I was in a behavioral rehab for 2 weeks when i was 13 and was taught that. Its really the only thing i remember. It has been very helpful in understanding people. That and a phrase i heard about 10 years ago... "Hurt people -hurt people"
This talk is riddled with debunked myths. As a therapist I can assure you that this is not always true. People eye block for many reasons not just one. Anger is not always a secondary emotion as recent research indicates, closed off body language does not always mean defensiveness. Crossed legs do not always mean comfortability. Closed eyes is not uncomfortable to many. When eyes are closed many people are seeking visualization in that area of the brain. So is what she said true? Absolutely in some cases and absolutely not in others.
Comming from a Middle Eastern background, we were taught from a young age that looking someone in the eye is a sign of daring and disrespect, especially when done during a conversation with an older person or one with a higher level of authority. That caused me some real problems with one of my bosses at work in Australia. He believed he's a 'people reader'. He often thought I was lying when I spoke to him 🙄
Really interesting stuff. Some caution: Eye blocking is very common with people on the Autistic Spectrum and to some degree with people who have anxiety. This should absolutely be taken into account when assessing eye blocking.
Vanessa Wood but if you speak to them you understand that there could be something different. Her points still valid-notice the scenes and probe. With her son and her mother she asked deeper questions that was related to their ESL. The more questions you asked the more you may notice the difference in autism and someone who is hiding. My older cousin is autistic and before I actually understand what that is and the spectrum I could see that there was a disability or learning difference between us.
Totally agree this is all interesting but I'm not sure about the eye blocking I personally just have trouble looking people In the eye some days more than others feeling intimidated seems to do the same for most
I just commented about this. I have social anxiety so i tend to never look ppl in the eye. However, if I'm blamed and innocent, you'll get my attention ... changes your focus and becomes serious. Of course that can depend on the situation too! And your def right about Autism...ty for stating that to everyone!!! My cousin is autistic, and that's very true.... most autism causes them to be distant with all their gestures and emotions!
My 19 y.o. son is a junior w/ a psychology major. I met you today on Mel Robbins’ podcast and immediately sent this Ted Talk to my son. I plan on following up with him to be sure he gets well acquainted with you!! You’re going to be an additional professor of his… We need you in our lives!! Thank you!!❤
Wow this is one of the best ted talks ever. The fact that Janine gets emotional gets back to her full strength throughout this talk makes her so strong. Her mom is so lucky to have her ❤️
I 💯/💯 absolutely agree...tis an enormous lesson, so I fully comend her for using emotian to hard wire our brain. that is the best talk I have ever....ever listened to. I think those skills are life changing....👍👍❤️❤️
What a wonderful public speech! The speaker uses effective speaking techniques such as story telling, repetition, audience engagement, body language and vocal variety, to make her speech memorable and persuasive. I am going to follow her call and use this ESL in my day-to- day life.
Maya Sanchez I don’t know how you don’t understand that all she was doing was showing several examples to compare... and contrast. Not rocket science or a reason to see her speech as a negative but 🤷♀️
I've been there and I wish I knew then what you know now. I wish you the very best with your spirited little boy. Please remember to take care of yourself as well. Being a single mother is VERY draining. ❤️❤️❤️
When you're a person with high empathy (an "empath") It seems like most of this is just innate. We pick up body language, energy, and other people's emotions quickly...even when you would prefer not to. It's all highly intuitive even before you know what to do with the information that you're feeling.
Accept, her information is concrete. Everyone can benefit from the knowledge she is teaching. Even Empaths. We may be able to intuit the emotional energy of a person, and 'know' what that person is feeling, and that they are not being honest. Or that they are hiding something. But 'feeling' something from someone isn't actionable when it comes to using that information to show how you 'know' when a person is lieing. Having both; abilities as an Empath and skilled knowledge like she is teaching, can only make you better all around.
Yes. You're totally right. I saw a friend after probably a year and I could feel that they were not doing so good. I didn't know what to do. I just prayed that whatever it is, they got through. I'm hoping to learn how to "get it out" of people and maybe that will help.
You are totally right! I’ve been told I am an empath but haven’t really gotten into researching it but even if I’m not, I’ve noticed things that would be considered signs like these I was told I was crazy and those signs that I’d see in a person weren’t really credible. This verifies and validates so much for me!
We always read each other's body language...we just haven't honed the decoding skills to the level this lady has.....she was very compelling and amazing....strong woman....loved it!!!!
I find her amazing, PTSD affects us all. I can hear it in your voice when you talk about the murder of the mom and daughters. In a odd way we can be exposed to so much and not have much of a reaction. Then a case comes along that blindsides you. A particular gruesome murder of 1 child still haunts me to this date. I am medically retired Thank goodness . Thank you Janine, you are fascinating and I love your passion !! Glad your mom got a second chance !!!
@@drivebyquipperOverconfident? Maybe you're just not used to a confident woman who has strong reasons to be confident. She's an industry expert and knows what she's talking about. Why do you feel threatened by her strength? You should get that checked out.
Hola 👋🏽, Ted talk brief notes 📝 de nada ESL = everyone’s second language Fear & sadness- 2 missing emotions of a killer 👁👁 glasses 👓 E- eye closing ( eye blocking) S- shoulder shrug - uncertainty L- lip locking ( lip going in) ( when we don’t like what we see or hear our lips disappear) Eye blocking- ( timing) screen saver password- take away visuals Second and a half- hiccup -***9 seconds eyes closed exercise Anger - 2cd emotion to fear , anxiety and sadness
I loved the talk, now I'll see anger differently. Also, I don't know if I'm right because she put "I miss you mom" in the last slide, but I am really sorry for her loss, it is a beautiful thing to honor her with this talk and sharing ESL to teach people another way to help others
Miss Beautiful Janine, Your talk "rocked" my world! I thank you from the deepest depths of my heart & soul. I'm not much more than a counselor, but i'm the founder of a nonprofit that works with the homeless, has a safe house for women & children, is a Community Outreach Center, runs an animal rescue, has a small thrift store & lots more. I'm an advocate for Veterans as well as for delicate situations for those recently freed from years in prison & EVERYTHING you brought up up in your talk filled my heart with gladness & hope. Thank you for all you do. Blessing & mst respectfully yours.
Weak clapping, audience.., she deserved so much more enthusiasm, in my belief, during this presentation. I appreciate the gift of knowing, the signs to look for, thanks to this informative video.
Your soooo American, definitely female….you desperately need reassurance for yourself and demand reassurance for those you respect? All based on your low IQ comment…..you also lie a lot. Tell me I wrong?
thank you Janine Driver for motivating my daughter when thing went really had for her. It was really so bad that she attempted committing murder until you invited Mrs Lyra Holt Dean for your TED show program. Am really so grateful for her finical assistance in my daughters life thank you so much once again.
I see please do you mind if i know how this woman helped you cause i have been hearing people testifying i really want to know who this Mrs Lyra Holt Dean is. I even searched her name on goggle she was all over but i want to confirm if she can help me too.
@@bennyhinnministries3027 Honestly is not something we can talk about on the comment section i can give you her direct so you can contact@lyraholtdean; KOM that her direct mail feel free talking to her and thank me later SMILES.
Best talk I have ever heard! I really needed this because I tend to miss social clues. I was dating and then married to more than one abuser, and being bullied and/or being taken advantage of so often! Finally, my therapist ordered me a dose of abstinence and living on my own until I learn and heal, or else, she was sure I would end up with the man that woul kill me. Thank you so much! I will be learning more about this, and continue Aikido classes for sure.
Good stuff; but I have to point out that there are people who have difficulty with making eye contact for other reasons like mental illness, aspergers, fear, nervousness, etc.
I cried when the mom came on. I’m beyond happy for them that she’s survived. And thaaannnk you so much for all this information 🙏🏾 I’ll definitely spread this info
These are the things I took as note but please watch the whole video it's really great :). Remember that context matters because some people who have autism may do eye blocking so be careful *_Eye Blocking_* : To protect sensitive information 9:25 *_Shoulder Shrugging_* : May indicate uncertainty 18:00 *_Lip Locking_* : "When we dont like what we see or here, our lips disappear" 20:55 Bonus *_Anger_* : In the video she states that anger most of the time might be a secondary emotion to fear, sadness, anxiety 23:38
First of all, everything she said is true, however, people with anxiety, depression, all do these same things. I live with really bad Anxiety and horrible depression. I am always asked why do I never look at people in the eye when I talk to them. I always answer, because I feel claustrophobic, and I do, it makes me have a panic attack every time I look at someone in the face when I am having a conversation with someone new, or when they are next to me. My nerves skyrocket when I have to look at someone in the face when I talk to them. However, I can look someone in the face, in the eyes when I listen.
I feel exactly the same as you… every way. And claustrophobic is the true feeling. But yes, looking while listening is nice.. are you an artist? I am in love with human faces their range of differences, measuring and drawing them even if only in my mind. Good day!
Rachel L I’m not a professional artist if that’s what you mean? I don’t draw or paint as much as I honestly should, though I like to write more. My real art skills is in writing, I love to create a work of art through a story, though I never do it professionally, lol I also hardly ever post them online anyway, because I never finish them. The few I do post are just fanfictions. But, I can appreciate the art of profile expressions. I never got into wanting to draw profiles a lot even though I practiced a lot to try and draw different types of faces I never could do it as well as I thought it in my head lmao. It always turned into some animated version of myself for some reason, I put it up to me just being horrible at drawing and left it at that, but I’m gonna sound like a creep here, but I love to watch people’s expressions when I’m in like a public place, its not that I’m obsessed I just curious and also nosey, lol you can tell a lot about a conversation through someone’s expressions sometimes. It’s also a little frustrating because I can’t look at someone’s face when I talk unless there’s like more than a arms distance so I’m always guessing peoples reactions as a way. Man, living with social anxiety sucks, especially because people always assume the worst because you don’t look them in the eye or is just a little standoffish
This has been one of the most amazing Ted talks. She grasp and held the audience and engaged them, put parts of herself and spoke with so much passion. This is one of the lessons I will not forget. Thank you
Amazing.. first thing I thought.. this lady has PASSION! And what a beautiful thing to watch when someone has that kind of passion. I laughed, I cried... even she laughed and cried.. so engaging, best ted talk I’ve seen in a while!
Janine Driver, you are an amazing speaker !!! Thank you for all this life saving information. Please let us know how your mom is doing. I was so happy you talked to the doctor and the truth surfaced. Your mom was so relieved. Keeping her in my prayers !!!!🌷
Yes, it brought tears to your eyes. She's expecting that exact reaction because she needs the emotional appeal to convince you without the slightest shred of scientific credibility.
This is the Best Ted Talk I have ever watch!...im literally crying, oh how I wish Im more matured when i was 14 when my mother had to fight a cancer how I wish to comfort her, I realized how it really affect me know that im 19 how i deeply regret being there physically but not emotionally.Thank you for your inspiring story
Oganse! I'm so sorry to hear that when you were just 14-years old, your mother had to fight a cancer! I'm sure your mother knew you loved her with all your mighty. I remember when my mom was dying, I apologized for all the years I would ignore her phone calls when I was in college. She said, "Janine, that's what teenagers and young adults do, they are trying to find themselves. I let that go years ago." xo, Janine
With typical people, eye contact probably a good clue, and I have used this many times to judge someone's truthfulness. However, people on the autism spectrum do not make eye contact and if they are low on the spectrum, they will seem like everyone else, but will avoid looking you straight in the eye. Teaching law enforcement that certain behaviors means someone is guilty or up to something can be dangerous. Unseen handicaps can make people seem to be something that they are not. This reminds me of a case in Aurora, IL several years back where someone was shot and killed by police. He had a BB gun, someone called the cops thinking it was a real gun, he did not drop the gun when the cops approached. They killed him, of course. He was deaf.
What exactly are "typical people" supposed to be? No two situations will be the same, and the "general" principles Janince Driver uses here are useless. I mean, useless to everyone but her, since it helps her scam a lot of people.
Janine -- I absolutely love what you do! I can't imagine how many people you've helped with your 'street smart' genius! I also have the ability to see differently than a lot of people -- could be because I had a difficult childhood. It gave me a talent for reading faces and body language. Thanks so much for sharing your gifts. Using this talent to help people is so valuable and also gratifying.
I’m seeing this for the first time and I can’t leave this RUclips until I say that I’m praying for your Mom and hope she is well though the video says it was posted 2 years ago! I cried! She made an impact on me though I loved your tremendously informative video as well! This is my favorite TEDtalk of all time! You and yours are in my prayers! ❤️
Anger is the desire to do something about fear, or sadness, or anxiety. In some languages there is no separate word for anger or so I've heard. It's just sadness.
Oh I love this! Your Mom swearing is so awesome...and accurate observations! Thank you! "Sometimes we have to fight for people that can't fight foe themselves!" LOVE!!!
Me to pup (pointing at carpet stain): “Did you do this?” Pup: eye blocks for 9 seconds. Fast forward - pup watches video. Me to pup (pointing to shredded dog bed): “Did you do this?” Pup: Looks me square in the eye, assertively shakes head no, and points to invisible cat. Thanks RUclips.
@@lindseynovak8058 If she is gifted it doesn't mean that everyone can and should start relying on their ESL. I remember once upon a time in Pakistan, We were going in a Jeep and we noticed there was another jeep overtook us and there wasn't number plates on it. And a after while there were to police with 125 cc bike standing at road shoulder and waved to us to stop and we saw the other jeep of different make passed them, they asked us for registration of the jeep and we showed it. Then they told ok you can go. You only can feel it when it happens to you. We asked why they checked our jeep registration while the other jeep even passed in front of them didn't have number plates. They replied we doubted you. 😡🤬
Absolutely amazing! Such great advice for parents, friends, and coworkers. I have listened to 3 other ones from Janine and each one is valuable. She is a "must share TED Talker "for sure.
AMAZING! I loved this T-talk! As a survivor of childhood abuse, I developed a very strong ability too see impending danger in advance. Much later, I learned to decode verbiage. All that I learned (not in an official sense) also served me well in my nursing career, and still today. This put body language, or ESL from an official perspective application. More importantly it demonstrated how to apply it in a personal application. You not only confirmed what I had learned as a survival mechanism. You tied it all together and gave it a name. In a moment, the glasses were on! Like layers of transparencies came together to in perfect order to create a clear picture. I'm so appreciative to you for this. Your presentation put on the 👓 for me. I'm not giving them back!. ❤❤❤😉
which suddenly disappeared, then came back during the mom scene, then suddenly disappeared in a second.. come on ppl, wake up. (emotion fiber, cancer, kids... => rational/critical thinking = OFF)
@@imlate3238this is what make people (and a lot of other species) social. that woman like facebook & marketers know it well and they are always looking on how to manipulate/exploit it for an outcome.
@@GLPification Its true she is using emotion to captivate and manipulate people in a sense. She knows her stuff. She also knows how to dress very well to maximize her body. Great talk.
Wow.... Just wow... Now i know how many moments i have missed with my family specially my daughters... I am going to promise them, I am not going to miss anymore ... THANK YOU JANINE, God Bless You.
Would like to share my body language things that I learned from around the world brains of people who respected my psychic ability I was born with as some things are not in books and would love to share with you as I am sr retired now and would like to give to you a nd would love to talk to you and help your mother too Janet Brennan Bklyn ny. I am real
Same. He was also very bad at lying. Most people could tell SOMETHING was wrong with his behaviour. But as she said they didn't have the skills to KNOW why his behaviour was wrong and sending red flags.
Oh man, people are gonna come after me for not making eye contact now lmao. Im guilty of a lot of this, i promise im not hiding anything. Im just autistic, ive almost been arrested a few times. Now i know why haha
Melvin Clarke Maybe, but some people genuinely have situations such as this because they have autism. I’m not dismissing your comment, I’m just stating that some people are genuine with their reasons for seeming suspicious but are actually innocent in reality.
Great video. I am a sales associate at JCP, and will use ESL to detect a thief. I can call a AP and they will watch the suspect. And I will use her tools in my social life. Thanks, Janine.
I would love to say thank you! Thank you Janine for helping us by giving you all. You shared hard and personal things to get the point across and it shows you really care ... . Thank you so much Janine from one loving soul to another! namaste
Yeah this lady I'm not sure I can put into words how amazing this woman is because she knows a thing or two about a thing or two and she makes you feel assured that what she saying it's some real talk the truth no doubt
I don't know this woman but her voice is hard to hear for me. I simply cannot listen. I like peacefully, worm voices. Too bad. Hope next time it will talk with more affection.
Wow. I’m speechless. This is absolutely incredible. You are an amazing story teller- and had be captivated from the very first minute to the very end. Thank you!!!
I came across this video trying to deal with devastating betrayal. This took my mind off the negative thoughts, perked my mood, and captivated my imagination. The topic was dark and I never would have thought it would give me hope and lighten my mood
Janine, I like to pay my sincere repects to you and how you have helped the ones who suffered, and contributing so much for the people. Because, you know that sharing without expecting a return, is difficult but true way of life. Thank you Ms. Driver
The best and most energetic Ted x talk , I have seen till dis date........... It went for over 30 min and dis is the first time I didn't skip such a long talk....... U could also take classes on improving interaction wid others...... Really gud ......... Very different........ Way of presentation
Esl a whole new outlook on life i really appreciate this. Its going to help me a whole load more, a bigger evaluation other than based on a sisth sense. Thankyou Janine
I don't really know the right words to use, but honestly, this was my best Ted talk so far. I've not come across such information before, thank you , I really appreciate.
27:34 .... in 34 second Use ESL to read body language: - Eye blocking (the person don't want you to see his eyes, to protect/hide his thoughts) - Shoulder shrugging (uncertain about something) - Lips disappearing (the person tights and presses his lips when he don't like what he sees or hears)
@@JudiChristopher She does not have sound scientific support for her claims. She uses the same strategies for fooling people that psychics do. Post hoc observations, bait and switch, making generalizations from subparts of the data without evidence, burying false data that is easy to believe because it sounds plausible, using appeals to mysterious phenomena by using concepts that can't be defined as if she has defined them, using sciencey sounding words occassionally to sound like an expert even though she uses the words incorrectly, etc, etc.
@@JessBlake2 She worked for the government because of her skills. She is very qualified. Eye blocking is also used by people with autism and anxiety, but she has a depth of knowledge and an extensive background in profiling murderers for the government.
This is the best Ted talk I have ever watched, and I watched a loooot. Thank you so much for this eye opening talk. Thank you for sharing this with the world and raising the awareness around body language.
"Anger is a secondary emotion to things like fear and sadness and anxiety."
Possibly one of those most valuable lessons in this entire talk.
Pain aswell physical pain
I was in a behavioral rehab for 2 weeks when i was 13 and was taught that. Its really the only thing i remember. It has been very helpful in understanding people. That and a phrase i heard about 10 years ago... "Hurt people -hurt people"
That is all I took from this talk...
"Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering." ~ Green Thing
My mom must be really anxious
This talk is riddled with debunked myths. As a therapist I can assure you that this is not always true. People eye block for many reasons not just one. Anger is not always a secondary emotion as recent research indicates, closed off body language does not always mean defensiveness. Crossed legs do not always mean comfortability. Closed eyes is not uncomfortable to many. When eyes are closed many people are seeking visualization in that area of the brain. So is what she said true? Absolutely in some cases and absolutely not in others.
That's probably why a wise person wouldn't consider themself an expert after one RUclips video. Thanks for the reminder and for helping others.
Right. I eye block because I lack confidence.
this is why i don’t always agree with BLE’s
I eye block because I'm sensitive to what is in others.
I think the operative word is I'm a therapist....of course it's not everyone
This woman is spot on. She captured me immediately and distracted me from imprtant work.
Wow. This was awesome
Me too. Haha
very good,her words are great...
Same here :D
I believe it was you who pushed play first sir lol
I appreciate her emotion when talking about things that are clearly important to her. Thank you so so much!
😂 this is the first video I watch the beginning to the end thanks 😊
Comming from a Middle Eastern background, we were taught from a young age that looking someone in the eye is a sign of daring and disrespect, especially when done during a conversation with an older person or one with a higher level of authority.
That caused me some real problems with one of my bosses at work in Australia. He believed he's a 'people reader'. He often thought I was lying when I spoke to him 🙄
So what do u think of this woman?
I'm always thinking and my eyes tend to go up. I'm been misread many times.
I can totally relate. Cultural differences really do make communication a bit more complicated and can misread someone’s intentions.
Same in Polynesian culture, I hope you were able to clear this up with your manager 🙏
There are always going to be some differences and she doesn't specifically mention religious, this talk is more geared to general
Really interesting stuff. Some caution: Eye blocking is very common with people on the Autistic Spectrum and to some degree with people who have anxiety. This should absolutely be taken into account when assessing eye blocking.
Vanessa Wood but if you speak to them you understand that there could be something different. Her points still valid-notice the scenes and probe. With her son and her mother she asked deeper questions that was related to their ESL. The more questions you asked the more you may notice the difference in autism and someone who is hiding. My older cousin is autistic and before I actually understand what that is and the spectrum I could see that there was a disability or learning difference between us.
Totally agree this is all interesting but I'm not sure about the eye blocking I personally just have trouble looking people In the eye some days more than others feeling intimidated seems to do the same for most
I was just thinking of this!
I just commented about this. I have social anxiety so i tend to never look ppl in the eye. However, if I'm blamed and innocent, you'll get my attention ... changes your focus and becomes serious. Of course that can depend on the situation too! And your def right about Autism...ty for stating that to everyone!!! My cousin is autistic, and that's very true.... most autism causes them to be distant with all their gestures and emotions!
It is not important because there will be not so many. And no one could by mistake, take an autistic as a person without that condition.
She wants everybody to fight their battles using whatever tools they have in order to never give up. She is a friend to all of us
I absolutely agree 💯
I have learned more about life from Tedtalks than my 61 years of life.
I love your comment. ♥️
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RIGHT ON. I share more Ted's talks than ANY other RUclips series
Same, but I'm a millennial. Which is why I go easier on my Mom these days. The internet is truly a privilege to use.
I get it from all sorts of sources
My 19 y.o. son is a junior w/ a psychology major. I met you today on Mel Robbins’ podcast and immediately sent this Ted Talk to my son. I plan on following up with him to be sure he gets well acquainted with you!! You’re going to be an additional professor of his…
We need you in our lives!! Thank you!!❤
How did it go ?
@@actuallyjustVersus
Well, I have yet to find the opportunity… he’s so busy that we’ve been like two ships passing in the night.
Wow this is one of the best ted talks ever. The fact that Janine gets emotional gets back to her full strength throughout this talk makes her so strong. Her mom is so lucky to have her ❤️
I 💯/💯 absolutely agree...tis an enormous lesson, so I fully comend her for using emotian to hard wire our brain. that is the best talk I have ever....ever listened to. I think those skills are life changing....👍👍❤️❤️
She is absolutely captivating. I loved this ted talk. Easily made my top faves.
Same
I would also have loved to be in the audience. She captivated the audience's attention very well.
Right! This may be one of the best talks I have heard. Powerful and enlightening.
What's up with the Spanx?
What a wonderful public speech! The speaker uses effective speaking techniques such as story telling, repetition, audience engagement, body language and vocal variety, to make her speech memorable and persuasive. I am going to follow her call and use this ESL in my day-to- day life.
You sound like you must be a Toastmaster. AmI correct?
Is she holding you hostage and making u comment?
I found the story telling and repetitions a bit tiring by the end I have to say, maybe not for everyone
She is good!
Maya Sanchez I don’t know how you don’t understand that all she was doing was showing several examples to compare... and contrast. Not rocket science or a reason to see her speech as a negative but 🤷♀️
As a single mother to an angry, frustrated little boy who’s full of love, Thank You. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
You're welcome
Yeah agree to the kids anger and the response from his mother is what makes better parenting 🤗
man i was like your son when growing up. wish my mom had seen this video. great of you to utilize it and not dismiss your son. amazing mother
I've been there and I wish I knew then what you know now. I wish you the very best with your spirited little boy. Please remember to take care of yourself as well. Being a single mother is VERY draining. ❤️❤️❤️
When you're a person with high empathy (an "empath") It seems like most of this is just innate. We pick up body language, energy, and other people's emotions quickly...even when you would prefer not to. It's all highly intuitive even before you know what to do with the information that you're feeling.
Accept, her information is concrete. Everyone can benefit from the knowledge she is teaching. Even Empaths. We may be able to intuit the emotional energy of a person, and 'know' what that person is feeling, and that they are not being honest. Or that they are hiding something. But 'feeling' something from someone isn't actionable when it comes to using that information to show how you 'know' when a person is lieing. Having both; abilities as an Empath and skilled knowledge like she is teaching, can only make you better all around.
Yes. You're totally right. I saw a friend after probably a year and I could feel that they were not doing so good. I didn't know what to do. I just prayed that whatever it is, they got through. I'm hoping to learn how to "get it out" of people and maybe that will help.
You are totally right! I’ve been told I am an empath but haven’t really gotten into researching it but even if I’m not, I’ve noticed things that would be considered signs like these I was told I was crazy and those signs that I’d see in a person weren’t really credible. This verifies and validates so much for me!
True that.
I can spot these things.. Just unnatural reactions.
We always read each other's body language...we just haven't honed the decoding skills to the level this lady has.....she was very compelling and amazing....strong woman....loved it!!!!
I find her amazing, PTSD affects us all. I can hear it in your voice when you talk about the murder of the mom and daughters. In a odd way we can be exposed to so much and not have much of a reaction. Then a case comes along that blindsides you. A particular gruesome murder of 1 child still haunts me to this date. I am medically retired Thank goodness . Thank you Janine, you are fascinating and I love your passion !! Glad your mom got a second chance !!!
Thanks for your service ❤️💕✝️
I completely agree with everything you say. But the end it states, I miss you mom, meaning unfortunately her mother is dead.
She is overconfident and overbearing.
@@drivebyquipperOverconfident? Maybe you're just not used to a confident woman who has strong reasons to be confident. She's an industry expert and knows what she's talking about. Why do you feel threatened by her strength? You should get that checked out.
She is so dynamic, I really admire her and her speach was amazing and useful😮
yeah she could be a real rabble rouser
She tell you whatever you want to hear as long as you will pay her. (That is just the facts about her.)
so "dynamic"? Ffs people, don't make her job even easier, try to exercise at least SOME rationality.
@@toshir0m1 what do you mean ?
with a grain of salt...
Hola 👋🏽, Ted talk brief notes 📝 de nada
ESL = everyone’s second language
Fear & sadness- 2 missing emotions of a killer
👁👁 glasses 👓
E- eye closing ( eye blocking)
S- shoulder shrug - uncertainty
L- lip locking ( lip going in) ( when we don’t like what we see or hear our lips disappear)
Eye blocking- ( timing) screen saver password- take away visuals
Second and a half- hiccup
-***9 seconds eyes closed exercise
Anger - 2cd emotion to fear , anxiety and
sadness
I loved the talk, now I'll see anger differently. Also, I don't know if I'm right because she put "I miss you mom" in the last slide, but I am really sorry for her loss, it is a beautiful thing to honor her with this talk and sharing ESL to teach people another way to help others
Miss Beautiful Janine,
Your talk "rocked" my world! I thank you from the deepest depths of my heart & soul.
I'm not much more than a counselor, but i'm the founder of a nonprofit that works with the homeless, has a safe house for women & children, is a Community Outreach Center, runs an animal rescue, has a small thrift store & lots more. I'm an advocate for Veterans as well as for delicate situations for those recently freed from years in prison & EVERYTHING you brought up up in your talk filled my heart with gladness & hope.
Thank you for all you do.
Blessing & mst respectfully yours.
Yes you are much more - an embodied angel, doing needed & challenging work!! Thank you for your open careing heart & persistent efforts, dear one!
This is the 3rd of her TED talks I've listened to and she is just amazing. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, Janine.
her words are too amazing..how are you,hope you are good?
I really enjoy learning from this woman. She's so genuine and down to earth, and Real. it's hard not to love her!
Look up Paul Ekman. At one point there were some free things on his website and he has been at the research for a very long time.
Weak clapping, audience.., she deserved so much more enthusiasm, in my belief, during this presentation. I appreciate the gift of knowing, the signs to look for, thanks to this informative video.
Your soooo American, definitely female….you desperately need reassurance for yourself and demand reassurance for those you respect?
All based on your low IQ comment…..you also lie a lot.
Tell me I wrong?
This was the most informative talk I’ve heard in awhile. I’d love to see this speaker again.
thank you Janine Driver for motivating my daughter when thing went really had for her.
It was really so bad that she attempted committing murder until you invited Mrs Lyra Holt Dean for your TED show program.
Am really so grateful for her finical assistance in my daughters life thank you so much once again.
I see please do you mind if i know how this woman helped you cause i have been hearing people testifying i really want to know who this Mrs Lyra Holt Dean is. I even searched her name on goggle she was all over but i want to confirm if she can help me too.
@@bennyhinnministries3027 Honestly is not something we can talk about on the comment section i can give you her direct so you can contact@lyraholtdean; KOM that her direct mail feel free talking to her and thank me later SMILES.
@@bennyhinnministries3027 this is scammy. You'll notice this account posted identical comments on different videos. Please be careful.
@@KimberleyB the account replying to the comment is part of the scam lol they responded to all of the other accounts comments
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She's fascinating! I almost didn't click, but I'm so glad I did. Definitely worth watching!
Best talk I have ever heard! I really needed this because I tend to miss social clues. I was dating and then married to more than one abuser, and being bullied and/or being taken advantage of so often! Finally, my therapist ordered me a dose of abstinence and living on my own until I learn and heal, or else, she was sure I would end up with the man that woul kill me.
Thank you so much! I will be learning more about this, and continue Aikido classes for sure.
Good stuff; but I have to point out that there are people who have difficulty with making eye contact for other reasons like mental illness, aspergers, fear, nervousness, etc.
This TED talk was the best I have ever seen, Janine!!!!! Thank you
Probably the best presenter I have seen deliver a talk. Amazing.
I cried when the mom came on. I’m beyond happy for them that she’s survived.
And thaaannnk you so much for all this information 🙏🏾 I’ll definitely spread this info
These are the things I took as note but please watch the whole video it's really great :). Remember that context matters because some people who have autism may do eye blocking so be careful
*_Eye Blocking_* : To protect sensitive information
9:25
*_Shoulder Shrugging_* : May indicate uncertainty
18:00
*_Lip Locking_* : "When we dont like what we see or here, our lips disappear" 20:55
Bonus
*_Anger_* : In the video she states that anger most of the time might be a secondary emotion to fear, sadness, anxiety
23:38
Thank you Junior! Yes, context does matter. People on the Spectrum often give less eye contact. xo, Janine
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Not just Autism, but those with ADHD also.
First of all, everything she said is true, however, people with anxiety, depression, all do these same things. I live with really bad Anxiety and horrible depression. I am always asked why do I never look at people in the eye when I talk to them. I always answer, because I feel claustrophobic, and I do, it makes me have a panic attack every time I look at someone in the face when I am having a conversation with someone new, or when they are next to me. My nerves skyrocket when I have to look at someone in the face when I talk to them. However, I can look someone in the face, in the eyes when I listen.
I feel exactly the same as you… every way. And claustrophobic is the true feeling. But yes, looking while listening is nice.. are you an artist? I am in love with human faces their range of differences, measuring and drawing them even if only in my mind. Good day!
Rachel L I’m not a professional artist if that’s what you mean? I don’t draw or paint as much as I honestly should, though I like to write more. My real art skills is in writing, I love to create a work of art through a story, though I never do it professionally, lol I also hardly ever post them online anyway, because I never finish them. The few I do post are just fanfictions. But, I can appreciate the art of profile expressions. I never got into wanting to draw profiles a lot even though I practiced a lot to try and draw different types of faces I never could do it as well as I thought it in my head lmao. It always turned into some animated version of myself for some reason, I put it up to me just being horrible at drawing and left it at that, but I’m gonna sound like a creep here, but I love to watch people’s expressions when I’m in like a public place, its not that I’m obsessed I just curious and also nosey, lol you can tell a lot about a conversation through someone’s expressions sometimes. It’s also a little frustrating because I can’t look at someone’s face when I talk unless there’s like more than a arms distance so I’m always guessing peoples reactions as a way. Man, living with social anxiety sucks, especially because people always assume the worst because you don’t look them in the eye or is just a little standoffish
You just proved her point love. ❤😊😉
Agreed 100%. ME TOO
@Rickie j 100%
I just stumbled upon this accident yesterday at work. Im relistening to the whole talk again. Thank you.
This has been one of the most amazing Ted talks. She grasp and held the audience and engaged them, put parts of herself and spoke with so much passion. This is one of the lessons I will not forget. Thank you
Amazing.. first thing I thought.. this lady has PASSION! And what a beautiful thing to watch when someone has that kind of passion.
I laughed, I cried... even she laughed and cried.. so engaging, best ted talk I’ve seen in a while!
Janine , Thank you for sharing your expertise and your vulnerablity with us when talking about your momma.💗 You're mom is truly a hero ❤️
First Ted talk I watched more than 15 min. Amazing information and the way she educated the listener was awesome
RIGHT!!!! She took a (can be boring) subject and made it AMAZING...
She is not only smart she teaches you something along the way.
Why did I start crying when she said I was going to tell you about my mom‘s journey but I’m gonna let you to let her tell you😢
She really … she’s an excellent speaker. She showed her emotions & sometimes it can enhance the message. She hit nail on head.
I did not expect to cry. Excellent Ted talk. One of the best I’ve watched in years.
Janine Driver, you are an amazing speaker !!! Thank you for all this life saving information. Please let us know how your mom is doing. I was so happy you talked to the doctor and the truth surfaced. Your mom was so relieved. Keeping her in my prayers !!!!🌷
Precious moms testimony brought tears to my eyes. Great talk!
Yes, it brought tears to your eyes. She's expecting that exact reaction because she needs the emotional appeal to convince you without the slightest shred of scientific credibility.
This is the Best Ted Talk I have ever watch!...im literally crying, oh how I wish
Im more matured when i was 14 when my mother had to fight a cancer how I wish to comfort her, I realized how it really affect me know that im 19 how i deeply regret being there physically but not emotionally.Thank you for your inspiring story
Oganse!
I'm so sorry to hear that when you were just 14-years old, your mother had to fight a cancer! I'm sure your mother knew you loved her with all your mighty. I remember when my mom was dying, I apologized for all the years I would ignore her phone calls when I was in college. She said, "Janine, that's what teenagers and young adults do, they are trying to find themselves. I let that go years ago." xo, Janine
Hands down the best Ted Talk I have ever watched. I laughed, I cried, I learned ... wow, amazing speaker.
What a phenomenal talk... Thank you so much for sharing... love Janine's mom, such a warrior. 💜 from TX
With typical people, eye contact probably a good clue, and I have used this many times to judge someone's truthfulness. However, people on the autism spectrum do not make eye contact and if they are low on the spectrum, they will seem like everyone else, but will avoid looking you straight in the eye. Teaching law enforcement that certain behaviors means someone is guilty or up to something can be dangerous. Unseen handicaps can make people seem to be something that they are not.
This reminds me of a case in Aurora, IL several years back where someone was shot and killed by police. He had a BB gun, someone called the cops thinking it was a real gun, he did not drop the gun when the cops approached. They killed him, of course. He was deaf.
What exactly are "typical people" supposed to be? No two situations will be the same, and the "general" principles Janince Driver uses here are useless. I mean, useless to everyone but her, since it helps her scam a lot of people.
Tamie Pryor TOY. GUNS NEED TO. B. OUT- LAWED. SUE THE TOY COMPANIES 👀
I am autistic and what you said is true , people often don't expect things I do or I have done , they can nevr tell what I am up to
@@Traumatised311 do you feel that is a gift or a curse, if you don't mind me asking??
@@tiffanybruner6002 , both curse and a blessing but more of a curse , cause i am more often misinterprated and misunderstood
This is one of the best Ted talk! It took all the flick of an eye. The message coveys depths of knowledge!
Mama has me in tears! I love her! She looks like a warrior.
Janine -- I absolutely love what you do! I can't imagine how many people you've helped with your 'street smart' genius! I also have the ability to see differently than a lot of people -- could be because I had a difficult childhood. It gave me a talent for reading faces and body language. Thanks so much for sharing your gifts. Using this talent to help people is so valuable and also gratifying.
One of the best things I've ever seen in my life. Thank you for sharing! Best learning experience in a long time.
20:26 wow
This lady is awesome! Strong loving woman. Thank you.
This is my new fave Ted Talks & my
EYES arent closed,
SHOULDERS aren't shrugged,
LIPS aren't tight!
I’m seeing this for the first time and I can’t leave this RUclips until I say that I’m praying for your Mom and hope she is well though the video says it was posted 2 years ago! I cried! She made an impact on me though I loved your tremendously informative video as well! This is my favorite TEDtalk of all time! You and yours are in my prayers! ❤️
Anger is the desire to do something about fear, or sadness, or anxiety.
In some languages there is no separate word for anger or so I've heard. It's just sadness.
I am grateful to Janine Driver for sharing this beautiful wisdom😊
Janine Driver stole my attention and kept me interested and excited, ESL EVERYBODY'S SECOND LANGUAGE!
Oh I love this! Your Mom swearing is so awesome...and accurate observations! Thank you! "Sometimes we have to fight for people that can't fight foe themselves!" LOVE!!!
The wisdom i gained by this lady for this 30min is just amazing ❤❤❤❤
Me to pup (pointing at carpet stain): “Did you do this?”
Pup: eye blocks for 9 seconds.
Fast forward - pup watches video.
Me to pup (pointing to shredded dog bed): “Did you do this?”
Pup: Looks me square in the eye, assertively shakes head no, and points to invisible cat.
Thanks RUclips.
Isabelle Robbe-Dren lololololololol
🤣🤣🤣
Everyone needs this information. Spectacular talk.
@@lindseynovak8058 If she is gifted it doesn't mean that everyone can and should start relying on their ESL.
I remember once upon a time in Pakistan, We were going in a Jeep and we noticed there was another jeep overtook us and there wasn't number plates on it.
And a after while there were to police with 125 cc bike standing at road shoulder and waved to us to stop and we saw the other jeep of different make passed them, they asked us for registration of the jeep and we showed it. Then they told ok you can go. You only can feel it when it happens to you. We asked why they checked our jeep registration while the other jeep even passed in front of them didn't have number plates. They replied we doubted you. 😡🤬
Ha!
Am i the only one annoyed at how the camera is cutting off the top of her screen or nah?
More annoyed about her repetitive sell on ESL, like we get it already, we ain't autistic..
Absolutely amazing! Such great advice for parents, friends, and coworkers. I have listened to 3 other ones from Janine and each one is valuable. She is a "must share TED Talker "for sure.
This is the best talk I've ever seen, I can't believe all the information this woman is delivered, fantastic job ! 👍
The best talk I’ve ever had the privilege of listening to
AMAZING! I loved this T-talk! As a survivor of childhood abuse, I developed a very strong ability too see impending danger in advance. Much later, I learned to decode verbiage. All that I learned (not in an official sense) also served me well in my nursing career, and still today.
This put body language, or ESL from an official perspective application. More importantly it demonstrated how to apply it in a personal application.
You not only confirmed what I had learned as a survival mechanism. You tied it all together and gave it a name. In a moment, the glasses were on! Like layers of transparencies came together to in perfect order to create a clear picture. I'm so appreciative to you for this. Your presentation put on the 👓 for me. I'm not giving them back!. ❤❤❤😉
Well done, indeed. Thank you. Your mother's message was heartwarming. Bless you both. Sending love and love and love 💕💞💕
The emotion in her voice when she was talking about Chris Watts...
which suddenly disappeared, then came back during the mom scene, then suddenly disappeared in a second.. come on ppl, wake up. (emotion fiber, cancer, kids... => rational/critical thinking = OFF)
@@GLPification its almost like emotional things make people emotional. Strange.
@@imlate3238this is what make people (and a lot of other species) social. that woman like facebook & marketers know it well and they are always looking on how to manipulate/exploit it for an outcome.
@@GLPification Its true she is using emotion to captivate and manipulate people in a sense. She knows her stuff. She also knows how to dress very well to maximize her body. Great talk.
@@imlate3238 This is true, that's why they always sell the lifestyle and not just a product.
You had me in tear about your mom, but so happy she is fighting it , all love and prayer for her.
This was the best Ted talk I’ve seen in a long time.
I love this woman’s presentations soooo much! Every TEDx talk she does is better than the previous one.
Cheers
Great talk!!! I love the passion , dynamism and sensitivity at the same time, this lady sends out!
Wow.... Just wow... Now i know how many moments i have missed with my family specially my daughters... I am going to promise them, I am not going to miss anymore ...
THANK YOU JANINE, God Bless You.
One of the best Tedx I've watched, thank you Janine.
There is more sadness in her voice taking about him than he ever showed
Who?
Would like to share my body language things that I learned from around the world brains of people who respected my psychic ability I was born with as some things are not in books and would love to share with you as I am sr retired now and would like to give to you a nd would love to talk to you and help your mother too Janet Brennan Bklyn ny. I am real
The moment she mentioned Chris Watts my heart dropped
Same. He was also very bad at lying. Most people could tell SOMETHING was wrong with his behaviour. But as she said they didn't have the skills to KNOW why his behaviour was wrong and sending red flags.
The very moment I saw Chris Watts speak for the first I had a horrible sinking feeling.
Oh man, people are gonna come after me for not making eye contact now lmao. Im guilty of a lot of this, i promise im not hiding anything. Im just autistic, ive almost been arrested a few times. Now i know why haha
alot of people use autism as an excuse for bad behavior.
Melvin Clarke Maybe, but some people genuinely have situations such as this because they have autism. I’m not dismissing your comment, I’m just stating that some people are genuine with their reasons for seeming suspicious but are actually innocent in reality.
Absolutely fuckang understand! Can't wait until Jesus comes back and allows skyscraper sized loctus monsters smack everybody's mom👍
@@melclarke64 ---- your mom uses jungle fever to excuse her bad behavior👍
@@lishangisbae9170 ---- I'm dismissing His comment because His mom uses jungle fever to excuse Her bad behavior👍
what an amazing TED talk. Janine Driver is so smart. I'm obsessed to see more of her videos. Wow
Great video. I am a sales associate at JCP, and will use ESL to detect a thief. I can call a AP and they will watch the suspect. And I will use her tools in my social life. Thanks, Janine.
I would love to say thank you! Thank you Janine for helping us by giving you all. You shared hard and personal things to get the point across and it shows you really care ... . Thank you so much Janine from one loving soul to another! namaste
I am crying while watching this. I have so many to thank for.
Exceptional Ted talk, this amazing lady put a lot of herself into this.
No, she's a charlatan. You might want to strengthen your epistemology, brother.
Yeah this lady I'm not sure I can put into words how amazing this woman is because she knows a thing or two about a thing or two and she makes you feel assured that what she saying it's some real talk the truth no doubt
I don't know this woman but her voice is hard to hear for me. I simply cannot listen. I like peacefully, worm voices. Too bad. Hope next time it will talk with more affection.
@@lungulst It's these types of talks where the full heart is invested that make an impact on me.
@@toshir0m1 Perhaps.
Wow. I’m speechless. This is absolutely incredible. You are an amazing story teller- and had be captivated from the very first minute to the very end. Thank you!!!
Janine! Thank you for who you are + for all you do.
Favourite talk Ever. She is extraordinary! ESL. Wow.
One of the best and most useful Ted talks I’ve ever heard!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I enjoyed this talk so much ...one of my favorite to date. Thank you Janine.
I came across this video trying to deal with devastating betrayal. This took my mind off the negative thoughts, perked my mood, and captivated my imagination. The topic was dark and I never would have thought it would give me hope and lighten my mood
Janine,
I like to pay my sincere repects to you and how you have helped the ones who suffered, and contributing so much for the people.
Because, you know that sharing without expecting a return, is difficult but true way of life.
Thank you Ms. Driver
Brought me to tears thank you for telling your story and giving knowledge
Thank you! I wished I had this intuition when my father hid his sickness.
I pray God orders my step to use the knowledge you provided. God bless you!
Janine is so passionate, you absolutely mirror her feelings during her speech. God bless her Mum, I hope she is okay.
The best and most energetic Ted x talk , I have seen till dis date........... It went for over 30 min and dis is the first time I didn't skip such a long talk....... U could also take classes on improving interaction wid others...... Really gud ......... Very different........ Way of presentation
Esl a whole new outlook on life i really appreciate this. Its going to help me a whole load more, a bigger evaluation other than based on a sisth sense. Thankyou Janine
I don't really know the right words to use, but honestly, this was my best Ted talk so far.
I've not come across such information before, thank you , I really appreciate.
27:34 .... in 34 second
Use ESL to read body language:
- Eye blocking (the person don't want you to see his eyes, to protect/hide his thoughts)
- Shoulder shrugging (uncertain about something)
- Lips disappearing (the person tights and presses his lips when he don't like what he sees or hears)
Ah... I finally see another person unimpressed by this lengthy presentation
@@robhatesyoutube
Move on random person... she is way above your pay grade...
@@JudiChristopher Indeed!
@@JudiChristopher She does not have sound scientific support for her claims. She uses the same strategies for fooling people that psychics do. Post hoc observations, bait and switch, making generalizations from subparts of the data without evidence, burying false data that is easy to believe because it sounds plausible, using appeals to mysterious phenomena by using concepts that can't be defined as if she has defined them, using sciencey sounding words occassionally to sound like an expert even though she uses the words incorrectly, etc, etc.
@@JessBlake2 She worked for the government because of her skills. She is very qualified. Eye blocking is also used by people with autism and anxiety, but she has a depth of knowledge and an extensive background in profiling murderers for the government.
Wow this was an amazing ted talk and i love that she wore her emotions proudly. Lots of respect and appreciation for her.
This is the best Ted talk I have ever watched, and I watched a loooot. Thank you so much for this eye opening talk. Thank you for sharing this with the world and raising the awareness around body language.
Without a doubt, this is the best TEDX talk I have heard in my life.
I cried at the end. This was so incredibly beautiful. I hope to one day learn how to live up to my adhd potential..
All best wishes ❤ to you ADHD sufferer ❤
You are the reason I’m on this channel!🙋🏻