Everything About You Speaks! Powerful Language of Visual Cues | Kristina Pernfors | TEDxVeroBeach
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- Опубликовано: 29 мар 2022
- “Because first impressions last” - The majority of first impressions are based on how we look - not what we say. Our non-verbal cues say more about us than any of our words ever will. And it goes way beyond skin deep. Everything about us speaks, from the clothes we wear to the cars we drive, and the interiors we surround ourselves with. Kristina Pernfors, a native of Sweden, was born with the style and design gene embedded in her DNA. She is the CEO & Owner of Aesthetics & Style which specializes in delivering the total image experience, from how you look, to how you live. Her company services are focused on the areas of interior design, and image consulting. Kristina has been featured on numerous podcasts and multiple times on the nationally syndicated TV show “The List” where she shares image and interior style tips. When she is not busy creating image experiences for her clients, Kristina spends her time instructing Body Pump, running, and cooking. She’s also a board member for the Sally Wilkey Foundation and volunteers with organizations like The March of Dimes and Healthy Start Coalition through participation in Dancing With Vero’s Stars. And most importantly, enjoying life with her husband Mikael, son Figge, daughter Bella, and Frenchie pooch Georgia. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
There is much truth in her statements. It's a fact that we are judged by our appearance and behavior long before we speak. When I feel good and wear something that I find pretty, people respond positively, even paying compliments. You exude a certain energy when you are happy. Likewise,, when my house gets cluttered, I am stressed out and sleep poorly. I feel so much lighter after cleaning or purging things. I'm quite disorganized and I think this reflects my internal struggle and chaos. It's hard to make changes though, you have to make very pointed decisions to change your life like making the bed every morning or keeping the kitchen counter cleared. When your mind is chaos, you feel you have no time to do any of that.
I feel you! We all go through these issues, you are not alone💕 /Kristina P
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Fabulous thought provoking comment thank you Lisa
PERSONALLY, I'VE WORN OLD SWEATS & T-SHIRT & GUESS WHAT!? I CAUSED EQUAL AMOUNTS OF LAUGHTER, SMILES, CONFIDENCE, ENCOURAGEMENT & FEELINGS OF GENUINE CARE AND LOVE ... AS I DID WHEN I WAS DRESSED DIFFERENTLY.
Love the fashion! Not everyone could pull this off.
Right? And legs for days. Gorgeous.
Omg I love roxette
She’s back
LOL, will channel Marie Fredriksson any day!!! /Kristina P🥰
She's absolutely correct. How you present yourself, how you treat your surroundings, clothing, shoes, car, home, will speak way more than your words. People respect or disrespect you accordingly.
People have said I looked like a drug addict when I was Buddhist and shaved my hair. Man that was when I was the most spiritual. When I was an actual drug addict I had long hair haha I don't think clothes and appearance matter so people shouldn't judge others by looks. Although it can be hard not too I suppose. I judge people that look rich as snobs but maybe they're not.
Hi, Daisy, That goes along with the old adage, "You can't judge a book by its cover," which means to me that, yes, looks can frequently be deceiving. I have a friend who became indignant one day when I said people usually judge others first by appearance, and second by speech, unless they were blind, of course. She swore she never judged people. I knew she was equating the word "judge" with the word "condemn", or "think negatively about". So I asked her who she would be more likely to sit next to on a bus, a peaceful-looking, middle-aged woman, or a pissed-off looking middle-aged woman. When she admitted, she would prefer the former, I said I believe human beings judge appearances as an automatic self-preservation tactic. Assuming we have all senses functioning, we first see a stranger approaching, then hear them speak, then possibly notice how they smell. If our brains are working, we can't help forming some thoughts from all this sensory input. How we react to these observations depends on our personalities, characters, and personal prejudices. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; one person may be appalled by the same style someone else adores. I'm a 70 year old woman who buys 90% of my clothes from the Salvation Army,----casual slacks, jeans, flannel shirts, knit tops, for gardening, and housework, and hiking. Over tea with my next door neighbors, a couple in their 30s, I asked what they would think if I updated my wardrobe, since I see many women my age wearing leggings and tunic tops. The young woman said she thought it would look like I was trying to show off and look younger than my age. I had expected her to say, "Go for it!", so I was a kind of surprised. I felt a hint of ageism. Her four children are still young enough to be age-blind, though, and they talk to me the same way they talk to each other, and always compliment me on my clothes, or earrings; and the 4-yr old boy takes me by the hand all over the yard, asking the names of all my plants. Then he holds out his arms to hug me when his mom calls him inside. It's enchanting to be around people who have not yet limited their circle of friends to the young and beautiful. Society in general, though, and businesses, churches, and social clubs will definitely judge you first by your appearance, and speech, and maybe much later by your character. Thanks for your thought-provoking comments!
Her body language and tones speak a lot about who she is. Awesome speech.
Thank u😊! /Kristina P
I like how she deliver her idea for sharing. It is basic, simple and true. Thanks Kristina.
Thank YOU Maria!!! /🥰Kristina
Amazing! So glad I stumbled upon this talk!
Absolutely beautiful! One of the best ted talk I have seen.
Wow, thank u so much, that means the world to me😁🥰!!! /Kristina P
Loved it. So motivational and being intentional. 🧡
A highly underrated talk! Amazingly simple and absolutely true!
Thanks for introducing me to the concept “enclothed cognition”.
This was so motivational and well presented. I agree 💯 on everything she said. I was an executive (female) and spent a lot of resources on my appearance - and it literally paid off! I’m also very mindful of my home because I know of the effect it has on me. The speaker is beautiful and so charming.
Thank u! It means a lot🥰 /Kristina P
"spent a lot of resources on my appearance - and it literally paid off!" ....hopefully you were as good in your job as your outfit though...... it is very depressing to me what you have written....
one of the most memorable talk. She lead by example. Everything she does is intentional. thank you for the inspiring talk
Thank you!!! Means a lot🥰 /Kristina P
Finally someone said it what a great talk
Agree. I really liked the billboard analogy.
Yes. I will be reminded every time I see a billboard ‼️
Brilliant talk. Especially for those lacking in self esteem or non discovery of one’s self. One of the best on Ted yet.
Wow, thank u for ur kind feedback! Means a lot🥰! /Kristina
This is great information. I have a few questions. For dress am I better to go with name brand and fr casual is jeans ok. I like to look professional
@@janfastert7489 - thank you for reaching out! First, I really don't think it's about what brand you are wearing. Some of the dresses I get most complements on are from H&M. It's all about fitting you correctly and you feeling great wearing it. Of course, quality of the fabric matters. You want to make sure it's a fabric that isn't pilling, loosing color or shape easily, but I'm not a stickler for "name brands". You can be stylish on ANY budget! Secondly, yes, jeans can look professional, and is widely accepted in most industries these days. A darker wash will look more elegant, and avoid rips & holes is you want to look professional. I hope that helps! /Kristina P
Totally agree!
First Impression is everything indeed.
Couldn't agree more Wanyama:) /Kristina P
She was confident from beginning to end and she shared her wisdom on it. Girl…I want what you got and you told me how to get it. Thank you.
Wow Patricia, u just made my day, heck week!!! Thank u, & I love that u feel u got something out of it🥰🎉 /Kristina P
Great job!! You are the right candidate for this job!!
DECLUTTER my life! I live in a jam packed 23 ft RV that I downsized from a 2 bedroom apt. I do feel constant anxiety! I hope I can make changes with inspiration from this!
Wow, good for u to downsize, but I totally understand that it can lead to a little anxiety. The way I approach small spaces is that every item needs to have a dedicated space, & if it doesn’t, it’s not important enough to stay. I’m a purger myself, love getting rid of things, feels like loosing weight! Good luck & thank u for sharing💕! /Kristina P
Me too !
This is the best Ted talk to me. It's made a huge impact. I've watched it several times. This is something I remind myself of every day ever since I watched it
Wow, thank you Dianna!!! You really made my day❤️ /Kristina P
@@aestheticsstylewithkristin2412 thank you for sharing your wisdom with us! It has helped me so much in my journey!
Great! She is an elegant woman and she gave a motivational talk and I really appreciate it.
I like the way she explains it. Thank You, Kristina.
this was an awsome thing to listen to im glad i was able to hear it thank you so much
Thank you, excellent. All true. To live our best lives we have to put effort into being our best.
Kristina Pernfors I LOVED your talk and delivery! I loved the supported facts and got a lot of good points to apply in my personal life. Great everything! The intro was an “attention getter” …never lost me after that! You even addressed clutter with new ideas concerning it. Can’t wait until you do another one!
Thank you! Your feedback really touched my heart🥰!
I absolutely love this!! Thank you for sharing !! I needed to hear this and I really feel like the clutter issue can also apply to people who view you with emotional baggage of clutter who also get that fight or flight feeling. I've learned to be watchful of what personal emotional wreckage I share with others because not all these folks have my best interest in learning about some of my unfortunate pitfalls
So true. I find most folks today really choose not to feel others or look to connect. I’m a fun loving creative sentimental talented outgoing nature lover, children advocate, senior caretaker, gardener, appreciator of good books, dancer, music lover,
Great talk, Kristina! I know from personal experience I function better without the clutter!
Thank u🥰!! Means a lot💕
100% workable. Worth to listen. I acknowledge you Mam.
Thank u, means a lot🥰!
I finished with a major in advertising and a degree in fine arts. And you guys totally deserve all the eyeballs in your chanell. Thank you for existing and for making me introspect this whole pandemic 😘
Great discussion….really allows people to self assess themselves👍🏽
Thank you Talisha, I'm glad you feel that way! /Kristina P
OMG ! Total perfection !! I couldn't pause the video for a second inbetween !!!!!
Wow, that’s quite the complement!!! Thank u, u totally made my day🥰! /Kristina P
I love her message, her delivery and energy. So glad I'm here nice reminders.
Thank you Ali!! So glad you found it as well🥰! /Kristina P
It’s time for me to call my own shots! Thanks for sharing this awesome video!!👏👏
I love it!!! U go for it, girl💪🏻💕!!
Wooow
Mind blowing
We truly do live and learn and re-learn
Perspective is EVERYTHING
EXCELLENT KRISTINA!!!!! Soooooo proud of you🥳🥳🥳🥳🥰🥰🥰💕💕💕💕
Thank you Emily🥰🥰🥰💕💕💕!
Great talk Kristina! You had me captivated from the start! It's so true! We make those judgments within those first few seconds! ... Being on brand is so important, thanks for the reminders!
Thank u Cheryl!!! I’m so glad u feel that way, means a lot to me🥰💕
Wow..So glad I chanced upon your brilliant talk !..Thank you for all the good info..many of it so truthful..I love your confidence , your cool dressing and haircut..👍👍
EVERY SINGLE PERSON'S LIGHT & LOVE INSIDE, IS WHAT OUR FOCUS IS SUPPOSED TO BE AS A COLLECTIVE! A PRICE TAG IS WHOLLY VOID IN THAT REGARD.
Even how we write speaks for itself. For example, ALL CAPS is considered to be the equivalent of screaming.
Wonderful, perceptive, with a clarity of thought and communication that is rare to find!
Thank you so much Smita for your kind words! /Kristina P
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I apply this every day on zoom with the video off.
Well done Kristina Pernfors. I especially love the beginning. What a strong visual cue.
Thank u🥰!!!
Excellent talk!!! Thank you.
Thank you! /Kristina P
MY HEART BROKE WITH YOUR CHOSEN VERBIAGE OF "I'M SORRY IF I STARTLED YOU WHEN I CAME OUT". HOW CAN YOU POSSIBLY UTTER THAT TO THE WORLD OF AMAZING SOULS IN WHOM YOUR CONNECTED TO!!??
Sometimes Google works truly in our favour. Today I had a great talk about appearance since I want my channel to work better but I really have ONLY concentrated upon the importance of the words I deliver so to give as much value as I possibly can. I never care for my looks. I just am me but here today I feel I learned so much. Only 7% is about the message!? I have gotten it all the other way. So we'll see if I will take this lesson to heart 💓 and maybe comb my hair at least 😂 Thanks Christina 🇮🇹
Fabulous video! Taught me so much, I wanna find my style now!
Love it!! So happy u learned a lot & feel inspired to find ur authentic style❤️!!! /Kristina P
Love her delivery! Great advice I am going to take away!
👏🏾Great talk. I personally believe, how you do one thing is how you do everything.
Humans are far to complex for that
@@apresnousledelugeloral4335 as above so below. Not all achieve this coherence but the ones that do, have found something great.
@@Simon_MD Like I said , the human experience is far to intricate and complex
@@apresnousledelugeloral4335 What are the reasons for your statement?
I’m a single mother of 3, I work a a high pressure full time job. The standard of work is consistently high. With short turn around. My days are busy from 6 am until 11pm every day. I have enough time to shower and get dressed. I don’t have time for makeup or accessorising, in fact that’s a hassle and a hinderance. I’m highly regarded at work and my children are able to do sports, part time jobs etc
I work in an office of 40 people and very few of the professionals I work with, bother with adorning themselves. The two most senior positions are held by women. 3 out of 4 of the next level of management are women. None of them seem to think their clothes or adornment impact on their quality of work.
Great one!
If you have time you can look good. If your poor this is more difficult. It assumes you have food and shelter and a safe place to start getting yourself together. Most days you barely can handle getting up.
What an informative and useful Tedtalk! Loved it!
Thank you! I’m glad u found it useful😊!
Good timing. I actually just started to fix around my home b/c it no longer represent me! Now I don’t feel too bad spending the money! Thank you!
Love it, divine timing😁!
Thanks for this speech! Gives a lot of inspiration and new ideas ;)
Thank you, so happy to hear🥰!!! /Kristina P
Beautiful message ❤️
Inspirational Message!Outstanding speaker!❤
Thank u for ur kind words🥰!
Good video! Thanks
Thank you for giving me permission to look good and another reason to declutter.
Love it🥰!!! /Kristina P
I absolutely believe if u r nicely dressed n neat it makes people give u a lot of respect and can’t mistreat u!!
Don’t understand y ppl r like that😐
Thank you very much. This is just as I needed during one of the hardest time of my life.
Thank you Joslyn! I’m so happy it helped you. Wish you all the best and positive things to come💕! /Kristina P
Time to get another tattoo!! LOL love this talk so creative 😁🙏🏻❤️
LOL, u go girl😁💕💪🏻!!
Great job Kristina - thank you
Thank you Joey! /Kristina P
I wish I could've heard that in my younger age.
I totally agree with u! Wish my younger self would have known. And I have gotten a lot of the same feedback lately, so I’m considering putting something together for teenagers. Appreciate ur feedback! /Kristina P😊
Yes please do ! And stress how good we feel about ourself in caring about ourself . These good feeling vibes go out into all we do and help others to feel so good and motivated to love themselves ❤️🌹
Great message! Definitely agree
Thank you! /Kristina P
Wow incredible. Thanks a lot.😻
Thank you🥰! /Kristina P
Wow!! This was an awesome TedX. You really did an amazing job of speaking and getting your point across. BEST TALK I have listened to in a long time!
THANK YOU! So glad you enjoy it, it means a lot!!🥰 /Kristina P
Thank God I don’t gaf how people judge me. I have nothing to prove, nothing to fit into and no reputation to uphold. I have what money can’t buy. Your type doesn’t even see us.
Beautiful talk❤
Love her energy
Thank u🥰💃! /Kristina P
I love this!!!
Great talk… loved your intro and the fact that we must know who we are and dress the part..
Thank u Dr Wanda!!! Great to hear from u, & thanks for ur kind feedback🥰
I AM SO INSPIRED!!!!!!
I’m so glad you are🥰!!! /Kristina P
Wonderful. Beautiful message.
Thank u, very appreciated🥰!! /Kristina P
Very interesting speech.
Love Love Love this!
Thank you Matilda🥰! /Kristina P
FANTASTIC!!!!
Thank you Gina🥰! /Kristina P
Thank you!
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Oh wow, this was wonderful. Thank you ma'am ❤️
Cinnabon Speaks - thank YOU💕! /Kristina P
So so clever!!!
thank you
Damn Kristina! Well done ✅
Thank u🥰!!!
What an 8nteresting topic that was very helpful and practical, I absolutely enjoyed it
Thank u, means a lot🥰!! /Kristina P
Fantastic content! 👏
Thank u🥰!!
Great talk! Thank you!
Thank you!🥰 /Kristina P
Amazing speech !
Thank you, so glad u liked it🥰! /Kristina P
Amazing message ❤️ thank you
Thank you🥰! /Kristina P
That was amazing Thank you !
Thank u🥰!!
I love the talk!
Thank u, I’m so happy u do🥰! /Kristina P
Thanks
Amazing
Thank you, Ineeded this ❤❤
Thank YOU💕!!! /Kristina P
CONNECTING WITH THE BEAUTIFUL TRUTHS OF WHO WE ARE, IS PRIMITIVE FOR OUR EVOLUTION!! YOU MAY AS WELL SAY "YES, PLEASE PUT ON A CONDITIONED MASK FOR EVERYONE ELSE AND THEIR EGO TODAY!"
She’s good.
I FEEL YOU COME ACROSS WITH THE SINGULAR FOCUS BEING TOPICAL!! PARALLEL TO ENCOURAGING EGO!!! WHICH IS OPPOSITE OF THE ENTIRE PURPOSE OF OUR BEING HERE!!!!
Amazing talk!
Thank you Virginia! Means a lot💕
Brilliantly executed
Thank you🥰! /Kristina P
Wow!! That was excellent!!
Thank u🥰! /Kristina P
Thanks yes think about the loud and clear message we give people.
'Tone' was interesting...
We all like attention but be mindful if we're intending to attract negative or positive 'attention' and curiously what's our personal story that's instigating such a presentation.
Uta Haggen wrote about 3 entrances in her book, RESPECT FOR ACTING.
Excellent 👏🏻
Thank u🥰!
Nice. I call my home "safe haven." Oh yeah. Thank you