Thank you for watching!! I would love to know how you "see" yourself?? I don't think I am alone!! We've also been uploading extra videos on our blog! **Note: if you have ad blockers installed, you may not be able to see the videos!** Related to this video, I talk more about how I want to apply the Atomic Habits principals to intermittent fasting (and why it wasn't working at first!): www.ithinkwecouldbefriends.com/2020/07/14/how-to-be-a-tidy-person/ We also did a follow up interview with Dana from A Slob Comes Clean about decluttering with health challenges, ADHD, anxiety, depression, kids & teens...you can find that here: www.ithinkwecouldbefriends.com/2020/07/13/how-to-declutter-without-bigger-mess/ We appreciate your support more than you know! THANK YOU, thank you, thank you!!! - Dawn (& Tom & Diana, too!)
I’m pretty sure I remember you also talking with Cas at clutterbug and listening to her has really helped me figure out how I best doing things and perhaps not in the traditional way. I’ve tried repeatedly to beat my way through atomic habits and never gotten very far so I’m definitely going to try for the “cliff note” version.
I keep holding on to stuff for homeschooling, I see my self as not good enough- can’t keep it clean and tidy- always laundry unfolded and in piles, always crumbs on the floor. Stuff all over the time. I try to tidy more. But I need to be better to give my self grace i guess, I have 6 kiddos 11-1 :) been marries almost 13 years
Minimalism is what normal housekeeping used to be in the 40s and 50s. When mass consumerism and toys started becoming popular in the 70s, all the mothers-in-law were dismayed seeing the livingrooms overrun with toys. The young moms were now going to work, buying more toys, and just thought they were "bad housekeepers". I think your channel, and others, is helping to break this "spell" that has been cast over us.
I feel this in my soul. I’m a mom of 2 boys that want so badly for them to not be bombarded with a million toys but that generation that “wants their kids to have what they didnt” is hard to tell no. I’m doing my best to simplify and break that chain.
@@emilylong9887 definitely. I have tried to do "no gifts" parties but it doesnt work. And sometimes even I get attached to certain books and toys that my kids are super done with
I love how you talk to your “audience” like we’re old friends. Comfortable, easy going, relatable. And this video has helped me exponentially! Thank you so much! Amazing how something so simple can have such a huge impact.
We’ve been working on simplifying our home since first seeing your videos last summer. I had just had my fourth baby and felt like I was drowning. The other day my nine year old daughter came up to me and said she had a new pile of things she was happy to donate. It almost made me cry! Lol. We’ve made so much progress and couldn’t have done it without you. Thank you Dawn!
I absolutely loved this video. I had a therapist who once told me to envision what a healthy person or confident person would care for themselves. To say to myself if I was someone who was confident what would I do or say. If I was someone who was at a healthy weight what would I chose for lunch and I loved that practice. Now I can say if I was someone who was tidy what would I do or what would I pick up donate etc. thanks for the video and the reminder
I never stop appreciating your stunning home decor. I see myself as a physiotherapist! I have a special needs 4 year old who does not walk or talk due to a rare disease called NGLY-1 deficiency. Thinking of myself that way makes continuous therapies at home much easier Ps: I’m happy you have a sponsor you like who can allow you to continue making insightful & inspiring content!
Anna, my rare SN 7 year old is doing really well, better than anyone expected because I saw myself as a speech therapist, an occupational therapist and a physiotherapist. It's worth seeing yourself that way, but don't forget to see yourself as a Mama, i missed that role and am only just learning it now x
What a deep video! The title is deceiving. This is an amazing video for the many phases of a woman's life. Life changes, our roles change, but our view of ourselves is so powerful.
I don’t comment in any videos. But I wanted to tell you Thank You, I am truly so appreciative of every video you make. I have struggled with his issue my whole life, specially during the major changes in my life. From High School to college.From College to Marriage and to being a Mom. You have no idea how much tour videos have helped me in the way I see my life and myself. I Thank you from the bottom of my heart. And If you ever come back down to Corpus Christi I would love to meet you!
I’ve always seen myself as a messy person but knew that’s not who I was. I was sick and tired of being sick a tired of having to clean. I went on RUclips and found you two months ago. I have f tren rid of 9 car loads and counting. I feel more confident and tidier. Even the kids say they like a clean home and they make time to tidy up. We feel like we can do more. Thanks for your work. Your method and the way you talk us through the feelings and hard parts of decluttering has helped a lot. I’ve been sharing you with all my friends and wellness group.
Between now and when you ran a marathon, you have 4 young children, running a home, homeschooling, running a business, etc. You had an exponentially less amount of things going on. Please give yourself a break. If something doesn't get done immediately, it doesn't mean you failed. It means your busy, and will come back to it when you can. I love your video's and your laugh. Many Blessings. 🤗🌺💖🐞
I totally agree! I started observing how I felt when I tidied even the smallest area of my home, and I would say to myself "I love being tidy - this feels great". This was a small step but it helped me to realize that I loved being tidy, and it's consequently become easier to be tidy. I embraced my inner tidy person! I'm going to apply this lesson to my health and fitness too!
I definitely agree with you Dawn. We are influenced by the way we see ourselves... messy or lazy or unfit etc. I will try to change the way I see myself sometimes and it will hopefully be beneficial. Many thanks for all your helpful advice 😊
Totally working on 'the mental shift' myself - as someone who has a degree in architecture and worked in that profession for a couple of years, before then spending the last 13 years as a mostly stay at home mom.... now re-emerging and trying to figure out where I want my life to take me. Using my gifts and abilities as a home designer, but in a different way. It is exciting and overwhelming at the same time! Thanks for the encouraging words!
You are CERTIFIED minimalist and Tidy Mom! :) I'd say print a certificate to remind yourself but.... Not a tidy habit. I was raised by a hoarder, so I feel it's such a great accomplishment that I can tidy my house in just a few minutes.
Thank you for this video. It must have called to me because I thought about what you said all night. I "see" myself as someone who is unhappy, unhealthy, unmotivated, and unable to stay on top of things. That is SO NOT ME! I laid in bed this morning and thought about what kind of day the happy, healthy, motivated, and "has her sh*t together" me would look like. So, I got up, did load of laundry #1; asked a neighbor to return an item for me when she went out; picked up groceries; did load of laundry #2; started crossing things off my to-do list; and made lunch for us. This was a tremendous help to my domestic engineer husband who has battled disabling migraines the past months, and needed to rest. The "real' me gets things done, takes care of others, and finds a way to feel accomplished. Welcome back, me! :)
“Perception is their reality”. I say this to my students all the time as I try to help kids resolve their conflicts with others. I need to take my own advice. Thank you for this. I needed it today!
I just love your channel so much!!! I am a mom of three kiddos. 6 years old and 4 year old twins. I am also a special needs mom. I have been searching for a way to make my life feel a little less impossible now probably since my twins were born. I came across Joshua Beckers channel after searching for ways to organize my house/life and then found your channel shortly after. Seriously life changing! I have been decluttering my house now for only a short month and cannot believe I never even stopped to think how much my stuff was actually making my life that much harder. I am now in the pursuit to a more simple life. Thank you for being transparent and relatable. Thank you for sharing your journey with the world. This mind shift was exactly what I needed! ❤️
I read somewhere kids will have fond memories of the times and fun they spent with their parents, but will forget or care less how clean the house was or how much material stuff they had. Looks like you and your husband got the concept on how to be a great parent 💐
I love you! I just love you. When I first discovered your channel, I didn’t relate yet even though I was already a minimalist. Since I had my first baby 9 months ago and am 4 months pregnant with baby number 2, I relate so much! Listening to you empowers me so much to stay on top of things. I felt like I was spinning out for the first several months of my daughter’s life. Thank you! 💕
I just casually clicked on this video to watch as I ate my lunch not realizing how impactful it would be! It really hit home as I have also been working to be healthier. I actually do see myself as becoming healthier so I make healthy food choices. That isn’t how I used to see myself or how I would behave. We need to act like who we want to be. I have shared this video with many friends!
Totally relatable!!! It makes sense that when we see ourselves differently, our actions will flow from that. I also was fit and active in my college years but feel more frumpy, distracted, and scattered as a mom of lots of littles. And I can see how my home reflects that! 😬 Thank you for pointing out that a change of outward habits must begin with, and be perpetuated by, a change of inward/mental habits. 💛 So helpful!
I have struggled with self image for years now, only seeing myself as weak, but after almost seven months of CBT(cognitive-behavioral-therapy), I am now just realizing that my weaknesses were actually my strengths interpreted negatively in my head. It's a daily struggle to see me, instead of my PTSD, but your videos and attitude are huge inspiration for me. Thank Minimal Mom for sharing not only your faith, but also who you truly are with us. Thank you!
Check out the book (audible too) When the Body Says No by Gabor Mate for a deeper understanding of why you think that way. It's amazing and not just "all in our heads" but actual belief systems we've set up in our early development that are stored in our physiology. You can also youtube videos of his lectures. Irene Lyon on youtube is also fascinating in this way and has helped me a lot. She can help you understand your PTSD in a whole body mind way. Not discounting the power of thoughts, but sometimes thoughts can't change till our physiology is in tune and no longer in a fight or flight or freeze state. If you are in that state, logic and thought change isn't easy or accessible. I've experienced it all myself and know it's TRUE. We are not just our minds. You can change.
I so appreciate your sweet spirit! I am a product of the parents of the depression who saved everything "because you never know..." and seeing what I have in my home is so overwhelming I could cry. I am a generational, sentimental, crafty homeschooling mom of four (three of whom have already grown and flown the coop, leaving behind what, I guess, they don't want). Watching your gentle, merciful, kind videos gives me both hope, and that little kick in the pants I have needed to just "begin" reducing. Thank you so much for inspiring me! Blessings!
Thank you for sharing. This past year I lost 53 lbs, however when I look in mirror I still see myself at my heaviest weight even though the scale and my clothing tells a different story. I have been wondering when my view will catch up with reality. 💕 Thankful.
Great work! Congratulations! I know that feeling too. Although it was a while ago.... Trying on so many clothes and wondering why nothing fitted. I had gone down a size! But it still didnt sink in til I accidentally caught sight of myself in a window. Those were the days!
V, it takes time. I’ve lost 50 lbs over the past 3 years. I’m just embracing my new size. I bought new pants a few Wks ago and having worn them think I could have gone down another size. Congratulations on your success!! 🥰
Check out the book (audible too) When the Body Says No by Gabor Mate for a deeper understanding of why you think that way. It's amazing and not just "all in our heads" but actual belief systems we've set up in our early development that are stored in our physiology. You can also youtube videos of his lectures. Irene Lyon on youtube is also fascinating in this way and has helped me a lot. Not discounting the power of thoughts, but sometimes thoughts can't change till our physiology is in tune and no longer in a fight or flight or freeze state. If you are in that state, logic and thought change isn't possible or accessible. I've experienced it all myself and know it's TRUE. We are not just our minds. You can change.
I agree completely. My life fell apart from chronic illness (I'm recovered now) but during that time, I was soooo hard on myself. I used to see myself as weak and incapable (and there were points where I was) but now, having gone through that, I see my strength and ability to overcome the most challenging of obstacles. Perspective and attitude can help change a lot! It's amazing. Love all that you do Dawn! ❤️
Dawn, this is great! Every action begins with a thought. We all need to spend more time cleaning up or "decluttering" our thought life. You're such an inspiration! Thank you! And congrats on 200K!!! You deserve it and more🙂
You are always reading/listening and learning, I love that and how you share your insights with us in your videos. This video is so much more than the "tidying" aspect. Thank you for all your recommendations. For myself, I have really struggled lately with getting my house in order. I was a stay at home/homeschooling mom and now am working full time to make ends meet. My house is a mess and husband is not on board with minimizing. Then there's the finances. Thank you for all you are putting into these videos!
Dawn, absolute perfect timing on this video, I just started reading Atomic Habits this week and have been considering how this idea of 'how you see yourself' applies across my life. I really think in the last few years I have made a switch to thinking of myself as a tidy person, but hadn't really connected with that 'win' before I watched this. Thank you!
I'll need to rewatch this when the kids are in bed. Baby #4 is on the way and my oldest is 4. It's a whirlwind season that feels constantly overwhelming. ♡ you always help and encourage.
Dawn, Thank you for sharing your insights and evolution over time - you gave me an “ah ha” moment! Self-perception is so important to how we respond to others and the “outside world.” I’m a senior, and 5 years ago my husband and I downsized from a much-loved 1800sf home to our new home in a 550sf apartment in a senior community. The downsizing process was orderly and I realized I first needed to identify goals and process to retain family “history” (antiques and lovely things left to us from our families) yet still move ahead with modernizing and simplifying our lives. Once I could identify goals and process, the entire downsizing universe of tasks became manageable and orderly. We were happy with our success at downsizing, but we have found that it’s an on-going process as we refine what we have and manage to make our new home work ‘harder’ for us. Loving every moment! But I have to say that your RUclips videos are so clear and so “relate-able” that you help me keep on-track as a ‘tidy person’ who is always thinking how to make more time and opportunities for ourselves. Thank you!!
Thank you for sharing from your heart and being real with us. I just started my minimal journey in March. We were moving in May so I decluttered 1/3 of our possessions. It was a relief, and I went through all the guilty emotions. I found your videos just before I started, and they've been so helpful. Now after moving I need to do another "layer" as you say, and I'm actually looking forward to it! Thanks for all the encouragment.
I just want to tell you a big thank you for your videos and for being real, and realistic. I've watched so many decluttering and organizing videos. And yours were the ones that lifted the fog. By now I've finished the first sweep of the whole house. And like you said, I can already see that I'll go through in a few more months and clear out more things. I feel like it is like moving house...You pack the first layer that you see, and only when it is gone can you see the next layer.
Your channel is one of the rare ones, where we can see you are evolving your habits, thoughts and doings. And by sharing you do inspire others to do as well! I appreciate all the time you put into your videos! Thank you!🙏🏻💕
My favorite RUclipsr talking about a book I’m currently reading and LOVING! You have changed my home, Dawn. Thank you for your videos and your inspiration and encouragement! You are a blessing!
Your Self talk point is such a relevant point in my life & an Aha moment for me!!! My pack rat habit mentality that I’ve acquired & accepted over the years has evolved (overtime since watching you ) to me being a reformed pack rat trying to find places for everything and I’ve allowed that to take up my head space by not buying more but organizing what I have. This mentality has slowed me up from getting rid of items. I’ve evicted this mentality & making the shift right now!!! ***I am a tidy person only keeping things that I’m using & adds value to my life!! I cannot thank you enough for this heart to heart talk tonight as I watch your video! I’ve watched & enjoy your videos from your beginning & SO grateful for your wisdom & discernment that you share!! But This one my dear, is a LIFE changer for me!!! Thank you!!!
I love this video! It was really inspiring to really realize that your mindset does dictate how you do things in life. I know when I feel like I am overwhelmed and downsizing the middle of all of it I realize that I’ve come along way. This former hoarder once had a semi truck size of storage and now I have a very tiny one bedroom apartment and I’m still downsizing. And it’s good to see someone else that struggles thank you for your video it’s very inspiring!
Thank you for your honesty about still struggling with cluttered areas in your home, even as a minimalist. I can relate! It feels like those 2 things shouldn't happen at the same time, but that's what I've been sensing lately. Your authenticity & encouraging words are always appreciated. We have 4 children (including our 2 month old baby) and we're learning how to clean up together and give ourselves grace!
I've been trying to listen to the full version of "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People". I was just thinking I wish there was a short cut to discover just the habits themselves. I used your link to sign up for Blinkist. Thank you so much for the offer. Love your channel and how you've made over your family home. You are an inspiration and I always look forward to your videos. Keep up the good work Dawn & family.
Seriously, the best book! I came across Atomic Habits about a year ago and my life has changed dramatically. I think the habit stacking principle has changed me the most. Understanding how habits are formed and how we can use the habits we’ve already formed to form more is crazy effective! In the last year I have added 1. Meal planning and shopping (which means I clean out my fridge once a week). 2. Exercise 3. Taking vitamins 4. Daily laundry 4. Running the dishwasher daily 5. Consistent quiet time 6. Water intake 7. Daily self-help reading (a chapter a day) 8. Journaling All from one year’s time and one habit hack from Atomic Habits. 😂 And of course, Decluttering with you! Thank you for your encouragement to be the best homemakers, moms and wives we can be. ❤️
Honestly, you have looked inside my brain today! Almost 11 years ago, I became a full time mum, no longer a forward planning, high earner. I became anxious and like a fish out of water without my old routine. And first time motherhood is so isolating and lonely! Anyway, we have 4 children now and in the past 18 months I discovered Marie Kondo, decluttering and minimalism. Still a way to go but I know where I want to get our home and amount of belongings to be. We’ve literally filled around 8 skips over 12 months with stuff. Now, I need to find who I am and do some self development. Glad I saw this today!xx
I see myself as “messy”, too, and that really makes it hard to tidy sometimes. I find myself getting easily overwhelmed. I’m an artist and I homeschool, so I always have paperwork and books and projects everywhere. I’m trying to train myself to put things into their “homes” and not be afraid that I will forget about things if they’re out of sight! Thanks for this encouragement!
I have always seen myself as undisciplined. Your video was very helpful to see that over the past year’s minimizing work I actually have been quite disciplined and worked very hard! I think with some effort over time I could actually see myself as a person who is disciplined, a person who is tidy, a person who follows through! None of those things would have defined me before my 30’s but little by little I have actually made important changes!!! Thanks SO much for your videos Dawn! You are such a source of encouragement!
How we see ourselves (what we believe to be true) is EVERYTHING!! I worked for someone once who called them "Life Commandments"--the things we say to ourselves over and over (true or untrue) and those words have power!!!
I'm feeling this shift in myself and just wrote that as a Praise in my planner yesterday. God has been working in my heart (ie shopping at all the craft and decor stores and leaving without feeling the need to buy one thing) before I found you, throughout the last year, and my goals have risen from that and finding your vids! I'm now attacking clutter in little bits, but ruthlessly... one basket, drawer or pile at a time. We've been in our home for three years and there is stuff everywhere, even some in boxes, because we are renovating (extremely slowly due to hubby's work). Being a homemaker, I realized I was getting depressed about it because most of that is out of my hands....but recently I realized I could at least significantly reduce our inventory so that I could clean more easily. It already feels so much better, so much more peaceful, and I've just been chipping away at things for a month, if that. Thank you. 😎🙏
I used to get to those ice breakers where you list your name and 6 ways you’d describe yourself and have like two positive ones and be stuck. It’s amazing how we can transform our homes and our habits and forget that we can renew our minds too! Great reminders! Excited to test out the book service! I can be down for that! I used to read a lot, but then ya know kids and jobs and all the things get in the way...the highlights reel...now that’s what I need!
Thank you for the reminder to not think of myself in a negative way. Your brain physically changes with negative vs positive thinking. Theses brain scans are amazing to see. Negative and depressive thoughts show the neurons to be thorny while positive happy thoughts appear to be like full trees with lots of connections. This video reminds me of the quote "What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?"
I have been doing pottery classes for over a year now and no matter what I create and am praised for I always say I am not and won't be any good because I am not a professional. I will now say I have a good ability and just need to practice, make it a regular habit and call myself a potter. I will try this for 6 months and see what the result is,. A simplified version of what you said but I am rushing off to kneed some clay. Xx one of your best posts, thank you.
I have had a giant change in how I see myself since quitting my job on Memorial Day. You have been a big part of this process especially this week. I've been trying to get my house " under control" . Big win in it's final stages with my teenager's room at my ex husband's house that I took on unexpectedly. Such a psychological boost. Thank you for having the confidence to share your experiences. I could not have done this without you.
Dawn, you are truly an inspiration!! I admire your truthfulness and honesty. So refreshing and comforting, I find myself rewatching your videos when I feel anxious. You and Tom are amazing and I love your content. Thank you so much for your videos that spark such an amazing feeling as far as minimalism, organization, family and overall happiness!!
I love this.. watching your videos helped me to realize that I actually am not a messy person, I am an organized person, as in I really like the process of organizing things, I just struggle to stick with my systems. So as I have been binging your videos, my mindset has changed from, I'm messy, to I'm organized as long as I stick with it. Didn't even realize it happened until seeing this! Very interesting!
Dawn!!! You nailed it! It's a heart change!!!! Thank you, you've been such an influence in my life and now this! Speaks to my heart, time to change, NOW! I've never been so confident to have someone over....ever in my life! Thanks to you, flylady and steph the secret slob I'm a new person! Good enough is good enough!!
When my 18 year old son died suddenly my world collapsed. You are working to help me up and to get my life back together. My house is a hoarder house from four years of lack of motivation. Your class is helping to get me on task❤️❤️
Dawn this video spoke to me is so many aspects of my life!!!! I’m not a fit health person because I haven’t lost 80lbs yet or I’m not living minimal yet because I’m not dune decluttering my house and so on. This was the mind shift I needed. Just because I haven’t met my goals doesn’t mean I’m not that person today! Thank you Dawn for not just showing us how to get our stuff out but also the emotional & well being of our whole life! ❤️
Amen!! I feel like although I don’t have a lot of stuff, I have never been one to put away things and therefore the whole house feels messy!!! It’s enough to make me go crazy. Even a minimalist home can feel messy if everything isn’t in its place!:) Sounds like I need the book on habits!! Thanks for you insight!! Your house is beautiful!💜💜💜
Definitely! Mindset and self-talk is key, key, key. I've always told myself "i'm bad with money" Eish!!! No more...I can learn to be faithful with unrighteous mammon, anyone can. Love, love you channel...far and away the best on minimalism...your tips and methods really work for me and my married with kids daughter and I are doing them together for both our houses - and they're working. Stand down, KonMarie!!!
Just want to add to your recommendation of James Clear’s book Atomic Habits. I think without the combination of this book and Greg McKeown’s book “Essentialism The Disciplined Pursuit of Less” I would be finding 2020 a lot harder to get through. The combination of the books has made me consider what is valuable to me and how to create habits to live an intentional life.
What an inspiration you are Dawn! Truly! I have been a slob, but in looking back, having five kids and a husband who worked from home, crammed into 1,300sq.ft. just left me feeling overwhelmed and hopeless! The Lord moved us to a way bigger house and managing that takes a lot of work, but staying on top of it really helps! Thanks for reminding me that change begins with seeing myself differently!💜
Thanks for this! I just signed up for Blinkist - I want to listen to a lot of books, but 1) don't always have the time 2) tend to like to listen in 'one sitting' and 3) don't always need all the fluff stories.
YES! I recently wrote myself a job description for my job as a stay at home Mom. It helped me understand my priorities better and gave me encouragement to work on my "job responsibilities." I've always been such a hard worker, but didn't seem to have the same energy for being a Mom. Now I'm looking at it differently and it gives me more of a sense of pride in my "job."
You are so sweet and encouraging! How we see ourself determines everything, for better or for worse. God has been helping me see myself as the self-disciplined overcomer that Scripture says I am! My choices and lifestyle are slowly lining up with God’s Word and will, and it’s so exciting! For His glory! God bless you and your family and your RUclips channel! 😊💜🙏✝️
I really appreciate this video! I have always been very tidy and organized, and could not understand why others are not. Tidy people think differently and have a hard time figuring out why others are not tidy - like how do they find their belongings. This video really helps us lifelong tidy people understand what is going on with others different way of doing things.
Yes!! Such good info. Thanks for the tip on blinklist! I hadn’t heard of it before. And I agree 💯% that we should keep our homes tidy for US and our family’s happiness first - because we always tell the kids .. let’s keep it nice in case we have company - but really - if it makes US happy and more relaxed that’s so much better- AND it will still be ready for when we have company 🥳
Powerful video. Self image is so important and can be our biggest battle. Our subliminal thoughts can make or break us. I enjoyed the logic of how minimalism can help free us up and help us advance in other areas. Thank you so much for sharing Dawn. ❤️💭
This resonated so much with me, I can relate to your story and this has given me the little push to shift the narrative in my head and take back control not only of my house, my headspace and my physical body. Thank you for pointing out that our daily habits and self talk are the best examples and role models for our children, that, even though I’ve alway known, just hit the right string that I was needing to hear today 🙌
Thank you for this video! Your content really goes beyond the scope of other CWM/inspiration channels, by discussing not just how to tidy up, but how to cultivate a tidy person's mindset. I didn't realize by calling myself a messy person, I was cultivating and excusing the mess. With your help, I'm changing my perspective and my home bit by bit. Thank you!
I am a stickler for a clean kitchen. My husband says it's OCD. I love him, but I wish he wouldn't say that because I don't see myself that way. I just like the kitchen to feel food safe because I grew up in a hoarder house that was not safe at all. Thanks for the tips on self talk. I should believe my view of myself rather than his misperception of me on this issue.
I wish people did not view "clean" things as a negative thing. Or, someone who enjoys cleaning as an "OCD perfectionist." I mean, I just like a clean and clutter-free home but the labels get to me at times. Seriously, do the same people that tend to label homemakers who love homemaking go into 5-star hotel rooms and say, "oh my gosh, this is so clean, there must be OCD perfectionist people here who clean these rooms." No, probably the opposite. They are happy to see the room clean and most likely are disgusted if it's not super tidy. Just some food for thought😁
After watching your video, I bought the book Atomic Habits and from what I’ve read, I am so hopeful that this will make a huge difference in my personal success, my home, and my parenting! Thank you for sharing.
Ty for this vid, I just recently found you and you are such an inspiration to me. I'm a nurse but have an injury and haven't worked in almost a year. It's so depressing and I feel "less than" and I've lost my self worth. My house is a mess bc of it. You've helped me feel more like me, like the person I was just a year ago a d I thank you so much for putting yourself out there and being so relatable ❤
I’m so glad you touched on this! We’ve got three kids from 7 months to a little over 4.5, and I’ve been feeling like such a mess (and stressed and grumpy), but I realized that I started telling myself that’s who I was. My poor view of myself started feeding on itself. I finally realized that, and switched to telling myself that I’m patient, it’s okay that I mess up, I’m sleep deprived, it’s okay take a break. I started viewing the bad as opportunities to improve instead of a rut I was stuck in. How we talk to ourselves is scarily powerful; we have to make sure we’re kind to ourselves.
Mindset is so key! Starting to tell myself I'm a tidy person...hoping my clutter will start disappearing before my eyes if I start thinking and acting that way! "Act as if" they always say
This really hit home. I've had a conversation with my best friend last week about the fact that, despite simplifying, I seem to fall into the same mental ruts and the same habits, making me feel like I'm on a hamster wheel. Changing my self image, and bringing on some more positive self-talk, will help me get off the wheel and make more lasting accomplishments in my goal to live and be more minimal. Thanks!
I love these chats that you share with us. I totally understand where you are coming from. We all tell us negative things about yourself but the cool thing is that we can become better when we change our thoughts to see the really wonderful person that is doing their best. This can help to see that we are a tidy self person. Thank you again for this wonderful video.
Thank you so much for being transparent about your past and your present. You are spot on in saying that working on these 'issues' in yourself will benefit your children. Parenting has been such a rewarding experience but also one full of growth as daily you face your own sin. Praise God His mercies are new every morning--and we have that opportunity to point out children right back to Jesus!! 💕
I love the idea of Blinkist! I have so many books that I haven't read because I never have the time juggling so many things. And it's hard to pay attention for a sustained period of time. It sounds like a helpful service! I really need to work on changing my mindset on how I see myself. I want to be a tidy person who has her stuff together. Who has a home for everything and as you say keeps track of her inventory. I've got to start seeing myself that way.
I'm rewatching old videos and I remember this was so helpful for me.. I was able to realize I am actually a person who enjoys organizing, (unlike some self proclaimed messy people) I just have too much stuff andit helped get the ball rolling for me. You should do a new video on this.. it's such a great concept!! ❤
Negative self talk is on a continuous circuit for me. I'll get rolling on a project and feel good. Then that old negative self talk comes back around again. It's an enemy I can't seem to beat. You thoughts gave me hope today. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this! Last week I dug out a box of old journals and started going through them, and it was a more difficult process than I thought, because they're full of my teenage thoughts and dreams and hobbies that I've long since abandoned due to my responsibilities now as a wife and mother. Those things were part of my identity for a long time, and they are things I still see myself as "good at," but I have a hard time 1) being vulnerable enough to start working on them again (singing and writing), and 2) making time for them. Most of the time it's really easy to find an excuse to keep those things a buried part of my past rather than part of who I still am (because I do still very much enjoy those skills). Your video helped me feel motivated to get going and carve out time to pursue those interests again because who I am is important too, just as much as everything else important in my life like my family.
Girl I relate! For almost a decade after having my son I was running and working out and training for half marathons and marathons. It was cool and amazing to witness a transition of myself from “non-athletic” girl who only did yoga, last one picked in gym, kind of hated exercise.... to “athlete.” As John Bingham terms it, “adult onset athlete” lol. After I injured my knee in a marathon a few years ago, I stopped running altogether, and a non-running, non fit habit became my new normal. But so true that how we see ourselves an d self talk has everything to do with what we do in our lives. I also used to see myself as a very neat and tidy person. In college I kept my room pin neat. After 4 kids and a lot of stressful life events I don’t view myself that way now. Although I made good headway for a few years recently. I notice the more clutter build up the less energy I seem to have for dealing with it. I think the piles block our motivation somehow. Thanks for sharing this tip Dawn! 💕
This is the perfect video for me right now. I am extremely organized when it comes to my professional life but at home my organization is lacking. I recently started a reset. One room at a time.
I just discovered your channel yesterday! So encouraging to me as I feel I've been constantly in the process of decluttering since we moved into this house over 5 years ago. I'd heard of Atomic Habits just recently too. Thanks for the encouragement and advice... and for being real! Your house is beautiful!
I have learned to do something everyday! I may not get everything done that I want to have done, but I feel relief in knowing that I did do something! Your Amazing.
This is great 'food for thought' and once we know better, we can do better! I just signed up for Blinkist. I have been working from home during COVID, & without my daily 2 hour commute time to listen to audible books, I have fallen behind in my reading/listening. I think the Blinkist app will help narrow that gap, thank you!
Thank you for watching!! I would love to know how you "see" yourself?? I don't think I am alone!! We've also been uploading extra videos on our blog! **Note: if you have ad blockers installed, you may not be able to see the videos!**
Related to this video, I talk more about how I want to apply the Atomic Habits principals to intermittent fasting (and why it wasn't working at first!): www.ithinkwecouldbefriends.com/2020/07/14/how-to-be-a-tidy-person/
We also did a follow up interview with Dana from A Slob Comes Clean about decluttering with health challenges, ADHD, anxiety, depression, kids & teens...you can find that here: www.ithinkwecouldbefriends.com/2020/07/13/how-to-declutter-without-bigger-mess/
We appreciate your support more than you know! THANK YOU, thank you, thank you!!! - Dawn (& Tom & Diana, too!)
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I’m pretty sure I remember you also talking with Cas at clutterbug and listening to her has really helped me figure out how I best doing things and perhaps not in the traditional way.
I’ve tried repeatedly to beat my way through atomic habits and never gotten very far so I’m definitely going to try for the “cliff note” version.
I keep holding on to stuff for homeschooling, I see my self as not good enough- can’t keep it clean and tidy- always laundry unfolded and in piles, always crumbs on the floor. Stuff all over the time. I try to tidy more. But I need to be better to give my self grace i guess, I have 6 kiddos 11-1 :) been marries almost 13 years
Could you possibly share the link that Diana sent you? Thank you so much for your positive videos :-)
This is so so good.. it makes me realize I've seen myself negatively or 'defeated'. So, wow...I need to change this. Jesus help me!🤦♀️😉❤
Minimalism is what normal housekeeping used to be in the 40s and 50s. When mass consumerism and toys started becoming popular in the 70s, all the mothers-in-law were dismayed seeing the livingrooms overrun with toys. The young moms were now going to work, buying more toys, and just thought they were "bad housekeepers". I think your channel, and others, is helping to break this "spell" that has been cast over us.
Can I just triple-love this comment?!? Wisdom beyond wisdom, thank you!!! You speak truth😉😁💮
I love this comment!!! And we honestly haven’t done our children any favors with all this extra stuff either.
I feel this in my soul. I’m a mom of 2 boys that want so badly for them to not be bombarded with a million toys but that generation that “wants their kids to have what they didnt” is hard to tell no. I’m doing my best to simplify and break that chain.
@@emilylong9887 definitely. I have tried to do "no gifts" parties but it doesnt work. And sometimes even I get attached to certain books and toys that my kids are super done with
That is so true. Thank you for the reminder & the thought to keep in my mind. ex.Less purchases.....Less Stuff!
I love how you talk to your “audience” like we’re old friends. Comfortable, easy going, relatable. And this video has helped me exponentially! Thank you so much! Amazing how something so simple can have such a huge impact.
We’ve been working on simplifying our home since first seeing your videos last summer. I had just had my fourth baby and felt like I was drowning. The other day my nine year old daughter came up to me and said she had a new pile of things she was happy to donate. It almost made me cry! Lol. We’ve made so much progress and couldn’t have done it without you. Thank you Dawn!
This is SO cool! Way to go!!!!!
The Minimal Mom Thank you!!❤️
I absolutely loved this video. I had a therapist who once told me to envision what a healthy person or confident person would care for themselves. To say to myself if I was someone who was confident what would I do or say. If I was someone who was at a healthy weight what would I chose for lunch and I loved that practice. Now I can say if I was someone who was tidy what would I do or what would I pick up donate etc. thanks for the video and the reminder
I never stop appreciating your stunning home decor. I see myself as a physiotherapist! I have a special needs 4 year old who does not walk or talk due to a rare disease called NGLY-1 deficiency. Thinking of myself that way makes continuous therapies at home much easier
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That is a brilliant way to see yourself Anna!! And THANK YOU!!
Love this. You are amazing!!
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Anna, my rare SN 7 year old is doing really well, better than anyone expected because I saw myself as a speech therapist, an occupational therapist and a physiotherapist. It's worth seeing yourself that way, but don't forget to see yourself as a Mama, i missed that role and am only just learning it now x
What a deep video! The title is deceiving. This is an amazing video for the many phases of a woman's life. Life changes, our roles change, but our view of ourselves is so powerful.
I don’t comment in any videos. But I wanted to tell you Thank You, I am truly so appreciative of every video you make. I have struggled with his issue my whole life, specially during the major changes in my life. From High School to college.From College to Marriage and to being a Mom. You have no idea how much tour videos have helped me in the way I see my life and myself. I Thank you from the bottom of my heart. And If you ever come back down to Corpus Christi I would love to meet you!
Thank you Jocelyn and I have faith in you!!!! Would love, love, love to meet!!!!!
I’ve always seen myself as a messy person but knew that’s not who I was. I was sick and tired of being sick a tired of having to clean. I went on RUclips and found you two months ago. I have f tren rid of 9 car loads and counting. I feel more confident and tidier. Even the kids say they like a clean home and they make time to tidy up. We feel like we can do more. Thanks for your work. Your method and the way you talk us through the feelings and hard parts of decluttering has helped a lot. I’ve been sharing you with all my friends and wellness group.
Between now and when you ran a marathon, you have 4 young children, running a home, homeschooling, running a business, etc. You had an exponentially less amount of things going on. Please give yourself a break. If something doesn't get done immediately, it doesn't mean you failed. It means your busy, and will come back to it when you can. I love your video's and your laugh. Many Blessings. 🤗🌺💖🐞
I totally agree! I started observing how I felt when I tidied even the smallest area of my home, and I would say to myself "I love being tidy - this feels great". This was a small step but it helped me to realize that I loved being tidy, and it's consequently become easier to be tidy. I embraced my inner tidy person! I'm going to apply this lesson to my health and fitness too!
Yes! Even if we have a long way to go, we each have an inner tidy person!
Great way to do it. You’re so smart.
I definitely agree with you Dawn. We are influenced by the way we see ourselves... messy or lazy or unfit etc. I will try to change the way I see myself sometimes and it will hopefully be beneficial. Many thanks for all your helpful advice 😊
its called....Depression 😪🙏
Totally working on 'the mental shift' myself - as someone who has a degree in architecture and worked in that profession for a couple of years, before then spending the last 13 years as a mostly stay at home mom.... now re-emerging and trying to figure out where I want my life to take me. Using my gifts and abilities as a home designer, but in a different way. It is exciting and overwhelming at the same time! Thanks for the encouraging words!
You are CERTIFIED minimalist and Tidy Mom! :) I'd say print a certificate to remind yourself but.... Not a tidy habit.
I was raised by a hoarder, so I feel it's such a great accomplishment that I can tidy my house in just a few minutes.
It IS a great accomplishment!!
Thank you for this video. It must have called to me because I thought about what you said all night. I "see" myself as someone who is unhappy, unhealthy, unmotivated, and unable to stay on top of things. That is SO NOT ME! I laid in bed this morning and thought about what kind of day the happy, healthy, motivated, and "has her sh*t together" me would look like. So, I got up, did load of laundry #1; asked a neighbor to return an item for me when she went out; picked up groceries; did load of laundry #2; started crossing things off my to-do list; and made lunch for us. This was a tremendous help to my domestic engineer husband who has battled disabling migraines the past months, and needed to rest. The "real' me gets things done, takes care of others, and finds a way to feel accomplished. Welcome back, me! :)
“Perception is their reality”. I say this to my students all the time as I try to help kids resolve their conflicts with others. I need to take my own advice. Thank you for this. I needed it today!
I just love your channel so much!!! I am a mom of three kiddos. 6 years old and 4 year old twins. I am also a special needs mom. I have been searching for a way to make my life feel a little less impossible now probably since my twins were born. I came across Joshua Beckers channel after searching for ways to organize my house/life and then found your channel shortly after. Seriously life changing! I have been decluttering my house now for only a short month and cannot believe I never even stopped to think how much my stuff was actually making my life that much harder. I am now in the pursuit to a more simple life. Thank you for being transparent and relatable. Thank you for sharing your journey with the world. This mind shift was exactly what I needed! ❤️
I read somewhere kids will have fond memories of the times and fun they spent with their parents, but will forget or care less how clean the house was or how much material stuff they had. Looks like you and your husband got the concept on how to be a great parent 💐
I love you! I just love you. When I first discovered your channel, I didn’t relate yet even though I was already a minimalist. Since I had my first baby 9 months ago and am 4 months pregnant with baby number 2, I relate so much! Listening to you empowers me so much to stay on top of things. I felt like I was spinning out for the first several months of my daughter’s life. Thank you! 💕
I just casually clicked on this video to watch as I ate my lunch not realizing how impactful it would be! It really hit home as I have also been working to be healthier. I actually do see myself as becoming healthier so I make healthy food choices. That isn’t how I used to see myself or how I would behave. We need to act like who we want to be.
I have shared this video with many friends!
Thank you so much and WAY TO GO!!
Totally relatable!!! It makes sense that when we see ourselves differently, our actions will flow from that. I also was fit and active in my college years but feel more frumpy, distracted, and scattered as a mom of lots of littles. And I can see how my home reflects that! 😬 Thank you for pointing out that a change of outward habits must begin with, and be perpetuated by, a change of inward/mental habits. 💛 So helpful!
I have struggled with self image for years now, only seeing myself as weak, but after almost seven months of CBT(cognitive-behavioral-therapy), I am now just realizing that my weaknesses were actually my strengths interpreted negatively in my head. It's a daily struggle to see me, instead of my PTSD, but your videos and attitude are huge inspiration for me. Thank Minimal Mom for sharing not only your faith, but also who you truly are with us. Thank you!
Check out the book (audible too) When the Body Says No by Gabor Mate for a deeper understanding of why you think that way. It's amazing and not just "all in our heads" but actual belief systems we've set up in our early development that are stored in our physiology. You can also youtube videos of his lectures. Irene Lyon on youtube is also fascinating in this way and has helped me a lot. She can help you understand your PTSD in a whole body mind way. Not discounting the power of thoughts, but sometimes thoughts can't change till our physiology is in tune and no longer in a fight or flight or freeze state. If you are in that state, logic and thought change isn't easy or accessible. I've experienced it all myself and know it's TRUE. We are not just our minds. You can change.
I so appreciate your sweet spirit! I am a product of the parents of the depression who saved everything "because you never know..." and seeing what I have in my home is so overwhelming I could cry. I am a generational, sentimental, crafty homeschooling mom of four (three of whom have already grown and flown the coop, leaving behind what, I guess, they don't want). Watching your gentle, merciful, kind videos gives me both hope, and that little kick in the pants I have needed to just "begin" reducing. Thank you so much for inspiring me! Blessings!
Thank you for sharing. This past year I lost 53 lbs, however when I look in mirror I still see myself at my heaviest weight even though the scale and my clothing tells a different story. I have been wondering when my view will catch up with reality. 💕 Thankful.
Great work! Congratulations! I know that feeling too. Although it was a while ago.... Trying on so many clothes and wondering why nothing fitted. I had gone down a size! But it still didnt sink in til I accidentally caught sight of myself in a window. Those were the days!
You're awesome.👍
V, it takes time. I’ve lost 50 lbs over the past 3 years. I’m just embracing my new size. I bought new pants a few Wks ago and having worn them think I could have gone down another size. Congratulations on your success!! 🥰
Check out the book (audible too) When the Body Says No by Gabor Mate for a deeper understanding of why you think that way. It's amazing and not just "all in our heads" but actual belief systems we've set up in our early development that are stored in our physiology. You can also youtube videos of his lectures. Irene Lyon on youtube is also fascinating in this way and has helped me a lot. Not discounting the power of thoughts, but sometimes thoughts can't change till our physiology is in tune and no longer in a fight or flight or freeze state. If you are in that state, logic and thought change isn't possible or accessible. I've experienced it all myself and know it's TRUE. We are not just our minds. You can change.
Amber Huntington thanks for sharing!
I agree completely. My life fell apart from chronic illness (I'm recovered now) but during that time, I was soooo hard on myself. I used to see myself as weak and incapable (and there were points where I was) but now, having gone through that, I see my strength and ability to overcome the most challenging of obstacles. Perspective and attitude can help change a lot! It's amazing. Love all that you do Dawn! ❤️
You're awesome! 👍
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Dawn, this is great! Every action begins with a thought. We all need to spend more time cleaning up or "decluttering" our thought life.
You're such an inspiration! Thank you!
And congrats on 200K!!! You deserve it and more🙂
Thank you so much, I GREATLY appreciate that!!!!
You are always reading/listening and learning, I love that and how you share your insights with us in your videos. This video is so much more than the "tidying" aspect. Thank you for all your recommendations. For myself, I have really struggled lately with getting my house in order. I was a stay at home/homeschooling mom and now am working full time to make ends meet. My house is a mess and husband is not on board with minimizing. Then there's the finances. Thank you for all you are putting into these videos!
Dawn, absolute perfect timing on this video, I just started reading Atomic Habits this week and have been considering how this idea of 'how you see yourself' applies across my life. I really think in the last few years I have made a switch to thinking of myself as a tidy person, but hadn't really connected with that 'win' before I watched this.
Thank you!
I'll need to rewatch this when the kids are in bed. Baby #4 is on the way and my oldest is 4. It's a whirlwind season that feels constantly overwhelming. ♡ you always help and encourage.
Dawn, Thank you for sharing your insights and evolution over time - you gave me an “ah ha” moment! Self-perception is so important to how we respond to others and the “outside world.” I’m a senior, and 5 years ago my husband and I downsized from a much-loved 1800sf home to our new home in a 550sf apartment in a senior community. The downsizing process was orderly and I realized I first needed to identify goals and process to retain family “history” (antiques and lovely things left to us from our families) yet still move ahead with modernizing and simplifying our lives. Once I could identify goals and process, the entire downsizing universe of tasks became manageable and orderly. We were happy with our success at downsizing, but we have found that it’s an on-going process as we refine what we have and manage to make our new home work ‘harder’ for us. Loving every moment! But I have to say that your RUclips videos are so clear and so “relate-able” that you help me keep on-track as a ‘tidy person’ who is always thinking how to make more time and opportunities for ourselves. Thank you!!
Thank you for sharing from your heart and being real with us. I just started my minimal journey in March. We were moving in May so I decluttered 1/3 of our possessions. It was a relief, and I went through all the guilty emotions. I found your videos just before I started, and they've been so helpful. Now after moving I need to do another "layer" as you say, and I'm actually looking forward to it! Thanks for all the encouragment.
I just want to tell you a big thank you for your videos and for being real, and realistic.
I've watched so many decluttering and organizing videos. And yours were the ones that lifted the fog.
By now I've finished the first sweep of the whole house. And like you said, I can already see that I'll go through in a few more months and clear out more things.
I feel like it is like moving house...You pack the first layer that you see, and only when it is gone can you see the next layer.
Your channel is one of the rare ones, where we can see you are evolving your habits, thoughts and doings. And by sharing you do inspire others to do as well! I appreciate all the time you put into your videos! Thank you!🙏🏻💕
My favorite RUclipsr talking about a book I’m currently reading and LOVING! You have changed my home, Dawn. Thank you for your videos and your inspiration and encouragement! You are a blessing!
Since following your direction, I am loving having my house feel and look tidy. It’s an amazing feeling. Less is definitely best💞
Dawn, your transparency is so beautiful!!! You are such a blessing to us!!!
Your Self talk point is such a relevant point in my life & an Aha moment for me!!!
My pack rat habit mentality that I’ve acquired & accepted over the years has evolved (overtime since watching you ) to me being a reformed pack rat trying to find places for everything and I’ve allowed that to take up my head space by not buying more but organizing what I have.
This mentality has slowed me up from getting rid of items.
I’ve evicted this mentality & making the shift right now!!!
***I am a tidy person only keeping things that I’m using & adds value to my life!!
I cannot thank you enough for this heart to heart talk tonight as I watch your video!
I’ve watched & enjoy your videos from your beginning & SO grateful for your wisdom & discernment that you share!!
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This one my dear, is a LIFE changer for me!!! Thank you!!!
It's like audible for ADHD. I'm sold. Haha. I fall asleep if I try to listen to a whole book. I can never get through them it's so boring.
Oh yes
Or like digital Cliff Notes for nonfiction
I love Audible for when im dojng other things like cleaning.
I’m loving it. I went to quickly to subscribe to the app and didn’t know about the 25% off. Too bad 😂
Agree. So amazing.
Appreciate you being so open with us and love how normal, whatever that is, you are
I love this video! It was really inspiring to really realize that your mindset does dictate how you do things in life. I know when I feel like I am overwhelmed and downsizing the middle of all of it I realize that I’ve come along way. This former hoarder once had a semi truck size of storage and now I have a very tiny one bedroom apartment and I’m still downsizing. And it’s good to see someone else that struggles thank you for your video it’s very inspiring!
Thank you for your honesty about still struggling with cluttered areas in your home, even as a minimalist. I can relate! It feels like those 2 things shouldn't happen at the same time, but that's what I've been sensing lately. Your authenticity & encouraging words are always appreciated. We have 4 children (including our 2 month old baby) and we're learning how to clean up together and give ourselves grace!
I've been trying to listen to the full version of "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People". I was just thinking I wish there was a short cut to discover just the habits themselves. I used your link to sign up for Blinkist. Thank you so much for the offer. Love your channel and how you've made over your family home. You are an inspiration and I always look forward to your videos. Keep up the good work Dawn & family.
This was what I needed to hear- I always try to share tools with others that make life easier, but often fail to find new tools to make my own journey
How we talk to ourselves sure is life changing!
Seriously, the best book! I came across Atomic Habits about a year ago and my life has changed dramatically. I think the habit stacking principle has changed me the most. Understanding how habits are formed and how we can use the habits we’ve already formed to form more is crazy effective! In the last year I have added 1. Meal planning and shopping (which means I clean out my fridge once a week). 2. Exercise 3. Taking vitamins 4. Daily laundry 4. Running the dishwasher daily 5. Consistent quiet time 6. Water intake 7. Daily self-help reading (a chapter a day) 8. Journaling All from one year’s time and one habit hack from Atomic Habits. 😂 And of course, Decluttering with you! Thank you for your encouragement to be the best homemakers, moms and wives we can be. ❤️
Honestly, you have looked inside my brain today! Almost 11 years ago, I became a full time mum, no longer a forward planning, high earner. I became anxious and like a fish out of water without my old routine. And first time motherhood is so isolating and lonely! Anyway, we have 4 children now and in the past 18 months I discovered Marie Kondo, decluttering and minimalism. Still a way to go but I know where I want to get our home and amount of belongings to be. We’ve literally filled around 8 skips over 12 months with stuff. Now, I need to find who I am and do some self development. Glad I saw this today!xx
Thank you Dawn! I love that when I’m taking a break (motivation is waning) I can watch one of your videos and it helps me get back to it!
I see myself as “messy”, too, and that really makes it hard to tidy sometimes. I find myself getting easily overwhelmed. I’m an artist and I homeschool, so I always have paperwork and books and projects everywhere. I’m trying to train myself to put things into their “homes” and not be afraid that I will forget about things if they’re out of sight! Thanks for this encouragement!
Try chanel Clutter bug...she has solution for this. She is amazing. 😍🥰
I have always seen myself as undisciplined. Your video was very helpful to see that over the past year’s minimizing work I actually have been quite disciplined and worked very hard! I think with some effort over time I could actually see myself as a person who is disciplined, a person who is tidy, a person who follows through! None of those things would have defined me before my 30’s but little by little I have actually made important changes!!! Thanks SO much for your videos Dawn! You are such a source of encouragement!
How we see ourselves (what we believe to be true) is EVERYTHING!! I worked for someone once who called them "Life Commandments"--the things we say to ourselves over and over (true or untrue) and those words have power!!!
I'm feeling this shift in myself and just wrote that as a Praise in my planner yesterday. God has been working in my heart (ie shopping at all the craft and decor stores and leaving without feeling the need to buy one thing) before I found you, throughout the last year, and my goals have risen from that and finding your vids! I'm now attacking clutter in little bits, but ruthlessly... one basket, drawer or pile at a time. We've been in our home for three years and there is stuff everywhere, even some in boxes, because we are renovating (extremely slowly due to hubby's work). Being a homemaker, I realized I was getting depressed about it because most of that is out of my hands....but recently I realized I could at least significantly reduce our inventory so that I could clean more easily. It already feels so much better, so much more peaceful, and I've just been chipping away at things for a month, if that. Thank you. 😎🙏
I used to get to those ice breakers where you list your name and 6 ways you’d describe yourself and have like two positive ones and be stuck. It’s amazing how we can transform our homes and our habits and forget that we can renew our minds too! Great reminders! Excited to test out the book service! I can be down for that! I used to read a lot, but then ya know kids and jobs and all the things get in the way...the highlights reel...now that’s what I need!
Thank you for the reminder to not think of myself in a negative way. Your brain physically changes with negative vs positive thinking. Theses brain scans are amazing to see. Negative and depressive thoughts show the neurons to be thorny while positive happy thoughts appear to be like full trees with lots of connections. This video reminds me of the quote "What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?"
Thank you for sharing this. For our mental health, acknowledging how we see ourselves is very important. Just like talking about it.
I have been doing pottery classes for over a year now and no matter what I create and am praised for I always say I am not and won't be any good because I am not a professional. I will now say I have a good ability and just need to practice, make it a regular habit and call myself a potter. I will try this for 6 months and see what the result is,. A simplified version of what you said but I am rushing off to kneed some clay. Xx one of your best posts, thank you.
I have had a giant change in how I see myself since quitting my job on Memorial Day. You have been a big part of this process especially this week. I've been trying to get my house " under control" . Big win in it's final stages with my teenager's room at my ex husband's house that I took on unexpectedly. Such a psychological boost. Thank you for having the confidence to share your experiences. I could not have done this without you.
Dawn, you are truly an inspiration!! I admire your truthfulness and honesty. So refreshing and comforting, I find myself rewatching your videos when I feel anxious. You and Tom are amazing and I love your content. Thank you so much for your videos that spark such an amazing feeling as far as minimalism, organization, family and overall happiness!!
I love this.. watching your videos helped me to realize that I actually am not a messy person, I am an organized person, as in I really like the process of organizing things, I just struggle to stick with my systems. So as I have been binging your videos, my mindset has changed from, I'm messy, to I'm organized as long as I stick with it. Didn't even realize it happened until seeing this! Very interesting!
Dawn!!! You nailed it! It's a heart change!!!! Thank you, you've been such an influence in my life and now this! Speaks to my heart, time to change, NOW!
I've never been so confident to have someone over....ever in my life! Thanks to you, flylady and steph the secret slob I'm a new person! Good enough is good enough!!
When my 18 year old son died suddenly my world collapsed. You are working to help me up and to get my life back together. My house is a hoarder house from four years of lack of motivation. Your class is helping to get me on task❤️❤️
You have such a great laugh and warm loving nature. Thanks for all the good advice you have given me ever time I go on yr channel.
Dawn this video spoke to me is so many aspects of my life!!!! I’m not a fit health person because I haven’t lost 80lbs yet or I’m not living minimal yet because I’m not dune decluttering my house and so on. This was the mind shift I needed. Just because I haven’t met my goals doesn’t mean I’m not that person today! Thank you Dawn for not just showing us how to get our stuff out but also the emotional & well being of our whole life! ❤️
Amen!! I feel like although I don’t have a lot of stuff, I have never been one to put away things and therefore the whole house feels messy!!! It’s enough to make me go crazy. Even a minimalist home can feel messy if everything isn’t in its place!:) Sounds like I need the book on habits!! Thanks for you insight!! Your house is beautiful!💜💜💜
Definitely! Mindset and self-talk is key, key, key. I've always told myself "i'm bad with money" Eish!!! No more...I can learn to be faithful with unrighteous mammon, anyone can. Love, love you channel...far and away the best on minimalism...your tips and methods really work for me and my married with kids daughter and I are doing them together for both our houses - and they're working. Stand down, KonMarie!!!
Just want to add to your recommendation of James Clear’s book Atomic Habits. I think without the combination of this book and Greg McKeown’s book “Essentialism The Disciplined Pursuit of Less” I would be finding 2020 a lot harder to get through. The combination of the books has made me consider what is valuable to me and how to create habits to live an intentional life.
What an inspiration you are Dawn! Truly! I have been a slob, but in looking back, having five kids and a husband who worked from home, crammed into 1,300sq.ft. just left me feeling overwhelmed and hopeless! The Lord moved us to a way bigger house and managing that takes a lot of work, but staying on top of it really helps! Thanks for reminding me that change begins with seeing myself differently!💜
Thanks for this! I just signed up for Blinkist - I want to listen to a lot of books, but 1) don't always have the time 2) tend to like to listen in 'one sitting' and 3) don't always need all the fluff stories.
YES! I recently wrote myself a job description for my job as a stay at home Mom. It helped me understand my priorities better and gave me encouragement to work on my "job responsibilities." I've always been such a hard worker, but didn't seem to have the same energy for being a Mom. Now I'm looking at it differently and it gives me more of a sense of pride in my "job."
You are so sweet and encouraging! How we see ourself determines everything, for better or for worse. God has been helping me see myself as the self-disciplined overcomer that Scripture says I am! My choices and lifestyle are slowly lining up with God’s Word and will, and it’s so exciting! For His glory! God bless you and your family and your RUclips channel! 😊💜🙏✝️
It’s so crazy to think that so much can change if only we were kinder to ourselves! Thank you for this video - it is so true.
I really appreciate this video!
I have always been very tidy and organized, and could not understand why others are not. Tidy people think differently and have a hard time figuring out why others are not tidy - like how do they find their belongings. This video really helps us lifelong tidy people understand what is going on with others different way of doing things.
Yes!! Such good info. Thanks for the tip on blinklist! I hadn’t heard of it before. And I agree 💯% that we should keep our homes tidy for US and our family’s happiness first - because we always tell the kids .. let’s keep it nice in case we have company - but really - if it makes US happy and more relaxed that’s so much better- AND it will still be ready for when we have company 🥳
Powerful video. Self image is so important and can be our biggest battle. Our subliminal thoughts can make or break us. I enjoyed the logic of how minimalism can help free us up and help us advance in other areas. Thank you so much for sharing Dawn. ❤️💭
This resonated so much with me, I can relate to your story and this has given me the little push to shift the narrative in my head and take back control not only of my house, my headspace and my physical body. Thank you for pointing out that our daily habits and self talk are the best examples and role models for our children, that, even though I’ve alway known, just hit the right string that I was needing to hear today 🙌
Thank you for this video! Your content really goes beyond the scope of other CWM/inspiration channels, by discussing not just how to tidy up, but how to cultivate a tidy person's mindset. I didn't realize by calling myself a messy person, I was cultivating and excusing the mess. With your help, I'm changing my perspective and my home bit by bit. Thank you!
I am a stickler for a clean kitchen. My husband says it's OCD. I love him, but I wish he wouldn't say that because I don't see myself that way. I just like the kitchen to feel food safe because I grew up in a hoarder house that was not safe at all. Thanks for the tips on self talk. I should believe my view of myself rather than his misperception of me on this issue.
I wish people did not view "clean" things as a negative thing. Or, someone who enjoys cleaning as an "OCD perfectionist." I mean, I just like a clean and clutter-free home but the labels get to me at times. Seriously, do the same people that tend to label homemakers who love homemaking go into 5-star hotel rooms and say, "oh my gosh, this is so clean, there must be OCD perfectionist people here who clean these rooms."
No, probably the opposite. They are happy to see the room clean and most likely are disgusted if it's not super tidy.
Just some food for thought😁
You truly have found your calling! Every video has had such a profound impact on the way I am decluttering my house, thank you!!!!
After watching your video, I bought the book Atomic Habits and from what I’ve read, I am so hopeful that this will make a huge difference in my personal success, my home, and my parenting! Thank you for sharing.
Ty for this vid, I just recently found you and you are such an inspiration to me. I'm a nurse but have an injury and haven't worked in almost a year. It's so depressing and I feel "less than" and I've lost my self worth. My house is a mess bc of it. You've helped me feel more like me, like the person I was just a year ago a d I thank you so much for putting yourself out there and being so relatable ❤
I’m so glad you touched on this! We’ve got three kids from 7 months to a little over 4.5, and I’ve been feeling like such a mess (and stressed and grumpy), but I realized that I started telling myself that’s who I was. My poor view of myself started feeding on itself. I finally realized that, and switched to telling myself that I’m patient, it’s okay that I mess up, I’m sleep deprived, it’s okay take a break. I started viewing the bad as opportunities to improve instead of a rut I was stuck in. How we talk to ourselves is scarily powerful; we have to make sure we’re kind to ourselves.
Such a good reminder!!! I heard To y Robbins talking about the same thing that is we think of ourselves as a certain person we will act accordingly ❤️
Mindset is so key! Starting to tell myself I'm a tidy person...hoping my clutter will start disappearing before my eyes if I start thinking and acting that way! "Act as if" they always say
This really hit home. I've had a conversation with my best friend last week about the fact that, despite simplifying, I seem to fall into the same mental ruts and the same habits, making me feel like I'm on a hamster wheel. Changing my self image, and bringing on some more positive self-talk, will help me get off the wheel and make more lasting accomplishments in my goal to live and be more minimal. Thanks!
I love these chats that you share with us. I totally understand where you are coming from. We all tell us negative things about yourself but the cool thing is that we can become better when we change our thoughts to see the really wonderful person that is doing their best. This can help to see that we are a tidy self person. Thank you again for this wonderful video.
Thank you so much for being transparent about your past and your present. You are spot on in saying that working on these 'issues' in yourself will benefit your children. Parenting has been such a rewarding experience but also one full of growth as daily you face your own sin. Praise God His mercies are new every morning--and we have that opportunity to point out children right back to Jesus!! 💕
I love the idea of Blinkist! I have so many books that I haven't read because I never have the time juggling so many things. And it's hard to pay attention for a sustained period of time. It sounds like a helpful service!
I really need to work on changing my mindset on how I see myself. I want to be a tidy person who has her stuff together. Who has a home for everything and as you say keeps track of her inventory. I've got to start seeing myself that way.
I'm rewatching old videos and I remember this was so helpful for me.. I was able to realize I am actually a person who enjoys organizing, (unlike some self proclaimed messy people) I just have too much stuff andit helped get the ball rolling for me. You should do a new video on this.. it's such a great concept!! ❤
Negative self talk is on a continuous circuit for me. I'll get rolling on a project and feel good. Then that old negative self talk comes back around again. It's an enemy I can't seem to beat. You thoughts gave me hope today. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this! Last week I dug out a box of old journals and started going through them, and it was a more difficult process than I thought, because they're full of my teenage thoughts and dreams and hobbies that I've long since abandoned due to my responsibilities now as a wife and mother. Those things were part of my identity for a long time, and they are things I still see myself as "good at," but I have a hard time 1) being vulnerable enough to start working on them again (singing and writing), and 2) making time for them. Most of the time it's really easy to find an excuse to keep those things a buried part of my past rather than part of who I still am (because I do still very much enjoy those skills). Your video helped me feel motivated to get going and carve out time to pursue those interests again because who I am is important too, just as much as everything else important in my life like my family.
Wow. I really needed this perspective. I've been really down on myself of late. So a mental shift is well needed. Your always such a blessing Dianna!
Girl I relate! For almost a decade after having my son I was running and working out and training for half marathons and marathons. It was cool and amazing to witness a transition of myself from “non-athletic” girl who only did yoga, last one picked in gym, kind of hated exercise.... to “athlete.” As John Bingham terms it, “adult onset athlete” lol.
After I injured my knee in a marathon a few years ago, I stopped running altogether, and a non-running, non fit habit became my new normal. But so true that how we see ourselves an d self talk has everything to do with what we do in our lives. I
also used to see myself as a very neat and tidy person. In college I kept my room pin neat. After 4 kids and a lot of stressful life events I don’t view myself that way now. Although I made good headway for a few years recently. I notice the more clutter build up the less energy I seem to have for dealing with it.
I think the piles block our motivation somehow.
Thanks for sharing this tip Dawn! 💕
I always saw myself as a super neat freak - so convinced that I slowly let things fall apart and things build up.
These videos are waking me up !
Such great insight for keeping a house tidy and clutter free but for all areas of life. Thank you Dawn ❤
This is the perfect video for me right now. I am extremely organized when it comes to my professional life but at home my organization is lacking. I recently started a reset. One room at a time.
I just discovered your channel yesterday! So encouraging to me as I feel I've been constantly in the process of decluttering since we moved into this house over 5 years ago. I'd heard of Atomic Habits just recently too. Thanks for the encouragement and advice... and for being real! Your house is beautiful!
Your home decor color choices are so pretty and calming!
I have learned to do something everyday! I may not get everything done that I want to have done, but I feel relief in knowing that I did do something! Your Amazing.
hope is my favorite word. It makes all the difference in my life. Thank you so much for your encouraging videos. so real, so applicable.
I so enjoy your channel and your positive outlook on things.
This is great 'food for thought' and once we know better, we can do better!
I just signed up for Blinkist. I have been working from home during COVID, & without my daily 2 hour commute time to listen to audible books, I have fallen behind in my reading/listening. I think the Blinkist app will help narrow that gap, thank you!