have a lot of friends and I'm totally fine with that.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +5

      Oh my gosh, now I want to live on a sailboat ?? That sounds absolutely cozy. Also, totally relate to the 'sweet silence' - on my first date with my (now) husband, we sat in comfortable silence for a lot of the time. I think that was our first clue that we were compatible. 🤭🖤

  • @debbieknight8294
    @debbieknight8294 3 месяца назад +69

    I luv being alone. People don't understand. I'm NOT lonely. No one seems to get that.i think better. More people should do this. U learn soooo much about urself. I don't need to be around alot of people to know who I am. Thank u. U are Awsome

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +4

      Exactlyyyy! You get it. 🖤 Perfectly said 🥰

  • @charlieenriquez
    @charlieenriquez 2 месяца назад +5

    I found out i really don't have friends.
    Thank you. I found this post. It made my day hopeful.❤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      So happy to hear it was helpful! Thanks for watching, friend 🖤

  • @annellewellyn5535
    @annellewellyn5535 Месяц назад +3

    Beautiful art, house, cats, rug and you. I've been alone for 75 years and I've never been lonely.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      Thanks, friend! And thanks for sharing - gives me hope that I have (more of) a happy life ahead of me 🖤🥰

  • @Leto85
    @Leto85 2 месяца назад +6

    'It's the belief, not the reality that's the problem.'
    Those are wise word, dear. And exactly the words that I follow by heart.
    I think that when we are connected or reconnected enough with our inner selves we can choose not to feel lonely, simply because we don't like to feel that way.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад +2

      You phrased it perfectly. I've been going down those existential rabbit holes about the concept of reality 🙈 and it really does seem to be that we play a huge part in creating it ourselves, like you said.

    • @Leto85
      @Leto85 Месяц назад

      @@samanthacboyer I'm glad you've found that too! Our society is bound to almost make us belief that we need more stuff in order to be happy for example, yet less stuff means less to worry about: literarily.
      I've found my answers in meditation, reading and seeing the documentary The Secret, and by deep thinking.
      How have you found your answers? I'm very interested in reading your findings.

    • @starryamity33
      @starryamity33 9 дней назад

      Across my life, I have only ever felt lonely when I'm unattuned to myself. The quality of our relationship to ourselves is the one that impacts our enjoyment in everything else, including relationships with others.

  • @TheCreativeLeoo
    @TheCreativeLeoo 2 месяца назад +10

    I can’t say I have true friends either. I could probably try and nurture my friendships, but I prefer being alone most of the time. I realized this a few years ago when I found myself at a bar with people who were only there because they wanted to drink their frustrations away while I just wanted to go home and work on my book or practice piano or paint. It’s ok to like your own company. Maybe your own company is really better than anyone else’s.

    • @SIERRATREES
      @SIERRATREES 2 месяца назад

      Thats a great way of putting it. I am the same.

  • @Rachopin77
    @Rachopin77 2 месяца назад +5

    I guess I might be one of the few people in this comment section that truly struggles with being alone and lonely. I work alone as an artist, and one of the ways I feel connected to life is through human connection and expressing myself socially. I often feel like I’m disappearing if I’m alone for too long, and I think it’s just who I am. I don’t think I’m someone who is meant to be alone. I only can be truly content in chosen solitude unfortunately, but I find solitude still useful for introspection and self searching

  • @JenIsHungry
    @JenIsHungry Месяц назад +3

    I wish I could feel this way. Im so tired of being alone. It ls dreadful to lack those 3-5 good quality relationships, and on top of that, being alone means i have to hear myself, feel my senses, and Ive found I will go above and beyond if it means I don't have to deal with my own company.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      Oh no 🖤 Wishing you light and fairy magic, friend. I hope things get better for you soon.

  • @IkigaiObi
    @IkigaiObi 3 месяца назад +32

    I started typing and deleted things a bunch of times.
    I guess all I can really bring myself to say is this resonates with me greatly. I found myself on a very peculiar "spiritual" journey that ended up enlightening me to the fact that I everyone telling me I ABSOLUTELY need human-based relationships was incorrect for me specifically. Over the last 2 years I have found more peace in having relationships with "unusual" sources: Gaia, Reality, rocks, animals, plants, the inner child in me and I'm not ashamed to say a handful of non-physical entities.
    The best part of my life has been accepting that it's okay if people think I'm more weird for choosing to be alone than literally doing what amounts to Bush-magick.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +3

      Oh, I love that! 🖤🥺 Totally makes sense though, when we start to see the world around us as living things. Why not have relationships with them like we do other humans 🖤

  • @Know_Thy_Salt
    @Know_Thy_Salt 2 месяца назад +15

    Thank you for addressing this somewhat taboo topic. I’m 43 years young, and a wife and mom of three amazing kids. After the birth of my first child, I knew I wanted to stay home, work from home, unschool, and be present. As an introvert, this seemed ideal since my energy is somewhat limited, and raising children is rather exhausting, albeit rewarding, work. I have zero friends. However, I’m definitely not lonely, and I’m rarely ever alone with a full house. It’s perplexing to many people when one can be “friendless” or alone, but not actually *feel* lonely. As an introspective woman who leads an extremely book-centered lifestyle, I’m quite content being without friends. My thoughts are my own and my life is mostly free of the drama that often accompanies female friendships.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад

      Ah, I totally relate! Especially the book part - Have any recommendations you've enjoyed recently??

  • @karensaville913
    @karensaville913 3 месяца назад +16

    When i was tiny my siblings much older and my mother put me under the tree in our back yard...dolls tea set and pets became my friends my imagination took over..my whole life never fit in...yes blamed myself then i knew i loved peace..and yes im different but i love me ..hopefully i will find my tribe one day so till then my art reading and pets..xxx

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад

      Oo, dolls, tea sets, and pets sound like a magical childhood! 🖤

  • @PsychicZya
    @PsychicZya 3 месяца назад +16

    it helps that you're in a relationship...you might feel lonely if you weren't

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +6

      Oh, absolutely! 🖤

    • @mysoulrambles
      @mysoulrambles 3 месяца назад

      Definitely, having connection is key

    • @4ke_1978
      @4ke_1978 2 месяца назад +1

      I don’t think that’s the case for everybody, though… a relationship is not ‘the pot of gold’.
      45 now, had a relationship for 14 years and am alone for 10 years this month, but I never feel lonely. I am more ‘in line’ with myself, with my needs, I make my own choices (and no more ironing to do 😂). I have no children, only my dog(s) and my crafting. I have a very small family, so not too many obligations luckily 😅 Only since this year I have a lot of caring to do for my grandma who is 91. I love her to bits, but I must admit, it is exhausting, because I miss a lot of my alone time because of all the caring. Strangely it is since the 🦠lockdown that it was like making sense to me that being alone is what felt the best for me 😂

  • @cm9044-b7j
    @cm9044-b7j 3 дня назад

    I so relate. I'd rather spend time with me than with toxic people or people that don't do anything for my soul. I think as you get older, you have less patience. Love your channel!

  • @myronschabe
    @myronschabe 2 месяца назад +2

    I think what must be considered relative to this discussion is relationships with things that are not human....you can have very meaningful relationships with animals as well as nature/places, and most importantly of all is simply being the concious awareness that you are, that we all are.
    It is good to have at least one person you can talk to.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  26 дней назад

      Oh, absolutely. My cats and plants surely add to my social life! 🤭🌿

  • @Jessica-us3gh
    @Jessica-us3gh 3 месяца назад +11

    I am the same way. I have friends I've known forever but we are all aware that we can be friends at a distance. I can get overwhelmed very easily with too much socializing. And I felt bad about being such a recluse for a long time. Not anymore. I enjoy my alone time to do the things that make me happy. PLEASE tell me where you got your lovely dress!!! ❤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +3

      Exactly my thoughts! My one best friend is now long distance, but we still keep in touch 🖤 I didn't get my dress from this site, but I think it's the same one or similar? www.dazy.com/products/womens-fashionable-long-sleeve-cross-v-neck-dress-sz2311105669798042

  • @jessquinn6106
    @jessquinn6106 5 дней назад

    Your narrative of the waterfall and surrounding land is so.....ME. The water, the falls, swimming, the sunset.....it makes me choke up. I know. it's silly to get choked up over an imaginary place, especially being a guy. But its a place I have dreamed about since forever. I love your visions. I would go there and never leave.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  4 дня назад

      Aah, I'm so happy it resonated! Thank you for your kind words - it truly means a lot. I typically start my 'video writing' sessions by focusing on an emotion that I want the story/experience to evoke and it truly means a lot to hear that someone resonated with that. Thanks for watching, friend. So happy to have you in my little world!

  • @aquacommelina
    @aquacommelina 2 месяца назад +3

    I live a very reclusive life with my husband. We live in an earthen home tucked in the foothills of mountains. I venture out into civilization once every two weeks, unless we are snowed in during those icy cold winter months. The drive to our nearest little town is a good 45 minutes weather pending. Like yourself, I paint and decorate. I also like to write letters to distant friends. I fill my letters with art and creative stories of woodland creatures and other nature fun. Discovering your video is a treat!! Thank you for sharing your heart and your creative spirit with all of us. I am inspired and delighted in watching you!!

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад +1

      Ah! You sound like a kindred spirit. I love writing letters, too. I'm always checking listings to one day move to the forest 🤭 I'll have to reach out when I finally make the move and get all your forest-living tips! 🖤 Thanks for your sweet comment - so happy you're here!

    • @aquacommelina
      @aquacommelina 2 месяца назад

      @@samanthacboyer 🌼

  • @earthrooster1969
    @earthrooster1969 3 месяца назад +10

    Oh...the joys of solitude! ❤

  • @sallasal
    @sallasal 2 месяца назад +1

    Thank you ❤ I was lonely in my marriage, together but apart, now when living alone I'm enjoying solitude and I feel connected to everything 🤗

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      So happy you found solitude! Thanks for sharing and thanks for watching! 🖤🥰

  • @missgoldberg
    @missgoldberg 3 месяца назад +11

    Your channel is so perfect for igniting my inner world. The music, the images, the CATS!, the color of your walls....oh my. Thank you.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +3

      Ah, that makes me so happy 🖤🥺 I make the videos for myself as my own little creative outlet and it truly fills my cup when I get to connect with like-minded people through them. So happy you're here 🖤

  • @ledafrost
    @ledafrost 3 месяца назад +6

    Haven't finished wished the vid yet but its the first one I've seen of yours and I love it. To vacuum a rug you need a rug mat. It will help it grip the floor a ton.

  • @Calendula_Craft
    @Calendula_Craft 3 месяца назад +4

    Loved this!! I totally agree with you. Yes, humans need community but I think may of us are perfectly happy with our partner, cats, plants and mystical spirits and a few friends. We don't need to be constantly surrounded by humans even if some people seem to thrive on that. Everyone is different!!

  • @addyadrienelovelace.7673
    @addyadrienelovelace.7673 2 месяца назад +1

    So happy i have no friends, i have my pets who are genuine friends who wont ever desert me in tough times. ❤ Cats.

  • @jillychandler
    @jillychandler Месяц назад

    I love being on my own with my black rescue greyhound Madge. I am a pottery painter, but have not done any for about two years now, as I just have not felt like doing any. My small kiln I keep in the garden, has not been used for all that time. My mood has been a little low at times, but I am alive and kicking still! I have one lady I meet once a week with her dog, who has zoomies with mine in the field by where I live, in rural West Devon, England. I only go out of my home to walk Madge, and to take rubbish to the end of my private lane. I have second home folk around me, so enjoy chatting to different folk when they come to stay there, but do not need to ask anyone into my home. This suits me fine, as strangely I am a sociable person, when I feel I am able to be. But I am much happier doing my own thing in my own home. I have no car now, as due to my severe anxiety, I could not drive it further than 10 mins without being sick - I loved driving, and do miss that. So I get everything delivered to me at home. But I am so lucky where I live, as there is no passing traffic. I have just found you on here, so will give you a thumbs up, and subscribe to you. I love your beautiful cats. Blessings from Jilly & Madge. xxx

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      Oo, I've been wanting to try pottery! You probably have so many cozy mugs for hot chocolate and tea! Also happy to hear you have Madge as your companion. I feel the same about my cats 🖤 Thanks for watching, friend. So happy you're here!

  • @NOW-yy3ud
    @NOW-yy3ud Месяц назад

    Without getting into a deeper conversation...I just wanted to say I LOVE YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR - nothing is more "friend"lier than making someone smile...it comes close to creating friends (and close is pretty good) 🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @SIERRATREES
    @SIERRATREES 2 месяца назад +1

    We all need social interaction, like we need oxygen - its just that as a happy loner cat person - my needs are very low.

  • @KellysMagicalRealm
    @KellysMagicalRealm 3 месяца назад +6

    This is what I’m going through! Thank you for sharing! Now I know I’m not alone. I have found that the more healing that I do, I have found that people have fallen away. I can’t be around toxic people anymore it bothers my mental health.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад

      So happy to hear it resonated 🖤 🥺 Thanks for watching! Happy you're here 🖤

  • @tiffanyswensen9490
    @tiffanyswensen9490 3 месяца назад +5

    This is an incredible channel. I would be your cabin witch neighbor in a heartbeat!
    I am alone, but never lonely. I just rediscovered my love and passion for painting and have immersed myself in my craft.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +1

      Oh, I would love a cabin witch neighbor! 🖤
      So happy you're here 🖤

  • @doreenarcher8543
    @doreenarcher8543 3 месяца назад +5

    Omg I love this. I was born a loner . I do care about people. I always want the best for people. I’m just not relationship material. I just can’t think in that way. My thoughts are busy with creative endeavors, curiosities and learning new things. I do miss carnal physical intimacy but not wanting relationship to complicate things. It’s not that easy🤭😊🤗interestingly. I am so EXCITED to have discover this channel.🩷🌷Blessings to you Samantha.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад

      Absolutely! So happy to have you here 🖤

  • @dxmxrxsbxxckthxwxxdxlf3931
    @dxmxrxsbxxckthxwxxdxlf3931 18 дней назад

    I used to be a bit jealous of my sister, who has friends she goes out with every other day. When I told her of my viewpoint, she pointed out that I am luckier than her because it is difficult for her to know if every friend is a true friend outside of the circle of true best friends that she has and she needs to be careful because people tend to cling to her.
    I, on the other hand, can be a handful, and people who truly appreciate me will take time for me.
    Sometimes, I wish I had more things going on in my life, but as an introvert, I only have so much energy for work and maintaining my apartment that I have limited time and energy for social drama.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  5 дней назад

      I've never thought of it that way before! Makes total sense both ways. Thanks for sharing!

  • @superlibbyanne
    @superlibbyanne Месяц назад

    I don’t have friends too, just my wonderful husband and adult son. I just found your channel and I can’t believe how much I relate to you. One eyed pet to boot. Lol I have joy from finding you.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      Ah, so happy to have found another kindred spirit! So happy you're here🖤

  • @juliebarrett8903
    @juliebarrett8903 3 месяца назад +3

    I love your resolve to create a smaller table to reflect your actual life. Good call. Such a metaphor - choose what works and reflects your own needs and comfort. And yes to putting the unfinished paintings in the closet to percolate for a while! Moving paint around is as important as any finished product! Solitary home pursuits are golden.
    “Not having many friends” can be such a loaded phrase. I trust people who have fewer, and more genuine friendships over people who are addicted to crowds. I’ve known people who gather many friends for “sourcing” their own cheerleading & compliments, also people who need to belong to a group to have the sense that they belong, and can be SEEN belonging to the group, which can be self-promoting.
    Finding relevance, purpose, self-acceptance from others can be a real dead end. The one I see in the mirror every day is the only person who can really affirm my own belonging. Having a few truly authentic, kind, interesting friends has been pure gift in my life. I hope to be that caliber of friend, too. I am not lonely because I choose a few particular friends, as opposed to many “acquaintance” friends - and I enjoy spending time alone because of its incredible restorative effect on my whole being. I don’t choose to pour out my precious energy on small talk, or mis-use of my time, which exhausts me! I prefer having the energy to pursue what matters to me. (Not perfectly, for sure…we all have to live in this world we have been born into.) I have become very discerning about the people I choose to invite into my life - my life is calmer, and even happier as a result. I salute your worth and presence! And I really enjoyed your video. Being an introvert can be a superpower.🎉

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +1

      Ahh, you said it all so beautifully. I also struggle with the small talk - drains me really quickly. 🖤 Thank you for your sweet comment and for stopping by my little corner of the world! So happy to have you here 🖤

  • @simoncurl4504
    @simoncurl4504 2 месяца назад +1

    I for one am happy to disconnect from this mad world where little makes sense. I cannot act a false part to fit in. Check out the mighty Emily Bronte, her secluded life was filled with art, music, and writing. Her connection to nature gave her soul everything she needed, and also her loyal dog Keeper was always with her. She had a mystical side to her.

    • @SIERRATREES
      @SIERRATREES 2 месяца назад

      Wow - thnk you Im going to read about Emily Bronte.

  • @MeganMcKiernanArt
    @MeganMcKiernanArt 3 месяца назад +3

    😂 I love how you held onto your cat when the doorbell rang 😊 your videos are very nice and cozy to watch! Thank you!

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +2

      I think she dislikes the doorbell as much as I do 🤭🖤 Thanks for watching! I'm so happy you're here.

  • @leeoniestephens2994
    @leeoniestephens2994 3 месяца назад +7

    So glad I've found you. Soooo very much love my life, yes in solitude, love who I am. Refreshing to hear you also saying we're not falling short because of no real human relationship involvements. Keep shining brightly and thank you.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад

      Ah, thank you! So happy you're here 🖤

  • @martinefaguy3840
    @martinefaguy3840 2 месяца назад +1

    I just discovered your channel, and my oh my, I immediately felt a connection. I've been lonely since I was young. I've always thought I was "not normal", but throughout the years, I've made my way without the need to have friends ( except my husband and our furmily of four, 'cause all our kids have paws). I am blessed to have found your lovely channel. Hugs from Canada 😊 and paws and purrs to your beautiful furbabies ❤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад +1

      Sounds like we have a lot in common 🖤🥰 Thanks for watching! So happy to have you here 🖤

  • @suzanneboily5224
    @suzanneboily5224 2 месяца назад

    I HAVE FRIENDS but never see them often. But I do arts cleaning and camping. Maybe someday they will visit. So I understand.

  • @kerenvalentin7082
    @kerenvalentin7082 3 месяца назад +2

    I have no friends either, I do feel lonely sometimes but I'm getting to know myself. Baby steps, that's what I say. I love your stories and your honesty. I felt like you were a friend who was clearly talking to me. And your definitely not the only one as I Just shared with you.
    🤗

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +1

      Ah, thank you so much! And wishing you light and fairy magic on your journey to knowing yourself. You sound like an absolutely lovely person to get to know 🖤

    • @kerenvalentin7082
      @kerenvalentin7082 3 месяца назад +1

      @@samanthacboyer Thank you

  • @SharpPear
    @SharpPear Месяц назад

    Same boat here.I am so glad I stumbled onto your vlog.You have many like minded friends, right here!!!

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      I really do! This is truly the sweetest little community 🥹🖤

  • @LoveIsVitalEverlasting
    @LoveIsVitalEverlasting 3 месяца назад +3

    This is my first time coming across your channel. It is lovely, and the sentiment is very relatable. Your artwork as well as storytelling is beautiful. Everything gives me a feeling of gentle whimsical calming in my soul. Thank you! I'm glad I came across this today. Also my plans for having dinner parties or tea parties with game nights to follow have not been fulfilled since we got our house. Although I am a little sad about it, I also really haven't met many others on a similar path. The storytelling of the sirens really brought out something from my heart. The idea of friendship where I can go to the edge of the water, and the beautiful sirens are waiting to see me again is a magical idea. I often find myself in nature, and the beach and riverside are my favorite places to be. In the beauty of wilderness and all the amazing creatures down to the tiny bugs and flowers, I never feel very alone anymore ❤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +1

      Ah, that's beautiful 🖤🥺 I suppose mother earth does make a fabulous friend! And I've always been a water girl, myself (well, the beach at least. I don't love getting in the water 🤭) - Thanks for stopping by my little world - so happy you're here!

  • @charlott7139
    @charlott7139 3 месяца назад +4

    First of all, this is the first video I have ever seen from you, it randomly got recommended to me by my algorithm and wow, my jaw literally dropped once I saw you. You are absolutely stunning and insanely beautiful. The pure definition of divine feminine energy and beauty! I hope this doesn’t sound cheesy but I truly mean it! And the immense calmness and peacefulness you radiate makes it so addictive to listen to you. And the artful and cinematic way of filming this video and portraying the feeling of being at peace with not having friends??? Glorious. This inspired me so much to let go of any societal expectations and just live my life the way I enjoy it: mostly in solitude with nature and my deity by my side. Love everything about this video 💗

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +1

      Wow, that is so sweet! 🥹 Thank you! 🖤 I have a 'divine feminine energy' image on my vision board for this year as a reminder to be a little softer on myself. 🖤 Thanks for watching - so happy you're here!

  • @lindawilson9485
    @lindawilson9485 3 месяца назад +2

    Your kitty's are such great helpers! Just like mine! 😺 I enjoy aloneness and have a few close friends when I need to socialize.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад

      Yes, very good helpers 🖤😌 You sound like a kindred spirit 🖤

  • @kristinau169
    @kristinau169 Месяц назад

    You’ve made a nice life for yourself, painting and spending time with your kitties ❤ I am also an artist and really connected to this as I was extremely shy as a kid.

  • @RoosStokkel
    @RoosStokkel 3 месяца назад +1

    For the first time in my life I am not looking for friends anymore, 'happiness searching' or something like that you call it... i have healed myself enough to no longer need it. I do have connections that are intimate and that I value. But I am just not very sociable. Don't like to go out. Thank you for reflecting beautifully on this topic! Love your style and storytelling too 🤩

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад

      Yes, exactly my thoughts. 🖤 Thanks for your comment! So happy you're here.

  • @rae979
    @rae979 3 месяца назад +1

    My tummy settled back down when you moved the lamp behind the plant....thank you ❤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад

      It just didn't feel right before! 🖤

  • @JG-di8oi
    @JG-di8oi 2 месяца назад +1

    Omg i just found your channel. It is soo magical. I love the music and the fall vibe. I cant wait to see more. Thank you ❤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад

      Thank you!! So happy you're here 🖤🥰

  • @Moonbean33
    @Moonbean33 2 месяца назад

    I’m beyond happy I found your page.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад +1

      I'm ALSO happy you found it. Thanks for being here! 🖤

  • @aymenarifmalik
    @aymenarifmalik 2 месяца назад

    Your videos are so unique. I love them. Honestly, I haven't ever been able to find how exactly I want to shoot my videos. There are so many ideas and it all gets too overwhelming to pick one style. :/

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад +1

      Ah, thank you! My filming style of my first few videos were a bit different, but I found a good flow over time. I'm sure you'll find a style that resonates with you! 🖤

  • @kumudinilotus
    @kumudinilotus 3 месяца назад +3

    I don't really have friends either and enjoy my solitude. I always felt different and uncomfortable around other people. I feel everything. I feel their judgemental thoughts. It just doesn't feel good to me. I also believe in fairy's, elementals, gnomes and all the other beings that exist unbeknownst to the masses. 🧚🧚🧚🧚🧚😄I'm also an artist 🎨 🎨 🎨 😊💗 🙏

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад

      Aah, perfectly said! - 'I feel everything'. Exactlyyyy! Sometimes it's just a little much 🤭

  • @lunatic8877
    @lunatic8877 3 месяца назад +3

    This is how I feel. I dont have friends and i really don't want them any more. I like spending time by myself. I'm not enamoured by the people I've met in my life so far. I'm fed up with being told I need more people in my life. It's much better to have none over a poor calibre of them. Also I'm a weirdo and other people are too normal for my liking

    • @TheEclecticPhotog
      @TheEclecticPhotog 3 месяца назад

      Exactly!

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад

      Absolutely - the 'weirdo' part makes it kinda difficult to connect with people. I'm so grateful for the handful that I feel comfortable around! 🖤

    • @stormyhaverkate6573
      @stormyhaverkate6573 3 месяца назад

      YES! I’ve always felt different than the normal of most society. I’m glad I found your site on here! Keep shining your light. ❤

  • @Ali.Strasza
    @Ali.Strasza 2 месяца назад

    Instantly subscribed when you asked the cat if they were going to get the door 😂

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад +1

      Yeah, she runs to hide when someone comes over and the other cat tries to escape. Jokes on me! 🐈‍⬛

  • @haven-of-bliss
    @haven-of-bliss Месяц назад

    Your whimsical personality beams light and hope. I'm so happy to have stumbled upon one of your videos. 🍃💚🌙

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much! Happy to you're here. 🖤 AND I love your user name.

  • @LillianArrieta
    @LillianArrieta 2 месяца назад

    You're so cute ❤ you don't need friends don't let anyone destroy your peace what you have is priceless stay beautiful blessings to you ❤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад

      Thanks, friend! 🖤🖤 And thanks for watching - so happy you're here.

  • @annika93dk7
    @annika93dk7 3 месяца назад +4

    You just bring the right atmosphere for my personality :) I forget the real world and travel into a 'haven' of just reflection and joy.
    Thank you deary

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +1

      That makes me so happy!! The 'haven' feeling is definitely the goal. So happy to have you in my little world 🖤

  • @GloryBe123
    @GloryBe123 2 месяца назад

    I loved your waterfall painting and wish i could have it.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад

      Ah, thank you! I'm considering finishing it and add it and prints to the shop.🖤

  • @chereedmeyer
    @chereedmeyer 3 месяца назад +1

    I don’t think I have ever enjoyed a RUclips video more. ✌️❤️

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад

      Ah, thank you so much! So happy to have you here 🖤

  • @lisepaisley7961
    @lisepaisley7961 2 месяца назад

    I totally agree with you , and very much like you in these thoughts and feelings! Love from Canada 🇨🇦 💌

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад +1

      So glad you resonate! Thanks for watching, friend 🖤

  • @christykiel1290
    @christykiel1290 2 месяца назад

    Wow! You were totally talking about me and I needed the hope.

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      So glad the video reached you 🖤 Happy you're here!

  • @plain_me
    @plain_me 2 месяца назад

    It's like we're twins. I subscribed. Thank you, Kindred Spirit 💙

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      I love a good kindred spirit 🖤🥰 Welcome!

  • @kellysearer9643
    @kellysearer9643 Месяц назад

    WOW! Your painting is beautiful! I wish I could make art like that. I've always felt alone even with a husband or others. Was 5 and 6 years behind my sibilings, too little for them...LOL. I have to say, I've had a hard time with it. 👍

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад +1

      Thank you so much! Sorry to hear your experience hasn't been like mine. I hope it gets better for you soon!!

  • @debbiegarland7124
    @debbiegarland7124 3 месяца назад

    It's good if you choose to be alone, but not if you're alone and don't want to be. Beautiful flower arranging. We'll keep you company, I love your stories, you're very believable 😊

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад

      Perfectly stated. 🖤 And thank you! So happy you're here.

  • @ke5ZJThROV
    @ke5ZJThROV 2 месяца назад

    Samantha you are an amazing storyteller. Your voice is so warm and soothing. Your stories are so beautiful to listen 🪴🌾🌷

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much! That means a lot 🖤

  • @boltonsrus1
    @boltonsrus1 2 месяца назад

    My sweet introverted friend! What a glorious video! I loved it. Love your art.

  • @MinouMinet
    @MinouMinet Месяц назад +1

    Wonderful video, and I agree with your insights! 💖

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад +1

      So glad it resonated! Thanks for watching 🖤🥰

  • @Starowlnightwatch
    @Starowlnightwatch 3 месяца назад

    I am not alone now but love solitude, activities like reading, painting gardening and overthinking. My husband is the same

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад

      Haha, I love that overthinking is in the list 🤭 Happy to have found a kindred spirit 🖤

  • @JennifulCreations
    @JennifulCreations 3 месяца назад

    Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! This society makes us feel like we have to have so many friends, relationships and/or romantic love to be successful. But like you said, wanting isolation is not loneliness. It's peace. This truly is our highest frequency. Blessed be. 🥰

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад

      You said it perfectly. 🖤 Happy to have you here!

  • @stephaniemthoma
    @stephaniemthoma 2 месяца назад

    What a fun whimsical vibe, and I appreciate this reframe of quality vs. quantity of relationships. There's a fullness in allowing special love in and spending less time trying to please everyone.

  • @NatashaMaxine-km3xq
    @NatashaMaxine-km3xq 3 месяца назад +1

    Thank you for the videos and art you create, with someone trying to find where I fit at in this world - this gives me inspiration to help figure that all out!

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад

      Ah, that makes me so happy 🖤 🥺 And happy to have you here 🖤

  • @RideNFly-cn8hf
    @RideNFly-cn8hf 2 месяца назад

    Oh my gosh....I feel so conneted with you, feeling totally understood. Thank you fully from my heart for your videos❤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад

      Ah, that makes me so happy! 🖤 So happy you're here.

  • @katec9893
    @katec9893 2 месяца назад

    Beautiful painting. I am laughing at the rep/rap part, I am always looking up word pronunciations when I hear regional variations and looking up word definitions! I'd never thought to question the loneliness studies but you're right, it probably doesn't help constantly being told we're lonely. I've been reflecting on loneliness a lot recently because I've noticed I can go from peacefully alone to depressed and lonely then back again in one day and I've been considering why that might be. I think if you have a cat or two you don't really need people. I was happy with my wonderful cat but since she died it has been much harder. Animals are the best.

  • @colletteclove9620
    @colletteclove9620 3 месяца назад +1

    I love your stories ❤. I think we can find many voices in the waterfall that help us feel less lonely. I loved your painting and was sad when the sirens stopped their singing😢. CONGRATULATIONS on your Patreon.🥳 Im excited to be part of the adventures.
    P.S. Somehow the voice of the Siren feels familiar❤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +2

      Perhaps I'll finish the waterfall painting later on for a different Siren story. Thanks for watching and so happy to have you in the Patreon community! 🖤

  • @rachelbrough8160
    @rachelbrough8160 3 месяца назад +3

    Same, I don't really have friends either....you can't be friends with just anyone, for me it has to be a kindred spirit, I need a soul connection and as an introvert finding that is a very rare thing indeed. I'm more 'alone' then actually 'lonely' and 99% of the time it doesn't bother me and often when I've been with people I'm always really happy to be home. I sometimes think that I've kind of forgotten actually how to have friends or forgotten how to be a friend, I don't know, sometimes I feel more sociable and I can speak to people and laugh and joke etc but ultimately I find myself thinking about going home to my kitties, watering my flowers and getting all cosy in my pj's 😆 I sometimes think having just one (maybe 2 at a push, lol) close friends would be nice, an individual whom you have much in common with, who gets you totally and understands your introversion.
    I love sirens btw, I once wrote a poem that got published about them 😊
    A friend like you would be nice, when your doorbell rang.....your reaction was so me 😂 and the joy and relief that it was just a delivery!
    Sending hugs ❤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +1

      Yes! You absolutely get it! The closer, kindred spirits are lovely. The small talk friendships are hard on my energy levels 🤭 I'd love to read your poem!! Do you have a link to it?

  • @Beachbum30
    @Beachbum30 2 месяца назад

    THANK YOU!I guess I'm not WEIRD!!THANK YOU THANK YOU SOO MUCH!we're being TOLD what we think and feel.We don't have to listen.I appreciate you bringing this to light.

  • @rorareikisoundhealing9125
    @rorareikisoundhealing9125 2 месяца назад

    I'm so glad I came across your channel today! I often feel lonely and I do have a couple of friends but since I moved I don't really have any in person friends. Thank you for your wisdom and shedding light on the subject of lonliness. May you be blessed by the faires today! 😊🧚‍♀️

  • @Kellaa808
    @Kellaa808 2 месяца назад

    You are fantastic!!!! This is my first video and you are 😍

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад

      Ah, welcome! So happy you're here 🖤

  • @margogreen8619
    @margogreen8619 3 месяца назад

    I don't have friends either, I moved to many times in my life, but I am OK with it! Love your painting it's really beautiful and magical .

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад

      Happy the message resonated with you 🖤 And thank you so much! So happy you're here. 🖤

  • @durongloria
    @durongloria 2 месяца назад

    I Love your website , Your Amazing young woman! 🎉I'm senior now and have been to myself a lot and just realizing it's not bad at all.❤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      Thank you! And that makes me so happy to hear. 🖤

  • @lisahinkofer2085
    @lisahinkofer2085 3 месяца назад +1

    I live with two other people and when they go to work I’m alone.i love my alone time. Solitude peace quiet. I have one close friend and that’s enough. We have been friends for over twenty years. She lives about three hours away by car. I take my evening walks alone and love this me time. I’m not lonely or sad but I’m happy and satisfied with and I am loving my alone time and I enjoy my own company

  • @jennifercesario9238
    @jennifercesario9238 2 месяца назад

    I just found your channel and immediately subscribed!!! I absolutely fell in love with your personality, storytelling, and beautiful painting ❤ I wish I had found you sooner, but I am so excited to watch all of your videos 😊

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much! 🥹🖤 So happy you're here. And thank you for watching!

  • @leanakayvlogs8198
    @leanakayvlogs8198 2 месяца назад

    Wow you’re my kind of people. So glad I found your channel! 🤗

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад

      Ah, so happy it's found the right algorithm to reach you! Thanks for watching! 🖤

  • @TaylormadeRoots
    @TaylormadeRoots 2 месяца назад

    Thank you so much for this video. I needed your brilliant explanation of what I couldn’t explain lately ❤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      So glad my rambling made sense 🖤 Happy you're here!

  • @Divinelywriting
    @Divinelywriting 2 месяца назад

    I love how you formatted your content. I’m so happy to have found your page. 💕

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад

      So glad you enjoyed it! 🖤🙏 Thanks for watching.

  • @Englishroserebecca
    @Englishroserebecca 2 месяца назад

    I get really nervous when I have to socialise. Been like this my whole life. A dog is a good best friend. ❤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад +1

      Me, too. I feel the same about my cats 🥰🖤

  • @bridgettedunagan8181
    @bridgettedunagan8181 2 месяца назад

    please please dont stop making videos!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад +1

      Screenshotting your comment to read next time I need motivation 🤭🖤 Thanks for your support! Happy you're here.

  • @naturegoddess1313
    @naturegoddess1313 3 месяца назад

    This is the best video! Same over here. No friends but not lonely. Creative outlets are super important & I love a good story 😍 The scene when the doorbell rang had me 💀

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  3 месяца назад +1

      Ah, thank you! And so glad you resonate 🖤 The doorbell with forever put me on edge, I think 🤭

  • @teerecords
    @teerecords 2 месяца назад +1

    This could not have come to me at a better time. Thank you for putting into words and video what I have felt for so long🖤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад +1

      My pleasure! So happy it resonated 🖤🖤

  • @MIOLAZARUS
    @MIOLAZARUS 2 месяца назад

    I feel the same. I love solitude. ❤

  • @consciouseducationcoach
    @consciouseducationcoach Месяц назад

    You are wonderful, funny and so very creative. I found this today and you made me smile in my heart! So lovely you and your beingness, thank you for sharing ❤

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much! 🖤 So happy the video found its way to you. Thanks for watching!

  • @mekomckracken2358
    @mekomckracken2358 3 месяца назад

    I rarely ever use this word... but you are just * lovely *

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад

      🖤 🥺 Thank you so much, friend!

  • @bbyangel333
    @bbyangel333 2 месяца назад

    Thank you… so so much for posting this video. I just moved to a new town in the forest by the ocean, and am in a more isolated area, which is so different from where I lived before, where everyone was friends and we had big parties all the time. Now, I live with my boyfriend in the forest, and I am wanting to start recording music and being creative. I work, and see people that way, but don’t really hang out with anyone. I loved the siren story 🤍🌊🌊🌊

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад +1

      Recording music with your boyfriend in the forest?? 🥹 That sounds absolutely magical. I hope you get adjusted to the new lifestyle soon! 🖤

    • @bbyangel333
      @bbyangel333 2 месяца назад

      @@samanthacboyer aww thank you so much 🤍🥹🧚 🧜‍♀️

  • @katiemintle
    @katiemintle 2 месяца назад

    this channel is exactly what my heart needs right now- humble honesty, calming vibe, and magical escape. Thank you so much for all the work you put in to make this beautiful channel for us all. This hobbit hole hermit is subscribed!

    • @samanthacboyer
      @samanthacboyer  2 месяца назад

      Ah, thank you so much! And welcome 🖤🖤 So happy you're here!

  • @GeorginaNZ011
    @GeorginaNZ011 2 месяца назад

    Well, what a delightful find this video was for me this evening!! I will absolutely be sticking around for all the whimsical and cozy vibes 🙂