How I Survived Female Genital Mutilation
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Okay, everybody listen up. This is like chopping off the whole penis by removing all external genitalia, thousands of nerve endings, just gone. And a lot of the time, done by people with no medical experience using pieces of glass. I'm very sorry about what men with MGM had to go through but trying to have a "who had it worse" game isn't gonna help anyone.
wow..
I agree but it's really not
This is not at all like removing the entire penis
They cut off the clitoris, and labia then sew it shut. Yes it is.
true that
Before the annoying comments come.. YES, THIS *IS* WRONG FOR BOTH GENDERS! No one should go through this.
IKR!
AGREE
Uhm yea I don't condone circumcision but this procedure LITERALLY MEANS CUTTING OF THE LABIA, CLITORIS AND SEWING THE VAGINA SHUT. It can't be compared
There are more that two genders jkjkjkjkjk
majskolvish EXACTLY! Some people need to understand that not everything is about them.
"i thought it was a dress."
that hit me hard. childhood innocence is a dangerous thing.
I agree but not childhood innocence isn’t dangerous, it’s people willing to exploit it
Ikr it's so sad :(
The fact they called her the girl with three legs is heartbreaking, that means the adults we’re talking about a little girl and her body, I can’t even
HOLD UP
how was this not banned from the US until 1996?!?!
It’s come to North America again. Even here in Canada. And we’re not allowed to talk about it
That, and the bill M-103 make it illegal to say anything negative about Muslims. Fines and jail time.
Then you need to go and actually fact check this. In Muslim culture as well as in Africa, FGM (Female Genital Mutilation) is normal. Seen as a right of passage into womanhood and since the woman is worth less than the male in that culture, she doesn't need to feel pleasure. I'm saying both places practice this. You may want to look into what someone says before jumping on the idea that a different view point makes someone an idiot. Here, maybe you'll believe the Wiki. "Female genital mutilation (FGM), also known as female genital cutting and female circumcision, is the ritual cutting or removal of some or all of the external female genitalia. The practice is found in Africa, Asia and the Middle East, and within communities from countries in which FGM is common. UNICEF estimated in 2016 that 200 million women living today in 30 countries-27 African countries, Indonesia, Iraqi Kurdistan and Yemen-have undergone the procedures.[3]"
Then why does it say, We will mount (conquer) the world, either through violence or through the womb? That doesn't sound peaceful to me. In the 1970's, Afghanistan dressed like they do here in North America. Then Islam came in, and started showing up with Sharia Law and taking control. I know we are not going to agree on anything here. Even with my buddy Mohammed here telling me he escaped Lebanon with his family to get away from the "peace" you keep talking about. He didn't want his daughter going through FGM like his wife was forced to because of the religion. So I'm just going to leave it. You can live your life and I'll live mine. I'm sorry we couldn't have an actual conversation without having to throw around insults. I leave you with, We shall agree to disagree.
Infidels 'Я' Us
Well it's obvious you haven't even read the Qur'an fgm has nothing to do with Islam there is no mention of fgm in the Qur'an. Fgm is ancient African Custom, practiced by Christians, animist, and Muslims on the Continent of Africa. Muslim Countries have Criminalized the Practice but Christian African Countries such as Ethiopia and Kenya have not.
Your confused with culture and religion. The vast majority of Muslims do not practice fgm
www.reviewofreligions.org/11450/fgm-not-in-the-name-of-islam/
Nice try tho
This is absolutely terrifying and disgusting. hw can you put your own daughter through so much pain. ifeel like they basically raped her i feel like crying
maria deng um no i lived in africa for more than half my life. it doesnt happen everywhere so dont make it sound like it does. please dont think africa is a bad place.
+maria deng it's nowhere nearly as simple as that. most of the time the vaginal hole is stitched up and the clit is removed. Once the girl is married it is unstitched or the husband forcefully breaks it, no doctor can replace a clit once removed that's like trying to sew foreskin back on.
Frik Frak that was just my opinion in how i saw it
That's insane and horrible......this needs to stop
I would never do that
its amazing how they call it "becoming a woman" when they are LITTERALY TAKING AWAY her womanhood :(
No they aren't. Your womanhood isn't dependent upon an intact vagina. Of course I agree that "becoming a woman" is totally wrong, they're just chopping off parts of her.
+Meowphistopheles I don't need you analyzing my comment THAT DEEPLY. I just meant that its kinda ironic that they call it "becoming a woman" when there taking away part of her womanhood.
Luna Fair.
+Meowphistopheles :)
Shes still a woman, just one part that makes it visible to others is gone
You'd think "becoming a women" wouldn't include being sexually mutilated
Castrated MEN TO BECOME MEN!
@Pure Vaginatarian it would take sexual pleasure away from them so they can't have orgasms
Linda Gill it doesn’t take their ability to orgasm away not the same thing
@@user-gz4go9hu5b what
U'd think...
FGM disgusts me. How could someone do that to their child? How could you even believe in something like that? It’s disheartening to hear that parts of our world did this stuff or STILL do this stuff. I can’t even express how I feel because there are no words to explain how I feel. I truly hope the best for the women that had to go through this
Jacob Khan The clit has more sensation than the foreskin and the sole purpose of female mutilation was to remove almost all sensation so the female would stay a virgin until marriage.
What about male circumcision?
They doing this in the UK? Just sad
Galaxy 07 a penis is still functional after circumcision, after actual fgm or mgm, the genitals are not functional.
Lily Queen exactly I'll never put my children through this for the people involved they all need LIFE
She thought it was a dress....... i feel sick now X(
Same...
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@Potato Queen , y u take my name???
:(((((
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To help men understand: FGM is like cutting off your penis. Definitely NOT the same as circumcision. Not saying that circumcision ISN'T an issue, but this video is about FGM. No need to bring up circumcision as an argument against Buzzfeed putting up this video. FGM is very serious business, and not on the same level as circumcision. Again, not that circumcision ISN'T serious (for all the potential butthurts out there).
Circumcision is still a horrible act and is very wrong
No it's not ^
Ya because mutilating your child's penis/vagina is obviously a great thing for a person to do! ( sarcasm) Both MGM and FGM can be equally grotesque depending on the situation.
+Patrick Sweeney Yeah, okay, buddy. Stop playing the "men have it worse card!" card. Genital mutilation is wrong, period.
difference between female circumcision and male circumcision. Male circumcision is LEGAL, while female circumcision is ILLEGAL. That is the issue leHungry, it's a double standard.
Just 4 words. This practice should stop.
that's four words, lol seriouly i agree, it's horrendous.
oh sorry i just noticed "the 4 words" now 😂😂😂. imma edit it thank you
Correction: *this practice MUST stop
Truth.and nothing but the truth.
Must stop
I'm fgm survive too.it was the worst journey. But thanks God I will never do to my girls I have two beautiful daughters.
I’m glad that you’re okay💞💞stay strong 😘
maandeeq Mohamed I’m so happy ur okay ♥️♥️
Glad you are okay ❤️
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm glad you survived. ❤️
Bless your heart. Your daughter's have beautiful and strong mother who loves them very much.
Thank you to the decent men who understand how serious FGM is.
i agree n of course male circumcision is wrong but definitely not nearly as bad.
NOOO. What do you mean "thank you to the men"? there's nothing to be thankful for, men are the reason patriarchy exists and the reason women are mutilated, because apparently they are not allowed to feel pleasure like men do. We have to be thankful to the women who were strong enough to go trough this and still fight against misogyny, we have to thank this woman in the video, who is talking about the issue, sharing her story. We dont need to be thankful to men, they are not doing us any favor by being "understanding". A wonderful video about a empowered black woman talking about her fight and we still feel the need to thank men??? This is OUR fight. ALL PROTAGONISM FOR WOMEN
Manuela Andrade your right i'm just tired of the comments saying "male circumcision and FGM is equally bad" obviously only butthurt men would say that so i appreciate the men that can see past the bs. But yeah i agree with you.
no one is saying this is the fault of men, saying it needs to be stopped
i get where you're coming from, but men not understanding and denying the weight of women's issues and turning it into "well it happens to men too" is a huge part of the problem. Having them empathize with women and acknowledge their struggles is important. and while I don't think they should be thanked for doing what they should be doing already, to say that their understanding isn't doing us any favors i just don't think is true
what a beautiful and strong woman
How could you say that? It's painful, degrading, awful, and barbaric. You are literally taking away her womanhood and somehow making up for it by saying that you're journeying into womanhood. You are sickening
How so?
Birbiri Bu I'm sorry, I was talking to TYLER ARTIST
TYLER ARTIST there is 100% positively no need for that brutal procedure in this world
I didn’t even know this existed until now....thank you for bringing attention to this issue
200 million women suffered this
Same here. I am in ABSOLUTE SHOCK! 😨😭🙈
This happened to one of my closest friends, and her 6 sisters as well. She was 11. She had to be held down. None of them have ever gotten over it. They're all still angry about it to this day. Hearing about it made my blood boil
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nikon12x42
They are both bad but for women it’s just worse. Sorry but thats the truth.
nikon12x42
You don’t see a difference in removing a piece of skin and removing the pleasure point for women, slicing away the labium and sewing the vagina close?
Do you see it now or do you need some glasses?
Something like being circumcised as a baby can’t give you a mental trauma, like you said they don’t remeber it. Physical maybe, while I know a lot of guys whom are circumcised and don’t have any problems at all.
nikon12x42
They are both wrong agreed but the reason not to talk about circumcision on a FGM video is because it totally different. You don’t go talking about cats on a dog video.
The amount of disrespect you must have to completly disregard the woman in this video to talk about a different issue.
Why even watch this video if you ever going to talk about something else? Go watch a circumcision video, how hard is it?
nikon12x42
Losing an ear and losing a leg are both very painful but one is clearly worse than the other.
You can actually still use your ear if the outside is gone, how are you going to use your leg if it’s removed from your body?
I hate when people compare this to male circumcision. They're nothing alike.
Except both are awful
male circumcision can be deadly and lead to medical problems
So both are just as barbaric and we shouldn't force either onto people
My friend was circumcised and he has pain there almost constantly because they ruined his nerves
They*
There is a very small degree of similarity but it's no where near enough that you can say the two things are "the same"
nope its they're
We should look up to someone like her, not someone like the Kardashians!
maybe, maybe not. for different reasons. its good to look up to people whether its athletes, models, singers ect. to have motivation. this woman is empowering for a different reason.
stop comparing women. whoever are interested in makeup and fashion can look up to kardashians businesses and someone who wants to help charity for fgm can look up to her. i can look up to both - role models are everywhere for anything.
Stop comparing women. Putting other women down is not empowering nor helpful.
Stop comparing women. #spreadgirllove
ikr
Becoming a woman is getting your first menstrual cycle. Not genital mutilation
I was genitally mutilated. Do you care about that? Or do I have to have a vagina to be worth your compassion?
@@nextlevelintactivism8195 she meant the video
@@nextlevelintactivism8195 Tf are you talking about?
@@nextlevelintactivism8195 oh, shut up please
No, becoming a woman is being over certain age, becoming a woman by menstruation worked many centuries ago or in a third world countries maybe
Anyone else’s ‘parts’ feel weird when you hear what she says
Hayley X O X O me omg I feel so uncomfortable just listening to thsi
poor girls :/ I wonder if there's a way to stop it. It's so awful
finally a nice caring comment
you can say that again
is this means taking out the vagina?
no, it means removing the clitoris.
There are clubs that are trying to educate people on how dangerous this is, a club that I am in is trying to deal with this topic currently.
What sick person would do this to someone?!😢
religious people? God? pick one
It's more to do with culture not religion. it's actually against my religion.
Sadly it is still practiced. Vice (their channel name on RUclips) did a documentary on a young lady who had this done when she was a child. Take a look at it.
happens to dudes all the time
What sick person still uses emojis...
i'm so disappointed from this world... and this comment section... Not in one Video a women can talk about her pain, without men complaining. If it's a video about prostate cancer, do you see women complain about breast cancer?
I know right! It pisses me off so much :/
No you wouldn’t, but if the comment section was riddled by men who were saying that all prostate cancer is worse than all breast cancer, then there would be a lot of women commenting
Min chen maybe because mgm is still done to milions of babys, everyone think it's good and it's 80% of how bad fgm is?
Chappie
Not everybody thinks it’s “good”, but you can’t compare it to fgm.
Justin Seagull you can compare it to FGM. Genital mutilation is gender neutral. There are different forms of genital mutilation (from pricking the glans to full removal of external genitalia), and it is that way for both males and females
This made my whole body hurt ☹️ i dont even wanna imagine how painful it’s must’ve been😭
My mum is from Somalia and she went through the same thing at a very young age, doesn't really talk about it but the one time she spoke about it. She told me it was the most painful thing she has been through, mentally and physically ( she's been through some crazy things )
She is a Survivor 😊😊😊😊
My prayers go out to her, and all of the other women who have gone through this
same🙌💛
My prayers go out for your mom
F
Oh
Wow i now know how well off i am
wow so many w's in one sentence! lol
I admire you for realising that
Makes me appreciate how lucky I am
Same, and omg you have the same exact name as my best friend at school lol
Omg I love your username
Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child.
My heart tore apart. I’m glad that she is sharing her story and making it more known. Bless her.
It's rare a video evokes this kind of emotion. This makes me feel sick. My heart goes out to the victims of FGM.
same🙏🙌💛
What about MGM ?
The Metro, they're just commenting on fgm because that's more relevant to the video
*No empathy for the victims of male genital mutilation. Never mind that the victims of MGM are more numerous, and most of them were mutilated in your own back yard (in your own society).*
@Bell Olli MGM has x5 as many victims than FGM. Not minimizing FGM but the narrative needs to shift to emphasizing how both are harmful
*not just one
Off topic, her eyes are beautiful... bless her I can't even imagine going through this.
Helga the most beautiful eyes have cried the most tears
Jacob Khan FGM happens to baby boys in America ??
Where is Jet?
Helga well hello there Helga😏😏😏
Helga why do I see you in every comment section I see? 🤣😂
How could someone do that to their child? At least with male circumcision it's done by a professional, sanitary, done when they are babies and heal faster, also it helps prevent against infections. FGM literally serves no purpose aside from pain
Actually that was proven to be a myth. Male genital mutilation has no benefits but is perfectly legal.
How am I sexist? If you believe I am wrong explain to me like any civilized adult would don't come at me with insults that only furthers idiocity
N. Weaver
male circumcision also serves no purpose, millions of men live an uncircumsized life and they are just fine, it's a barbaric practice for both sexes.
I used to think that. Male genital mutilation is just as evil. We are just conditioned to think it's ok. It doesn't help with health and serves no purpose. In a startlingly many cases, baby boys DIE from the shock and pain, including in America and other 1st world nations.
Want to know when you become a woman? THE MINUTE YOU’RE BORN!!!
actually no, infact when you're *in the tummy* you are a woman, just not out of the womb yet.
@@compactcontent1150 No, that's called a fetus lmao.
Hmmm... it's more like after you mature and go through puberty. Before that you're a child/girl.
I thank God my grandmother didnt believe in this even though she was forced by her mother to do it when she was younger , she didnt let my mom and aunts go thur it even though the society around her kept pushing her but slowly everyone in her village stopped doing it and i thank god for that because not a single female in our family went thur this
Well you just said not a single female in your family did it but you just said your grandmother was forced to do it
Yh same its usually among the rural tribes that did it and my mom grew up in the city where it was becoming less done thank god
Probably she meant her mother, aunts, cousins and sisters, from what I understand
Brave woman
Bless your grandmother ❤
woah...FGM was only banned in the US in 1996, when I was born. Scary to see its happening worldwide
It's not banned completely. It's still done to intersex people
My mom was born and raised in the USA since 1976 and that never happened to her
And it still is a problem there too... 😔😔
This actually came from the pharaohs which were not Muslim please don't push religion in when it's culture they are two separate things
Don't assume things like that. rather research instead of sharing false ignorant comments. thanks
I hate how this woman can't talk about her struggles without some of you having to bring up male circumcision. I never see girls going on videos about prostate cancer just to comment about how breast cancer is bad too. Just stop it.
Are you stupid? It's like if it's talking about how bad people that cut cat's tail are but everyone cuts dog's tail, of course people are gonna complain.
not really, went to a MGM video and no girl was talking about how FGM wasnt mentioned. its obvious both are bad, but this is about FGM, not MGM the same way a video about cats' tails isnt about dogs' tails. if there is a vid about a clothing shop getting robbed does that mean robbing any other shop is ok? of course not
@@waifu_png_pl6854 but the fact is that most of the people thinks mgm is just fine.
And that makes a lot of boys so mad.
Also when a man have this done he doesn't gets any of these attentions, but he should cause it shouldn't be normal to mutilate guys.
As much as people support this girl they should be supporting guys who get mutilated, but no one cares at all.
(by the way I'm not even circumcised and I feel bad too, for both men and women)
“Running after men”, “unable to control urges”, etc.... ffs
What does that mean? Like why fgm process is disgusting what happens in this process?
@@ayantikaa7175 they cut all the external parts of female genitals, like the clitoris
Can we please only leave respectful comments here. Thankyou.
In an ideal world, yes. Or if someone at buzzfeed filtered the comments.
OMG X'D
She's such a strong woman ❤.I wish her the best
She's waay more than strong
Reminds me of when the doctors forcefully cut off my. Foreskin, millions of men go through this in America, only they use doctors, women must speak out to protect males, and they must fight to make circumsion in America illegal
darkskin babe In Honour to my birth mum. I would like to spread awareness and fight against FGM! Would you like to help me to spread this message? For more information. Please visit, read and share my Instagram post. @juliatamayo22
Mex cart Circumcision is different in regards to genital mutilation, my son is circumcised, women have no reason to ever have their genitals altered, however men with uncircumcised penis are much more likely to suffer from many infections, penile cancer, more susceptible to STD's including HIV, ect. Circumcision doesn't result in pain for the rest of a males life, unlike vaginal genital mutilation, because we don't have that extra skin like a penis does. To consider circumcision to GM is like comparing a venomous snake, to a non venomous snake. You're however allowed that opinion, and can easily just not have your son circumcised (If you have one or ever do have one) the idea of banning circumcision and ridding us mother's of that choice is essentially wrong, in the regards that, that is our child, and that circumcision is scientifically proven to give your child more protection and is healthier, and as parents that is what we must do for our children, to give them the healthiest options possible. Not to mention the fact, most all men prefer to have circumcised penises, rather than uncircumcised. Can't argue with facts.
Kimberly Hamilton penile cancer is even more rare than breast cancer, and the cases aren't common in younger males. And the claim that it prevents infection better untrue, it does the same thing that taking a shower and just washing yourself would do. There is risk of botched circumcision and that causing even more infection and the same permanent damage. Nobody, even a mother should have the right to make a permanent change to a unconsenting child's body. If it was suddenly proven that cutting the clit off would prevent stds would you still do that and be against it being banned?
I’m sorry this happened to you. You’re a very strong person❤️
Infidels 'Я' Us no, they DID
Jacob Khan jeesus, this is a video about fgm not mgm, if you need to talk about it then watch a video about it
Jacob Khan fgm and mgm are indeed different topics. They are practiced in different cultures and serve different purposes. Male circumcision is just as scary but in a video about a woman's story there are always comments "but what about male genital mutilation?". It's like watching a video about endangered polar bears and the comments would be filled with "what about the elephants?"
Jacob Khan I am eastern european but idk how that makes any difference? Cutting genitals shouldn't be done on anyone, regardless of gender but in a video about one thing we shouldn't shift the attention to another
Jacob Khan if circumcision really did what you said it's supposed to be then most american men wouldn't be able to get erect and feel any sexual pleasure and have any children but they do. For males sexual pleasure is key to procreation but women don't need to experience it in order to get pregnant. The only purpose of fgm is to not cheat on their spouses. In cultures where women are sold to be brides for some cattle and beer nobody cares what they feel. Cutting them with razors, rusty scissors and broken glass then sewing them shut for her first wedding night when they would feel pain because it's raw scar tissue. Then probably cutting them open again when they give birth and many of them die of blood loss and unsanitary conditions but who cares right? The only positive thing about fgm is that these girls feel accepted by society but if they somehow escape it they are shunned from her parents and everybody else and she is deemed unfit to marry and all on her own
Have a nice day
✋I would proudly hold your hand. Thank you for speaking out
The fact that FGM exists is the reason why I have no faith in humanity anymore.
In most countries this practice is illegal.
Hey, I am kinda confused on what it is, can you please help me?
Basically they cut your labia and your clitoris, so you can´t feel pleasure, and they just leave the vagina hole untouched. there is no need whatsoever to do this
+Carla Garcia oh :( Do they do it to men too?
Carla Garcia
Good job at feeding the trolls.
how do the mother's endure the pain and then have their child go through it smh
you do realise many of the mothers actually perform this on their daughters?
It's because they are taught to believe this is the right thing to do
Sir fap alot my.god and they aren't doctors so they likely cut off in such a way it's worse and shock and death are for sure to happen
THIS IS A NIGHTMARE!! HOW in the world can a mother do this to her child??!!!
Sadly, they worry more about the society than the happiness of their own kids☹️😓 and that's why FGM, honour killings, etc are still in practice😔
Is happen to me when I was 8 years old 😭😭😭 I am now 32
Deeqa Tohow you are so strong I am so sorry that happened to you god bless you I hope you’re better now
You're a survivor 💪
snazzy jft thank you so much now I have 4 children god bless you
Praachi Shah thank you so much
Ich war 12, jetzt bin Ich 38. Wenn es demnächst in Gambia wieder erlaubt ist, lasse ich meine Tochter auch beschneiden.
I have gone through the same thing I was raised by my grandma and when I was 6 years old I have gone under fgm it's the most painful thing u can ever imagine peeing was the hardest thing ever I am a mother of two girls now and I will never let my daughters go through what I went through
Im sorry but good job ur a good mom
God! I am so sorry.
I am so sorry you had to go through this. Bless you for surviving such torment and for not putting your children through it.
Wow! That's horrible! Where are you from?
Ifrah Abdi i guess I'm lucky then lol bc I can't remember how it felt like during the procedure or after it. But i do remember that i was screaming loudly, trying my best to get out of the room. 😂
Wow the fact this happens to women makes me nauseous
Sophia Hall pretty bad both ways queen. Cutting up a child’s private parts and destroying their body is a problem for both genders no matter the procedure. Not to mention the fact that MGM is extremely common compared to female, which has been outlawed in many countries so far and hopefully many more. MGM however is seen as normal which is sick
And when it happens to men, you think it's just fine?
Troy Eppstein this is where it gets controversial, fgm leaves a girl with the inability to orgasm, while a man can still orgasm without the foreskin.
@@swaylynnbenson5784 women can still orgasm without the tip of their clit. the clit goes way further inside than you think. then you also have g spot orgasms.
@Solo Dolo Most men can hardly give a woman an orgasm let alone a g-spot orgasm smh
Someone explain to me what happened??
She got female-circumcised.
Why don't we all agree that wether you're male or female, It should be YOUR decision to be cut.. Down there
I don't think we should stop circumcision... We should just stop FORCED circumcision
FGM is nowhere near the same as circumcision, but yes, it should not be forced.
yes it is have you even heard of sub incision
It get harder and with more complication to do it as you get older with most difficult and most complication as an adult
shadow bolt
dude they were comparimg *circumcision* to fgm. not mgm to fgm.
circumcision is mostly superficial in both males and females.
genital mutilation whether it be fgm or mgm cannot be compared to circumcision.
I feel like everyone in the comments is essentially coming from the same place, but because of semantics we all seem to have differing opinions, despite pretty much believing the same things.
FGM - completely terrible, obviously. The clit is cut right off, the vagina is sometimes sewn up, it causes all kinds of medical problems and it's completely degrading.
(Male) circumcision - also a huge issue. While it's not nearly as drastic a medical procedure as FGM, it's still wrong to force an infant/child to have part of their body surgically removed for no medical reason.
While circumcision is a massive problem, it's not the same as FGM, so we should probably just be respectful to the woman in this video rather than arguing about it.
Feminazis - stupid people who believe that men are idiots and women are superior, etc etc.
Feminists - people of any gender who believe that people should have equal rights, regardless of gender.
That means that FGM is a feminist issue, because it's designed to remove a woman's sexual pleasure. FGM is obviously a huge issue.
However, this doesn't mean that other, 'smaller' issues (like sexual harassment, toxic masculinity/femininity or objectifying women) aren't also problems. The beauty of feminism is that we can focus on more than one problem at once.
Wow, you managed to speak about a lot of controversial issues very well and neatly. Thanks!
Well said!
neatly said!
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I was lucky to meet Sorayah a few months ago and she is incredible! Well done
Has anyone watched " desert flower " ? This story reminded me of the movie .
Oh that movie. I can't even think of it without almost feeling the pain and the shivers
+mariaH i agree , that move left me in tears .
yeah I read the book!
that was such an impressive movie
+Roos Rommens (RoseRathbone) l know right. And she reminds me of the actress
This is what western feminism should be focusing their resources on, not cat calling and microaggressions.
i agree!
You do realize that feminism is a concept, not an item right? There's plenty of feminism to go around to fight both.
So what you're saying is that everyone should ignore other aspects of feminism because you think this is the main focus? Sweetie, you have to start small. You can't just let things go and expect them to change.
why can't we focus on all of it??
No it's that a lot of women think that those sorts of things are the only important things "feminism" stands for. All I see is people complain about stuff like catcalling, dress codes this and that and not care about other problems happening to women other than themselves
Some men watch a video about how a women got her vagina carved out without anesthesia & they complain about themselves???? Jesus Christ we're living in a society of sociopaths...
TheWayIRage she didn't get it carved out research it and she was unconscious I guess you didn't listen
*I got part of my penis carved out without aesthesia. Can I complain?*
It happens to males too
Bubblicious 101 that's not even NEARLY as bad
osnapitzme Can we just agree both are horrible and have no place in our culture? This isn't a "who has it worse" competition
The fact that this happens to men and women is horrifying. No one should be judged by their genitals.
Amanda Guthrie this does not happen to men, this is a practice thinked to ban sexual pleasure
Quit being sexist it happens to men too.
William Alena I repeat it: WHERE, WHEN, HOW. Read my anterior comment
Amanda Guthrie you're judged by your genitals.
Jacob Khan but why? If it was a case of bad circumcition it was a doctors negligent act, because circumcition is not made to cut of the penis nerves, it was a colateral damage (im not saying your case is nothing, its terrible), but the circumcision is not made to cut of nerves, and the female mutilation it is. For god sake, there are cases when the vagina is sew up, or even the mayor labia is cut down in order to ban sexuality to female, its not the same act because the intention behind them are completly different
I love how strong this woman is❤️❤️ she has been through much, but she can still smile😁
Lechuga 12 there's always someone like u in the comments who can turn a positive comment into something else it's annoying
Lechuga 12 it started off as a compliment but for some reason it offended u
gabby X gabby Vice principal strongwoman
im sorry, i dont understand why they called her "the girl with 3 legs" am i missing something?
A woman's clit is NOT an ungrown penis idk where tf you heard that but it is extremely inaccurate
that's not even how that works......... i think you might want to consider reading a book on this kind of stuff, or going back to school........
Emily Ritson i suppose lol, though that's a very odd way of putting that. i have never heard of someone referring to a clit as such
In biology the clitoris has the components that a penis has. Gland, erectal tissue & urethra, believe it or not it is very accurate. But not so much in the sense that it is ungrown.
Michelle Marie Valle yeah those other parts are true, i just meant that it doesn't mean an ungrown penis. but yes. you def have a much better understanding of this stuff than others
Both types of genital mutilation are wrong to force onto anyone, but I don't get why everyone in the comments are bitching about it. This video is about a woman's experience with fgm get over it.
Oh, and they aren't equally bad unless you're comparing the removal of the clitoral hood to the removal of the foreskin which are equal in my opinion. All mutilation is bad, just some are worse then others.
The clitoris alone has 8000 nerve endings, many more than the entire penis.
Ruby Rebecca Yeah like who had the idea that foreskin was bad?
brendans forehead Thats wrong, the clitoris has like 20000 and the foreskin like one. The entire penis has 3 so the foreskin is actually the least sensitive part! Look it up it's true!
False the foreskin has 20,000 nerve endings. And the clit has 8,000.
All the people comparing this as an equal to circumcision, it's not. The penis is not cut off, the clitoris is. The clitoris is way more sensitive too. So while your personal belief may be against circumcision, don't belittle the women who have and still do suffer because of this. Circumcised men loose skin, not their whole penis.
And many babies bleed to death and those who survive lose thousands of nerve endings. Genital mutilation for both sexes is disgusting.
plenty of circumcised men are much more mutilated than that and have to get multiple circumcisions due to mistakes and male babies do die from it especially since they use zero anesthetic so.
i know a baby who got his done and it never healed correctly and he had to get it redone at 18 months after it bled and the cut opened up more than once. how is that not just as horrific?
While it is possible for there to be complications post circumcision, it does happen a lot more frequently after FGM and (like the video mentioned) a lot of women who have had their genitals mutilated end up with HIV or other infections which can lead to death due to poor conditions and equipment (also a possibility with MGM but it's usually performed in sterile environments with qualified doctors at least in the US). Also, when the clitoris is removed the woman may end up never experiencing an orgasm if she is unable to have vaginal orgasms which is quite common. Not trying to say circumcision isn't bad, non consensual mutilation is awful either way but at least men would still be able to orgasm after.
+Devon kinney
body modifications shouldnt be done to anyone who cannot give consent. however fgm is far more extensive and purposely damaging than male circumcision.
mistake can be made sure, but mgm and fgm are far more serious. and to compare a mostly harmless (meaning that out of the millions who have ot very few are left with irreversible and life inhibiting damage) to the proceedures known as genital mutilation is ignorant.
mgm or male genital mutilation comes in many forms, one of the more gruesome ones involves making incisions along the underside of the penis for aesthetic and cultural reasons. i do not have an extensive knowledge on this, but im pretty sure this is done later in life, as a teen or an adult. though this practice is not as widely practiced outside of indigenous groups in australia.
fgm is includes the removal of the clitoral hood, clitoral glans, the removal of the inner labia (sometimes the removal of both the inner and outer labia). as well as the closure of the vulva through a procedure that leaves a small hole for the passage of urine and menstrual fluid. this type of fgm requires the vagina to be literally opened for intercourse and then opened further for childbirth. This particular form of fgm is often (99% of the time) dones in an attempt to control women's sexuality, under ideas about purity, modesty and aesthetics. this form of mutilation is was documented in 2016 to have been done to roughly 200 million women. with procedures having been done in 27 countries in Africa, as well as in Indonesia, Iraqi Kurdistan and Yemen, with a rate of 80-98 percent within the 15-49 age group.
circumcision rarely leads to the health problems (and is done mostly with health befifits in mind, where as gm is done mostly for aesthetic reasons with no health beifits being documented ever.) and chronic pain of genital mutilation. circumcision comes with risks, and i really do hate the idea that parents and others believe it is okay to make body modifications on children. but circumcision simply isnt as dangerous or as in need of activism as genital mutilation.
Also, circumcision has medical benefits, whereas FGM can only cause harm.
What an inspiration. She took such horrible and traumatic experience and made people aware of it and got it banned from the US.
MGM and FGM are both terrible and should never be practiced or done
Agreed
Do not neglect MGM
Ash UwU for men its done for hygene and it isnt called mutilasion because of that its more painful and dangerous for females
The only real reason to do circumcision for a man is if he literally would die if he didn't get circumcised, which is very rare, and a small minority of reasons why it happens
mgm is done for hygiene and medical instances sometimes. my little brother wasn’t circumcised when he was a baby and he was 9 when he got circumcised for medical reasons.
Female genital mutilation has no benefit at all. I don't know why people do it. And Infant male circumcision is disgusting too. How can anyone mutilate someone like that.
Agreed! Everything that we are born with has a purpose & to mutiliate your body or anyone elses especially a child is barbaric.
In England, the foreskin is only removed if a child is uncomfortable or unable to go to the toilet properly. Otherwise men keep their foreskins.
Bipped infant male circumsicision is not "disgusting," because males who are not have a higher risk of prostate cancer, some uncircumcised men do not know how to clean properly thus having infections. So I'd most definitely would have to disagree with you.
Adrian Sterling well said & so true!
What is it? I'm not sure what this is? Did they cut off her lady parts?
I wish MGM and FGM didn't exist this is horrible :'(
S.M. Gamble MGM has benefits. It heals fairly quickly, whereas FGM ruins the woman's life.
MGM has no benefits. Only harm.
Calypso Saint Cyr I wish I had that decision before my foreskin was cut off.
MGM has benefits - only AMERIFATS and Jews believe that.
Fuckin idiot
Who else couldn't watch this video without crossed legs i feel so bad for her
Why cant we just let gentials remain in their natural form they are made that way for a reason
That's so sad and should totally be illegal to have someone do that to you forcefully.
Why can't be just talk about the seriousness of the issue at hand? Why must we always make comparisons and try to downplay the misery of a women? The topic of circumcision has no place here.
Also there are benefits to circumcision despite the risk, whereas genital mutilation brings no good and just harm.
If you want to make a comparison how about you compare getting castrated instead of a piece of skin, that in the long run doesn't really make a difference.
But the risk outways the benefits. And it's a functional piece of skin. Go read a bit of science on the functions of the foreskin, and on the statistics of diseases cured by circumcision, then come back.
***** Oh no, I agree with OP on that one, I'm just opposing what he said wrong.
***** np
Najey Rifai Obviously I know the about circumcision and this "functional piece of skin" that you speak, if I didn't know anything about it I wouldn't have mentioned it.
What I am trying to say is, at the end of the day you can live a normal life after circumcision, as long as you let it heal well after the procedure. It won't make a difference in the end because you're still a healthy functional male who can feel pleasure. Circumcision is a procedure recognised by doctors, whereas FGM IS NOT.
Jaslina Sirajudeen Depends where you are in the world.
There is no need for this torture 😢
Jacob Khan plenty of other videos taking about mgm. get out of here with that.
had read a similar article named Desert Rose in Readers'Digest a few years back...
Desert Flower... correction..
It's a novel by Waris Dirie called Desert Flower. There's a film which I highly recommend.
Aishwarya Khopkar yeah I saw the movie about her
I salute her. She's extremely brave to share this after what she's been through.
My grandma wanted to do this to me but my mom wouldn't let her. I would have forever hated my grandma for doing this and for my mom not stopping her.
I'm so touched, this happens a lot in my country but I was lucky enough to not have it happen to me, my heart is with you
Jesus stop this and bring peace. In Jesus's name.Amen
Amen!
Amen.
Amen
Amen
im not religious, but i appreciate your prayer for this issue
Seeing this woman share her suffering makes me cry rivers because I live in such a society and I have seen whatever she is talking about!
jacob shut up
Jacob Khan No, because this video wasn’t about MGM
I’m not a feminist or anything but how dare you try to belittle this woman’s experiences and this comment by instead talking about MGM. This is still a serious issue, and MGM is very bad also, but the video is not talking about this!!! Find somewhere else to talk about it!!
Charla H this video was about genital mutilation
@@Benjavaz *NO* - this video was about *Female* genital mutilation specifically - which is *entirely different* and has a lot more severe consequences than male circumcision. 🙄
As a boy i may never go through such cruelty. But as sibling, a friend, a cousin to many girls who i care about out there, i am so thankful amd proud that you stood up ma'am.
i feel sick. and im closing my legs so tight just hearing this.
Same >~
I could never imagine going through this, this woman is so beautiful and strong. We need more people like this to look up to.
Thank you for shedding light on this subject and sharing this story. More people should be informed about this terrible procedure so it can be stopped.
this is horrible, but why aren't feminist talking about this? they talk about idk anything but not about the real suffering about women around the world. This is so sad and horroble I can't imagine her pain
horrible*
idiot, because feminist deal with Equality to men. Not religious practices
Totally don't want to get into an argument about this and i can see where you're coming from. it isn't featured in a lot of main "feminist" media that you might see in lifestyle magazines or whatnot but actually we do talk about it a lot if you dig a little deeper. my friends and i have the conversation about it a lot, i've seen lots of campaigns about it, donated to charities even. It is something that needs to be talked about more and in our main news outlets more than just once as a viral story, but it does face a lot of stigmatism for a few reasons (e.g. female genatalia being talked about in this way is often thought of as "gross") but lots of feminists are trying to bring this conversation to the table and lots are. there are just a lot of issues in the world and sometimes we prioritise (not saying this is a good thing) the stuff that affects us on a daily basis because we can empathise just something to note xx
+Jade Hernandez this is not something with religion. It's a social and cultural practice. And comes from the "machismo". Do you think feminism shouldn't care about those women?
most feminists do talk about this, and make curcumsision as well
This comment section is dumbness at its finest. Still sorry for the woman in the video though. Im so impressed by her strength
This comment is a complete mess
Awful. Absolutely awful. How can anyone put their children through stuff like that?
For the record, the lady in the video has condemned MGM:
"The same universal human right to an intact body that I have fought for on behalf of women and girls must apply to boys as well, especially those too young to make an informed decision about the integrity of their bodies.
How can it be wrong to surgically alter the genitals of a baby girl without her consent but okay to surgically alter the genitals of a baby boy?"
-Soraya Mire
Person getting shot and someone getting a piercing.
THEY’RE BOTH HOLES IN YOUR BODY!!
@@CassidyStarke The piercing is by choice, the bullet is not. Both FGM and male circumcision is done without consent, and the times that girls do "consent", it's under huge pressure from the people around her and misleading information.
nobody said it was okay for men...
Isn’t the men one for medical reasons? And guys get made fun of when they have an uncircumcised penis which is pretty awful
With males it's just cutting off the excess skin while in women they cut the whole labia off and stitch it all together , with zero analgesic medications ,when it heals completely it's just flat,
This literally made me tear up. I cant imagine how painful and terrifying that was.
such a strong woman
I'm sorry but it is ridiculous that people equate this to circumcision. During a circumcision it's almost always a baby whose foreskin is cut off, it heals fairly quickly and if not done in primitive circumstances there are close to no complications. Removing the clitoris of a young girl is like removing the head of the penis. I don't really support circumcision because it has no added benefits other than that a guy has one less thing to clean, just pull the skin back to clean it and there's not a single problem.
Actually the pain lasts for months after the male circumcision
*Performing circumcision on a neonatal infant is not a sign of it's superiority, it's a sign of it's depravity.*
minichelle also, grown men are known to consent to it. No women in her rights mind would agree (nor has agreed) to have her snatch sewn shut for no reason.
Mandy Schmidt
Grown women DO consent to labiaplasty. It's crazy and HORRIBLE, but that trend exists. It doesn't alter the fundamental ethical dilemma of doing it to babies.
Diaben0u0 not really lol, getting snipped for me wasn't even bad. This is a lot worse & isn't done properly....maybe if it was done under proper trained doctors...but it isn't. We are born a certain way for a reason, Mother Nature isn't stupid.
I am so sorry you had to go through that. How awful. You are so brave for speaking out :)
Finally you guys make a feminist video about actual women's issues. This is sick and barbaric.
Sorry for being an idiot but I still don't understand why they called her the girl with three legs?
Because she still had her clitoris
like when they say a guy has 3 legs.. because of his penis.. the clitoris, a part of the female genitalia, is equivalent (or similar) to the male penis or the glans(head of the penis). by stimulating one or the two people get sexually aroused. therefore some countries/religions mutilate(remove) females and males by removing the clitoris or the foreskin to cease either masturbation or intercourse.
Lizzy M. But how did the kids know that she still had her clitoris?
Maybe she was asked once if she underwent it, and she said no or that she did not understand what the other kids were talking about. So it spread in her school
She said that she was welcomed back by her friends and family after the procedure. The procedure isn't underground, it's like a right of passage in that it's celebrated culturally.
ugh scary, she's such a strong woman!
My brother was circumcised as a baby. It went wrong, stunting his genital growth and giving him and infection that for months caused him immense pain when peeing.
But yes, keep saying that male genital mutilation is ok because of how safe it is.
ughh here we go again
*round of applause* Great argument there, really insightful
same allyson
More like if women shouldn't be mutilated neither should men
You're a damn fool!
Wow, buzzfeed posting a video on an actual issue for once!
This makes realize how lucky I am. I'm so grateful.
Poor women in those countries suffer in silence I wish they would rebel
It’s not that easy
As she said this girl tried and she got grabbed by the neck and tied down to the table while her parents watched.
Brenda Floodgate it is not that easy in some countries females can be killed or abused for speaking I know you want them to rebel I respect that I’m against this to sorry if that came across rude though
Brenda Floodgate In the society she is from, women do this to other women, usually grandmothers do this to their granddaughters. Men have no say in the matter, if they try to stop their daughters from getting cut, the grandmother or sometimes mother will take the girl when he isn't around and do it anyway. It's based on an old fashioned idea that a woman should have nothing there, that it makes her less feminine, and that any woman who isn't cut won't be chaste and that her future husband won't have any guarantee that she's a virgin (since the tradition is to sew up a girl completely so that when she marries as an adult, her husband will have to literally rip her open to sleep with her).
They can’t! Why don’t you rebel against it?!
all the men commenting about MGM on this video about FGM is the same as commenting "I love cats" on a video about dogs. Yes we get it all genitalia mutilation is bad but seriously?? where in this video mentioned that MGM is okay? please stop getting triggered for no reason
Michi Ichigo lol
No it's a video about how cutting off dogs tails is wrong and they ask: "but why do we do it to cats though?" (the answer is: a cats tail obviously isn't as important.)
Michi Ichigo the problem is that in America male circumcision is perfectly legal and it shouldn't be. It's unnecessary and barbaric.
You're talking about them being triggered, but you're obviously triggered as well. So
Male circumcision is different from FGM. It would be the same if they chopped off the head of the penis, not just the foreskin. FGM is often the removal of the clitoris and labia.
This literally made me feel like I had a pit in my stomach. You never realize how good your life is until you see how hard others have it, and I am truly grateful. This woman is amazing and it is amazing that she has moved on and is spreading awareness instead of being afraid and guarded (which after something this traumatizing, must be very hard) I have infinite respect for her, and the countless others who have suffered from the same.
Learnt about this in school it made me actually cry
It's so sad to see people in the comments say "what about male genital mutilation or what about circumcision?"
Let her speak about her ordeal. It was painful and illegal and wrong. You will have your time. You dont need to be triggered everytime and everywhere.
Pathetic.
This is a very serious matter
This woman is so brave and amazing, she went through such terrible things in life, bless her!! I could never be as strong as her!!
Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is the practice of removing the external part (clitoris) of the female's genitalia to prevent them from having any sexual desires or pleasure to remain them pure before marriage.
Male circumcision (for those who don't know) is the surgical procedure of removing the foreskin. This was a religious practice, for pureness and cleanliness. Now its commonly done for health benefits.
Both in my opinion are terrible things. Males should have the choice whether they want to be circumcised or not, they reserve the right to do what they want. A female has the control and the right to do what they want with their bodies.
TheOliveManPbj I agree with you
There is no comparison, a little piece of annoying skin compared to the of a woman's genitalia. Oh please find something else, please.
Actually most FGM is cutting of the lips of the vagina (i cant remember the medical term) and the clit AND sewing it together where it’s just a flat surface with a small hole at the bottom for peeing and periods. It causes a lot of problems not only because of it but if they have a child it is especially hard.
+Ruby Tuesday, There are many forms of FGM, and they vary in severity. The most severe form of FGM (infibulation) only accounts for 10% of all FGM cases [1]. Another form, known as "clitoral hoodectomy", is analogous to male circumcision, as both involve the removal of the prepuce (in human males, the prepuce is the foreskin; in human females, the prepuce is the clitoral hood). Additionally, the form of FGM known as "ritual nicking" is less severe than male circumcision. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, "The ritual nick suggested by some pediatricians is not physically harmful and is much less extensive than routine newborn male genital cutting." [2]
Also, referring to the foreskin as, "a little piece of annoying skin" is misrepresentative, as the foreskin not only comprises 1/3 of the total penile skin [3], but it also contains the most sensitive parts of the penis [4].
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[1] "Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) Frequently Asked Questions." United Nations Population Fund. 01 Jan. 2017. Web. 23 July 2017.
[2] American Academy of Pediatrics Committee on Bioethics. Policy Statement-Ritual Genital Cutting of Female Minors. _Pediatrics_ 2010;125(5):1088-93.
[3] Taylor JR, Lockwood AP, Taylor AJ. The prepuce: specialized mucosa of the penis and its loss to circumcision. _Br J Urol_ 1996;77:291-295.
[4] Sorrells MS, et al. Fine-Touch Pressure Thresholds in the Adult Penis. _BJU Int_ 2007;99:864-869.
TheOliveManPbj I didn’t understand until I read this, thank you
I have no words for the horror that she had to go through, so sad 😔