How can u cope? It's so hard. What a lovely family. ❤ my husband is the same way, I say the same thing to my husband, I understand were he is coming from.
After watching this show I have not collected anything in 7 years. But I always take my garbage out. You don't realize how much stuff you have after 12 Years of Living somewhere until you would like to move
From the way she kept her house clean before and all the parties, it sounds like she was OCD, and once the children left, she turned to shopping to deal with her anxiety. I wish the therapist would get to the real issue.
I believe after the kids left the home, the mom just felt like there was no one else to clean up after or take care of. So she hoards. Its actually a very beautiful home. Dad and kids felt very helpless. I'm happy this family got it together. There is no shame for seeking therapy. I sure wish this family the best.
I went through a purge 6 months ago. It was hard. I had a good friend help me by taking away trash, furniture, donations, stuff to people I knew. I let go of things that I thought were 'important'. And now I laugh at myself because I've bare floors, space to jump around, and way less stress especially when tidying up...I watch these shows each time before I do housework; and it gets me going to cull even more right down to what I really need not what I want. My goal was 200 garbage bags full and I did it, no regrets.
I’m so happy for you! I only wish some of these people were of sound mind to make the decision you made. I’m OCD after living in so many trashed homes after my mother passed when I was a child. Everyone’s mind functions differently.
Very much so This one seems to be like an actual addict She will need a lot of after care and needs something more Saying that stuff is more important than her grandchildren was really hard and sad
She needs family time, and needs to have her salon date once a week. She definitely needs to get her hair done once a week too. There's lots of things to do to make some friends, needs to have a nice lunch date once a week with her hubby. Go vacationing to domes places they've always wanted to go see. With all of the money she's gave to that shop owner, wow 😲 they could have went on a dozen different cruises. I hope she'll stick with keeping her place up.
She seems like she’s in the beginning stages of either dementia or Alzheimer’s. My yiayia bless her soul was a bit like this in the beginning. My heart goes out to the family, we didn’t realise either at this stage but looking back, seems like it from my unprofessional perspective. ❤️
I work with dementia patients everyday and it is clear she has some sort of problem that will not get better (as there is no cure for dementia of any kind). She needs to be properly assessed by a doctor and helped. Also, her family would benefit from counselling to get through what is yet to come. I truly hope they all get the help they need.
That's what I was thinking the whole time. She looks like Mick Mars. Not trying to be mean, but how do you spend several hundred thousand dollars on junk but not spend a cent on a makeover? Soften the hair color, get a good cut, stop lining the eyes all the way around with black, see a doctor for the obvious physical issues. Feeling good about yourself affects every aspect of your life. She's a very lucky woman because her husband has loved her through all of this. I'm amazed that he actually lived in that house the way it was.
Her beautiful furniture, style and home revealed underneath the things really show how devastating the sickness of hoarding is. I hope for the best for her recovery and her family
On "the Hoarder Next Door" the psychotherapist Stelios Kiosses says that all hoarding centers around a "loss" and you must get to that loss and bring it out, or the person will not be able to heal and regain his/her life again. He does it in six weeks of therapy.
@@stephaniemc9948 With video tape of that house, testimony from her husband, a Judge seeing all the debt and a couple of doctors interviewing her, I don't think deciding a person like her is incompetent would be that hard. Google says: A person is deemed to be incompetent when they no longer display the ability to make decisions that are in their best interests. While you cannot have someone declared incompetent because they make decisions you do not agree with, a person can be declared incompetent if they appear to be living in their own reality.
I’m four 20ft dumpster loads and countless trailer loads in to a massive clean out at my parents’ house. They have lived in poverty their whole lives. Most everything was acquired for free, by picking up discarded items or getting it from well meaning people. Unfortunately one doesn’t need money to hoard😖 A ton of depression and hard knocks made my dad the way he is. And poverty my mom. It’s so hard
I wonder what happened ten years ago to cause her to start hoarding. The show didn’t address this. She went from being a neat freak to being a hoarder-so what triggered it? So bizarre!
Did it ever occur to the organizers to have a sale of sorts, especially with the unopened items? I mean, it can't possibly all be junk that she bought. The proceeds could be used to pay off some of their debt.
She had four different "piles". Save, sell, donate and trash. When they're talking about the amount of waste taken from the homes, they're talking about everything combined that left. I've noticed in the more recent episodes, they calculate the trash and donate separate now. I know this particular episode had a ton of great, unopened stuff donated or sold. Also as a side note: the organizers have attempted to do yard sales before, and every time the hoarder refuses to sell or let anything go ☹️
Yeah sure you sit thru 20 tons of garbage and sell it. Not worth anybody's time. You wanna spend time wisely pick garbage off the streets and in our valleys where people litter daily. Clean up the environment.
@@jenniferblanchette873 I was thinking along the lines of 'one problem at a time'. 1. Clean their home. 2. If there are obviously things that still have their price tags on it, appliances or furniture that are in good condition, It could be sold to help clear debt. 3. Maintain clean home and keep clearing debt, while being mindful of the environment. See? One at a time is totally doable. it doesn't require you to go through everything with a fine-toothed comb.
The problem is that they dont sell it :-( my mother-in-law always says oh this is worth money but never sells anything. She has hoarded her house to the point where only 1 person can fit inside and she lives with her husband in there
Are you kidding me this house is UNBELIVEABLE?!? It is so beautiful, she had some really elegant taste before the hoard. I really hope she kept it that way, that house and décor is magnificent.
Right. That furniture is over the top Beautiful. And certainly expensive. And everything seems to be in magnificent condition especially considering it’s age. Even the rugs were in amazing condition
He is an enabler. Most husbands of these women are. At ANY time he could stop this BS? Take her credit card away until she cleans up the pigsty you are forced to live in? When people allow their home to get to the point this one got to...they don't deserve help if they do nothing to help themselves. I am sick of enabler husbands and their 'Oh it makes her happy' BS. IT ALIENATES FAMILY AND FRIENDS? When was the last time he invited his mates over for a BBQ? never.... He enables her behaviour...until it gets so bad they are walking over cr*p to get to a bathroom? She has to be put on a budget
@@suzyfarnham3165I disagree if he started doing that he’d be called controlling and a abuser, you need to understand anytime men put their foot down and authority its shot down so can you blame men when they don’t do it
I loved the carpeting (especially the blue) but the furniture is simply ostentatious and uncouth. That, amongst many reasons, are what started her hoarding.
Dolores needs a complete physical. Her posture and gait are not normal. She could use physical therapy. She also needs activities to replace her shopping addiction.
@@grandmajane2593 She’s going senile, abandoning her would be so cruel. Even if the marriage is over, she needs help badly. More than this show can give.
Please don't leave this woman/family alone. She needs a lot more help in the future. She must learn to fill her inner emptyness. I hope her grandkids can do it. 🙏🏻
I think sadly she’s in the beginning stages of dementia by the way she was talking and looking blankly on occasion. I hope that family can help her in whichever way she needs. 🙏❤️
@Laddie Land she might be concerned and confused that she only remembers certain events when she’s physically holding a relic of the past, or maybe she goes and buys very similar jewellery everyday, hides it, forgets, repeats.
@@tashdash5241 I agree. She looks just the way my mom did. We missed the onset and early. Caught it at the beginning of the mid-stage. Not before she almost burned the kitchen down and began the hoarding. She needs more than therapy. Neurologist/psychiatrist
I quite like the look of the house cleaned. Today's modern design of the whole clinical white, minimalist home is so boring. It's nice to see a home with character and personality.
I do love color. They gray depresses me, stainless appliances too. I had my grainy granny oak cabinets painted aqua, and walls peach. House seems so happy now. Was all cocoa walls (previous owner) and brown tones everywhere. Time to move into happy.
I love these older historic homes , it’s like a time capsule. the interior is so interesting and has so much detail in each room. you’re right this house has a lot of character and feels like you’re waking up in some old 1970’s hollywood movie
If you think about it is fairly possible on a low wage. Imagine, if you spend $2500 extra a year of "stuff" instead of a holiday. You go past the hard rubbish, pick out some nice stuff. You go to the thrift store each week and buy $20 a week on clothes instead of some nice meat at the supermarket.
@@dianestevens2659 I agree. Sometimes I've seen the organizers make 3 piles of Keep, Donate, Trash. At the same time, I think a yard sale now and then would give the hoarder some cash back. I once saw a show where the person only hoarded clothes. Most of them were on hangers throughout the house and seemed in good condition, at least on the show. Why didn't they organize a yard sale to help the hoarder get some cash?
Not my decorating taste but OMG the house is stunning! Absolutely beautiful. I truly hope she can change after having her home back. I am a saver so I understand it's difficult to let things go when a memory is attached.
Looks almost exactly like my italian great gmother n my grandmothers houses when i was growing up. After the clean up of course lol. Except my great grandmother loved lavender everything was lavender n my gmom loved gold!! The bed is almost the exact same as my great grandmother's...i used to love laying in it when i was little!!
@@robinjanz-buhr4427 Alright nice place you from, I have relatives who lives over there in Canada But it has been long since last set my eyes on them i guess is because of the covid 19 pandemic 😂…. I was born and raise in NJ USA, I’m an independent contractor currently working on a drilling contract here in Gulf of Mexico United state working 400 nautical miles deep in the ocean.. I’m actually working on my last contract as an independent contractor getting my retirement very soon i have been on this job for the past 27 years 👷♂️💯... How long have you been living in Canada and how is the weather conditions over there?
I love this couple, for staying together through the toughest of times. Their children should be commended for supporting and helping their parents. God Bless this family. The work crew did an awesome job!!!!!!!!!!! Great story!!!!!!!!!!!
When you hoard jewelry, I think it has something to do with her self esteem and the lack thereof. Buy all the glitter and gold so she can look like she once was and can be in order might be her subconscious thought but when she comes home and sees the mess all those sparkles of the jewelry are gone.
There was a BEAUTIFUL house hiding under all that stuff! The couches are so pretty, and I love how they match the carpet! And gorgeous decor, almost royal. Love it!
I agree with you. This poor lady has physiological issues...likely most of us commenting here are not medical doctors....but it is obvious even to us that Dolores needs more than just help with her hoarding disorder. Good luck to you, Dolores and to your lovely family.
Very much a possibility. My dad is in early stages and it bothers him terribly to feel like he cannot even enjoy the things he could do even just months ago. My dad is 74 and has been active his entire life. Dolores is 70 and I'm sure is well cared for, look at how he husband was holding her hand and after 50 years of marriage I doubt he would give up on her.
I like a really neat house. I always have. A couple of things I live by... 1) My motto is "less is more." 2) I think of getting rid of things in the house as buying more space in my house. More space feels as if I have more square footage in my home. 3) If an item means a lot to me but I have no room for it: I take a picture and I keep an album of those things for the memories. 4) If I see something I really really really like, I think about where I'm going to put it. If there is no sensible place in my home to put it... I tell myself I can really like it without owning it.
I hope her family comes around a lot to visit her, hosting dinners and seeing grandkids will hopefully keep her from hoarding and make her feel important. :( It seems she stopped caring for the home once the kids moved out.
beautiful kids...son is gorgeous and daughter is pretty. dolores doesnt look happy though-- depression....she doesnt smile. sounds like a little resentment against the house and that she gave everything to the house and neglected herself...
She's the cleanest hoarder I've ever seen. I hope you sold all of it there's so much stuff in good condition. She's replacing the high of keeping house to the high of buying things. I'm wondering if having an empty nest lead to this? My Aunt's depression lead to her going from shining toasters and her sinks to having stuff everywhere but not tidy like this.
not all hoards are rat/bug infested. a very good friends mother had the money to be able to shop. and shop she did. good stuff. after she passed several dealers came in and paid them good money for her hoard.
@@jeffjay9350 Same with my mom. She's not as bad of a hoarder as the ones shown on the show (the only relatively bad hoard spots are the garage, basement and my childhood bedroom, and to a degree their big dining room table), but she's been a housewife for almost 40 years and after her dad died / we got old enough to clean up after ourselves, she started buying a LOT of stuff so none of it is waste/trash. It's just... too much pretty stuff and feels stifling af as soon as you walk in the door
I've watched an embarrassing number of these hoarding shows. this was the most beautiful and spectacular home after the junk was removed. Even the carpets were clean and fresh!
I hope that Delores reads this. I am so proud of you and so is everyone else. You did a really difficult thing like a champ. I hope you continue getting help over coming your hoarding. God bless.
Arthur seems like such a sweet man. And the kids are really nice as well. Delores seems to have some issues, maybe depression? I'm not sure. But at some point she was clearly a loving, caring and attentive mother and wife. I hope they are able to get their family back to what it once was.
I feel so bad for Delores as she struggles with the sunken cost fallacy. (The fallacy is the idea that we can't get rid of or stop doing something if we've put a lot of time or money into it.) All of us struggle with this to a certain degree, but hoarders feel it so much more acutely.
I wonder if her hoarding happened when her kids moved out. She had no one to keep the house tidy for anymore and she had to fill a void. Very sad. Hopefully she gets all the after care she needs.
The extreme neatness and extreme hoarding are an outward manifestation of an inward condition-probably abuse, trauma, and/or tragic sudden loss of some kind.😞
I wonder if they have ever accidentally thrown away something really important that the family doesn't notice until afterwards? Like the title to their car or something.
@@jeansullivan3869 I would really hope that somebody gets to pick through all the stuff because the amount of valuables that get thrown out on these shows is astonishing. I guess this is what capitalism is all about; waste and consumerism.
Arthur has such an incredible warmth about him and seems such a kind loving gentleman...how lucky Dolores is to have such a lovely man by her side ❤ I hope she managed to maintain that beautiful home after the show.
So basically you would live in the rat,cat,cockroach, pissy, rotten, decaying,smelling hoarder house after it was cleaned rather than a cleaned hoard w/ tacky furniture that's disgusting because everyone who watches hoarders knows this 1 was a clean 1😘this must be your first episode you watched
He said SHE is going to keep it clean. He also said MY HOUSE when he came in the door. They need marriage counseling because I can bet HE is the cause of the hoarding and depression. When you live with a overbearing person, you learn to recognize the signs.
Dolores didn’t seem truly happy. She seems like she went through the paces of saying she was happy but you can just tell by looking at her face she’s not happy. And those who said the thrift store people were aiding her are 100% right. They even knew about the husband not wanting to catch on. They are as sick as Dolores is. I would love to see a recap show on her in a year. She put her stuff above her grandchildren and losing her husband.
I agree re the sales woman, but at the same time, I'm sure she didn't know the state of Dolores' house? May not have made a difference though...who knows?
@@purpledove427 I'm sure they see the same people come in and buy all the time. The must know that they are purchasing an unreasonable amount of stuff.
@@purpledove427 The sales woman probably knows that Delores will be getting rid of this stuff. Then maybe she can get her hands on it and sell it again to another hoarder!
yea, that's my mother's absolute favorite thing. She loves getting time to spend with the grandbabies every weekend, even now that they're no longer babies and are a little harder to deal with :D I couldn't possibly ever imagine her saying her possessions were more important than seeing those kids. That would be soul destroying to hear.
Yes, but she needs psychological evaluation before that. A pup also needs a clean and loving environment. It is not an object to throw at someone to fix them.
They already told us masks don't work, we are only wearing them to appease the government. I saw a lady with a hand crocheted one at the grocery store.
Wow! Her decor style is GOALS! I love all of the ornate vintage stuff. I’m so glad they were able to uncover this gorgeous house. I hope she was able to keep moving forward ❤
My suggestion is that the mother have a whole day me time.. A spa, a new hair cut, and a total check up of her body. And she also needs a counseling.. God bless them. God bless us all❤️
Mostly filling a void (for example becoming empty nested, or loneliness in general), and sometimes a coping mechanism (addiction - shopping) that is just a coverup for a problem that is too overwhelming to deal with directly.
Some Trauma most likely is cause. I read a story of a guy whonis addicted to shopping, but as it turned out he got molested as a child and never got the help he needed to deal with it. The "high" he got from shopping was the only way he knew how to deal with the Trauma.
@@hunterjardine7148 I have no idea what I've done. I would certainly make amends if I could. Ask your dad to meet you at a restaurant or coffee shop. It's better than avoiding him.
This made me cry. I can see me in her, and I see the pain in their beloved people’s eyes. I can also see the pain in her eyes and her appearance, although stuffs make her happy. I am trying to get rid of things, and I can understand how hard it is, especially by doing by oneself. Thank you for making this series. I have more motivation to go.
@@divinegoddessvalinda1460 With those money wasting to buy craps, she would had been able to hire a helper. I'm surprised the husband hasn't left already.
She also needs lots of appreciation for all the things she's done for her family over the years. I'll bet she just kept giving and giving until she broke, as she felt nothing was hers, just to feel special and wanted and loved.
I commented previously as I have a close family relation who is a hoarder and people assume like U do that this nice lady gives stuff away and is not appreciated by family. My close relation has the addiction to buying stuff that I know have to pay all their utility bills and car registration and basically any bill that stops them from becoming homeless ( because they almost did).......When you are' gifted' the 100th coffee cup or casserole dish they are not doing it to help U. They are just getting their kicks from buying stuff. So please don't tell me people like this are being generous and unappreciated because I have my own family and struggle to pay both this relations bills and my own. Rather than buying more garbage it would be helpfuk if theyt could pay at least some part of their utility bills from time to time.......But No, instead I get another casserole dish that I have no room for and have to take it to the local thrift store which then costs me fuel.
@@karenmbbaxter very sad. and very generous of you. can you start making trades, such as, if you give me 50 items, I'll pay this $50 utility bill? Or, if you'll go to hoarding counseling, I'll pay your bill this month?
@@karenmbbaxterI mean no disrespect bc your pain is valid, BUT, you are part of the problem bc you are enabling them by paying their bills. Being their safety-net only perpetuates the problem. If they go homeless, they will have to live w/ their choices. That's part of being an adult. Let them know from now on you will not pay another penny towards their bills and if things get tough, they need to figure out quickly a way to make it work before they are homeless bc you will never bail them out again. They need a reality check. Also, that may be the case in the hoarding relationship you have, but that's not necessarily the case with this woman. It seems she already had issues before her hoarding by the way she was OCD about keeping her house immaculate, magazine cover ready at all times, and picking lint off the floor- that's just crazy. Then she went on the other end of the spectrum and turned into a slob and a hoarder when her children left and probably felt like all her efforts were useless now that her kids were gone. The point is, hoarders have deep-rooted issues and it has nothing to do with having fun buying things or not being responsible enough to pay a utility bill- those are just the symptoms of the deep-rooted psychological and emotional issues they don't know how to cope with. Lastly, her husband was a complete enabler which is part of why things got worse in the house
Seems a bit weird. Maybe I'm missing something because it's the shorter version of the full episode but her husband and kids seemed to be ignoring her hunched over appearance and the glazed over look in her eyes. She doesn't look healthy at all. 🤔 something is deeply wrong that's not being addressed
It broke my heart how Arthur lived all that time Also. It warmed my heart his tears of joy and gratitude I hope they have all the happiness Greetings from Egypt
Overly sensitive to colors, smells, fabrics, & pretty things. Everything is like a feel good pill to her senses to keep her from being depressed, angry or heart broken. I believe It's about loneliness, depression and unresolved hidden heartbreak or mental hurt . Also, I think she uses buying stuff as a means to delete her feelings about certain issues. Someone makes her angry, she goes and buy things out of spite and payback.
Back in 2017, the love of my life (my husband), passed away from cancer. I had to move to another state and so came the task of going through 20 years of junk. But with the help of my kind neighbors, they helped me with that awful job. Especially with my husband’s tools and junk that filled 2 sheds. This had to happen within 3 months after his passing. So I was not feeling well in my mind or heart. But now I look back and am thankful for their help. I also keep my little apartment clean so no one will have to clean up a mess after me!😉😁
I'm a guy, but I realise that the hardest thing for Mums is seeing their home empty of kids. I know what my mum went through. I think her hoarding is related to the kid's growing up and going their own way. I hope she beats this, she has a lovely family
It honestly looks like early-onset dementia to me. She's completely vacant in the eyes, not showing a change in emotions, inability to make decisions, hunched over and sluggish. That on top of mental illness and lack of identity beyond the role as a mother. Woman had no hobbies so shopping became her way of making friends and getting a short-lived high while spending money to exact revenge upon her husband for something.
Yes, I'm old so my mom was a stay at home mum but my mom went to nursing school about when Istarted first grade because she didn't want to become "a crazy old lady with no purpose" so it was apparantly something she figured she had observed.
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How can u cope? It's so hard. What a lovely family. ❤ my husband is the same way, I say the same thing to my husband, I understand were he is coming from.
Where are the closed captions for the deaf community and hard of hearing ?
After watching this show I have not collected anything in 7 years. But I always take my garbage out. You don't realize how much stuff you have after 12 Years of Living somewhere until you would like to move
@@LetArtsLive you have done well.
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That store worker was like a drug dealer. She knew exactly what would get that woman to buy.
I had the exact same thought! She was really pushy and knew Dolores would be an easy sale
She didn’t have the right mask on
Commission
She was worried about giving hugs yet wore a lace mask 😂 that’s not going to help anything
Spot on
From the way she kept her house clean before and all the parties, it sounds like she was OCD, and once the children left, she turned to shopping to deal with her anxiety. I wish the therapist would get to the real issue.
Exactly... I read a book about hoarding by a psychologist and trying to take everything away behind her back makes it worse
No joke but my mom was exactly the same way. Very clean until myself and brother moved out. In 2 years she had our bedrooms full of boxses of stuff!
Yeah I was waiting for them to get into the reason why she started hoarding in t he first place
My mom did the same thing!! My rooms just full to the max, hall way too!
@@frankenoise Jesus saves.
I love how she just entered the home with that new bag and just put it there in the corner 😂😂
It no longer appeases her. It did it's jobof creating a high.
@@samanthafreeman4315 She was hiding it from her husband…
@@zuzanaxyz8866 both can be true. also she's not doing a great job of hiding the hoard 😅
😂😂😂😂😭😭
The high is the buy.
I believe after the kids left the home, the mom just felt like there was no one else to clean up after or take care of. So she hoards. Its actually a very beautiful home. Dad and kids felt very helpless. I'm happy this family got it together. There is no shame for seeking therapy. I sure wish this family the best.
May very well have been as simple as that and that's why it was so easy for her to let it all go...
Finally a kind and logical comment, not accusatory.
I think the marriage was also dead already, her repressed anger about whatever killed it is acted out thru the compulsive shopping/hoarding.
You're actually right
Could sell them again, Make a business, a shop or a garage sale
It always amazes me how these people seem to have unlimited access to money to fuel this addiction.
A lot of these episodes do talk about financial troubles so not all of them have funding.. I think a lot of hoarders have multiple credit cards.
Often they are in severe debt.
Multiple credit cards, loans, mortgages etc are what fuel this addiction.
Just like a drug addict I'm guessing, they do what they have to just to get money to shop
I can’t believe how beautiful her house was after she got it cleaned
The way her husband moved her hair away from her face in the very last clip warmed my heart so much. There’s a lot of love there.
I went through a purge 6 months ago. It was hard. I had a good friend help me by taking away trash, furniture, donations, stuff to people I knew. I let go of things that I thought were 'important'. And now I laugh at myself because I've bare floors, space to jump around, and way less stress especially when tidying up...I watch these shows each time before I do housework; and it gets me going to cull even more right down to what I really need not what I want. My goal was 200 garbage bags full and I did it, no regrets.
I'm so proud of you.
congratulations!!
Awesome to hear you take the leap with help. You practiced new personal skills. Enjoy your freedom of movement & open space, always!
Your so lucky to have a great friend to help you!
I’m so happy for you! I only wish some of these people were of sound mind to make the decision you made. I’m OCD after living in so many trashed homes after my mother passed when I was a child. Everyone’s mind functions differently.
Delores seems DEEPLY depressed, like dead inside.
A dark energy, somehow ... 🚨
Probably needed an antidepressant?
Her eyes are hollow...scary
Very much so
This one seems to be like an actual addict
She will need a lot of after care and needs something more
Saying that stuff is more important than her grandchildren was really hard and sad
Her eyeliner is expressing her dark feelings... Lol
She needs family time, and needs to have her salon date once a week. She definitely needs to get her hair done once a week too. There's lots of things to do to make some friends, needs to have a nice lunch date once a week with her hubby. Go vacationing to domes places they've always wanted to go see. With all of the money she's gave to that shop owner, wow 😲 they could have went on a dozen different cruises. I hope she'll stick with keeping her place up.
She seems like she’s in the beginning stages of either dementia or Alzheimer’s. My yiayia bless her soul was a bit like this in the beginning. My heart goes out to the family, we didn’t realise either at this stage but looking back, seems like it from my unprofessional perspective. ❤️
I was thinking the same thing.
Shes depressed or indeed early stage of dementia ( her eyes are empty)
I work with dementia patients everyday and it is clear she has some sort of problem that will not get better (as there is no cure for dementia of any kind). She needs to be properly assessed by a doctor and helped. Also, her family would benefit from counselling to get through what is yet to come. I truly hope they all get the help they need.
I agree My farther in law was the same way She needs professional help and her family will need the same as it is a very hard road that lies ahead
@@reneehaug1467 .. I agree Renee, I've worked in Long Term Care for over 30 yrs , they will all need some help .
Dolores needs counseling, physical therapy and a makeover.
She needs to focus on herself and her husband. They need to enjoy their life together ❤️
That's what I was thinking the whole time. She looks like Mick Mars. Not trying to be mean, but how do you spend several hundred thousand dollars on junk but not spend a cent on a makeover? Soften the hair color, get a good cut, stop lining the eyes all the way around with black, see a doctor for the obvious physical issues.
Feeling good about yourself affects every aspect of your life.
She's a very lucky woman because her husband has loved her through all of this. I'm amazed that he actually lived in that house the way it was.
Hire cleaners each week please
@@JamieM470 only Jesus can save us. A makeover will not help when a person is dying on the inside. She forgot the Love of God. Pray for her.
It's a kind of disorder...the extreme of OCD
@Cynthia Murphy ....THEY COULD BE ON 2 OR 3 CRUISES EACH YEAR WITH ALL THE MONEY SHE HAS SQUANDERED ON SHITE.
Picking up lint from the carpet is extreme. She had an extreme personality before she started hoarding.
Exactly, she went from one extreme to the other. It’s crazy they didn’t realize she had that compulsion.
Her home was beautiful! Looked like a mini Palace de Versailles after the clean up. When her husband got emotional so did I for him. He was so happy.
Her beautiful furniture, style and home revealed underneath the things really show how devastating the sickness of hoarding is. I hope for the best for her recovery and her family
First thing I noticed as that the wall paper matched the color tones of the hoard.
Now, take her debit and credit cards away! Give her a small budget, and extensive therapy!
On "the Hoarder Next Door" the psychotherapist Stelios Kiosses says that all hoarding centers around a "loss" and you must get to that loss and bring it out, or the person will not be able to heal and regain his/her life again. He does it in six weeks of therapy.
You can’t do that unless you have them declared incompetent, which is difficult.
@@stephaniemc9948 With video tape of that house, testimony from her husband, a Judge seeing all the debt and a couple of doctors interviewing her, I don't think deciding a person like her is incompetent would be that hard. Google says: A person is deemed to be incompetent when they no longer display the ability to make decisions that are in their best interests. While you cannot have someone declared incompetent because they make decisions you do not agree with, a person can be declared incompetent if they appear to be living in their own reality.
@@Jibbie49 Dr. Google says...😂😂😂
@@Jibbie49 I think it has to do with the kids moving out. Also was there another kid????
Their house is beautiful! Everything looks brand new and that kitchen countertop is amazing, I really hope they kept the house this way ❤️
yeah, if you like French Provincial bordello chic - yikes!
@@B.H.56 yeah that décor is not for me
@@B.H.56 Can we mention the tackiest bright pink dining room set?!? 😆😂🤣
This house looks old asf
It's more like something between Barbie house and gypsy style.
I’m four 20ft dumpster loads and countless trailer loads in to a massive clean out at my parents’ house. They have lived in poverty their whole lives. Most everything was acquired for free, by picking up discarded items or getting it from well meaning people. Unfortunately one doesn’t need money to hoard😖 A ton of depression and hard knocks made my dad the way he is. And poverty my mom. It’s so hard
All the best with your clean up🧡
I wonder what happened ten years ago to cause her to start hoarding. The show didn’t address this. She went from being a neat freak to being a hoarder-so what triggered it? So bizarre!
The horder might not have wanted the reason to be public x
They said her mother lived with them for 10 years with CHF until she died. They took care of her & then Dolores got breast cancer.
I'm sure depression sickness kids grow up left home.
What an absolutely gorgeous home- the fireplaces, furniture, custom drapes... truly stunning!!!!!
My hats off to the tolerant, caring, loving husband. Love can do magic!
It's very clear she has some HEAVY emotional phsycological baggage that needs addressing ...much love to her to them all ..good luck
It’s very sad
Poor lady
Like all the hoarders she needed to see a psychiatrist long before the the trucks came
She seems totally disconnected.
*psychological
Did it ever occur to the organizers to have a sale of sorts, especially with the unopened items? I mean, it can't possibly all be junk that she bought. The proceeds could be used to pay off some of their debt.
She had four different "piles". Save, sell, donate and trash. When they're talking about the amount of waste taken from the homes, they're talking about everything combined that left. I've noticed in the more recent episodes, they calculate the trash and donate separate now. I know this particular episode had a ton of great, unopened stuff donated or sold. Also as a side note: the organizers have attempted to do yard sales before, and every time the hoarder refuses to sell or let anything go ☹️
@@aaronndaniperttu1111 Thanks for the info. Yes, I've seen some where the hoarders absolutely refuse to let go of their things. It's sad, really!
Yeah sure you sit thru 20 tons of garbage and sell it. Not worth anybody's time. You wanna spend time wisely pick garbage off the streets and in our valleys where people litter daily. Clean up the environment.
@@jenniferblanchette873 I was thinking along the lines of 'one problem at a time'. 1. Clean their home. 2. If there are obviously things that still have their price tags on it, appliances or furniture that are in good condition, It could be sold to help clear debt. 3. Maintain clean home and keep clearing debt, while being mindful of the environment. See? One at a time is totally doable. it doesn't require you to go through everything with a fine-toothed comb.
The problem is that they dont sell it :-( my mother-in-law always says oh this is worth money but never sells anything. She has hoarded her house to the point where only 1 person can fit inside and she lives with her husband in there
Are you kidding me this house is UNBELIVEABLE?!? It is so beautiful, she had some really elegant taste before the hoard. I really hope she kept it that way, that house and décor is magnificent.
It was beautiful in its time I'm sure but now.... But we'll each has their own tastes......
Lol, unbelievable is definitely what I'd call it.
Exactly! "ELEGANT" is the word.❤
Right. That furniture is over the top Beautiful. And certainly expensive. And everything seems to be in magnificent condition especially considering it’s age.
Even the rugs were in amazing condition
It's stunning, I love it so much.. It's pretty much my dream home now!!.. (just needs a few tweaks but the furniture is gorgeous)..
The daughter is the prettiest, sweetest person ever. What an aura😇
She is and one of my friends. So lucky to have her. She is a new friend of mine.
I admire her husband’s unconditional love and patience!! Amazing!! True love!!❤️
He is an enabler. Most husbands of these women are. At ANY time he could stop this BS? Take her credit card away until she cleans up the pigsty you are forced to live in? When people allow their home to get to the point this one got to...they don't deserve help if they do nothing to help themselves. I am sick of enabler husbands and their 'Oh it makes her happy' BS. IT ALIENATES FAMILY AND FRIENDS? When was the last time he invited his mates over for a BBQ? never.... He enables her behaviour...until it gets so bad they are walking over cr*p to get to a bathroom? She has to be put on a budget
@@suzyfarnham3165I disagree if he started doing that he’d be called controlling and a abuser, you need to understand anytime men put their foot down and authority its shot down so can you blame men when they don’t do it
Wow her furnitures are like show stopper! 😍
But perhaps not in a good way.
I love the living room after wards!!
Or whatever the blue and gold room was
@Beepee That''s very true! She'd probably be as underwhelmed by my plain taste as I am overwhelmed by hers :-D
I loved the carpeting (especially the blue) but the furniture is simply ostentatious and uncouth.
That, amongst many reasons, are what started her hoarding.
What a dollhouse! Oh Deloris, I pray that you can heal.
What an absolutely gorgeous house! Probably the most beautiful furniture/interior decor I have ever seen on this show. Stunning!
Dolores needs a complete physical. Her posture and gait are not normal. She could use physical therapy. She also needs activities to replace her shopping addiction.
Early Parkinson's disease posture and gait.
@@Arabzene exactly what my nurse wife said
Good observation something definitely not right there.
Yes, her daughter should definitely bring the grand kids. I would think that would be a huge distraction.
She walks like every drunk I have ever known
The father at the end being grateful and getting emotional made me tear up.
Nice time to sell the house, each go their separate ways.
@@grandmajane2593 She’s going senile, abandoning her would be so cruel. Even if the marriage is over, she needs help badly. More than this show can give.
Had to pause when I saw the end result and the wonderful sorbet colors and glamorous home decor. Who ever designed this house has a real talent.
Please don't leave this woman/family alone. She needs a lot more help in the future. She must learn to fill her inner emptyness. I hope her grandkids can do it. 🙏🏻
The real pandemic of this day and age: inner emptiness.
I think sadly she’s in the beginning stages of dementia by the way she was talking and looking blankly on occasion. I hope that family can help her in whichever way she needs. 🙏❤️
@Laddie Land she might be concerned and confused that she only remembers certain events when she’s physically holding a relic of the past, or maybe she goes and buys very similar jewellery everyday, hides it, forgets, repeats.
@@tashdash5241 I agree. She looks just the way my mom did. We missed the onset and early. Caught it at the beginning of the mid-stage. Not before she almost burned the kitchen down and began the hoarding. She needs more than therapy. Neurologist/psychiatrist
@@mariadamen7886 True. She's lonely
I quite like the look of the house cleaned. Today's modern design of the whole clinical white, minimalist home is so boring. It's nice to see a home with character and personality.
I do love color. They gray depresses me, stainless appliances too. I had my grainy granny oak cabinets painted aqua, and walls peach. House seems so happy now. Was all cocoa walls (previous owner) and brown tones everywhere. Time to move into happy.
YES
I love these older historic homes , it’s like a time capsule. the interior is so interesting and has so much detail in each room. you’re right this house has a lot of character and feels like you’re waking up in some old 1970’s hollywood movie
There are many styles between sterile white and garish --- everything.
@@lql1094 _sharingalook_ That was quite... something, back there.
I can never understand how hoarders like this lady can afford to buy so much stuff in the first place!
Credit card debt I would say
Cheap and stuff thrift shopping
If you think about it is fairly possible on a low wage. Imagine, if you spend $2500 extra a year of "stuff" instead of a holiday. You go past the hard rubbish, pick out some nice stuff. You go to the thrift store each week and buy $20 a week on clothes instead of some nice meat at the supermarket.
Hope they sorted out and sold a lot of stuff, such a waste just thrown away
@@dianestevens2659 I agree. Sometimes I've seen the organizers make 3 piles of Keep, Donate, Trash. At the same time, I think a yard sale now and then would give the hoarder some cash back. I once saw a show where the person only hoarded clothes. Most of them were on hangers throughout the house and seemed in good condition, at least on the show. Why didn't they organize a yard sale to help the hoarder get some cash?
Not my decorating taste but OMG the house is stunning! Absolutely beautiful. I truly hope she can change after having her home back. I am a saver so I understand it's difficult to let things go when a memory is attached.
Straight from 1990!!! Forest green carpet and the light blue were hideous but still classy not tacky.
The furniture is beautiful but definitely looks outdated.
Looks almost exactly like my italian great gmother n my grandmothers houses when i was growing up. After the clean up of course lol. Except my great grandmother loved lavender everything was lavender n my gmom loved gold!! The bed is almost the exact same as my great grandmother's...i used to love laying in it when i was little!!
The donations centre (s) receiving all those clothes will be like jackpot!!!!
@Digby Dooright Not if it was all from thrift shops. I doubt if she was hoarding diamonds.
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@@mcdanielwright4244 Canada and thank you.
@Digby Dooright Hundreds at least.
@@robinjanz-buhr4427 Alright nice place you from, I have relatives who lives over there in Canada But it has been long since last set my eyes on them i guess is because of the covid 19 pandemic 😂…. I was born and raise in NJ USA, I’m an independent contractor currently working on a drilling contract here in Gulf of Mexico United state working 400 nautical miles deep in the ocean.. I’m actually working on my last contract as an independent contractor getting my retirement very soon i have been on this job for the past 27 years 👷♂️💯...
How long have you been living in Canada and how is the weather conditions over there?
I love this couple, for staying together through the toughest of times. Their children should be commended for supporting and helping their parents. God Bless this family. The work crew did an awesome job!!!!!!!!!!! Great story!!!!!!!!!!!
The Jewelry hoarder .... Isn't WEARING any jewelry.
If you’re going to hoard jewelry, at least buy real gold and silver.
It isn't wearing or using items. It is piling them up. Tina
@@alanbirkner1958 ... But when she buys them, she thinks she'll use them and probably wishes she could, but she probably also can't find them. So sad
I noticed that too!
When you hoard jewelry, I think it has something to do with her self esteem and the lack thereof. Buy all the glitter and gold so she can look like she once was and can be in order might be her subconscious thought but when she comes home and sees the mess all those sparkles of the jewelry are gone.
Yep, I hope Dolores got long term help, she seems so troubled. Beautiful house, hope it stays that way.
There was a BEAUTIFUL house hiding under all that stuff! The couches are so pretty, and I love how they match the carpet! And gorgeous decor, almost royal. Love it!
A friend of me has Parkinson disease, Dolores remembers me of her... her moving, the way she encloses herself, the apathy, ....
Maybe they should have checked her out for that, too. That might explain some things.
I was thinking a type of dementia, but Parkinson's makes a lot of sense too. Sad..
Yeah, something is going on. Sadly reminding me of my dear departed uncle who had Lewy body dementia.
I agree with you. This poor lady has physiological issues...likely most of us commenting here are not medical doctors....but it is obvious even to us that Dolores needs more than just help with her hoarding disorder. Good luck to you, Dolores and to your lovely family.
Very much a possibility. My dad is in early stages and it bothers him terribly to feel like he cannot even enjoy the things he could do even just months ago. My dad is 74 and has been active his entire life. Dolores is 70 and I'm sure is well cared for, look at how he husband was holding her hand and after 50 years of marriage I doubt he would give up on her.
“All the stuff in the house is payback” wow. They need therapy fast.
Yeah that true Kym, hello how are you doing today Kym.
I like a really neat house. I always have. A couple of things I live by... 1) My motto is "less is more." 2) I think of getting rid of things in the house as buying more space in my house. More space feels as if I have more square footage in my home. 3) If an item means a lot to me but I have no room for it: I take a picture and I keep an album of those things for the memories. 4) If I see something I really really really like, I think about where I'm going to put it. If there is no sensible place in my home to put it... I tell myself I can really like it without owning it.
I hope her family comes around a lot to visit her, hosting dinners and seeing grandkids will hopefully keep her from hoarding and make her feel important. :( It seems she stopped caring for the home once the kids moved out.
beautiful kids...son is gorgeous and daughter is pretty. dolores doesnt look happy though-- depression....she doesnt smile. sounds like a little resentment against the house and that she gave everything to the house and neglected herself...
I’m obsessed with this 1970s Elvis dream house 😍😍😍
It's so awful it's almost wonderful, LOL!
Me too!
@@permaquilter9111 🙃
Try French Provincial.
Not even close to Elvis' home. That place was enough to make me puke. At lest Delores' home is 1970's French Provincial, bright and somewhat cheery.
She's the cleanest hoarder I've ever seen. I hope you sold all of it there's so much stuff in good condition. She's replacing the high of keeping house to the high of buying things.
I'm wondering if having an empty nest lead to this? My Aunt's depression lead to her going from shining toasters and her sinks to having stuff everywhere but not tidy like this.
not all hoards are rat/bug infested. a very good friends mother had the money to be able to shop. and shop she did. good stuff. after she passed several dealers came in and paid them good money for her hoard.
@@jeffjay9350 Same with my mom. She's not as bad of a hoarder as the ones shown on the show (the only relatively bad hoard spots are the garage, basement and my childhood bedroom, and to a degree their big dining room table), but she's been a housewife for almost 40 years and after her dad died / we got old enough to clean up after ourselves, she started buying a LOT of stuff so none of it is waste/trash. It's just... too much pretty stuff and feels stifling af as soon as you walk in the door
By far one of the most beautiful homes and decor I've seen in a long time. This family should be so incredibly proud of their home. Just gorgeous. 🥰💯👍
I thought it was gross and tacky to be fair. Obviously cleaner. Each to their own
Hoarders episode means it's time to clean lol
For real hahaha
I thought I was the only one 😂😂
@@heatherodonnell7655 every single time lol
Lol I’m see I’m not the only one
time to clean and toss some things out! post haste
This is the most beautiful hoarder house cleaning I have seen...this woman let a lot of stuff go and that's the clue to it all
Love the house and the furniture! It's like a doll house, stunning !!!
Love it. What a 70’s palace.
Besides the hoard that house was in amazing condition. Usually the house is rotting, peeling, and about to collapse.
And it looked very clean despite all the stuff.
I truly hope she’s been able to keep that promise. They seem like a wonderful family! God Bless them!
The lady is dead inside. Poor husband n kids keep remembering how she was in the past. They need to let go and help her from her addiction.
I've watched an embarrassing number of these hoarding shows. this was the most beautiful and spectacular home after the junk was removed. Even the carpets were clean and fresh!
NJ housing is not cheap and it looks like a very nice neighborhood. What a shame the house is ruined by one sick person.
Me too @Becoming Authentic...and I thought the same thing! 😁
40 some year old carpet will never be “fresh and clean” 🤣
@@donzatana3650 it probably has never been walked on.
The home and her furniture are just stunning. I hope she was able to follow through with after care and continues to thrive!
I hope that Delores reads this. I am so proud of you and so is everyone else. You did a really difficult thing like a champ. I hope you continue getting help over coming your hoarding. God bless.
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Mice comment aylin, hello how are you doing today aylin hope all with you aylin.
She really said her trash was more important than her grandkids. Let's not pretend she's an angel
The decor looks like something out of My Big Fat Greek Wedding
Yep, the 70s jersey style!!
I agree👍👍
All it needs is some Windex!
@@kencampbell2359 😂🤣
It's fugly decor.
I've never been to New Jersey but when I close my eyes and imagine New Jersey my thoughts are of a family just like this.
"I think my mom is a hoarder"
Girl, you don't say
Lol
HAHAHAHA
Arthur seems like such a sweet man. And the kids are really nice as well. Delores seems to have some issues, maybe depression? I'm not sure. But at some point she was clearly a loving, caring and attentive mother and wife. I hope they are able to get their family back to what it once was.
She reminds me of both of my parents who have dementia
I love her antique furnishings omg the dining room table is beautiful and the blue tufted chairs are a gems
I feel so bad for Delores as she struggles with the sunken cost fallacy. (The fallacy is the idea that we can't get rid of or stop doing something if we've put a lot of time or money into it.) All of us struggle with this to a certain degree, but hoarders feel it so much more acutely.
That place is like a royal palace.
Though not in a good way. Expensive I guess but ornately hideous
A royal palace Made in China :)
A value brand version, yes.
It's a bit gaudy but it's still beautiful.
Those carpets are a nightmare
Wow that bedframe and many of those wood pieces are absolutely beautiful. I'm so glad they let those be seen again.
I wonder if her hoarding happened when her kids moved out. She had no one to keep the house tidy for anymore and she had to fill a void. Very sad. Hopefully she gets all the after care she needs.
The extreme neatness and extreme hoarding are an outward manifestation of an inward condition-probably abuse, trauma, and/or tragic sudden loss of some kind.😞
Don't you think sometimes people can just be greedy?
Right two extremes
@@howthemightyhavefallen7138even greed comes from something
This is one of the prettiest houses outside and inside once it was cleaned!
I wonder if they have ever accidentally thrown away something really important that the family doesn't notice until afterwards? Like the title to their car or something.
@@jeansullivan3869 I would really hope that somebody gets to pick through all the stuff because the amount of valuables that get thrown out on these shows is astonishing.
I guess this is what capitalism is all about; waste and consumerism.
With so much stuff you wouldn’t notice one particular thing was gone.
@@thornyback you sound like a hoarder lmao
Like someone's ⚱️ ASHES.
@@celineviixi it’s a nightmare for the person having to go through so much stuff while grieving their loss of a loved one.
Her daughter better than me because as soon as she would have said that her stuff meant more to her than her grandkids did I would have left. ✌🏾
That actually makes you better than her. You're right; she's wrong.
She might go babysit them and cook for them several times a week at THEIR house
@@granmabern5283 I didn’t hear anyone mention that but you never know. She was asked a direct question and her answer was not expected.
For her the stuff represent her ego I'm guessing, she transferred some part of her personal value onto her material possession.
@@percycat213 That seems to be common on this show.
Arthur has such an incredible warmth about him and seems such a kind loving gentleman...how lucky Dolores is to have such a lovely man by her side ❤
I hope she managed to maintain that beautiful home after the show.
Wtf this is the nicest hoarders I've ever seen. I'm jus focused on the blue couche, pink dining room chairs & pink velvet curtains. 😮
Same! 😍 it’s great
Don’t forget the rain lamp!!
Lol, you must be kidding. That furniture was so horrid and tacky.
So basically you would live in the rat,cat,cockroach, pissy, rotten, decaying,smelling hoarder house after it was cleaned rather than a cleaned hoard w/ tacky furniture that's disgusting because everyone who watches hoarders knows this 1 was a clean 1😘this must be your first episode you watched
Downtown Brown where is it at I don't even know what it rain lamp is😮
My husband hates clutter 😳 the husband seems like a really good guy and so do the kids. Hope she keeps up with the therapy
@sueldrsyluvsutube yea. He seems shady. He probably did her wrong. There’s no way things get that bad without others being a part of it.
He said SHE is going to keep it clean. He also said MY HOUSE when he came in the door. They need marriage counseling because I can bet HE is the cause of the hoarding and depression. When you live with a overbearing person, you learn to recognize the signs.
@@marybethsmith6458 Excellent points
This is probably the most gorgeous house I've seen in this show. Just wow!
Yes the house is gorgeous, I love the house too catiting. Hello how are you doing catiting?
Fairytale home.
Dolores didn’t seem truly happy. She seems like she went through the paces of saying she was happy but you can just tell by looking at her face she’s not happy.
And those who said the thrift store people were aiding her are 100% right. They even knew about the husband not wanting to catch on. They are as sick as Dolores is.
I would love to see a recap show on her in a year. She put her stuff above her grandchildren and losing her husband.
I agree re the sales woman, but at the same time, I'm sure she didn't know the state of Dolores' house? May not have made a difference though...who knows?
@@purpledove427 I'm sure they see the same people come in and buy all the time. The must know that they are purchasing an unreasonable amount of stuff.
@@TippyPuddles I'm sure you're right 😉
@@purpledove427 The sales woman probably knows that Delores will be getting rid of this stuff. Then maybe she can get her hands on it and sell it again to another hoarder!
@@peggypeggy4137 That's actually entirely possible! Good point 😉
“I know you put your family first”
*Literally says her stuff is more important than being able to have her grandkids come spend time at her house*
yea, that's my mother's absolute favorite thing. She loves getting time to spend with the grandbabies every weekend, even now that they're no longer babies and are a little harder to deal with :D I couldn't possibly ever imagine her saying her possessions were more important than seeing those kids. That would be soul destroying to hear.
she didn't actually say her stuff was more important, she was just having a hard time letting it go.
That's how addictions work.
@@hm3drake35 - she literally did though. She said "some stuff" was more important than her grandkids.
To be fair she might love going to visit her grandchildren at THEIR house!!!
Her taste is amazing. All of her furniture is beautiful. I hope she is able to keep up with the changes so her husband can be happy too.
Get her a puppy. She’s missing love and affection. 😢😢😢
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Yes, but she needs psychological evaluation before that. A pup also needs a clean and loving environment. It is not an object to throw at someone to fix them.
You have to be careful with that. There are several episodes where people started hoarding animals, chasing that "love and affection"
the lady at the store’s going on about bumping elbows when she has a lace mask... hypocrisy at its finest.
They already told us masks don't work, we are only wearing them to appease the government. I saw a lady with a hand crocheted one at the grocery store.
Her girlfriends panties..
@@grandmajane2593 Stop with the delusions, paranoia, and conspiracy theories, FOR PETE'S SAKE! 😖🙄
only the outer layer is lace. There's a nude lining.
@@urahairymonster nah, you can see her mouth when she's talking. It's just a lace cover.
Wow! Her decor style is GOALS! I love all of the ornate vintage stuff. I’m so glad they were able to uncover this gorgeous house. I hope she was able to keep moving forward ❤
My suggestion is that the mother have a whole day me time.. A spa, a new hair cut, and a total check up of her body. And she also needs a counseling.. God bless them. God bless us all❤️
What is the psychological cause of hoarding? Is it some kind of coping mechanism, like dealing with poverty or neglect as a child?
Mostly filling a void (for example becoming empty nested, or loneliness in general), and sometimes a coping mechanism (addiction - shopping) that is just a coverup for a problem that is too overwhelming to deal with directly.
Many seem to have suffered a big loss -- someone very close to them passed and they didn't process it properly.
My husband is adopted and he has hoarding tendencies that I think are security related. Both of his sisters are adopted but don't have this problem.
I believe it is pure laziness for most of them
Some Trauma most likely is cause.
I read a story of a guy whonis addicted to shopping, but as it turned out he got molested as a child and never got the help he needed to deal with it.
The "high" he got from shopping was the only way he knew how to deal with the Trauma.
So proud of Dolores, she was determined to get her house back. Keep up the good work!
As a momma who's children doesn't come around, the things keep you warm at night. Depression is real. sigh
Maybe the beginning of dementia?
@@cheryljohnson4292 could be. She seems kinda spaced out.
I hope your kids start to come around more ❤️ I feel bad that my dad is all alone but he won’t get rid of his bed bugs so I can’t even VISIT HIM.
@@hunterjardine7148 I have no idea what I've done. I would certainly make amends if I could. Ask your dad to meet you at a restaurant or coffee shop. It's better than avoiding him.
@@hunterjardine7148 very sad😢
"Ya we gotta touch elbows"
Is wearing a sheer lace mask *
Dude foreal like wtf 😂😂
She would hug if the cameras werent there. Rona is being way overblown
Exactly what I was thinking. That mask is ridiculous. Some adult time toy.
I noticed that, too!!
This made me cry. I can see me in her, and I see the pain in their beloved people’s eyes. I can also see the pain in her eyes and her appearance, although stuffs make her happy. I am trying to get rid of things, and I can understand how hard it is, especially by doing by oneself. Thank you for making this series. I have more motivation to go.
That husband sure loves his wife! Not only is she a hoarder but she looks like she’s lost her mind as well.
Bet she was beautiful at one time...
@@d.hohnisch5386, everyone is beautiful in their lives at some point in time or another. Some just don’t maintain their gardens.
All that love and didn't cancel the credit and debit cards? Throw the stuff away when she wasn't home? Help to keep the house clean?
@@divinegoddessvalinda1460 With those money wasting to buy craps, she would had been able to hire a helper. I'm surprised the husband hasn't left already.
She was opposit before
She also needs lots of appreciation for all the things she's done for her family over the years. I'll bet she just kept giving and giving until she broke, as she felt nothing was hers, just to feel special and wanted and loved.
I commented previously as I have a close family relation who is a hoarder and people assume like U do that this nice lady gives stuff away and is not appreciated by family. My close relation has the addiction to buying stuff that I know have to pay all their utility bills and car registration and basically any bill that stops them from becoming homeless ( because they almost did).......When you are' gifted' the 100th coffee cup or casserole dish they are not doing it to help U. They are just getting their kicks from buying stuff. So please don't tell me people like this are being generous and unappreciated because I have my own family and struggle to pay both this relations bills and my own. Rather than buying more garbage it would be helpfuk if theyt could pay at least some part of their utility bills from time to time.......But No, instead I get another casserole dish that I have no room for and have to take it to the local thrift store which then costs me fuel.
@@karenmbbaxter very sad. and very generous of you. can you start making trades, such as, if you give me 50 items, I'll pay this $50 utility bill?
Or, if you'll go to hoarding counseling, I'll pay your bill this month?
Wow very true.
@@karenmbbaxterI mean no disrespect bc your pain is valid, BUT, you are part of the problem bc you are enabling them by paying their bills. Being their safety-net only perpetuates the problem. If they go homeless, they will have to live w/ their choices. That's part of being an adult. Let them know from now on you will not pay another penny towards their bills and if things get tough, they need to figure out quickly a way to make it work before they are homeless bc you will never bail them out again. They need a reality check. Also, that may be the case in the hoarding relationship you have, but that's not necessarily the case with this woman. It seems she already had issues before her hoarding by the way she was OCD about keeping her house immaculate, magazine cover ready at all times, and picking lint off the floor- that's just crazy. Then she went on the other end of the spectrum and turned into a slob and a hoarder when her children left and probably felt like all her efforts were useless now that her kids were gone. The point is, hoarders have deep-rooted issues and it has nothing to do with having fun buying things or not being responsible enough to pay a utility bill- those are just the symptoms of the deep-rooted psychological and emotional issues they don't know how to cope with. Lastly, her husband was a complete enabler which is part of why things got worse in the house
That poor lady is really sick. I hope they get her help.
I bet her neighbors were shocked! That house looked beautiful from the outside.
Yeah just because people live in nice houses doesn't mean that nice things are going on inside.
Seems a bit weird. Maybe I'm missing something because it's the shorter version of the full episode but her husband and kids seemed to be ignoring her hunched over appearance and the glazed over look in her eyes. She doesn't look healthy at all. 🤔 something is deeply wrong that's not being addressed
I think she might have osteoarthritis.....she can barely move....
There definitely are health issues here.
I agree there is definately something else going on...
It broke my heart how Arthur lived all that time
Also. It warmed my heart his tears of joy and gratitude
I hope they have all the happiness
Greetings from Egypt
She's not comfortable in the house because of the condition of the house, but she's the reason the house looks like that. Denial!
Yes, that’s the result of living with an addiction.
she made it through though which is so great for her and the family.
@@MattieAnne I really hope it lasts. That was a beautiful house
@@ladyhotep5189 same! 😍
Overly sensitive to colors, smells, fabrics, & pretty things. Everything is like a feel good pill to her senses to keep her from being depressed, angry or heart broken. I believe It's about loneliness, depression and unresolved hidden heartbreak or mental hurt . Also, I think she uses buying stuff as a means to delete her feelings about certain issues. Someone makes her angry, she goes and buy things out of spite and payback.
Back in 2017, the love of my life (my husband), passed away from cancer. I had to move to another state and so came the task of going through 20 years of junk. But with the help of my kind neighbors, they helped me with that awful job. Especially with my husband’s tools and junk that filled 2 sheds. This had to happen within 3 months after his passing. So I was not feeling well in my mind or heart. But now I look back and am thankful for their help. I also keep my little apartment clean so no one will have to clean up a mess after me!😉😁
I have a distant cousin who is a hoarder. She’s almost 80. God help who ever gets stuck with the house and storage units when she dies in that place
This is definitely the cleanest hoarders house I've seen.
I'm a guy, but I realise that the hardest thing for Mums is seeing their home empty of kids. I know what my mum went through. I think her hoarding is related to the kid's growing up and going their own way. I hope she beats this, she has a lovely family
It honestly looks like early-onset dementia to me. She's completely vacant in the eyes, not showing a change in emotions, inability to make decisions, hunched over and sluggish. That on top of mental illness and lack of identity beyond the role as a mother. Woman had no hobbies so shopping became her way of making friends and getting a short-lived high while spending money to exact revenge upon her husband for something.
Yes, I'm old so my mom was a stay at home mum but my mom went to nursing school about when Istarted first grade because she didn't want to become "a crazy old lady with no purpose" so it was apparantly something she figured she had observed.
Wow after they cleaned it they found a house from the 1970s
lol right? that place was *garish*
The wallpaper was making me nauseous 😂🥴
70s are really trendy right now so the house is actually super "in"
@@keikosah8254 My mother has kitchen flooring is 70s very trendy right now. it's in mint condition. Love it.
It just goes to show how well she took care of the house all those years before she started hoarding 10+ years ago