If my ex were to come back, the first syllable of word better start with the word I. Taking ownership is key, and if the ex of mine come back and don’t take ownership, he can hit the door wiere the good lord split them
It’s been 12 months since she left me. She got into a rebound shortly after. Not sure how long it lasted but forsure less than 12 months lol. During that time I read self improvement books listened to Jordan Peterson. Pushed my business (I no longer have to work a 9-5). I will admit I have broke no contact about 3 times the most recent was in October 2022. After that I found out she blocked my number (she doesn’t have social media). Well I ran into her yesterday at the gym. I could tell my presence was affecting her. I’m not sure what was going on in her head but she wasn’t having w good workout bc of it and left shortly after arriving. Seeing her for the first time in a long time my feelings arose. I do miss her but those feelings I felt are from the past(I’m analytical). Would I date her again? Potentially. As of right now I’m focusing on the business. I’m not sleeping or dating anyone. Nofap, no porn, self improvement. Financial freedom. I know my self worth now.
@LonelyRider stupid comment.. you dont know why she left him. Everyone always asumes its always the person who leaves fault. Maybe it was maybe it wasnt, but you cant know.
Good on you on having a constructive reaction and focusing on self. That’s the best way to react, to make oneself a better person. Btw what’s non fap? Not living in 🇺🇸 I don’t know the term
My ex broke up with me 4 months ago. So I think, I should take my small dog with me when I will go to take my clothes and things that I left at his house😂.
I have just been through a break up almost 3 weeks ago, sometimes it's so difficult because my anxiety shoots up to the sky, but watching your videos and hearing your voice calm me down so much. Thank you for doing these. You're the best relationship coach ever!!
She cheated on me with someone who was travelling through my town,we had a good relationship, she dumped me saying she lost feelings and admitted to the cheating and said she felt horrible guilt. I left the country 2 weeks later. Went to thailand for a month and came back home to the US after 4 yrs being away from home. No contact for 2 months and she reached out asking hows home. I said its been great and went back in NC. Its been 3 months total now and she watches my stories every time.
@SurajMishra-wg9rx its been 5 months now.she watches my storeis but hasnt reached back out. Probably doesnt want to stir up old drama. But her best friend always likes my posts. I assume she still feels guilty. I keep going back and forth on if i should remove her as a follower and stop following her. I know if i do ill never hear from her again. Which i probably wont anyway but maybe ill gove it a year
When I finally found out from her friend that she dreams of me often, she told her friend about our relationship and also the last time I went to her house, she told her friend that she appreciated that
I'd like to see the day when relationship dynamics are part of the school curriculum. People don't go through months or years of rumination, depression and turmoil because of algebra or trigonometry.
Coach Craig Kenneth is the best coach on RUclips I watched many coaches but he is the only one who understands the thing and am sure it’s because he is a psychologist and specialised in breakups he should have at list 3 millions followers
Been going through a divorce and separated for 5 months now. The other day my aunt told me my ex wife messaged her on social media wishing her a happy birthday. To me it’s really nothing but my ex wanted the divorce and I told her goodbye when she refused to try and save the marriage. She knows the aunt she messaged is close to me and I know that she knows my aunt would most likely tell me. Like I said it can be nothing but at the same time I think it doesn’t make sense. She wanted the divorce and wanted to be”set free” as she said it. If your wanting to be set free why message my aunt?
It’s not an accident, and it’s not nothing. Trust me. Coach Craig knows what he’s talking about. My ex came back after 4 months, and she did similar things.
My ex is back on dating apps. I'm trying to convince myself that's because he's missing me and trying to get distracted with my replacement. Hey, at least it keeps me from reaching out. Whatever works, right? Being in denial and completely delusional works for me! 😅
My ex got back on the dating scene 2 weeks after the breakup and… nothing. It’s tough out there. Let them taste the misery of dating. P.S I am back with my ex/current boyfriend. He even went on a few dates with a girl. Yet here we are dating again.
As a man who went on dating apps days after a tough breakup, I can 100% assure you that, if he truly loved you, it was only to distract himself from you. I did the exact same. My ex found out, called me out on it, and I was honest with her. She thought I did it because I was over her and didn’t care about us. I just told her that I wanted to do anything to get her off my mind. The dating apps didn’t even help me because she’s all I thought about. I was so far from being over her and I cared so deeply for her, but she broke up with me and I needed relief from the pain. Just having a conversation with someone else would help a little, but not enough.
I am curious about avoidants having anxiety... could you explain more? As someone w an anxious attachment style I'm curious what type of anxiety they experience?
I always said if the grass isn’t greener on the other side then I suggest they asses start watering the shit, eventually it will be. But in the meantime I’m between time, theirs already someone else enjoying these greener pastures.
I am feeling responsible for my latest break up. In my case moving to a different country for a career move and she not being able to follow me bc she has teenage kids is an issue, but she also is pathologically jealous and has major resentment issues with me and I believe men in general and I did some self sabotage moves that eroded trust. Practicing Buddhism and getting psychotherapy are helping me deal with the situation. Not sure whether coach Craig has done videos on moving apart in the geographic sense and its impact on relationships
Yes forget, they soon start mentioning you to the new rebound, Which drives arguments between them both the rebound is just a quick fix a distraction from you. And dealing with and processing their emotions and accountability! But sooner or later they have to face them head on. 😊 Bye bye rebounds
Hey Craig , what if I blocked my ex due to our history of too many break ups ? As far as I’m concerned , she can make an extra effort to contact me. Texting is too easy , and I’m not going to make it easy for her this time. Thanks 🙏
My ex broke up with me to focus on school and felt like she was mistreating me and moved out of our place which is next to her university, it destroyed me because I gave her so much and thought I wasn’t doing enough but she felt like I was doing too much. Made all the wrong mistakes in the beginning of blowing up her phone, telling her how much I loved her and realized it was pushing her away. I left her alone and then 3 days later she asked to come over because she missed me and didn’t like not having someone to talk to. Some drama happened and I ended up hurting her feelings so I left her alone going NC to let her process the breakup. 3 weeks later she asks to come over again saying it felt like an eternity since she heard from me and didn’t like not hearing from me, I told her SHE broke up with ME and if she really wanted to go through with this then to get used to not talking to me, we acknowledged we made mistakes in the relationship and neither of us really wanna let go of our connection. Last time I saw her she kissed me on the cheek and said she still loves me but needs to figure out her life first and heal. Should I go back into NC? Or talk a little here and there 🙃
He did ask me if i was dating someone else when we met again but i should have lied and said yes to see his reaction and cause him more fear of losing me rather than soothing his anxiety.
Second breakup in 6 months after 3+ years together. 7 weeks since, I did email her a bit but no contact for the last week. Pretty sure she doesn't care one little bit about me. I suspect she is fearful avoidant (I recently figured this out, don't think she even knows!)
its been 3 months since we broke up and im almost on my 2nd week of NC. its kinda confusing because last sunday at 12midnight she just sent me a video on tiktok about a guy explaining the difference of a girl being angry vs disappointed on his bf(one of the reason she broke up with me was she's disappointed). i wonder what she was thinking. i just replied im sorry
@@kolinsc2374 If you want to get her back just send brief texts and just seem busy whenever she reaches out first. Also delay your texts by 2-5 hours. Really gets to their head. Eventually she'll cave and you can schedule a time to meet when she gets really really desperate but don't act like you're falling on your knees for her.
my ex shared a status of facebook “I will literally overthink myself right out of someones life” and deleted it s couple hours later. does anyone think anything of that? or am i delusional
Thank you for teaching me about avoidant. But I want nothing with them and I just found out my ex is gay so I will now unfollow. And May others know that it’s not just avoidant behavior it’s they’re hiding secrets and one of them is they don’t like you they’re homo. May God protect them.
So my ex has told me a month ago to never speak/contact them ever again she then blocked me on social media after that message. Recently she has now unblocked me. I’m confused as to why she would do this if she never wants contact again?
When I sent my last goodbye text, I told her I will no longer be calling, chatting, or texting her, and for her to not contact me unless she is ready for a giving us a second chance. Did i mess up by letting her know i will no longer be contacting them?
I think the mistake could be the "second chance" part. You gave her your power, "now you get to decide everything!". Ideally, when you say goodbye, it should all be for you, not a 'woe is me, I can't take this anymore, goodbye' kind of statement. If she comes back, play it cool and be nice until she does/says something substantial, if she doesn't... such is life. If I were you, don't say anything else, just live your life and works towards cultivating a very happy life. Don't check social media and distance your mind away from the thoughts of her.
@@DiscLaddie Thank you, i just thought saying "giving us a second chance" was a softer way of saying "if you're interested in being in a relationship with me again", but i understand your perspective. Thank you for your advice.
Ok...i have a question...he s aooearing where i go every Sunday. ..if i walk right...he looks left...i go right he looks left....and he s declared to all around ..he s never coming backkkk...It was only A 6 month relationship however he has commitment issues...we re both in our 60s...he did a rebound lasted a month now on his own....no Contact ...we broke Up 3/4 months ago...any ideas ?
Ex contacted me again 3 x today it’s my 31 days no reaching out .. he thinks I have someone but I don’t have I’m trying to working on myself and personal growth. I was descipine on NC.. This is his text .. Good night and again, happy Valentine’s Day, wherever you are and whoever you are with. .. However he has surgery tomorrow tho .. shall I say wish him well and have safe surgery? Help !! Don’t know what to say 😌..
He reached out and said to me , ive been on his mind yeah and we can get back together if I change , I said to him no we both need to make changes! since then arguments again ! and now not speaking! Lol Because he said to me oh your not going to change. Then I said I didnt say that I hate when he clearly makes assumptions about my thinking ! 😮😊 so I know he aint bothad about his rebound chick at all saying that to me. Il wait and see what he does next and il update again. Also I forget to mention after he told me oh uve been on my mind then he said oh bet I haven't crossed your mind ? So he wanted to know my thinking on the sistuation but again made assumption about me. Then I said to him yes uve been on my mind good and bad things 😊 he had to say two negative things 1. Your not going to change and 2. i bet I haven't been on your mind and he was wrong. Because I would change and he had been on my mind obviously. He just cannot keep the conversation positive he has to put a dig in towards me . Like so confusing
@@adrij4961 I agree with this almost 100% outside one situation. The only time you reach out to the dumper is if you cheated on them and they dumped you for it. That being said, for anyone who cheated, I hope the dumper tells you to go kick rocks so you feel like you got dumped once again.
if you cheated or treated them like shit for long periods of time or after 9 months of no contact depending on multiple factors, how the relationship/ breakup was, how long the relationship was, if they’re single or not and if you’re blocked or not
what if everything they post about is being single, are they hiding the rebound? 7 months post BU, she’s been doing it since about the 3-4 month mark but now it’s every single post now .
What if she broke up with and u ask and ask why and she mentions that she was talking to someone I asked when she said the day before she broke with me
Crazy thing is. My ex reached out to my friend to game with him. In direct direct? I’ve gotten his mail sent to my house recently and emails regarding the things he used to buy
I were like hurt more becuease I met him on a datesite 4 years nearly 5 now he'd chatted me up online 5 years back I spoke yo him on phone he were like chatting bout his kids just lost his dad had twins gone back 2 live with his mom n worked nearby he were nice but I saw us a funny friends as he'd call me 2 chat he's very avoidant yup parents devout Christians his bro 2 him middle child I cannot imagine bieng bought up by parents who never showed a row or kisses I saw healthy grown up behaviour I learnt to love n I learnt that we gight er say sorry he won't ask me anything we like were just chatting mates he'd reached a breakdown year b4 we ever got sexudly close oh tho tbh he had heart attack n had to go ivf etc I I never saw him at as lover I thort he were my best buddy we chatted we talked n he'd stayed with his ex he had gr8 job n she knew it he knew her family were like dying off and so he felt he had to carry on caring 4 her 4 ftikken ever her posting pics if hols etc with spout twins buuut he n me last year he'd had huge breakdown n I were listening he n me god knows hwwwhowd did we get falling 4 each other he had 2 put bog house up 4 sale but she were still clinging in anyway hen me charred I had sed I won't like if ur giong to be a still family I want a npyftiend tooooo he were horrified he were trying to anyways we were like he was te one saying I can't not be with u it hurts b444r44 well he wanted me 2 like be soo good him giong out as a family thus weekend he'd took her tho I wasn't jelpus of her she's not the best o mean awful nnn course I sed if u ho anywhere with kids n her please say he didn't I noticed she were there yer I wasn't to see anyone it were awful I drank n told her n the kids were there course he just blocked me out sed I can't 4 get u but my kids got upset sooo he were wrong 4 me coz whyyyyy hid kids are not kids 18 n he is doing wat hs mom n dad dd pretend now he were sik of em all taking from.him.he dpoke to Mr about everything n I just like that were 7 months back I at first were like crazy devasted it's took this long till I've ignored em all for last 2 months just thort nooo way no how he's even gone mad that I tryed to contact him soooooooo last week I'd gave him wat he wanted for say month or so didn't feel do much like we were east to be just fuming fuming he'd chucked his friend aside like rubbish so my reactions were anger like posting things about who is like abc witch never ever ever have I ever been treated like that ever all I wanted were 4 him to reach out n say are u OK I'm sorry that's it then last week 7 months on I tho he hasn't liked nothing he Darenth they'd see n kids go mad bratts but by now his big one house ain't selling his kids will not he needing him I know that coz I'm same age mine are like older by far n at 18 yes they needed me but if I of dated spoken yo someone wen I spilit with thetr dad which I didn't but no way eould they he don't get it they only want taxis rides n money he thinks there is best mate he spoke to me about everything I thort friend were friends I didn't care if we ran of into su set bit the fact that he dumped my ass 4 there name sake I just sank n he acted like I never existed 7 months I turned my lindkin on last week baring in mind he knows I might say something but I wouldn't coz I don't ftikken care he's vowed my profile his picture his job ok not much but why wen I totaly dropped allckntacy all words will everything made new friends just thort wat a pig zoom there he is can u tell me of u think this is I think its a one off n I certainly didn't premium.medssge him he's ignored me enuf so I just left it be xx
This is so real I felt like I had no hope and I did the no contact and put him in archives on watsapp cause I didn't want to see his contact then I get a message from messenger it was him he texted on watsapp but I didn't hear so he text on messenger thanks so much
Last year i broke up with my love.. 2 months, than i wrote a handwritten text.. "can we talk?". We saw each other a few times, had a great time and than few weeks later he dumped me. First i went 2 his house, wrote love letter, gave him a small sweet gift. We went out one time and than he broke up again. Afther 2 months he came back.. We had a wonderfull month and than he broke up again 🙄 Afther almost 4 months of no contact he texted me, "goodluck with your new job". Thank u, was my response. 2 weeks later he wrote me i looked good in my new uniform. I said, thank u. Than 2 week later he texted me "🤖" So i texted back "🤖". It was ouwer symbol 2 say, well, it was almost a sort of i love you symbol. But than the next day i was, oke now it's almost 8 months, you are playing the game i want you but nah i don't 😢 I wrote him a text. Its better if you stop texting me, afther the break up i did everything 2 show you my love for you. You told me you couldn't breath with me anymore and that you wanted 2 date other woman. Don't understand what you still want from me.. I found a new house, a new job and i met new people in my life. He responded: you are right its not fair 2 you, sorry 🙂 We were 2gether for almost 2 and a have year, he asked me 2 marry him. I know i broke his heart when i broke up but i had problems in my mind. He can't forgive me, he doesn't want 2 talk about the feelings. I had 2 let him go. Still sick of the break up but i am happy with myself, my life and the people around me ❤ Much love from Amsterdam
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What's crazy is that all insecure attachment styles are anxious and emotionally unavailable! It's just different directions: inwardly/outwardly.
If my ex were to come back, the first syllable of word better start with the word I. Taking ownership is key, and if the ex of mine come back and don’t take ownership, he can hit the door wiere the good lord split them
It’s been 12 months since she left me. She got into a rebound shortly after. Not sure how long it lasted but forsure less than 12 months lol.
During that time I read self improvement books listened to Jordan Peterson. Pushed my business (I no longer have to work a 9-5). I will admit I have broke no contact about 3 times the most recent was in October 2022. After that I found out she blocked my number (she doesn’t have social media).
Well I ran into her yesterday at the gym. I could tell my presence was affecting her. I’m not sure what was going on in her head but she wasn’t having w good workout bc of it and left shortly after arriving.
Seeing her for the first time in a long time my feelings arose. I do miss her but those feelings I felt are from the past(I’m analytical).
Would I date her again? Potentially. As of right now I’m focusing on the business. I’m not sleeping or dating anyone.
Nofap, no porn, self improvement. Financial freedom. I know my self worth now.
You look amazing 👏 good work and congratulations 🎊 She probably (rightfully) took 1 glance at you and felt like an idiot for leaving you. Keep it up 💪
@LonelyRider stupid comment.. you dont know why she left him. Everyone always asumes its always the person who leaves fault. Maybe it was maybe it wasnt, but you cant know.
No fap and Peterson is fascist af oooof
Good on you on having a constructive reaction and focusing on self. That’s the best way to react, to make oneself a better person. Btw what’s non fap? Not living in 🇺🇸 I don’t know the term
@@Coccolinodc It means he's stopped um...self-pleasuring.
My ex started crying when we met to exchage our stuff after 4 months. He said he got emotional because of the dog he saw through the door 😄
Must of been a ruff breakup !! 🐕
My ex broke up with me 4 months ago. So I think, I should take my small dog with me when I will go to take my clothes and things that I left at his house😂.
The dog, huh? 😂😂😂
I have just been through a break up almost 3 weeks ago, sometimes it's so difficult because my anxiety shoots up to the sky, but watching your videos and hearing your voice calm me down so much. Thank you for doing these. You're the best relationship coach ever!!
It gets better. I'm 4.5 month in
It"s the same here. Coach Craig is great. And Margaret and VIctoria theye are great too of course. For me 2,5 month. Heartbraking.
Update???
Don’t forget they don’t watch how to get your ex back . Thank you coach 😊❤
So?
She cheated on me with someone who was travelling through my town,we had a good relationship, she dumped me saying she lost feelings and admitted to the cheating and said she felt horrible guilt. I left the country 2 weeks later. Went to thailand for a month and came back home to the US after 4 yrs being away from home. No contact for 2 months and she reached out asking hows home. I said its been great and went back in NC. Its been 3 months total now and she watches my stories every time.
Update?
@SurajMishra-wg9rx its been 5 months now.she watches my storeis but hasnt reached back out. Probably doesnt want to stir up old drama. But her best friend always likes my posts. I assume she still feels guilty. I keep going back and forth on if i should remove her as a follower and stop following her. I know if i do ill never hear from her again. Which i probably wont anyway but maybe ill gove it a year
When I finally found out from her friend that she dreams of me often, she told her friend about our relationship and also the last time I went to her house, she told her friend that she appreciated that
I'd like to see the day when relationship dynamics are part of the school curriculum.
People don't go through months or years of rumination, depression and turmoil because of algebra or trigonometry.
Coach Craig Kenneth is the best coach on RUclips I watched many coaches but he is the only one who understands the thing and am sure it’s because he is a psychologist and specialised in breakups he should have at list 3 millions followers
I don't care about my ex
Been going through a divorce and separated for 5 months now. The other day my aunt told me my ex wife messaged her on social media wishing her a happy birthday. To me it’s really nothing but my ex wanted the divorce and I told her goodbye when she refused to try and save the marriage. She knows the aunt she messaged is close to me and I know that she knows my aunt would most likely tell me. Like I said it can be nothing but at the same time I think it doesn’t make sense. She wanted the divorce and wanted to be”set free” as she said it. If your wanting to be set free why message my aunt?
She might want to reconsider her decision.
Sometimes it’s breadcrumbs
It’s not an accident, and it’s not nothing. Trust me. Coach Craig knows what he’s talking about. My ex came back after 4 months, and she did similar things.
I'm 2 weeks into no contact, and my ex showed up at my front door. But left after 20 minutes of casual talk. What gives
Well then that's no longer my problem. I have moved on with my life now and it's peaceful and quiet.
Yes, more on the later stages
Thank you Coach Craig. Jana - Texas
My ex is back on dating apps. I'm trying to convince myself that's because he's missing me and trying to get distracted with my replacement. Hey, at least it keeps me from reaching out. Whatever works, right? Being in denial and completely delusional works for me! 😅
I'm right there with you it sucks.
My ex got back on the dating scene 2 weeks after the breakup and… nothing. It’s tough out there. Let them taste the misery of dating.
P.S I am back with my ex/current boyfriend. He even went on a few dates with a girl. Yet here we are dating again.
@@Ekb620000 I'm glad you guys could make it work!
As a man who went on dating apps days after a tough breakup, I can 100% assure you that, if he truly loved you, it was only to distract himself from you. I did the exact same. My ex found out, called me out on it, and I was honest with her. She thought I did it because I was over her and didn’t care about us. I just told her that I wanted to do anything to get her off my mind. The dating apps didn’t even help me because she’s all I thought about. I was so far from being over her and I cared so deeply for her, but she broke up with me and I needed relief from the pain. Just having a conversation with someone else would help a little, but not enough.
@@kaelanl6773 we broke up 5 months ago. He's probably genuinely ready to start dating again, but thanks for your kind words 😊
I am curious about avoidants having anxiety... could you explain more? As someone w an anxious attachment style I'm curious what type of anxiety they experience?
Hi Greg, what if my ex is still watching my stories? She did not even stop watching them, she did not unfollow me, we just went silent
I always said if the grass isn’t greener on the other side then I suggest they asses start watering the shit, eventually it will be. But in the meantime I’m between time, theirs already someone else enjoying these greener pastures.
I am feeling responsible for my latest break up. In my case moving to a different country for a career move and she not being able to follow me bc she has teenage kids is an issue, but she also is pathologically jealous and has major resentment issues with me and I believe men in general and I did some self sabotage moves that eroded trust. Practicing Buddhism and getting psychotherapy are helping me deal with the situation. Not sure whether coach Craig has done videos on moving apart in the geographic sense and its impact on relationships
Can you please do these stages but when they are in a rebound? 😫
if they are on a rebound, i advise start to forget about them. trust me . I've been there.
Yes forget, they soon start mentioning you to the new rebound, Which drives arguments between them both the rebound is just a quick fix a distraction from you. And dealing with and processing their emotions and accountability! But sooner or later they have to face them head on. 😊 Bye bye rebounds
What to do if i need to contact him for my monthly allowance and arrangement for our condo? 😢
Hey Craig , what if I blocked my ex due to our history of too many break ups ? As far as I’m concerned , she can make an extra effort to contact me. Texting is too easy , and I’m not going to make it easy for her this time. Thanks 🙏
My ex broke up with me to focus on school and felt like she was mistreating me and moved out of our place which is next to her university, it destroyed me because I gave her so much and thought I wasn’t doing enough but she felt like I was doing too much. Made all the wrong mistakes in the beginning of blowing up her phone, telling her how much I loved her and realized it was pushing her away. I left her alone and then 3 days later she asked to come over because she missed me and didn’t like not having someone to talk to. Some drama happened and I ended up hurting her feelings so I left her alone going NC to let her process the breakup. 3 weeks later she asks to come over again saying it felt like an eternity since she heard from me and didn’t like not hearing from me, I told her SHE broke up with ME and if she really wanted to go through with this then to get used to not talking to me, we acknowledged we made mistakes in the relationship and neither of us really wanna let go of our connection. Last time I saw her she kissed me on the cheek and said she still loves me but needs to figure out her life first and heal. Should I go back into NC? Or talk a little here and there 🙃
He did ask me if i was dating someone else when we met again but i should have lied and said yes to see his reaction and cause him more fear of losing me rather than soothing his anxiety.
Second breakup in 6 months after 3+ years together. 7 weeks since, I did email her a bit but no contact for the last week. Pretty sure she doesn't care one little bit about me.
I suspect she is fearful avoidant (I recently figured this out, don't think she even knows!)
I re took the test turns out I have secured relationship type.. all this time I thought I was avoidant
What a friend of hers ask if you're on the dating scene. Is that them trying to find out for her
Yes
Is it bad if they show remorse within the week of break up?
I also said I forgive him though I need ammends bases on actions
its been 3 months since we broke up and im almost on my 2nd week of NC.
its kinda confusing because last sunday at 12midnight she just sent me a video on tiktok about a guy explaining the difference of a girl being angry vs disappointed on his bf(one of the reason she broke up with me was she's disappointed). i wonder what she was thinking. i just replied im sorry
Don't apologize lol, weak AF. Make her chase you.
@@Kyle-pj2vc lol.yeah i got weak when i saw her message.but this valentine day ill make sure i wont reach her
@@kolinsc2374 If you want to get her back just send brief texts and just seem busy whenever she reaches out first. Also delay your texts by 2-5 hours. Really gets to their head. Eventually she'll cave and you can schedule a time to meet when she gets really really desperate but don't act like you're falling on your knees for her.
my ex shared a status of facebook “I will literally overthink myself right out of someones life” and deleted it s couple hours later. does anyone think anything of that? or am i delusional
I suppose breadcrumbing. Any update?
What to Do if he say
I’m talking to Another Girl
Thank you for teaching me about avoidant. But I want nothing with them and I just found out my ex is gay so I will now unfollow. And May others know that it’s not just avoidant behavior it’s they’re hiding secrets and one of them is they don’t like you they’re homo. May God protect them.
So my ex has told me a month ago to never speak/contact them ever again she then blocked me on social media after that message. Recently she has now unblocked me. I’m confused as to why she would do this if she never wants contact again?
Some done reach out at all. Happens
When I sent my last goodbye text, I told her I will no longer be calling, chatting, or texting her, and for her to not contact me unless she is ready for a giving us a second chance. Did i mess up by letting her know i will no longer be contacting them?
I think the mistake could be the "second chance" part. You gave her your power, "now you get to decide everything!". Ideally, when you say goodbye, it should all be for you, not a 'woe is me, I can't take this anymore, goodbye' kind of statement. If she comes back, play it cool and be nice until she does/says something substantial, if she doesn't... such is life. If I were you, don't say anything else, just live your life and works towards cultivating a very happy life. Don't check social media and distance your mind away from the thoughts of her.
@@DiscLaddie Thank you, i just thought saying "giving us a second chance" was a softer way of saying "if you're interested in being in a relationship with me again", but i understand your perspective. Thank you for your advice.
Ok...i have a question...he s aooearing where i go every Sunday. ..if i walk right...he looks left...i go right he looks left....and he s declared to all around ..he s never coming backkkk...It was only A 6 month relationship however he has commitment issues...we re both in our 60s...he did a rebound lasted a month now on his own....no Contact ...we broke Up 3/4 months ago...any ideas ?
Ex contacted me again 3 x today it’s my 31 days no reaching out .. he thinks I have someone but I don’t have I’m trying to working on myself and personal growth. I was descipine on NC..
This is his text
.. Good night and again, happy Valentine’s Day, wherever you are and whoever you are with. ..
However he has surgery tomorrow tho .. shall I say wish him well and have safe surgery?
Help !! Don’t know what to say 😌..
is it ok to share posts on social media about life improvements qoutes or realization?or just funny memes?
Yea, be yourself, post positive stuff, but don't do it too often. Don't make it look fake or like you use social media too much. Every month is fine.
He reached out and said to me , ive been on his mind yeah and we can get back together if I change , I said to him no we both need to make changes! since then arguments again ! and now not speaking! Lol Because he said to me oh your not going to change. Then I said I didnt say that I hate when he clearly makes assumptions about my thinking ! 😮😊 so I know he aint bothad about his rebound chick at all saying that to me. Il wait and see what he does next and il update again. Also I forget to mention after he told me oh uve been on my mind then he said oh bet I haven't crossed your mind ? So he wanted to know my thinking on the sistuation but again made assumption about me. Then I said to him yes uve been on my mind good and bad things 😊 he had to say two negative things 1. Your not going to change and 2. i bet I haven't been on your mind and he was wrong. Because I would change and he had been on my mind obviously. He just cannot keep the conversation positive he has to put a dig in towards me . Like so confusing
Update?
It's been 5 months ... not a peep. No idea what he's up to
Which ones are the cases when is ok to reach out the dumper?
@@adrij4961 I agree with this almost 100% outside one situation.
The only time you reach out to the dumper is if you cheated on them and they dumped you for it. That being said, for anyone who cheated, I hope the dumper tells you to go kick rocks so you feel like you got dumped once again.
if you cheated or treated them like shit for long periods of time or after 9 months of no contact depending on multiple factors, how the relationship/ breakup was, how long the relationship was, if they’re single or not and if you’re blocked or not
Stop looking for a reason and wait
i said to her not to bother me, yet she still text me over stupid reasons
what if everything they post about is being single, are they hiding the rebound? 7 months post BU, she’s been doing it since about the 3-4 month mark but now it’s every single post now .
What if she broke up with and u ask and ask why and she mentions that she was talking to someone I asked when she said the day before she broke with me
Crazy thing is. My ex reached out to my friend to game with him. In direct direct? I’ve gotten his mail sent to my house recently and emails regarding the things he used to buy
7 months since she left. I made all the mistakes, begged, pleaded, talked to her friends, sent a letter.... she will never come back 😔
Get someone hotter. It’s not hard
Mate, she may still come back and if not you will find someone better!
My ex did this twice. Even though she had a boyfriend.
😅
My ex was almost always the first one to view my stories on social media then she removed me off everything 😅
Craig is great, but I personally disagree on some of the tips he gives in regards to get back in to a relationship when the exes reach out
My ex put a notification on a social media so they’d know when I’d posted something.
No really sure why.
@@willow_pillow nah he’s never misses
I were like hurt more becuease I met him on a datesite 4 years nearly 5 now he'd chatted me up online 5 years back I spoke yo him on phone he were like chatting bout his kids just lost his dad had twins gone back 2 live with his mom n worked nearby he were nice but I saw us a funny friends as he'd call me 2 chat he's very avoidant yup parents devout Christians his bro 2 him middle child I cannot imagine bieng bought up by parents who never showed a row or kisses I saw healthy grown up behaviour I learnt to love n I learnt that we gight er say sorry he won't ask me anything we like were just chatting mates he'd reached a breakdown year b4 we ever got sexudly close oh tho tbh he had heart attack n had to go ivf etc I I never saw him at as lover I thort he were my best buddy we chatted we talked n he'd stayed with his ex he had gr8 job n she knew it he knew her family were like dying off and so he felt he had to carry on caring 4 her 4 ftikken ever her posting pics if hols etc with spout twins buuut he n me last year he'd had huge breakdown n I were listening he n me god knows hwwwhowd did we get falling 4 each other he had 2 put bog house up 4 sale but she were still clinging in anyway hen me charred I had sed I won't like if ur giong to be a still family I want a npyftiend tooooo he were horrified he were trying to anyways we were like he was te one saying I can't not be with u it hurts b444r44 well he wanted me 2 like be soo good him giong out as a family thus weekend he'd took her tho I wasn't jelpus of her she's not the best o mean awful nnn course I sed if u ho anywhere with kids n her please say he didn't I noticed she were there yer I wasn't to see anyone it were awful I drank n told her n the kids were there course he just blocked me out sed I can't 4 get u but my kids got upset sooo he were wrong 4 me coz whyyyyy hid kids are not kids 18 n he is doing wat hs mom n dad dd pretend now he were sik of em all taking from.him.he dpoke to Mr about everything n I just like that were 7 months back I at first were like crazy devasted it's took this long till I've ignored em all for last 2 months just thort nooo way no how he's even gone mad that I tryed to contact him soooooooo last week I'd gave him wat he wanted for say month or so didn't feel do much like we were east to be just fuming fuming he'd chucked his friend aside like rubbish so my reactions were anger like posting things about who is like abc witch never ever ever have I ever been treated like that ever all I wanted were 4 him to reach out n say are u OK I'm sorry that's it then last week 7 months on I tho he hasn't liked nothing he Darenth they'd see n kids go mad bratts but by now his big one house ain't selling his kids will not he needing him I know that coz I'm same age mine are like older by far n at 18 yes they needed me but if I of dated spoken yo someone wen I spilit with thetr dad which I didn't but no way eould they he don't get it they only want taxis rides n money he thinks there is best mate he spoke to me about everything I thort friend were friends I didn't care if we ran of into su set bit the fact that he dumped my ass 4 there name sake I just sank n he acted like I never existed 7 months I turned my lindkin on last week baring in mind he knows I might say something but I wouldn't coz I don't ftikken care he's vowed my profile his picture his job ok not much but why wen I totaly dropped allckntacy all words will everything made new friends just thort wat a pig zoom there he is can u tell me of u think this is I think its a one off n I certainly didn't premium.medssge him he's ignored me enuf so I just left it be xx
This is so real I felt like I had no hope and I did the no contact and put him in archives on watsapp cause I didn't want to see his contact then I get a message from messenger it was him he texted on watsapp but I didn't hear so he text on messenger thanks so much
They don't. They know they ruined your life. Hell, that's why they dumped you. So they could watch your reaction as your whole world falls apart.
Last year i broke up with my love.. 2 months, than i wrote a handwritten text.. "can we talk?".
We saw each other a few times, had a great time and than few weeks later he dumped me.
First i went 2 his house, wrote love letter, gave him a small sweet gift. We went out one time and than he broke up again.
Afther 2 months he came back..
We had a wonderfull month and than he broke up again 🙄
Afther almost 4 months of no contact he texted me, "goodluck with your new job".
Thank u, was my response.
2 weeks later he wrote me i looked good in my new uniform.
I said, thank u.
Than 2 week later he texted me "🤖"
So i texted back "🤖".
It was ouwer symbol 2 say, well, it was almost a sort of i love you symbol.
But than the next day i was, oke now it's almost 8 months, you are playing the game i want you but nah i don't 😢
I wrote him a text.
Its better if you stop texting me, afther the break up i did everything 2 show you my love for you.
You told me you couldn't breath with me anymore and that you wanted 2 date other woman.
Don't understand what you still want from me..
I found a new house, a new job and i met new people in my life.
He responded: you are right its not fair 2 you, sorry 🙂
We were 2gether for almost 2 and a have year, he asked me 2 marry him.
I know i broke his heart when i broke up but i had problems in my mind.
He can't forgive me, he doesn't want 2 talk about the feelings.
I had 2 let him go.
Still sick of the break up but i am happy with myself, my life and the people around me ❤
Much love from Amsterdam