My girlfriend broke with me 10 weeks ago. Doing the workbooks since them. I am in No contact since then, she reaches out 4-5 times per week. We met once and she cried a lot but didn't want to come back. I think she misses me but she is also doing her best to move on. Most of the time I am ok with this, I am even dating others, but every now and then I am really sad. I am really losing hope and I will have to move on, it's very sad because she is my soulmate, 9 years relationship and knowing each other since we were kids. This is so sad.
I have to listen to these regularly to resist the temptation to reach out to my ex, not to beg him to come back but just to say hi. Seems innocent enough right? But it’s still contact that will let him know I’m thinking of him and may push him back a few steps. So I’ve taken to writing him messages in my journal so I’m expressing what I want to tell him, getting it off my chest and staying in no contact. Still super hard but gives me some relief and maintains my dignity and integrity.
@@CoachCraigKenneth I want to thank you for all the coach you and Margaret did for me. I think now I'm at the point where I don't care if I get her back or not. I'm pretty happy being alone and single
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No contact works!!!!! After 4 months he reached out. We are taking things slowly. I have been working on my self(anxious attachment) by watching, listening, and processing the info in your videos. I also did the work books. I have read 5 books on attachment. My anxiety has been inproving. I have a long way to go. But he already noticed the difference in my behaviour. I will continue to watch your videos. Thank you Coach Craig, Coach Margaret, Coach Viki.
Evie my girlfriend broke up with me approximately about 6 months ago... and about 3 days ago she viewed my dating profile.. does this mean anything positive?
Everyday after the break up I have been here listening to you Coaches. Its helps me get through my day. If I feel any rumination I quickly watch whatever you have available. Thank you and God Bless you.
I agree... It's like a life line on "Who wants to be a millionaire." You know it's out there when you need answers. I have recommended this group to several friends going through break ups.
At first you feel so anxious hoping they will message you while you are in no contact, then as time goes by you think omg if they txt I don't even know what to say or how to feel about it. Definitely watching these videos is so valuable to the entire process
I absolutely agree with these ideas and I tested them on my ex partners. Reaching out is contra productive and gets you nowhere. Walking away with no contact gets attention and does position you for the winning position. I was dating a very avoiding person. After 4.5 month he contacted me and at his best behavior - not sure where it goes but I agree that no contact is the best strategy!
Hey Coach. You helped me two years ago get my ex back and you left a big impact on me. Well, we are now separated again and getting divorced, but I am stronger than I was then, AND I"M the one that left this time. It is much different. Yes, it's still sad, but I'm not devastated that she decided she wants a divorce. I was no longer being valued at all. Thanks again for everything, and happy to see you still going.
Everytime I feel like going on his FB or reaching out-I look at this channel for relief. 5 weeks in no contact. They have dragged and it’s been hell. I don’t want to be forgotten, and I am in despair, but I won’t be beaten down. I won’t. I’ve been left by people I’ve loved all my life. Absent father. This video is soothing my soul. Thank you
Break up was back in February. Man I thought I couldn’t get thru it and no contact was impossible. Stalker her socials for days on end. Got jealous of her new man posts. Then I started focusing on myself and things that make me happy and I couldn’t be more proud. I could care less what she’s up to and if she ever reaches out…she’ll get a “no thanks, that doors closed “ reply. Point is…trust no contact. It works!
Good to see ur post...i too had my breakup back in February. Times were tough back then as it was 5yr of relationship we had. But ya i think its time to move on in life n fave the reality n work on urself.all the best man to ur future. It will be bright..👍👍
My ex already has a rebound in less than 2 weeks lol and she still has the nerve to lie and say she’s not seeing anybody when her cousin told me himself. I don’t deserve this, I still love her very much but I gotta have respect for myself
@@johnnycase2905 I’d say it’s best to do no contact and worst case scenario move on bro. I’m improving everyday focusing on making money, my career, and my body I’m going so hard at everything and I’m pretty sure she’s not doing anything but seeing her new boyfriend at least I’m improving myself so I feel good about that at least.
@@chopboxing6197 yeah the last conversation we had she told me to move on because she loves the new one and there’s nothing left for me. Everyday I’m improving myself, mentally, physically and financially so I’m here for the long run. Good luck for both us brother and I hope you get better than ever
@@johnnycase2905 at least she told you the truth bro, but she’s probably lying because no way you can completely be over someone in 2 weeks that’s just not enough time to heal mentally and emotionally, if she does come back bro I’d say don’t allow her to be like I’m good I’m happy thanks for the offer though. My girl didn’t tell me the truth when I knew it already and she still had the nerve to lie to me lol. That’s some disrespectful, immature, and just a coward move on her part
I've been watching your videos for over a year now, I've been listening to you and Margaret while doing heavy barbell squat and bench press and I can tell you that there I definitely achieved personal growth hahaha. I turned a breakup into a building up.
Would love you guys to do a video on “breadcrumbing”. It’s what my ex has been doing to me since the breakup. She shows just enough attention to try and keep me “on the leash” as a backup.
Dude, i know it is going to be the hardest thing but just cut contact permanently. Exactly what you said "leash". Don't demean yourself. You are a back up, is that what you want to be the rest of your life?
I know you still want to react to them. But itll not help you get them back (if u want them back) when you react to the breadcrumbing. Give it time and space of no contact until they say a sensible word positions you to be the bigger person. Youll see that their words will change. When they feel your absence fpr a long while, their mindset and their view of you will change. this theyll reivaluate their decision and realize that they should not play mind games or ego tripping ways on you.
17:20 "For the cat!" YES 😸 I've binged sooo many of your videos, and they have been tremendous help. This one's definitely a keeper. What an amazing team! 👏
Please, please, please.....you have to work on yourself. The Knowledge Workbooks will help you with that. They helped me to understand myself better and to see where I needed to improve in my behaviour. I know that when your person breaks up with you it feels hopeless but it's not. I thought he would not come back. But that didn't stop me from trying to work on my anxious attachment. And how it affected him. You will benefit yourself. Best wishes to all. Thank you Coach Craig
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My person has the fantasy girlfriend idea and i didn’t measure up to his ideals. Hard to stop communicating with someone who’s been a part of your life for so long but then I remind myself of all the ways he told me I didn’t measure up. Hurts but easier to stay away then.
Similar situation here. Even got told to loose weight & dye my hair blond to be more appealing to meet his mold. When he said “what if I never find her?” I told him “to go find her.”
No contact works on my ex after 2 months before…Yet he recently broke up after 5 years of relationship together. It started when I saw his photos from 2-3 years ago with other girls on his phone… He didnt have the guts to say sorry and face what I found out. Then started blaming me for other things that went wrong throughout our relationship. So i will do no contact again and hope it will make him realized his mistakes and my worth
My ex did get back in contact with me, but she started becoming distant again after telling me she was second guessing her decision to end it. So back to no contact. It does work but not always the outcome we want, I’ve been working on myself and I’ve been feeling better than ever.
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My gf and I are both avoidants. We've experienced a lot together. There's a lot of passion between us. I'm not ready to give up on us. I don't think she is either. I'm revisiting the things I've said to her. I hope she's doing this same. The big issue I got through was my drinking & Rx meds. I've been clean and sober for 9 months now. It's one of the best decisions I've ever made. I'm more calm, not so prone to mood swings and periods of depression, not as moody. All that is short lived now and still getting better by the day. I eat well, exercise daily and read more. Things are really good. My gf has noticed it too.
I laughed at the LD plus avoidant comment!! That is exactly my situation and the reason we broke up. LD, and she did not want to deal with the minor issues we had when we came back. But during LD she got close to someone else and therefore, classic grass is greener syndrome. Doubt she will come back, but NC is helping me realise im better than this... Thanks for all your videos, they really help me!
@@t.6071 okay, so long story tried to cut short! Well I went full NC and didn’t message, call or anything the day after she left… the messages the day after BU were just to clarify the money she owed and when it would be paid, then to say goodbye! I didn’t beg or plead for her back and let her have the BU… Around 6 weeks after it was her birthday and even though it was tough I completely ignored it and didn’t message. Two days after that she messaged me, initially to say she had returned the money owed (a month earlier than expected), which I replied saying thank you! She then said ‘how are you?’ And thus a conversation began in which she said she was really upset I didn’t message on her bday, that it made her realise I was truly gone and always expected me to message her at some point in my own time! That me not messaging was a clear sign that I wasn’t interested and was okay (of course I felt like I was dying for most that NC period 😅). In those messages she said some weird things about ‘accidentally’ meeting in a years time at an event I was going to, and stuff about seeing where we were at that time! So I said I think we need to meet to discuss what that means! We met a few days later and she confessed she’s still in love with me, that the birthday made her realise it was serious and she was worried she had lost me, that she couldn’t cope and cracked, so messaged me! She said the idea of it becoming truly a real relationship scared her, so she ran away (we were LD a lot due to her studying in different cities, and this would be the first time in 2 years we’d be in the same area)… A few weeks after we met again for a longer period and discussed how we move forward! We both agreed we need time to heal from the issues we had and focus on ourselves, we are both busy with work/careers (part of the reason she ran away) but we have feelings for each other that need to be acted on one day! So we have decided to see each other every few weeks to catch up, spend some time together and discuss how we feel at that stage! Whether it will work we don’t know, but getting back together would have only made the issues we had return! So we’re going for the method of let the universe decide for us, or if you love something, let it go, if it loves you it will come back! And she did, so I’m trusting those feelings won’t fade with the distance between meets! Sorry that’s a long story but I hope it gives you hope if you’re going through a similar situation. I had no hope whatsoever and told myself she left me for someone else. Which turned out to be false and she left because she was scared of commitment…
It will be 2 weeks tomorrow since the break up, I am so devastated it hurts so bad. However, I’m not going to make contact. I really love this person and I do feel he will forget about me. We were in a long distance relationship for over 8 months. Never met in person, but talked 3 or 4 times a day and FaceTime as well. I feel so empty and tired. Thank you for your video they have made a Hugh difference. I’m a senior just wanted to throw that in in my sixties and so is he.
Im scared of the NC, but ive been doing NC for 1 month now.. ive been working on myself at the gym and getting my money 💰 but i relapse when i start thinking about her and insomnia is real
13 months is such a long time! You are bound to meet someone else in that time. I’m coming up to 30 days and I’m not of the mind to reach out now.. but if I don’t hear back in 60 days maybe 90 then at that point surely don’t have much to lose
A testimonial… I got broken up with and then contacted my ex about every two months…. Crickets. Finally on a New Year’s Eve I buckled down and 8 months later she sent me the “ Good reminder text”.
Interesting stuff. I grew up without a father and im guessing that must be why i feel so much anxiety in regards to break ups. Im just recalling old feelings.
@@Grufflehog She contacted me about a week ago to look at some work I did on her house. There was nothing wrong, curiosity. I talked for a bit then left, back to no contact
@@kayaking1000 really hope it works out for you. I’m on day 31 but we were only dating for 4 months. I actually left a 14 year relationship this year but strangely being blocked by the girl I was dating for 4 months has hit me twice as hard and I am really struggling. All I can do is work on myself and wait.
@@Grufflehog Sorry to hear that. We sometimes over pursue the one we want and the ones we don’t want over pursue us. Woman are like cats. I’m in the same boat, only 4 months and I love her like no other
My ex has moved on with his new woman he moved out his place and moved in with her he has also told me he is buying a house with her he told me they met October 2021 they are still together we separated July 2021 but continued to see eachother up until October of 2021 when I discovered the new woman he never mentioned while still seeing me they was coming out of his apartment it was then he outed her as his woman saying he just met her trying to introduce her to are kids and his family fast forward im no longer talking to him he actually is building a new life with this woman and pretty much disregard his children im no longer in contact he is blocked on every thing we only communicate through court im simply letting him be happy and live in peace things he always said i didn't do for him
I just wanna say a couple of things 1. No contact doesn't always work even if u follow all the instructions ( no begging no pleading no contact .. etc) i did all of this for +6 months now and he never reached out 2. I believe its important to set a realistic target for NC. If ur partner did not reach out in a period = or less than half of the total length of ur relationship than most likely its really over I love ur channel coaches n learning alot however a more realistic picture needs to be portrayed to avoid more disappointment on dumpees 🙏
when my ex left me I did everything to get her back but in vain I had to contact a great marabout masters from Benin to help me and he managed to improve my life as a couple
6 months is not a lot of time for your ex to go through the different stages of a break up. It feels different for them than it feels for you. Don't give up on personal growth and focus on you, He will eventually reach out.
@@julieloftin7308 I don't want to but I made too many mistakes and my brother is friends with her for 6 years. He told her I got drunk on Christmas and that I didn't need to be around her children. Even though I'm a great father to my own. He doesn't really know who I am because I only see him twice a year for a few days at a time.
Once on a quick established relationship with really the next person who came around the corner. Moving to him within 2 months... And I know he applies slight pressure on her and she can't be alone? All her needs fulfilled she will never reach out to me
I listen to your videos everyday. It keeps me motivated and I cheer up after listening to it.trusting the process.god bless you.u guys doing an amazing job
Mine went cold and blocked me.. even if she hasn’t forgot me (she might as well have) the pain is equally intense. And if she is avoidant., i think my suggestions of a future together scared her off - even though she spoke about it herself a fair bit previously. (Marriage / growing old together / places we would be going)
Yes no contact worked after five days… i connected with my ex… I went out yesterday for a first date had the best time… but I failed 😞 I didn’t leave the situation when I had the chance … we ended up spending way too much time together and it turned to shit fast…. She hasn’t blocked me this time but she won’t speak to me…. I thought I was over her but I fell in love with her all over again and probably ruined everything now 🥺
My dear if you seriously want help to get ur ex or a specific person Mr Samson is the best when it comes to recovery relationship, he helped me get my ex and he can also help you
One should always work on becoming a better version of oneself - hit the gym , dojo and focus on one's purpose not chasing any women.. the girl you want to marry should compliment one's life not be the focus of it.
At times they will turn cold and push you away so they can try to have zero guilt when they do go cheat. But the guilt will not stay away. Especially 2 days after the fantasy relationship didn't go as planned. Stick with no contact.
I absolutely LOVE this one. I am a fairly new listener of your program. It has helped me so so much. Each and everyone of you have a special way about yourselves. I lost my significant other 3 year's ago in a motorcycle accident. He the love of my life. At my age 57 it's hard to start dating again. Long story short one of his friends asked me out. Knowing him for 20 year's I thought perfect. Well... Do you really know someone like you think you do ? Now I broke up with him for many reasons. This has been both of us back & forth a few times. I'm trying to do the "no contact" but it is SO DIFFICULT I feel as though I'm grieving both of them now. Ugh ... 😥
I JUST PRAYED ABOUT THIS MATTER IN MY CHURCH AND WITH HIS GRACE AND TIME I JUST LEAVE THE WHOLE OUTCOME IN THE HANDS OF CHRIST. HE IS THE ONLY WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIGHT OF BRINGING TRUE MATCHMAKING FOR FREE INSTEAD OF RELAYING ON CULTURAL VIEWS WHICH HAS DESTROYED SO MANY MARRIAGES AND DATING RELATIONSHIPS IN DISCOUREMENT.
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I like the no contact vids but honestly I've always looks at it as "I'm done" it makes it so much easier to ignore the person, I mean let's face it they are your ex for 1 reason or another. Personally I wouldn't want an ex back.... plenty of fish is the sea an all that but I also understand how some ppl would. If you've found yourself in a "no contact" situation just remember HE WHO CARES LESS WINS !
She was most likely talking to him before the breakup or during the breakup. I’ve had the happen to me and all you can do is move on. It sucks but keep your head up and find someone better.
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i think im on week 7 of no contact now. not sure as ive stopped couting. ive got nothing from her so far. she watches my insta stories , doesnt like my posts . not that it means anything. i know she most likely will come back as we ended stuff on no hard feelings at all and i know im not going to lose her forever because even if i dont get her back, we will stay friends.
@@geraldcoop we havent spoke since march and tbh im glad, over time ive realised she wasnt that good of a person and im actually glad she ended things as i feel more free to like things now. I dont know your situation but just because my ex didnt come back doesnt mean yours wont, and even if yours wont, you WILL be okay. trust me on that.
@@JackIsCool070 thanks. Mine is more complicated I guess cos it’s with an Fwb in an open relationship and we didn’t have a fight. It’s just that I got panic attacks and overtexted and so the Fwb probably felt overwhelmed and started ignoring me since one month ago…
Liking is still breaking it yes, you're suppose to show you can move on and make them second guess their decision. And show them you're working towards bettering yourself with or without them, liking posts is a bad idea
At first I used to get so upset thinking about my ex doing things for his new gf that he never used to do for me. I used to feel so angry and jealous and upset. Now, 8 months after our breakup, I’m actually hoping that he’s still doing those things because if he ever comes back, I don’t want him to be the same person he was when we were together. I want him to be better. Just as I want to be a better partner as well. But if he doesn’t come back, I know that I will still be fine and that I will still be a better partner than I was when I was with him. Not sure if that makes sense.
I enjoy your videos. Figured out I was dating a DA about a month ago, because I had no idea what was going on with us. Hot/cold. Push/pull. And I’m a secure attached and didn’t force or push things. However last week, I sat her down and said I think it’s about time we consider if we are going to lean into this thing of ours or not. I didn’t get much reassurance on her part, and I kinda took my answer from that. Haven’t spoken in 3 days. I CANNOT contact her for that anxiety settling because I know it will only be in the moment. Time to let go and see if she decides to match my energy or I have my answer - one way or the other. Thanks guys.
Sorry man. I’m in the same position. At least I know what the deal is now. Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine a relationship that was amazing blowing up due to an attachment issue.
I recently broke up with my girlfriend that I only dating for 2 months and then I tried to get her back after a couple of weeks and I failed. I did no contact and she called me up crying but when I found out she was crying about another old ex who moved out a state. She is an avoidant and what is going on with her?
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Dan Bacon videos here RUclips says a total opposite of no contact, n says a person needs to emotional re-attract n most people use his techniques n agree
@@CoachCraigKenneth Im not trying to be rude but have you seen his ex back video 5and what do you think about it?? Do u think he right on any aspects of what he is saying or you really beleive in no contact?
Thank you gay’s very mach I was 4 years with my ex before 1/5 month she broke out with me we war living together the last 1/5 year. She sed too me I whant too get separated with you because im not changing because i im the same she sed too me too mach responsibilitys somtimes i get angry anw I always loved her I always care about her and she the same anw i was beging her come back we get married I love you all the staf anw now I stopped after 1/5 month its my 4 day im not talking too her and the last time we spoke i sed too her I love you im here if you need anything she reply thank you. Anw she sed too me before I love you i care but im not coming back anw this is the 4 day im not talking and im going too trus the proses of no contact.
Does no contact work the same way if I dated my ex for a month but she had a crush on me for two years? She got insecure and ran away about three months ago
i cant remember which video but he does say doesnt matter how long really as long as the person attached to you no contact is still the best method wish you the best! ♥️
I just don't understand him. My avoidant ex reached out after 4,5 months of No contact. He called out of the blue and wanted to start talking again. I talked to him for a few minutes and thought to hear from him again. But then nothing. This was 4,5 months ago, in total now 9 months...he still holds on to stuff i had at his place. Is this holding the object? I don't want to reach out because of that but accidently called him once and no call in return, so I don't think he wants full closure....) Any ideas anyone?
So I wanna do no contact, but she reaches out like once every two days. She broke up with me, but will still send me a TikTok or a text about missing me or the one I got this morning, "so you thought I never cared? I'm asking bc I'm processing" when we already had that talk. So how do I do no contact if she won't stop contacting me? Lol
Do not date him! He will tell you everything he knows you will want to hear “I’m ready, I’m over it, I’m done with my ex, etc.” He might feel that way in the very moment he meets you but he needs time to grieve his marriage. I’m telling you...do not date him until he’s been separated or divorced for at least a year. You will be a rebound no matter how wonderful or amazing you are. He’s not in a mental state of mind to make long term decisions because he doesn’t truly know how he’s gonna feel in a month or two months. Please take my advice. He can fall for you, he can care about you, but he WILL NOT ATTACH to you. You will though and when he ends it, it will be devastating.
The only way to prevent being a rebound is to let him come back to you when he’s done rebounding. This could take at least a year but it’s better than getting your heart broken. And this is especially true if he didn’t want his marriage to end or he was cheated on. Those guys are gonna rebound HARD. But If he left his marriage or he was the one who wanted to leave then it will take less time cause his grieving process will take less time. Maybe 6 months.
@@scrubnurse Yes ma’am! And it’s absolutely heartbreaking! You get closer and closer to them but they are secretly not really connecting with you because half of their heart is still with their ex wife.
What if her first contact after 8 weeks was to take her daughters to cheer practice because she had to work late and couldn’t get them there? I did, I texted her that we went to the park after and sent her photos of the kids after they asked me to. No real conversation other than a thank you. I nodded and just left, serious anxiety, didn’t know what to say…no contact or response since last Thursday night.
Nah just move on with life. Live like they won't come back ( pretty much dead to you ) if they do ok, if they don't, take it as blessing learn from it become a better person you'll find someone better.
Yep, a long heartfelt text message from me got ignored on day 3 after she left.. Im now on 4 weeks of no contact since.I'm anxious and so is she. Nothing left to do but leave her alone.. Respond if you want an update.
I broke no contact at the end of week 7. Told my wife I understood why she left and i wasnt mad at her. Told her i miss her, love her, and think about her all the time. I asked what she needs from me so we can heal us.. Got ignored. 7 weeks of no contact wasted. Sent my anxiety off a cliff! It was horrible. Dont break no contact!
@@fbclips ah man, you not thought about just reaching out? But that’s good you feel better! I’ve been in no contact for 5 weeks now and I’m just hoping she is starting to feel the “missing me” stage. I don’t want to break no contact but I can’t seem to think after 6 years of being with her, we will never ever speak again
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I do not want to show my ex anything, she needs to show me how sorry she is and practically beg, most exes are not good women do not accept anything less and fall for this sales pitch of you having to be ready
No contact makes me worry After i dump him bcoz He is married. But i know i dont have future with him But i love him and. We had lots of good memories together. Makes me feel sad We are in LDR and i broke up with him 3 days ago. Im still sad. Hope i will be ok in time. Thanks
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@@cyrusphilip980 sorry i rather believe these 3 coaches than believing others. I heard a lot bout master or spell master sorry But why should i trust them When only me can. Solve my problem. I know i will be ok someday and this channel help me a lot..
I’m around 10 weeks into no contact with a long distance avoidance behaviour ex. Can you help me here please? I’ve seen on a recent video this was discussed as being very difficult.
My relationship broke down in August.... I'm trying to implement no contact, but what do i do when my ex (the dumper) will text me every other day or call few times a month? I alway go back to talking about working things out but she says she still wants time to see if she's better alone! It keeps bringing back my anxiety. I live in the UK and she's now living in Germany to work..... I don't know what to do... Live with hope she might come back if I continue to respond to her... Or if I ignore her, how will she react.
I had been seeing a guy who is avoidant. He never defined anything but wanted things to be casual. It took a toll on me with the constant disappearing and things he would do. I was aware that this was his way of processing and being independent like avoidants are. But without commitment and distancing it took a toll. I needed a break to take care of myself and get mentally and emotionally secure again. It’s been 30 days no contact since I said goodbye and that I had to go for me. I still miss him but feel like I have my life back on track - Exercising, volunteering, work, spending time with friends and living life. My headspace isn’t in constant worry or anxiety anymore but I do have moments where I want to hear from him. I’m not reaching out because I know he needed this space as well. He pulled away for a week prior to when I said goodbye. Who should reach out in this case? I am waiting on him to do so. Would this be your advice?
In all honesty, stay nc and try your best to move on. He doesn’t sound like he wants a relationship and you will become obsessed with ‘wanting what you can’t have’ if you stick around. You’re already anxious, it will come back as he will not change. There are nicer guys out there. Good luck.
I'm like the guy you dated. I can ensure you, we love the person we date on long run. We just are avoidants due to several experiences in our lives. I tried to rekindle, but after phoning, writing a letter and even bombarding her with text messages i decided to go No Contact. Again, soon or later, the relationship would have been official and on a solid foundation... I now would love to get her back, but i don't know if i can trust her after she walked away.
@@charlesdc1233 hey, as a man and avoidant attachment, how long would you take to reach out to her again? The guy I dated shut down and blocked me after I told him that if he doesn't value me as a person n my time, I'm done with him. I go NC with him and won't reach out to him until he does
I hate When. Some people using this channel to recruit bout What they believe in lovespell or master or whatever bodoo they are proposing. Guys make your own channel and dont interrupt in these channel and make some broken hearted people suffer more.
We argue she told me she needs time, so i start no contact, after 2 weeks told me she wants to break up, shes feels calmer without me, then she blocked ME.When relief stage really started? Any chance to miss me with time if i go into no contact?
I understand no contact but does it work if they left you and you are on the verge of moving to a new country? We are in London but I am moving to Rome, I think that’s part of the reason she broke up with me
Can this work if me and my platonic (not sure exes) were casual or I have broken the trust? I never talk to her and spend time together for 8 months. She is coolest girls to find, I haven’t talked to her not yet. she with someone and I am too, just broken up with my relationship dec 25.
Would no contact work if you weren't in a relationship but just talking for a few months and he ghosted and you freaked out and texted and called a few too times to get them to respond but now gave up and deciding on no contact? Would it still work on getting him to reach out?
I had an affair with a woman that I'm in love with. As much as I'm enforcing nc as it's only been about two months. She said she's gonna work on her marriage long term.
Don’t be a gross person. Neither of you should be pursuing that and I hope she doesn’t come back. She made a vow, she doesn’t owe you anything. Work on yourself and why you think this would be a good idea in the first place.
Always do the work for yourself and you guarantee yourself a success story! But we understand the desire to blow your ex away with changes! 💪
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My girlfriend broke with me 10 weeks ago. Doing the workbooks since them. I am in No contact since then, she reaches out 4-5 times per week. We met once and she cried a lot but didn't want to come back. I think she misses me but she is also doing her best to move on. Most of the time I am ok with this, I am even dating others, but every now and then I am really sad. I am really losing hope and I will have to move on, it's very sad because she is my soulmate, 9 years relationship and knowing each other since we were kids. This is so sad.
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I have to listen to these regularly to resist the temptation to reach out to my ex, not to beg him to come back but just to say hi. Seems innocent enough right? But it’s still contact that will let him know I’m thinking of him and may push him back a few steps. So I’ve taken to writing him messages in my journal so I’m expressing what I want to tell him, getting it off my chest and staying in no contact. Still super hard but gives me some relief and maintains my dignity and integrity.
I think people get stuck on NC videos because they are literally the only thing keeping them from breaking no contact.
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This!
Your videos ease the separation anxiety by like 200%
Only 200 %?
@@CoachCraigKenneth I think he meant 2,000,000%. Must’ve been a typo ⌨️💬
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He was the one who also helped me too
@@CoachCraigKenneth I want to thank you for all the coach you and Margaret did for me. I think now I'm at the point where I don't care if I get her back or not. I'm pretty happy being alone and single
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No contact works!!!!! After 4 months he reached out. We are taking things slowly. I have been working on my self(anxious attachment) by watching, listening, and processing the info in your videos. I also did the work books. I have read 5 books on attachment. My anxiety has been inproving. I have a long way to go. But he already noticed the difference in my behaviour. I will continue to watch your videos. Thank you Coach Craig, Coach Margaret, Coach Viki.
Keep up the hard work! And please share your experience with The Knowledge! ❤️💪
How he noticed that ?
Thanks for sharing. Keep it up I'm rooting for you.
Congrats! How are two doing now?
Evie my girlfriend broke up with me approximately about 6 months ago... and about 3 days ago she viewed my dating profile.. does this mean anything positive?
Everyday after the break up I have been here listening to you Coaches. Its helps me get through my day. If I feel any rumination I quickly watch whatever you have available. Thank you and God Bless you.
Likewise. Been doing this or the last 3 months plus.
Even now I sometimes get the urge to break no contact. Even with all the work I have done. These videos help me more than anything.
Im on the same boat right now bro..
I agree... It's like a life line on "Who wants to be a millionaire." You know it's out there when you need answers. I have recommended this group to several friends going through break ups.
Any update?
did it work?
I will be a psychologist by the time I’m finished.
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At first you feel so anxious hoping they will message you while you are in no contact, then as time goes by you think omg if they txt I don't even know what to say or how to feel about it. Definitely watching these videos is so valuable to the entire process
I absolutely agree with these ideas and I tested them on my ex partners. Reaching out is contra productive and gets you nowhere. Walking away with no contact gets attention and does position you for the winning position. I was dating a very avoiding person. After 4.5 month he contacted me and at his best behavior - not sure where it goes but I agree that no contact is the best strategy!
Update?
May I asked you , your ex have found someone during that 4.5 months ??
Thanks for your reply!
Hey Coach. You helped me two years ago get my ex back and you left a big impact on me. Well, we are now separated again and getting divorced, but I am stronger than I was then, AND I"M the one that left this time. It is much different. Yes, it's still sad, but I'm not devastated that she decided she wants a divorce. I was no longer being valued at all. Thanks again for everything, and happy to see you still going.
I’m happy you know your worth is hard to realize our worth especially when you’re a giver like me
Congratulations. You finally dumped the lady who don't value you.
Margaret was/is such a gem. So wise and such a sense of humor with that sly smile.
Everytime I feel like going on his FB or reaching out-I look at this channel for relief. 5 weeks in no contact. They have dragged and it’s been hell. I don’t want to be forgotten, and I am in despair, but I won’t be beaten down. I won’t. I’ve been left by people I’ve loved all my life. Absent father. This video is soothing my soul. Thank you
Hello… did the other person ever come back?
Break up was back in February. Man I thought I couldn’t get thru it and no contact was impossible. Stalker her socials for days on end. Got jealous of her new man posts. Then I started focusing on myself and things that make me happy and I couldn’t be more proud. I could care less what she’s up to and if she ever reaches out…she’ll get a “no thanks, that doors closed “ reply. Point is…trust no contact. It works!
Good to see ur post...i too had my breakup back in February. Times were tough back then as it was 5yr of relationship we had. But ya i think its time to move on in life n fave the reality n work on urself.all the best man to ur future. It will be bright..👍👍
Did it work? has she reached out to you?
@@whitneyw.7919 has not reached out nor do I care. That’s the power of no contact. Way to much good going on in my life to resort back to that
Hi did she reach out?
31 day probation of No Contact! 🥳 No Looking Back and Entertaining The Past. 100% committed to working on self. 🙏🏼💕😇
And now?
My ex already has a rebound in less than 2 weeks lol and she still has the nerve to lie and say she’s not seeing anybody when her cousin told me himself. I don’t deserve this, I still love her very much but I gotta have respect for myself
Same thing with me
@@johnnycase2905 I’d say it’s best to do no contact and worst case scenario move on bro. I’m improving everyday focusing on making money, my career, and my body I’m going so hard at everything and I’m pretty sure she’s not doing anything but seeing her new boyfriend at least I’m improving myself so I feel good about that at least.
@@chopboxing6197 yeah the last conversation we had she told me to move on because she loves the new one and there’s nothing left for me. Everyday I’m improving myself, mentally, physically and financially so I’m here for the long run. Good luck for both us brother and I hope you get better than ever
@@johnnycase2905 at least she told you the truth bro, but she’s probably lying because no way you can completely be over someone in 2 weeks that’s just not enough time to heal mentally and emotionally, if she does come back bro I’d say don’t allow her to be like I’m good I’m happy thanks for the offer though.
My girl didn’t tell me the truth when I knew it already and she still had the nerve to lie to me lol. That’s some disrespectful, immature, and just a coward move on her part
@@johnnycase2905 good luck to you to man. Keep doing what you’re doing brother be strong 💪🏼 pray to God you are never alone 💜
These videos have been helping my anxiety so much
I've been watching your videos for over a year now, I've been listening to you and Margaret while doing heavy barbell squat and bench press and I can tell you that there I definitely achieved personal growth hahaha.
I turned a breakup into a building up.
Would love you guys to do a video on “breadcrumbing”. It’s what my ex has been doing to me since the breakup. She shows just enough attention to try and keep me “on the leash” as a backup.
Dude, i know it is going to be the hardest thing but just cut contact permanently. Exactly what you said "leash". Don't demean yourself. You are a back up, is that what you want to be the rest of your life?
I know you still want to react to them. But itll not help you get them back (if u want them back) when you react to the breadcrumbing. Give it time and space of no contact until they say a sensible word positions you to be the bigger person. Youll see that their words will change. When they feel your absence fpr a long while, their mindset and their view of you will change. this theyll reivaluate their decision and realize that they should not play mind games or ego tripping ways on you.
17:20 "For the cat!" YES 😸 I've binged sooo many of your videos, and they have been tremendous help. This one's definitely a keeper. What an amazing team! 👏
Please, please, please.....you have to work on yourself. The Knowledge Workbooks will help you with that. They helped me to understand myself better and to see where I needed to improve in my behaviour. I know that when your person breaks up with you it feels hopeless but it's not. I thought he would not come back. But that didn't stop me from trying to work on my anxious attachment. And how it affected him. You will benefit yourself. Best wishes to all.
Thank you Coach Craig
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My person has the fantasy girlfriend idea and i didn’t measure up to his ideals. Hard to stop communicating with someone who’s been a part of your life for so long but then I remind myself of all the ways he told me I didn’t measure up. Hurts but easier to stay away then.
Similar situation here. Even got told to loose weight & dye my hair blond to be more appealing to meet his mold.
When he said “what if I never find her?” I told him “to go find her.”
No contact works on my ex after 2 months before…Yet he recently broke up after 5 years of relationship together. It started when I saw his photos from 2-3 years ago with other girls on his phone… He didnt have the guts to say sorry and face what I found out. Then started blaming me for other things that went wrong throughout our relationship. So i will do no contact again and hope it will make him realized his mistakes and my worth
My ex did get back in contact with me, but she started becoming distant again after telling me she was second guessing her decision to end it. So back to no contact. It does work but not always the outcome we want, I’ve been working on myself and I’ve been feeling better than ever.
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Hi did she reach out again?
My gf and I are both avoidants. We've experienced a lot together. There's a lot of passion between us. I'm not ready to give up on us. I don't think she is either. I'm revisiting the things I've said to her. I hope she's doing this same.
The big issue I got through was my drinking & Rx meds. I've been clean and sober for 9 months now. It's one of the best decisions I've ever made. I'm more calm, not so prone to mood swings and periods of depression, not as moody. All that is short lived now and still getting better by the day. I eat well, exercise daily and read more. Things are really good. My gf has noticed it too.
I laughed at the LD plus avoidant comment!! That is exactly my situation and the reason we broke up. LD, and she did not want to deal with the minor issues we had when we came back. But during LD she got close to someone else and therefore, classic grass is greener syndrome. Doubt she will come back, but NC is helping me realise im better than this... Thanks for all your videos, they really help me!
Did she come back yet?
@@t.6071 yes 🤦🏽♂️🤣
@@jparry248 haha please explain!!
@@t.6071 okay, so long story tried to cut short! Well I went full NC and didn’t message, call or anything the day after she left… the messages the day after BU were just to clarify the money she owed and when it would be paid, then to say goodbye! I didn’t beg or plead for her back and let her have the BU…
Around 6 weeks after it was her birthday and even though it was tough I completely ignored it and didn’t message. Two days after that she messaged me, initially to say she had returned the money owed (a month earlier than expected), which I replied saying thank you!
She then said ‘how are you?’ And thus a conversation began in which she said she was really upset I didn’t message on her bday, that it made her realise I was truly gone and always expected me to message her at some point in my own time! That me not messaging was a clear sign that I wasn’t interested and was okay (of course I felt like I was dying for most that NC period 😅).
In those messages she said some weird things about ‘accidentally’ meeting in a years time at an event I was going to, and stuff about seeing where we were at that time! So I said I think we need to meet to discuss what that means! We met a few days later and she confessed she’s still in love with me, that the birthday made her realise it was serious and she was worried she had lost me, that she couldn’t cope and cracked, so messaged me! She said the idea of it becoming truly a real relationship scared her, so she ran away (we were LD a lot due to her studying in different cities, and this would be the first time in 2 years we’d be in the same area)…
A few weeks after we met again for a longer period and discussed how we move forward! We both agreed we need time to heal from the issues we had and focus on ourselves, we are both busy with work/careers (part of the reason she ran away) but we have feelings for each other that need to be acted on one day! So we have decided to see each other every few weeks to catch up, spend some time together and discuss how we feel at that stage! Whether it will work we don’t know, but getting back together would have only made the issues we had return! So we’re going for the method of let the universe decide for us, or if you love something, let it go, if it loves you it will come back! And she did, so I’m trusting those feelings won’t fade with the distance between meets!
Sorry that’s a long story but I hope it gives you hope if you’re going through a similar situation. I had no hope whatsoever and told myself she left me for someone else. Which turned out to be false and she left because she was scared of commitment…
@@jparry248 omg thank you for your story, it brings such hope. Congratulations and I’m happy it all worked out for you!!
It will be 2 weeks tomorrow since the break up, I am so devastated it hurts so bad. However, I’m not going to make contact. I really love this person and I do feel he will forget about me. We were in a long distance relationship for over 8 months. Never met in person, but talked 3 or 4 times a day and FaceTime as well. I feel so empty and tired. Thank you for your video they have made a Hugh difference. I’m a senior just wanted to throw that in in my sixties and so is he.
Im scared of the NC, but ive been doing NC for 1 month now.. ive been working on myself at the gym and getting my money 💰 but i relapse when i start thinking about her and insomnia is real
13 months is such a long time! You are bound to meet someone else in that time.
I’m coming up to 30 days and I’m not of the mind to reach out now.. but if I don’t hear back in 60 days maybe 90 then at that point surely don’t have much to lose
While many desire to contact their ex, I can’t say I have the same desire. It’s not that I don’t miss her though.
Not sure why that is.
A testimonial… I got broken up with and then contacted my ex about every two months…. Crickets. Finally on a New Year’s Eve I buckled down and 8 months later she sent me the “ Good reminder text”.
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No contact feels terrible for a while but as I have been working on my attachment issues, it's actually feeling really good.
Interesting stuff. I grew up without a father and im guessing that must be why i feel so much anxiety in regards to break ups. Im just recalling old feelings.
Im going on day 5 and still going strong. I pulled away because I was losing the power in the relationship
Any luck?
@@Grufflehog
She contacted me about a week ago to look at some work I did on her house. There was nothing wrong, curiosity. I talked for a bit then left, back to no contact
@@kayaking1000 really hope it works out for you. I’m on day 31 but we were only dating for 4 months. I actually left a 14 year relationship this year but strangely being blocked by the girl I was dating for 4 months has hit me twice as hard and I am really struggling. All I can do is work on myself and wait.
@@Grufflehog
Sorry to hear that. We sometimes over pursue the one we want and the ones we don’t want over pursue us. Woman are like cats. I’m in the same boat, only 4 months and I love her like no other
My ex has moved on with his new woman he moved out his place and moved in with her he has also told me he is buying a house with her he told me they met October 2021 they are still together we separated July 2021 but continued to see eachother up until October of 2021 when I discovered the new woman he never mentioned while still seeing me they was coming out of his apartment it was then he outed her as his woman saying he just met her trying to introduce her to are kids and his family fast forward im no longer talking to him he actually is building a new life with this woman and pretty much disregard his children im no longer in contact he is blocked on every thing we only communicate through court im simply letting him be happy and live in peace things he always said i didn't do for him
Been in no contact for 2 months now. I still miss her so much and its still hard at times but its getting a bit better.
Hi did she reach out
I just wanna say a couple of things
1. No contact doesn't always work even if u follow all the instructions ( no begging no pleading no contact .. etc) i did all of this for +6 months now and he never reached out
2. I believe its important to set a realistic target for NC. If ur partner did not reach out in a period = or less than half of the total length of ur relationship than most likely its really over
I love ur channel coaches n learning alot however a more realistic picture needs to be portrayed to avoid more disappointment on dumpees 🙏
It often takes longer than 6months.....
when my ex left me I did everything to get her back but in vain I had to contact a great marabout masters from Benin to help me and he managed to improve my life as a couple
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6 months is not a lot of time for your ex to go through the different stages of a break up. It feels different for them than it feels for you. Don't give up on personal growth and focus on you, He will eventually reach out.
Did you hear anything yet?
Your videos help me reaffirm that I’m doing the right thing. Thanks!
I wish I'd have found these videos sooner Coach Craig. I believe it's too late for redemption now though.
I say never give up on love... 💝🙏
@@julieloftin7308 I don't want to but I made too many mistakes and my brother is friends with her for 6 years. He told her I got drunk on Christmas and that I didn't need to be around her children. Even though I'm a great father to my own. He doesn't really know who I am because I only see him twice a year for a few days at a time.
Once on a quick established relationship with really the next person who came around the corner. Moving to him within 2 months... And I know he applies slight pressure on her and she can't be alone? All her needs fulfilled she will never reach out to me
My situation as well bro
When is Margaret going to be available for a Skype?? This will be my 3rd Skype with her....her wisdom is priceless.
I listen to your videos everyday. It keeps me motivated and I cheer up after listening to it.trusting the process.god bless you.u guys doing an amazing job
Mine went cold and blocked me.. even if she hasn’t forgot me (she might as well have) the pain is equally intense.
And if she is avoidant., i think my suggestions of a future together scared her off - even though she spoke about it herself a fair bit previously. (Marriage / growing old together / places we would be going)
Loved being introduced to Coach Victoria. Loved her tips!
Yes no contact worked after five days… i connected with my ex… I went out yesterday for a first date had the best time… but I failed 😞 I didn’t leave the situation when I had the chance … we ended up spending way too much time together and it turned to shit fast…. She hasn’t blocked me this time but she won’t speak to me…. I thought I was over her but I fell in love with her all over again and probably ruined everything now 🥺
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You totally guessed why I’m watching this video. I also bought the books “Don’t Call That Man” and “Don’t Text That Man” by Rhonda Findling
At times they will turn cold and push you away so they can try to have zero guilt when they do go cheat. But the guilt will not stay away. Especially 2 days after the fantasy relationship didn't go as planned. Stick with no contact.
I absolutely LOVE this one. I am a fairly new listener of your program. It has helped me so so much. Each and everyone of you have a special way about yourselves. I lost my significant other 3 year's ago in a motorcycle accident. He the love of my life. At my age 57 it's hard to start dating again. Long story short one of his friends asked me out. Knowing him for 20 year's I thought perfect. Well... Do you really know someone like you think you do ? Now I broke up with him for many reasons. This has been both of us back & forth a few times. I'm trying to do the "no contact" but it is SO DIFFICULT I feel as though I'm grieving both of them now. Ugh ... 😥
aw how are you now?
I wrote letters, sent flowers, texted and nothing worked, go into no contact
How did it go bro are you holding up ok? It's only been couple weeks for me but it's painful
I JUST PRAYED ABOUT THIS MATTER IN MY CHURCH AND WITH HIS GRACE AND TIME I JUST LEAVE THE WHOLE OUTCOME IN THE HANDS OF CHRIST. HE IS THE ONLY WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIGHT OF BRINGING TRUE MATCHMAKING FOR FREE INSTEAD OF RELAYING ON CULTURAL VIEWS WHICH HAS DESTROYED SO MANY MARRIAGES AND DATING RELATIONSHIPS IN DISCOUREMENT.
The grass is not greener
I'm starting to believe you guys really do have a crystal ball
We are the crystal ball 😜
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I like the no contact vids but honestly I've always looks at it as "I'm done" it makes it so much easier to ignore the person, I mean let's face it they are your ex for 1 reason or another. Personally I wouldn't want an ex back.... plenty of fish is the sea an all that but I also understand how some ppl would. If you've found yourself in a "no contact" situation just remember
HE WHO CARES LESS WINS !
During no contact a month after the break up she started posting a new guy on Snapchat.
She was most likely talking to him before the breakup or during the breakup. I’ve had the happen to me and all you can do is move on. It sucks but keep your head up and find someone better.
@@brettprice6812 exactly
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After no contact I realized that my wife is a true POS that doesn’t deserve an opportunity at reconciliation.
Your videos help me a lot to not break no contact. Thank you 😊
i think im on week 7 of no contact now. not sure as ive stopped couting. ive got nothing from her so far. she watches my insta stories , doesnt like my posts . not that it means anything. i know she most likely will come back as we ended stuff on no hard feelings at all and i know im not going to lose her forever because even if i dont get her back, we will stay friends.
any updates?
@@geraldcoop we havent spoke since march and tbh im glad, over time ive realised she wasnt that good of a person and im actually glad she ended things as i feel more free to like things now. I dont know your situation but just because my ex didnt come back doesnt mean yours wont, and even if yours wont, you WILL be okay. trust me on that.
@@JackIsCool070 thanks. Mine is more complicated I guess cos it’s with an Fwb in an open relationship and we didn’t have a fight. It’s just that I got panic attacks and overtexted and so the Fwb probably felt overwhelmed and started ignoring me since one month ago…
Would liking his posts on social media mean that we are breaking no contact ? No comment no text no calls but just liking his post …
Liking is still breaking it yes, you're suppose to show you can move on and make them second guess their decision. And show them you're working towards bettering yourself with or without them, liking posts is a bad idea
At first I used to get so upset thinking about my ex doing things for his new gf that he never used to do for me. I used to feel so angry and jealous and upset. Now, 8 months after our breakup, I’m actually hoping that he’s still doing those things because if he ever comes back, I don’t want him to be the same person he was when we were together. I want him to be better. Just as I want to be a better partner as well. But if he doesn’t come back, I know that I will still be fine and that I will still be a better partner than I was when I was with him. Not sure if that makes sense.
I enjoy your videos. Figured out I was dating a DA about a month ago, because I had no idea what was going on with us. Hot/cold. Push/pull. And I’m a secure attached and didn’t force or push things. However last week, I sat her down and said I think it’s about time we consider if we are going to lean into this thing of ours or not. I didn’t get much reassurance on her part, and I kinda took my answer from that. Haven’t spoken in 3 days. I CANNOT contact her for that anxiety settling because I know it will only be in the moment. Time to let go and see if she decides to match my energy or I have my answer - one way or the other. Thanks guys.
Sorry man. I’m in the same position. At least I know what the deal is now. Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine a relationship that was amazing blowing up due to an attachment issue.
Any update? Did she end up contacting you?
I recently broke up with my girlfriend that I only dating for 2 months and then I tried to get her back after a couple of weeks and I failed. I did no contact and she called me up crying but when I found out she was crying about another old ex who moved out a state. She is an avoidant and what is going on with her?
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Dan Bacon videos here RUclips says a total opposite of no contact, n says a person needs to emotional re-attract n most people use his techniques n agree
Lol go try and find out for yourself! Enjoy epic failure
@@CoachCraigKenneth Im not trying to be rude but have you seen his ex back video 5and what do you think about it?? Do u think he right on any aspects of what he is saying or you really beleive in no contact?
Does this still work if the dumper initiated it bc “she still loves you but no contact is the best way for us to get over eachother”
What if you feel like there are things you should apologize for? Harsh words during the final argument, for example.
Thank you gay’s very mach I was 4 years with my ex before 1/5 month she broke out with me we war living together the last 1/5 year. She sed too me I whant too get separated with you because im not changing because i im the same she sed too me too mach responsibilitys somtimes i get angry anw I always loved her I always care about her and she the same anw i was beging her come back we get married I love you all the staf anw now I stopped after 1/5 month its my 4 day im not talking too her and the last time we spoke i sed too her I love you im here if you need anything she reply thank you. Anw she sed too me before I love you i care but im not coming back anw this is the 4 day im not talking and im going too trus the proses of no contact.
How does this work if someone has been unfaithful in the relationship and that’s why it ended?
I love this panel! I love you coach Margaret!!! Lol.
Does no contact work the same way if I dated my ex for a month but she had a crush on me for two years? She got insecure and ran away about three months ago
i cant remember which video but he does say doesnt matter how long really as long as the person attached to you no contact is still the best method wish you the best! ♥️
No contact works. I've tried it myself.
I just don't understand him. My avoidant ex reached out after 4,5 months of No contact. He called out of the blue and wanted to start talking again. I talked to him for a few minutes and thought to hear from him again. But then nothing. This was 4,5 months ago, in total now 9 months...he still holds on to stuff i had at his place. Is this holding the object? I don't want to reach out because of that but accidently called him once and no call in return, so I don't think he wants full closure....) Any ideas anyone?
How did it turn out?
@@d.r.g.8917 nothing still
So I wanna do no contact, but she reaches out like once every two days. She broke up with me, but will still send me a TikTok or a text about missing me or the one I got this morning, "so you thought I never cared? I'm asking bc I'm processing" when we already had that talk. So how do I do no contact if she won't stop contacting me? Lol
Hey Craig!
Could you do a video on how to date a married man who goes through seperation/divorce? Like do's and don'ts to prevent being a rebound?
Do not date him! He will tell you everything he knows you will want to hear “I’m ready, I’m over it, I’m done with my ex, etc.” He might feel that way in the very moment he meets you but he needs time to grieve his marriage. I’m telling you...do not date him until he’s been separated or divorced for at least a year. You will be a rebound no matter how wonderful or amazing you are. He’s not in a mental state of mind to make long term decisions because he doesn’t truly know how he’s gonna feel in a month or two months. Please take my advice. He can fall for you, he can care about you, but he WILL NOT ATTACH to you. You will though and when he ends it, it will be devastating.
The only way to prevent being a rebound is to let him come back to you when he’s done rebounding. This could take at least a year but it’s better than getting your heart broken. And this is especially true if he didn’t want his marriage to end or he was cheated on. Those guys are gonna rebound HARD. But If he left his marriage or he was the one who wanted to leave then it will take less time cause his grieving process will take less time. Maybe 6 months.
@@emmalynrae592 did something like that happen to you if I may ask?
@@scrubnurse Yes ma’am! And it’s absolutely heartbreaking! You get closer and closer to them but they are secretly not really connecting with you because half of their heart is still with their ex wife.
Growth > getting your ex back
What if her first contact after 8 weeks was to take her daughters to cheer practice because she had to work late and couldn’t get them there? I did, I texted her that we went to the park after and sent her photos of the kids after they asked me to. No real conversation other than a thank you. I nodded and just left, serious anxiety, didn’t know what to say…no contact or response since last Thursday night.
Nah just move on with life. Live like they won't come back ( pretty much dead to you ) if they do ok, if they don't, take it as blessing learn from it become a better person you'll find someone better.
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Yep, a long heartfelt text message from me got ignored on day 3 after she left.. Im now on 4 weeks of no contact since.I'm anxious and so is she. Nothing left to do but leave her alone..
Respond if you want an update.
Update
Started week 7 of no contact today. @@Motiv8Grow
Its week 7. Nothing has changed.
@@bobbybrush5515 Stay strong I know how you feel
I broke no contact at the end of week 7. Told my wife I understood why she left and i wasnt mad at her. Told her i miss her, love her, and think about her all the time. I asked what she needs from me so we can heal us.. Got ignored. 7 weeks of no contact wasted. Sent my anxiety off a cliff! It was horrible. Dont break no contact!
I sent the written letters and the flowers and it didn’t work. I’ve been in complete no contact for 2 weeks now.
Updates?
@@alexkirrage7797 unfortunately, we haven’t spoken. but i definitely feel better than i did when i posted this comment
@@fbclips ah man, you not thought about just reaching out? But that’s good you feel better! I’ve been in no contact for 5 weeks now and I’m just hoping she is starting to feel the “missing me” stage. I don’t want to break no contact but I can’t seem to think after 6 years of being with her, we will never ever speak again
@@alexkirrage7797 yeah i feel ya man. we were together almost 10 years. but she’s dating someone new so there’s no point in me reaching out.
Update please?
Anyone actually get their ex back and how long? Please reply here
Still no contact after 13 months for me.🙄
Do you have have any relationship problem. Such as getting your ex boyfriend or girlfriend back.?? Getting your crush to love you ?
Is your relationship/ marriage falling apart ?
Message me for a solution within 2hr...
Thanks for help and greetings from Germany.
Hey Martin! How long has it been for you? X
I do not want to show my ex anything, she needs to show me how sorry she is and practically beg, most exes are not good women do not accept anything less and fall for this sales pitch of you having to be ready
Hey! Any chance you can do a video on what to do when your ex reaches out after no contact? And how to turn things around when the reach out
No contact makes me worry After i dump him bcoz He is married. But i know i dont have future with him But i love him and. We had lots of good memories together. Makes me feel sad We are in LDR and i broke up with him 3 days ago. Im still sad. Hope i will be ok in time. Thanks
when my ex left me I did everything to get her back but in vain I had to contact a great marabout masters from Benin to help me and he managed to improve my life as a couple
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He is indeed a problem solve contact him!!!
@@cyrusphilip980 sorry i rather believe these 3 coaches than believing others. I heard a lot bout master or spell master sorry But why should i trust them When only me can. Solve my problem. I know i will be ok someday and this channel help me a lot..
@@cyrusphilip980 If i contact him is it free? If No money involve will maybe Il be interested 1% But 99%. I trust them than What u are talking
I’m around 10 weeks into no contact with a long distance avoidance behaviour ex. Can you help me here please? I’ve seen on a recent video this was discussed as being very difficult.
i really dont care my ex when he leave me going to hes other woman i swear to allah i dont need him anymore he hurt me lot
My relationship broke down in August.... I'm trying to implement no contact, but what do i do when my ex (the dumper) will text me every other day or call few times a month? I alway go back to talking about working things out but she says she still wants time to see if she's better alone! It keeps bringing back my anxiety. I live in the UK and she's now living in Germany to work..... I don't know what to do... Live with hope she might come back if I continue to respond to her... Or if I ignore her, how will she react.
I even told her I need to disappear and she said she didn't dissappear so I don't need to however do what's best for me.
@@chrisbrearley3365do what’s best for you man. It’s your life📈
I had been seeing a guy who is avoidant. He never defined anything but wanted things to be casual. It took a toll on me with the constant disappearing and things he would do. I was aware that this was his way of processing and being independent like avoidants are. But without commitment and distancing it took a toll. I needed a break to take care of myself and get mentally and emotionally secure again. It’s been 30 days no contact since I said goodbye and that I had to go for me. I still miss him but feel like I have my life back on track - Exercising, volunteering, work, spending time with friends and living life. My headspace isn’t in constant worry or anxiety anymore but I do have moments where I want to hear from him. I’m not reaching out because I know he needed this space as well. He pulled away for a week prior to when I said goodbye. Who should reach out in this case? I am waiting on him to do so. Would this be your advice?
In all honesty, stay nc and try your best to move on. He doesn’t sound like he wants a relationship and you will become obsessed with ‘wanting what you can’t have’ if you stick around. You’re already anxious, it will come back as he will not change. There are nicer guys out there. Good luck.
Did you hear from him?
I'm like the guy you dated. I can ensure you, we love the person we date on long run. We just are avoidants due to several experiences in our lives.
I tried to rekindle, but after phoning, writing a letter and even bombarding her with text messages i decided to go No Contact.
Again, soon or later, the relationship would have been official and on a solid foundation...
I now would love to get her back, but i don't know if i can trust her after she walked away.
And for God's sake: Stop saying that we avoidants don't care! We have our feelings and they get just stronger with time, slowly and stronger!!
@@charlesdc1233 hey, as a man and avoidant attachment, how long would you take to reach out to her again? The guy I dated shut down and blocked me after I told him that if he doesn't value me as a person n my time, I'm done with him. I go NC with him and won't reach out to him until he does
I hate When. Some people using this channel to recruit bout What they believe in lovespell or master or whatever bodoo they are proposing. Guys make your own channel and dont interrupt in these channel and make some broken hearted people suffer more.
Hear, hear - tell 'em to bugger orf!
They are spam bots. They aren’t real people doing it
Thank you so much for you advice. It has been super helpful so far.
We argue she told me she needs time, so i start no contact, after 2 weeks told me she wants to break up, shes feels calmer without me, then she blocked ME.When relief stage really started? Any chance to miss me with time if i go into no contact?
Update?
I understand no contact but does it work if they left you and you are on the verge of moving to a new country? We are in London but I am moving to Rome, I think that’s part of the reason she broke up with me
Can this work if me and my platonic (not sure exes) were casual or I have broken the trust? I never talk to her and spend time together for 8 months. She is coolest girls to find, I haven’t talked to her not yet.
she with someone and I am too, just broken up with my relationship dec 25.
Would no contact work if you weren't in a relationship but just talking for a few months and he ghosted and you freaked out and texted and called a few too times to get them to respond but now gave up and deciding on no contact? Would it still work on getting him to reach out?
same exact situation
@@broforcefreedom4936 no he blocked me but I'm with someone better now lmao I almost forgot who this was about at first
Love this video!! Keep up the good work guys!!!
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I had an affair with a woman that I'm in love with. As much as I'm enforcing nc as it's only been about two months. She said she's gonna work on her marriage long term.
Don’t be a gross person. Neither of you should be pursuing that and I hope she doesn’t come back. She made a vow, she doesn’t owe you anything. Work on yourself and why you think this would be a good idea in the first place.