What I loved the most about this is that after all the struggles they can look back and laugh. Satan didn't win. Not all of us can look back and laugh because of trauma but we can look back and at least smile if we've made it to a healthy spot. There can be unspeakable joy on the other side of trials. You can see the love they have for one another. That's redeeming grace.
18 years in and just realizing exactly what you said, I know something but not sure what... I'm here. My husband is the Brad from their first year. I have, thankfully, learned my HOPE is ONLY in CHRIST!
This is insanely accurate. I hate it, truly. As a Christian wife I hate that the roles are for real. But the story is so similar every Christian marriage that speaks out. Some just take a little longer than others. But I am so grateful for yalls story. So happy to see a couple that has arrived and is helping other couples because of their triumph in Christ.
Thank you for taking the time to comment. We'll keep on praying that the Lord moves on hearts, heals all wounds and revives many marriages. Much love to you.
Thank you for honest comment. The role is for men as well as women. I think once we accept Jesus as our savior and accept grace and then accept our roles we will find peace and a loving pure power indescribable in God's Grace and mercy
20:42 Jim: Where do you think... are the majority of couples failing? Brad: They take offense at the manifestation of the struggle and withdraw, as opposed to having a posture of pursuit and rescue.
So often if we see the red light on the dash, in the normal day-to-day struggles, we can help our spouse get to a better place pretty quick. That's where the majority of us find ourselves missing a key opportunity. When two people are pursuing Jesus and one another, loving one another well, laying their lives down for one another....that makes for a marriage that can not only survive but thrive!
@@cherishawan9693 Ah Cheri, I'm so sorry. If you're not already working with counselor, I know Focus can help with that. We'd love for you to get wisdom on how you should approach this situation. We want you to thrive in your marriage and sometimes it's so hard to just feel stuck. As we are praying today, we will be praying specifically that your husband's heart would be softened and his words would be full of grace. Please make sure that you're surrounding yourself with support and a counselor/church leader who can help both of you. Much love to you ♡
@@cherishawan9693I'm so sorry to hear that. Praying for both of you. I highly recommend a book by Ken Sande called the Peace Maker a biblical guide to resolve conflict. 🙏
@@cherishawan9693 he has aspergers so he’s sensitive about everything. I find if anything acts of service is what makes him most happy but only if it’s consistent.
You need to talk with a counselor. Since everyone's situation is different, the best thing for you to do is allow a counselor to evaluate your situation and provide what is best for your situation. Focus has counseling available through their website.
Grace Marriage is right, Tamecha. We hope this Q&A will offer some insight - bit.ly/47SGxaE. Our counselor callback information is linked at the bottom, as well. Please know we're praying for you. May God give you wisdom and may His presence be your comfort and strength in the days ahead.
What I loved the most about this is that after all the struggles they can look back and laugh. Satan didn't win. Not all of us can look back and laugh because of trauma but we can look back and at least smile if we've made it to a healthy spot. There can be unspeakable joy on the other side of trials. You can see the love they have for one another. That's redeeming grace.
Emotions follow actions . . Do and you will feel!
18 years in and just realizing exactly what you said, I know something but not sure what... I'm here. My husband is the Brad from their first year. I have, thankfully, learned my HOPE is ONLY in CHRIST!
I love this! This is just what I needed to hear today.
We're so thankful!
Love to listen to your program,
From Canada
Love to all
This is insanely accurate.
I hate it, truly. As a Christian wife I hate that the roles are for real. But the story is so similar every Christian marriage that speaks out.
Some just take a little longer than others. But I am so grateful for yalls story.
So happy to see a couple that has arrived and is helping other couples because of their triumph in Christ.
Thank you for taking the time to comment. We'll keep on praying that the Lord moves on hearts, heals all wounds and revives many marriages. Much love to you.
Thank you for honest comment. The role is for men as well as women. I think once we accept Jesus as our savior and accept grace and then accept our roles we will find peace and a loving pure power indescribable in God's Grace and mercy
My mind has been greatly transformed by Focus on the Family. Thank you and all your guests for all the hard work
Only by the grace of our Lord and Saviour.❤
Yes! 🥰
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this!
Thank you for sharing!! ❤
20:42
Jim: Where do you think... are the majority of couples failing?
Brad: They take offense at the manifestation of the struggle and withdraw, as opposed to having a posture of pursuit and rescue.
So often if we see the red light on the dash, in the normal day-to-day struggles, we can help our spouse get to a better place pretty quick. That's where the majority of us find ourselves missing a key opportunity. When two people are pursuing Jesus and one another, loving one another well, laying their lives down for one another....that makes for a marriage that can not only survive but thrive!
Loved listening to this. Thank you 🙏🏽
We're blessed that you enjoyed listening. Thank you ❤
Awesome! My wife's name happens to be Grace .
I think Gen X, Milennials, and beyond, are realizing that dads need to pitch in on the child-rearing , too.😊 It's encouraging to see!!!
We all need to pitch in on everything! Marriage is teamwork, right?! Thanks for commenting!
@grace_marriage Yes, ideally!!!
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It feels like if I say anything it causes arguments and quarrels and you don't want to go through that everyday
If I say anything he says I'm arguing.
@@cherishawan9693 Ah Cheri, I'm so sorry. If you're not already working with counselor, I know Focus can help with that. We'd love for you to get wisdom on how you should approach this situation. We want you to thrive in your marriage and sometimes it's so hard to just feel stuck. As we are praying today, we will be praying specifically that your husband's heart would be softened and his words would be full of grace. Please make sure that you're surrounding yourself with support and a counselor/church leader who can help both of you. Much love to you ♡
@@cherishawan9693I'm so sorry to hear that. Praying for both of you. I highly recommend a book by Ken Sande called the Peace Maker a biblical guide to resolve conflict. 🙏
@@christinme23 I get that. His live language is probably words of affirmation. So any negative words will feel like an attack. Even when it isn't.
@@cherishawan9693 he has aspergers so he’s sensitive about everything. I find if anything acts of service is what makes him most happy but only if it’s consistent.
Listening from Australia, I cant buy the book, either from focus or grace marriage website??
We're sorry, friend. Perhaps a general Internet search might help in identifying sellers in your area. Blessings!
Hi there. Also listening from Australia
What happens when you’re dealing with a narcissistic husband?
You need to talk with a counselor. Since everyone's situation is different, the best thing for you to do is allow a counselor to evaluate your situation and provide what is best for your situation. Focus has counseling available through their website.
Grace Marriage is right, Tamecha. We hope this Q&A will offer some insight - bit.ly/47SGxaE. Our counselor callback information is linked at the bottom, as well. Please know we're praying for you. May God give you wisdom and may His presence be your comfort and strength in the days ahead.