You only have so many fights in you. Choose carefully.
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- Опубликовано: 5 дек 2022
- You only have so many fights in you. There’s only so much trauma the human brain can take. Be careful and selective about the fights you take. Don’t get into gym fights, and definitely don’t get into street fights.
As far as the “I’ll fight anyone in any weight class” attitude… well, I did that, and it was dumb. I fought in 4 different weight classes, and almost killed myself cutting down to the teeny tiny division, and I almost got killed on the other end of the spectrum fighting giants who were cutting down from HUGE to the normal sized guy divisions.
If I could go back in time 20 years and give myself 3 pieces of advice it would be this: (1) don’t jump around in weight classes just because you got offered a fight, there’s always another fight (until you’re broken- which will happen sooner than later with a poorly managed fight career) stick to your natural weight class (2) get more amateur experience before going pro, because the pro leagues are no place to be dealing with amateur issues like performance anxiety and technical deficiencies. (3) don’t spar like an idiot- because we all did back then. 
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This advice might have just changed the trajectory of the rest of my fight career. Thank you, Ramsey.
Best lesson. Don’t fight as a side hustle against people who have invested everything in the game. Inspiration defeats Desperation every time.
Man.. This Is one of the best Talks I've heard about Fighting I've heard in years.
Life advice too..
So many people fight Wars that can't win in life, and give them selves trauma they don't need. This philosophy of picking your battles in life is one that resonates and I believe in. Thank you for speaking this to The Fight community. It needs to hear it.
Thank you for being you, Ramsey.
This video is so important so many fans push fighters into terrible situations arguing that they are cowards or ducking. They downplay victories because they didn’t take them when they were more likely to lose them. But as you said the smarter and most successful fighters are well managed and choose their battles wisely.
This is advice that so many young people need to hear. Not only if they’re training martial arts, but as a reminder that they need to focus their efforts in the projects that will make their lives fulfilling in the long run.
A friend of mine who was a pro MMA fighter who was 7-1 told me you can't just fight anyone it's suicidal. I have another friend also a pro MMA fighter with a record like 18-16 only in his early 30s and can bearly string a sentence together.
Hey Ramsey, I've been watching your channel now for about 2 years now, Thanks for the wisdom you put up on your channel. Your channel has helped me imeasuably over the pandemic to hold myself accountable and to get out there and train. I don't train a martial, just weight training, but I'm thinking of joining an MMA gym. The partner I train with started Jiu jitsu today. Hes already an accomplished collegiate wrestler and amateur boxer and he reciprocates your message of sparring to learn, not to fight. Thank you for the message you put out to all who train combat sports. I appreciate your message of humility and self worth in combat sports.
The wisest words I've ever heard about fighting are from You Dewey. When I started learning martial arts it was strictly for self-defense. As I was mugged and attacked more than once when I was young. After years of training and learning the different parts of my art I went on to sparring. Which got progressively worse as far as the aggressiveness. Then I went on to competition. A lot of people were getting hurt. Broken noses broken hands broken egos, etc. I've had to use fighting in real life more than once and my training saved me, luckily pretty much unscathed except for one time. I was not the aggressor until I was attacked. So the original reason for me taking and learning martial arts was to protect myself which I did. But I got hurt more in training and in fighting in competition than anything else. And I'm not talking about just getting hit and hurt from that. I'm talking about beating up my body with my training. I didn't always have the best teachers some where aggressive and hurt me in training. Some were good and methodical and had your best interests at heart and took their time helped you with your weaknesses to become a better martial artist. But they're aren't many of those out there. Especially at the higher competition. It's either keep up or get out. But everything you said is so so true and real. And in my life's experience it has brought me wisdom through age and experience. As an older gentleman now I believe I could defend myself against someone that was younger than me and didn't have much training. I believe that I could defend myself against being attacked unless someone had a gun or knife and wanted to try to kill me. And in that case I may have a slight advantage. I know I would get hurt most likely gravely. But I would never want to take any of these routes. If I was able to I would most likely run away. And that would be truly the wisest thing that I could do. But if I couldn't my wisest teacher always told me that it was up to me on how much force I wanted to use. And in today's age if someone came out with a weapon and I was able to survive I would definitely hurt the person as much as I could. But that would be my last choice. My first would be to use the wisdom of what I've learned over the years and realize that in most cases in a real street fight or bar fight nobody wins and it's the truth. You can say you defended yourself and you took the person down. And you can feel good that you didn't get hurt. But you don't feel like a winner! And you wish that the whole thing never happened in the first place. And the stupidest things I've ever done in the beginning of my martial arts career was participate in fights during the late '70s where weight classes were not observed and you're fighting different styles from different schools. Totally ridiculous. And a lot of people getting hurt. I believe in strict weight classes and strict fighting with equality opponent. The one thing I really enjoyed about the early MMA though, is the fact that someone could be very big but not very experienced, and the skill of the other person is dominant. Such as when I saw this big huge sumo wrestler get knocked out in about 30 seconds. I believe this is an exception because they were unequally matched. The sumo wrestler just didn't have kicking ability or defending ability against the well-rounded martial artist who could do all those things. So power and and speed was to his advantage. I really don't remember the sumo wrestler's name. But he was an American and went to Star in the TV show Hawaii Five-O the new version. He sold shrimp from a van in the TV series. I'm sorry I can't remember his name. The wisest thing you can do if I had and to do all over again, is try to avoid fights at all cost. Don't train to compete but train to win in a real life situation. And having been in street fights a few times I can tell you it's very different from having rules and being in a ring. Not that one couldn't get hurtl in a ring because people have died there. You are a perfect example of that being the luckiest person on earth not to have your skull pushed into your brain. And thank God you didn't because I think you're a wonderful coach. I think you're a wonderful fight commentator. You have a good sense of humor and a calm and thoughtful manner in teaching martial arts and its philosophy. I think too that's what gave Bruce Lee a lot of his strength. It wasn't just his ability of physical prowess, but his philosophy that he learned through study of the minds and the emotions and the spirits of fighting. I often heard him say in interviews, that he had a bad temper. But I never heard anyone say that he deliberately attacked someone without provocation or reason. I've met some very arrogant and mean martial arts people in my life. I stay away from them. My philosophy is be prepared for the worst situation that may happen to you someday where someone may try to hurt you. But only use the force necessary to complete the job. Especially if you have superior skill. Go and beyond what is necessary to hurt someone else makes you just as bad as them were their trying to hurt you in the first place. My greatest teacher I ever had said that if someone came at him with a weapon or someone was really trying to hurt them in the fight and he was able to get a hold of them at that point he would try to break something on the person's body and if that didn't work he would try to stop the person that any means necessary! He told me two things that always stuck in my mind, one was confusing at first and took me a while to figure out: "A wise man gets more out of the fools question than the fools gets out of the wise man's answer!" And The second from the Bible was very easy to figure out: "Those who hang around with Fools will suffer the fools Fate!" Thank you Ramsey I enjoy listening to you and learning from you! Sincerely, Red.
Thank You 😌
@@reddragon3733 No problem with long posts unlike some as they usually are more interesting but some advice.
Please do realize that paragraphs do exist, if you are doing a long post try to break it up into smaller chunks it makes it easier to read.
You can make an awesome essayists..just try to structure your content properly
@@marktuthill7986 Thank you for the advice. I very rarely post anything in length and I'm not a writer by any means. So as far as the structure and the grammar and the length of paragraphs, I have no clue, as your advice and criticism points out. But my main goal when I have a lot to say is to get my point acrossed about the subject matter. So I hope most people that are critical on my grammar can please overlook it. Realize that I'm trying to give my opinion, my thoughts and my feelings on the subject. And not deliberately trying to promote bad grammar spelling, or punctuation! Sincerely, Red.
@@kaizen_monk Thank you for the advice. I very rarely post anything in length and I'm not a writer by any means. So as far as the structure and the grammar and the length of paragraphs, I have no clue, as your advice and criticism points out. But my main goal when I have a lot to say is to get my point acrossed about the subject matter. So I hope most people that are critical on my grammar can please overlook it. Realize that I'm trying to give my opinion, my thoughts and my feelings on the subject. And not deliberately trying to promote bad grammar spelling, or punctuation! Sincerely, Red.
This was cool man, felt like one of those badass anime monologues.
This was literally the realest conversation ever, and I loved every single moment of it coach, it really made me reconsider how I train, and where I train. I’ve been at my current MMA gym for about a year now, but now I will be moving to another gym because I want to be an amateur boxer, in order to make to become a pro fighter. This video from you has taught me many truths, facts, and encouraged me to be more disciplined and smarter about my training. Thank you, Coach😄
Ten and a half minutes of straight truth. I never got to the professional level, just an amateur level fighter. Had a good time, won considerably more than I lost. But hung it up in my early 30s. Still train, but no more fighting. You only have so many fights in you is very very true. Walk away healthy, good memories, and with good friends. It's a beautiful thing, in a way, combat sports. But it's a finite thing.
This style of video: Wisdom + Bagwork is a fucking vibe and a half. Thank you for being you and making these vids Ramsey
Thanks for this lesson
This really makes me think about all those guys who "have been in >500 street fights"
I admire you Ramsey. I just discovered this year combat sports, to be precise boxing, and I quickly fell in love with it; it quickly turned into an obsession too, after 2 weeks I went from going 3 days a week to 5 days a week, it even went to the point that my hands hurt only by wrapping them and still I kept punching harder and harder. I always let other people to toss me around without responding, I come from a family with helicopter parents, they always told me to never answer back, to never hit back, because if I did I would be in trouble with my school and with them. Given this I always had a poor image of myself, I thought of myself as a coward and a weak individual eventhough I'm pretty tall (1'86 m) and I have a decent physique and strength. That's why I give so much importance to combat sports, and this is why I feel the need to do them, I want to train and I want to compete as an amateur and then I'll see if I could go pro. My dream is to be able to be a coach, to train people, to guide young boys along the way, to give them strength, agility, courage... To do for them what I wished somebody would have done for me.
Your wisdom and experience has offered me a pretty decent guidance on my life, I was (and still am) confused but you cleared some of this confusion with videos like this. I don't know if you'll ever read this comment but I feel the need to thank you for how much you help people like myself with your videos, and again to show my admiration for what seems a honest, caring and wise person.
Thank you so much, Ramsey.
Thank you!
I really needed to read this comment bro. Thank you.
@@lnsaneMagnum You're welcome bro, I'm glad it helped you
You're a great coach, Ramsey Dewey.
Beautifully said. We want to be warriors so bad that we sometime forget to actually pick the wars worth fighting.
Wise words.....people better look that good on a heavy bag for 8 minutes too, like you showcase here, if they think they can go rounds in the ring.
I have a good friend that did mma, they basically can't fight anymore due to injuries. they're gonna be 19 in January.
the risks are real and can cost you everything.
If someone would have told me this a couple years back I might still would have a couple of fights in me... Sadly, most of us learns this lesson the hard way, when it's too late.
Extremely important, life-changing advice, thanks for sharing!
as a new fighter, i really appreciate this advice... thank you
This is exactly why I practice, but don't compete. I'll save my fights for real life, and if they never come, then that is perfect
I'm saving this video for my children to watch someday. Things to seriously consider beforehand.
Amen. People really don't understand how truly dangerous the fighting game is.
Food For Thought: Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn't measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It's not winning battles that makes you happy, but it's how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring. Fight only the most, most, most important ones, let the rest go.
Ramsey is one of those extremely rare type of people who you could know for 50 years and NEVER find out how much of moster (in the nicest way possible) he truely is. Amazing
I like rough and aggressive Ramsey talks
I remember putting his videos on to get to sleep before podcast blew up.
So calm so soothing talking about fighting.
You know metaphysically you have a limited amount of anything in you..
This is good advice to carry through your whole life…
Indeed, don't get drawn into battles that just waste your resources.
Memory loss is a horrifying injury.
Your memories and experiences define everything you know and are. Everything.
With damaged memory, you don't really know what you did and thought and learned yesterday, you don't even know if what you're doing and thinking and learning today will still be with you tomorrow.
With you on this line because one may love martial arts but there are better ways to make a living. And an Old Taoist saying goes "There is success and joy in every worthy endeavor ". I do construction work to pay bills and play music and sing at church but still train 4 days a week. Music takes a lot of training as well. My martial training does help indirectly with my work and music, training is training. Point is life can be multi layered and to many people focus on perfection and glory in one path and are so desperate to achieve success they ignore other talents just as fulfilling and may be a better option as a way to make a living.
I love sparring everyone, but not fighting, that's just an end of my life lol
Ramsey, thank you. I have been training on and off for almost 3 years now, Im 25. Im on my second MMA gym. Ive been slow and hesitant to get into sparring because ive sat in on the classes to watch and scout who has control and diligence. Im nervous because I am adamant that sparring is for practice not for ego. Im struggling finding someone who shares this mindset with me. This video touches the importance of decision making. Youre an excellent martial artist, teacher, and man. Keep it up.
We’re in the same boat. Get more consistent training and sparring bro. You’ll be fine
@@nomasmedia2053 just keep showing up and putting out- its the only recipe for success
Discretion is the better part of valor. Thanks for sharing your experience and wisdom
This is an incredibly important video. Especially for fighters and martial artists, but also for people in general. Thanks for always being so sincere in your videos, Ramsey.
Hard sparring has its time and place, but I got black eyes and headaches for no reasons in sparring sessions and thought its how you learn to fight, but often times I learned nothing at all on those days and just adapted bad habits
I'm in class but we aren't studying anything but I can't turn on the volume. So I'm just enjoying this tactical flowy heavy bag work.
You can always find something to study. Class is always in session.
@@RamseyDewey You're 100% right. As an example, I was studying your bag work. I swear if I should describe you in one word, it would be "technical". I want to thank you for the lessons you provide us on the internet. Your videos got a certain atmosphere, kinda like those martial arts movies in which everyone is disciplined and they all try to get better though hard work and smart work. Love your videos coach!
It's very impressive that you can throw multiple shots full power while giving a speech without gassing out after 5 minutes
I don’t gas out. Ever.
@@RamseyDewey what's the Secret , Coach ? 🙏🏼🙏🏼
@BIGFOOOOOT ohh so easy..... Why didn't I know this b4 😭😭😭
@@bondjames-bond7664 Breathing correctly. I’ve made multiple videos about this.
@@RamseyDewey ohh my bad . I'll check them out coach .. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
U were so correct R , strength and Size matter in a Fight ....
My third kickboxing fight is this Saturday night. Fighting a little light at 148 my natural weight is probably about 160-165. This video was impactful man! Like the hard sparring…and getting injured in the gym. That happens to me sometimes. But I’m not the boss so I go with what we’re doing. Thanks for sharing your perspective and being real about the consequences of fights. You never sugar coat things. I appreciate your words as I head into the ring in a few days.
I may not know who you are, but I wish you good luck in your fight.
@@acow1385 I appreciate that brother
UPDATE. it’s Thursday morning. I aggravated my knee last night demonstrated something in the clinch in training. Just moved weird. For context a year ago I tore ligaments in my knee and it took basically a year to heal. Pretty crazy that all of the sudden it hurts and feels weak two days before a wka fight. But I’m going to go in there anyway and do my very best. We got this.
Update. I won! I’m very sore ha
@@movementencouragedfitness5945 Congrats my man! I hope you heal up quickly!
Love your channel. This is the first time I see you go "dark" like that.
Wanted to start doing some amateur mauy thai fights, just for sports, but as an "older" guy (32), after watching this I need to do some rethinking.
Never heard you get this angry while talking before. Appreciate the vulnerability.
I've heard you say this a lot of times over the years now, and I am glad to see many people in the comments who hear it for the first time and are saved by it!
Great video. In my experience with fighters you have two rather common attitudes, I'll call them warriors and athletes. These aren't essential and distinct categories, moreso a cluster of tropes and characteristics.
If warriors weren't fighting in the ring or cage they'd be brawling in the streets. Something about them simply craves violence and the fever of battle. Prize fighting is an outlet for that fundamental need. These people need someone loyal in their team to temper them, look out for their interests, and often protect them from themselves.
Athletes are highly focused, competitive and driven, but there disposition is more controlled. They may love fighting, but there are likely other athletic pursuits which in an other life would satisfy them. They also tend to make much wiser career choices because they don't let the desire to fight overwhelm their rationality. Consequently they often aren't as "fan freindly" in style or career path.
Warriors tend to burn bright but short eventually declining alarmingly quickly. If you made it too the big leagues that might not be so bad depending on how banged up you got. But 99% don't get anywhere near adequate financial compensation for the pieces of themselves they leave in the gym and arena. In terms of career longevity and post-fight career quality of life, on average athletes do better.
I like the"talk while working out" idea. More videos in that style would be cool.
Excellent video and advice Ramsey. Every upcoming fighter should listen to this very valuable information 👍👍👍
Very good information. Thanks for sharing.
This should have wayyyy more views
Share it
That's the best video I've seen from your channel this year. My favourite classes at kick boxing is when we do light sparring. They normally build it up to get you in the right mind set. First just stand still taking hits. Then same again but you can evade. Then you can start the sparring. We do it so people don't panic and focus more on movement.
Thank You Ramsey. Great Wisdom you speak while demonstrating excellent skill. I would not want to have been the suspended bag for this video...
I fought for free for decades cause I loved it and I learned a ton from my victories and far more from my defeats. (It wasn't free, I got so much. After all, fighters fight). Love your content, keep training!
Thank you for sharing your experience, I am pursuing a career in fighting and hearing your advice is very valuable.
I avoided a career in fighting. I was young and tough enough to believe I could endure the punishments and recover from the injuries. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, eh? Plenty of other guys have done it. But then I took a closer look at those other guys. Guys like Ramsey. For me, the price of winning is too high. And the price of losing is even worse.
Man, thanks for being you. Your perspective is invaluable and I hope more and more people will keep tuning in to hear what you have to say.
Great advice Coach EDIT: actually this is probably your most helpful video to date ! Almost sounds like some Sun Tzu wisdom there. Choose your battles wisely. Good advice indeed. The thing is, you can't beat yourself up ( pun intended) for the impetuosity of youth. That's something all of us experience to some degree. At least you can pass that hard earned wisdom on to your trainee fighters - and that's serving the greater good.
Only Captain Kirk could get away with fighting anyone, anywhere in the Galaxy - but he never had to cut weight ( although he usually had to fight up a few classes). But of course Kirk isnt real. Cheers mate.
Btw: great soundtrack, sounds a bit like a John Carpenter classic.
I truly believe in what you say.
I still say you are very brave for being fool hearted at the time.
Thanks for sharing
I like these workout monologues. Very anime!
You are a sage, your channel is underrated, much more people need to listen to you.
Thanks Mr Ramsey, always hope for the best for you and you family.
This is why i never ended up trying to fight professionally. I learned to fight just in case I need it in a pinch. Whereas a pro fighter has to fight to make a living, i only fight to preserve life. Even that has caused me to take some injuries that I'll carry forever. If thats what your into then cool but I would recommend having a plan b/c only have so many good years.
Every practicioner and coach should listen to this, its invaluable knowledge and I really apreciate that you share it with us. Blessings coach Ramsey 🙏
I think this happened to De Ridder. One of my favorites, and I hope he fully recovers from his fight. I really thought RDR was going to win, but it was really brutal.
Coach, thank you. You are immortal your knowledge wisdom and character will certainly leave an impression in thousands. Me included.
Most people don't even pick the fights that end them. They lose never having realized. Working 80 hour weeks, giving up family, not eating well, enjoying nothing. They retire at 150 years old barely able to move.
Thank you Chef Ramsey. You are quickly becoming one of my favourite channels. I hit that bell icon.
In my opinion Ramsey Dewey is an honourable man and voice you can trust --My sons and I for quite a while have been listening to him on RUclips- In time we have learned to respect and seek out his opinions- advice and judgments about Martial Arts and training - He provides an insightful intelligent deeper understand on the topic that delivers excellent trustworthy advice that contains brilliant coaching tips on training and Martial Arts in general- that work --Experience and time has shown us-
his advice is truthful -dependable and solid -- A rare commodity in today's life --KUDOS AND RESPECT
My knee replacement slowed me down, made me think twice about the fighting I did , so I switched to a more health related system
Verbal lesson and a lesson on hitting the bag at the same time 🙌🏼
Some of the best advice I have ever heard... thanks Coach.
One word:
Legendary
amazing video- should be mandatory watching for everyone who wants to compete!
Thank you for this; I showed this video to my eldest son; it’s basically the same advice I’ve been giving him (minus 95% of the fight experience!😂).
Fighting is glamourised for young people; but you don’t need to step into the ring and get repeatedly banged in the head to learn to “handle yourself.”
It’s always the individuals decision to make but it should be an educated decision, made in possession of all the facts. 🙏
Thank you for always being a real and always being inspiring.
I can tell this was a from the heart type talk you give
Hear the passion and want people on the fight game to be careful and wise. Awesome video and thank you for the video.
Well coach, we're more or less the same age and I took your words more metaphorically, then specifically to the fight game. Great advice anyway you take it for the young guys and for the old guys.
Your injury helped me decide to stick to grappling when it comes to competition.
No more brain bashing for me thx.
RD Spittin Facts and droppin know how! This is the RD we all know and love! Great video!
I don't want to be coward so I don't back down in a fight but I must remember when luck runs out I'm dead
Some of the greatest advice for martial arts and personal life. Thanks coach!
What a knowledge drop Ramsey! Thank you for your advice 🙏🏼
Hi, great video. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience.
I know China and Shanghai are having a bit of a rough time these days! Please stay safe and take care!
We had a bit of a rough time over the summer. We’re doing very well right now by comparison.
Thank you for your wisdom, Ramsey.
Thanks coach. Useful knowledge. You can transfer a lot of this to other domains of expertise. Real value is created in bursts, after diligent methodical training, maximising knowledge and skill, not busywork or thoughtless training. This requires a coach and a cooperative supportive (even if also competitive) team is a big accellerant. Avoid people who attract with status/big-rep but are exploitative. They will use you and throw you away. Find a coach who genuinely likes you and who you genuinely like. That human connection powers both ways. The lack of it drains both ways. Good luck to the young bucks out there making there way. I hope you find a coach like Ramsey.
I cut 14 pounds for a fight and had to fight like 2 hours after weighing in. Nit sure if its common to cut that much, but i definitely felt it. Got absolutely torched and dropped by an overhand that would probably have dropped me no matter what, but because of the cut I got a bad concussion from it. Luckily the ref stopped it after that. Needless to say it was a God awful idea and I will never do that again. Also it was a very low level amateur fight, not a pro fight like he talks about in the video.
Thank you, Ramsey.
First phrase of the Art Of War by Sun Tzu: Military action is important to the nation - it is the ground of death and life, so it is imperative to examine it. Sun Tzu picked this phrase as the first for a reason, I believe, very similar to what is said in Ramsey's video here.
Excellently edited, effective presentation.
You only have so many fights in you, is what I'll be thinking the next time, before I lash out at someone verbally.
Very good video, thanks coach.
I have been a little lazy with my training lately but after watching this video I feel inspired and you are helping so many people and I am grateful for that thank you😊
Love the content as always. You tell us the hard truth that many overlook or glamorize. One of the best martial arts youtube coaches out there I hope to one day meet and train with you
Ramsay has bulked. He is huge, but still with a biblical voice
Awesome video!!! Thanks for the wisdom!!!
Great advice 🙏👍
Wow, thanks Ramsey.
That was some great advice Ramsey, Osu🙏🥋🙇♂️
Thank you for the warning coach
Batman talking to Robin. The ending music and notes were so good.
This is a great vid, thank you ramsey for everything
Sound advice to never fight on da streetz. You're essentially providing free entertainment to onlookers while risking major injury.
It's true that fighting is cool but you need also to learn how to protect yourself. I have lot of injuries in fighting sanda, bjj and boxing. This is really a good advice for me because I am already getting older and I don't want to get injured anymore.
Great video, thanks for the advice.